1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,639 Think of like athletes. They create routines that maximize speed and agility and strength. 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:11,599 And as business people especially, I'm an entrepreneur and a working parents and 3 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:15,919 a leader, all three of those things. I need a routine every day 4 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:19,879 that's going to unlock my highest quality thinking. And here's where we mess up. 5 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:25,280 You're listening to Carrie Lets's Financial Survival Network, where you get valuable information 6 00:00:25,359 --> 00:00:30,679 you just can't find anywhere else to thrive in today's trying times. You need 7 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:36,880 the Financial Survival Network now more than ever. Go to Financial Survival Network dot 8 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:43,719 com and get your free newsletter and gift. Financial Survival Network now more than 9 00:00:43,759 --> 00:00:51,719 ever, and welcome. You are listening to watching the Financial Survival Network. 10 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,920 Well, I'm your host, Carrie Lets. You know, we're always looking 11 00:00:55,960 --> 00:01:00,000 for ways to help you become great, to help you raise elevate your game, 12 00:01:00,359 --> 00:01:04,799 to help you become the person that you should become. And a lot 13 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:10,400 of the time it sounds like spiritualism and gobbledegook. But every now and then 14 00:01:10,519 --> 00:01:15,760 somebody comes along and writes a book that's actually based on fact and experience, 15 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:19,799 proving to you that you two can do it. And that person today is 16 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:25,519 Christina Curtis Christina. It is great to have you on the show. Your 17 00:01:25,560 --> 00:01:34,280 book Choosing Greatness, an evidence based approach to achieving exceptional outcomes. And hey, 18 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:38,760 so success is no accident. In other words, right, success is 19 00:01:38,799 --> 00:01:42,359 no accident. There's a lot of science around how to actually achieve the level 20 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:46,239 of success you want personally, professionally from a wealth and well being standpoint, 21 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,959 and that's what we talk about in the book. All right, so what 22 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:53,799 are the three most important factors in judging whether somebody will eventually become a success 23 00:01:53,879 --> 00:01:57,920 or not? Hm, that's an interesting question, you know. The first 24 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:01,920 thing is whether they can get comfortable being uncomfortable. I think it's really important 25 00:02:01,959 --> 00:02:07,519 carry because success, I mean what a success means. It's different for each 26 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,080 person, but regardless, it is something that they have not yet attained. 27 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:14,719 It is out in the future somewhere where they have to create a tension between 28 00:02:14,719 --> 00:02:17,319 where they are now and where they want to go and get there and guess 29 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:21,759 what it means choosing new patterns of behavior, new thoughts, new actions, 30 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:25,240 new approaches, and when you try something new, the brain's response is often 31 00:02:25,280 --> 00:02:29,319 to say, hey, hold the phone, I don't want to do anything 32 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:30,840 new. I've been doing this for as long as I can remember. It's 33 00:02:30,879 --> 00:02:35,360 working just mine, thank you very much. The brain is an economical organ 34 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:38,840 It does not want to burn mental calories. It doesn't need to, so 35 00:02:38,879 --> 00:02:42,439 anytime you try change, you get discomfort. I mean, I think of 36 00:02:42,439 --> 00:02:45,800 it this way. If you're on a treadmill and you hit moment three. 37 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:49,039 For me, maybe for other people it's later, but you hit moment three 38 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:51,680 and you're like, I don't really want to be doing this anymore. Your 39 00:02:51,719 --> 00:02:54,840 brain will rationalize why you can slow down, get off, or do other 40 00:02:54,879 --> 00:02:58,879 things because it doesn't want to. It doesn't want to grow, it doesn't 41 00:02:58,919 --> 00:03:04,280 want to push through to that next layer. So getting comfortable with being uncomfortable 42 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:07,960 is critically important. And the people I work with who are at the tightens 43 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:12,439 of their industry, at the top of their game, they are every year 44 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:15,240 building up a higher and higher tolerance to manage discomfort, which means they can 45 00:03:15,319 --> 00:03:19,919 scale, which means they can grow, which means they can take on things 46 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,560 they're not capable of achieving yet. But they're going to lean in and figure 47 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:27,599 out how and build the teams that will get them there. I think that's 48 00:03:27,599 --> 00:03:31,719 really important. That's the first one does that resonate when you carry absolutely And 49 00:03:32,039 --> 00:03:42,000 I once read that successful leaders are able to manage ambiguity, meaning that there's 50 00:03:42,039 --> 00:03:47,080 two conflicting thoughts or events taking place, the average person will just throw up 51 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:53,039 their hands and they'll just choose one, but that a leader can keep those 52 00:03:53,039 --> 00:03:58,159 two conflicting thoughts in their mind and move ahead in spite of it, and 53 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:04,080 actually a chain results. And maybe both these thoughts that appear to be conflicting 54 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:09,319 really aren't. They might fit together. But I don't know what your thoughts 55 00:04:09,319 --> 00:04:12,280 are about that. It's a little out there, But what do you know? 56 00:04:12,439 --> 00:04:14,759 It's not out there, it's right down the middle, it's right on 57 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,399 the fairway. If you think about the second one, which is objectivity in 58 00:04:17,439 --> 00:04:21,959 a balanced approach, it means don't just react, don't just react. We 59 00:04:21,959 --> 00:04:26,879 actually operate on autopilot forty two percent of the day, Kerrie. So we 60 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:30,199 wake up and we do what we've done before again to conserve mental energy and 61 00:04:30,319 --> 00:04:32,879 stay safe. We've already done it. We're safe now, So I guess 62 00:04:32,879 --> 00:04:38,199 if I repeated, it's all good. The challenge is we become very binary 63 00:04:38,199 --> 00:04:40,839 in our thinking. Should I do this or that? Should I choose this 64 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,600 or that should I engage this way or that way? And the reality is 65 00:04:44,639 --> 00:04:48,680 between one answer and another, there's whole rainbow of options that could also be 66 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:54,560 true. And cognitively we tend like I say to you, did you like 67 00:04:54,639 --> 00:04:59,160 the movie Barrett Forrest Gump? You may say yes or no, very binary. 68 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:00,959 It's quick, you don't enough to think about the answer. But if 69 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:04,120 I said, what was your favorite part of the movie and why, You've 70 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:08,759 got to slow down and think. It's not yes or no answer. And 71 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:12,439 so you have to be balanced and objective to slow down and say, based 72 00:05:12,439 --> 00:05:15,040 on this vantage point, based on this person asking what do I want to 73 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:18,959 share? That's breaking a pattern. That's breaking a pattern and causing you to 74 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:23,839 open a new part of your brain that's focused on critical thinking. And the 75 00:05:23,879 --> 00:05:28,879 executives who I work with, who are exceptionally strong leaders and who are have 76 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:32,439 very padded wallets, who evade a lot of money, are not just reacting, 77 00:05:32,519 --> 00:05:36,600 they're responding. So they're really pausing. They're elbowing their way in that 78 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:42,240 space between an event and their reaction to it to say, what's my long 79 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:46,079 term goal here? And how do I need how do I need to show 80 00:05:46,199 --> 00:05:49,639 up degenerate that versus just here's how I'm going to react. Here's the emotion 81 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:53,319 that shows up in my body, so I'm going to roll with that. 82 00:05:54,879 --> 00:06:00,319 I think responding very methodically by being balanced, no high, ike's, no 83 00:06:00,439 --> 00:06:03,839 no lows, to say here's what I need to do in order to move 84 00:06:03,920 --> 00:06:09,519 us forward is really important. So I completely agree ambiguity. You often move 85 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:14,160 to how do I create certainty fast? And if you slow down, you'll 86 00:06:14,199 --> 00:06:17,040 realize, I'm certainty is not so bad if we could just find our best 87 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:24,800 next step and start exploring other options and learn and learn. So cognitive dissonance 88 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:30,000 that will set in oftentimes, especially when you're trying to do something new, 89 00:06:30,319 --> 00:06:35,959 the average person just shuts down and goes to a a auto response. Like 90 00:06:36,079 --> 00:06:44,560 you mentioned, They're just a default response without looking ahead critically. So leader's 91 00:06:44,639 --> 00:06:49,800 got to measure, got to learn to manage cognitive dissonance in a positive way 92 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:54,319 well, and be aware of what your patterns are. One of the greatest 93 00:06:54,319 --> 00:06:57,399 things that we do when it comes to executive coaching is pausing to say what 94 00:06:57,519 --> 00:07:00,319 patterns in your day are helping you in which ones are roting your results and 95 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:04,000 your relationships, which I'm even thinking about it. I'll use a really easy 96 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:08,480 example, which is food. Right. If I'm walking my airport, I 97 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:11,959 travel a time for work and I see a bag of salt and vinegar chips, 98 00:07:12,279 --> 00:07:15,639 it doesn't matter if it's nine am or midnight. I'm like, and 99 00:07:15,839 --> 00:07:17,360 I'm just going to stop and buy that bag of chips. And if my 100 00:07:17,439 --> 00:07:21,040 goal is to get fit this year, that choice is not in alignment with 101 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:25,160 what I want to create. But I have such a pull it's automatic. 102 00:07:25,199 --> 00:07:28,040 I don't even think about it. Frankly, sometimes I don't even enjoy the 103 00:07:28,079 --> 00:07:30,199 brand of chip. I just get it. So that's an example of an 104 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:35,439 automatic pattern. If I pass the chip stand, I immediately feel discomfort. 105 00:07:35,600 --> 00:07:39,040 Oh would have been good, would have been great to have it. So 106 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:43,800 you feel this pull back to your regular behavioral patterns, and that's where cognitive 107 00:07:43,839 --> 00:07:46,560 dissonance comes in. I can rationalize my way at a giving up on anything. 108 00:07:46,839 --> 00:07:50,120 I can rationalize my way on going back to the way I've always done 109 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:55,439 it in a heartbeat. But if you just recognize that's just a neurological pattern, 110 00:07:55,839 --> 00:07:59,000 a risk barometer saying, and let's just stick to what's safe. Let's 111 00:07:59,000 --> 00:08:01,079 stick to what's comfortable, you can say I don't want to choose at this 112 00:08:01,160 --> 00:08:07,839 time, hold the discomfort and choose change anyway. Right, So the people 113 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:16,519 you talk to do they do meditation, relaxation, dance their main ways of 114 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:24,639 a coping with stress, and be keeping their thought waves open if you will, 115 00:08:24,759 --> 00:08:28,399 yeah, well totally in addition to getting comfortable, being uncomfortable, and 116 00:08:28,439 --> 00:08:33,159 really responding versus reacting. The third point around success is setting a regiment up 117 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:37,480 that brings out your best think of like athletes, they create routines that maximize 118 00:08:37,480 --> 00:08:43,480 speed and agility and strength, and as business people especially, I'm an entrepreneur 119 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:48,320 and a working parents and a leader, all three of those things. I 120 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:54,279 need a routine every day that's going to unlock my highest quality thinking. And 121 00:08:54,320 --> 00:08:56,080 here's where we mess up. We tend to think the more I pack into 122 00:08:56,120 --> 00:09:00,639 my calendar, the more productive and efficient I'm going to be. The problem 123 00:09:00,799 --> 00:09:05,039 is what I've really learned again from people who are bringing in the billions, 124 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:09,639 not just the millions, is you need space or your body and your brain 125 00:09:11,159 --> 00:09:13,840 have a micro break so it can recharge. Because we actually only have about 126 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:18,799 two hundred and forty minutes of high octane thinking in a day that's available to 127 00:09:18,879 --> 00:09:20,720 us. So if you just run from one meeting to one meeting to one 128 00:09:20,759 --> 00:09:22,759 meeting, come home and do one shore to the next shore, to the 129 00:09:22,799 --> 00:09:28,080 next shore, you are moving yourself back into these habitual patterns that come barreling 130 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:33,919 down your well holed neural pathways rather than creating space. And what does that 131 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:37,399 look like It maybe meditation. I've got a timer on my desk and I 132 00:09:37,519 --> 00:09:43,200 do two minute breaks three times a day with just sitting still and breathing, 133 00:09:43,759 --> 00:09:48,039 and it allows me to move from any risk of distress back into healthy stress. 134 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:52,120 I work with a lot of executives who will move their body rather than 135 00:09:52,159 --> 00:09:56,960 sit still, and so they may walk one block and just listen to music, 136 00:09:56,159 --> 00:10:00,200 not be on a call, not multitask, but just walk one block. 137 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:05,039 The goal is to get away from hyper focused intensity a couple times a 138 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:09,039 day and creating a regimen that will bring that forwards so you can recharge, 139 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:13,039 renew and be running as fast at five o'clock as you were at eight am. 140 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:20,600 Right, So that concept that you're not biring on all cylinders throughout the 141 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:24,559 day. They're ups and downs. So I mean it's a little off the 142 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:31,320 beaten path here, but the stuff that they call food nowadays really doesn't, 143 00:10:31,360 --> 00:10:35,480 you know, like the junk food you're referred to, yea linegar, chips 144 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:41,799 or whatever. Yeah, they're all processed foods. They really don't optimize your 145 00:10:41,960 --> 00:10:48,399 performance. Have you found that high ranking executives have a certain nutritional program that 146 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:52,320 also aids their higher thought program? I do. And that's part of the 147 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:56,000 regiment, right, that's their weekly How am I What am I putting into 148 00:10:56,039 --> 00:11:00,519 my body that will allow my brain to come up with high quality insights? 149 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:03,720 And because that's your greatest competitive advantage in today's economy, how can I have 150 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:07,679 a differential thought? How can I create the environment where those ideas come to 151 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:13,799 life? What we do know is junk food actually decreases your productivity every day 152 00:11:13,840 --> 00:11:16,720 by twenty percent. By twenty percent. I mean, think about that. 153 00:11:16,799 --> 00:11:18,360 If I woke up and I'm like, I'm going to work hard today, 154 00:11:18,639 --> 00:11:22,360 but I'll give up twenty percent just so I can have that bag of chips. 155 00:11:22,399 --> 00:11:24,639 If someone framed it that way to me and be like, I'm good, 156 00:11:24,759 --> 00:11:28,919 I want to skip the chips. But it's really interesting. If you 157 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:33,120 eat healthy food, your brain obviously is clearer, it's sharper, it operates 158 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:39,279 more effectively. And so absolutely, the way that you can replan your week 159 00:11:39,399 --> 00:11:43,879 around nutrition and just exercise, even if it's just walking, will have a 160 00:11:43,919 --> 00:11:48,399 direct correlation to your performance at work. That is not me saying it. 161 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:54,360 That is an avalanche full of research that demonstrates the brain and the body are 162 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:56,799 directly connected. Your brain is your asset for your career. Let's set up 163 00:11:56,799 --> 00:12:01,080 an environment each week so it can perfect form, it can shine. And 164 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:05,679 I didn't get to exercise, but you brought it up. So for me, 165 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:11,000 exercise been a part of my life for the past forty plus years on 166 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:16,000 with a few minor exceptions, you know, life transformations where you just kind 167 00:12:16,039 --> 00:12:20,360 of get out of the habit. But now at this point, I'll never 168 00:12:20,399 --> 00:12:26,320 stop doing it till they bury me. But I assume that most of these 169 00:12:26,399 --> 00:12:31,759 high power executives all have an exercise regiment, if not to strengthen their bodies 170 00:12:31,799 --> 00:12:35,720 and their minds, to at least keep them at their current optimal level. 171 00:12:37,559 --> 00:12:41,679 Yeah, and part of the exercise element is not just so that you can 172 00:12:41,919 --> 00:12:48,360 look good, right. I think that's the eighties and nineties mentality of we're 173 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:50,919 in the bathing suits on the beach and I just have a vision of the 174 00:12:50,960 --> 00:12:56,039 eighties that popped in my head for some reason. Now we know there's healthy 175 00:12:56,080 --> 00:13:00,000 stress, which we call you stress. There's a level of stress that actually 176 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:03,080 it gets you too sharper thinking. And if you're not moving your body and 177 00:13:03,159 --> 00:13:07,320 moving that stress around, it turns into distress. It gets it's a feeling 178 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:13,120 of overwhelmed people talk about. And once you are in distress, you're connon 179 00:13:13,200 --> 00:13:18,279 of functioning. Your ability to think great thoughts decreases. So the prefrontal cortex 180 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:22,200 where critical thinking happens, actually turns down and other parts of your brain turn 181 00:13:22,279 --> 00:13:26,120 on because you've moved into a state of distress. It is now self protection 182 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:30,440 over goal directed behavior. So you need exercise, if only if it's a 183 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:33,559 walk around the block they say for eleven minutes, to allow you to not 184 00:13:33,600 --> 00:13:39,000 only improve your cardiovascular help and decrease your risk of stroke, but also to 185 00:13:39,080 --> 00:13:43,080 be your best at work. And I mean that by when you use the 186 00:13:43,120 --> 00:13:46,120 word success, to be successful in results in relationship. We have to let 187 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:50,000 go of this belief that the brain and body are not connected. They are 188 00:13:50,039 --> 00:13:54,240 one and the same. They are one and the same. And I will 189 00:13:54,279 --> 00:13:58,399 tell you I did not take care of my body in my thirties, and 190 00:13:58,759 --> 00:14:03,480 I sprinted really fast and hard at work, and I had long term implications 191 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:07,879 and I feel really slow down my career because what I thought was the top 192 00:14:07,879 --> 00:14:11,879 of my game. When I was bringing in six figures, I was like, 193 00:14:11,919 --> 00:14:13,720 this is it, this is the top. Keeps printing. And when 194 00:14:13,759 --> 00:14:16,519 I finally learned how to create a regiment that allowed me to bring out my 195 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:20,480 best I realized, oh, that's nowhere near the top. I've got a 196 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:24,279 lot more horsepower. I've just been draining it ineffectively every day. That was 197 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:28,200 a real wake up call for me. So there's some trends like in Silicon 198 00:14:28,360 --> 00:14:35,159 Valley. Some are a little disturbing, like micro dosing LSD to become where 199 00:14:35,759 --> 00:14:39,960 I'm not advocating by any stretch. I think you're messing with your body, 200 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:45,320 your brain chemistry. Same. But one thing that of recent years that's come 201 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:50,440 to light is fasting. And yeah, le have started a fasting regime in 202 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:56,639 the past year, and I find that mental acuity, mental clarity, energy. 203 00:14:58,399 --> 00:15:01,000 You think, oh, you don't eat, you're going to wither, 204 00:15:01,320 --> 00:15:05,159 but actually the opposite's true, because your body shifts into fat burning load and 205 00:15:05,799 --> 00:15:11,960 your clarity, and your ability to focus goes way way up, and you're 206 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:16,480 actually burn ten percent more energy when you're fasting than when you're not. So 207 00:15:16,679 --> 00:15:20,440 I don't know if you've had any experience with it, he's ever told you 208 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:26,679 about it, but share your thoughts. Yeah, fasting and been a cash 209 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:31,559 really in the past five years, I've seen an explosion around this way to 210 00:15:31,639 --> 00:15:35,679 make sure you're optimizing your mental acuty to your point, and also the way 211 00:15:35,679 --> 00:15:39,200 your body is physically responding. And it's not for everyone. Actually can have 212 00:15:39,320 --> 00:15:43,480 negative effects for some people depending on their body makeup, so it's worth talking 213 00:15:43,519 --> 00:15:48,080 to a doctor about it. However, there's another element to what you're talking 214 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:54,240 about, which is priming your body for performance so that your brain is performing 215 00:15:54,240 --> 00:15:56,759 and it's best. That's your greatest competitive advantage, right, And one thing 216 00:15:56,759 --> 00:16:02,440 we don't think a lot about that's directly correlated this is confidence. When you 217 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:04,200 don't feel good when you wake up and you feel sluggish because you had a 218 00:16:04,240 --> 00:16:08,679 glass two glasses of wine the night before, or you pushed through on a 219 00:16:08,720 --> 00:16:11,559 project and you went to bed at midnight and you didn't get it off sleep, 220 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:15,600 or you're burning candle on both ends and just sprinting, sprinting, sprinting, 221 00:16:15,600 --> 00:16:19,480 and it feels like there's no and in sight. The other thing it 222 00:16:19,519 --> 00:16:26,080 gets hit is your confidence. And confidence is a skill, not a trait, 223 00:16:26,519 --> 00:16:29,399 which means you build it. You build it. You got to choose 224 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:30,919 it every day and say I'm going to lean in and build this muscle. 225 00:16:32,320 --> 00:16:37,480 And when you're depleted and tired and feeling down, it spirals into a gosh, 226 00:16:37,519 --> 00:16:40,639 I don't know if I can actually do this. Gosh, this feels 227 00:16:40,639 --> 00:16:44,240 pretty big cash this weight. I'm not sure I really want to engage with 228 00:16:44,279 --> 00:16:47,919 this amount of weight at work or at home right now. And that impacts 229 00:16:48,200 --> 00:16:51,799 what you reach for and what you go for. So not only is a 230 00:16:51,840 --> 00:16:56,320 performance of mental acuity, but self doubt can get pretty loud when you're feeling 231 00:16:56,360 --> 00:17:02,279 burnt out. Confidence every effectively, or even if you're not feeling confidence. 232 00:17:02,279 --> 00:17:04,319 So you've got to fake it, right, Yeah, well you have to 233 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,720 choose it. So the way I look at it is if I wake up 234 00:17:07,759 --> 00:17:11,400 and self doubt is ring really loudly, I've got this like low grade buzz 235 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:15,720 anxiety that's with me in the more day. Either I can just allow that 236 00:17:15,759 --> 00:17:18,960 to happen, or I can meet it. And what I mean by that 237 00:17:18,200 --> 00:17:22,920 is there's accepting and believing that that's just you, and then there's realizing that's 238 00:17:22,960 --> 00:17:26,279 just a safety security mechanism. That's saying something is off. So I'm going 239 00:17:26,319 --> 00:17:30,920 to throw doubt here and slow you down. Because something is off, it's 240 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:37,720 okay to recognize Itself doubt turns on anytime you're going to step outside of your 241 00:17:37,720 --> 00:17:41,079 comfort zone, anytime, because the brain's saying, hey, there's a risk 242 00:17:41,119 --> 00:17:44,319 here. There's social risk here, there's financial risk here, there's career risk 243 00:17:44,359 --> 00:17:48,359 here. Even if it's small, self doubt do doesn't calibrate. It's loud, 244 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:52,039 and the more we allow that to run, the louder it gets. 245 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:57,079 Versus there's fascinating research when they looked at the two thousand Sydney Olympics to say 246 00:17:57,160 --> 00:18:00,960 who are those that made metals and who didn't. And what they found was 247 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:06,359 a common denominator in those who made metals or earned medals. I always say 248 00:18:06,400 --> 00:18:08,039 made metals, but they didn't go into a shop and make them. They 249 00:18:08,039 --> 00:18:14,039 earned the medal. Was how they engaged with self doubt, was how they 250 00:18:14,039 --> 00:18:17,319 engaged with their inner talk tracks. And they didn't give it the mic and 251 00:18:17,400 --> 00:18:19,359 say, have at it, rerun this day. I guess I don't know 252 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:22,839 confidence. They don't have the ability to do that because it's too taxing. 253 00:18:23,039 --> 00:18:26,680 It causes you to slow down and play small. Instead, they engage and 254 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:30,319 say thanks, I'm good, I've got it, I'm all good, here's 255 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:33,119 what I need to adjust. Let's keep going. And that way, when 256 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:38,000 something goes wrong, they're not immediately internalizing that something's wrong with them. Right. 257 00:18:38,599 --> 00:18:45,960 So what about the concept of visualizing success? Imagining success that's in a 258 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:52,880 lot of these success gururus. Yeah, but there's some validity to it because 259 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:59,200 athletes who've used visualization have excelled and have gotten as much, almost as much 260 00:18:59,240 --> 00:19:03,880 benefit as physically doing the act that they're visualizing. You know what's so cool 261 00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:07,720 about this one, which I talk about in the book Choosing Greatness, is 262 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:14,599 when you visualize a future event playing out well or not, it is created. 263 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:18,039 That visualization is created in the same part of the brain that stores previous 264 00:19:18,119 --> 00:19:22,359 memories. So what I'm saying is you are making a memory of something that 265 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:27,160 hasn't even happened yet, which is really powerful because then when it comes to 266 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:32,400 that moment, it's almost probable. It's more probable that it will play out 267 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:33,440 that way because you've got a memory of it. You're like, I know 268 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:37,079 how this goes. Oh, I know this situation. I know when this 269 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:40,920 ends. It ends in a win versus. What we tend to do, 270 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:44,880 because we're primed to look at risk, is say, oh my god, 271 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,880 I got that speech in two weeks or that presentation. I'm going to flub 272 00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:51,920 it. The CEO is going to wonder what the heck I'm doing. My 273 00:19:52,000 --> 00:19:55,920 colleagues are going to think I'm not smart. I get more and more anxious, 274 00:19:56,000 --> 00:20:00,559 and then guess what happens when I get there, I'm breaking out out. 275 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:06,079 And so making sure you are calm, balanced, objective, creating the 276 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:08,559 regiment for your brain and your body to be showing up at its best is 277 00:20:08,559 --> 00:20:15,200 important. But so is visualizing what you want and leaning in confidently to go 278 00:20:15,319 --> 00:20:19,680 for it. All right, I think we'll leave it at that. Now 279 00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:25,359 you've made me want to go up and buy the book. I assume it's 280 00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:30,559 available in Amazon and where her fine books used to be sold. It sure 281 00:20:30,759 --> 00:20:33,319 is Barnes and Noble, you name it, Amazon, go for it. 282 00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:37,839 And it's called choosing greatness, an evidence based approach to achieving exceptional results. 283 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:44,759 All right, and your website is Curtis Leadership dot com. I suggest everybody 284 00:20:44,759 --> 00:20:48,960 go there. You can of course obtain the book there as well. Questions 285 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:55,640 for Christina and myself email address kl at Kerrylots dot com and we'll have a 286 00:20:55,680 --> 00:21:00,680 link to Christina's site on Financial Survival Network dot com. So just go there, 287 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:04,039 click through and you'll be able to get the book. And while you're 288 00:21:04,039 --> 00:21:07,599 there, sign up for your free newsletter. Christuda been an absolute pleasure. 289 00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:11,519 Thanks so much for coming by. Thank you so much, have a good 290 00:21:11,519 --> 00:21:17,640 one. Thanks for listening to Carrie Lenz's Financial Survival Network your solution to today's 291 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:22,559 trying times. For the latest, go to Financial Survival Network dot com. 292 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:26,440 Financial Survival Network now more than ever,