Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. I
hope everyone is doing well. You, your family, your friends. I
hope everyone is doing well. I wanted to talk about something today, and
I tell you I have a heavy heart because I've been listening to different situations
and it really saddens me that people feel as if they don't wanna go on
with life. People feel that they're at the end of their robes. And
now I talked a little bit about suicide a d just a little while ago,
maybe a week or two weeks or something like that. Time goes so
fast you can hardly keep up. But I'm not in particularly talking about suicide.
I'm just talking about pep people who just feel that they cannot move from
that old place to something and somewhere better. You have to be willing to
let go. That's the bottom line. You must be willing to let go.
Nothing is that bad. I know people have been in some horrendous situations.
They have been in some very very awful and traumatic situations. I mean,
just unthinkable things have happened to people. But but what I want people
to understand is you went through what you went through. It's done. Where
people fail themselves. Is when they keep carrying the pain as if the still
live in that situation. You must be willing to go. You must be
willing to let go. The reason so many do not become better mentally is
because they are in the same place. They are living vicious cycles over and
over and over and over again, because they're holding on to those memories and
they have given power to those memories that have turned into those thoughts that you
keep reliving day in day out. You have to be willing to let go.
It does not matter what you went through or how traumatic it may have
been. You have to leave that stuff behind. I'm not saying you won't
forget. I'm not saying that I'm not saying that you will forget. But
if you don't forget them those things, if you don't forget them, what
happens is if you're not giving power to those memories and thoughts, what is
going on is they lessen they've saved, some of them will go away altogether.
What they will never do that when you keep fueling the fire, when
you continue to give power to those memories and that forms those thoughts, you
are feeling the fire. The more you give power to them. The more
power and control your memories and thoughts have over you and your life because you
have gave your power to those things. So many people are at the end
of their road when they don't have to be. That is what really,
really, really sits hard. It's tough for me because I love people,
and I know no one on the face of the earth have to live with
depression. And you know anxiety and thoughts of harming themselves are harming others.
No one, but the power you give to your thoughts, they will consume
you. I actually cried when I heard about this man who had thought about
killing up a lot of people, but instead of killing people, he just
killed himself and wrote a note to say he wasn't a killer. That touched
me so deeply. Although his life was lost, he took his own life.
That still touched me because it didn't have to get to that point.
When you know that you have unresolved issues and you do not handle those issues,
you do not heal from those issues so you can move on, you
remain the same, and you remain that same person full of self doubt,
self neglect, self hate, self loath, insecurities, fear, believe in
things, that are not true. You're so worried about you don't have support,
No one loves you, no one likes you. You should never think
like that because this is your life. It's not the other person's life.
It is your life, and therefore or you have the opportunity to make it
the best that you can. People complaining, Oh, it's hard, it's
hard out there, it's hard trying to make it. Yes, it's hard
for everyone. But you still can make it if you choose to. And
I can say that because I, at one point in my life with two
little kids, struggled, but I paid every bill. I made it work
because I always chose home. I didn't think about other things spending my money
foolishly. I thought about home and my children. So you have to get
your priorities right. When you don't have your priorities right, then it messes
up everything else. You spend bill money knowing you need to pay your bills.
That cause of stress, so much stress, financial stress. But people
keep doing it instead of choosing to be better. Individuals have all of these
things inside that they're holding on to. Your mom didn't love you, your
dad didn't love you. They talked about you, they beat you, They
abuse you in every single way possible. This and that you're holding on to
those things and you're an adult, you're still angry as an adult when you
could have let that mess go. Anytime someone hurts you, whether past or
present, it's because of that individual and their own unresolved issues. You can
not take ownership of their pain. You cannot allow yourself to be a victim
to their pain. When we were kids, and for those who have gone
through situations, bad situations, traumatic situations, bad experiences, however you want
to label them. When we were children, little kids, we didn't have
control over a lot of things. But as you progress through life, you
have to make a decision. This is my life. I came from hell.
I'm not going to keep going through it. I want to make it
better. I want things to be different. You have to choose that for
yourself, but so many people don't. They don't choose better. But what
they do is they continue down the same road and then they get into relationships
with people who are similar to them. When I say similar, I mean
with the same problems, such as unresolved issues that's plaguing them. So when
you get involved with someone who has their own unresolved issues. You're gonna have
nothing but friction in your relationship. Your relationship is going to be plagued with
chaos and drama. So you power all of that on top of what's already
bothering you. Then you get jobs and you have a bunch of people in
the workplace who have unresolved issues. We can have it in the workplace from
the top down. Then you take in that makes your life even worse.
I mean, you go through life just powering, powering, powering the problems
of others onto your own unresolved issues. You keep taking other people problems and
bringing them into your life as if they were yours. If a person don't
like you, so what if they don't support you, so what? If
they don't love you, So what if they don't want you? So what?
You never ever have to take disrespect from anyone. You can handle a
situation in a nice way, but yet in a way where they get the
point. You never have to be anyone's toilet, meaning you don't have to
let people just dump on you with nonsense and negativity. You do not,
you do not. You don't have to entertain foolishness, You don't have to
be that individual that's easily brainwashed and influenced because you have all of those insecurities
inside of you. Anything that sounds good or looks good, you're willing to
follow. No one has to be like that. So when people go through
life with all of these issues, and not only your own, you're taking
on the problems of other people. You're taking on the behaviors of other people.
When I say you're taking on those things, I mean you are allowing
them to affect your life negatively. And all it does is pushes you further
and further down. Your soul is more and more vexed. You're in that
dark place. This is what happens when you allow people and things to drain
you of your energy. This is what happens when you do not heal from
your past pains. All of the current pain and those things that you allow
people to bring into your life, they affect you because the mindset is not
in a healthy place from the start. That's why I tell you all your
storms is not the problem. They may be something, but they're not the
problem. That's Your storm is not why you can't get through the storm.
The problem is your mindset entering into the storm. When your mindset is not
in a good place entering into the storm, you're gonna have a hard time
in the storm. You're gonna have a hard time. You're gonna make that
storm way worse than it has to be because of the mindset that you had
going into it. It's harder for people to see their way. But people
don't understand this. That's why I tell you all of the time. Your
mindset is everything. If your mindset is not right, your soul is not
at peace. Your soul is restless. There is no way you have peace
within your soul when you have hate in you, when you're jealous and envious,
when you are full of toxicity and negativity. There's no way on earth
your soul is at peace. People, you have to let it go.
You have to stop giving power to people who have hurt you, because those
people someone hurt them, Those people that hurt you, they were powerless people.
They seemed powerful in your life at some point, but really they weren't.
They were not. They were not, But in your mind, you
have given them so much power to continue to hurt you, even though you're
not even in it anymore. You're not in the tragedy, the trauma,
the bad experience. You're not even in it anymore. But now you're creating
your own because of your self inflicted pain because you won't let go. You
won't let go, and it saddens me because my heart is very sincere.
I love people, and I know people are strong. I mean I see
it all around me every single day. I know people are struggling. I
know they are. But I also know, without a shadow of a doubt,
no one on the face of the earth has to get to that point
of no return or that point where they're so barbed down that they end up
losing their mind. No one, no one. Whatever you open yourself up
to is exactly what you're going to get. Let me say it again,
and I want to make it clear. Whatever you open yourself up to is
exactly what you're going to get. If you keep giving power to your past,
it's going to affect you. It's not the past, it's the memories
of the past that you've given power to as if the past is still in
exact when it's not. You gotta think about what I'm saying. Don't just
hear me, understand, Let it resonate deep within you. Your life can
be better, but you have to want it. When you start getting those
thoughts of your past, say to yourself past, you're no more. I'm
not giving any power to you. I was unfortunate. I had a mom
that didn't love me. Or I had a mom who abused me. I
had a dad who didn't love me. I had a dad who abused me.
I had parents that were not in my life no matter the situation,
I was chained up, I was abused in every form, no matter the
situation. Stopped giving power to it. It is over. It's the memories
that you are keeping fresh through your thoughts, and it's causing you sickness,
physical, emotional, mental sickness. We all see it every day when people
commit road rage, when people commit murder, when people all forms of murder,
suicide, homicides, parents killing their children, children killing their parents,
boyfriend killing girlfriend, girlfriend killing boyfriends, husband killing wives, wives killing husband,
people just killing period. We see it. We see it with people
who are in relationships who desperately loving someone who don't even love his or herself
because they don't know what it is. But you're desperately loving that person being
treated like crap. But you still wanna be with him or her. That
comes from a bad place within you. And because you're going through so much
with that person, you're taking in things as if you're the problem. You're
not the problem. You're a part of the problem. But the biggest issue
is your mindset, how you think you can't change him or her. You
could only change you. But you're trying to love that person. Half of
the time, they don't even deserve you, and they don't know what love
is, just like you don't know what it is, because if you did,
you wouldn't even put yourself through it. But so many people take that
in and then they bring all of that negativity and pile it up and they're
so hurt and devastated. You know, people they fall apart when they're cheated
on, They fall apart when people die. That's because you've given so much
power to that person when you never should do that. Because one fact is
it's a hard pill to swallow, but it is the truth. No one
can change it. We all are going to die. Yes, people die
suddenly unexpectedly to us, unexpectedly, but God knows people die unexpectedly, and
suddenly people can shorten their lives. But one thing for sure, we're all
giving up out of here one of these days. We're all going to die
one day. So when people give power to individuals who pass and they just
allow it to consume them because they feel they can't live without that person,
that's wrong. I'm sorry, but it is. According to the word of
God, it's wrong. When you give power to someone that's causing negative in
your life, that's never good. I don't care who it is. It's
never good. If it's causing negativity in your life in any form, it's
not good. If the person you're with causing negativity in your life is no
good for you. If on your job it's pure negativity and causing you stress,
it's no good for you. I mean, I can go on and
on and on. So what I'm trying to say to you people go through
things in life and because of unhealed hearts and mind, they power all of
this other stuff on them, And as I said earlier, it just pushes
you down further and further and further, and then you feel like you can't
take it anymore. You don't wanna be on this earth, you wanna die,
or you're just so unhappy and miserable and stressed out and depressed because you
have given your power. That's the only reason why, the only reason why
you feel like that you have given your power to someone or something. And
it is heartbreaking to me because I know no one have to live this way.
I mean, some people have gone through I mean super traumatic what I've
gone through, and I went through some traumatic things, but it's nothing compared
to some people. But me, I just refuse to give people my power
or anything my power. I just refuse. I don't care. I don't
care. I don't care. I'm not saying I'm made of stone. I'm
not saying none of that. But what I don't do is give my power
to people and too things. I don't care if you don't like me.
I don't care if you don't love me. I don't care if you don't
want to hear me. I don't care if you don't want to see me.
I don't care if you support me. I don't care at all.
And I'm not just talking. I'm telling you what God knows, and I'm
telling you what he loves, and that's the truth. I don't care.
I stand on my own and with the Father and the Son and the Holy
Spirit. Now that's me. Everyone is not like that. But even if
you don't believe, you still should believe in yourself. Don't let no one
take that away from you. The ability to believe in yourself, that's what
most people do. You give that away to someone who don't deserve it.
You let them take that from you, The ability to love yourself, the
ability to get to know yourself. You allow someone else to take it from
you because you believe all the negativity they say it to you, because you
believe you're not worthy, because all the things they've done to you. Stop
giving your power away from this moment forward, Stop it. You're worthy.
You're not put on this earth to suffer. You're You're not put on this
earth to be turmoil mentally because of past pains or people that you have opened
yourself up to and allow into your life that weak have it. That's not
what God intended for us. So this has been on my heart and I
really wanted to talk about it. You have to let it go and sometimes
gotta keep it real. You have to let people go. I mean,
it don't matter who it is. Sometimes you have to let people go.
I never would say stop loving them, because that would be wrong. You
love them, but you have to let them go. Let go and let
God. I'm just telling you sometimes you have to move on and leave all
the drummer in the mess behind. But the problem is people try so desperately
to hold on to people who treated them like crap. It makes no sense.
Think about it. You're trying desperately to hold on to someone who's treating
you like crapp? What seriously, what's the good in that You're waiting on
him to change? You're waiting on her to change? What about you changing?
Because they may never change. We all have unexpected things to happen in
our life. But I promise you, when you're in a better mindset,
it does not matter what come to you, what tragedy, what unexpected comes,
You'll be able to handle it because your mindset is in a better place
to receive anything. I'm not saying. Sometimes you you may cry, sometimes
you may kind of feel bad, but you'll never stay there. You'll never
stay there. When I lost my mom for a split moment, I was
like, how do I even live? I'm just being honest with you,
and I still get emotional thinking about my mom. She passed last year,
and I really get emotional thinking about my mom because she was a good,
good mom. She was so unique. Anybody that knew her would tell you
she was so unique. She's the only person I know in the world that
was never disrespected. I don't know anyone who ever disrespected my mom. And
that's the god honest truth. And she was close to all of her children.
So I miss my mom. But my mom didn't do anything special.
She took a journey that I gotta take one day, you gotta take,
we all must take. Did it hurt me? Yes, it slammed me
straight to the floor for a moment, But then I remembered who I loved
the most, and that's my father in heaven. And you know what,
I mentioned this before on episodes. I told my mom that before she she
died. It was it was a while before she died, maybe a few
years. We were having a conversation and I said, I loved you so
much, cause my mom, ever since I could remember, always told us
all she love us. And I said, I love you so much.
I said, but I love God more. I loved Jesus more. And
she was like quiet for a second, and then she said, oh,
I can understand. That's the connection you have to have with the father and
the son. So I missed my mom. I do. I love her.
I miss her so much, but I don't get caught up in trying
to talk to her every day, looking at her picture and trying to you
know, talk to her and you know, got the little what you call
them set up in the house for her. I don't do none of that.
I don't worship my dad Mama. I don't celebrate her birthday because she
don't have any more birthdays. When she died, she had no more birthdays.
You could say a person would be this certain age if they were living,
but to say happy birthday, mom or dad or whoever, No,
that's wrong because they don't have any more birthdays. The last birthday had they
had is when they died. Prior to when they died, some people died
on their birthday. You get what I'm saying. That's the last birthday they
had it will ever have. So I don't get into none of that.
Even though I miss my mom and I loved my mom. She was the
best. But for a split second, because my face was to the ground,
I felt like, I don't know, how do you live without your
mom? Because the connection was so strong, and when she passed, it
was like I could feel I cannot explain it, but it felt like I
felt something taken from me. It was so bizarre, But I got myself
together. I remember who I belonged to, and even though I get sad
sometimes thinking about her, missing her, I don't stay there. You just
can't give power to anything or anyone. You just can't because it will put
you in a dark place, and darkness belongs to the devil. That's what
the devil wants. He wants your mind all jacked up. He wants you
hate in yourself. He wants you hate in others. He wants you to
be embassy and jealous of people and not understanding it's not even about them,
it's about you and how you feel about yourself. But the devil wants you
to think like that. So until people start understanding that, they you your
mindset is your worst enemy, and you have become a prisoner to your own
mindset. Until people understand that and do something about it, we're gonna continue
to see what we've been seeing, and worse things are getting worse. People
are not showing love. I mean, it's crazy. This world is crazy
because of the people in it, but that's because of unhealed hearts and minds.
I believe it. I believe it. I believe it. Until people
choose change, things are going to remain the same. That's why we are
all need Jesus. We all need God. We need him. Whether you
think you're do or not, we need him. So again, I just
wanted to talk about this. It was on my hunt. I hope someone
gets something out of it. And listen. If you need to talk,
please reach out to me. Reach out to me. I will even give
you my phone number if you need to talk. I really would. I
can't talk to everyone, but I will answer emails and like I said,
if a person really, really, really really need to talk, I will
give you my number because I do have a business line as well. So
I love each and every one of you, appreciate you all. I just
want you to know your life can be better. You can live a beautiful
life. You can live that life with peace that surpasses all understanding. But
you must want it. You gotta let it go. You gotta let things
go that mean you no good. You have to let people go. That
means you no good. You can't hold on to those memories because they benefit
you none. Look what they're causing in your life. You're going out committing
road range because you angry because of what's inside of you. That's why you're
committing road range. That's why you're so angry when you go outside to drive,
because of what's inside. The reason you get all those negative thoughts because
of what's inside. The reason you hate because of what's inside, The reason
you have self doubt, lack of many things, the inability to love so
many things because of what's inside. Until you deal with what's inside, heal
and let it go, nothing changes. And I'm leaving it right there.
Thank you for listening again. Much love to each and every one of you.
Please reach out go to my podcast page you to tell you how to
contact me. I will most definitely respond. Thank you again, much love.
You know. I end every single episode the same, and I pray,
Father God in Heaven. Please, Father God in the name of Jesus,
touch hearts in mind's Lord, change people, Lord, change him Lord,
Let him seek after you, Jesus, let'em seek after you.
Father in Jesus' name, I end every episode the same, and I pray,
I pray, I pray, I pray, you do it, Thank
God, it