WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.440 --> 00:00:03.720 Already here we go with the Minnesota goodbye. By the way, I'm going 2 00:00:03.720 --> 00:00:08.240 to the doctor later today. Two o'clock is my appointment. And I've been 3 00:00:08.240 --> 00:00:12.320 coughing for like three weeks in a weekend. I said it's not better. 4 00:00:12.359 --> 00:00:15.960 In a few days, I'm going. Then I put it off, and 5 00:00:16.039 --> 00:00:18.320 now I told Jenny, I said, like, the farther we get into 6 00:00:18.320 --> 00:00:20.559 the show, the more I talked, the more irritated my throat is, 7 00:00:20.960 --> 00:00:24.320 and the more I want a cop. But I'm at home, and if 8 00:00:24.359 --> 00:00:28.640 I'm alone and there's nobody to talk to, then I don't cough. So 9 00:00:28.760 --> 00:00:31.600 I'm not sure what it is. But I ran five miles yesterday and it 10 00:00:31.640 --> 00:00:35.880 doesn't seem to be a lung issue because I could run without like you know, 11 00:00:35.960 --> 00:00:40.359 heart lung problems. So we'll see doctor Jenny. What do you think 12 00:00:40.359 --> 00:00:45.920 it is? Honestly, I would say it's probably syphilis. Syphilis, yeah, 13 00:00:47.799 --> 00:00:52.719 is a nasty cough, so it probably you'd be an oozing penis and 14 00:00:53.000 --> 00:00:58.399 a nasty cap. Do you think that oozing genitalia is one of the signs 15 00:00:58.439 --> 00:01:02.359 of syphilis? Yeah, I don't want to ask you that question. Actually, 16 00:01:02.439 --> 00:01:04.200 I was about to ask you about was a symptom for you too, 17 00:01:04.280 --> 00:01:07.760 But then I wanted to take it back as soon as it started coming out 18 00:01:07.799 --> 00:01:10.640 of my mouth. An awards, what about any awards? I think that's 19 00:01:10.719 --> 00:01:14.159 normal. That's normal. Yeah, a lot of people have those. Okay, 20 00:01:14.200 --> 00:01:18.359 good Carly Rites in love you all. Thanks so much for providing me 21 00:01:18.439 --> 00:01:22.799 daily entertainment, both through the Morning Show and the Minnesota Goodbye. I always 22 00:01:22.840 --> 00:01:26.400 wondered what happened to Gary Spivey. He was our psychic for many years on 23 00:01:26.439 --> 00:01:30.239 the show. It seems like a few years ago or more he was a 24 00:01:30.280 --> 00:01:33.000 semi regular on the show and now I can't think of the last time he 25 00:01:33.120 --> 00:01:36.879 was. I remember when he always said Fallon would have a baby, and 26 00:01:36.959 --> 00:01:40.519 she was in her first marriage and always said she would, and she always 27 00:01:40.560 --> 00:01:44.079 said that she wouldn't. Now she has a beautiful girl. I'm so interested 28 00:01:44.079 --> 00:01:46.359 of you guys believe in that sort of thing or not? Thank you. 29 00:01:47.599 --> 00:01:52.760 A short story is yes and no. I am not a believer in psychics. 30 00:01:52.799 --> 00:01:55.640 I am not a believer in astrology. I'm not a believer in tarot 31 00:01:55.640 --> 00:02:00.280 cards all that stuff. But I will say that Gary had something because were 32 00:02:00.280 --> 00:02:05.640 several times my favorite story, my best story was when my dad was dying, 33 00:02:07.000 --> 00:02:10.159 Susan went to Colorado because my dad and her just loved each other. 34 00:02:10.919 --> 00:02:15.479 And she sank by his bedside and she stayed up all night because he couldn't 35 00:02:15.520 --> 00:02:19.400 sleep. He was, you know, miserable, and he's in the hospital 36 00:02:19.759 --> 00:02:23.080 and she sang Christmas carols with him because it was around Christmas time, so 37 00:02:23.120 --> 00:02:25.919 they sang, or she sang to him Christmas carols. And then a couple 38 00:02:25.919 --> 00:02:29.879 of days later I was there and then he died. Okay. So then 39 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:34.599 fast forward a couple of weeks and Gary Spivey's on the phone and we're talking 40 00:02:34.639 --> 00:02:38.840 to Gary Spivey about you know, the future and love and relationships and people 41 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:43.080 were calling, and I said, how's my dad? And he said, 42 00:02:43.120 --> 00:02:45.759 oh, he's good. You know, he told me the usual what you 43 00:02:45.759 --> 00:02:47.080 would. He's good. He's happy. He's like, you know, out 44 00:02:47.120 --> 00:02:50.199 in the wilderness and he's fishing and he loved and I'm like, okay, 45 00:02:50.240 --> 00:02:52.919 whatever, So we hang up, have a good day, Gary. And 46 00:02:52.960 --> 00:02:54.520 then five minutes later he calls back and he said, Dave, I gotta 47 00:02:54.520 --> 00:02:57.520 tell you. I gotta tell your dad won't leave me alone. Your dad 48 00:02:57.520 --> 00:03:00.879 won't leave me alone. Why he says he's got to thank Susan for what 49 00:03:00.960 --> 00:03:04.080 she did. What does that mean? He's got to thank Susan? And 50 00:03:04.120 --> 00:03:07.280 I'm like, wow, Yeah, Gary did not know that. But if 51 00:03:07.280 --> 00:03:10.159 my dad could have said something, that's what he would have said. Yeah, 52 00:03:10.199 --> 00:03:14.919 So I think there was something to Gary, but other times. So 53 00:03:14.960 --> 00:03:16.960 the reason we don't have him on anymore is because people complained. Honestly, 54 00:03:17.520 --> 00:03:22.759 you either kind of loved Gary or you really didn't like to listen and you 55 00:03:22.800 --> 00:03:25.360 turn the radio off. And we don't always we like to have some polarizing 56 00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:30.000 things on the show, but it became a little too polarizing with Gary, 57 00:03:30.039 --> 00:03:31.680 I think. And I think that you know, in twenty twenty three or 58 00:03:31.800 --> 00:03:36.599 we probably stopped having him on five years ago. We had reached a point 59 00:03:36.639 --> 00:03:42.919 in our society where people were disgusted with psychics, and people didn't want any 60 00:03:43.000 --> 00:03:46.680 psychic on the radio, you know, and when somebody would call and say, 61 00:03:46.759 --> 00:03:49.840 yeah, I lost my son, and you know, what is he 62 00:03:49.919 --> 00:03:55.599 doing? And people and people found that disgusting that Gary would, in their 63 00:03:55.599 --> 00:04:00.120 thoughts, pretend that he was reaching out whatever. Yeah, and they thought 64 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:03.199 it was just disgusting, where other people find it really comforting. We got 65 00:04:03.240 --> 00:04:08.120 a little bit more complaints than we did positive. So we said, Gary, 66 00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:11.400 it's been a good run. You were on the show for twenty or 67 00:04:11.439 --> 00:04:13.840 twenty five years. He's and I had to fire him over the phone. 68 00:04:14.000 --> 00:04:15.160 Yeah, And I said, Gary, you know what, I'm really sorry 69 00:04:15.160 --> 00:04:16.879 whatever. He's like, no, Dave, that's fine. It's been a 70 00:04:16.879 --> 00:04:18.839 good run. And I'm like, you're right, it has been a good 71 00:04:18.879 --> 00:04:21.560 run. But we do have him back occasionally, and we might have him 72 00:04:21.560 --> 00:04:25.720 back for Halloween. Yeah, we almost always have him back in October to 73 00:04:25.759 --> 00:04:29.279 do kind of more of your like spooky, like you have a haunted something 74 00:04:29.399 --> 00:04:30.560 in your house, and we kind of have them on for stuff like that. 75 00:04:31.040 --> 00:04:34.560 Write it down, Jenny, I got it in my calendar, okay. 76 00:04:34.879 --> 00:04:36.879 And we love Gary. I mean, Gary is just a he's just 77 00:04:36.920 --> 00:04:41.240 a good person, So we love having him on. Super nice, Dave 78 00:04:41.319 --> 00:04:44.519 and Jenny. I wanted to redress one of the topics you spoke about on 79 00:04:44.560 --> 00:04:49.040 Monday's podcast, regarding the airplane seating quandary. The writer shared how she had 80 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:53.279 paid extra to have an aisle seat so she would have easy access to the 81 00:04:53.319 --> 00:04:57.560 restroom and more space in general. Totally valid reasons and very much in her 82 00:04:57.560 --> 00:05:01.240 own right. However, when she recounted her experience with the elderly woman who 83 00:05:01.319 --> 00:05:04.560 kindly asked to switch seats so she could be closer to her husband across the 84 00:05:04.560 --> 00:05:10.639 aisle, I felt she missed the mark in both interpreting and reflecting on the 85 00:05:10.680 --> 00:05:14.839 situation that took place. While I commended for switching seats even though she didn't 86 00:05:14.879 --> 00:05:16.800 want to, I wish she would have been able to view this encounter in 87 00:05:16.839 --> 00:05:20.600 a positive light. Was it ignorant of the old woman to ask to swap 88 00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:26.839 the seats, No question about it. Was this old woman likely cognizant of 89 00:05:26.839 --> 00:05:30.360 the fact in doing so, she was taking a seat that somebody had gone 90 00:05:30.399 --> 00:05:33.480 out of their way specifically to select and pay extra money for. Doubtful. 91 00:05:34.079 --> 00:05:38.319 What I'm trying to point out is this, we could all benefit from a 92 00:05:38.319 --> 00:05:44.600 little less selfishness and a whole lot more self lessness in our world. The 93 00:05:44.639 --> 00:05:47.120 writer should look back on this experience and feel good about what she did. 94 00:05:47.680 --> 00:05:51.560 Whether she realizes it or not, this was an act of kindness and selflessness 95 00:05:51.600 --> 00:05:56.519 toward the old woman. As irritating as it probably was in the moment, 96 00:05:56.560 --> 00:05:59.920 to the writer, it was only a temporary sacrifice. To her comfortable, 97 00:06:00.560 --> 00:06:03.319 and the old woman likely appreciated the fact that she was with arms reach of 98 00:06:03.319 --> 00:06:09.360 her husband. Kindness really does go a long way. How do we change 99 00:06:09.399 --> 00:06:14.240 the world one random act of kindness at a time? Morgan Freeman, thanks 100 00:06:14.279 --> 00:06:16.040 for listening to my take on this from Maddie. Thank you, Maddie. 101 00:06:16.439 --> 00:06:20.480 I would only say how far does it go to be kind Let's say that 102 00:06:20.519 --> 00:06:27.480 you are walking out of McDonald's, You've just bought a big bag of burgers, 103 00:06:27.480 --> 00:06:30.720 and somebody comes up and says, man, I don't have money for 104 00:06:30.839 --> 00:06:35.360 McDonald's. Can I have your McDonald's. Well, the very kind thing to 105 00:06:35.399 --> 00:06:38.759 do would be like, yeah, sure, here you go. But if 106 00:06:38.800 --> 00:06:42.800 you don't have a whole lot of money yourself, then you're probably gonna go. 107 00:06:42.839 --> 00:06:46.480 I'm sorry, I don't so I think there's a limit on kindness, 108 00:06:46.879 --> 00:06:48.639 especially where there's an expense involve I was going to say, I think that 109 00:06:48.720 --> 00:06:55.199 when it makes you not feel so happy, then there that's kind of where 110 00:06:55.240 --> 00:06:57.120 the limit is. Like, that's a really good way to put it. 111 00:06:57.199 --> 00:07:00.839 Yeah, probably was then a little bit more unco Bill sitting in the middle 112 00:07:00.839 --> 00:07:03.199 seat because she had at the bathroom. I like this email or this listener's 113 00:07:03.240 --> 00:07:08.480 email about looking at it as a different way once it actually went through. 114 00:07:08.879 --> 00:07:12.720 But I do think that she could have drawn the line ahead of time and 115 00:07:12.920 --> 00:07:15.199 just like spoke up for herself. But I do like the point of view 116 00:07:15.199 --> 00:07:18.279 of thinking like you did something very kind and look at it that way, 117 00:07:18.399 --> 00:07:21.600 versus did I do the wrong or right thing? Yeah. I do like 118 00:07:21.720 --> 00:07:25.040 that kind of point of view. No, it's totally true. I mean, 119 00:07:25.079 --> 00:07:27.519 she did make the woman's life a little bit easier. But I have 120 00:07:27.560 --> 00:07:31.680 a problem when it becomes if you don't want to for a reason, if 121 00:07:31.720 --> 00:07:38.199 it costs you money, for example, your downtown and somebody says, hey, 122 00:07:38.680 --> 00:07:42.240 do you have a few dollars, most of us walk right by those 123 00:07:42.279 --> 00:07:45.720 people because even though the kind thing to do would be to give them a 124 00:07:45.720 --> 00:07:49.240 few dollars, Well, now it becomes an expense and you don't want to. 125 00:07:49.360 --> 00:07:53.560 Yeah. So I don't know. It's a good debate, but I 126 00:07:53.600 --> 00:07:57.079 think that Maddie, I appreciate what you're saying, and I think just this 127 00:07:57.120 --> 00:07:59.839 is what I thought about this on the way in. I thought, in 128 00:08:00.199 --> 00:08:03.959 last few years of our society, we've really talked about being kinder to each 129 00:08:05.000 --> 00:08:09.240 other and nicer and for example, I'll use our show for an example. 130 00:08:09.759 --> 00:08:15.199 When Fallon left the show, we got so many text messages that are like 131 00:08:15.399 --> 00:08:16.639 encouraging, like Jenny, good for you, Jenny, good for you, 132 00:08:16.759 --> 00:08:20.560 Jenny, good for you. And I still love the Morning Show and yeah 133 00:08:20.600 --> 00:08:22.959 it's different, but I still love it and whatever. And some people actually 134 00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:28.680 prefer it because there's not four people all grabbing for microphone time. There's three 135 00:08:28.800 --> 00:08:31.759 people grabbing for microphone time. So we've gotten some very positive comments from people 136 00:08:31.799 --> 00:08:37.320 who actually prefer it with three people rather than four people. My point is 137 00:08:37.759 --> 00:08:41.919 people have been kind, and people will write in and go, Jenny, 138 00:08:41.960 --> 00:08:43.919 you're killing it, or I love Drake's energy, or I love Drake's laugh 139 00:08:45.000 --> 00:08:48.279 or whatever. And I think we've taught ourselves in the last few years to 140 00:08:48.279 --> 00:08:56.360 be kinder. But my thought is kind kind people have become kinder. Mean 141 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:01.159 people have become meaner. And by that I mean if you look on Facebook 142 00:09:01.519 --> 00:09:07.200 or if you look on any commentary or on Instagram, kind people are being 143 00:09:07.279 --> 00:09:11.120 kind. Oh man, I love that video. Your dog is so cute, 144 00:09:11.559 --> 00:09:15.480 and then the mean people will say something I would never do that with 145 00:09:15.519 --> 00:09:18.080 my dog. My dog does not get to go to the beach and swim 146 00:09:18.080 --> 00:09:22.519 in the lake because that's in that whatever. So mean people to become meaner, 147 00:09:22.600 --> 00:09:24.399 kind people to become kinder. I do feel like I agree with that. 148 00:09:24.519 --> 00:09:28.799 I think that social media has a huge part in it. And I 149 00:09:28.799 --> 00:09:33.360 don't know exactly why, what the science is behind it, or however you 150 00:09:33.360 --> 00:09:37.399 want to evaluate that, but I think that it's probably just because people are 151 00:09:37.480 --> 00:09:39.440 hiding behind their phones and they think they have the right to be meaner. 152 00:09:39.679 --> 00:09:43.200 Yeah, but I do, Yeah, I very much agree with that. 153 00:09:43.320 --> 00:09:46.360 Would you say that the same mean people were a little bit mean. I 154 00:09:46.360 --> 00:09:50.759 mean, we've all known people who have a mean streak. I've worked with 155 00:09:50.799 --> 00:09:54.840 a couple of people on this show who had kind of a mean streak and 156 00:09:54.879 --> 00:09:58.279 they had a chip on their shoulder and they were just waiting for you to 157 00:09:58.399 --> 00:10:03.879 say something to trigger them then they would launch. And I think that even 158 00:10:03.960 --> 00:10:07.519 but I think you're right. It's social media. I think that has made 159 00:10:07.600 --> 00:10:11.039 us aware of nice versus mean, So I think we're all trying to be 160 00:10:11.039 --> 00:10:18.080 a little bit nicer. I saw something unrelated but related on Instagram the other 161 00:10:18.159 --> 00:10:24.360 day and it said there can be very smart people that are quick to anger, 162 00:10:26.399 --> 00:10:28.240 so they can be talented. They can be smart, they can be 163 00:10:28.240 --> 00:10:33.840 competent, but if they're quick to anger, people won't like them. So 164 00:10:33.559 --> 00:10:37.919 you can be like really really good at fixing computers, you can be really 165 00:10:37.919 --> 00:10:41.679 really good at designing brochures for your company, but if you're quick to anger, 166 00:10:41.759 --> 00:10:48.080 people won't like you. And that is the number one thing of friendless 167 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:50.799 people. And they talk about little kids who are like quick to anger in 168 00:10:50.879 --> 00:10:54.759 second grade or fourth grade or eighth grade. If they're quick to anger, 169 00:10:56.600 --> 00:10:58.960 they'll probably not have a lot of close friends. Does that seem true? 170 00:11:00.279 --> 00:11:03.799 Yeah, I would say probably, because especially when you're young, you get 171 00:11:03.840 --> 00:11:07.240 scarred by stuff like that. But also when you're young, you probably forgive 172 00:11:07.320 --> 00:11:11.120 much easier. So yeah, I don't care that Lucy just said this to 173 00:11:11.159 --> 00:11:15.960 me. Next email, David Jenny, It's not exactly what you guys were 174 00:11:16.000 --> 00:11:18.519 talking about. Along the same lines. You were talking about people watching your 175 00:11:18.519 --> 00:11:22.120 house, dog, babysitting, and everything that goes along with it. This 176 00:11:22.200 --> 00:11:24.320 summer, my husband and I had a nanny a few days a week for 177 00:11:24.360 --> 00:11:28.799 our one year old. It was seriously awful. I had to keep checking 178 00:11:28.840 --> 00:11:33.600 myself to make sure I wasn't the one with two high expectations. Our nanny 179 00:11:33.639 --> 00:11:37.399 was a very nice girl, but absolutely clueless when it came to kids and 180 00:11:37.399 --> 00:11:41.120 just overall house stuff. She insisted she knew how to change a diaper, 181 00:11:41.159 --> 00:11:43.440 but we had to show her several things after the first few days of diapers 182 00:11:43.480 --> 00:11:48.919 being put on backwards. She had good interactions with my child, so there 183 00:11:48.960 --> 00:11:52.440 was never any concern that she wasn't taking good care of him. But it 184 00:11:52.480 --> 00:11:54.840 was just coming home to a mess every day that drove me crazy. There 185 00:11:54.879 --> 00:11:58.840 would be chip crumbs smashed between the couch cushions from her our baby doesn't eat 186 00:12:00.080 --> 00:12:03.039 Rito's yet, dishes all over the kitchen, not even in the sink, 187 00:12:03.840 --> 00:12:09.440 water spilled on the floor, food stuck in the high chair, sippy cups 188 00:12:09.480 --> 00:12:13.200 of milk under the couch that I'd find three days later, microwave splatters. 189 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:16.360 It was awful. We battled against ants the entire month of July thanks to 190 00:12:16.360 --> 00:12:20.679 her. She was twenty as years old and a few years into college, 191 00:12:20.720 --> 00:12:22.559 so it's not like she was still in high school or something. I will 192 00:12:22.639 --> 00:12:28.519 never have a nanny again, or if I do, they need to be 193 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:33.639 over the age of thirty ha ha. And finally totally random, but I 194 00:12:33.679 --> 00:12:39.200 was scrolling on Instagram and randomly came across Nabisco's account and I learned his name 195 00:12:39.320 --> 00:12:43.600 is Adam. He just simply cannot be an Adam. It doesn't fit him 196 00:12:43.600 --> 00:12:46.000 at all. Nabisco is what we call Chrisco. Chrisco worked on our show 197 00:12:46.039 --> 00:12:50.399 for ten years, and then he crossed the street and worked for another radio 198 00:12:50.440 --> 00:12:54.039 station, and he did it in what I believe is truly an unfair and 199 00:12:54.159 --> 00:13:00.519 unprofessional way. And so we're still friends, but I've had to get past 200 00:13:00.720 --> 00:13:03.879 what I think he did, which was I think a slap in the face 201 00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:07.720 to me. But I don't want to lose a friend over it, so 202 00:13:07.799 --> 00:13:11.200 we don't call him by his name on the radio. I call him Nibisco, 203 00:13:13.200 --> 00:13:15.600 which is an inside joke. But yeah, his real name is Adam, 204 00:13:15.919 --> 00:13:18.600 and we used to get mad at him. I would call him instead 205 00:13:18.600 --> 00:13:22.440 of Chrisco. I'd call him Adam, like Adam, do you really think 206 00:13:22.480 --> 00:13:24.080 that was a good idea? Blah blah blah. Oh, I'm sorry, 207 00:13:24.159 --> 00:13:28.960 dude, really good human, but I did not like the way he left 208 00:13:28.960 --> 00:13:33.399 this show. Okay, what's what's our time here, Jenny? Two minutes? 209 00:13:33.639 --> 00:13:37.759 Two minutes? Let me check our time here? I will wrap it 210 00:13:37.799 --> 00:13:39.320 up. We're gonna ahead and wrap it up and save some emails for tomorrow, 211 00:13:39.519 --> 00:13:43.600 but we always need your emails. I'm having Susan design a sticker because 212 00:13:43.600 --> 00:13:48.440 she's really good at this, a sticker that is like a membership sticker of 213 00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:52.559 the Minnesota Goodbye. So if you write in an email and we read it, 214 00:13:54.279 --> 00:13:56.600 I will mail you a sticker that says one of two things, Official 215 00:13:56.679 --> 00:14:07.240 Dart Liquor Minnesota Goodbye or Official staff Writer Minnesota Goodbye. Which would you would 216 00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:11.840 you rather have Official staff Writer or Official Dart Liquor. I think Dart Liquor 217 00:14:11.879 --> 00:14:15.279 is going to be more popular. That is just like that when you think 218 00:14:15.320 --> 00:14:18.440 Minnesota Goodbye, you have branded Dart like to be a part of the vocabulary 219 00:14:18.519 --> 00:14:22.480 for this podcast. So I like that is better. The staff writer things 220 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:26.519 brand new, you know what I mean. It hasn't caught on quite yet, 221 00:14:26.559 --> 00:14:30.399 so I think you got to start working that into more podcasts and then 222 00:14:30.440 --> 00:14:35.480 eventually you can switch to that. Okay, because basically the whole podcast is 223 00:14:35.519 --> 00:14:39.399 based mostly around your emails, and it's always fun and it's so different that 224 00:14:39.399 --> 00:14:41.759 that's really all we do is read emails. So if you write an email. 225 00:14:43.120 --> 00:14:46.960 You are now an official staff writer of the Minnesota Goodbye. So we're 226 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:52.440 gonna make a little oval computer sticker or a yetti cup sticker that says either 227 00:14:52.759 --> 00:14:58.120 Minnesota Goodbye, official staff writer or official dart liquor. I would love your 228 00:14:58.240 --> 00:15:03.320 vote, so send me an email to vote on which one you like and 229 00:15:03.679 --> 00:15:07.039 why, and also send any emails to Ryan Show at katidb dot com. 230 00:15:07.120 --> 00:15:11.519 By this time tomorrow, I'll have gone to the doctor about my cough and 231 00:15:11.559 --> 00:15:15.559 my throat, so hopefully I'll have some information and be on my way to 232 00:15:15.600 --> 00:15:20.159 feeling But I feel great, but I sound like garbage that bad. It's 233 00:15:20.200 --> 00:15:22.720 just I know how frustrating it is to be in the middle of a sentence 234 00:15:22.720 --> 00:15:24.200 and then all of sudden you're like, oh, it's the worst, all 235 00:15:24.279 --> 00:15:28.159 right, We'll see tomorrow here on the Minnesota Goodbye. Thank you for listening.