WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.200 --> 00:00:04.160 This email kicks off the Minnesota Goodbye. It starts with Howdy, I've always 2 00:00:04.200 --> 00:00:07.000 been a listener and wanted to ride in, but never remember until now. 3 00:00:07.080 --> 00:00:09.759 I've been listening as long as I can remember, which means sometimes in the 4 00:00:09.839 --> 00:00:13.359 late nineties. That's been a while twenty five years. The guy on yesterday's 5 00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:17.960 podcast that wants a physical touch remember him? He was like saying, I've 6 00:00:18.000 --> 00:00:21.879 been divorced, I'm forty this year. I don't want sex. I just 7 00:00:21.960 --> 00:00:25.719 want to hold someone. Should I go to a strip club? Sounds like 8 00:00:25.760 --> 00:00:29.960 you might be depressed without realizing it. As a guy in my upper twenties, 9 00:00:30.399 --> 00:00:33.759 I had the typical sex drive of somebody that age and ended up going 10 00:00:33.840 --> 00:00:37.520 unemployed for almost a month. The depression and anxiety that set in during that 11 00:00:37.560 --> 00:00:42.240 time completely erased any sex drive that I had down to zero. After I 12 00:00:42.280 --> 00:00:44.479 get a new job, it took a couple of months going to the doctor 13 00:00:44.479 --> 00:00:47.920 and also getting therapy to feeld mostly normal again. The drive has since returned, 14 00:00:48.560 --> 00:00:52.399 much to the disappointment of my wife. Ha ha, ha, I 15 00:00:52.399 --> 00:00:56.399 get it. That's a funny one. Secondly, on the joint finances with 16 00:00:56.439 --> 00:00:58.960 your partner, I won't say that we have the perfect system. But I 17 00:00:59.039 --> 00:01:02.359 think we have a system that works really well. We were fifty to fifty 18 00:01:02.439 --> 00:01:04.840 until we got married, which was all so close to when my wife graduated 19 00:01:04.840 --> 00:01:08.239 grad school. She's an especially field and I'm in a common job, so 20 00:01:08.319 --> 00:01:11.480 she makes a little more than double what I make. If we went fifty 21 00:01:11.480 --> 00:01:17.680 to fifty on bills now, I would figuratively be living in poverty while my 22 00:01:17.760 --> 00:01:22.319 wife would be sitting on top of her riches like Scrooge mcdoc a little bit 23 00:01:22.319 --> 00:01:26.000 of an exaggeration. We ended up deciding to crunch the numbers and figure out 24 00:01:26.480 --> 00:01:32.480 what our estimated bills were and what we would be what we would be like 25 00:01:32.519 --> 00:01:34.560 for saving We put all the money into a joint accounts blah blah blah, 26 00:01:34.760 --> 00:01:38.439 And I got a lot of hobby so this lets me still be able to 27 00:01:38.599 --> 00:01:41.840 So basically they go on for a little bit, but they're talking about how 28 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:48.719 it works for them, and everybody does it a little bit differently. Yeah, 29 00:01:48.760 --> 00:01:51.640 I know a lot of people who split up their finances according to how 30 00:01:51.719 --> 00:01:56.079 much each people each person makes in the relationship. Because I've had I mean, 31 00:01:56.439 --> 00:01:59.439 for a one bedroom, a nice one bedroom in like the Northwood area, 32 00:01:59.439 --> 00:02:02.079 you're looking at like over two thousand dollars a month, and some people 33 00:02:02.159 --> 00:02:05.719 just like can't afford a ton and rent, but like, you want to 34 00:02:05.719 --> 00:02:07.560 live a certain lifestyle. So then the person who makes more money is like, 35 00:02:07.560 --> 00:02:09.719 well, i'll pay for this much of it. You pay for that 36 00:02:09.800 --> 00:02:13.080 much because you don't make as much. So I know some people who do 37 00:02:13.199 --> 00:02:15.639 that, like couples, right, yeah, yeah, because you wouldn't do 38 00:02:15.639 --> 00:02:17.199 that with your friend, you know, Becky, No, no, no, 39 00:02:17.520 --> 00:02:21.759 with a couple. And I think there's really there's so much to that. 40 00:02:21.919 --> 00:02:25.800 I mean, Susan and I. I've always made more than Susan, 41 00:02:27.599 --> 00:02:30.319 but I never said I can't even imagine saying, well, you know what, 42 00:02:30.439 --> 00:02:35.919 I'm going to drive Alexus and you're going to drive a Toyota. I 43 00:02:35.960 --> 00:02:38.560 would never say like, well, you can't afford your part of the house 44 00:02:38.599 --> 00:02:44.680 payment, so we can't get that house. I just you know, I 45 00:02:44.680 --> 00:02:50.199 think if you love somebody and if you are together as a couple, then 46 00:02:50.199 --> 00:02:53.599 you don't care. It's like, I don't know what maybe I make twice 47 00:02:53.599 --> 00:02:59.280 what you make, but you're totally worth it because I'm not going to be 48 00:02:59.439 --> 00:03:01.439 with you because we make it different amount money there's always been a thing where 49 00:03:01.439 --> 00:03:06.879 people say guys are intimidated by women who make more money than them. Do 50 00:03:06.919 --> 00:03:12.599 you think that's true. I don't really feel like I have personal experience with 51 00:03:12.719 --> 00:03:15.719 that to say, so, I don't know I do that one. I 52 00:03:15.759 --> 00:03:20.159 do know one of my girlfriends who is probably one of the more successful one 53 00:03:20.159 --> 00:03:23.479 of my friends people, she was one of the greatest people ever, and 54 00:03:23.520 --> 00:03:29.080 she just always ended up got dating guys who like used her for I don't 55 00:03:29.120 --> 00:03:31.400 know, like use her like they'd move into her house and they would whatever. 56 00:03:31.520 --> 00:03:36.039 And I was like, why can't she find someone who respects that she's 57 00:03:36.080 --> 00:03:39.400 successful and they're also successful themselves and stuff, and so it was just a 58 00:03:39.439 --> 00:03:43.039 weird thing for a long time with her, which she finally found someone who's 59 00:03:43.080 --> 00:03:46.319 great. That's good, And I've got the exact same situation with one of 60 00:03:46.319 --> 00:03:53.400 my friends. She has always made really good money, not tremendous money, 61 00:03:53.400 --> 00:03:58.439 but really good money, like an abundance where she's got plenty left over to 62 00:03:58.560 --> 00:04:01.400 take trips and get it nice car, maybe not Alexis, but a nice 63 00:04:01.439 --> 00:04:06.639 car. And she's always dated guys who were a little bit underperforming, and 64 00:04:06.680 --> 00:04:11.360 she's always had friends who were a little bit underperforming, and she more than 65 00:04:11.439 --> 00:04:15.000 carried her weight. And for the first time in her life that I know 66 00:04:15.120 --> 00:04:20.079 of, she's dating a guy that does as well as she does, and 67 00:04:20.160 --> 00:04:27.120 she really loves that. But she's been so protective of not falling into that 68 00:04:27.199 --> 00:04:30.160 again. In other words, she's been so used to paying for a guy's 69 00:04:30.199 --> 00:04:35.079 airfare, paying for a guy's dinner. And I said, did you finally 70 00:04:35.079 --> 00:04:39.160 realize you're worth better than that? And she said, yeah, I kind 71 00:04:39.160 --> 00:04:43.839 of finally realized that I'm I'm worth more than a guy who makes, you 72 00:04:43.879 --> 00:04:47.319 know, six dollars an hour. Flipped and burgers right. Moving on to 73 00:04:47.319 --> 00:04:53.519 the next email, I think I might say this for next week. I'm 74 00:04:53.519 --> 00:04:56.040 gonna forward it to you, Jenny, because we said next week, let's 75 00:04:56.040 --> 00:05:00.680 do a What's on your Radar, so that if you don't listen to that 76 00:05:00.800 --> 00:05:05.040 part of the show, it says Minnesota goodbye when I send it to you. 77 00:05:05.120 --> 00:05:10.439 So it's basically Jessica Churchill writes in with what is on My Radar? 78 00:05:10.560 --> 00:05:13.720 Because we do a bit every Thursday Tuesday where we say, oh, here's 79 00:05:13.720 --> 00:05:15.279 a new app, here's a new book, here's a restaurant, here's a 80 00:05:15.360 --> 00:05:18.720 hot spot. Whatever, check it out. It's on our radar. But 81 00:05:18.720 --> 00:05:21.360 then Drake had an idea and he said, hey, how about we get 82 00:05:21.360 --> 00:05:26.560 people to tell us what's on their radar? And she's talking about a show 83 00:05:26.600 --> 00:05:30.279 that she is obsessed with called Has Been Hotel on Amazon Prime. I think 84 00:05:30.319 --> 00:05:35.000 we are going to make a rule though that says no show recommendations, because 85 00:05:35.040 --> 00:05:41.160 if we did, we'd get times and we get and Jessica, I love 86 00:05:41.160 --> 00:05:44.240 you for this and I will check it out, but we get just like 87 00:05:44.399 --> 00:05:47.319 your friends. Yesterday a friend of mine, a wonderful friend of mine, 88 00:05:47.360 --> 00:05:51.360 said you've got to watch this show, and then my friend Nate said, 89 00:05:51.439 --> 00:05:56.959 you've got to watch this show. And they might be right. I might 90 00:05:57.000 --> 00:06:00.319 absolutely love it, but I think that you know, Jessica, I will 91 00:06:00.399 --> 00:06:05.360 check this out. The show is called Has Been Hotel on Amazon Amazon Prime. 92 00:06:05.399 --> 00:06:12.439 It's an adult cartoon comedy about hell and heaven. But it's a musical. 93 00:06:13.079 --> 00:06:17.079 So wow, that's a lot wrapped into one. Really creative. I 94 00:06:17.079 --> 00:06:21.639 love that, all right. Next, one quick question to discuss Dave from 95 00:06:21.759 --> 00:06:25.879 Allison and Cottage Grove. Any thoughts on why we see so many small plane 96 00:06:25.920 --> 00:06:29.759 crashes happening lately? Is this new or am I noticing it more. Every 97 00:06:29.759 --> 00:06:31.360 time I hear of a local crash, my stomach drops and I get worried 98 00:06:31.360 --> 00:06:34.279 about you. Would love to hear your insight on this topic. Thanks for 99 00:06:34.319 --> 00:06:36.959 being a dad to all of us kids growing up in the nineties and two 100 00:06:38.000 --> 00:06:41.199 thousands. I grew up listening to you, and when I run into a 101 00:06:41.199 --> 00:06:45.959 predicament, I asked myself, what would Dave do? Wow? Since I 102 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:48.879 admire your honesty and character so much, I could go on, but you've 103 00:06:48.879 --> 00:06:51.480 made such a great impact on my daily life. You're going to make me 104 00:06:51.480 --> 00:06:57.279 cry. I mean me, Dave, so thank you so much. I'm 105 00:06:57.319 --> 00:07:00.199 thirty five now and couldn't imagine my day without the show. Love the whole 106 00:07:00.199 --> 00:07:02.879 crew, Dave, Jenny, Drake, y'all are the best. Love Bailey 107 00:07:02.879 --> 00:07:05.680 two. If you have any stickers left, I'd be so honored to get 108 00:07:05.680 --> 00:07:12.120 one. I will send you one and she signs dart Lick from Ali Plane 109 00:07:12.160 --> 00:07:15.240 crashes. We talked about this yesterday, didn't we We did. We just 110 00:07:15.240 --> 00:07:17.600 talked about how you can go into a place and rent a plane and know 111 00:07:17.639 --> 00:07:23.360 if it's going to be safe or not. Yeah, it's it's just a 112 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:29.879 coincidence. It's just been an unfortunate string of events, kind of like passing 113 00:07:29.959 --> 00:07:32.600 three dead deer on the way home. It doesn't mean that more deer getting 114 00:07:32.680 --> 00:07:38.480 killed. It just means that you unfortunately pass three dead deer on the way 115 00:07:38.480 --> 00:07:44.360 home. Maybe more deer ran across that road that day. There's no anything 116 00:07:44.560 --> 00:07:49.079 in aviation, like general aviation, that's causing more plane crashes. This one 117 00:07:49.120 --> 00:07:53.160 was really sad, the one that crashed in Nashville the other day. Did 118 00:07:53.160 --> 00:07:58.879 you hear about this. So it was a small plane that seated six people 119 00:07:59.079 --> 00:08:01.639 or so. It had two adults and three kids. So I'm going to 120 00:08:01.680 --> 00:08:05.600 guess probably two adults, mom and dad. Probably likely their children. I 121 00:08:05.600 --> 00:08:07.399 don't know how old they were, but there were kids. And the plane 122 00:08:07.399 --> 00:08:13.360 had flown from whatever state is north of Tennessee, Kentucky, maybe Tucky, 123 00:08:15.399 --> 00:08:18.240 and it was going to, you know, make a landing in somewhere in 124 00:08:18.319 --> 00:08:26.519 Nashville, and it was on final and it the engine went out and it 125 00:08:26.639 --> 00:08:31.200 tried to land on a freeway and the pilot you can hear his last words 126 00:08:31.559 --> 00:08:35.440 on the tape that they played on the news last night, and he's like, 127 00:08:35.559 --> 00:08:37.279 I'm not going to make it. I'm not the engine just went fully 128 00:08:37.279 --> 00:08:41.559 out. I'm not going to make the airport, and so he tried to 129 00:08:41.639 --> 00:08:46.759 land on a street. And what was interesting is the plane exploded when it 130 00:08:46.879 --> 00:08:52.840 landed and killed everybody, probably instantly. So the things that caused plane crashes 131 00:08:52.879 --> 00:08:58.120 like that are number one, fuel exhaustion. They ran out of gas. 132 00:08:58.200 --> 00:09:01.559 Yeah, I don't know that's what happened, and probably not likely because there 133 00:09:01.639 --> 00:09:05.080 was an explosion, and there's usually not an explosion if the plane ran out 134 00:09:05.080 --> 00:09:09.759 of gas. But most plane crashes are caused by flying into bad weather you're 135 00:09:09.799 --> 00:09:16.200 not prepared for. And pilots can fly in zero visibility or near zero visibility, 136 00:09:16.480 --> 00:09:22.360 but they if they do it by accident or they fly into bad weather 137 00:09:22.919 --> 00:09:26.559 that they're not trained for, that causes a lot of crashes too. That's 138 00:09:26.559 --> 00:09:28.879 what happened to JFK. Junior. Remember his plane crash like twenty five years 139 00:09:28.879 --> 00:09:31.720 ago. I did not know that either. Okay, you know who JFK. 140 00:09:31.840 --> 00:09:35.960 Junior is. So he was a pilot and he was flying his wife 141 00:09:35.960 --> 00:09:41.639 and her sister from New York City to somewhere like Martha's Vineyard where the family 142 00:09:41.720 --> 00:09:46.519 was, and he took off late and things were running late. And he 143 00:09:46.600 --> 00:09:52.360 had a very fancy, expensive airplane, but he wasn't particularly an experienced pilot, 144 00:09:52.639 --> 00:09:58.399 and he flew into bad weather. And just like if I took you 145 00:09:58.440 --> 00:10:03.200 and blindfolded you in sp you around, you would get disoriented and you wouldn't 146 00:10:03.240 --> 00:10:05.240 know which way was left, right, up, down, whatever. That's 147 00:10:05.279 --> 00:10:07.919 what happens with a lot of pilots, is they I'm getting too boring with 148 00:10:09.000 --> 00:10:13.320 deep into the weeds on this. But he was disoriented and he got he 149 00:10:13.960 --> 00:10:18.360 was aiming down when he thought he was aiming at and he flew down because 150 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:22.039 he was disoriented when he thought he was flying up. Okay, next one, 151 00:10:22.240 --> 00:10:26.759 don't get me started. I'm gonna do an aviation podcast. They should 152 00:10:26.879 --> 00:10:30.399 you know so many random facts about different Well, you love your plane crash. 153 00:10:30.480 --> 00:10:33.240 Don't you listen to a plane crash podcast? I listened to two women 154 00:10:33.240 --> 00:10:37.679 it's called Take to the Sky, the air Disaster podcast, Shelley and Stephanie, 155 00:10:37.879 --> 00:10:41.080 and they do a great job and they're anyway, hello, favorite morning 156 00:10:41.159 --> 00:10:45.480 show. I'm writing with this question because I know when Jenny was a server, 157 00:10:45.559 --> 00:10:48.279 and there's a lot of people in the hospitality industry who listen to your 158 00:10:48.279 --> 00:10:52.840 show. Last Saturday, My husband and I were eating in the bar area 159 00:10:52.919 --> 00:10:58.240 of a high end steakhouse type restaurant in the Western suburbs. It's about eight 160 00:10:58.399 --> 00:11:03.480 fifteen and a large party was seated at a table away. The child about 161 00:11:03.559 --> 00:11:07.120 nine with the group started playing games on a tablet with the sound at full 162 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:13.480 blast without headphones. It was hugely disrupted. I disruptive. I didn't say 163 00:11:13.480 --> 00:11:18.000 anything for two reasons. Number one, whether right or wrong, I worry 164 00:11:18.000 --> 00:11:22.639 about the reaction from any adult who allows that. And number two, I 165 00:11:22.720 --> 00:11:26.320 honestly thought our really excellent server would address the issue. However, no staff 166 00:11:26.360 --> 00:11:31.519 did anything, and the noise continued until we left just before ten. I'm 167 00:11:31.600 --> 00:11:39.240 wondering are servers trained not to do anything in these situations. If so, 168 00:11:39.559 --> 00:11:43.080 is it to avoid a potential issue with the adults, or because the child 169 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:48.080 could have some sensory behavioral health issue so they need to be allowed that accommodation 170 00:11:48.360 --> 00:11:52.720 or another reason. Should I have done something differently? Are we at a 171 00:11:52.759 --> 00:11:54.679 point now where no one can say anything about the behavior of others in the 172 00:11:54.720 --> 00:11:58.240 absence of the risk of physical harm. Thanks for all you do to brighten 173 00:11:58.240 --> 00:12:03.440 the days of so many. My first thought is I mentioned a couple of 174 00:12:03.519 --> 00:12:07.600 years ago, we were at a restaurant and there was a family with a 175 00:12:07.679 --> 00:12:11.519 seven year old kid or so next door on his tablet with headphones the entire 176 00:12:11.600 --> 00:12:15.440 time, and I thought, that's some bullshit. I said, you teach 177 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:16.919 your kid to be social, you teach your kid to be bored. You 178 00:12:16.960 --> 00:12:20.679 teach your kid that they don't get to have a tablet in headphones while they're 179 00:12:20.720 --> 00:12:24.519 at a family dinner. Somebody then brought up, well, what if they 180 00:12:24.519 --> 00:12:28.519 have sensory issues or they're autistic or on the spectrum, and then maybe that's 181 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:31.799 just the way that they are comforted. I said, I never thought about 182 00:12:31.799 --> 00:12:37.000 that. As long as they're not bothering me, why should I care. 183 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:39.840 I was just being judgy because it was like, you know, when Alison 184 00:12:39.840 --> 00:12:43.399 and Carson were you know, they had crayons and the paper menu, right, 185 00:12:43.600 --> 00:12:46.559 yep, That's what I had, and I was always entertained. I'm 186 00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:48.639 just kidding. I probably was a nightmare. But we didn't go out to 187 00:12:48.639 --> 00:12:50.480 tea you that much, so I don't know, but I will say, 188 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:58.440 there's no fucking excuse for having your kid crank up their tablet in a nice 189 00:12:58.600 --> 00:13:01.840 restaurant. It's not Apple it's not Perkins. You're at a high end restaurant 190 00:13:01.879 --> 00:13:07.320 playing fifty six dollars for steak and shrimp. You should have fucking quiet from 191 00:13:07.360 --> 00:13:11.159 the next table, whether the kid is running around chasing his sister, yelling 192 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:16.559 and screaming, or whether he's got his tablet turned up. I'm sorry and 193 00:13:16.720 --> 00:13:22.039 autism unless you are telling me if this, I'll give you an open opportunity. 194 00:13:22.399 --> 00:13:24.720 If you know more about it than I do, and you know that 195 00:13:24.799 --> 00:13:28.320 kids on the spectrum need to be excused in that situation, then let me 196 00:13:28.399 --> 00:13:31.480 know. I don't agree. It's kind of like people say, like, 197 00:13:31.679 --> 00:13:35.039 Okay, the guy that killed three cops, well, what if he was 198 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:41.000 mentally ill? Mental illness does not excuse killing the two cops and the EMT. 199 00:13:41.639 --> 00:13:46.000 Mental illness does not excuse walking into a school and shooting fifteen kindergarteners. 200 00:13:46.559 --> 00:13:54.639 So I think at some point, when their issue becomes your issue through no 201 00:13:54.720 --> 00:14:00.480 faulty your own, there's no excuse for it. I'll give it another Like 202 00:14:00.519 --> 00:14:01.960 I was in the airport a couple of weeks ago and there was somebody who 203 00:14:03.000 --> 00:14:07.000 was yelling really loudly, like yelling, and I realized it was a kid 204 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:11.720 who's probably twenty with his dad, and the kid was severely mentally challenged, 205 00:14:11.799 --> 00:14:13.799 okay, and he was yelling, and I'm like, oh, well, 206 00:14:13.480 --> 00:14:18.120 nothing dad can do about that, Nothing I can do about that. You 207 00:14:18.279 --> 00:14:20.000 just kind of ignore it go on with your day. But I think if 208 00:14:20.039 --> 00:14:24.559 you've got a kid that is either being a little dickhead and you don't want 209 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:28.000 to discipline your kid, Guess what, little Jimmy, you don't get to 210 00:14:28.080 --> 00:14:33.960 watch this in a restaurant. Yeah, Or if your kid is on the 211 00:14:33.000 --> 00:14:37.200 spectrum or whatever and needs to watch it with the volume all the way up, 212 00:14:37.480 --> 00:14:41.440 then you don't go to a high end steakhouse. Yeah. Maybe no, 213 00:14:41.519 --> 00:14:45.840 tell me if I'm wrong. I do not know enough. I honestly 214 00:14:45.879 --> 00:14:48.240 when we were reading, when you were reading this email, and then she 215 00:14:48.279 --> 00:14:50.480 even brought up the fact that like, maybe they have sensory things and that's 216 00:14:50.480 --> 00:14:54.159 why they are allowing it and restaurants aren't able to say something that didn't even 217 00:14:54.200 --> 00:14:58.200 cross my mind. I think what you're asking, I think is almost like 218 00:14:58.440 --> 00:15:01.879 what should have happened in that situation or how should you have handled it differently? 219 00:15:01.919 --> 00:15:05.559 And I think that personally, you should have said something to your server 220 00:15:05.159 --> 00:15:09.120 and said, do you think you could have your manager talk to that table 221 00:15:09.240 --> 00:15:11.159 and ask them to turn it down a little bit? I think that that's 222 00:15:11.200 --> 00:15:15.840 what it is. I do think that a restaurant still has an obligation to 223 00:15:16.679 --> 00:15:22.120 acknowledge issues that are if it's affecting other people in the restaurant. I think 224 00:15:22.120 --> 00:15:26.120 the restaurant still has the ability, at a managerial level, not at the 225 00:15:26.120 --> 00:15:28.960 server level, to handle what's happening at that table. I wouldn't put that 226 00:15:30.000 --> 00:15:33.399 on the server. I think your server was probably beyond fully aware that it 227 00:15:33.440 --> 00:15:37.159 was loud. But they also are working for tips. They're not salaried, 228 00:15:37.320 --> 00:15:39.440 so they're going to sit and be nice to every single one of their tables, 229 00:15:39.440 --> 00:15:41.279 and they're not going to go up and be like, can you please 230 00:15:41.320 --> 00:15:46.039 turn that down? Risking that tip. So that's what I would think is 231 00:15:46.080 --> 00:15:48.639 how you should have handled it, and how the restaurant should have handled it. 232 00:15:50.279 --> 00:15:52.440 But I don't know what the protocol is of managers being able to talk 233 00:15:52.480 --> 00:15:56.840 to people and tell them to have their kids tablet turned down or whatever. 234 00:15:56.879 --> 00:16:02.600 They have really interesting take because I would have not thought to have the manager 235 00:16:02.639 --> 00:16:06.159 go over. I would have complained to the server. Yeah, but yeah, 236 00:16:06.200 --> 00:16:07.799 I think when you no matter where you are, you have a right 237 00:16:10.200 --> 00:16:15.039 to have a moderately peaceful dinner. If you're at a sports bar and you 238 00:16:15.080 --> 00:16:18.960 want quiet and you get mad because somebody is telling a dirty joke at the 239 00:16:19.000 --> 00:16:22.480 bar, Remember you're in a sports bar. You know you can't get mad 240 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:26.399 because somebody is dropping the F bomb at the bar when you go to you 241 00:16:26.440 --> 00:16:30.320 know, a sports bar. All right, let's talk about another one that 242 00:16:30.440 --> 00:16:33.720 was really interesting. By the way, Thank you, Ashley, I heard 243 00:16:33.759 --> 00:16:41.720 you talking about scams. There's a YouTube channel called run by Social Catfiss that 244 00:16:41.799 --> 00:16:47.399 exposes romance scams, and every one of them is identical. The victim thinks 245 00:16:47.440 --> 00:16:52.600 they've fallen in love with a celebrity or model and blows their life savings on 246 00:16:52.679 --> 00:16:56.320 that person. They eventually end up going to the people who run this channel 247 00:16:56.519 --> 00:17:00.279 to determine if it's real or a scam, and which it is. The 248 00:17:00.399 --> 00:17:04.279 ending goes one or two ways. Either they face reality or they stay in 249 00:17:04.319 --> 00:17:08.400 denial and keep spending their money on this fake celebrity or model. I get 250 00:17:08.400 --> 00:17:12.400 a kick out of it because they always come with the King and Queen nicknames 251 00:17:12.680 --> 00:17:15.039 to call each other. I'm not sure I get that part. Come up 252 00:17:15.039 --> 00:17:19.839 with king and queen nicknames, Oh, like King David or Queen Jenny. 253 00:17:21.000 --> 00:17:23.559 Oh sure, I don't know, Okay, but I will go back to 254 00:17:23.720 --> 00:17:29.039 yes. I a friend of ours, Nate from the show, His mom 255 00:17:29.279 --> 00:17:33.359 thought she was dating James Spader and it was the most ridiculous thing. She 256 00:17:33.440 --> 00:17:37.240 met him on a James Spader fan page and the guy, you know, 257 00:17:37.680 --> 00:17:41.359 leapt and groomed and then wanted money. And I've told the story enough times 258 00:17:41.359 --> 00:17:44.920 I don't need to repeat it. But yeah, but it's so unrealistic. 259 00:17:44.960 --> 00:17:48.960 If you, for example, if you thought that Matthew McConaughey all of a 260 00:17:48.960 --> 00:17:52.039 sudden was messaging you, and you're like, oh my god, Jenny, 261 00:17:52.640 --> 00:17:59.400 Matthew McConaughey, you would go, there's no fucking way that Matthew McConaughey would 262 00:17:59.400 --> 00:18:02.680 miss it with me. Yeah, I would be able to see through that. 263 00:18:02.759 --> 00:18:07.640 But I, yeah, I don't really get that whole romance scam thing. 264 00:18:07.200 --> 00:18:11.920 I don't understand it. I know there's plenty of documentaries and that YouTube 265 00:18:11.000 --> 00:18:14.920 channel that you just brought up, but it's wild to me that people believe 266 00:18:14.960 --> 00:18:19.440 that they could potentially be talking to and or dating a celebrity out of nowhere 267 00:18:19.440 --> 00:18:23.079 that they've never met in person, never met. And that was what Nate's 268 00:18:23.079 --> 00:18:29.039 mom went through, was that they had never met James Spader, but they 269 00:18:29.039 --> 00:18:32.960 were convinced that they were in love and they were going to get married. 270 00:18:33.000 --> 00:18:37.640 And they finally got Mom out of this mindset after a year. She had 271 00:18:37.640 --> 00:18:41.119 spent many thousands of dollars the last one. Dave Jenny Crue, longtime listener, 272 00:18:41.160 --> 00:18:45.640 first time writer. I need your opinion. My maternal grandfather, So 273 00:18:45.759 --> 00:18:48.119 Mom's dad just passed away. His funeral was coming up. For a little 274 00:18:48.119 --> 00:18:52.759 bit of background, my mom and dad had a very messy divorce years ago. 275 00:18:52.880 --> 00:18:59.839 During the divorce, my dad turned my mom's family against her. All 276 00:19:00.079 --> 00:19:03.400 though ever since the divorce, my dad has never talked to or was close 277 00:19:03.480 --> 00:19:08.440 to my maternal grandfather. Do you think my dad has the right to come 278 00:19:08.440 --> 00:19:14.319 to the funeral of someone he never had a true connection with and isn't his 279 00:19:14.400 --> 00:19:17.880 family. Thanks for all you guys. Do you seriously are life savers? 280 00:19:17.880 --> 00:19:19.240 If you guys are still sending out stickers, I'd love one. Yeah, 281 00:19:19.240 --> 00:19:25.279 I'll send you one. I'm a little confused by the question. It sounds 282 00:19:25.319 --> 00:19:30.839 like dad wasn't very nice to Mom's side of the family or had people turn 283 00:19:30.319 --> 00:19:36.000 I think what I was gathering is Mom didn't have a good relationship with her 284 00:19:36.079 --> 00:19:41.359 own family because of dad. Okay, and so now she's saying, after 285 00:19:41.400 --> 00:19:45.519 the divorce and everything, things kind of cleared up. But now Dad is 286 00:19:45.599 --> 00:19:49.160 going to mom's dad's funeral. Yeah, should he be able to? Well, 287 00:19:49.200 --> 00:19:52.839 she says, do you think my dad has the right to come to 288 00:19:53.039 --> 00:19:57.880 the funeral of someone he never had a true connection with and isn't his family. 289 00:19:57.960 --> 00:20:06.839 So this is her dad talking about her mother's dad. Yep, I 290 00:20:06.839 --> 00:20:10.400 wouldn't know that he wants to. Does he want Does he want to? 291 00:20:10.440 --> 00:20:15.160 Because that's weird. My parents both came to each they were divorced when my 292 00:20:15.839 --> 00:20:18.640 mom's both of her parents passed, and my dad still came to those funerals 293 00:20:18.720 --> 00:20:22.519 real quick to pay her respects. And then my mom went to my dad's 294 00:20:22.000 --> 00:20:26.960 mom's funeral. But I thought it was weird, even though like we grew 295 00:20:27.000 --> 00:20:30.680 up and they were married for twenty years, I thought it was a little 296 00:20:30.680 --> 00:20:33.880 bit weird that either of them went to the other's parents' funerals. It's funny 297 00:20:33.920 --> 00:20:40.960 how some people stay close or respectful enough. I mean, like when Julie 298 00:20:40.960 --> 00:20:42.839 died, that's Chase's mom, there was no question was going to go to 299 00:20:42.880 --> 00:20:48.359 her funeral. Absolutely, and we basically set up and hosted her wake and 300 00:20:48.400 --> 00:20:52.799 Susan and you know, I did a lot of the work and we were 301 00:20:52.839 --> 00:20:59.119 happy to do it. I did not go to Chase's stepdad's memorial. I 302 00:20:59.119 --> 00:21:00.440 don't even know if he had had one. To be honest, I think 303 00:21:00.480 --> 00:21:07.240 he did, but I think that it's a matter, Hannah, of whether 304 00:21:08.160 --> 00:21:14.880 he wants to and if you don't want him there, My only advice is 305 00:21:14.920 --> 00:21:17.960 there's nothing you can do. If he wants to come. You really can't 306 00:21:18.000 --> 00:21:22.319 tell him no, yeah, because if you say don't come, that's only 307 00:21:22.319 --> 00:21:26.799 going to cause him to be pissed off and he'll come anyway. So I 308 00:21:26.799 --> 00:21:29.319 don't know if that helped you at all, But let me know how it 309 00:21:29.319 --> 00:21:32.400 works out, all right. That is it for the Minnesota Goodbye Today. 310 00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:36.319 If you got a question or a problem, or you want to bring up 311 00:21:36.359 --> 00:21:38.599 a fun topic, that's fine too, then send us an email to Ryan's 312 00:21:38.599 --> 00:21:41.559 show at KDWB dot com.