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You're listening to kf I AM six
on demand. So it's Labor Day weekend,

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and you know there's a lot of
things that go on during this weekend.

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There's kind of the end of the
summer, so seasons are changing.

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There's that becomes quite significant. And
as you see things, you can feel

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things slowly changing. And then the
United States, depending on where you are,

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the weather will change differently in different
ways. But that kind of denotes

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it makes you take no to the
fact that a change is occurring, and

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that's important. It's one of the
reasons why the father saw fit to have

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seasons is to let you know when
things start and when they end, and

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to remind you not to get stuck
in the middle of something or feel like

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you're stuck. It encourages you to
understand things are changing around you. But

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with Labor Day, this wonderful full
holiday that takes time to look at those

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that work and the concept of working
and the blessing of working and all those

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things, is taking time to rest
as well. It says in Titus three

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fourteen, our people must learn to
devote themselves to doing what is good in

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order that they may provide for daily
necessities. And not live unproductive lives well.

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Titus three fourteen is talking about that, about being productive. So the

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work that you're doing is important because
it points to productivity. It points to

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providing for your daily necessities. In
Scripture, when it talks about daily necessities

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and providing for those, it's talking
about them because it doesn't want you to

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get caught up in a place or
in a circumstance where your too reliant on

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others, are reliant in a way
that makes you a slave to them or

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their ideas and their ways. This
allows you certain independence and growth by providing

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and by working hard. And first
Thessalonians two nine, it says, surely

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you remember, brothers are toil and
hardship. We worked night and day in

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order not to be a burden to
anyone while we preach the gospel of God

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to you. Also, when you
work, you don't you do so so

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that you're not a burden to others. You work hard to not be a

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burden to those around you, those
who you care about, those who you

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love. But labor Day is a
time to focus not only on all of

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the the work you've done, not
just the changing of the seasons, which

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helps show you, Hey, there's
there's a marker here to show that there's

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a time of growth, or there's
a time for work, and in this

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case, a time for rest.
I know that you may be thinking,

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well, it's it's a holiday time. Maybe you have a long weekend and

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you're going to use that in one
way. You're going to go somewhere.

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Maybe you're gonna get some chores done
around the house. You're gonna get some

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things done, and you think,
wow, is that how I really want

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to spend time off? But maybe
it puts you ahead of the game by

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doing those things and being productive in
that way. Or maybe it's just going

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to be a time of complete relaxation
to come to a place where you're saying,

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this is how I want to rest
by doing nothing and rest as a

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thing of great importance. Hebrews four
eleven says, let us therefore make every

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effort to enter that rest so that
no one will fall by following their examples

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of disobedience. This time of having
rest to reinvigorate your energy to not become

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so tired. And as it says
in Hebrews for eleven, that they're getting

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to that place where you're so fatigued, so fatigued that you can fall into

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things that are unproductive or not good
for you. It's the fashionable thing these

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days is to say that you're good
at multitasking. We've even talked about this

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on the program before, that that's
a myth. You don't multitask well.

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And right now you'll find that people
tend to take on more, not less,

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and in doing so, as you
do all these different things, you

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become more fatigued. And as you
become more fatigued, your work is less

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pronounced, less refined, and then
you're attaching your name to those things that

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are less refined, and then you
don't feel pride in what you do.

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You don't feel that you're truly being
productive. You're just kind of getting by.

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And rest becomes an important part of
that rejuvenation that makes you good at

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what you do in all things.
If you are working at home, you're

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taking care of the home, you're
a homemaker, you're out in the fields

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working, you're in an office,
whatever it might be, you're you're going

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to need time downtime. You're going
to be need time of rest. And

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this weekend, I want you to
focus on that. I want you to

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find ways to spend time with family, to spend time with one another,

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spend time with your God, but
have that time of relax a relaxation and

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at that time where you cut away
from things. And even if it is

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a project at home that you want
to get involved in, even if there's

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something that people would look at go
out, well, that's going to be

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work because you're checking something off your
list. If that brings you joy and

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that calms your spirit and makes you
relax, then that too will be something

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that would fall into the category of
rest. Now, First Corinthians ninety seven,

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it's actually talking about payment for labor. But I want you to hear

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this this verse in an additional way, says who serves as a soldier at

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his own expense? Who plants a
vineyard and does not eat of its grapes,

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Who tends a flock and does not
drink of the milk? Says First

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Corinthians ninety seven. And although that's
talking about payment, it's saying that nobody's

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going to toil and work and labor
and then not enjoy any of the fruits

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of their labor. But in this
case, I want you to see,

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in addition to that, the concept
of enjoying and the fruits of your labor

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not just being the payment, but
this time of rest, having that time

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to actually enjoy what you've worked for, to enjoy the things that you've worked

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very very hard for and that are
around you, no matter how big,

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no matter how small, just spending
that time together enjoying those things. And

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as it says, you know,
if you're planting a vineyard, you eat

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of the grapes, If you tend
to flock, you drink of the milk.

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You have to have the balance there
of working hard and then having that

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time of relaxation or enjoying the fruits
of those labors. And with labor day

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being upon us, I want you
to get in that mindset this weekend it's

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not just a day off, it's
not just some extra time, but that

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it should be just as productive in
the state of restfulness as it is when

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you're working and when you're laboring and
you're out there and you're working your fingers

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to the bone. That now you
should go in with the same them,

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the same vigor into rest and this
time of relaxation and spending time with family

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and really coming together in all of
this talking about the physical needs. It's

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important to know that physical rest one
of the reasons why the Sabbath was so

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important. Physical rest leads to spiritual
growth as well. That's why when you

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think about all the you know,
just as when you are working, it

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becomes kind of the spiritual, spiritually
beneficial, and your productivity of productivity as

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tight as three fourteen talks about living
a productive life versus an unproductive life.

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Keep in mind that when you have
times of rest, finding that time making

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every effort Hebrews for eleven, making
every effort to enter into rest, that

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you will find spiritual rejuvenation as well. Matthew eleven twenty eight. You know

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it so well, well, come
unto me, all who labor and are

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heavy laden, and I will give
you rest. Your time this weekend should

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be spent with one another. Your
time this weekend should be spent in rest.

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Your time this weekend should be focused
on not only family and the accomplishments

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you've had, but also with a
thought that all these things are done to

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the glory of God, and that
if you thrust and push your tiresome heart,

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your heavy heart, your heavy laborious
life upon God, know that I

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will give you rest. Wendy,
Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Hi

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Jesus, thank you for taking my
call, my pleasure. How can I

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help you? This is my situation. I love walking with you. And

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my pastor talked about keeping two feet
in the kingdom at all times, and

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that's become my motto. And I
asked the Holy Spirit to come upon me,

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and when that happens, I feel
like a godly woman. But sometimes

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I feel like I have to work
for that to happen, and I just

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don't understand the work. If I
ask the Holy Spirit to come upon me,

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why isn't like a natural occurrence.
I'm not afraid to do the work.

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I just want to understand it well. Scripture also says that you're to

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be a living sacrifice. Doesn't that
sound like something that's a daily struggle.

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Yes, it does. It's a
process. You know, if you look

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at nature and the other parts of
creation, and you look at the eagle

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flying, and how beautiful and graceful
it is to watch. Without the resistance

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of air, the bird would would
fall to the ground. That resistance it

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is actual work. Imagine what it
would would be like to constantly be in

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flight like that. If you look
at the fishes in the ocean. They

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have to move to live, but
they have to have the resistance of the

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water to move. Every moment is
constantly pushing against the resistance, just as

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the bird and you were no different
in your life. And the assumption that

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Christianity is going to bring ease and
simplicity is a misnomer. You have to

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know that with this comes trials and
tribulations and struggles and resistance, and that

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shows that you're you're doing the right
thing. You know the old saying that

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that you know you're going the right
direction upstream when the waters are pushing against

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you, that if it's easy,
you're probably flowing downstream and going in the

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wrong direction. I thought it meant
I was sailing, if I was having

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the struggle, that I hear what
you're saying, and it's just so helpful.

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You're in the game. You're actually
in it, Wendy, You're what

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the struggle, what you call struggles, is actually the feeling of the resistance

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of the world as you continue to
move your way closer to the Kingdom of

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God. Does that make sense?
It absolute does. Don't always think that

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it's very easy to get to a
mindset that, oh gosh, there's resistance

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or struggle. It's not something God
wants me to do. There are times

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where you look around and if you
keep hitting dead ends, you have to

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ask yourself as this the right way. But the daily struggles and the things

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that put push against you in life
are part of the process, and it's

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it's a it's a healthy process to
go through through and it's part of being

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that living sacrifice. You should embrace
it and welcome it because it's a consistent

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part of your growth. It's strange
to think about, but if you look

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up, gravity is the same thing, the one thing that you fear.

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You know, gravity makes you fall, or makes things fall, or what

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have you. That your growth from
an infant to an adult can't exist without

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gravity, without that pull. And
so that's part of your spiritual gravity that

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is helping you grow to be the
woman that you want to be in Christ.

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And that's happening. Otherwise you wouldn't
question it, you wouldn't ask,

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and therefore it becomes important. Robert, Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.

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Good morning, Jesus. Hi.
I have a wonderful wife I've been married

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to for fifteen years and three just
incredible daughters. And all of our daughters

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are saved, and so is my
wife, and so am I wonderful And

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our marriage has been very good,
except we have one area that we struggle

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with, and there's an anger issue
in our marriage. And I know that

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I play a role in this,
but I preface that because my wife is

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the one who lashes out in anger. But I know that there's something in

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my personality and how I relate to
her that causes her to feel that she

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needs to do that, and the
way that she expresses her anger when there's

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there's conversation that she doesn't agree with, instead of communicating in a normal way,

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she just lashes out and hits me. And this has happened over our

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relationship of fifteen years, and just
a few days ago it happened again,

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and it was one of those situations
where it was just out of the blue.

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I didn't expect her to do that, and she even went and got

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a phone and and said go ahead, call the police, and oh,

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okay, And I, of course
I've never done that, and I never,

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you know, hit my wife back. I don't want to know do

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that to her as well. I
just wouldn't be right at all, and

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so in the heat of the moment, I did call uh and Uh.

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I don't know what made me call
the sheriffs that day, but I think

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I just I just thought, you
know, this has got to stop.

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She I don't want her hitting me, and I definitely don't want to hit

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her back. So she's got to
learn to deal with this anger issue.

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And maybe it's something in her background. I'm not sure. But so the

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sheriffs came out, and it was
obviously an embarrassing situation, and she admitted

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that she hit me, and you
know, neither one of us wanted to

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go. I didn't want my wife
to go to jail, of course,

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and and I spent the whole day
bailing her out, going through that whole

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process, and she, you know, was humiliated being in jail, of

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course. And so I say all
that because I'm at a place of peace

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right now. I mean, since
she came home that night, it's been

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about three nights. I've been staying
out of the house and you know,

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just staying away. She needs that
right now. She's almost our girls,

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and I've just been staying out and
then another place, and then I just

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go to work. So you know, I'm at a place of peace in

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my heart because I want my wife
to sort out things in her mind as

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to why she lashes out this way, and she just doesn't have that peace

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in her heart. But but also, as you were staying earlier, I

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know I play a huge role in
all of this because of course you're a

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team that causes her to feel that
she needs to attack me in that way.

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Well, there's there's much to it, I would imagine, But for

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the sake of the time that we
have, let's look at some of the

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things that you brought up and kind
of go through them because you're the one

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it's calling. So it's kind of
hard to get into all of her issues

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if she's not really here. So
we'll do it by way of you for

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the sake of our conversation today.
So first, have you asked her point

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blank why does she do that?
You know, why does she get so

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angry or why does she hit you? She does, but her her response

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is kind of deflecting because she always
turns it back on me. Well you

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said this, so therefore I hit
you, and you know we raise our

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children, hey, you know,
with it no matter when anyone says to

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you, you don't respond by hitting
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her mind has rationalized to the point
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rational thing for me to do.
Okay, So she just she just puts

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it onto you. Then she just
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it did It really doesn't answer the
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what motivated her to want to.
But but doing it's a different executing that,

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you know, physical activity is completely
different. Has she ever hit the

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kids? No? And I know
in my heart she would never do that.

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All her anger is really just directed
towards me. Okay. Now this

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is where I need you to be
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Otherwise the phone calls for not are
you referred to by friends and family or

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even by your wife at times as
being very passive, being too passive,

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or you're not aggressive enough on this, or you don't you know why don't

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you I don't defend us in this
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the benefit of the doubt, or
let's wait and see how this unfolds,

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Or have you ever been referred to
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passive. I would say, no, no, my wife might say that

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I am. Well, But that's
the point. I'm not asking what you

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say about yourself. I'm not asking
if others have said it about you.

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So if your wife would say that
about you, that that then that counts

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well. I think in some instances
you might say that. But I have

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to tell you in reality, I'm
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you know. I mean, in
fact, that's what I played when I

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played football. I was an inside
linebacker, and I'm just that kind of

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intense kind of person inside. Okay, And by no means am I calling

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you a whimp? I'm saying.
And they're different, and quite frankly,

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a lot of times bigger guys fall
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Smaller guys tend to have feel that
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and we're maybe mocked for size issues
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and end up being kind of more
aggressive. Big guys tend to think,

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you know what, if I touched
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break it, So they end up
being much more passive. So it's not

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about manhood or you know, testosterone
or any of those things, or testicular

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forward to to or any of those
things. It's about women have preconceived notions

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as to what a man is,
man has preconceived notions as to what a

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woman is or should be, and
her anger from what you tell me,

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seems to come out of strange places. And obviously we only have a little

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bit of time, so I'm only
getting certain parts of the story and your

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side of it at that. But
you seem like a very reasonable guy,

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and even calling the Sheriff's at the
end of your rope is a fairly reasonable

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thing to do. It puts you
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And I'm also very proud of you
for being bold enough to call as

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a Christian, you know, because
Christians are so caught up in Oh if

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you smile through everything and you bat
your eyes and you tell people about Jesus

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and then they're gonna want to come
to the Kingdom and you pretend like everything's

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okay. I am proud of you
for saying, no, we all love

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Jesus and we're all Christians, but
we have problems in our home, not

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all the marriage, but this one
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shows its ugly head all the time. Having having said that, this issue

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is there. People scream usually for
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They're crazy and they like to scream. They're not being heard, or there's

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an issue that motive that they're they're
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and it comes out via this kind
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a slow burn. So if there's
something you do that irritates her on a

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daily basis, or something that that
continues to come up and she doesn't like

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the way you respond to it,
she may you know, love you so

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much that she doesn't want to bring
it up or can't bring it up in

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so many different ways, and the
only time it comes out is at its

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peak level when she hits a nine
or ten, and therefore she she she's

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ungirded and she can't help it,
and it and it goes to them to

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that level. Now, at this
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never ever, ever is it okay
for a spouse to hit their partner ever,

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male female, female male, never
ever ever, And this is no

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different than if a man hit a
woman there's no difference now because of the

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the importance of that that that notion
that you're not to hit one another in

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this in this bond, you shouldn't
be hitting people period. But in this

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bond. Uh. Now there's arguments
about well, you know, man is

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often stronger and bigger, and therefore
it's worse than all those things. And

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there's there's subtleties in there, but
big picture never right. But something is

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motivating her to that point where where
she loses she she doesn't have a place

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to blow off that steam. So
it all comes out at once. We're

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going to take just a quick break, but I want you to hang on

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Robert as we come back and have
a couple more thoughts for you. We

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were talking with Robert whose wife seems
to have some anger issues. Robert,

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you're still there. I'm here,
okay, So it's going to go by

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quickly here. So I want to
get to a few points. One,

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you absolutely need an arbiter. You
need to find a pastor or someone where

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you can do couples counseling because you
need to communicate. There's a there's a

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breakdown in communication. Otherwise your wife
has you know, some sort of chemical

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issues going on to lash out and
to hit you, or to get so

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upset to the point where she hits
you. Even pushing it past that,

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the act of grabbing the phone and
putting it in your face and saying,

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go ahead, I don't care call
the police is a strange act of defiance,

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almost almost telling you that she understands
that it's incredibly wrong what she's doing,

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but she can't stop right. And
that's a pretty scary place to be.

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So, you know, there,
if everything else is going well,

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it very well, you might find
out you've got to You've got to be

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willing to do this. You might
find out that there's more problems in the

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marriage than you think, and that
she holds a lot of them in and

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things that you do just being you
annoy her to high heaven, and there's

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a breaking point and you have to
be bold enough to go, okay,

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I'm willing to hear those things because
I want her to have that slow burn.

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You know, if you look,
if you know, drive certain freeways

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you're in California, you're drive by, you know, the refineries over in

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Carson or something like that. You
see that there's these posts and this kind

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of slow burn going on with the
flames coming out of the top of the

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posts, and that's to burn off
certain gases. So the whole thing doesn't,

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you know, explode. And it
sounds to me like your wife doesn't

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have a slowburn, she doesn't have
this this out and so it all comes

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at once. It could be a
variable of other things too. She should

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have a complete check up as well
by a physician and make sure that there's

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not something going on chemically or she's
not having other issues. But definitely communication

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is the place to start for you
guys, to communicate on a whole new

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level. There has to be an
outlet for her to tell you what upsets

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her and why, and you have
to be able to listen. You know,

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you may not be as available as
you think. And once again we're

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kind of focusing on you, Robert, because you're the one who was bold

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enough to call, and without your
wife giving her two cents and her side

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of things, it becomes difficult and
continue to, you know, pray over

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your situation for guidance, but ultimately
there's physicians for a reason. Go get

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her checked out, make sure that
everyone's healthy, and then make sure that

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you you focus on this as an
important time of bonding having a third party

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listen to what's going on and help
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I think with somebody who's licensed and
pastor who is gifted in counseling, will

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be able to pull those things out
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what triggers it and why it's there
and how she can control it. And

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I think that's the healthiest thing to
do. Troy, Welcome to the Jesus

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Christ Show. Oh Jesus, how
are you today? I am well,

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Troy? How are you? I
can't complain of it? Really you could?

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To me, yes, I could, and you would listen with Indeed,

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one thing I had a question about
regarding theology is the necessity of sin

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in the plan of God to work, and in all things we have a

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choice between good and evil. What
if there was evil? What if there

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was no choice for bad? What
if Lucifer had never fallen? Wouldn't we

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be in a fix as far as
Christianity with a non an alternate choice?

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Wow, you ask the big questions, don't you. Yeah. Yeah,

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it's a bit of a thinker,
but that's a big daddy. Yeah.

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Well, because it actually ties into
a lot, a lot of hypotheticals that

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are really wonderful to kind of,
you know, ponder and throw around philosophically.

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You know what, if Lucifer didn't
decide to fall, that that doesn't

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mean that there wouldn't be sin,
because even though the devil is the tempter,

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man still has the desire or at
least the opportunity. So let's correct

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one thing. Sin is not necessary
for the plan. What is necessary is

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the possibility of sin. But how
would we know the possibility of sin if

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sin didn't exists, and if Satan
isn't the tempter per se, it seems

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that Christianity channels all of the energies
of evil towards the tempter, and even

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you were tempted in the desert by
Satan himself, not by the concept or

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the out there generalized sin. You
had the tempter attempt to yes, because

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that's the way it did go down. I'm saying, if it did not

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go down, the possibility of sin
exists simply in the beginning with Adam and

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Eve, because the option exists,
the option being don't eat of the fruit

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of the tree of life. Right
now, it could have been anything sin.

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Would there just the gardens still be
there, and the garden would just

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grow everywhere. Indeed, okay,
yeah, you would still be in that

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You would still be in that state. There wouldn't there wouldn't be the need

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to eat or use animals. There
wouldn't be the state of shame. There

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wouldn't be an understanding of sin that
I would grant you, But there would

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be, there would be. That's
why talked about Yes, that's why that

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talked about the difference between knowing,
truly knowing, and the garden. If

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you remember, it says, then
you will surely know. You will surely

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know once you eat. Well,
that's not about the knowledge. It's not

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about actually accumulating knowledge and having like
the knowledge of pure understanding of God.

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But the devil was tempting with is
that you will now understand actualizing actualizing that

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process, you will now understand in
a tangible way the difference between God's will

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and man's will or sin rejecting God's
will. And so that application had to

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take place. But it wasn't a
necessity. It was only a necessity that

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man had a choice, because without
that, in the big scheme of things,

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God's will has always accomplished no matter
what. So it had to be

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God's will for Lucifer to fall.
No, no, because God's will is

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accomplished no matter what. In conclusion, so that's heaven. That's not necessarily

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the process Therein God allows things,
and it's God's will that man has free

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will. And in that sense,
yes, but in like the minutia going,

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God wanted this happen or this happen
or this happen, not necessarily true

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in that context. Kf I AM
sixty on demand