Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about.
Let me start off by saying hello to everyone. I hope everyone is
doing well. I hope everything is good with all of you. Thank you
for stopping by. This episode is about falling too quickly, falling too quickly
for that significant other. Some people, they are so busy seeking and chasing
significant others, so busy worrying about when you're gonna fall in love. When
is your sweet thing coming to youth? So many people are very eager and
desperate for a significant other. You meet and you're so happy, at least
in your mind. You're so happy. You you're giddy. You just have
this feeling inside of you, feeling all Google, Googly Google. You're just
so happy and excited. You meet this person, and you fall too quickly.
You do not take time to build a solid foundation. You do not
time to get to know the person. All you want is to be with
him or her. That's all you can think about. You're focused on them
all of the time. Make your heart skip a beat, make you have
butterflies in your stomach. You know you heard of that, butterflies in your
stomach. When you meet someone you're feeling it all. You're feeling every bit
of it. Then you meet this person and you fall entirely too quickly.
A lot of people have done it and is doing it. You're following too
quickly for your significant others, and you end up losing yourself in your relationships.
You end up giving everything you have to your significant other. You end
up blind by how you think. You find yourself in an unhealthy situation and
unhappy place. A lot of people are living this truth. When you meet
someone and you really start feeling that person, it's up to you what you
do, how you do it, It is up to you. But the
problem is many people are lad truly by their significant others. What I mean,
you lose focus. You don't think about yourself, You don't think about
what you're going through. All you think about is pleasing that person, satisfying
that person, trying to make that person want you, trying to make that
person want to stay in the relationship. That's your focus. You totally forget
about yourself. You are not thinking because you're focused totally on your significant other.
You're falling too quick. Some of you will say you're in love,
I mean so quickly, and to me it's clear indication you don't even know
what love is. I'm not saying or trying to say that. Sometimes it's
like everything falls into place love at first sight, you know, quote unquote.
Sometimes times people do have that special bond, but that's rare. The
other times it is your own loins. You know, it's you, your
feelings, your fire and desire. It's you most of the time. And
when I say you, i'm talking about you, I'm talking about the other
person, because it may be the other person who's fallen too quickly. This
episode is just about fallen too quickly into a relationship, so it could be
either person that's joined us. So many people find themselves in unhappy relationships because
they failed too quickly. You didn't look at the things that you should have
been looking at. That didn't You didn't get to know the individual. They
didn't get to know you. You fell into it based on superficial things.
There's a lot of things at play, but the bottom line is you fell
too quickly. You think you're so in love, you think the person is
so in love with you. Half of the time they don't even want to
be in a relationship with you. They're using you they have an agenda,
but you can't see it because you want what you want. Ninety nine percent
people are driven by self gratification. What they want, what they desire,
how they feel, how they think. Because remember I've told you, if
you've listened to me before, I've told you that lust, because that's what
most people are feel by self gratification. Of the flesh is a bottomless pit.
You can never ever feel it. You're always seeking, You're wanting more,
always nothing. That's never enough, not when you're trying to satisfy that
flesh. So a lot of you get into relationship and you fall too quickly
because of your mindset, because of your hearts. They're unhealed, So you're
gonna think things that you shouldn't think. It's gonna be irrational, it's gonna
be distorted because your mindset is not the mindset of a healthy individual, a
healed individual. So people want what they want and they go along with whatever
because they want him, they want her. They fall too weekly. You
didn't adhere to any of the signs or the red flag. Some of you
see them, you still won't adhere to them because you want who you want.
You fall entirely too quickly. You know, there's a TV show Nanny
Day Fianc or something like that. I'm not saying it's impossible. I'm just
saying I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't do it. There's another show called
Love After lock Up. People meet these individuals while they're in prison, some
of them serving hard time, and they fall in love through being pinpowered written
communications. People are falling in love. People can tell you anything, talking
to them in their faith, what you think they can embellish on paper.
You fall in love because of who you are as an individual and where your
mind is. That's why people fall in love too quickly. People fall in
love over written words. That person on the end of that letter may not
feel anything of what they're saying. In a lot of times they don't,
but they have an agenda. They need something from you. So you communicate
with the person and they tell you all of the right things, and bam,
you've fallen in love. You've fallen in love with someone you don't know.
They don't know you, but you think you do. You think you're
in love because of the nine words they said to you, or they wrote
to you. Sweet as a honeycomb and now you believe you're in love.
I always tell you when people do this, sooner or later, and a
lot of times for people it's later. Sooner or later, you will feel
the consequences of your bad choices and decisions. Oh, you're gonna suffer a
consequence sooner a labor You're gonna suffer those consequences because people always show you who
they really are. At some point or another, they become who they really
are. They leave who they pretended to be behind, and the real person
come for now you realize, oh my goodness, who or what you're really
with? Nothing like you thought they were. Nothing. All you know is
they lie, they deceived, they manipulated all of that. You couldn't see
it then because you failed too quickly. You just wanted him, you just
wanted her. But I'm telling you it is the wrong way to enter into
a relationship. It is the wrong way. If you do not lay a
solid foundation, if you do not love yourself, know who you are,
get to know who you're with, You're going to have a terrible time,
you know. I always want to throw God in their Jesus, the Son,
God, the Father. I always want to throw them in there.
I know a lot of people don't believe. When you hear me say you
you're a significant other, and I don't say anything else. God is always
in the midst of everything. I do say everything, but I know everyone
don't believe, so I don't try to force Jesus down your throat in every
episode. But know that he's first in my life, and I believe that
he should be first and foremost the beginning. The mental definitely a part of
any relationship. But for those who don't believe, still, you've got to
get to a point where you love yourself, know yourself. So many of
you spend all of your time and energy ignoring yourself, but trying desperately to
figure out who you're with. You're just fooling at it backwards. You fall
in what you think are perceived as love, Then you want to get to
know the person. Then you want to have requirements and all of these things,
when you should have done that in the beginning. You fall in love
quickly, Then you want to try to change the person, where if you
had gotten to know them, you would know that they're not who they pretended
to be because they showed you. You just didn't take heed people are desperate.
They're so desperate because some people are afraid to be by themselves. I'm
not talking about necessarily just afraid of being alone because they don't want to be
by themselves. I'm talking fearful of being alone because of the things going on
in this world, and because of so many insecurities and things that they tature.
They're fearful to be by themselves, so they would rather be with anyone
just to have someone. Then you have those who truly don't want to be
by themselves, not because they fear being by themselves of what's going to happen,
but they just don't love self enough to be able to be alone,
so they rather be a relationship with anyone as long as they have someone.
That is why so many people are unhappy. I will stand on it.
I believe it. Most people are unhappy in their relationships and they have just
decided to settle. They've been together so long they've decided this is it.
I'm not going anywhere. Although many are doing their own things. He's doing
his, she's doing hers. That's not a healthy relationship. I don't care
about you naysayers who are going to say when he works for some people bull
bull bull. Anytime you're going outside of your relationship, marriage or relationship,
you are going to run into some problems. You're going to when you're bringing
in other people, you are going to run into some problems because they gonna
be with that other person that you are brought into the relationship, and they
may start liking that person more than you. Now you're mad and you're upset,
but you probably was the one who wanted to do it. It happens
all of the time, people meeting behind your back. But people will go
along with anything just to be in a relationship. Some of you should run,
I mean you should run like something behind you. With some of these
individuals you're with, you should meet them and run like your life depend on
it. In some of your life's depin on it. Because people be showing
you. They show you who they are liars, cheaters, manipulators. They
are nasty, vile, I mean, they're moochers. They want everything you
have, they want you to take care of them. They embellish everything.
I mean, the list is endless. It's endless. But so many people
blind because of unhealed heart to mind. They want what they want. They
don't care, so they fall in love too quickly. Then it's like,
what will you find that you're in a bad situation. Then you have the
nerve to wonder how you got there. You know how you got there?
You failed too quickly. Oh he's fine, Oh she is pretty? So
what when you're mature, you know who you are as the person you love
yourself. Please believe you know they gotta come better than just having good looks.
And you know it. You know it. Yes, you you want
to be with someone that you can tolerate looking at. I agree with that,
But some of you go solely on how pretty she is, how fine
she is, how handsome he is, how sexy he is, and that's
it, never mind, And that they're crazy as a I mean as crazy
can be nuttier than a Snickers bar. You don't you don't see that.
You don't see that at all. You don't see how they treat people terrible.
You're not listening to how they're talking to you, how they're disrespecting me.
They're just so fine. You just can't help it. You just got
to have them. I candy arm candy, and you fall in love for
the wrong reasons, and you fall in love too quickly. Now you find
themselves in a terrible situation. A lot of the situations are toxic, unhealthy,
loveless, no type of affection. You get to a point that you
don't even care no about yourself. That's how tired you are of the individual.
You just want out. Some of you are ran to the ground.
Literally, you're ran to the ground. You're exhausted, you're you're just broken,
drained in every way because you failed too quickly for that person. Wake
up, grown people, wake up. It's time to start seeing what the
eyes you have. It's time to mature and act like grown men and grown
women. Stop chasing after someone who's not chasing after you, and if they
are chasing after you desperately, you sholl you should still run because something's wrong
with that situation too. I've told you so many times. If you get
to know yourself and love yourself, your eyes will they will open. You
will see things. You will understand things that you didn't before. Some of
you have gone through and gone through and gone through and gone through and guess
what you're still going through because you never learned from your bad situations, your
bad experiences. You never learned. You just drag your butts right on to
the next relationship, carrying bad juju received and bad juju because you don't ever
learn anything. You're too busy and focused on the other person. You never
take time for yourself to grow into mature. Like I said a million times,
we all, all of us, we mature in our bodies. I
don't care how much you nipping, tucking, take off and put on.
That body is gonna age. That's the way it's meant to be. It's
gonna age. So we mature in our bodies, and our brains mature because
our bodies are mature. But that don't mean that you mature mentally. A
lot of people don't still immature as adults. They think they're mature, but
many are not. So you go through life experiencing the same things over and
over because you don't learn, you keep doing it the same way. You'll
go right out and fall in love quickly again, only to find yourself right
back to square one again. Stop it, stop it. Look at the
world we're in these days, and this is for all of you all over
the world. Look at the world we're in these they look at the condition
of what's going on in the world. Look at the condition of the people
in the world. Heartless, don't think for themselves, old pressed, easily
brainwashed, easily influenced, follow wrong, all types of same negative things.
You have to be careful. You have to be careful. You have to
get to know who you would you fall in love with this person. They
look one way when they're another. Never told you, you, never asked.
It's too much going on in the world for people to remain the same.
But they're doing just that, remaining the same, doing things the same,
experiencing similar people because your mindset has not changed. You know, It's
just unbelievable to me. Yet I believe it because I know people. It
never seemses to amaze me what people do, the things people open themselves up
to, the doors they open in their lives, the most that creates.
It never ceases to amaze me. All I can do is just shake my
head. Oh my goodness. People are so desperate. You should be desperate
to know yourself. You should be desperate to fall in love with yourself.
That's the first relationship you need to build. But yourself, No thyself,
but no, no, no, no, no, no self gratification.
Lust of the flesh, can't see what the eyes you have because you're blind.
Then you get into these relationships too quickly, and you know what,
some people know exactly what they're doing. They are shucking and jiving you,
manipulating you, making you feel good, making you think they want you,
making you think they are in love with you, when it's all in your
head. They don't feel how you feel. But you got something to offer
them. If if you're out there and you suspect that's what's going on in
your relationship, reach out to me. Let's talk about it. I'll help
you figure it out, honey. For free people go to their graves the
very same, the very same. And I've told you so many times you
can gain this. You can gain that, you can accomplish all these great
things, have all this material stuff and still go to your grade the same,
because your mindset is the same, your heart is the same. You
acquired all these things that you can do nothing with once you leave this world.
So you went through life, get in all of this stuff, and
you die the same. Never really experience love, never been completely happy.
There's no way you can be when you're unhealed. There's no way you can
be truly happy. I don't care what no one says. If you are
not healed mentally in your mind and heart, there's no way you're living a
peaceful, happy life. And I see it every turn I take, left,
right, front, back, up, down. I see it in
the choices that people make in their lives. I see it and what people
allow and accept, how they just let people treat them any kind of way,
do anything anything in this world to be in a relationship with someone who's
not even worth it, I see it. But that's it. I'm done
on this. I'm leaving it right there. Thank you for listening. Much
love to each and every one of you. Listen. Your life is your
life. You live it how you choose. But when you see that you're
on that vicious will and you stay there. The only person you can look
at to blame is you. I don't care what your significant other is doing
or have done. You have to look at yourself if you took it.
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