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Hey, hey, back with something
for you to think about. Feeling with

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your heart but not thinking with your
brain. Oh wall stepped on some toes.

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Feeling with your heart but not thinking
with your brain. I hate to

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say it, but so many people
are in this situation. So many people

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sit this description, so many feeling
with your heart but not thinking with your

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brain. I told you a while
ago, and I've told you on multiple

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episodes. Your heart in your mind
you must be in sync. It must

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be in sync, because if you
have an unhealthy way of thinking, it's

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gonna affect how you feel, how
you act. A lot of people believe

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that they should follow their hearts because
people think that their hearts is gonna lead

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them right and this and that.
What your heart may. You may have

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all good intentions, but when that
mindset is unhealthy, you will end up

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in a situation you didn't have to
be in, with someone you didn't have

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to be with, because the heart
and mind is not in sync. When

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I say heart and mind being in
sync, I mean mature and healthy.

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See, because you can want something
and know it's not good for you and

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be mature enough to walk away from
it. But when your mindset is unhealthy,

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because you haven't healed from issues.
Then when your heart wants something,

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you just go awn out to get
it because you're on that self satisfaction,

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self gratification, that's what you're on, So you don't care. As long

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as your heart want it, that's
what you're gonna think about. That's what

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you're going to chase after, seek
after, even when it's wrong. That's

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the worst part about it. You
know it's wrong, you know it's not

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right for you, but you're still
seek it out because your heart want it.

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You've developed all of these feelings and
emotions because you kept giving power to

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the thought of whatever it is,
whoever it is it is, And then

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you find yourself in a bad relationship
with individuals that you shouldn't have ever been

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with. People just don't understand the
power, the power that they give to

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their thoughts. The more your thoughts
are intensified or magnified, the more feelings

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you're gonna have about that person or
about that thing, about that situation.

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Then you find yourself acting out,
or you find yourself no matter what,

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no matter how bad they treat you, you still want them. Tell me,

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there's nothing wrong with that. You
want someone who is mistreating you.

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You think that's okay. That is
not okay. That is an indication your

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heart and mind is not in sen
You yourself have to be on one accord

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with yourself. And when your heart
and mind is not in sink, that's

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when you open yourself up to foolishness. That's when you go alone to get

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alone. That's when you go alone
with wrong, knowing it's wrong. That's

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when you will follow people knowing they're
wrong. When your heart and mind is

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not InSync because people are normally just
following you their hearts and your mind is

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like old croom, just going alone
because you know that the person is not

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good for you. You know it
deep down. You've started, but because

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you can't see past what you want, you find yourself in a bad situation

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because it's coming back to you always. You are always going to suffer the

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consequences of your choices, of your
decisions, of your actions. You're gonna

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always have to deal with the consequences. So many people are in bad relationships.

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They're not receiving love, but they
think they're in love. They think

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the person love them, but they
don't even know what love is. They've

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never experienced it. And because it's
their perception of love, they just go

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alone with anything and guess what anything
is, exactly what they're getting. Because

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people are feeling with their hearts and
not using their brains. They're just solely

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going on what the hearts want,
what the heart wants, and I'm here

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to tell you that it is a
bad choice, a bad decision, the

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wrong way to go about things.
And most times people know it, they

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get that intuition, but they still
go after who they want because their hearts,

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and people find themselves in really bad
situations with really bad people because of

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it. People are so busy with
chasing after individuals that they want to be

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with that they miss all of the
red flags, all of them. And

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I'm here to tell you we all
have the red flags, we all get

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them, we all do. No
one is special. We all have red

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flags and signs. But because people
cannot see beyond their feelings that wants,

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their desires, they always miss them. They miss them always because of being

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blind by their hearts, by their
minds. When you do not deal with

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your unresolved issues, those issues that
causes you to make bad choices and decisions,

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those issues that causes you to feel
bad about yourself, those issues that

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causes you to seek, regardless of
how horrible they are, people who are

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not good for you, who don't
treat you right, people who disrespect you.

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Because you cannot see beyond your feelings, wanes and desires, you always

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end up in that one side of
relationship. Always. You're always feeling alone

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even though you're with someone, because
you're not receiving what you need in a

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relationship, no significant other. I
don't care who they are, how great

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you think they are, how good
looking they are, they're titles, their

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positions, nothing matters. It does
not matter. I don't care who that

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person is. If they do not
have his or herself together, they're gonna

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bring all of that into the relationship
to you. And then you, who

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already have your own unresolved, you're
gonna open yourself up to things that you

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shouldn't open yourself up to. When
people don't deal with what ails them,

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what causes them to lack confidence,
and what causes them self esteem issues and

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all types of insecurities. When you
don't deal with those things, you just

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open yourself up. Tell a bunch
of mess, and let me tell you

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one thing. Someone is always ready
to bring drama into your life always.

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They're always on ready. And when
you do not have yourself together, you

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don't know who you are, you
don't love yourself, you haven't figured you

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out. You will open doors to
things and to people that you should not

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have open doors to many people who
are listening to me right now, many

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people are migeable in their relationships,
totally miserable. So many of you out

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there are faking it, pretending.
But I've always told you you can never

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be better. Your relationships can never
be better. By faking and pretending,

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you're pretending you're already better. You're
pretending the relationship is good. It will

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never be that way. Because you
get comfortable in that, You get comfortable

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acting as if you're okay. You
get comfortable pretending your relationship is on point

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to the point that people don't work
on it, to the point that you

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never change. But what is happening
is you're feeling yourself because no matter what

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you do, no matter what you
say, no matter how much you give,

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no matter how much you love,
that other person is gonna do exactly

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what he or she wants to do, whatever you allow them to do,

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whatever you allow them to get away
with they will guarantee, guarantee. So

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many many of you go through life
just feeling feeling feeling or I want I

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want him, I want her.
Come to think of it, today,

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I was reading a comment, and
I mean, of course I had to

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respond. I didn't really have to, but I felt I just couldn't let

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it go by with the information that
was given. This female posted about she

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went out on a date with this
good looking guy and basically at the end

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of the date, he was like, see you later, you know,

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take care and nothing else. But
she had thoughts in her head that she

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wanted to go to bed with him, and she was upset that he didn't

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even kiss her. So I made
a comment and I said, a real

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man. When I say real,
I mean a mature man is not going

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to want to take a woman to
bed on the first date. He's not

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going to be kissing all on you
and grubbing up on you and all of

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that on a first date, and
a mature woman it's not going far it

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either. So that tells me that
the person who wrote that was immature.

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She was literally upset with this guy
because he didn't take her to bed,

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or he didn't kiss her. That's
just ridiculous on the first date, on

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the first date. Ridiculous mindsets.
I tell you that mindset is everything because

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it's what leads people to do the
things they do, feel the way they

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feel, act the way they act. And when your mindset is not healthy,

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what do you think is gonna happen. You're gonna make bad choices and

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bad decisions. That's just fact.
So for this female to think something was

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wrong with this guy because he did
not come on to her, that is

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so ridiculous. And then I saw
another post where this guy was telling people,

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if your ladies, if your man
cheat on you, then you have

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to Basically he was saying, if
your man cheat on you, then you

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have to cut up and act crazy
even more than him. No, no,

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no, no, no, no
bad information, bad information. Those

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are individuals who are being led by
their feelings and their emotions. They're not

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using their brains because their brains are
not healthy, because their hearts are not

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healthy. So to tell people to
get on social media, on your platform

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and tell people cut up, go
to the highest degree. Don't do it

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in secret, do it in the
open. That is just ridiculous. That's

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immature talk. If a person gonna
cheat on you, that's telling you they're

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not worthy of you or your time. Because no one have to subject themselves

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to a cheater. But when you
do, that kind of give them indication

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that they could do it again.
If there's no repercussions, consequences, requirements,

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then it kind of gives them the
belief that everything is gravy. You

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know, everything is good. But
because a person cheat on you does not

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mean you should go off the deep
offen to the deep end. No,

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it's not worth it. If a
person cheat on you, they are not

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worth it. They really are not. You know, people want to get

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mad, they want to hurt the
person, kill the person, kill the

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person. That would foolishness. A
person is not worthy of your time,

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not even your breath. If they're
cheating on you. It's not worth you

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going and do something stupid. It's
not not at all. So please don't

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take that guy's advice. Please don't, because you don't have to find yourself

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in trouble because you made bad choices
and decisions listening to some knucklehead on social

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media telling you to act a whole
don't do it, don't do it,

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And that goes back to the topic
at hand, right back, you know.

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I mean, people just don't understand
how much control and power that they

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give to you, individuals who are
not worthy. So please stop feeling with

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your heart and not thinking with your
brain. Stop it. So many people

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have ruined their lives over foolishness.
You doing something foolish because of someone you

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love, you thought loved you,
who've done something to hurt you, and

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now you're in trouble because you've done
something foolish because of your feelings, you're

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hurt. They're not worth it.
I'm telling you, they are not worth

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it. Life is too short,
too short to be in misery to be

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with someone who is not treated you
right. When people are insecure, afraid

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to start over, and things like
that, that's when you really need to

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take a deep dive into self,
look at yourself and figure out why you

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have those insecurities, why you feel
afraid to start over, Why do you

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think you have to subject yourself to
abuse just to be with someone. You

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have to take a deep dive within
yourself. And like I said many times,

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if people would take the time and
the energy to learn about self and

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to love self as they do trying
to love someone else and figure out someone

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else. Oh my god, lives
would be so much better, so much

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but no, no, no no. People are too busy and too focused

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on significant others and going through pure
hell, going through pure hell, trying

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to be in a relationship with someone
who is constantly bringing drama, pure hell.

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You remember some of you may not
know, but I did an episode

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a few years ago that said,
trying to love the hell out of someone

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only to find yourself in hell.
And that is the case for many people.

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In hell. You're trying to put
your best foot forward when you don't

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even have yourself together, making it
pretending to be something you know you're not.

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Just to be with someone, It's
going to come to the surface,

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just like who they are pretending to
be is going to come to the surface.

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People get tired of pretending, People
get tired of faking, and they

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show their true color. And most
times, ninety nine percent of the times

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they've shown you who they are already, you just fail to see. You

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fail to see because of your eyes
blind blind, because of your heart.

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You want him, you want her, no matter what. That is not

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some dumb, plumb dumb to ever
feel that way about someone who's bringing drama

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in your life. They're not worth
it. You deserve better. Know that

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you deserve better than that. You
deserve to be with someone who love you.

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But first you must love yourself,
fall in love with yourself first.

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When you do, you will not
be willing to subject yourself to the things

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that you have done before. You
won't take the crap that you've taken before.

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It just do so. Your life
is up to you. What you

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do is up to you. But
I'm telling you, feeling with your heart

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and not thinking what your brain is
not gonna work out for you. I'm

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telling you you're gonna have drummer.
You're gonna have unnecessary heartache and headache.

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But the choice is yours. The
choice is yours, always and forever.

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The choice is yours. Why people
keep choosing wrong? M mm mmm.

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I can't say I don't know why, because I know exactly why. But

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people, I want you to understand
the choices and decisions you make falls on

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you, no one else, not
your significant other, only you. If

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you do something stupid because your significant
other hurts you, that falls on you,

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you can't blame them because most times
you all already know you have a

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joker, and that joker could be
male or female. You know they are

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mess, but you just had to
have them. You just want them so

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bad because you're feeling with your heart
and not thinking with your brain. You

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cannot think positively because your heart's not
right. You have not did that inside

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work, you have not healed from
past pains. And I'm just telling you

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what I know is true. I'm
leaving it right there. Thank you for

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listening. Much love to you,
you and you I love you so much.

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Thank you again. Please go out
and check Relatable Life Chronicles. That

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is my other platform. I'm sure
it's something there you would be interested in.

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Share much love. I now have
about I don't know. I have

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getting ready to be three hundred episodes
on Relatable Life Chronicles. I'm already over

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four hundred on Relationship Chronicles, getting
close to the five hundred episodes. So

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please share. Listen, tell your
friends, your family members, your coworkers.

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Everyone share because I know that I'm
telling you some things that will benefit

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fake you. I can't make anyone
do anything. I'm just putting the information

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out there. Thank you so much
for listening. Again, much love to

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each and every one of you.
I in every episode, the same,

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and I hope and I pray you
do it, Thank on it,