Hi, everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My name is
Alicia Gogin, the host of The Globe Secret podcast, where I help you
expand your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into
the best version of yourself. Hello, Happy Monday. If you're listening to
this on a Monday. We are celebrating a very important day today, at
least when I'm filming. That day is March first. We have officially entered
a new season. I feel like this is a very important season for all
of us, or a very important month, because it really does mark a
real new seasonal change for a lot of us. Now, those of you
guys that are living on the other side of the hemisphere, I know you
guys aren't actually really experiencing spring, but for the most part, most of
my viewers, y'all are feeling it. We are awakening genuinely, and I'm
here for it. And I was actually scrolling on Pinch and I found a
quote or I read a quote that kind of resonated with me and of course
spiraled me into a thought process and we're going to talk about it today.
So it's a very small, easy quote. We're going to read it out
real quick, and it says, clean your spaces, clean your house,
your room, your car, your mind, your heart. New things are
coming, make sure you're welcoming them properly. I want to talk about this,
welcoming things properly and in general, welcoming new things in your life.
And I think that this is just something I've been thinking about a lot when
it comes to my mindset, my actions, the things that I am spending
my time doing in my life, thinking about how you know, if I
want new outcomes, if I want to experience new things in my life,
I have to make room for them. I have to create space in my
mind for them. I think about this in terms of, let's say you
really want to be a confident girl. In order for you to be a
confident girl, you're going to have to let go of that negative self talk.
If you want new opportunities in your life, you might have to stop
forcing yourself to do things that are clearly not aligned and you're just burning yourself
out doing. There are many things in your life that probably are no longer
aligning, and I think that this is a great time for you to release
these things so you can create space for the things that are meant for you
to come into your life. And I think we spend a lot of the
times in our heads ruminating about past situations, not knowing if that was the
right situation or the right answer, or what's going to happen and this that,
but just understanding where your mind and where your focus is. It sometimes
really does block off the things that the universe is trying to bring you,
or God is trying to bring you. And I even think about this in
terms of what you consume, whether that's online or things that you're reading or
whatever. It is. Right, if you want to become a new version
of you, if you want to know new information, you're going to have
to not listen to the same thing over and over, ruminate on something over
and over, continue to listen to things that might not be serving you.
I also think this in the terms of food and health. If you're wanting
to invite more healing, more change in your physical body, it's going to
require you to most likely eat in a new way to change something up.
So I think I'm really thinking, and I think I have thought about this,
what is it that I could let go of this season so that I
can clear up room for the things that actually really do serve me and let
go of the things that don't. Now, I want you to ask yourself
that question. And I think that you could just ask yourself that right now,
or something that you could do maybe tonight, tomorrow, on the weekend,
whenever it is that you have some time to set out, maybe thirty
minutes or an hour or something, sitting with yourself, sitting with your soul,
essentially really tapping into your body, bring your hand to your heart,
bringing your hand to your belly, breathing into your body, breathing into your
heart, to your soul, giving yourself a moment, quieting the noise and
the chaos and the outside of everything that influences you and where you go in
your life, slowing things down, coming to the breath, bringing your awareness
to the fact that the earth is supporting you, everything around you is genuinely
just supporting you. Maybe lighting some incense or some candles, maybe starting some
meditation music, something very calming, Maybe even get out of a journal and
sit with yourself and ask yourself. And what I mean ask yourself, I
mean ask the wisest part of you, your highest self, the part of
you that really knows your intuitive self, ask yourself that question of what can
I let go of this season? And see what comes up. Intuitively,
this is not about trying to force an answer, trying to come up with
a million things in a list than a to do list. Genuinely, what
is the first insight, the first feeling that comes up? And I really
do think that it's almost as if a lot of the times we do know
this, but we don't slow down enough to really stop and really think about
it and let that really rise. Because a lot of times, if that
rises, maybe we're not ready to let that go. Maybe we're not ready
to face the reality of maybe it's time to let this thing go so I
can be free. But it's a new season. If we want better for
ourselves, our lives, our health, our relationships, are everything, we
know what is required, and that is to let go of the things that
are no longer serving us. So I would really take that time, just
as this new month is coming to us. You know we're here. Even
if you're listening to this podcast episode and it's a new month or halfway through,
you can do the whenever, really asking your highest self, what can
I let go of? What do you want me to let go of?
What do you need me to let go of? Maybe even an alternative question
you could ask yourself is how can I love you more? Something will come
up, and I want you to focus and really keep this in your forefront
of your mind as you move through this season of life. Now, when
I ask myself this question, intuitively, of course, something came up for
me, So I guess we'll just quickly talk about it because I feel like
a lot of you guys might resonate with this. And the first thing that
really came up when I asked myself this question was can you please let go
of this seriousness of life that sometimes you have? And when I say sometimes,
a lot of the times, this is a real occurring pattern that I
have that I'm consistently working on. I'm watching the way that I'm wording this
because, as you'll hear when I continue to talk about this, I'm not
really interested in the in the words working on right now in my life,
but for the context of this working on and I the reason why this has
been such a big pattern in my life of tay like it's the serious of
night life. Sorry, just being so serious and what I mean by serious
is just working and not in the terms of burning myself out. I'm not
somebody who burns herself out. But I do take life serious and I'm very
responsible, and I have things to do, and I have a purpose on
this life, and I am trying to be on that path essentially, and
it's beautiful and it's great. But in my life I've had to really take
on this more masculine serious role because no one else was doing it for me.
I had to take control of my life. I had to be very
responsible. And although beautiful, like being in the masculine sense in that way
and taking responsibility of your life is beautiful. This is not to ever look
at that part of us as bad or wrong. It's not. Quite Frankly,
this part of us, I like to call this my manager, my
micromanager. Part of me has learned to become like this seriousness about life and
controlling things and overthinking and always planning and implementing and to do lists. She's
trying to keep me safe. Quite frankly, this part of me has kept
me safe from losing myself, from losing myself in the environment that wasn't a
safe and healthy environment. Many aspects in my life. So on one hand,
I absolutely do not even want to let this micromanager part of me go.
But it's almost as if my higher self is now stepping in and saying
it's time. Not even just you can let go, you can relax.
Look around you. There's so many parts of your life in which you are
so much more safer than you really were back in the day, and you
can relax. There are so many beautiful moments in your life where you can
slow down and you can enjoy, and you don't need to take everything so
serious. Now. This takes an active reparenting and active conversation you your higher
self in regards to the part of you that might be that micromanager. You
can even use the term parts work in which I talk about that in my
book Reparenting. You can also get the book No Bad Parts. That's a
great book to understand what I'm talking about when it comes to parts work.
But this is not forcing your micromanager, at least for me. It's not
about forcing my micromanager to do things that she's learned to do all of her
life. But I just want to let her know from my highest self,
essentially, it's okay. You don't have to look at everything as a to
do list, a task. You don't have to look at yourself like you
are a project anymore, at least not for this season. We don't need
it. We've been doing it for so long that I think what's time for
us to do is when we are looking at things that we get to do
in our lives, can we start looking at it from a place of self
care and enjoyment and slowing down and enjoying the process and just you know,
just having fun in a way versus this self work. And this is what
I kind of was thinking about. I've had this energy towards healthy habits,
healing work, journaling, school, content, everything in my life with this
energy of to do this self work, this project, this thing I have
to get done. And it's really built up over the past few months because
quite frankly, I was a little bit in the dumps, okay. And
what I do when I'm in the dumps is I feel my feelings and I
allow myself to feel and I'm not too hard on myself. But eventually,
when I want to get out of that, I want to grasp onto healthy
behaviors and new rituals and routines and journaling again and mental health, all that,
all good things. I love it. This is what I do,
This is what I talk about. But in their pursuit of doing that,
sometimes I can get in and I think many of you can probably relate into
this energy of It's almost like a task. Now, It's like, oh,
another week, you gotta go to the gym. I have to journal,
I have to work on my beliefs. I have to change my mindset
about this. I have to be positive about that. I have to really
stop eating the way that I've been eating. I do my self care,
glow up season, summer's coming goals, all things we want. But in
the pursuit of getting those things, sometimes it becomes a chore. And I
don't want the season to feel like a chore anymore. And so I was
thinking, well, how what do I do here? Because realistically, you're
never gonna get me to not, you know, do these healthy habits and
these things. I love doing these things genuinely. How do I make it
so it doesn't feel like a chore. And I think the mindset shift is
really looking at these things as a way of self caring, caring for myself
nourishing myself, romanticizing the process, slowing down, getting excited about these things,
versus looking at health, wellness habits as self work. I'm done working.
We're entering our self life era at this point. Okay, So that
is what I'm going to be witnessing, observing in myself, really trying to
not trying like a forcing energy, but bringing my awareness back to what it
is that I know that my higher self really wants me to focus on,
which is not looking at everything as self work, and looking at these things
as self care, taking care of myself, going to the gym, drinking
my electrolytes, green juices, hawker walks, going to the gym and doing
my leg days, recording a podcast, doing work, learning one on one,
coaching everything. Let's just have this lighter energy, this fun energy around
things. And quite frankly, as much as I do not, I'm not
gonna say do not. I'm not the best at giving my own self props
and patting myself on the back and being like you deserve it. I do
deserve it, for sure, and I think you guys do too well.
I know you guys do, because you guys are the same as me.
You guys are such a reflection of everything. I'm interested in everything that I'm
going through in so many different ways. And I know that we're all different
ages, we all different have different life stories everything. But you guys are
the ones that sit at the front of the class. Said this before.
You guys sit at the front of the class with your notebooks, and you're
ready to listen. You're ready to learn, you're ready to implement. You're
so aware of yourself. You're so aware of your patterns, even when you
get down on yourself, even when you see you're doing the same thing over
and over, the fact that you're just aware of it. The fact that
you're willing to look at yourself and the quote unquote flaws that you think you
have and the everything, the chaos and the beautifulness of life. The fact
that you guys are willing to do that. Y'all deserve to just enjoy life
this season. Okay, so that's what we're going to be doing this season.
And actually, I pulled a card today. Sometimes I pull cards and
they're not that relevant, but it's interesting. This card is obviously relevant.
That's why I'm going to talk about it. But I think it's just relevant
for this maybe setting up a meditation session for yourself and asking yourself this question.
But recently I mentioned this in one of the past episodes, that I
have been learning this drop in process to bring clients through, to bring myself
through. Essentially, it's just I'm learning how to guide a meditation. Essentially,
that's kind of what it is in terms of a coaching aspect, like
a one on one client session. There's other reasons why we're doing this drop
in process. I'm not going to get into it, but essentially that's what
I'm learning. And there's a little bit of resistance when learning this one because
I'm just learning so naturally. It's going to be rocky at the start.
And this is maybe just a PSA for anyone who is starting anything, new,
new job, new relationship, healing something, working on something for the
first time, new parents, new anything. It's gonna be rocky at the
beginning. You gotta let yourself just we have to embrace the cringiness, we
have to embrace the weirdness, the oh my gosh, what if I do
this wrong? Please embrace it. And I'm saying that to myself because I'm
doing the best to embrace it. But another part of this journey that I
am on right now is having a little bit of resistance to just the fact
that it is a meditation process, meaning I have to slow down and bring
my awareness to my body, coming to my breath. Being somebody who is
very much so focused on the mindset, I genuinely am so interested in our
mindsets, how our brains work on a neurological level, like genuinely that I
really am interested in that, and I think that I'll go on in my
life to continue to go in the direction of mindset. But in my current
life right now, I am learning a lot about the body somatically, and
I'm doing that for many reasons. The first reason being I've healed so much
of my own self, my own physical ailments, even my mental health by
working on the nervous system and slowing down and not being in fight or flight
like there's just there's no real healing in my personal opinion, if it's not
you bringing your awareness to the body and understanding what's happening in your body and
not just your mind like not just changing like the thoughts that you think in
your belief systems, and positively thinking like that's amazing stuff, and I love
that stuff. I really think that at the end of the day, that's
that's the most like prominent thing that we're always aware of. But true healing
occurs when you can really slow down and bring your awareness to the body.
Your body will speak to you in many ways, and the more that you
regulate your nervous system a lot of the times, and mental chaos tends to
quiet, so you can try and quiet your mind by positively thinking or X,
Y and Z, but sometimes it really is down to bring your awarenes
to the body. With that said, meditation slowing things down. It's not
the easiest thing to do, and I think in this generation in general,
we're fast paced where go, go go, we want everything now, ADHD
everywhere. We just we can't even focus on one thing for more than like
three seconds. So meditation can be hard. But it's something that I'm learning,
and honestly, I'm as much as I have resistance to it, I
am feeling the benefits of slowing down and connecting to my body. And what
I will say is, you know the question that I'm posing you guys to
ask yourselves, I really do think you're gonna get the most insight full answer.
When you slow down, you could ask yourself, right now, what
should I let go of? What's gonna happen if you don't slow down and
bring your awareness to your body and you have this environment where you're you know,
you've come to your senses for a second before you even ask that question,
what will usually happen is you go right into your mind. Right if
you don't slow down for a second, you go right up into your mind.
You start talking D D D D. Now it's not to say that
what you have in your mind is wrong or flawed. You might logically know,
oh, there's these three things I want to let go of, and
I want to work on health and fitness and this that and relationship that and
this that and the third. But there's something actually more wise that your body,
your soul, your mind or whatever knows if you dish just slow down
and I find when you quiet your mind and you slow down for a moment
and you do that meditation process in a way, you know, coming to
the breath, maybe listening to some meditation music, bringing in the senses of
you know, smells, you won't have to try. That answer comes in
so intuitively it just hits you. It's like you know, you've been knowing,
it's been sitting residing within you. So I guess I'm saying all that
to say it's interesting that I'm working on the meditation process in my work life
in a way, but also just feeling this new energy of life and asking
myself the question what came up for me and what came up for me about
this self work versus self care was so spot on if I really think about
it, it's just like, Yeah, that's the energy that I've been in
for so long, Like that's what I needed to hear from my higher self
that. But of course I pulled a card and guess what the card was.
It was meditation. That's what it says. I'll show you guys on
YouTube if you're watching on YouTube. This is a Divine Intuition oracle deck by
Belinda Grace. I got this at the Rock Store in Toronto, so I
don't know if you can find this online. I'm sure you can if you
type it in. Anyways, that's what the card looks like and it says
meditation, So I figured I would just read it because it kind of just
backs up everything I was just saying it says, you have drawn this card
today to reassure you that even though meditation might feel awkward to you, your
intuition will love you for it. Which I pulled this card right before I
started filming, and when I read that last sentence about you know, feeling
awkward, but your intuition will love you for it, I was just like,
Yeah, when you get more into a meditative state, your intuition comes
online. When you quiet your mind. Everyone wants to know, how do
I know what my higher self wants for me? How can I trust myself?
How do I really really know? You quite your mind? How do
you quite your mind? Meditation genuinely slowing things down, bringing your awareness to
your physical feeling of your body, your heart beating your chest as you're opening
up that breath to come into your body. Feeling what it feels like to
have your chair be grounding you and holding your body, the sounds of the
room, your breath, the temperature, how that actually feels on your body
or your mouth. I should say incense, like I said, sounds things
like that, So let's read it. Many people find the process of meditation
frustrating or boring. They become restless and wonder if they're doing it correctly and
find it impossible to quiet their consistent stream of thoughts. After a while,
they begin to wonder what the point of meditation is and if they have more
things, more important things to do, which is something that tends to happen
when you do try and meditate. After like three seconds, you're just like,
okay, but I could be doing something else. I could be X,
Y and Z. So I think maybe a tip for you if you
are going to try to do anything meditative is to have some sort of music
or a guide and making it very short and intentional. And what I mean
intentional is having a question, like posing yourself a question at the end,
not so that you're doing meditation so you can get an answer outside of yourself.
But I do think it's nice sometimes when you have that question to ask
yourself at the end, like okay, when I like, slow down and
you know, come to my breath, whatever, I'm gonna ask myself a
question of what do I need to let go of this season? Or how
can I love myself more? Something like that, or how can I love
you more? Something of a myth has arosen around meditation in the Western culture,
we have been assured that meditating should be relaxive, and we are consistently
shown images of scenery looking people sitting across legged or sorry, sitting cross legged
at the base of the tropical waterfall and so blessed out that they could stay
there all day, which is obviously what most people's minds usually go to.
It's like, well, I don't really like that's not really my vibe.
I don't really want to do this, Like when I think about meditation,
I always think about like waterfalls and retreats and doing an hour long meditation,
which I don't want to do, like I'm so freaking good. So posing
the question can be helpful. This image of meditation is great for marketing,
but the truth is that meditation is a discipline and it can feel like work.
You will engage in wrestling matches with your thoughts, your will will be
tested, and you might be bored and your back will ache. So why
would you do it? Well, Meditation is included in these cards because its
benefits are so powerful and so life enhancing. It is really worth your while
finding a method that works for you, which is so great. Now,
if you really struggle with meditation, but you really do want to quiet your
mind, I would suggest just going online and starting a guided meditation. The
best guided meditation that I think are transformative are the ones from the Mindful Movement.
Those ones I will sleep with, or I'll do like small little meditations,
or someone is just guiding you and you don't have to really think about
anything, but they're also bringing you away from all the chatter in your mind.
The benefits come after you've sat quietly and done your best to focus on
your breath, and the benefits accumulate the more you meditate, and I would
say the benefits being your intuition starts to talk to you. Your intuition will
grow simply by virtue of you sitting still for ten minutes a day and focusing
your at tension on your breath or a candle flame or a simple mantra.
The quiet space you create during this time might feel awkward to you, but
your angels and spirit guides, soul, spirit, higher self, and intuition
will love you for it when you take time out from your noise and busyness
of your life and pay attention to your inner world, your spiritual world.
All these subtle forms of support and guidance will be able to connect with you
more freely. And it's really true. And I even think about this when
it comes to having a morning journal practice. When you wake up and you're
not on your phone, you let your incense you are sitting in your most
beautiful part of your room or your whatever, and you sit there with you
and just your thoughts and you let yourself write. That's you really connecting to
your higher self and your intuition. So much wisdom comes out of that.
I get the best ideas and insights about life simply from sitting with myself,
not from listening to a podcast, not from learning something in school, not
from anything. And it's not to mean that I don't learn things from outside
sources, right, but this is what usually happens is I will come to
my own conclusions and my own wisdoms and my own insights based off of what
I am learning in life. When I come back to myself, and I
almost look at it as I'm having my own little discourse, my own little
discussion. Like I go out in the world, I experience life, I
learn something, I listen to somebody's opinion or their take on something. And
when I have a morning routine cultivated in the morning where I'm just with myself.
My own opinion, my own view comes out of that, and that's
me strengthening my connection to my intuition, which allows me to be able to
trust myself, to have confidence within myself, to know to move through life
with a knowing. And I feel like a lot of people in life,
they're moving around not knowing, not knowing the right answer, and asking everyone
else, guess what the answer is inside of you. The answer is inside
of you. It always is, It really always is. And I always
think about this when I'm even working one on one with people. All I'm
really doing is asking ques questions that are allowing somebody to come back to themselves
to find that answer within themselves. You have this guidance system, this intuition,
this wisdom within you that requires a level of you really practicing getting in
touch with It's not that you're broken, it's not that you don't actually know.
It's not that there's something inside of you that's empty and you're just like
this lost soul and nobody has the answer. Everyone sorry, everyone has the
answer, but you don't. It's just about refining the skills that allow you
to get so in tune with your wisdom within yourself, and everyone has it
and it's always going to be different. You're one soul. You know,
you're connected with everyone, yes, but you're one unique soul. So strengthen
that and I think that that will bring you a really long way. And
I think going into this new season by doing a simple process of slowing things
down for a moment and asking yourself, your highest self, what can I
let go of this season? What do you need from me? Allow whatever
wants to come up, come up, and just let it be with you.
This is not about all right tomorrow. What is the to do list
of How is it that I'm going to change my mindset from looking at things
from self work to self care? Nope, Because what usually happens is when
that answer comes for your intuition, that answer is staying with you and you're
going to go through life with that awareness of what your higher self really wants
you to focus on, and you're gonna know the right step. You're gonna
know the answer, You're gonna know what to do. It's gonna come within
you, coming outside of you, I guess, come within you outside whatever.
Now if you are somebody who is pretty connected to your intuition, your
higher self, this inner knowing, you might be able to come up with
that answer very quick, like you might have heard me pose that question and
something just instantly popped into your mind, and that could absolutely be it.
Like you don't have to like force yourself to do this, like it might
just come up. But if you are struggling, I would highly suggest you
do that and you really connect. And even if you did have that thought
come in your head like instantly, oh I want to let go of seriousness
in my life or something like that, do the process and see if anything
else comes up for me. I am very very connected to my intuition.
I have been for so many, so many years. I honestly started.
I think this really started to become very apparent to me, probably around right
when my dad passed away. Something genuinely like flipped for me, So when
I was like sixteen. So it's been a long time. I'm twenty eight
now for those of you who do not know, But I am still always
making sure to have practices and to come back to myself. This is like
a process of always unlearning. And the reason why I say that is because
the life we live is fast paced. Things come in our lives and they
go in our lives like people come and they have their opinions, and they
inspire us and they inspire us to think differently. We listen to this thing
and that thing. We go on this path and this journey, and there's
always going to be like a lot of noise and chaos. And it doesn't
even mean that it's bad. It just means sometimes you're occupied with someone else's
thoughts or opinions or someone else's oh here, or this new thing that you
want. Just always remind yourself and remember to come back to yourself. And
I like to definitely do this, especially around a new season, because naturally
when a new season arises, there's always a desire for me to focus on
something like I want a new energy, a new something in my life.
What is that? Well, let me ask my intuition, let me ask
my higher self, let me really see what this season is going to require
of me and I and I think about it like it connects so well,
especially with spring and summer, that what comes up for me would be releasing
this seriousness of life because the things that I do want to do in the
spring summer and where my heart and soul is being called to, it's going
to require me to just let go. Realistically, how am I going to
have a very beautiful social fun lights romanticizing the process spring summer when I'm simultaneously
looking at everything as work as to do, as so hard seriousness of life
that doesn't work right? And again the same thing goes with me. Maybe
when you ask yourself that question, your higher self, your intuition, your
deepest knowing is saying, I need you to start healing. We really have
to in terms of maybe physical right, I really want to eat better or
feel better or whatever. Well, that's going to require you to let go
of a certain habit in your life that maybe your intuition is saying to let
go of. You know, so there's a deeper knowing that it's going to
require you this season to really heal like your body, your mind, your
everything is you know, this is the time we've got to the gut,
health, the fatigue, the hormones, the something we know it's time to
address it. Well. In order to address that, what is it you're
gonna have to let go of? Is it the habit that you know that
one habit. Is it the environment? Is it the food, the cycle
that you're in, is it even the relationship that you're in, the pattern
that you're in. What is it that you're gonna need to let go in
order for you to be the version of you that you know deep down that
you want to be and that you're meant to be this season? So that's
what I'm gonna be doing. And what I mean doing, I'm just gonna
observe and see, you know, I'm just going to and you know what,
I'll say this, I have been already slowly doing this, catching myself
when I'm going in this micromanager part of me that wants to control and have
anxiety about everything. This is what I usually do. I notice her coming
online and I have a conversation with her. I say, do we really
need do we really need to stress about this thing? What is it that
you need my micromanager part that is going to allow you to even relax in
this moment? Right, Because it's not about shaming your part of you and
telling yourself just to stop, or telling your micromanager to stop, because that's
she ain't gonna stop. You know, She's operating from a very young place
most likely, or an older place, but a protection place. So when
I go into this part of me that is the serious part of me,
I stop and ask her a question. What is it that you need from
me right now to feel like we can do this? Do we need to
go over something so you feel more supported, so you feel like you have
clarity and what it is that we're doing, whether that's like time management things
or projects or you know, do I need to speak some not words of
affirmation, but I guess words of affirmation into reminding you that we are safe,
that this job, this thing that we're doing, does not have to
be hard. It's not hard self care, it is not self work anymore.
We don't need to do that something right. So anyways, obviously it
depends, but I am having conversations with myself when I find my part of
me is coming online, and maybe for you, when that part of you
that comes online that wants to continue to binge eat instead of ignoring it,
feeling shame about it, just doing it because you feel like you have no
other option, ask yourself, what's going on? What does this part of
me need? The part of me that feels like she needs to binge eat
right now? What do you need and not from a place of oh,
you just need to stop, or you just need a new diet, or
you just need to be ignored genuinely, what emotion? What are you feeling
right now that you feel like you can't handle on your own, that you're
going to food for instead. Do you need support? What's going on in
your life? How can you meet your needs in healthier ways? Essentially,
and even when it comes to patterns in relationships, if you find yourself that
you're constantly going into this people pleasing and you know that that's not going to
get you where you want to be this season when you go into this people
pleasing tendency, what is it that you're trying to get? What do you
think that you are getting when you're becoming this people pleaser and you're doing everything
for someone else, when you're not standing up, when you're not setting boundaries,
when you're not expressing yourself, what do you even need to express yourself?
Do you need support? Why can't you express yourself? Do we know?
Why? Come inwards? Every time you find yourself going into these patterns,
If you do want to work on these patterns to be able to get
to that other side. And I will say my book definitely shines a lot
of light on that for me personally, when I did a lot of binge
eating, also when I did a lot of trying to change myself, and
I hated on myself a lot, and I judge myself and I criticized myself,
and I always wanted to do these habits to change myself. I got
to the root of what was going on there. And I give you,
guys journal practices as well when it comes to meeting your needs in healthier ways.
So I would suggest my book if you are finding yourself in patterns and
maybe even calling it self sabotage, realistically, you doing these behaviors is not
self sabotage. I think that you can understand this by now. Self sabotage
is not sabotage. It's really just a part of you that's trying to protect
you because that's what it's learned how to do. You've learned to suppress your
emotions, You've learned to hate on yourself, You've learned to binge eat,
and you make yourself feel good in the moment because you don't know how to
deal with this stressors of life, or the loneliness or the emptiness that you
feel in life, or the lostness that you feel in life, or the
confusion, there is always a reason why you're doing it. And the first
step of change when it comes to doing any sort of behavior or thing that
you realize you realize that it's just it's not helping you anymore, is not
to look at yourself like you're bad, or you're wrong, or you're sabotaging.
You're not. There's actually just a part of you that's trying to protect
you. And bringing it back to my micromanager part, I know that she's
just when she wants to come online and stress about things that she doesn't need
to spress stress about, it's just her going into an old behavior because she's
triggered with stressors in life that are not the same stressors in life that used
to be stressors in life that she ended up creating this habit out of,
this controlling habit out of I no longer need to do that anywhere in my
life. So just understanding that when it comes to change and self sabotage,
and I think one last thing I'll say is with the glow up challenge.
We've been doing a glow Up challenge. We're going, oh yeah, this
is Monday, so it'll be the fourth week of the Globe Challenge. So
many guys of you are participating, and there's been a few of you who
have commented being like, girl, I've fallen off of the challenge, but
I love that I started the challenge. This gave me such a good start
to doing healthy behaviors and habits. And I'm still doing it and I'm not
being perfect, but I'm still doing it. And this is just like,
it made me so happy when I was reading some of those comments because I'm
like, this is exactly the work that we've been doing. You guys are
learning how to understand that you not being perfect, is you not self sabotaging,
and you not hating yourself for falling off. Understanding that you're a human
being who who's going through life and you're never going to be perfect anyways,
and instead of shaming yourself, love yourself through the process and continue to go
on an upward spiral. You know, compound on those two workouts that you
did, even if you didn't do all five like you set out to do.
And I just wanted to say that just in case anyone else is feeling
like, Oh, I've been falling off or oh I've been doing this behavior
that I don't really love. Da da da. Understand that there's so many
parts of you that are playing a role in everything that you do in your
life. Sometimes it's a part of you that's trying to protect you. Sometimes
it's just a part of you that can't keep up with the everything of life.
There's stressors in life, whether that be relationships, environments, physical life
in general is moving so quickly, so fast placed. You have so many
goals, things build up, and it triggers parts of you to go in
this energy of fight or flight that it doesn't need to be. It just
perceivees everything to be a threat, but it's actually not. So you can't
always control every part of you at all times. But understand that that's fine,
you don't need to. But give yourself grace when you find yourself not
being perfect, because it's just never going to be a thing. It's never
gonna be thing. It doesn't need to be a thing. And that is
the best lesson that I've ever learned when it comes to self development and working
on myself, and that is how I genuinely glowed up into the version of
me that I always wanted to be. Was through this place of acceptance and
dropping perfectionism and not even trying to be perfect because it just doesn't exist.
That's how I got to this level of health, of consistency with eating right
and no longer binge eating healing, my relationship with food heal, my relationship
with my autoimmune disease. Everything not relationship, sorry to my autoimmune disease,
but my autoimmune disease, my health issues, my nerve pain, my everything
was through that type of mindset and learning how to work on my nervous system,
nervous system regulation, destressing all that good stuff, which again I talk
about it in my book. I share that first half of my book is
about my story. So that's gonna be it for today's episode. I hope
you enjoyed. I hope you got something out of this. Please take your
time with this question of what do I need to let go of this season?
What would you like me to let go of? What do I need
to let go of? There's always something. I hope you guys enjoyed this
episode, and I'll see you guys, the next one Bye,