Hey, hey, I'm that or something for you to think about. Listen
up. On a serious, serious note, some of you are literally allowing
your loved ones to put you in the early grades. You heard me.
Some of you are allowing your loved one to put you in an early grades.
Some people are loving entirely the wrong way. Some of you think that
you supposed to allow your significant other to do whatever they choose to you.
Some of you are not holding them responsible. You're not giving them requirements,
you're not laying down boundaries nothing. You're just allowing them to do whatever they
want to do to you. You allow them to bring whatever drama they want
to bring in your life, and you take it, and it's just chipping
away at you. It's causing you so much stress. You're unhappy, and
you're at a point that some of you you feel like you're losing your mind.
You've lost a sense of who you are. You're allowing your significant others
to put you in in early grades. Now, I will tell you like
that, and I've told you many many times, it does not matter how
much you love him or her, do they love you. In case you
don't know, let me tell you any time you're with someone and all you
receive is drama, drama, drama, bullcrap after bullcrap. You're going through
and having to deal with Shenanigan after Shenanigan. There's an issue. There's a
real issue and should be real concern. Do this person love you? And
even more than that, your greatest concern should be do you love yourself?
Because people wanna be people. They're gonna treat you exactly how you taught them.
They're gonna treat you how you allow them to treat you. That's a
given. But do you love yourself enough to not allow it. Some people
are going to their graves early because they have stressed out and stroked out and
had heart attacks, all kind of things because of trying to love someone so
hard. You're going through pure hell, trying to love someone so hard that
all he's doing is stressing you out and causing your health to be at risk.
And I'm not exaggerating. There are a lot of people who have gone
to early grades because of the person that they love. And I mean this
could relate to your children, other relatives, but I'm specifically talking about your
significant others. Some of you are with individuals who have gone through something health
wise, and they don't want to do for themselves because you do it at
all. So they're not even trying to get better. They're not even trying
to do things on their own because you're at their every back and call,
even before they call. You right there doing whatever need to be done,
when they should be doing it themselves. Working yourself to an early grade,
literally working your fingers to the bones because you have not given any requirements.
You have not helped that person accountable, irresponsible. They know they should be
doing something, but because you are always there to do whatever for them,
they're not trying to do it. So they sit back and want you hump
pump, pump, pump pump, getting everything done. That's running yourself rabbit.
And they said, but they still don't try to do anything. You
have to look at yourselves. You can't blame him or her. You have
to look at yourself. You are allowing that person to send you to an
early grade. It ages you. It ages you, and I'm telling you,
when you're aged that way, it is not good. It is not
good when you're aged because of worry and stress. It's not a good look.
It's not Millions of people in this world do not know how to love.
They think they do, and they always base it on how they're feeling,
but not what the whole entire picture is, meaning what they're getting from
the relationship, how they're treated by their significant other. They don't look at
that because all they're caught up in is how they feel and what they want
so much, so many people totally disregard what they're actually going through, what
they're dealing with, They totally disregarded because their mindsets are so on how they
feel. And it's not a good thing because most times people get to a
certain point where they feel that they're so stressed out. Some people have even
wanted to take their own life. Some people have because they feel that's their
way out. Wrong decision, but it has happened. People get to a
point of being so stressed that and only when they get to that point sometimes
their eyes open and they realize how they've allowed themselves to become, and then
all of that love turns into anger and resentment and regret. I've told you
from day one, people treat you exactly how you allow. I don't care
how much you love that person, it don't matter. And I don't want
you to misconscrew what I'm saying. Yes, loving your significant other is important.
Loving your significant other does matter. But what I'm saying is, when
it comes to you being worked to the bones, ran into the ground,
you have to look at what's going on in the relationship and stop totally basing
it on what you want, desire and feel. Look at what you're actually
getting. If people did this, oh my goodness, Oh my goodness,
if people really paid attention to what they're actually getting, it could make a
world of difference. It can make a world of difference because now you're like,
wait a minute, I'm doing this and that and all of these things,
and this is what this person is doing to me. No, I'm
not dealing with that. But no, people keep trying, keep trying,
keep trying. And there's nothing wrong with keep trying. But it takes two
to make a relationship work, not just one. You may have the desire
and the heart to try to make it work, but you can't do it
by yourself. I promise you you can't. It takes two to make it
work. But the problem is so many of you are settling for those one
sided relationships that I've talked about on many occasions. You settle for it because
some people feel, hey, as long as I got a man, as
long as I got a woman, they're coming home to me. Now,
oh, that's why so many people are miserable. You have people who say,
oh, I don't care what he does, I don't care what she
does. I'm doing my own thing, or as a as long as they
come home to me, as long as they come home to me. Seriously,
then that's an individual who have another agenda. If you don't care,
you have another agenda. Period. So when you hear people talking that foolishness,
they have another agenda, whether it's to do their own thing, to
get whatever they can out of the person, whatever, they have another agenda.
Because a man that loves his woman, a woman that loves her man,
they're not thinking that way. They're not feeling that way. Do whatever
you want long as you come home to me. No, they're not feeling
like that. Not people that truly love who they are with. Not happening.
But a lot of people will say it because they have a different agenda.
There's no way you love your man or you're a woman and you okay
with them with someone else, are you okay with them out there sowing their
wild oaks, even though some of their oaks have dried up, they're still
trying to sew them. You wouldn't be okay with it. So people that
are okay, who are saying they are okay, they have a different antenda.
You give in these relationships, and you do not think about everything that's
involved in a relationship. You don't. Many people don't. They get in
relationships and they just move solely on how they feel or what they want,
what they desire. And then you get in these relationships with people who will
work your fingers to the bones. They take from you. They drain you
in every way possible mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, and just zappen,
zapping your energy. That's not love. That's not love they're showing you,
and that's not love, although you perceive that as love. So many
people take take, take, take, because they think that's the way you
supposed to love, when you obviously don't know what love is. And I
always say, if you don't know what love is, you definitely don't know
what it isn't therefore you will go alone with anything. You will do anything
you will accept and allow anything, and ultimately you'll find yourself in a terrible,
terrible, terrible relationship, one that you regret, you don't want to
be with the person. Some of you end up in relationships where you're afraid,
you're afraid of who you're with, but you won't leave because you're afraid
to leave, You're afraid to stay, and it just wear you down,
down, down, especially emotionally, mentally, and physically. That's why I
tell people all the time, get a great understanding of what you're signing up
for. Many people are so focused on finding love being with someone, but
their eyes are not open and their minds to receive exactly what they're getting.
You can't see it because you're blind by what you want, feel and desire.
Until you find yourself so deep in such misery that you begin to be
able to seek. And for many, you're in deep and you think you're
trapped. You have the mindset of being trapped. Some of you are fearful,
some of you full of insecurities. There are so many reasons that people
remain where they are in their unhealthy relationships. Some of you, who are
listening to me right now, you're literally crying your eyes out because you're so
mircer. You're literally full of sorrow and headache and heartache because of the terrible
relationship you're in, and it's draining you, is zapping your life from you.
You feel choked and suffocated because you're so miserable and unhappy. It's very
important to find happiness within yourself. Stop looking forward in other people. The
very person you're looking forward looking for happiness in and unhappy, full of their
own issues. But so many of you are looking to people to make you
happy. You can't make it. An unhappy person happy. An unhappy person
cannot make you happy. And if you subject yourself to such relationships, I
promise you, I promise you you will feel the consequences. You will.
So many people, they are so full of regrets, wishing they have made
better choices. But it's never too late. And you all know, if
you've listened to me, I don't tell anyone to leave their relationship other than
for abuse. That's why it's so important to know and understand what you're getting
into. You have to be able to see going into these relationships. You
have to be able to see when people show you who they are because it's
no life. It is who they are. But so many of you all
it's just it's not too much. When that's just a little bit, stay
in that relationship and see what happens. You're gonna get a double dose.
And some many, many, many people are going to early grades because they
have allowed themselves to be in situations that are so unhealthy and toxic. Some
of you are dealing with hostile and volatile relationship that's no good for no one
mind. Body are sould no good. But many people are dealing with this
because a lot of people it does not matter what their significant others do to
them. They think I love him or her so much, they're gonna change.
They're gonna change, only to find out they're not. They get it
worse because you allowed them to do whatever they want to do. They become
worse. But really it's who they are, who they've always been. They
just feel very comfortable in showing you now because you did nothing when they showed
you in the beginning. You've done nothing, so now they just being who
they are. But you're miserable now because now there's no more pretense, there's
no more camouflage. Many people they're getting sick, I mean physically sick,
mentally sick because of the toxic relationships. No one, and I do mean
no one on the face of this earth is worth it. No man,
no woman is worth it. And it is not love. I don't care
if you've been with them forty years. If they are not treating you right,
it is not love. If you have to go through so much hell,
it is not love. And you don't love yourself because if you did,
you wouldn't be tolerating the crap. I know some of you don't want
the truth, but I still gotta give it to you. I'm not here
to sugar coat, water down, or or any of that. You can't
grow behind the line. You have to be told the truth. And I
don't benefit from lying to anyone. And no one can ever become better by
accepting the lie over the truth. No one. There is so much going
on in this world, but I've realized that so many people want to remain
where they have been for years. They want to remain the same, no
change, no change. Some of you get on these social media platforms and
you want to follow these people who most of them, most of what they're
saying, they're saying what they what they know you want to hear. Most
of them have so many issues you wouldn't even imagine insecurity, don't love themselves.
I mean, so much going on inside. But they get in front
of you of fake fake, fake faith, but you can't see it.
For the same reasons you can't see what your significant other is doing. Because
you want something, you have a sense of need for something that is not
good for you. People just seeking love, they don't care where it comes
from. A lot of times they just want to be in somebody life or
someone in their life. They want to be a part of something. But
I'm here to tell you it's just not worth it. If you're in a
relationship with someone and they're not treating you the way that you should be treated,
I'm sorry you're in the relationship with the wrong person. Let me tell
you what I heard yesterday. I was listening to this clip and this woman
said she'll choose safety over love any day. Now you know, I had
to make a comment because that's ridiculous. You will choose safety over love any
day. So you got someone who makes you feel safe, but they're doing
everything they wanna do. Seeing other people just doing whatever they wanna do,
as long as they make you feel safe, you would not be happy with
that. You would not be happy with that because just because they make you
feel safe, it does not mean they love you, and it does not
mean that they want to be with you. People need to be careful about
what they say and the information they put out, because that's ridiculous. Then
she's saying a man will take respect over love any day, Well, I
feel for him, because just because I respect you don't mean I love you.
If a relationship is not built on love, you're gonna have problems,
I promise you. That's why so many people are just falling apart mentally,
emotionally, and physically because of people giving bad information and individuals are believe in
it getting into these relationships. Well, well, let me let me stop
that. That's not the real reason. The real reason is because of mindset,
inner issues. But people who get on these platforms and put out bad
information don't help the situation none. So many people are in relationships miserable because
they really believe some of what these people say. You are putting out bad
information. If you don't love who you're with, you're gonna have problems.
Hands down multiple So you can believe safety over love, respect over love if
you want to, because guess what, if they love you, you're gonna
be safe with them. If they love you, they are going to respect
you. I mean people, Oh, it's just annoying, the dumb stuff
that people say and then individuals signing off on it as if it's right.
No, you're wrong, your wrong, wrong, wrong. Millions can avoid
bad relationships. Look at yourself, figure you out, love you before you
try to get in a relationship with someone. A lot of people get in
these relationships with individuals with their own past trauma or history of past trauma.
Then you have your own history of past trauma. Then you come together in
a relationship dry mouth drawm But people just I mean they think it's love when
it's everything. But so please don't let your significant others send you to an
early grade that they'll break you down emotionally, mentally, and physically. Because
if you keep going through what you're going through, the unnecessary, If you
keep going through what you're going through, all the stress, it's gonna break
you down, wear and tear on your body. In your mind, you
do what you want to do. I'm just giving you information. I hope
you understand what I'm trying to say. If you have any questions, you
have comments, or whatever, please reach out. Tell me to go to
my cast page. It will tell you exactly how to reach me. I
will respond. Thank you so much for listening. I appreciate you much.
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