Made a decision face sunny sum I had a vision. What's up, everybody,
It's a Patreon I mean no, it's not regular shows, our regular
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You need to need to hear our yeah before you move on with with the
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yeah, when it comes out right tomorrow, right right, yes,
Yeah, it's it's like, um, I'm gonna make a lot of things
make more sense to you as the week goes on. Did you listen to
us? Yeah? Mmmmm. And speaking of Patreon, we're gonna do our
hangout our zoom this Sunday at six pm. Yeah. And if you're on
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Come hang out with us. We're gonna have fun. Yeah, like
Chicks to seven. Yeah, we're gonna chat with you guys. Yeah.
Get to know our audience. Sometimes we see some of the same faces and
sometimes there's new faces. And we love our zoom hangs. Oh my gosh,
we love it. Ye. Speaking of zoom hangs, mm, let's
say hi to some of our people that we may see there. Yeah,
like Aaron Land Oh oh and Rachel newcomer. Yeah, maybe she'll be a
newcomer to the zoom Zoom Zoom. Randy May aims her and all her names
will be there. Her long hair. We used to say blue hair,
don't care, but now hers hasn't been blue in a while. Lori Gory,
Nikki Kallya girlfriend, Ashley so Chic, Leslie's gonna cost you zoom possibly,
Oh my gosh. Yeah, come beyond the zoom. Uh. Jacob
is very growley. He's never come on of our zoom but he should.
He's never he's been on our zoom hang out. I don't think, so
what the fuck? I know? God damn it. Rita rocks that bassinet
and Hero. Everybody loves you. Elizabeth Williamson has a lot of beautiful children.
Yeah, all of them, most of them, like nine tenths of
them, right, a little joke, you know. Um Athena is a
great dancer and she is um so good at makeup. Polly, We Live
your Pancakes, Valerie, Bubba Fenwick, Katerina check that, Moller, Gabby
and Missy Oh boy is Sean Bosbay Kelly Brandt, she will take you to
a hip hop class. Alicia Escalante Leslie still coughing, but don't be coughing
on our zoom on Sunday, Come Sarah's the funnel, Ni pies on,
Jennifer, get up, Sandra, it's not easy being green. Krista get
the stroop. May want us and Stephanie Drinker Rinker she's come to our zooms
before. Yeah, so, uh well, I'm very sore. Why thanks
to Julie Cason? What because I did? I went on a hike,
okay, and I started going. I went three times in the week,
and I got so I had I felt good about myself. And last night
I said, let's sunny, let's go to the YMCA. I'm gonna Worklet's
I'm gonna go work out. So we go to the YMCA. He's off
doing his you know, whatever he does, and I am, you know,
doing the weights. Of course, what happens I run into another parent
that I'm not really you know. It's like, I just want to be
here alone. I just want to work it. And then she's missus powerhouse.
So she's like, oh, come on, I'll show you the circuit
area. Oh no, yeah, yeah, yeah, no thing. Yeah.
So I'm already sore from my hikes. I tell her. I'm like,
oh, I'm not just kind of taking it easy, and she's like,
no, no, no, here, this is gonna want and she's
kind of right. You know, when you're sore, the best thing to
do is I guess is you know the best thing to do when you're sore
is watch TV TV. I know that's what I wanted to do, right,
So I do this whole circuit thing, and now this morning, I
can't fucking move. I'm so sore from head to toe. I literally i'm
driving here, I can't look over my shoulder, my neck is sore,
my whole body is sore from head to toe. Thank you, Julie Cason.
It's her fault. I blame her, but I've been working out and
I feel I've been feeling good, which makes me happy about that. So
you know, um, Zander was going to work out with John. So
John makes this whole thing where he's like, I like, Xander, you
ready to work out? You ready to work out? And Xander's always like
today like I just got this new thing in roadblocks and you know, and
John, I'm always like John, well, why don't you just go well
the you know, I need Zander to Like I'm trying to get Xander to
go. It's like, oh, you could go by yourself. But so
he'll get Zander to go. And the problem is is once you get to
the gym, especially with guys, I think he has to go at like
ten, like he has to jat like he can't just if he even if
he hasn't been there in a while. See like I can just be like
I haven't been to the gym in a while, So I'm gonna do like
twelve minutes on the you know, legitimately take it easy. But like the
guys, he has to like go all out, and he doesn't think he
is. He's just like, what I just do level ten on the bike,
Like that's just normal. It's like, so what hows Xander goes with
John and then gets completely exhausted and like, you know, tie like it's
too hard. But if he tries to tell John like we just like take
it easy, John's like, we are taking it easy, which is my
point. I know we're gonna take it easy. We're just we're just back.
But taking it easy to him is like, let's just go forty five
minutes at like level twelve on the bike and you know, right now.
And he complains because then Xander's like, well, Xander will walk on the
treadmill and play play on his phone, which I'm like, yeah, me
too, like I feel him, you know. But John's like, well,
I tried to tell him, like you're not. You're gonna sleep better
and you're gonna feel better if you're getting that cardio in right. And speaking
of sleeping better, I didn't sleep very good last night because I was so
freaking sore. I don't know why I thought I would be sleeping better.
But again, like remember you were waking up at three four o'clock. I
felt like I had so much energy, Yet at four o'clock this morning,
I could have taken on the world, and I never went back to sleep.
I got up and I did laundry, I did I got stuff done,
I you know, clean, I answered emails, I did my thing,
and then I had to do the podcast today. Now I'm ready for
a fucking nap. I'm tired and sore. I can't move. Yeah.
Mondays are hard for me because if I don't sleep the night before, I
have hours of talking here on our podcast. Then I have to go home
and I have to watch The Bachelor, which now has the audacity to start
airing for nine pm to eleven Jesus, Stephanie, do you feel like you're
cursed by the Bachelor? Like? Is it? I feel like you're the
guy in the what's his name? The guy in the Twilight Zone who always
just wanted to read his books, and he just all he wanted to do
was read, and he got locked in the library and then the world came
to an end and he bends down and hold on and he's so happy.
Yeah, he's like, that's fine, I'm gonna library surrounded by books.
Yes, you've seen this one literally told some friends. Get used this as
an example. Yeah, that's what I feel like happened to you. And
and then and then tell them what happens. And then at the very end
he goes and he's got these thick glasses. I can't see without him.
He bends down to get a book and his glasses fell off, all off
and crack and break. Yeah, and he's like, no, no,
is that you with the Bachelor? Like meaning like I got stuck, Like
it's like a great thing, and oh how great I get to like for
for a job, I get to watch the show that I like. But
now it's like, oh no, now I'm stuck watching the show and it's
horrible. Now, um, yes and yes and no, I also hate
watching for Rose Pricks And just like that, Oh I wanted to ask yes,
yes, So it's so bad. Yeah, we tried to watch it.
I know I tried, so so bad And then we tried to watch
the second season. Then I think we got through, like we didn't even
get through one episode. Yeah. But the best part about that, and
I'm I will circle back to your question, but the best part about that
is we're hate watching it because it's so bad that it's hilarious, like we're
taking a part like what are the writers thinking? And you know this whose
fault is this and why is this scene? And Cecily my Cecily Nobler,
my partner on that show, was like a huge section in the City Madmatic
like knows, like knows all these obscure facts about the show. So it's
even worse for her because she's like, how could you be rooting my show?
Now? I wasn't Like. I watched Sex in the City and I
liked it, but like, right, I didn't have anything to lose,
Like, hey, if they wanted to make and just like that a great
show. Great if they don't, fine, So it's kind of fun to
hate watch, right, But The Bachelor, very early on I genuinely like
like the show. Not that not that I was watching it earnestly like oh
my god, these people are going to find love, more like, oh
my gosh, this is a fun social experiment. Now The Bachelor has not
changed with the times. It's very stale. It's such an old formula.
It doesn't work for anybody. It is cooked just yesterday. Caitlin Um Caitlin
Bristow, who, as you might remember from Nick Vile season. Yeah,
so she almost picked him, Then she picked Sean Booth, and then I
loved her. She was Chris Caitlin was one of the first women to have
sex with somebody like just a random person on her season, not fantasy suites,
just like went on a date. It was freaking hot, Like she
ended up sleeping with him, did the walk of shame back to her hotel
room the next day, and then had to tell the guy that she ended
up picking just one of the hope this doesn't hurt, which is which I
remember at the time thing being like, Okay, well, what difference does
it make if she waited until the fan Like how does that make us?
What? Because like, how is he going to be able to go?
You did what it's like, but at the fantasy suite she so she didn't
wait one week like whatever, I loved her. So she was with Sean
Booth for a long time, engaged, then they broke up. Then for
a long time she was with Jason Tardik, who you might remember with the
slicked back hair. He was like I think from Becca's season. Anyway,
they've been engaged for like forever, lots of breakup rumors surrounding them, just
yesterday breakup. So I really can't think of like any Bachelor people that went
together. So in answer to your question, I've shifted from being disappointed that
the show. Like each season, I'm like, wait, you're gonna make
who the lead? Right, Well, that's gonna suck. But I've I've
accepted it. I've gotten into acceptance where I'm like, well, all the
leads are gonna suck because it's a stupid show now, but it's still kind
of fun to watch it and just kind of make fun of it, right,
yeah, okay, all right, And I do think that a lot
of people listen to the listen to the recap that don't even watch the show
anymore, because, right, so you can kind of keep up with sometimes
you want to keep up with these people because what's still fire is Bachelor in
Paradise. Oh so you kind of need to know who the contestants are on
the regular show, right, but you can get that just from listening to
a recap. Oh okay, I might like Bachelor in Paradise. Oh it's
fun. Yeah, it's really fun. Even though I don't know any of
the people, it'll still be good. Well, so that's the problem.
If you don't I get Yeah, it's still like any reality show where you
you know, if you watch too, How to Handle or any of these
shows. Do you really know these people? That's true, that's true.
Figure it out. Yeah. Yeah, I'm just still in Jersey Shore,
like going down that rabbit hole. I've been watching all of it. Sammy's
back this season, new season really yes. Yeah, And we're gonna have
Vinny on our show, on our special guest show. I am so budo.
I can't wait. He's so cute, adorable. You know, this
is a weird connection. Do you remember that there was like a that Vinnie
was romantically tied to Gabby Windy, who was one of the leads of The
Bachelorette I heard about seasons ago. Yeah, but she is now, so
that was not actually true because she just came out as a lesbian and has
a girlfriend and went a TikTok public had launched her girlfriend on social media,
which I'm all for. I love Gabby. Oh okay, she's hilarious.
She's like quirky and funny. But I think we all thought like that'd be
kind of a cute match her and Vinnie. Yeah, but like now,
they weren't together, but well we could ask him, Yeah, that'll be
fun. Yeah, Um, you've seen him naked. I have seen him
naked. I did. I saw him at he did he stripped for us
at at his Chippendale's. We went to his chip Dale's show. Yeah,
that was fun. I'm so jealous. Right, oh my god, he's
doing he's doing another residency he is. Yeah, and at the end of
August. Should we go? Yeah, let's go. He'll totally hook us
up. We'll be vi ip and everything. My god, now that you
don't have to go to Vegas, maybe you'd want to go to Vegas.
Yeah, right, let's go. Yeah. Oh, we could do a
meet and great out there or something. We should Yeah, we should do
that. That would be so fun. Let's make this happen. That's like
coming up. Yeah it is. We got a planet. We could do
it in the beginning of December. I think he's going to be there too,
Oh he is. Yeah, I don't know. We can look it
up, but he's gonna be all right. Well, look, I think
we're all going out there for Bravo Coon too, so yeah, or I
think we're in the starting stages of planning that out with you know, Patrick
and Dale and bad TV, so we might be doing that as well.
Oh, weckers. I want to go to Bravo con. Well, when
is that? Is that it's October? Oh? Oh, it is October.
Yeah, I don't know when exactly, but I think it's in October.
Oh my god, I would love to go to bravocon. Well,
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my Facebook just just speaking of working out, bringing it back to working out.
Have you seen this like wall pilates now constantly in my Facebook feed?
And I don't know. It's like I just keep seeing these people doing these
exercises like against a wall and showing these transformations in thirty days. I'm like,
that sounds kind of fun and easy and maybe even could I do that
with a broken foot? Oh yeah, you caught cold, So it's a
workout you can do at home. I'm freaking out that I haven't I get.
I'm honestly turning into veal right now. My fat is like I've just
marbleized because I can't do any I used to just at least walk. I
can't do anything. I'm like sitting or in bed or you know, tell
how much longer? One more week? That's to me, it went by
fast, I'm sure for you, it's been like almost two months. I
can't believe it's been two months. Yeah, it was early June that this
happened. Oh my god. And so in one week is when I was
supposed to wear the boot twenty four to seven. I'm sleeping in it for
three weeks and then I can try to walk again, and he said I
should not be feeling pain. Maybe a little sore, but not pain.
And if I feel pain, I gotta go back in and have another X
ray. But if no pain then I can then I'm good to go.
Oh okay, well hopefully you'll be fine. Oh it's like I'm praying.
Yeah, and you're probably gonna have to take it easy when you get the
boot off anyway too after I know, yeah, you know what, let's
I want to I'm not excited about school starting again. And like when does
your kids go back to school? Okay, so my kids go back to
school? So you're listening to this on Tuesday, Monday? Really, yeah,
my kids go back next week. Yeah. It's come so fast because
I did nothing with my kids this summer, while you couldn't, I know,
but I just feel like I thought about like taking some little trips,
like some little like a couple overnights, maybe going to like Palm Springs or
doing something I've been able to do. Nothing not a I know, but
you know it's it's it's fucking with me that my kids are gonna be seniors.
They're both going to they're both seniors. Most people got one kid that's
younger or something like, my kids are going they're gonna be gone, and
you know in a year, and it's gonna be sad. I feel.
I know. I know our show. We have been doing our show for
so long. We literally have talked about almost every stage. I know,
like because my kids were practically babies when we started. I mean, now
they're gonna be sophomores. It's crazy, but your kids are gonna be seniors.
I've been through that with LB already. I know. It's it's a
lot. Yeah, people underestimate like how that hurts your heart. Like I'm
happy that they are their own person and that they are adults, but like
it's also very sad it is. I know, I know they're gonna be
seniors, and uh, you know when Italian and I are going to start
looking at colleges to go look at, which will be fun. Do some
visits yeah, yeah, you gotta do, Like you gotta clear it with
the school and stuff like what I mean we never did. You just went.
Yeah, but we did a few in junior year. But yeah,
you just go. They kind of expect it, right, they know you're
gonna miss some school. Yeah, and do you have to make schools to
look at. She's going to Miami unit in a couple of weeks. Really
yeah, sure, one of our very close friends or their families going and
they invited in Italian. Oh wow with them just to go for the just
to see the college, just to see on a tour. Yeah, yeah,
I gotta book or travel for that. But yeah, she's gonna be
going doing that at um, she wants to go to Arizona. Okay,
see those schools, and then Sonny wants, I don't know, Sonny's thinking
about Boulder, Colorado? Makes sense? Yeah, something like that. But
I got times too, so right, I'm gonna be I mean, I
bet me on the fucking road all the time. Now with these two,
well, I mean, oh what a lot of people do well? Also,
can Adam do any of the tour maybe? Or is he like against
No, he would he would because like John took some like we kind of
divided, Yeah, like I did, but Elbe wanted local, so I
did Santa Barbara and John did Berkeley, and I did San Diego and John
did like the I forgot what they're called. Um, this like group of
the Claremont colleges. I don't know, so none of them she got into,
so it doesn't really matter. Yeah, all the waste the time.
Right the college that she got into, Santa Cruz, we we didn't go
see until after, way after she was accepted. Right, So I mean
there's a different schools of thought. You could apply to the colleges, and
you could if there's something that's like a target school for her with her grades,
that the count you have a counselor. If the counselor says this is
a target school, then before you apply to like too many, you should
go see that school and make sure it's somewhere she wants to go right before
you waste your time, right, if it's something she's considering, right,
other schools, I think it's more like if they're more of a I would
say my advice would be, if it's a little more of a reach,
don't bother going to see it, right, If she gets in, then
you go see it. Okay, all right, because that's what I was
wondering too, Like how important is to go see these schools? Can't you
just got a look? It's on the map here, this is the environment
it has. This is a Google Watch Virtual Tours so how important if she
if you really like that school, especially if it's a private university. A
lot of them like you to show interest in the school, so they're recording,
they're taking note of if you've gone in person to see the school.
All right, but I mean, yeah, I don't. I mean I
don't know, right, we didn't. I mean we saw a bunch of
ucs and they could give a fuck if you're They don't know, they don't
think, they don't consider that right, So they don't even know if you
went to see them or not. Right, Okay, Wow? If is
there any that are sticking out in her mind already of like, oh I
like this college. I think Arizonas Okay, yeah, Like for me,
I don't think even working with a counselor, I don't. I think it's
such an abstract It's like these how do you know? This is just my
opinion. I read this, you know, paying for college one on one
stupid ridiculous Facebook group, and these people are all delusional and out of their
minds, and like, you know, everybody's kids got like a four point
eight right GPA, And I just don't know how they know the difference of
like, oh my kid really wants to go to this college. It's like,
why, right, they've never experienced anything outside of high school right now,
how would they even understand what that college is like aspared to this college,
you know, Right, some kids really know what program they want and
they've heard that like such and such a college has the best engineering program for
this niche thing I want to do. And maybe for Sunny that would be
like the case maybe if he was like, listen, there's this sports broadcasting
program that's at this particular school, and I really that's famous for that,
and they place a lot of kids in jobs like yeah, yeah, but
he also probably doesn't need help placing him in jobs. Well, I'm sure
he could use it. Yeah, Like Colombia and Chicago, I guess they
have a really good broadcasting I think it's broadcasting, yeah, something along those
lines and program, and they have a great alumni program out here, which
I think would be good for Sonny. Okay, So if Sonny is like
I like the sounds of that school, I've googled it, and that seems
like somewhere I could see myself, you know, it's the right side,
Like I want to go to a big school. I want to go to.
I want to go to a really small school whatever it fits his that
criteria that he doesn't know for sure. Like for Elbe, we wanted her
to see what is the feeling of being on a huge at a huge school
on campus. Yeah, what's the feeling of being at a really small school?
She likes a big school, That's what she said, but like maybe
that's why you see a school so that Sunny could be like, Okay,
I like the idea of this school. It sounds perfect for me. You
go see it and it either he goes like, oh, this is cool,
like I like the type of kids that I'm seeing here. I like
I've got into a classroom whatever, or he goes, fuck this the weather
sucks and I don't. It wasn't my vibe. Yeah, yeah, okay,
Well that's pretty good advice. Thank you. Yeah. I don't know
if I'm the best man. Thank you are at advising on this because it
didn't really work out well for us. But yeah, I ran into an
old friend. Not Natalia is one of her closest friends that she grew up
with and her mom. I ran into her over the weekend and she because
her daughter is a lot like Natalia. They're very OCD. They're they have
like, they have this a lot of anxiety, especially around social you know,
fomo and that kind of stuff. And her older daughter is very calm,
cool, collected. She's off to college and doing very well. She's
really worried about her daughter that's the same age as Natalia, because of her
anxiety and OCD and all of that, you know. So she had a
whole assessment done, and it was she had to drag her daughter. Her
daughter didn't want to do it. She had to tell her, you don't
have a choice. You're gonna go meet with this therapist. You're gonna have
a whole assessment because she wants her to be in the best mental health state
when she goes off to college next year. And I was like, wow,
that's such a great idea, Like I like that, like and it
also helped her daughter realize, like, oh, I didn't realize that this
whole fomo that I get is part of my anxiety. It she didn't put
that together, and now she understand, Like it's it's helped her a lot,
even though she was dragged the whole way. I mean, there was
times where her and her daughter would fight. She would put her in the
car and her daughter would get out of the car and go, you're wasting
money doing this. I'm not. I'm you know, dropping her off at
the therapy and blah blah blah. And but after you know, a couple
months of doing it, she's really got her anxiety under control. And I
think that's something I need to probably maybe look at for Natalia because she I
can't imagine just now sending her off to college and now like just thinking that
she's just I mean, she's very self sufficient. She is, and she
is very um, she's she's very like she can what do you call it,
uh navigate. Yeah, she's a very good navigator. Well she is
handle her shit and handle her shit. She's she's self sufficient sufficient. But
uh, she's you know, she eats healthy, she works out all right,
right, Okay, so she can regulate herself. But when it comes
to her friends, they come first, and you know, and she's gotta
she's got a lot of anxiety. And now it's like she's gonna be but
she's been around all her friends. Now what she's gonna they're gonna go off
to college. Now they're not going to be around their friends, they're gonna
be all alone and they're gonna have you know, is she gonna have a
lot of anxiety around that? You know, how does she gonna you know,
handle that and regulate that anxiety. I think that's so I have a
bunch of thoughts about that. Number one. I think it's great that,
like you're investigating that. Think about the fact that, like when we were
young, yeah, nobody, Like first of all, like autism, how
often was autism diagnosed, Like when we were kids, Like it wasn't no
matter how if you were neurodivergent, you were just thought of as like kind
of weird, or you're not or you were yelled at for like how come
you're not You're just not trying hard enough. Like I can tell you that
for sure I had ADHDS me too, But the way it manifested in me
was just that I was constantly bored, like and I couldn't study, so
I got horrible grades. I am smart, you know, objectively, like
I'm bright and can figure shit out if I have to and understand things,
but like presented with it into having to sit in a class, I couldn't.
It was but I didn't think of it that way, as it wasn't
like I was like constantly tapping my toes or like had a bunch of energy.
I didn't. It was just that my mind was like, oh my
god, I'm bored. I'm thinking about other things. I only want to
do what I want to do, Like I could read a book ye,
and hyper focus on books, but not if the subject, but not learn
math. Right. And it's only now, like in my fifties, that
I can go have some compassion for the kid that I was. But like,
now we can look at our kids and I don't think it's that we're
over diagnosing. I think it's just that we are diagnosing, like we're seeing
anxiety in our kids and we're addressing it right, like, which I think
is a great, great thing. It just because it might seem like,
oh my gosh, every kid has an anxiety, Well maybe they do,
but like, isn't it better that we help them? I agree, give
them tools to deal with it, rather than just go, oh, you're
making it up or like oh not everybody has anxiety. They lock it off
to Yeah I know, I agree. I agree. Yeah, So I'm
gonna look into it and talk to an Italia about it. And another thing
with this going off to college, which I've noticed is, yeah, like
these kids are still young. You know, they're eighteen years old, seventeen,
eighteen years old. I mean I was on a July birthday, so
I graduated high school at seventeen, too. Would have been going off if
I'd gone to college zoom, as I would have been seven. Well,
I would have been very newly turned eighteen years old. Yeah, I mean,
as it was. I moved to La on my own. So a
lot of these kids, right, they have their friend group. They have
especially senior year, right, they have all these things. They have homecoming,
and they have senior Prom, and they have all these senior activities,
and they're bonding with their friend group more than ever. Then all of a
sudden, like I look at Elbe and Elbie's like, I'm you know,
she's so sad, like all my friends are leaving me, you know they're
all but I'm like, yeah, but they're also leaving their friends too,
And Elbe's like, yeah, but they're going to have the distraction of being
in college. And I'm like yes, but it's also going to be a
huge adjustment for all these kids. Like everybody has it rough. This is
this is a hard time. Like we need to acknowledge that all of these
kids, whether they get into the college they like, whether they're elbe who's
going to go to community college for a year and feels bereft that all of
her friends are moving on with their lives and she's stuck here, you know,
in her bedroom at her same job, going to a community college.
It's like, but your friends are leaving all of their friends, their house,
everything, they know, their moms and dads, somebody who does their
laundry, somebody who groceries that appear in the fridge, and suddenly they're in
a brand new college with all brand new friends, a roommate. Right,
they've maybe never shared a room before, suddenly they're sharing their space with somebody.
They're going to having to find their way through a brand new school,
navigating all teachers, having no parent right with them. That's it. Yeah,
some of them are moving thousands of miles away from home to do it
right now. I think it's got to be really hard. I think we
should have like a lot of empathy. Yeah as all these kids. I
agree, Yeah, it is, And I was like I can't, I
mean, how are they going to do it, but they do it.
I mean, obviously the kid's going off. I mean we didn't like people
do people do Kalen didn't do it. I tell us what it's like,
guys. I mean I moved to La with like. I know I've told
you this story before, but it sounds so crazy to me looking back.
I had nine hundred dollars. Six hundred of it I saved from like waiting
tables and quitting jobs like if they didn't pay me, and like if I
wasn't going to make tips there. I knew I was leaving like town in
a month, so I'd work at like a Chinese restaurant. I'd work like
two shifts. I'd be like, I'm not going to make any cash here.
See, you get to go up the street get a different job.
I managed to come up with six hundred dollars. My mom gave me three
hundred dollars. I got in my beat Maza GLC with my friend Heidi,
who was seventeen years old, who dropped out of high school. I'd forgotten
about that tidbit she never finished high school. She was like, yeah,
fuck this, I'm coming to California with you. We got in the car,
drove across the country. We're like, we don't have enough money to
stay at like proper motels. So two different nights we slept in the car.
We literally pulled over on the side of a road and fell asleep,
like honestly, just like catnip to a serial killer. I don't know what
we were thinking. Yeah, we were thinking like we've never been the victim
of a violent crime up until that point, like probably fine, Yeah,
probably weren't fine. Then we pull up to La. We go. All
we know is that we're meeting my other friend who I'd been best friends within
Spokane, Washington. We'd been talking back and forth with her. She's like,
I'm in La staying at my aunt's house, who was like some alcoholic
drug addict. Of course, She's like, come on down and you guys
can stay at my aunt's house. So we we we arrived in La,
like, what's up? Like we figure out from the Thomas Guide how to
get to this woman's house on Beechwood Canyon. Oh, we roll up.
It's like a one bedroom apartment And every time people come to LA, they
roll up to Beechwood Canyon, Like that's the place that when you get to
Lamon Street, like right, like Beechwood Canyon is the street that you just
look all the way down and there's the Hollywood sign. Yes, yes,
So you pull up in La that's where you get out. It's a very
cool part, very hipster, hipster part. But this lady lived in like
a one bedroom apartment. I don't think she knew we were coming. So
my friend was like, okay, so like these are my friends, and
she was just like, what the fuck is happening. I think we lasted
there one night, like we all slept on the floor in this apartment,
and then she was like, you guys need to get out, and we
didn't have a phone. Oh, and she took her phone with her,
so we needed to find an apartment. We were using my friend Heidi's bought
Mitzvah money, but she had taken out of the bank at seventeen, much
to her mom was horrified. Right, she was like, I'm bringing my
bot Mitza money. That's how we made a deposit on an apartment. We
found this apartment from just calling on a pay phone, using the newspaper calling
on payphones old school. We find this apartment off of Hollywood Boulevard. We
don't know anything. I was nineteen. I had just turned nineteen, like,
right, I'm like Lbie's age. Yeah, I'm like all right,
So in a way, I didn't go to college, but I didn't know
anybody. We made friends with our neighbors, right we I mean I got
a job selling office supplies. We've talked a lot about that, and then
at a movie theater. My life was a crazy Yeah. I started doing
a bunch of cocaine, right because, like as you do, I'm in
Hollywood. All my neighbors were like doing coke glen in Rome. Oh my
god, I developed like like a coke problem at nineteen. I'm like,
if I keep doing this, I'm gonna be a cocreps. We've talked about
this many times. I'm like, I'm gonna quit doing cocaine. I quit
doing cocaine. I started and stopped cocaine at the age of like nineteen,
right, I know. I mean it was crazy. Yeah. And meanwhile,
our kids at this age or at home, like barely they can barely
function making themselves a bagel. I know, this is what I'm saying.
So like you take those kids, like, in a way, like we
were much more prepared to go off to college. Yeah than our kids.
Now, I was trying to get out of my house because my mom's beating
me up, like giving me the back end a karate chopping shit. Yeah.
Like we didn't have that soft place to fall back at our house.
No, we were like, we're already feral. Yeah exactly, let's get
out. Yeah, I know. So are we doing our kids at disservice
by making their home life good? I get, I don't know. Maybe,
I hope not. I need people to weigh in on this. Yeah,
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yeah, it's so great. I told you I found I found a dermatologist
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fcol. So speaking of a like helping our kids navigate life, Kalin any
updates on swim lessons, Oh the swim lessons were going so good. They
were doing such a good job. There's you know, some teenage girl that's
been doing the swim lessons with them at the YMCO. Okay, hold on
backup, because weren't you was that always at the YMCA, because last time
you talked about this it was a disaster. Yeah, I wasn't there the
last time. I just heard about it, remember, but that was that
that was the first time. Yeah, my girlfriend had gotten the pool,
got in the pool. So they've gone, like, I guess three weeks
since then, about that twice a week for two or three weeks, and
they've all gone very well. And both my daughters, like Samantha, that's
the teenager that you know, is teaching them how to swim. And then
last week, Um, Samantha couldn't do it. So it was like a
guy, like a nice teenage boy instead and they just freaked out. Oh
no, knocket in the pool. They both started crying. One didn't want
to go first and the other one didn't want to go first, and they
were screaming, crying, and so we just left. We just left,
and it was horrible. You were both there. Yeah, we both wanted
to pay for the lesson. They refunded us. Oh really that's nice that,
Um so yeah that I wouldn't have refunded, would you. I mean,
I don't know, it depends or they rescheduled. It was like you
can come back and do it another time and well they will credit credit or
okay, And so yeah, that was a disaster. And since then,
Blake is not. Blake was always the one that loved the water. She
was the one that would run like charged straight into the ocean when she was
you know, like a baby, didn't know how to just run right in
and just jump in a pool. Um, and now she's not doing as
well with the swimming lessons, but I was doing very well. She's like
almost she seems like she's almost there. So yeah, I was doing fantastic
Blake. I don't know. Maybe she's just a bit too young. Yeah,
she's not doing so well anymore. Well, they show those videos like
if you're on I would say TikTok, but whatever Instagram. You see these
videos where there's like a like a six month old baby that floating Yeah exact,
you know, hey they throw the baby in the water and turning,
so like none of that now so much now, Yeah, It's interesting with
kids because I remember when my kids were young, and Natalia always loved the
female instructors, and Sonny did not want anything to do with the female instructors.
Really. He wanted a guy all the time. And in fact,
in like second grade, I remember there was a teacher in second grade that
everybody loved. He was a dude, and Sonny's best friend got the teacher
and he didn't, and he got, you know, a female teacher.
And I was like, I actually I was the Scott Karen where I went
to the school, and I was like, you know, my son does
better with male teachers. Can he be in the class with his best friend
and the male teacher that everybody likes. And they're like nope, of course,
And they're like no, like school starting, we already you already got
your you know, your assignment of what teacher you get. That was it.
And Sonny for a long time, he just didn't, you know,
and it wasn't him on purpose. It was just kind of like he just
he'd always clicked better with the mail, no matter what was sports or what
like, he just clicked better with the mail instructors. And Natalia always loved
the pretty and the hard ass ones, the ones that were hard on her,
she loved. It's weird, that is so Sonny grew out of it
obviously, but you know, he was a little misogynistic when he was a
little baby. It's funny because and male teachers are kind of rare, I
know, I know. Well. And then the other thing too is Sonny
was grew up with his sister in his bed. You know, they shared
a bedroom, and anytime there was a barbie on the floor or something pink
on the floor, he would walk in and he'd turn around and walk out
and say, not walking in that room, Natalia's got to pick up that
thing off the floor. And then I mean it was very quirky that way.
And then he would always be with his trucks and his toy his cars
and shit, and that was that and Natalia just always with the pink and
the frill and yeah, yeah, oh my gosh. L both Elbie and
Sadie went through it's so gender stuff is just so weird how some you know,
they both went through their two two phase where they would just wear the
two two every day, never taken off that tutu. And also both of
those girls went through Ariel. They loved Ariel. They had to have aerial
everything, aerial t shirts, Ariel. They remember the Disney nightgowns. Oh
yeah, the Satni Satin nightgowns. Yeah, oh my god. Yeah.
Elbie was obsessed. I remember we got her one like for I don't know,
for some like her birthday or whatever Christmas, and she just net like
kept it on for it, like for weeks. She only wanted to wear
that, and then it was and then Sadie went through the same thing,
right, yeah, Ariel Ariel. Yeah, Natalia was all about Katie Perry.
Oh honesty, pica cock cock, yea pica cock. She would sing
those songs all the time and not even knowing what she's saying. I know,
I remember when you took him to the concert. Yeah, they were
like five, yeah, teen ex dream and you know she would sing about
like touching her you know all that, like in a broadm like, oh
my god, you little slut. She didn't know what she's singing. And
then Sonny was just an angry bird, right right, an angry bird before
it was a thing. Right, he learned how to play it on the
app. Yeah that was that. Yeah. Oh yeah, Xander had an
angry Bird's T shirt and I want to say five and he wore all the
time, right, obsessed with that in cars, right, Pixar, Pixar's
car Cars. Oh Kaylin, do you watch that movie You're with dear kids?
That's a great they're not they don't like cars. Now, they would
watch a lot of movies, but cars, they liked them. They're young,
they're too young for Yeah. They like the things with songs in them,
right, so yeah, you know trolls was big for a while.
Oh yeah yeah, trolls. Um. Yeah. Yeah, there's this one
called Ugly Dolls that has a lot of They like that one, so yeah
you got it sing? Yeah yeah, I like that too. Yeah yeah.
So they're like those are those are kind of their favorite ones? Yeah,
that's kyote. I have a movie recommendation for you guys, theater Camp.
Really have you heard of this movie? Oh my god, it's so
good. It is really good. It's um Ben Platt is in it and
I think wrote it. It's like a it's like a mockumentary. I love
mockumentary about this theater camp for kids that uh almost goes under one like it's
one summer at this summer camp and you know about what happened and like you
know the teachers and it's yeah, it's shot like mockumentary style and it's laugh
out loud funny. I laughed a lot, Like I went with Sadie.
So Xander's been kind of busy, Sadie's having a really boring summer, and
like the other night, we kept talking about wanting to go see a movie
and I Cecily on four d af had told me that theater Camp was funny,
so I looked it up and it was playing like near our house,
and then Elbe was kind of dissing us, and it was one of those
things we just spur the moment. I was like, Sadie was all bummed
and like I have nothing to do, and I was like, you want
to just go to a movie? It starts in twenty minutes. But it
was right by our house, you know, in Encino there's a Lemley and
it's and it was so funny because Sadie was like, mom, I was
like, there's a theater. She's like, where are we going to get
to be able to get to a movie in twenty minutes? I go,
it's four minutes from our house. It's at where Michael's is, and she
was like, there's no movie theater there, and I was like, bitch,
I've lived here twenty years. I was like, there, sure is
a movie theater. She's like, mom, no, there isn't like there's
And I was like, okay, can you trust me? So we drive
over there and we park, and the whole time she's just a doubting Thomas.
She's like, I don't know where this and I was like, you
really still don't believe, Like do you think I'm tricking you? Like,
we're just going to Michael's. We're going to the movie, right. So
we go down these stairs and there's the movie theater and I'm like, oh
yeah, it's a smaller theater. Yeah, but anyway, we go in
and oh my god, got our popcorn and stuff, and I love that.
From minute one of the movie, we were both laughing so hard and
Sadie was like looking at me. I was laughing so hard during some parts
that Sadie was like, um like, and I'm like it's okay, everybody's
laughing, Like we're all having a good time. Nobody's gonna begrudge me for
laughing too. Loud, but she was getting a little embarrassed. Yeah,
that's how much fun I was having, right right, Oh, that's a
great idea. I'd love to go see a movie. It's really fun.
All these movies are fucking three hours long, and she is ninety min on.
Yeah, that's that's ninety minutes. It's cute. I love that happens
and then see that. You have to go see it. I'm so Xander's
at Groundlings today and they're bringing home there. He's bringing home his friend,
this girl I think I told you they did last time. They're bringing her
home, and I was like, Sadie was like, Xander would love this
movie. I was like, well, you guys should all go, right,
So they're bringing I think they're gonna go. Oh that's great. They
can walk there. Oh that's great. That's good. Yeah, so it's
kind of a perfect thing to do. But I'd see it again, right,
Like, it was just fun. Right, Oh, I love that.
All right, I'm gonna go see it. I think other than Barbie,
this is this was like, honestly, like the first movie Barbie was.
I think the first movie I've seen since COVID. Yeah, right,
I know, I don't think I've been in the movie since COVID. I
haven't been in the movies a long time. I think COVID is totally over
though. Yeah, it's kinds of making a comeback. This says it.
Yeah, do you know people that have gotten it? I do know somebody
that has it. Yes, I've heard a couple of people have gotten it,
like friends of friends, and I hear it's making a comeback, but
not bad. No, No, that's the good thing. What if I
just became like a serious COVID denier all of a sudden, I'm like,
I mean, don't get vaccinated. Okay, this is going to sound like
the most ignorant question ever, but do people are people still getting vaccinated?
Are there? Like? I think it's the people that have gotten wanted to
getten vaccinated have already gotten it. But like, okay, do you remember
for a while they kept updating the vaccine. Yeah, okay, I sound
so ignorant right now. But for a while it was like, oh,
you got vaccinated, but now a new strain, so get your booster.
But I haven't heard anybody talking about boosters either. Yeah. No, I
don't know. I feel like I wouldn't do any of your health and news
from us. Oh my god, it's our health update corner. Yeah,
we should get doctor Bruce on the Yeah, he'd be perfect for this.
Yeah, i'ls update with doctor Bruce. I feel like I would have heard
about people getting vaccinated. You know, I was like first in line.
Remember remember when I was obsessed with getting vaccinated. I was like, Oh
my god, how am I gonna get it? I went and stood in
line at that clinic. Yeah, got up at like six in the morning
so I could get there with Elby. Dragged Elby with us because she was
sixteen and they were pulling the sixteen year olds out of line first. Yeah.
Yeah, hook got us hooked up. All right, Well, this
is a good show, really fun. Yeah. Before we go, though,
we do want to remind you, and I think we said this at
the beginning of the show, but we're going to do a zoom hang.
Yes we are this Sunday Night be there or b Square. Yeah, this
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your fault. Absolutely. Okay. Before we go, though, I want
to give a shout out to um my friend Adam Lerner. Yes, so
teaser. Yeah, Adam helped me buy a car and uh we bought a
car, so nice. I will tell you that story on Friday. So
Adam Lerner and hold on, I want to get his phone number for you.
His phone numbers three one zero nine nine eight seven zero four eight.
He's a car broker. He will hook you up whatever you want. He's
like a car whisperer. So if you call him and you're like, well,
I don't really know what I want, I don't know what's out there,
he will tell you, Okay, this is what's out there for you
for your lifestyle. These are the deals that are out there. This is
what you're gonna pay for a lease, this is what you're gonna pay,
and then he can find you a car. I use card, new card,
lease, buy whatever. Okay. Also his website is Adam's Got a
Car. Also, we have a newer person, our friend Christine Black.
She's with Storybook World Travel. She can help you book some travel. It
doesn't cost you anything, no cost for her services. She does more than
just theme parks. She can help you take any kind of trips, travel
all around the world, and you can email her. She's Facebook or Instagram
Christine Black with the HC H R I S T I N E. Her
email is Christine b at storybook world travel dot com. And then there's of
course Basic Becky. I love our girl, Basic Becky. Yeah, I
got a bunch of t shirts from her. I know, and I have
a bunch of mugs and I got a mug too. Yeah, I have
a cabinet full of mugs and I have to re redo my Scott Baio blocked
me on Twitter. Mouse patch she does mouse pads nice if your old school
like me, so go to just basic Becky dot com or Basic Becky on
Facebook. And also last one at least this week, Kelly woman frieda.
I love Woman Fried to Palm Springs or Palm Desert. It's a restaurant,
it's a diner. It's a brunch place. It's not a dinner. It's
such it's so good, so good, salmon wings, all made desserts that
are phenomenal. I know, Oh my god, made on the premises,
delightful. And if you mentioned for crying out loud, get you a free
latte or mimosa. Yeah I love that. All right, thanks everybody,
it's Kaitlin. You're parent now, don't off at us. Let'