WEBVTT 1 00:00:24.760 --> 00:00:29.640 Welcome to our experiment. One hundred person projects, simple questions for one hundred 2 00:00:29.679 --> 00:00:33.280 people. I'm Bill Correll, and this is my investigation. This is my 3 00:00:33.399 --> 00:00:39.399 research project to gather data from one hundred beautiful human beings for the sole purpose 4 00:00:39.479 --> 00:00:43.880 to see what actually happens across the interviews. Now, the questions are fixed 5 00:00:43.880 --> 00:00:48.359 and all the interviews will remain consistent, with a variable being the actual participants 6 00:00:48.399 --> 00:00:53.719 themselves and of course their answers. So it's as if Sam I'm having you 7 00:00:53.759 --> 00:00:57.399 come sit on my porch to share your thoughts so I can learn about people. 8 00:00:58.520 --> 00:01:00.000 Now, I'm looking forward to what we're going to learn at the end 9 00:01:00.000 --> 00:01:03.439 of this, and I have no idea what it's going to be when we're 10 00:01:03.479 --> 00:01:07.680 complete and have interviewed one hundred people, but very interested in all the people, 11 00:01:07.760 --> 00:01:11.159 the process, and of course your particular story and it's my distinct pleasure. 12 00:01:11.280 --> 00:01:15.400 Well, okay, why don't we have you introduce yourself? What is 13 00:01:15.439 --> 00:01:23.640 your full name? My full name is Samantha Meredith Ruth. Samantha Meredith Ruth. 14 00:01:23.400 --> 00:01:30.120 And what are the origins of the particles of your name? Who did 15 00:01:30.120 --> 00:01:36.959 you get them from? My parents? Terry Scharf, my dad's name is 16 00:01:37.000 --> 00:01:44.799 Melvin Scharf, but he goes by Buddy, nice, great, and anything 17 00:01:44.840 --> 00:01:48.959 in particular about those names where they well, I was supposed to be named 18 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:53.879 Rebecca, thank God. Nothing against the Rebecca, but I just don't see 19 00:01:53.879 --> 00:01:57.879 myself as a Becky or And when I was born, my dad decided I 20 00:01:57.920 --> 00:02:01.400 did not look like one, and Samantha, I came. I think that's 21 00:02:01.439 --> 00:02:05.640 awesome. I have a Becky by the way, And no, you don't 22 00:02:05.640 --> 00:02:07.840 necessarily look like a Becky, but I could see you going a lot of 23 00:02:07.840 --> 00:02:14.039 different ways depending on whoever it was that loved you and named you. So 24 00:02:14.719 --> 00:02:17.759 along those lines, what is your favorite nickname that most people don't know? 25 00:02:20.039 --> 00:02:27.639 My dad calls me Sambo. Sambo. I like it. And when did 26 00:02:27.639 --> 00:02:30.960 he start calling you that? God, as long as I can remember, 27 00:02:31.479 --> 00:02:36.520 like my brother, a lot of family called me Sammy, but he's the 28 00:02:36.560 --> 00:02:42.280 only one who ever called me Sambo. And the Sambo is your favorite. 29 00:02:43.479 --> 00:02:46.319 For sure. Give you a good feeling when you say, yeah, you're 30 00:02:46.319 --> 00:02:50.439 smiling, Okay, I get it. So now here's an interesting one. 31 00:02:51.199 --> 00:02:59.120 When did you first notice what color hair you had? I have no idea, 32 00:03:00.199 --> 00:03:08.120 absolutely no idea. Probably I would say sometime in elementary school. Can 33 00:03:08.159 --> 00:03:15.360 you recall anytime when it was kind of interesting or important to you? I'm 34 00:03:15.400 --> 00:03:20.719 not a girly girl. You're not, are you? So what kind of 35 00:03:20.759 --> 00:03:27.879 girl are you? I'm a tomboy, total tomboy. Sports, no dolls, 36 00:03:28.000 --> 00:03:32.360 no pink, never mind what color it is, it's in my way. 37 00:03:32.400 --> 00:03:38.879 Can I get it out of here? Yes? Good for you. 38 00:03:38.479 --> 00:03:46.479 So I'm going to resist calling you any of your nicknames simply because I don't 39 00:03:46.479 --> 00:03:50.719 have your permission yet, but at some point along in our relationship, I 40 00:03:50.800 --> 00:03:54.360 will. Now, what is your favorite thing to do to intentionally waste time? 41 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:03.800 Anything? With? Anything? With my dogs? So say some more 42 00:04:03.800 --> 00:04:08.000 about that. Do you have more than one? I have two? This 43 00:04:08.039 --> 00:04:15.400 is my youngest. Yep, Fassy is turning twelve this year. Don't know 44 00:04:15.439 --> 00:04:18.879 exactly when Dallas is five, and so anything, you know, if we 45 00:04:18.920 --> 00:04:23.959 have time, an outdoor adventure somewhere, but you know, we can amuse 46 00:04:24.000 --> 00:04:30.240 ourselves with a stick. Yeah. Do you throw balls? Do you have 47 00:04:30.279 --> 00:04:32.920 one of those big lung plastic dubers that you chuck it and goes about one 48 00:04:33.000 --> 00:04:39.879 hundred yards and then they get it and they come back panting. That's one 49 00:04:39.920 --> 00:04:43.560 of my favorite things in the world, and you know, and it's amazing. 50 00:04:43.639 --> 00:04:46.800 I guess there's a thing inside of the dog, the way that they're 51 00:04:46.839 --> 00:04:49.560 wired. No matter how many times you throw that ball, I've never seen 52 00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:54.240 one get get disinterested in kind of look away and go I'm not doing it. 53 00:04:54.680 --> 00:04:57.839 Oh no, no. And the reason I hesitated was because to me, 54 00:04:57.879 --> 00:05:00.879 it's just not a waste of time. That was why I had to 55 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:04.680 think, is there something else that you do that you would consider a waste 56 00:05:04.680 --> 00:05:09.079 of time? Because I agree with you, that's building relationship with a family 57 00:05:09.160 --> 00:05:14.000 member, isn't it. Uh yeah, yeah, I mean I get like 58 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:18.920 wasting time TV football, you know sports, that's but again I love that. 59 00:05:20.639 --> 00:05:24.720 Well, since you brought it up, we got creamed last night by 60 00:05:25.079 --> 00:05:29.120 by Crayton and omaha, they won by twenty points and that was really just 61 00:05:29.160 --> 00:05:38.040 a flash knockout. So I'm still recovering from that anyway. So this one, 62 00:05:38.079 --> 00:05:41.319 this one will be kind of interesting. And I really don't know what 63 00:05:41.800 --> 00:05:45.199 you know your favorite is, But what's your favorite movie to watch alone? 64 00:05:49.160 --> 00:05:57.480 Not much of a movie person, trash Ank, Redemption, I get it, 65 00:05:57.560 --> 00:06:00.639 What do you like about it? I'm a big Morgan Freeman fan. 66 00:06:01.560 --> 00:06:11.000 I love the struggle, the storyline, the overcome, you know, the 67 00:06:11.000 --> 00:06:19.360 the wrong do it? You know? I just the whole the whole movie. 68 00:06:19.639 --> 00:06:24.839 He uh, that's why. And it's not my favorite to watch alone. 69 00:06:24.879 --> 00:06:30.800 It's probably my favorite movie overall. But I'm not good with favorites. 70 00:06:32.439 --> 00:06:40.519 Usually I have to say three or four. But there's nothing that's like about 71 00:06:40.519 --> 00:06:44.360 that movie. Well, i'll tell you what. I completely agree with you. 72 00:06:44.399 --> 00:06:48.959 There is so much in terms of the character development and the ending. 73 00:06:49.000 --> 00:06:53.480 If you haven't watched this movie, you folks at home, I highly recommend 74 00:06:53.560 --> 00:06:56.920 it. It is one of probably the top five movies as far as I'm 75 00:06:56.959 --> 00:07:00.680 concerned for showing off who Morgan Freeman is. In the diversity of his acting 76 00:07:00.720 --> 00:07:04.639 talent, he can be anybody at any time that he needs to, even 77 00:07:04.680 --> 00:07:13.279 God. So, if you were to have an action figure made of you, 78 00:07:13.360 --> 00:07:16.600 Samantha, what superpower would it have? And what colors would the uniform 79 00:07:16.639 --> 00:07:23.759 be? Green? Even though I went to Michigan go Blue, it's big, 80 00:07:24.160 --> 00:07:29.439 I have to clarify. And what like the Jetsons where you could get 81 00:07:29.480 --> 00:07:32.720 in the elevator and go like go anywhere in a blink yep, that would 82 00:07:32.720 --> 00:07:38.279 be my power without yeah, so you get in the elevator. The elevator, 83 00:07:38.319 --> 00:07:40.319 I would just be able to go from you know, I could just 84 00:07:40.720 --> 00:07:46.079 hey, get to you in a blink. I love the Stephen Wright quote 85 00:07:46.079 --> 00:07:49.360 where he says, I got into the elevator and I pressed Pittsburgh right. 86 00:07:50.439 --> 00:07:55.480 Not bad, you know, because so many of my people are not next 87 00:07:55.480 --> 00:08:00.439 door. I hear you on that. I've got family spread all over the 88 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:03.959 world. You know, I'm primarily concentrated in the United States, but they're 89 00:08:03.959 --> 00:08:09.199 also in Australia, South Africa, in Dubai. So I've been trying to 90 00:08:09.199 --> 00:08:11.519 figure out you know, I've been in the IT industry a very long time. 91 00:08:11.560 --> 00:08:16.560 I've been trying to figure out how to send myself as an email attachment 92 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:20.040 for about thirty years. Yes, I don't got it yet, but I'm 93 00:08:20.079 --> 00:08:24.639 working on it. Back to the future, these are these, these are 94 00:08:24.639 --> 00:08:30.439 the inventions we need. But forward. So she's got a mind of her 95 00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:33.960 own. My watch just all of a sudden answers or says that she's looking 96 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:35.320 for stuff on the internet. I don't know what we say to get her 97 00:08:35.320 --> 00:08:39.240 excited, but there she is. So let's talk a little bit more about 98 00:08:39.279 --> 00:08:43.559 the ability to go somewhere at the blink of an eye. And would it 99 00:08:43.639 --> 00:08:48.320 mostly just be to be around loved ones or would you use it in a 100 00:08:48.399 --> 00:08:50.960 different way where you could teleport, like you know, whole towns and you 101 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:54.840 know that sort of thing. Oh, you know, I I travel, 102 00:08:54.960 --> 00:09:03.039 I do you know crazy crazy things change the world. Well, yeah, 103 00:09:03.080 --> 00:09:07.960 you're going to do that anyway, I'm pretty sure. So where in the 104 00:09:07.000 --> 00:09:11.120 world would you like to go that this would make it available to you? 105 00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:20.320 So New Zealand is top of my list, islands or fjords are both? 106 00:09:20.399 --> 00:09:24.320 Or all of the above? All of the above that would be So Jim 107 00:09:24.320 --> 00:09:26.360 and I went to the world. Doesn't know who Jim is yet, but 108 00:09:28.840 --> 00:09:33.679 I went to Costa Rica for my honeymoon and we had planned to go to 109 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:41.440 New Zealand for my tenure anniversary, which is this year. Yep. So 110 00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:45.759 you're going to be otherwise engaged as far as I will be, I know, 111 00:09:45.879 --> 00:09:48.519 but it's next on my big trip. Like where would you know where 112 00:09:48.519 --> 00:09:52.559 would my next big trip be there? Yeah? I share your passion. 113 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:56.759 It's on our bucket list as well. And I have an attorney that I 114 00:09:56.759 --> 00:10:01.720 worked with. He was my corporate attorney until he reached hired for thirty years 115 00:10:01.360 --> 00:10:07.080 and he spent six months over there, both in the northern and in the 116 00:10:07.159 --> 00:10:11.360 southern half that I guess are divided by a body of a body of water 117 00:10:11.519 --> 00:10:13.639 or a huge I don't know what it is because I don't know the geography, 118 00:10:13.639 --> 00:10:18.960 but he's really good at talking about it. And he said that's where 119 00:10:18.960 --> 00:10:22.279 he really got the passion for walking. You know, he just hikes all 120 00:10:22.320 --> 00:10:26.759 the time. He's about seventy seven years old, and he's in better physical 121 00:10:26.879 --> 00:10:31.519 and shape than most twenty year olds that I know. I believe it. 122 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:35.320 And you did mention something about Jim, and that's kind of up to you. 123 00:10:35.399 --> 00:10:37.559 This is your time, this is your story, and if that's something 124 00:10:37.559 --> 00:10:39.799 you'd like to, you know, let folks know about. I'm more than 125 00:10:39.799 --> 00:10:43.919 happy to give you the give you the microphone for a minute or two, 126 00:10:43.120 --> 00:10:48.159 or we can move on. Oh, Jim is everything. He's the love 127 00:10:48.200 --> 00:10:50.840 of my life. I met him when I was twenty four, just finishing 128 00:10:50.840 --> 00:10:58.120 my master's degree. We were young and silly and stupid, so we were 129 00:10:58.159 --> 00:11:03.159 together for a few year years and then we went our separate ways, knowing 130 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:07.320 that we were meant for each other. So neither one of us found anyone 131 00:11:07.320 --> 00:11:13.600 else during that time. When we reconnected and he had moved to Colorado. 132 00:11:13.679 --> 00:11:18.879 I we're both from Michigan, and he said, please don't make me move 133 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:24.440 back there. And so we were engaged in months, and I moved to 134 00:11:24.480 --> 00:11:30.480 Colorado. We were married, and he unexpectedly passed away from an undetected heart 135 00:11:30.519 --> 00:11:33.840 condition. He'd had his whole life less than four years after that. So 136 00:11:35.440 --> 00:11:37.639 I'm so sorry for your loss. And I'll tell you what I know, 137 00:11:37.720 --> 00:11:41.919 that's a big part of your life now in terms of what you're doing and 138 00:11:43.240 --> 00:11:48.000 your commitment to make the world a better place and to change it. Yes, 139 00:11:48.840 --> 00:11:52.039 so tell me a little bit more about the Michigan experience. Whereabouts in 140 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:58.360 Michigan. Were you the Metro Metro Detroit area, not the pretty parts? 141 00:11:58.639 --> 00:12:01.600 Yeah, I mean, arguably there's some cool stuff going on there too. 142 00:12:01.480 --> 00:12:05.799 My dad was he was a city boy. He was born and raised downtown, 143 00:12:07.679 --> 00:12:16.639 and he worked for an exclusive grocer while he was in high school, 144 00:12:16.679 --> 00:12:22.000 delivering food to all of the Fords and the DuPonts and all of the other 145 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:26.399 folks in Detroit. And the other thing is is that I had his whole 146 00:12:26.440 --> 00:12:31.120 side of the family that lived there. My grandfather and grandmother lived on University, 147 00:12:31.159 --> 00:12:37.480 which was about four blocks away from the Algiers riots back in nineteen Algiers 148 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:43.879 Street riots in nineteen sixty eight. So if I say Warren, and I 149 00:12:43.960 --> 00:12:52.240 say you know Royal Oaks, and I say Rochester and Sterling Heights and Dekwinder 150 00:12:52.360 --> 00:12:58.639 and you know those those are yeah, exactly. So we spent some lovely 151 00:12:58.720 --> 00:13:01.279 time there, a few trips before, all before I was fourteen years old. 152 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:07.240 But yeah, it was great. So let's move on to what did 153 00:13:07.279 --> 00:13:09.679 you want to grow up to be? When you were five years old? 154 00:13:11.159 --> 00:13:16.559 This I knew, like I'm one of those people who always knew. I 155 00:13:16.600 --> 00:13:22.879 don't think I knew the word psychologist, but I knew I would be doing 156 00:13:22.039 --> 00:13:28.039 something of this nature. And by seven I knew. I went on a 157 00:13:28.080 --> 00:13:31.799 field trip with school, and I went to a private school at that point 158 00:13:31.840 --> 00:13:37.039 in time. Very diverse. You're laughing. I'm laughing because I can just 159 00:13:37.200 --> 00:13:45.600 see you sitting at a little you know, a little kiosk like Lucy van 160 00:13:45.679 --> 00:13:50.000 Pelton and Peanuts. The doctor is way in Nichols, Nichols, Nichols, 161 00:13:50.080 --> 00:13:52.639 Nichols. Well, I went on this field trip and I went to this 162 00:13:52.720 --> 00:13:56.440 small private school. I'm this. I mean, I was this big. 163 00:13:56.519 --> 00:14:03.080 My best friend was to me she would a giant black girl. I did 164 00:14:03.080 --> 00:14:05.360 not know this. And we went on a field trip where we were with 165 00:14:05.480 --> 00:14:11.200 a bunch of other schools and she got bullied and she froze, so little 166 00:14:11.279 --> 00:14:18.320 me, like two foot tall, Sam took over and I came to the 167 00:14:18.360 --> 00:14:22.039 rescue. But I came home from school and please, don't anyone take offense 168 00:14:22.080 --> 00:14:24.840 to this. I was seven years old. I told my parents I wanted 169 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:31.720 to become black with Heather because I did not understand the difference, and I 170 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:37.360 was disturbed, and I from that moment on wanted to be the voice of 171 00:14:37.399 --> 00:14:41.039 anyone who didn't have one. I wanted to, you know, change injustice. 172 00:14:41.559 --> 00:14:43.960 And so I did. You know, you can picture there. I 173 00:14:45.120 --> 00:14:50.519 was this little, tiny, uh seven year old, bound and determined. 174 00:14:50.039 --> 00:14:54.320 And at that point my dad laughed like, oh uhuh. And now he's 175 00:14:54.480 --> 00:14:58.759 like, she did it. She's doing it. Good for you. And 176 00:14:58.799 --> 00:15:03.240 I'll I'll tell you what, I really think that from the mouths of babes, 177 00:15:03.279 --> 00:15:07.879 you get such pure authenticity and genuineness in that moment, you know, 178 00:15:07.919 --> 00:15:09.639 of course you did. I mean, how could you not want to be, 179 00:15:09.879 --> 00:15:15.320 you know, that person who steps in because you had a successful experience, 180 00:15:15.399 --> 00:15:18.159 you know, doing that, And I'm sure you became like friends for 181 00:15:18.279 --> 00:15:22.679 life, at least until the next three grades. Right, I don't know 182 00:15:22.679 --> 00:15:28.639 where she is. I'm on a mission to find her also. But no, 183 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:33.000 you know, we were dear, dear friends until we both changed schools 184 00:15:33.559 --> 00:15:37.399 after sixth grade. But that's a defining moment in my life. Yeah, 185 00:15:37.879 --> 00:15:43.559 I'm answer. I would imagine. I'm clearly she was probably telling the story 186 00:15:43.600 --> 00:15:46.039 a few minutes ago, you know, to someone else, no doubt about 187 00:15:46.039 --> 00:15:52.120 it. You know, this little kid, I know, and you know 188 00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:56.240 when I think about that for a minute, you know, and you were 189 00:15:56.279 --> 00:16:00.720 five years old and you're already thinking in terms. Did you know what the 190 00:16:00.759 --> 00:16:03.639 word was or what it meant, or how you would do it? You 191 00:16:03.679 --> 00:16:07.840 just want to help people, right, And I wanted to help the underdog 192 00:16:10.360 --> 00:16:14.159 champion for a noble cause. Yes, that would be you, no doubt 193 00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:17.240 about it. I didn't want to just work with kids. I wanted to 194 00:16:17.279 --> 00:16:21.840 work with the kids. No one else wanted to work with I hear that. 195 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:26.120 I mean, God, that just touches my heart. That's exactly who 196 00:16:26.159 --> 00:16:30.120 I am. As well. Let's just say that there are lots of ways 197 00:16:30.159 --> 00:16:33.799 for folks that have been noticed to get help. It's the quiet ones over 198 00:16:33.840 --> 00:16:37.080 in the corner that you have no idea what's going on. Those when you 199 00:16:37.159 --> 00:16:41.320 turn them loose on the world and give them a sense of who they are, 200 00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:45.039 you know, mind, spirit, and body, you couldn't stop them 201 00:16:45.039 --> 00:16:49.120 if you tried. And it's really like looking at the Grand Canyon to watch 202 00:16:49.120 --> 00:16:52.440 somebody like that open up and really, for the first time in their life 203 00:16:52.679 --> 00:16:56.600 figure out who they are, you know. So that's me saying what I 204 00:16:56.600 --> 00:17:00.799 got from you, whether I received it correctly or not, I'm sure you'll 205 00:17:00.879 --> 00:17:04.960 let me know. And I'm from my dad, a retired doctor, and 206 00:17:06.880 --> 00:17:11.680 a lot of medical people in my world. So I thought psychiatrist or hospitals. 207 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:14.880 And then I was like, no, no, they get you for 208 00:17:14.960 --> 00:17:18.960 five minutes and then you leave right. That won't do, you know, 209 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:22.279 So I had to explore and find my way. But that wasn't good enough. 210 00:17:22.359 --> 00:17:29.160 Like that was five minutes and then they then they're gone. I wanted 211 00:17:29.160 --> 00:17:33.920 the relationship. Well, I'll tell you what. I never even heard about 212 00:17:33.920 --> 00:17:37.799 a psychologist or a psychiatrist other than TV, and never had an idea of 213 00:17:37.839 --> 00:17:41.240 what it was until I got out of college and someone told me they were 214 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:47.880 a lot older than me, and they were mentioning that they had been they 215 00:17:47.880 --> 00:17:52.079 had an analyst that they had had for eighteen years and it was going really 216 00:17:52.119 --> 00:17:56.599 well. And I said, I said, eighteen years and it's going really 217 00:17:56.599 --> 00:17:59.799 well. And they said, what if you didn't have that person? He 218 00:18:00.279 --> 00:18:04.039 says, I'm not going to try it. He says, this allows me 219 00:18:04.119 --> 00:18:07.119 to go and flush my brain out, you know, once every two weeks. 220 00:18:07.119 --> 00:18:08.960 He says. It's not a lot of money. At that time, 221 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:12.240 I think it was like forty dollars a session. I don't even want to 222 00:18:12.279 --> 00:18:17.480 know what it is these days. But but yes, so you get a 223 00:18:17.519 --> 00:18:21.319 relationship with a lot of people that, even if you're not, you know, 224 00:18:22.200 --> 00:18:26.799 producing some kind of a product for them in terms of the psycho analyst 225 00:18:26.880 --> 00:18:30.880 or psychology. You have friends that for the rest of your life, they're 226 00:18:30.920 --> 00:18:34.880 going to come look you up, like a really great high school teacher or 227 00:18:34.880 --> 00:18:40.119 something. Yeah, you know, confidentiality is really important to me. But 228 00:18:40.160 --> 00:18:42.559 we were on a call last night and you saw two different examples of someone 229 00:18:42.559 --> 00:18:48.920 who I've stayed in touch with for twenty years and someone I reconnected with but 230 00:18:49.119 --> 00:18:52.799 chose to share. You know, I used to work with Sam and because 231 00:18:52.839 --> 00:18:56.759 of that, I almost cried. I'm going to cry now, you know. 232 00:18:56.839 --> 00:19:00.240 I chose to become a psychologist like you know these are there are some 233 00:19:00.279 --> 00:19:07.079 people who maybe see you and don't remember you. But I can tell you. 234 00:19:06.519 --> 00:19:11.119 You know, if you said Joe Schmo, I can remember every detail. 235 00:19:11.279 --> 00:19:14.839 You know, they touched my life as much as they say I touched 236 00:19:14.839 --> 00:19:18.759 theirs. Yeah, I get it, and I've noticed it, noticed it 237 00:19:18.839 --> 00:19:22.839 and put it into my column of that's pretty freaking cool. Okay, so 238 00:19:23.359 --> 00:19:30.519 uh, here's here's the next one. What is your greatest accomplishment? Thank 239 00:19:30.599 --> 00:19:33.599 you? I think it's it's happening. You're watching it. We're doing some 240 00:19:33.720 --> 00:19:40.960 pretty big stuff in honor of losing my husband. I've created what I call 241 00:19:41.039 --> 00:19:44.759 grief Have, which is rehab for grief because I couldn't find the support I 242 00:19:44.799 --> 00:19:52.559 needed and I am doing things to change this grief world that doesn't exist. 243 00:19:52.279 --> 00:19:56.400 Yeah. Yeah, And this would be a great spot for you to say 244 00:19:56.400 --> 00:20:00.880 a little bit more about that, because I I do know that this is 245 00:20:00.920 --> 00:20:04.359 a burgeoning field. And last night on the call, I was sitting there, 246 00:20:04.359 --> 00:20:07.160 thinking to myself, I almost said out loud, I said, I 247 00:20:07.200 --> 00:20:11.079 said, y'all are using some jargon that I'm not really familiar with. And 248 00:20:11.720 --> 00:20:17.839 it's powerful to have distinctions, you know, behind that jargon that allow you 249 00:20:17.920 --> 00:20:22.400 access to being able to communicate with people and be with precision, you know, 250 00:20:22.920 --> 00:20:25.759 And that's true for everything. It's true in what I do in the 251 00:20:25.759 --> 00:20:32.839 IT industry's I did a lot of you know, grease monkey stuff in my 252 00:20:32.920 --> 00:20:37.279 early twenties and some carpentry, and there's things that you just have to be 253 00:20:37.359 --> 00:20:41.440 able to say in the language of whatever that discipline is. And so I'm 254 00:20:41.440 --> 00:20:44.799 glad to be around It's nice to learn something new every time I'm around you, 255 00:20:44.880 --> 00:20:51.640 folks. And I truly believe you know, I was always ready to 256 00:20:51.720 --> 00:20:53.759 change the way the world viewed mental health. I knew that I was doing 257 00:20:53.759 --> 00:21:00.920 that. When I lost Jim, I suddenly learned the grief world is really 258 00:21:00.920 --> 00:21:06.480 similar. People looked at me like I had horns. They didn't know how 259 00:21:06.519 --> 00:21:08.160 to talk to me, you know. All of a sudden, I was 260 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:15.359 like, there's a similarity here, and you lose people. It became very, 261 00:21:15.680 --> 00:21:19.240 very isolating. So the mission became to change the way the world views 262 00:21:19.279 --> 00:21:26.720 grief and mental illness, and there's just nothing out there. There's just not 263 00:21:27.160 --> 00:21:37.200 and what is isn't enough. You heard so many people say I wasn't even 264 00:21:37.240 --> 00:21:41.680 given a pamphlet, you know, the places that you should be getting a 265 00:21:41.720 --> 00:21:47.839 resource or or somebody saying, you know, let me help you find something 266 00:21:48.000 --> 00:21:52.400 at the time of loss. It doesn't happen when you're going through this trauma 267 00:21:52.920 --> 00:21:56.920 and we're left to our own devices when we are at our lowest point. 268 00:21:56.640 --> 00:22:00.960 Yeah, well, what possibility enough to tell you what? This is? 269 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:06.039 Exactly what I'm talking about. I'm sure before, Jim, you probably thought 270 00:22:06.039 --> 00:22:08.440 about grief in a particular way, and then afterwards, I'm sure that transformed 271 00:22:08.480 --> 00:22:12.880 into something that was full of rich distinctions. And last night we were talking 272 00:22:12.880 --> 00:22:17.880 about using words like navigate and negotiate and all this sort of thing with I 273 00:22:17.920 --> 00:22:21.480 never even thought that that grief was something there was anything you could do about, 274 00:22:21.559 --> 00:22:23.319 you know, And to me, it was like, you know, 275 00:22:23.359 --> 00:22:26.400 the getting punched in the nose over and over and over again, and that's 276 00:22:26.440 --> 00:22:30.640 it. I just knew it hurt, you know. So I appreciate that, 277 00:22:30.799 --> 00:22:37.119 and I really think that it is your greatest accomplishment because you are training 278 00:22:37.160 --> 00:22:41.839 other people, You're providing a leadership that I think is really needed in the 279 00:22:41.839 --> 00:22:48.200 world. And in terms of questions for one hundred really beautiful people, I'm 280 00:22:48.240 --> 00:22:53.000 glad we're spending some time today. Okay, thank you, You're very welcome. 281 00:22:55.200 --> 00:23:00.000 So along those lines are maybe completely different domain. Who's your favorite person 282 00:23:00.119 --> 00:23:06.240 to listen to? Sam Jack Canfield, who is the creator of the chicken 283 00:23:06.240 --> 00:23:12.039 soup for the Soul series, has been a mentor of mine for my entire 284 00:23:12.400 --> 00:23:17.880 probably since I was in college, and I've always used his books with my 285 00:23:18.000 --> 00:23:22.960 clients. And when I lost Jim and I was sitting under a tree with 286 00:23:22.160 --> 00:23:27.799 my one dog, Sassey and his book The Success Principles, someone came up 287 00:23:27.839 --> 00:23:33.279 and said, are you part of his training group? And I did not 288 00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:37.079 know he had one, and so I was fortunate enough to be able to 289 00:23:37.079 --> 00:23:44.240 work with him in person. So not only is he a mentor out there 290 00:23:44.279 --> 00:23:48.440 in the figurative world, he's actually somebody who helped me get through when I 291 00:23:48.519 --> 00:23:55.839 really thought I would not only never work in my own field again, I 292 00:23:55.920 --> 00:24:00.640 didn't know what was next. So he's my favorite. Yeah, And I'll 293 00:24:00.640 --> 00:24:04.839 tell you what. From my standpoint, the chicken soup for the soul original 294 00:24:04.880 --> 00:24:10.279 one and success principles and all that. Something I read all those years ago, 295 00:24:10.440 --> 00:24:12.400 but I'd be hard pressed to tell you word for word what's in it. 296 00:24:12.400 --> 00:24:15.759 It just left me with a particular feeling. And that particular feeling is 297 00:24:15.880 --> 00:24:22.440 basically, anything is possible for anybody at any time. And it's not rocket 298 00:24:22.480 --> 00:24:25.640 science, right, you know. It's it's stuff that we can all do 299 00:24:25.799 --> 00:24:30.319 and apply to our daily life. And if you do it, and you 300 00:24:30.640 --> 00:24:36.440 do it consistently, you can have a different outlook and a different quality. 301 00:24:36.440 --> 00:24:38.200 And my life has changed because of it, and I've met the people who 302 00:24:38.200 --> 00:24:44.039 helped me get here. Yes, and I'll tell you what that's That's not 303 00:24:44.079 --> 00:24:48.000 for nothing. There are some people that are really good to have in your 304 00:24:48.079 --> 00:24:53.960 rollodecks. And I don't think that if you wanted to be six degrees of 305 00:24:55.039 --> 00:24:59.319 separation from anybody on the planet, he removes a bunch of degrees for you, 306 00:24:59.319 --> 00:25:02.160 you know, just being who he is, no doubt about it. 307 00:25:03.240 --> 00:25:06.480 So I'm having fun with my electronics over here. They've got a mind of 308 00:25:06.519 --> 00:25:11.680 their own. Today, could be always, it could be, no doubt 309 00:25:11.720 --> 00:25:17.039 about it. So all right, so that's cool. You like to listen 310 00:25:17.079 --> 00:25:21.000 to Jack and with darn good reason. He's been transformational in your life and 311 00:25:21.000 --> 00:25:23.480 giving you an awful lot of energy and a lot of support just thinking about 312 00:25:23.519 --> 00:25:27.680 him. So let's move on to the next question, and that is, 313 00:25:27.720 --> 00:25:37.759 please complete this sentence. When I grow up, I'd like to play interesting 314 00:25:37.039 --> 00:25:41.279 and I get it. That's so say some more about that so the folks 315 00:25:41.279 --> 00:25:48.960 at home can start to grasp it and take it on board. I had 316 00:25:49.000 --> 00:25:53.519 to grow up too fast. I've taken life too seriously for a long time. 317 00:25:55.640 --> 00:26:03.759 Losing Jim has made me take life. I don't want to say less. 318 00:26:03.799 --> 00:26:07.960 I'm very intentional with how I spend my time, with who I spend 319 00:26:07.000 --> 00:26:11.279 my time, and as hard as I work, you know, I spend 320 00:26:11.319 --> 00:26:15.279 all my time working to change this world. When I grow up, I 321 00:26:15.319 --> 00:26:22.279 also want to have fun and I have a lot of pain, So I 322 00:26:22.359 --> 00:26:30.519 want I want my free time to be enjoyable and happy and laughing and fun. 323 00:26:32.119 --> 00:26:34.559 Yeah, I mean, I get it. So the neat the neat 324 00:26:34.559 --> 00:26:38.799 part of all of that is is that the fun and the happiness and all 325 00:26:38.799 --> 00:26:41.440 the rest of that is something that comes from inside of you. It's not 326 00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:45.680 out there in the world. There's no place to look for it that if 327 00:26:45.720 --> 00:26:48.759 you cut it open, you'll find happiness and fun on the inside. And 328 00:26:48.799 --> 00:26:52.599 I know you know that because the minute that you said it, your f 329 00:26:52.119 --> 00:26:56.359 face just lit up like a Christmas tree. It was fantastic. So I 330 00:26:56.359 --> 00:27:00.079 don't have any question, and I get the feeling also that you're having that 331 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:04.319 future fun now in a lot of instances. And thanks for sharing that. 332 00:27:04.319 --> 00:27:07.640 That's what I wanted to get out there for the folks at home, well 333 00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:15.519 to anybody in a struggle. Although I will say that last year, which 334 00:27:15.680 --> 00:27:21.319 was my sixth year, is the first year that I started to enjoy living 335 00:27:21.359 --> 00:27:26.640 again. It's the first year that I wasn't forcing myself. I was doing 336 00:27:26.759 --> 00:27:32.400 things and enjoying them. So even being able to say that answer, you 337 00:27:32.440 --> 00:27:34.680 know, that's something I didn't know if I would smile again. So that 338 00:27:34.799 --> 00:27:41.599 really, truly is for people who have been through what we've been through, 339 00:27:44.119 --> 00:27:47.359 something that I didn't even know if I would be able to do again. 340 00:27:48.720 --> 00:27:53.000 It's in the classification of big deal. You know that most people take for 341 00:27:53.119 --> 00:27:56.119 granted and they have their moments and all the rest of that and move on, 342 00:27:59.200 --> 00:28:03.240 and at some point you have to be a very strong person to get 343 00:28:03.279 --> 00:28:06.480 back, to have the trust in the universe to be able to generate that 344 00:28:06.559 --> 00:28:14.240 for yourself. In my opinion, so I like it. Have fun when 345 00:28:14.279 --> 00:28:18.920 you grow up. I think you're doing that. So what is the most 346 00:28:18.960 --> 00:28:26.559 important thing in life to you right now? Family is always the most important 347 00:28:26.599 --> 00:28:30.519 thing in life to me. I was torn between this mission, but family 348 00:28:30.599 --> 00:28:36.440 first. Always take some more about that. Who is your family? How 349 00:28:36.440 --> 00:28:40.559 many folks would you consider to be family, and what's your relationship to you? 350 00:28:41.559 --> 00:28:45.640 Well, you met Dallas. I have Stacy sitting over here right now. 351 00:28:45.920 --> 00:28:51.119 Who is my oldest, my parents. I have a younger brother and 352 00:28:51.279 --> 00:28:56.000 two nieces who are my world. Ye it took Jim. You know, 353 00:28:56.039 --> 00:29:00.480 I would not have left Michigan. And big tribute to my brother because my 354 00:29:00.599 --> 00:29:06.039 youngest niece is eleven. I've been in Colorado over ten years and I was 355 00:29:06.240 --> 00:29:10.480 very nervous to leave, thinking I wouldn't be as close with her as I 356 00:29:10.519 --> 00:29:15.359 am with my oldest and we are the best of friends. So that says 357 00:29:15.359 --> 00:29:18.519 a lot about my brother, my relationship with him and what he's done for 358 00:29:18.680 --> 00:29:22.759 us to be as close. So that's my biological family. Well I'm guessing 359 00:29:22.799 --> 00:29:26.240 it says a lot about you as well. I have a feeling that you 360 00:29:26.440 --> 00:29:33.599 have the capacity to unlock love inside of other human beings at a master level, 361 00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:38.200 and not in a manipulative way, but in a way that basically allows 362 00:29:38.240 --> 00:29:41.759 people to strip away the nonsense to just get to what's genuine, genuine and 363 00:29:41.839 --> 00:29:48.240 true. Well, thank you, I haven't heard that before. Thank you. 364 00:29:48.839 --> 00:29:52.480 Well, I'm a fairly good listener people tell me, and I can 365 00:29:52.480 --> 00:29:59.200 hear that all around you and what's not being said. Okay, so that's 366 00:29:59.240 --> 00:30:03.559 a great thing to be important to you right now. And the next question 367 00:30:03.880 --> 00:30:07.079 is kind of like a summary for what we've talked about and whatever else you 368 00:30:07.079 --> 00:30:10.960 want to add in there, Sam, what would you like to leave in 369 00:30:11.000 --> 00:30:18.079 the world after your life is done. I want to be the person who 370 00:30:18.200 --> 00:30:27.279 changed this grief culture and mental illness. I am going to be yes. 371 00:30:30.200 --> 00:30:33.720 Yes, and by being an icon and being willing to be used by that, 372 00:30:34.319 --> 00:30:40.920 that whole thing. It's kind of similar with there's a lot of people 373 00:30:40.920 --> 00:30:44.400 who think they understand who Jack Canfield is, or they think they understand who 374 00:30:44.400 --> 00:30:48.680 Deepak Chopra is, and what they have inside of them is only a taste 375 00:30:48.759 --> 00:30:53.720 of it, and unfortunately without really knowing the whole person. What you get 376 00:30:53.759 --> 00:31:00.480 to take away is the good stuff, and people may not really what you've 377 00:31:02.880 --> 00:31:06.799 actually done and how you've worked in the world, just that you. Golly, 378 00:31:06.880 --> 00:31:15.440 you've got to be a really smart check, didn't you. I lack 379 00:31:15.519 --> 00:31:18.640 some common sense. I don't have the best street smarts, but intelligence book 380 00:31:18.680 --> 00:31:22.039 smarts that they're there. Yes, one hundred percent. You have worked on 381 00:31:22.119 --> 00:31:26.200 that gray matter and put a lot of wrinkles in that brain. I can 382 00:31:26.240 --> 00:31:33.240 tell. And also being a city girl, I know you know what bakers 383 00:31:33.279 --> 00:31:37.160 do when you buy a dozen of something, they give you a free whatever 384 00:31:37.200 --> 00:31:41.559 it is, dozen rolls. What have you? So your baker's question is 385 00:31:42.160 --> 00:31:56.720 what is the thing that most people misunderstand about you? Well, I would 386 00:31:56.759 --> 00:32:09.200 say we have to ask them. I think, uh hmm, I'm in 387 00:32:09.240 --> 00:32:15.839 the past. I would say that I had like a tough edge. I 388 00:32:15.839 --> 00:32:22.720 didn't let people in losing Jim broke all of that down. And I have 389 00:32:22.799 --> 00:32:29.400 no walls. I don't know. That's a great question. Now I want 390 00:32:29.440 --> 00:32:36.279 to know the answer. Let's keep going. I think you're onto something that 391 00:32:36.359 --> 00:32:39.519 there's a wall. Well, actually that people think there is. Do you 392 00:32:39.559 --> 00:32:45.400 think there is no I think I'm like an open book. There you go. 393 00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:50.359 That's the rest of this story, as they say, And not only 394 00:32:50.400 --> 00:32:57.759 that, you're yeah, maybe just maybe you're an available open book and not 395 00:32:57.799 --> 00:33:01.960 really hard to access if people will hang in there for a minute. Yeah, 396 00:33:01.960 --> 00:33:06.640 I put it all out there. You can reach me anyway, real 397 00:33:06.759 --> 00:33:15.559 numbers. It's fantastic. And is there anything else about being misunderstood? Possibly? 398 00:33:16.559 --> 00:33:21.119 Well, I think in the world of grief, you look like you're 399 00:33:21.160 --> 00:33:28.079 fine. So as I am now six plus years out there working all the 400 00:33:28.160 --> 00:33:34.480 time trying to change things, many people might think I've gotten through it, 401 00:33:36.720 --> 00:33:43.960 and so I cry every day. Yeah, I don't hyperventilate in fetal position 402 00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:51.039 like I did the first year, but I'm not okay. I cope better, 403 00:33:51.079 --> 00:33:54.519 and I have much better tools and support system. But I just choose 404 00:33:54.559 --> 00:34:00.400 happiness and I choose a positive outlook. But you know, i'd give anything 405 00:34:00.400 --> 00:34:05.759 to have Jim here. Yeah, one hundred percent. And while you're speaking, 406 00:34:06.400 --> 00:34:10.960 I'm kind of left with that truism about people who appear to be always 407 00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:16.119 happy to everyone else having the same capacity at the other end, you know, 408 00:34:16.239 --> 00:34:22.400 to really go deep and get lost in a moment or two of you 409 00:34:22.440 --> 00:34:28.360 know, just despair and what's going on here? And that's why being compassionate 410 00:34:28.400 --> 00:34:34.599 to people who you think have a lot of capacity for upset is really a 411 00:34:34.800 --> 00:34:37.599 good idea. You know. That's that old saying. You know, if 412 00:34:37.639 --> 00:34:43.559 you can be anything, first be kind, you know, and especially with 413 00:34:43.639 --> 00:34:47.440 somebody who you think is got an edge, if you will, So so 414 00:34:47.599 --> 00:34:53.239 thank you. That's fantastic. And now that wraps up our scripted questions. 415 00:34:53.280 --> 00:34:57.400 And I'd like to ask you, Samantha, do you have any questions for 416 00:34:57.480 --> 00:35:08.440 me? How did you come to these questions? Interesting like this format? 417 00:35:08.719 --> 00:35:21.360 It was really me struggling with a question of during the twenty sixteen to twenty 418 00:35:21.760 --> 00:35:27.760 twenty two time period and hearing about all of these things going on at college 419 00:35:27.800 --> 00:35:31.840 campuses with identity politics, identity this, that and the other thing, and 420 00:35:31.920 --> 00:35:38.519 me kind of wondering, what is it about people? You know, what 421 00:35:38.559 --> 00:35:43.920 are people up to today? What do they think like? And so I 422 00:35:43.960 --> 00:35:52.079 shamelessly stole the concept from James Lipton and his you know, the Screen Actors 423 00:35:52.119 --> 00:35:54.280 Workshop, I believe it's called. It hasn't been on live for a little 424 00:35:54.320 --> 00:35:58.840 while because I think, you know, he may have passed, But the 425 00:35:58.920 --> 00:36:01.400 same questions each one of them, and you know, what's your favorite swear 426 00:36:01.440 --> 00:36:05.559 word? And when you get to the golden you know, the purly gates, 427 00:36:05.280 --> 00:36:08.159 what would you like for Saint Peter to say to you? Or whatever? 428 00:36:08.679 --> 00:36:14.599 And so I thought, how could I attract folks and give them a 429 00:36:14.639 --> 00:36:19.679 sense of comfort and safety in terms of answering pretty innocuous questions. I mean, 430 00:36:19.719 --> 00:36:23.000 because listen, you know how threatening is. When did you first notice 431 00:36:23.039 --> 00:36:27.880 what color your hair is? You know? But everybody's got different things that 432 00:36:27.880 --> 00:36:31.239 that leads to, and so I want to know more about people. I'm 433 00:36:31.320 --> 00:36:35.920 very curious. I'm an inquisitive guy, and I love people. I don't 434 00:36:35.920 --> 00:36:38.119 know if you can tell that I love everyone. I'm not afraid to say 435 00:36:38.119 --> 00:36:42.519 it out loud, and I tell all my networking buddies. I hug them 436 00:36:42.559 --> 00:36:45.440 and I tell them I love you, and I actually mean that, and 437 00:36:45.440 --> 00:36:49.400 I generate it in every moment. And I just haven't met everybody I love 438 00:36:49.519 --> 00:36:52.400 yet I'm still meeting all of those people. So that was it. We 439 00:36:52.480 --> 00:36:57.599 had another podcast that we had started called Lighting the Candle, A World That 440 00:36:57.719 --> 00:37:01.400 Works, and I think we were thirty or forty episodes into that. I 441 00:37:01.400 --> 00:37:05.639 think we're up over one hundred and fifty on that one now, But is 442 00:37:05.639 --> 00:37:07.559 that a good answer to your question? That's kind of what drove this. 443 00:37:07.800 --> 00:37:15.039 I want to go and find out, given all of the identity training, 444 00:37:15.239 --> 00:37:19.760 and I want not going to use the psychological term that you and I both 445 00:37:19.760 --> 00:37:22.599 would know, but I'm basically going to say, and you know that they're 446 00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:28.480 they're learning things that are not natural to learn in an environment that's not natural 447 00:37:28.519 --> 00:37:31.280 to be taught. And so I want to know do they still feel the 448 00:37:31.280 --> 00:37:35.679 same way? I mean, how do people answer these questions? Are they 449 00:37:35.719 --> 00:37:39.559 all fundamentally just human beings? Kind of like you when you were seven years 450 00:37:39.599 --> 00:37:45.920 old and you decided you wanted to be black when you grow up? Yeah, 451 00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:50.480 I was ready. Yeah I got you. So that's it. Anything 452 00:37:50.480 --> 00:37:57.800 else, what do you want to be when you grow up? Well, 453 00:37:58.119 --> 00:38:04.840 okay, I'm out to set the world on fire at my right bold age 454 00:38:04.840 --> 00:38:10.159 of seventy next month. And I still feel that I can make a contribution 455 00:38:10.360 --> 00:38:15.880 one starfish on the beach at a time, and have those folks make a 456 00:38:15.920 --> 00:38:20.519 contribution one starfish at a time in between us. We can make this world 457 00:38:20.559 --> 00:38:23.599 at pretty freaking safe and awesome place for people to put their head on the 458 00:38:23.599 --> 00:38:29.719 pillow, and so I'm really up to that. I really want to make 459 00:38:29.760 --> 00:38:32.960 as many friends as I possibly can. And I also want to train people 460 00:38:34.079 --> 00:38:37.679 in the areas that they say that they would like to be trained that will 461 00:38:37.679 --> 00:38:42.880 make them more powerful. I have more access to empowerment. And that's pretty 462 00:38:42.920 --> 00:38:47.559 much it. I'm an empowerment guy. You know, well, you're doing 463 00:38:47.599 --> 00:38:57.039 it all, mayhaps. I am. So anything you'd like to say to 464 00:38:57.079 --> 00:39:00.400 the folks at home is kind of a wrap and you know what what this 465 00:39:00.599 --> 00:39:02.280 was like for you, and anything else you'd like to say at all. 466 00:39:04.760 --> 00:39:10.320 I love natural conversations, I love getting to know people. If anyone is 467 00:39:10.519 --> 00:39:15.280 struggling, I'm an open book. You can always reach out. I don't 468 00:39:15.320 --> 00:39:21.079 just say that for giggles. Please don't struggle alone. If you don't want 469 00:39:21.119 --> 00:39:23.280 to reach out to me. If you are looking for someone else, I'll 470 00:39:23.280 --> 00:39:28.360 help you find that person. I just think that's the worst thing going on 471 00:39:28.440 --> 00:39:35.079 in this world is that people are struggling alone or silently and wait too long 472 00:39:35.159 --> 00:39:38.559 to get the support that is available. And so that's what I want to 473 00:39:38.599 --> 00:39:43.360 do, is connect people with the support that they need, whether that's me 474 00:39:43.480 --> 00:39:46.159 or someone else. Sure and can they do that through Griefhab and would you 475 00:39:46.239 --> 00:39:50.280 like to tell them how to do so? Please? Yeah, any and 476 00:39:50.320 --> 00:39:53.320 everything is on my website, which is Samantha Ruth dot com. Griefhab is 477 00:39:53.360 --> 00:39:59.079 a free community to anyone who's dealt with any type of a loss, or 478 00:39:59.119 --> 00:40:05.320 anyone who just wants to learn how to support people who have been Yeah. 479 00:40:05.360 --> 00:40:12.519 Well, I want to thank you. And I always predict things about my 480 00:40:12.599 --> 00:40:16.119 guest and sometimes i'm really wrong, but with you, I was really right. 481 00:40:16.239 --> 00:40:21.679 I knew you'd be awesome and you've been absolutely fabulous. So thank you 482 00:40:21.719 --> 00:40:25.920 for being on. And I also want to address my folks at home. 483 00:40:27.719 --> 00:40:30.960 I've got some homework for all of you. This is what I want you 484 00:40:30.039 --> 00:40:34.760 to do. I want you to reach out to four or five of your 485 00:40:34.800 --> 00:40:39.679 dearest friends. I don't care, text, phone, call, email, 486 00:40:39.840 --> 00:40:45.159 whatever it takes, carry your pigeon, let them know that the world works 487 00:40:45.320 --> 00:40:51.559 because they are in it, and that your life is great because you know 488 00:40:51.639 --> 00:40:53.960 they're out there, and that you would really miss them if they weren't. 489 00:40:54.639 --> 00:40:59.559 Just do that, and let's see what that does for you in return. 490 00:41:00.320 --> 00:41:06.239 So thank you all, Thank you Samantha Ruth, Thank you for having me 491 00:41:07.000 --> 00:41:09.960 my pleasure, and that's what we've got for this week. Ladies and gentlemen. 492 00:41:10.039 --> 00:41:15.880 Bye. For now, you've been listening to Simple Questions for one hundred 493 00:41:15.000 --> 00:41:20.760 people, part of the x Audio podcast Network. 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