1 00:00:07,919 --> 00:00:13,560 Good morning, Mother? Good morning, Mother? Comonic dial of the sheath. 2 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:30,760 Welcome we' re Tribe, your tw chavas, gribus, thank you. 3 00:00:33,359 --> 00:00:38,560 Let' s go there Good morning, welcome to the new episode of 4 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:46,119 Good morning Mother, Wait You know that in each podcast we always try to 5 00:00:46,439 --> 00:00:50,759 accompany you with a positive spirit, trying to bring you a little bit of 6 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:55,119 entertainment, of learning, of reflection, and every month we do it under 7 00:00:55,119 --> 00:00:57,520 the blankets of our table bed. Although we are already reaching this temperature that 8 00:00:57,520 --> 00:01:04,599 we are reaching right now, we may turn off the fence and take the 9 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:10,519 chairs a little at the door that is already making that time, because we 10 00:01:10,599 --> 00:01:17,640 are Tribe our monthly space in which we address issues of concern and issues always 11 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:22,760 related to childhood, to education, from a first prism of community tribe, 12 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:27,120 of respect and inclusion to all the maternitys and upbringings that surround us also, 13 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:33,519 obviously, and from the positive discipline and from the respectful upbringing that I sometimes 14 00:01:33,560 --> 00:01:38,680 see, everything is so vilified many times now the guilt of everything has the 15 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:42,920 respectful creation majority and the issue that we are going to address today you will 16 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:48,760 see how it has its crumb. Of course, I don' t do 17 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:53,680 it alone. I do it with my companions, friends and accomplices of this 18 00:01:53,840 --> 00:02:00,000 space Arancha Rollo and Cristina López, who each month come here with us and 19 00:02:00,159 --> 00:02:04,879 we and makes this space something warmer more beautiful, friends, Good morning, 20 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:09,000 Good morning, Monica, thank you so much for opening this space. And 21 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:13,960 you' ve already enjoyed Yes, yes, yes, yes, that first 22 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:17,240 laugh that has jumped in music because we' ve been trying to record the 23 00:02:17,319 --> 00:02:20,240 intro, but they' ve brought us all attack and absurd laughter. After 24 00:02:20,599 --> 00:02:23,719 it comes very well in what is necessary and it is very cool to start 25 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:27,919 the exact morning so how about Chris welcome, very well, very well, 26 00:02:28,039 --> 00:02:30,400 the truth that delighted was thinking that so necessary is the laughter and humor that 27 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:35,360 I always say that the other day I discovered that the human being is the 28 00:02:35,759 --> 00:02:38,719 only being of the whole planet, that has a muscle that is called laugh, 29 00:02:38,879 --> 00:02:42,439 that allows us just this to laugh So yes, I believe that if 30 00:02:42,439 --> 00:02:45,240 human evolution, after so many years has given us, that is, we 31 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:49,599 have to laugh more, so we have started perfect. It couldn' t 32 00:02:49,599 --> 00:02:53,159 be better, because yes, but the issue we' re dealing with today 33 00:02:53,159 --> 00:02:55,120 is from Hiji Jaja, or how we' re going to address it. 34 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:01,039 Man, we' ll try to do as usual, a little bit of 35 00:03:01,039 --> 00:03:05,280 hiji haja. You don' t know that always inside that tribe I think 36 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:08,520 it' s important to connect from there, from that empathy. But it 37 00:03:08,599 --> 00:03:12,680 ' s not going to be much of jiji haja, because it' s 38 00:03:12,719 --> 00:03:16,199 another one like in the previous diction, we came there a little bit with 39 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:21,159 those mainstream phrases of boredom, free time, because here we come with another 40 00:03:21,759 --> 00:03:24,560 one that is also of headlines, which is that of putting limits to the 41 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:30,120 girls and boys, because if not then of course, they become small and 42 00:03:30,159 --> 00:03:34,639 wild and have no control and then they do everything they want and then they 43 00:03:34,639 --> 00:03:37,240 have to put limits. And it seems that this, then, goes as 44 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,400 against the respectful creation that people think, that it is therefore free albederio, 45 00:03:39,919 --> 00:03:43,360 that every one who does what he wants never happens anything, we never tell 46 00:03:43,439 --> 00:03:46,280 them anything. And of course, now and then all those other phrases that 47 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:49,919 I love come along is that, of course we don' t tell them 48 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:53,680 anything then they are the generation of glass, that I tell myself that I 49 00:03:53,759 --> 00:03:57,560 look at glass, that it is a much more solid element than we think, 50 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,400 even if it is fractured. And this thing again at the table, 51 00:04:00,599 --> 00:04:02,039 which I' m sure there are already people saying there' s a mother, 52 00:04:02,039 --> 00:04:05,719 there' s a mother. What I' m going to find here 53 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:09,240 and I' m going to give you the pitch, which is the one 54 00:04:09,319 --> 00:04:12,919 that always defines perfectly what a limit is, which is not a limit. 55 00:04:13,879 --> 00:04:18,000 We will talk about punishments, about the consequences of all these words that I 56 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:24,439 think are flooding the network and the headlines a lot, and that I think 57 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:26,639 that putting them up and conceptualizing them, and that I' m sure that 58 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:29,199 in the end, in most cases, we come to a common understanding, 59 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:32,360 because in the end I think that' s what everyone in the background wants 60 00:04:32,399 --> 00:04:36,560 even those people who make those headlines, I think that mostly I want to 61 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:40,560 think that what they want is to take care of, but the same way 62 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:40,560 they do it, because from an approach that isn' t always more appropriate. 63 00:04:41,319 --> 00:04:45,199 So, thinking that' s the o or I think I' m 64 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:48,839 very optimistic, believing that' s the approach, from there we want to 65 00:04:48,879 --> 00:04:54,079 face it. So all you honk, which are the limits and what we 66 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:57,800 do with them. Picking up the last thing you said, not because I 67 00:04:58,079 --> 00:05:00,399 was listening to you, it' s just that it' s people who 68 00:05:00,399 --> 00:05:03,040 make those headlines. I think what moves is the fear, the fear of 69 00:05:03,319 --> 00:05:08,639 what can happen and from that fear that I gather, so I feel the 70 00:05:08,639 --> 00:05:14,160 infused, then it' s like a boomeran fear that comes there constantly. 71 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:17,839 It' s that emotion that predominates I think it' s made. From 72 00:05:17,839 --> 00:05:21,160 there he came to me and I needed to say it. Let' s 73 00:05:21,240 --> 00:05:27,800 see how we can relate to emotions, relationships that aren' t through the 74 00:05:28,399 --> 00:05:30,639 fear that eye. Fear is the most thrill to me, it' s 75 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:32,600 the most powerful in the world, I mean, you can do anything out 76 00:05:32,639 --> 00:05:36,399 of fear. Sure So it' s very useful? Is it very useful? 77 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:39,759 The thing is, we' re always gonna pay a price. Then 78 00:05:41,439 --> 00:05:44,800 there he comes He takes the matter away. For starters, well, before 79 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:48,360 we break down what the boundaries are, let' s see this phrase that 80 00:05:48,399 --> 00:05:53,720 you said Chris, which is the child. They need boundaries and from where. 81 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:58,720 A lot of people say that phrase, because when I hear a lot 82 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:01,240 of people, I mean, you have to put limits on it, which 83 00:06:01,439 --> 00:06:03,800 is not limits, it' s a payback. What they want is for 84 00:06:03,879 --> 00:06:08,160 you to come back, you have to get revenge, you have to make 85 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:12,920 him pay for what he' s done, he feels bad because he' 86 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:17,000 s done something wrong. Then let' s start by comparing terms between revenge 87 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:20,560 and boundaries, boundaries. Another thing. What people are looking for is that 88 00:06:20,639 --> 00:06:25,439 vennaza, because even you can act in a way, but you do it 89 00:06:25,519 --> 00:06:32,279 when you say from within what you want is to hurt and humiliate and have 90 00:06:32,319 --> 00:06:35,959 it bad enough not to repeat that this is based on behaviorism, which is 91 00:06:35,959 --> 00:06:43,759 a term, a very useful training methodology. It' s worth the training, 92 00:06:43,959 --> 00:06:46,240 that' s how training works super well. In fact, animals can 93 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:50,279 be seen if you do something wrong, hit a cramp, give a physical 94 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:57,879 or even verbal punishment to animals as well and then associate that behavior as something 95 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:03,199 of rejection and it is sought. He won' t repeat it again, 96 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:06,720 but I said it' s a behavior, that' s a training tool. 97 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:11,879 Education, for me, has to start from preserving the dignity of people. 98 00:07:12,959 --> 00:07:16,360 So that' s when those limits that are actually revenge, as I 99 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:21,279 said, don' t come into this area. Okay and well a little 100 00:07:21,319 --> 00:07:26,120 contextualizing this first part. For me, after all this time working with my 101 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:30,279 children with childhood I always say that I have a friend who tells me that 102 00:07:30,319 --> 00:07:36,879 your children give you many opportunities to practice positive discipline and boundaries. Or I 103 00:07:38,639 --> 00:07:43,720 have moments of constant reflection on this, because, of course, in the 104 00:07:43,759 --> 00:07:46,600 end we think that the limits are what will lead to obedience. What we 105 00:07:46,600 --> 00:07:50,319 want is submission. And here I put, I give an example of reference 106 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:55,120 figures. The reference figures. Now it' s us, so we want 107 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,600 the limits that we put, the reference pounds, which we are adults, 108 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:03,800 to be met those limits between Comis but then, in adolescence, we want 109 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:09,879 the limits that your reference figures put to you do not respect that there is 110 00:08:09,879 --> 00:08:15,120 a critical spirit. And that' s when the contradiction comes. So limit 111 00:08:15,279 --> 00:08:18,199 is the physical action that we adults do, that is, we determine that 112 00:08:18,279 --> 00:08:24,160 that' s not right for a person to stop doing what they' re 113 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:28,879 doing. And when you set a limit, when, from my point of 114 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:33,080 view, when you stop being safe for yourself, for another person or for 115 00:08:33,120 --> 00:08:37,080 the environment, for something material, for the environment, for the wall of 116 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:41,240 the house, for the days of the house, then that' s it. 117 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:46,039 But it' s a physical action, it' s a wall that 118 00:08:46,120 --> 00:08:50,840 we put up to stop it, to think that a verbal limit or to 119 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:56,960 verbalize a norm that we' ve put for security is going to make them 120 00:08:56,039 --> 00:09:00,519 comply when their inhibitory control is not yet developed, as is the case, 121 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:03,360 for example, five years, four years, that is, five years down, 122 00:09:03,799 --> 00:09:07,600 because it' s a highway not to be or to be seen. 123 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:11,399 There are children who have more inhibitory control and more thinking ability. It' 124 00:09:11,399 --> 00:09:15,279 s worth more maturity and there' s other kids that don' t and 125 00:09:15,279 --> 00:09:16,480 then there' s fear. With fear we can achieve it. But it 126 00:09:16,519 --> 00:09:22,200 ' s out of fear, it' s not about education. Okay, 127 00:09:22,919 --> 00:09:26,840 so it' s important, that it' s not out of fear that 128 00:09:26,879 --> 00:09:30,639 they' re going to fall, but out of fear of what you' 129 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:33,200 re going to do to them, that is, it' s a fear 130 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:35,039 of you to the reference person. So, I think the most important reflection 131 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:41,600 is that we want our daughters and sons to be afraid of us. For 132 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:45,519 my part, it' s not that they' re afraid that the Tobogan 133 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:48,600 is going to fall and then or not that I' m afraid that, 134 00:09:48,879 --> 00:09:50,200 like paint the wall, the wall is going to be FEA. No, 135 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:54,879 no, no, which is afraid of our reaction. And that fear in 136 00:09:54,879 --> 00:09:58,039 the background is translated. He' s not gonna love me enough. He 137 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,639 ' s not gonna want me enough. I' m not going to belong. 138 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:05,159 And not belonging is a damage that affects our survival, that is, 139 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:09,799 nothing. That we have our physiological needs covered, we eat, we sleep, 140 00:10:09,919 --> 00:10:11,399 we can go to the bathroom. Next in the order of priorities is 141 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:16,440 that we belong to the group that they want us, that we are seen, 142 00:10:16,639 --> 00:10:20,320 that there is a love for us. And of course I have the 143 00:10:20,759 --> 00:10:24,799 rest of my physiological needs covered in front of that. I think if I 144 00:10:24,879 --> 00:10:28,480 paint the wall, they won' t love me. What I' m 145 00:10:28,519 --> 00:10:31,120 afraid of is that loss. Then it' s not that I stop doing 146 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:33,480 it,' cause think about it It' s true. I' m 147 00:10:33,519 --> 00:10:37,080 five years old and the wall is white and super pretty. Then I' 148 00:10:37,159 --> 00:10:39,279 m not going to paint it, because if not poor wall is going to 149 00:10:39,279 --> 00:10:43,320 look terrible. No, no, I don' t paint it because if 150 00:10:43,320 --> 00:10:46,639 not my dad, my mom, my reference person, the teacher, the 151 00:10:46,639 --> 00:10:50,559 teacher whatever' s there, he won' t want me enough that I 152 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:54,440 need. Then fear is born there, and that power of fear is very 153 00:10:54,519 --> 00:10:56,799 great. Of course because I' m gonna stop doing a lot of things. 154 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:00,240 What' s going to happen to what I said rancha, with that 155 00:11:00,279 --> 00:11:05,799 fear when we get to adolescence and we say hey because you don' t 156 00:11:05,799 --> 00:11:07,840 owe you five shots at once. If I don' t, I' 157 00:11:07,919 --> 00:11:11,360 m going to get scared that my group doesn' t belong to me. 158 00:11:11,399 --> 00:11:15,600 Then I' m not going to have that critical, working, mature spirit. 159 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:16,960 I' m going to follow what the rest of the people do. 160 00:11:18,200 --> 00:11:20,360 And that' s something we don' t do in the conscious zone, 161 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:24,679 that is, we don' t do all this reflection of I' m 162 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:26,679 eighteen years old or seventeen I' m here. Then they ask me such, 163 00:11:26,000 --> 00:11:28,200 then I have not decided and such, but it is something that part 164 00:11:28,279 --> 00:11:31,639 of our training, of what we have done many times and I here, 165 00:11:31,759 --> 00:11:35,200 if I take the case of driving you on the first day that you are 166 00:11:35,279 --> 00:11:37,840 going to give yourself to school, you are there as watching the intermittent in 167 00:11:37,840 --> 00:11:39,519 the march. Wait, you put it back every ten seconds and so on, 168 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:43,879 but now, when you drive, you do it automatically. We' 169 00:11:43,039 --> 00:11:48,600 ve automated that and what' s more, we' re perceptive without wanting 170 00:11:48,919 --> 00:11:52,799 to ah that we suddenly make just a fleeting friendship to a retroviso and we 171 00:11:52,799 --> 00:11:54,440 know if we can change lanes or not. When you do it on the 172 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:58,480 first day, you look thirty- two times or fifty to make sure you 173 00:11:58,519 --> 00:12:01,559 can change lanes and now we don' t tell each other. Oh, 174 00:12:01,759 --> 00:12:05,519 it' s not like as quickly as I' ve controlled, you' 175 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,279 ve controlled the distance the car was coming from behind, if there was another 176 00:12:07,279 --> 00:12:09,480 cross and car that was going to cross the lane. Contrary, if you 177 00:12:09,519 --> 00:12:11,120 were given time to pass, if the traffic light was, that is, 178 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:16,360 there are a lot of stimuli that you have learned to control by practice. 179 00:12:16,919 --> 00:12:18,480 So this is what I think, as adults, we all have driving meat, 180 00:12:18,759 --> 00:12:22,799 we understand if we don' t give girls and boys those training skills 181 00:12:22,879 --> 00:12:26,039 so that when they have to drive their car in the adult future and they 182 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:31,919 don' t have us saying the flashing look through the rearview mirror again change 183 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:37,639 gear. Now step to the back, now park in this hole that we 184 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:43,240 ' re all the time ticking them that don' t go, to know 185 00:12:43,240 --> 00:12:43,960 how to drive your car. And if they know how to drive their car, 186 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:48,200 because they still get in the car of people not suitable around them, 187 00:12:48,639 --> 00:12:50,039 then that' s where we get the fears. And I think that if 188 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:54,919 when we' re as adults, we do this exercise and think if we 189 00:12:54,000 --> 00:12:58,360 want to drive our own car in our own way and our children want to 190 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:01,679 give them that freedom, because maybe we start not thinking about setting those limits. 191 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:05,879 It has to do with it and for me you are the most important 192 00:13:05,879 --> 00:13:09,799 reflection. And then there will be tools that we' ll talk about and 193 00:13:09,879 --> 00:13:11,759 how to do it and how and frustration and so on. But I think 194 00:13:11,759 --> 00:13:16,120 if we always go back to that focus of me tomorrow, I want you 195 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:20,759 to have all those abilities, I want you to have all that perception that 196 00:13:20,799 --> 00:13:22,159 I have just to change lanes, which is one thing the dumbest thing in 197 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:24,120 the world, because imagine in life what you' re going to find. 198 00:13:24,480 --> 00:13:28,600 Well, yes, I want to give you your training. And that goes 199 00:13:28,759 --> 00:13:31,840 through a lot of acceptance and, as Aranche says, a lot of reflection 200 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:33,159 and to tell you, but why you' re not taking a shower. 201 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:37,639 Nowncha' s got smaller ones. You know Monica and I are older. 202 00:13:37,519 --> 00:13:41,720 Then things happen like good, because now the shower is not in your life. 203 00:13:41,840 --> 00:13:46,279 Hey what we do, how we put a safety limit that has to 204 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:50,080 do with hygiene, because, of course, you have to shower. This 205 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:52,360 is a reality from where I do it, from the fear of if you 206 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:56,120 don' t shower, it will pass. I don' t know what 207 00:13:56,159 --> 00:13:58,919 or I won' t make you dinner or I won' t want to 208 00:13:58,919 --> 00:14:01,759 play with you or from somewhere else. You' re depending on where I 209 00:14:01,799 --> 00:14:03,879 do it. And whatever that bothers me, I' m either going in 210 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:09,000 revenge or going with you to give you tools, because that' s because 211 00:14:09,080 --> 00:14:11,480 tomorrow I' m not going to shower you when you' re in college. 212 00:14:11,039 --> 00:14:15,559 You' ll tell yourself your fellows who smell like your feet aren' 213 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:18,559 t bad. So this for me is the part that has to start from 214 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:24,679 the main reflection, beyond the headlines and there I leave you also to the 215 00:14:24,720 --> 00:14:31,080 chak that is temozo. Yeah, it' s to go degrating well, 216 00:14:31,559 --> 00:14:35,080 to land a little bit. As in the different times in which limits are 217 00:14:35,159 --> 00:14:41,279 set. We have to think. We have an invitation to the reflection of 218 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:46,000 each family that it really is a limit. A limit means that it is 219 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:50,799 very likely that, either I, whether it is the boy or the girl 220 00:14:50,840 --> 00:15:00,240 or the environment or the other person, these three parameters will suffer a great 221 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:05,120 damage or a mean damage, but very likely. No. So it' 222 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:11,000 s a question of the type of damage, the amount of damage, and 223 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:13,120 it' s kind of mean or a lot, and the probability of it 224 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:18,240 happening. Then we have to do that reflection, because many times we are 225 00:15:18,679 --> 00:15:22,919 setting limits when in reality life teaches and we are going to give our creatures 226 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:28,159 a chance to make mistakes and live the consequences of their actions. Look here 227 00:15:28,519 --> 00:15:31,600 not as a reproach and I told you, but as hands that sustain the 228 00:15:31,679 --> 00:15:35,279 discomfort of having lived that experience, which is painful. So here that part 229 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:41,480 is very important too. Look at the mistakes and how we accompany them. 230 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:48,759 But many times we are there because of that fear that they will be wrong 231 00:15:48,799 --> 00:15:50,039 or that physical harm will be done. But it' s a physical damage 232 00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:56,159 like a bump, like a scrape or a bit of a bump. But 233 00:15:56,240 --> 00:16:00,159 let' s go something that you won' t end with points, because 234 00:16:00,159 --> 00:16:03,960 that' s it. He needs to live it and he needs to be 235 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:06,679 tested, especially, besides, this when they' re little, they' 236 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:11,759 re still in that control, in that conquest of the movement, and there 237 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:15,879 ' s a part of him that you want to prove to adults everything he 238 00:16:15,039 --> 00:16:19,919 ' s capable of, and adults often invalidate that ability, then there' 239 00:16:19,919 --> 00:16:25,519 s a power struggle that I' m going to show you when they just 240 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:30,799 want to explore and show everything that his body is able to do with that 241 00:16:30,799 --> 00:16:34,080 great capacity within such a tiny body. That on the one hand, then, 242 00:16:34,360 --> 00:16:37,799 when we' ve already removed all the straw, everything we' re 243 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:42,720 putting limits, that is, when we' re not, we also have 244 00:16:44,039 --> 00:16:45,679 to think when we' re putting limits by an external judgment. Okay because 245 00:16:45,840 --> 00:16:52,759 situations that I say in my house so nothing when I live them and I 246 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:56,279 am surrounded by people who are pointing at me there, it seems that there 247 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:56,480 is greater danger, but in reality, the danger is the same. What 248 00:16:56,480 --> 00:17:02,200 is a danger is that they are criticizing me, not because watch then be 249 00:17:02,240 --> 00:17:07,720 aware of that and do not take charge of our creatures of this question that 250 00:17:07,799 --> 00:17:14,880 shows you and know, because that opinions will be many and that is and 251 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:17,559 is already there. Then you die little, eh sorry. I do. 252 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:22,240 Yeah, total, yeah. Proo on communication issues always say you have to 253 00:17:22,279 --> 00:17:33,240 pause after an important point. Here would come a pause there already, until 254 00:17:33,319 --> 00:17:37,599 next week. We' re continuing the week, okay. But it' 255 00:17:37,599 --> 00:17:40,400 s also, as Chris says, a matter of training. I mean, 256 00:17:40,799 --> 00:17:42,359 I, in the first time my children went up to a very high place 257 00:17:44,680 --> 00:17:48,559 and people were there whispering two children and now, look at it, I 258 00:17:48,599 --> 00:17:53,519 focus on what feedback I can give them. But there are already other times 259 00:17:53,559 --> 00:17:56,440 that there is no other time that the red face went with a tomato and 260 00:17:56,480 --> 00:18:00,519 I say land swallow me. Evidently, you know that we have this for 261 00:18:02,599 --> 00:18:07,519 everything, but doing things from more security, since it' s really good 262 00:18:07,559 --> 00:18:12,319 or bad as far as behavior is concerned, for me evil is what hurts 263 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:15,799 other people. It' s hurting, not because you' re already seeing 264 00:18:15,880 --> 00:18:21,039 it as wild, because you' re waiting for two moves to your bodily 265 00:18:21,039 --> 00:18:23,519 capacity. Well, it' s yours. I think that here, in 266 00:18:23,519 --> 00:18:29,599 the part that you said arancha to reflect on the risk of what it is 267 00:18:29,640 --> 00:18:33,480 doing in that assessment of limits, you know that I like to take it 268 00:18:33,559 --> 00:18:37,640 to examples that adults have super internalized. No, because I think they kind 269 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:41,519 of connect very quickly and it happens with the car, the vehicle, but 270 00:18:41,519 --> 00:18:45,359 it also happens with me here I' m always going to tell you about 271 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:48,000 the insurance, the house, the home, the car, when you' 272 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:52,119 re not. And here, well we can make special mention of a friend, 273 00:18:52,599 --> 00:18:55,319 our Javi, Elcano, who is dedicated to the topic of insurance. 274 00:18:56,200 --> 00:18:59,519 One hundred percent of the real ones and with him I have talked a lot 275 00:18:59,519 --> 00:19:03,960 about this topic, but for the probabilistic theme, and I connected it very 276 00:19:03,079 --> 00:19:07,200 quickly, because I thought when they offer us insurance for the house and tell 277 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:10,920 us look is that it will put you in. If you have a mahogany 278 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:12,680 table, it includes you and you, after I don' t have a 279 00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:15,599 mahogany table, It' s not that it also includes you if you have 280 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:18,200 four cars, already, because I don' t have four cars, not 281 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:21,559 that it includes you also if your cousin comes from I don' t know 282 00:19:21,599 --> 00:19:22,839 where already, but I don' t have a cousin that comes from I 283 00:19:22,839 --> 00:19:26,200 don' t know where. Then I choose that sure fits my real needs. 284 00:19:26,599 --> 00:19:30,160 So I think that sometimes with mine and kids what we buy is like 285 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:33,160 the big insurance, not the risk insurance, that nothing ever happens to him, 286 00:19:33,359 --> 00:19:38,920 but the probability of it happening many times is very small. So you 287 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:44,839 ' re paying a very high price for setting so many limits so that that 288 00:19:45,640 --> 00:19:47,799 doesn' t happen, that you' re missing the essence. So I 289 00:19:47,839 --> 00:19:52,400 think we have to kind of do that game of really this to see what 290 00:19:52,599 --> 00:20:00,319 real consequences it' s going to have is in the grass, it' 291 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:02,799 s wetting this, so all risk. I have to buy all the risk. 292 00:20:03,319 --> 00:20:06,599 Hey, you don' t hear, look, but a tractor' 293 00:20:06,640 --> 00:20:07,920 s coming this way. You know at full speed, man, well, 294 00:20:08,079 --> 00:20:11,559 of course, I have to buy all the risk, because if you run 295 00:20:11,599 --> 00:20:15,880 her over, something very serious is going to happen, but it' s 296 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:18,279 been stained, what a risk she has. I think that if adults sometimes 297 00:20:18,279 --> 00:20:21,519 start playing and if we were least going to play with what I' m 298 00:20:21,559 --> 00:20:25,200 sure you' re buying to set the limits. The world' s mega 299 00:20:25,279 --> 00:20:26,839 all- hazard is that you don' t need it anyway. You know 300 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:30,160 the same thing. You really need a more fit to your family and your 301 00:20:30,279 --> 00:20:34,039 life. And that' s where your value system comes in, your belief 302 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:37,160 system, and that' s what rancha said. Sometimes it has happened to 303 00:20:37,160 --> 00:20:41,839 me, because when you let them walk barefoot, for example, in the 304 00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:45,400 grass, of course because there is a look like it was noticed. You 305 00:20:47,680 --> 00:20:49,599 know girls as a boy, because of course he' s going to go 306 00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:55,759 to an office tomorrow in a skyscraper and he' s going barefoot. Well, 307 00:20:55,759 --> 00:20:56,559 it didn' t happen to me. I mean now my son wants 308 00:20:56,640 --> 00:21:00,559 to wear x- shoes or maybe you know it didn' t happen to 309 00:21:00,599 --> 00:21:03,920 me, that suddenly he wants to go barefoot. But if I wanted to 310 00:21:03,960 --> 00:21:06,119 and suddenly I' m going to Australia, I haven' t gone, 311 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:11,359 no, but I' ve been told and the lot of management people are 312 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:12,720 walking barefoot down the street and people are going to say bo Australia, cool 313 00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:17,640 Mogollón. People go barefoot because they' re super clean and I love it 314 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:22,039 and I want to go there because people are super civilized. Ah and there 315 00:21:22,079 --> 00:21:25,359 what happens that this does not, the risk is different or what has happened. 316 00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:30,240 It' s just that sometimes when we really compare and evaluate and we 317 00:21:30,319 --> 00:21:33,799 ' re going to make real risk we realize that things aren' t as 318 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:34,720 serious as we think they' re going to happen. Because in that case 319 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:38,319 they' re giving barefoot or they want to get on a curb and go 320 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:42,240 down or on a ladder, what can happen if a small sled is given. 321 00:21:44,559 --> 00:21:45,519 I' m going to see that it' s going to open the 322 00:21:45,519 --> 00:21:47,960 back of the head or because it' s insurance at all risk. I 323 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:51,839 evaluate the risks just like when they present me with insurance, I evaluate and 324 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:55,839 decide which one I buy and I think if we do that game and think 325 00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,400 and come, I' m going to evaluate the risks, what a policy 326 00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:02,880 I buy for this. All risk is worth average risk under little. There 327 00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:06,119 ' s no risk, because that' s it, and I' ll 328 00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:07,799 start removing a lot of limits. And when I take a lot of limits 329 00:22:07,839 --> 00:22:11,200 and stay with the really necessary ones, the best thing is that we live 330 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:14,279 much quieter, because we don' t have to be with him all day. 331 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,319 Don' t touch it, don' t take it, don' 332 00:22:17,319 --> 00:22:18,039 t get the glass out of there. Don' t touch the door handle, 333 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:22,319 don' t touch the elevator button Be careful that you' re going 334 00:22:22,359 --> 00:22:25,200 to fall careful with the spoon. When you go to Grandma' s house, 335 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:30,599 I don' t know how many you' re reducing until you meet 336 00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,799 others' needs, because if at Grandma' s house it' s a 337 00:22:33,839 --> 00:22:36,039 rule she doesn' t like, we' re taking care of her. 338 00:22:36,839 --> 00:22:40,720 It' s a rule that we understand from there the function of age, 339 00:22:41,079 --> 00:22:44,279 because you either understand it or if it' s smaller, because you just 340 00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:47,920 have to put aside that we' ll talk about it that sometimes it' 341 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,079 s as easy as if you don' t want me to take the spoon, 342 00:22:51,079 --> 00:22:51,079 because get it out of its height because you don' t understand it, 343 00:22:51,079 --> 00:22:52,599 that' s it. Don' t complicate yourself, the assistance is 344 00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:56,920 easy, it doesn' t have, it doesn' t measure a meter, 345 00:22:56,920 --> 00:23:00,920 you raise it a little bit and ready. Then I always propose that 346 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:03,960 you take him to the adult gaze. Not what you' d like to 347 00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:07,319 happen in that insurance that you' re going to buy and all risk, 348 00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:11,880 because it doesn' t work. Going with what you' ve said, 349 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:15,720 Chris, in the end, in fact, we' re going to take, 350 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:19,279 take, take away and take what' s important and what' s 351 00:23:19,279 --> 00:23:22,279 important to what we can answer why. Because many times the problem is that 352 00:23:22,279 --> 00:23:23,559 they tell me, it' s that you ask me why, and I 353 00:23:23,599 --> 00:23:26,880 don' t know how to explain it, that' s always if it 354 00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:29,839 ' s a limit. There' s always an explanation. Look we can 355 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,759 ' t, so we have the explanation means they' re going to understand 356 00:23:33,839 --> 00:23:37,640 it or accept it. But we are able to give it to you from 357 00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:45,119 the security of what I am doing is to protect you and we are able 358 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:48,039 to answer why in. On other occasions it is not worth, then there 359 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:55,000 makes a difference and then it has an impact on the safety of the adults 360 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,880 who are setting those limits and do not walk in that dance. Now I 361 00:23:57,880 --> 00:24:00,799 do, not now. Now yes, not now, because I haven' 362 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,960 t leaked why I' m doing it. This is an intuition, and 363 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:07,599 that intuition where it comes from, for many times from the limits or from 364 00:24:07,599 --> 00:24:11,559 the norms or punishments that put us and what we have thought of you as 365 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:18,440 well seen or poorly seen a little at the level of cultural belief. Then 366 00:24:19,039 --> 00:24:22,480 it is also the other here of the question, which is to answer why. 367 00:24:23,039 --> 00:24:26,200 And notice that after all this saying that limits are necessary, obviously, 368 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:30,200 and you have to put limits and that what is the key to limits, 369 00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:36,279 presence, presence when they are small, physical near and short term, because 370 00:24:36,279 --> 00:24:41,359 it is you who sets the limit, your physical hand that stops. But, 371 00:24:41,599 --> 00:24:45,240 as I said before, it' s not revenge, it' s 372 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,359 a hand that stops and says I won' t let you do this. 373 00:24:47,920 --> 00:24:51,400 I understand that you' ve been very angry and I won' t let 374 00:24:51,799 --> 00:24:56,599 you hit your brother and fuck and hold him the way you can take care 375 00:24:56,640 --> 00:25:00,720 of him without hurting the other and without letting him hurt you. It' 376 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:04,160 s not that you can' t hit punished or whipped or, because it 377 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:10,400 ' s totally normalized today. Still this for when they' re little with 378 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,359 two little years old and they stick, so that' s the one. 379 00:25:12,799 --> 00:25:18,799 That is the first strategy by which physical presence must begin, when you also 380 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:22,839 know that tup who has a temperament with less ibitory control, with greater reactivity 381 00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:29,559 and with greater aggressiveness in the face of the attack, because that is to 382 00:25:29,599 --> 00:25:33,960 say, pasting is a defense. And that' s so we can interpret 383 00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:37,680 the attack as not so bad. That' s subjective. But in most 384 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:42,480 cases, most of them. Then there are specific cases, there are specific 385 00:25:42,519 --> 00:25:45,839 cases and stages that can be pasted for other reasons. But when I talk 386 00:25:45,839 --> 00:25:49,519 about physical assault, it' s usually a defense. Why, because they 387 00:25:49,559 --> 00:25:55,680 don' t have other skills then. There' s our figure, since 388 00:25:55,799 --> 00:26:00,559 we know that it reacts like this to be close enough to be able to 389 00:26:00,599 --> 00:26:04,119 stop and give him an alternative to solve what he' s suffering, that 390 00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:08,279 is, what' s happening in another way, that' s a way 391 00:26:08,279 --> 00:26:10,839 without harm. And here, it' s very important to me. Something 392 00:26:11,079 --> 00:26:17,039 arancha forgiveness that is very implicit in that is not using the lie, that 393 00:26:17,079 --> 00:26:22,240 is, in many cases, when we solve why we use the lie that 394 00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,519 you can' t leave alone because the man in the sack is going to 395 00:26:25,519 --> 00:26:29,480 take you. Don' t do it, I don' t know what, 396 00:26:30,279 --> 00:26:32,720 why the police are coming and punishing you because you painted the floor. 397 00:26:33,839 --> 00:26:38,079 They quickly detect what is lying and what is not. And there, besides 398 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,079 you' re not setting a limit, but you' re making it a 399 00:26:41,079 --> 00:26:45,880 threat, a threat to revenge. Besides, you' re using the lie. 400 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:48,400 And of course, the moment they connect these ideas, which it' 401 00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:52,559 s not too late, what they' re going to do is use the 402 00:26:52,599 --> 00:26:57,039 same system, the same system or the lie to avoid a consequence that can 403 00:26:57,119 --> 00:27:00,160 come that when they' re moved to the pleadolescence of the ras is something 404 00:27:03,759 --> 00:27:06,519 they' re going to learn. Then they' re going to use it 405 00:27:06,599 --> 00:27:10,039 as a resource because they think it' s a valid resource, because they 406 00:27:10,039 --> 00:27:12,680 think it' s a valid resource, because you' re their reference person 407 00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:18,960 to whom you, they have infinite love and admiration up to an age and 408 00:27:18,079 --> 00:27:21,559 they absorb everything from us and we' re constantly using it. So, 409 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:25,240 of course, I also want to use it constantly, that we know that 410 00:27:25,279 --> 00:27:29,880 in many cases it is not done in the majority, it is not done 411 00:27:30,519 --> 00:27:33,400 in the evil way, so, trying to prevent insurance at all risk, 412 00:27:33,559 --> 00:27:37,759 but it is not necessary then to be careful with those veiled threats and those 413 00:27:37,799 --> 00:27:41,279 lies that are also behind, because there may be a real threat, that 414 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:41,599 is, you run out of ice cream and there is no ice cream. 415 00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:45,799 It' s just that then there are sometimes these burdens that I do a 416 00:27:45,799 --> 00:27:48,359 lot. If you do, I don' t know what' s on 417 00:27:48,359 --> 00:27:51,559 it. Like I don' t want to take responsibility. I' m 418 00:27:51,559 --> 00:27:53,599 going to hold a third party responsible, which is the wolf, the sack 419 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,559 man, the police or x who' s going to be the person who 420 00:27:56,559 --> 00:28:02,920 ' s going to come, to punish you clearly, so it' s 421 00:28:03,079 --> 00:28:07,160 very vengeful in the background and apart, it generates there like some sort of 422 00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:07,279 they' re watching all over the place. This is not a big brother. 423 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:11,599 It' s just that it' s not just that I paint the 424 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,319 wall at home when my mother doesn' t see me, it' s 425 00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:18,559 that Mr That or the man from the sac or whatever and it' s 426 00:28:18,559 --> 00:28:21,279 going to take me that it seems like very dramatic. This puts limits on 427 00:28:21,279 --> 00:28:29,599 us, this is humiliating, threatening, having, because we wouldn' t 428 00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:30,960 like our work to be told by someone. If you don' t leave 429 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:34,279 this report that I told you on the table, they' ll come from 430 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,400 another company and take money off your payroll. I' d say Ostraspedrin. 431 00:28:37,519 --> 00:28:41,880 You know this. I don' t want it to happen to me when 432 00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:45,039 you find out it' s a lie you' re going to try. 433 00:28:45,079 --> 00:28:48,359 So, since I know it' s a lie, I' m going 434 00:28:48,359 --> 00:28:52,079 to do it because besides, now I' m free because you lied to 435 00:28:52,519 --> 00:28:55,559 me and there' s a flaw in the relationship of trust. I think 436 00:28:55,599 --> 00:28:57,920 it' s very important, because in a lot of cases these limits I 437 00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:02,960 do see them very associated with these or very big lies kind of get them 438 00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:04,759 or lies you run out of ice cream, but then there' s ice 439 00:29:04,759 --> 00:29:07,480 cream, that is, then there' s ice cream, because then I 440 00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:11,400 ' m still in the pool and then all the other kids have bought it 441 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:12,799 and you end up buying it, I tell you, but tomorrow no, 442 00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:15,079 but tomorrow yes, I mean, because we forget. You know we don 443 00:29:15,119 --> 00:29:18,720 ' t and then we go in there in a loop you' re gonna 444 00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:22,680 run out of TV eight months, but just that day in the afternoon, 445 00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:26,039 you' re already watching TV. So what' s the point? They 446 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:26,519 ' re not even limits You don' t even get to be a punishment. 447 00:29:26,799 --> 00:29:30,160 It' s like a constant threat that loses all validity of what we 448 00:29:30,279 --> 00:29:37,200 can say. Well, you' ve told yourself lies. You' ve 449 00:29:37,359 --> 00:29:44,799 talked about fictional characters who are going to act to exercise revenge that we don 450 00:29:44,799 --> 00:29:47,599 ' t want to think, that is, that we' re lecturing others. 451 00:29:48,599 --> 00:29:51,640 But then it came to my mind that I hadn' t prepared it 452 00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:55,359 for myself. But I will also comment on these spaces in which there is 453 00:29:55,400 --> 00:30:00,519 indeed a person responsible for security and, instead of taking charge of the actions 454 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:04,680 of our own creatures, we delegate that responsibility to that person who is not 455 00:30:04,759 --> 00:30:10,599 and what we do is to give the message. Stop doing this because if 456 00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:14,920 you' re not going to come cheap or safe, the person who stops 457 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,480 throwing the bread off the table that comes this and the other day stops throwing 458 00:30:17,559 --> 00:30:19,440 the bread that comes the waiter and fights you and you ring and the poor 459 00:30:19,559 --> 00:30:23,640 waiter went through the back. Saying I will not say yes, yes, 460 00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:30,079 because this same thing I a week ago and I in the ludoteca it happened 461 00:30:30,319 --> 00:30:33,480 to me a lot, that is, families that came to their children, 462 00:30:33,839 --> 00:30:37,240 they put their children very far away and then when they could already find us. 463 00:30:37,279 --> 00:30:38,200 It' s good for her to run. If he' s not 464 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:45,240 gonna fight you, I' m not gonna fight me there, so look 465 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:48,319 at that. Apart from that I think everyone wants a quality that we would 466 00:30:48,359 --> 00:30:52,480 like our creatures to have in the future, or it' s already the 467 00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:56,599 responsibility. Responsibility is a very important quality for all people and I believe that 468 00:30:56,119 --> 00:31:03,279 we seek it and want to cultivate it as much as we have creatures in 469 00:31:03,319 --> 00:31:07,039 our charge. And yet, with those messages, at no time are we 470 00:31:07,079 --> 00:31:11,480 educating responsibility. Why, because I' m not taking responsibility for the person 471 00:31:11,519 --> 00:31:14,359 I' m in charge of is you and then, I' m not 472 00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:15,519 explaining to you what it' s worth. I' m not telling you 473 00:31:15,519 --> 00:31:18,920 why you don' t have to do this, what impact it has on 474 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:23,319 others, that is, the consequence of your action, what damage it has 475 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,880 around it, but I' m just telling you that you' re going 476 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:29,359 to suffer harm for someone else who isn' t me. So there' 477 00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:34,519 s a lot of dialogue and there' s a lot of explanation to get 478 00:31:34,519 --> 00:31:34,960 them to understand the reason why we' re setting up the companies. There 479 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:40,960 are many times that, when we explain it, simply what they need is 480 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:44,880 a dialogue and an explanation. There are other times that explanation very well. 481 00:31:45,119 --> 00:31:48,319 Yeah, yeah, and I keep doing it, because there' s the 482 00:31:48,319 --> 00:31:51,400 physical limit. But there has already been a middle way in which we have 483 00:31:51,480 --> 00:31:56,000 been able to give the necessary information as to why we act in that particular 484 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:57,480 way. Why we coerce his freedom, because it is in fact a coercion 485 00:31:57,480 --> 00:32:04,480 of his freedom. You limit that and so we teach them that when coercion 486 00:32:04,559 --> 00:32:07,160 in their freedom, there has to be a reason, which is that they 487 00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:12,799 do not harm another person. And then there we are educating responsibility. I 488 00:32:12,799 --> 00:32:17,079 think it is also important that responsibility is established over a system where we are 489 00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:22,079 adopting beliefs and priorities, that is, we know how we are responsible honor, 490 00:32:22,680 --> 00:32:25,640 because we are evaluating what happens and learning it over time. So, 491 00:32:25,640 --> 00:32:28,839 in the end, you say good. If I have to hand over a 492 00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:34,160 job such a day and I haven' t had time and suffer from that 493 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:37,119 consequence that I haven' t had time and I want to be responsible, 494 00:32:37,359 --> 00:32:38,519 I learn that the next day I have to start first. Or that I 495 00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:44,279 have to do this faster and I am setting out what my measures are to 496 00:32:44,319 --> 00:32:50,039 fulfil that responsibility. If I do not learn to establish those tools of measures 497 00:32:50,039 --> 00:32:52,440 that have to do with oneself, it is very difficult to exercise a responsibility, 498 00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:55,200 because I will always ask someone else to pay me what to do. 499 00:32:55,839 --> 00:33:00,720 Then I won' t have independence to execute it myself. And then we 500 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:02,680 come in and we say these kids are irresponsible. It' s just that 501 00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,599 if you don' t tell them exactly how they have to do it, 502 00:33:06,599 --> 00:33:07,599 they can' t do it. It is that we have not given them 503 00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:14,000 tools to prove, because the natural consequence has been so harmful that what we 504 00:33:14,039 --> 00:33:15,680 have done has been to inhibit it. And I tell you an anecdote that 505 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:22,960 John broke his arm when he was four years old and then he broke nothing 506 00:33:22,039 --> 00:33:27,480 in the dumbest way possible. I mean, they were playing, he laid 507 00:33:27,519 --> 00:33:30,200 his hand behind a little bit of nothing and broke his arm, I mean, 508 00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:34,079 it was something you seem to say, because it shouldn' t have 509 00:33:34,079 --> 00:33:37,359 happened, but it happens. There are no accidents that sometimes are like this 510 00:33:37,359 --> 00:33:40,559 and then he had a season where I mom. If I get up here, 511 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:45,480 I' m going to break my arm, I mean, I' 512 00:33:45,559 --> 00:33:49,960 ve established that his measure of the damage I could suffer was now. How 513 00:33:50,079 --> 00:33:52,880 do I know, because now I' ve been climbing a few curbs a 514 00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:53,559 lot. I' ve never broken my arm. Now I' ve broken 515 00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:57,599 my arm. If I climb higher or do this, I' m gonna 516 00:33:57,680 --> 00:34:00,920 break my arm. Then ask Mom. If I jump in here on the 517 00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:01,880 slide, I' m gonna break my arm. There were some stones. 518 00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:05,319 I remember a mother- in- law, what a rock. I don 519 00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:08,119 ' t get up so I don' t break my arm, obviously, 520 00:34:08,119 --> 00:34:08,800 because there was a fear behind it. No, no, no, no, 521 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 522 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 523 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 524 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 525 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 526 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 527 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 528 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 529 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 530 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 531 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 532 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 533 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:08,800 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 534 00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:12,159 no. Nobody likes to have been with an arm in a sling, with 535 00:34:12,199 --> 00:34:15,679 four years old who also had to be quiet. No, and of course, 536 00:34:16,039 --> 00:34:21,039 you have to go balancing, well what can happen and what strategy you 537 00:34:21,039 --> 00:34:22,239 ' re going to have if you' re going to hold on to the 538 00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:25,199 stone or not, to realize that you' re falling into the game, 539 00:34:25,199 --> 00:34:29,639 talking. That' s the probability and the accidents we' re going back 540 00:34:29,679 --> 00:34:30,880 to insurance. The probability that you have one of the house is small, 541 00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,519 but as you have it at once as you go to Gaita. That' 542 00:34:34,559 --> 00:34:37,440 s not why we have home insurance, because there' s a small probability, 543 00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:42,760 but it can happen, but we have evaluation criteria. Sure. I 544 00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:45,280 live next to a river and I' m on a ground floor man, 545 00:34:45,400 --> 00:34:47,039 because the probability of being inunified is greater than if I live on a fifth 546 00:34:47,119 --> 00:34:52,000 floor and I don' t have any river nearby, because if I also 547 00:34:52,000 --> 00:34:54,440 don' t have a neighbor upstairs, because I can only be flooded with 548 00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:59,119 my washing machine that will go down. This is then measured to our girls. 549 00:34:59,159 --> 00:35:02,679 Children we have to let them actually experiment with consequences that allow them to 550 00:35:02,679 --> 00:35:07,760 organize their control system and then establish that responsibility. And this, in many 551 00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:12,679 cases it does not and they themselves do not do it because if the consequence 552 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,880 is not natural, but the consequence becomes a punishment, for man, I 553 00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:17,880 will not experience. You know if I know you' re going to rock 554 00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:22,119 me and I' m going to run out of ice cream, because I 555 00:35:22,159 --> 00:35:24,440 don' t experience anything, because the fear that I want to eat ice 556 00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:28,760 cream over the stone prevails. These also happen which I will not experience if 557 00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:31,800 I have not led to the prepared natu lesson and suspend because what will come 558 00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:37,480 after the mariner. But then, when it' s your responsibility to know 559 00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,480 that you have to do a job on time, that you have to study 560 00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:43,920 something, that you want to be self- taught in a subject without anyone 561 00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,719 going to evaluate you, that is, I want to learn to play guitar, 562 00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:47,800 because yes, I don' t have an evaluation behind me. I 563 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:52,480 don' t have anything. There also between responsibility and two concepts that we 564 00:35:52,559 --> 00:35:55,360 then love in adult life, which are constancy, perseverance and effort, and 565 00:35:55,519 --> 00:36:00,360 those are linked to responsibility, and that you have to work them out And 566 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:04,880 you have to generate tools, because then yesterday arancha, I were in a 567 00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:08,480 networking and we had a person called Pau who gave talks to managers and said 568 00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:13,199 jo is that this you tell for the children it turns out that I tell 569 00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:15,039 great managers how to work, the constancy, the perseverance, the effort, 570 00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:20,199 and we did the same reflection if from little ones we had trained in all 571 00:36:20,239 --> 00:36:24,119 of it instead of cutting it to later want to recover it in adult life, 572 00:36:24,159 --> 00:36:28,119 because we would not be in this situation of having to give talks to 573 00:36:29,159 --> 00:36:34,199 great managers that is the responsibility and the natural consequences of your team not having 574 00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:39,519 done the work in time. And that' s where we go, so 575 00:36:39,599 --> 00:36:45,639 boundaries do when they' re needed. And to evaluate this, well, 576 00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:50,800 another pause doesn' t point it out. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 577 00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:54,199 but this is what you said about learning it from childhood. The other day 578 00:36:54,360 --> 00:37:00,800 I was commenting on the classes I' m giving now to people of eighteen 579 00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:09,239 twenty years and how it' s helping me and I' m integrating everything 580 00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:16,519 I' ve learned with you, with these programs, with we' re 581 00:37:17,159 --> 00:37:24,599 tribe and with the approach of respectful parenting. How many things it helps us 582 00:37:24,599 --> 00:37:31,880 to change that approach and how well it makes us integrate it, and now 583 00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:37,639 not only thinking about creatures, but how we communicate, how we see life 584 00:37:37,679 --> 00:37:40,519 in how we deal with things that are not in the end we are tribe 585 00:37:40,519 --> 00:37:46,760 goes from us. Secret spoiler, if anyone had still noticed us. Yes, 586 00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:51,800 because when one of the fiercest and cruelest criticisms I hear against respectful upbringing 587 00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:57,960 is that it leaves mothers and fathers aside and puts them in a confrontation that 588 00:37:58,039 --> 00:38:06,519 no one has asked for and in a categorization that no one has ever asked 589 00:38:06,599 --> 00:38:12,480 for, it accuses respectful upbringing of putting creatures ahead of the needs of adults, 590 00:38:12,559 --> 00:38:17,360 which you might say man, because it depends on what, because sometimes 591 00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:21,480 yes, but it is a matter of maturity and wisdom of the adult, 592 00:38:21,960 --> 00:38:28,039 that is, knowing when to put them and before putting the needs of a 593 00:38:28,079 --> 00:38:31,840 creature that is in your charge to your own. I don' t think 594 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:34,719 then it' s the same as if you have a senior dependent. Of 595 00:38:34,719 --> 00:38:39,639 course, your father is not dependent. Many times you are going to put 596 00:38:39,679 --> 00:38:43,400 your needs first for the care of that older person. And it' s 597 00:38:43,480 --> 00:38:47,320 not bad the same thing is posed less than I say it survives as a 598 00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:52,440 species than taking care of us all. It' s no, this isn 599 00:38:52,559 --> 00:38:57,719 ' t dumb the last one and whoever can be saved. But it is 600 00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:02,199 an attack that is done very frequently against respectful upbringing and that hurts me deeply 601 00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:13,039 because it comes from many occasions of segments, because they tree flags of modernity 602 00:39:13,119 --> 00:39:16,880 and freedom and rights that represent me as well. But let it be in 603 00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:21,400 this case, because I don' t consider it that way, because I 604 00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:28,800 think that in no case or at least I don' t understand it this 605 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:36,039 way implies abandonment when the first step is self- reflection and self- growth, 606 00:39:36,559 --> 00:39:42,679 if that exists, and self- thinking. No. And besides, 607 00:39:42,679 --> 00:39:45,400 you' re educating in empathy, that is, when there' s a 608 00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:51,559 fear. I have a training on boundaries and I start with the image of 609 00:39:51,639 --> 00:39:54,679 the tyrant child, which is this label that a tyrant child has then is 610 00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:59,639 not a child without limits, it is a child without empathy, that is, 611 00:39:59,679 --> 00:40:05,360 with lack of empathy Then the first thing we have and what I think 612 00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:09,000 gives respectful upbringing is a lot of dialogue of the emotional processes of all the 613 00:40:09,440 --> 00:40:14,199 members of the family, not only of the creatures. I believe that when 614 00:40:14,199 --> 00:40:16,679 we enter into that moment of consciousness in which we want to educate in another 615 00:40:17,119 --> 00:40:22,599 way, we begin to listen to them and begin to reflect on our own 616 00:40:23,039 --> 00:40:25,960 emotions, our own needs and talk to our children. I repeat, what 617 00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:30,039 we don' t do is make them pay for the damage they do. 618 00:40:30,679 --> 00:40:35,840 They do it, obviously, because they do more damage because they have less 619 00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:37,519 skills. I mean, that' s just it, because relationships aren' 620 00:40:37,599 --> 00:40:40,960 t equal. Relationships are asymmetric, cross- sectional. I' m bigger. 621 00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:45,159 I' m more of this from the parental safety circle. It has 622 00:40:45,199 --> 00:40:50,239 a concept that I really like that adults are bigger, stronger and more kind. 623 00:40:51,119 --> 00:40:53,239 I don' t know if he left me another more and more wise, 624 00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,880 you know, more rande, stronger and more kind. And so it 625 00:40:55,880 --> 00:41:00,440 is. Then I am all that more than you for my experience and I 626 00:41:00,519 --> 00:41:05,920 do not use it to crush you when you do not act in the best 627 00:41:05,960 --> 00:41:08,719 way, when you make a mistake for your short life experience and for the 628 00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:13,239 skills you still have to develop. But what is expected is revenge. Don 629 00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:16,760 ' t limit it. Yes, I am picking up my own words and 630 00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:23,039 I also share them, because I think that what you say is just missing 631 00:41:23,039 --> 00:41:28,000 from self- reflection, that is, when it is very hard to do, 632 00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:29,039 then, as it is very hard to do. And besides, we 633 00:41:29,079 --> 00:41:34,519 go in a world in a lot of hurry and that is not ready to 634 00:41:34,639 --> 00:41:36,440 take care of ourselves anymore not only with childhood, but at all levels. 635 00:41:37,159 --> 00:41:43,360 We need very quick answers and reflection sometimes you need your processes and your times. 636 00:41:44,079 --> 00:41:46,840 And sometimes we get into things like what you want me to be in 637 00:41:46,920 --> 00:41:51,320 the park all afternoon with the girl to the boy, because he needs it 638 00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:53,239 is that there is a lot of pain. There' s a lot of 639 00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:54,880 rage in that phrase, there' s a lot of need for self- 640 00:41:54,880 --> 00:41:59,880 care. What happens is that there you are very unbalanced the balance and you 641 00:42:00,559 --> 00:42:02,599 are thinking that you are covering the need of your child because you are in 642 00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,840 the park five hours, but you really don' t have to do a 643 00:42:07,840 --> 00:42:09,760 self- reflection exercise of one. You need to be there for those five 644 00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:14,920 hours and you need to be there with your face under leek, waiting for 645 00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:16,960 the minimum that passes to carry your rage and rage. Not consciously, we 646 00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:21,079 don' t do these processes in a constinti way And let' s think 647 00:42:21,159 --> 00:42:25,199 you' ll see how I do it, the brain works very emotionally and 648 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:29,320 then suddenly booms and shoots no and it' s just that on top of 649 00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:30,199 it I' m here all afternoon in the park. Now you go and 650 00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:34,559 get wet in the fountain and that' s it because I need an exit 651 00:42:34,559 --> 00:42:37,000 valve. So if I' m capable and it' s very complicated, 652 00:42:37,119 --> 00:42:40,519 eye, it' s very complicated to make an author reflection before we go 653 00:42:40,599 --> 00:42:45,559 out to that park and say let' s see how long I' m 654 00:42:45,559 --> 00:42:46,400 able to be in this park. I' m capable of being 100, 655 00:42:46,679 --> 00:42:49,840 I mean, the same. It' s ten minutes, because look, 656 00:42:50,159 --> 00:42:51,159 I can' t do it anymore. I' m super tired. I 657 00:42:51,199 --> 00:42:52,840 ' ve had a day upstairs at work. I got a hit in the 658 00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:55,039 car from behind. My mother' s putting my head on like a bomb. 659 00:42:55,119 --> 00:42:59,840 I have to stop by the supermarket. My husband is on a trip 660 00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:02,239 or I know I need to go for a coffee with a friend who just 661 00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:07,119 got divorced and I have all this here and for a moment, I say 662 00:43:07,119 --> 00:43:09,880 come, because he can only go to the park for ten minutes, just 663 00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:12,880 like I can only run one kilometer and I can' t run five. 664 00:43:13,159 --> 00:43:15,440 And why don' t you run five, because I can' t, 665 00:43:15,519 --> 00:43:16,840 because my body at the time isn' t ready to run five and run 666 00:43:16,840 --> 00:43:20,639 one. And it' s over. And I' m trying to do 667 00:43:20,639 --> 00:43:23,599 my best. And there it goes that in that balance of limits I am 668 00:43:23,639 --> 00:43:29,800 respecting myself and I am respecting your need. And there will be a lot 669 00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:34,639 of dialogue, obviously, if we have a very small baby girl, who 670 00:43:34,719 --> 00:43:37,559 needs to take her breast, who needs to change diapers, who needs biological 671 00:43:37,639 --> 00:43:40,880 needs, because I can' t explain to her that, obviously, that 672 00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:43,760 she doesn' t, but that' s a phase, a phase that 673 00:43:43,760 --> 00:43:46,159 passes faster. What we think happens very quickly, even if it seems very 674 00:43:46,239 --> 00:43:50,519 long, it happens very quickly and then it enters other phases. And in 675 00:43:50,559 --> 00:43:54,199 those other phases, communication, sincere communication, that is, we don' 676 00:43:54,239 --> 00:43:57,599 t need to tell them from little ones everything that happens to us. But 677 00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:01,119 you just make me say today I' m more tired to spend a lot 678 00:44:01,119 --> 00:44:06,239 of time in the park. We' re going down only four times that 679 00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,079 we hit the swings. We' re going to lower something that' s 680 00:44:08,079 --> 00:44:12,320 determined. That' s already a limit in itself. We' re gonna 681 00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:15,800 do twenty- five swings, we' re gonna do seven laps of the 682 00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:16,519 park with the BICI and it' s seven. Why, because I' 683 00:44:16,519 --> 00:44:19,960 ve already told you what' s going on. Why and I have a 684 00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:22,400 why, because I' m so tired. You remember that day that you 685 00:44:22,440 --> 00:44:25,559 were very tired and when we got home, you couldn' t do it 686 00:44:25,599 --> 00:44:29,079 anymore and I had to fuck you and connect you with your learning. If 687 00:44:29,159 --> 00:44:31,559 I connect with another learning I' ve had. Really, girl boys are 688 00:44:31,599 --> 00:44:36,639 much faster than we sometimes think. Oh yeah, I remember, Mom, 689 00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:39,960 that day I was too tired. Maybe you remember. This is also a 690 00:44:39,960 --> 00:44:43,039 wear and tear. I mean, me, if you think the park can 691 00:44:43,119 --> 00:44:45,960 go just ten minutes, take off four, that is, six, because 692 00:44:46,079 --> 00:44:49,039 four, you' re gonna wear them down. In this communication, which 693 00:44:49,079 --> 00:44:52,000 is very tired, sometimes you stay two, because do not go down you 694 00:44:52,039 --> 00:44:53,760 know lower the ascent to the portal and you go up it is finished. 695 00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:59,000 Don' t go to the park anymore There' s nothing wrong Find yourself 696 00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:01,239 another solution. You have to stay home and I know how to play hairdressing, 697 00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:05,559 because you guys are on the couch that comes in creativity, the game 698 00:45:05,639 --> 00:45:09,039 or the option. But we say I' m doing it for you what 699 00:45:09,039 --> 00:45:12,159 you' re doing for me coming to a park in a way that' 700 00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:15,639 s not what you have to come to, or come here to the movies 701 00:45:15,639 --> 00:45:17,920 that you didn' t want to come to watch the movie so I think 702 00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:19,679 it' s self- reflection. It' s the one we don' 703 00:45:19,679 --> 00:45:22,199 t do. And that' s where we think that they become tyrants, 704 00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:23,920 that they manipulate us, that we have to do everything they tell us, 705 00:45:24,159 --> 00:45:29,079 that there comes a generation of glass and this I recognize that it is very 706 00:45:29,079 --> 00:45:30,800 painful and that sometimes it happens to me and I also have fallen into the 707 00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:32,440 fuck that we came here and that we have been in the park. I 708 00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:36,519 don' t know what we' re up to now and you don' 709 00:45:36,599 --> 00:45:38,920 t want to pick up the shoes, which is the least I' ve 710 00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:42,440 asked, but how is it you and I what' s happening to me, 711 00:45:42,639 --> 00:45:45,039 because there are days that I say wow, that I' m a 712 00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:46,199 faire, that it' s all gone is that I have the energy there 713 00:45:46,199 --> 00:45:47,320 these weeks, that I' m tired. I' ve already warned, 714 00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,480 I look out for her to be tired, that is, starting at eight 715 00:45:52,639 --> 00:45:59,719 o' clock in the afternoon, warning Pipipi, that' s like detonating 716 00:45:59,760 --> 00:46:06,800 bombs, and in fact, once Juana now I can pass that I say 717 00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:08,000 she goes home, because I' ve warned her, and when they understand 718 00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:09,559 her, she goes into empathy. He tells me to make you a coffee, 719 00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:13,559 Mom, and you say I already have a coffee and I said well, 720 00:46:13,559 --> 00:46:15,239 we' re not bad. He hasn' t followed the salt and 721 00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:20,519 I saw how the room was and I said," God don' t 722 00:46:20,599 --> 00:46:23,000 do it or a strip please, or a huiscazo" And there we also 723 00:46:23,039 --> 00:46:25,960 connected with humor, creativity and play, which has always to do with everything 724 00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:31,960 I think we counted on every show and we had cases, but I think 725 00:46:32,039 --> 00:46:39,360 we' re leaving. We' ve already gone well. We' ve 726 00:46:39,440 --> 00:46:45,360 actually explained them throughout the podcast. So that' s what it was in 727 00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:50,679 the cases. It' s your physical presence saying what you' re going 728 00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:53,599 to do without waiting for the other to change, for the other to modify 729 00:46:53,599 --> 00:46:57,760 hisaction, because you are. I mean this overvaluation of the word, to 730 00:46:57,840 --> 00:47:00,159 the limit that I see when we choose them and say that a limit does 731 00:47:00,199 --> 00:47:04,159 have a very big impact on words and that' s what families tell me 732 00:47:04,159 --> 00:47:07,000 that accompanies a lot, that is, when they do that exercise of removing 733 00:47:07,039 --> 00:47:09,679 and they just keep the limits. Many times saying this is a limit already 734 00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:14,719 in the other person you receive it as uff not here, not anymore, 735 00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:21,440 then. Yeah. With that I think there' s a lot of work 736 00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:23,760 to be done for the families that are listening to us. Yes, communication 737 00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:30,960 as a basis for establishing any limit and communication with one also with the important, 738 00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:37,320 important and nothing I can add, because you have expressed it wonderfully. 739 00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:44,039 I' m sure it makes people reflect on our audience or not. But 740 00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:50,880 here' s the reflection and this is part of the learning that resonates that 741 00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:55,800 maybe it bothers you and you don' t agree, because tell us that 742 00:47:55,880 --> 00:48:02,159 you can do it perfectly and this, because this is also generated in the 743 00:48:02,199 --> 00:48:08,519 advance, because questioning the things that we have rooted and that we think are 744 00:48:08,519 --> 00:48:12,679 really the right ones. That argument, therefore, has always been so and 745 00:48:13,119 --> 00:48:15,320 so it has always been better, because it has to be questioned. Nobody 746 00:48:15,440 --> 00:48:20,199 also means that the new is the good and the old or the bad, 747 00:48:20,440 --> 00:48:23,440 or vice versa, but we have to question and whenever we do that, 748 00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:30,559 to question and question everything we do, because we will grow securely. So 749 00:48:30,599 --> 00:48:37,599 I hope this little space serves for it, big little space and cristina hoops 750 00:48:37,599 --> 00:48:46,360 girls. I wish for an infinite rest. That' s not bad, 751 00:48:47,199 --> 00:48:52,199 but you' ve understood the truth. In fact, these beneficial infinite, 752 00:48:53,920 --> 00:48:58,159 a pleasant rest. Yes, yes, yes, that infinite rest is not 753 00:48:58,559 --> 00:49:05,280 fatal, but, well, I meant intense rest, mother' s rest. 754 00:49:05,800 --> 00:49:09,840 When you can use those moments when you say vacation then it' s 755 00:49:09,840 --> 00:49:20,800 not always what we expect. We have, we have holiday three. Yeah, 756 00:49:21,920 --> 00:49:23,239 yeah, yeah, yeah, we have podcasts, so you either have 757 00:49:23,280 --> 00:49:28,079 to watch it or you have to listen to it before you go, well, 758 00:49:28,599 --> 00:49:31,480 yeah, this podcast will come out right when the Santa' s vacation 759 00:49:31,599 --> 00:49:35,599 starts, because it' ll be out soon, but next week, although 760 00:49:35,719 --> 00:49:36,199 you' re already listening to it in the middle of Santa week. So, 761 00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:40,519 enjoy the holidays of these days of rest and we hear each other next 762 00:49:40,559 --> 00:49:53,039 month in April, with Alanta Cristina thinking. Thanks, girls Bye Bye Bye. 763 00:49:53,159 --> 00:50:00,000 You know I' m sorry again if you' re in time. 764 00:50:00,559 --> 00:50:07,360 You' ve come data welcome to a new episode of Good Morning. Mother. 765 00:50:07,400 --> 00:50:10,719 He hopes I' m still powerless. Wait a minute, he won 766 00:50:12,239 --> 00:50:16,480 ' t let me see a quiet run, which is at first, we 767 00:50:16,480 --> 00:50:27,599 see it easy. I' m still welcome new. Now these are the 768 00:50:27,639 --> 00:50:31,760 fake tomas talks that I super love, which is like hello, good morning, 769 00:50:32,199 --> 00:50:36,760 but you happen that Monica isn' t around today, or what arancha 770 00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:42,079 we don' t have Monica, No, we don' t, which 771 00:50:42,159 --> 00:50:45,920 is good morning to this space. No, because it' s not mother 772 00:50:45,000 --> 00:50:47,679 space Wait for it. This is going to be fatal, fatal. I 773 00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:50,880 ' ve come as high up and I say come on so I say it 774 00:50:50,880 --> 00:50:52,599 and words have started coming to my head that doesn' t make sense or 775 00:50:52,920 --> 00:51:02,760 it' s magic. No Tranqui Tranqui