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Made a decision. I'll face sunny
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to hey, everybody, it's for
crying out loud our Friday show continuing from

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yesterday's Thursday show with our special guest
Laura House. So if you didn't listen,

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if you decided like I'm going to
skip that show because there's a guest,

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that's ridiculous, right because light Yeah, this was like, this is

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like classic. You guys will love
it. So at least go back,

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Yes, do yourself have a favor
and go back and listen to like that

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twenty minutes at least, and then
so you'll understand what's going on. Right

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now, Laura, I'm gonna we're
finishing our You're telling us about dating and

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yes, how I how I found
a man which is Amadi in Los Angeles.

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I believe regular. I was like
my top weight. I was like

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the oldest I'd ever been and somehow
somehow a good a good situation. But

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living as just an inspiration to like
senior citizens everywhere. It's never too late,

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you friend sees, it really is. People do never understand when they're

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insulting you, right like you know
when it's just like man if you can

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find someone. Now, this is
so rude, Like what, I'm great,

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what are you doing? There's here's
the this is tangential. Here's a

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sentence I never like to hear.
It never goes well, you know who

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you remind me of? Just you
know what, We're not gonna be friends.

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If you finished that sentence, I
have started just interrupting. Or when

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people were like you were so much
like my cousin or my friend from high

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school, and I'm like, was
she pretty? I'm like because and sometimes

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that's when people catch themselves she's really
cool or whatever. I'm like, you

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know what, No, I don't
want to hear who I remind you of?

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Unless it's like Sally Field. That
is that is it? That is

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all you get to say, and
not current day sally Field. You know

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you, I'll take it. It's
Sally Field, all right, that's true

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even current days prot But yes,
so we had we had connected okay Cupid

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and I had put comedians on there
and he reached out with so you ladies

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have been with people for your for
a while, so you don't know.

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But even if you're just kind of
regular looking, guys are creeps on dating.

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But like it's not just the so
guys are like, hello, beautiful,

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oh you're incredible eyes, or like
things that no one would ever walk

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up to you and say. And
so, something I really liked about Brian

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was he was like, oh,
I love Mitch Hedburg too, and so

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what was his favorite Mitch Hedburg joke? We ended our Thursday show about our

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favorite Hedberg jokes, but Brian had
a favorite joke. His was his was

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the donut joke too, And my
god, we could be engaged right all

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we're a throuple. We could all
throuple it. Yes, if you had

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been looking, it would have been
the you know, thank god, I

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got it. I'm not hitting on
him right now, Laura, I like

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you hitting on him through me on
a podcasting. My third favorite is Mitch

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Hedberg joke is how he said,
uh, gift cards. He was like,

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I forget how he got into it
too, but he was basically,

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so you're taking money that's good everywhere
and making it good at just this one

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place. And it was that's what
comedy was like, because we're all thinking

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gift cards are a great gift,
and then you go, that is kind

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of weird that you go, I
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but only for Michael's and rafts.
Like when you go that is, that's

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what I've decided, you get like
I've It's a little controlling, it's a

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little bosses, right. So I
so we we message a lot and we're

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talking a lot, and I do
think he was cute at first, or

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like your friend, I thought he
was pretty cute. He So one friend

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of mine like, again, you
have never had to do this unless you

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did it when you were very young. Is I have had people with like

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relationship goals like that. I have
people in my life. A good friend

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of mine has a great relationship with
her husband, and I was like,

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I want that, you know,
you just kind of pick out the nice

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you know, and you're like,
I want that. I like how they

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are with each other. I want
something like that. I don't know how

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to get it. And so I
had asked her how did you date?

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How did you find him? And
one of them they had met an online

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dating and she said someone had instructed
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I did not message first. And
then I noticed that was a big

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thing with me. If I I
reached out to guys first, it never

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went well, Like m it's sexist
or or old fashioned, or it's something's

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wrong about saying this, but there's
something about like a guy or maybe just

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certain personalities need to make the first
move. Or certainly that was the case

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with me. Yeah, I mean, you know, I have friends that

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are on Bumble and that's that that's
their thing. Is well, I mean

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except in that situation where women are
girls supposed to read out first, but

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it doesn't work out for them because
they will reach out first. The guy

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will be like yeah, hello back
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Oh wow wow. Yeah, that's
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Right, yeah, I so this
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So I mean, again, if
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and kind of sturdy. My my
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heterosexual managed reading past that, like, I've got a good shot. Like

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like if he's like that sounds fine
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we message a lot and I feel
like we're getting to know each other a

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little. And this was not what
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little bit of CEU coffee date,
let's find out if this doesn't work quickly.

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But he there was something about him, gets go ahead, don't worry,

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okay, there was something I was
like, what's happening, there's an

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announcement. So there was something about
him that was that just felt good from

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the big but also you never know, like I was like, I can't

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get my hopes up, you know
too much, Like let's see how it

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goes with this guy, and so
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week. I think I ended up
asking him lots of questions, Like he

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was a traveling musician, so he's
a he's a jazz trumpet player and he's

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traveled the world doing this. He
has several albums and he's also in the

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band Oingo Boingo. He's in the
band Oingo Boingo former members, so original

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members and then they filled in some
the spotsween he's very busy in October.

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He's busy in October for Legit,
so it's minus Danny Elfman, but it's

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original members. And anyway, he's
the he's the trumpet guy now, so

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he's been doing that for a long
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I'm jazz is his big thing.
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oh my god, boy, are
you kidding me? You know again,

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I'm forty eight, I'm like my
top weight and like the but as

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a teenager, this would like teenage
me was like, are you kidding me?

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Like, what's this is crazy?
Like it seems so exciting, but

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trying to keep it chill. So
we decide, we decide we like each

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other, we're gonna do it a
first date. So we're on the phone.

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So we moved from messages to phone
and I'm like, where do we

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want to go? Where do we
you know? I kind of like the

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guy to come up with a plan. That's something I enjoy. And he

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blurts this out. He goes,
I don't. I'm not good at plans.

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I'm not a planner. You decide
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I can follow a plan, but
I don't. I don't. I

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can't come up with a plan.
You plan, Well, that's a that's

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bad. That's a red flag flag, right, that's like, that's not

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something you want. But but my
my ex was really good at making plans

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to see other women while we were
together, and so I was like,

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maybe it's time for a non planner. And so I was like, he's

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a jazz trumpet player. Sorry,
old timey steakhouse. And we went to

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the Smokehouse in Bourbank, which is
like a famous old like from the thirties

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or something insanely like you feel like
a mob killing happen in one corner,

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and you know like Jack Warner signed
Humphrey Bogart to something and another like,

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which I think all those things actually
happened. And so there's and they have

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good garlic bread. The garlic bread
is in and for anyone who doesn't know,

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first of all, you can look
up the smoke House and their website.

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They will tell you. But it's
garlic bread, right, so it's

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but it has like Cheeto dust on
it, yeah on it. That makes

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it and you that doesn't even sound
good, but there is something insanely magical

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about that garlic bread. So I
was like, he's a jazz trum'll he'll

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love this place. So I don't
really try on my dating profile, right,

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like I was just honest listen like
and that's become my philosophy, especially

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for a dating profile, like before
you sign up, give up, like,

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don't try to impress. We all
say put your best foot forward.

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That does not work out, put
your medium just a few inches in front

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of you, like just not even
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I'm in there, I'm you know, you take your very best self,

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like don't be your best self,
be yourself, be your medium, not

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the most cranky, but not the
most fancy self, because that's who you

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are, like anyway, see,
I was a little more like that,

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like here's listen, I'm regular because
that's my brag. I'm regular, what

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about you? And but when we're
meeting in real life, like I did

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up, I was like, I
think I'm gonna like this guy. And

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so I'm like I had a friend
dress me like I actually had a friend

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come over and like this and this
and what about this. So I'm like

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skirt and makeup and curls and heels
and cleavage and whatever. And so we

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walk in. I walk in.
He's already at the host stand, and

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so that's like the eye test,
right when you're just like you like,

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it's never gonna be exactly like the
picture right when it's just been online.

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And but we both were like all
right, like I'm chubby, he's bald,

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Like we're even. I'm like we're
like we're like mom, all right,

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And so we proceed and they're they
go to see this, and he's

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he's walking in front, and then
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between us with holding this giant tray, and then the waiter like gets distracted,

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and this tray starts to tip towards
me. Now again, I am

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dressed up normally, I dress like
a drunk art teacher, but I really,

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I really made an effort, and
this trait starts to tip and this

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is my brain said, well,
it's not gonna fall, it's a professional

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way. Oh, here it comes, and a tray full of things hits

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my chest and crashes to the floor, like cups and plates and like half

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eaten shrimp scamping. And I'm just
like, who doesn't finish their shrimp scamping?

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I mean, there's only like five
of them, it's like twenty dollars,

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and now they're in your bra It's
just butter did they not know what

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it was? I'm horrified when people
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it, but I kind of gather
myself together. I'm like, this is

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terrible, and he doesn't know what
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Look, I mean, it's the
moment right in the restaurant. Everybody's

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looking and gasping, and I'm kind
of like checking myself and there wasn't really

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anything on me, like it's thanks
boobs and it's kind of you know,

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hit like hit away, and there
wasn't goop on me. But I checked

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in with myself because I'm trying to
date differently. Yes, I'm an older

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lady. I'm taking care of myself. And I'm like, I like,

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in my mind, I'm like,
do you need to reschedule? Like how

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are you doing? You were just
attacked by appetizers caesar salad? Do you

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need to go? Like you can
reschedule? And then I was like I

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think, I'm okay, I'm okay. It was weird and but it's I'm

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actually fine, I'm okay. And
I proceeded to the table and he's sitting

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there he does not know what to
do, and I sit down and this

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is what happened. He looks at
me across the table, sweet eye contact,

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and he says, are you okay? And I had checked in and

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I wanted to be honest, and
I like exhaled and was like, you

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know what, that was very embarrassing
and like weird. Adrenaline rush, but

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yeah, I'm okay, like nothing's
on, I'm fine. And this man

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say, my contact across the table
looks me in the eye and he says,

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can I laugh now? And I
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That's how I knew he was the
one, because it was like sweet first,

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a little bit of a smartass.
Oh my god, it's such a

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beautiful story, thank you. It
was. It was really. I was

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just like I felt like that was
a brave thing to say, because I

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felt like maybe nine out of ten
women would be like, what's You're not

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gonna laugh at me? What are
you talking about? But I was like,

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I think we should laugh. That
a big trade, just fellow me

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in the middle the restaurant. That
is great. He was probably impressed that

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you didn't like freak out and start
yelling at people. Maybe, I mean,

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you know, because that's that's a
sign of like being kind of a

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classy lady, like you can go
like what who does that? It is

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true. It is true when you
think of and this is how it hits

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me, like Brian's great, but
I don't think of him as like Brian's

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great. Everyone needs a Brian,
like I need a Brian like he's great

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for me like that. It really
is. There is Yeah, there is

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a person that's like, you're fired
and what about this? And I'm not

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coming, you know, like you
give me free everything, I'm in a

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sue or whatever. And then did
you get a free dinner? By the

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way, he should have you know
what we did not. That's that's maybe

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the worst part of the story.
But how long have you been with him?

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Let's take it. Let's years,
Okay, six years. We need

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to take a quick break because we
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us about though, Like, so
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started, So you knew kind of
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that was I really I thought of
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I would have driven him off the
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here's here's what it was followed up
with. So and this I've been

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talking about on stage because I love
the idea at two things that have come

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up from this For me, I
love the idea of old love because we

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don't talk about it like movies and
TV or primarily or like old love is

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what we've been together forty years,
but like finding love and I know we're

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not ninety years old, but there's
an older version of love, but we're

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so it's middle aged. Yeah,
finding and it's a different kind of you

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know, young romance is you know, like it's it's neat and horny,

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but you're also so insecure, like
will it last? And old love is

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like it will not. You know, there's there's just something like you can

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find someone you know who you are, and you can find someone who's like

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really a fit when you're older of
just like that I could never do before.

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Like and there's no there's no letting
yourself go in old love like you're

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gone. Yeah, it's not getting
much worse, you know, Like there's

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no there's not a lot of surprises, not a lot of surprises. Yeah,

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no, cheating old love. Cheating
is like you you watch an episode

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on your own of that show you're
you know, like we're just you know,

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like young guys. I'd walk in
on them watching poorn and like I

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walk in on Brian watching Mash yes
all the time, Like he was like,

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oh it was watching mash We can
watch whatever you want, and I'm

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like, wow, this is life
is really different at this So there's something

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great about that. But here's what
he did that that night in that week.

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So first thing was can I laugh
now that I was like, I

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really like this guy. I felt
like that was so the guy had been

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with before was very charming, Like
he was charming, fun guy, which

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can sometimes be someone hard to trust, you know really, and Brian would

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not know how to trick you if
he read a book about it, Like

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he just was. It's just very
him. And so then we decided to

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go to another locations, Like the
date's going really well and we're like,

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let's if I drank. We would
have gone to a bar to get a

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drink, but he was like,
you don't drink, and so we still

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went to a bar. But he
was like a friend of mine's playing at

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Ireland's thirty two and do you want
to go? And so I was like

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yeah, okay, and he was
very I told him I was sober,

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and he was very protective of is
it okay? Are you sure it's okay?

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It is? If you want to
leave, will leave a meet like

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and I'm like, I the libraries
are closed, like it's fine, you

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know, Like so this is what
happened. So we drove where we're in

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separate cars because first date, I
don't know this guy. We get close

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to Ireland's thirty two and I'm behind
his car. He stops the way.

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I see a parking space he stopped, so I was like, well,

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he'll park there and I'll keep looking. But he stops in the street and

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then he gets out of his car
and he walks to my window and he

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said, and you can't understand,
this is not a young person's romance.

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But he said, why don't you
take this spot? And I'll keep looking?

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And I was like, I love
this guy. I love him too.

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She said take this spot, I'll
go and meet me out front,

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like don't you know, But he's
still protective, like I don't want to

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let you out of my site.
But will you know, surely you'll be

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okay at the door. Yes.
Three days later we're driving. It rarely

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rains in Los Angeles. Is every
every all the songs say. But he

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looked weird somewhere in Burbank and he
he said he just noticed the my windshield

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wipers. And he said, your
windshield wipers are a little worn, and

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it looks like it's gonna rain.
Why don't you pull into this pet boys,

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holy shit, I'll get you a
new I'll swap him out for you.

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And I was like, what you
And he goes, yeah, we'll

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just we'll look at the manual and
you'll get the And like I said,

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he's a jazz trumpet player. He's
not right, you know, a card

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mister mechanic or whatever, but he
can do these things and he's very thoughtful

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and protective. And he swapped out
my windshield wipers and I was like,

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what weird sex sec would you like
in the term? I was just it

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was like I've never been and more
attracted to. Okay, this is who

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he is. A friend loaned us
her lake house. We were at a

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lake house last week of friends.
It had it's a wonderful house that has

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a very old the bathroom stuff is
very old, and so it takes a

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long time to refill. Like the
bowl, the toilet bowl. I hate

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that word anyway, So that I
was like, can I say it or

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not? Anyway, that's what it
is. So he was like, I'm

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gonna I'm gonna change that out.
And I was like, well, what

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I said was, well, is
it something that could cause harm? Like,

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don't do it? Like don't like
I don't want to, Like,

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oh, brand tried to change the
thing anyway, your house flooded, Like

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I didn't want that story. But
he got a little of friend. He

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was like, I've done it before. I did it in our house and

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I was like, uh okay,
like fingers crossed. He on his own

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because he just saw and he was
just this one part is really old.

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He went to the hardware store in
the Lake village and then he came back

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and he changed her toilet bowl thing
mechanism just because it was old and needed

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to be changing. Wow, he's
a good dude. I love him.

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I mean not just because he fixes
things. Now. I made it like

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and I really save a lot of
handyman costs with this guy. It was

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lovely and so this was like equal
like he was into it from day one

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two Like he called you the next
day, Yes, well the next day,

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that's very sweet. This is what
I did because I was just done

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this whole tear of look like see
me, and I felt like not,

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oh, I hope you don't get
to know me until four years when I've

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tricked you and you're in. I
was like, here's me. The next

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day, I did a storytelling show
that was my favorite storytelling show and not

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for everyone. It's it was called
Happy Mother's Day, Our moms are dead,

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not for everybody, Like there's certainly
many people that would be like,

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oh wow, oh that's so sad
and dark. And so I called him

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breaking the rules because I am impulsive
and compulsive. But I said I called

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him. I said to listen that
was really loved. This is way too

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soon to contact you. Last night, I mean we knew the night was

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great, Like we talked and talked
and talked for it. Even from that

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bar. We went to another place
and talked and talked and we were in.

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We liked each other. So I
said, this is way too soon

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to contact you, but I'm doing
a storytelling show. It only happens like

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once or twice a year. It's
very me. Would you like to come?

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And he came and then this is
the weirdest. So he loved it.

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People, I mean you're literally you're
laughing and crying because of the nature

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of the show. We've all lost
parents and the day when you celebrate that

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parent. We all had a story
about it. Drew Drogi was in it.

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I think that one and weird.
Anyway, it's a great show.

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So we hung we hang out.
After we just walked down the street to

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like astro burg in Hollywood, and
he was like, and I'd never experienced

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this before. I mean, guys
had liked me, but he just had

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a way of like he was basically, I'm interested. I'd like to see

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you. That was great, You're
great, I'd like to see you again.

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Like he's just this, I'm not
playing around. I like it.

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And I kind of teased him right
and I said, wow, it sounds

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like you're really interested in the job
opening of being my boyfriend or whatever.

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He said, I am. He
said, if you had like a maybe

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I joked of like, oh,
I wish I had like a form for

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you to fill out, so like
an application that you could, and he

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said I would. I would love
to do that. I made one.

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I never talked about this. It's
so weird, I now, I wasn't

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sure I was going to show it
to him. I ran it my girlfriend's

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first. But I you don't like
dating books or whatever, tell you like

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visualize your purse or what. Do
you make a list of your what you

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want and your deal breakers or your
whatever. And I kind of as an

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exercise for myself was and I'd done
all those things. Listen, I really

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did the divorce lady. You know, every gut yourself out, turn yours,

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you know, like let's do it
differently. Thing before. But I

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wrote down like if I had like
rules, I made it like a quest.

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I was like a quest to date
me. I love it. And

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it was so I meditate and I
teach meditation and something that we do at

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New Year's as you write down one
hundred and eight things you're grateful for.

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It's a thing I'd been doing for
years. So I had like these twelve

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things for him to do, write
one hundred and eight things you're grateful for.

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Number one was don't date anyone else
for a month. Write one hundred

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and eight things you're grateful for.
Take me to a museum and show me

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your favorite work of art, show
me your favorite movie. Take me to

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the planetarium. I just want to
go the planetarium. And I had like

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a few other other things, and
so I and then we kept talking and

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then it was like, if you
complete all those things, then you're my

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boyfriend. Yep. It was a
it was like you know whatever in Shrek,

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you know, it was like,
uh, ok, if you want

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the end of the Princess, you
do the But it wasn't my king father

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and I'm not a princess. It
was just me, and and so I

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didn't know if I would show it
to him because I was like, I

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even now i'm embarrassed to kind of
it's kind of cool, and it's also

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kind of that seems weird in a
way of like or something only without the

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dowry. Yes, I'm just me. But what was great was I just

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felt comfortable with him so quickly,
and so I was like, I think

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I confessed to him on the I
was like, this is so dumb.

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I'm writing this list of things you
could do to be my boyfriend. Like

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I know, it's dumb. It's
dumb, and then he was like,

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what are they? I want to
know? And I read himself. I

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was like when I was like,
don't date any one for a month,

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he was done. I didn't even
want to what's net next? And I

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was like, oh, and I
gave him the whole I still have the

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paper, like, I gave him
the thing and we did it and we

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got Matt. So we're still not
married for a couple of reasons. There

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was COVID and there was lots of
reasons. But we have moved in six

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years. We've moved together five times. Wow, and like into Texas and

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back and anyway. There's been a
lot of that. And then we were

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together for the passing of my father. We were together for the finding of

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my birth mother. We got matching
tattoos. Three months in the tattoos.

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What are they there? I can
show you? Oh, I say,

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is this a moon? Moon stars? So a couple of like a month

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in, I mean I was,
we were just in. It's also it

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has to do less with like,
oh, I made him settle down and

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where he liked relationships, I like, reallyationships. We fit. It was

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perfect all the way around. But
I bought us rings on so I had

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tried. When we were together,
like a few weeks. He had a

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gig for like a week in Vegas, like playing with Kevin Eubanks at some

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event or something, and so I
got to visit him. And they weren't

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in a normal hotel room. There's
like apartments in the back of one of

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the things, like if you're like
with a kitchenette. And anyway, I

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didn't know about this, and so
I stayed with him and we would go

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out in Vegas, and I was
like, we should just get married again.

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Compulsive impulsive. I just knew he's
my guy. And he was like,

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I mean, that sounds great.
Why don't we know each other for

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a year maybe before? But I
was like, then we come right back

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when one year we get married.
And I think that was He was probably

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a little like, wow, okay, the thanks for the red flag.

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But I bought us rings off Etsy. I'm I'm wearing mine. But it's

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a it's a kind of a rough
version of a sun and a rough version

406
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:08,880
of the moon. And so he
had the moon, so I got the

407
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:12,599
moon tattoo, and I have the
sun, so he got the sun tattoo.

408
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:18,519
My tattoo is on the back of
my left arm. His is on

409
00:29:18,559 --> 00:29:23,000
the back of his right arm.
So when we hold hands, that's right,

410
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:30,960
that's so key. Yeah, that's
me. That's me finding love at

411
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:34,920
like forty eight. So tell me
about really so finding your birth mom.

412
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:40,640
So he was supportive, Yeah,
yeah, he was. He was there

413
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:45,319
for that. So that's that is
such a long involved story. But I

414
00:29:45,319 --> 00:29:52,319
guess essentially I always knew I was
adopted. I actually had to learn that

415
00:29:52,359 --> 00:29:57,119
not everyone is adopted. So when
I was little, my brother and I

416
00:29:57,119 --> 00:30:00,319
were both adopted, and our parents
used the term you're adopted, and we

417
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,119
you know, I had a baby
book and it was like, you're adopted,

418
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:08,440
and so I I understood the concept, like I knew babies came out

419
00:30:08,440 --> 00:30:14,240
of ladies, and I knew I
had come out of a lady, but

420
00:30:14,279 --> 00:30:18,319
not my mom. And so I
was like, I get it. It's

421
00:30:18,359 --> 00:30:22,400
like a store, like we eat
salad, but we somebody grew it and

422
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:26,920
now we have it, or like
we have a stereo, somebody made it

423
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:32,720
and now we have it. So
I, in my worldview at like eight,

424
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:37,359
that's just how most babies came.
Probably most babies didn't come out of

425
00:30:37,799 --> 00:30:41,279
the lady that your mom. You
know, like I was like, you

426
00:30:41,319 --> 00:30:45,079
get everything from the store, including
people. That was my thought. And

427
00:30:45,119 --> 00:30:48,559
so like there's ladies out there having
babies for everyone, like handmaids. See

428
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:53,279
I guess what I mean. Not
the handmaids tell apart, but like a

429
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:57,200
doom. They liked their job as
much as anyone. You know, there's

430
00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:02,880
just another job. Yeah, babies. Right. So when I was ten,

431
00:31:03,319 --> 00:31:06,400
I got some news. So when
I was tending the woman down the

432
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:10,000
street, a neighbor down the street
was like, was pregnant. And I

433
00:31:10,039 --> 00:31:11,400
was like, oh, she must
be one of those baby having ladies.

434
00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:15,200
Like all this is in my head, like all this is I had never

435
00:31:15,279 --> 00:31:18,319
shared it. I just was like
adopted, got it. We came from

436
00:31:18,319 --> 00:31:22,240
some other ladies, you know,
probably everybody or fifty fifty you know whatever,

437
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:26,880
Like this is normal because we were
told we're normal a lot, we're

438
00:31:26,880 --> 00:31:30,480
special, and we're normal. It's
like any you're not a genius. I'm

439
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:34,079
not a call back. I'm not
a genius. I have big ideas.

440
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:38,000
I'm not a genius or right side. I really don't understand anything, but

441
00:31:38,079 --> 00:31:44,319
I'm pretty sure I do. So
at ten, she's pregnant, I'm like,

442
00:31:44,319 --> 00:31:45,960
oh, she's one of those baby
having ladies and then she then she

443
00:31:47,039 --> 00:31:49,599
has the baby and she still had
the baby. That's what confused me.

444
00:31:49,759 --> 00:31:55,319
I saw her pregnant, and then
I started with a baby, but it

445
00:31:55,359 --> 00:31:59,240
should go to its family. So
that's what I started asking her about,

446
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:02,079
like she's I was like, what's
going what's why do you still have that

447
00:32:02,119 --> 00:32:07,480
baby? And like she was like
breastfeeding. I'm like what are you why?

448
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:08,960
Like what is going on? Like
like I'm a cop, like what

449
00:32:09,119 --> 00:32:13,640
is going on here? And she
was like I'm feeding him. And I

450
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:15,880
was like, shouldn't he be with
his family? And she was like,

451
00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:20,440
I you really need to talk to
your mom. And so when I was

452
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,880
ten, I learned not everyone is
adopted, Like I like, oh,

453
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:29,319
basically like the it's something like two
percent of the population. But I was

454
00:32:29,319 --> 00:32:31,200
like, oh, basically just me
and my brother Like I then I was

455
00:32:31,240 --> 00:32:35,839
like that is not I do not
feel normal now, Like that is not.

456
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:38,400
I don't like it, like and
then I I mean, I like

457
00:32:38,519 --> 00:32:43,400
my family. I didn't that.
I was just more like there's a lady

458
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:47,480
out there that I came out of
and I don't know anything about her.

459
00:32:49,039 --> 00:32:51,839
I don't know, Like I was
really I love my first grade teacher.

460
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,480
I was like, is it her? Is it? Like? I just

461
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:59,559
was like, am I crossing paths
with her? Like I couldn't. My

462
00:32:59,680 --> 00:33:06,400
brain is wired to wonder about that
constantly and like and what happened? And

463
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:08,160
what's the story? Is she mad
at me? You know? Like did

464
00:33:08,279 --> 00:33:13,680
I? Like there's just so many
questions, like I will mention Sally Field

465
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:17,960
again. I love smoking the bandit. She is adorable brunette. And I

466
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:22,480
was like, is Sally Field my
mom? Like like who? And then

467
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:27,880
there's movies about stuff right of like
you were really a princess and no one

468
00:33:28,119 --> 00:33:30,119
like am I? You know from
Royalty? And my friend like I don't

469
00:33:30,119 --> 00:33:34,319
know, You're just is David Lee
Roth my dad? I just had a

470
00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:39,759
questions like what how did I and
my brother zero question to him? Question

471
00:33:39,839 --> 00:33:45,599
answered? He's like, these are
our parents. That's the answer. That's

472
00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:49,839
the like he's like, end of
story. We're like we're adopted. End

473
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:53,799
of story, and I'm like adopted
beginning of story exactly exactly. So essentially,

474
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:58,559
I had looked on and off and
I had finally in my thirties,

475
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:02,720
once I got so and everything felt
kind of stable, and I did I

476
00:34:02,799 --> 00:34:07,759
like went all in to do a
search with the adoption agency. So I'd

477
00:34:07,759 --> 00:34:10,280
gotten little bits of information here height
and weight or a little you know.

478
00:34:10,519 --> 00:34:14,000
I knew I had an aunt and
an uncle and I you know, but

479
00:34:14,679 --> 00:34:20,679
all redacted file information. But then
I sent off for I said do a

480
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:24,480
search, like some amount of money
was This was like the all in one

481
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:30,599
where they go, we will basically
reach out to this woman and say do

482
00:34:30,639 --> 00:34:34,440
you want to meet? You know, say you your adopt you know,

483
00:34:34,639 --> 00:34:38,079
your biological daughter is interested in meeting, are you? So I was so

484
00:34:38,159 --> 00:34:43,719
excited because I just was like my
whole life, I'd wondered like do we

485
00:34:43,760 --> 00:34:49,000
have the same nose or eyes or
laugh or I had never met a biological

486
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:55,800
relative. I had never been near
anyone who we shared blood or DNA.

487
00:34:57,079 --> 00:35:00,199
Ever, and I was in my
best room is a twin, So I

488
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:02,920
was especially fascinating, like you shared
all your DNA and like I don't what

489
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:07,519
do I have? And so I
was like I had a DNA jealous I

490
00:35:07,559 --> 00:35:13,599
guess, And so I was very
exciting. It's finally gonna happen. I

491
00:35:13,599 --> 00:35:16,400
feel stable and this is great.
This is before I met Brian, and

492
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:22,320
I followed up like a couple months
into the search and they said, oh,

493
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:30,639
we found her, but she hasn't
responded. So this happens like maybe

494
00:35:30,679 --> 00:35:31,719
just a couple of times a year, but we have to call off the

495
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:37,960
search. Oh my gosh, hold
on, let's take a quick break on

496
00:35:37,079 --> 00:35:45,239
this cliffhanger. Okay, we're back. So they have to call off the

497
00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:49,639
search. Yeah, so I've waited
my whole life. I'm like, you

498
00:35:49,679 --> 00:35:54,079
know, maybe I was you know, forty or for early forties or something

499
00:35:54,199 --> 00:36:00,920
something like I'd waited so long forty
five or something to finally search, like

500
00:36:01,039 --> 00:36:06,880
I'm finally ready and then basically get
the message they said, you know this

501
00:36:07,039 --> 00:36:08,880
is she didn't respond, Like we
can't just keep asking, like we're sure

502
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:12,440
it's her, but we call off
the search. And a friend of mine,

503
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:14,920
when I told her the story,
she was like, so you're talking

504
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:19,000
this woman on the phone, like
the adoption agency woman. And she she

505
00:36:19,199 --> 00:36:27,000
was like she probably had her file
right in front of her, like with

506
00:36:27,039 --> 00:36:30,559
the address. Like the idea of
the other end of that phone call is

507
00:36:30,599 --> 00:36:32,280
looking at the you know, like
there's but there's not a version of like,

508
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:37,239
well, I'm not saying it's twelve
twelve Rocky Point Road, you know,

509
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,239
or whatever. But she wouldn't give
you, like an email address.

510
00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:43,800
She wouldn't let you be the one
to reach out. No. I mean,

511
00:36:43,920 --> 00:36:50,039
look, I'm again, I can't
stress enough old And so it's a

512
00:36:50,039 --> 00:36:52,880
closed adoption and it's done pretty differently
now, but you know, or there's

513
00:36:53,039 --> 00:36:58,719
different rules or whatever. But it
was ironclad clothes and which I respect.

514
00:36:58,920 --> 00:37:05,800
Like I always felt like, we
don't know. She might live a whole

515
00:37:06,159 --> 00:37:09,960
life where she's with someone that she
has never talked about. She gave a

516
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:14,400
baby away and she doesn't want to
baby knock on the door. Or she

517
00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:22,039
might live a life where she's destitute
and it's a bad situation and she doesn't

518
00:37:22,039 --> 00:37:24,400
want to see someone like you just
don't. You don't know anything, You

519
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:29,000
don't have anything at all. But
to do the big search was emotionally,

520
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,840
I mean it was. It was
gutting to be honest, Like for when

521
00:37:32,880 --> 00:37:37,719
you have to have counseling, like
it was, there was all these requirements,

522
00:37:37,760 --> 00:37:40,239
like you have to have several hours
of counseling where they kind of which

523
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:44,079
is good for me, They kind
of adjust your expectations. You know,

524
00:37:44,480 --> 00:37:46,119
what if she doesn't like you,
what if she wants money. What if

525
00:37:46,159 --> 00:37:51,960
you you know, might they go
through the things And she was like,

526
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,440
you know it says here you teach
meditation and what if she thinks that's weird?

527
00:37:54,519 --> 00:38:00,719
And I was like, sounds like
you think it's weird. What if

528
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:01,719
she doesn't like you? I was
like, everyone likes sweet. What is

529
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:07,719
the questions? And so we I
just I had to give up, like

530
00:38:07,760 --> 00:38:10,159
and I and I have always wanted. I was like, well, that's

531
00:38:10,199 --> 00:38:14,880
the end of it, and and
I had to cry a lot and process

532
00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,800
and okay, I'll never meet her
and all right. And a couple of

533
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:22,199
years later, I'm at work and
my friend said, have you done twenty

534
00:38:22,199 --> 00:38:25,960
three? And me, I'm ninety
seven percent Swedish And I was like what.

535
00:38:27,159 --> 00:38:31,400
She goes, I'm I mean the
top three percentile neandertal or whatever.

536
00:38:31,519 --> 00:38:37,960
And I was like what and she
she explained twenty three in me and I

537
00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:40,239
was like, I want to find
out what percent Swedish I am. And

538
00:38:42,119 --> 00:38:45,960
I'd like to catfish my birth mother, Like I was like, if you're

539
00:38:46,039 --> 00:38:51,480
connected in DNAs, there's gonna be
a relative who didn't know, there's gonna

540
00:38:51,480 --> 00:38:54,480
be a cousin or something. And
if anyone is hearing this and horrified.

541
00:38:54,599 --> 00:38:59,440
Like let's say you gave up a
child and you're like, whoa, they

542
00:38:59,599 --> 00:39:02,960
do not come after me child I
gave away. I want to be clear,

543
00:39:04,039 --> 00:39:10,440
I didn't want I wanted a picture
like I didn't want I wasn't owed

544
00:39:10,519 --> 00:39:15,119
anything. It was really generous.
What she did really generous. Imagine going

545
00:39:15,119 --> 00:39:21,159
through the birth process and gifting a
baby to somebody can't have a baby.

546
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:27,400
I mean that is incredible, and
I I just kind of wanted to thank

547
00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:31,280
her, and then I just wanted
to like know, like who is this

548
00:39:31,320 --> 00:39:36,320
per Are we anything alike? I
always felt a little I love my family,

549
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,519
but I'm a little different from them, Like I'm kind of the Gonzo

550
00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:45,519
of the Muppets of my family.
Like they're quiet, they're reserve, They're

551
00:39:45,679 --> 00:39:51,880
kind of normal, right size,
nice thoughtful people, and I'm a little

552
00:39:52,039 --> 00:40:00,000
bouncing around in various ways. So
I was like, like, anyway,

553
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:02,599
so I twenty three to me and
I'm like here we go. You're spitting

554
00:40:02,599 --> 00:40:06,880
the thing and it's like yeah,
and like any email I got, you

555
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,480
know, DNA relatives, like yes, today's the day, and like it's

556
00:40:09,519 --> 00:40:16,039
always a six cousin, it's yeah, always, so we're all six cousins.

557
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:22,800
Everyone in the world useless. So
I got it was a couple of

558
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:27,079
years in and now I've met I've
met Brian, and I feel good in

559
00:40:27,119 --> 00:40:30,239
this relationship. I'm living my and
I'm just never going to meet my birth

560
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:32,719
mother right because I mean, I'm
just done with it. And but it's

561
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:36,679
still you know, like twenty three
me is out there and one day Brian

562
00:40:36,760 --> 00:40:44,679
are just sitting summer day, July
twenty eighteen, and I have a notification

563
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:49,039
and I didn't even check it that
much anymore, but I I looked and

564
00:40:49,039 --> 00:40:52,119
it was an email that said it
was a message that said, hey,

565
00:40:52,239 --> 00:40:54,599
I just got my results back and
it looks like I'm your half brother.

566
00:40:57,639 --> 00:41:00,880
Oh wow, And that's Jeremy.
And that's my half brother, Jeremy.

567
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:06,880
I have two half brothers, which
makes one whole brother, which is nice.

568
00:41:07,039 --> 00:41:10,599
But I have these I have the
two younger brothers, and we I

569
00:41:10,679 --> 00:41:19,000
connected with Jeremy. I was and
now there's so many moments of this experience

570
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:24,559
that are kind of wild, so
for one getting that message, but also

571
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:30,639
now and I'm trying to remember them
all because now I like I know him.

572
00:41:30,679 --> 00:41:36,039
But in that moment, I don't
know anything. Did he know he

573
00:41:36,119 --> 00:41:38,400
was related to? Is he mother
or father? Right? Is he?

574
00:41:38,679 --> 00:41:43,480
What side is he on? Is
this the weirdest day in the world for

575
00:41:43,599 --> 00:41:46,360
him or the worst thing? Like
we don't I don't know anything, and

576
00:41:46,639 --> 00:41:52,519
I don't know if he's crazy,
Like this is the internet. Like to

577
00:41:52,559 --> 00:41:55,880
be honest, I proceeded as if
internet dating, which is weird. He's

578
00:41:57,000 --> 00:42:00,559
my brother, but like I want
to love you and connect with you,

579
00:42:00,639 --> 00:42:04,800
but this is the Internet. And
then it's also like I don't want to

580
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:08,360
sound crazy because left like there's a
version of me that she's like, oh

581
00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:10,280
my god, who's my mother?
What is she? Like what you know?

582
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:15,679
And like don't do that. Yeah, So there was a real like

583
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:22,719
pumping the brakes and so I very
pedantically responded to his message in kind like

584
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:27,519
the same amount of syllables, you
know, like now like, oh my

585
00:42:27,559 --> 00:42:30,400
god, this is incredible paragraph paragraph. I just was, you know,

586
00:42:30,559 --> 00:42:34,199
like he wrote, hey, looks
like I was like, I wrote,

587
00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:38,039
like, wow, that's so interesting. Would you like to speak or something

588
00:42:38,159 --> 00:42:44,199
like just not whatever, like you
know, let's chat and did you know?

589
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:47,280
And then I looked at said maternal
haplow group. So I was like,

590
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:52,440
he's my half brother, we have
the same mother. Wow. And

591
00:42:52,519 --> 00:42:54,840
we messaged a little and he said, why don't you give me a call

592
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:58,960
if you want or we we didn't. It wasn't a call. He he

593
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:02,320
was like, if you want a
text? And we texted for hours,

594
00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:07,000
texted for hours and I'm crying and
like even when I got his message,

595
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:12,159
I just like turned the laptop to
Brian, and Brian gassed and he burst

596
00:43:12,199 --> 00:43:16,559
into tears. And then I just
you know, it came dinner time and

597
00:43:16,639 --> 00:43:19,320
like I was like, do you
mind if I keep texting? He was

598
00:43:19,360 --> 00:43:22,880
like, oh, I gotta go, Like and I just learned all about

599
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:25,440
his experience and this he didn't want
to get on the phone with you.

600
00:43:27,360 --> 00:43:30,760
It's I don't know how to describe
this to if you haven't been in that

601
00:43:30,840 --> 00:43:35,800
situation, other than to say it's
a lot, like I would not have

602
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:38,360
been able to talk to him,
like it's a lot. It's a lot

603
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:43,000
of like for one, you don't
you don't like, you don't want too

604
00:43:43,039 --> 00:43:50,320
much too soon because people are gonna
want money or faith or you just don't

605
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:54,400
know how anyone is. But we
just it was really very much a step

606
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:59,840
at a time and so, but
we texted and you know, I've screenshots

607
00:43:59,840 --> 00:44:07,440
of all the texts and he's funny, like I felt so connected to him

608
00:44:07,519 --> 00:44:14,480
so quick, Like he's like he
was like. I was like, I'm

609
00:44:14,519 --> 00:44:19,480
your big sister. I owe you
so many Christmas presents and noogies, and

610
00:44:19,519 --> 00:44:22,239
he was like, he was like, and I'm your little brother, I

611
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:27,800
owe you so many. Uh he
said, like tagging along with you and

612
00:44:27,800 --> 00:44:30,320
your friends to the mall and I'm
annoying, but really it's because I look

613
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:34,719
up to you, like awesome.
Yeah, your sense of humor, Yeah

614
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:38,960
he did that. Yeah, that's
amazing, amazing. It's amazing to hear

615
00:44:39,079 --> 00:44:45,079
from you too, because that immediately, and everyone in my my family that

616
00:44:45,119 --> 00:44:49,880
I've raised me is like, what
is wrong with you? And Jeremy was

617
00:44:50,239 --> 00:44:52,320
we were instantly like doing bits and
you know, I was like, Oh,

618
00:44:52,360 --> 00:44:54,119
what do you do for a living? I could tell you, but

619
00:44:54,159 --> 00:45:00,360
I'd have to kill you. He's
just like lovely, charming guy. And

620
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:04,440
so we texted and then so did
he grow up with your birth mother?

621
00:45:04,639 --> 00:45:08,480
Yeah? That's this woman who's the
biggest mystery of my life. Who is

622
00:45:08,519 --> 00:45:13,440
she? What is I mean?
And it's not Sally field, but that's

623
00:45:13,480 --> 00:45:19,800
just his mom, like a complete
non mystery. And our other my half

624
00:45:19,800 --> 00:45:22,119
brother, he's half brother to both
of it. There were three different dads

625
00:45:22,159 --> 00:45:28,000
and three kids, and we had
different dads, but they grew up together

626
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:34,679
brothers. Yeah, and so yeah, I got the whole story and we

627
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:39,960
but she had gone to she was
pregnant with me, excited, wanted to

628
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:45,159
have me, and then went then
the guy was not into it, and

629
00:45:45,440 --> 00:45:50,239
so she felt like she needed to
give me up for adoption for my sake,

630
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:53,280
but she didn't really want She wanted
me, and then she went to

631
00:45:53,320 --> 00:46:00,719
have me and then met Jeremy's dad
while in that process and then had him

632
00:46:00,760 --> 00:46:06,800
like a year later. So then
there was a weird thing of I connected

633
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:08,559
with Jeremy so much that I was
like, what if I had grown up

634
00:46:08,599 --> 00:46:13,800
with I mean my brother, but
like what if I had grown up with

635
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:19,400
some when we're the same and we're
but we could not have existed at the

636
00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:25,079
same time. Like she literally went
to go give me, have me and

637
00:46:25,159 --> 00:46:31,280
give me away and met his dad
and then that like we were sliding doors

638
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:35,840
or whatever. It's kind of wild, but you feel like you missed out

639
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:42,559
on growing up with Jeremy, and
no, that's it's an excellent question because

640
00:46:42,559 --> 00:46:45,599
I had those feelings of like,
oh, you know, like of course,

641
00:46:45,039 --> 00:46:49,199
look I'm a writer, like I'm
gonna go down all the what if

642
00:46:49,559 --> 00:46:53,599
right right, but in the whole
process, so and there's so much to

643
00:46:53,679 --> 00:47:04,360
it. I could talk another ten
hours about it, but yeah I can't.

644
00:47:04,679 --> 00:47:07,159
I'm like what do I include?
What do I not include? But

645
00:47:07,280 --> 00:47:10,679
essentially in the whole process. So
I met My, connected with Jeremy.

646
00:47:12,199 --> 00:47:15,400
After about a week, he said, hey, I have something for you

647
00:47:15,679 --> 00:47:19,800
and it was a phone number and
he said, mom is looking forward to

648
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:22,960
meeting you. Holy shit. Yeah, I had I had given up.

649
00:47:23,039 --> 00:47:25,800
Like even when I met Jeremy,
I was like, I'm not gonna bug

650
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:30,000
him. I was like, Jeremy's
enough and I just got to know je

651
00:47:30,159 --> 00:47:32,840
I have a little brother. This
is incredible. I immediately felt like a

652
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:37,480
big sister, you know, like
it was all of these very surprising feelings.

653
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:39,760
And then after about a week he
said, you know, you can

654
00:47:39,760 --> 00:47:44,360
connect with our mom. And you
know, now I realized very smartly he

655
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:47,559
was kind of vetting, you know, like as you should because Internet,

656
00:47:47,639 --> 00:47:53,360
we don't know, right, we
don't know who's unhinged or whatever. So

657
00:47:53,639 --> 00:48:02,400
I ended up meeting them, and
my grandmother was alive. She's one hundred

658
00:48:02,639 --> 00:48:07,880
years old. Well that's great jeans. It's pretty great jeans. And so

659
00:48:07,039 --> 00:48:10,880
I she called me one day,
so I Grandma called you. Grandma called

660
00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:15,400
you. I had connected with my
birth mother, Like, so you called

661
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:17,440
her? Yeah, I called the
birth I called my birth mother. You

662
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:23,079
were you so nervous I could not
speak for two hours. Jeremy texted me

663
00:48:23,159 --> 00:48:28,519
my birth mother's number. I was
working at a library in Los Angeles and

664
00:48:28,559 --> 00:48:31,039
I couldn't stop crying. So I
had to leave the library. I went

665
00:48:31,119 --> 00:48:35,519
home. I told Brian I had
my birth mother's phone number. He can't

666
00:48:35,519 --> 00:48:38,800
believe. He's gasping and crying too. And I just had to sit there

667
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:46,000
until I was able to speak.
And then I called voicemail. Yeah,

668
00:48:46,199 --> 00:48:50,719
it went to voicemail course, and
so, and I had this because I

669
00:48:50,760 --> 00:48:55,119
don't know if she wants For all
I really know is she didn't want to

670
00:48:55,119 --> 00:48:59,760
see me, and she didn't want
a relationship. And so I was like,

671
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:04,039
if I only have one chance to
say something to her, and I

672
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:07,280
left a message that was you know, I mean, what do you even

673
00:49:07,639 --> 00:49:10,760
Hey, it's Laura. Hey,
I came out of you maybe Rember.

674
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:14,440
I was like, I got I
think. I said, like I got

675
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:17,880
your number from Jeremy. What do
you? What do you? You grew

676
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:24,159
me inside of you and so but
I just I was like I just wanted

677
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:30,199
to say hello and you know,
meet you and and thank you. I

678
00:49:30,239 --> 00:49:34,400
just at least left it in that
message. If if she was like okay,

679
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:37,320
okay and not want to talk,
I was like, I wanted to

680
00:49:37,480 --> 00:49:39,239
say thank you and I wanted to
say that my whole life, and then

681
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:45,039
I did, and you don't want
to be like so okay bye and then

682
00:49:45,119 --> 00:49:46,760
go shit, I forgot to thank
her. Yeah, then you like call

683
00:49:46,840 --> 00:49:51,559
again and she's like seees it and
you're like, anyway, listen, I

684
00:49:51,599 --> 00:49:58,800
know I just called in Favrow and
swinger. Yeah, and she's like twenty

685
00:49:58,880 --> 00:50:01,000
five times, Brian's what are you
doing? I don't know, and I

686
00:50:01,079 --> 00:50:06,800
have to bring into her house and
and steal her phone and delete the message

687
00:50:06,840 --> 00:50:10,280
right now. Yeah. It was. It was so emotional and great and

688
00:50:10,639 --> 00:50:14,559
I get to know her and then
wait, so she calls you back.

689
00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:17,320
She called me back, and we
you're like very much burying the lead,

690
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:22,360
like you. You started this story
in the new Meet my birth mom.

691
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:25,639
But there's so many things, like
again, I really could talk about it

692
00:50:25,679 --> 00:50:30,239
for two hours. She calls you
back and you see the number come up,

693
00:50:30,320 --> 00:50:32,559
and they talked to her, and
she's nice. How long did you

694
00:50:32,599 --> 00:50:37,400
talk to her for? We didn't
talk long. She doesn't love to talk

695
00:50:37,440 --> 00:50:44,519
on the phone, but we talked
like ten minutes and just she's funny and

696
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:49,880
light and so she will acknowledge,
you know, she's she's like, I

697
00:50:50,280 --> 00:50:54,480
got to hold you one time,
and I I kissed you and prayed you

698
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:59,880
have a good life, and you
know, I'm so happy to know that

699
00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:06,159
you did, you know, Like
she always she told me she always wondered

700
00:51:06,199 --> 00:51:08,440
if she did the right thing,
you know, which of and I had

701
00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:14,360
never thought of that perspective. She
was like, I loved you and wanted

702
00:51:14,400 --> 00:51:21,039
you to have a wonderful family and
life, and now I know you have

703
00:51:21,440 --> 00:51:24,920
and that makes me happy. Like
that was basically her what she's saying.

704
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:30,400
And then she's also just kind of
making jokes and being silly, like,

705
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:36,719
you know, wow, I ended
up meeting So this was the crazy miracle.

706
00:51:37,320 --> 00:51:42,719
So of all the nose right of
the of the thing and then find

707
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:46,960
this. So this July twenty eighteen, I connect with Jeremy and then my

708
00:51:47,039 --> 00:51:57,039
birth mother. Here's what happened.
I my grandmother called me. Her mother

709
00:51:57,199 --> 00:52:01,760
called me and said, look,
I'm one hundred. I don't wait for

710
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:05,880
things. My daughter can be a
little shy about things. But I want

711
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:09,920
to meet you. I want to
fly you and your fiancee to our town

712
00:52:10,119 --> 00:52:15,000
to take Texas and I would like
to meet you. Would you like to

713
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:17,159
do that? And I'm just bawling. And she told me very similar to

714
00:52:17,159 --> 00:52:20,639
mothers. She said, I got
to hold you one time. She said,

715
00:52:20,639 --> 00:52:25,079
I've said a prayer for you every
year on your birthday. Oh she

716
00:52:25,159 --> 00:52:30,039
said every year on March twenty first, and I was like, it's March

717
00:52:30,159 --> 00:52:37,039
twentieth, but okay, she's old. I was imagine if you corrected much

718
00:52:37,159 --> 00:52:40,719
the twentieth, you tis like anyway. But I sat there because she was

719
00:52:40,760 --> 00:52:44,400
like, I got to hold you
one time, and I just I was

720
00:52:44,599 --> 00:52:49,079
so blown away by, like what
had to happen. She knew me when

721
00:52:49,119 --> 00:52:54,599
I'm like an hour old and now
I'm fifty. When I talked to her

722
00:52:54,719 --> 00:53:00,360
or whatever, and I was like, internet had to be invented. Cell

723
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:08,440
phones had to be invented, DNA
testing, and like every aeroplanes exactly fourteen

724
00:53:08,679 --> 00:53:15,800
right, It was just but just
everything that went into this cars moment exactly

725
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:23,079
electricity, you have our route,
but it is it was like so wild

726
00:53:23,119 --> 00:53:28,119
of like it was these modern things
that kind of made it all, you

727
00:53:28,159 --> 00:53:35,119
know, hot. And so here's
what so she's I said, so September.

728
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:39,239
We basically I said, look,
I already am going to Texas in

729
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:44,199
September. How is this date?
Because I was going to visit my dad,

730
00:53:44,320 --> 00:53:52,360
and so I did tickets to Texas. I Jeremy lives in Florida,

731
00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:57,679
and I had a gig for the
next month in Florida. And I reached

732
00:53:57,679 --> 00:54:00,880
out to Jeremy and said, hey, this is way too soon. I

733
00:54:00,920 --> 00:54:02,719
feel free to say no, but
I'm gonna be in Florida doing a sho

734
00:54:02,800 --> 00:54:07,039
He's like, we're there. So
and then I had and I never have

735
00:54:07,199 --> 00:54:09,960
this, but I had a stand
up gig. So that was Florida was

736
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:14,639
stand up. I had a stand
up gig in Indianapolis. Guess where my

737
00:54:14,760 --> 00:54:19,599
other little brother lives ten minutes away
from the venue. Wow. So in

738
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:28,159
three months I already had tickets to
all the places where my family, my

739
00:54:28,199 --> 00:54:30,920
biological family lived. I met them
all in like three months. I met

740
00:54:31,000 --> 00:54:39,360
cousins and cousin Laurel, and aunts
and uncles and I everyone. I remember

741
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:43,559
seeing a lot of this unfold on
Facebook. Yes, I was posting it.

742
00:54:43,639 --> 00:54:45,920
I've never had so many likes,
and everyone's like, I'm crying.

743
00:54:45,960 --> 00:54:49,800
I'm you're crying. No, I'm
everyone's crying, and You're like, I

744
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:52,519
got another family member. Hey,
sorry, I know it's a lot of

745
00:54:52,519 --> 00:54:55,320
family members, but this is my
cousin so and so. It was wild

746
00:54:55,679 --> 00:55:00,159
and what I love is like a
lot of my life I've been. I

747
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:04,760
wasn't like goth, but I was
just like a cynical gen x, like

748
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:08,920
whatever, that's like kind of vibe
that's stupid or like a little And this

749
00:55:09,000 --> 00:55:15,400
was so heart opening sweet. It's
just a beautiful story. Because I message

750
00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:20,760
my birth mother all the time like
we're friends. And Jeremy I went and

751
00:55:20,880 --> 00:55:24,840
stayed with him. It's been a
week with him and I and I I

752
00:55:24,880 --> 00:55:30,039
bought at the airport a totally eighties
jigsaw puzzle because we didn't get to have

753
00:55:30,679 --> 00:55:37,280
our childhood together and like, so
we just do I buy him ice cream

754
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:39,960
when I see, I just try
to do kid Like we picked out a

755
00:55:40,000 --> 00:55:45,639
Christmas tree together and we you know, we just incredible. I love them

756
00:55:45,679 --> 00:55:49,280
like we love. There's just love
there. Like when I thought it was

757
00:55:49,320 --> 00:55:53,199
like, oh, something's wrong with
me or my life began with my Dickensian

758
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:58,960
tragedy, and it's like no,
like I was literally wrong about my own

759
00:55:59,039 --> 00:56:01,840
existence. They were like, we've
loved you the whole time. And my

760
00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:06,920
parents, you asked, did this
make me feel like did I miss out?

761
00:56:07,280 --> 00:56:10,119
I got to see my family in
a new way of how much they

762
00:56:10,159 --> 00:56:15,880
loved me, and it kind of
ruined my comedy career, to be honest,

763
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:22,280
because it was like, oh,
I'm very, very loved, and

764
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:25,679
I didn't really ruin your comedy career. But speaking of your comedy career,

765
00:56:25,760 --> 00:56:29,960
you're doing a show, a regular
show once a month. Yes, I

766
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:35,239
have a show called Party On that's
at a great comedy club called the Crow

767
00:56:35,519 --> 00:56:38,800
in Santa Monica and it's the first
Sunday of every month, and it's it

768
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:43,119
started out as booze sober, but
nobody just has one issue. So it's

769
00:56:43,159 --> 00:56:47,840
comedians in all kinds of recovery and
the audiences and all kinds of Recovery and

770
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:55,119
like it's so funny and soul thriving
and it's an odd yeah, like legit

771
00:56:55,280 --> 00:57:00,599
headliner comic, great comedy and also
like Recovery Center. You know, they

772
00:57:00,599 --> 00:57:02,920
talk about other things, but we
hit we hit that and where else can

773
00:57:02,920 --> 00:57:07,360
we find you? Do you have
anything to promote laurahouse dot com? Oh

774
00:57:07,360 --> 00:57:09,960
and we didn't. We haven't.
In this episode talked about our podcast,

775
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:14,719
Yeah, and my podcast Tiny Victories. It's on comes through Maximum Fun,

776
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:19,079
but it's on all the outlets and
we I do it with New York Times

777
00:57:19,079 --> 00:57:24,639
bestselling author Annabelle Gurwich and we celebrate
little wins. It's a fifteen minute podcast,

778
00:57:24,679 --> 00:57:29,599
so you can definitely put it on
your list of faves. Amazing,

779
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:32,239
Laura. I can't thank you enough. It was so nice to me.

780
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:36,599
It was a pleasure. Yeah,
such a pleasure. Everybody. I want

781
00:57:36,599 --> 00:57:42,360
to go go back to the third
episode from the beginning of that, because

782
00:57:42,519 --> 00:57:45,800
I mean, amazing, amazing,
And before we completely go, let's give

783
00:57:45,840 --> 00:57:52,960
a shout out to our our fabulous
yeah people. Yeah, like Aaron Land.

784
00:57:52,559 --> 00:57:57,880
Oh, and Rachel is still a
newcomer. Randy May aims she's got

785
00:57:57,920 --> 00:58:01,519
a lot of names Laurie's gory.
That's gonna be so killer when it's like

786
00:58:01,599 --> 00:58:07,599
Halloween, Nikki call your girl,
Ashley, you're so chic. Leslie is

787
00:58:07,639 --> 00:58:13,920
a cost of people. Yeah,
it's I mean, Crowley, we love

788
00:58:14,000 --> 00:58:17,960
you and you're not that Growley now
very listen on our zoom. Yeah.

789
00:58:19,000 --> 00:58:23,039
And Rita rocks that bastinet full of
Elizabeth Williamson's seven kids. Not at the

790
00:58:23,039 --> 00:58:27,880
same time she takes turns Hero.
Everybody loves you. All your kids love

791
00:58:27,880 --> 00:58:30,320
you. Athena, we love your
dancing, Polly, we live your pancakes,

792
00:58:30,400 --> 00:58:37,760
Valerie Bubba Fenwick want it was on
our zoom Yeah. And Katerina she

793
00:58:38,079 --> 00:58:42,880
really does need to check her moller. She missed a couple of them.

794
00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:46,800
Yeah, uh, and miss you
and Gabby, Well they're alive and well

795
00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:52,880
from what I've seen, I found
out, Well he's hot. He's asked.

796
00:58:52,079 --> 00:58:58,119
Rebecca lup and horrible. Kelly Bryant's
not your aunt, but she will

797
00:58:58,119 --> 00:59:01,440
take you to hip hop class.
Yeah. Yeah, Alicia from the City

798
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:09,000
of Money, Leslie, stop Cope's
ridiculous, sarah My buyes on. Yeah,

799
00:59:09,079 --> 00:59:13,000
Jennifer, get up, Sandra,
It's not easy being green. Where

800
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:19,039
were you on our Zoos, Sandra
Christa, you make me wan and Stephanie's

801
00:59:19,079 --> 00:59:23,840
a stinker wrinker. Also, Adam
Learner can get you a car. He

802
00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:29,000
has a website. It's called Adam's
Got a Car. Is it called Adam's

803
00:59:29,039 --> 00:59:31,559
Got a Car? Hold on,
it's called Yeah Adams Got a Car dot

804
00:59:31,559 --> 00:59:37,039
com. His numbers three one zero
nine nine eight seven zero four eight.

805
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He's awesome. He's a car broker. He will find you the best deal

806
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on a lease, on a used
car, on whatever you want on a

807
00:59:45,000 --> 00:59:47,320
new car. If you want to
buy, you get it. You've heard

808
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:52,880
me talk about it before. Adam
Lerner. Also one more before we go,

809
00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:59,039
Maren from Sugar Skull for all of
August. She wants to change her

810
00:59:59,039 --> 01:00:04,679
shout out. You know, she's
in Hawaii and she wants to talk about

811
01:00:04,679 --> 01:00:10,119
the Maui Strong Fund for the Hawaii
Community Foundation. So we love you for

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that. That's amazing, man.
So what you want to do is go

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to Hawaii Community Foundation dot org backslash
Maui Dash Strong and help the people of

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Hawaii. And that's so kind of
you to give that your shout out for

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that. And one more Kelly willman
frieda love them great food check out the

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great Brunch they're in Palm Springs and
Palm Dessert They have homemade English muffins and

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pop tarts and yeah, oh my
gosh yeah and mentioned for crying out loud,

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and you'll get a free latte or
a mimosa. All right, thanks

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again, Laura, thank you.
Kaylin you you're a parent now, don't a