You're listening to kf I AM six on demand. So it's Labor Day weekend,
and you know there's a lot of things that go on during this weekend.
There's kind of the end of the summer, so seasons are changing.
There's that becomes quite significant. And as you see things, you can feel
things slowly changing. And then the United States, depending on where you are,
the weather will change differently in different ways. But that kind of denotes
it makes you take no to the fact that a change is occurring, and
that's important. It's one of the reasons why the father saw fit to have
seasons is to let you know when things start and when they end, and
to remind you not to get stuck in the middle of something or feel like
you're stuck. It encourages you to understand things are changing around you. But
with Labor Day, this wonderful full holiday that takes time to look at those
that work and the concept of working and the blessing of working and all those
things, is taking time to rest as well. It says in Titus three
fourteen, our people must learn to devote themselves to doing what is good in
order that they may provide for daily necessities. And not live unproductive lives well.
Titus three fourteen is talking about that, about being productive. So the
work that you're doing is important because it points to productivity. It points to
providing for your daily necessities. In Scripture, when it talks about daily necessities
and providing for those, it's talking about them because it doesn't want you to
get caught up in a place or in a circumstance where your too reliant on
others, are reliant in a way that makes you a slave to them or
their ideas and their ways. This allows you certain independence and growth by providing
and by working hard. And first Thessalonians two nine, it says, surely
you remember, brothers are toil and hardship. We worked night and day in
order not to be a burden to anyone while we preach the gospel of God
to you. Also, when you work, you don't you do so so
that you're not a burden to others. You work hard to not be a
burden to those around you, those who you care about, those who you
love. But labor Day is a time to focus not only on all of
the the work you've done, not just the changing of the seasons, which
helps show you, Hey, there's there's a marker here to show that there's
a time of growth, or there's a time for work, and in this
case, a time for rest. I know that you may be thinking,
well, it's it's a holiday time. Maybe you have a long weekend and
you're going to use that in one way. You're going to go somewhere.
Maybe you're gonna get some chores done around the house. You're gonna get some
things done, and you think, wow, is that how I really want
to spend time off? But maybe it puts you ahead of the game by
doing those things and being productive in that way. Or maybe it's just going
to be a time of complete relaxation to come to a place where you're saying,
this is how I want to rest by doing nothing and rest as a
thing of great importance. Hebrews four eleven says, let us therefore make every
effort to enter that rest so that no one will fall by following their examples
of disobedience. This time of having rest to reinvigorate your energy to not become
so tired. And as it says in Hebrews for eleven, that they're getting
to that place where you're so fatigued, so fatigued that you can fall into
things that are unproductive or not good for you. It's the fashionable thing these
days is to say that you're good at multitasking. We've even talked about this
on the program before, that that's a myth. You don't multitask well.
And right now you'll find that people tend to take on more, not less,
and in doing so, as you do all these different things, you
become more fatigued. And as you become more fatigued, your work is less
pronounced, less refined, and then you're attaching your name to those things that
are less refined, and then you don't feel pride in what you do.
You don't feel that you're truly being productive. You're just kind of getting by.
And rest becomes an important part of that rejuvenation that makes you good at
what you do in all things. If you are working at home, you're
taking care of the home, you're a homemaker, you're out in the fields
working, you're in an office, whatever it might be, you're you're going
to need time downtime. You're going to be need time of rest. And
this weekend, I want you to focus on that. I want you to
find ways to spend time with family, to spend time with one another,
spend time with your God, but have that time of relax a relaxation and
at that time where you cut away from things. And even if it is
a project at home that you want to get involved in, even if there's
something that people would look at go out, well, that's going to be
work because you're checking something off your list. If that brings you joy and
that calms your spirit and makes you relax, then that too will be something
that would fall into the category of rest. Now, First Corinthians ninety seven,
it's actually talking about payment for labor. But I want you to hear
this this verse in an additional way, says who serves as a soldier at
his own expense? Who plants a vineyard and does not eat of its grapes,
Who tends a flock and does not drink of the milk? Says First
Corinthians ninety seven. And although that's talking about payment, it's saying that nobody's
going to toil and work and labor and then not enjoy any of the fruits
of their labor. But in this case, I want you to see,
in addition to that, the concept of enjoying and the fruits of your labor
not just being the payment, but this time of rest, having that time
to actually enjoy what you've worked for, to enjoy the things that you've worked
very very hard for and that are around you, no matter how big,
no matter how small, just spending that time together enjoying those things. And
as it says, you know, if you're planting a vineyard, you eat
of the grapes, If you tend to flock, you drink of the milk.
You have to have the balance there of working hard and then having that
time of relaxation or enjoying the fruits of those labors. And with labor day
being upon us, I want you to get in that mindset this weekend it's
not just a day off, it's not just some extra time, but that
it should be just as productive in the state of restfulness as it is when
you're working and when you're laboring and you're out there and you're working your fingers
to the bone. That now you should go in with the same them,
the same vigor into rest and this time of relaxation and spending time with family
and really coming together in all of this talking about the physical needs. It's
important to know that physical rest one of the reasons why the Sabbath was so
important. Physical rest leads to spiritual growth as well. That's why when you
think about all the you know, just as when you are working, it
becomes kind of the spiritual, spiritually beneficial, and your productivity of productivity as
tight as three fourteen talks about living a productive life versus an unproductive life.
Keep in mind that when you have times of rest, finding that time making
every effort Hebrews for eleven, making every effort to enter into rest, that
you will find spiritual rejuvenation as well. Matthew eleven twenty eight. You know
it so well, well, come unto me, all who labor and are
heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Your time this weekend should
be spent with one another. Your time this weekend should be spent in rest.
Your time this weekend should be focused on not only family and the accomplishments
you've had, but also with a thought that all these things are done to
the glory of God, and that if you thrust and push your tiresome heart,
your heavy heart, your heavy laborious life upon God, know that I
will give you rest. Wendy, Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Hi
Jesus, thank you for taking my call, my pleasure. How can I
help you? This is my situation. I love walking with you. And
my pastor talked about keeping two feet in the kingdom at all times, and
that's become my motto. And I asked the Holy Spirit to come upon me,
and when that happens, I feel like a godly woman. But sometimes
I feel like I have to work for that to happen, and I just
don't understand the work. If I ask the Holy Spirit to come upon me,
why isn't like a natural occurrence. I'm not afraid to do the work.
I just want to understand it well. Scripture also says that you're to
be a living sacrifice. Doesn't that sound like something that's a daily struggle.
Yes, it does. It's a process. You know, if you look
at nature and the other parts of creation, and you look at the eagle
flying, and how beautiful and graceful it is to watch. Without the resistance
of air, the bird would would fall to the ground. That resistance it
is actual work. Imagine what it would would be like to constantly be in
flight like that. If you look at the fishes in the ocean. They
have to move to live, but they have to have the resistance of the
water to move. Every moment is constantly pushing against the resistance, just as
the bird and you were no different in your life. And the assumption that
Christianity is going to bring ease and simplicity is a misnomer. You have to
know that with this comes trials and tribulations and struggles and resistance, and that
shows that you're you're doing the right thing. You know the old saying that
that you know you're going the right direction upstream when the waters are pushing against
you, that if it's easy, you're probably flowing downstream and going in the
wrong direction. I thought it meant I was sailing, if I was having
the struggle, that I hear what you're saying, and it's just so helpful.
You're in the game. You're actually in it, Wendy, You're what
the struggle, what you call struggles, is actually the feeling of the resistance
of the world as you continue to move your way closer to the Kingdom of
God. Does that make sense? It absolute does. Don't always think that
it's very easy to get to a mindset that, oh gosh, there's resistance
or struggle. It's not something God wants me to do. There are times
where you look around and if you keep hitting dead ends, you have to
ask yourself as this the right way. But the daily struggles and the things
that put push against you in life are part of the process, and it's
it's a it's a healthy process to go through through and it's part of being
that living sacrifice. You should embrace it and welcome it because it's a consistent
part of your growth. It's strange to think about, but if you look
up, gravity is the same thing, the one thing that you fear.
You know, gravity makes you fall, or makes things fall, or what
have you. That your growth from an infant to an adult can't exist without
gravity, without that pull. And so that's part of your spiritual gravity that
is helping you grow to be the woman that you want to be in Christ.
And that's happening. Otherwise you wouldn't question it, you wouldn't ask,
and therefore it becomes important. Robert, Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.
Good morning, Jesus. Hi. I have a wonderful wife I've been married
to for fifteen years and three just incredible daughters. And all of our daughters
are saved, and so is my wife, and so am I wonderful And
our marriage has been very good, except we have one area that we struggle
with, and there's an anger issue in our marriage. And I know that
I play a role in this, but I preface that because my wife is
the one who lashes out in anger. But I know that there's something in
my personality and how I relate to her that causes her to feel that she
needs to do that, and the way that she expresses her anger when there's
there's conversation that she doesn't agree with, instead of communicating in a normal way,
she just lashes out and hits me. And this has happened over our
relationship of fifteen years, and just a few days ago it happened again,
and it was one of those situations where it was just out of the blue.
I didn't expect her to do that, and she even went and got
a phone and and said go ahead, call the police, and oh,
okay, And I, of course I've never done that, and I never,
you know, hit my wife back. I don't want to know do
that to her as well. I just wouldn't be right at all, and
so in the heat of the moment, I did call uh and Uh.
I don't know what made me call the sheriffs that day, but I think
I just I just thought, you know, this has got to stop.
She I don't want her hitting me, and I definitely don't want to hit
her back. So she's got to learn to deal with this anger issue.
And maybe it's something in her background. I'm not sure. But so the
sheriffs came out, and it was obviously an embarrassing situation, and she admitted
that she hit me, and you know, neither one of us wanted to
go. I didn't want my wife to go to jail, of course,
and and I spent the whole day bailing her out, going through that whole
process, and she, you know, was humiliated being in jail, of
course. And so I say all that because I'm at a place of peace
right now. I mean, since she came home that night, it's been
about three nights. I've been staying out of the house and you know,
just staying away. She needs that right now. She's almost our girls,
and I've just been staying out and then another place, and then I just
go to work. So you know, I'm at a place of peace in
my heart because I want my wife to sort out things in her mind as
to why she lashes out this way, and she just doesn't have that peace
in her heart. But but also, as you were staying earlier, I
know I play a huge role in all of this because of course you're a
team that causes her to feel that she needs to attack me in that way.
Well, there's there's much to it, I would imagine, But for
the sake of the time that we have, let's look at some of the
things that you brought up and kind of go through them because you're the one
it's calling. So it's kind of hard to get into all of her issues
if she's not really here. So we'll do it by way of you for
the sake of our conversation today. So first, have you asked her point
blank why does she do that? You know, why does she get so
angry or why does she hit you? She does, but her her response
is kind of deflecting because she always turns it back on me. Well you
said this, so therefore I hit you, and you know we raise our
children, hey, you know, with it no matter when anyone says to
you, you don't respond by hitting them. But yes, she somehow in
her mind has rationalized to the point where but you know, this is a
rational thing for me to do. Okay, So she just she just puts
it onto you. Then she just said, well, it's something you did
it did It really doesn't answer the why she hit you. It just says
what motivated her to want to. But but doing it's a different executing that,
you know, physical activity is completely different. Has she ever hit the
kids? No? And I know in my heart she would never do that.
All her anger is really just directed towards me. Okay. Now this
is where I need you to be really honest with yourself and with me.
Otherwise the phone calls for not are you referred to by friends and family or
even by your wife at times as being very passive, being too passive,
or you're not aggressive enough on this, or you don't you know why don't
you I don't defend us in this situation, or why don't you do this?
Or are you always kind of the person going well, let's give them
the benefit of the doubt, or let's wait and see how this unfolds,
Or have you ever been referred to as somebody who's a little, a little
passive. I would say, no, no, my wife might say that
I am. Well, But that's the point. I'm not asking what you
say about yourself. I'm not asking if others have said it about you.
So if your wife would say that about you, that that then that counts
well. I think in some instances you might say that. But I have
to tell you in reality, I'm more of a linebacker sort of guy,
you know. I mean, in fact, that's what I played when I
played football. I was an inside linebacker, and I'm just that kind of
intense kind of person inside. Okay, And by no means am I calling
you a whimp? I'm saying. And they're different, and quite frankly,
a lot of times bigger guys fall into this category more than smaller guys.
Smaller guys tend to have feel that they have to prove themselves all the time
and we're maybe mocked for size issues or what have you when they were younger,
and end up being kind of more aggressive. Big guys tend to think,
you know what, if I touched something too hard, I'm going to
break it, So they end up being much more passive. So it's not
about manhood or you know, testosterone or any of those things, or testicular
forward to to or any of those things. It's about women have preconceived notions
as to what a man is, man has preconceived notions as to what a
woman is or should be, and her anger from what you tell me,
seems to come out of strange places. And obviously we only have a little
bit of time, so I'm only getting certain parts of the story and your
side of it at that. But you seem like a very reasonable guy,
and even calling the Sheriff's at the end of your rope is a fairly reasonable
thing to do. It puts you in the system and it makes her embarrassed.
And I'm also very proud of you for being bold enough to call as
a Christian, you know, because Christians are so caught up in Oh if
you smile through everything and you bat your eyes and you tell people about Jesus
and then they're gonna want to come to the Kingdom and you pretend like everything's
okay. I am proud of you for saying, no, we all love
Jesus and we're all Christians, but we have problems in our home, not
all the marriage, but this one part, which is a big part,
shows its ugly head all the time. Having having said that, this issue
is there. People scream usually for you know, one of three reasons.
They're crazy and they like to scream. They're not being heard, or there's
an issue that motive that they're they're kind of repressing and a bigger issue,
and it comes out via this kind of you know, steam port kind of
a slow burn. So if there's something you do that irritates her on a
daily basis, or something that that continues to come up and she doesn't like
the way you respond to it, she may you know, love you so
much that she doesn't want to bring it up or can't bring it up in
so many different ways, and the only time it comes out is at its
peak level when she hits a nine or ten, and therefore she she she's
ungirded and she can't help it, and it and it goes to them to
that level. Now, at this point, I want to point out,
never ever, ever is it okay for a spouse to hit their partner ever,
male female, female male, never ever ever, And this is no
different than if a man hit a woman there's no difference now because of the
the importance of that that that notion that you're not to hit one another in
this in this bond, you shouldn't be hitting people period. But in this
bond. Uh. Now there's arguments about well, you know, man is
often stronger and bigger, and therefore it's worse than all those things. And
there's there's subtleties in there, but big picture never right. But something is
motivating her to that point where where she loses she she doesn't have a place
to blow off that steam. So it all comes out at once. We're
going to take just a quick break, but I want you to hang on
Robert as we come back and have a couple more thoughts for you. We
were talking with Robert whose wife seems to have some anger issues. Robert,
you're still there. I'm here, okay, So it's going to go by
quickly here. So I want to get to a few points. One,
you absolutely need an arbiter. You need to find a pastor or someone where
you can do couples counseling because you need to communicate. There's a there's a
breakdown in communication. Otherwise your wife has you know, some sort of chemical
issues going on to lash out and to hit you, or to get so
upset to the point where she hits you. Even pushing it past that,
the act of grabbing the phone and putting it in your face and saying,
go ahead, I don't care call the police is a strange act of defiance,
almost almost telling you that she understands that it's incredibly wrong what she's doing,
but she can't stop right. And that's a pretty scary place to be.
So, you know, there, if everything else is going well,
it very well, you might find out you've got to You've got to be
willing to do this. You might find out that there's more problems in the
marriage than you think, and that she holds a lot of them in and
things that you do just being you annoy her to high heaven, and there's
a breaking point and you have to be bold enough to go, okay,
I'm willing to hear those things because I want her to have that slow burn.
You know, if you look, if you know, drive certain freeways
you're in California, you're drive by, you know, the refineries over in
Carson or something like that. You see that there's these posts and this kind
of slow burn going on with the flames coming out of the top of the
posts, and that's to burn off certain gases. So the whole thing doesn't,
you know, explode. And it sounds to me like your wife doesn't
have a slowburn, she doesn't have this this out and so it all comes
at once. It could be a variable of other things too. She should
have a complete check up as well by a physician and make sure that there's
not something going on chemically or she's not having other issues. But definitely communication
is the place to start for you guys, to communicate on a whole new
level. There has to be an outlet for her to tell you what upsets
her and why, and you have to be able to listen. You know,
you may not be as available as you think. And once again we're
kind of focusing on you, Robert, because you're the one who was bold
enough to call, and without your wife giving her two cents and her side
of things, it becomes difficult and continue to, you know, pray over
your situation for guidance, but ultimately there's physicians for a reason. Go get
her checked out, make sure that everyone's healthy, and then make sure that
you you focus on this as an important time of bonding having a third party
listen to what's going on and help you decipher some of that anger. And
I think with somebody who's licensed and pastor who is gifted in counseling, will
be able to pull those things out and help both of you see as to
what triggers it and why it's there and how she can control it. And
I think that's the healthiest thing to do. Troy, Welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show. Oh Jesus, how are you today? I am well,
Troy? How are you? I can't complain of it? Really you could?
To me, yes, I could, and you would listen with Indeed,
one thing I had a question about regarding theology is the necessity of sin
in the plan of God to work, and in all things we have a
choice between good and evil. What if there was evil? What if there
was no choice for bad? What if Lucifer had never fallen? Wouldn't we
be in a fix as far as Christianity with a non an alternate choice?
Wow, you ask the big questions, don't you. Yeah. Yeah,
it's a bit of a thinker, but that's a big daddy. Yeah.
Well, because it actually ties into a lot, a lot of hypotheticals that
are really wonderful to kind of, you know, ponder and throw around philosophically.
You know what, if Lucifer didn't decide to fall, that that doesn't
mean that there wouldn't be sin, because even though the devil is the tempter,
man still has the desire or at least the opportunity. So let's correct
one thing. Sin is not necessary for the plan. What is necessary is
the possibility of sin. But how would we know the possibility of sin if
sin didn't exists, and if Satan isn't the tempter per se, it seems
that Christianity channels all of the energies of evil towards the tempter, and even
you were tempted in the desert by Satan himself, not by the concept or
the out there generalized sin. You had the tempter attempt to yes, because
that's the way it did go down. I'm saying, if it did not
go down, the possibility of sin exists simply in the beginning with Adam and
Eve, because the option exists, the option being don't eat of the fruit
of the tree of life. Right now, it could have been anything sin.
Would there just the gardens still be there, and the garden would just
grow everywhere. Indeed, okay, yeah, you would still be in that
You would still be in that state. There wouldn't there wouldn't be the need
to eat or use animals. There wouldn't be the state of shame. There
wouldn't be an understanding of sin that I would grant you, But there would
be, there would be. That's why talked about Yes, that's why that
talked about the difference between knowing, truly knowing, and the garden. If
you remember, it says, then you will surely know. You will surely
know once you eat. Well, that's not about the knowledge. It's not
about actually accumulating knowledge and having like the knowledge of pure understanding of God.
But the devil was tempting with is that you will now understand actualizing actualizing that
process, you will now understand in a tangible way the difference between God's will
and man's will or sin rejecting God's will. And so that application had to
take place. But it wasn't a necessity. It was only a necessity that
man had a choice, because without that, in the big scheme of things,
God's will has always accomplished no matter what. So it had to be
God's will for Lucifer to fall. No, no, because God's will is
accomplished no matter what. In conclusion, so that's heaven. That's not necessarily
the process Therein God allows things, and it's God's will that man has free
will. And in that sense, yes, but in like the minutia going,
God wanted this happen or this happen or this happen, not necessarily true
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