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I started it. You're not ready. You're not ready, you bitch?
Hi Hi. Happy Fourth of July weekends. Everybody. Oh yeah,
it's coming. It's gonna be out tomorrow. Ll No, it's the fourth
of July is tomorrow as of the release of this episode. No, fourth
of July is on Tuesday. Yes, but this episode gets released on Monday.
So fourth of July is tomorrow. Yeah, on the release. When
you're July week you sure you'll look like the fourth of July did that?
The other day? I saw it ad for uh for for like it was
like a restaurant or something. Oh no, it was on like it was
on YELP in this like crazy loaded hot dog and I was like, and
in my head, I went, makes me want a hot dog real bad.
I like the way you said the way your hands did for loaded hot
dog because it was look at the cohones on that hog. It was it
was a big head like fries and nacho cheese on it, and it was
a hand holding it. I love you, I love you. We had
a hot dogs today. We did have honor of the fourth, an honor
of the fourth, you know, so we did that take that England.
Yeah, we went to Sonic. Oh oh, what's the sonic? Uh
slogan? America's favorite drive in? Is that what it is? Sonic just
like you like it? And that's not true. It's either America's favorite drive
in or like best drive in, it's America's something drive in. Well,
then we did it extra right because America is in the slogans say us wait
Usa, Um well, Adams, Yeah, Well we've talked about this before
that like we're not the biggest fans of like Texas, and we're not the
biggest fans of like all the shitty things that our country does to ourselves and
the other lands. But like as soon as we leave Texas or we leave
the country, we're like these golers, don't fucking run. It's our pride
yea. Um, well, I'm super excited this week about our better guests.
Yeah, I know, we got a new house this week. Um,
I feel like this episode is back to our roots. It is.
It is such a good It is such a good episode because I was able
to have girl time with a BF, so we get into it a little
bit in the episode. But this week we had a good friend of mine,
Coco correct and she's a doll, She's a treat her and I always
have a good time. We used to do. We used to dance together.
Take dance classes is not professional, y'all took you were in a dance
class with the cho We took dance class. That's where we met and we
got really close and I enjoyed the heck out of her. She's always such
a delight and a treat um. So getting to just girl chat with her,
mind you, is zero prep. So it's not like I hung out
with her last week and then we recorded this episode. We get busy.
She lives a little further up north now, so I hadn't seen her in
a little while, so it was really fun just doing full on girl chat.
And that's my favorite. Yeah. Editing the episode. How did it
feel like having more of a girl chat guest versus how we typically have more
structured, structured guests, but like you know, they're usually a business person
or yeah, some type of professional. No, it was fun. It
was like, you know, it was just like I just kind of it
was definitely where I sat back a little bit more. I'm not as prevalent
in this episode, just because y'all were, you know, running off.
Y'all were running off at the mouth to the point at the end of the
episode, and listeners we heard this, we had to like cut her off
and be like because I think she was about to start a whole news story
and or like, oh, if there's something that Coco is is a storyteller.
Yeah, she has the details. She's going to tell you where,
when, what, She's going to tell you what color, what time of
day, what the temperature was, yea, and the weather. She's an
incredible human. So it was so much fun getting to chat with her about
you know, sex and learning. I never had that conversation with her learning
about how she was more of like a late bloomer and you know, her
whole years were much different. I need that piece. But it was a
good time. Yeah, so really good girl chat for the ogs that know
you know you're gonna love this episode. Anything you wanna add, no,
no, you guys have an amazing day. Have a great Fourth of July.
And if you're not listening to this during Fourth of July week, thank
you for being here. And whatever holiday's coming up, Happy is Joy Coco's
day, Horny and I don't like that I went for years and I still
don't know how to twork Like they didn't teach I'm like, how are y'all
not going to teach me how to move my butt? Like? How are
y'all not going to sit and stay down and go like because it's not just
it's not with your back though, Like we can work on. Yeah,
you and I we're gonna You're gonna come to my house and you and I
are gonna have a working session and I can get you. I would love
it. And I'm sick. I'm dead serious. I can move my ass
now, that's one thing. Listen. I'm maybe a bigger girl, but
I can move. Okay, I can move. Okay, I know you
can move. I've seen it. I loved watching you dance. It was
always so much fun watching. Oh gosh. I did love it though,
and I have gotten static and I've like I've gotten to the point where I'm
like I want to move, Like I'm like I'm getting stir crazy in this
house and me walking upstairs to go get some laundry and stuff. It's only
be so satisfying. And at this point, I'm like I need to dance.
Like it's got to the point where I've been known by the new neighbors
as like the girl who dances as she walks her dogs. Like it's gotten
to that point like I need to dance like I need I love that culture
like us dancing freedom. I need to shine baby shine. Yes, oh
gosh, yeah, but were you ever dating? Were you ever dating somebody
when you were taking dance? No? No, no, you didn't get
to use all those moves on. I mean I did, which is how
I got married, you know, so you know that's how I got this
one. I did a whole routine two for him, like it was like,
yeah, for his birthday, had to like hotel girl. I mean
like I was shown when out okay, yeah the hotel hotel, pulled up
the chair, honey, Okay, did some of those repetitive moves and she
taught me. Okay, he does he's never seen them, never seen them,
he was like, and he's like, he was like, um,
I've never seen someone. He was like, for you not to have like
professionally grown up like from a little girl dancing and stuff like that. He
was like, you really not a dance He was like, you know how
to dance like a girl who like dance, like even dance professionally like a
stripper. Like he was like, you know how to move your body?
I was like, oh, for real, okay, And he don't fluff
he is. I wish he fluffed more, but he does not know a
fluff. So when I got that compliment, I knew at least it was
true. I was like, yeah, I got this, you know,
you know I got this. It's it's just like it's just like right before,
like when you know you're giving someone some head and you know, like
they started moving and then it starts to like get gets kind of stiff,
and then you can feel like I'm You're like, you know I got you,
I got you. It's that move. It's that it's that feeling that
you know you got somebody like you. Yeah, like you talking all that
mess and man, man can be taken talking some mess about y'all. Yeah,
I got this, I got this, and I've blend. The more
stuff they talk, the less they really don't win. Okay, it's the
quiet ones. It's the quiet ones that like you'd be like, oh,
okay, okay, I agree, Yeah, I completely agree. If there
I nothing has to be said, nothing has to be said. It's all
action. They don't have to say a single Yeah, they're not gonna tell
you what they're gonna do. They're just going to do it. And I
will say, like, that's kind of like what happened with me, like
with my like my first experience. So I was like a late bloomer.
I'm gonna say label I was intentional, Okay, like I was. So
I was so type a even with my first time. So it's hilarious.
Um, I I'll never forgive Like it was more of a decision. That's
a sad part. It was more of like a decision. So I was
in college and I was living with my best friend from like middle school,
and like her and I took very different paths in life, and um,
like I was this is when I was like heavily about in church, Like
I was like a youth minister. So like I was not trying to like
have sex, like I was good plus like it just it was just the
stigma of like I was also just scared, like I just it was I
was just scared like if I had text, I was gonna get pregnant because
like one of my sisters got pregnant really really early in life because like you
know, like our mother was away. Like I have a very interesting background,
so like my mother was away for part of our life because she had
went to prison, and so we were being raised by our grand Our grandmother
really strict always took us a church. We we lived in church. And
um, So like my oldest sister, she had had her first kid in
like sixteen, mind you I was six because there was ten years difference between
us. So like I just thought, like, you have sex, you
get a baby like um. And then another one of my sisters she was
she was younger, so she was like a lot younger. She was like
twelve almost thirteen when she had her first kid. So like I was just
like, oh my gosh, like I just created a boy's men baby.
Like so I was just like I'm not having sex. It was partly like
my religious background, but it was just like also it was just like your
life ends, because like I would see them and I would I would see
them and they'd be like, you know, I can't live my life.
I want to do this with my life and all this other stuff, and
I'd be like, okay, all right. So like you have a baby,
then like you pretty much like your life ends and their life begins.
It's about the children, which I mean I get that, and so I
was just like, okay, no sex, and so like I was doing
good and then like I'll never forget. We were in our apartment. I
was looking for my phone and I couldn't find I always lose stuff. So
like my best friend called me and like we were all looking for my phone.
So she put her phone down and as I'm walking past the couch,
I see on her phone that she has me named underneath her phone as forty
year old Virgin. No as me as Coco, right, like she has
me as forty year old Virgin. And I was just like, I mean,
I was kind of mad, but then I was just like, oh
my gosh, it's so like I left the house I found my phone and
like I remember driving to the school. We were in college and driving to
my class and was just like, oh my gosh, like I could be
driving and I could like get hit by a car and I'm gonna be a
virgin, like I've never lived my life. I'm like I need. I
was like, you know what, like that conft me for this one sin
and so I was like I think I'm gonna have sex, so like I'm
so type Like I was just like I started writing out a list. Okay,
I was like I need to have someone who's experience. I was like
I don't want to have someone who's trying to figure this out with me.
So I was like I need to get one of these football players because I
always had like football players, basketball players like all trying to come after me.
And I'd be like mh good, Like okay, you cute though you
cute like it's just me. But then I was like, you know what,
let me start that's but that's funny because you give off like basketball WiFi
what that is so crazy? Like you do because you're like the right,
like I mean this with love, like you're a boogie lady, like you
like your nice. You like your nice things, Like you always look really
good, like you dress like you'd like to dress up, Like you show
up you know, wherever we're going, always looking hell and nice, nails
done well. And I've only been in like the same room with you a
couple of times, but you walk into room and take charge. Yeah,
and that's what I got. You know. People tell me all the time
and maybe that's why I'm in the industry that I'm in, but it's like
I don't realize it. And I always wonder that when I was in high
school, like all the basketball guys would be like trying to talk to me.
I'm like, I'm some like little nerd girl who and like it would
be funny because like I was wondering why, like all the coaches wanted me
to be a manager, so I was the football manager, I was the
basketball manager. And I just remember being super uncomfortable because like they would be
like, I mean, oh, Coco, look at that ass, And
I'd be like, why are they looking at I'm like such a little nerd,
like repressed, little church girl. And it was always like, I
mean, because here's the thing, man, if I had my high school
body, now, who Jesus knew what he was doing when he made me
a little thick, okay, because I was just like, yeah, I
was like it was it was my body was it was noise. It was
noise. Okay. I was curbed in all the right places okay. And
I was playing still like I was in sports cell. So I was like
toned and everything. But like the guys would come after me. It was
like and like I never forget, like when I got to college, like
one of the guys, I remember like running into him and he was like
a big shot um in high school and like got like got like scholarships and
stuff to play M D one and all that, and so I had ran
into him later a little bit in life. He was still hello fine,
still hello fine, And I was just like man, like I could be.
I probably could have been a basketball wife of probably could have been um,
but yeah, I was just for that time, I was like already
doing my career thing and like my career taking off, and I was just
like, okay, well, I mean I may not be making like millions
like a basketball player, but like I'm doing my thing here, you know.
But he was not that smart, and so I was like it was
a very much a turn off. So like this guy that I'm like,
okay, I think i'm you know, by this time, I'm sexually active,
so I'm like, okay, I'm ready for this. And then and
then like when we sat down and was talking, I was like, there
is no substance here, like so that's you know, that's just one of
the things that I need, Like I need to be intellectually stimulated, like
to get there with someone. I need to be It's like a playful mind,
like I need you need to be ambitious, though, like I need
to see that drive. It is just so sexy on a man, like
even though I come with my own money game, right, So it's not
necessarily like I need a guy for that because he's got something. It's just
more of like it's just like I'm holly ambitious, so I'm attracted as someone
who's ambitious, who's gonna have drive, who's gonna be out there. And
it's so funny because some many of my friends were like, girl, whoever
you end up when you need to have somebody who's gonna handle like all your
drive and who you are, And I'm like, I don't even get it.
I'm just being at me, like I don't think I'm animated, but
I get that that statement and that characteristic a lot that like I'm just highly
animated, and I'm like, I don't know, but I've been like that
even as a little girl. When I was in church, they'd be like,
you know, like you're such a kind heart, and I would always
help out and do stuff at church. And it's like the one I feel
like ritique that the older women would give me is like you're just very animated
constance. You know, you might want to, you know, take it
down if you not, just and I'd be like, I don't know,
I'm just being me, y'all like this that's it. But yeah, Like
so I was like, so my list, I was like I need this
basketball guy or football guy, like whatever I'm gonna do. And I was
working like at a tech company, but it was just like something like at
night and so I was like making my list and stuff like that, and
there was like this guy who came through. It was like a little bigger
guy. But I also like Teddy Bears. That's another thing. So I
like, really I have like a streams of guys that I like. So
either they're really like big, tall, muscular and like play play a sport
or they have to be kind of big and like a teddy bear kind of
look like a cold teddy bear. So like he came in and I just
remember like some girls like talking about like, oh yeah, he gets around
he you know whatever, like he's really smart and he gets off this like
vibe, but like you know, he's a player. And I was like,
hmmm, checklist, you know, kind of like that. I was
like that may work, and so he was like it was something I was
considering. But then I was still like looking on campus because I'm like,
yeah, I'm on campus whatever, you know, still considering my options.
And so I was like, yeah, I need to get my life together.
I need to figure this out. But I was like I need someone
who's gonna like take time. And I was just like, most likely probably
were like a football guy or something. He's probably just gonna like he's so
used to getting it, like he's probably not gonna take his time, and
I need someone to take their time. So I was like, I'm being
very intentional. Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. So I was like I'm
telling you I was thinking it through. So although I probably like shouldn't have
been thinking about like this, like, oh, I probably should be trying
to find someone. I really like, I really wasn't dating anyone at the
time, like because I really was focused on school and was like trying to
do my life or whatever. And at this point too, like this is
when like my sister wasn't doing so well. Sorry, like my eyelash is
like not cooperating. Right now, You're fine, And how how old are
you? You said? I was like nineteen almost twenty at this point.
It was actually on my birthday when I finally did everything, so it was
like twenty, but it was nineteen when I saw the story search. That's
not like Bloomer, your sister needs to chill out with the forty year old
version. Yeah, well yeah, yeah. That was like my best friend,
like she was like four year old vision and I was just like,
it's not gonna get that. It's not like it was not so um oh
no, it was. I was twenty two, twenty one. Sorry,
that's what it was, because I was, oh, well, you know
what, your friend has a point on that one whatever, whatever, I'm
just kidding. No, that was you. I lost my Virginia around the
same time as that, yeah, you're like twenty. It was like,
so I was like around there, so definitely wasn't in high schools. In
college, everybody was doing stuff around me, and I never forget Like when
my friend would bring my best friend would bring people home, I'd be like,
oh, okay, like, oh you just met him at that party.
Okay, y'all okay, Like it was just so foreign to me.
I was like, Okay, well, she's free, she's lived her life.
And that was the thing, Like I never judged anyone else because like,
everyone's journey is their own. So like, even if I'm like because
of my religious context, like I choose to do live my life a certain
kind of way, I don't ever be like, girl, are you doing
crazy? I just want to make sure, like, hey, you safe.
That's the only thing I was telling you. Wrap it up? Did
you wrap it up? That's all I ask? Be safe, you know,
make sure you don't get no kids or no diseases. You can't get
rid of them, okay, because that's the thing. This new generation,
oh symphilis and all kinds of stuff is running rampant. I'm gonna need y'all
to get y'all lives together. Okay, I'm not telling y'all like uh,
and then maybe a feel like they don't know what a condom is a birth
control. I'd be like, listen, y'all do y'all do well, there's
no sex education. There's all these there's no sex education hardly anywhere anymore.
And the ones that do have it's so bare minimum and they always just preach
abstinence. It's a whole thing. It isn't like I'm gonna tell you like
just someone I'm telling that was nothing that helped me in high school when they
did that a whole lot of time, I don't know if you had this
when they showed all the like goreds and him humanoids but like gross and herpes
there that Yeah. Then when they showed that on someone's balls and then they
were showing it on a girl's genitalia, I was like hell now. And
then I was another thing. I had a very liberal science teacher. I
loved her. She was from England and sure enough, I think it was
ninth grade of tenth grade, and I'm pretty sure it was not school authorized,
but she didn't care. She was definitely in our biology class, our
ap biology class. Featuring a bunch of nerds, which we probably wouldn't get
no play, But I mean it is what it is. I was well
diversified, Like I was one of those people who, like I was smart,
but I also was athletic, so I kind of have friends everywhere.
But that was not the majority of the other kids in the classroom. But
it also helped to be like, yeah, someone who had friends. They
didn't have a lot of friends. But she was telling us, she was
like, turning them lights. She's like when your first self, who were
expence turning them lights. Look that up, look at them balls. You
open her up, you look at her and you see her. She was
like, if you're gonna share your bike with somebody, don't mean being all
shot now acting like you can't look at the genitalia. So like I remember
her saying that, like, listen, if you're gonna be an adult and
have sex, like do adult things, okay, Like you need to look
look all around. Okay, you better put your mouth on something. You
might want to take a quick a few seconds, take a look at the
equipment and make sure not just for size, make sure it's safe. Okay,
listen, And she was like and for people who can't crabs. She
was like, you literally see them. They're literally little crabs. So for
you not to have seen them crabs, you really was being irresponsible with your
life. And I was like, I was never forgetting this food because she
was married to an Asian guy, so her last name was food, but
she was white. But she was like listening. She was like about it
telling us a schooling us about sex. She was like, they're there's no
reason for you to have ScDs and stuff like that. She was like,
you got to be looking around. It's just don't don't be afraid to ask
someone for the papers. That was another thing me less another reason I've not
had a lot of sexual partners because I'd be asking for them papers. Okay,
let me see your last time you was tested. Okay. Yeah.
They don't talk about that, even even in a positive way. They don't
really discuss getting tested very often. Even the more progressive people that I've been
around that that teach about sex or sex sex education, they don't talk about
that enough that you should go get tested and if you are sick, even
if you are safe. Partners like you, my first only said Okay,
cool, guess what I'm gonna need to be because that person probably had two
or three others and it's but people don't think about like you're having sex with
that person. The persons has sex with those people, So you're having sex
with all those other people. It's the eye of multiplier. And when you
get into that numbers game, I'm highly analytical of Minor and acon. Trust
me, you don't want to think about the multiplicity okay, of how many
people you are really having sex with when you have sex with one individual because
their cultures And I'm about to get super sciency on that, Like your's DNA
that's left in you from every time you have sex with someone else. Like
so that's why sometimes some people's babies were having some trace that don't align with
the daddy. You know. Yeah, if you had a lot there's like
a cat like a cat situation, like a cat litters. Yes, you
cat, your cat litters. Okay, you're gonna have some red hair.
You can be like where does red hair come from? Okay, but that's
when then people be like, this ain't my baby. And then you get
a test and you're like, okay, there's my baby. Yeah, but
it's yeah, it's yes, well they're certain like diseases that you can pass
along through sex that you don't even have to have sex to get. Well,
yeah, men are carriers for HPV. Yes, men are carres race
MAB. They're not gonna show it, that's not gonna happen. And so
like a lot of times people don't even know that they're carriers. And that's
why it infects like almost ninety percent of women because and it's so high,
it's so common, so like most likely you have it. I mean like
one of us have it or have half had it and not Noah, like
you like, it's just so common now, Like when it happened to me,
I was just like, oh my gosh, Oh my gosh, and
like because you know, yeah, it says any they were like my doctor
was like you're fine, it's okay, Like it's gonna go away, and
like it's you know, it's the only thing I've ever had, but it's
just like that's something. He was like, it's nine percent of women,
like you would have to be like only have been a virgin and they have
a virgin for your possibility to be so down. And I was just like,
what, well, HPV doesn't go away. Well they say that it
can like it cannot turn into like cancer or whatever. Yeah. Yeah,
yeah, like lays it like lays dormant until Yeah, the potential for it
to turn into something. Said, Yeah, my sister has hpv UM.
I had the shot. I was like young enough to where they came out
that I think it was like the gardens I got the Yeah, it's not
one percent. It doesn't protect from all strains, so keep that in mind.
That's what my doctor said too, because I was like, I got
the garden soil shot. Yeah. Yeah, and there's like three yea,
I got a three. Yeah, I got all three, So it doesn't
protect against all of them. Yeah, out here in these streets, out
here, in these streets, out here in these out here in these streets,
Yeah it is. And so it's just one of those things, like
you know. And then like I was like always thought the stigma of like,
Okay, it has to be someone who's like out there having sex a
lot, and I was like I have under five partners, and like I
I got it. So it's just like one of those things. I was
just like, oh my gosh, this is like so crazy, Like I
can't believe this, but then I was just like, you know what it
is, what it is, and uh you know, and it was in
a consensual like it was a long term relationship in there, like you said,
their carriers and it just like doesn't always show up. So it's just
one of those things. It just well, we had someone on this show.
We had Jennia on the show, and her first time having sex,
she got gnarrha. Yeah. I watched that one and I was just like,
oh my gosh, what like a horrible experience, you know, for
your first time. And I was just like when I had it, I
was just like, oh my gosh, like not guardy, I've only had
HPV. But I was just like when I got it, I was just
like, oh my gosh, people are gonna like think I'm a harlot,
Like think I'm like this. There's like a stigma too, like em yeah,
like there's such a stigma within it. And I was just like,
oh my gosh, I can't believe it's oh no, um, and like
you just start to freak out, but then you're like, Okay, it's
it's not it's not that you know serious and and like even when I was
like sexually active and getting tests. Like I didn't like you have to sometimes
push a doctor, like especially since like I didn't have a lot of sexual
partners um, but like my first partner, he did have a lot of
sexual partners and so like when we broke up due to I thought he was
having infidelity, Like I nearly went and got tested, you know, even
though we were in a long term relationship, and like he was just like,
oh, you've only had one partner. Oh you don't need to get
tested, and I was like, yeah, I want it, and he
was just like, well, sometimes if it's recommended by the doctor, it's
not gonna I was like, I don't care if I have to pay for
it or not. Like I was so shocked that I had to push my
doctor to like run tests for me, you know. I mean as I
got older, most people like will assume you've had things and you're like no,
no, no, I haven't. But like you know, it was
the other way around, Like I had to actually push. I was just
like, you know, I had to like tell him like what all needs
to be rand and everything else, because I was just like I want to
protect myself and I want to protect other people, whof I choose to engage
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theory in there are people who will disagree and I get it, but I
feel like I've had both sex where it's an emotional true connection and then sex
as an act right like you feel like it's a need and I there's a
definite difference in connection and fulfillment because the end goal really isn't the climax.
The end goal should be really the connection you have with that person, and
that's a whole other experience. When you're able to experience sex on that level.
Um, you you it's like an I don't even know how to explain
it. I always wanted to like the body experience you have, and I
was like able to fill that um with my first sex of person, even
though I went very mind analytical. Once he found out was a virgin,
he like stopped the brakes. And I used to have guys do that to
me. The moment they would be like, like I have guys that were
like the moment they found out I was a virgin, they'd be like,
I have one guy like leap off the couch, like he was all on
the couch on tope. Oh kids, kids, kids, And I was
like, hey, like you know, just so you know, like I'm
a virgin. He was like what he was like, hold on, you're
not joking, and he like leaped off the couch. Um. So like
once I told my first that he was my first, like he was like,
oh no, we gotta slow it down. And so like we began
to like date and he was like because I really like you, and so
like we began the day and like really get to know each other and so
we really got to get to that connection, right, and that was that's
good yeah, I didn't. Yeah. I was like, I was like,
we didn't finish your first Yeah, we didn't. I circle back,
I circle back. See I do that. It's an Oreo cookie of an
episode. It is. Do you guys liked and paste it? Because I'm
you guys got to work cut out for you. I'm serious. So but
that's good though that he was like took that time and was like, well,
let's give you that full experience because I enjoy you as a human.
And it wasn't like a mission of like, Okay, well you just want
to get this done, let's going Yeah, Like he was very sensitive.
Um I kind of looked out like it was kind of like, yeah,
he had kind of gotten brown. That was true because I did ask him
and he was like his number was over one hundred, and I was like,
oh day, how do you even know that was possible? And then
I waited at nineteen and twenty? No, he was older. Oh that
was the other thing. So we worked together. He was ten years my
senior. Okay, yes, that still seems high. I still call it.
He had to divide it by three. Yeah, I got bullshit on
that number. Okay, I don't know, but unless he had a high
paying job and was going out to Vegas every like we could. He could
have been hoing. I mean he also was very well he didn't bring up
those numbers just in college. He was very very well endowed. Um well,
that explains why he wanted to wine and dine you a little bit um
because he's then I'm shocked with that first. Well, just also being older,
like in his thirties, Like I'm sure it was a little I don't
want to say creepy, but kind of like, okay, well I've got
this young younger than me personally, I don't want this to be like he
was quite weird eight years my senior. He was like eight years my senior.
Okay, like still, so he was like eight years my senior,
and he was a lot older, and so like he was like he winded
on and like girl, there was like so much dry humping at first,
like he was really just kind of like working in and all this other kind
of stuff. So like we didn't just that's the best part. It was
like it was so good, like even so good about that. He was
really good for a play, which made it harder for my other sexual experiences
because nobody takes their time or knows how to. And some people think just
because they got a big slung that that's all you need. Like some people
just speaking, you just pounded out, and I'm like, no, that's
not enough. Like I like, he was so good at four play.
He was so good at four play. And we had the like Karma Sutra.
He was like all about like trying new things. Say we had the
Karma suit. Yes, like we had the Karma Sutra of things. Like
I would say he was my when it came to sexual positions and things like
that, like it was at my soul person. Like I said, we
were together for a while. Um, so it wasn't like mam bam,
thank you ma'am or anything like that. Like we were together for a while
and we were always on and off. I always circle back to him.
That's another thing. Uh. He was always someone that I was on and
off again with him for like over ten years and then oh my god,
yeah, like on and off again, continue to circle back to him.
And at first I thought I was like we ended it because I was so
young and I was like developing things. And then also I had adopted my
nieces in the meantime, like I was very young and my sister had passed
away, and so I was like kind of zoned in on trying to be
a mother and like so I stopped living my crazy college life and was you
know, instead of going to bubble parties, I was going to pta parties.
So like that. Also, I have a very interesting sexual experience where
it's like I would go years without having sex and then with have sex,
like it was it wasn't like right on top of it, like which is
why I have like under five people and I'm about to get married. So
so and I would always kind of circle back to him because I would thought
like he was going to be the person like you know, like that person
you have that special connection with. And it was so crazy, Like my
first experience with him, he was so tender and it was like on my
birthday and and like he was so big. It actually didn't go in so
technically kind of took the next morning, like um, it was like he
was going slow. He was like you on the little finger thing, but
it was just so tight, like it just he was so big too.
That was just like it kind of hurt. He was trying to stick it
in and was like oh, like owt like it was. It was like
and then I ain't gonna lie. At one point I think we were we
had gotten so much in before play and stuff like that I fell asleep,
girl, I think I totally fell asleep on him trying to have sex like
that was my first time, Like so I felt so bad. I woke
up and I was like, crap, like this is your first time.
You fall asleep, Like that's bad trying to get it in and so like
I go, I like get up. I like, I'm like, because
like this cannot be your first time, like you're kind of work this out.
So like I kind of like loosened myself up and then like I hadn't
like gone down anyone, and I was just like maybe that'll help with a
did figure out like that gets me off, and because like seeing them get
up, oh, I was like, you know what, we're just gonna
try a sucking dick. We're gonna try it. I never did it,
but we're gonna try it. So I like go after it and just like
kind of seeing it and looking at it because I guess I did turn the
lights and you know, look at it and all that. Like my high
school taught me, you look that suck up over okay, And so I
grabbed it and it's like it's even with two hands, like there was still
like room like so I was just like, oh my gosh, like I'm
gonna choke on this thing. It was long, like it was over twelve
inches like I it's like I can't make this up. Like eventually a porn
star. Yes, my first time was with like a porn star. Kid
you not um And I asked him. I was like he was like,
yeah, he did an audition once before. Like that's what I'm saying,
like stop, yes, yes, okay, so yes he would. He
had porn star swan okay. And I do remember that because coaching myself up
to get ready for it, I did watch some porn because I was like,
I don't want to be completely coolest, so I watched them porn again
very analytical mind to prep for myself. I also researched some Koma sutra and
was looking at all the positions and I glad I looked at positions for big
ones and small ones because there are different ways to have sex with karmasa to
help you with big dicks versus small dicks and I will be the first to
tell you size is not fucking matter because some of my best sex came from
the smallest dick guy. It was just in their six inches, like he
was like he wouldn't even average, he was a little bit on the average.
It was the only white guy ever had sex with. But I will
say it was good. I know we're going back to my first time,
but first time, no, I love it. I'm good. But the
positions is so true. There's certain positions that I can't do with Adam because
he's just so bid. I'm telling you, like, there's some positions that
I really can't like do with some people because it hurts. I'd be like,
listen, I'm like that's all. Yeah, I do it. I
feel it, and it's not that kind of I feel it, okay,
Like this does not feel good and yeah if I feel it in myself,
yeah, like this was not okay. And um so like I like so
I was like, you know what, like I remember from the commentation book,
like you can get up on top of like put your feet on their
legs and kind of like sit and do reverse cow girl. So it's kind
of like that's very that's a very porn star style move and listen. I
told you I had research. I was ready. It is so big,
but guess what, I could control the movement me being on top because he
was trying to be on top, and so me being on top, I
said, I can't get in it. I was like okay. Then I
like turned around like a little helicopter and did like the little I mean like
it did because it was big, so I can work. So I did
a little turnaround like you know, a little swibble, the little swibble,
and it was like going out And it was at first I thought he was
like acting on weird. I was like, what is he doing? Like
again, I'm figuring this shit out right, So I'm like, why is
he act like this? I'm like, oh am I hurt him and I
was like stop. He was like no. He like grabbed me and pushed
me down. He was like don't you ever stop? Like I was like,
oh okay. Oh. I was like, oh so I'm good at
this. Okay cool. So I was like yes, I was riding them
and stuff like that. But then I was like because he had taken off
the coldom and I was like, whoa, don't eat babies? We don't
so like I because I remember I got he had tried to us the commum
snap put him out, and I was like, oh, snap, we
don't have the condom on. I didn't even I was like, no,
no, no, I gotta you gotta stop, sir, we gotta stop.
And I was like so panicked because I was like new at sex.
I went and got a plan B that very next like that same day,
like I was just try. I was like, I don't even know.
I don't even think you came, but like we stopped and he was like,
I don't even come. I was like, I don't care. I
heard about prejaculation, sir, I'm definitely getting this san b And so yes,
that was one of um many plans. We love a plan like even
like like especially like when you get in a long relationship, it's a bad
thing. Don't like anybody listening to this, don't be me. Okay in
college where like you with someone for a long time, so you're like,
oh, it's get it for a long time. Let's just take it off.
No, keep it on, girl, because it's also helps with no
babies, okay. And at one point, yeah, I was eating playing
beings like the the skittles, okay, and so that is not okay,
that's not okay. Don't be doing that with your life. It'll mess up
your hormones too, girl, don't do it. Okay, it's not it's
expected. It was sitting there negative my bank account, girl, okay,
going negative in my bank account for irresponsibility. And then I started having a
system. Girl, this is this is bad okay, because you would have
like three days right like where you supposed to like from unprotected sex. So
then I would try to have as much sex in those three days unprotected so
that way I could take the pill. At the end. It was bad,
like it was a bad like she said, I'm gonna get my money's
worth. Yeah, Like I'm gonna get my money's worth. Okay, We're
gonna kill all these future babies, okay when I take the pill in three
days, so we would be back to back to bay, Okay, I'm
like you need to come over, like you get that pill tomorrow, okay,
because after this I'd be like, okay, we're not gonna do that
no more. And then I would like to go back to the condom and
then like you know, one day and we just had the one time I
went we had sex and then after the fact we realized the condom was gone.
The condom was just in me and at some point had come off and
when she's getting jammed all up in me. So I was like, well,
that wasn't contained. So we got we got me a plan B for
this. Like I said, like me, now, like what is that?
That is a system. I'll tell you what not not a not a
responsible one, but you were getting your money's worth. Yeah, I was
that's some that's some young behavior. I love that I was a young I
didn't even do that stuff after college and it was only with my first But
like I was like, well, I mean tankled Eve in a long term
relationship. I was like, yeah, but you don't want no kids right
now and you already taking care of two kids, Like you don't even be
doing that girl, Like listen, this is hard enough with the two that
you've adopted, let alone having another one. And um, so yeah,
you know, Lord was looking after me or I don't know. I don't
know if I should say that was the Lord, but yeah, I was
just working the system. Coco was looking out for Coco. Okay, Cocoa
was definitely looking out for cocoa in those moments. Um and yeah, then
like you know, that was my first time I was thinking. And then
like a white boy who was like really all about the motion of the ocean,
That's what taught me. I was just like he was, like I
would say the first was like really had a you know, had the equipment
and for a play, but because of the one that didn't have you know,
the large equipment, he was so good at for play, like,
oh, I'm sure took it there. He would get immensely good. I
mean like we would have sex and like the most crazy places. I mean
it was exciting, like that was the first time with me experiment with Crotcho's
paints. I will say white people are more sexually adventurous than black people,
okay, because like they be like black guys be like, you know,
I ain't with it. They don't want to bring toys in. They'd be
thinking it doesn't compensate sometimes for like them. And I'm like, white guy
was all about toys and everything like let's let's get it all in here,
okay. And I was like, okay, okay. He was a football
player and it was purely like for you know that, but he was cool,
Like he was cool. He was cool. People ain't gonna lie.
Um, I still charged him to do his homework. That is not on
the record, but uh, but uh that like he was actually something I
was tutoring at the time. And so oh yeah, But why do you
think that? Why do you think there's a difference in like someone introducing toys
or being more intimidated by them, or being more slowly focused on for play,
Like why do you think that they're such a different because of ego?
I think a lot of times like people feel like or you know, I
feel I've seen like I've only said I've only had sex with like a black
and a white guy. But but I would say, like the difference between
black men and white men, it's like they're not intimidated like ego wise,
like they don't feel like it's taken away from what they're bringing to the table.
And I feel like in the black community, it's kind of like they
feel like, oh, I'm less than in You're trying to say I can't
please you, I can't provide for you. And it's not that it's just
adding another element like but like they're all about you trying to like dress up
as a naughty nurse or being their favorite football jersey, or like they want
you to dress up as a police officer. Like it's all I feel like
it's more on the woman in the black community right than I would say,
like what I've experienced, Like I'm not speaking for everybody, like doing a
white come at me, don't be in the comments, but I will say
what I was with a white guy. It was just much more intentive,
um on my pleasure and making sure I climaxed. And it was like it
was just more adventurous, like I tried things that were a lot more kinky
but action okay. Definitely happened with the white guy. And I mean he
was all about he ate the groceries. Girl. I was I have never
found anybody else to eat the groceries besides him, okay. And it was
a hell of experience. I loved it. I like climaxed off of that.
I was like, I did not what shut this is. It was
like, oh, another experience, like I had to I had a body
experience. I was like, oh, like when he ate the groceries,
okay, okay, it was all about it. So it's always the guys
that are either that are smaller or guys that are new that are the most
excited and most willing to try everything and anything. So like I always laugh
and make fun of Adam because like the first time we had sex, he
immediately try to go down on me and I was like, what are you
doing? What do you do? We're not doing all this and he's like,
yes, we are. And I was like, sir, this is
our first time having sex, Like we're going to do that as well,
Like I was the way he didn't ask me. It was just like,
this is happening now. I was so baffled. And it's so funny because
I feel like in all my other relationships it like we would have sex for
a while and it kind of like worked up to oral when it came to
me. Of course, oral from me is always like oh, I go,
why is that? Why is it that? But yeah, like it's
kind of experienced, gave a blow job. It's like maybe if I feel
like it, like excuse me, well, I would say, Like my
first experience, he was very giving. He was all about the oral and
also he like did that to help. I think it was because you know,
I was a virgin, so he needed to like you know, open
up that or whatever. Um. But like yeah, like there was one
guy who was like, absolutely, I will never go down on a girl.
I don't do it. And but you're, yeah, like I had
one guy he was he had a big one, but he was African,
so I don't know that's different, but he was African and he absolutely refused
to go down on any girl. Like he was like, I don't do
it. I don't do that. Um, that's just it. And I
was like what I was like for real? And I was like, I
was like, that's you know, kind of like I found that I liked
coming that way better than penetration. I am more of a girl who comes
better from oral than that comes from penetration. You like me, We're most
women are external comers. We need clotortal stimulants in order to work out.
Yeah, So I mean I've come by penetration, but far more times for
quantity I've come from with someone giving me oral. And so I was just
like, I don't know, but I really really liked him. And he
spoke French, and I was like, so I kind of was like I
guess, but like only because you were like really cute, and I really
like you and I'm trying to make this work. And I really liked him,
and he had like the mental stimulation. He was smart, and it
was just fun and interesting and new and I'm that person like shiny new object
and like if you come in something original, like just like your life experience
and how you tell me about what life was back home and stuff like that.
And I was like, Okay, he's really smart, he's all these
cultural experiences and um, like we really connected on a lot of other things,
and so I was like, okay, okay, I guess we can
deal with this. But it just like did not work out sexually. So
when we finally came down to it, like the kissing and everything, you
know, I always started because like again, I was a slow burner.
I had to be someone who's physical connected and wanted to actually have sex with,
just like my husband. And so like whenever sexual size football player,
white guy, everyone else was like the intention of Like, Okay, I
thought I was gonna get married because I was even engaged to the my first
at one point. Oh wow, So I was engaged to my one that
was my first, but the next guy, like you know. I just
was like, okay, like I think, you know, this is someone
I want to marry. So every time I like had sex, it was
like marriage was stuck in my head too, like okay, and so I
uh like eventually we would. Then she moved up to sex and like the
sex was horrible. He had a big one, like very big, almost
told interest too, like people say, I kind of I'm like the big
dick magnet or whatever, because like but I was like that had a white
guy who had this small but they were like all the other dicks were huge.
Girl, Like you don't got no size eights. You be getting all
these big ones, right, so yeah, you're not getting any of the
average king I didn't get. I get extremes apparently, like with my personality,
Okay, either I'm real quiet or I'm real lab so um so like
yeah, I guess the streams in my sexual experience too, like when it
with equipment, so like he had a really big one, but it was
just like it was just pounding and it was just there and I really liked
him. And then like someone helped, but it just wasn't anhing. It
was just I was just trying. And then like this was the time in
my life that I was all about making sure I pleased the guy and and
so like I would do all the fake noises. Women, don't do it
like you're not helping yourself. Don't don't fake it, like I was faking
it every single time we had sex, Like every time I never came it
was I just did it just because it pleased him. And like I just
realized, like it's like sexually like shucks would be more like my first way.
It was like an emotional connection and we felt good to me and to
him, and I found myself faking it like to make it like work,
you know, Like I was like yeah, and then I just came back
to and I was just like this can't be. It like this really it
can't be. And like then I just also like I was just like,
do you I realized that it was more of a infatuation, like the fact
that he was new, he spoke French and all of that. And the
more I got to know him, the more you get to really know something,
you're like, Okay, I really don't like you and I don't like
what you're stand for. And uh so after that, I was just like
it's bad sex, he's not as great as a person I am, so
like I was just I mean, not as me, but like as I
thought he was. And I was just like okay, just that surface level.
Yeah, because I was known for that because like you gotta understand,
like I was a girl who did in date really at all in high school.
So I would have always like these little crushes in high school, but
I never really acted on it um and actually like when and I was known
for that, Like so I had there was this guy major crush on him,
like since I was in middle school, and like he was like the
guy okay, like he was the guy that had like he was just a
date prom queens and like one of his girls was like miss teen Oklahoma.
And I remember I was like so infatuating everybody's just like he was white,
and I remember like everyone was like constitutents a little chocolate girl. He ain't
read about you like you're black, like no, and like he only dates
like blonde girls with blue eyes and stuff like that. I never forget,
like you know, I started to come into my own as I got older.
Yeah, and then like when I finally got the chance, like he
started liking me back I'll never forget this. And it was like our senior
year of high school and finally came around. He started firing liking me.
We were kicking in and cool. He went in for a kiss, and
I realized, like, oh, I really don't like you, Like it
was more of a conquest. I think it was more because people said I
couldn't do it that like I was like even more gone ho unproving that I
could. And then when I got out, I realized it was more of
a conquest, which is so bad. Like also, people don't do that,
like really figure out you. Like it was more because, like I
feel like it was like something that I couldn't have. And I realized in
life, if people said I couldn't accomplish something, that's like the easiest way
to make sure I do accomplish it. Like I remember someone telling me like
I'm never his brother said he was kind of you know, I'm not gonna
say that, but his brother told me I was never gonna make as much
money as him, like he's and I was just like huh. And like
I remember him telling me that when we were in school, and he was
like, you know, just like what I want to do in life and
I'm gonna be making really good money to that. And I just remember saying
I'm going to prove him wrong and then like I worked myself up to where
I'm at now, and I'm like, yeah, I definitely know if I
showed him my tax returns, I would probably definitely be trumping him. But
it's like, Okay, it's just like one of those things, like I'm
one of those people who just like I set a goal, I would create
my vision boards I execute, so like that was the thing, Like it
was like shiny new objects. You tell me I can't have you, I'm
gonna get you. So you're definitely a for science kind of gal. If
there's anything I can ever gather about you, is you are a for science,
Like for science. I'm gonna look everything up about sex for science.
I'm going to I'm going to make him like me for science, Like I'm
going to figure this out. I just think you are you are so type
am. I think you're a for science girly and I love that about you.
Yes, and I definitely say that like a force of nature. I'm
like, yes, I'm going to push through. But I've always been analytical
and I've always I don't know, I've always been able to be analytical but
also be personal. And that's the one thing I realized, like some of
my colleagues or like some of the people I went to college with and stuff
like that, I realized, like they were analytical, but their personal skills
need some help. I was like, I'm gonna need you to be more
personal. Like you realize you were talking to someone right now, like you
don't just tell them they're an idiot and they don't know any better, you
know. So that was one of the things. But it was that I
feel like that kind of hurt me in my dating life because I am a
force of nature and so sometimes people would try to like make me small and
I would be like, I'm not doing that, except for like when I
really like someone where I was like faking it in sect and I was like,
then I realized. I was like I can't do this. Like I
was sitting there and I was like, I can't do this. I'm not
happy, this is not okay. And so I was just like, there
we are, this is where we're at, you know, Like I just
told myself. I was like, you know, the next time I really
want something true because in between, this first guy was always cycling back or
whatever through So then I got back with my first but then like I was
just like I was like, yeah, that's I'm gonna circle back to him.
And I was like, I'm older, I'm older, and I can
I can do this, you know. But then I got older and saw
the bs eventually later in life. But yeah, that's one of my favorite
pieces of advice that someone has given me is, um, don't ever fake
your sounds, because then they think they're doing a really good job, like
they have to earn, they have to earn all of that in order to
know that they're doing yes, Because I think about it, it is because
then you're setting yourself up for horrible sex. And that was something like yeah,
bad behavior because like like when they like when they are going down and
like sucking your tit and it hurts, like ICE thought. I was not
a fan of titty sucking, okay, because I was just like this hurts.
It's just like what are you getting from this? Like I don't feel
nothing, like what until I got good titty sucking? Because I remember I
told a guy. I finally told a guy. I was like, I
don't think I really like it. He was like, you know what,
let me just show you. Let me just show you. I promise,
and um, he like full out. It was like nice and soft and
like like I don't know, very playful with the tongue. And then I
realized I do like titty sucking. It's just it has to be done right.
So it's like there are things too like some people think like that.
So I realized too not to say it's a no go. I think it's
good to tell someone that maybe you've had a bad experience with some kind of
something that's sexual. But I always say, don't cut yourself off. Um
explore like what you think you may like, and just because like um like
because I know sometimes blessed up is very tight booted for people. But like
you know, when someone ate my groceries, I was a little bad it
okay, um now I didn't like that he was trying to kiss me.
Afterwards, I was like, we're gonna work on dead like we're not doing
it. But but don't cut yourself because people like limit themselves, you know,
Like I know a guy who's like he was like, listen, she
ain't happy with just missionary a doggy style and something else like then then that
she she's gonna have to just move around. He was like some people just
trying to do too much. And I'm like it's not necessay too much,
but it's like it's fun to explore partner, and especially if like when you
get married, Like girl, I was at my neighborhood party and all these
women have like pretty much given up on sex. They're like, I'm not
shaving my legs anymore and stuff like that, and they was like it's boring,
and I'm like I literally just asked when the ladies, why are you
not telling them? Like why are you not communicating? And they're like,
wow, you know, like it just kind of is like some people have
given up on sex. I was like, I would not be that woman.
I would be that six year old lady. Okay, even if it's
me and my husband in the nurse home, we're gonna be getting at it.
Okay, We're gonna be getting at it okay, because like I do
not it's needed. It's he said, forty year old virgin him right,
thank you, Okay, like let me tell you. And that's funny because
even though I started later, even some of my friends, like a lot
of my girlfriends, Like I've had more social experiences, like I have a
sex card game and it talks about like you know, like it talks about
like you know, some of the other things, and I'm like, like,
who's like, who's your favorite porn star? I kind of have some
I kind of like the girls better because girls act better. Um and guys
to Cocoa, we can we can sit here and talk all day. We
got to wrap it up. I love it so much. She's like,
We've got to wrap it up, but yes, we have to wrap I
can sit here and talk with you all, do you And I know we
spend hours and hours sitting there and talking about all these things. This is
another day I brunch with Coco, and I love it. I know,
definitely, definitely, And I know you have to prepare for your interview.
I do. I didn't realize we had gotten so far over So yes,
thank you, we're out here having fun. But thank you so much for
talking with me. And um, I was just super excited to have some
more girl time on the show because I don't get to have it as much
anymore. So, UM, I can't wait to come and see your new
place. Yes, I'm so excited. I'm glad to see your face.
I miss you. Just having this talk because this is very much like how
you normally talk, so it was very natural. It was good. But
yes, like, let's let's not make it too much longer. Definitely,
we won't. We won't. But I appreciate you so much and I'll be
in touching this seach. All right, thank you. If you enjoy today's
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