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the middle of this conversation. I deleted all the born stuff and got straight
to the good ship. Yeah, let's get to it. Interesting take.
Sorry, I how to fix some nightstand, But it isn't interesting. It
is an interesting take to hear my homegirls talk about death. Yeah, because
you you'll never know, Like, as a man, you never really know
who your potty, something happened, what's happening. You never really know your
who your homie is when he comes to like how they deal with women,
until you actually hear it from a woman one percent, and and and and
on top of that, I just feel like I feel like niggas is way
more creepy than we then we know the man know, because men aren't creepy
to men and very seldomly do that a creepy around other men. And I
like it when my home girls tell me that hey keep an eye on this
nigga, or they give me some type of input so I can make sure
that they're safe, because I don't know. I women can feel unsafe in
the room full of people. They know. That's and you know what I
mean, like just the vibes, and some niggas don't know how to read
the room. So but I wouldn't know how to. I wouldn't know how
to navigate that space, that dating space as a woman with kids, because
now I'm I can't defend myself and I can't defend my kids. Shit,
this motherfucker go a wall. And that's that's something that I always think about,
Like whenever when I when I was single and I was fucking with women
who had kids rather we just fucking or not, and they would invite me
to their house to you know, to clap the cheeks. I would be
I would try to try my best to accommodate or be let them know that
it's okay, Like I'm not I don't know that make do that makes sense?
Like I'm trying to let them know, like I understand your kids are
here. I'm not trying to be loud. I'm trying to be respectful your
space, this, this and that and that. But I can't imagine what
it must be like for a single mother to try to get their cheeks clapped
with children. I don't invite people to my house. It's where chefs get
clapped that. I mean, I don't really do casual sets either, but
like I don't invite people to like if I'm dating somebody, um, even
if my kids like not there, Like I don't trust everybody just knowing where
I live. I just don't, you know, like I might invite you
to my house and if you like, even if you said it cannot my
homie cannot be like who yeah, Like you know, Um, I don't
trust people with my kids. I just don't. I mean that's the way
the world is now. I mean I completely understand it. I mean,
women, you gotta be careful about like yeah, especially your children is because
I mean you hit their horror stories. The horror stories too, is like
because you how do you even how do you? How do women? That
was another thing with Black What Old that I couldn't understand, Like women are
writing ninety percent eighty percent of these episodes, and not one time have they
ever mentioned inkling of fear of safety that makes sense, Like it's a lot
of one night stands, Like they're going to the bar, they're getting drunk,
and then they're going back there. It's never an instance of I can
die a night bitch. It's never that. But I've been I've been in
instances where I'll be like, I don't know who in this bitch house.
I don't know who in here. I don't know it's trying to set me
up. I ain't got nothing, But it don't matter, you know what
I'm saying, don't matter. I got my phone and that's enough. I
don't think people really realize like that. And I might be scaring a few
people, but you can rob a motherfucker blind just with their phone in their
hand and in the thumb and their face and just take everything out of every
account, beat them and send them about their way and maybe I was tweaking,
but I thought about that because a lot of niggas is dying and I
don't know if they dine because they're being set up by women in the instance
of where you think you abody gets some buns and then boom, your whole
life has changed. So it death happens, you know what I'm saying.
So for me, I for me, like I said, I'm overly conscious
about that when it comes to women, because I don't know, sometimes I
feel guilty. Like the misogynistic pod shit I'd be sometimes when I listen to
it, I'd be like, damn, maybe maybe I cared too much because
I'm always fearful about a woman's safety or something like that. But whoa,
look, I fall into that misogynistic shit sometimes, you know what I mean,
just because shit, I'm a man. What do you expect? What
do you mean by that? I fall into that like, oh, like
sometimes I have a show on this point of view, you know what I
mean? Example, Oh, I was tough to say what you were saying
earlier, Drea about a man, a man giving his opinion about a way
a woman should be. What what do you feel? Are you the kind
of man who like things, say he should dictate or have input on,
like how a woman should like carry herself or maybe like dress or anything like
that. Oh sometimes, yeah, I'm not gonna say that. I'm not
gonna dictate how she does, but I know how I like my woman to
operate sometimes, you know what I mean? In certain sets, Yeah,
you know what I mean. So it wouldn't if I saw somebody out like
that. I'm not gonna condemn her for how she dressed or whatever, but
that could never be my chick. What if what if the woman What if
she likes you and she said, you know, I just dressed like this,
you know, because I want to. But if you don't, I
mean to keep it a buck that's full of I'm kind of full of shit
on that too, just because like I'm glad he said it. She's because
when she's dressed like that, look, that's what you She was dressed like
that to pull me in, you know what I mean. And that's that's
what brought me there in a first place. So when you say my woman,
that's why I said, you mean the woman, you're not your woman
because she don't belong to you. But that's okay, trying to get you.
You're right, but they go both ways because you can't own nobody.
But but explain to me why I do want my woman to call me her
man though I am hers and she is mine. I do like I do,
I do theory. No, No, you are mine. And because
because I worried, there we go this me again. I love you too
much. I love you too much, and I'm not saying that you are
you are mine legally you are mine, so whatever, and I am yours,
and we are representations of each other. So no, I'm not about
to go out here with my dick print going crazy. But you also ain't
about to go out here with your camerato showing. I think you're talking about
something completely different though. No, but that's under the covenant of marriage,
even if we were dating. I need to this is a practice. I
need to know that you understand that we are representations of each other. When
we go out together, we look good. And I'm not about to be
on some bullshit, and I hope you're not about to be on some bullshit.
But if you are going to be on some bullshit, that's fine,
but you're going to be by yourself, because I have to understand that you
understand. I have to understand that you understand that we are representations of each
other and we both got brands. So if me and Dre are dating,
I ain't about to go I'm not about to go in there and show my
ass at her event, and a vice versa. I hope you don't come
in mind. But let's say I do get drunk and at her event and
I show my ass. Now I embarrass my girl, and I also and
I also embarrass myself in front of her people, her friends, her family.
She got an answers to that. No, No, I don't expect
her to still be with me after I do some shit like that, because
Nick, you had one job, and that's to show up, give me
my flowers, to your ass down, clap very loud, and leave.
I think a lot of the times people people misunderstand love comes with responsibility.
Dating comes with responsibility. And it's not just not cheating and cheating. Isn't
that that's the nigga, that's just one facet of it. But the possession,
that possession thing. Yeah, you're mine, I'm sorry you mine and
I'm yours. It's not the fuck up about it. That's it. Yeah,
I'm mine and you're and I'm yours. It's not it's not all do
everything. I'm saying that make my dinner. No, no, no,
no no. But he's not saying ownership. He made that clear before.
I don't own you. But because if you do, but if you do
break, if you do break this nonverbal agreement, then maybe we shouldn't be
together. And I think sometimes women don't even like that that, Oh,
I can do whatever I want to do. Yeah, you can by yourself,
by yourself. Yeah, And I think I think that's where to me.
I hear a lot of the women that I come across state. Yeah,
I hear that I'm a grown ass for Yeah. And I think a
lot of it too is that I think that niggas don't say that, but
they definitely exhibit the same type of ship. But it's like I said,
like we had a conversation earlier, we got the freedom of choice, right,
you could choose to do what you want, and you could choose not
the fuck with it fear you Like that's a person's right, right, But
well, also where you laughing that? I think I just don't think that
people really understand dating and titles, because in my mind, I never really
wanted to be in a relationship until I knew that you were somebody that I
could marry, because I knew what was next. As soon as we say
we go together, the clock is ticking on when we move in together,
and when and when and when we started making plans to do this and this
and this and this and this and this and this because we can't. We
ain't just free dating. It ain't just it ain't just motherfucking freelance dating.
No. All of this ship comes with the time. And if you wasting
my time, wasting your time, if I'm wasting your time, I hope
you tell me I'm wasting your time, you get the fuck out of here.
Keep the condom on the I'm not keeping a condom. See, that's
but that is, that's when it's first. Uh take other top clock combs.
Oh you that happened. I'm sorry, but because but but for me,
you're right. But what what made Sierra different was she was like,
well, we can't do that because I'm opulating. And I was like,
oh, so you know your coucie, Yeah, all right, bet sweet,
this responsibility. But I'm aware of I'm gonna wear a lambskin, but
as soon as you're done opulating, this lambskin is coming off, I'm sorry,
I'm not wearing I'm not wearing an if we, if we go together?
Oh you were if if you said, if y'all go together, yeah,
But I'm saying, like if you if y'all not, if y'all just
casually just fucking rounds, you got to got to use the rubbers. I'm
sorry, I might because as soon as the condom come off, next,
what are we? That's fine? And ship that might be happening while y'all
with the condom, say, I must say that, just depend on she
might ask you that, nigga, nigga, nigga, day one, what
are we? Depending on how good you are, nigga, you can fuck
You could be a piece of shit with a good piece of dick, And
regardless of how good the dick is, you might confuse her enough to make
her ask you what are we, because she wants to know that if if
she wants to let that dick go or not, and if she's making the
right decision. In my opinion, I've been in the instance where I've been
sucking a girl and nigga. She never asked me that because I wasn't who
she wanted. But I also been an instance to where a nigga I was
knocking the breaks off of her and she instantly asked me, yo, what
a week? Because I like you, you inspire me that and I had
to make a decision. Wait when she asked you that, you gotta make
a decision right there? Uh nod? When when have you ever asked that?
Drea? You don't seem you ever asked anybody what aren't you know what
I mean, never asked anybody what they are? But yeah, you never
say what we're doing like during set? No no, no, no,
no no no. It's probably when I probably when I was younger. Um,
yeah, probably when I was younger. Probably once maybe I could think
of when I was younger after just dating somebody for a while. But that's
just feel like clarity, Like yo, if we just casually dating, that's
cool. I feel like if you ask that question, it's okay. Just
don't get pissed off if you give rejected right, Like, if they say
I'm not looking at the series, then just be cool with it and they
act accordingly. But I think that should come out in the beginning, you
know what I mean, I should, boy if it don't. Yeah,
and you know, feelings are after change to you know what I mean.
But yeah, we're just kicking it at first and then I really like you.
And you know, niggas like to operating the space of technicality. They're
very good at it. That's how niggas operated. Say I'm wrong, Niggas
like to operate technically. Well, technically we're not together, don't matter what's
going on. If we had a conversation, it said, this is what
it is. It's a text. I'm talking about your as technicality. Yeah,
you know so like but you're like, so sometimes it is good to
have conversations. But you also got to be smart, right because if you
got you get caught in that space of technicality. If you're younger and you
feel like, oh but we're doing now, nigga, what that niggas say
though, what he says, what it is, I've been I've been in
that where. Man, that's just a good piece of pussy though, And
I'm not really trying to let go of it. But I don't want to
be with you. Thought. Yeah, so if you single and I'm single.
Can we can we still? Please do this? And please don't try
to make nothing out of this. Please. I love people who are probably
perfectly fine with that, but you know there's something perfectly fine with it.
I know people who have said they perfectly fine with it and have not been
perfectly fine with it. You because, just like me and operating the space
of technicality women out you only got one more time to say that, though,
I'm so sorry that let me said my last time. Men. You
know, women are real good for hearing one thing, seeing another thing,
and going off of what they feel. But you know it'd be bullshit a
lot of times, because you got some niggas who are out here, and
it's not just me and who manipulate writing. Me and the women both play
bullshit games, but we're talking about me and sometimes will tell them motherfucker something
and treat them a different way so that they don't lose that good piece of
pussy over whatever the situation. No, it's not because just how women,
just how women say. It's hard to find good, good, good good
dick. It's really hard to find a girl that a woman that has good
snatch and doesn't irritate you. You don't think it's bullshit to manipulate somebody because
you like the pussy. Byron and I go out to eat, I order
first Byron. We go to Panda Express. I might buy Byron's food.
I might buy Byron's food. I don't want to fuck Byron. Me and
Byron go to the movies. He might pay for the movies. I'm getting
you back for the for the dinner. But we're going. We're going to
the movies just on some study ship or whatever. We might go to the
club. I might know somebody. It's so many different exchanges between guys of
money. That's that's just what friends do now, and a change you.
We're not fucking, we ain't never gonna fuck. We ain't talking about fucking.
We might do the exact same thing. I might go out. You
brought me food one night. It's not looking at nothing. But as soon
as that penis enters that vagina and then you bring me food at midnight,
it changes everything. We go to the movies and I pay, it changes.
It's for some reason money spending money on the person, or spending time
with the person. I might spend time with a nigga. We might just
go and go to the hookah bar. We might not. I've been to
huokah bar and I said not one word to my nigga the whole entire time.
We just smoking hookah. Might show each other some means of ship,
but it ain't like we're sitting there a conversating. I can't do that with
a woman that I'm fucking, because now it looks like something, and now
it's taking as something and it's not nothing. I'm treating you like a friend.
We just happen to be fucking, and I think the lines get blurred
sometimes when men try not to treat a woman like a piece of pussy.
I do like you a little. I do like you enough to stick my
penis in you. So I'm not going to treat you like a pocket pussy.
But the actions that come with the actions that come with that make you
believe, Oh, I like like whatever whatever emotions a woman feel, it
changes that you know what I'm saying. And I think that that's where that's
where the manipulation come in. That unless we unless you're talking about nigga saying
saying shit like to make you think intentional shit like saying saying and don't get
me wrong. It's like I said, it's not just me. And sometimes
women know that niggas have a certain liking for them too. You know,
people play the game, but I don't believe in manipulating nobody intentionally for your
own personal game, like doing that intentional shit like you said, telling people
shit certain making shit look a certain kind of way when you know, like
that's all you know, Yeah, that's all this he is. Or you
feel like you're about to lose the motherfucker, so you do a little have
a little ploy over here to reel the motherfucker back in. Like, nah,
that's too we have big Asians. Don't do that and don't fall for
it. Don't fall for it. That's the that's to me. Who is
more at fault the manipulator or to manipulate it or is it equal or fault?
It depends on how naive you are what they gotta do me. But
if you come outside to play and you get played, yeah, maybe you
didn't come out side to play, ma, if you just went outside,
nah, you know what's up when you get to play in the game.
Yeah. But I sometimes I sometimes I've encountered women who didn't know that they're
playing like definitely, they all they all wrought rom coms. They're all this.
That's the thing man, y'all. So the dream from the jump,
it's not about being still a dream from a drum. Niggas like to sell
dreams. Women like to buy dreams, absolutely everybody likes. I don't like
to buy dreams. This is the American dream is like the slogan for where
we fucking leave. Who don't like to buy a dream? Oh tell me
what it is. I don't like to buy dreams either, but I'm saying
they seem nice. Just like we were talking earlier. You want to do
this, you want to do that. Everybody like to buy a dream,
even if you're doing in your subconscious. Nobody's like, fuck that positive,
great sound and shit. Nobody says, but what is dating like today?
Is it? Is it? What is it? Are you? I feel
like they it has always been trash. They didn't is a tiring what's the
tiring part? You need some oil man about the For me, it's just
um filtering through different stuff, trying to um and I entered again. I'm
not really, like really a dator, Like I'm not a person who's like,
oh I'm out here dating. I'll go, you know, like if
asked um, somebody who I'm like, oh you cool. Yeah, we
can go try a date to see how that goes. I go. But
it's like an interview for you see interview for for both people. We can
see if we got, you know, some kind of commonality. No,
she probably she's probably really good at finessing an interview though, but it's definitely
an interview. Now, he said, I'm good at finessing. Now,
I'm just a cool ass person. But this is the thing with me,
is I can find commonality. Like I'm just that kind of person. I
can just sit and talk to anybody, you know, but I'm not about
finessing them. The problem, but that's the problem that I had was that
I can talk to anybody and that they're talking that talk. I can draw
shit out of women that maybe a lot of men can't. That's why I
thought podcasting was a good thing for me, because I can talk, and
I can bring things out of women. And then me bringing things out of
women made women believe that I liked it. Yeah I wanted them and I
didn't, and then then we have sex. And then if it wasn't trash
because I am trashed. But if it wasn't trashed that time then but if
it wasn't trash that time, then they then it's like, oh shit,
well I don't want him to you know what I'm saying, and I do
not bringing out I'm not a woman like what I inspire bitches for sure.
I feel like now I just feel like I inspire women. I just feel
like I feel like I because I only know how to communicate with women.
I know how to communicate with women because I was raised by nothing but women,
so I know how to communicate with them. So a lot of the
times they just they let their guard down way quicker than they will with an
other nigga who don't know how to talk. Because let's be real, a
lot of the times, guard down means asking enough questions for me to believe
that you really want to know who I am. So I feel I feel
I feel like, oh, niggas be asking what's your favorite color? Which
your favorite song? What'll school you want to? I don't give a fuck
about none of that. I'm trying to figure out, nigga, where your
trauma come from? Why you laughter what you do? Well? Shit,
what else we're talking about you, because I don't. I gotta. When
I was dating, I had to figure I realized that I didn't have money
going for me. I didn't had that going for me. So a lot
of the times niggas niggas and take somebody downtown to get them a nice steak
and this and that and then that and pull them up, pull up in
a nice car. Niggas is doing that? You think? So? Absolutely?
Yeah, I'm an energy But you know I always talk about energy.
I'm an energy person. Like I usually know if I want to encounter a
person again after the first encounter, I don't even really had to a lot
of times. Um and then when we but if you feel but if you
feel like a person, really, if if I like you, if I
like you and we've been this, ain't this ain't Oh I met you on
Tuesday. We didn't talk at all, and then I asked you to go
out. We go on a date on Wednesday. No, we've been texting,
so you've been getting we've been doing each other. Then that's going to
date and then now I'm pulling out the big guns, right, So what
you know what I mean? Why you feel like boom boom. If we're
getting into the mix of it, I'm making forget everything is around it's motherfucker,
that's my that's I'm trying to fuck. But I'm also trying to let
you know that I am. I am interesting who you inter who you are?
Yeah, for sure because a lot of niggas don't know how to talk.
So I had, but I realized that I don't have money going for
me. So it's the goal. I always the fuck for both of y'all,
like, no matter, So it's day even if I don't like you,
but that's the end. I'm not going on a data phone like you.
Yeah you know what I'm saying. When you get there, like if
it's like, oh we cool, we get there, but it's like it
ain't really the other kind. No, Okay, how good she look like
she look? Because her could you might change my mind if you annoy it
and it's not happening. An annoying woman is ridiculous because not only is she
annoying that, but is a private investigator. So I don't like that.
So I have to let you down easy because I don't want you snooping around.
I don't want you to telling people we talked. Every woman is a
private invested I know. But if she annoying and a private duest investigating.
Now she all in my comment, she texted me, she bro no no,
no, no no, but I know, I know if you annoy
him before we go on in the first date though, for sure one percent,
I wouldn't. You wouldn't. I would because I don't like a dude
a lot of talking, you know what I mean. So it's like our
first date, that's what we're gonna do our talking through. So I ain't
gonna be texting shit all day whatever not. So you're not asking about trauma
when you get there, because you gotta start. You gotta start from you
gotta start from day one. You gotta start from now. I'm not starting
from step one. I don't got that going from me. He tall,
dark skinning, and you got all his hair, and it's I ain't got.
I don't have that out of my hair. Yeah, I don't,
I don't. I don't. I have to recognize my strimps. I come
in. I got to recognize my strimps and I don't have. I don't.
I don't. I feel like I ain't got. I don't think that
really little. It helps you, know what I mean? But nigga being
six plus nigga definitely helps helps you. Yeah, nigga, I am.
I am only asking questions. I just that's it. But I think I
think more or less. Man It like if that's what's gonna draw you in,
but it ain't gonna keep you who whoever? A woman? Yeah,
cap, I don't think so. Cap. If you look like if you
look like somebody, if you look if you look like somebody that she could
be with, she might decide to tolerate you or Notoh, do you know,
pussy, I have a super cap for you. What I'm speaking,
I'm speaking for me, ain't no fucking Yeah. I was about to say,
you know how much pussy, I've talked to myself out of tell us
your story, tell us about doing what being missogynistic? Nah, goofy being
too funny? Yeah, I thought it was funny. It was he just
thought us it was missogyn thought I thought it was funny. I thought it
was funny. I was crazy. Yeah, I thought that she was funny.
So it was like, fucking I gotta let this shit out. Is
that hard for you to figure out a woman's sense of humor. Sometimes I
just don't be careedt nothing. You didn't burn it. Yeah, but sometimes
I mean sometimes that is that. Sometimes I'll be like, I gotta make
her not like me on purpose. I have I gotta aboard, aboard,
aboard. So why you just don't go with the I'm good men can't do
that well, he said, you have to talk to save seemed like a
strenuous situation for this man. I was just one. I'm talking. It
wasn't intentional, okay, okay, you know what I mean. It's just
we was talking or whatever. I thought something was funny and I had to
let it out and she ain't fly that shit funny and I've done that,
like well, he was like, then that's crazy. I can see your
tracks, like, and you thought that was gonna be okay? I definitely,
I've definitely said that. I've definitely said something like that. It's rude.
But but I'm not just the first day. I'm not doing on the
first date though. I didn't say that. This was on the approach like
crazy that It was just like, man, you look good, but is
that all you? You know, everything you say before but doesn't before but
doesn't count. But it's but but it's so crapy that's crazy. But that's
crazy. No, I mean that, I mean shit, that is a
very valid fucking question. If I can walk up and look six three and
then get home and be five eight, that's crazy. That's crazy. So
yes, niggas should be able to ask, hey, before I invest time
and money and energy, is this all you? But maybe not just be
like because all right, because because you and your head is big, but
that bun is killing it, so you cute, It's fucked. If you
took that bun off, I would be shitty, That's what I'm saying,
because at night I look like Seeley from the tele Purple, my nigga.
But you but I've seen you look good. But it's all I've seen you
look good, So it's it's straight. But if you took boom oh,
so you're saying like, if this detached from your I know it's so,
I accept. I accept the come over here to record like, oh she
looked good. But if you took that off and your forehead was huge and
the bun is like this, you got the post rod, you got the
post rod. Pony, respect the past, for they're doing the best they're
doing the best. But but the nigga. But that might sound crazy,
but I do see why some guys ask. I try to do as much.
That happened to me in sixth grade, seventh grade, I dated a
girl. Her name was Tiffany. She had the fresh braids to the back.
This one uh boom boom was going crazy on on the radio. That's
only that's that's what year it was. Man, we don't, we don't.
We went on spring break. The whole spring break. We're talking on
the phone all day every day. She come back from spring break that Monday,
braid's gone hair crazy, nappy, super duper dumb, short, nothing,
but she looked like a nigga inmate. That just like Tray songs taking
the braids out, like I don't want to leave Tray just gotta make it.
Yeah, she and songs references. I don't know what anybody anybody anybody,
Yeah, but yeah, but dating dating, dating is a dating is
is weird because you just get to see us side of a person that they
don't never show anybody else, like a mask. Yeah, and that dating
mask, like the questions, the questions that get the master to come off,
the questions that get the master to come off, and then you know
some people are good. Yeah. Is it a mask or is it that
you present your best self? Right? They say that you want to present
your best self. It's not about like necessarily being dishonest, right, especially
in using hair. If y'all dave black women, that's a horrible fucking example.
No, that's not I fuck with at all, because if it's weaves
whatever, like, that's that's an expressive thing. So it's like whatever,
So I'm not gonna do what you talk about the mmate. That's serious.
But I think that's a horrible example for y'all to use. But I don't
think example. I think it's a horrible example special. I think if you
can say it's not, I think it's a horrible. If I took off
my waves when we got to the crib, my nigga and I was bald,
you would be shitty. What are you talking about? Put your waves
back on when we go out? That'd be a strange out there. You're
lying, brou If you found out that I was in the barbershop getting the
lace front to fill up my George Jefferson gap, you would be shitty.
What are you talking about I would not give a fu. First of all,
it would be weird because specially, I mean, that's not something to
me and traditionally did, even though they got all kinds of shits right in
that new day. Um, so that would just be different, weird,
like like that's whatever. But um I'm talking about with black with black women
in their hair, I think, And you can say you don't. I
don't fucking care. I think that's a terrible Let me so much. Let
me let me rephrase it. That was seventh grade. As an adult today,
I do not want to date a woman who do not know what to
do with their hair. Okay, that that that is sexist stuff. What
like you said, you said the nigga cat can do that? Who said
that? I said, put your ways back on you. I an't say
that. He said, you're pulling this. You're pulling his way, you're
pulling on his tracks while y'are sucking. No, No, that shit glued
down. Okay, don't pulling my ship that now. It's just it's because
for me, the reason why I said the woman know how to do her
hair, that just lets me know, like watching a woman do her hair
in the mirror before we go out like, oh, so you really know
what makes you look good? Like y'all? For a woman to know what
ear rings that brings out our cheek bones and the color of her nails that
bring it, y'all gotta do a whole y'all. Y'all don't have to do
shit. Y'all do a whole lot of shit to look good. Yeah,
and I like that, I agree. But if you don't know how to
do your hair and you take out your hair and you look like Trey songs,
I am upset. That's what I'm saying. I think at the age
that we are now though, that's something that you should have picked up about
that. Yeah, if we if we're forty years old and you can't cook,
it's not a it's not about it's not a it's not even about gender
roles. I can cook, but if we have children, I got to
be the sole per person I cook or are you gonna try to cook?
But how you don't how to feed yourself? And for that's that's the more
I think when people talk about cooking, I think that's what they that's what
man mean, you don't how to feed yourself. I don't think that's what
I think. That's what you mean, and I and I and I love
that that's what you mean. I don't think that's what most niggah, I
want you to feed me. Oh yeah, no, no, no,
shout out to you for being that, But you don't know how to feed
yourself. That's scary, my cousin. Cooking is a life skill. Everybody
should know how to do it, some kind of basic cooking, some kind
yeah, some kind of. Basically it's a life skill. Uh. It
tells me a lot about how you cooked, though, all one thousand percent.
Yes, yes, that definitely. It's definitely a character attribute to see
how how I want my cook because if you're taking all these shortcuts to to
to make some shit like what like gravey out the package. Yeah, hey,
I used to use Verby out the package for a long time, but
I've been deliverous. Say used to, but you know what, stove stop,
stovetop stuffing's fire man. Hey, we could turn these mics off right
now. Man, that is a fucking line. You never heard that before
the FIRS. When I was a kid, one of my friends just told
me she was eating some if she listened to this, because she listened to
it. She was eating scalloped cheese potatoes at the box. Now, wow,
that's crazy. Now, now with that being said, I might make
some stuff. This stuff out the box. It's the massilee just just because
because I don't I don't know how all this to say. But he already
told us what it was that hot with it. That's funny. But if
you like it out the box, but don't make you don't. Don't make
me. No mashed potatoes out of no box? Hold the phone? Whoa
why they got mashades in the bag? The Idaho garlic. Don't do that
when I tell you out? Wait? What what's she supposed to do?
Boil some mash I do it all the time. Why don't you make the
potatoes? Then I do it all the time. You do what I boiled
mashed potatoes, Chop them up, boil them, mash them. Ships myself?
You're feeling that's what stuff? I don't feel out? So what is
she like? The peels and their ship? Don't be lazy, go all
the way for most parts. Now see you see you see having this nigga?
You can't eat it where you can't tell us in the bag, then
I can tell. But definitely tail if that's the only meal you do know
how to make, don't give me, yeah, really, don't. Don't
get me no box macaroni and cheese. Don't give me enough what we're saying.
Don't give me no Kraft macaroni and cheese, not even the the luxe.
Are you crazy? Who grap and cheese? And who do you know?
You don't how much it costs real macaroni and cheese for three people could
feed y'all for three foods. That's if you're making that big ass page.
That's if you're making any kind of good macaroni and cheese, you want you
want her to boil them, boil them pasta because you can't tell me cheese,
that's it. That's why she don't putting milk and cheese in there.
And stern it, don't you mean what and cheese? You just wanted to
boil some pasta? Didn't put some some milk and some cheese in there?
In third? Yeah, okay, don't don't give me no crash kind of
cheese cheese. I don't give a fuck about all that shit. Just because
if the bitch throws some craft singles and then you're gonna be shitty. Yeah,
because you whites and that's not my ministry, you know what I mean?
Nah, don't do that. What she should need. That's what I'm
trying to say. And I prefer a rule. This is he was about
to say, I prefer us. If that's not what you're into, Okay,
hey sir, if that's not what you're let's just funny. Deep.
I say that for me when when I want to eat like that, for
the most part, I just go out and buy it. When you say
you want to eat like what like the like the rule and all of that
stuff. Okay, I'll just go buy it, okay, because that's funny.
I'm not about to do that shit, that's funny. This is black.
What do y'alls? This is my niggas for sure, for sure.
Now that's but But the thing think about it. The thing about social media
and y'all can y'all can help me out because I'm not dating. But you
don't know if my fucking can cook. It's like LinkedIn of dating kinda,
and you don't know if it my fucking cook. Like imagine you shooting your
shot. This is girl on Instagram. No, you know there's a girl
on Instagram. She finds how she dances. She dances and I put the
lotion and the splash on there every time, spank paint every single time.
It's funny. We cool. It's not like she a stranger. I know
who she is. She finds it funny or whatever. But what if?
What if? What if I was single and then I was able to go
out with this girl and I find out that she wanted a bitch that we're
talking on the speaker phone in Walmart? What if you find that out?
What like you? Because you don't, you won't know that. But what
if That's what I'm saying. What if you're shooting your shot and she liked
to sit in the front row of the movie theaters. You won't know this,
No, you won't until you go in the movies theaters and her crazy
ass water ignorance, she walked to the front of them. You know about
You're gonna know about the cooking, though, because when the motherfucker know how
to cook, they'd be putting them a little tutorials, not a single cooking.
Anybody who knows me, I am a real cook. Called Thanksgiving then
it was real cook at car Britney right now, but she always ate,
but you don't. That's what I'm saying. Like some people who really can
get down, they don't really post like that Instagram and wanted to play to
nothing. But maybe because but maybe because of who you but because you do,
we do, we do content. So you your content is played,
so you didn't necessarily your page is different with it now my Facebook maybe on
my story zone, but my Instagram nowhere, not even the story, but
it's somewhere on that on social media, on your social media, my Facebook,
I probably put it on the stories. Yeah. See, that's what
I'm saying you everybody. I just got you my Instagram. You don't have
my Facebook. I know. I'm just saying. I'm saying, if I
like you, I'm finding If I like you, I'm finding your Facebook page.
That might maybe, But if I if I like you, I'm definitely
going I'm definitely searching. But you just won't know. Like you find out
you like a girl and you find out she wanted the ones that's always arguing
on Facebook, just all all the kind she's suspended from Facebook every week because
she just always on their arguing. I don't like that because those people that
be like that, never talking person. I've never met a person that talked
that much on Facebook that talked in person. Never. Most of the times
it's because you haven't got no friends in real life. I don't know about
that. I think if you're sitting there and you arguing with these people that
you quote unquote, no that like, because I could, butcher, I'd
much rather have with dialogue with people that I'm actually cool. Didn't be talking
to these people that I don't even know. If we saw each other out
in person, we wouldn't be talking it all right, you know what I
mean? It might be a high yeah, yeah, like a motherfucker talked
to you all day on Facebook or whatever, and then when you see him
in person, they'd be acting lengd it ship ship shop. That's what you
really up. A good point. We only got two more minutes. Do
you believe that the two world should stay apart? No, me neither,
but I but I have I have been in I have been I have been
in situation to where I saw somebody and I was like about to initiate the
conversation, and then the day the energy was like nah was it man?
There present? Nah? Even no instances I think it should be and not
in that instance, like if you're cool, like I see people all the
time, I we like, I'm sorry, I can't get your name,
but no I know your face. You know I speak. But like,
as far as the world's being separate, So if I, if I think
with Byron is saying, it's different. Like if we talk, if we
arguing or talking on face book every single day and I see you in person
and you do not talk, we need to be talking. We need to
be talking because someone but some people don't know how to talk in person though,
or they breathstink. Hey, you know, here's some gun. Let's
talk. Yeah. Yeah, I haven't been. I haven't really been out
well because because of the shows, because of podcasts, and whenever I go
out in the city, I kind of know somebody out everywhere, so I
always find somebody to latch onto and talk to him. But for the most
part, I'm I'm gonna try to talk through this situation. I don't really
want to be here, so I've learned that about you. Yeah, I
don't really I don't really want to be here. So I'm gonna find somebody
and talk to this person the entire time because I got really I get real
bad social anxiety. Then it's not necessarily anxiety, it's just maybe that's it.
I don't I feel obligated to entertain everybody. If I'm not talking to
one person, I gotta make sure everybody's okay, and I don't really like
that. That's why I have really my birthday gatherings, none of that ship.
I want to make sure everybody's having a good time, and that's too
much for me. I enjoyed being there, but I don't. I'm gonna
nigga on the wall, Yeah you know what I mean, but I'm gonna
moving around, I'm gonna speak, Hey, what's up, hell are you
doing? Or whatever. But when I spend I'm most comfortable like just sitting
on the side and watching everybody else in the right. That time we was
at Dowdy's numb event. Shorty got drunk so bad. I followed her wherever
she went because she was a walking She was a walking disaster piece. Everywhere
she bout to too was a disaster and I just wanted to watch it.
But other than that, I'm I'm like, I'm kind of like that or
talking to one person, Drea, what kind of person are you? Are
you a tworker? I'm an exceptional person. Oh, I'm sorry I went
for the party. No, I just I mean so I'm a homebody mostly.
Um, I don't really go I like that no more. I like
to have people over. Like my people weren't real cool, but I like
to have like come over. I like to cook and maybe have some drinks.
If I do go out, like, I don't really do the club
Scotlett Potatoes. He listen, listen is crazy. My son lives off that
yes, right now at my house. If you came over, assuming that
the four boxes of macaroni and cheeseman I couldn't cook, you would be sadly
mistaking my son's lunch. But um, everybody you would to don't worry.
I'll bring you a plate next time you want see her. But ucause I'm
not doubting you, not fully because somebody said that somebody could cook, but
then I found out that their mom couldn't cook. They really wasn't a good
judgment of who could cook. I'm real confident. Well, I think that's
still I think as a child, you know what I mean, you all
the ways think that your parents can cook. You know what I mean just
because that's what you used to until you get outside of the house and you're
like, oh damn, that wasn't ship. Go ahead and called your favorite
cousin because he can vouched to Yep. Yeah, I'm where. It's my
dog. But no, I like to just go out to you. I
don't. I don't like to be out like that. I'll go Um.
I prefer to stay home. And if I do, God, is it
the older you get, the more you like to be in the house.
Yeah. Yeah, And the crowds throw me off. Sometimes it's not anxiety.
But like I said, I'm energy person. So if it feels like
a bad environment, well I one thousand percent. But everywhere I go out
for, like I know, depends on who's Like, if it's a podcast
an event, ain't nothing happening here. I have realized that, Like,
if it's a room for the podcasters, ain't notything to happen. But if
it's some niggas in there, dad just there, I'm not staying here.
I don't know you, bro, But DJ was Djan was hard because I'm
there to provide a service. Yeah, and I I'm trying. I'm trying
to control the energy but liquor always fucked that up for people, like people
sucked that up like drunk people sucked that up. They do. They fucked
that up a lot. They fucked me up, and I don't like that.
That's why I kind of to get away from that a bit. Try
to spit on me because I wouldn't play Bootsy at an R and B set.
She was mad and I had to like so you had to set it
off. Sorry, I was right there. It was by the rampause.
But yeah, like DJ and yeah, I had to know I'm good.
I enjoy it and sometimes I just enjoy telling people no, yeah, you're
seen like the type. No oh, he for sure. Like it was
a dude, what's the weirdest request you got? Well, it's just something
that I consistently get at the club that I work at. Uh, niggas
want to come up and pay me to play their music, and like,
off top it's one hundred and fifty dollars, you know what I mean off
the dribble, and dude was like, uh, why why are you trying?
Why? Like he's like, I got ten dollars for you to play.
I said, nigga, what ten ten? Nigga? It's a hundred
dollars at the very mental just because nobody here wants to hear your song,
bro right, and I'm gonna have to restart the whole party after that.
That's not true. It's three niggas with him that's gonna get in the middle
of the floor. I got exactly, I got there. I gonna have
to restart the whole party, trash bro to play your goddamn song. So
no, and don't stand by me. Don't stand by me waiting for me
to play the song either. Don't request the song and stand there. Uh,
that's that's a woman, though. Women do that more than anything.
I was at the spot of white man stood right there. He has me
to play motherfucking dangerous minds. Nigga. Gangs is paradise, Yes, nigga.
I smoked it though, because he paid me fifty. He paid me
fifty. After he was standing there though, he was like, what you
need money? Yeah, I said, oh, Ben, spend spend it
right out of whatever came. Oh fifty right there, you got it right
here. I didn't know that people did that unless it was like a private
party. I didn't know that people in clubs went up to Jason, I've
gone up to a DJ and asked if it would be cool to do a
birthday shout out, but not like, actually play a song. It's it's
a it's a common thing. And they motherfucker went up to the booge and
asked them to play atomic dog. Bro not not a not a cute dog
nigga, not no person in the frat nigga, an old nigga came the
bug and was like can you I said, Bro, how often do you
get this? He was like, Bro, every night, at least two
or three times every night. This is before I was DJ. Everybody.
I was like, bro, this is crazy. And then they want you
to play a song that you played an hour ago. I wan't here yet,
so hey, can you play? Can you play one more song?
I want to hear this before I leave. All right, you're just gonna
have to leave and make some box potatoes. Crazy ass. Now, what
about if you was in the club, would you would you want to Niget
Holland and you in the club? Oh uh, I mean it happens.
I was about to say we was just in the club, and yeah,
yeah, I mean it happens. What what was she wearing I was my
birthday. You start, oh death with the orange fish stocking with two five
skirt, for sure, I'm getting a little tired. Ain't broken death.
I was like, okay, I see what type of time you are.
I defin see what type of time you are thousand and five. I was
committed, but I mean it's cool, but I wouldn't say that I ever,
like, talk to nobody that I meant it. Why you just don't
gonna wearn't going nowhere? I mean, nothing is wrong with it, just
why is that? Yeah? Why I'm thinking about it now, like I've
never really I don't know, it's not I mean I used it for years.
I wouldn't get my number out like I just I just weird. Man.
You know, you get one time you'd be like, you know,
I'm gonna. I think most of whom like most people when you meet them
off rip now, they don't give out numbers no more. My Instagram is
so I'm old right, and when people ask me that, I'm automatically like,
oh what Like when people say let's do social media, um I do.
I don't only do that if I like I like. It throws me
off because I'm the phone, I used to, but um, I only
do that if I meet like a creator out and we're talking about that,
then I'll be like, let's exchange social media so we can like follow each
other. Shit. But I don't know why I don't go nowhere like that
many people who have actually given my number out. I probably can count on
one hand. Legit like in my maybe two hands in all of my adult
life. It's just really never goes nowhere. It's hold up, I'm calling
cap on that swear you say you can count on two hands how many people
you gave your number? Right number? Yes, my club in the club
in the club specifically, not it's not cappa. I'm telling you. I
didn't give my number out for you. I wouldn't give it out, okay.
I would be like I've packed yours, and then I wish I can
control how's it caused? Because when you called me, I'll get your number
if if you come, Okay, I got you because the nigga call you
right there? Yeah, I want I went through so many phases growing up,
like figuring out my boundaries, figuring out shit. They're like like no,
like tell them a fucker, you don't want that you know what I
mean. That's circling back to what I was talking about cards to like women
having to protect I'm learning how to protect themselves against niggas that want to holler
at it or want to do them and men don't. Men don't necessarily have
to do that, and uh, I am thankful for that. But I
do believe I do believe that most I don't. I don't. I do
believe that men should be more m I don't know the word I'm trying to
say, but they should care more about you get more a couchie if you
if you if you protect the COUCHI if you seem like you'll protect the couchie,
you'll get more of it opposed opposed to being scary or very aggressive because
a lot of a lot of men make it hard. Like if I mean,
if I if I'm out in the club, I'm not. I'm not
trying to be on a rape ship or nothing like that. But if I
see a girl that I that I'm that I'm having a good time with,
she might be terrified to even walk away from me. I don't even know
if she really if she really liked me, because she might be scared to
walk away from it because the last NAT she walked away from punching her ship.
You know what I'm saying. So I'll overanalyze in the club too.
It sad, that's what I'll be in the club. I think it's all
in an approach, you know what I mean. How you approach doing me
is going to determine you know, where you go from there? You know
what I mean? Here, hear this with your best one. I don't
got one. I definitely don't go. Yeah, that's to say, oh,
you said like you had a thing. One they got know about news.
When they find the thing that works for them, that's what they do.
So I ain't know. So what works for me? I'm jovial.
Yeah, I'm a happy Any nigger that used jovial is jovial, six foot
jovial and talking off and trying to get pussy. The pussy is just get
off of me, pussy. Nah, that's not it. Come They don't
come that. It don't come that easy. But you know, I'm just
I'm a funny dude, you know what I mean. So mostly the time
when I approach, think you funny, we already discovered. Yeah, most
of the time when I'm approach. It's gonna it's gonna be on joke.
Yeah, yeah, definitely. A joke is definitely, definitely the best ice
breaker. A joke is always, to me, the best ice because that's
all I got. I'm talking to you. I make you laugh. Yeah,
my god, once you laugh, it's over. Keep her. If
you keep her laughing, she can't see because she's laughing like this, I
can't see me for I had to. I had to. I think being
insecure coming growing up, I think I had I think I think I had
to be more funny than I actually had to be, or talk more than
I actually had to, because a lot of think some women be like,
I want to fuck you. I didn't know you wanted to have sex.
I was like, damn, that's crazy, that's why. But a lot
of the times too men men, men have this and women have this.
But I think I've only heard women talk about it. But a lot of
men don't approach women because I don't think I fit the bill that you like.
I don't seem like the type of guy that you like. I know
a lot of women be like, I don't seem like you're type. I'm
like, you gotta cooch you don't you do you are my type? You're
cool? Like I feel too. I am joking, but I do feel
like I wouldn't even you wouldn't even be in my You wouldn't even be around
me like that to even shoot a shot if you wasn't my type? Do
you do? You do you keep man? Do you keep me in that
bay? Mike? You would? You would? You would fuck with him
if you shoot a shot? So he kind of like always under like a
test run, I guess or no, Na, I don't. I don't.
I don't really, I don't really have time, Like I really don't
be in the streets like I really just don't. Uh. I try not
to be. I try not to like be a rude though I'm real big
on like trying to be respectful because rejection is already hard, you know what
I'm saying. So I try to be like, oh, you know,
thank you for the compliment, but I'm okay, you know, no,
thank you over that. That's usually how I do it. That's some nigga
still don't care. Though. Some nigga still get saucy with it, but
you know whatever, But no, I don't. I don't really do that,
like that's that bullshit. But like, especially if he was that respectful
and yeah yeah, like like I just be like, and I'm like,
I'm real sicky, So I'm like, whoa. That escalated quickly. I've
seen I've seen that happen. One time in person, a girl rejected or
she rejected my roommate in college. He was like. He was real loud
too. He was like, well, fuck you then, bitch, and
she got real like they almost fought. I'm like, man, he about
to get kicked out. Man, I come back home and they and they're
fucking I swear to god, I was like, what the fuck happened between
two thirty and eight fifty? He was like, I don't know. They
was in there going crazy, and I was like, damn, so that
fucking bitch that sometimes that shit work, Hey, praise God. Oh no,
I don't know, man, that shit toxic as hell. I do
realize too, this last thing, we'll let you go. I do realize
too that a lot of the times I have been shot down because I'm not
toxic, because I am too, because I am nice, I'm too caring,
and sometimes I don't they don't know. Some women don't identify with that
shit that don't make you not toxic. You are correct, But I wasn't
the toxic that they wanted. Okay, that is correct. You are right,
because I was toxic still, just not the future toxic. I might
have looked like Chris Brown toxic. No maybe no. I might have said
it, hey, excuse me, miss, and then been on some toxic
kit and not. I might have appeared two nice. The approach was different.
The approach was yeah, the approaches I know you don't know me,
but excuses me, man. Yeah, yeah, but I definitely on something
on some other ship. But I still want to get that bussy. Yeah
we can get it popping. Give me that. Give me that because nobody
say there's a dichotomy because Chris rere give me that. Yeah, that's why.
Yeah, give me that. Yeah, it's three and then yeah,
and don't be on no bullshit for sure. You know. Oh that was
good. That is a trifector. All right, man, I'm gonna tru
go. I got kids screaming in the background. Yeah, but I'll see
y'all what we will see. Yeah, when we see y'all, man,
Pi's up.