WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.199 --> 00:00:10.160 Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about it, 2 00:00:12.160 --> 00:00:17.160 and if you don't think about it, share it so someone else can think 3 00:00:17.199 --> 00:00:22.640 about it. I have talked about this before, but I want to talk 4 00:00:22.679 --> 00:00:34.159 about it again for those individuals out there, not just of my group of 5 00:00:34.280 --> 00:00:43.079 people, which man say is African, American or black. I don't like 6 00:00:43.240 --> 00:00:49.520 neither one of those terms. But my group of people. It's not just 7 00:00:49.719 --> 00:00:57.399 for us, because I've seen Asian, I've seen all types of groups who 8 00:00:57.479 --> 00:01:04.000 are doing it, male and mill and I think it is so, so 9 00:01:04.280 --> 00:01:17.200 terribly sad. People are not loving who they are. That's where it starts 10 00:01:17.239 --> 00:01:23.239 from. You not loving who you are as a person. You not loving 11 00:01:23.920 --> 00:01:30.000 what's looking back at you in that mirror. Who's looking back at you in 12 00:01:30.040 --> 00:01:34.560 that mirror? You're not loving that person, So you're going and bleaching your 13 00:01:34.599 --> 00:01:41.159 skin. I've seen Asian skin who just look pale. That is not cute. 14 00:01:42.959 --> 00:01:51.439 You already light skin what they call a white which there's no white person, 15 00:01:51.480 --> 00:01:56.959 there's no black person. But you're already of that skin color. But 16 00:01:57.079 --> 00:02:05.159 you are bleaching your skin to become more lighter, and you look sick. 17 00:02:06.159 --> 00:02:10.199 It's not cute. It looks sick like something is wrong with you physically. 18 00:02:12.439 --> 00:02:15.759 It don't look appealing at all. It looks like something is wrong, like 19 00:02:15.840 --> 00:02:21.319 you have a sickness. So those of you who are doing that to your 20 00:02:21.360 --> 00:02:27.879 skin, it's not cute. It is not cute. It appears as if 21 00:02:27.919 --> 00:02:31.039 you have a sickness, something is wrong with you. That your skin color 22 00:02:32.439 --> 00:02:39.479 is unnatural. You was not born with that skin. It is unnatural and 23 00:02:39.599 --> 00:02:44.039 whatever you're using you'll have to keep using for the rest of your life. 24 00:02:44.560 --> 00:02:53.319 Some of those items causes cancer. It's not cute. Then you have people 25 00:02:53.639 --> 00:03:02.800 of my group who are using all types of skin product us to bleach their 26 00:03:02.840 --> 00:03:14.039 skin. It is not about your skin and your mind it is, but 27 00:03:14.159 --> 00:03:22.240 it really isn't about your skin. It's about your mindset. Why in the 28 00:03:22.280 --> 00:03:25.800 world you think you need to bleach your skin. That's what it's about. 29 00:03:27.240 --> 00:03:32.879 That's where you need to find the root cause why you feel you need to 30 00:03:34.000 --> 00:03:42.840 bleach your skinning. A lot of those products have things in it that can 31 00:03:42.919 --> 00:03:49.240 cause cancer. And also it does not matter what you use. If you 32 00:03:49.319 --> 00:03:53.039 don't continue to use it, your skin is gonna go back to the natural 33 00:03:53.120 --> 00:03:58.199 state. It's like a person who lose weight with diet pills. You'll lose 34 00:03:58.240 --> 00:04:04.159 the weight, sure, but you're gonna gain that back ends saying with using 35 00:04:04.240 --> 00:04:12.599 all of those different items on your face, you may get lighter skin, 36 00:04:14.039 --> 00:04:17.800 but let me tell you that's not your natural skin. It's not. So 37 00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:21.879 you will have to use those products for the rest of your life. And 38 00:04:23.000 --> 00:04:30.600 they have a lot of them out there are causing cancers. It's not worth 39 00:04:30.639 --> 00:04:36.279 it. The problem is you don't love yourself and you need to get to 40 00:04:36.560 --> 00:04:43.680 learn how to love yourself. That is what you need to do. And 41 00:04:43.839 --> 00:04:49.639 this goes for men and women, because I've seen men who are beating their 42 00:04:49.680 --> 00:05:02.000 skins as well. It's terrible, absolutely terrible. Honestly, honestly, people 43 00:05:02.560 --> 00:05:09.680 don't realize how foolish they look. All of a sudden, they are light 44 00:05:09.759 --> 00:05:15.279 skinned. Who have told you that light skin is the best thing since chocolate? 45 00:05:15.279 --> 00:05:17.959 Look, who have told you that? Who have planted that seed in 46 00:05:18.040 --> 00:05:27.720 your head? Whoever it was, they are alive. They are a lie. 47 00:05:27.920 --> 00:05:32.120 And it's so sad that people believe everything that society says. With Society 48 00:05:32.759 --> 00:05:40.279 is full of broken people with their own issues and messed up mindsets. That's 49 00:05:40.319 --> 00:05:49.120 who you following society. People make up societies all over the world broken people, 50 00:05:50.560 --> 00:05:54.600 because if there was a person of their own right mind, of a 51 00:05:54.759 --> 00:06:00.600 positive mindset, they wouldn't encourage you to bleach your skin. It's individuals with 52 00:06:00.879 --> 00:06:05.160 issues. I don't care if people telling you in the industry, oh, 53 00:06:05.279 --> 00:06:11.360 you have to have light skin, that is wool crap. You shouldn't ever 54 00:06:11.439 --> 00:06:16.079 let anyone entice you into such foolishness because you look foolish. I'm just here 55 00:06:16.120 --> 00:06:19.839 to tell you you look foolish when all of a sudden, your light skinned, 56 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:29.199 when people know your natural skin color is not what you're now presenting to 57 00:06:29.279 --> 00:06:38.680 the world, it's ridiculous. Love yourself, regardless of your skin tone. 58 00:06:39.279 --> 00:06:43.759 Love yourself. So let me say it again. Let me be perfectly clear. 59 00:06:45.800 --> 00:06:53.000 It is not your skin tone that's the problem. You are the problem. 60 00:06:53.079 --> 00:06:59.519 You are your own worst enemy, your mindset. You're a prisoner to 61 00:06:59.600 --> 00:07:03.399 your own mind, your own way of thinking. When you feel that your 62 00:07:03.439 --> 00:07:15.959 skin have to be lighter, that's ridiculous. It's so freaking ridiculous and enmature. 63 00:07:19.879 --> 00:07:25.079 I mean, people are doing all types of stuff, putting stuff up 64 00:07:25.120 --> 00:07:30.360 their nose, I mean, just craziness. And I said this before on 65 00:07:30.439 --> 00:07:33.360 an episode you have. Some white people wanna be black, some black people 66 00:07:33.439 --> 00:07:38.759 wanna be white. The white people wanna change their skin tone, the black 67 00:07:38.800 --> 00:07:43.680 people wanna be lighter or darker. I mean, it's just craziness. Your 68 00:07:43.720 --> 00:07:48.639 skin tone is not the problem. You are the problem. Learn how to 69 00:07:48.680 --> 00:07:57.199 love yourself. Learn how to love yourself. Stop trying to change your appearance, 70 00:07:57.680 --> 00:08:01.160 because guess what, you could change your appearance. It's all day long. 71 00:08:01.639 --> 00:08:07.279 You're still you. You're still that individual with those unresolve issues. You're 72 00:08:07.279 --> 00:08:13.360 still that individual with that pain inside. You're still that dysfunctional individual. You're 73 00:08:13.399 --> 00:08:22.079 still that individual who don't love his or herself. You cannot convince me that 74 00:08:22.160 --> 00:08:28.040 if you lighten your skin or darken your skin, that you're gonna love yourself, 75 00:08:28.959 --> 00:08:37.519 you're gonna feel better about yourself. That is ludicrous. You can fake 76 00:08:37.639 --> 00:08:41.679 and pretend that you feel good, but there's no way. You're looking in 77 00:08:41.720 --> 00:08:48.360 the mirror and seeing someone that is a stranger to you because you now your 78 00:08:48.399 --> 00:08:50.919 skin is a different color, so you're looking at someone who's a stranger to 79 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:56.720 you. You can't feel good about that. There's no way, no way. 80 00:08:56.879 --> 00:09:00.399 You're a fake and pretend that you do. You can say you do, 81 00:09:00.440 --> 00:09:05.639 but no way in your heart you can feel good about that. You 82 00:09:05.759 --> 00:09:16.159 have to go through that stream to make yourself feel a certain way. That's 83 00:09:16.279 --> 00:09:24.720 terrible, it's unfortunate, but it is definitely a major issue in this world. 84 00:09:26.080 --> 00:09:35.159 It really is. It's just like this plastic surgery praise. People literally 85 00:09:35.240 --> 00:09:45.000 are messing up their beautiful faces, messing their faces up, trying to look 86 00:09:45.159 --> 00:09:52.360 this way and look that way, getting botched surgeries on their faces and their 87 00:09:52.360 --> 00:09:58.720 bodies. When the problem is not your body your face. The problem is 88 00:09:58.799 --> 00:10:05.919 you. You are not confident in your own skin. You don't love yourself, 89 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:09.679 because if you did, there's no way you would put your body through 90 00:10:09.720 --> 00:10:18.120 that type of trauma. No way. I really really feel sad for people 91 00:10:18.240 --> 00:10:28.080 who are doing this to themselves. I wanna I want you to contact me 92 00:10:28.559 --> 00:10:33.879 and tell me what benefit have you gotten out of doing it? What benefit 93 00:10:33.919 --> 00:10:39.240 have you gotten? How have it changed you inside? I don't care how 94 00:10:39.879 --> 00:10:45.120 it may have affected your life. You may have gotten the doors open our 95 00:10:45.159 --> 00:10:48.039 clothes, I don't know. But how do you feel on the inside. 96 00:10:48.840 --> 00:10:54.600 There's no way you can convince me you feel good about yourself looking at yourself. 97 00:10:54.320 --> 00:11:03.440 Three four shades lighter because I don't know who said light skin was beautiful 98 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:13.799 and dark skin was not, but they lied. It's a lie. Beauty 99 00:11:13.879 --> 00:11:20.759 comes in all shades. And as I said at the beginning of this episode, 100 00:11:20.320 --> 00:11:26.399 I've seen Asians who have lightened their skin and they look horrible. And 101 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:28.679 I'm not trying to down anyone them, make anyone feel bad, but I'm 102 00:11:28.720 --> 00:11:35.080 just serious. That looks ridiculous, that pale, ghostly look. That is 103 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:41.200 not cute. Under no circumstances. It's not. And think about what you're 104 00:11:41.200 --> 00:11:46.519 doing to your skin, because your skin is the largest organ on your body, 105 00:11:46.799 --> 00:11:54.080 and you're putting all of those chemicals inside of you. You're putting them 106 00:11:54.159 --> 00:11:56.679 on your skin, but it's in. It's in, uh, it's being 107 00:11:58.080 --> 00:12:07.000 absorbed inside and a lot of it directly into your bloodstream. You think that's 108 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:13.879 good, sooner or later, you will suffer the consequences of doing so. 109 00:12:13.879 --> 00:12:26.480 Sooner or later, guaranteed, because you're doing something unnatural to your body. 110 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:35.960 Unnatural, you put in a foreign substance on your skin, the largest argument 111 00:12:37.240 --> 00:12:43.440 of your body, and it's exhorbed inside of you. Sooner or later, 112 00:12:43.840 --> 00:12:48.559 you're going to suffer the consequences of that mess. That you're putting on this 113 00:12:48.679 --> 00:12:52.320 skin. People are putting it on this skin. People are taking medications, 114 00:12:52.360 --> 00:13:01.759 people are putting up their nose, all types of things, killing yourself slowly 115 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:09.360 but surely, because you're doing something unnatural. You need to learn how to 116 00:13:09.399 --> 00:13:13.320 love yourself. You need to deal with whatever it's causing you to hurt, 117 00:13:15.320 --> 00:13:18.759 whatever is causing you to not like yourself when you look in the mirror, 118 00:13:18.960 --> 00:13:24.000 whatever is causing you to think that because your skin is a certain tone and 119 00:13:24.080 --> 00:13:31.879 you're not beautiful, you're not worthy anyone who think that of you. You 120 00:13:31.879 --> 00:13:35.919 don't need them in your life. I don't care who they are, because 121 00:13:37.000 --> 00:13:41.519 they have issues too that they have not resolved. If they think like that, 122 00:13:45.120 --> 00:13:50.559 I don't care if it's your friends or or whoever, because that is 123 00:13:50.759 --> 00:13:58.639 wrong. It is wrong. And I guarantee all of these people who's lightening 124 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:03.399 their skin and all of these foolishness, they still are not happy inside. 125 00:14:03.840 --> 00:14:09.039 They still don't love self. I don't care how cute some of you think 126 00:14:09.080 --> 00:14:11.480 you are, or how handsome some of you think you are, and you 127 00:14:11.559 --> 00:14:16.720 currade around and give right around, as if you're so happy. It's a 128 00:14:16.720 --> 00:14:20.919 lie. If you have to do those kinds of things. You are not 129 00:14:22.159 --> 00:14:31.799 happy with yourself. You're not happy with the skin God gave you. If 130 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:37.840 you have to go around lightening your skin or darkeniness, you're not happy inside. 131 00:14:37.960 --> 00:14:45.000 You're not so you could purade around actingness if you're so happy. It's 132 00:14:45.039 --> 00:14:50.159 a lie. Coming sense tell us it's a lie. Anybody with any sense 133 00:14:50.159 --> 00:14:56.000 that all know it's a lie, because people who love themselves don't do that. 134 00:14:56.279 --> 00:15:03.480 They don't go to the extreme of changing their skin tone. You can 135 00:15:03.639 --> 00:15:11.559 change it all you want to. It is unnatural. It is unnatural. 136 00:15:15.399 --> 00:15:20.919 So you need to stop listening to people who have like minds like yours, 137 00:15:22.879 --> 00:15:26.360 and start figuring out why you feel the way you do about your skin. 138 00:15:28.360 --> 00:15:31.879 I don't care what your mama told you, your daddy told you, your 139 00:15:31.919 --> 00:15:35.480 friends, family, other people. You have to learn and love yourself. 140 00:15:37.799 --> 00:15:41.720 What your dark skin or what your light skin, or whatever color skin you 141 00:15:41.759 --> 00:15:50.000 have. You have to learn and love yourself. People see me and they 142 00:15:50.039 --> 00:15:56.519 think I have such nice skin. I don't trust me. I do not. 143 00:15:56.960 --> 00:16:00.159 I don't know why people think I do, but I don't. Or 144 00:16:00.240 --> 00:16:04.480 if you use that mirror on me, you'll be like, oh Lord, 145 00:16:04.639 --> 00:16:11.720 my goodness, yes, my skin is not what a lot of people think 146 00:16:11.759 --> 00:16:15.639 it is. When I take pictures, all my skin looks so creamy and 147 00:16:15.919 --> 00:16:21.000 pretty, but it is not. But guess what, it's my skin. 148 00:16:21.399 --> 00:16:26.000 I love me. It's who I am. Yes, it's changed over the 149 00:16:26.080 --> 00:16:29.000 years, being in the sun and all of that, but it's me. 150 00:16:29.639 --> 00:16:33.039 And I'll be dog gone if I put some cream on my face to light 151 00:16:33.159 --> 00:16:41.279 me or whatever. I'm good. I'm I'm Carmel. I assume Carmel. 152 00:16:41.360 --> 00:16:45.799 Maybe a little light with the caramel. But let me tell you, it 153 00:16:45.799 --> 00:16:52.559 don't matter. It does not matter. I protect my skin as best as 154 00:16:52.559 --> 00:16:57.360 I can. But let me tell you, I will never, ever ever 155 00:16:59.240 --> 00:17:03.799 try to light my skin more than what it is. I don't care. 156 00:17:03.839 --> 00:17:08.640 If I was dark skinned, I would not. My mom was much darker 157 00:17:08.680 --> 00:17:18.960 than me. I have sisters that's much darker than more. None of them 158 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:22.559 are trying to lighten their skin. I mean, it's ridiculous. You gotta 159 00:17:22.640 --> 00:17:29.000 learn to love yourself. You gotta get past whatever pain it is that have 160 00:17:29.200 --> 00:17:34.920 you in the mindset that you're in. You must that's the only way healing 161 00:17:36.039 --> 00:17:40.880 occurs. You have to deal with that pain. Why you feel that you 162 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:45.480 have to change your skin tone. Who told you that nonsense? You should 163 00:17:45.480 --> 00:17:52.720 have listened to them at all if they're telling you foolishness like that. If 164 00:17:52.720 --> 00:17:56.480 you if you are being told you can't get a job because your skin tone, 165 00:17:59.319 --> 00:18:04.240 you need to under that another way because that's discrimination and you need to 166 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:11.640 handle that a different way. You should never ever allow anyone. I don't 167 00:18:11.680 --> 00:18:18.839 care who he is or who she is. You should never allow anyone to 168 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:26.720 make you feel less than or that you're not good enough, because you are 169 00:18:26.279 --> 00:18:33.799 good enough, but you have to believe it. You're uniquely made and you 170 00:18:33.839 --> 00:18:42.319 shouldn't let anyone make you feel otherwise. Anyone who tries to they have their 171 00:18:42.319 --> 00:18:51.400 own unresolved issues. Do not let them put their unresolved pains on you, 172 00:18:52.759 --> 00:18:56.119 because that's what people do all the time. They project their pain onto others 173 00:18:56.400 --> 00:19:03.400 through words and actions. But it's up up to you, it's up to 174 00:19:03.519 --> 00:19:07.920 me if we allow people to do that to us. I definitely don't don't 175 00:19:08.400 --> 00:19:15.519 won't no way. You know a way. I know hurting people when I 176 00:19:15.640 --> 00:19:23.400 see them, even when they trying to fake the funk. You have to 177 00:19:23.519 --> 00:19:32.160 learn your love yourself. Whatever happened to you, you have to accept it. 178 00:19:32.359 --> 00:19:41.119 Whatever it was was done forgive because forgiveness is for you. It's for 179 00:19:41.240 --> 00:19:48.240 you to get past it. Learn to love yourself despite of what your mom 180 00:19:48.400 --> 00:19:52.880 said, your dad said, your sisters, your brothers, your cousins, 181 00:19:52.960 --> 00:20:00.799 your aunt's, uncle's, granddad's, friends of the family, friends, other 182 00:20:00.839 --> 00:20:07.720 people, regardless of what anyone done or said. You have to learn to 183 00:20:07.799 --> 00:20:12.759 love myself because this is your life. It's not your mom's, your grandma's, 184 00:20:12.759 --> 00:20:19.039 your dad's, your kids. It's your life. You only get one. 185 00:20:19.920 --> 00:20:25.039 Stop allowing people to hold you back. Stop allowing people to make you 186 00:20:25.079 --> 00:20:33.000 feel bad about yourself. You learn to love you for you, not anyone 187 00:20:33.079 --> 00:20:37.000 else. People have to learn to love themselves for themselves, and you have 188 00:20:37.079 --> 00:20:45.000 to learn to love yourself for yourself. People are dead and in their graves 189 00:20:45.359 --> 00:20:49.599 because of foolishness like this. They want to get nipped and tucked in, 190 00:20:51.480 --> 00:20:55.880 cut here and down, and all of the foolishness, and they end up 191 00:20:55.880 --> 00:21:03.960 in their graves. What was it worth? It surely was not worth death, 192 00:21:04.920 --> 00:21:12.200 But plenty have gone to their graves behind foolishness because they didn't love self 193 00:21:12.759 --> 00:21:18.640 and they thought by altering their bodies that they would feel better about themselves. 194 00:21:21.200 --> 00:21:26.160 Only they end up in their graves. And there are plenty who have altered 195 00:21:26.200 --> 00:21:30.519 their bodies who still don't feel good about themselves, feel even worse because a 196 00:21:30.519 --> 00:21:36.599 lot of them have watched surgeries. There are a lot of people who just 197 00:21:36.640 --> 00:21:42.839 look totally, totally different, and they don't know that person staring them back 198 00:21:42.839 --> 00:21:53.599 in the mirror anymore. It's scary. So again, the problem is not 199 00:21:53.720 --> 00:22:00.359 your skin tone. The problem is you and your mindset. So figure out 200 00:22:00.480 --> 00:22:10.680 why you feel the way you feel. Work on that. Learn to love 201 00:22:10.799 --> 00:22:17.799 yourself. I've told you before. Every day I look in the mirror, 202 00:22:17.839 --> 00:22:25.039 I say, hey, I love you, girl, You're beautiful. I 203 00:22:25.079 --> 00:22:29.680 don't care if my hair sticking up on my head or whatever is going on. 204 00:22:30.359 --> 00:22:36.079 I say I love me before my feet hit the floor. I give 205 00:22:37.039 --> 00:22:42.680 thanks to the Good Lord and gratefulness for all that he's done for me. 206 00:22:44.119 --> 00:22:49.240 After that, I'm like, hey, I love you. It may sound 207 00:22:49.279 --> 00:22:56.799 corny, but hey, no one, no one, no one, no 208 00:22:56.799 --> 00:23:03.400 one, no one, no one will ever make me feel less than There 209 00:23:03.400 --> 00:23:08.200 are no words a person can say to make me feel less than about myself. 210 00:23:11.880 --> 00:23:15.599 So you have to get to that point that you can't let group of 211 00:23:15.720 --> 00:23:26.440 people break you and that is those that cause pain and hurt from the past 212 00:23:26.920 --> 00:23:30.960 because too many people are holding knowing to that negativity that they should have let 213 00:23:30.960 --> 00:23:41.920 go years and years ago. So just no, it's not your skin tone 214 00:23:41.000 --> 00:23:45.240 that's the problem. You are the problem. You're in your own way, 215 00:23:45.640 --> 00:23:52.160 your mindset. You become prisoner to it. You've let people bamboozle you into 216 00:23:52.240 --> 00:23:57.119 thinking you need to change your skin tone. You're unhappy with yourself. You're 217 00:23:57.279 --> 00:24:03.200 you don't have no peace in your mind because you don't love yourself, and 218 00:24:03.640 --> 00:24:08.599 you have to get to the bottom of it in order to heal. You 219 00:24:08.680 --> 00:24:15.400 got to deal with it. And that's all I'm saying on this. I 220 00:24:15.559 --> 00:24:22.359 may not mention this title or subject again because I've talked about it a little 221 00:24:22.400 --> 00:24:30.440 bit before, but I just the things that I'm seeing disgusting, horrifying, 222 00:24:33.480 --> 00:24:41.359 horrifying. I saw a video of this one lady. She's trying to tell 223 00:24:41.400 --> 00:24:45.240 people all of these things to do with their face, to massage their face. 224 00:24:45.559 --> 00:24:48.880 But I'm looking at her, I'm like, lady, you trying to 225 00:24:48.920 --> 00:24:52.359 tell people what to do with their face when you need to really be doing 226 00:24:52.400 --> 00:25:00.200 something with yours. You look sick. Your face is grave because as you 227 00:25:00.359 --> 00:25:11.599 bleach your already what they call white skinning looks ridiculous. Lord Jesus Jesus, 228 00:25:11.920 --> 00:25:18.119 we need you desperately. But that's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it right 229 00:25:18.119 --> 00:25:22.640 there. Thank you for listening. Please share. People need to hear it. 230 00:25:23.240 --> 00:25:26.519 Whether they like it or not, they definitely need to hear it, 231 00:25:27.079 --> 00:25:34.920 and I hope people take heed. Also, you can go to my other 232 00:25:36.000 --> 00:25:41.759 podcasts and check out relationship Chronicles. Share it. Thank you for listening. 233 00:25:41.920 --> 00:25:47.720 Much love to each and every one of you. I end every episode the 234 00:25:47.839 --> 00:25:53.200 same, and I hope Lord have mercy. I hope and prayed that you 235 00:25:53.279 --> 00:25:56.599 do it. Think on it.