Hey, hey, I'm back. Oh, yes, with something for you
to think about. Nothing changes until you choose you. Let me say it
again, nothing changes until you choose you. Many people in this world are
choosing everything and everyone other than self. Many people. I've told you many
times on my episodes, how people are putting everyone in everything before self.
Because that person that people ignore ain't neglect the most it is self. It's
a fact, it is seen. There is evidence in how people choose to
live their lives. Nothing is going to change, nothing until you choose you,
until you matter in your own life. Many people, they get into
relationships based solely on how they feel, how they feel about the person,
and not what the person is doing to them, how the person is treating
them. It is solely based on I love him, I love her.
They make me feel good, they look good. You can't see the truth
until you choose you. When you choose you, your eyes open. It's
the truth. You cannot see the truth until you choose you. So many
people are in unhealthy relationships, completely miserable, sad, crying their eyes out
every day because they have not yet chold self. Your mindset cannot change if
you don't choose change. You will continue to get into relationships, you'll bad
relationships. You will continue to go back to bad relationships that you got out
of. You will continue to believe that you're the problem, which you are.
But most times in relationships, when you're in those one sided relationships,
it's the other person. They're treating you the way they treat you because you
left them. So you are a problem in that sense, but you're not
the reason a person cheats. You're not the reason people make the choices they
make. They make them because of what's inside of them, the same reason
you choose to put up with it. Your life will not change until you
choose you. How many people have you heard about, or you may even
know, who got into relationships and just gave everything to that relationship, lost
a sense of who they were. Their path was the same path as their
significant other, who was not reciprocating anything. They were just receiving They wasn't
reciprocating anything. How many people you know or have heard of who got into
relationships with these types of people and they're miserable and they finally finally decide enough
is enough. Their eyes open and they say, finally I found myself.
I finally loved me. I love my life. I want to make a
difference for myself. Plenty of people wake up and get to that point.
I've told you so many times, and I'll take it to the graves.
People treat you how you have taught them to treat you. They treat you
exactly how you allow, no matter what it is, and really no matter
who it is. We've seen it with parents, children, friends, family
members, other people. They treat you how you allow. So many of
you are intoxic relationships. Allowing that toxicity. You're allowing it because you cannot
see the real deal. You can't see beyond your feelings. You want your
desires to the truth. Until you choose you, things remain the same.
No change can occur until you make change happening. You have to want it.
It's not gonna happen on its own. I've told you also before.
So many people are worried about their significant others. Oh he's doing this or
she's doing this. Yeah, they're doing exactly what you let them do.
They bring in chaos and drama into your life because you open yourself up to
it. No one can hurt you unless you give them power to hurt you.
Munsters are created in your life because you create them. You create them
when you let your significant other do whatever they want to do to you,
talk to you, any kind of way, whatever it is, you create
that munster. How many times do I have to say it before people understand
what I'm saying. Whatever you let a person get away with, you're creating
a monster. Change will not occur in your life if you don't embrace change
and make change happen. Too many of you are looking for your significant others
to change. When I've said many times, you are the one who needs
to change because your significant other may never change. You certainly won't change him
or her. So it is you who needs to change. When you change,
you change your situation. When you change, that means your mindset changes
and ultimately your life. Too many people looking for their significant others to change.
Oh, he needs to change. He needs to change this. He
needs to change that. She needs to change this, she needs to change
that. No, you need to change because when you change, you won't
put up with the crap that they're doing. Some of you cannot move forward
in life because you're holding on into negativity. You can't let go because you're
holding onto the negativity. You're giving power to it. You're giving power to
that negativity that's holding you down mentally. Some of you physically, you're emotionally
tore up. Some of you are tore up physically. You're tore up mentally
because all of the mental stress have turned into mental illnesses. You wasn't born
that way. You wasn't born with those mental illnesses. You develop those things.
Most mental illnesses people develop over time through trauma, bad experiences, and
things of that nature. They develop mental stress that's so heavy that it turns
into mental illness. Everybody, everybody, Oh I got this, I got
that, just labeling themselves with all types of mental illnesses. Oh I have
this, I have that, and a badge of honor or something. You
hold that in. You gravitate towards that negativity. You allow it in your
life, You label yourselves. You believe that. Some of you use it
as a crutch. Some of you use it as a way to get sympathy
from others. You can never grow like that. You keep bringing it up.
I have this, I have that. You keep bringing it up because
it's a crutch in your life. Some of you you feel that's the only
way you're gonna get attention. But you're holding yourself back. When you label
yourself and you embrace that label, you're holding yourself back. Just like many
of you in your relationships, you allowing your significant other to pull you down
with them. I just recently did an episode. If your life isn't better
with them, you sure don't need them. Because people should come into your
life and make your life better. Your significant other should enhance your life,
compliment and not make it worse. But too many people are settling for making
it worse, and I mean they really, really, really give everything to
that relationship. That's horrible. I mean, you cannot ever grow and become
the best you that you can be if you continue to hold on to all
of the negativity that has bound you, all the negativity that has caused you
a life of dysfunction. You can never ever grow and be the best you
possible. When you do not implement change in your life, you just won't.
And sadly, so many people around the world have allowed their significant others
to totally reak having in their lives. So many people, so many people,
and it's all because people are not given time to figure it out self.
Knowing self, loving self, getting past their pains, and it's really
really awful, But most people live their lives this way. You can't become
better by remaining the same. No one can. And if you go through
life giving all your power to your significant other thinking they're the best thing for
you, when they're clearly the worst, your life is never gonna get better.
It will never get better until you choose you, until you make your
life imported, until you matter to yourself. You have to choose you.
If you don't choose you, why do you think he or she should choose
you? Why should you should should they feel you matter to them when you
don't matter to yourself. I'll venture to say most people don't even know who
they are as individuals. They don't know self. And that's that's a sad
truth. It's a hard peal of swallow, but it's the truth. You
don't know yourself. You never try to become better because people, as I
said, they adapt to the behavior that they've always had. They adapt to
it, and that's how they live their life. They live their lives the
same way, cycles going through the same exact experiences for a lifetime, for
a lifetime. That maladaptive behavior that they're accustomed to, they're comfortable with.
You choose individuals to love who are like you because they don't know what love
is. Either you don't they don't. So you go through life choosing people
who are similar to you with the same mindset I told you several episodes.
You're either the prey or the predator. If you do not heal from your
past pains, if you do not learn who you are, you learn to
love yourself, fix what's broken inside of you, you will always either be
the prey or the predator. Some people are both. They're the prey and
they're the predator. You get into these relationships really seeking love, really with
everything. You give all of yourself to your significant others, but you don't
know who you are. You allow your past pains to sabotage your life,
sabotage your potential for good, wholesome relationships because you don't love yourself. Until
you choose you, your life remains the same. And that's for anyone,
anyone. It does not matter who you are or who you think you are.
Until you choose you, your life remains the same. And we see
it, we see the evidence of it in how people just relationship hop the
rich and the poor, relationship hop in relationship with terrible people terrible. Everybody
knows he treats you wrong, everybody knows she treats you wrong. But you're
still there taking it because that's what you become comfortable with. You're so comfortable
with the uncomfortable. You're so comfortable with the abnormal because to you, you're
so comfortable, it appears normal to you. And the bottom line is people
treat you how you let them. You teach them how to treat you.
People want to go off on individual saying well, he shouldn't have done this,
he shouldn't have done that, or she shouldn't have done this, she
shouldn't have done it. They've done exactly what they were allowed to do exactly.
That's what people do. Whatever you let them get away with, that's
what they'll do to you. Until you choose you, your life will remain
the same. People are always talking about social media. Social media have done
this to people. Social social media have not done anything to people. People
have done it to themselves. Social media only affects you according to how you
let it, and that is done because of what's inside of people. That's
how people respond to social media. It's how people respond to others according to
what's inside of self. Yes, some social media's great, some social media's
horrible, But how it affects you depends on you. Period. You get
into your relationships and no one can tell you anything, no one. You
don't want to listen to everything because you love him so much or you love
her so much. You don't want to listen to anyone about anything. But
you choose according to what's inside of you. You choose according to your mindset.
Because people are blind to the truth, they can't see reality. In
that moment, so many people said, I didn't see the signs, there
was no red flags lies. There are always signs and red flags always,
but you can't see the truth because of what's inside of you. What is
in your mind, what's on your mind, what's in your heart. You
cannot see the truth because you're blind by you're unresolved. All you know is
you want what you want. That's all you know. You can't see anything
else. That's why so many people have lost themselves in their relationships, completely
lost themselves. Everything that they once really wanted to do in life, They
gave it up chasing him or her, that man, that woman. You
used to love certain things, you don't love it anymore because you have opened
yourself up to so much negativity and drama that you've lost sight of the things
you want loved. You have no energy because you put everything into him or
her. You're trying to fight in every way you can think of to hold
the relationship together. When it's a horrible relationship. It makes no sense.
It's no good for you. He's no good for you. She's no good
for you. But you can't see it because you just want what you want.
You're crying your eyes out, you're having physical pain, you developed mental
illnesses, but you still want that man, you still want that woman.
Because of your unresolved inside of you causes you to have insecurities, lack of
confidence, lack of self esteem. You think you're the worst of the worst
because of what's inside of you. Until you choose you, your life remains
the same. You continue that vicious cycle. People continue to mistreat you because
you open yourself up to it. Your significant others totally take you for granted,
abuse, you mistreat you, just do you wrong, but you still
want them because of what's inside of you until you choose you. You'll keep
taking what you've been taking until you choose you. You will continue to go
along with any and everything. Until you choose you. You won't be able
to see the signs. You won't acknowledge them until you choose you. Your
significant other will always be the person that you think is the greatest thing,
when in reality they're the worst. They're the worst for you, but you
can't see it because you want what you want. You feel what you feel,
You desire what you desire, even though it's all wrong, just complete
toxicity, but you want it. You still want it. It's negative as
negative can be, but you still want it. Come on, now,
come on. You know it makes no sense. You know it makes no
sense to be with a person who's treating you wrong in any way. It
makes no sense, you think, being with someone who is causing pure havoc
in your life. Every day you're just full of anxiety. Some of you
don't want to go home. You do everything to prolong going home. You
think that's good, but you're so comfortable with it until it's just second nature
to you to be a mist that mess a second nature. So so many
people in life all over the world are just totally settling, and they're totally
putting themselves in situations that they shouldn't be in because they have yet to choose
yourself, having grown mentally, having matured mentally, Because they've not ever made
a decision to choose self. You have not dealt with your unresolved. If
you haven't dealt with your unresolved, you're still plagued by all of those things
that you've through, anger, bitterness, all types of negativity. You haven't
chosen yourself. If you're letting a man or woman treat you any kind of
way, you haven't chosen yourself. If you haven't chosen yourself, you certainly
don't love yourself. But this is the situation for many people, and I
wanted to bring it to your awareness so you can really, really, really
really really think about what I'm saying. Just think about your life. You
don't have to lie to me, you don't have to tell me anything.
You do it for yourself. Think about your life, what you're involved in
right now as I speak, Who you're involved in, what you're allowing and
accepting if it's crap. You don't love yourself because you haven't chose you yet,
So that's all I'm gonna say. I've said at what I said.
I stand on what I said. If anyone want to talk about it,
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