1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:15,919 Made Destang have Pace Sunny Sun on Ihdurasione night. So Nat, what's up 2 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:19,359 everybody? It's for crying out loud. Stephane and I are having a good 3 00:00:19,359 --> 00:00:23,359 old time in studio. We are, we are laughing at We're warmed up. 4 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:27,679 We we I think we delivered a pretty great Patreon Yes we did. 5 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:31,079 I say we. I shouldn't take ownership of it. We did it together. 6 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:38,600 Lynnette gave a great update yeh yeah on what life is like. Yes 7 00:00:38,679 --> 00:00:41,039 now, yeah, you have to tune in. Yeah, you'll have to 8 00:00:41,079 --> 00:00:47,000 tune in for that for sure. And then we recorded our guest episode with 9 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:51,719 Josh Dean, who was really one of the co founders of Campside Media, 10 00:00:52,079 --> 00:00:56,679 which is a big podcast company. They've done a lot of huge shows that 11 00:00:56,759 --> 00:01:00,399 all of us have loved, like Hollywood con Queen. Yeah, they have 12 00:01:00,439 --> 00:01:06,959 a show called Hooked, they have a child Wild Boys, White Devil White 13 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:11,560 Devil's out now. Yeah, And we talked to him for like almost an 14 00:01:11,560 --> 00:01:15,480 hour just oh and he was our We've talked about this before, but he 15 00:01:15,200 --> 00:01:22,319 was a journalist who did a very deep dive on the Alisa Lamb story, 16 00:01:22,359 --> 00:01:26,400 which was the woman in the elevator at the Cecil Hotel that ended up in 17 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:29,519 the water tank. Yes, we talked about Oh it was such a good 18 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:33,159 episode, so good. Yeah, it was really interesting. Yeah, I 19 00:01:33,200 --> 00:01:37,879 love the Hollywood con Queen stuff talk was that was really cool. Yeah, 20 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:40,719 you guys have to check it out. This is one thing I love about 21 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:45,159 having a podcast is you know, and a successful podcast is that you can 22 00:01:45,719 --> 00:01:49,079 you know. I mean, I guess anybody with a podcast could just call 23 00:01:49,159 --> 00:01:51,799 somebody up and be like, I want to interview you. But it helps 24 00:01:51,799 --> 00:01:56,280 if you have a show that actually has listeners that can help, you know, 25 00:01:56,400 --> 00:01:57,840 Yeah, because then when you reach out, you feel like, oh, 26 00:01:57,879 --> 00:02:02,439 listen, I want to turn our audience ont you, but also secretly, 27 00:02:02,799 --> 00:02:06,000 I just want to talk to the person right now. It's a win 28 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:09,080 win for everybody. Yes, yeah it is. It's really cool. Well 29 00:02:09,159 --> 00:02:16,319 let's say hello to our fun Patreon people like Aaron Dirty Sanchez, She's Dirty, 30 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:23,080 and Sarah Stefano That's my girl. And Stephanie Stinker Rinker who is you 31 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:27,639 know what. I don't know if she's if she's back on for the shout, 32 00:02:27,719 --> 00:02:30,919 but like let's do let's shout with the Trevor Project for her Trevor Project 33 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:37,919 an amazing, very helpful charity for lgbt Q I A plus rights right, 34 00:02:38,319 --> 00:02:40,280 you know, not to add too many letters. I don't even know what 35 00:02:40,319 --> 00:02:46,800 they all stand for. But listen, that community needs a great organizing support. 36 00:02:46,840 --> 00:02:52,240 It's a great organization. And Leslie with the coughing still she's still coughing. 37 00:02:52,319 --> 00:02:55,199 No, COVID's still around, it is. It's snuck back in there 38 00:02:55,240 --> 00:03:00,439 too. It's snuck back in yeah boy. And also our other Leslie who's 39 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:05,199 accosting people. Yeah, I think she was out literally in front of our 40 00:03:05,240 --> 00:03:07,360 podcast. Oh yeah, trying to get to Josh Dina. We were like 41 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:14,159 psych he was on zoom right, so didn't need security. Alicia Escalante, 42 00:03:14,479 --> 00:03:17,879 Yes, scar Girl, Kelly Brandt, she'll take you. Yeah, baccye 43 00:03:17,879 --> 00:03:23,840 Opener show cute it, Sean Vape, Holy shit. And Gabby and Missy 44 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:28,759 wooh those girls man, you know, you never know where they're gonna turn 45 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:34,000 up. And Katerina you know, I had eye surgery which I'll tell you 46 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:38,680 about, but she just had tooth surgery for her Yeah. And Valerie Bubba 47 00:03:38,680 --> 00:03:40,919 Fenwick kids out of the Park and Polly we love those pancakes. Just had 48 00:03:40,919 --> 00:03:46,360 pancakes this morning. With Missus Butterworth and Athena Ginschard We love your dancing. 49 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:52,879 And Elizabeth Williamson you're just I saw a picture of you on out given Mama 50 00:03:52,879 --> 00:03:59,439 Bear hugs her Facebook love you Elizabeth and Rita rock Sabasinette with all of Elizabeth's 51 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:04,120 kids. She's out doing the Lord's work. Jacob is so Growley and Nikki 52 00:04:04,199 --> 00:04:06,879 call your girl? And Aaron who it is? And Katie's rolling on E 53 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:13,120 and Kelly ooh, Laddie dah and Ashley's chic and Dick is frolicking uh and 54 00:04:13,319 --> 00:04:16,000 Chris Dick at the strap and Sandra's not easy being green and Jennifer get up 55 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:20,959 now, girl, Yes, stand up straight. I don't know where I 56 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:28,120 think I'm throwing this since we're gonna have some shouts at the end. Yes, 57 00:04:28,560 --> 00:04:33,360 yeah, So how is well? How is your weekend? Okay? 58 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:38,920 And how is your surgery? So? I had eye surgery for my strabismus. 59 00:04:39,120 --> 00:04:43,120 Yes, that word is so funny. It is funny. What's up 60 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:48,360 stra business? Get out of my strabismus? It's so stupid. And every 61 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,920 time when I was at the pre op, you know, they kept going, 62 00:04:51,959 --> 00:04:56,319 okay, so you're here for I started you know, for eyes. 63 00:04:56,399 --> 00:05:00,199 Yeah, and i'd have to be like strabismus every time. It made me 64 00:05:00,279 --> 00:05:05,319 kind of chuckle. Yeah, I am in pain right now. Yeah. 65 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:12,199 So, and my eyes are just dark red. She looks like she's You 66 00:05:12,199 --> 00:05:15,160 don't even look high. You look like you've been swimming in a swimming pool 67 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:18,079 for a long time. Yes, that's why. That's why I think. 68 00:05:18,120 --> 00:05:21,279 You know, when you see kids like even you're like when kids been in 69 00:05:21,319 --> 00:05:25,920 the pool all day and their eyes are just swollen and red. Yeah, 70 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,560 that's what that's what I look like. I forgot to tell Josh that I'm 71 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:33,560 not stoned that I don't know if he could see you can't tell, Okay, 72 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:36,639 all right, so I can barely see from here. So this is 73 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:41,120 how we did it. I think you're gonna I think you're going to relate 74 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:44,480 to this. So John was going to take me for the surgery. I 75 00:05:44,519 --> 00:05:49,199 had to be there at seven fifteen am. And you and I are I 76 00:05:49,199 --> 00:05:51,959 think a lot alike in this way. Yeah, a little bit scrappy. 77 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:56,560 Yeah. I was like, you know, the dog needs to get walked 78 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,439 and fed and blah blah blah. And I was like, you don't want 79 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:01,399 to just be parked on a street in Beverly Hills waiting for me. You 80 00:06:01,439 --> 00:06:08,399 can't wait in the building anymore because of COVID, even though it's a hoax. 81 00:06:08,480 --> 00:06:13,839 But so I said to John, why don't I just uber to the 82 00:06:13,959 --> 00:06:17,079 place and then you just come get me later when they they'll call you and 83 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:20,800 say she's like thirty minutes out, come get her, you know. And 84 00:06:20,879 --> 00:06:25,000 he was like, ah, no, I'm going to take you there. 85 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:29,199 And I was like, but why should we both suffer? Why should you 86 00:06:29,199 --> 00:06:30,680 know, get to get up, got to leave the house by six point 87 00:06:30,680 --> 00:06:35,000 thirty to get there at seventy eighteen. How do you get hurt? You're 88 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:41,439 not the one who needs strabismus surgery. When he had his surgery, which 89 00:06:41,519 --> 00:06:45,199 was a couple of years ago, I went and took I had to take 90 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,279 the kids to school, so I then drove over. So he ubered, 91 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,639 and then I drove over and waited, and I ended up parked on the 92 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:58,639 streets of Beverly Hills, the streets of Beverly Hills for hours waiting for him. 93 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,000 I was like, you don't just because they don't learn, they don't 94 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:04,199 tell you like what time you're going to be done or anything like that, 95 00:07:04,319 --> 00:07:09,399 Okay, no, and then John's kept getting postponed, so he was supposed 96 00:07:09,439 --> 00:07:12,839 he was like supposed to be up next, but then it was like somebody 97 00:07:12,879 --> 00:07:16,360 went along, so he didn't even get started until later, right, so 98 00:07:16,519 --> 00:07:19,240 I don't think I was able to pick him up. And I rushed over 99 00:07:19,279 --> 00:07:24,160 there from the kid's school, so I was like, just just come get 100 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:26,680 me when they tell you that I'm almost ready, and he was like, 101 00:07:27,920 --> 00:07:30,360 I mean, if you're sure. I was like, I just think that's 102 00:07:30,399 --> 00:07:33,680 better. But then I talked to a couple of my friends beforehand and they 103 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:35,959 were like, okay, so like what time are you going? And I 104 00:07:35,959 --> 00:07:39,040 was like, oh, I'm going to uber over there, and then they 105 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:43,160 were like absolutely not, I'm going to take you. What is with our 106 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:46,560 Like I have friends the same way, Like I've had procedures and stuff, 107 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:51,079 and it's like I'm just gonna take an uber and it's like absolutely not. 108 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:55,839 It's like, okay, relax, I know you're a great friend, but 109 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:59,279 like I'm okay, you can get me an uber and get dropped off, 110 00:07:59,519 --> 00:08:03,160 right. Why does everybody have to drop everything come get us? And also 111 00:08:03,279 --> 00:08:07,720 where are those people when you coming into the airport exactly when you really need 112 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:09,199 them. I know, you know, save you a lot of money. 113 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:13,680 Yeah, picked up nowhere to be nowhere to be found. No, no, 114 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,600 but yeah, suddenly my friend and I have this my friend Cecily, 115 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:22,800 who's like my really good friend, my two bestie Jewish mom friends, Cecily 116 00:08:22,879 --> 00:08:26,279 and Laura. Both of them were like, it's so it's so so sweet. 117 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:30,639 It is to see so far from like how I am because I don't 118 00:08:30,639 --> 00:08:33,519 do that in return, Like I'm not going to be the one that's gonna 119 00:08:33,519 --> 00:08:35,519 be like absolutely not. Like if you tell me you're going to uber somewhere, 120 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:39,440 I'm like, all right, good for you. I'm not the person 121 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:43,000 that's gonna be like absolutely not. I am getting up at six am and 122 00:08:43,039 --> 00:08:46,799 I'm gonna come get you right right. So I had to just be like 123 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:52,679 no, no, no. Plus I was like John would be so offended. 124 00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:54,840 I was like, well, Cecily is going to take me to my 125 00:08:54,919 --> 00:08:58,519 surgery. He'd be like what I told you I would take of course, 126 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:01,000 I want to, you know, and then he feels So I was like, 127 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:07,559 everybody just calmed down from ubering there. So I Uber there. Well, 128 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:13,080 I gave the uber driver the I thought I gave him the address, 129 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:18,759 but I must have just put in the place. So we get there and 130 00:09:18,799 --> 00:09:22,120 it's not it's not the right place, and he part but like it was 131 00:09:22,159 --> 00:09:24,679 in Beverly Hills. So he parks and he's like, here you go, 132 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:28,360 yeah, and I was like, hmm, not, no, this is 133 00:09:28,399 --> 00:09:33,399 not where I'm going. And then, of course I haven't had this problem 134 00:09:33,399 --> 00:09:37,120 with an uber before. You know, I have limited Uber experience as it 135 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:39,799 is, ever since I was in New York for the book, though, 136 00:09:39,879 --> 00:09:43,799 I have more Uber experience. So but I was like, I don't know 137 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:48,000 how this works now, Like do I pay him extra in cash? Do 138 00:09:48,039 --> 00:09:50,440 I offer him a bigger tip? But I was like no, I don't 139 00:09:50,480 --> 00:09:56,519 know, Like I know it's it was the Beverly Hills Surgical Center. It 140 00:09:56,559 --> 00:10:01,919 was actually called Specialty Surgical Center of Beverly Hills. Well it was only zero 141 00:10:01,919 --> 00:10:05,799 point three miles apart. But you know, now we're in this sort of 142 00:10:05,799 --> 00:10:11,559 a standoff because I don't want to get out of the car, Like what 143 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:15,639 am I going to walk? I was like, well, this just take 144 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:18,399 me to this yeah, so he did, but it was it was very 145 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:22,679 awkward a couple of minutes because he's like, but this is what you told 146 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:24,399 me, like, this is the destination, and I was like, yeah, 147 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:28,159 no, I totally see that. I think this is my bad. 148 00:10:28,480 --> 00:10:31,200 I was like, I should have probably put in the actual street address. 149 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:35,840 I said, I know we're close, so and then he's like, well, 150 00:10:35,879 --> 00:10:37,360 I can't get my Google maps to work or whatever. I was like, 151 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:41,559 okay, let me wraise it old school, you know. So I 152 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:43,600 put it in and then I go, okay, we're literally point three miles 153 00:10:43,639 --> 00:10:48,720 away. Can you just take me there? I mean yeah, and the 154 00:10:48,799 --> 00:10:52,039 same difference. So he did, yeah, and then I tipped him twenty 155 00:10:52,039 --> 00:10:56,480 percent, which I hope was yeah, that's good of thanked me. But 156 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:01,519 I was like, I noticed, for some reason, I looked at my 157 00:11:01,639 --> 00:11:05,440 Uber rating and it is not five stars. Oh really, it's like four 158 00:11:05,480 --> 00:11:11,720 point six, which I can't imagine that somebody gave me a Like what could 159 00:11:11,720 --> 00:11:16,519 I possibly have done in an Uber? Maybe because you haven't used it that 160 00:11:16,679 --> 00:11:18,320 much. I don't know. I don't know how that worked. But if 161 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:22,200 everybody that you have a ride with gives you five stars, I always give 162 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:26,600 a good tip. I've never argued with an uber driver or tried to smoke 163 00:11:26,639 --> 00:11:31,120 a cigarette or I've never I mean there, I can't imagine a reason at 164 00:11:31,159 --> 00:11:35,679 our four points. I haven't checked my uber rating. Yeah, I was 165 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:37,840 annoyed. I was like, I wish I could find the person like didn't 166 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:45,720 give me at It's like a book with somebody like needed an editor, right, 167 00:11:45,919 --> 00:11:48,320 I mean I don't know. But anyway, Okay, So the night, 168 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:52,200 so I get to my I get to the right place, I go 169 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:56,360 in, I'm waiting around, uh and then they you know, I'm by 170 00:11:56,399 --> 00:12:01,440 myself, and I'm wondering if anybody feels sorry for me. And I was 171 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:03,799 like, maybe this was a bad idea. Maybe I look like I have 172 00:12:03,879 --> 00:12:11,399 no friends or family. All the nurses yeah, so they take me back. 173 00:12:11,960 --> 00:12:13,720 You have to get completely undressed, and I have to say. I 174 00:12:13,759 --> 00:12:18,399 was like, it's eye surgery. Why do you have to get to my 175 00:12:18,480 --> 00:12:20,159 boobs? Right? Why do I have to take my bra? Yeah? 176 00:12:20,159 --> 00:12:24,080 I don't get that. But then I was like, Okay, I suppose 177 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:28,679 if there's a medical emergency and they you know, because you're under general anesthetia, 178 00:12:28,080 --> 00:12:31,440 then they need nothing. They need to be able to get to your 179 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:33,120 heart. But I was like, you know what not taking my underwear off? 180 00:12:33,759 --> 00:12:37,279 Right? They wanted you to take your underwear off. Well, they 181 00:12:37,279 --> 00:12:41,200 said, take everything off and then put on this gown. But I was 182 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:46,639 like, why could you possibly need with my vagina? No, like, 183 00:12:46,919 --> 00:12:54,440 there's no need for the bush to just be But there's just no possible scenario 184 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:58,240 that I can create in my mind where you would need access to my cross 185 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:03,120 right right. So it's like, just keep on a need to know basis. 186 00:13:03,159 --> 00:13:05,120 If you have to find out the hard way that I'm wearing underwear and 187 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:07,559 I shouldn't have been, then I'll worry about that later. You know, 188 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:11,399 I leave the underwear on it. Do you take the bra off? Good 189 00:13:11,399 --> 00:13:16,799 for you? You will? So then anyway, So then the anesthesiologist comes 190 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:22,200 in, and you know, of course, and I'm making jokes. My 191 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:28,840 doctor pops by and I'm like, is there any way that while you're taking 192 00:13:28,879 --> 00:13:31,600 care of the eyes that you could do something with the wrinkles? Like you 193 00:13:31,759 --> 00:13:35,559 while you're there? And luckily he was kind of funny. Yeah. Oh. 194 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:39,440 Then you know what they do a lot is they go do you have 195 00:13:39,919 --> 00:13:43,320 do you have a ride home? Like they ask you that on multiple forms, 196 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:48,039 you know, so kind of as a joke. Later, I was 197 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,879 like, does anybody ever like, do you ever get this far in? 198 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:56,159 And somebody's like ride home? No, what I mean you know? And 199 00:13:56,200 --> 00:14:00,600 the guy goes, this is the nurse. His name is James who he 200 00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:05,399 was like, you would be surprised, and how really show up tell people 201 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:09,080 that they have a ride. And then we get to this point and they 202 00:14:09,159 --> 00:14:11,000 say like, no, I'm just gonna uber And then he's like and then 203 00:14:11,039 --> 00:14:16,120 we have to say, no, you're not. You know I tried that 204 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:20,080 you did, yes. So I don't know if you remember. It was 205 00:14:20,399 --> 00:14:26,360 like I think like five years by now ago when I it was like New 206 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:33,399 Year's Eve and I had I was just bleeding a lot. Yeah. And 207 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:37,919 then then like the next day, Wendy was in town and she's like, 208 00:14:37,919 --> 00:14:41,039 you got to go to the hospital. You're bleeding too much. I even 209 00:14:41,080 --> 00:14:43,000 called Drew and he was like, you can't be losing that much blood. 210 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:46,480 Anyway, I went to the hospital. I went to the emergency room. 211 00:14:46,559 --> 00:14:50,960 They admitted me. They admitted me, and then I had to have like 212 00:14:52,039 --> 00:14:56,519 two blood transfusions and then an emergency surgery. And this was this was like 213 00:14:56,960 --> 00:15:03,360 I think like a couple months before wore the hysterectomy. So I was in 214 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:09,000 the and so anyway, Wendy dropped me off and she left. She got 215 00:15:09,039 --> 00:15:11,240 picked up to go to the airport because she was leaving town. Oh yeah, 216 00:15:11,279 --> 00:15:15,960 so I was by myself and she was crying. She didn't want to 217 00:15:16,039 --> 00:15:18,200 leave me because I mean it was kind of scary, like, you know, 218 00:15:18,279 --> 00:15:24,919 my blood level dropped really low. I have blood transfusing and Adam was, 219 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:28,120 you know, working or whatever, and so I was like, I 220 00:15:28,159 --> 00:15:31,360 wasn't planning on being here, and they're like, well, we have to 221 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,720 do an emergency surgery. And I was like and then like do you have 222 00:15:33,759 --> 00:15:35,879 a ride? And I was like, oh, I ca an Uber and 223 00:15:35,879 --> 00:15:39,960 they're like, no, you can't. And I was like, well, 224 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:43,440 I'm gonna be fine, Like let me just recover in the room and then 225 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,360 I'll get up and I'll just roll into an Uber. Like what's the problem. 226 00:15:46,399 --> 00:15:48,480 They're like, Nope, absolutely not. So I had to call it 227 00:15:48,559 --> 00:15:54,039 Olga. She picked me up. I do totally remember that. Yeah. 228 00:15:54,120 --> 00:16:00,039 Yeah, so it is, yeah, because the Uber company can't be responsible. 229 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:03,799 Yeah, because when you're growing up. Yeah. Also, just you're 230 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:07,879 you're going to be totally out of it and then some they're handing you off 231 00:16:07,919 --> 00:16:11,159 to people that haven't really been background checked, right, you know, yeah, 232 00:16:11,159 --> 00:16:15,879 and somebody responsible that you're giving your permission for. Yeah, I mean 233 00:16:15,919 --> 00:16:18,279 I get it makes sense, of course, but I guess there's a lot 234 00:16:18,320 --> 00:16:22,080 of people that that happens to that they don't have a ride, right, 235 00:16:22,080 --> 00:16:25,240 And then they say, well, then you can't have the surgery, or 236 00:16:25,399 --> 00:16:30,279 we can arrange for a medical transport for you, but that's going to cost 237 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,600 some more, probably costs a lot of money. Yeah, but yeah. 238 00:16:33,679 --> 00:16:37,279 So then so then I was trying that as a joke on Like the next 239 00:16:37,279 --> 00:16:41,120 person that asked me if I had a ride, I was like, oh, 240 00:16:41,279 --> 00:16:42,919 I go now, I'll figure it out later. And then they were 241 00:16:42,919 --> 00:16:45,519 like you can't, and I'm like, I'm just kidding. I'm just making 242 00:16:45,519 --> 00:16:52,720 a joke. So so anyway, then the anesthesiologist was really trying to be 243 00:16:52,759 --> 00:16:56,799 a jokester. Like I know, I'm making it sound like I was being 244 00:16:56,799 --> 00:16:59,960 a little obnoxious, but you know, this was between a lot of honest 245 00:17:00,159 --> 00:17:03,440 answering questions, right, and then I would try to joke around with the 246 00:17:03,519 --> 00:17:07,000 nurse. But the anesthesiologists, I don't know what it is with anesthesiologists, 247 00:17:08,720 --> 00:17:12,839 they really are all like wish they could have been stand up comment. I 248 00:17:14,039 --> 00:17:18,000 know, is it too? What is that? I have so many jokes 249 00:17:18,039 --> 00:17:21,680 and a lot of them stock Like I'm like, listen, buddy, I 250 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:23,799 was a stand up comedian, Like I know, a stock like a hack 251 00:17:23,880 --> 00:17:27,759 line that you've got everybody when I hear one, right right right? No, 252 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:32,839 I noticed that too. What is that? I had a guy uh 253 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:37,079 anesthesiologist, and he would like all he did was trying to make and I 254 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:41,839 appreciated that he was trying to lighten the mood and like put me at ease. 255 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:45,000 That's how I took it, right of course, Like his jokes were 256 00:17:45,079 --> 00:17:49,359 just like dumb and hackney and like just like it was just like what are 257 00:17:49,359 --> 00:17:52,680 you doing? Like and then it's like, let's get a little serious here 258 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:56,319 because I'm about to go put under and like I don't want you getting distracted 259 00:17:56,400 --> 00:18:00,640 trying to tell me you're you know the joke you just worked out last night, 260 00:18:00,880 --> 00:18:03,799 right, you know, yes, exactly, So yeah, I don't 261 00:18:03,839 --> 00:18:07,519 get it. Yeah, I don't know. It's funny that you had the 262 00:18:07,559 --> 00:18:11,160 same experience. Did I ever tell you about the time when I was giving 263 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:17,640 birth to the twins? So I'm in the getting the antithesiologist is in there. 264 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:21,880 There are so many people in the room. It's a it's a very 265 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:25,640 serious situation. The twins were coming at thirty three weeks and five days. 266 00:18:25,759 --> 00:18:30,359 It was it wasn't it was an emergency cesarean in the way that I had 267 00:18:30,359 --> 00:18:34,240 gone to the high risk doctor like that morning and they said, you have 268 00:18:34,279 --> 00:18:37,119 to go have the babies right now. So it was a yeah, it 269 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:41,319 wasn't like Mary put you under, rip the babies out, but it was 270 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:45,759 like we're taking them now, do not pass go. You can't go home 271 00:18:45,799 --> 00:18:48,640 first, have your husband meet you at the hospital kind of. So it 272 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:55,079 was like a serious like oh, because Sadie was having what they call reverse 273 00:18:55,279 --> 00:18:59,640 blood flow, which means that she was starting to not get enough oxygen, 274 00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:03,119 and they caught it early. I was having I had just been in I 275 00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:07,759 had just been in the high risk ward in the hospital for like two weeks, 276 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:11,720 being monitored constantly twenty four to seven. And then my doctor let me 277 00:19:11,759 --> 00:19:15,240 go home because everything seemed okay, but I had to come back the next 278 00:19:15,279 --> 00:19:19,680 I went home for Thanksgiving, came back the next day to be checked, 279 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:23,599 was checked. Then it was like the weekend, I want to say, 280 00:19:23,599 --> 00:19:29,480 then I came back and then that they were like, it's not good. 281 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:33,480 Wow, you gotta have the babies right now. Okay, so I called 282 00:19:33,559 --> 00:19:37,799 John. John has to get somebody to watch LB, you know, because 283 00:19:37,799 --> 00:19:41,599 we weren't planning on it happening that day. We had planned the C section 284 00:19:41,759 --> 00:19:45,880 for I believe the two days later. So we're so now it's like, 285 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:51,359 no, you're having it right now. So I'm scared. I get the 286 00:19:52,559 --> 00:19:56,920 epidural. Yeah, but I think it was when I was going to get 287 00:19:56,920 --> 00:20:03,079 the epidural. However, it happened the anesthesiologist. I maybe thinking he was 288 00:20:03,319 --> 00:20:07,359 At first I thought he was just trying to distract me. That's like he's 289 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:11,319 being super chatty, right, but then he literally starts asking me because he's 290 00:20:11,319 --> 00:20:15,759 asking me like what I do, and like, you know, he just 291 00:20:15,799 --> 00:20:18,000 he's kind of making small talk. And then I say like, oh, 292 00:20:18,079 --> 00:20:22,000 I write books, which is really all I was doing around that time, 293 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:26,839 and he's like, oh, you know, I want to write a book, 294 00:20:27,079 --> 00:20:30,759 like and he starts telling me about his book that he wants to write, 295 00:20:30,079 --> 00:20:34,200 and then I swear to God, he starts asking me literally for like 296 00:20:34,319 --> 00:20:37,279 contacts. He's like, well, who's your agent? You know, and 297 00:20:37,319 --> 00:20:40,720 I'm like, well, so and so at I see him and he's like, 298 00:20:40,759 --> 00:20:42,000 oh, like do you think there, like, is there any way 299 00:20:42,039 --> 00:20:47,359 you could do like an email introduction? I was like, oh my god, 300 00:20:47,559 --> 00:20:48,559 kidding me right now. And then he was like oh, because he 301 00:20:48,559 --> 00:20:52,000 goes, oh, well, what kind of like a book dealer? Is 302 00:20:52,039 --> 00:20:55,759 it self published? Like he's asking these questions and I was like, wow, 303 00:20:55,759 --> 00:20:57,680 okay, do you understand that there's forty fucking people in this room and 304 00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:02,839 I'm about to deliver twin very early that are probably going to go into the 305 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:04,640 nicke you and I don't even know how one of the babies is doing, 306 00:21:04,759 --> 00:21:11,039 Like right, could you ease off on the networking? It was insane, 307 00:21:11,319 --> 00:21:14,960 it seems like, I mean, it's yeah, that's weird, it's crazy. 308 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:18,400 Yeah, And it did not stop. And I mean, and I 309 00:21:18,440 --> 00:21:21,000 think I wrote in nap Times the New Happy Hour. I don't know. 310 00:21:21,039 --> 00:21:25,559 I wrote the story about giving birth to the twins, which was so serious, 311 00:21:25,799 --> 00:21:27,680 right, and then but in the midst of it, the hair's just 312 00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:33,160 guys like would not stop the whole time, Like, yeah, that's insane. 313 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:37,920 And he could like follow up with me to see if I could put 314 00:21:37,960 --> 00:21:41,559 in like a good word to my Oh j god for what for your textbook 315 00:21:41,559 --> 00:21:47,400 on anesthesiology? Like, right, dude, Okay, let's take a quick 316 00:21:47,440 --> 00:21:52,839 break. Let's talk about Better Help. 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I realize okay, of course I realized 358 00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:22,160 that, like and by the way, my eyes do hurt a lot. 359 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:26,240 But there's no I don't give you any paint pills to take home, so 360 00:25:26,319 --> 00:25:27,680 I know this is my shot, this is my only shot, is going 361 00:25:27,759 --> 00:25:32,319 to be right before they put you under. You know, they give you 362 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:36,440 like medication to relax you just for a second. When you're so they wait 363 00:25:36,519 --> 00:25:41,799 until the last possible minute to start pushing a little narcotics through my iv Yeah, 364 00:25:41,839 --> 00:25:45,160 and I swear to god it was so worth it. It was just 365 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:48,920 like for that freaking ten it was like, second, give me ten seconds. 366 00:25:48,519 --> 00:25:55,279 I'm legal high and you know I'm an addict. When I'm like say 367 00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:59,559 I said to the niseesiologist, they're wheeling me over and he shoots the stuff 368 00:25:59,599 --> 00:26:03,880 into my and I was like, isn't it crazy? How like when they 369 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,559 give you the narcotics, even though it's coming through the ivy, I can 370 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,920 kind of taste it in my mouth. That's so weird. He was just 371 00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:15,440 like, oh god. And you're like, wait a second, hold off 372 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,319 on the ten second count, Like I don't want to I don't want to 373 00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:21,839 count backwards just yet. What do you tell me some more about your book? 374 00:26:22,319 --> 00:26:26,880 Do you want to write exactly that suck? Just enjoy this yes for 375 00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:30,319 a minute. Yeah, don't you guys have something to do, like go 376 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,799 away for a few minutes. Yeah, you know you got a glass of 377 00:26:33,839 --> 00:26:37,599 wine to go with this, Like, I know, nothing to eat or 378 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:41,359 drink before, but wine doesn't even count right a little bit? Yeah, 379 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:45,559 yeah, talk, I was it was ten It had to have been less 380 00:26:45,559 --> 00:26:48,680 than ten seconds that I got that feeling. And then I was like I 381 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:53,559 woke up in recovery. Yeah, but then when you woke up, were 382 00:26:53,599 --> 00:26:59,640 you in pain? Like and can you see member or or do they have 383 00:27:00,079 --> 00:27:03,480 so uh? I mean, well they do something of dark glasses on me. 384 00:27:04,279 --> 00:27:07,319 I could see there was no there were no like bandages over my eyes. 385 00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:11,519 I have stitches in my eyes. You do, yeah, but they're 386 00:27:11,559 --> 00:27:17,759 they're going to dissolve on their own. There's stitches on the outside and the 387 00:27:17,799 --> 00:27:22,000 inside of my eye. Wow. Yes, I will here's what I will 388 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:26,359 say. I when I woke up, I wasn't in pain, but I 389 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:30,279 had a migraine. And I think I had a migraine from that. I 390 00:27:30,319 --> 00:27:33,960 think it was probably from the anesthesia. I'm not sure. So that was 391 00:27:33,000 --> 00:27:38,640 sort of annoying. But I was, I mean, I yeah, I 392 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,599 was like uncomfortable. I remember when I drove John home, he was being 393 00:27:41,599 --> 00:27:45,319 really funny. Yeah, and you know, sounded a little like still high 394 00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:49,359 right in anesthesia. But I was like just in a bad mood, like 395 00:27:49,519 --> 00:27:53,880 just get me home, yeah, and I need food and I'm tired, 396 00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:57,720 and then I think I fell asleep for a little while. And then you 397 00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:03,440 know, my Jewish mom friends, they can't like, there's so much nicer 398 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:06,000 than I am. Yeah. First of all, both of these women have 399 00:28:06,039 --> 00:28:10,079 had surgery since I've known them, and I didn't send flowers or drop by. 400 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:15,599 I was like, you got a husband, but they both were like 401 00:28:15,759 --> 00:28:21,480 calling, they were texting John. Then apparently my friend Laura came by with 402 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:26,160 flowers and a card from her and Cecily, but I was asleep. Ah, 403 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:30,960 that's really sweet. Yeah, but also like, don't come by the 404 00:28:32,039 --> 00:28:34,119 worst time for a drop by, right, is like I'm not you know. 405 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,079 But she was really sweet about it. And then she called me later 406 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:40,960 and was like, yeah, you were asleep, so I couldn't talk to 407 00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:44,720 you, but like, it's very sweet, but I'm just not like that. 408 00:28:45,039 --> 00:28:48,640 Yeah, let me have my time to recover. Yeah, it's just 409 00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:51,720 funny. So yeah, So then I was kind of out of it on 410 00:28:51,839 --> 00:28:55,759 Friday, but then I did put on so I had to go back for 411 00:28:55,799 --> 00:28:59,839 a follow up visit to the doctor and he checked my eyes and he said 412 00:28:59,839 --> 00:29:04,039 it worked perfectly. And I'm already so today is Monday, so this was 413 00:29:04,119 --> 00:29:10,480 Thursday, and I like my vision. So these glasses that I'm wearing right 414 00:29:10,519 --> 00:29:15,480 now are our glasses that I used to not be able to see out of 415 00:29:15,559 --> 00:29:18,640 because everything was double. So they were like my computer glasses, and I 416 00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:22,359 could see right in front of me, and now like I could drive find 417 00:29:22,079 --> 00:29:26,359 then drive on really and then I have stronger ones that are for driving, 418 00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:32,839 but no prism. I have no double vision anymore. N So now without 419 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:38,240 glasses, I used to feel really blind because everything was double. So now 420 00:29:38,319 --> 00:29:45,240 even without glasses, I can still see. I'm near sighted, so it's 421 00:29:45,279 --> 00:29:48,960 blurry a little bit far away, but it's so I'm so glad I did 422 00:29:48,039 --> 00:29:53,519 it. If anybody has straw bismus and is thinking about having this surgery, 423 00:29:55,480 --> 00:30:00,480 highly recommend it. Really and does your insurance cover it? Because yes, 424 00:30:00,839 --> 00:30:06,279 that's good. Okay, interesting that you ask, so, and this is 425 00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:08,839 not a long story about blue Shield. This is actually a positive blue Shield 426 00:30:08,880 --> 00:30:15,960 story. Yeah. So the doctor's office, so the surgeon himself did not 427 00:30:15,039 --> 00:30:19,400 take my insurance. Okay, they made a cash deal with me. Oh 428 00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:23,079 so it costs me for the surgery a couple thousand dollars out of pocket. 429 00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:27,799 But the thing that really kills you, even if you've saved up money for 430 00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:33,920 surgery, is that the the fee for the place, the surgery center, 431 00:30:33,519 --> 00:30:37,319 you know, can be upwards of like five grand. You know. Well, 432 00:30:37,799 --> 00:30:41,759 so when they first told me, the surgeon's office said they're going to 433 00:30:41,839 --> 00:30:45,799 go through my insurance. She came back to me and said, okay, 434 00:30:45,119 --> 00:30:52,359 So we went through. We looked at Blue Shield and they they only pay 435 00:30:52,759 --> 00:30:56,119 they will pay seventy percent, but only after you've hit your deductible. Well, 436 00:30:56,119 --> 00:31:00,559 we pay out of pocket for insurance. I'm assuming you do too, 437 00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:06,519 the deductible that in order we pay twenty three hundred dollars a month premium for 438 00:31:06,559 --> 00:31:11,359 our family. It's crazy, it is, and that is only because our 439 00:31:11,440 --> 00:31:15,160 deductible is really high. It's like thirteen grand. Really what your insurance is 440 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:19,680 good for. This would be like if you had to have major surgery and 441 00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:25,960 we're hospitalized for a long time. You wouldn't like go bankrupt because you cap 442 00:31:26,039 --> 00:31:30,119 out at whatever and then they pay one hundred percent, right, okay, 443 00:31:30,119 --> 00:31:33,519 But a lot of things they do pay for seventy percent even if you haven't 444 00:31:33,559 --> 00:31:37,400 hit your deductible. So this surgery, the surgeon's office comes back and says, 445 00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:41,960 yeah, so they'll only pay after you hit your deductible. And I 446 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:45,000 was like, I don't think that's true because my husband had this surgery and 447 00:31:45,039 --> 00:31:49,279 they did pay for it. And she's like nope, here's your And she 448 00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:53,000 sends me this thing and it says blue Cross on it. So I write 449 00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:56,000 her back and I was like, I don't think you don't have my right 450 00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:59,319 insurance to mey she goes, no, no, no, Blue Cross is 451 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:04,039 owned by Blue Shield, and I was like, no, it's definitely not 452 00:32:04,960 --> 00:32:07,839 Wow, Like this is somebody that does this for a living, like this 453 00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:13,440 person you're talking yes. Yes. So I was like, well that's just 454 00:32:13,519 --> 00:32:17,119 simply not true. But she had the right number of my policy number. 455 00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:22,000 And I was like, well, I listen, I could pretty much work 456 00:32:22,039 --> 00:32:27,039 for Blue Shield at this point. If I just got a rooster, i'd 457 00:32:27,079 --> 00:32:30,000 be good to go. I could answer calls like I know a lot about 458 00:32:30,039 --> 00:32:34,519 Blue Shield, about what they cover and what they don't, and I was 459 00:32:34,599 --> 00:32:37,039 and so so I was like, Okay, well I don't think that's right. 460 00:32:37,079 --> 00:32:40,799 So I call Blue Shield and I talked to somebody and she's like, 461 00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:46,440 yeah, it's covered if because the surgery center was in network. Okay, 462 00:32:46,480 --> 00:32:51,759 So this is where things get funky. The surgery center is in network, 463 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,200 the anesthesiologist is in network. She says to me on the phone, if 464 00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:59,759 it's in network, we pay seventy percent. It doesn't matter if you've paid 465 00:32:59,880 --> 00:33:04,839 Z zero into your deductible, doesn't matter. We pay seventy percent. Wow. 466 00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,839 And I was like, well, seventy percent. If thirty I could 467 00:33:07,839 --> 00:33:12,200 afford thirty percent to have this surgery. I can't afford one hundred percent. 468 00:33:12,799 --> 00:33:16,200 So I go back to the lady who works for the surgeon's office and I 469 00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:20,319 say, hey, so I called Blue Shield and they said they do cover 470 00:33:20,359 --> 00:33:23,440 it, and she was like, I don't know, they don't. She's 471 00:33:23,599 --> 00:33:29,039 arguing with me over email and she sends me she goes this is what they 472 00:33:29,079 --> 00:33:31,279 sent me. And I was like, okay, but again, you're sending 473 00:33:31,319 --> 00:33:35,279 me something that's from Blue Cross. They probably have not heard of me, 474 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,359 right, And so it went back and forth. So I was like, 475 00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:43,559 I called Blue Shield again. I was like, listen, I'm going to 476 00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:46,440 forward you this email that I got from the surgeon's office. And the woman 477 00:33:46,440 --> 00:33:50,000 I spoke to was like, yeah, that's just not correct. She doesn't 478 00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:52,480 have the right information. We have nothing to do with Blue Cross. She 479 00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:57,440 said, this is Blue Shield of California. This is what we cover. 480 00:33:58,839 --> 00:34:01,160 You don't need even pre authorization, like, this is what we covered. 481 00:34:01,279 --> 00:34:04,960 That's it. Yeah, I have the surgery, right And I was like 482 00:34:05,519 --> 00:34:07,199 okay. So I told her. I was like, well, I'm having 483 00:34:07,199 --> 00:34:14,280 the surgery and she was like, okay, just be sure. Anyway, 484 00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:17,239 she does. What is cool? So I have the surgery and they charged 485 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:23,079 me thirty percent. That's what it came to. Exactly what the Blue Shield 486 00:34:23,159 --> 00:34:27,320 told me they were going to charge me is what they charged me. It 487 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:30,679 was something like nine hundred dollars total. What my fee was. Okay, 488 00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:36,320 that's not bad. No for a major eye surgery that's going to change change 489 00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:38,440 my life. Yeah. So anyway, so then I go to the follow 490 00:34:38,519 --> 00:34:42,199 up visit the next day with the surgeon and I was like, hey, 491 00:34:44,119 --> 00:34:45,920 I was that person. But I was like, I just think you should 492 00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:51,920 know Ranchet over on your insurance person who doesn't work in his office. I 493 00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:55,400 was like, but I don't want any of your possible patients to get dissuaded 494 00:34:55,840 --> 00:35:00,440 by wrong information. I was like, because I was told like three different 495 00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:06,000 times that I couldn't basically afford the surgery. I almost didn't have it because 496 00:35:06,039 --> 00:35:08,960 she told me it's not covered, and it is covered, so and then 497 00:35:09,039 --> 00:35:13,039 he got like a little testy, like he's like, well, I've never 498 00:35:13,079 --> 00:35:15,800 heard of that. I've never heard of not having to hit your deductible. 499 00:35:16,559 --> 00:35:21,480 I was like, you've never heard of that. I was like, most 500 00:35:21,599 --> 00:35:25,039 insurance will pay a percentage even if you haven't hit your deductible, and then 501 00:35:25,039 --> 00:35:29,760 it hits and then they go to one hundred percent when you've hit your deductible. 502 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:31,119 That's more common. And he goes, Nope, never heard of that. 503 00:35:31,519 --> 00:35:36,199 This is the doctor's it was. The surgeon was really really nice, 504 00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:38,199 by the way, so I'm not yeah, I think he was just kind 505 00:35:38,199 --> 00:35:42,199 of sticking up for like, I just don't think he knows not much about 506 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,599 the insurance. Yes, I don't think anybody know My insurances is never And 507 00:35:45,639 --> 00:35:51,079 I was like, well, I'm just telling you that she should double check. 508 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,480 If somebody asks her to double check, she might want to double check 509 00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:58,079 because had she called my insurance company, they would have told her that it 510 00:35:58,159 --> 00:36:01,760 was covered. But she didn't. She went through through and I said, 511 00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:06,159 I go, she didn't have the right insurance company, but she insisted she 512 00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:09,440 did, and he was like, well, yeah, I mean I'll look 513 00:36:09,480 --> 00:36:14,039 into it, but you know, I'm pretty sure most insurance doesn't work that 514 00:36:14,079 --> 00:36:17,079 way. And I was like, okay, hey for nothing, but mine 515 00:36:17,119 --> 00:36:21,320 did and that's why you just made money and I did surgery through you, 516 00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,400 right, yeah, right, well I did. I mean maybe you should 517 00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:27,039 call her and tell her too and say, like, you know, I 518 00:36:27,079 --> 00:36:30,320 know her, I know, but she should be she should know that she 519 00:36:30,480 --> 00:36:34,760 was wrong. I have literal emails going back and forth where I was like, 520 00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:38,360 it's you're you're not correct, right, Like that isn't my insurance company? 521 00:36:38,559 --> 00:36:42,719 Blue Cross has nothing? I said, I called my insurance company two 522 00:36:42,719 --> 00:36:45,719 times. Blue Cross has nothing. And she was like, well, here's 523 00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:47,400 what they sent me. And I was like, okay, but I don't 524 00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:52,000 know why they sent you that, because it's anyway she could have been talking 525 00:36:52,039 --> 00:36:55,000 people out of this surgery for a long time. She has like it's insane, 526 00:36:55,119 --> 00:36:59,760 right, wouldn't you want to know if that was my job, people 527 00:37:00,039 --> 00:37:02,960 talking people out of having yes, your surgery, Yeah, that's crazy. 528 00:37:04,039 --> 00:37:07,079 What if she's just like he's not that great, like do you want to 529 00:37:07,159 --> 00:37:12,440 risk it? Like he's a nice guy. He's got good bedside manner. 530 00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:17,159 But surgery, I haven't heard a lot of good things. Right, Yeah, 531 00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:23,719 that's I mean crazy crazy. But you know what's good what's not crazy? 532 00:37:24,079 --> 00:37:28,880 Tropical smoothie cafe crazy in a good way, crazy like a fox, 533 00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:31,760 crazy like a fox, crazy, refreshing. You could have had you could 534 00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:36,320 have had one right after your surgery. Oh my gosh, it would that 535 00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:42,880 would have actually been perfect had I thought of it, especially because being a 536 00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:46,360 sober lady. You know, they have mocktails. It's kind of their specialty. 537 00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:52,840 And they have delicious different flavors of mocktails, like the Island Punch smoothie, 538 00:37:52,119 --> 00:37:55,239 which is peach, guava, passion fruit, mango, and pineapple. 539 00:37:55,840 --> 00:38:00,400 Or my favorite is the watermelon Mohito smoothie. I think there's a picture of 540 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:05,880 me on our Instagram sipping on the watermelon. Uh it's watermelon, mint, 541 00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:09,679 strawberries and lime. That's so good, yummy. And I love the raps. 542 00:38:10,119 --> 00:38:15,079 We had their raps which was delicious, yep and satisfiables. Yes, 543 00:38:15,239 --> 00:38:20,800 don't forget about those. Let me just foll oh. Here's what you're gonna 544 00:38:20,800 --> 00:38:22,000 want to do if you want to get one of these you're gonna want to 545 00:38:22,079 --> 00:38:29,679 visit one of Tropical Smoothie Cafes fourteen hundred plus locations or order online or through 546 00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:31,719 their app. These places are everywhere. They have a lot of locations. 547 00:38:32,079 --> 00:38:36,719 Find the one nearest to you, get your app and get yourself. Yeah, 548 00:38:37,000 --> 00:38:43,039 Tropical Smoothie Cafe. You're on Tropic time now. Yum. Yeah, 549 00:38:43,199 --> 00:38:46,519 I don't want one now. So well, I'm glad everything went well. 550 00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:52,039 Yeah, I'm on the mend. That's good. I spent my Saturday night 551 00:38:52,320 --> 00:39:00,400 with Sunny. Okay. Like it's summertime, right, and you know, 552 00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:06,639 kids are doing their thing, going doing whatever, hanging out and but are 553 00:39:06,679 --> 00:39:10,440 they doing their thing? Well, do they have a thing they do? 554 00:39:10,519 --> 00:39:15,239 It's hitten miss Yeah, exactly right, it's hit and miss, and so 555 00:39:15,960 --> 00:39:20,039 like there's times you know, like I don't know, so like Saturday night, 556 00:39:20,199 --> 00:39:27,239 right, Uh, Sonny is really into UFC, like really into MMA, 557 00:39:27,440 --> 00:39:31,559 like following these fighters, knowing all their crazy names from like Kazakistan, 558 00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:37,599 and you know, like just knows everybody's record and who's you know, heavyweight 559 00:39:37,639 --> 00:39:43,199 and who's middleweight and who's lower weight. Scots guy remember he is the stacks 560 00:39:43,280 --> 00:39:46,559 guy for the basketball that's what he does now, like because he's bored with 561 00:39:46,639 --> 00:39:51,599 basketball and he had to go through so Saturday night, I'm like, what 562 00:39:51,599 --> 00:39:53,480 what do you got going tonight, Sonny? And he's like, well, 563 00:39:53,519 --> 00:39:57,559 the fights on tonight, and none of my friends are really into it, 564 00:39:57,599 --> 00:40:01,639 so I'm gonna I'm gonna watch it. Shocking. I'm like, so I'm 565 00:40:01,679 --> 00:40:06,199 just gonna watch it here. And I was like, okay, you know, 566 00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:10,039 and Natalia is in Spain and yeah, she's still there. Well she 567 00:40:10,119 --> 00:40:14,679 comes, she's on the plane right now coming home. Oh wow, yes, 568 00:40:14,760 --> 00:40:17,960 yes, okay, so she's been having a nice time. But so, 569 00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:22,599 you know, it's just me and Sonny hanging out on a Saturday night, 570 00:40:22,159 --> 00:40:25,079 and you know, he wants to watch the fight. But I'm like, 571 00:40:25,119 --> 00:40:29,360 so you're so into this this UFC stuff now, and he's like, 572 00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:32,519 you know, I said, what about basketball? He's like, ah, 573 00:40:32,639 --> 00:40:37,519 Basketball, NBA boring? Like he is he an old Jewish man, Yes 574 00:40:37,639 --> 00:40:45,360 he is. Yeah, I'm right there with Sonny. Actually, I've gone 575 00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:49,440 the same way where basketball, like this whole past season was really boring because 576 00:40:49,480 --> 00:40:51,920 the best team was just obviously going to win the whole time. And I've 577 00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:54,920 gotten really into UFC now. So I'm oh, really, I watched the 578 00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:59,400 fight on Saturday too, Oh you did, and I didn't have any friends 579 00:40:59,400 --> 00:41:00,400 of the watching with you there, so I paid for it and bought it. 580 00:41:02,119 --> 00:41:09,519 Oh my god, I watched the whole thing. You should talk to 581 00:41:09,559 --> 00:41:15,880 Sonny because he's gotten I mean he's still he's doing his podcast, Benchwarmer's podcast 582 00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:19,599 every week, but and he talks about it there. But like none of 583 00:41:19,639 --> 00:41:22,280 his friends are really you know, and he's just like, there's in sports, 584 00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:27,119 not much going on right now, and he needs he's a sports mind, 585 00:41:27,199 --> 00:41:31,039 like he needs sports, and so he got really into this UFC stuff 586 00:41:31,119 --> 00:41:35,920 and so he's, you know, so he so he's like, what are 587 00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:37,159 you doing? He's like, want to watch the fight? So I'm like, 588 00:41:37,559 --> 00:41:39,679 all right, I'll watch it when you know, I'll watch it with 589 00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:45,039 you. But first of all, before the fight starts, he talks my 590 00:41:45,119 --> 00:41:50,920 ear off for a good hour, no hyperbole, about why basketball is boring 591 00:41:51,039 --> 00:41:54,840 right now. So he went through all of that. I don't remember why. 592 00:41:54,960 --> 00:41:58,440 It goes in one ear and out beyond. I mean he's talking about 593 00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:01,280 all these like players and this. Okay, then it goes what are you 594 00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:05,239 doing at the time, Like, are you making yourself a snack. Yes, 595 00:42:05,679 --> 00:42:07,559 I was like, I was cooking. I was cooking us like dinner, 596 00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:09,920 and I was like, you know, let's have you know, I'll 597 00:42:10,159 --> 00:42:13,800 fry some steaks. So I'm like making dinner. So at least I have 598 00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,559 something to do. And all I want to do is put in my earbuds 599 00:42:16,559 --> 00:42:21,760 and listen to a podcast or something. Right, but you know, he's 600 00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:27,639 my son. It's my job is to listen to him living parallel lives right 601 00:42:27,679 --> 00:42:30,519 now? Yeah on, So so okay, then did you have the ingredients? 602 00:42:30,559 --> 00:42:34,880 By the way, I know I'm the chronic interrupter, but my brain 603 00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,400 just goes like, how do you just have steaks? Ling? Were you 604 00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:39,639 planning to make steaks? I did, because you have to go hold that 605 00:42:39,679 --> 00:42:44,800 thought, I'm running to the store to get now now. Earlier that day, 606 00:42:44,840 --> 00:42:46,559 I was like, we should you know, let's like if you're I 607 00:42:46,599 --> 00:42:49,920 asked him if I knew he was gonna be watching the fight, so I 608 00:42:49,960 --> 00:42:52,519 was like, let me make you know, I defron some steaks and let's 609 00:42:52,599 --> 00:42:57,079 let's have dinner. You know, throw a salad together. H makes little 610 00:42:57,119 --> 00:42:59,639 garlic bread. You know what, if you're a better woman than I that 611 00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:01,880 you that have the makings to put a salad together. I would have had 612 00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:07,159 some old wilted lettuce from usually. Yeah, two weeks before where I've gotten 613 00:43:07,199 --> 00:43:09,320 the big idea that I'm going to make a salad and then not followed through 614 00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:13,400 right and then it goes I know I have that. That happens too. 615 00:43:13,679 --> 00:43:16,480 Okay, so you have the ingredients making. I've also gotten very into making 616 00:43:16,519 --> 00:43:20,480 steaks lately. That's really been my thing. Yeah. Now the kids love 617 00:43:20,519 --> 00:43:22,480 it. It's like their favorite meal. So we make everybody steaks now, 618 00:43:22,559 --> 00:43:24,639 yeah, how do you make yours? Do you? What? Do you 619 00:43:24,639 --> 00:43:30,360 see them? Yeah? Yeah, but the butter basting yeah yeah, yeah, 620 00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:32,199 that's what I did. And I have a searing pan too, so 621 00:43:32,239 --> 00:43:37,039 it gives it those like lines. I want to get a barbecue for outside 622 00:43:37,519 --> 00:43:39,480 or maybe I'm getting too ahead of myself, but yeah, I want to 623 00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:43,280 get like a grill, a grill, Yeah you should? Why not? 624 00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:46,840 You should? So summer. I know my neighbor down the street is constantly 625 00:43:46,960 --> 00:43:51,440 grilling stuff. He's always popping something on the grill. And yeah, it 626 00:43:51,559 --> 00:43:54,000 seems like a lot of prep work. I mean, is there a lot 627 00:43:54,000 --> 00:43:58,199 of cleaning involved too? I don't funk with the grill. But there is 628 00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:02,280 there's this new one out that we want to get that's called I think it's 629 00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:07,280 called the Blackstone. It's like a flat top grill, okay, and so 630 00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:09,920 you and it looks everything that I've seen people cook it on. Looks really 631 00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:13,480 really good. Oh I got to look that up. Yeah, look up, 632 00:44:13,920 --> 00:44:16,920 okay, flat like so it's it's like great, it's called the Blackstone. 633 00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:19,679 Yeah, there's no grates. It's all just a big flat top. 634 00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:22,119 It's like a it's like a hibachi like you know, we go to a 635 00:44:22,119 --> 00:44:24,480 watch a place and it's like that, but just as a as a grill. 636 00:44:25,199 --> 00:44:29,320 Okay. I mean I used to grill a lot back in the day 637 00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:32,119 when the kids were younger. We used to have a barbecue whatever, and 638 00:44:32,199 --> 00:44:36,519 so I would make like asparagus. It was easy, you know. Just 639 00:44:36,559 --> 00:44:38,320 the clean up hard though, no, because you just you have if you 640 00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:42,000 have the right tools, and then you just like and then you spray it 641 00:44:42,039 --> 00:44:45,639 and you you know, with the the stuff that the cleaning stuff for the 642 00:44:45,679 --> 00:44:50,239 grill, and then you have that brush and then you just burn it off 643 00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:54,960 and it's okay. It's actually better than cooking in the in the house. 644 00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:59,239 You know. For I mean, once you get the hang of it, 645 00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:01,039 then I could send shown out to the backyard, like, hey go throw 646 00:45:01,119 --> 00:45:07,199 some chicken brasts on the car some Yeah, let's get it grills, Let's 647 00:45:07,239 --> 00:45:12,039 get girls, so over airfriers, Let's get grill grill. We're on the 648 00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:15,400 ground for the July have a sponsor. Yes, that's right, we need 649 00:45:15,400 --> 00:45:17,559 a new spot. All right, So you're frying up some stoke, fed 650 00:45:17,639 --> 00:45:21,800 up his steaks. He's talking about the basketball and white so boring. And 651 00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:25,400 then the fights start, okay, and so you know, I'm sitting I 652 00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:30,840 haven't freaking watched a UFC fight in I don't know a long time. I 653 00:45:30,920 --> 00:45:36,400 forget how violent they are. And I'm like, I'm getting a headache just 654 00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:39,119 watching this. So anyway, then he tells to be like punched in the 655 00:45:39,199 --> 00:45:43,440 head. Oh god, Oh it's even worse than that. There was one 656 00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:47,000 fight on Saturday. It was two women fighting and one of them like hit 657 00:45:47,039 --> 00:45:51,559 the other one in the forehead with her elbow and just caused this huge gash. 658 00:45:52,119 --> 00:45:54,159 She was bleeding all over her face. It was awesome. They had 659 00:45:54,199 --> 00:45:57,920 to stop the fight because the gash was so big. She was she was 660 00:45:57,920 --> 00:46:00,199 like, no, I want to keep fighting. There's too much blood coming 661 00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:04,000 out, you know. Head wounds usually bleed like more than Yes, it 662 00:46:04,119 --> 00:46:07,000 was right on her I know, I saw it was right on her eye, 663 00:46:07,639 --> 00:46:10,639 on her eyebrow, and it's just split wide open. Why would you 664 00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:15,960 want to put yourself why? I don't, I don't know. I know. 665 00:46:15,079 --> 00:46:19,400 I remember when I was a kid, I just hated even boxing. 666 00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,920 You may feel like I like, people are hitting each other in the head, 667 00:46:22,559 --> 00:46:28,360 watching each other. That sounds horrible, yeah, but so so there. 668 00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,360 So I'm watching the first fight and it's a lot of grappling, a 669 00:46:30,400 --> 00:46:34,039 lot of wrestling, you know, and then Sonny's like, ah, this 670 00:46:34,119 --> 00:46:37,400 is turning out to be a boring one. And then he was disappointed because 671 00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,639 somebody dropped out because he wasn't feeling good. Right, he had one hundred 672 00:46:40,639 --> 00:46:44,519 and three degree fever the day of the fight, right, and he was 673 00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:49,320 he was right. He and Sonny was excited for that what's that guy's name? 674 00:46:49,639 --> 00:46:52,440 I forget the guy that dropped Yes, Sonny was excited for that fight. 675 00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:54,559 But then the guy dropped out. And then the guy that came in 676 00:46:54,679 --> 00:46:59,000 at the last minute was like, yeah, I'll fight, So he comes 677 00:46:59,039 --> 00:47:01,639 in and I was for him, and I think he almost won. He 678 00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:06,599 was very close. Yeah, he almost won anyway. And then there was 679 00:47:06,639 --> 00:47:10,679 the girl fight, yes, which was really bloody chick fight, and and 680 00:47:10,719 --> 00:47:15,280 then the main event, which Sonny told me about. These two are both 681 00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:20,159 like into shamans and they're very spiritual, and they're like and then they stared 682 00:47:20,199 --> 00:47:23,039 at each other as they're introducing them. They're stages just out there, like 683 00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:25,880 you know, getting ready and like jumping up and down, and then they're 684 00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:30,039 but they're staring into each other's eyes trying to like spiritually say you get out. 685 00:47:30,159 --> 00:47:34,360 Yeah. But one of the one of the pleasant surprises I had watching 686 00:47:34,440 --> 00:47:38,400 USC is after they're done fighting, they're so sweet to each other, like 687 00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:46,519 they're hugging each other, they're laughing, I guess like they're laughing. And 688 00:47:46,519 --> 00:47:51,800 then yahuasca. They must be having a spiritual experience. Yeah, those two. 689 00:47:52,280 --> 00:47:53,840 Yeah, so they were like a lot of the fights afterwards, like 690 00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:58,159 they and they talk about how much they respect the other person. Meanwhile, 691 00:47:58,199 --> 00:48:00,360 they were just trying to fucking kill each other. And then as soon as 692 00:48:00,360 --> 00:48:05,840 the fight's over, then they're like, hey, man much respect. I 693 00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:08,599 have nothing but respect for you. It's crazy what's a crazy sport. I 694 00:48:08,639 --> 00:48:12,840 wonder if they regulate, like I wonder if they drug test. I mean, 695 00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:16,159 there's barely any rules. Oh but so suddenly you can't do drugs, 696 00:48:16,280 --> 00:48:21,679 but you can. Like there's almost nothing is off limits. What you can't 697 00:48:21,679 --> 00:48:23,480 bite, you can't bite, like Sonny was given me the rules. There's 698 00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:28,159 a lot of rules. Yeah, you can't bite, you can't hit in 699 00:48:28,199 --> 00:48:30,159 the back of the head or something. You can't hit in the back of 700 00:48:30,199 --> 00:48:32,519 the head. You can't I poke, you can't grab onto the cage, 701 00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:36,320 right. I feel like I was listening to like a I think it was 702 00:48:36,360 --> 00:48:44,519 an ESPN podcast thirty for thirty. I think about the about how this mma 703 00:48:44,639 --> 00:48:50,440 got started and how yeah, how it was originally like really no rules, 704 00:48:50,519 --> 00:48:53,079 and then they came in and started like really regulating it. And the original 705 00:48:53,119 --> 00:48:57,039 people who came up with it were like, fuck that, that's not what 706 00:48:57,079 --> 00:49:00,880 we had envisioned, right, Like it was supposed to be mixed martial arts 707 00:49:01,039 --> 00:49:04,880 mma. It was supposed to be, but it was too boring that way, 708 00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:08,159 so then they anyway, but then they wanted it to be it was 709 00:49:08,239 --> 00:49:13,559 it was originally more violent, right, and then they started there was originally 710 00:49:13,639 --> 00:49:16,239 like no rules. You could do anything exactly. And there was one fight 711 00:49:16,280 --> 00:49:21,000 where I think a player like grabbed another guy's balls and just like squeezed until 712 00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:23,280 he gave up. Yeah, there was. They used to be like that, 713 00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:27,320 but then they obviously came in with the rules. Yeah. Yeah, 714 00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:30,679 And I explained to Sonny, my young son, like listen, Son, 715 00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:35,679 there was no MMA when I was growing up, I was watching Tyson bite 716 00:49:35,679 --> 00:49:37,960 the ear off a holy field like that was. That was what we watched. 717 00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:40,239 We watched good old and that's what I was saying. I was like, 718 00:49:40,440 --> 00:49:45,400 I'm as good old, fastened fashioned boxing, like these people are trying 719 00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:49,559 to just murder each other and like they're like and then they hold onto each 720 00:49:49,599 --> 00:49:52,760 other and they squeeze like they're like a you know, like yeah, like 721 00:49:52,800 --> 00:49:57,599 a python. They wrapped their bodies around the other person and they just hold. 722 00:49:57,639 --> 00:50:01,000 Then it gets kind of boring because bullet constrictor, like is he gonna 723 00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:06,760 swallow the guy any second? Like this is crazy crazy, but uh but 724 00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:07,920 Sonny, yeah, he was like, no, I know the history. 725 00:50:08,000 --> 00:50:12,840 I know it's not it's a fairly new sport and blah blah blah again new 726 00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:19,159 all, yes, got the history all the background from each guy or girl 727 00:50:19,599 --> 00:50:22,480 knew all their background, what country they're from, how many you know, 728 00:50:22,840 --> 00:50:25,880 how many they've won, how many they've lost, blah blah blah. I'm 729 00:50:25,880 --> 00:50:31,639 like in one ear and out the other. Can you tell like when your 730 00:50:31,679 --> 00:50:37,360 mind is wandering? No, no, no, no, I don't think 731 00:50:37,559 --> 00:50:40,480 questions because I I kind of have to like keep up, like just so 732 00:50:40,519 --> 00:50:44,119 you can go, oh really, oh oh oh wait, so you were 733 00:50:44,159 --> 00:50:46,639 telling me about you know, uh huh, but just enough like to get 734 00:50:46,679 --> 00:50:50,519 me by. I think he just wants to talk. You know, he's 735 00:50:50,519 --> 00:50:54,360 just got that gene it's got that genetic where he just traps you and just 736 00:50:54,400 --> 00:50:59,440 talks your ear off. But could you like play a game on your phone 737 00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:02,360 or he would he be like, you're too distracted. Well, if we 738 00:51:02,360 --> 00:51:06,079 were watching the fight, I could, yeah, because he was playing a 739 00:51:06,119 --> 00:51:07,599 game on his phone too. Okay. A lot of times okay, but 740 00:51:08,679 --> 00:51:13,320 when he's talking to me, I sometimes I do, I like read text 741 00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:15,559 or stuff like that, but I try not to be. I don't know, 742 00:51:15,639 --> 00:51:17,840 it's like feels bad. I feel bad, so I just go. 743 00:51:19,159 --> 00:51:22,440 You know, so you're just like trapped. Did you say, like, 744 00:51:22,639 --> 00:51:24,360 do you have any plans with your friends, like after fight, I did, 745 00:51:24,639 --> 00:51:28,079 and what's okay? So the fights are over, Now what are you 746 00:51:28,119 --> 00:51:29,840 doing? You know, you're going out and he's like, yeah, I'm 747 00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:31,480 gonna go meet my friends. And then he was with his friends until like, 748 00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:35,280 I don't know if it's this. The other night he was at his 749 00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:37,559 friend's house until like five in the morning, watching movies. You know, 750 00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:42,599 yeah, so he's been going out, but he's been going out when I 751 00:51:42,639 --> 00:51:45,840 go to bed pretty much, and then coming home late and then sleeping late, 752 00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:50,960 and then you know, like typical teenager. You know, isn't it 753 00:51:51,079 --> 00:51:55,559 wild how much life changes like this eighteen right, Like if you compare it 754 00:51:55,599 --> 00:52:00,920 to a year ago, right, I feel like I'm ahead of you in 755 00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:05,960 that parenting space that when ELB was eighteen, you know, well she was 756 00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:08,440 still a senior, so your kids are a little younger, so she had 757 00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:15,760 turned eighteen, but it was like kind of hard to parent. You can 758 00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:17,440 guide, but it's kind of hard to make a lot of rules when your 759 00:52:17,519 --> 00:52:22,760 kid is eighteen, a senior in high school has gotten good grades, like 760 00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:27,280 take has had a job at that point for a long time already, It's 761 00:52:27,320 --> 00:52:30,360 like it's hard to just be like you need to I need to know where 762 00:52:30,360 --> 00:52:36,280 you're going. Yeah, but I do find that the more freedom I've given, 763 00:52:36,400 --> 00:52:40,639 say LB, the twins have a lot of freedom. They don't abuse 764 00:52:40,639 --> 00:52:45,360 the privilege, you know, and ELB has, you know, she's pretty 765 00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:49,320 good about like just tell me if you're not going to come home, if 766 00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:52,039 you're going to sleep at a friend's house, like, you just need to 767 00:52:52,079 --> 00:52:55,039 tell me. I just don't want to be not setting the alarm for the 768 00:52:55,079 --> 00:52:59,440 house, like, you know, I just just have the respect of saying. 769 00:53:00,000 --> 00:53:02,000 And so now she's pretty good about it. Oh that's good. Yeah, 770 00:53:02,559 --> 00:53:08,320 And I'm saying, like, if she's going to drink, she's you 771 00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:13,559 know, listen, do I understand that drinking at her age is still illegal? 772 00:53:13,719 --> 00:53:15,880 Yes? Do all almost all kids do it? Yes? They do. 773 00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:22,039 When I was her age, I was, you know, so irresponsible. 774 00:53:22,159 --> 00:53:27,559 Yeah, driving drunk, you know, constantly, a lot of unsafe 775 00:53:27,559 --> 00:53:30,639 behavior. I was still a virgin, so not that kind of unsafe behavior, 776 00:53:30,679 --> 00:53:34,480 but I mean I was could have gotten myself into a lot of trouble 777 00:53:34,519 --> 00:53:37,440 a lot of times. I'll be well, if she's going to drink at 778 00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:42,159 a party, even if she this recently happened, she drove somewhere and then 779 00:53:42,239 --> 00:53:45,760 decided to drink. So she let me know, I'm gonna uber back to 780 00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:49,920 my friend's house. I'm going to sleepover because I had a couple of drinks. 781 00:53:50,039 --> 00:53:53,679 That's good. And I was like, god, yeah, that's responsible. 782 00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:57,639 Yeah, I just want to be told where you guys are going, 783 00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:00,280 you know, how you getting there and how you getting home? Like that's 784 00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:06,599 all. It's just let me know, you know. And Sunny like just 785 00:54:06,679 --> 00:54:09,159 goes out and stays out at is like, you know, until really late, 786 00:54:09,280 --> 00:54:14,559 and I sometimes I follow crashed there he was going to and then he 787 00:54:14,599 --> 00:54:17,320 said that we were all just sitting around and then uh like we were like 788 00:54:17,400 --> 00:54:22,239 it's it's wow. It's like now it's like early morning hours. And they 789 00:54:22,239 --> 00:54:23,559 were going to spend the night, and then one of his friends goes, 790 00:54:23,599 --> 00:54:27,639 I'm tired, I'm just gonna go home, and then drove Sonny home, 791 00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,559 dropped him off. Oh okay, yeah, then they all because they just 792 00:54:30,599 --> 00:54:34,039 wanted to be in their own beds, I guess. But that was a 793 00:54:34,159 --> 00:54:37,159 very late night. Usually he's you know, he's I don't know, he's 794 00:54:37,199 --> 00:54:40,079 out late. But I'm always falling. I'm asleep, you know, but 795 00:54:40,199 --> 00:54:45,079 I do wake up and I have this, I don't have to, like 796 00:54:45,119 --> 00:54:47,760 said in a lot, I will frequently wake up and check my phone to 797 00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:52,960 see where he is until I know he's home. Natalia, I always know 798 00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:55,280 where she is, like either she's out spending the night at a friend's house 799 00:54:55,559 --> 00:55:01,559 or she's coming home, so like she's more you know, I don't know, 800 00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:08,320 I'm keeping track of both of them's house because Elbie was definitely a member 801 00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:12,079 of that whole thing at that Yeah, I was like, I'd rather that 802 00:55:12,159 --> 00:55:15,199 you don't try to drive home at four in the morning. Yeah, if 803 00:55:15,239 --> 00:55:17,480 this is what you're doing, then sleep there like a normal person, right 804 00:55:17,639 --> 00:55:22,239 right. She hasn't spent the night with him, like at at his house 805 00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:27,320 yet or my house, so okay, yeah, but they have gone on 806 00:55:27,400 --> 00:55:32,840 vacations together. They have gone on trips together. Okay, so but yeah, 807 00:55:34,199 --> 00:55:37,760 so all right, all right, Well more to talk about. Oh 808 00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:40,400 yeah, we have a still have a whole Friday episode. More to come. 809 00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,559 But let us give a couple of shout outs to our peeps. So 810 00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:51,599 this is so sweet. Our friend Carrie Kibbler, she wants to give her 811 00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:55,480 shout out to this. Have you heard of just Nate dot Com? It's 812 00:55:55,800 --> 00:56:00,440 just k n a Te. He spells his name Kate and Ate dot com. 813 00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:06,039 He's the hug or handshake guy. He helps the homeless. 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