WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.160 --> 00:00:10.640 It's happening. It's happening. Welcome to fifty plus, the Audio Edition. 2 00:00:13.960 --> 00:00:20.920 So I was actually posting a picture on my social medium and I realized both 3 00:00:21.079 --> 00:00:27.960 persons in the picture are both dead. The other day I was looking at 4 00:00:27.960 --> 00:00:37.600 a picture I found and me with two people. Those two pople are dead. 5 00:00:37.799 --> 00:00:44.520 I'm finding and many of us fifty plus I'm finding this out. We're 6 00:00:44.520 --> 00:00:54.880 starting to get to the point where pictures in pictures, people are gone that 7 00:00:54.960 --> 00:00:59.840 we hung out with. I'm not talking about great great grandparents from eighteen twelve. 8 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:03.680 I'm talking about a distant relative. You got a picture I'm talking and 9 00:01:03.719 --> 00:01:07.799 I'm talking about when you were a baby and a picture of a grandmother. 10 00:01:07.920 --> 00:01:14.200 I'm talking about people are in my life into my forties and sometimes fifties. 11 00:01:15.359 --> 00:01:21.959 People were in my life into my thirties, that I actually had them in 12 00:01:21.959 --> 00:01:26.519 my life as they are gone and depending on it because I have a big 13 00:01:26.560 --> 00:01:32.040 family, but I have big friends, lots of friends. It depends on 14 00:01:32.200 --> 00:01:38.480 how people, you know, how oftenness will occur. Right, I always 15 00:01:38.480 --> 00:01:42.040 talk about I've talked about this in another show about how I have a picture 16 00:01:42.040 --> 00:01:48.480 of nine of us, nine guys from like nineteen eighty nine or something at 17 00:01:48.599 --> 00:01:53.840 eighty nine, and only seven of us are left, sorry, only two 18 00:01:53.840 --> 00:01:57.200 of us are left. Seven have passed away. That picture is very profound 19 00:01:57.200 --> 00:02:04.519 because it's that was AIDS crisis and the seven all dinabates the complications from it, 20 00:02:05.719 --> 00:02:09.280 and me and the remaining person we're still friends to this day. There 21 00:02:09.280 --> 00:02:17.719 are pictures just of co workers the past who are around my age or whatever 22 00:02:17.879 --> 00:02:23.159 or a little older, and they passed away various ways. I've lost on 23 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:27.280 my grandparents and great grandparents and god parents. So I mean all that, 24 00:02:27.319 --> 00:02:31.039 it's like, that's so I have that too. Now I've lost two stepdads. 25 00:02:31.199 --> 00:02:38.479 I have that too. It's just like it's really it's a little weird. 26 00:02:38.520 --> 00:02:39.719 You look at it, go wow, everyone in this picture is not 27 00:02:39.840 --> 00:02:44.879 here anymore. But I have a connection to each one of them. So 28 00:02:44.879 --> 00:02:47.800 it's like, so that's an esoteric thing, like I actually knew them, 29 00:02:49.039 --> 00:02:52.080 or I remember this memory, I was there when or I took the picture. 30 00:02:53.960 --> 00:02:57.560 But it's happening more and more, and you know, and depending on 31 00:02:57.759 --> 00:03:02.599 who's passed away and how they passed with your relationship and how long ago can 32 00:03:02.599 --> 00:03:07.439 bring a swing different emotions, right, I mean, there are times where 33 00:03:07.520 --> 00:03:09.719 certain pictures made me cry, something made me laugh, some mad me go, 34 00:03:09.759 --> 00:03:14.759 Oh my goodness. I was going through my Facebook, because Facebook memories. 35 00:03:15.199 --> 00:03:19.599 If you're on Facebook, it doesn't too where it's like five years ago, 36 00:03:19.680 --> 00:03:22.120 eight years ago. Now I got fifteen years ago. I'ment on facing 37 00:03:22.159 --> 00:03:25.879 fifteen years, fifteen years ago. And I was looking for a picture of 38 00:03:27.000 --> 00:03:37.240 a picture of me and someone else and scrolling ran across people who aren't along 39 00:03:37.280 --> 00:03:45.520 with us. Just my friend marcussis gone, my friend Christopher Neam gone, 40 00:03:45.719 --> 00:03:47.479 my friend Greg Marino gone. And they all weren'tut, they weren't old. 41 00:03:47.520 --> 00:03:52.360 No in the world, they're gone. And I just start thinking, it's 42 00:03:52.439 --> 00:03:57.960 just like wow, you stop for a second. You know they're you know, 43 00:03:59.759 --> 00:04:02.199 my friend Mark, especially, we had reunited after nineteen years apart. 44 00:04:02.240 --> 00:04:11.159 We had reunited in person in New York. The last night I saw him 45 00:04:11.560 --> 00:04:15.479 was from my great grandmother's funeral. I was back there from Miss Arthoretta, 46 00:04:15.160 --> 00:04:17.319 and I had to get tied away from the family. I said, I'm 47 00:04:17.319 --> 00:04:23.759 gonna go see a friend, and I was in nineteen ninety four. Then 48 00:04:23.879 --> 00:04:27.120 nineteen years later we met up again. I came back to New York. 49 00:04:27.120 --> 00:04:29.000 I was going to all the time. I just started catch up with them. 50 00:04:29.279 --> 00:04:32.160 We actually met up and I was just thinking about how we went and 51 00:04:32.199 --> 00:04:35.000 had. We met at a coffee place and then we had a drink, 52 00:04:35.600 --> 00:04:42.040 and then we walked up Yorks Waukinge City and ran to a friend of his. 53 00:04:42.800 --> 00:04:46.079 It's random, ran to a friend of his, went to his friend's 54 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:47.120 house. Something that was really cute. I mean, I love see New 55 00:04:47.199 --> 00:04:51.000 York City apartments. Then we went to dinner and we just had it. 56 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:54.360 We had a really great time. I just like, wow, it was 57 00:04:54.360 --> 00:04:57.399 a really good time. So we reconnected basically, and then on Facebook were 58 00:04:57.399 --> 00:05:00.000 reconnected and I kept thinking back to you when I we met him in nineteen 59 00:05:00.040 --> 00:05:04.079 ninety four on New Years and there was no Internet or anything like that, 60 00:05:04.160 --> 00:05:10.639 and we just met. He gave me his card out here somewhere and we 61 00:05:10.720 --> 00:05:15.399 kept touched by phone, folks crazy thoughts by phone, and we come just 62 00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:18.279 the whole time. But then Facebook brought us back together and it actually went 63 00:05:18.279 --> 00:05:20.279 there and saw him and I was going to New York anyway, and I 64 00:05:20.319 --> 00:05:26.000 saw him. I was there, and a couple of years ago he passed 65 00:05:26.040 --> 00:05:30.240 away. He got really sick and now recovered. He was not much older 66 00:05:30.240 --> 00:05:32.959 than me. It was kind of crazy whole lifetime. My friend Christopher diam 67 00:05:33.519 --> 00:05:39.399 we even had a little falling out before he died. I thought he just 68 00:05:39.519 --> 00:05:46.160 wasn't he had changed the person. But we have like ten fifteen years together 69 00:05:46.199 --> 00:05:50.399 before that that we were super, super super close. We went through a 70 00:05:50.439 --> 00:05:58.040 lot together and so it didn't diminish how much I cared about him. Of 71 00:05:58.040 --> 00:06:02.240 course, stepdad Larry. I was trying to go see him. Actually we 72 00:06:02.279 --> 00:06:11.240 had talked like a few weeks before he died, and it was just like 73 00:06:11.680 --> 00:06:14.279 I was gonna try. I'm trying to go see I'm gonna I went to 74 00:06:14.319 --> 00:06:16.920 his house once and he wasn't there. The one he said, the one 75 00:06:16.959 --> 00:06:19.240 time he actually left his house, he was like he always was at home. 76 00:06:20.839 --> 00:06:24.920 And we laughed about that, and our last text was like this funny 77 00:06:25.000 --> 00:06:29.000 we always talked to each other as we always did, and he's gone. 78 00:06:30.000 --> 00:06:33.720 It's just like, it's just it's so great. My friend Greg, we 79 00:06:34.079 --> 00:06:38.279 talked on a zoom We had a zoom call for like three hours and we 80 00:06:38.399 --> 00:06:40.720 talked about stuff, and he had a script to it, talking about he 81 00:06:40.759 --> 00:06:44.399 wanted me to look at and he wanted to come back to LA, and 82 00:06:44.439 --> 00:06:46.160 I was like, come, I to La, Let's do it. I'm 83 00:06:46.199 --> 00:06:48.360 doing it, Let's do it. And then he got sick and died really 84 00:06:48.399 --> 00:06:53.560 fast. So it's just it's a tripy and I'm looking around my room right 85 00:06:53.600 --> 00:06:55.639 now. I have a picture of me and a person who passed away, 86 00:06:55.680 --> 00:06:58.959 a picture of me in a person who passed away to him right here, 87 00:07:00.199 --> 00:07:01.959 one in night sinety one and one a few years ago. So this is 88 00:07:02.079 --> 00:07:09.439 kind of it's a trip, and it is and this is the age. 89 00:07:09.560 --> 00:07:12.399 I mean, it's if somebody else touched a little earlier or later, but 90 00:07:12.560 --> 00:07:17.959 this is the age group fifty plus we started seeing that. I'm James E. 91 00:07:18.079 --> 00:07:21.680 Junior, fifty plus. It's audio and usually video, but I am 92 00:07:21.720 --> 00:07:28.040 recovering from something, so it's right. There was social audio, go where 93 00:07:28.040 --> 00:07:31.680 we find your podcast and five fifty plus I will talk to you next time.