WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.600 --> 00:00:07.440 This it's the two seventeen Recovery Podcast with Corey Winfield. Well, fat people, 2 00:00:07.480 --> 00:00:10.160 we really hate it. I'm speaking for all fat people. We hate 3 00:00:10.160 --> 00:00:13.720 being hot. Show me one fat person that likes being hot. I'm have 4 00:00:13.880 --> 00:00:17.839 some words of them like why are you playing? You know, like being 5 00:00:17.879 --> 00:00:23.079 hot? Bro and coal holes, Marnie Winfield the little things that I appreciate 6 00:00:23.160 --> 00:00:26.960 now in life. And this gas station is the gas station of all gas 7 00:00:27.000 --> 00:00:30.800 stations. And what makes it so special It's got like a coffee bar in 8 00:00:30.839 --> 00:00:38.000 there, kind of It is the thirteenth of July twenty twenty three. My 9 00:00:38.079 --> 00:00:42.560 name's Corey Winfield and Marnie's not with us today. But this is the two 10 00:00:42.640 --> 00:00:47.640 seventeen Recovery Podcast. Special guests are in the studio. I have Dulse. 11 00:00:48.520 --> 00:00:54.359 I have the very fabulous Justin Burke. Justin, how are you doing today? 12 00:00:55.159 --> 00:00:57.520 Certain now you can talk fabulous? Here we go. So I had 13 00:00:57.520 --> 00:01:00.600 to turn the microphone and I have control issues in Mitchell, how how are 14 00:01:00.640 --> 00:01:06.840 you today? Hiatus of not being in the North studio, I'm back. 15 00:01:07.079 --> 00:01:08.959 You're feeling great? All right? Well, we're glad that you're you're with 16 00:01:10.040 --> 00:01:12.879 us today. I'm glad to be here and we'll check in with Adam's not 17 00:01:14.000 --> 00:01:17.560 with us today, No no, and a vacation day he took. So 18 00:01:17.719 --> 00:01:21.560 congratulations you guys, you're here for the great podcast today. We got such 19 00:01:21.640 --> 00:01:25.879 big news. What's that? I don't play dom. You guys want me 20 00:01:25.879 --> 00:01:30.159 to announce it? I feel like it's you should. Okay, Well, 21 00:01:30.280 --> 00:01:38.640 there's going to be a cage match between you guys, and we're gonna have 22 00:01:38.719 --> 00:01:42.760 it in a location to where it's one hundred and twenty degrees. Oh okay, 23 00:01:42.840 --> 00:01:48.159 that's just not fair. Why all fat people like it hot? No? 24 00:01:48.159 --> 00:01:55.439 No, the we should we should like make a club fat guy wrestling 25 00:01:55.560 --> 00:02:04.599 that's called sumo. No no, that's wrestling for charity, which would be 26 00:02:05.040 --> 00:02:08.240 to seventeen would be the charity. Yeah, so come on out watch us, 27 00:02:08.280 --> 00:02:13.759 ladies and guys, ladies, it's just me be a hot dog eating 28 00:02:13.800 --> 00:02:21.039 contests in between. Chestnut guy chest wasn't his name Chestnut? I have no 29 00:02:21.159 --> 00:02:24.520 idea the hot dog eating champion. Oh there was like the guy from Japan 30 00:02:24.800 --> 00:02:30.960 reached out. The Japanese guy, his name is Suzuki. He tried to 31 00:02:31.120 --> 00:02:35.080 it was something like that, Honda. No, I don't know, stop 32 00:02:35.120 --> 00:02:38.599 it. You're being you're not even being funny. I don't know why I 33 00:02:38.719 --> 00:02:43.919 hit that, but no, I'm telling you his name is something like that. 34 00:02:44.360 --> 00:02:47.199 Justine's looking it up. Choey Chestnut. Yeah, I told you Chestnut. 35 00:02:47.400 --> 00:02:52.479 Well that's not guess laughed. That's not the Yamaha guy though, fabulous. 36 00:02:52.639 --> 00:02:55.520 No, but no, the other dude, because he took the crown 37 00:02:55.599 --> 00:03:01.960 from him. Yeah sixty two. Jesus, I have some ex girl friends. 38 00:03:04.639 --> 00:03:08.599 It all up in it. Yeah, I think this thing you brag 39 00:03:08.680 --> 00:03:21.039 about X your judge of women, might be suspect. No, but the 40 00:03:21.039 --> 00:03:25.120 other the Japeez guy. And I'm trying not to be a racistem using like 41 00:03:25.159 --> 00:03:30.360 air quotes. Here is Japeez like Japanese trappies. You know, I'm just 42 00:03:30.439 --> 00:03:35.719 thinking a hole and just kind of war. I don't know let's been doing 43 00:03:35.759 --> 00:03:38.479 it. I was joking anyway about the cage Master was just kidding. So 44 00:03:38.560 --> 00:03:43.000 this whole four and a half minutes is pointless. So there you go. 45 00:03:43.080 --> 00:03:47.080 Welcome to the two seventeen Recovery Podcast. I'm having fun. So it's all 46 00:03:47.120 --> 00:03:51.520 about you get three guys at the room. We're in recovery man, and 47 00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:54.639 you know what, we're laughing we're having a good time. I was busting 48 00:03:54.680 --> 00:03:59.000 Mitch's balls your day. I came in and I was like, damn you 49 00:03:59.039 --> 00:04:03.039 and Justin still be he. I was like what And I noticed that he 50 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:08.719 had a flyer over your flyer and the flyer head over your fire was like 51 00:04:08.759 --> 00:04:11.080 a flyer that's like all over the place anyway. So I'm like, why 52 00:04:11.120 --> 00:04:13.680 would you have this flyer over your flyer? And I'm like, oh, 53 00:04:14.479 --> 00:04:18.240 they're still beef in. I think it's a healthy beef. And yeah, 54 00:04:19.000 --> 00:04:23.360 I told you it's if we're not beef about one thing that it'll wear off 55 00:04:23.399 --> 00:04:27.639 and then we'll just pick up. But something else that's fun. Yeah, 56 00:04:27.759 --> 00:04:31.720 it's all about having fun around the office. Okay, because it's the newly 57 00:04:31.800 --> 00:04:42.959 appointed HR director, is that me to make sure that caught up on everything? 58 00:04:43.000 --> 00:04:46.199 Everything's going good. I'm telling you, I feel like an HR director. 59 00:04:46.360 --> 00:04:56.560 What no way I do crickets do? I feel like that's not a 60 00:04:56.639 --> 00:05:00.279 what no way? You know? I feel like the HR director recently, 61 00:05:00.319 --> 00:05:06.160 you know, and there's been some involvement with some people and stuff. I 62 00:05:06.199 --> 00:05:10.959 had to do stuff. Oh yeah, and then I made Marnie do stuff 63 00:05:10.959 --> 00:05:14.439 because I didn't want to do stuff. Then I'm like, I'm not telling 64 00:05:14.519 --> 00:05:16.199 them, you know, and both of you guys are involved, and we're 65 00:05:16.199 --> 00:05:20.560 not talking about anything. It wasn't too illegal. Nobody's going to jail or 66 00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:25.319 nothing. I got caught. Nobody said they did it, you know the 67 00:05:25.639 --> 00:05:30.680 important things in life. I did not do it. You never watched those 68 00:05:30.680 --> 00:05:34.600 shows though, that they have the guy and they don't have shit on them, 69 00:05:34.639 --> 00:05:38.680 and they're like, hey, we know you did this and did that. 70 00:05:38.759 --> 00:05:41.879 And then they're like, all right, well you caught me. Yeah. 71 00:05:41.959 --> 00:05:45.519 I put the poison in her drink and you know, she drank it 72 00:05:45.600 --> 00:05:47.759 all and then she didn't die, so I put more in and then I 73 00:05:47.879 --> 00:05:50.959 sort of like stabbing her to death, and you know you caught me. 74 00:05:51.720 --> 00:05:55.279 You're like, wait, what, Like they didn't have anything on that guy? 75 00:05:56.399 --> 00:05:59.519 You just sung like a mocking bird? Is that what they say? 76 00:05:59.639 --> 00:06:01.959 Yeah? But like I always heard that if they had stuff on you, 77 00:06:02.519 --> 00:06:08.160 they're not coming into you asking what the story was. Hey, so tell 78 00:06:08.240 --> 00:06:14.199 us exactly what happened again? Oh oh yeah about that? Yeah, Well 79 00:06:14.279 --> 00:06:18.199 we'll call my lawyer because I'm gonna need one exactly. But you're gonna wait 80 00:06:18.240 --> 00:06:23.120 in here for ten days. That's better than twenty five years, thank you. 81 00:06:23.360 --> 00:06:26.000 Yeah, I'm not trying to tell people how to commit crimes or anything. 82 00:06:26.040 --> 00:06:30.160 I'm just saying I know people from experience that I've seen on TV that 83 00:06:30.279 --> 00:06:35.600 have got caught up in this and they are not guilty, and now they're 84 00:06:35.639 --> 00:06:39.720 in prison. And once you get in there, it's not so easy to 85 00:06:39.759 --> 00:06:43.720 get f out. Nope, and the stuff that they will try to trick 86 00:06:43.759 --> 00:06:48.160 you to say sometimes and you just think you're being so helpful. No, 87 00:06:48.480 --> 00:06:53.319 so I would just always ask for a lawyer because you never know. Yeah, 88 00:06:53.319 --> 00:06:55.800 but I didn't do it. I wasn't even hope. Just I'm telling 89 00:06:55.839 --> 00:06:59.600 you, and if they don't have enough to hold you, then you will 90 00:06:59.639 --> 00:07:04.120 go home. And the little holding period way better than being in there for 91 00:07:04.120 --> 00:07:10.519 a long time for some stuff you didn't do, right, Because it's kind 92 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:12.480 of like selling the cars. When I look at it, you know, 93 00:07:12.639 --> 00:07:16.160 you just want to get the car off the lot. Probably, I know 94 00:07:16.240 --> 00:07:21.439 Mitch is looking at me like that. It makes no used to sell cars. 95 00:07:21.160 --> 00:07:28.120 You just want to close. It's true, squeaky clean. Yeah, 96 00:07:28.160 --> 00:07:35.160 I'm most until but yeah that one alone for now, for now, for 97 00:07:35.319 --> 00:07:44.480 now, read your papers. But within Strangler, they just want to close 98 00:07:44.519 --> 00:07:46.759 the deal. They just want to close the case. And I think a 99 00:07:46.800 --> 00:07:49.360 lot of times for the I'm just gonna throw it out there because I think 100 00:07:49.439 --> 00:07:55.439 for the most part, detectives, investigators and stuff are are good. But 101 00:07:55.639 --> 00:08:00.720 sometimes they might have a vendetta and they have a closed mind and just might 102 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:03.160 think, well, this dude did it because I don't like him because he 103 00:08:03.240 --> 00:08:07.000 was dating my daughter and I caught him doing some stuff in the bushes and 104 00:08:07.160 --> 00:08:11.199 I don't like him, So that scumbag did it, I'm gonna pend it 105 00:08:11.279 --> 00:08:16.759 on him. Who really did it? Who cares? There are those out 106 00:08:16.759 --> 00:08:20.240 there too, yeah, trying to get a convention right. Yeah, And 107 00:08:20.279 --> 00:08:24.079 at the end of the day, they'll hide stuff, like I've seen so 108 00:08:24.120 --> 00:08:28.000 many shows where the prosecutors won't introduce stuff into evidence, which is against the 109 00:08:28.079 --> 00:08:30.959 law. Like they have to do that, you know, they have to 110 00:08:30.959 --> 00:08:33.720 show the defense what they got and stuff, and sometimes they won't and it's 111 00:08:33.759 --> 00:08:39.440 like not fair. So again, not trying to tell people how to get 112 00:08:39.440 --> 00:08:45.200 away with crimes. I'm just saying, careful, careful, and we get 113 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:48.480 caught up in this system, right. I was having more fun with the 114 00:08:48.519 --> 00:08:54.440 Wiener cage match, all right, Back to that, back to that this 115 00:08:54.480 --> 00:09:01.000 is how it's gonna go. No going raw with it. So who if 116 00:09:01.039 --> 00:09:05.320 we had a hot dog eating contest between Adam would probably wouldn't. I would 117 00:09:05.320 --> 00:09:09.399 say, it's always a skinny pizza. I can't eat. Look, I 118 00:09:09.480 --> 00:09:13.720 used to anyone couldn't tell about seeing me. I used to. I used 119 00:09:13.759 --> 00:09:16.120 to have a thing. And I doubt you've listened to these podcasts. Justin 120 00:09:16.240 --> 00:09:22.360 you might have. I'm still trying to be puzzled. Like we both each 121 00:09:22.399 --> 00:09:24.080 got a large pizza the other day and I was only able to eat half 122 00:09:24.080 --> 00:09:31.159 a mine. He smashed the whole pizza. Damn. Yeah time, dang, 123 00:09:33.080 --> 00:09:37.399 I even't had a PC of yours justin Yeah, I was hungry. 124 00:09:37.960 --> 00:09:43.879 Yeah, clearly back to what I was talking about, which I have no 125 00:09:43.919 --> 00:09:50.320 idea what that is now, Um damn do I have to rewind it? 126 00:09:50.799 --> 00:09:54.879 No? Okay, what was I talking about win or eating contests? I 127 00:09:54.919 --> 00:09:58.600 wasn't talking about weed or eating kind of talking about how Adam would win. 128 00:09:58.480 --> 00:10:01.279 About that, hea, skinny guy. I was like twenty minutes ago, 129 00:10:01.320 --> 00:10:09.120 man, something else. It was about I don't remember our har department, 130 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:15.279 that we don't have that at the beginning already addressed that situation in such a 131 00:10:15.320 --> 00:10:18.759 way that nobody knows what the hell I'm talking about, which is good. 132 00:10:18.320 --> 00:10:24.519 Don't violate any kind of HR laws. See IFR forty two forty two. 133 00:10:26.440 --> 00:10:30.080 I don't think it's that because it's HR. Yeah, and that's that's more 134 00:10:30.120 --> 00:10:33.360 a medical thing. Oh yeah, I mean you're technically Mitch could be a 135 00:10:33.360 --> 00:10:43.120 medical Justin I something Justin knows about it either. Yeah, I'm clueless right 136 00:10:43.159 --> 00:10:46.960 now. Well, I don't know about right now, but I mean, 137 00:10:50.000 --> 00:10:54.240 guys having a little fun. No, it was I don't remember I was 138 00:10:54.279 --> 00:11:00.320 gonna talking about I'll talk about something else. But did you like how when 139 00:11:00.600 --> 00:11:05.120 I told Marnie that it was her her duty to address the situation earlier and 140 00:11:05.240 --> 00:11:11.000 her duty Yeah, just so's so close as he's like, are they making 141 00:11:11.080 --> 00:11:13.519 fun of me? I don't know it on rides all day, Marnie, 142 00:11:13.759 --> 00:11:20.320 I don't know. Nope, but it was. It was pretty comical because 143 00:11:20.360 --> 00:11:22.519 there was something that came up and I was like, I'm not doing it. 144 00:11:22.639 --> 00:11:24.759 She couldn't look me in the eye. It was like, I've been 145 00:11:24.919 --> 00:11:28.840 HR and all kinds of stuff recently, so I'm taking my HR break and 146 00:11:30.120 --> 00:11:33.240 you said she couldn't look him in the eye. And it was funny how 147 00:11:33.279 --> 00:11:35.440 she put it too. And this is so like people are like, let 148 00:11:35.480 --> 00:11:37.399 us in on the job, let us in on the joke. You can 149 00:11:37.440 --> 00:11:43.240 email Mitch Mitchell at seventeen recovery dot com. Maybe he'll let you in on 150 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:46.559 it too. Maybe not, but that's his email. Maybe he'll write a 151 00:11:46.600 --> 00:11:54.480 blog about it. And if jeremy's listening, you better Sitch Jeremy, you 152 00:11:54.559 --> 00:12:01.519 take those threats to the HR department. Is that Corey at two seventeen recovery 153 00:12:01.559 --> 00:12:05.159 dot com. It's not even an employee door. It's always open unless I'm 154 00:12:05.200 --> 00:12:11.879 not here. It's closed and a lock tight. Oh man, having fun, 155 00:12:11.919 --> 00:12:16.840 hon't we? So you're going to the church tomorrow, Mitch to help 156 00:12:16.960 --> 00:12:22.399 children. We all have a volunteer day or if you want to go volunteer 157 00:12:22.440 --> 00:12:24.399 or something day off to go volunteer. And he's going to church to help 158 00:12:24.440 --> 00:12:31.039 the kids all day. When you trick daddy shirt and do it for the 159 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:35.559 kids for the kids, would make one real quick? Yeah we can. 160 00:12:37.240 --> 00:12:41.240 We had enough of shirts today. Yeah, you got a hundred shirts that 161 00:12:41.279 --> 00:12:43.320 you washed and dried, yep, and folded like half of them. You 162 00:12:43.399 --> 00:12:46.720 know, Oh, yeah, what happened if that you were telling me that 163 00:12:46.759 --> 00:12:50.639 you were going to tell me later about his time at the laundry Max, 164 00:12:50.679 --> 00:12:52.919 because I just was like, hey, here's some shirts, let's go drop 165 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:56.039 them off. I'm like, peace, I'll call me when they're done. 166 00:12:56.200 --> 00:12:58.200 Yeah, yeah, I heard you put too much soapin with them. No, 167 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:01.679 it's not HR department. It was a new HR director that did that 168 00:13:03.240 --> 00:13:07.559 place. They used machines. They don't have enough water in them. Dude 169 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:11.440 did tell me later after he got upset and like cooled down, like just 170 00:13:11.519 --> 00:13:13.960 don't use that one. That one sucks. He's the one that it's never 171 00:13:15.000 --> 00:13:20.440 opened because everybody uses it. So machine. The machine, Well, I 172 00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:24.600 wasn't nice ill to tell you after the fact. And there was a lot 173 00:13:24.639 --> 00:13:28.399 of soapened. I didn't know I was doing. I was just like it 174 00:13:28.559 --> 00:13:33.279 got done, and like you look through the window and it was just soap. 175 00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:37.519 I mean those white shirts too, so just so and they opened it 176 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:43.679 and it was just like Bruta out on the floor and yeah, they had 177 00:13:43.720 --> 00:13:50.039 to go wait in line and have Antoine helped me. And I'm like Antoine 178 00:13:50.039 --> 00:13:52.720 the one that was mad. No, No, he got Bob or Steve 179 00:13:52.879 --> 00:13:56.960 or I don't know what his name was. He was he was fixing one 180 00:13:56.000 --> 00:14:00.360 of the other machines and he was the manager man, and he he's like, 181 00:14:00.440 --> 00:14:03.679 yeah, so what do I do? He's like, do I swipe 182 00:14:03.720 --> 00:14:07.080 this card? Because I think they were like Antoine just wanted to he knew 183 00:14:07.200 --> 00:14:09.320 nobody was telling me. And I kind of like, how do I fix 184 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:13.240 this? What do I do? And Antoine's like, do I just want 185 00:14:13.279 --> 00:14:16.399 my car? I think they're trying to figure out if they were gonna like 186 00:14:16.519 --> 00:14:24.559 pay for another cycle for us or not. And then manager Man's like, 187 00:14:24.320 --> 00:14:26.960 it looks right. It looks me right in the eyes and goes, we 188 00:14:28.000 --> 00:14:33.120 don't pay for mistakes. And I'm like, well, that's great. Can 189 00:14:33.120 --> 00:14:37.919 you help me fix this please? Right? Well? Running our four dollars, 190 00:14:37.960 --> 00:14:41.159 dude, Yeah, I don't sweat it. Tell me what I need 191 00:14:41.159 --> 00:14:43.759 to do. Please another dollar in for a rent cycle. They ended up 192 00:14:43.799 --> 00:14:48.159 paying for it, and it was just yeah, it was a short it 193 00:14:48.279 --> 00:14:50.679 was like a half cycle, and it rinsed it out and everything. But 194 00:14:50.720 --> 00:14:54.360 they're all macause I got soap on the floor and I'm like, thanks Steve, 195 00:14:54.440 --> 00:14:58.879 Bob Jim should be thanking us for helping them clean the floor, right, 196 00:15:00.639 --> 00:15:03.919 it was rough. Netflace is a little suspect and they have like a 197 00:15:03.039 --> 00:15:09.399 drawing of like this old creepy dude on the outside of their like like, 198 00:15:09.440 --> 00:15:13.840 oh great, so there's pedophiles here, super, that's just the owner. 199 00:15:13.480 --> 00:15:18.279 Others creepy people here. That's great. And the side part is that's the 200 00:15:18.320 --> 00:15:22.559 clean laundry mat and down damn. I used to have to go there. 201 00:15:22.879 --> 00:15:26.679 Yeah, when you're slumming it, right, not your big time in it. 202 00:15:26.759 --> 00:15:35.679 So the rich people problems, right yeah, but it's but so okay. 203 00:15:35.679 --> 00:15:37.440 So then what happened because you were telling me about somebody yelled at you 204 00:15:37.559 --> 00:15:41.320 for vaping outside. Oh yeah, I'm just sitting outside going I just got 205 00:15:43.120 --> 00:15:50.840 whatever with Steve, Bob Jim whatever his name was. And um, just 206 00:15:50.840 --> 00:15:56.000 sitting out in the the bench outside vaping. And then there's some dude who 207 00:15:56.559 --> 00:16:00.960 was creepily following me around every time I was in a different place, and 208 00:16:00.039 --> 00:16:03.399 he was there when you were there too, just like standing there for no 209 00:16:03.519 --> 00:16:08.120 reason, like in between those chairs where the big one that we did, 210 00:16:08.919 --> 00:16:11.919 and every time I go to a different part, he was always there, 211 00:16:14.120 --> 00:16:17.440 pull me in the blue shirt and like when I want to go stay in 212 00:16:17.519 --> 00:16:26.039 line to get Antoine to help me, walks around me to use the garbage 213 00:16:26.279 --> 00:16:29.600 when I'm doing stuff in the It was strange. It was just it was 214 00:16:29.639 --> 00:16:32.480 just strange. I'm like, do I smell good? Do you do you 215 00:16:32.519 --> 00:16:34.799 like me? Yeah? The slaundering MAT's not like the ones you see on 216 00:16:34.840 --> 00:16:37.720 TV. But there's like lots of space and between. No, these things 217 00:16:37.720 --> 00:16:41.480 are like crammed in there. Yeah. If you're going from one side to 218 00:16:41.480 --> 00:16:44.320 the other, you gotta like there's always someone coming or going and you have 219 00:16:44.399 --> 00:16:48.039 to excuse me. And carts that you can roll around but don't really fit 220 00:16:48.080 --> 00:16:51.639 anywhere. Yeah. Yeah, But anyway, we're outside and I was vaping 221 00:16:51.759 --> 00:16:56.559 my my Cherry Cola breeze and and he's walking. There's this lady who took 222 00:16:56.559 --> 00:16:59.679 her stuff out of the dryer and just took it right to the trunk of 223 00:16:59.759 --> 00:17:02.320 her car and was folding it into her car, which I don't know. 224 00:17:02.360 --> 00:17:04.240 I guess it's a nice day. Could do what youever you want, lady. 225 00:17:04.519 --> 00:17:07.359 When she had a kid in her car and the car was all open. 226 00:17:07.559 --> 00:17:11.519 And Homie in the blue shirt that's following me around is pacing up and 227 00:17:11.519 --> 00:17:15.160 down a sidewalk smoking a cigarette and gets right up next to her, and 228 00:17:15.200 --> 00:17:19.079 she's like, will you two please smoke someplace else? I thought we had 229 00:17:19.400 --> 00:17:25.000 fifteen feet of freedom. I'm like what. I was like, fine, 230 00:17:25.079 --> 00:17:27.079 yeah, like I'll whatever, just say, hey, can you're not vape 231 00:17:27.079 --> 00:17:30.880 here? But I think it was more the smoke that she was upset about. 232 00:17:30.880 --> 00:17:33.599 It. Would that creepy guy say he just walked away. I think 233 00:17:33.599 --> 00:17:38.279 he was scared of her. But he walked up wind down, like he 234 00:17:38.359 --> 00:17:41.559 walked to the way. The wind was blowing right at her anyway, so 235 00:17:41.599 --> 00:17:47.920 he went like far enough away. And I'm like, thanks, buddy, 236 00:17:48.319 --> 00:17:52.240 because I had like a timer on my phone so I could run in there 237 00:17:52.240 --> 00:17:57.839 and grab everything every time it was it was done. But yeah, do 238 00:17:57.839 --> 00:18:00.119 you think our stuff would have been still then if you got left it there? 239 00:18:03.759 --> 00:18:07.319 Yeah, Justin says no, No, I think so. But you 240 00:18:07.359 --> 00:18:11.400 weren't there with this crowd. Justin, this was an interesting crowd, got 241 00:18:11.480 --> 00:18:15.640 you. I love the kids screaming. Yeah, I love the kids screaming 242 00:18:15.640 --> 00:18:18.400 thing. And that's later when I looked at you and said, I thought 243 00:18:18.400 --> 00:18:19.839 we were going to supposed to get like fifty feet or something. You're like 244 00:18:19.880 --> 00:18:23.559 fifteen but I was talking about the kids that were just screaming their heads off. 245 00:18:25.559 --> 00:18:29.480 Oh the mom that just I don't even if it's legal for me to 246 00:18:29.519 --> 00:18:32.640 talk about this, but I'm just sitting there. She just walks up and 247 00:18:32.720 --> 00:18:36.160 just screaming her kid and just flop right on the right on the behind, 248 00:18:36.279 --> 00:18:38.079 right next to me. I looked at you. I was like, am 249 00:18:38.079 --> 00:18:41.559 I allowed to just let that happen like a foot for me? Yeah? 250 00:18:42.079 --> 00:18:45.200 Yeah, so that is that cool these days. I didn't know you could 251 00:18:45.200 --> 00:18:48.839 do that. I think with the hand. Yeah, only with the hand, 252 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:52.359 not with the fist or the back hand, open hand, or a 253 00:18:52.440 --> 00:18:56.079 switch by a switch, I mean like from a tree, a limb. 254 00:18:56.839 --> 00:19:00.000 Oh, I remember a pick knows that when I was a kid. Yeah. 255 00:19:00.240 --> 00:19:03.319 Adrian Peterson remembers it too. Can you hit them with your Nintendo? 256 00:19:03.319 --> 00:19:07.359 Though? No, oh no, I don't. I don't believe. So. 257 00:19:07.440 --> 00:19:11.599 I don't have kids. I have cats. They don't talk back. 258 00:19:11.799 --> 00:19:15.279 Well, they know my cat does. She's like, yeah, nis, 259 00:19:15.319 --> 00:19:19.200 pretty cool. Yeah, I don't have to beat my cats or anybody. 260 00:19:19.319 --> 00:19:22.960 Really. It kind of goes with the whole saying, like I learned in 261 00:19:23.079 --> 00:19:30.319 psychology class, if you teach your kid this is how we deal with things 262 00:19:30.359 --> 00:19:33.839 when I'm ad. Like, for instance, one day when I have children's 263 00:19:33.640 --> 00:19:37.359 and one of them is like, hey, Daddy, let's go to the 264 00:19:37.359 --> 00:19:38.039 store. And I go to the store and I'm like, oh, I 265 00:19:38.079 --> 00:19:41.559 hate people, and I go punch somebody, and I'm like, wow, 266 00:19:41.599 --> 00:19:44.799 when I'm mad and hate people, it's okay to go punch people. Or 267 00:19:45.400 --> 00:19:48.000 when I get mad at them, I'd be like, hey, I'm gonna 268 00:19:48.039 --> 00:19:51.599 punch you because I'm mad at you, and I punch them and I'm like, 269 00:19:51.640 --> 00:19:53.720 oh, okay, we punch people when we're mad, you know. 270 00:19:53.759 --> 00:19:56.480 And I'm like, hey, you messed up. I get to spank your 271 00:19:56.480 --> 00:20:00.599 butt. What okay. So now they're they're learning all this stuff, so 272 00:20:00.680 --> 00:20:07.680 like it's physical. You're Christian, you're really gracious to warn them like that. 273 00:20:07.839 --> 00:20:12.319 I remember being a kid and every time go upside the head, dude, 274 00:20:12.519 --> 00:20:17.079 there was never Hey, I'm gonna hit you now, no no warning. 275 00:20:17.279 --> 00:20:19.519 That's pretty really like see you down. I'm like, we're gonna we're 276 00:20:19.519 --> 00:20:22.559 gonna talk about this. I'm gonna tell you what you did wrong, and 277 00:20:22.559 --> 00:20:25.720 I'm gonna thank you. No no, And you're like just in fear of 278 00:20:25.720 --> 00:20:26.799 like the whole I'm like, oh my god, I'm getting spank and then 279 00:20:26.799 --> 00:20:30.759 they'll tryna be all nice and shit, and then then then you had to 280 00:20:30.799 --> 00:20:33.680 talking. Oh no, I got to talking, which was twice as scary 281 00:20:33.680 --> 00:20:36.839 because then you're like, fuck, it's coming, like it's coming, it's 282 00:20:36.880 --> 00:20:38.359 coming, Like maybe I'm talking my way out of this ship. You know. 283 00:20:38.400 --> 00:20:45.240 Maybe that's why I started learning how to suck shit. Jerry did it. 284 00:20:45.240 --> 00:20:48.119 It wasn't me, it was him. Mom was that way. Dad 285 00:20:48.160 --> 00:20:53.960 would just flop and it was pretty much you didn't have to like misbehave. 286 00:20:55.200 --> 00:21:00.559 It was if you were annoying to him. So yeah, So a little 287 00:21:00.599 --> 00:21:03.000 kid one time and I was like, hey, dude, let's go over 288 00:21:03.039 --> 00:21:04.200 here. It was like the first time I ever went to the mall, 289 00:21:04.519 --> 00:21:08.240 like get over here, PLoP. My Mom's gonna listen to this and be 290 00:21:08.240 --> 00:21:12.359 like, why are you daw melame sending him on another one. Yeah right, 291 00:21:17.200 --> 00:21:22.160 yeah, well that was it was a little much at the laundry Matt 292 00:21:22.200 --> 00:21:26.039 today and it was experienced, like I'm glad I got to do it. 293 00:21:26.000 --> 00:21:30.799 That was Mitchell's first time ever ever had a laundry matt. Well, like 294 00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:33.799 when I was six, I mean we didn't have a wash room dryer. 295 00:21:33.000 --> 00:21:37.039 But yeah, I've never done it as an adult, and now I bitch 296 00:21:37.240 --> 00:21:41.960 at home all the time because our washroom dryers downstairs. I have to walk 297 00:21:42.319 --> 00:21:47.440 all the way downstairs, come upstairs, and go down there when you have 298 00:21:47.440 --> 00:21:51.920 to switch it to the dryer back upstairs you have downstairs. I mean, 299 00:21:52.640 --> 00:21:55.839 I try not to use him as a sleeve. That was like one O 300 00:21:56.119 --> 00:21:59.440 four. You're teaching experience, right, No, he knows how to do. 301 00:21:59.480 --> 00:22:03.680 He does his own laundry. Yeah, you're giving them opportunities to help 302 00:22:03.720 --> 00:22:07.720 other people and make yourself feel good. It's called allowance. Yeah, you 303 00:22:07.799 --> 00:22:15.279 allow him to live in the house. Right. Also, anyway, it 304 00:22:15.359 --> 00:22:17.839 was the last time we talked to your counselor. It's been a minute, 305 00:22:18.039 --> 00:22:21.200 it's been a long time. She's trying to get on some priority health I 306 00:22:21.200 --> 00:22:25.759 guess I don't know. Come on, Susan, let's go with it right, 307 00:22:26.200 --> 00:22:27.839 Call me when you're ready. I haven't talked to my therapist since she 308 00:22:27.920 --> 00:22:33.599 told me not to get married. Yeah, not very well. I don't 309 00:22:33.640 --> 00:22:37.480 think they can legally say I told you so, so you should go back. 310 00:22:37.920 --> 00:22:41.920 Yeah, it's kind of more of the shame of defeat that I have 311 00:22:41.000 --> 00:22:44.680 to admit to. Dude, you're winning. What are you talking about, 312 00:22:45.000 --> 00:22:49.839 not defeated? Yeah, yeah, you are winning on that actually. But 313 00:22:51.079 --> 00:22:55.160 yeah, there were some people that told us some things. You didn't want 314 00:22:55.200 --> 00:23:00.200 to listen, din't want gonna livet some people, some people. But back 315 00:23:00.200 --> 00:23:04.599 to my kids getting beaten stuff and teaching them, like when you give them 316 00:23:04.799 --> 00:23:12.519 positive reinforcements, which could be a spanking because you're giving them something. I 317 00:23:12.599 --> 00:23:19.039 don't started on this. A negative reinforcement would be taking something away. I'm 318 00:23:19.079 --> 00:23:22.240 not talking about how it feels or what the kid thinks, if that's positive 319 00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:25.480 or negative. I'm just saying, if you give somebody something, it's kind 320 00:23:25.480 --> 00:23:30.400 of like their perspective and you're not responsible for that and it's only your perspective. 321 00:23:30.480 --> 00:23:33.400 If I were to give you this tie here, that would be a 322 00:23:33.400 --> 00:23:37.200 positive reinforcement. If I were to take your microphone away, that would be 323 00:23:37.200 --> 00:23:40.119 a negative because I'm taking something. Do you understand? The positive is you 324 00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:41.799 give Except for me, that would be positive because then I could go home. 325 00:23:42.640 --> 00:23:47.319 But positive, okay, the positive is to add something. Okay, 326 00:23:47.319 --> 00:23:51.640 you're adding a spanking? Does that make more sense? Now? I'm getting 327 00:23:51.680 --> 00:23:53.039 your logic, but I'm not agreeing, which I didn't make it up. 328 00:23:53.079 --> 00:23:56.119 It was in some book that they made me buy. It was one hundred 329 00:23:56.119 --> 00:23:57.880 and eighty dollars. So these people were right. That was not in what 330 00:23:59.000 --> 00:24:07.880 to expect when expect. So there's positive reinforcements. So for example, you 331 00:24:07.880 --> 00:24:11.359 know, you guys are recovery coaches. So every time you guys have a 332 00:24:11.359 --> 00:24:17.440 recovery coach, a recovery come in and you guys coach them or whatever it 333 00:24:17.480 --> 00:24:22.000 is you do. I could give you a sucker like a job and then 334 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:25.839 you're like, man, hell yeah, I like suckers. I should Probably 335 00:24:26.160 --> 00:24:30.359 it will encourage you to go get more people in so that you can help 336 00:24:30.400 --> 00:24:34.119 more people and kind of grow the business and become you know, recovery coaching 337 00:24:34.160 --> 00:24:38.400 gurus that you are meant to meet. Now, if I were to take 338 00:24:38.440 --> 00:24:45.720 something away every time you didn't get somebody in the door or this is a 339 00:24:45.720 --> 00:24:48.640 horrible example, so I don't know, but I'll just keep going with it 340 00:24:51.039 --> 00:24:52.839 and said, hey, Mitch, now you don't get a chair today, 341 00:24:55.119 --> 00:24:59.599 or justin have fun working on that computer without a mouse. You know, 342 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:03.759 that would be negative reinforcement. So when you spank a child. Yes, 343 00:25:03.920 --> 00:25:07.119 you might think, oh, that's a good thing, and that's you know, 344 00:25:07.200 --> 00:25:14.039 I'm spanking them, But you can also give them positive reinforcement in different 345 00:25:14.039 --> 00:25:18.079 ways to not spank them. I know this is all over the place and 346 00:25:18.160 --> 00:25:22.519 makes no sense for just let me get out of this ditch. Does Marnie 347 00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:26.400 agree with that? I don't know. She's probably not. She doesn't listen 348 00:25:26.400 --> 00:25:32.799 to the podcast, so she gets enough rambling when I'm like, what should 349 00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:34.400 we have for dinner? Honey, well we have no no, no, 350 00:25:34.559 --> 00:25:38.599 and she's like, oh, stop it, but no instead of spanking, 351 00:25:38.640 --> 00:25:41.880 I'm thinking of other things that you could do. I guess is my thing, 352 00:25:41.960 --> 00:25:45.559 like you know, whether it be positive or negative reinforcement, but to 353 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:48.799 have a talk, I mean, then this this works good in the Corey 354 00:25:48.839 --> 00:25:52.039 I don't have kids world. I don't have kids. I don't know, 355 00:25:52.200 --> 00:26:00.279 but I mean sometimes you probably just get the the act right stick out even 356 00:26:00.319 --> 00:26:03.119 thinking about it. You know, it's just talk back to me son. 357 00:26:03.559 --> 00:26:07.039 That was the nineties. Oh yeah, act right stick. It was a 358 00:26:07.119 --> 00:26:11.720 yard stick for me. Get the act right slack. If you're real good, 359 00:26:11.880 --> 00:26:17.680 you you got that hand from dead when he got home too, Well, 360 00:26:17.680 --> 00:26:18.759 how would you do it. Then if you had to give your kid 361 00:26:18.880 --> 00:26:25.200 like some kind of punishment, some kind of again positive or negative, take 362 00:26:25.240 --> 00:26:30.200 away their phone, give him some trash duty. He's already got to do 363 00:26:30.279 --> 00:26:33.759 that. So he gets his allowance to take away his trash duty, take 364 00:26:34.519 --> 00:26:37.000 take away his air. That's what I'm saying. I think the face you 365 00:26:37.119 --> 00:26:41.400 just made, it's starting to make you realize that the little philosophy here is 366 00:26:41.400 --> 00:26:45.640 a little off. Yeah, I'm not gonna give you your chance to do 367 00:26:45.720 --> 00:26:51.480 my laundry no more. I have in the past done the grounding thing, 368 00:26:51.519 --> 00:26:55.799 grounded phone, computer, PlayStation, something you take away, you do the 369 00:26:55.839 --> 00:27:00.599 negative, but I've been trying to do the positive reinforcement. Hey, if 370 00:27:00.599 --> 00:27:06.359 we choose something different next time, we can go do something fun, Go 371 00:27:06.440 --> 00:27:14.000 get a treat you like, like you like he shakes and stuff. So 372 00:27:14.039 --> 00:27:15.680 he starts mouthing off. You're like, hey, if you stop mouthing off, 373 00:27:15.720 --> 00:27:21.000 I'll go get you some ice cream. M kind of I guess, 374 00:27:21.079 --> 00:27:22.759 yeah, because wouldn't that be the pole off or whatever the hell that guy's 375 00:27:22.799 --> 00:27:26.000 name was who did the bell thing with a dog, Like if you ring 376 00:27:26.079 --> 00:27:32.759 the bell on the dog heres and then now it knows it's doing the salivating 377 00:27:32.799 --> 00:27:34.000 thing, and it's like getting hungry severytime. Here's the bell. It's like 378 00:27:34.200 --> 00:27:40.079 food's coming star talking about like the palle Offs dog or paal Offs, whatever 379 00:27:40.079 --> 00:27:41.599 the hell that guy's name. I know. People are like, dude, 380 00:27:42.319 --> 00:27:45.720 that was like a dead and alive at the same time. I was dude, 381 00:27:45.799 --> 00:27:48.400 No, it's a dude. And he did this thing and like the 382 00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:52.440 eighteen hundreds and yeah, he rang the bell and the dogs are like, 383 00:27:52.480 --> 00:27:56.039 oh, okay, now I'm hungry because they every time you ring the bell, 384 00:27:56.039 --> 00:27:59.880 he would feed them. So now now your kids gonna start talking shit 385 00:28:00.039 --> 00:28:03.720 you and expect ice cream, And like, Dad, I'm not doing your 386 00:28:03.759 --> 00:28:07.759 laundry with skid marks in the underwear no more. And you're like, son, 387 00:28:07.839 --> 00:28:11.000 if you stop saying that, let's go get some ice cream. Thanks 388 00:28:11.079 --> 00:28:15.839 Dad, you're the best. Not quite, but yeah, on your way 389 00:28:15.839 --> 00:28:19.279 at home. He finishes his up and he's like, Dad used to be 390 00:28:19.400 --> 00:28:25.440 like cheese sometimes. You know that, Well, son, let's go back 391 00:28:25.640 --> 00:28:29.920 that whole pie. So let's go back to the ice cream shot. Go 392 00:28:30.079 --> 00:28:36.400 get you some more blizzards whatever they're called flurries. How how come there's gonna 393 00:28:36.400 --> 00:28:40.279 be one blizzard? But every other store has a flurry. You can get 394 00:28:40.480 --> 00:28:47.119 sassy like McDonald's and do the Mick flurry. Yeah, shouldn't the mix Blizzard? 395 00:28:47.559 --> 00:28:49.839 It wasn't. Somebody just has some balls and it's called the real Blizzard. 396 00:28:51.160 --> 00:28:55.279 The real Blizzard d copyrighted it, right, That's what I'm saying, 397 00:28:55.279 --> 00:29:00.079 Like, how come nobody can copyright the flurry? No one did. Nobody. 398 00:29:00.200 --> 00:29:03.680 I'm sure somebody did, but I'm gonna just gives her ship. Yeah, 399 00:29:03.920 --> 00:29:08.920 nobody else was Bob and Debby's Debbie's ice cream Shop to do this? 400 00:29:10.000 --> 00:29:12.960 And then never was like, we don't care, right, I have a 401 00:29:12.960 --> 00:29:17.440 blurry. I have a blurry. That's not a call it. That's a 402 00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:29.960 different kind of drink coming up. I can't take your kid out for blurry. 403 00:29:30.039 --> 00:29:33.319 I want to blurry. I'm gonna go to the Dirty Queen and ask 404 00:29:33.400 --> 00:29:36.000 him that. I'm like, hey, man, can give me blurry? 405 00:29:36.519 --> 00:29:40.200 Like, what's that? I would have tried that back in the day. 406 00:29:40.240 --> 00:29:41.759 Here, I got some of this. You put it in there for Oh, 407 00:29:41.799 --> 00:29:47.119 I've done that. It's a blurry, right, I did that East 408 00:29:47.160 --> 00:29:51.079 Jordan Tyrone's Stomping Grounds. There's that place next to his, and I had 409 00:29:51.079 --> 00:29:52.759 this milky way, and I was like, hey, man, put that 410 00:29:52.839 --> 00:29:56.960 in there, and they're like, I wasn't talking about milky Oh no, 411 00:30:00.119 --> 00:30:03.279 yeah, I was trying to give positive reinforcement. Someone's here and knocking on 412 00:30:03.319 --> 00:30:07.799 the door. Are you knocking about you? Hello? I just finder who 413 00:30:07.799 --> 00:30:15.039 it is? Hi? Rachel, Rachel, Hi, Rachel. No, 414 00:30:15.240 --> 00:30:18.279 Hey, Rachel came here. Yes, talking to the microphone and say hello, 415 00:30:18.680 --> 00:30:22.920 hellow seven world. Yeah, we're talking about blurries. Blurries. Is 416 00:30:22.960 --> 00:30:29.160 that what they're calling your hazards? Blurry flurries? And then we created the 417 00:30:29.200 --> 00:30:37.160 blurry yeah flurry as in the shake. Yeah, yeah, y oh. 418 00:30:37.559 --> 00:30:44.319 I was thinking it was something that I wouldn't drink anymore. It sound dangerous 419 00:30:44.440 --> 00:30:47.880 because of the name. Is how you end up? But Rachel, you 420 00:30:47.960 --> 00:30:49.799 just had your smart Recovery meeting. How'd that go? It went well. 421 00:30:49.960 --> 00:30:53.720 We had three new faces show up, nice, very excited to come back. 422 00:30:55.599 --> 00:30:57.640 Um, they all got work books, so I'll have to replace those. 423 00:30:57.680 --> 00:31:03.480 But it went really well. Love watching people learn about smart recovery for 424 00:31:03.519 --> 00:31:06.519 the first time. So yeah, if we had the door opened a few 425 00:31:06.559 --> 00:31:11.680 times and when we weren't in here being stupid and I heard you leading the 426 00:31:11.720 --> 00:31:15.119 groove and talking, and it's fun to listen to it and to kind of 427 00:31:15.160 --> 00:31:21.440 like interesting. I mean, there are differences, but it's not meant to 428 00:31:21.480 --> 00:31:25.680 replace any sort of pathway, but it is interesting if you've used to twelve 429 00:31:25.720 --> 00:31:32.559 Steps, the differences between Smart Recovery and the twelve Step program. And it 430 00:31:32.680 --> 00:31:34.799 grows, oh, I'm sure it will. If anybody's interested, you can 431 00:31:34.880 --> 00:31:37.279 check it out on Zoom. I don't know how many people are on Zoom 432 00:31:37.319 --> 00:31:41.079 anymore, but we have that option, so feel free if you just want 433 00:31:41.119 --> 00:31:41.960 to check it out. You don't have to go in there and say nothing. 434 00:31:42.079 --> 00:31:45.039 Just just go and say hello, check it out. You can turn 435 00:31:45.079 --> 00:31:48.680 off your camera, your mic, do whatever you need to do. You 436 00:31:48.720 --> 00:31:52.799 know. Check Rachel out and her meetings are on Thursdays at five pm. 437 00:31:52.880 --> 00:31:56.839 Yes, come, we'll have workbooks for everybody. And Smart Recovery dot org 438 00:31:57.440 --> 00:32:05.480 is the UM main Smart Recovery website that you can check out all the material, 439 00:32:05.599 --> 00:32:09.519 all the blogs, the creation of Smart Recovery. So check it out. 440 00:32:09.599 --> 00:32:13.480 And you have to come on the podcast and talk about it some time, 441 00:32:13.559 --> 00:32:19.119 like for real, invite me. This isn't real, Like for no, 442 00:32:19.160 --> 00:32:22.559 we're talking about went home hour ago we're talking about all kinds of dumb 443 00:32:22.559 --> 00:32:35.559 stuff like we're having fun. Yeah, yeah, Rachel's pretty cool. And 444 00:32:35.599 --> 00:32:38.359 that smart recovery again, like she said, it's not you know, supposed 445 00:32:38.359 --> 00:32:43.759 to like take place of anything or whatever, but you use what use everything 446 00:32:43.880 --> 00:32:46.759 for what you can and what can give you an advantage in your recovery. 447 00:32:46.920 --> 00:32:51.400 And that's that's the bottom line. Man. You know, it's cool that 448 00:32:51.480 --> 00:32:53.240 she comes and you know, host that meeting here. Yeah, it is, 449 00:32:53.480 --> 00:32:57.640 because there's not very many of them in Traverse City at all. Anyways, 450 00:32:57.880 --> 00:33:00.640 I think she does one at the porch shitty, yes, as well 451 00:33:00.920 --> 00:33:04.559 in the morning. I can't remember what data is. Well, that's kind 452 00:33:04.559 --> 00:33:08.559 of blurry of you. Murray Murray. What am I doing? Lury Murray? 453 00:33:08.599 --> 00:33:13.920 Oh my god, different name for every day. I'm tired and Marshall 454 00:33:13.960 --> 00:33:20.880 on Mondays, Blurry Murray Tuesdays. Maybe something. The laundry man got me 455 00:33:21.920 --> 00:33:25.880 all those detergent fumes because you put too much. I was just stump put 456 00:33:25.880 --> 00:33:29.680 it into man. I didn't use the cup. I just like nut moved 457 00:33:29.680 --> 00:33:32.680 the cup over. I just had a side on the left and the side 458 00:33:32.720 --> 00:33:35.400 on the right, and I was like, well, they're filling that one 459 00:33:35.480 --> 00:33:37.519 up too, and there was no filling it up. It just like went 460 00:33:37.559 --> 00:33:39.480 down into the machines. So I was like, that's what. So what 461 00:33:39.559 --> 00:33:43.079 Tyrell asked me. When he's like, oh, how much did you put 462 00:33:43.079 --> 00:33:45.440 in? I'm like, first, I didn't do this, Tyrell the new 463 00:33:45.519 --> 00:33:52.079 name, I'm gusting and uh. And it was like, first of all, 464 00:33:52.119 --> 00:33:55.359 I did not do this. And second I stood here and he put 465 00:33:55.359 --> 00:33:59.160 it in this thing and I like opened it up and closed it and I 466 00:33:59.240 --> 00:34:06.200 was and I'm like, and it's still there's the SuDS. So he goes, 467 00:34:06.440 --> 00:34:07.679 uh, yeah, it's not supposed to be like that. I was 468 00:34:07.719 --> 00:34:15.159 like, I assumed, Tyrell, thank you. Justin just not getting it. 469 00:34:16.599 --> 00:34:21.760 I have to get all up in it. Yeah, so you guys 470 00:34:21.760 --> 00:34:24.239 want to No, you gotta go here in a minute. Justin not really, 471 00:34:24.280 --> 00:34:29.239 but no, I still got forty five minutes. He got Justin's meeting 472 00:34:29.280 --> 00:34:32.519 us tonight too, seven pm. Come on home, down, come on 473 00:34:32.639 --> 00:34:37.920 down, zoom it and Justjic said, oh, Jeremy Duran better be here 474 00:34:38.599 --> 00:34:45.039 hopefully like beach boy was doing his thing earlier, sleeping. Yeah, no 475 00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:50.280 at the beach. Oh yeah, all you dropped a smile. I can't 476 00:34:50.320 --> 00:34:52.239 believe that much of that. He had a bad day the other day. 477 00:34:53.079 --> 00:34:59.239 He asked, like, he usually gets about a ninety seven percent acceptance rate, 478 00:34:59.320 --> 00:35:01.440 and it was slopped. He walks past the woman or a woman walks 479 00:35:01.480 --> 00:35:04.719 past, He's like, oh, miss ma'am, you dropped her smile. 480 00:35:04.840 --> 00:35:07.960 And I told him he needs to start doing it like an angry person a 481 00:35:07.039 --> 00:35:15.800 certain ethnic group. Oh yo, miss yo like DMX, yeah, yo 482 00:35:16.519 --> 00:35:27.079 dropped your smile. That never mind. But but no, I felt like 483 00:35:27.079 --> 00:35:30.159 I should start playing TLC or something. You know. I don't want no 484 00:35:30.239 --> 00:35:37.440 scrub passenger ride or whatever. I like to say something about it when when 485 00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:39.920 he does it, because it like breaks the little moment that he has. 486 00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:43.159 It's funny. He's like, why are you gonna be like that? I'm 487 00:35:43.159 --> 00:35:50.800 like, because it's really fun for me. I enjoy watching you hitting on 488 00:35:50.960 --> 00:35:54.199 every woman just kind of pat him on the back and b we can't all 489 00:35:54.239 --> 00:36:05.159 be heroes. But can't all be heroes? Man can't do. But everybody 490 00:36:05.159 --> 00:36:10.000 who's interested in meeting mister Durand can show up at five o'clock on Wednesdays for 491 00:36:10.159 --> 00:36:15.719 the Seeking Self meetings that we have, which Justin was at, which is 492 00:36:15.800 --> 00:36:19.239 Justin's like, hey, I'll support his meeting nice if he supported mine. 493 00:36:19.519 --> 00:36:22.239 Yeah, exactly. That's why I haven't want to want to Justin's yet, 494 00:36:22.239 --> 00:36:28.960 because he hasn't been on a Saturday. Justin has parental duties. By parental 495 00:36:29.079 --> 00:36:32.440 duties. Yeah, he's not even in town, bro, he's out at 496 00:36:32.440 --> 00:36:37.320 the blurry shop. Right, take it to the blurry shop. Oh it's 497 00:36:37.360 --> 00:36:43.719 not DMX. That's fitty fitty. He's like, that's a fifty cent and 498 00:36:43.800 --> 00:36:49.440 you're like, that's fitty. The difference some people that were white that white. 499 00:36:50.039 --> 00:36:52.519 So let's let's set a tim right here. We can only talk about 500 00:36:52.559 --> 00:36:55.519 this for like four minutes. But it's the big thing in Traverse City. 501 00:36:55.519 --> 00:36:59.320 I think you mentioned it, Jeremy. I think you guys mentioned it. 502 00:36:59.719 --> 00:37:06.280 There was a studio called the eight or something round round well here, studio 503 00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:10.920 eight, at least eight shop eight something to cut hairs and stuff of people's 504 00:37:10.920 --> 00:37:15.400 faces and bodies and heads. What cut the hair? It's a salion. 505 00:37:15.760 --> 00:37:20.559 It's a blurry, blurry slion blurs. I ain't growing no blurry slime. 506 00:37:20.679 --> 00:37:25.599 You know, eight called eight. I get my my blurry swan fresh clips 507 00:37:25.599 --> 00:37:30.360 down in Slaptown anyway, I could read you exactly where the lady posts on 508 00:37:30.440 --> 00:37:32.000 Facebook, but I don't feel like pull it up, and so I'm gonna 509 00:37:32.039 --> 00:37:38.559 paraphrase completely off topic of anything we're talking about. But she said pretty much 510 00:37:38.800 --> 00:37:46.039 in a nutshell, not a mark chestnutshell. Yeah, she said that she 511 00:37:47.679 --> 00:37:51.880 if you don't want damn it. No, I can't even remember. It 512 00:37:51.960 --> 00:37:53.639 was something about if you don't know what you are, you should be a 513 00:37:53.719 --> 00:37:58.000 dog, or something like if you can't figure out your sexuality, like, 514 00:37:58.599 --> 00:38:01.800 like, she's not serving, just try, that's what you're talking about. 515 00:38:01.880 --> 00:38:06.119 I didn't know the name of it. Yeah, oh, now you guys 516 00:38:06.119 --> 00:38:07.599 don't talk about Yeah, I didn't know the name of the place. But 517 00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:12.159 it's like they have moneies too, you don't want their moneys, right, 518 00:38:12.599 --> 00:38:15.039 it's not even about money. Like, I just felt sad for that lady 519 00:38:15.320 --> 00:38:19.320 because it's gotta be not happy about a lot of things. Dude, I 520 00:38:19.360 --> 00:38:22.440 was like thinking, she gotta drinking problem. And then again I'm not saying 521 00:38:22.440 --> 00:38:24.400 she does, but no, seriously, like I would be miserable all the 522 00:38:24.400 --> 00:38:29.119 time too and hate on everybody. Yeah, but you become clean, you 523 00:38:29.199 --> 00:38:31.800 become sober, and you realize what life's really about. And if somebody wants 524 00:38:31.840 --> 00:38:36.440 to do whatever, dude, who cares? Man, come get your haircut. 525 00:38:36.599 --> 00:38:38.079 Yeah, but it says in the Bible, Yeah, your Bible, 526 00:38:38.760 --> 00:38:44.320 you know, like a lot of stuff. Yeah, read kings who Yeah, 527 00:38:44.360 --> 00:38:47.559 but then read all the Jesus stuff where he like went out and personally 528 00:38:47.599 --> 00:38:55.079 went to talk to all those people and he loved them. Because yeah, 529 00:38:55.079 --> 00:39:00.360 that's when you walk away from that conversation. Not me, I get. 530 00:39:00.639 --> 00:39:04.480 I get blurry all up in it. I'm bring my blurry to the table, 531 00:39:05.719 --> 00:39:10.360 blurries bringing the boys. I should Yeah, my blur read brings out 532 00:39:10.400 --> 00:39:13.920 the boys to the yard? Are they boys? I don't know why? 533 00:39:14.159 --> 00:39:21.079 Day, That's how we moved out from that. Thank you welcome. But 534 00:39:21.159 --> 00:39:22.639 I want to debate that lady. Like I'm not debater, but it's how 535 00:39:22.760 --> 00:39:24.599 you know how to really enough to debate. And the only thing I liked 536 00:39:24.599 --> 00:39:28.320 about what she said? What was she called Whitmer a bad name or something 537 00:39:28.480 --> 00:39:30.760 and you're like, oh, yeah, that's right. Stuff she said kind 538 00:39:30.800 --> 00:39:34.559 of sad. She probably has a lot of red in her life, so 539 00:39:34.719 --> 00:39:37.760 like it's I don't know, man, like because your red face because she's 540 00:39:37.800 --> 00:39:45.239 drinking to me, blur raise what was that man I wanted my had a 541 00:39:45.280 --> 00:39:52.039 political thought and you brought it back to the blurry and what no enjoy It 542 00:39:52.159 --> 00:39:55.199 was a roller coaster. It's fun. I'm just I'm still coming off it. 543 00:39:57.920 --> 00:40:00.599 But what if I get her on the podcast to get it clear name? 544 00:40:00.639 --> 00:40:02.920 Because we were at dinner yesterday and somebody had mentioned something about it. 545 00:40:04.000 --> 00:40:06.960 I didn't really care too much to even look into it, but this lady 546 00:40:06.960 --> 00:40:14.280 at dinner was like, I don't know, a few blurries away blue blurries 547 00:40:14.480 --> 00:40:17.119 short of yeah, and I heard her time. I was like, oh, 548 00:40:17.159 --> 00:40:20.519 that lady, And I don't know if she worked there, part owner, 549 00:40:20.639 --> 00:40:22.440 the other owner or whatever. And she's like, yeah, there's a 550 00:40:22.519 --> 00:40:27.199 big um the cops around the way and there's a bunch of protesters on their 551 00:40:27.239 --> 00:40:29.559 way up there now. And she's like, oh, I feel so bad. 552 00:40:29.599 --> 00:40:30.639 But you know, she said her head and it was taken out of 553 00:40:30.639 --> 00:40:36.280 context. I'm like, no, when she posted on Facebook what she said, 554 00:40:36.320 --> 00:40:38.559 I mean like if I was like I hate all blurries, and then 555 00:40:38.599 --> 00:40:42.159 people were like, wait, what you hate blurries? Like it was taken 556 00:40:42.159 --> 00:40:46.159 out of contexts and the whitmer sucks, you know, like it was taking 557 00:40:46.159 --> 00:40:50.000 a out of contexts like at least but no, I don't know, I'm 558 00:40:50.000 --> 00:40:52.679 not contentator, just waste of time. But I don't know I did. 559 00:40:52.760 --> 00:40:55.360 I just felt sad for her, you know, to be like so up 560 00:40:55.360 --> 00:41:00.320 in other people's ship, to be like not gonna serve them and a shop 561 00:41:00.360 --> 00:41:02.519 if they come in here, they better be a boy or a girl or 562 00:41:02.599 --> 00:41:06.159 the other female. What are you gonna do? Ask him to drop their 563 00:41:06.239 --> 00:41:08.199 drawers or load of all the females. And there was like, I'm a 564 00:41:08.199 --> 00:41:16.400 man, I mean, you know, like what hitting on a somebody one 565 00:41:16.440 --> 00:41:22.079 time and they're like, oh no, I'm really I'm trans. She felt 566 00:41:22.079 --> 00:41:23.760 stupid or something or is it to go back to the Bible? Who knows? 567 00:41:23.840 --> 00:41:30.000 Man? Like we need somebody. So it's her dad's fault. He 568 00:41:30.000 --> 00:41:36.400 didn't give her enough negative reinforcement. No, that was not enough positive reinforce. 569 00:41:36.719 --> 00:41:40.079 Took away that car, giving her more spankings. Maybe that's the problem, 570 00:41:40.239 --> 00:41:45.239 but spank her too much? No, giving her more positive reinforcement, 571 00:41:45.280 --> 00:41:52.679 not less take out the trash to help some people out neighbors trash. But 572 00:41:52.760 --> 00:41:53.480 I mean, she has a business, and I don't know there was some 573 00:41:53.559 --> 00:41:57.320 law. Maybe pastor didn't I have no idea. I think that's why she 574 00:41:57.360 --> 00:42:00.599 was mad at Whitmer. I think it's interesting that out of all places you 575 00:42:00.719 --> 00:42:04.119 do that traversity, like Texas, you can merely get away from it. 576 00:42:04.159 --> 00:42:09.320 You don't hear about that in the news from Texas. But yeah, and 577 00:42:10.639 --> 00:42:13.840 I don't know it just when the first when I heard it, though, 578 00:42:13.800 --> 00:42:16.440 I was like, what is this nineteen sixty five right? You know, 579 00:42:16.519 --> 00:42:19.800 like, how do you how do you think African Americans feel? How do 580 00:42:19.880 --> 00:42:23.679 you think you know, Latinos feel, how do you think Native Americans feel? 581 00:42:24.559 --> 00:42:28.679 That shit still happening? You know, and if anything, that would 582 00:42:28.679 --> 00:42:32.360 be my thing. It's like like there's a lot more going on than that 583 00:42:32.440 --> 00:42:36.480 lady's shop, you know, there's a lot more problems going on. And 584 00:42:37.000 --> 00:42:39.639 they're like the law or whatever, past or whatever, I don't know, 585 00:42:40.079 --> 00:42:46.480 it said that you can't fire somebody, not hire somebody because of their sexual 586 00:42:46.840 --> 00:42:50.880 orientation or their identity or whatever. And it's like, Okay, that's cool, 587 00:42:50.920 --> 00:42:53.079 but like it still happens just because you put that in a law, 588 00:42:53.800 --> 00:42:59.519 like we're an at will state employment. Yeah, yeah, and like people 589 00:42:59.559 --> 00:43:00.840 that will look at us like, hey, you only hire white guys. 590 00:43:00.840 --> 00:43:06.079 Are like, no, we have Marni, we have Tyrone, you know, 591 00:43:06.199 --> 00:43:09.119 like Tyrone won't freaking work for us. He will not let me pay 592 00:43:09.159 --> 00:43:12.480 him. Damn it. Tyro taking the dron, I was I wish you 593 00:43:12.480 --> 00:43:15.800 were full time here man, Like, Dude's awesome. And I still think 594 00:43:15.840 --> 00:43:19.519 if you put a band in on the right way and we're bagging up clothes, 595 00:43:19.559 --> 00:43:22.440 you can pass as a Mexican. Wow, that's not racist at all. 596 00:43:22.679 --> 00:43:29.800 Art apartment, We're going wrong, It's gonna go. But anyway, 597 00:43:29.840 --> 00:43:32.199 that was my couple of minutes on that topic, just that I feel sad 598 00:43:32.239 --> 00:43:36.079 for and for people that have like that much hate in their heart. And 599 00:43:36.280 --> 00:43:40.039 also look at the big picture of the other stuff still going on all over 600 00:43:40.079 --> 00:43:45.920 the earth, you know, over and it's in North Africa. They don't 601 00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:50.440 like white people. I think we should in that North Africa. Oh yeah, 602 00:43:51.079 --> 00:43:55.119 South Africa they don't like the other direction, and which is weird because 603 00:43:55.119 --> 00:44:00.639 they're in Africa. How did they ever? How did they ever happened? 604 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:04.480 I don't know. They said North Africa they aren't like white people, but 605 00:44:04.639 --> 00:44:10.840 down in South Africa it's the opposite, like the northern Yes, I'm not 606 00:44:10.880 --> 00:44:19.719 for sure. Puzzling anyway, just end it all. It's not a hate, 607 00:44:19.719 --> 00:44:22.280 and there's a difference because like I grew up how I grew up. 608 00:44:22.320 --> 00:44:24.079 Justin you grew up, how you grew up, Mitch, you grew up, 609 00:44:24.079 --> 00:44:27.159 how you grew up. Tyrone, he grew up how he grew up. 610 00:44:27.519 --> 00:44:30.119 You know, if we find things that are different than us, we're 611 00:44:30.119 --> 00:44:32.119 gonna be like, oh, wait, that's not how we did it, 612 00:44:32.679 --> 00:44:37.199 you know. Or wait, your pants are different. They look funny, 613 00:44:37.239 --> 00:44:39.079 you know, like you're gonna have different things because different the way you grew 614 00:44:39.159 --> 00:44:44.920 up. That doesn't make you racist. But when you absolutely hate somebody because 615 00:44:44.960 --> 00:44:46.719 of the pants they wear, which, of course the color of your skin, 616 00:44:46.800 --> 00:44:50.840 is when I'm referring to you know, like that is when it kind 617 00:44:50.840 --> 00:44:54.960 of gets a little silly. And you can't like everybody either. I don't 618 00:44:55.000 --> 00:44:59.880 like all white people, you know, I like this people that I like, 619 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:01.440 and people that I don't like. You know, it's not based on 620 00:45:01.559 --> 00:45:05.639 oh he's black, I don't like him, or oh he's this and I 621 00:45:05.679 --> 00:45:07.280 don't like him. You know, there are people of all races. I 622 00:45:07.320 --> 00:45:14.639 hate. True, I'm a blurry hater. There's no not that meant to 623 00:45:14.679 --> 00:45:17.239 use that at that time. There's there's no clear line. I'd be hating 624 00:45:17.280 --> 00:45:22.119 all of them. But there's people that I love, you know, of 625 00:45:22.320 --> 00:45:24.599 of color, you know, and there's there's people just I don't know. 626 00:45:25.440 --> 00:45:28.760 If you look at like that, life's a lot better. I'll tell you 627 00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:32.159 that just from my experience. Right, I was raised to like everybody, 628 00:45:35.239 --> 00:45:39.719 don't discriminate. I'd like to say it was they said those things, but 629 00:45:39.840 --> 00:45:46.000 then put us in like an all white community, so they're like, I 630 00:45:46.079 --> 00:45:52.880 love everybody, but there wasn't any other everybody's love, right, and that's 631 00:45:52.880 --> 00:45:55.159 not working on it now. And that's how you grew up and you can't 632 00:45:55.239 --> 00:45:59.719 change that. And there's nothing wrong with growing up in the community you grow 633 00:45:59.760 --> 00:46:02.840 up in. That's the community you grew up in. You know. Tyrone, 634 00:46:02.880 --> 00:46:06.360 he grew up in Detroit. He grew up in a black community, 635 00:46:07.760 --> 00:46:09.840 you know, and that's that's what makes it different. And that's why when 636 00:46:10.679 --> 00:46:14.559 you know, Tyrone will talk about things and I don't understand, to look 637 00:46:14.559 --> 00:46:15.559 over and he'd like, oh, he'll explain it to me, you know, 638 00:46:15.639 --> 00:46:17.760 just like I'll explain to him sometimes like oh no, no, this 639 00:46:17.840 --> 00:46:21.639 is you know, and this is how my family did it. This is 640 00:46:21.679 --> 00:46:22.599 what we do for birthday parties. And he's like, oh, this is 641 00:46:22.599 --> 00:46:24.840 what we do far you know, say, okay, cool. And it's 642 00:46:24.920 --> 00:46:29.559 learning different cultures, which I think is awesome right now. I don't think 643 00:46:29.599 --> 00:46:32.320 we should just have one culture. I think that would be horrible if we 644 00:46:32.440 --> 00:46:37.840 just had nothing else, you know, this one, but like here it 645 00:46:37.880 --> 00:46:40.280 is. I think it's cool to have different traveling would be really lame. 646 00:46:40.760 --> 00:46:44.599 Yeah, we don't reason to go anywhere. We can go to Texas and 647 00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:52.400 see the same thing you see here. Yeah, stupid dumb people come up 648 00:46:52.400 --> 00:46:54.320 here and they're like, Hey, I want to go get my hair cut 649 00:46:54.360 --> 00:47:02.880 at this racist ladies place. Any publicities publicity, Yeah maybe, And you 650 00:47:02.920 --> 00:47:07.079 know there's probably enough people around here that are like yelp all supporter. You 651 00:47:07.079 --> 00:47:09.199 know, there's probably some really rich people that are like, I'll cut you 652 00:47:09.239 --> 00:47:14.920 a check right now. Yeah, that's what it's messed up to me. 653 00:47:15.280 --> 00:47:17.039 We should brings it back to my conversation I had with Adam Nuth the other 654 00:47:17.079 --> 00:47:22.199 day about raw dogs. We're not raw dogs, but about dogs. Never 655 00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:25.840 mind, listen to that episode. You don't understand what I'm talking about. 656 00:47:27.440 --> 00:47:35.800 It was raw something. Go listen to the episode if you haven't already. 657 00:47:35.840 --> 00:47:38.760 But yeah, if you're still hanging out, that's pretty cool because probably should 658 00:47:38.800 --> 00:47:42.280 have scared you away by now. Yeah, for sure, give us some 659 00:47:42.320 --> 00:47:47.840 positive reinforcement. There's a donation button at seventeen recovery dot com. You just 660 00:47:47.960 --> 00:47:52.840 go there and hit slash support. Do that. Check out all the videos 661 00:47:52.920 --> 00:47:57.800 from people's meetings. Justin's metis tonight at seven, So I got that, 662 00:47:58.320 --> 00:48:01.000 um that zoom. Jump on there. If you've got the two seventeen Recovery 663 00:48:01.039 --> 00:48:05.360 app, you can go right there to the meetings page and just click on 664 00:48:05.400 --> 00:48:07.519 it. It'll take you right there and you're right in and there's no waiting 665 00:48:07.599 --> 00:48:09.119 room or anything like that, So jump in. Have fun with Justin. 666 00:48:09.800 --> 00:48:15.800 So yeah, and then we have the disc golf outing coming up on the 667 00:48:15.800 --> 00:48:19.920 twenty second. There'll be more details on that at two seventeen recovery dot com 668 00:48:19.920 --> 00:48:23.760 within days. And a video that's pretty awesome, sweet little promo that's gonna 669 00:48:23.760 --> 00:48:30.079 be had a lot of fun making it borderline. There's born I'll saying decent, 670 00:48:30.239 --> 00:48:34.599 but it'll be it'll be fun. Yeah, it's funny, fun and 671 00:48:34.679 --> 00:48:37.559 recovery that's what we're doing. So it'll be funny, especially if you know 672 00:48:37.760 --> 00:48:45.000 us. Yeah, yes, we'll check it out. Look for that and 673 00:48:45.119 --> 00:48:49.039 we will talk to you at another time of our choosing. Bye later. 674 00:48:49.320 --> 00:48:53.480 Thanks for listening to the two seventeen Recovery podcast. We hope you come back 675 00:48:53.519 --> 00:48:54.800 for our next episode.