WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.520 --> 00:00:30.519 But I' m a s or s what? Such what? Like it? 2 00:00:30.800 --> 00:00:34.280 Welcome. Once again, I' m Luis Miguel Salgado. I' 3 00:00:34.359 --> 00:00:37.520 m brand new glasses look you not for anything. I look extremely good. 4 00:00:37.920 --> 00:00:41.679 It is a pleasure, a privilege to accompany us in a new chapter of 5 00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:46.200 what a good question. I am truly happy because today I am accompanied by 6 00:00:46.240 --> 00:00:52.399 a person who is going to greatly expand the way in which we conceive our 7 00:00:52.479 --> 00:00:56.880 life, the way we understand the processes and who, at the end of 8 00:00:56.880 --> 00:01:00.479 the way, will help us greatly to improve personally and, of course, 9 00:01:02.000 --> 00:01:04.280 through our brand, company or business. For me it is a pleasure in 10 00:01:04.359 --> 00:01:10.599 privilege to present today to Hector Castillo how you are sector Welcome, Hello Hello, 11 00:01:10.840 --> 00:01:14.519 Luis, thank you very much. In the heat of Mexico City. 12 00:01:15.280 --> 00:01:19.840 It seems to you in Yucatán, but that' s how it is cannon, 13 00:01:21.280 --> 00:01:23.560 indeed welcome, how nice to let me introduce you please, Hector as 14 00:01:23.560 --> 00:01:29.400 he deserves. Hector Castillo is a coach of life and career. He is 15 00:01:29.599 --> 00:01:36.200 an advisor and trainer in soft skills, intengible management and personal improvement. She 16 00:01:36.280 --> 00:01:42.799 has more than fifteen years supporting people and organizations internationally to achieve her goals and 17 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:47.239 the truth is that it is going to be a very interesting talk. So 18 00:01:47.239 --> 00:01:49.879 I invite you not only to stay, but to share and to comment. 19 00:01:52.040 --> 00:01:56.079 Obviously, and all the questions you want to ask Hector, let' s 20 00:01:56.159 --> 00:01:59.760 also put his social networks. If it' s okay with you, as 21 00:01:59.760 --> 00:02:23.680 I always say, yes, it' s okay with you, we start 22 00:02:23.800 --> 00:02:28.039 my dear, Hector again welcome, what a pleasure and pleasure to join us 23 00:02:28.400 --> 00:02:31.879 It' s today, in this talk we' re going to have And 24 00:02:31.879 --> 00:02:35.240 well, I want to tell you that to all my guests, the first 25 00:02:35.240 --> 00:02:36.879 question I ask them is always the same. And beyond what you studied, 26 00:02:37.039 --> 00:02:40.280 in what you have prepared, beyond all your credentials, I would like to 27 00:02:40.280 --> 00:02:50.879 know who Hector Castillo is welcome, as a person who likes to help. 28 00:02:53.400 --> 00:02:59.800 I think a life without service is useless. Okay, so there' s 29 00:02:59.800 --> 00:03:00.280 something we' re here for. No, we have to take advantage of 30 00:03:00.280 --> 00:03:05.479 it. And I rely heavily on nature. If you see in nature, 31 00:03:06.120 --> 00:03:09.039 the trees, the fruits are not for them. They' re given by 32 00:03:09.120 --> 00:03:14.240 the sun, by their side energy so that we can live the seas. 33 00:03:14.360 --> 00:03:16.919 I mean, nature is giving and it doesn' t expect anything. In 34 00:03:16.960 --> 00:03:24.479 return, and that' s what I' m trying to do to help 35 00:03:24.599 --> 00:03:29.560 people beyond the business that you have to eat, because you were really a 36 00:03:29.560 --> 00:03:32.240 human being. How can I help you all the best I can do to 37 00:03:32.319 --> 00:03:37.599 help these people, both in the impersonal coach and in the part in the 38 00:03:37.680 --> 00:03:40.639 companies. Not training, all that, but that part is not a human 39 00:03:40.719 --> 00:03:46.199 being. I tell him to be sentient. We say there in Buddhism anything 40 00:03:46.360 --> 00:03:50.360 else, because it exists, you have to respect it, you don' 41 00:03:50.360 --> 00:03:53.479 t label it anything. So then, you are a person who likes to 42 00:03:53.560 --> 00:04:00.319 give suddenly, because it does not come out as one wants. But you 43 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:04.879 ' re always trying to do your best. No, hey, Hector, 44 00:04:05.000 --> 00:04:11.319 tell me something You think right now I heard you say we' re here, 45 00:04:11.360 --> 00:04:13.599 we' re here to give. I want to ask you this question. 46 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:17.199 You believe that the human being came to be happy to this planet earth 47 00:04:17.439 --> 00:04:25.439 or to what came the human being to why we are here, For everyone 48 00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:30.600 is free to think, believe what he prefers, not who conceives different things, 49 00:04:30.920 --> 00:04:38.560 for there are masters of life, there are no teachers, teachers everywhere. 50 00:04:40.079 --> 00:04:44.000 So, there are people who are not happy, no, but their 51 00:04:44.120 --> 00:04:48.240 mission is to teach other things. No. Then I have seen many people 52 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:57.120 who live like this. Just recently he talked to an old man, because 53 00:04:57.240 --> 00:05:01.920 he lives alone very bitter, very angry, always leaving his family. My 54 00:05:02.000 --> 00:05:08.319 family is already very close, but against me he laughs still and you see 55 00:05:08.399 --> 00:05:11.240 him and you say very happy and he' s already gone, he' 56 00:05:11.240 --> 00:05:15.759 s more than eighty years old. I wish and soon not then, in 57 00:05:15.800 --> 00:05:19.720 those cases you say sonjole, for we should all be happy, for yes, 58 00:05:19.720 --> 00:05:21.639 I would be very sorry. No, but there are people I' 59 00:05:21.639 --> 00:05:25.680 ve met. I deal apart from work, I work a lot with people. 60 00:05:26.160 --> 00:05:30.519 I don' t help places where there are little drugs today, I 61 00:05:30.600 --> 00:05:34.160 go to the streets, say hello in the dumpsters, children in the street, 62 00:05:35.600 --> 00:05:44.040 give food and you see a suffering that said I hope there are these 63 00:05:44.040 --> 00:05:44.480 little people soon because they wake up and can be happy. It' s 64 00:05:44.480 --> 00:05:46.199 not what I do anymore. I wish all beings to be happy, to 65 00:05:46.199 --> 00:05:51.360 have peace and quiet, to have everything to be happy. But I' 66 00:05:51.639 --> 00:05:55.680 ve seen that you don' t. No. So that I' ve 67 00:05:55.839 --> 00:06:00.399 heard and there are some phrases out there that say many of them about this, 68 00:06:00.519 --> 00:06:04.319 about peace and there' s one in particular that says if you want 69 00:06:04.439 --> 00:06:09.079 peace, get ready for war. No, and at the end of the 70 00:06:09.720 --> 00:06:15.879 way, it is a very important issue, because I think that the cruelest 71 00:06:15.040 --> 00:06:20.279 war they have to be human with themselves is the judgment that there is about 72 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:27.160 us, the allowing other people to think, the allowing other people to say, 73 00:06:27.399 --> 00:06:30.879 do and dictate what they do not, for each one' s life, 74 00:06:30.040 --> 00:06:34.920 knowing that each one is a universe and we are a set of universes 75 00:06:34.959 --> 00:06:40.519 coexisting and coexisting and that, in another way, we share a certain ideology, 76 00:06:40.639 --> 00:06:44.160 but in the end the path is a universe and I think we deserve 77 00:06:44.240 --> 00:06:47.680 that respect which you speak about. But that' s true. To have 78 00:06:47.759 --> 00:06:53.240 peace, we must prepare for war. Hector, this is like going to 79 00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:56.319 the gym. No, I tell my clients that' s why he' 80 00:06:56.560 --> 00:07:00.000 s coach, not sports. The cost says to watch you' re going 81 00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:08.040 to do so many series of so many repetitions. And yeah, over there, 82 00:07:08.279 --> 00:07:18.199 right now, we' re having an Internet issue there. We' 83 00:07:18.199 --> 00:07:21.800 ll be right back. Forgive Hector, you didn' t tell us how 84 00:07:21.800 --> 00:07:32.800 it happened. Yeah, no, we' re having a little problem with 85 00:07:32.800 --> 00:07:46.519 the Internet connection. There we are back. But I' m always going 86 00:07:46.519 --> 00:07:50.279 to put Paul on the Internet. Then there' s some bad play there, 87 00:07:50.439 --> 00:07:54.800 but we' re back. I' m talking to Hector Castillo and 88 00:07:54.920 --> 00:07:59.920 I' m telling you, Hector, then this phrase if you want peace, 89 00:07:59.920 --> 00:08:00.839 get ready for the war, you' re not there. You' 90 00:08:00.959 --> 00:08:05.160 re giving your point of view and we seem to agree. No yes, 91 00:08:05.279 --> 00:08:09.399 because it' s the first thing I have to fix, or all I 92 00:08:09.439 --> 00:08:13.319 have to fix is myself, my judgments, my attitudes and others leave sentences. 93 00:08:13.399 --> 00:08:16.800 Live and let live. Thank you very much for that very thing. 94 00:08:16.839 --> 00:08:20.040 Not wanting to fix others' lives, because people suffer, because you see 95 00:08:20.079 --> 00:08:26.560 things carrying angry things, breaking relationships, blaming. It' s just that 96 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:26.560 you didn' t do it and you didn' t feel it. People 97 00:08:26.639 --> 00:08:31.120 do nothing else, it' s neither good nor bad. People make life 98 00:08:31.199 --> 00:08:35.159 is not a topic. It' s just that I' m doing really 99 00:08:35.240 --> 00:08:35.679 bad or I' m doing really well. You' re not. Life 100 00:08:35.759 --> 00:08:41.639 is life is not lived and you always live forward. I want to ask 101 00:08:41.639 --> 00:08:46.879 you something. What skill you think, it would be indispensable for everyone to 102 00:08:48.639 --> 00:08:52.679 have if it were for you to say see. I think this skill is 103 00:08:52.720 --> 00:08:58.720 very important to everyone and maybe it would change the scenario of our existence. 104 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:09.679 Lackounkability, which is held responsible, ceases to occupy and hold responsible. There 105 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:13.960 is no book in the principle of God that is based on margo deos, 106 00:09:13.320 --> 00:09:18.360 but they have applied in companies. And that' s living like a mole, 107 00:09:20.320 --> 00:09:24.799 not like a puppy. To be loyal, to be calm, to 108 00:09:24.799 --> 00:09:31.120 be brave, to smell, to listen, to be empathetic, to be 109 00:09:31.159 --> 00:09:33.960 affectionate, all that the little animals do, not the little dogs, which 110 00:09:33.960 --> 00:09:37.279 are wonderful. That' s the best way. Not here now is not 111 00:09:37.320 --> 00:09:41.759 waiting for you, yes, but here you never forget. What I want 112 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:46.919 to ask you is that you learn, or that' s what you' 113 00:09:46.919 --> 00:09:50.240 re born with. Why do we see that some people get very easy. 114 00:09:50.120 --> 00:09:56.840 For example, you don' t tell us this and it sounds like one. 115 00:09:56.919 --> 00:10:00.360 Would you like to live like this? But why isn' t it 116 00:10:00.360 --> 00:10:03.759 so hard. I want to, I want to scratch it a little bit 117 00:10:03.840 --> 00:10:07.399 more, because at the end of the way this one sounds very nice, 118 00:10:07.399 --> 00:10:09.559 it sounds even romantic. But the truth is that ninety percent or more of 119 00:10:09.679 --> 00:10:15.639 people don' t live like this. No, no, and it' 120 00:10:15.639 --> 00:10:18.639 s important. We' re not iron. No, I mean, I 121 00:10:18.720 --> 00:10:22.080 have emotions, I get angry at the watering. I' m an ordinary 122 00:10:22.080 --> 00:10:24.960 human being. I slip, I fall, I pay back, I mean, 123 00:10:24.120 --> 00:10:30.720 it' s not that either. No, no, no, no, 124 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 125 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 126 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 127 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 128 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 129 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 130 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 131 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 132 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 133 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 134 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 135 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 136 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:30.720 no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 137 00:10:30.720 --> 00:10:31.159 no, no, no, no, no, no. No, like 138 00:10:31.279 --> 00:10:35.399 everyone else, the difference is to make me conscious. No, I mean 139 00:10:35.480 --> 00:10:39.120 to understand that people don' t make me do things, not that people 140 00:10:39.159 --> 00:10:43.559 do things and in my mind it' s where I start to get bad 141 00:10:43.679 --> 00:10:50.840 and I can destroy relationships. There are no couples who have been destroyed for 142 00:10:50.840 --> 00:10:54.759 nothing. You don' t say they didn' t do anything else to 143 00:10:54.879 --> 00:10:58.360 you, and they bring it in and they do courage and guilt. You 144 00:10:58.480 --> 00:11:01.080 ' re responsible, you don' t bring a abandonment wound, a rejection 145 00:11:01.080 --> 00:11:05.200 wound. Better, scratch your past that you did, what happened to you, 146 00:11:05.399 --> 00:11:09.759 no, who abandoned you. You bring so much hanging And it seems 147 00:11:09.840 --> 00:11:15.679 and for that it' s important to go with experts, because many times 148 00:11:15.759 --> 00:11:20.000 there are people who even dare to say I' m fine, I feel 149 00:11:20.000 --> 00:11:24.480 good. I met a person who, according to her, was perfect, 150 00:11:24.080 --> 00:11:33.080 she qualified herself and qualified herself as an almost perfect being. No. And 151 00:11:33.159 --> 00:11:37.879 then it' s a hoax and it' s also a part of hiding 152 00:11:37.960 --> 00:11:41.519 wounds, as you say, from children. And here then the recommendation would 153 00:11:41.639 --> 00:11:46.200 be yes. We need people who have prepared themselves, who have studied, 154 00:11:46.399 --> 00:11:52.120 who live what they preach, because that too is very important. Today we 155 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:58.440 see many coaches who are I call them YouTube coach. They don' t 156 00:11:58.480 --> 00:12:01.440 watch a YouTube video of someone, Anthony Robbins or someone else and they already 157 00:12:01.559 --> 00:12:05.240 feel coach and put them on their business cards. I' m coaches, 158 00:12:05.559 --> 00:12:05.960 no, but the truth is, it' s going way beyond that. 159 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:11.919 No, Hector, yes, because it' s years and years I work 160 00:12:13.120 --> 00:12:20.080 first of my own, not to suffer it, to live it, that 161 00:12:20.080 --> 00:12:22.000 is usually the people who already live better. He had a background of suffering, 162 00:12:24.120 --> 00:12:28.559 something happened that the Cak thundered and had to be reborn. Very difficult. 163 00:12:28.639 --> 00:12:33.279 If a person has not reached that background, that place, that track 164 00:12:33.440 --> 00:12:35.320 in his life, because he will remain the same and the worst is that 165 00:12:35.480 --> 00:12:39.919 they confuse self- esteem with self- centeredness. I' m not perfect, 166 00:12:39.200 --> 00:12:43.320 I' m the ultimate human soluuaries, I risk it, I have 167 00:12:43.320 --> 00:12:46.559 emotions. I get angry, I' m one more. That' s 168 00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:52.600 humility. They think humility is being poor. There aren' t people with 169 00:12:52.600 --> 00:12:54.879 much money, very humble, very cool, very cute. There are people 170 00:12:54.960 --> 00:12:58.320 with no money who are super bocentric, because not taking care of that. 171 00:12:58.799 --> 00:13:03.440 Self- esteem is I love myself, but I love others self- centeredness 172 00:13:03.519 --> 00:13:07.399 is I love myself more than others. I' m more, I love 173 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:11.639 myself more, and the others make balls. Not like this. I' 174 00:13:11.639 --> 00:13:13.840 m holding on. You don' t have to give the best version. 175 00:13:15.679 --> 00:13:20.159 And if the watering detected accepted correct, yes, just with my sister. 176 00:13:20.320 --> 00:13:22.919 I had a little one there, so we' re changing houses. And 177 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:28.200 there are some things, because if you speak not a hug, forgive Hermanita, 178 00:13:28.480 --> 00:13:31.600 you rege. I' m not a human being. My plane' 179 00:13:31.639 --> 00:13:35.039 s gone. Forgive me, yes, little brother, little hug, but 180 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:37.480 in order for them to work, they have to be both parts. If 181 00:13:37.600 --> 00:13:41.440 my brother had been unconscious maybe he gets angry, we don' t fight, 182 00:13:43.320 --> 00:13:48.799 then the relationships are two or more. It doesn' t depend on 183 00:13:48.799 --> 00:13:50.399 what we' re talking about. If you notice that one thing that interests 184 00:13:52.240 --> 00:13:58.399 me very much is finding out how the human being is changing, because, 185 00:13:58.120 --> 00:14:01.360 obviously, there are people who if I am not going to change ever. 186 00:14:01.399 --> 00:14:05.799 Right now, you were telling us about this gentleman, no, this bitter 187 00:14:05.919 --> 00:14:07.519 old man who says and I don' t even want to live anymore. 188 00:14:07.399 --> 00:14:13.559 But obviously, for many years ago, when you and I were babies or 189 00:14:13.960 --> 00:14:18.480 not, many years, at least some, then we ate exactly. We 190 00:14:18.000 --> 00:14:22.399 barely ate. We had a special meal, a different meal. We can 191 00:14:22.480 --> 00:14:26.320 ' t chew because we didn' t have teeth. Then we began to 192 00:14:26.600 --> 00:14:31.039 grow and began to change. We begin to see many changes in our body 193 00:14:31.480 --> 00:14:37.480 and physically, the same trees are seedlings that grow and become shrubs and then 194 00:14:37.519 --> 00:14:43.559 become robust trees. But what I mean by this is that there are times 195 00:14:43.679 --> 00:14:48.279 when we fear change. According to your experience, my dear Hector, with 196 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:54.000 so many talks, conferences, workshops that you have given and with so many 197 00:14:54.000 --> 00:14:58.440 years of experience, why it costs us human beings to adapt to change. 198 00:15:00.039 --> 00:15:03.759 If a little plant then becomes a shrub and then becomes a tree, because 199 00:15:05.519 --> 00:15:09.120 it adapts to those changes, and even the tree can already receive among its 200 00:15:09.200 --> 00:15:13.559 branches birds, be creators even of life, etc, Why the human being 201 00:15:13.600 --> 00:15:20.440 is the only one who opposes so many changes, for our species is the 202 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:26.559 one that is most disconnected from mother earth. The so many are completely connected 203 00:15:26.600 --> 00:15:31.360 to the earth, are with their feet on the ground and well planted. 204 00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:37.879 No more then. Today, I do not say, many things have happened, 205 00:15:37.960 --> 00:15:41.039 no, but well, it would have to be. We have three 206 00:15:41.039 --> 00:15:46.120 brains, not clear, and limbic and neoportes, and that' s where 207 00:15:46.240 --> 00:15:50.120 the crazy thing about the house can come, too, because we have three 208 00:15:50.240 --> 00:15:54.200 talking at the same time. So the other species don' t have the 209 00:15:54.279 --> 00:16:00.559 neoportex. Then you don' t have to fight with that other party to 210 00:16:00.559 --> 00:16:03.399 get in. Ah good for the thesis. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 211 00:16:03.440 --> 00:16:07.480 It' s good that right now, right now, you' re calling 212 00:16:07.600 --> 00:16:11.679 this crazy house thing. I like it very much, because it is a 213 00:16:11.759 --> 00:16:19.799 term in which we allow the mind thoughts and allow them freely. And then, 214 00:16:19.960 --> 00:16:22.399 that' s why this crazy house term is a very, very successful 215 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:27.039 term, because imagine that you have a crazy one in your house and she 216 00:16:27.159 --> 00:16:30.879 ' s pulling and she' s screaming and she' s screaming and she 217 00:16:30.960 --> 00:16:34.720 ' s suddenly shutting up and suddenly she eats and suddenly throws the food and 218 00:16:34.759 --> 00:16:40.480 suddenly she' s like, like, crazy inside your brain. And then 219 00:16:40.720 --> 00:16:47.200 they' re thoughts, beliefs that we' re putting on because maybe Chico 220 00:16:47.399 --> 00:16:52.000 told us or didn' t tell us, hug us or didn' t 221 00:16:52.360 --> 00:16:56.200 hug us, they corrected us and we took it as something very personal, 222 00:16:56.879 --> 00:17:00.240 when it really was something that even benefited us. And then, as you 223 00:17:00.279 --> 00:17:03.600 ' re going through all that, we' re allowing thoughts. I don 224 00:17:03.639 --> 00:17:06.079 ' t know if you' re seeing us and you' re listening to 225 00:17:06.079 --> 00:17:11.359 us. It' s happened to you, that you' ve thought many 226 00:17:11.519 --> 00:17:14.279 times about things that don' t even happen. Hector, how do we 227 00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:18.359 order the crazy woman in the house, how do we keep her still, 228 00:17:18.559 --> 00:17:22.799 how do we put a brake on her, how do we tell her to 229 00:17:23.720 --> 00:17:29.559 pour you, quiet, you tooth, you look prettier, yes, the 230 00:17:29.839 --> 00:17:32.559 mind, the crazy, then the mind. Not that abstract thing. Yes, 231 00:17:33.119 --> 00:17:36.960 in Buddhism they speak of a chango who is like a chango, then 232 00:17:37.039 --> 00:17:41.039 the madman, the chango is the madman. Go rink Brinn over here, 233 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:49.160 prayer and meditation and understand that it is thought. It excited an attitude to 234 00:17:49.240 --> 00:17:55.279 take care of my thoughts and first take care of my physical, mental, 235 00:17:55.279 --> 00:17:56.920 and spiritual nutrition. I mean, if I spend it listening to the radio 236 00:17:57.039 --> 00:18:00.839 that they hit, that they killed to destroy. Well, pure poison, 237 00:18:02.000 --> 00:18:03.240 I' m getting in and that' s what I' m gonna start 238 00:18:03.240 --> 00:18:07.519 thinking. No, it' s important, well, but what can I 239 00:18:07.559 --> 00:18:11.680 do to help. I can' t change the war in Ukraine, but 240 00:18:11.759 --> 00:18:14.839 I can go help people in the cache. Don' t tell me, 241 00:18:15.240 --> 00:18:19.240 I can' t tell me how, as if you can do it and 242 00:18:19.240 --> 00:18:22.160 stop blaming me. It' s the worst, not the poor thing about 243 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:26.200 me, and I want it to be the result of your decisions. Then 244 00:18:26.359 --> 00:18:29.880 comes the thought to poop. Yeah, I' m a human being and 245 00:18:29.920 --> 00:18:33.599 there' s the chango or the mind like they want to call it quiet 246 00:18:33.599 --> 00:18:41.720 summer. Here I try with me, so settle down to fix my chango, 247 00:18:41.880 --> 00:18:45.799 see what you' re going to achieve if you don' t feel 248 00:18:45.880 --> 00:18:49.319 and you' re going to fix the bench, don' t believe, 249 00:18:49.440 --> 00:18:52.720 shut your mouth and bite your tongue and don' t bother you not hard 250 00:18:52.720 --> 00:18:56.039 and with others. Try to be very flexib cool, very cute, but 251 00:18:56.480 --> 00:19:02.559 obviously, never talk when you' re in your eyes and never promise when 252 00:19:02.559 --> 00:19:03.920 you' re happy. If you' re not gonna hit her, then 253 00:19:04.000 --> 00:19:08.480 take care of that kind of thing and conscience. Not words, semantic conflicts. 254 00:19:11.440 --> 00:19:15.799 Everyone has different words to express the same people who start to fight is 255 00:19:15.920 --> 00:19:19.960 not that word, as that person expresses it. Leave it, it' 256 00:19:21.000 --> 00:19:26.960 s not assaulting you, it' s not insulting you and trying to see 257 00:19:26.000 --> 00:19:30.480 beyond so you don' t get into conflict over things that really don' 258 00:19:30.480 --> 00:19:33.839 t have a case. Not in fact, so that I can, so 259 00:19:33.839 --> 00:19:37.920 that someone can assault me, so that someone can offend me, I would 260 00:19:37.039 --> 00:19:42.720 have to care first. But if it' s something external that I don 261 00:19:42.720 --> 00:19:45.400 ' t even care about, why do I take it personally. I mean, 262 00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:48.200 there are times when we take things so personal. It' s just 263 00:19:48.279 --> 00:19:51.759 that what you were saying at first is that he' s yelling at me. 264 00:19:51.880 --> 00:19:53.880 No, no, he' s not yelling at you, he' 265 00:19:53.880 --> 00:19:57.000 s screaming. The person screams. No. The person doesn' t yell 266 00:19:57.000 --> 00:20:00.599 at you. Auntie, no one can yell at you. It' s 267 00:20:00.640 --> 00:20:03.160 the person he screams at. It' s just that the person is offending 268 00:20:03.160 --> 00:20:07.559 me. No, no. The person offends. That' s her context, 269 00:20:08.279 --> 00:20:15.000 her principle, reality is that she screams and throws gruesome rudeness, but 270 00:20:15.039 --> 00:20:18.119 that doesn' t have to include in your ecosystem. Now something that' 271 00:20:18.240 --> 00:20:23.799 s important. I want to talk to you. I understand that thoughts take 272 00:20:23.920 --> 00:20:30.359 a speed, feelings take another speed, and that you can be a catalyst 273 00:20:30.599 --> 00:20:36.359 to slow down from the speed of thought. I give you a very clear 274 00:20:36.359 --> 00:20:41.960 example. You were talking about the reptilian system and the limbic system of the 275 00:20:41.960 --> 00:20:45.039 brain. Not the reptilian system is what allows you to burn down the house 276 00:20:45.119 --> 00:20:51.240 and allow you to run. The limbic system is in all feelings. When 277 00:20:51.319 --> 00:20:53.279 we watch a video, of a puppy, a kitten, the feelings are 278 00:20:53.759 --> 00:21:00.200 there and the Neocortex is the analytical way we solve. However, I think 279 00:21:00.240 --> 00:21:03.799 that is also very important my dear Hictor, because there are times that we 280 00:21:03.440 --> 00:21:08.519 want to solve something analytical with the feeling, that is, with the neocorte, 281 00:21:08.920 --> 00:21:14.799 that we want to solve with the Indian and things that have to be 282 00:21:14.920 --> 00:21:21.319 solved in the Lippic we want to solve with the reptilian and total that we 283 00:21:21.319 --> 00:21:23.359 have a disorder. I think that part would help my dear Hector, too, 284 00:21:25.799 --> 00:21:29.480 because that is to raise awareness, not to understand that there is nothing. 285 00:21:29.519 --> 00:21:33.359 There is logic in many logics, not or that is wrong. Not 286 00:21:33.440 --> 00:21:36.960 bad. It' s different than you think. It' s another way 287 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:40.839 of looking at things. No one is right or wrong, least of all 288 00:21:40.920 --> 00:21:45.440 if we are talking about human relationships or something as subjective as non- classically 289 00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:48.000 insane. If it were, I don' t know, it' s 290 00:21:48.039 --> 00:21:49.440 just that there' s got to be so much pressure from the spaceship' 291 00:21:49.440 --> 00:21:53.200 s screw. If it doesn' t explode like that, it does, 292 00:21:53.359 --> 00:21:57.279 or it explodes, and people die. But speaking of soft Havities is not 293 00:21:57.359 --> 00:22:02.599 very important. Speaking of relationship, he won' t be judging. The 294 00:22:03.160 --> 00:22:07.960 thought does come and activate the system, but they are connected. I can 295 00:22:07.039 --> 00:22:11.680 ' t separate myself from my emotions unless I' m a psychopath who feels 296 00:22:11.680 --> 00:22:15.119 nothing. There I have them, because the thought comes, it generates an 297 00:22:15.119 --> 00:22:21.079 emotion, but that is where the emotional intelligence comes. Not that my emotion 298 00:22:21.119 --> 00:22:26.880 was still smart. It' s still emotion, but having the ability to 299 00:22:26.960 --> 00:22:29.519 grab it before it' s gonna be seen. So far, quiet, 300 00:22:29.960 --> 00:22:33.960 how cool where you' re going, how to the puppies who have educated 301 00:22:33.079 --> 00:22:41.400 me not to be calm here, here, until you understand and already walk 302 00:22:41.480 --> 00:22:44.359 next to you give the emotions are going to be today the changuito is going 303 00:22:44.400 --> 00:22:48.759 to stay there next to you, talking to you, telling you the same 304 00:22:48.759 --> 00:22:52.279 way it grinds him, but you already have it. How you learned all 305 00:22:52.279 --> 00:22:56.359 this, who taught you, where you read it, how you did it 306 00:22:56.359 --> 00:23:03.039 to control it, because, at least today I consider myself a little less 307 00:23:03.039 --> 00:23:07.119 wild. Not a little less wild. However, I have a long way 308 00:23:07.200 --> 00:23:12.279 to go, but in your case, how did you do it, because 309 00:23:12.279 --> 00:23:18.839 I started going to therapy, to read books. Thanks to life- masters 310 00:23:18.960 --> 00:23:22.599 who passed by, I gave myself the stops. I didn' t get 311 00:23:22.599 --> 00:23:30.240 a lot of chips. Getting to that moment of being sad not with something 312 00:23:30.359 --> 00:23:32.839 you see today and you say I don' t have to be. But, 313 00:23:33.759 --> 00:23:40.079 as the little plants say, one is very immature, not unconscious in 314 00:23:40.200 --> 00:23:45.599 this society. If you listen to love songs, I' ve never listened. 315 00:23:45.799 --> 00:23:49.920 I made a challenge with some friends on an emotional intelligence course we' 316 00:23:49.960 --> 00:23:53.200 re going to look for a single song that talks about real love. Love 317 00:23:53.279 --> 00:23:59.920 is the greatest apprehension that exists. Love is pure, it is clean. 318 00:24:00.119 --> 00:24:03.640 Love doesn' t hurt. Love is something else we don' t find. 319 00:24:03.880 --> 00:24:08.559 We haven' t found a single commercial song that talks about love, 320 00:24:10.160 --> 00:24:15.039 that heeds those songs. Love is suffering. If you leave me now I 321 00:24:15.039 --> 00:24:21.000 ' m not going to survive that codependency, that disease, because I' 322 00:24:21.079 --> 00:24:26.720 m going to suffer, because I need to start taking care of what I 323 00:24:26.920 --> 00:24:27.759 read, what I hear, yeah, what how, because the body is 324 00:24:27.759 --> 00:24:33.160 the same. If I' m gonna get sick, I' m gonna 325 00:24:33.279 --> 00:24:36.359 get sick It' s good, and sometimes it' s going to go 326 00:24:36.359 --> 00:24:37.000 there They' re really tasty little lemons. Yeah, but every day eating 327 00:24:37.160 --> 00:24:42.960 that' s the same mind. If all of a sudden I hear a 328 00:24:44.039 --> 00:24:47.559 song that talks about codependency, you don' t happen and maybe I' 329 00:24:47.559 --> 00:24:48.920 ll raise it and say no. That' s not love. But all 330 00:24:48.079 --> 00:24:52.720 the time I' m putting that in my mind. That kind of lyrics 331 00:24:52.839 --> 00:24:56.480 and philosophies and so on. Yes, of course, I' m going 332 00:24:56.559 --> 00:25:00.799 to get sick, not I' m going to walk all anxious, neurotic 333 00:25:00.839 --> 00:25:06.039 and the worst thing is that it' s lookout Tell me, tell me, 334 00:25:07.039 --> 00:25:10.359 please, and tell us what has been the greatest pride of everything you 335 00:25:10.359 --> 00:25:11.119 ' ve worked that you can talk to us about. I know that, 336 00:25:11.240 --> 00:25:14.359 obviously, there are many things that, as time goes by, are causing 337 00:25:14.400 --> 00:25:18.119 you pride and you are achieving goals and you are achieving goals and that, 338 00:25:18.440 --> 00:25:23.400 in the end, this helps to consolidate a career. But there are things 339 00:25:23.440 --> 00:25:29.119 that in the professional sphere pass on to the personal subject. I can tell 340 00:25:29.720 --> 00:25:33.400 you that on the subject of communication, for example, I have been fortunate 341 00:25:34.000 --> 00:25:41.240 enough to be in important media. However, there have been very particular interviews 342 00:25:41.759 --> 00:25:48.240 that have marked me and have even motivated me to change the course of my 343 00:25:48.359 --> 00:25:52.799 life. In your case, tell us some story, some anecdote about what 344 00:25:52.920 --> 00:25:57.279 has happened to you and how it has positively impacted you to the degree that 345 00:25:57.359 --> 00:26:03.759 you are where you are today, because in professional life, Ahorita, a 346 00:26:03.880 --> 00:26:08.559 person comes to mind, a boy that I gave a kind of market. 347 00:26:08.640 --> 00:26:15.559 I had many years ago and years later he looked for me. Well, 348 00:26:15.599 --> 00:26:18.079 right now, I remember someone else, but it was good. Thank you 349 00:26:18.519 --> 00:26:22.799 very much for bringing you closer after the years, already with good work and 350 00:26:23.240 --> 00:26:32.119 all our thanks. Without you I would not have achieved these some who had 351 00:26:32.200 --> 00:26:36.599 problems with authority in the classroom. Well, I don' t pay attention. 352 00:26:36.799 --> 00:26:40.000 I don' t want to. Years later I don' t remember 353 00:26:40.079 --> 00:26:42.160 one who came in a library and got it coming you remember me, yes, 354 00:26:44.119 --> 00:26:48.000 I want to apologize and give you gas where what, because I was 355 00:26:48.119 --> 00:26:51.400 like that. I tell him, uh, yeah, well, yeah, 356 00:26:52.000 --> 00:26:55.839 but you were absolutely right, not what a reason you were because of your 357 00:26:55.839 --> 00:26:57.720 advice. Hey, I' m here for that kind of thing. They 358 00:26:59.079 --> 00:27:03.880 feed you the same way in the personal trainings that come to you, to 359 00:27:03.000 --> 00:27:08.759 ask you questions, to ask for life tips for the couple, for work 360 00:27:10.079 --> 00:27:11.880 and finally they come back happy and it worked for me. I didn' 361 00:27:11.960 --> 00:27:15.720 t get the job. I already fixed the problem with my partner. I 362 00:27:15.839 --> 00:27:19.000 ' ve already done this, and I' ve never been in my life 363 00:27:19.000 --> 00:27:21.519 trying to coerce. I' m not saying. There are people who think 364 00:27:21.680 --> 00:27:23.920 you want to bully him. I don' t listen to anyone, because 365 00:27:23.960 --> 00:27:27.039 that' s my job, it' s not for free, but some 366 00:27:27.160 --> 00:27:32.119 people in their minds think you want to terapeate it and say no, I 367 00:27:32.160 --> 00:27:34.960 mean, you' re not that important to understand, no, no, 368 00:27:34.960 --> 00:27:37.160 it' s not personal. I' m talking about what I live and 369 00:27:37.279 --> 00:27:41.920 I feel you. I don' t want to bother anyone. Then that 370 00:27:42.000 --> 00:27:48.400 kind of thing, because it helps a lot to grow up and in the 371 00:27:48.559 --> 00:27:53.599 part of social work, once a little boy arrived and a place where it 372 00:27:53.640 --> 00:27:59.279 is a house of recovery, I wear clothes and things not yes. Then 373 00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:03.400 they made the Christmas dinner and then I went to the posolito that they did 374 00:28:03.480 --> 00:28:10.079 and in that comes a boy who had come from the street completely beaten or 375 00:28:10.720 --> 00:28:14.839 dorado dirty and suddenly with that to me his suit and that suit I donated 376 00:28:14.960 --> 00:28:19.720 says Mira, that is the suit that you gave me. Thank you, 377 00:28:21.119 --> 00:28:27.319 I already have a full job from the street to a person who is producing. 378 00:28:29.119 --> 00:28:33.400 So those things are the ones that, because they help you a lot 379 00:28:33.480 --> 00:28:37.799 not to be conversing, because every time my mind tells me poor little thing 380 00:28:37.920 --> 00:28:41.359 about you that you complain don' t remember the boy with the girl who 381 00:28:41.359 --> 00:28:44.240 was in the dumpster. I don' t agree that' s pain, 382 00:28:44.400 --> 00:28:47.880 you, that you complain in your bed with the fridge full of food. 383 00:28:48.319 --> 00:28:52.519 Poor thing of me and in the professional part, because all that I have 384 00:28:52.720 --> 00:28:56.759 learned from my life in the research books, because to take it and give 385 00:28:56.839 --> 00:29:02.680 it to full hands, because, because, first help and also obvious, 386 00:29:03.079 --> 00:29:06.559 because one has to work, no, but the first is how I can 387 00:29:06.559 --> 00:29:11.960 help you. Is there an image that you have surely seen that if you 388 00:29:12.599 --> 00:29:19.799 know her that is a boy walking and turns to see one of the bicycle 389 00:29:19.880 --> 00:29:23.480 and the one of the bicycle turns to see one that has a car And 390 00:29:23.720 --> 00:29:26.440 the one that has a car, turns to see another that has a sports 391 00:29:26.440 --> 00:29:29.960 car? And the one who has a sports car, turns to see the 392 00:29:30.039 --> 00:29:32.200 one who has a boat? And the one with a boat, turn to 393 00:29:32.200 --> 00:29:33.720 see the one with a plane? We don' t always crave it. 394 00:29:33.839 --> 00:29:37.880 We' re looking for more, more, but right now, you just 395 00:29:38.240 --> 00:29:45.799 said something that really connected with me, because how unthankful we are with God, 396 00:29:45.119 --> 00:29:49.640 with life, with the Universe, the conception we have with ourselves, 397 00:29:51.119 --> 00:29:57.359 that is, if you have a roof, a bed, hot food, 398 00:29:59.240 --> 00:30:03.160 hot food whatever, no matter if it' s too little too much or 399 00:30:03.279 --> 00:30:07.920 if it' s the most expensive and stratospheric in the Universe. Having food 400 00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:12.799 in front of a cold and cruel reality that millions of people don' t 401 00:30:12.920 --> 00:30:18.759 have to eat today and you and I do think that would be enough to 402 00:30:18.839 --> 00:30:27.440 be pleasantly living differently. Not sure, yes, grace changes your life and, 403 00:30:29.160 --> 00:30:33.119 of course, we can slip. We' re human. It wasn 404 00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:37.240 ' t yesterday you told me that someone started to lack me authority, he 405 00:30:37.359 --> 00:30:40.519 ' s a supervisor and I had to put a stop to him. I 406 00:30:41.000 --> 00:30:42.599 ' m not saying the aggressive, you insulted him, nothing more. I 407 00:30:42.640 --> 00:30:47.440 told her calmly. So far. I' m the boss and they do 408 00:30:47.480 --> 00:30:49.680 things here. I didn' t mean it, there wasn' t. 409 00:30:51.480 --> 00:30:55.279 He' s moving over the line and we have to set limits. We 410 00:30:56.640 --> 00:30:59.799 ' re not reading in Buddhism either. You' re hardly gonna get criticized 411 00:30:59.799 --> 00:31:03.480 if you talk. If you fall down to criticize yourself, yes, they 412 00:31:03.599 --> 00:31:07.599 ' ll always be geticating you. And the people who criticize, because they 413 00:31:07.640 --> 00:31:08.920 are the most damaged. That' s where you have to have things. 414 00:31:10.039 --> 00:31:12.359 If I criticize my mind, that' s where the problem is. I 415 00:31:12.799 --> 00:31:18.000 have to stop them that moves me in people if I know her, many 416 00:31:18.519 --> 00:31:26.160 times not the limits, I understand that they are not for the person with 417 00:31:26.319 --> 00:31:29.640 whom we live. The boundaries are for us. I think that' s 418 00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:36.400 where many times people don' t exactly understand the concept of boundaries. We 419 00:31:36.519 --> 00:31:40.960 think the limit is me. I put it on you, when it' 420 00:31:41.359 --> 00:31:45.480 s really me. I put it on myself and so far I allow certain 421 00:31:45.680 --> 00:31:51.039 circumstances, I give you an example. I don' t let the mother 422 00:31:51.119 --> 00:31:52.920 lie to me on social media. You can' t tell me what you 423 00:31:52.960 --> 00:31:57.680 want, that I' m wrong, that I don' t do things 424 00:31:57.799 --> 00:32:01.920 right and I can with a deep analysis say you' re right or you 425 00:32:02.000 --> 00:32:06.440 ' re right I' m going to improve on this, that I am, 426 00:32:06.640 --> 00:32:08.000 but when someone already starts with a mother' s letter, I' 427 00:32:08.000 --> 00:32:08.000 m there, that' s my limit for me, for me, not 428 00:32:08.000 --> 00:32:10.319 for the person. The person can say whatever he wants, but for me 429 00:32:10.400 --> 00:32:14.720 that' s my limit and at that moment I block you and you never 430 00:32:14.839 --> 00:32:16.839 have contact with me again. It' s not like that. The limit 431 00:32:16.960 --> 00:32:20.920 is for one or yes, I have to walk him. Putting limits on 432 00:32:21.039 --> 00:32:23.880 everyone is exhausting. I don' t mean, there are people we know, 433 00:32:24.559 --> 00:32:30.160 we know, we know a lot, and I think putting limits on 434 00:32:30.240 --> 00:32:34.880 all people would be exhausting. Better work with your limits. No, yes, 435 00:32:35.160 --> 00:32:37.400 I mean. The only thing I can change is my judgments and attitudes. 436 00:32:37.599 --> 00:32:44.799 I can' t change people. A person who starts to throw all 437 00:32:44.920 --> 00:32:49.160 his wounds at me to blame me for all his pains. Yeah, I 438 00:32:49.240 --> 00:32:52.599 did the best I could, I gave him the best of me, I 439 00:32:52.720 --> 00:32:55.240 did all the good I got. I gave it to him, yes, 440 00:32:55.559 --> 00:32:59.880 I can do more, not anymore. Those are demands and more than putting 441 00:33:00.079 --> 00:33:01.839 a limit, I mean and addicted, I turn around, I walk away 442 00:33:01.920 --> 00:33:09.599 ok ok, but I must be fine working on that, not watering it, 443 00:33:10.000 --> 00:33:14.440 because I am a human being. For a healthy person an apology, 444 00:33:14.839 --> 00:33:17.119 excuse me the wrapper, for that is enough. It' s okay, 445 00:33:17.559 --> 00:33:22.799 I' m sorry to say no that, I can' t fix anything, 446 00:33:23.160 --> 00:33:28.119 I mean, I can' t do any more, I gave you 447 00:33:28.279 --> 00:33:32.519 the best of me, it' s the best of it. The thing 448 00:33:32.680 --> 00:33:37.599 is, relationships are two, no, fifty counts. If the person is 449 00:33:37.680 --> 00:33:42.759 passing that fifty, there is no other person. That' s when we 450 00:33:44.000 --> 00:33:45.839 have to go put the barrier on him. No and yes, or I 451 00:33:45.920 --> 00:33:49.759 saw how far there are people who don' t set limits. No, 452 00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:53.119 and they' re doing it. And so and also careful, there are 453 00:33:53.240 --> 00:33:59.480 times that yes, they are hurting us, forgive you it hits you And 454 00:33:59.599 --> 00:34:04.039 so the nose because I do directly miss many times that people do nothing. 455 00:34:04.960 --> 00:34:09.960 It is not the mind that is interpreting things that do not really exist. 456 00:34:10.400 --> 00:34:17.079 How many times we have fallen into catastrophic thoughts that never happen. I have 457 00:34:17.159 --> 00:34:22.039 to tell you that I come from there and it' s a very complicated 458 00:34:22.039 --> 00:34:27.599 area. It' s an area that, when you' re there, 459 00:34:27.599 --> 00:34:30.519 is amazing. How I return the subject the crazy woman in the house begins 460 00:34:30.719 --> 00:34:39.599 to take possession of your whole being and it is a terrible thing not to 461 00:34:39.719 --> 00:34:45.760 think of situations of accidents that do not happen, of incidents that do not 462 00:34:45.760 --> 00:34:46.199 happen, of assumptions that do not happen. And I' m gonna tell 463 00:34:46.199 --> 00:34:50.719 you something. They taught me what a cannon. I was taught as a 464 00:34:50.800 --> 00:34:57.239 little boy to always foresee the bad and then always put my attention to the 465 00:34:57.360 --> 00:35:00.760 bad. In case it happens, then you already have A B and C. 466 00:35:00.320 --> 00:35:06.039 But if B happens, you have DF. And it' s really 467 00:35:06.159 --> 00:35:10.360 an unviviable life, because at the end of the road today, at the 468 00:35:10.400 --> 00:35:19.119 end of time and a pretty hard and brave job, let me tell you 469 00:35:19.199 --> 00:35:22.000 today, at least already when I have to do something and suddenly my thoughts 470 00:35:22.000 --> 00:35:24.599 come. I tell you to wait for how many years and it won' 471 00:35:24.719 --> 00:35:29.239 t happen anything calm. Now it' s not about being exposed to the 472 00:35:29.239 --> 00:35:32.119 fullest. No, but, for example this I think that, as life 473 00:35:32.239 --> 00:35:36.480 is, what has to happen is going to happen the moment it has to 474 00:35:36.519 --> 00:35:42.440 happen. Either you do or you don' t do or whatever. No, 475 00:35:42.719 --> 00:35:45.679 obviously, things are going to happen, because that' s how they 476 00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:50.400 have to happen. You live better this way. No, Hector, of 477 00:35:50.400 --> 00:35:55.840 course, the power of the hour right now is all I have. Not 478 00:35:57.400 --> 00:36:00.639 the same way, right now, I' m fulminating. That may happen, 479 00:36:00.840 --> 00:36:07.480 Ahorita, You spent a few days of direct death so we normally saw 480 00:36:07.599 --> 00:36:10.559 in the future. We' re in the past and we never live. 481 00:36:10.719 --> 00:36:15.119 No. I don' t know if that' s why zombie series are 482 00:36:15.119 --> 00:36:19.400 so successful. No, I' m not living, I' m dead 483 00:36:19.400 --> 00:36:22.639 in life. No and this moment and enjoy it will be the best of 484 00:36:22.760 --> 00:36:25.840 you and that is very important. The four agreements say so. Always do 485 00:36:27.039 --> 00:36:31.400 the best you can, all the best you can give, because, as 486 00:36:31.519 --> 00:36:36.239 they say, although if you talk they criticize you, if you notice, 487 00:36:36.559 --> 00:36:38.079 nothing is good or bad. That' s very important. Nothing else is, 488 00:36:38.639 --> 00:36:44.199 if I think differently, then also regarding your very interesting idea. I 489 00:36:44.320 --> 00:36:47.199 think this is very good. I respect yours very interesting, but I think 490 00:36:47.239 --> 00:36:51.360 different and as friends as always, there is nothing, you have to tempt 491 00:36:51.480 --> 00:36:55.840 it that even in different thoughts, suddenly you can learn very interesting things. 492 00:36:58.519 --> 00:37:00.480 There are things I say I don' t know if it happened to you, 493 00:37:01.400 --> 00:37:04.320 but it happened to me that suddenly I don' t know. I 494 00:37:04.440 --> 00:37:07.280 think ay you think b and all of a sudden I say to Caray, 495 00:37:07.480 --> 00:37:10.840 because the see isn' t so bad, so if I see it from 496 00:37:10.960 --> 00:37:16.920 that point of view, from that perspective, there' s an exercise that 497 00:37:17.239 --> 00:37:20.800 has a symbol that, on one side it looks six and on the other 498 00:37:20.800 --> 00:37:22.760 side it looks nine. Not then, if we put it here and you 499 00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:23.400 ' re going to say no, because it' s new, I' 500 00:37:23.480 --> 00:37:25.199 m going to say no, because it' s six. If you put 501 00:37:25.320 --> 00:37:29.280 yourself on the other side, you' re going to see it as nine, 502 00:37:29.639 --> 00:37:35.960 and then life is a little different and that difference marks a grand universe 503 00:37:36.000 --> 00:37:39.199 that can thrill you. I want to tell you, my dear Hector, 504 00:37:39.360 --> 00:37:43.679 that here on what good question, there are no questions, no good or 505 00:37:43.679 --> 00:37:46.960 bad answers. We' re going into a part of the talk where I 506 00:37:47.079 --> 00:37:50.480 ' m going to ask you questions. I' m going to ask you 507 00:37:50.559 --> 00:37:55.039 to answer them as quickly as you can and where there are no good or 508 00:37:55.239 --> 00:38:00.079 bad answers, and I' d love to know that you would tell us, 509 00:38:00.480 --> 00:38:06.039 please, which movie is the one you' ve seen over and over 510 00:38:06.119 --> 00:38:10.519 and over and you' d see again fifty times more. Amadeus ok so 511 00:38:12.239 --> 00:38:17.280 I am musicians as a child. Then, in time, Mozart was what 512 00:38:17.320 --> 00:38:25.199 instrument you play or ah Oko, I lowered him a lot. Yeah, 513 00:38:25.440 --> 00:38:30.639 of course the job all of a sudden we all do gigs. Orale O. 514 00:38:32.599 --> 00:38:40.239 If you had a chance to have dinner with someone famous from the past 515 00:38:40.239 --> 00:38:45.400 or the present, who you' d like to have dinner with and ask 516 00:38:45.400 --> 00:38:53.719 him some interesting questions. I hear, then, with Buddha, ok Ok 517 00:38:54.360 --> 00:38:59.440 and what would you ask him. What would you ask Buddha if you had 518 00:38:59.480 --> 00:39:07.719 him in front of you, for what techniques can recommend me meditation to be 519 00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:20.199 at peace, No Ok Ok Balance serenity for grifins you like superheroes, because 520 00:39:20.199 --> 00:39:22.639 yes, I am not a fan. At some point I bought some comics, 521 00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:29.760 but, okay, what' s your superhero or what your favorite superheroes 522 00:39:29.760 --> 00:39:39.760 are, Superman, Ok, the wonder woman, Batman are the ones right 523 00:39:39.760 --> 00:39:44.639 now. But that' s not how Wow doesn' t like Mozart, 524 00:39:45.360 --> 00:39:53.199 no, okay, you think all human beings have superpowers, because we' 525 00:39:53.239 --> 00:39:58.280 d have to define super powers. But I don' t. There are 526 00:39:58.400 --> 00:40:04.440 even studies that the brain is the most powerful pharmacy there is, because maybe 527 00:40:04.840 --> 00:40:07.440 I' m loose alive via and what you think your super power is. 528 00:40:09.199 --> 00:40:15.119 No, I don' t feel like you have, because giving the best 529 00:40:15.199 --> 00:40:20.760 of me not helping people. But there are times when as much as one 530 00:40:20.880 --> 00:40:24.840 sees best nothing. He likes it. No, of course it' s 531 00:40:24.960 --> 00:40:32.000 super power. I' d be a father, all the people could have 532 00:40:32.159 --> 00:40:39.639 lived you happy and some fear that you' ve had very marked and that 533 00:40:39.760 --> 00:40:44.400 you' ve already overcome it or that at least you' re very close 534 00:40:44.400 --> 00:40:49.320 to getting over it that you can tell us. You have some identified fear, 535 00:40:50.639 --> 00:40:58.599 for many years ago the fear of parents dying ok Ok. Well, 536 00:40:58.760 --> 00:41:00.159 don' t die on the PS. He' s gonna die and we 537 00:41:00.199 --> 00:41:02.480 ' re all gonna die. Not well, back then, if you' 538 00:41:02.519 --> 00:41:06.400 d told me that, how to believe this. Right now, that' 539 00:41:06.599 --> 00:41:07.480 s it, because it' s the truth. It' s not gonna 540 00:41:07.519 --> 00:41:10.440 happen what you have to go through. So, yes, I remember that 541 00:41:10.559 --> 00:41:15.840 a long time ago and that we passed it seems a lot of fear, 542 00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:19.800 not fear. Fear is a real thing. Not if the fear shakes you 543 00:41:19.920 --> 00:41:25.480 out the fear nothing else here ok hey and if you could, in your 544 00:41:25.599 --> 00:41:30.880 case, travel, imagine that you' re going to travel for six months, 545 00:41:31.119 --> 00:41:36.119 you wouldn' t travel to one place and you would stay there or 546 00:41:36.199 --> 00:41:37.760 you would take a tour of several places. No, as much as I 547 00:41:37.840 --> 00:41:44.519 can get to know a little bit, not little by little it' s 548 00:41:44.679 --> 00:41:45.039 worth if I keep a place that way. No, well, enjoy yourself. 549 00:41:45.199 --> 00:41:50.039 You' re not, you don' t like, for example, 550 00:41:50.599 --> 00:41:52.679 a trip to Europe for fifteen days. You prefer to go to three countries 551 00:41:52.800 --> 00:41:57.800 or two countries and enjoy them to the fullest. Well, if it' 552 00:41:57.840 --> 00:42:00.840 s six months, you give carlos a 15 days place, okay, just 553 00:42:00.880 --> 00:42:07.079 15 days, you stay there, yeah, see if I know you. 554 00:42:07.679 --> 00:42:15.239 Note that one thing that is interesting is that many people want to live, 555 00:42:15.159 --> 00:42:20.280 many adventures in very little time, and there are other people who want or 556 00:42:20.440 --> 00:42:22.519 want to live a good adventure, but very good, even for a short 557 00:42:22.519 --> 00:42:27.119 time. And that' s not only by preference, but it also talks 558 00:42:27.199 --> 00:42:31.639 about your personality, it doesn' t talk about and it gives you certain 559 00:42:31.760 --> 00:42:35.559 threads to tell us because we' re right as we are. You don 560 00:42:35.639 --> 00:42:37.880 ' t think the human being. We have lost the ability to amaze, 561 00:42:42.840 --> 00:42:45.599 for perhaps different things amaze us. I don' t know sad. All 562 00:42:45.719 --> 00:42:54.840 of a sudden watch so much video of violence. Not right now youtuber who 563 00:42:55.159 --> 00:43:00.159 scowled at him. Not one I start and then share. I got here 564 00:43:00.239 --> 00:43:04.440 from Whatsapp. I' ve had to tell people well don' t send 565 00:43:04.480 --> 00:43:06.679 me that, I don' t want to see a poor boy run over. 566 00:43:07.639 --> 00:43:13.039 There' s no father. Seeing a suffering being is not clear what 567 00:43:13.079 --> 00:43:16.400 comes. Not violence sells much yes, violence, sex, gossip, morbidness. 568 00:43:22.360 --> 00:43:28.480 Unfortunately, we are in this roulette of life that changed, and I 569 00:43:28.639 --> 00:43:35.719 would like to ask you now imagine that you have the possibility to be the 570 00:43:35.880 --> 00:43:44.920 director that you are, the protagonist and producer of the film that is called 571 00:43:45.199 --> 00:43:51.239 Hector Castillo of your life. What things you' ve taken away, what 572 00:43:51.239 --> 00:43:57.800 characters you' ve removed, what characters you' ve put in to make 573 00:43:57.840 --> 00:44:07.599 your film a movie, because the best thing you can do, because people 574 00:44:07.719 --> 00:44:08.119 who prove that there isn' t really a empathy, a love, a 575 00:44:08.119 --> 00:44:13.840 love. I don' t just walk away, I don' t try 576 00:44:13.840 --> 00:44:17.480 to give my best, but if they don' t want anything me and 577 00:44:17.480 --> 00:44:21.480 him sometimes ugly not. But no way you' re not going to be 578 00:44:21.599 --> 00:44:24.719 with a person or in an environment where he doesn' t want you, 579 00:44:25.639 --> 00:44:29.320 without judging, without bothering you with anything. Well here they don' t 580 00:44:29.519 --> 00:44:32.320 want me away from anything that turns me around. No. I don' 581 00:44:32.400 --> 00:44:37.000 t smoke, I don' t drink, I don' t use any 582 00:44:37.000 --> 00:44:44.280 kind of chemicals, nothing, anything, anything that would make my life physically 583 00:44:44.360 --> 00:44:47.639 something spiritual, get away, get away in jail, what to look for 584 00:44:47.639 --> 00:44:53.039 things that would do you good, not go to the gym, go on 585 00:44:53.039 --> 00:44:59.000 a trip, go swimming, talk to your brothers, give them the best, 586 00:44:59.199 --> 00:44:59.440 sometimes at risk, because I' m always human to give the best. 587 00:44:59.519 --> 00:45:02.800 Not if someone doesn' t value it, doesn' t care about 588 00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:05.119 it, or goes on too much, because that' s not the demand. 589 00:45:05.239 --> 00:45:07.320 I want more, I want you to do it the way I want 590 00:45:07.320 --> 00:45:15.760 it. Or it' s better for the armies to hear and some important 591 00:45:16.360 --> 00:45:22.039 fact, some mischief that you remember as a young or child, of those 592 00:45:22.039 --> 00:45:24.320 pranks that you say son, was very good for them. I wasn' 593 00:45:24.599 --> 00:45:28.760 t practically punished. I think six months. But the truth is, I 594 00:45:29.480 --> 00:45:32.519 ' d do it again. You remember one of those. We all have, 595 00:45:32.920 --> 00:45:37.400 we all have to be Híjale No. If you remember, the Lindon 596 00:45:37.480 --> 00:45:43.840 peel him with my cousins, they listen to me. Greetings, we salute 597 00:45:44.000 --> 00:45:49.519 to ring bells if we line up and hide. It wasn' t Lindon 598 00:45:49.920 --> 00:45:53.199 her and we had a great time. No, but not to do it 599 00:45:53.400 --> 00:45:58.239 again, I mean, it' s disrespectful. Not kids. We were 600 00:45:58.360 --> 00:46:02.159 six eight years old, not what time, because it was so today that 601 00:46:02.159 --> 00:46:07.159 I don' t remember, I mean, how bad the ladies didn' 602 00:46:07.239 --> 00:46:08.960 t come out and there was no one, no, no father, not 603 00:46:08.960 --> 00:46:14.840 that they do that to you. But a trio of light children, because 604 00:46:14.840 --> 00:46:19.800 they didn' t have that very good vision. Listen and tell us, 605 00:46:20.000 --> 00:46:27.000 please, if you had a chance to tell some young man what mischief they 606 00:46:27.159 --> 00:46:30.000 would have to do, because they' re also part of not being part 607 00:46:30.079 --> 00:46:32.280 of growth, that' s part of it. What would you say they 608 00:46:32.360 --> 00:46:49.920 do have to do pranks to do. Not any, some that come to 609 00:46:50.039 --> 00:46:53.440 mind, for if not, tell us, please, what has been the 610 00:46:53.519 --> 00:46:59.599 best advice of life that you have been given and that you continue to apply 611 00:47:00.119 --> 00:47:05.519 it to this day. Well, there' s a lot of them. 612 00:47:05.679 --> 00:47:12.639 One if you don' t know what to do, don' t do 613 00:47:12.760 --> 00:47:15.719 anything, ok ok this one don' t talk when you' re angry 614 00:47:15.719 --> 00:47:16.880 and don' t promise to be happy. You can be working, doing 615 00:47:17.119 --> 00:47:22.679 it or you already do it more naturally, because you make an effort, 616 00:47:23.000 --> 00:47:28.760 because, then, you have emotions, because the emotion feels, arrives and 617 00:47:28.880 --> 00:47:35.119 throws, not that is the chango means. But that' s where I 618 00:47:35.280 --> 00:47:37.519 don' t say anything, because you can hurt and then you can repent. 619 00:47:38.599 --> 00:47:43.480 And then the fact of not judging. No, okay, there are 620 00:47:43.559 --> 00:47:45.920 parents where you can get your emotions out Write them down. There' s 621 00:47:46.039 --> 00:47:51.639 no letter to that person tell him everything you feel, but you' re 622 00:47:51.719 --> 00:47:58.119 never gonna give it to him, you' re going to a nice place 623 00:47:58.119 --> 00:48:00.840 and you' re afraid of luck. No, but no, don' 624 00:48:00.840 --> 00:48:05.320 t hurt, it' s not all of us stop hurting. Imagine how 625 00:48:06.199 --> 00:48:15.079 we could do things. What is your opinion about the validation that many people 626 00:48:15.239 --> 00:48:23.360 now need on social media. I mean, I think that today, before 627 00:48:24.519 --> 00:48:34.159 any other stage of life, today society needs a validation on social networks that 628 00:48:34.239 --> 00:48:40.239 has truly become a currency for a like, for a positive comment, and 629 00:48:40.239 --> 00:48:46.639 so on. Why is this happening to us? What is your opinion about 630 00:48:46.719 --> 00:48:52.199 this, as there are many factors. No, it' s not the 631 00:48:52.360 --> 00:48:59.280 brain disorder. Not neurotransmitters. If we give him a little person of three, 632 00:48:59.480 --> 00:49:01.519 four or five years, a nipad, a cell phone, we' 633 00:49:01.599 --> 00:49:05.000 re altering the whole chiimire of the brain. So they don' t sleep 634 00:49:05.039 --> 00:49:09.320 well, there' s no right synapses, and then we have functional illiterate 635 00:49:09.320 --> 00:49:15.440 adults. They may know, read and enroll, but the function may be 636 00:49:15.519 --> 00:49:20.119 leaving us. I' ve also seen documentaries there. We are going today 637 00:49:20.159 --> 00:49:22.960 too, that we no longer need to make any effort to go to the 638 00:49:22.960 --> 00:49:25.679 movies. In my time it was necessary to walk to the magazine port, 639 00:49:27.440 --> 00:49:32.159 buy the newspaper return, investigate or jear, search, scratch, then go 640 00:49:32.239 --> 00:49:37.880 to the cinema, form a whole effort. Today I want to see a 641 00:49:37.960 --> 00:49:45.360 movie I grab this grass thing no longer talks, no and then says some 642 00:49:45.360 --> 00:49:50.280 colleague. That' s where I heard tough times. They form strong people. 643 00:49:51.639 --> 00:49:53.559 But, right now, there are no difficult times. Everything is very 644 00:49:53.639 --> 00:50:00.280 easy, very immediate. I want to eat gougle orale, bring me food 645 00:50:00.320 --> 00:50:04.159 just, hands style. I want to go to the bank Transfer Doctor. 646 00:50:04.320 --> 00:50:07.559 I no longer have to make an effort, and that is something that needs 647 00:50:07.639 --> 00:50:13.760 to be raised. Not what I can do to be better face and effort, 648 00:50:14.199 --> 00:50:20.039 the law of least effort at the end of the road. There' 649 00:50:20.159 --> 00:50:22.760 s also a theory out there. The other day I heard less work, 650 00:50:23.280 --> 00:50:32.079 earn more. Don' t work hard works cleverly synonym, Making the synonym 651 00:50:32.079 --> 00:50:37.679 of intelligently, work less, with less effort with less. And the truth 652 00:50:37.719 --> 00:50:45.599 is that we' ve seen people who apparently don' t cost them anything 653 00:50:45.679 --> 00:50:50.639 and make a lot of money, like influencers and so on, but it 654 00:50:50.639 --> 00:50:55.239 ' s really an empty life, that we' ve seen cases of influences 655 00:50:55.280 --> 00:50:59.840 that have killed themselves by having an impressive amount of money because of the huge 656 00:50:59.840 --> 00:51:04.760 void they have. Then we do see how in the harvest what is sown. 657 00:51:05.320 --> 00:51:08.079 Yes, it is harvested and then it is a very high price, 658 00:51:08.800 --> 00:51:16.360 not to say this trend. Let' s make it quick and easy can 659 00:51:16.519 --> 00:51:22.800 turn against our yes. Balance is the key. I don' t think 660 00:51:22.920 --> 00:51:29.920 my dad used to work before, and get to work and get down and 661 00:51:29.920 --> 00:51:32.599 get some rest Enjoy. Hurtfully, a while lives life and then breaks the 662 00:51:32.760 --> 00:51:37.119 bance. No, don' t work enjoy it, it doesn' t 663 00:51:37.119 --> 00:51:45.199 matter anything. No yes, it is good to have passive income, work 664 00:51:45.360 --> 00:51:49.519 less and earn more, because it scares well, but at the same time, 665 00:51:50.960 --> 00:51:52.199 that free time we have four sides. No, and that fourth is 666 00:51:52.320 --> 00:51:55.960 because we are in a material world, because if not in me that physical, 667 00:51:57.360 --> 00:52:01.000 such spiritual and financial, is a four- legged one. Any leg 668 00:52:01.079 --> 00:52:05.119 that' s chueca, you' re off the table, you' re 669 00:52:05.800 --> 00:52:09.719 breaking the balance, then sobriety. And it' s there on the Internet, 670 00:52:10.079 --> 00:52:14.000 not the cross of sobriety and it' s nothing religious. Everyone who 671 00:52:14.039 --> 00:52:19.199 ' s free to think he wants is not that. What you did today 672 00:52:19.320 --> 00:52:22.280 for your spiritual part, no, because I already meditated, I already went 673 00:52:22.280 --> 00:52:27.079 to my therapy, and something that makes me feel good. What you did 674 00:52:27.239 --> 00:52:30.199 for your family and your partner. If you have a partner, not love 675 00:52:30.199 --> 00:52:32.320 and family. No, I already went to my brother' s for breakfast. 676 00:52:32.360 --> 00:52:35.360 I already gave him a hug, I told him I want to. 677 00:52:35.599 --> 00:52:37.159 I already sent him a whatsapp. I told my partner that I love her 678 00:52:37.280 --> 00:52:42.000 or I don' t know. Not the part of the financial work. 679 00:52:42.400 --> 00:52:49.960 You worked it already, you won already and the fun you already had fun 680 00:52:50.000 --> 00:52:52.880 whatever you wanted. Don' t go to the gym, run, go 681 00:52:53.039 --> 00:52:59.360 to a show, go to the movies, but those four sides, physically 682 00:52:59.400 --> 00:53:00.920 to the spiritual and financial. You have to be very attentive. Not because 683 00:53:01.039 --> 00:53:05.360 if we break our balance, that' s where the table falls off. 684 00:53:05.760 --> 00:53:09.599 No. Ok hey, we' re coming to the final straight of the 685 00:53:09.679 --> 00:53:15.360 talk, but I would very much like, please, to help us and 686 00:53:16.360 --> 00:53:24.599 if you would be kind enough to share one last thought, one reflection, 687 00:53:25.159 --> 00:53:30.800 but with a small difference, that this final message is going to hear it 688 00:53:30.840 --> 00:53:36.079 all over the planet, it' s going to be translated into all languages, 689 00:53:36.360 --> 00:53:37.599 languages, dialects, it' s going to reach every corner of the 690 00:53:37.599 --> 00:53:43.719 planet. What a final message you would give to all the inhabitants of this 691 00:53:45.119 --> 00:53:49.760 planet, for I have a philosophy. No. If you oppose, propose, 692 00:53:50.360 --> 00:53:52.280 do not judge, do not disturb, no, no, no, 693 00:53:53.679 --> 00:53:57.880 do not mind mothers, no, do not hurt something. I don' 694 00:53:58.280 --> 00:54:02.280 t like how we make him better without bothering anyone. If you oppose it, 695 00:54:02.440 --> 00:54:07.960 you propose, yes, but that proposal is with respect, not with 696 00:54:07.000 --> 00:54:14.119 fights and with the vibe is to improve together, to make synergy, not 697 00:54:14.119 --> 00:54:19.519 to break. I think we' re living a very special stage of life. 698 00:54:20.000 --> 00:54:25.000 Rumors of war are heard, as economic issues, political issues, social 699 00:54:25.079 --> 00:54:30.119 issues have been heard for many years. But I think this message that Hector 700 00:54:30.199 --> 00:54:37.800 Castillo gives us is relevant, it' s very interesting and I think that 701 00:54:37.880 --> 00:54:42.360 if we put it into practice, in our lives, it can be different 702 00:54:42.440 --> 00:54:44.719 if you or you put what you propose, and I think it' s 703 00:54:44.719 --> 00:54:47.039 very interesting. My dear Hector, I send you a big hug, thank 704 00:54:47.039 --> 00:54:51.000 you very much. These microphones are open for a second, a third, 705 00:54:51.400 --> 00:54:54.760 a fifth conversation. There' s a lot to talk about and I think 706 00:54:54.840 --> 00:55:00.639 today you told us a number of very important things that you gave us some 707 00:55:00.719 --> 00:55:02.960 guidance to live a better life. I' ll send you a big hug, 708 00:55:04.840 --> 00:55:07.760 thank you very much, and we' ll be listening soon. Thank 709 00:55:07.840 --> 00:55:13.079 you very much, and if someone likes some kind of support and training or 710 00:55:13.159 --> 00:55:16.159 something, there are social networks, because we can help you a lot. 711 00:55:16.239 --> 00:55:21.719 Very good, very good, because you heard. Hector Castillo is here with 712 00:55:21.800 --> 00:55:23.599 us, there are his social networks. I' d like to comment. 713 00:55:23.639 --> 00:55:29.000 For those people who just listen to us, their mail is Héctor Castillo, 714 00:55:29.679 --> 00:55:38.639 point consultant I com I repeat, Héctor Castillo, consulto com there they can 715 00:55:38.679 --> 00:55:43.199 locate him. I' m Luis Miguel Salgado. I would like to thank 716 00:55:43.280 --> 00:55:45.119 you very much for your kindness, your attention. See you and we' 717 00:55:45.239 --> 00:55:49.199 ll hear each other in a next chapter here. Good question that you have 718 00:55:49.280 --> 00:55:52.199 very good morning, good afternoon, good night wherever you are Hector, many 719 00:55:52.239 --> 00:56:08.880 blessings sprout, a hug n o