Minnesota. Goodbye, Let's get started, and it's all about emails today,
so let's dive in. Andres writes in Hello Gang. Earlier on the show,
you guys brought up talking about men being capable of change because Bailey and
Jenny brought it up on Ladies Room, where you were saying is it possible
to change a man? And the kind of the consensus was not really really
well, Andrews says, well, I say yes. My wife not only
changed my life, but she saved me. Me and my wife met in
high school. She was an all star cheerleader with a scholarship to UC Davis
in California. And I was honestly just a low life gang banger who was
in and out of juvenile hall. Long story short. At seventeen, she
got pregnant with my daughter. Well, I was arrested on gun and gang
enhancement charges a month before my daughter was born, and I held her for
the first time when she was nine months old in fulsome penitentiary. Wow.
Well, when I got out after three years and we got pregnant with another
this time, I was arrested just to week after my second daughter was born
for assault with a deadly weapon, and through all of this, she was
the one trying to get me out of this lifestyle I grew up in.
My second daughter was born, I held her for the first time when she
was two, after my wife refused to let me fall victim to my prior
environment. I am now a loyal, dedicated, twenty five year old family
man that makes thirty seven dollars an hour as a diesel mechanic. I'm in
Sacramento, California, with three blessings. I just had my first son.
Luckily, kids are resilient and we'll never remember a time I was not busting
my ass to give them everything. Change is possible from andres Okay, I
think it's true, and I think that's why people hang on to It's kind
of like when you play roulette. You're going to lose at Roulette, but
you might win, Yeah, but you're not going to well. Kind Of
like Mike I said earlier, you said that like once you hit a point
in your life for you're like I need to change, is when you will
change. So it's not necessarily that his wife changed him. He just found
out like I need to change, and she was there for him during that
realization. Yeah, and maybe kids changed him. Like I said, there
was there was somebody who worked on the show that was that was difficult,
and then they went on to have a kid, and I think they're like
grown up in the mature So age changed them. Getting older, Experiencing life
changes people. I think experiencing life makes you more empathetic to other people.
Maybe maybe not maybe hopefully hopefully. So thank you Andrews. I really appreciate
that. And congratulations, I mean, good for you. I like the
part where he said I would not fall victim to my prior environment. And
I look at like Oprah, and Oprah was like she was abused and raped
and poor when she was a kid, and then she went on to become
Oprah. Oprah never became a victim. And that's easier said than done,
because I think there's a lot of people who had just a shitty childhood.
Yeah, and they never really quite got past the scars of their childhood or
their upbringing or their environment. I can imagine it being really hard. So
thank you for your email. You did it, Yeah, you overcame.
Next one is I loved Bailey's segment yesterday about losing a friend with no explanation
I had a similar thing happened to me I was nineteen, except mine just
completely ghosted me. We were close, went to the same school, hung
out almost every day for three years. I'm sorry for your pain, Bailey.
It may not feel like it now, but I promise it does get
better. My question today, how did you get through heartbreak? My long
term partner and I broke up recently. We have been dating since we were
young, so it's very difficult for me to get through since they were just
so many memories over a ten year span. Thanks for making an amazing show
and podcast. You guys are amazing. I think that's a hard thing to
get through heartbreak. I don't know time helps, but I think that when
somebody breaks up with you and you could still be together and you still want
to be together, them not wanting to be with you is really hard,
especially if it's like you had a long ten year relationship or a thirteen year
relationship or whatever it is, or a twenty eight year and they leave you
and you still want to be together. How do you get past that?
What do you do? Jenny? I think it's time, and I think
it's also like distracting yourself. Yeah, I think that, Like, I
don't know, the only time I've gone through a really bad heartbreak, I
like focused on my career. I focused on like getting involved in more things.
That's when my kickball era started and I got real into kickball and made
a lot of new friends. So I think you just have to, like
you slowly stop seeing everything that reminds you of them, because you look forward
to new things that have come in your life, you know, because you
distracted yourself new adventures or whatever it is. Well, what if you still,
like, you know, look at them on Instagram and you still look
at them on Facebook? Oh I you have to delete those people? You
have to block that. Well oh my, I absolutely, That's my number
one thing I tell people when they go through heartbreak. Stop following them on
Instagram, stop following them even on Venmo. I know someone who saw something
on Venmo that like triggered them and made them feel sad, and I'm like,
you just have to stop. Wow, he's paying another woman, right,
No, No, it was it was something like that, like the
new girlfriend saw a Venmo transaction with the new girlfriend. Yeah, no,
it is. Heartbreak is like it's it's it is. It's really tough,
and it can really distract you, and you wake up thinking about them,
you go to sleep, you dream about them. Uh, and we will
all, you know, break hearts and we will all be heartbroken at some
point. We were talking about rich people the other day, weren't we on
the podcast? We were talking about how some rich people, Oh, yeah,
you're do you know rich people who are humble or air agan? Yeah?
And so this one writes in my and it's a long email, so
I'm going to condense it a little bit from Julia. She says, my
husband's uncle is the CEO president of a company based out of Chicago, but
comes from a very humble upbringing, and I think it shows that he is
definitely not entitled and still feels for those who have less than him and his
immediate family. So she goes on to say she was invited on a trip
to Costa Rica and the guy paid for everything except the plane tickets. So
we had the chef, the cruises, the zip lining all were paid for.
We had to pay for plane tickets. So we take the budget airline
and I'm going to guess it was probably Spirit, and they canceled our flight.
So now we're stuck in Fort Lauderdale with no way to get because they
canceled it, sure, and they had to buy another ticket, and we
couldn't do it. We didn't have the money to buy another ticket, and
we're stuck. Uncle found out about this when he paid for our flights to
get to coast Rina first class. Wow. It was the most amazing experience.
I'll never forget. I was treated like royalty, sitting in first class
where I definitely didn't belong based on my finances. Haha. I'm not sure
I'll ever be able to afford flying first class again. I'm just so thankful
he did that, that he shared a very smart, small part of the
good life with us. It shows that even though he has money, he
still has a heart, all right, And that is from Julia. Awesome.
Yeah, and that's somebody I don't think who is showing off that they're
wealthy. They just want you to enjoy the same thing. Yeah, and
be there with everybody else because you missed your flight. So it's like,
well, I could either say, hey, tough luck, sorry about it,
or I want you so badly at this family gathering that I'm going to
pay for it, which is so nice. When I was first making good
money. I was in my twenties and was making pretty good money. I
remember I was showing off a little bit. And Jenny has probably heard the
story. I've told this story before. I was probably twenty five or so,
and I bought my nephew for Christmas, who is ten or so,
a game Boy, and a game Boy was about ninety dollars at the time,
and I was really proud that I bought him a game Boy. But
my present to him was nicer than his own parents present to him because they
didn't have any money. And I don't know if they got him like,
you know, like a little knockoff Walkman or what. But he opened it,
he loved it. And I remember my sister kind of looking at it
a little bit, not pissed, but a little bit embarrassed or hurt that
I spent more money showing off than his own parents did on his fucking Christmas
present. Yeah, And she never said anything. But I learned at twenty
five years old, don't show off to embarrass other people how much money you
have. But we all know somebody who's got to show off, like they
get a brand new whatever it is, and they got to post a picture
of them showing it off. Yeah, so I had more rich friends,
I think, because I don't have enough people who are showing off anything.
Next one, No, we're gonna skip that one. Okay, why not
three summers ago, we're talking about emergency poop stories. Okay, three summers
ago, Aaron said, I was sitting in cabin traffic coming back from Brainerd
with my dad, who was driving, and we're pulling our horse trailer.
I had a full lot emergency that went from zero to one hundred and seconds.
So we stopped at a gas station in Big Lake. It was closed,
No, there was zero time to spare. I was forced to do
my business on the floor in the horse trailer, and my dad's horse said,
oh, well, I think I'll join in. So the horsepoop at
the same time. So she was pooping on the floor of the horse trailer,
which is I guess, okay, because there's horse poop anyway, but
it inspired the horse. No, just a weird, creepy, weird thing.
And then it's a competition. At that point, watch me who's going
to win. I think we know who the winner was. On that horses
going to the bathroom, it's like, all right, enough, I want
to read this. One says, Hello, favorite morning show. This is
for Jenny. I thought you'd be happy to know that he ended up making
an appointment in Metropolitan Skin Clinic for a consultation for possible micro needling. I'm
thinking of going forward with it after saving money for it. Have you ever
had experience with this? I've been doing my research, but it's cool to
ask somebody who's familiar with that technique clinic who's also a little frugal like myself
from camera and Jenny. Yes, I've done micro Nevillian with them. I
think that it's a great one. I know a lot of those treatments are
pretty expensive, so I get where you're coming from, of like, not
sure if you want to spend the money, but I do think it's worth
it. I think that the Metropolitan is really good. And whoever your esthetician
is, if you have specific concerns and you don't know what to use,
like what kind of procedure to move forward with, then just talk to them
and they'll be able to tell you. Because I have no idea what to
do with my skin, and they're just always helping me because I don't have
great skin. What is micro needling. It's I don't want to misspeak because
I probably can't describe it, but it is something where your face will probably
be a little like red and blotchy and stuff for a bit. And I
think it's to help with flow to your skin. Yeah, for the most
part, like regenera. I feel like I it regenerates your skin because it's
like these teeny tiny little needles that they, you know, like roll onto
your face. Do they insert them into your skin. No, it's not
like acupuncture or anything. I mean the one time I got it done forever
ago, it was like a little roller thingy that had tiny little needles on
it, like roll it on your so it kind of injures your skin.
And then when the new tissue grows bad, it's kind of like in a
way maybe like dermobration. Well, dermobration actually sand down the scars on your
skin if you got acne scars. I had a friend of mine, Oh
it was terrible. She was about twenty seven years old and she was the
sweetest shy thing, but she had horrible acne at twenty seven years old.
I mean, just like unbelievable adult acne. And so she got on acutane,
and then she went in and got dermabrasion, which they take the scars
on your face and they basically sand down the corners so there's not sharp shadows
and it was but her face after she got it was it was. I
mean, it was all bloody scars almost her entire face. But when it
healed up, she looked remarkably better. So I think when like with a
micro needling, it might be that injures your skin and grows back fresh new
skin. Pretty much. Yeah, I think that's right. I was at
a physical therapist a couple of years ago, and this is a different experience,
and I don't think it's called micro needling. I'm not sure what the
hell it was, but it was awful. So I met a physical therapist
and you know, you go in it's like, okay, put the bands
around your knees and then do squats, Okay, hold this ball and then
you know, like walk back and forth. So physical therapy. Yah.
She said I'm going to do something to you, and I had on pair
of shorts, so she moved my shorts to the side. She had me
laid down on my stomach and she said, I'm going to do micro needling,
but I don't remember that's what it was called. Sure, without asking
me or explaining to me what she was doing, she inserted long needles into
my buttocks, butt cheeks, and it hurt, It felt weird, it
felt wrong. She didn't explain it to me in advance, she didn't have
me sign of consent form. I felt like she was being unethical and practicing
something that she shouldn't have been doing. And I don't know because I couldn't
see it was behind me. Yeah, but I think it felt like she
was inserting long, wiry, very thin needles into my muscles to stimulate them,
and when you stimulate them, they're gonna like grow or whatever. I
didn't like it. I didn't want it. I didn't ask for it.
She didn't explain it to me or even ask. That is so weird.
I like it, and I never went back. I never went back to
that physical therapist, and I would never would never. Huh, if you
know anything about micro needling, put in your ask something that's totally different,
totally different. Yeah right. I'm trying to think of what it's called,
though, because my physical therapist with my wrist told me to try what you're
talking about, because my wrist was not healing as quickly as she thought it
should be, and she felt like she had done everything. But what the
fuck is it called? I know you're talking about. It might somebody will
know, somebody will write in, and somebody will say, oh wild that
they'll know what that is. I got time for one more. And this
is from somebody that you may have heard us talk about on the show,
But you too will remember Tracy from the Boat Cruise the other time she goes,
holy freaking mola. You guys, this is your new best friend,
Tracy from Mancato. I've been playing last night on the Boat Cruise in my
mine over and over all day and writing you and last night seriously made dreams
come true for me. Dave, Jenny, Vaunt, and Bailey. Each
one of you are so polished, professional, kind, genuine and just plain
amazing. I knew that already, but got to meet you and feel it
was a whole other experience. You made us listeners feel appreciated, important and
like true friends. That's magic. Then to hear you on the radio this
morning saying how much it fills your cup to two just made it even more
meaningful. Dave, I heard my shout out and I freak thank you.
I had the best time with you. All opportunities like this don't come along
often in life, and I will forever cherish those moments. My husband and
I were talking, we don't know of any other radio station that does events
like this where there is a small venue in the radio stars mingle. Is
this something that is specific to Katie WB I doubt it now. I think
K one two and Cities do things like this too. I love you.
I'm proud to have been there out there, have you out there representing the
heart of the Twin Cities. I know it's super corny, but that's my
mood at the moment. Your biggest fan, Tracy ps. My favorite part
was buying David diet PEPSI. Now, you can't say no one ever buys
you anything. It was just, you know, I know it's a little
bit inside to talk about Tracy, but I will say that she was just
one of those bright lights that lights up a room. Yes, when she
comes in and she's just like I don't know, just an amazing person.
And thank you, Tracy. We appreciate you got family member to me yet
A cool cousin that I was like hanging out with on the boat. I
hope we get to meet you someday if we haven't met you yet, Thank
you for listening to the Minnesota Goodbye. Send your emails, thoughts, micro
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