WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.120 --> 00:00:03.080 Hi, everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My name is 2 00:00:03.120 --> 00:00:06.360 Alicia Gogin, the host of The Globe Secret podcast, where I help you 3 00:00:06.559 --> 00:00:10.000 expand your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into 4 00:00:10.039 --> 00:00:15.240 the best version of yourself. Hello, Happy Monday. If you're listening to 5 00:00:15.279 --> 00:00:19.359 this on a Monday. We are celebrating a very important day today, at 6 00:00:19.440 --> 00:00:25.640 least when I'm filming. That day is March first. We have officially entered 7 00:00:25.719 --> 00:00:30.600 a new season. I feel like this is a very important season for all 8 00:00:30.679 --> 00:00:35.719 of us, or a very important month, because it really does mark a 9 00:00:36.679 --> 00:00:41.320 real new seasonal change for a lot of us. Now, those of you 10 00:00:41.359 --> 00:00:44.200 guys that are living on the other side of the hemisphere, I know you 11 00:00:44.240 --> 00:00:50.280 guys aren't actually really experiencing spring, but for the most part, most of 12 00:00:50.320 --> 00:00:55.840 my viewers, y'all are feeling it. We are awakening genuinely, and I'm 13 00:00:55.840 --> 00:01:00.560 here for it. And I was actually scrolling on Pinch and I found a 14 00:01:00.640 --> 00:01:04.959 quote or I read a quote that kind of resonated with me and of course 15 00:01:06.040 --> 00:01:10.439 spiraled me into a thought process and we're going to talk about it today. 16 00:01:10.519 --> 00:01:12.879 So it's a very small, easy quote. We're going to read it out 17 00:01:12.920 --> 00:01:18.799 real quick, and it says, clean your spaces, clean your house, 18 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:23.040 your room, your car, your mind, your heart. New things are 19 00:01:23.040 --> 00:01:29.319 coming, make sure you're welcoming them properly. I want to talk about this, 20 00:01:30.480 --> 00:01:36.959 welcoming things properly and in general, welcoming new things in your life. 21 00:01:37.599 --> 00:01:40.439 And I think that this is just something I've been thinking about a lot when 22 00:01:40.439 --> 00:01:45.599 it comes to my mindset, my actions, the things that I am spending 23 00:01:45.599 --> 00:01:52.439 my time doing in my life, thinking about how you know, if I 24 00:01:52.560 --> 00:02:00.359 want new outcomes, if I want to experience new things in my life, 25 00:02:00.040 --> 00:02:05.319 I have to make room for them. I have to create space in my 26 00:02:05.480 --> 00:02:10.120 mind for them. I think about this in terms of, let's say you 27 00:02:10.479 --> 00:02:15.159 really want to be a confident girl. In order for you to be a 28 00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:20.199 confident girl, you're going to have to let go of that negative self talk. 29 00:02:21.400 --> 00:02:27.560 If you want new opportunities in your life, you might have to stop 30 00:02:28.080 --> 00:02:34.560 forcing yourself to do things that are clearly not aligned and you're just burning yourself 31 00:02:34.560 --> 00:02:39.719 out doing. There are many things in your life that probably are no longer 32 00:02:39.759 --> 00:02:44.759 aligning, and I think that this is a great time for you to release 33 00:02:44.840 --> 00:02:50.280 these things so you can create space for the things that are meant for you 34 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:53.199 to come into your life. And I think we spend a lot of the 35 00:02:53.240 --> 00:03:00.800 times in our heads ruminating about past situations, not knowing if that was the 36 00:03:00.879 --> 00:03:05.599 right situation or the right answer, or what's going to happen and this that, 37 00:03:06.280 --> 00:03:10.000 but just understanding where your mind and where your focus is. It sometimes 38 00:03:10.039 --> 00:03:14.919 really does block off the things that the universe is trying to bring you, 39 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:17.039 or God is trying to bring you. And I even think about this in 40 00:03:17.159 --> 00:03:23.319 terms of what you consume, whether that's online or things that you're reading or 41 00:03:23.360 --> 00:03:28.560 whatever. It is. Right, if you want to become a new version 42 00:03:28.599 --> 00:03:31.680 of you, if you want to know new information, you're going to have 43 00:03:31.759 --> 00:03:37.759 to not listen to the same thing over and over, ruminate on something over 44 00:03:37.800 --> 00:03:40.000 and over, continue to listen to things that might not be serving you. 45 00:03:40.759 --> 00:03:47.199 I also think this in the terms of food and health. If you're wanting 46 00:03:47.280 --> 00:03:54.039 to invite more healing, more change in your physical body, it's going to 47 00:03:54.159 --> 00:04:00.400 require you to most likely eat in a new way to change something up. 48 00:04:00.280 --> 00:04:08.520 So I think I'm really thinking, and I think I have thought about this, 49 00:04:09.520 --> 00:04:13.080 what is it that I could let go of this season so that I 50 00:04:13.120 --> 00:04:15.759 can clear up room for the things that actually really do serve me and let 51 00:04:15.759 --> 00:04:20.600 go of the things that don't. Now, I want you to ask yourself 52 00:04:20.600 --> 00:04:26.319 that question. And I think that you could just ask yourself that right now, 53 00:04:27.720 --> 00:04:31.240 or something that you could do maybe tonight, tomorrow, on the weekend, 54 00:04:31.240 --> 00:04:36.959 whenever it is that you have some time to set out, maybe thirty 55 00:04:38.000 --> 00:04:45.639 minutes or an hour or something, sitting with yourself, sitting with your soul, 56 00:04:45.879 --> 00:04:49.319 essentially really tapping into your body, bring your hand to your heart, 57 00:04:49.360 --> 00:04:55.160 bringing your hand to your belly, breathing into your body, breathing into your 58 00:04:55.199 --> 00:05:00.120 heart, to your soul, giving yourself a moment, quieting the noise and 59 00:05:00.120 --> 00:05:03.360 the chaos and the outside of everything that influences you and where you go in 60 00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:09.319 your life, slowing things down, coming to the breath, bringing your awareness 61 00:05:09.360 --> 00:05:14.759 to the fact that the earth is supporting you, everything around you is genuinely 62 00:05:14.800 --> 00:05:20.160 just supporting you. Maybe lighting some incense or some candles, maybe starting some 63 00:05:20.279 --> 00:05:26.680 meditation music, something very calming, Maybe even get out of a journal and 64 00:05:26.720 --> 00:05:29.879 sit with yourself and ask yourself. And what I mean ask yourself, I 65 00:05:29.920 --> 00:05:35.959 mean ask the wisest part of you, your highest self, the part of 66 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:45.439 you that really knows your intuitive self, ask yourself that question of what can 67 00:05:45.480 --> 00:05:49.920 I let go of this season? And see what comes up. Intuitively, 68 00:05:50.600 --> 00:05:58.399 this is not about trying to force an answer, trying to come up with 69 00:05:58.439 --> 00:06:02.079 a million things in a list than a to do list. Genuinely, what 70 00:06:02.240 --> 00:06:08.160 is the first insight, the first feeling that comes up? And I really 71 00:06:08.160 --> 00:06:12.680 do think that it's almost as if a lot of the times we do know 72 00:06:12.839 --> 00:06:15.399 this, but we don't slow down enough to really stop and really think about 73 00:06:15.399 --> 00:06:18.839 it and let that really rise. Because a lot of times, if that 74 00:06:19.079 --> 00:06:24.480 rises, maybe we're not ready to let that go. Maybe we're not ready 75 00:06:24.480 --> 00:06:28.759 to face the reality of maybe it's time to let this thing go so I 76 00:06:28.839 --> 00:06:36.519 can be free. But it's a new season. If we want better for 77 00:06:36.600 --> 00:06:41.720 ourselves, our lives, our health, our relationships, are everything, we 78 00:06:41.839 --> 00:06:45.480 know what is required, and that is to let go of the things that 79 00:06:45.560 --> 00:06:49.920 are no longer serving us. So I would really take that time, just 80 00:06:50.079 --> 00:06:55.240 as this new month is coming to us. You know we're here. Even 81 00:06:55.279 --> 00:06:59.199 if you're listening to this podcast episode and it's a new month or halfway through, 82 00:06:59.480 --> 00:07:03.560 you can do the whenever, really asking your highest self, what can 83 00:07:03.600 --> 00:07:08.240 I let go of? What do you want me to let go of? 84 00:07:08.439 --> 00:07:13.040 What do you need me to let go of? Maybe even an alternative question 85 00:07:13.079 --> 00:07:17.000 you could ask yourself is how can I love you more? Something will come 86 00:07:17.079 --> 00:07:21.839 up, and I want you to focus and really keep this in your forefront 87 00:07:21.839 --> 00:07:27.959 of your mind as you move through this season of life. Now, when 88 00:07:28.000 --> 00:07:33.040 I ask myself this question, intuitively, of course, something came up for 89 00:07:33.120 --> 00:07:36.839 me, So I guess we'll just quickly talk about it because I feel like 90 00:07:36.879 --> 00:07:42.519 a lot of you guys might resonate with this. And the first thing that 91 00:07:42.600 --> 00:07:47.759 really came up when I asked myself this question was can you please let go 92 00:07:47.920 --> 00:07:56.879 of this seriousness of life that sometimes you have? And when I say sometimes, 93 00:07:57.879 --> 00:08:01.160 a lot of the times, this is a real occurring pattern that I 94 00:08:01.199 --> 00:08:09.360 have that I'm consistently working on. I'm watching the way that I'm wording this 95 00:08:09.639 --> 00:08:13.399 because, as you'll hear when I continue to talk about this, I'm not 96 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:16.319 really interested in the in the words working on right now in my life, 97 00:08:16.360 --> 00:08:24.480 but for the context of this working on and I the reason why this has 98 00:08:24.519 --> 00:08:28.199 been such a big pattern in my life of tay like it's the serious of 99 00:08:28.360 --> 00:08:33.159 night life. Sorry, just being so serious and what I mean by serious 100 00:08:33.360 --> 00:08:39.240 is just working and not in the terms of burning myself out. I'm not 101 00:08:39.320 --> 00:08:46.039 somebody who burns herself out. But I do take life serious and I'm very 102 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:50.879 responsible, and I have things to do, and I have a purpose on 103 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:54.480 this life, and I am trying to be on that path essentially, and 104 00:08:54.519 --> 00:09:03.039 it's beautiful and it's great. But in my life I've had to really take 105 00:09:03.080 --> 00:09:07.960 on this more masculine serious role because no one else was doing it for me. 106 00:09:09.360 --> 00:09:11.879 I had to take control of my life. I had to be very 107 00:09:11.919 --> 00:09:20.879 responsible. And although beautiful, like being in the masculine sense in that way 108 00:09:20.000 --> 00:09:26.000 and taking responsibility of your life is beautiful. This is not to ever look 109 00:09:26.039 --> 00:09:30.320 at that part of us as bad or wrong. It's not. Quite Frankly, 110 00:09:30.399 --> 00:09:33.399 this part of us, I like to call this my manager, my 111 00:09:33.480 --> 00:09:39.519 micromanager. Part of me has learned to become like this seriousness about life and 112 00:09:39.559 --> 00:09:46.480 controlling things and overthinking and always planning and implementing and to do lists. She's 113 00:09:46.519 --> 00:09:52.000 trying to keep me safe. Quite frankly, this part of me has kept 114 00:09:52.039 --> 00:09:58.120 me safe from losing myself, from losing myself in the environment that wasn't a 115 00:09:58.200 --> 00:10:03.039 safe and healthy environment. Many aspects in my life. So on one hand, 116 00:10:03.120 --> 00:10:07.600 I absolutely do not even want to let this micromanager part of me go. 117 00:10:09.840 --> 00:10:13.639 But it's almost as if my higher self is now stepping in and saying 118 00:10:15.559 --> 00:10:20.600 it's time. Not even just you can let go, you can relax. 119 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:28.639 Look around you. There's so many parts of your life in which you are 120 00:10:28.919 --> 00:10:35.279 so much more safer than you really were back in the day, and you 121 00:10:35.320 --> 00:10:37.960 can relax. There are so many beautiful moments in your life where you can 122 00:10:39.000 --> 00:10:43.000 slow down and you can enjoy, and you don't need to take everything so 123 00:10:43.159 --> 00:10:54.840 serious. Now. This takes an active reparenting and active conversation you your higher 124 00:10:54.879 --> 00:11:00.320 self in regards to the part of you that might be that micromanager. You 125 00:11:00.320 --> 00:11:03.080 can even use the term parts work in which I talk about that in my 126 00:11:03.159 --> 00:11:09.120 book Reparenting. You can also get the book No Bad Parts. That's a 127 00:11:09.159 --> 00:11:13.080 great book to understand what I'm talking about when it comes to parts work. 128 00:11:13.120 --> 00:11:18.480 But this is not forcing your micromanager, at least for me. It's not 129 00:11:18.600 --> 00:11:24.440 about forcing my micromanager to do things that she's learned to do all of her 130 00:11:24.480 --> 00:11:28.759 life. But I just want to let her know from my highest self, 131 00:11:28.879 --> 00:11:35.639 essentially, it's okay. You don't have to look at everything as a to 132 00:11:35.759 --> 00:11:41.240 do list, a task. You don't have to look at yourself like you 133 00:11:41.279 --> 00:11:45.600 are a project anymore, at least not for this season. We don't need 134 00:11:45.639 --> 00:11:52.759 it. We've been doing it for so long that I think what's time for 135 00:11:52.879 --> 00:11:56.200 us to do is when we are looking at things that we get to do 136 00:11:56.240 --> 00:12:03.559 in our lives, can we start looking at it from a place of self 137 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:09.639 care and enjoyment and slowing down and enjoying the process and just you know, 138 00:12:09.559 --> 00:12:18.159 just having fun in a way versus this self work. And this is what 139 00:12:18.279 --> 00:12:24.960 I kind of was thinking about. I've had this energy towards healthy habits, 140 00:12:26.080 --> 00:12:33.080 healing work, journaling, school, content, everything in my life with this 141 00:12:33.440 --> 00:12:41.000 energy of to do this self work, this project, this thing I have 142 00:12:41.120 --> 00:12:46.559 to get done. And it's really built up over the past few months because 143 00:12:46.639 --> 00:12:50.799 quite frankly, I was a little bit in the dumps, okay. And 144 00:12:50.000 --> 00:12:54.120 what I do when I'm in the dumps is I feel my feelings and I 145 00:12:54.120 --> 00:12:58.399 allow myself to feel and I'm not too hard on myself. But eventually, 146 00:12:58.440 --> 00:13:03.120 when I want to get out of that, I want to grasp onto healthy 147 00:13:03.159 --> 00:13:09.720 behaviors and new rituals and routines and journaling again and mental health, all that, 148 00:13:09.960 --> 00:13:11.120 all good things. I love it. This is what I do, 149 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:15.519 This is what I talk about. But in their pursuit of doing that, 150 00:13:16.039 --> 00:13:20.080 sometimes I can get in and I think many of you can probably relate into 151 00:13:20.120 --> 00:13:24.519 this energy of It's almost like a task. Now, It's like, oh, 152 00:13:24.639 --> 00:13:28.120 another week, you gotta go to the gym. I have to journal, 153 00:13:28.159 --> 00:13:31.840 I have to work on my beliefs. I have to change my mindset 154 00:13:31.840 --> 00:13:35.279 about this. I have to be positive about that. I have to really 155 00:13:35.279 --> 00:13:39.120 stop eating the way that I've been eating. I do my self care, 156 00:13:39.519 --> 00:13:46.120 glow up season, summer's coming goals, all things we want. But in 157 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:50.720 the pursuit of getting those things, sometimes it becomes a chore. And I 158 00:13:50.720 --> 00:13:54.480 don't want the season to feel like a chore anymore. And so I was 159 00:13:54.519 --> 00:14:00.159 thinking, well, how what do I do here? Because realistically, you're 160 00:14:00.159 --> 00:14:03.320 never gonna get me to not, you know, do these healthy habits and 161 00:14:03.360 --> 00:14:07.480 these things. I love doing these things genuinely. How do I make it 162 00:14:07.559 --> 00:14:11.720 so it doesn't feel like a chore. And I think the mindset shift is 163 00:14:11.759 --> 00:14:16.879 really looking at these things as a way of self caring, caring for myself 164 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:24.799 nourishing myself, romanticizing the process, slowing down, getting excited about these things, 165 00:14:26.759 --> 00:14:33.320 versus looking at health, wellness habits as self work. I'm done working. 166 00:14:33.960 --> 00:14:39.840 We're entering our self life era at this point. Okay, So that 167 00:14:41.320 --> 00:14:46.799 is what I'm going to be witnessing, observing in myself, really trying to 168 00:14:48.639 --> 00:14:54.480 not trying like a forcing energy, but bringing my awareness back to what it 169 00:14:54.519 --> 00:14:58.159 is that I know that my higher self really wants me to focus on, 170 00:14:58.200 --> 00:15:03.200 which is not looking at everything as self work, and looking at these things 171 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:09.879 as self care, taking care of myself, going to the gym, drinking 172 00:15:09.919 --> 00:15:16.000 my electrolytes, green juices, hawker walks, going to the gym and doing 173 00:15:16.039 --> 00:15:22.039 my leg days, recording a podcast, doing work, learning one on one, 174 00:15:22.080 --> 00:15:28.679 coaching everything. Let's just have this lighter energy, this fun energy around 175 00:15:28.720 --> 00:15:35.320 things. And quite frankly, as much as I do not, I'm not 176 00:15:35.320 --> 00:15:41.039 gonna say do not. I'm not the best at giving my own self props 177 00:15:41.679 --> 00:15:46.600 and patting myself on the back and being like you deserve it. I do 178 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:50.879 deserve it, for sure, and I think you guys do too well. 179 00:15:50.919 --> 00:15:54.879 I know you guys do, because you guys are the same as me. 180 00:15:56.000 --> 00:16:00.480 You guys are such a reflection of everything. I'm interested in everything that I'm 181 00:16:00.480 --> 00:16:02.879 going through in so many different ways. And I know that we're all different 182 00:16:02.879 --> 00:16:11.080 ages, we all different have different life stories everything. But you guys are 183 00:16:11.120 --> 00:16:15.759 the ones that sit at the front of the class. Said this before. 184 00:16:15.399 --> 00:16:18.240 You guys sit at the front of the class with your notebooks, and you're 185 00:16:18.279 --> 00:16:22.639 ready to listen. You're ready to learn, you're ready to implement. You're 186 00:16:22.679 --> 00:16:27.840 so aware of yourself. You're so aware of your patterns, even when you 187 00:16:27.879 --> 00:16:33.559 get down on yourself, even when you see you're doing the same thing over 188 00:16:33.600 --> 00:16:36.879 and over, the fact that you're just aware of it. The fact that 189 00:16:36.919 --> 00:16:41.480 you're willing to look at yourself and the quote unquote flaws that you think you 190 00:16:41.519 --> 00:16:48.759 have and the everything, the chaos and the beautifulness of life. The fact 191 00:16:48.759 --> 00:16:52.720 that you guys are willing to do that. Y'all deserve to just enjoy life 192 00:16:52.960 --> 00:16:59.320 this season. Okay, so that's what we're going to be doing this season. 193 00:16:59.840 --> 00:17:03.160 And actually, I pulled a card today. Sometimes I pull cards and 194 00:17:03.160 --> 00:17:08.559 they're not that relevant, but it's interesting. This card is obviously relevant. 195 00:17:08.599 --> 00:17:11.839 That's why I'm going to talk about it. But I think it's just relevant 196 00:17:11.880 --> 00:17:18.960 for this maybe setting up a meditation session for yourself and asking yourself this question. 197 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:23.319 But recently I mentioned this in one of the past episodes, that I 198 00:17:23.440 --> 00:17:29.279 have been learning this drop in process to bring clients through, to bring myself 199 00:17:29.359 --> 00:17:33.599 through. Essentially, it's just I'm learning how to guide a meditation. Essentially, 200 00:17:33.680 --> 00:17:37.079 that's kind of what it is in terms of a coaching aspect, like 201 00:17:37.119 --> 00:17:41.440 a one on one client session. There's other reasons why we're doing this drop 202 00:17:41.440 --> 00:17:45.559 in process. I'm not going to get into it, but essentially that's what 203 00:17:45.640 --> 00:17:52.200 I'm learning. And there's a little bit of resistance when learning this one because 204 00:17:52.240 --> 00:17:56.559 I'm just learning so naturally. It's going to be rocky at the start. 205 00:17:56.599 --> 00:18:00.400 And this is maybe just a PSA for anyone who is starting anything, new, 206 00:18:02.279 --> 00:18:08.160 new job, new relationship, healing something, working on something for the 207 00:18:08.240 --> 00:18:12.640 first time, new parents, new anything. It's gonna be rocky at the 208 00:18:12.680 --> 00:18:18.319 beginning. You gotta let yourself just we have to embrace the cringiness, we 209 00:18:18.400 --> 00:18:21.559 have to embrace the weirdness, the oh my gosh, what if I do 210 00:18:21.640 --> 00:18:26.519 this wrong? Please embrace it. And I'm saying that to myself because I'm 211 00:18:26.559 --> 00:18:33.519 doing the best to embrace it. But another part of this journey that I 212 00:18:33.559 --> 00:18:38.200 am on right now is having a little bit of resistance to just the fact 213 00:18:38.240 --> 00:18:41.640 that it is a meditation process, meaning I have to slow down and bring 214 00:18:41.640 --> 00:18:47.160 my awareness to my body, coming to my breath. Being somebody who is 215 00:18:47.480 --> 00:18:52.519 very much so focused on the mindset, I genuinely am so interested in our 216 00:18:52.640 --> 00:18:57.960 mindsets, how our brains work on a neurological level, like genuinely that I 217 00:18:59.039 --> 00:19:02.119 really am interested in that, and I think that I'll go on in my 218 00:19:02.200 --> 00:19:07.319 life to continue to go in the direction of mindset. But in my current 219 00:19:07.319 --> 00:19:12.519 life right now, I am learning a lot about the body somatically, and 220 00:19:12.559 --> 00:19:18.680 I'm doing that for many reasons. The first reason being I've healed so much 221 00:19:18.759 --> 00:19:23.240 of my own self, my own physical ailments, even my mental health by 222 00:19:25.240 --> 00:19:29.160 working on the nervous system and slowing down and not being in fight or flight 223 00:19:29.240 --> 00:19:33.759 like there's just there's no real healing in my personal opinion, if it's not 224 00:19:33.319 --> 00:19:37.880 you bringing your awareness to the body and understanding what's happening in your body and 225 00:19:37.920 --> 00:19:41.839 not just your mind like not just changing like the thoughts that you think in 226 00:19:41.880 --> 00:19:45.559 your belief systems, and positively thinking like that's amazing stuff, and I love 227 00:19:45.640 --> 00:19:48.359 that stuff. I really think that at the end of the day, that's 228 00:19:48.559 --> 00:19:53.559 that's the most like prominent thing that we're always aware of. But true healing 229 00:19:53.559 --> 00:19:57.000 occurs when you can really slow down and bring your awareness to the body. 230 00:19:57.039 --> 00:20:00.359 Your body will speak to you in many ways, and the more that you 231 00:20:00.400 --> 00:20:04.160 regulate your nervous system a lot of the times, and mental chaos tends to 232 00:20:04.240 --> 00:20:10.079 quiet, so you can try and quiet your mind by positively thinking or X, 233 00:20:10.200 --> 00:20:12.640 Y and Z, but sometimes it really is down to bring your awarenes 234 00:20:12.640 --> 00:20:18.440 to the body. With that said, meditation slowing things down. It's not 235 00:20:18.480 --> 00:20:22.680 the easiest thing to do, and I think in this generation in general, 236 00:20:22.119 --> 00:20:26.839 we're fast paced where go, go go, we want everything now, ADHD 237 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:30.519 everywhere. We just we can't even focus on one thing for more than like 238 00:20:30.559 --> 00:20:36.480 three seconds. So meditation can be hard. But it's something that I'm learning, 239 00:20:36.559 --> 00:20:42.519 and honestly, I'm as much as I have resistance to it, I 240 00:20:42.599 --> 00:20:48.440 am feeling the benefits of slowing down and connecting to my body. And what 241 00:20:48.559 --> 00:20:53.160 I will say is, you know the question that I'm posing you guys to 242 00:20:53.279 --> 00:21:00.119 ask yourselves, I really do think you're gonna get the most insight full answer. 243 00:21:02.079 --> 00:21:04.160 When you slow down, you could ask yourself, right now, what 244 00:21:04.200 --> 00:21:07.640 should I let go of? What's gonna happen if you don't slow down and 245 00:21:07.640 --> 00:21:11.759 bring your awareness to your body and you have this environment where you're you know, 246 00:21:11.799 --> 00:21:15.039 you've come to your senses for a second before you even ask that question, 247 00:21:15.400 --> 00:21:18.920 what will usually happen is you go right into your mind. Right if 248 00:21:18.960 --> 00:21:21.359 you don't slow down for a second, you go right up into your mind. 249 00:21:21.400 --> 00:21:26.319 You start talking D D D D. Now it's not to say that 250 00:21:26.359 --> 00:21:29.759 what you have in your mind is wrong or flawed. You might logically know, 251 00:21:29.920 --> 00:21:32.039 oh, there's these three things I want to let go of, and 252 00:21:32.079 --> 00:21:34.559 I want to work on health and fitness and this that and relationship that and 253 00:21:34.599 --> 00:21:41.279 this that and the third. But there's something actually more wise that your body, 254 00:21:41.279 --> 00:21:45.000 your soul, your mind or whatever knows if you dish just slow down 255 00:21:45.319 --> 00:21:48.240 and I find when you quiet your mind and you slow down for a moment 256 00:21:48.279 --> 00:21:52.400 and you do that meditation process in a way, you know, coming to 257 00:21:52.440 --> 00:21:55.680 the breath, maybe listening to some meditation music, bringing in the senses of 258 00:21:56.000 --> 00:22:02.119 you know, smells, you won't have to try. That answer comes in 259 00:22:02.319 --> 00:22:04.079 so intuitively it just hits you. It's like you know, you've been knowing, 260 00:22:04.160 --> 00:22:10.839 it's been sitting residing within you. So I guess I'm saying all that 261 00:22:10.880 --> 00:22:15.319 to say it's interesting that I'm working on the meditation process in my work life 262 00:22:15.319 --> 00:22:19.319 in a way, but also just feeling this new energy of life and asking 263 00:22:19.319 --> 00:22:22.799 myself the question what came up for me and what came up for me about 264 00:22:22.799 --> 00:22:27.319 this self work versus self care was so spot on if I really think about 265 00:22:27.359 --> 00:22:30.440 it, it's just like, Yeah, that's the energy that I've been in 266 00:22:30.480 --> 00:22:34.039 for so long, Like that's what I needed to hear from my higher self 267 00:22:34.279 --> 00:22:38.720 that. But of course I pulled a card and guess what the card was. 268 00:22:40.559 --> 00:22:42.319 It was meditation. That's what it says. I'll show you guys on 269 00:22:42.359 --> 00:22:49.039 YouTube if you're watching on YouTube. This is a Divine Intuition oracle deck by 270 00:22:49.200 --> 00:22:55.799 Belinda Grace. I got this at the Rock Store in Toronto, so I 271 00:22:55.839 --> 00:22:57.319 don't know if you can find this online. I'm sure you can if you 272 00:22:57.359 --> 00:23:03.400 type it in. Anyways, that's what the card looks like and it says 273 00:23:03.440 --> 00:23:06.720 meditation, So I figured I would just read it because it kind of just 274 00:23:06.839 --> 00:23:11.440 backs up everything I was just saying it says, you have drawn this card 275 00:23:11.440 --> 00:23:15.359 today to reassure you that even though meditation might feel awkward to you, your 276 00:23:15.359 --> 00:23:22.279 intuition will love you for it. Which I pulled this card right before I 277 00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:26.240 started filming, and when I read that last sentence about you know, feeling 278 00:23:26.240 --> 00:23:30.359 awkward, but your intuition will love you for it, I was just like, 279 00:23:30.440 --> 00:23:33.000 Yeah, when you get more into a meditative state, your intuition comes 280 00:23:33.000 --> 00:23:37.920 online. When you quiet your mind. Everyone wants to know, how do 281 00:23:38.039 --> 00:23:41.680 I know what my higher self wants for me? How can I trust myself? 282 00:23:41.720 --> 00:23:47.400 How do I really really know? You quite your mind? How do 283 00:23:47.400 --> 00:23:53.839 you quite your mind? Meditation genuinely slowing things down, bringing your awareness to 284 00:23:55.480 --> 00:24:00.720 your physical feeling of your body, your heart beating your chest as you're opening 285 00:24:00.839 --> 00:24:06.680 up that breath to come into your body. Feeling what it feels like to 286 00:24:07.039 --> 00:24:12.799 have your chair be grounding you and holding your body, the sounds of the 287 00:24:12.920 --> 00:24:18.880 room, your breath, the temperature, how that actually feels on your body 288 00:24:18.960 --> 00:24:22.799 or your mouth. I should say incense, like I said, sounds things 289 00:24:22.839 --> 00:24:26.279 like that, So let's read it. Many people find the process of meditation 290 00:24:26.480 --> 00:24:32.319 frustrating or boring. They become restless and wonder if they're doing it correctly and 291 00:24:32.400 --> 00:24:34.920 find it impossible to quiet their consistent stream of thoughts. After a while, 292 00:24:34.960 --> 00:24:40.559 they begin to wonder what the point of meditation is and if they have more 293 00:24:40.680 --> 00:24:44.480 things, more important things to do, which is something that tends to happen 294 00:24:44.519 --> 00:24:48.960 when you do try and meditate. After like three seconds, you're just like, 295 00:24:48.119 --> 00:24:52.440 okay, but I could be doing something else. I could be X, 296 00:24:52.519 --> 00:24:55.960 Y and Z. So I think maybe a tip for you if you 297 00:24:56.000 --> 00:24:59.400 are going to try to do anything meditative is to have some sort of music 298 00:24:59.559 --> 00:25:04.640 or a guide and making it very short and intentional. And what I mean 299 00:25:04.680 --> 00:25:08.200 intentional is having a question, like posing yourself a question at the end, 300 00:25:08.759 --> 00:25:14.279 not so that you're doing meditation so you can get an answer outside of yourself. 301 00:25:14.359 --> 00:25:17.519 But I do think it's nice sometimes when you have that question to ask 302 00:25:17.559 --> 00:25:21.519 yourself at the end, like okay, when I like, slow down and 303 00:25:21.720 --> 00:25:23.680 you know, come to my breath, whatever, I'm gonna ask myself a 304 00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:29.839 question of what do I need to let go of this season? Or how 305 00:25:30.400 --> 00:25:33.160 can I love myself more? Something like that, or how can I love 306 00:25:33.200 --> 00:25:37.160 you more? Something of a myth has arosen around meditation in the Western culture, 307 00:25:37.480 --> 00:25:42.519 we have been assured that meditating should be relaxive, and we are consistently 308 00:25:42.559 --> 00:25:48.720 shown images of scenery looking people sitting across legged or sorry, sitting cross legged 309 00:25:48.759 --> 00:25:52.119 at the base of the tropical waterfall and so blessed out that they could stay 310 00:25:52.160 --> 00:25:56.079 there all day, which is obviously what most people's minds usually go to. 311 00:25:56.200 --> 00:26:00.319 It's like, well, I don't really like that's not really my vibe. 312 00:26:00.400 --> 00:26:07.440 I don't really want to do this, Like when I think about meditation, 313 00:26:07.440 --> 00:26:12.559 I always think about like waterfalls and retreats and doing an hour long meditation, 314 00:26:12.559 --> 00:26:15.279 which I don't want to do, like I'm so freaking good. So posing 315 00:26:15.319 --> 00:26:21.079 the question can be helpful. This image of meditation is great for marketing, 316 00:26:21.200 --> 00:26:25.359 but the truth is that meditation is a discipline and it can feel like work. 317 00:26:26.319 --> 00:26:30.400 You will engage in wrestling matches with your thoughts, your will will be 318 00:26:30.519 --> 00:26:34.359 tested, and you might be bored and your back will ache. So why 319 00:26:34.440 --> 00:26:40.599 would you do it? Well, Meditation is included in these cards because its 320 00:26:40.799 --> 00:26:45.279 benefits are so powerful and so life enhancing. It is really worth your while 321 00:26:45.359 --> 00:26:48.640 finding a method that works for you, which is so great. Now, 322 00:26:48.519 --> 00:26:52.599 if you really struggle with meditation, but you really do want to quiet your 323 00:26:52.599 --> 00:26:57.880 mind, I would suggest just going online and starting a guided meditation. The 324 00:26:57.920 --> 00:27:03.720 best guided meditation that I think are transformative are the ones from the Mindful Movement. 325 00:27:03.440 --> 00:27:08.240 Those ones I will sleep with, or I'll do like small little meditations, 326 00:27:08.559 --> 00:27:11.160 or someone is just guiding you and you don't have to really think about 327 00:27:11.200 --> 00:27:15.400 anything, but they're also bringing you away from all the chatter in your mind. 328 00:27:15.720 --> 00:27:19.519 The benefits come after you've sat quietly and done your best to focus on 329 00:27:19.559 --> 00:27:23.440 your breath, and the benefits accumulate the more you meditate, and I would 330 00:27:23.480 --> 00:27:27.799 say the benefits being your intuition starts to talk to you. Your intuition will 331 00:27:27.799 --> 00:27:32.799 grow simply by virtue of you sitting still for ten minutes a day and focusing 332 00:27:32.839 --> 00:27:37.160 your at tension on your breath or a candle flame or a simple mantra. 333 00:27:37.680 --> 00:27:41.039 The quiet space you create during this time might feel awkward to you, but 334 00:27:41.119 --> 00:27:45.720 your angels and spirit guides, soul, spirit, higher self, and intuition 335 00:27:45.880 --> 00:27:49.799 will love you for it when you take time out from your noise and busyness 336 00:27:51.119 --> 00:27:53.400 of your life and pay attention to your inner world, your spiritual world. 337 00:27:53.799 --> 00:27:59.160 All these subtle forms of support and guidance will be able to connect with you 338 00:27:59.240 --> 00:28:03.000 more freely. And it's really true. And I even think about this when 339 00:28:03.000 --> 00:28:07.200 it comes to having a morning journal practice. When you wake up and you're 340 00:28:07.240 --> 00:28:11.519 not on your phone, you let your incense you are sitting in your most 341 00:28:11.599 --> 00:28:15.480 beautiful part of your room or your whatever, and you sit there with you 342 00:28:15.720 --> 00:28:21.359 and just your thoughts and you let yourself write. That's you really connecting to 343 00:28:21.400 --> 00:28:25.599 your higher self and your intuition. So much wisdom comes out of that. 344 00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:32.720 I get the best ideas and insights about life simply from sitting with myself, 345 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:37.359 not from listening to a podcast, not from learning something in school, not 346 00:28:37.480 --> 00:28:42.119 from anything. And it's not to mean that I don't learn things from outside 347 00:28:42.160 --> 00:28:47.640 sources, right, but this is what usually happens is I will come to 348 00:28:47.759 --> 00:28:51.799 my own conclusions and my own wisdoms and my own insights based off of what 349 00:28:51.920 --> 00:28:55.519 I am learning in life. When I come back to myself, and I 350 00:28:55.559 --> 00:28:59.839 almost look at it as I'm having my own little discourse, my own little 351 00:28:59.839 --> 00:29:03.240 discussion. Like I go out in the world, I experience life, I 352 00:29:03.319 --> 00:29:11.519 learn something, I listen to somebody's opinion or their take on something. And 353 00:29:11.599 --> 00:29:15.799 when I have a morning routine cultivated in the morning where I'm just with myself. 354 00:29:17.279 --> 00:29:22.200 My own opinion, my own view comes out of that, and that's 355 00:29:22.279 --> 00:29:27.839 me strengthening my connection to my intuition, which allows me to be able to 356 00:29:27.839 --> 00:29:33.359 trust myself, to have confidence within myself, to know to move through life 357 00:29:33.640 --> 00:29:40.839 with a knowing. And I feel like a lot of people in life, 358 00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:45.839 they're moving around not knowing, not knowing the right answer, and asking everyone 359 00:29:45.880 --> 00:29:51.680 else, guess what the answer is inside of you. The answer is inside 360 00:29:51.680 --> 00:29:53.359 of you. It always is, It really always is. And I always 361 00:29:53.400 --> 00:29:57.839 think about this when I'm even working one on one with people. All I'm 362 00:29:57.880 --> 00:30:03.720 really doing is asking ques questions that are allowing somebody to come back to themselves 363 00:30:03.759 --> 00:30:07.599 to find that answer within themselves. You have this guidance system, this intuition, 364 00:30:07.759 --> 00:30:18.400 this wisdom within you that requires a level of you really practicing getting in 365 00:30:18.440 --> 00:30:22.519 touch with It's not that you're broken, it's not that you don't actually know. 366 00:30:23.160 --> 00:30:26.400 It's not that there's something inside of you that's empty and you're just like 367 00:30:26.440 --> 00:30:30.319 this lost soul and nobody has the answer. Everyone sorry, everyone has the 368 00:30:30.359 --> 00:30:33.519 answer, but you don't. It's just about refining the skills that allow you 369 00:30:33.599 --> 00:30:40.440 to get so in tune with your wisdom within yourself, and everyone has it 370 00:30:40.480 --> 00:30:44.119 and it's always going to be different. You're one soul. You know, 371 00:30:44.119 --> 00:30:48.519 you're connected with everyone, yes, but you're one unique soul. So strengthen 372 00:30:48.599 --> 00:30:52.359 that and I think that that will bring you a really long way. And 373 00:30:52.400 --> 00:30:57.640 I think going into this new season by doing a simple process of slowing things 374 00:30:57.680 --> 00:31:03.279 down for a moment and asking yourself, your highest self, what can I 375 00:31:03.359 --> 00:31:07.079 let go of this season? What do you need from me? Allow whatever 376 00:31:07.519 --> 00:31:11.000 wants to come up, come up, and just let it be with you. 377 00:31:11.680 --> 00:31:15.680 This is not about all right tomorrow. What is the to do list 378 00:31:15.759 --> 00:31:19.680 of How is it that I'm going to change my mindset from looking at things 379 00:31:19.680 --> 00:31:25.359 from self work to self care? Nope, Because what usually happens is when 380 00:31:25.359 --> 00:31:27.559 that answer comes for your intuition, that answer is staying with you and you're 381 00:31:27.559 --> 00:31:32.839 going to go through life with that awareness of what your higher self really wants 382 00:31:32.880 --> 00:31:36.759 you to focus on, and you're gonna know the right step. You're gonna 383 00:31:36.839 --> 00:31:41.640 know the answer, You're gonna know what to do. It's gonna come within 384 00:31:41.720 --> 00:31:45.319 you, coming outside of you, I guess, come within you outside whatever. 385 00:31:45.759 --> 00:31:52.000 Now if you are somebody who is pretty connected to your intuition, your 386 00:31:52.079 --> 00:31:56.079 higher self, this inner knowing, you might be able to come up with 387 00:31:56.119 --> 00:32:00.359 that answer very quick, like you might have heard me pose that question and 388 00:32:00.440 --> 00:32:05.759 something just instantly popped into your mind, and that could absolutely be it. 389 00:32:05.799 --> 00:32:07.720 Like you don't have to like force yourself to do this, like it might 390 00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:10.920 just come up. But if you are struggling, I would highly suggest you 391 00:32:12.000 --> 00:32:15.680 do that and you really connect. And even if you did have that thought 392 00:32:15.680 --> 00:32:19.119 come in your head like instantly, oh I want to let go of seriousness 393 00:32:19.160 --> 00:32:22.440 in my life or something like that, do the process and see if anything 394 00:32:22.440 --> 00:32:27.759 else comes up for me. I am very very connected to my intuition. 395 00:32:28.119 --> 00:32:30.799 I have been for so many, so many years. I honestly started. 396 00:32:31.039 --> 00:32:37.799 I think this really started to become very apparent to me, probably around right 397 00:32:37.880 --> 00:32:44.559 when my dad passed away. Something genuinely like flipped for me, So when 398 00:32:44.599 --> 00:32:47.279 I was like sixteen. So it's been a long time. I'm twenty eight 399 00:32:47.359 --> 00:32:52.920 now for those of you who do not know, But I am still always 400 00:32:53.079 --> 00:32:59.640 making sure to have practices and to come back to myself. This is like 401 00:32:59.839 --> 00:33:02.000 a process of always unlearning. And the reason why I say that is because 402 00:33:04.519 --> 00:33:08.200 the life we live is fast paced. Things come in our lives and they 403 00:33:08.240 --> 00:33:14.640 go in our lives like people come and they have their opinions, and they 404 00:33:14.680 --> 00:33:17.839 inspire us and they inspire us to think differently. We listen to this thing 405 00:33:17.880 --> 00:33:22.599 and that thing. We go on this path and this journey, and there's 406 00:33:22.640 --> 00:33:25.880 always going to be like a lot of noise and chaos. And it doesn't 407 00:33:25.880 --> 00:33:30.119 even mean that it's bad. It just means sometimes you're occupied with someone else's 408 00:33:30.119 --> 00:33:34.599 thoughts or opinions or someone else's oh here, or this new thing that you 409 00:33:34.680 --> 00:33:39.240 want. Just always remind yourself and remember to come back to yourself. And 410 00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:46.079 I like to definitely do this, especially around a new season, because naturally 411 00:33:46.759 --> 00:33:52.640 when a new season arises, there's always a desire for me to focus on 412 00:33:52.680 --> 00:33:58.720 something like I want a new energy, a new something in my life. 413 00:34:00.039 --> 00:34:02.160 What is that? Well, let me ask my intuition, let me ask 414 00:34:02.160 --> 00:34:07.199 my higher self, let me really see what this season is going to require 415 00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:12.880 of me and I and I think about it like it connects so well, 416 00:34:13.000 --> 00:34:21.119 especially with spring and summer, that what comes up for me would be releasing 417 00:34:21.400 --> 00:34:24.880 this seriousness of life because the things that I do want to do in the 418 00:34:24.920 --> 00:34:30.519 spring summer and where my heart and soul is being called to, it's going 419 00:34:30.599 --> 00:34:37.519 to require me to just let go. Realistically, how am I going to 420 00:34:37.599 --> 00:34:47.960 have a very beautiful social fun lights romanticizing the process spring summer when I'm simultaneously 421 00:34:49.000 --> 00:34:55.320 looking at everything as work as to do, as so hard seriousness of life 422 00:34:55.440 --> 00:35:00.280 that doesn't work right? And again the same thing goes with me. Maybe 423 00:35:00.280 --> 00:35:02.760 when you ask yourself that question, your higher self, your intuition, your 424 00:35:02.800 --> 00:35:09.239 deepest knowing is saying, I need you to start healing. We really have 425 00:35:09.320 --> 00:35:19.159 to in terms of maybe physical right, I really want to eat better or 426 00:35:19.199 --> 00:35:22.360 feel better or whatever. Well, that's going to require you to let go 427 00:35:23.239 --> 00:35:28.119 of a certain habit in your life that maybe your intuition is saying to let 428 00:35:28.199 --> 00:35:36.920 go of. You know, so there's a deeper knowing that it's going to 429 00:35:37.000 --> 00:35:39.559 require you this season to really heal like your body, your mind, your 430 00:35:39.559 --> 00:35:43.840 everything is you know, this is the time we've got to the gut, 431 00:35:43.880 --> 00:35:50.679 health, the fatigue, the hormones, the something we know it's time to 432 00:35:50.719 --> 00:35:55.280 address it. Well. In order to address that, what is it you're 433 00:35:55.320 --> 00:36:00.840 gonna have to let go of? Is it the habit that you know that 434 00:36:00.920 --> 00:36:07.840 one habit. Is it the environment? Is it the food, the cycle 435 00:36:07.920 --> 00:36:12.719 that you're in, is it even the relationship that you're in, the pattern 436 00:36:12.800 --> 00:36:15.559 that you're in. What is it that you're gonna need to let go in 437 00:36:15.719 --> 00:36:20.079 order for you to be the version of you that you know deep down that 438 00:36:20.119 --> 00:36:24.079 you want to be and that you're meant to be this season? So that's 439 00:36:24.079 --> 00:36:29.440 what I'm gonna be doing. And what I mean doing, I'm just gonna 440 00:36:29.480 --> 00:36:32.920 observe and see, you know, I'm just going to and you know what, 441 00:36:34.039 --> 00:36:38.559 I'll say this, I have been already slowly doing this, catching myself 442 00:36:38.639 --> 00:36:44.239 when I'm going in this micromanager part of me that wants to control and have 443 00:36:44.280 --> 00:36:50.760 anxiety about everything. This is what I usually do. I notice her coming 444 00:36:50.800 --> 00:36:53.960 online and I have a conversation with her. I say, do we really 445 00:36:54.000 --> 00:36:59.199 need do we really need to stress about this thing? What is it that 446 00:36:59.280 --> 00:37:04.440 you need my micromanager part that is going to allow you to even relax in 447 00:37:04.440 --> 00:37:07.320 this moment? Right, Because it's not about shaming your part of you and 448 00:37:07.360 --> 00:37:09.760 telling yourself just to stop, or telling your micromanager to stop, because that's 449 00:37:09.840 --> 00:37:14.400 she ain't gonna stop. You know, She's operating from a very young place 450 00:37:14.440 --> 00:37:20.360 most likely, or an older place, but a protection place. So when 451 00:37:20.400 --> 00:37:23.639 I go into this part of me that is the serious part of me, 452 00:37:24.760 --> 00:37:29.320 I stop and ask her a question. What is it that you need from 453 00:37:29.320 --> 00:37:34.360 me right now to feel like we can do this? Do we need to 454 00:37:35.239 --> 00:37:38.000 go over something so you feel more supported, so you feel like you have 455 00:37:38.079 --> 00:37:42.920 clarity and what it is that we're doing, whether that's like time management things 456 00:37:43.000 --> 00:37:47.639 or projects or you know, do I need to speak some not words of 457 00:37:47.679 --> 00:37:53.039 affirmation, but I guess words of affirmation into reminding you that we are safe, 458 00:37:54.400 --> 00:37:58.480 that this job, this thing that we're doing, does not have to 459 00:37:58.480 --> 00:38:00.760 be hard. It's not hard self care, it is not self work anymore. 460 00:38:01.119 --> 00:38:06.440 We don't need to do that something right. So anyways, obviously it 461 00:38:06.480 --> 00:38:12.679 depends, but I am having conversations with myself when I find my part of 462 00:38:12.719 --> 00:38:15.280 me is coming online, and maybe for you, when that part of you 463 00:38:15.360 --> 00:38:22.679 that comes online that wants to continue to binge eat instead of ignoring it, 464 00:38:22.039 --> 00:38:25.320 feeling shame about it, just doing it because you feel like you have no 465 00:38:25.440 --> 00:38:30.360 other option, ask yourself, what's going on? What does this part of 466 00:38:30.360 --> 00:38:34.599 me need? The part of me that feels like she needs to binge eat 467 00:38:34.639 --> 00:38:37.960 right now? What do you need and not from a place of oh, 468 00:38:38.320 --> 00:38:42.880 you just need to stop, or you just need a new diet, or 469 00:38:44.559 --> 00:38:51.880 you just need to be ignored genuinely, what emotion? What are you feeling 470 00:38:52.000 --> 00:38:55.280 right now that you feel like you can't handle on your own, that you're 471 00:38:55.280 --> 00:39:00.159 going to food for instead. Do you need support? What's going on in 472 00:39:00.199 --> 00:39:05.360 your life? How can you meet your needs in healthier ways? Essentially, 473 00:39:07.000 --> 00:39:12.719 and even when it comes to patterns in relationships, if you find yourself that 474 00:39:12.760 --> 00:39:16.559 you're constantly going into this people pleasing and you know that that's not going to 475 00:39:16.599 --> 00:39:22.400 get you where you want to be this season when you go into this people 476 00:39:22.480 --> 00:39:27.760 pleasing tendency, what is it that you're trying to get? What do you 477 00:39:27.920 --> 00:39:30.920 think that you are getting when you're becoming this people pleaser and you're doing everything 478 00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:35.559 for someone else, when you're not standing up, when you're not setting boundaries, 479 00:39:35.599 --> 00:39:39.280 when you're not expressing yourself, what do you even need to express yourself? 480 00:39:40.000 --> 00:39:45.480 Do you need support? Why can't you express yourself? Do we know? 481 00:39:45.599 --> 00:39:51.880 Why? Come inwards? Every time you find yourself going into these patterns, 482 00:39:52.960 --> 00:39:55.679 If you do want to work on these patterns to be able to get 483 00:39:55.719 --> 00:40:04.519 to that other side. And I will say my book definitely shines a lot 484 00:40:04.559 --> 00:40:07.800 of light on that for me personally, when I did a lot of binge 485 00:40:07.840 --> 00:40:14.000 eating, also when I did a lot of trying to change myself, and 486 00:40:14.960 --> 00:40:17.880 I hated on myself a lot, and I judge myself and I criticized myself, 487 00:40:17.920 --> 00:40:22.880 and I always wanted to do these habits to change myself. I got 488 00:40:22.920 --> 00:40:24.039 to the root of what was going on there. And I give you, 489 00:40:24.039 --> 00:40:30.440 guys journal practices as well when it comes to meeting your needs in healthier ways. 490 00:40:30.440 --> 00:40:34.840 So I would suggest my book if you are finding yourself in patterns and 491 00:40:35.039 --> 00:40:39.800 maybe even calling it self sabotage, realistically, you doing these behaviors is not 492 00:40:39.800 --> 00:40:44.360 self sabotage. I think that you can understand this by now. Self sabotage 493 00:40:44.400 --> 00:40:46.599 is not sabotage. It's really just a part of you that's trying to protect 494 00:40:46.639 --> 00:40:52.000 you because that's what it's learned how to do. You've learned to suppress your 495 00:40:52.000 --> 00:40:54.639 emotions, You've learned to hate on yourself, You've learned to binge eat, 496 00:40:54.880 --> 00:40:59.400 and you make yourself feel good in the moment because you don't know how to 497 00:40:59.440 --> 00:41:02.039 deal with this stressors of life, or the loneliness or the emptiness that you 498 00:41:02.119 --> 00:41:07.760 feel in life, or the lostness that you feel in life, or the 499 00:41:07.800 --> 00:41:14.280 confusion, there is always a reason why you're doing it. And the first 500 00:41:14.320 --> 00:41:17.199 step of change when it comes to doing any sort of behavior or thing that 501 00:41:17.239 --> 00:41:22.320 you realize you realize that it's just it's not helping you anymore, is not 502 00:41:22.360 --> 00:41:24.760 to look at yourself like you're bad, or you're wrong, or you're sabotaging. 503 00:41:25.119 --> 00:41:29.840 You're not. There's actually just a part of you that's trying to protect 504 00:41:29.880 --> 00:41:32.079 you. And bringing it back to my micromanager part, I know that she's 505 00:41:32.119 --> 00:41:35.599 just when she wants to come online and stress about things that she doesn't need 506 00:41:35.639 --> 00:41:39.159 to spress stress about, it's just her going into an old behavior because she's 507 00:41:39.159 --> 00:41:45.360 triggered with stressors in life that are not the same stressors in life that used 508 00:41:45.400 --> 00:41:52.280 to be stressors in life that she ended up creating this habit out of, 509 00:41:53.079 --> 00:41:58.159 this controlling habit out of I no longer need to do that anywhere in my 510 00:41:58.239 --> 00:42:04.760 life. So just understanding that when it comes to change and self sabotage, 511 00:42:05.320 --> 00:42:08.840 and I think one last thing I'll say is with the glow up challenge. 512 00:42:08.960 --> 00:42:12.679 We've been doing a glow Up challenge. We're going, oh yeah, this 513 00:42:12.719 --> 00:42:15.599 is Monday, so it'll be the fourth week of the Globe Challenge. So 514 00:42:15.599 --> 00:42:19.559 many guys of you are participating, and there's been a few of you who 515 00:42:19.559 --> 00:42:22.920 have commented being like, girl, I've fallen off of the challenge, but 516 00:42:24.199 --> 00:42:30.119 I love that I started the challenge. This gave me such a good start 517 00:42:30.239 --> 00:42:34.559 to doing healthy behaviors and habits. And I'm still doing it and I'm not 518 00:42:34.639 --> 00:42:37.119 being perfect, but I'm still doing it. And this is just like, 519 00:42:37.199 --> 00:42:39.840 it made me so happy when I was reading some of those comments because I'm 520 00:42:39.880 --> 00:42:45.320 like, this is exactly the work that we've been doing. You guys are 521 00:42:45.400 --> 00:42:51.960 learning how to understand that you not being perfect, is you not self sabotaging, 522 00:42:52.440 --> 00:42:57.840 and you not hating yourself for falling off. Understanding that you're a human 523 00:42:57.880 --> 00:43:00.159 being who who's going through life and you're never going to be perfect anyways, 524 00:43:00.159 --> 00:43:06.679 and instead of shaming yourself, love yourself through the process and continue to go 525 00:43:06.719 --> 00:43:09.880 on an upward spiral. You know, compound on those two workouts that you 526 00:43:09.920 --> 00:43:13.360 did, even if you didn't do all five like you set out to do. 527 00:43:14.920 --> 00:43:17.000 And I just wanted to say that just in case anyone else is feeling 528 00:43:17.039 --> 00:43:20.559 like, Oh, I've been falling off or oh I've been doing this behavior 529 00:43:20.599 --> 00:43:22.800 that I don't really love. Da da da. Understand that there's so many 530 00:43:22.840 --> 00:43:25.239 parts of you that are playing a role in everything that you do in your 531 00:43:25.239 --> 00:43:30.719 life. Sometimes it's a part of you that's trying to protect you. Sometimes 532 00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:35.760 it's just a part of you that can't keep up with the everything of life. 533 00:43:36.199 --> 00:43:42.199 There's stressors in life, whether that be relationships, environments, physical life 534 00:43:42.320 --> 00:43:45.719 in general is moving so quickly, so fast placed. You have so many 535 00:43:45.760 --> 00:43:49.239 goals, things build up, and it triggers parts of you to go in 536 00:43:49.280 --> 00:43:52.320 this energy of fight or flight that it doesn't need to be. It just 537 00:43:52.320 --> 00:43:55.599 perceivees everything to be a threat, but it's actually not. So you can't 538 00:43:55.639 --> 00:44:00.320 always control every part of you at all times. But understand that that's fine, 539 00:44:00.320 --> 00:44:04.760 you don't need to. But give yourself grace when you find yourself not 540 00:44:04.880 --> 00:44:07.519 being perfect, because it's just never going to be a thing. It's never 541 00:44:07.559 --> 00:44:09.599 gonna be thing. It doesn't need to be a thing. And that is 542 00:44:09.639 --> 00:44:15.239 the best lesson that I've ever learned when it comes to self development and working 543 00:44:15.280 --> 00:44:21.639 on myself, and that is how I genuinely glowed up into the version of 544 00:44:21.679 --> 00:44:25.639 me that I always wanted to be. Was through this place of acceptance and 545 00:44:25.760 --> 00:44:30.400 dropping perfectionism and not even trying to be perfect because it just doesn't exist. 546 00:44:30.960 --> 00:44:38.360 That's how I got to this level of health, of consistency with eating right 547 00:44:38.480 --> 00:44:42.880 and no longer binge eating healing, my relationship with food heal, my relationship 548 00:44:42.920 --> 00:44:47.039 with my autoimmune disease. Everything not relationship, sorry to my autoimmune disease, 549 00:44:47.079 --> 00:44:52.079 but my autoimmune disease, my health issues, my nerve pain, my everything 550 00:44:52.840 --> 00:44:59.400 was through that type of mindset and learning how to work on my nervous system, 551 00:44:59.400 --> 00:45:05.320 nervous system regulation, destressing all that good stuff, which again I talk 552 00:45:05.320 --> 00:45:07.119 about it in my book. I share that first half of my book is 553 00:45:07.119 --> 00:45:12.840 about my story. So that's gonna be it for today's episode. I hope 554 00:45:12.880 --> 00:45:15.800 you enjoyed. I hope you got something out of this. Please take your 555 00:45:15.840 --> 00:45:20.920 time with this question of what do I need to let go of this season? 556 00:45:21.000 --> 00:45:22.639 What would you like me to let go of? What do I need 557 00:45:22.679 --> 00:45:29.079 to let go of? There's always something. I hope you guys enjoyed this 558 00:45:29.159 --> 00:45:31.480 episode, and I'll see you guys, the next one Bye,