You're listening to KFI AM sixty on demand. Mary, welcome to the Jesus
Christ Show. You know, in all the years I have listened to you,
I don't think anybody's called themselves a dork on your shore before. But
I'm a dork. I'm pretty sure no one has. And if you looked
up the true meaning of that word, I really want to use it either.
How can I how can I help you today? Mary? If you
keep making the same bad decisions, the same ones, over and over,
why would you forgive me again after we already know it's wrong and we repeatedly
do it. Well, there is a point where that's considered to be the
unpardonable sin. That's exactly, and that's where I'm scared. Well, the
only thing is is that people that truly rebel don't care. They don't get
scared. I don't really rebel. I'm actually like this little chick who you
would know I would. I'm not a rebel in my own sense, I
am so as far as consequences, now, there's a difference. Let's say
you rebel against good nutrition and there's a particular food that you eat. There's
a food that you eat that whether it causes you indigestion, or it causes
you whatever problems or whatever it might be. Well, there is built in
consequences to that in your life that doesn't have the same spiritual there are moral
issues, father, and I don't particularly like my paths at all. Well,
then why you want it? Correct? Well, you tell me what
is it about this path that that is so intriguing to you or exciting because
it's the only one I know. I have no family, I have no
one. It's just kind of like it's the So it's men. Oh there,
yeah, they're involved. Okay, So it's men. And is it
sexual sin that could happen? Okay, so it's it's in scripture that becomes
very serious because hey wait, let's back up. Let me just back up
really quick. Okay, this it's a question I want to know just because
Okay, in your time, when people were pregnant and they got pregnant at
sixteen, they met mister Wonderful, and MI like, walk them the donkey
out of it. If God doesn't put in your path the man you're supposed
to live with, and I'm forty four years old, I'm just supposed to
be celibates the rest of my life and just like sit there and just it's
okay. When everybody else around you, it's like, has a family excuses
Mary? If you're constantly with the wrong guy, how could God do anything?
I'm not going to put you in a holy headlock and force you into
something. You have free will. You have the abilities just like a child
that's raised from your birth parents. They teach you skills and abilities and give
you tools to use in everyday life. We're incredible at that is just like
the perfect Irish Catholic, perfect person. And all I wanted was mister wonderful
to white picket fence and three puppy dogs and three children. That's all I
wanted. I didn't want to live through this holy hell every day of being
alone. But why do you choose the men that you choose? Why choose
wrong men? Where do you find the other ones? They do exist?
Where did you find these? Where do you find the right men? At
forty four years old? Well, I'm serious? Where you found the wrong
ones? No? They were what bars? Clubs? No, not all
of them. Church. I wish I found them my church. No,
I couldn't find them. I'd sit in the front row every week and sit
there and be little miss perfect. And I'd go to work and everybody go.
And you were speaking earlier about trying to be a righteous person, and
I used to have people walk up to me at work all the time and
say, you're so fun, You're so cute, you're so nice, You're
just you're so good to people. So why did God decide that I should
be alone? He hasn't you have? I mean, I wish it was
easier than that. I wish you could blame me, but it's not me.
The truth is Mary. If in scripture when it talks about being single
or not being married, there is a specific creature like Paul, that were
designed in a way that it wasn't a desire of theirs. You have the
desire. Therefore, if you thirst, there is something that will quench that
thirst. But if you reject the things of God and keep taking that which
is quick and easy or around or available, and not wait, who's to
say that you're supposed to get married at any specific time to begin with.
That's a societal demarcation. So you are to wait until you find somebody appropriate.
But if you continue to put somebody inappropriate in your path, they'll be
never They'll never be an opportunity for somebody who is appropriate, And you hold
on to the inappropriate ones too long because there's something and you continue to do
that that's not God at all. I'm not judging that. I just have
not seen mister appropriate. He hasn't knocked on my door in the last and
he won't. You know, there's the type of person that walks around going,
you know what, I'm waiting for my ship to come in. And
there's people that cut down trees, tie them together and make a raft.
Okay, but why are there people? Why are there people who get married
to the loves or the lives at eighteen and lead like a blissful life,
And there are other of us who have gone through basically hell and we still
sit here just going okay, that doesn't seem fair. I know life's not
fair, but explain that one. Why Why isn't life fair? I'm not
sure what you would decide it is fair or not fair. It seems that
what you decide is fair or not fair is based on what Mary wants and
what Mary gets, which is a little more of the Aruk assault type theology
from Willy Wonka than it is biblical and I am so not that person,
and you don't even know me, but Mary, you focus on Mary.
If you learn to enjoy your own company and the things in life that are
fruitful to you, and you explore those things. Let's say you like reading,
and you explore those things and you're around places where there's books, then
you will find people of similar desires. But the quest cannot be for a
man anymore than the quest for a man is for a woman. This is
what confuses me. Men will look for adventure and a quest, and then
a woman becomes the adventure in the quest, and when they have the woman,
then they're disappointed because the quest is over. The woman is not the
quest. The woman is is another adventurer in the quest of life, your
partner. And it's this kind of skewed thinking that ends up getting people in
trouble and it makes you start to feel like you're being singled out. But
the fact of the matter is that you're just as desirable as anyone else,
that there is plenty not one man for you, but there are plenty of
that type of man that would be good, that would suit you, that
would be fitting for you. But you continue to pass and by for the
ones that want to have sex, that don't care, that don't have your
same religious affiliation, your same worldview, your same ideas, or at least
similar enough as far as their faith to be someone that would propel you,
that would allow you to shine and to be one hundred percent who you are.
And that doesn't always come quickly, but people keep wanting it, or
worse, feeling they deserve it. Crime and everything bad in the world happens
because entitlement. People feel entitled to something. The man stealing, the woman
stealing feels they're entitled to whatever it is, regardless of working, having money,
or any of those things. Don't get in that mindset of entitlement,
Mary, if you come to a place of entitlement, you've lost it.
Now. If you continue to make bad decisions in this particular case, Mary,
the consequence is the consequence. You continue to find people that are not
good for you and to give them, give yourself to them. There's going
to be problems, there's going to be big problems. And you give a
little bit of yourself each time to these people, and there's less of you
to give to the right guy. That you're so focused on obtaining live life
Mary. Enjoy yourself, do things you enjoy, expand yourself, learn,
explore life and you'll bump into other explorers. Sit in your house and you'll
sit with Mary. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday,
and Sunday. Get out, explore live life and others will follow.
Andrew, Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Oh Jesus, Is it a
sin for a divorce person to marry? It can be, yes, It
depends on the circumstance. And now understand that throughout the entirety of scripture,
there's nothing that says that divorce is a good thing. As a matter of
fact, throughout scripture it says that God hates divorce. But there are situations
where it is okay. And if you remember all speaking about it is better
to marry than it is to burn, and that means burn with lust,
not like you're in hell or something. But so there's a point where you
have to factor that in and say, if you are a divorced person and
you're going through a state of lust, it's better. If you are a
very sexual person and you keep having that reoccurring in your life, then that
it is better for you to gird that in the proper concept and content of
a relationship than it is to just let it run wild. What is your
particular situation, Andrew? My wife just walked out on me, so she
didn't want to continue the marriage, so we just ended it. Did you
know that if she had an affair or not? I'm not sure that.
How long were you guys together? About seven months? Wow, that is
a very short marriage there. How long did you guys know each other before
you got married? About a year and a half. What do you think
went wrong? Andrew? What it was? She's a foreigner and she used
me for the green card to get here. But that's not long enough.
Seven months isn't long enough. No, so it doesn't help her at all.
No, Well, if did you know that going into the situation,
now she's using me for the green card. No, you didn't have any
inkling about that. No, why don't you just get the marriage and all?
Well, that's what I'm doing, but by law, it's it's pretty
difficult to prove to do it. Yeah, there's a good, highly chance
I can lose the annulment. Well, in the eyes of God, the
concern here is that that if you are going into marriage with the idea of
divorce being an option, that it just becomes a problem. People get lost
and well, I can do this and then I can get out of it
and everything becomes temporary. What I don't want you to go into marriage is
thinking that it's like a dixie cup and it can be thrown away. And
that's why divorces is so abhorrent to God. But there is an understanding,
and if somebody breaches the contract and you're not the one that breached the contract,
then there is always the possibility and the option for remarriage. But I
wouldn't recommend getting remarried anytime soon. Andrew. Obviously there's not anybody in your
life, correct. No, I don't have any plans. I just had
a couple of bit I just want to know what a certainstance. Pretty controversial
question. And during the year and a half you didn't notice anything about whether
the relationship was real or not. No, I loved her very much,
and I could have been some sign that just didn't really notice. It gets
difficult sometimes. The key is to not be blinded. Love is a wonderful
thing and a very powerful thing, Andrew, but it's also something that can.
As they say, love is blind and you should keep your senses about
you during the process if you find somebody, and I would recommend spending a
lot of time to get to know yourself and why you would choose somebody like
that, and how you got so far in a relationship that really was synthetic.
I would definitely focus in on that before I got into any relationship whatsoever
with the opposite sex. Angel. Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Jesus,
It's an honor to talk to you. My pleasure. How can I
help you? Thanks. I would like to know if it bothers you if
I were a cross round my neck, because well, some friends have asked
me why do I do it? It was the instrument of your death.
So I told them that I was going to ask you and see what you
have to say about this is It has become very fashionable to some people.
I know Madonna and others have used it as as just a kutman and then
in the Christian world there are many that use it as a symbol to remind
them of their faith and the price that was paid, and that's a lovely
sentiment. I know some churches get upset and say, you know, you
shouldn't have anything or any graven image of any kind. And and it wasn't
what took place in the cross. And you've got you know, Catholics and
Protestants, you know, one wears a cross, one wears a crucifix,
and you've got them saying, why would you, you know, show the
death. Anybody could die on the cross. People did next to me,
if you remember the thieves. So it's not about dying on the cross.
It's about the resurrection. And there's those that my producer Neil's always walking around
with a smirk on his face saying, how come Christians don't have the empty
tomb around their neck? That makes more sense. But the fact is,
for your purposes, it simply reminds you of the price that was paid.
Correct, Yes, yes, well actually it was given by my grandfather when
I did my first coman and when I was eleven years old. Yes,
and I have been learning it. Yes, So it ties into the dedication
of your faith and that has become an important part to you. And it's
fine, that's what it means to you. That is absolutely fine. It
was it was a means of torture absolutely. As a matter of fact,
the term excruciating, it's excruciatingly painful. That term actually comes from the word
cruse or cross comes from the death on the cross, the word excruciating.
So I understand that your friend was trying to point out that it was an
instrument of death, but to Christians, it was an instrument of life.
It was the doorway in the physical life of death. That was a public
way of showing that I was going to overcome that death on earth in a
way that would free those that believe for eternity. And if it's some people
may just wear it as well it's a pretty symbol, or it was given
to me, or what have you. But if it's something that is tied
into your faith, you hold on to it and you enjoy it for what
it is. Sometimes people get caught up in the specifics of things and start
thinking, oh, well, the law says this or scripture says this.
Well, those laws are there to protect from people worshiping things if it becomes
a point of worship. I've met people that think that cross has power around
their neck, or that it is somehow it is embodies their faith. If
it gets to that point, you have issues, there's problems, and I
don't want it to be in your life because it becomes overpowered. It overshadows
me and the death and the Cross. But if it's just something lovely that's
a reminder, or an heirloom, or something passed on down through families to
families, or what have you, nothing wrong with that, Andy, Welcome
to the Jesus Christ. Hi, Jesus, Hi. Andy. I have
a question that's been concerning me about my faith. Me and my mom,
we differ in the way we have our points of view on it. We
just recently moved out to a five acre parcel here in a It's a pretty
dry aired area here in southern California, and I already ever rains. We
live on a well, and when we first moved down, she started importing
all these flowers too, And I said, mother, shouldn't we be a
little bit more resourceful with our water? We do live on a well.
It's not, you know, infinitely abundant. And she said, oh no,
oh, no, God's going to provide. And I said, well
that's fine, and I'm pretty sure he will, but you know, still,
shouldn't we conserve? And she said, no, no, no,
don't worry. God will provide. And I said, okay, that's fine,
so we keep planning. Eventually the well went dry. I mean there's
water back now, but it went dry for a couple of days and she
was just like, I went into this whole state of panic, and I
said, no, no, there's no need. You know, I don't
think it's that has nothing to do with God. It's just the simple fact
that we live on a while it's not abundant, has a raining quite sometime,
and so my question is do we want Because she always says that nothing
can happen until God says so. So is that so anytime she goes to
do something, she says, oh, only God will allow me to do
that, if that's what he wants me to do. But the way I
actually it is, I think he says, well, whenever you're ready,
i'll take step for step with you, and I have the road paid for
you, but only until you're ready to take that step. And she says,
no, we cannot take a step until God allows. So that's the
question I have. Well, there's and it's not that you it's not that
she's wrong, but there's scripture, you know, even Earlier we talked about
Proverbs twenty one to twenty In the house of the whys are stores of choice,
food and oil. But a foolish man devours all he has, which
is essentially what was being done. Correct. So it's there's scripture that talks
about being a wise steward of that which you have. And in the case
of somebody who overly spiritualizes everything, you have to remember this handy God puts
you on earth first. Now, Earth is not the perfect world. It's
the best way to the perfect world, which is Heaven. But you're here
because God says so, and there's a practical method of living here. There's
things you can't do. You would never put a gun to your head with
bullets in it and say God will provide me protection from this weapon to my
head. You wouldn't do that. That would be stupid, and you die.
So the way there's a difference between trusting God and tempting the situation if
if you have tools, you are to use them, and one of the
tools you are to use is your brain. It says in scripture that you're
to love God with all your heart, all your soul, and all of
your intellect. So your your mind is a tool, and you were using
it. You were saying, no, God's giving me this tool to think,
and I'm looking over the situation and I don't think this is a practical
way. Now in aprop in something that is more providing in nature, meaning
you know, we have to drink this water from the well and trust that
God will put more in it. That's different. You have to drink it.
But just going well, we want flowers, or we want this,
or we want that. That becomes a state of pride and vanity, that
you want things certain way the way you want them, and that you're saying,
well, God, you cover the text on this, you cover the
rest. And that's not the way it works. And so in the loving
manner that she was approaching this, she actually, you know, being a
loving godly woman, she actually was going against the very word of God.
And that happens, you know, people do that in wanting to follow the
letter of the law, they actually are breaking down the law and going outside
of the law. You need to be wise with that which you have.
And if you only have a little bit, you know, it's it's get
flowers in the like may bring joy and maybe a little bit over here would
be a good idea or a little bit over there, but understand that you
have limitations. It's the same as going, well, you know what,
we're almost broke, but you know what, I'd like to go see a
movie and God will provide. No, this isn't that. A movie's not
necessary. Flowers aren't necessary. God provides what you need when you need it,
not what you want when you want it. And so patient because what
your your parents do come out of their love and their deep faith. But
you, guys, are a family, and your balance is there for a
purpose, and you have to find a way in love and respect to offer
correction or other ideas, or how about this, how about we compromise and
we get you know, some succulent or something that is pretty but retains its
water longer, and uh therefore, well, you know, split the difference
a little bit. Be smart. So it's not always in logic. It's
called a faulty dilemma if you have just either or. Sometimes there's either or,
and okay, we we're not going to plant all the flowers, but
we're going to plant a small amount of flowers or this uh succulent or cactus
or something that that is not going to need the watering so that your mom
gets the joy, which there's nothing wrong with having joy and you of God's
creation, but also there's a balance understanding that you are economizing and saving water
conserving because of the situation. Well, thank you very much for answering my
questions, and you have a blessed day you as well. Andy. There
is a balance in all things, and throughout scripture you'll find that to be
a theme. And the theme is is that God loves a proper balance.
You'll see that throughout when it talks about merchants in Proverbs. But the imagery
there is specifically dealing with merchants, talking about the scales that they use to
weigh whatever the product was or what's being purchased. Right, so you get,
you know, the image of someone putting a rock in there to make
it heavier so that you pay more, and then the image of the person
buying it putting their hand under the scale so that it weighs less so they
don't have to pay us more. And that God abhors that. You know.
There was a day when recycling started becoming popular in the early early eighties
and people were filling their cans, aluminum cans with sand or with rocks,
and then crushing them, then stomping on them so that each can was heavier
because they weigh it by the pound. How you get paid. And it's
not like they just count them. Now they've changed the methods now to fend
off that kind of person. But that attitude about the false balance is a
great illustration about how you live your life spiritually. You're here on earth for
a reason. There's an old saying, don't be so heavenly minded, you're
no earthly good. There's a balance. The reason why I came in the
flesh was to show that balance. Think about some of the miracles that took
place when I multiplied the fish and the loafs. What did I say,
pick up the crumbs? Doesn't that seem strange If I'm about to produce this
miracle, if I'm about to feed thousands, don't you think I could pick
up the crumbs too, all in one fail swoop, some wave of the
wand some twinkle of the nose. Of course, the purpose was to have
the disciples there in the moment to understand the practicality of what needed to be
done. Picking up the prumb the crumbs. When I raised the girl from
the dead, I said, get her something to eat. The same thing
applies. I could have filled her stomach. But you have to be here
in the now, in the practical. There are practical things that need to
be done. Don't be caught up. I put you on earth for a
reason and not directly into heaven. There are things to be learned, things
to be understood, and there are practical things. I will be at the
end of the rope. But don't just constantly pull to the end of the
rope and say God's going to be here. God's going to provide. That's
not the way it works. There are still things you're gonna have to learn,
and there's going to be times where you will run out if you are
not a good steward of those things. You are to tend to the field,
you are to tend to your home, you are to tend to your
finances. That commandment goes throughout the entirety of scripture. And be a good
steward to these things. That's what you're called to do, and I will
be there with you. Stacy, Welcome to the Jesus Christ show. Hi,
Jesus, I got a question. Sure, listen. I'm of the
Pagan faith. I have been just about all of my life. My family's
taken most of them are and some of them are split between Pagan and Irish
Catholic. But I've been wanting to go to like a Catholic church, Like
I don't. I just feel the need to. I don't know if that
makes any sense, of course, I just feel the need to. I
don't know. Maybe it's turn around my life. Maybe I'm just getting older.
I don't know. I just feel the need to. Do you have
to be Catholic to go? Do you? I mean, can you just
show up? Do you have to make a point of no? Nope,
and don't don't partake in a church that ever makes you do that. See,
I didn't know that. I'm not familiar with that or anything. I've
gone to churches before, I've listened to your show before, you know,
so I'm not completely in the dark about anything Christian or Christianity period, or
was Catholicism. I just didn't know about that specifically. No, you go
up or sometimes churches can be a little intimidating, and Catholicism is very structured
and sometimes people fear that, but really that's it's a beautiful thing. That
structure can be very empowering and it can be very helpful. So if you
find a church in your local area that you want to attend, the biggest
important thing is to go when it when the time says to go, So
whenever the service or the mass is, you want to go during that time
and find a place where you can say. The only thing is that in
the Catholic Church they're going to ask that you don't participate in certain things like
taking communion and that type of thing. But as far as experiencing and learning
and asking questions, absolutely you should be welcoming any church. And the process
is that when people are you know, a member of a parish or they
are a member of a church, or at that point, I want you
to participate, you know, if it's something you feel led or moved to
do and participate whether it's with you know, children or what have you as
you get involved in a church. But if you're just seeking and are curious
and want to ask questions or want to sit and be left alone and just
kind of you know, soak up things, yeah, you should be You
should walk into any church. You know, there was a there was a
day where churches were open twenty four to seven and you just walked in and
were silent. If they're wasn't a service or a mask going on, and
you just prayed. And so I want you to feel welcome wherever you go.
And keep in mind that God's people at times are very open, and
which they should be, and if sometimes they're closed, which they shouldn't be,
but don't hold that against me. Please be open to receive whatever you
can as you walk in and see what God is saying to you at that
particular time. Okay, well, well the part of the thing is is
that I was passing by and it was like you passed by churches all the
time, but it just for some reason, like something was telling me to
pull in there and I didn't. But I'm going to And that's why I
wanted to find out, because I don't think that just happens for no reason,
like no at all. You're absolutely right. I'm knocking on that door
of your heart, but it opens on your side, not mine. But
I'm going to ask you something, Stacy. I want you to do that
if you're feeling that, to do that, I want you to do that,
but I want you to call back or contact me and give us a
call when you go, because I'd love to hear about your experience, good
or bad. Okay, all right, excellent. Then I expect to hear
back from you. That's wonderful. I love hearing that that people are motivated
to try something new, and you should always be welcome in the church.
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