Made uh sanjo Oh thanks Sunny sun On I haddasione n so Nat. What's
up everybody? Hey, it's our Friday show. Ho Hey ho spaking a
house We want to say hi to somehow? Yeah? How about Stephanie Stinker
Wrinker, she's a stinker and Christa you make me want to stree Buddy,
remind me, I have to tell you something about lyrics. Sandra, it's
not easy being green, Jennifer, get up, Aaron dirty Sanchez. We
loved, We just love saying that, right, Sarah fun Oh, she's
my bison. Leslie, enough with the coughing. COVID's on the Wayne.
You can stop, You're not that's just for attention right at this point?
Too much? And who's the other one, Leslie? Oh accosting people?
Oh my god. She was at a Super Bowl party, lingering outside in
the driveway. I was like, come on now, Amy's a cunt.
Katie's rolling on me? Yeah? Not Anna? Faris Aaron? Who is
Alicia Escalante? Kelly is not your aunt, but she will give you a
mentors yeah, and take you a plan for an abortion. But we just
got canceled on that one. Gabby and Missy. I heard that they were
volunteers at the Super Bowl this year, Oh, doing the half for the
half of a half time. Yeah, they ran on the stage and set
up all the chairs. And I heard they're still in Vegas though, waiting
for the busy exactly the greyhound, Katerina, check that bowler, Valerie bub
of Fenwick, Polly, we love your pancakes andcakes now, me too,
so hungry. Athena, we love your dancings. Yes, and Elizabeth Williamson,
you have a lot of kids and we love them too. Yeah.
I just saw a picture of her whole family and they're adorable. Ah,
and Rita rocks half of them in her basinette. That's all she can fit.
They are fully grown now kids. Jacob is so growley, and yeah,
Ashley is so chic and sheer bear and do you want a Hershey bar?
And Kelly lad and that's it nice? Uh, doctor Ruth, Oh
my god. So I was at getting my hair done last week and m
hm hmm. So when I when I have to sit for a while,
I go sit outside, you know, in their little patio area, and
my guys like, I'll meet you out there, we'll go sit. So
I get like they get the cappuccino for me, and I go sit outside
and there's a guy standing in their courtyard. This place is like they're on
Beverly and they're in West Hollywood. Okay, Beverly and Librea. So there's
this guy. He's put together. I mean, I mean, he's just
wearing a black jacket, black pants, He's got a black backpack. He's
a white dude in his forties, and he's got like a skaterboard hat that
says suicidal tendencies on the thing and it's flipped up. The bill is like
flipped upwards, so it says it. And he's just standing out there.
And I was like to my guy Chris, I goes is this guy?
And he's like, I don't know. And then the lady was like,
I was, I wanted to take the trash out, but I don't want
to walk past him. I don't know who he is. He's been standing
out there for a long time. So I go, nobody knows who this
guy is. So my guy, Chris that does my hair him and I
go out there and Chris is like, you know what's going on, dude,
and he's like immediately pulls out his id and He's like, dude,
I'm hiding from MS thirteen? Is it thirteen or fourteen? Eighteen? MS
thirteen. He's like, they're trying to kill me. I was like,
and Chris is like, well, what do you do? Why are you
in here? If they're chased? He's like, they're after me, and
I ducked. I wanted to get away. They've been following me, so
I ducked into here and I'm just waiting it out. But why does any
like pulled his id? But like, so Chris is like, let's go
outside into the alley and talk. So he's like, well, first,
Chris goes, do you want should we call the police? You know?
And he's like, yeah, yeah. They want to murder me. They
want to chop me up. And Chris is like, okay, well let's
go in the alley, right. So Chris is facing me. So I
go inside and I'm like this is crazy. To the front desk girl.
She goes, oh my god, now everybody's coming out to look at the
guy. And now she's like I called nine one one, and I was
like, okay, So I go in my mouth to Chris nine you know,
police are on their way. Chris like she's talking to the guy.
The guy lives get this at the Cecily Hotel. You mean the Cecil the
Cecil Hotel, that's where he lives. Yes, that's where he's staying.
So now Chris is like, okay, tweaker, Like this guy's on drugs.
Maybe they are after him, maybe not, we don't know. He's
like, but I didn't get the like vibe that he was like freaking out
in the Cecil Hotel where the night stalker. Yes, and also where the
girl who was have like a psychotic break and founder in the water tower.
Isn't that the same? Yes, there's that whole documentary. Yes, of
course with my favorite guy, Josh Dean, who's so cute. He was
like them journalist. Yes, yeah, I'm a little obsessed with him.
Yeah, I want to get him on our podcast. Sorry that that's like
a diversion, But I think I tried to reach out to him on Instagram
and got no response. But he's got a couple of podcasts you think you'd
want to promote. Maybe he's very cute and he's like he knows a lot
about cases that we're interested in. Maybe he didn't see your DM Maybe all
right, I'll try again. I mean, do you look at the dail
off. I don't look at him that often. Yeah, I do check
mine. But yeah, I tried to friend him on Facebook too, I've
tried anyway. That is so beside the point gone, well, I mean
that's kind of basically what happened. And uh, and then I'm taking pictures
of the guy just in case. You never know, like what if something
happens, right, I can save the day. Hey, I took pictures
of him. Yeah. But so then then like Chris was like, sent
the text, send a text to the front desk girl. He's like,
I don't think the police need to come, Like he seems like okay,
and he's leaving. He's going on his way. So he left. But
it was like that was the exciting. I was like, wow, this
is pretty exciting, like you know, it was a whole thing. But
yeah, I had a little This is so weird because this is ever so
slightly similar. Literally two days ago, I was going to it doesn't really
matter why, but I was going to Big five to get some sneakers.
I park the car. I'm just not venturable of ard, like in the
middle of a normal neighborhood and there's a there's a guy who seems off right,
like he's dressed in all black, he's got a backpack, and he's
kind of like walk like he's walking in the street sort of towards the car,
but then he's kind of going on the sidewalk then going back in the
street like you know there, you just see there's something is off about him.
And I'm like, okay, So I wait till he walks by,
and then I get out of the car, and then I'm starting to like
walk up the sidewalk, but now he's like lingering, so he waits until
I get in front of him, and I'm like, okay, what's he
doing. Now there's another woman on the sidewalk with me, and she sees
the same thing, and he's he's just being sus like he's but you can
tell that there's that he has mental illness because he's like not talking to himself,
but just you can just see by the erratic like he's just walking weird
and then going over and then walking around a car, but then sort of
looking like he's like watching me. He's watching us for sure. So I
go in. So I go in. I get to Big Five and I
walk in. The guy walks in behind me, and I'm like, oh
no, because I'm thinking, listen, people with mental illness are more likely
to be victims of a crime than commit crimes. But they're also unpredictable and
I don't know what. I don't know why, and he's following me.
Now, he's clearly following me. Like, so I walk in and I
just walked straight to the counter. There's like an older guy. It's all
guys working the counter that day, and weirdly, there were seemed to be
like four or five employees and there was no hardly anyone in the store.
But I walked right behind the count you know how there's places it's like there's
an opening for you to walk behind the counter. So I start to walk
behind the counter, and of course now they're all like, oh, can
we help you? And I was like, I think that guy's following me.
And they were so cool about it. They're like, oh, just
stay here. And then the guys kneels down right by where I'm standing and
he looks like he's looking at flashlights and he's picking them up, and we're
all just watching him to see what he's going to do boy, and he
just and I just sat there and waited it out, and then he sort
of walked more closer to the front door, so I went over to start
looking at the sneakers. I wasn't like that freaked out. I was just
like and then it was really sweet. Then the guy then I I watched,
I kept checking, and then the guy walked out, and then two
of the employees came over to me and they're like, hey, the guy
left, but like where you parked. When you're ready to leave, we'll
totally walk you to your car. Like I mean, it was so nute,
it was so sweet. Yeah, yeah, but anyway, the guy
laughed, but it was just a weird thing that he fought. He for
sure followed me into the store, right, and I don't know if it
was just because he was like, yeah, not after me, but just
because he was like, oh, you were walking in the store. Well
I guess I'll walk in this like if he even knew where he was.
But it was creepy, yeah, of course, Like it's unpredictable. You
don't know what's going to happen. Yeah, you don't know if he's got
a weapon or if he's just like gonna do something erratic. Yes, I
know, yeah, well yeah, that's our show. That's our show.
You know. What I was thinking about earlier, was uh with with the
song lyrics? I was, Yes, I was thinking about the fact that
I have, you know, such a poor memory, and I was thinking,
as I'm getting older, like I just don't have as good a memory,
and that I was thinking about the fact that my kids, well,
a song will come on the radio that they like, and they know all
the words to all these songs right, And I'm like, God, they
didn't know all the words to these songs. And then I thought, well,
I knew all the words to songs too when I was young. So
then I was thinking, well, is it because like I'm you know,
starting to lose my memory. But then I had this other thought. I
kind of reframed the whole losing my memory to be like what if I'm not
What if when we get older we're not losing our memory. What if our
brains What if the memory is full right? What if we've learned so much?
Like you think about how many songs like Xander knows the words too?
Well, guess what bitch for fifty some odd years. That's a lot of
songs, right, that are in my brain, right, Like I've got
all the songs from the age that he is because I think about the fact
that, like it's six seven five three oh nine, I'm never gonna forget
that phone number. I've never if you put if you put on Jenny,
I got your number. I would know all the lyrics, right, But
yet I also know all the lyrics to many many songs that have come since
then, and they don't. I don't remember all this stuff. I've got
so much information in my brain. So many things have happened in our lifetime
that we know tons of details about. Maybe our brains are just like I'm
good, Yeah, we're full, Like I don't we don't need to know
the lightest Travis Scott song, right, yeah, right, So like maybe
when we we've become better at like screening things out so that when it's you're
on like a need to know basis, Yes, and it's harder to keep
things in your brain because we're full, right, And I still thinking I've
stopped player hating myself about like like when I forget the lyrics the game,
Like I know a lot of songs, yes, I know way more songs
than you will ever than you've forgotten. At this point, it's like crazy,
how many songs they come on? If I'm listening to yacht rock,
I know a lot of lyrics to a lot of songs. What how many?
I mean the human brain is probably only capable of so much. How
many songs can it handle in one brain? Right? And it's like,
if one more song comes into my brain and I try to memorize it,
I'm going to lose my social Security number. That's that's probably a fact,
you know, And then I'm going to be like, oh my god,
I can't remember my social Security number. Well, no wonder because now I
have a new usher song in my head that I didn't want in the first
place. Nobody asked me to learn the lyrics to dunt dunt, dun't,
dun't, even though he is yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, shows up
right, and now I know, like I got my peaches down in jooja.
Yeah that's a you know. See, That's the thing is, I
don't listen to any of that music, so I wouldn't listen to it over
and over enough to hear the lyrics, right, But yeah, I anyway,
I've just my self esteem was raised from that's good how I've reframed,
Yes, because my memory is going I know, like I can't. Like
it's because because you know so much, right, Like you know and they
always go last four digits of your social security At one point, I've known
my social Security number since I was a kid, right, But now it's
like, oh, is it? Is it for this? For I couldn't
but yeah. But by the way, I want my kids to memorize their
social Security number and their license number. It'll be so much easier if you
go through life memorizing your social Security number. So I've told them I've taken
I'm like that mom that prints it out and I put it on their desk
in their bedroom, and I circle it and right memorize it. And then
I find it like in their trash or like at the bottom of their desk
drawer, and I'll go, did you memorize your social Security number? No?
I think I'm like, it'll make your life, Kaylin. Do you
have your social number? Yeah? I have a memorized and yeah you do
too, of course, Yeah, Like I think I know John's too,
just from all the amount of times I've had to put in his right.
I'm pretty I mean, I know I know the last four digits of his
yes, saying sometimes I have to be reminded of the other if but if
he tells me the beginning, I'm like, Okay, I got it,
I got it. Yeah, it's simple. Just we know a lot of
things, right. You know what kills me is when kids, like like
grade school age, don't know their address. Wow. I remember back in
the day when you drive a kid home from like basketball or whatever, and
you'd be like, Okay, what's your address? They're like, oh,
I don't I don't know. How much fuck do you not know your address?
What kind of parenting is that you don't tell your kid? You want
other people driving your kid home, but they don't know their own address,
And then you have to like text the parent like do you know their phone
number? I supposed to what? That's crazy? It is crazy? Do
you know your kids is cell phone numbers? No? Right? No?
Right? But I know I don't know my kids know me too? Oh
my god? I and I think I know Elbie's but I you know what
I'm gonna think. I'm going to say it's well, I'm not going to
say that let's say nine. I think it starts with nine one six,
but I uh, it's bad now. And I definitely don't know Sadie and
Xanders. Well, I know Sunny and Italians are like one number off,
but I don't know, like I can't. And by the way, like
the last four, I get it wrong all the time and I screw it
up like it's one is oh one and the other one's O two. But
I'll go like O two and O three because I never have to dial the
ever. I know that's bad. Shouldn't we know they're at their phone just
in case if you lost our phone and we needed to get a hold of
them from somebody else's phone. Yes, I think about that all the time,
right, but I know John's so then I would just call John and
I'd be like, get a hold of the kids. Right, But no,
that is probably something I should know. But again, no room room
at the end, right, it's we're done, We're done done, so
having things inked into our brains. I feel like it's getting easier right now.
Though, as far as parenting a little, I mean, if they're
they're kind of like on autopilot doing their own thing. M you know,
the sunny situation with the school and stuff. That's a whole other cashat But
but other than that, like they're doing I think they're doing okay. You
know, it's so weird to me. We were talked about it a little
bit on Patreon, But like you do all this intense parenting for all these
years, and when they go to college. I mean I've seen this with
my friends. I guess you go back, you but then they're just suddenly
like moved out, and like that's it. Like you can't expect to know
where they are every single night. You can't talk to them every single day.
But I can have them on my three sixty can I? Yeah?
I mean I plan to. But like I feel like if the kids say
I don't want to be on your life through sixty anymore, you got to
respect it. Like you can't be like nope, I get to watch what
you're doing. I don't know. Yeah, I don't know. I can't
imagine them being gone. So weird, I know. And then it's like
you go from every single day like you're their parent to oh, they don't
live with you. They have their own schedule, they're doing their own thing,
they're making different friends that you might not for a long time unless they
bring them, yeah back home. I just I watched too much twenty twenty
and Dateline. A lot of Dateline, is it? You know? So
if you go to Peacock you can watch all the other Dateline episodes that have
aired. So I go through the list and like, oh, I remember
this one. It's a lot of fuck freaking college students, even boys,
you know, go missing. There was one that's this kid, this boy
would miss was walking from one dorm to back to his dorm and just disappeared,
you know, like and a lot of like females like getting in the
wrong uber you know. I mean, it's just it's a lot of college
students. Yeah, and stuff happening at parties, college parties, college parties,
I mean, I know. And then we can't like keep them safe.
We have to just hope that we've instilled enough knowledge and that our kids
are careful, right, But like what if somebody slips a mickey in one
of their drinks? You know, I know that's scary. I know,
maybe we should just not allow them to college. I'll teach them home school,
homeschool college, yes, yes, school college. How come that's not
a thing that should be a thing. Yeah, all right, let's let's
take a quick break. All right, we're back. During the break,
we all figured out a way to home do a homeschool program for college.
I'm gonna come up with some curriculum. Okay, with a curriculum, I'm
just gonna I think, what's your major? What should the major be?
Well, I think I would hire some law. I could do pre law.
You could, I could do pre law. You should do medical.
I like law. You want to do law? Okay, we could do
like a homeschool college community. Yeah, and just in one neighborhood. They
don't need to go out somewhere for that. Well, we'll bring it to
them. Yeah, it's like our reverse cult. We're doing our own,
our own right from college. Right, and then they can stay in our
community like law with us, though under our tutelage. Yeah. Like I
can show them the trial of the Michigan shooters parents. Yes, the Jennifer
Jennifer Crumblely trial. The dad's going on trial in March. Okay, wait,
beginning of March. Soon enough, it's gonna be like Christmas for me.
I'm like obsessed with this trial. So yeah, I could like show
them like we could break down the film, you know, the like like
like they do with the in the NFL. We could watch the game footage,
watch the day in court, watch the opening arguments, you know,
and then break it down and do critical thinking. It sounds like something.
And depending on how well they do is whether they earn a degree right from
our university and Stephanie University. Listen, I open this up to all parents
to do this for their kids. Do you love your kids. If you
love your kids, school them, give them an education. Are you good
at financial literacy? Bring it on? Come to our community. Oh,
we could bring in some teachers. Yes, we could bring in teachers.
It'll be our audience. I'm sure our audience has a lot of you know,
a lot of people are professionals in different fields. They can teach our
kids. Yeah. Absolutely, there's no need to go to some expensive No,
I would deal with all that headache. I'll give you merit. I'll
give financial aid. When your kids go out into the world, they can,
you know, get their first job and they'll go where'd you go to
school in Encino? Yeah, Stephanie and Lynnette School of Community College. Yeah,
that's really good. I learned a lot of things I can. First
of all, I can practice medicine without a license, but we don't worry
about that. Yeah, they've given me the self confidence. Right. We
watched a lot of back episodes of Er and study the tape. We watched
House. Yes, so we're very good. I've got a special a minor
and infectious diseases from House University. Learned that you can give a toddler Mochren
and Thailand all to bring fever down. Yep, stock them. Come on.
Yeah great, that's early childhood development. Yes, that's a whole that's
a whole section. And we're both good at psychology. So good, so
good. Yeah, if you go to I don't know, a year of
us, you could be giving You're not going to be an official therapist in
that sense of the word, but you're going to be a romantics. Yes,
you could be a life coach right right. Yeah, Well we'll break
down. We can watch like game film of Real Housewives. Yes, watch
how nutty people you know interact and how to pick out somebody with a personality
disorder you know, absolutely, yes, Oh my god, we got all
kinds of we'll come up with some like quizzes that are like is this personality
disorder A narcissism? Right, B, grandiosity, ce, borderline right h
D hysteria. Yeah, I mean we know we know a lot about right.
Oh my gosh, yes, oh in criminology, Oh good about it?
Oh my god. We'll watch the YouTube videos. I thought we were
friends, Steven. I thought we'll teach you how to interrogate. Oh my
gosh, yes, yeah, we can teach you interrogation tactics. Good bad
cop? You and I could, Yes, we'll be good roll play you
be do you want to be good cop about it? We should figure this
out out because I don't want to fight later. Okay, we can flip
a coin. I don't you'd be good cop. Okay, I feel like
you'd be good at that'll be good. I'll be bad cop. I'll come
in and just be confrontational as rock. Yeah. They Yeah, we'll show
the kids and then they can just for themselves, if you know, if
this is a tactic they want to use. Also, we could be like
a training ground for like CIA, FBI, Like we'll run programs. Right,
We'll find somebody in the FBI and we'll be like, listen, we've
got a batch, a new batch of students. Yes, yeah, can
you come over? And then when they go they go for their go for
interviewing at the CIA agency, they can say they went to the schools.
Yeah. Also, I just want to put out there that I feel like
there's no stopping us. We could also do graduate degrees. Oh of course,
you know, yes, you know, get into a good grad school.
Yeah, don't our grad school, our grad school. Don't let those
kids leave home just yet. It's not yet, not yet, no,
not so fast. You ain't going nowhere, kid, I mean, listen,
it's all fun and games until they actually do go a way to school,
and then I'm gonna be crying every day, going like why couldn't I
really make that happen? It was like oh ha ha and the paw.
But I'm kind of serious right now, like why do you need to go
to North Carolina? What's in North Carolina that's not here right in good old
Nina, in Sino San Fernando Valley. I know, I feel like I'm
a little spoiled by the fact that Elbe's still home. Yeah. Yeah,
even though so this happened. We were at our Super Bowl party and one
of the moms. My my sister in law is like one of her BFFs
was there with her daughter who's thirteen and elb. So Elbe came to the
Super Bowl party, which I mentioned on Monday, and I was shocked.
The last two years she hasn't come because she's worked, right, So this
was the first year that she was like, well, I get out early.
She was like, I'll come and you. I was like really,
She's like, yeah, I want to come, and I go, I
said, I swear to God. I was like why, and she's like,
because it'd be fun, like right, And I said great, okay,
So then I was drive for her too. It was she yes,
Santa Clarita, but but she's been driving. Yeah, she's nineteen, she's
been driving since she was sick. She's been she drives a lot. I'm
pretty comfortable with her driving now, but anyway, not with me in the
car too. But I'll still always want to drive. But anyway, so
she gets there and she comes later than us. She met us there and
she walks in and I was like, oh, hi, and then I
gave her a hug. You know, I didn't really talk to her much
the whole time. Well, this other mom comes up to me later and
she's like, oh my god, I just want to say that, like
when your daughter came in and then she gave you a hug and like she
was excited to see you. And I was like, oh no, no,
no, don't get it twisted. I was like, that is this
That was not how it normally is. Oh, because she was telling me
that her daughter like wants nothing to do with her thirteen, and she doesn't
hang out with her and she just hangs out in her room. And I
was like, oh, girl, no, don't get the wrong idea.
This is not my normal life. I was. And then I told her,
I was like, if it makes you feel any better, I was
shocked out of my mind that she wanted to come. She doesn't. I
was like, I have to bribe her with like to get her to go
do stuff with me. It has to involve food, buying clothes like some
you know, Like she's not just and she used to be. She used
to be like, oh you're going to the store, I'll come with.
And she still is a little bit, but oh it's changed. Yes,
yeah, she's definitely much more independent. She doesn't if she comes into my
room now to hang out with me or just talk to me. I'm like,
oh, I never get always in my room. How are you?
It's almost like I'm on a job interview. I'm just like, how's your
day? Are you? You got to sit here, lay down, you
have any questions? Yeah, So I was like for anybody, it's it's
always the like, oh he wasn't like that when she was younger, but
the like wanting to hang out with me. I mean, she was like
that when she was younger, and now she's really not now. And I
hear from other people that their kids were not like that when they were thirteen,
and then suddenly they're nineteen and they're like best friends with their mom right
right. I'm not sure which is worse, But like, I don't know
anybody who has a kid that's been like their best friend all the way through.
Yeah, no, I know, Sonny. I guess it's like Natalia.
No, Sonny's been pretty consistent about wanting to like I think because he
like, he's a talker and he likes to talk, and I feel and
Adam used to be this way. I get trapped in the kitchen. I
get like that too, Like I'm about to go to bed, I go
in the kitchen, Sonny, He's like, what are you doing making a
snack and he's like, yeah, I want a bowl of cereal. And
then I don't want to leave him sitting in the kitchen alone, even though
he's guy's earbuds and he's gonna watch his YouTube whatever. But then he starts
talking and then I'm you know, so he he does like to like talk
and hang out, Like he'll come in my room and well he'll say it's
to see Phil, because Phil follows me everywhere, and Phil's next to me
all the time when I'm home, and then he'll just talk and stuff.
But it was, you know, it's it's he's been kind of consistent,
but he's a guy, Like I think it's different like girls. No,
Natalia doesn't want anything to do with me, like the Patreon this week we've
talked. I've been doing a lot more with her. She's been coming around
a lot more, and I think because she's noticing that she's going to be
leaving, you know, for college. So I think she's doing what I'm
doing, like trying to take this time to like hang out more, spend
more time, you know, therapy for hers helping too, So yeah,
I just think that I don't know. I mean, it's so scary to
me that within a few months I'll be will be moved out. Yeah,
and I know that everybody went through that. I should have gone through that
last month, but I didn't. Yeah, I mean last year. Yeah,
I got this extra year. But it's like I'm not I'm not like
feeling it, do you know what I mean. It's because she is also
kind of detaching and planning for, you know, becoming her own person.
And I know that has to happen. They have to like become individuals,
and I get that, right, And she's much more sort of self contained,
and she's you know, like she's planning next month she's going to some
rave and like staying overnight. And it's weird that she and she has another
friend who's staying at home for a year after college, and she told me
that that other friend's mom said she can't go to that thing, and I
was thinking, like, Elbie's going to be twenty this year. I just
can't imagine being like, no, her mom said that her daughter couldn't go.
So Elbe's friend who's the same age as Elbe and in the same situation
as Elbe's didn't go to didn't go away to college, is doing community for
one year. Elbe's going to a rave with this other friend of hers and
that friend that can't go because she was like, my mom says, I
can't do that. Wow. It's interesting though, because it's like, okay,
but then next year when your kid goes to college, you're gonna have
no set like it's it seems. I can't imagine telling Elbie like, yeah,
I'm not comfortable with that because she's nineteen, right, like she wants
to go. I mean she's gone on trips before. Yeah, even even
if it makes me nervous, I just can't imagine being like no, I
mean she's over eighteen years old. And also, you trust everybody's different,
like you know, you trust I would trust Elbe like she's even if I
didn't. I can't imagine being like no, like you, I guess if
they live in the house, then they got to respect the rule kind of
thing, right, so then I could make a rule like you're not allowed
to if you don't trust her. But you know, she seems like she's
got a good head on her shoulder, Like I wouldn't. I just remember
the little hubbub that came up from the show Caitlin, can you turn it
off? Thank you? I remember that what came up where when Elbe was
sleeping over at her boyfriend's house and a lot of people were weighing in on
the fact that, like I could put my foot down. Well, she
was staying out really really late till like four in the morning, and I
was concerned about her driving, and I told her to just sleep over if
she wanted to sleep because she wanted to sleep over. Yeah, and she
was eighteen, right, she wasn't like she was sixteen, but whatever.
And I remember people being like, you should be saying no, and it
was like, well, I mean, I know what she's doing, Like
what I'm going to stop that from? I mean to me, it was
like, she's her own person, and I'm not going to I don't.
It's not that I feel like I couldn't say to her, hey, that's
something you're doing something that's not safe, but like what I'm not I don't
have ownership over like her body, her decisions. Like I have to hope
that I've instilled respect for herself and safety, right, And and then you
have to leave your kids to decide what's right for this. Yes, and
everybody like can people can weigh in, but the but at the bottom,
the point is that the heart of the matter is is that you know what's
best for your child. You make your own decisions, she makes her own
decisions. You trust her, and that's that. And when we don't know
what's best for our child, we have to trust that. We've like sometimes
we don't know what's best. We think we do or we or there's times
where I'm like, I don't know what's best, Like there's times that I
think that I, let's say, I'm worried about my kid, you know,
and this goes back to being happy that they're in therapy, you know.
But sometimes I don't know whether to pry, like whether to push it
with an issue with one of my kids, whether to be how worried to
be and you know what I mean, or whether to push them in one
direction or another, Like I don't know is that me encouraging or is that
me persuading or is that me pushing? Like I don't know sometimes when to
step back and you have to just instinct you have to just go, well,
I'm going to try this right, and I hope it's not the wrong
decision. Right. Yeah, you have to just listen to your gut,
I guess, and see Kaylin, what you have to look forward to.
Kaylin, you had a story for us. We should should we take another
break? Real quick? Take a break? Yeah, it's it was just
a little bit of like an awkward interaction that I had. Sorry, love
an awkward interaction. Have you met me? So we are wanting to get
some curtains for the studio. The light comes in and it just messes with
all the lightings. So I'm like, Okay, I need to get some
curtains installed in the studio. And I kind of looked online. I kind
of saw pricing, and then Amy told me, oh, do you know
like our next door neighbor, that's what he does. He does curtains and
blinds. And I go, oh, okay, great. So my goal
was to just kind of like ask him, Hey, what's the best route
to go about getting these Like would you recommend this website or you know something
I could just do myself. I just get all the parts, or you
know, hire this person, and like how much does it generally cost?
I kind of just wanted all that info, so I asked him to come
by, and I pretty much said that to him, but it seemed like
he was taking it as I'm asking him to do the job, like I
need you to come and do the job, when that wasn't really my intention.
But I'm like, okay, I I guess that's okay now that you're
the one that's going to come and do it. So that was like three
maybe four weeks ago, and then I saw him on Super Bowl. He
was outside, and so I kind of walked up him and go hey,
just like because I gave him all the measurements and everything too. I was
like this, how long is I go? Hey, is there any you
know, the blinds, the curtains, what's going? And he clearly had
not like thought about it at all since that since we talked oh yeah,
sorry, And I was like, okay, well, you know, I'm
kind of needing me soon because I'm doing a lot. But I just said
to him like, oh, okay, well this is the kind of color
that I want. He goes, okay, well, let me get your
number and I'll text you a few samples. And then he never texted me
that either. So now I'm like, okay, like, do I go
over again? Do I just this? Just I would just get I mean,
I don't buy curtains at like Target. Yeah, it's one it's just
one thing. I just need to put up the I mean, like I
need to drill like a curtain rod into the wall. And then does Patrick
Patrick can I don't Patrick? Yeah, but Patrick's yeah, but Patrick too,
it is, but I don't think Patrick. I mean, he doesn't
need it because they tape all their shows at night. So like he's very
much like, yeah, go ahead you if you want to do it,
go ahead, but like you, you know, he doesn't need the curtains,
so you don't know how to put the curtain pole up. No,
that's easy. I can get Roberto over here in two seconds. Okay,
I'll put it up. Okay, so let's just buy the pole. You
got the measures, and then you can buy we can buy curtains off of
Amazon. Yeah, that's going to pretty much block out all. Yeah,
you get blockout curtains. Yeah. So so but now I need to go
back and tell him like, yeah, I took care of it. I
don't need you to do it anymore. I don't know if he's still working
on it or I don't know. Yeah, just say like, hey,
oh hey, just don't worry about the curtain thing. We got it.
Yeah, took care of it all right. I mean it's been weeks.
Yeah, yeah, that is a little awkward. The one thing though,
is if you get the thick blackout curtains, it might well I wanted to
get. I wanted to get ones that were the same color as that couch,
like a dark blue. Oh yes, dark blue curtains. They're like
a thicker material and then you just have a thing a hook on the side
so that during the day you just he can put them aside. It's really
the curtain rod like installing that that was I get it. I got you,
and I would have done it sooner, except you know, I thought
he was on it, right, He wasn't on it, so now I'm
so Then I reminded him, so now he might be on it. But
now I got to come back and be like it, don't worry about it.
You know what we should do. We should get Roberto on our show.
Now I'm kidding. We get Ray to be on our show and have
him put up the curtains the same time. Oh, yeah, I'll do
it in two seconds too. Yeah, yeah, I'll figure it out.
Well, get everything we need and we'll get it up. Yeah, all
right, it takes two seconds. What is up with the kids? What's
new? They had a great time at Patrick's. We came over here for
the Super Bowl, uh huh. And if you look behind Lynette, Patrick
bought like like an inflatable bounce house, so he set that up right there
and they had a great time. Patrick got a lot of people, Like,
I wasn't expecting that many people. There was a lot of people here
and a lot of kids. Really yeah, Like I couldn't even really like,
I mean, I watched the game. Did everybody watch it in here?
There was like half the people were watching in here, the other half
were watching it in the living room. I watched it in the living room,
but it was so kind of crazy and chaotic that I think people that
just wanted to watch the game, they all came in here and they were
just watching it and here like the halftime show, I didn't even really like.
I kind of saw Usher, but I couldn't even really hear him,
so I didn't. But it was fun. It was fun. But at
one he sure does. Yeah. At one point though, I mean it
was getting late, Blake was starting I love no problems, but Blake was
starting to get pretty cranky by the end of the night, and I was
like, I think we're gonna need to go soon. So at one point,
I'm in the living room. I'm watching the game. It's probably about
it's overtime, like it probably the game just is about to go into overtime,
and Amy goes off to the bathroom and I look over and some guy
who I don't know is carrying Blake, who is screaming, crying into the
room, like whose kid is this? And I had to like flag him
down, like give her here. He's like hit her head or something.
I think she bumped her head on the steps. But it was funny just
seeing some random guy carrying my child, screaming child into the room. Someone
helped this kid. Yeah, and prays back memories because you know, I
loved watching the Super Bowl with the kids, especially Sonny because he's so into
it. And now every year I don't, I'm not with them for the
Super Bowl. They're always you know, especially Sonny's with his dad. But
I remember when they were when they were like toddlers. They were probably like
four, and they were at Jimmy's house. I wasn't there for some reason,
but there was a game was going on, the super Bowl, and
Sonny so Natalia, So Jimmy has a bathroom with no windows, so you
turn the light on, you turn it off. It's pitch black if you're
in there, right, So Natalia's in the bathroom, Sonny comes in as
tacopy. Natalia leaves, shuts the light, locks the locks him. I
think she just shuts the light and closes the door. And Sonny was in
there for a while screaming hysterically, and Bill Simmons at one point goes,
I think I hear a kid crying. What's going on? So he's like,
he gets closer. He goes, there's a kid in the bathroom.
So he opens the door and Sonny is just like hyperventilating, and he would
not move from the toilet. He would he wouldn't try and get out of
the bathroom because it was so he was terrified. He was just in the
one spot. And Natali's like laughing her ass up. Oh my god,
you know it's so sad. I know, but you weren't there. I
heard about it was the Super Bowl. I think it was just a football
Sunday. Yeah, I heard a lot about it. Yeah yeah, yeah.
So Adam brought Sunny because we were up the street. I mean,
so Adam brought Sunny home, so Sunny wanted to come home. I'm surprised
even likes football to this day. It was not traumatized. Oh my god.
Yeah no, that's uh. But yeah it's sad, like I never
watched Super Bowl with them. But it's fine. Ah, So they're getting
are they? Uh? When is when is Isla's birthday? June twenty sixth,
she'll be five? Yeah, wow, I know. Wow. Then
she goes to kindergarten. Yeah. We're looking at schools for him, and
I think we I think we found one. But it's good. Yeah it's
a religious school, but we don't really. It's Catholic school. Yeah.
Yeah, they're better than the than the public schools that are around our neighborhood.
Yeah, so we're going to go that route and neither of us really
care. That's good. My dad put me in a Catholic school when we
first moved to California. My dad's an atheist and he's like, yeah,
Christian Way or whatever in Kunoka Park. So I was there for like I
don't know why, but I was only there for like a couple of months.
And I remember like, I gotta read the Bible now, like what,
Like I never went to church, and then and then he found another
school and took me out of that. It was just right when we moved
to like to California and I was really young, but yeah, I went
to a yeah Christian Christians. I remember my first crush was at that school
really mm hmmm, yeah, yeah, Ben, his name was Ben.
But and then I and then I just went to a regular school. Yeah,
I've my mom threatened to put me in a Catholic school at one point
because I was from high school. Mm hmm. And that sounded like the
worst like punishment. Ever, I don't they didn't because I don't think they
wanted to pay for me to go to school, right, because they were
like, if you don't get your grades up, we're taking you out.
We're putting you in this Catholic school. And I did not get my grades
up. But I never went to a Catholic school, so I know I
wouldn't have known, Like I just remember thinking that would be a horrible punishment.
Yeah, I just I didn't know the difference at that time. I
was like, Okay, this is another school whatever. But they were I'm
like, why are they giving me the Bible? Like why do I have
to like memory? It was weird. I was like, I'm not.
My dad was like yeah, yeah, all right. It took me out
and took me to someplace else and then I ended up at the alternative school,
right right right, Yeah, I've got to say the school where my
kids are. I was very worried about it because, you know, all
of a lot of our listeners were always like, the reason your kids aren't
doing well socially is because they should be going to a big public school.
And that did not work out. That was actually the worst period. That
was the one year that they were. At the end, I have to
say that this small, kind of cozy high school is like the greatest thing
for them. Now. Elbe would have been miserable, miserable, and she
loves she thrived at the big school. But Sadie and Xander are doing the
best they've ever done in school with school work, but also just just socially,
and I don't know what you would call it. Like emotionally feeling like
they fit, feeling like there's a lot that they can be involved in and
love. I love the aspect of it for them. That's that's like there's
all these things that they offer, but there aren't so many kids that the
things are super competitive. Like Sadie's in an art program at the school.
She takes art and it's and she's Sadie's a really good artist, but there
are other people, like she could have moved into another, like a higher
level art class, but she was like, Mom, some of these people
are amazing, Like I'm there's people that are better than me in this class,
which I think as long as you're not, like you don't want to
be the best in your school at everything. But so there's people that are
doing better that she can look up to, and there's also people that she
can bring up right, And I think that. But but you don't have
to feel so intimidated to join an activity because like, oh, everybody's going
to be so much better than me. They've been doing it their whole lives.
It's a very inclusive school where like, hey, you want to try
speech and debate, like Xander tried it. This is his first he's a
sophomore. Yeah, and there's kids that have been already doing it. But
it's okay, right, yeah, that's nice. It's just been a nice
great I think you just have to find the right fit for your kids,
right right. I mean your school was super tiny and like offbeat, but
like it's fine, right. I was fine. Yeah, I loved my
teachers. I wasn't doing well in a big I was going to Columbus Junior
High and I was just not I was getting lost, you know, whereas
the Alternative Magnet school was like focused on individuals more, you know, even
though there was no i EP or ADD or any of that back then,
but like they recognize, like, okay, I'm not great at math,
so they put me in the right math class that I could keep up in,
you know that kind of thing. Yeah, you made some of your
best friends. Oh yeah, yeah, and I'm still friends. Worked out
some of the teachers on Facebook, Like I say, yeah, I just
saw one of them yesterday. Yeah. There's teacher that would sit shirtst watch
you guys. Was that guy Don oh Don sitting there making fun of everybody?
God Leslie Chevron. He would take role and make fun of everybody's names.
Leslie Chevron, our gas station. Chevron, like you know, called
me the cruise, and and Wendy was the floater because we just cruised and
flowed it around time. Right. We didn't do anything. We didn't play
the sport. We just kind of walked around. It's the cruise and the
float. And then he'd sit he'd sit in his in his chair like with
the the three panel silver thing to get the tan right right, his orange
Guido tan. And he'd just sit there and you're like, you'd be talking
to him and you go. He call everybody by the last name, like
Thompson moved to the left, you're black, and my son Fatty. And
he called people fat. He's like, go round some laps, you know,
called people like the number ten because one was overweight and the other kid
was really skinny. Here comes number ten. Oh my god, that would
not fly these days. Oh and did I tell you the worst thing he
would say. There was this one kid. I don't want to say his
name. It's called him Jesse. And he'd go he'd take roll call and
he go, Jesse, is it man or is it woman? We don't
know, it's Jesse. Like he would say that, oh my god,
that's terrible. Isn't that terrible? Yeah, when you think that, it
is probably really tough though. Yeah, to this day he probably hates Yeah,
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