Hey, hey, back with something for you to think about. Feeling with
your heart but not thinking with your brain. Oh wall stepped on some toes.
Feeling with your heart but not thinking with your brain. I hate to
say it, but so many people are in this situation. So many people
sit this description, so many feeling with your heart but not thinking with your
brain. I told you a while ago, and I've told you on multiple
episodes. Your heart in your mind you must be in sync. It must
be in sync, because if you have an unhealthy way of thinking, it's
gonna affect how you feel, how you act. A lot of people believe
that they should follow their hearts because people think that their hearts is gonna lead
them right and this and that. What your heart may. You may have
all good intentions, but when that mindset is unhealthy, you will end up
in a situation you didn't have to be in, with someone you didn't have
to be with, because the heart and mind is not in sync. When
I say heart and mind being in sync, I mean mature and healthy.
See, because you can want something and know it's not good for you and
be mature enough to walk away from it. But when your mindset is unhealthy,
because you haven't healed from issues. Then when your heart wants something,
you just go awn out to get it because you're on that self satisfaction,
self gratification, that's what you're on, So you don't care. As long
as your heart want it, that's what you're gonna think about. That's what
you're going to chase after, seek after, even when it's wrong. That's
the worst part about it. You know it's wrong, you know it's not
right for you, but you're still seek it out because your heart want it.
You've developed all of these feelings and emotions because you kept giving power to
the thought of whatever it is, whoever it is it is, And then
you find yourself in a bad relationship with individuals that you shouldn't have ever been
with. People just don't understand the power, the power that they give to
their thoughts. The more your thoughts are intensified or magnified, the more feelings
you're gonna have about that person or about that thing, about that situation.
Then you find yourself acting out, or you find yourself no matter what,
no matter how bad they treat you, you still want them. Tell me,
there's nothing wrong with that. You want someone who is mistreating you.
You think that's okay. That is not okay. That is an indication your
heart and mind is not in sen You yourself have to be on one accord
with yourself. And when your heart and mind is not in sink, that's
when you open yourself up to foolishness. That's when you go alone to get
alone. That's when you go alone with wrong, knowing it's wrong. That's
when you will follow people knowing they're wrong. When your heart and mind is
not InSync because people are normally just following you their hearts and your mind is
like old croom, just going alone because you know that the person is not
good for you. You know it deep down. You've started, but because
you can't see past what you want, you find yourself in a bad situation
because it's coming back to you always. You are always going to suffer the
consequences of your choices, of your decisions, of your actions. You're gonna
always have to deal with the consequences. So many people are in bad relationships.
They're not receiving love, but they think they're in love. They think
the person love them, but they don't even know what love is. They've
never experienced it. And because it's their perception of love, they just go
alone with anything and guess what anything is, exactly what they're getting. Because
people are feeling with their hearts and not using their brains. They're just solely
going on what the hearts want, what the heart wants, and I'm here
to tell you that it is a bad choice, a bad decision, the
wrong way to go about things. And most times people know it, they
get that intuition, but they still go after who they want because their hearts,
and people find themselves in really bad situations with really bad people because of
it. People are so busy with chasing after individuals that they want to be
with that they miss all of the red flags, all of them. And
I'm here to tell you we all have the red flags, we all get
them, we all do. No one is special. We all have red
flags and signs. But because people cannot see beyond their feelings that wants,
their desires, they always miss them. They miss them always because of being
blind by their hearts, by their minds. When you do not deal with
your unresolved issues, those issues that causes you to make bad choices and decisions,
those issues that causes you to feel bad about yourself, those issues that
causes you to seek, regardless of how horrible they are, people who are
not good for you, who don't treat you right, people who disrespect you.
Because you cannot see beyond your feelings, wanes and desires, you always
end up in that one side of relationship. Always. You're always feeling alone
even though you're with someone, because you're not receiving what you need in a
relationship, no significant other. I don't care who they are, how great
you think they are, how good looking they are, they're titles, their
positions, nothing matters. It does not matter. I don't care who that
person is. If they do not have his or herself together, they're gonna
bring all of that into the relationship to you. And then you, who
already have your own unresolved, you're gonna open yourself up to things that you
shouldn't open yourself up to. When people don't deal with what ails them,
what causes them to lack confidence, and what causes them self esteem issues and
all types of insecurities. When you don't deal with those things, you just
open yourself up. Tell a bunch of mess, and let me tell you
one thing. Someone is always ready to bring drama into your life always.
They're always on ready. And when you do not have yourself together, you
don't know who you are, you don't love yourself, you haven't figured you
out. You will open doors to things and to people that you should not
have open doors to many people who are listening to me right now, many
people are migeable in their relationships, totally miserable. So many of you out
there are faking it, pretending. But I've always told you you can never
be better. Your relationships can never be better. By faking and pretending,
you're pretending you're already better. You're pretending the relationship is good. It will
never be that way. Because you get comfortable in that, You get comfortable
acting as if you're okay. You get comfortable pretending your relationship is on point
to the point that people don't work on it, to the point that you
never change. But what is happening is you're feeling yourself because no matter what
you do, no matter what you say, no matter how much you give,
no matter how much you love, that other person is gonna do exactly
what he or she wants to do, whatever you allow them to do,
whatever you allow them to get away with they will guarantee, guarantee. So
many many of you go through life just feeling feeling feeling or I want I
want him, I want her. Come to think of it, today,
I was reading a comment, and I mean, of course I had to
respond. I didn't really have to, but I felt I just couldn't let
it go by with the information that was given. This female posted about she
went out on a date with this good looking guy and basically at the end
of the date, he was like, see you later, you know,
take care and nothing else. But she had thoughts in her head that she
wanted to go to bed with him, and she was upset that he didn't
even kiss her. So I made a comment and I said, a real
man. When I say real, I mean a mature man is not going
to want to take a woman to bed on the first date. He's not
going to be kissing all on you and grubbing up on you and all of
that on a first date, and a mature woman it's not going far it
either. So that tells me that the person who wrote that was immature.
She was literally upset with this guy because he didn't take her to bed,
or he didn't kiss her. That's just ridiculous on the first date, on
the first date. Ridiculous mindsets. I tell you that mindset is everything because
it's what leads people to do the things they do, feel the way they
feel, act the way they act. And when your mindset is not healthy,
what do you think is gonna happen. You're gonna make bad choices and
bad decisions. That's just fact. So for this female to think something was
wrong with this guy because he did not come on to her, that is
so ridiculous. And then I saw another post where this guy was telling people,
if your ladies, if your man cheat on you, then you have
to Basically he was saying, if your man cheat on you, then you
have to cut up and act crazy even more than him. No, no,
no, no, no, no bad information, bad information. Those
are individuals who are being led by their feelings and their emotions. They're not
using their brains because their brains are not healthy, because their hearts are not
healthy. So to tell people to get on social media, on your platform
and tell people cut up, go to the highest degree. Don't do it
in secret, do it in the open. That is just ridiculous. That's
immature talk. If a person gonna cheat on you, that's telling you they're
not worthy of you or your time. Because no one have to subject themselves
to a cheater. But when you do, that kind of give them indication
that they could do it again. If there's no repercussions, consequences, requirements,
then it kind of gives them the belief that everything is gravy. You
know, everything is good. But because a person cheat on you does not
mean you should go off the deep offen to the deep end. No,
it's not worth it. If a person cheat on you, they are not
worth it. They really are not. You know, people want to get
mad, they want to hurt the person, kill the person, kill the
person. That would foolishness. A person is not worthy of your time,
not even your breath. If they're cheating on you. It's not worth you
going and do something stupid. It's not not at all. So please don't
take that guy's advice. Please don't, because you don't have to find yourself
in trouble because you made bad choices and decisions listening to some knucklehead on social
media telling you to act a whole don't do it, don't do it,
And that goes back to the topic at hand, right back, you know.
I mean, people just don't understand how much control and power that they
give to you, individuals who are not worthy. So please stop feeling with
your heart and not thinking with your brain. Stop it. So many people
have ruined their lives over foolishness. You doing something foolish because of someone you
love, you thought loved you, who've done something to hurt you, and
now you're in trouble because you've done something foolish because of your feelings, you're
hurt. They're not worth it. I'm telling you, they are not worth
it. Life is too short, too short to be in misery to be
with someone who is not treated you right. When people are insecure, afraid
to start over, and things like that, that's when you really need to
take a deep dive into self, look at yourself and figure out why you
have those insecurities, why you feel afraid to start over, Why do you
think you have to subject yourself to abuse just to be with someone. You
have to take a deep dive within yourself. And like I said many times,
if people would take the time and the energy to learn about self and
to love self as they do trying to love someone else and figure out someone
else. Oh my god, lives would be so much better, so much
but no, no, no no. People are too busy and too focused
on significant others and going through pure hell, going through pure hell, trying
to be in a relationship with someone who is constantly bringing drama, pure hell.
You remember some of you may not know, but I did an episode
a few years ago that said, trying to love the hell out of someone
only to find yourself in hell. And that is the case for many people.
In hell. You're trying to put your best foot forward when you don't
even have yourself together, making it pretending to be something you know you're not.
Just to be with someone, It's going to come to the surface,
just like who they are pretending to be is going to come to the surface.
People get tired of pretending, People get tired of faking, and they
show their true color. And most times, ninety nine percent of the times
they've shown you who they are already, you just fail to see. You
fail to see because of your eyes blind blind, because of your heart.
You want him, you want her, no matter what. That is not
some dumb, plumb dumb to ever feel that way about someone who's bringing drama
in your life. They're not worth it. You deserve better. Know that
you deserve better than that. You deserve to be with someone who love you.
But first you must love yourself, fall in love with yourself first.
When you do, you will not be willing to subject yourself to the things
that you have done before. You won't take the crap that you've taken before.
It just do so. Your life is up to you. What you
do is up to you. But I'm telling you, feeling with your heart
and not thinking what your brain is not gonna work out for you. I'm
telling you you're gonna have drummer. You're gonna have unnecessary heartache and headache.
But the choice is yours. The choice is yours, always and forever.
The choice is yours. Why people keep choosing wrong? M mm mmm.
I can't say I don't know why, because I know exactly why. But
people, I want you to understand the choices and decisions you make falls on
you, no one else, not your significant other, only you. If
you do something stupid because your significant other hurts you, that falls on you,
you can't blame them because most times you all already know you have a
joker, and that joker could be male or female. You know they are
mess, but you just had to have them. You just want them so
bad because you're feeling with your heart and not thinking with your brain. You
cannot think positively because your heart's not right. You have not did that inside
work, you have not healed from past pains. And I'm just telling you
what I know is true. I'm leaving it right there. Thank you for
listening. Much love to you, you and you I love you so much.
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