WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.880 --> 00:00:07.320 I am so proud of myself. I just broke a cycle and realize something. 2 00:00:08.000 --> 00:00:11.679 Hi, this is fifty plus James add Junior, and you know, 3 00:00:11.759 --> 00:00:15.359 as you know, I am out there single, trying to date, trying 4 00:00:15.359 --> 00:00:18.879 to meet people, and it's hard in your fifties. I'll be fifty five 5 00:00:19.000 --> 00:00:23.559 in the month and like literally a month and it's really tough. You're trying 6 00:00:23.640 --> 00:00:30.160 to, you know, find the right person and everything. And tonight I'm 7 00:00:30.199 --> 00:00:35.560 on several of the apps and I just kind of I leave it open, 8 00:00:35.759 --> 00:00:42.640 you know, I left open in terms of distance and age and race and 9 00:00:42.719 --> 00:00:45.640 every they decided to do wide open, see who comes through. I like 10 00:00:45.679 --> 00:00:51.640 all kinds of people. So tonight I met someone and actually connected. Really. 11 00:00:52.280 --> 00:00:59.759 This person is thirty two and newly thirty two, so under under over 12 00:00:59.799 --> 00:01:03.920 t twenty something years younger than me. That's number one. Very cute though. 13 00:01:03.120 --> 00:01:06.879 Green gray eyes. Green eyes are my favorite of all time. They're 14 00:01:06.959 --> 00:01:10.200 very rare. My girl, Tammy Govea has them. If you if you 15 00:01:10.239 --> 00:01:17.079 go to watch my shows with me, she has them. That's there. 16 00:01:17.599 --> 00:01:23.159 Oh sorry, look at I start looking at something and uh and very nice 17 00:01:23.280 --> 00:01:30.120 looking everything. Sorry talking well. The opening was Taylor Swift. Oh, 18 00:01:30.519 --> 00:01:33.599 person said the queen. Taylor Swift was like, oh, the queen. 19 00:01:33.640 --> 00:01:37.280 I'm like, okay, we're different generations. Clearly, obviously I don't think 20 00:01:37.319 --> 00:01:40.040 wrong. I don't think wrong with Taylor Swift. But I was speaking his 21 00:01:40.200 --> 00:01:42.680 language and I was kind of like, you know, I do admire her 22 00:01:42.719 --> 00:01:44.680 and I want her to succeed and stuff. She's like, oh my god, 23 00:01:44.719 --> 00:01:51.680 Mary. Anyway, we had a conversation this person's looking for I'm looking 24 00:01:51.680 --> 00:01:55.200 for supposedly as we just just wrong online this meeting for the first time. 25 00:01:57.599 --> 00:02:02.120 But I realized something as I was the old me, I have data younger. 26 00:02:02.239 --> 00:02:06.239 I have data younger, taking all the jokes everything with my friends and 27 00:02:06.239 --> 00:02:08.560 stuff, and it works out. So I realized the way tonight. I'm 28 00:02:08.560 --> 00:02:14.759 like, the last six or seven people I talked to were in their fifties 29 00:02:14.759 --> 00:02:20.680 and sixties, and you know what, I like it, I do. 30 00:02:22.240 --> 00:02:24.199 And it was like it was like a giant it was like a giant truth 31 00:02:24.280 --> 00:02:28.800 bomb just dropped on me. And I was like, I like that. 32 00:02:30.319 --> 00:02:35.840 I think I want more of that of that age group. I don't think 33 00:02:35.840 --> 00:02:38.680 I want anyone younger than me like that, So I might be changing my 34 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:49.879 preferences to of the age part and make a little older. Now, I 35 00:02:49.919 --> 00:02:53.879 you know, I made by in their forties yet, because that's that could 36 00:02:53.919 --> 00:02:57.159 be I don't know, maybe ten years longer than me. Maybe Okay, 37 00:02:57.280 --> 00:03:06.159 I don't know, but I realized tonight twenty years. No, no, 38 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:07.840 no, and it could be. I mean, it's just for me. 39 00:03:08.400 --> 00:03:12.879 I mean, I think you dave whatever you want, but for me, 40 00:03:12.960 --> 00:03:16.840 I'm like, that's not what I want. And I politely just like let 41 00:03:16.879 --> 00:03:21.319 them, let them the person know, I'm sorry, I just I'm not 42 00:03:21.599 --> 00:03:24.360 there. You're you're just very young. You're very sweet. This person called 43 00:03:24.360 --> 00:03:29.479 me papa. Within the first two minutes I was talking, I realized, 44 00:03:29.560 --> 00:03:35.039 I don't like that either. That's not I that doesn't turn me on nothing. 45 00:03:35.159 --> 00:03:38.800 I don't like that. So that was a nice you get in your 46 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:45.479 fifties. You know. The joke is that we're always trying to go younger 47 00:03:46.960 --> 00:03:51.080 a lot of times, and that's true. And I still think there's nothing 48 00:03:51.080 --> 00:03:53.319 wrong with it if you want to go younger or go younger. But I 49 00:03:53.360 --> 00:04:00.280 was like, you go on, I'm good, I'm good, and I 50 00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:05.080 like my age or older or or at least a few at least fifties and 51 00:04:05.120 --> 00:04:10.439 sixties, So that to me, I feel like I broke a cycle of 52 00:04:10.560 --> 00:04:13.080 saying that I know it's not gonna work out. And this person looked far 53 00:04:13.159 --> 00:04:15.680 out to like one hundred miles away from me, so I'm like, we're 54 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:17.519 never gonna meet anyway, So I'm never gonna meet. I have a car, 55 00:04:17.560 --> 00:04:20.319 anything might go direction. So I was just like, this is gonna 56 00:04:20.319 --> 00:04:24.519 be just a we're gonna talk out here anyway, and the knowh's gonna happen. 57 00:04:26.639 --> 00:04:31.360 But I thought, but in terms of just knowing who I am and 58 00:04:31.399 --> 00:04:35.879 realizing this is this is, I know what I want. But now I 59 00:04:36.040 --> 00:04:40.600 know what I want age wise too. You know, all the people I've 60 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:45.000 talked to you last year didn't work out, there were still there's things about 61 00:04:45.040 --> 00:04:49.279 them that I really enjoyed, and their age was part of it. They 62 00:04:49.319 --> 00:04:54.800 were just it was just more relatable and in the end, and I don't 63 00:04:54.839 --> 00:04:57.920 know if just again for me, it feels like a triumph for meal, 64 00:04:57.959 --> 00:05:00.120 a little mini triump because I feel like I just just realize something about myself 65 00:05:00.199 --> 00:05:04.720 and I'm feeling good about it. I'm feeling very good about it. So 66 00:05:04.800 --> 00:05:11.360 I think I want to keep that and now I'm going to go forward in 67 00:05:11.439 --> 00:05:14.279 that and just you know, someone I'm a change of settings. But if 68 00:05:14.279 --> 00:05:17.120 someone younger comes up to me, I could be nice to them and just 69 00:05:17.120 --> 00:05:20.079 just be polite and be like, you know, I'm sorry. I just 70 00:05:20.120 --> 00:05:26.120 want to find my age. He's older. And you know in this in 71 00:05:26.120 --> 00:05:29.079 this day and age, is something wrong with when somebody your age or older, 72 00:05:29.079 --> 00:05:30.759 it's like iybody wants you know, it's like everybody trying to go younger 73 00:05:31.240 --> 00:05:35.959 or if you go younger, like you can. But for me, I 74 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:41.079 well, so I'm just smiling because I feel good about something in this whole 75 00:05:41.160 --> 00:05:44.519 crazy dating world, which is not fun, and especially in your fifties is 76 00:05:44.519 --> 00:05:46.480 not fun. But there are plenty of people in their fifties since you start 77 00:05:46.519 --> 00:05:50.160 looking for love. Also, I'm seeing them more and more now I'm actively 78 00:05:50.199 --> 00:05:58.360 looking, So I'm going to continue actively looking their direction too. What are 79 00:05:58.360 --> 00:06:00.759 some things in your fifties that year? If you're dating out there in your 80 00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:03.680 fifties or sixties or seventies or eighties, what do you notice if you like 81 00:06:03.759 --> 00:06:09.000 now that you didn't that you may have changed their thoughts on? Let me 82 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:12.439 know, is this fifty plus we're everywhere and i'll tech to you next time.