I'm Casey Tanner and I'm Camille Lewis, And this is safe word. Safe
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This week we're diving into the theme orgasms. Orgasms, orgasms. Everybody's always
wants to talk about orgasms. I feel like, what does this bring up
for you? Or any personal updates do you have for me? Okay,
I'll tell you the first thing that comes to mind right now. So Mal
and I've been living together for almost a year now and we've kind of moved
out of this phase where sex is happening multiple times a week. Yeah,
we're in this once a week rhythm, but I like to have more than
one orgasm a week. So I think during new relationship energy, I was
not masturbating at all because whenever I wanted sex, there was sex. Now
I'm in this place where i'm like sometimes too tired for sex, but not
too tired for orgasms, so reintroducing masturbation into my life. But then there
was this question that is totally internalized shame, not imposed by mal That's like,
am I allowed to do this? Where should I do this? Should
I tell her when I do this? And we've been I think working through
a little bit of like, Okay, our values say totally good, no
issue at all, but our stomachs are like, wait a second, why
didn't you tell me you were horny? I would have had sex with you?
Or like I'm somebody that has a hard time orgasming more than once in
a day. So if I've already had an orgasm and then she wants to
have sex, she'll be super disappointed that I've already had an orgasm, not
from like a logical place, but from a place of like, wait a
second, that's for me, which we know isn't true. So I think
we are both on a journey around like masturbating in the same house when we're
turned on but don't want to have sex with each other, and undoing some
of that like internalized I don't even know it's it's shame, it's possessiveness,
it's monoga normativity, it's all that purity culture shit, and so letting our
stomach catch up with our brains around orgasming not together in this stage of our
relationship. It's very interesting and I feel like timely for this episode, but
makes a lot of sense that you're adjusting to new rhythms and how to care
for yourselves and each other in you know, living together in a different dynamic
and changes from NRI to pri permanent relationship, relationship energy. That's what engagement
is. Yeah, Yeah, it's I'm trying to practice turning my jealousy into
arousal, which is like more intuitive than you would think, at least for
me. I've realized so much. At the time I think I'm jealous,
I'm actually turned on, but interpreting it as a jealousy. So now when
she says like, I, you know I masquerated earlier, I'm trying to
let my jealousy turn into arousal. Let's see where that takes me. So
stay tuned. Oh, I like this approse, I'm going to steal that
too. Yeah, tell me about you and orgasms lately. I really have
no idea where you are me and orgasms lately. I don't know. I
guess I had to think about it. I mean, I masturbate pretty frequently,
and that's like my main in general, my main source of orgasms,
and so even with part even with partner sex, which I think that this
will probably come up a lot during the episode, but yeah, I think
that that's kind of like where I am recently. But when I saw this
topic, I was thinking about, have you ever had sex on a water
bed? No? I was thinking back to this time when I was having
sex with this person and I hadn't really had a lot of orgasm, Like
my partnered orgasms were pretty far and few between. But I don't know if
it was this person or this bed, but I was orgasming very frequently because
I know how hard it is see you with partners so hard. Damn.
I wonder, like, have you ever tried to orgasm with a partner in
like a bath or a hot tub orpo I wonder if there's something about like
the fluidity motion to relax, the being back in the womb like feeling.
No, Yeah, I I've had like sex and a hot tub before.
Um. I don't really like baths. I think they're kind of disgusting.
So we're gonna find about this, Like I know it's I know it's a
hot tub, and you're trying to tell me that baths a gross Yeah I
can't accept that. Yeah, I can't accept Yeah, yeah, you shouldn't.
You shouldn't. And and it's like I will take baths like in a
hotel. But I do know, I know, I know, but it's
not though, Oh you don't know who's been taking a bath in that bath?
I don't, I don't, but I like, I don't know what
it is it is and I'm like, I know, like shower before the
bath, so you're like clean in the bathroom. No, I don't want
to audience. Send us your opinions about send your opinions. Well do you
take baths and where and how? Why? But I love showers and I
love every other type of water. I mean that's water sign energy, you
know, the vibes I do. I don't think I've ever orgasmed in the
water before. But now I have homework. You have homework. I work
on the water bed. Try the water water, Okay, I want to
have multiple orgasms. How can I explore if this is possible? Or accept
that it may not be. I like this question mostly because maybe I have
a similar question for myself. I've never really experienced it, and I know
a lot of my friends will talk about having rolling orgasms or multiple orgasms,
and I'm like, what is that like? And I think I've been like
trying to be like, oh, okay, what would that be like for
me? But I mostly feels it's so hard because, for example, like
for me with masturbation, I usually masturbate in my bed at night before I'm
going to sleep, and I feel like that's a challenging place to play with
it because then I'm like cool one and done. And it's hard for me
because I usually masturbate with porn and then I'm just like, okay, well
turn it off, put put the phone down, and put the vibrator down
and go to bed. And I've been trying to be like, imagine what
it would be like to have an orgasm and then have I don't know if
it is called like the refractory period, and then to get horny again,
And I've just never been able to like, all, so are you for
do you feel immediately less horny after your orgasm? I think that's common I
think that's pretty common. Yeah, yeah, I think, especially like by
myself, Like sometimes I'll be like, oh wow, that was really great,
But typically it's if I'm doing it late, I'm like a great way
to just send me to my sleep, and so then I'm just like cool,
I'm not interested. Even I will try sometimes to like maybe watch a
different clip or something if I'm watching porn, and then I'm just saying,
yeah, I'm good. So I don't know. I think I want to
try to be intentional about like just experiencing or experimenting rather like what my body
can do. And I think that for me that might be trying to do
this more during the day or during a day when I don't have a lot
going on or something like that. So that would be kind of like my
suggestion is, like, what do you notice happens with you after you're having
that initial organs context and what is the goal about? Yeah? You know,
like what is the goal? Because you just are curious or do you
feel like you that's something that you should be able to do. Yeah.
I like the piece about contacts because I feel very fortunate to be somebody that
like, when I'm asked I can have nine orgasms without an issue. Damn
not immediately, but like within a span of an hour. Let's say,
yeah, yeah, I know, I know, I feel like I would
literally I love it pass out. Well. I love that you bring up
context, because I totally the number one time I use masturbation is to procrastinate.
If I'm doing something and I don't feel like it, I'll be like,
oh, maybe just like a little orgasm will reset me. But then
I'm like, yeah, I still don't want to do that thing, so
I'll just keep orgasming, So maybe it's not it before ben and do it
to distract yourself from something you really hate doing. Okay, I don't think
this is a real advice, but that's what works for me. I think
the other thing is when I the first time I realized I could do this,
I had like a five hour gap with nothing to do. I was
just laying in bed, I was watching TV, and I just kept using
my vibrator and I kept orgasming. And I think what worked about that is
there was no pressure, there was no goal from the outset. I had
a ton of time and space. I was like watching TV during this,
I'm not I was just literally letting my body take as long as it needed,
and that's what worked for me. I think like, if you're trying
to orgasm one right after another, give yourself a you know, a twenty
minute break bench Gray's Anatomy, and do it once an episode. See what
happens. I don't know, but I like this part about like maybe I
just need to accept that this isn't my body because yeah, if you've if
you've tried for a long time and it's not happening, then yeah, maybe
you're maybe you're not somebody who can orgasm more than once within a given time
frame and that there's no deficit there. Okay, yeah, it doesn't matter.
Yeah, And I think that the time component too, is like when
you're talking about multiple orgasms, is it like in a day, in an
hour in one kind of like session with your partners, like back to back,
Like how are you measuring that? And I do not have multiple orgasms
with a partner. I should put that out there too. That is like
a solo thing only, so context really does matter. Yeah, all right,
next question, why do I struggle to orgasm with a partner when it
takes seconds when I masturbate? Yeah, exactly, what we were just saying.
Yeah, I just think the context is completely different on a number of
levels. First, often the way we're touching ourselves when we're masturbating is different
from the way a partner touches us. Whether maybe you use your hands and
maybe your partner also uses their hands, but the way you use your hands
as different. Often, when we're masturbating, we give ourselves more time and
there's not the added pressure of somebody being present who we project onto. We
have all sorts of projections onto our partner as well, we are trying to
orgasm. That projection could be I'm taking up too much space, I'm taking
too long, they're not really attracted to me, they don't like what they're
doing right now. That kind of gets taken off the table. Doesn't mean
there aren't also anxious thoughts while you're masturbating, but typically the experience of being
seen the performance anxiety is more absent. And then also, as we've talked
about, when you're using toys, when you're using a high frequency vibrator when
you're alone, and then you're expecting your partner's tongue to do the same thing.
You know, we have an expectation issue. But anyway back to you,
what do you think? Um, I think you summed it up really
perfectly, and you know, that's very much my experience. I think it
really it depends, you know, and I think that sometimes you might feel
less pressure or you might feel really present with somebody and it is challenging.
It's challenging, and I think, especially like for folks with volvas, it
can be a different conversation, but also not exclusively, and I think that
the lack of pressure. I was once with a guy and I was like,
yeah, I don't like come but with partners, but this is going
to be fine. He was like, no, you're going to and I
was like I appreciated like the commitment, but it was like I was also
like and I was like really like young about early twenties, and I was
like yeah, but I like, I don't want this to be like this
goal, like why just be like doing whatever types of tricks and like fingers
and tongues type things like did you do it yet? And then I was
like, well, now I'm really not going to be able to do.
But I think that when there's less pressure and then it's just like this is
still sex, then I feel like I'm most likely to have an orgasm,
and it's really surprising. I think that I go in knowing that it's something
that I don't expect, and then a nice little bonus when it happens.
Yeah, and I'm like wait, wait, wait, wait, wait,
what's about to happen? What's about to happen? And then I'm like,
wow, great, but I don't go into a feeling preemptive disappointment if it
doesn't. Yeah. I feel like you can always also tell the difference between
a new sexual partner that's like, you will orgasm because my ego can't handle
it, and I will conquer this. I will be the one and only,
and the difference between that and somebody that's like, hey, like cool
if you don't, but like I really want to try, Like I'm here
for it. I'm here for the long haul, right, Like that's a
lot l it works for me. But to your point, when mal and
I are having sex and I'm like, I don't it's not going to happen
for me this time, She'll be like Okay, totally fine, and then
two minutes later, I'll have an orgasm simply because we've agreed that it's Okay
that I don't so I think the like Camille, this is this is this
kind of a skill you've talked about on here before. When you can develop
the language to let somebody know, it's unlikely you can set that aside and
be present with what is happening, which is all sorts of other wonderful,
great feelings. But orgasm is what five seconds of a like multi minute,
potentially hour long experience. M M yeah, absolutely, and it's always so
interesting. Actually, I was just thinking the last time that I had an
orgasm with a partner, my hamstring cramped right after it, like right kind
of. I was like, there's a lot of different sensations of like power
through I was like flexing implied right, like oh God, very like total
body situation. I bet they took credit for your screams too, they were
likely they're like congrat right exactly. I was like, I am in pain,
God, like, this is me a totally different episode. But I
was thinking the other day about how much people, including myself, power through
pain during sex. Not necessarily I'm not even talking about sexual pain, which
we a lot of people power through sexual pain. There's all sorts of reasons
for that. But I'm even just thinking about like as I get older,
my back pain, my like all like this, things that are happenings that
age that I'm just trying to like talk myself through and not mention. And
that is a new journey we should do. We should do like this,
not necessarily sex in aging, but things you power through during sex that maybe
you don't have to. Whether it's like, yeah, you know, I've
talked to people who have like tried to power through full panic attacks, Like
what are we doing tower through that shit? Fully, dissociating fully like retraumatized
whatever. Yeah, yeah, okay, bookmark cookmarked. Oh, we're running
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things good sex. This next person says, I can only seem to orgasm
with a partner if I fantasize and I don't want that. Please help?
Oh why not? Why don't you want that? I think I can make
assumptions right, but I don't know. But I think that there can be
a lot of shame with fantasy. And you know, there's a whole Oh,
this person said a different person's name while we were ving sex, and
like there's like, you know, I feel like that's like a R R
and B song that's fucked up, And so we've decided that that's like a
terrible thing if you're thinking about anyone or anything else when you're having sex with
your partner. I would first interrogate that shame a little bit of like why
not, because I imagine that there's like guilt of like, wow, I
just add an orgasm and this is a person that I'm physically with and I
was like thinking about and I don't know what the fantasy is, right,
It could be someone else, something else, another time that you've had sex
with this person, a fantasy that you have with this person that you're not
actively participating in in the moment, a lot of things. So yeah,
I don't know. I'll let you respond and then I'll have more to say.
You go, yeah. I think on top of the stigma that like
it's cheating to fantasize about during sex, I think there's also the like fantasizing
isn't being present. If you're really present, you're not fantasizing, And I
totally disagree with that. I think you can be very present and still fantasizing.
I think fantasizing is a brilliant thing to do during sex, because,
particularly in long term relationships, the context isn't always going to be sexy.
You're you know, your partner maybe hasn't showered in three days, you know,
you've been in the house working together for you know, two years whatever.
There aren't maybe a ton of sex sexy contexts available to you, So
fantasizing is bringing them to you, creating them, right, Like, I
don't need to be in a sexy place to bring the sexy to me through
a fantasy and to supercharge this experience through that fantasy. So I'm with you
about destigmatizing it. I'm trying to ask myself because I'm somebody that also pretty
much fantasizes every time I have sex. I'm trying to empathize with this person
and think, can I understand why that would be painful or scary to only
be able to orgasm when you're fantasizing. Yeah, I could understand why that
might bring up doubts, particularly if you know there's a certain person you're fantasizing
about. Maybe it's an ex you're fantasizing about on repeat, or let's say
your partner is one gender and your fantasy circle around another gender. Again,
none of this is bad, but I could empathize with the questions that might
bring up for you, and those are probably worth talking about. Does Yeah,
very well said, I think that it makes a lot of sense to
have. Yeah, the fear around like what does this mean? And I
think that we do a lot of meaning making, like what does this say
about me? If it's true? And I think you can excuse yourself from
having it have to mean something. And I wonder what do you think about
like if this person were to talk about it with their partner, I wonder
if that just feels really scary. And I can imagine, like my feelings
might be hurt if somebody's like every single time that I've had an orgasm with
you, I was thinking about X person, X thing, X position or
time. I can imagine feeling hurt by that. I think hurt and then
curious, probably rejected and then curious. And maybe there is something that you
can ask for from this person that might make you feel more connected to the
sex that you're having. But I don't say that too suggest that fantasy means
you're not connected. So that's a complex question. Yeah. I do think
if you trust your partner partners, saying it out loud of course as shame
decreasing, particularly if your partner partners have education around fantasies. One other thing
I thought of is i'd be curious if there was a theme to these fantasies,
because one thing I learned about myself as I was asking myself these questions
is every time I had an orgasm, I wouldn't have to fantasize through sex,
but as soon as I was sort of trying to have an orgasm,
I would need to turn on my fantasy brain, and all of my fantasies
circled around the pleasure of another person, So I would basically end up getting
off imagining somebody else getting off. What I realized about that over time is
it's because I was still and sometimes still am, uncomfortable with centering my own
pleasure. I am a person with a volva who has sex with you know,
my partner has a volva, and there is sometimes a sense like we're
kind of taking turns during sex, so unlike you know the experience of like
a penis being in my vagina and orgasming knowing that my partner is experiencing simultaneous
stimulation. It's often that malice is solely focused on meat, which is really
it's really hard for me to stay present with that, so I fantasize that
she's also receiving pleasure. Now, she would say, I am receiving pleasure.
I love doing this, but I need something that's a little bit more
concrete. So I would wonder about what maybe the patterns tell you, because
maybe it just simply says, you know, there's a barrier to orgasm ng
that your fantasies are helping you cross. Nothing wrong with that, but it
could be interesting information. M I like that, very thoughtful, Thank you,
you're welcome. Next question, how do I get rid of the shame
of coming too early? And then in parentheses also as a vulva owner slash
take too long? So coming too early or taking too long? Sounds like
it's a question. Yeah, my therapistic answer is to like find the metaphor
in this, when else do you feel like you're taking up too much space,
taking too long, not taking long enough. I feel like, particularly
anybody negatively impacted by misogyny has been impacted by this idea that like, you
exist for the service of other people, that yeah, that you shouldn't be
inconvenient. So I think what we're talking about is feeling like you're inconvenient,
And I would be looking at other threads to that narrative. Yeah, I
think, and this was when I first started work as a sex therapist.
This is one of my favorite things to talk about, especially with folks with
penises of like quote premature ejaculation. And I think that there is so much
harm that misogyny and talk and toxic masculinity. It acts, and it really
it hurts everyone. And I cannot stress that enough. It hurts everybody involved
because there's so much shame, especially with people being like, my penis and
my ability to do things with it means something about my identity as a person.
And so if I'm not able to have this experience or have a prolonged
experience with this another you know, like there's songs about that too, like
minute Man, which is you know, the goat Missy Elliott, we love
you. But like there are things like that that I think that it feels.
It feels scary to imagine that your body isn't cooperating in a way that
you've been told that it just shits, and bodies don't just do that.
We don't have like this direct line of communication that's like stay hard or stay
wet, or come now or don't come yet. It doesn't necessarily work like
that. But when it does. There's so much shame. There's so much
I think identity crises that can result from things like that. So I think
that it's like knowing that having comfort to express things about your sexual experiences is
going to be the number one thing for a lot of the people that I
would work with. It'd be like talking about it in a way that is
like, this is okay, and this is something that happens, and it
doesn't mean anything about you and or your partner surely mean anything about me.
Yeah, yeah, I think too. When people have this anxiety, it's
often like come up in some kind of relational context. So for example,
it's not just why is it too fast, it's like why is it too
fast for her? Or why is it so much earlier than they come because
we want a simultaneous orgasm, or because we're having penetrative sex and this person
hasn't gotten off yet, but this person has, and now we don't know
what to do. So I think some of this can be solved with sexual
creativity. Like if you have an erection and you're having penetrative sex, and
you have an orgasm and your partner wants to keep going, stop every metatory
sex oral sex. Yeah, shift around which positions, take a break,
circle back. So I think some creativity can help with this as well.
Absolutely, because it's like, because we link orgasms as a signifier of an
end or success that it's like, okay, well, if this happens in
sex is over when it doesn't have to be all the other things that you
mentioned are sex, and it might lead to more arousal or it might lead
to an erection, and it might not, but it means that you can
still be playing together. Agree. This next person says, I'm in need
of validation that I can't orgasm with other people instead of reassurance that's someday I
will. Okay, we are here to do that. It is okay to
know that you can't or yes with other people, it is okay, it's
okay. If you never do, you will still have a beautiful, full
life and if you want it, absolutely beautiful full sex life. And I
am totally here for accepting that, like this might be your body forever and
figuring out what else your body can do, because it bet it's a lot
of other cool things. Absolutely, I think that I can relate to this
person being like, well, that won't always be the case, and like
you just have to find the rights an annoying answer, yeah, and it's
just like, well, like perhaps, but that is absolutely not what I'm
talking about. And again, like it that being the only way or one
of the only main ways that society conceptualizes of good or successful sex is probably
what leads to this, and so it's like that is fine, And for
a lot of my life that was my reality. So I was like,
I was like, that's fine. Yep. I was really okay with it.
And I don't understand, like I can't stress this enough. I really
enjoy having sex whether or not there's an orgasm, with or without an orgasm,
and I've always have. So let's move right into the next question,
because it basically goes along with this, is it okay if no one orgasms,
can it still be good? I always thought about sex as transaction,
which we're saying, yes, of course it can still be good. We've
i think, also made orgasm a synonym for climax, and I think there
are so many different ways you can experience a climax during sex. It could
be like the moment where there's the most intensity, the moment where there's the
most connection, the moment where you got the loudest, the moment where you
were in exposition, right, Like, find your own version of that.
It doesn't have to be an orgasm, and find and because we've also made
orgasm synonymous with an ending, find your own ending. What is your ending?
When do you know that you're ready to be done? Because often orgasms
aren't that anyway. Yeah, Yeah, I'm wondering if when this person says
transactional they mean like me first, thank you, And this is how we
know, because I mean, there's I guess at meanings to that word.
But yeah, and I think that it can absolutely still be good. It
can be really fulfilling. You might be doing something else or involving a different
type of toy or experience or all sorts of things that really bring out different
sensory activation for you, and that means that it can be good. It
can feel like a way that you connect with your partner or partners. It
can feel just like something that you're doing when you're bored, Like sex can
feel like a lot of different things, and it can feel good in a
lot of different ways of like, wow, I just tried a position that
I never would have done before and that feels exciting, that feels like something
that I get to celebrate. It doesn't have to be marked just by did
you quote unquote finish or did I quote unquote finish, which I mean even
that language is kind of sus right, and like how many people have had
orgasms during really bad sex, Like orgasm is not what makes sex good,
and in fact, like I'd argue, it's sort of the last thing that
does m For the last question, this person wants to know some ways to
share with a partner that they rarely orgasm with a partner. So similar to
kind of what I've talked about before, Camille, you and I have both
been saying that, like we've we've been these people, we are these people
that say this. Yeah. For me, I've found that I'm most comfortable
sort of as like physical like as physicality is escalating to bring this up.
So for me, I'm not typically bringing it up before we're like at least
making out or something. You know, things feel like they're moving in a
direction where someone might try to make me orgasm. When that's happening, I
might pause and just say, like, hey, just you know, really
hard for me to orgasm with a partner, not about you, so just
just so you know. And I've never had somebody have a negative reaction to
that. Everybody has in I've seen relief on people's faces when they're like,
oh, the criteria has gone amazing. So I usually will just say it
just that plainly as I feel that things are escalating. Now. There have
been other times if I've been like talking to somebody quite a bit before we
get into sexy stuff, then I might tell them over text because we might,
you know, maybe we're sexting before we have sex, or maybe I'm
just asking about language that they like to use. So I also think this
fits in well in any conversation where you're talking about what does consent look like
for you? What language do you like to use past experiences. I think
that this could fit in really naturally in any of those conversations. M Yeah,
absolutely. I think I found that I usually talk about it. I've
mentioned it at all different phases, but sometimes maybe after or when things are
winding down, especially if the person is like but you haven't come yet,
and I'll be like oh and I live with like well cash be like yeah,
I'll be like, oh, yeah, no, don't worry about it.
Um, it's kind of more challenging for me to come with somebody else,
but I'm enjoying it and that's kind of how I do it. And
then they'll be like, oh, I think it's more common for like,
um, my experience with like women and fims to be like cool. Um.
For for men, they're they're like, well, um, yeah,
exactly, Like I don't think that that's well, like exactly like they're like,
what are you about to tell you your friends or whatever about this?
You know, like it's so much about their ego. But even like then,
I feel like it takes the pressure off of them. And you know,
I think that I've especially also gotten older, like realized that even their
reactions sometimes they're like, Okay, well are you sure is there something that
I can do? And then I will feel like more information would be like
sure, like you can give me head for a little longer, or um
no, I'm great that it was fun, or like let's bring my vibrator
into this because it's very trust totally yeah, totally yeah. And that's what
I do like about, like as I'm getting older, being like yeah,
and now I've got so many boxes of toys and toys everywhere that I'm just
like, and they're excited too. I think that they'll be like, well,
I should we use one of these, and I'll be like, sure,
why not? We don't have to I'm tired. I'd love that because
it's not a disclosure that we owe anybody up front. I you know,
disclose up front if it helps you relax. But yeah, i'd love that,
Like if it comes up, you have a response, hmm. And
I think that talking about it casually and not apologetically, yeah, of like
oh I'm so sorry, Like I'm really not sorry. It's something that is
fine with me, and I can just share it, like you know,
you're literally not hurting anybody by yeah. Yeah, yeah, I'm like,
it's fine, but let's keep going or it's fine and it's okay for it
to end now. Yeah. Well, this was a very fun episode and
there was so many questions and so many good questions, and I'm glad that
this is a topic that we got to cover. And just remember that your
orgasms don't mean that you have been successful at sex. This week's safe word
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