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Welcome to Round four of the Parenting
Roundabout podcasts for the week of April seventeen.

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I'm Catherine the Leko and I'm here
with Nicole Ritis Hello and Terry Morrow.

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Hello. As moms of teens and
young adults, we've survived those little

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kid days, yet we're still rethinking
the decisions we've made all through our kids'

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lives and worrying about what's going on
right now. Today's Thursday, which means

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it's time to give in to our
obsessing, and today we are obsessing about

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family stories. So Terry came across
an article about a book by Diane Ladd

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and Laura Dern, mother Daughter Actors, which is coming out at the end

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of the month, and Audible is
already sending me emails saying do you want

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this? How about this? How
about this? How about this book?

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Like this book? Don't you think
gotta gotta credit? Burning a hole in

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your pocket? Turn it on over. I always have credits burning a hole

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in my podcast I at twelve time
and so they burn a hole into my

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pocket for a year. It's a
deepole. But but this this one sounded

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interesting both as a book to read
and as an audiobook. To listen to,

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because of course they narrated, and
it was saying that Diane Ladd,

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the mom, had some health complications
and had to walk a lot, and

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so Laura was walking with her and
they were just talking about stories from the

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mom's life and having all sorts of
meaningful conversations and then also talking about recipes,

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and it wound up they wound up
sort of converting it into a book

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about because they're faus, because they're
famous, that's why there's a book.

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And you know what, probably I
will take that credit out of my pocket

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and flip it over in their direction, because why not? It sounds interesting?

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But I also was thinking, I
took a lot of walks with my

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mom at one time. I'm a
writer. Why did I get a book

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out of it? A bottom?
But I still could have written it,

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and then I would remember things that
I have long forgotten. And you know,

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then if I you know, my
daughter and I have long, long

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conversations. Of course they're mostly me
talking, but she talks sometimes, And

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what sort of book would make out
of my conversations? And what would she

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title it? My mother won't shut
up? But have you guys ever thought

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about that? There's stories in your
family that you think might one day be

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book fodder if you were a famous
person and you could get in touch with

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the publisher, or is it just
maybe you could write a blog post.

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We don't necessarily have book material,
but we have a list of christianisms.

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We call it that would be lovely
because our daughter make Yourself a little book

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for some reason, and I think
between Josh and I where my son and

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I were tracking it on a shared
note because she comes up with these sayings

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and it's like it's like a regular
every day saying, but she twists it

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in a way that it's just it's
funny. It's so funny, like I

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don't get it. I'm not sure
what it's a result of. She just

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has these little quirky sayings that we
all laugh and yeah, so we're saving

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that for something one day. We're
not sure what, but it's a very

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they're very quirky and funny and it
makes us laugh. I don't think anybody

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else would laugh, but it makes
us laugh. Well, there's been been

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people who wasn't there like a book
and then a TV series based on the

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book that was I don't remember if
this was the title of the book or

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just how we have to say on
a podcast. But it was like bleap.

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My dad says, yes, yes, but he was I think that

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guy was already a comedy writer right
before he got a book contract. Right,

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So you know, it's not unheard
of that you could make a little

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book of interesting things that somebody says, right, Definitely, a blog post,

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it could be, might be yeah, yeah, series of greeting cards

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maybe, yes, greeting cards paid
to day calendar. Yeah, yes,

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that's more like it, and it
goes up and distribute them to your family

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and friends. Yeah. Well,
you know I always do, and I've

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mentioned this has been my roundabout round
up by them as like a daily calendar

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of photos that I make at a
company called Social Print Studio. So you

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can do that and it'll just be
it'll be you know, aphorisms that he

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has to have three hund five of
them, right, so tell her to

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upper production or maybe maybe you could
do like one a week, depends on

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how many you have. Yeah,
well, I mean repeat, I'm about

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halfway through the year. Nobody's going
to remember. Yes, our our photo

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calendar for sure gets there's repeats.
Yeah. But you know another thing that

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I have mentioned on Roundabout round Up
that is relevant. Here is the story

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worth yes, where it sends an
email to it sends you a question by

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email every week and you answer a
lot of pressure. I remember that.

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Yeah, and you could you could
change the question or you could you know,

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like not answer it or you know, do six weeks at a time

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or whatever it was. But yeah, I did that for both of my

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parents and it was It worked really
well, except for the part where I

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proof reredit like thousand times and then
there's a mistake on the cover one of

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them. Yea, I was so
upset. Always a mistake and it's always

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in some extremely visible place. Yes, but that was a very cool way

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to collect a lot of um memories
and just you know, sometimes it was

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memories like talk about your parents or
your education or whatever, and sometimes it

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was like you know, your favorite
food or your favorite book or whatever.

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You know it it was a combination
of those kind of things. So that

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that was definitely worthwhile. Yeah,
and it's a cool way to do it.

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That's for the non salabs that can't
get you pay them to make it

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instead of getting think a little advance
and royalties for sure, and an audiobook

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with your voices on it. Yes, yes, I don't know. I

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feel like my parents probably had stories
that would be interesting to read, and

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I remember some, but I don't
know if I remember them right, or

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I heard it correctly, if I
remembered it correctly, if I'm making it

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up right. And it's so frustrating
because I, you know, I share

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my dad with my half sister,
but nobody was with me when I was

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growing up, so anything that was
happening then, I was the only witness

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too, and I my memory is
bad, and things that happened before,

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you know, in their younger lives, I don't know what is. I

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tell stories and then I think afterwards, I don't even know if I were

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remembering that right. So if I
could have gotten my mom to tell me

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things and recorded them or written them
down, it might have been an interesting

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book to read. I feel like
they had interest experiences in their youth and

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in their adulthood and in meeting each
other, and you know, and of

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course in being parenting to me that
chapters and chapters of gloriousness. Who would

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not want to read about that?
Oh? Interesting? But even so,

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even before I feel like they had
sort of atypical stories. And my daughter

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has certainly some atypical stories that she
can't remember so from her early childhood.

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And I recently got a book.
It's called The Hard Parts by Axana Masters.

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She's a paralympian, very successful Paralympic
athlete, and she was I know

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a little bit of her because when
I we adopted the kids, I was

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part of a email group of parents
who adopted from Russia and the Ukraine,

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and her mother was in her adoptive
mother was in that, and so we

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hold church stories about the surgeries she
had to have and the problems she had

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and all that. And I started
listening to this book and I thought this

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be great because I'll, you know, she'll she was old enough to remember

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some of her experience in the orphanage, and so I'll have a sense of

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what my daughter might have gone through. And I listened to a little bit

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and it was horrible. And it's
like, I can't any more of this.

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Yeah, I'm glad you got my
book money, Xana. I'm glad

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you're please. I hope your book
is successful. But I ye, yeah,

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yeah, And I don't know that
my daughters was horrible. I mean,

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everybody seemed nice, but there were
some things. So I would love

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to be able to share her story. I think that would be much more

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interesting than anything that has ever happened
to me in my life. But it's

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locked up. Yeah. Yeah,
it's very deep and I don't think it

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comes out without trauma. So let's
just let it stave there. Not worth

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a book contract. Oh well,
yeah, well we have our podcast where

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we talk about it all the time. You have an archive you might have

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to waste going back, many lawyers
our living resource. We can keep you

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listening for a long long time,
right, aren't we generous? We haven't

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thrown any recipes in it, though, maybe we need to add some recipes.

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Maybe that's what's holding us back.
You guys got a good banana pudding

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recipe, that's all. That's all
that's separating us from a lucrative book contract.

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That's right. You know, they
said, well, we would give

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you guys a book, but you
know, Laura Dern and Diane lad have

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recipes in their story, and it's
you know, what can we do?

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Yeah? I don't progrudge him.
I don't cook. My husband cooks would

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have to be his book. He's
famously very chatty and that's right. Loves

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to talk about himself. Yeah,
that would not go well. So you

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just have to read. You have
to follow my son's face spookfeed and he

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will tell you at least what we
eat every night. Yes, recipes the

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other night. Oh this is apropool
of nothing. But he said that we

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were having a stew with bacon and
sweet potatoes. And I mentioned that to

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my husband. He said, oh, well, I didn't put the bacon,

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And I said, but honey,
it says on Facebook now. No,

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I think he just threw some bacon
bits from a jar. You know,

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you gotta please your audience. You
gotta gotta need the expectations. Oh

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well, well, is that the
end of our story for today? I

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think it is. Thank you for
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