Sure, it's not beautiful people. It is your baby mama, favorite baby
Mama, Stormy Pee. And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip
the modern day female perspective drm Son Back at it again, Back at it
again. Don't talk shit. I know I haven't uploaded the past few episodes.
Give me a second. Okay, I'm a drop like four the time.
Just just you got something to listen to do at work today. That's
all you need to worry about. Okay, we're here, We're back.
That's it. All right, speaking of we are here, we are back.
That's it, y'all. I know we mentioned it briefly, but I
am very committed to being back outside, back outside. The three or fours
are at it again. Hold on, hold on, hold on. Okay.
When I say back outside, I mean and we were talking about this
on a live before we started. I am very committed to putting myself out
there to find my person. Okay. Previously, I'm not gonna lie,
y'all. I'll be on the internet talking a whole bunch of shit about relationships
and doing very little to find a relationship. Okay, I really be sitting
up in my room waiting for my future husband to commit a B and me.
So I've decided, yeah, yeah, yeah, I've decided that I
have to go outside as much as it sucks, as much as it stinks,
and as much as the Internet tells me that, you know, the
dating pool has all types of fequal matter in it. I told myself,
like, yo, I'm really gonna try. And yeah. So a part
of going outside, and you know, making yourself available is just that going
outside, making yourself available. And that doesn't always mean you got to go
out with your girlfriends and shake ass over pancakes while you're at brunch. You
also can just link up with people and hang out. So this past week,
me and Seid had a brand shoot setup that didn't really fall through.
So I'm like, all right, you know, let's just go grab some
food, right, So I take shot to my favorite restaurant, UH,
and I order some oysters. First of all, y'all know I love oysters.
Y'all know I will sit at a table and clear forty eight by myself
with no problem. I love oysters. That's my thing, that's my guilty
pleasure. I don't care. I don't care. I don't care, Right,
So I order oysters and I'm just vibing out, you know, and
shops looking around and be like you used to come here and eat forty eight
of these and then go home and be sad. And I'm like, yeah,
yeah, dead And I did, and I really did, y'all.
Like if y'all know, I do take myself out on dates, like I'm
not that girl like, oh, I just want to hang out with you
so you can feed me. I want that, but I also can feed
myself, right, So I really would go out to this particular restaurant and
I really would have like forty oysters and then I would go home and I'll
be SAgs. I'm like, damn, ain't nobody see me clear these Junes
sun shots Like, yo, you come here, you ain't forty eight it
is and you're gonna be sad. I'm like, yeah, he's like I
can see why no shot. Get on the mic and tell him why you
told me that? Tell him why you told me that shot? No on
the mic? On the mic, I truly don't remember why. Wow,
So you just would me. I honestly think it's because it was a dope
ast spot it is do just alone slurking slurking forty eight Jaws like Paul's play
No Diddy, But you just it was a nice ass vibe. Yeah,
like it's just a nice ass vibe. So and then like you're on your
journey that you've been on for mad long. So you know, I couldn't
just imagine put down forty forty and home, Like damn, I wish you
had somebody showed somebody so like and so you know, like I said,
I don't understand, like it's on the street and like it be dogs,
yeah, like walking by and everything. It's the perfect vibe for her.
And yet she'd be a I don't care, okay, but whatever. Right,
So I'm like, all right, you know this outing inside because you
know it's different when you're a shot or you with a man, like you
know, it decreases your chances of finding, you know, your husband.
So I'm like, all right, you know, I'm gonna keep going out,
y'all. Like I'm not gonna sit up in my room. I get
invited to stuff. I'm actually gonna go. So I go out to well
Crafted, shout out to Lamont, shout out to mo Moby. Outside,
I'm gonna go outside to well Crafted. Right, So I'm sitting at the
bar by myself again, right, and so I meet a nice young lady.
We start talking. Boom. Now we're like having a great conversation.
We're like kicking in all night. It's a bomb time, right. So
somebody sends us over some shots and I'm like okay. So we're both scaling
the bar trying to figure out whos sending shots and it's like two guys.
So they like cheers us. We cheer from across the bar. We take
our shot. That's it, right. So the guy comes over and was
like hey, Stormy. Hey. So he's like, hey, Stormy,
you know, I just wanted to come and sing you a shot because you
keep talking about me. I said, I keep talking about who I'm sorry,
waits what's your screen name? Like I'm thinking he's just one of the
people we'd be going back and forth and the stories with like I'm like,
I'm sorry, Like I can't put the face. So I'm like, I
be talking about you? What's your name? Again? And he was like,
yeah, you keep saying that. You know you're looking for your future
husband, so you got ah? I said, okay, that was that
was? That was that was? That was pretty smooth. That was pretty
smooth. And when I say I chuckled like that, y'all know, I
laughed like a donkey with asthma. So I was at that bar doing that
laugh exactly, like, oh that was funny, that was cute. So
yeah, shout out to Rob does Events. Thank you for the I appreciate
it. That's it, and that's all completely. I'm related. I also
wanted to tell y'all the story. I don't know if y'all remember me.
And Stan was on the pod talking about this a while ago, and he
was talking about how girls got, you know, fifty million pairs of tights,
and well, I said girls got fifty million pairs of tights. He
said they only got one pair, and I was like, no, they're
just all black, right, So I didn't counter with okay, and niggas
be swearing they got a whole bunch of jeans, but really they only can
fit three, right, Like you can have nineteen pair of jeans as a
man, but you're only gonna be able to fit three paiers of jeans.
I don't care. I don't care. Argue with your mom, argue with
your homies. You and your boys already know you can't fit all them fucking
gens in your closet. I love y'all, but y'all can't, right so
completely. I'm related, y'all know I've been on my fitness journey too,
right, So my homie iss me. I was like, yo, bro,
I just want to say I appreciate you so much. You don't know,
like the little stuff you say goes a long way. And I was
like, why you say that? And' like, yo, bro, I
lost Steve Pearls. I'm like, oh my god, I love this for
you. What was the change? He was like, you told me I
only could fit three pairs in my jeans, and I really can only fit
two. I'm out here changing lives, y'all, changing lives, Thank you
very much. Thank you all. Heroes don't wear capes. Okay, I'm
out here doing the Lord's work, thank you very much. I'm just saying,
so, yeah, I'm now about to start doing like, you know,
fitness packages because apparently I'm a veitness influencer now, y'all. So yeah,
that's it, and it's all all that aside. I had a very
pitiful pivotal moment in my outside journey occurred this week and I'm not gonna lie,
y'all. It really touched me. It really touched me. It really
really touched me. A guy I was talking to told me that he didn't
think we were a good fit. And do you know what, I did
fucking nothing, because that's how you're supposed to date. I love this for
me. I love this for me. I love this for me. Okay.
A guy I was talking to told me, hey, y'all like hanging
out with you, but I don't think we're a good fit. And you
know what, I did nothing, nothing, nothing I said. You know
what. I respect that. Good luck on your journey, King, Thank
you very much. Okay. I feel like if we had more of these
conversations, people wouldn't be going around saying to day the pool got pissing it.
Tell me it ain't for me, big dog. Tell me I'm not
going for you. Don't be a pussy and just ghost me. Don't start
acting weird. I don't talk to you every day for the past two weeks.
Now all of a sudden, I don't hear from you in three days,
but you and my stories every time I upload some. Don't be weird.
Don't be weird, Just say we're not a good fit. I'm not
the one for you. I love this for me, but even more so
I love this for him. Stand on your shit, king, Yes.
Yes. If our values are not aligning, okay, if our lifestyles don't
match, if the communication is not there, if something just doesn't fit your
needs, I love this for you, and more importantly, I love this
for me. Yes. Yes. Shout out to the adults in the room.
Come on, somebody, that was some adult ass shit. I'm not
gonna hold you. That might have been one of the most adult conversations I've
had in the past two years when it came to dating, like yeah,
yeah, instead of someone saying like, yo, oh you know, I
really be trying to get back to you, but I just miss my granny.
Suck my dick. Okay, suck my dick. You don't miss your
granny. I'm just not hitting all the buttons for you in that spot.
And the same thing goes for me, same things go for women. Stop
acting like I just be so busy with my kids and blah blah blah,
but a big dick tyrone hit you up. You got all the free time
in the words, stop at It's just not him, and that's fine.
That's fine. I think we need to have more of these conversations because this
is really why people be saying to day the pool got pissing it. It
don't We're just not having adult conversations. I love this for me. And
the next time you not feeling somebody and you don't feel like wasting any time,
just say hey, I like hanging out with you, but this just
isn't it for me. Good luck on your journey. I love that for
him. Hm. Going back to talking about the guy, I think that
even though that situation didn't work out, really pleasurable from start to finish,
from start to finish, not just the maturity, but it was the thought
process. Right. So y'all know I'm a nerd, right, So first
date, Hey, like, yo, you want to go do something cool?
I'm like yes. And he took me to like one of those restaurants
where you make the drinks in like the Witch's cauldron and you're like, wear
a cloak and they have ones, and shit, I have the time of
my life. Okay yo, I had so much fucking fun. Y'all already
know always interacting, I god damn fool. But I like stuff like that,
like people always talking about like, oh, you know, I want
to go out to a restaurant, you gonna take me to Stick forty eight
or something five star, Like, bro, I want to do some cool
shit. I'm gonna do some cool shit with you. I'm gonna some cool
shit together. Like I like that. I like that a lot. All
that aside, I think that and this is not pertaining to this particular person.
This is just in general. I don't know about y'all, but to
me, like the worst part about ending, like a talking situation, relationship,
situationship, whatever. I think the worst part is like when something funny
pop up on your timeline and you want to send it to him, but
you can't cause y'all talk no more. It's like, ah, god damn,
nobody else is gonna understand why squirtle holding a tangerine is gonna be funny
but you. Nobody else is gonna get sttank what money long say? Nobody
knows me like you dude, No, yes, yes, I be hating
that shit. I'm not gonna hold y'all. That'd be like the hardest fights,
Like oh man, I only got one of my niggas who watched the
office and we'll talk no more. So Now who I'm iss saying shit about
the office? Damn, nobody else is gonna get it. Identity theft is
not a joke, Jim, Like nobody else is gonna get it. Like
I don't know, seap, what should think The hardest part about, like
stopping the talking phase is the mic though. I don't know what y'all think
while Shot is making his way over to the microphone. What y'all think.
What's the hardest part about, like stopping your talking phase or stopping you know,
a relationship, situationship, whatever the case may be. Dating go along
same lines as the routine. Yeah, get up at five in the morning,
but I know she don't get up to like eight thirty. Oh you'll
be sending that good morning sex, you know what I mean? Like I
got work it all in and I was like, oh, do that or
I or if if it was mutual, he is, I gotta watch how
I talk. Yeah, I'm trying to respect that. You're not talking like
you want to bust your cheeks anymore. Yeah, got you, got you,
got you got you. When y'all stop watching anime, low key,
I'm crying hollering, hollering. I don't know, but I think the routine
part is like it's real because like even if you're not the person who's sent
in the text, like sometimes you get used to receiving like a good morning
text, and then you're not getting that anymore. It's like, is this
actually a good morning any fucking more? Like what's happening? Like, h
I don't know. Routine is a big part of it, stoles BG says,
sorry, just tune back in, but I gotta question what is the
best We're not doing questions right now. Yeah, wait, we're not there
yet. Hold on, save it, save it, put it, click
the question mark and put it there. But yeah, I think it's just
routine, like or even if it's like yo, I know that on my
way home, I call him or he calls me on the drive home when
we talk about how that lady in HR got me fucked up? Okay,
Like, routine is a big part of it, and I think that's why
a lot of people just be in unhappy situations, don't I may feel like
starting the fuck over, Like now I gotta learn a whole bunch of other
stuff about somebody else, like damn, now I gotta learn how another nigga
like his eggs cook, Like what the fuck? God damn, I can't
go to the restaurant, And now I'm the hold of the staff. Come
bring Oh that's another thing. Any of my spots. Yes, think I'm
out here doing I'm not exactly that's my that's my more. Yes, talk
about her, and that's another thing. Like then you gotta go through the
whole rigamarola telling everybody that, hey, you and Tyrone are no longer together?
Hey baby, how Tyrone doing? Bruh bruh. And it's always the
sweetest oldest lip. Hey baby, how you and Eric doing? Fuck Eric?
Fuck Eric? I don't know about what Eric doing, Okay, I
don't care. I don't care. I don't care. Like we always talk
about, you know, the dating pool being trash. But I think another
interesting and very important point. It's like yo, breaking up or like stopping
the talking phase is trash too, maybe even more trash, Like what the
fuck Rinsberg arc says, who exactly how you? And I don't know who
you're talking about. I'm hit the Mariah Carey. I don't know her,
I don't I don't know her. That's it, and that's all. But
yeah, I think, like I said, I think a lot of times
we really just be scared to start over. And that's you be swearing niggas
in love. But now they just scared. They just scared to start over.
That's it, And that's all. Being as though I'm entering this more
purposeful, I probably say the most purposeful point in my life. I've decided
there are a few things I really need to crack down on. Right.
I feel like the only way I'm gonna find my person is if I stopped
playing with me and I stopped letting niggas play with me. And when I
say niggas, I mean bitch just too I do, I mean friends,
I mean family, kids, Okay, especially when fucking kids. Everybody,
everybody has to stop playing with me, right And I feel like I'm entering
a season of say what you fucking mean, because that's what I'm gonna do.
That's what I'm gonna do every time, every time where I'm going right
now, don't play with me. Please don't say what you mean to me,
baby, because I'm gonna make you stand on that, all right.
I don't want to hear no. Oh, I don't really want to go,
and then it's oh my god, it's really women women, women,
women women. It's crazy how it's cool when y'all want to do wants to
do. He's an asshole because you don't do it nicely. Why are you
being nice to somebody wasting your time? You know who I am? You
know anything about me? Them niggas probably know more about me. You'll niggas
sak y'all about to come out face to race my time and not catch this.
Don't niggas ever see my face. You don't have to do it passive
aggressively. I don't even think it's passive. I think you just do it
aggressively. Oh my god, ladies, Okay, I don't want to hear
no. Oh I don't really feel like going. And then you see me
post it up out somewhere going, Oh you wasn't going to ask me?
No fuck though you said you didn't want to go, so I'm not going
to ask you. Okay, And ladies, ladies, ladies, ladies,
you have to start standing on what you are saying. Okay, stand on
it all right. I don't want to hear no. Oh she fake,
she ain't never no I'm not. I'm following your wishes, big dog.
I'm respecting you. That's it. That's it, fellas. I don't want
to hear no. Oh, I just don't think you're the one for me.
Okay, well wait a minute, you're not gonna ask me what happened.
No, that's what you're saying. That's what you feel, stand on
it. I'm good. No, No, the conversation we had. The
conversation. I don't have nothing to say. You don't voice your opinion,
like bro't don't tell me. Oh, I don't really want to go.
All right? When you see me out, don't hit me up saying,
well, why you ain't asked me to go? You say you ain't want
to go. Okay, don't tell me. I don't think we're a good
fit for one another. I just don't want to do this anymore. Okay,
you ain't gonna ask me to set No, fuck now, absolutely not.
I'm respecting your wishes. I'm following your lead. Sir, ma'am whoever
you got this, listen, say what you mean to me. I'm in
my accountability era. I'm in my accountability era. Okay, that's it.
That's it, that's it. I feel like it's really this whole population of
people who says things simply because they want people to beg them or ask them
to do shit. Y'all, don't think that's weird. Y'all, don't think
that's weird, because I think that's very weird. You want someone to invite
you somewhere. Yes, I'm a nice guy, yes, yes, yes,
yes. My mama always told me, if they don't ask, you
don't go. If you are not invited, don't ask, like that's it,
like conversations, outings, whatever, bat mitzps, okay, whatever.
If they are not asking, you don't go. Nothing is applied. I
can't assume anything you said no. The answer is no. The answer is
no. That's it, and that's all. DMBR says, damn reflecting now,
Workman ninety ten says facts. I just feel like it's very weird behavior,
and I don't think it will be classified as pick me, but it's
definitely something like you. Yeah, it's definitely the cousins of cousins that grew
up together, hung together. Yeah, like y'all have sleepovers at grandma house
for for sure? For sure? Yeah yeah yeah, yeah yea, yeah
yeah yeah yeah. I don't know what that is, but I don't like
it. Don't like that. Bruh, Yeah, it's given very much,
Brent Fiass. I don't like it, Brent Fiasing at home Like, I'm
like, damn, why do you say for me at home? Like me,
how fuck did I get in this? No, Brent Faas, it
wasn't for you, it was for them cousins. But yeah, no,
man, all I'm saying is I ain't with that shit, like maybe I
got thick thighsand thin patients. If you say no, it's a no for
me too. I'm like Reddy Jackson, it's a nod for me, big
dog, like, no, No, it's gonna be a no for me.
Dog. No, I'm not begging, I'm not asking. That's not
the energy that I'm putting out there, So that's is not the energy that
I'm trying to take. Like the fuck gross gross speaking of energy that I'm
that I'm no longer receiving. Uh, ladies, I feel like a lot
of you have not learned a very important lesson and it's having a major impact
on your life. Okay, and don't want to try to listen to me,
Listen to me very closely. What I'm about to say, because it's
gonna help you. It's gonna help you find your person, it's gonna help
you stop going back and forth for people who don't understand what you're trying to
say, simply because they don't want to understand what you're trying to say.
It's gonna stop people from calling you a hoe. Okay, And I don't
wanna I want to. I don't want to blanket this because it's probably not
for everybody, but it's for enough of them that the rule applies. Okay,
So ladies, stop talking to popular niggas, Okay, just stop stop
Okay, stop talking to popular niggas. Okay. Nine times out of ten
they don't want to settle down. And once you talk to them, you
can't talk to none of their friends. And they know every fucking body.
Now you ain't got nobody anybody who talked to afterdayday you are ho. Now
you are hoe. Stop talking to popular niggas. That's it. That's thank
you for coming to my ted talk. Okay. Now, I know,
I know, I know, I know it's gonna be about three or four
of themen in in comments talking about who I'm a child of god, Okay,
I'm looking for my queen. Okay. On the contrary, popular niggas
are just as ran through as popular girls. First of all, popular niggas,
I like to call them a hot potato niggas. You just pass them
around. Okay, It's like a yes, all the same, all the
same. The emotions take a little longer to hit. For the record,
popular niggas are just as ran through as popular women. But ladies, you
don't care if niggas ran through, you still be wifing them. These niggas,
they be acting like they give a fuck in public. In private,
we know they love you. But in public because everybody likes a freaking the
sheets. Bruh, bruh, bruh. Okay, so let's make life simple
for ourselves. Okay, let's start there. Let let's let's just start from
the beginning. Let's make life simple for ourselves by saying, stop talking to
popular niggas. Okay, nine times out of ten, they are not looking
for a girlfriend. They're looking for their next situationship. Okay. Because when
you mention anything about getting serious, having a relationship, blah blah blah blah,
I'm just working on me right now. You know, I'm just trying
to catch a vibe and see where things go. And you know, I
just feel like, you know the way my life is set up. Actually,
I'm not gonna hold you. I'm about to move to Houston. No,
like I really would try to settle down with you. It's just I'm
about to move to Houston. So I don't really want to get nothing started
because, like you know, I just don't. Don't, don't, and
don't let it be a popular nigga who played basketball, Oh my god,
every man he didn't ever play ball with is now his homie, his best
friend, his bro. You can't talk to nobody. Half the niggas in
the city is off the list now, and if he plays ball, all
the niggas on in the city is off the list now. So what did
we learn from this? What did we gain from this? We didn't added
another body and have been canceled out for many other new ones without the fucking
fear of being called a hoe. Just don't do it, don't do it,
don't do it, don't do it. I'm gonna say it. The
niggas, they will call you a hoe. The niggas, the niggas.
No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
no, Actually it will probably be him, because the funny thing about popular
men is that they don't want to settle down, but they also don't want
you settling down to anyone else, which is why once you talk to them,
you're not allowed to talk to anyone else without being considered a who And
I know, I know, oh, these immature conversations in general till we
hit like seventeen. It's not seventeen, I'm going we're supposed to stop that
at like oh yeah, yah yeah, first show show sure. Now,
now to be clear, I know, oh these conversations. Is that mature
as shit? Oh my god, I can't believe you're out here spieling this
nonsense. Okay, show me a conversation between you and your boys. Then
tell me you don't have at least one friend who is mad that somebody is
homie hopping, yes or no, let me know, don't worry. I
wait, okay, then okay, cool, cool. You can't just talk
to nobody. They know if they're popular, they know everybody. So now
who are you talking to? Okay, now, now hear me out though,
right, you said that's a lie. Every everybody know them at I
one thousand percent agree until they find out you are now talking to somebody they
went to high school with and had biology class with in ninth grade. Now,
all of a sudden, A bro you trifling? How were you to
the ball trying to talk to you? Or the nigga that's in his feelings,
Because the only person that's gonna come to you and tell you that you
a hoe now is a nigga in your feelings. I hear you. Ain't
gonna be the nigga talking to you, and ain't gonna be other niggas trying
to talk to you. I hear you, and I agree with you,
right, And I feel like this is another conversation that's not had frequently.
It's like, Yo, the nigga that should talk to not gonna think you
a hole, but it is he strong enough to withstand everybody else calling you
a hoe and still trying to wife you. Nine times out of ten they
don't be Peer Pressure is a motherfucker at any age. And I'm not saying
it's okay, and I'm not saying I agree with it, and I'm not
saying it's everybody, but I'm saying it's a significant amount. It is one
thousand percent is a significant amount. I think that we always had these conversations
of choosing at her, and I think that the first conversation should be,
if you were interested in a relationship, make sure you're indulging in entertaining people
who are also interested in a relationship. And if it's a popular nigga,
run okay, that's it, and that's all square pegs going square holes,
that's it. Hey h mister right O two says absolutely uh and Vester Brad
says the game on lo O L Styles BG says, yes, you're gonna
have to day outside your race. I ain't gonna hold your big dog.
I'd be like, yo, I want black love, but do black love?
What me? Because the way y'all be moving, jesus, I'm just
saying, it's a bunch. It's a bunch. You're a good looking brother.
I ain't gonna hold you. I ain't saying I can known it.
I ain't saying I win it. I'm just saying I understand, especially like
you know, I won't get into that. That's a conversation for another day,
conversation for another day. Investor Brad says, just got to accept the
cheater. I'd rather eat shit on a Sunday afternoon, But thank you,
thank you. How you gonna smark it when I got your fucking lighter.
Folks think it's easier to throw a woman away than to defend them, agreed.
Investor Bred said, what's the body fat percentage on a faithful man?
And you know what? And you know what? Thank you so much for
reminding me of that. Okay, so you know what I don't like.
I don't like this narrative that if a man wants to be monogamous, faithful,
family oriented, marriage minded, he has to be overweight, unattractive,
and doesn't have anything going for himselves. Baby, you just a hope?
Say you a hope? Don't make it seem like anybody who wants those things
is less than and not valuable. Like, who, what's wrong with y'all?
Why y'all be saying that? What is this? What is this?
I don't understand that, Like there are plenty of good looking, attractive men
out here who want relationships, Monoga must relationships, and it's like, just
because you want to be a hoe, don't put it like, oh,
well I'm cute, so I can't be settled down more. You know,
it's not in the man's nature to be just tied down with one woman,
and anyone who does it's real beta. It's that a babe, just say
you a how just say that that's a weird statement, but honestly, if
you keep it a being, when you talk about cheating, it's all about
temptation and it's all about discipline and the fact that you literally lack. I
watched this movie and this oldhead was in a bar. I saw the clip
on YouTube and oh he was in a bar and young niggas fucking with him.
And he was like, I killed mad niggas, I did this,
that and the third and I only love one woman. And I started thinking
to myself, like, you wanna put all that you put? I resisted
all this pussy with I killed mad niggas and niggas and I only fucked one
woman. I love one woman. I'm like, I love that for him.
Yeah, that was that. Niggas go on Facebook and start talking all
the other ship. Carolina Cash says, man, if that nigga getting peer
pressure at any big age over twenty five, he probably wanna I wanna be
with the nigga calling Oh he Diddy. He did he effect, I don't.
Yeah, oh man, Now I can't find out where I am.
Hold on, y'all, I can't. I missed half the the I know.
But like, I hate that. I really hate that rhetoric, Like
if a man wants to be monogamous, he has to be unattractive. Like
and here's the thing that really be getting me, right, it be the
men saying it though. It be the men saying it, And I feel
like y'all be trying to do some fucking Jedi mind trick shit on us,
Like yo, if you like find niggas, it means you're going to have
to respect him not wanting to be one woman? Like what the fuck we
talk about, y'all? This is crazy. It's disgusted to me. All
my homies are married, so I don't. It's a little like, I
don't. That's weird. I feel like for you to feel that way,
like you said, should like just say you do not have the discipline to
be with one woman and that's okay. It seem lifestyle and no, but
no, I want to I want to clarify that real fast, right,
because it's not to say that if you don't want those things like you're a
bad person. Like it's not to say like, oh, if you're a
Polly, you are a horrible individual. That's not what I'm saying. You're
a cheater. Don't call a life exactly, that's what I'm saying. I'm
saying in regards to men who are cheating, not ones in a lifestyle,
like if you think a man has to cheat on his woman, and that's
what it has to be. Because when I say cheat, I don't mean
like okay, or I say cheat because you could also go to your woman
say hey, these are some things that I were exploring. I want to
know if you will be interested. You're not doing that. You're purposely just
fucking other bitches behind her back. That's that weak shit. I don't like
that. I'm not interested. Ell y'all got no dick control. That's girls.
I don't like that. I don't like that. I Am number four
says it's sad because I think there is a realm where and it's only because
them niggas have loud mics the minority mm hmmm M. And I hope y'all
know that like women and men like them, people that be pushing those narratives
like no, I'm not gonna lie. Why do you think certain podcasts and
certain topics do so well cause niggas want to be in love? Like we
are a generation that grew up on nineties R and B. You think we
don't want to be in love, my nigga just cheating? Shit ain't in
us? Like we we grew up on a generation where singers had to lie
about their wives and husband. Come on, girls, we grew up in
a generation where singers were lying about their wives to protect their image of being
single and available. Like you know, we grew up in a society where
like niggas was singing in the rain and grabbing three they homeboys and going in
the desert and singing for they bitious back because they didn't there for the phone
in an hour like this whole Oh, men cannot be with one woman is
dumb? Don't believe that it's men out there who can do and will get
you one sis? Like what what uh? Internet? Watch these like clips,
these hot clips of dudes talking like that, and you see these comments.
It's mad sad because it's like ire be thinking about something like yo,
it's full of It's the world full of sheep shout out to my mom.
It's it's mad sad because a lot of people are also just keyboard warriors who
don't mean any of this shit. Tyg Grin says he grew in the desert
area. Uh. Someone else says, however, nineties R and B was
also a eighty percent cheating and getting cheated on too, though. Workman ninety
ten says, niggas trying to use jiu jitsu on the females. Ruxas Stamp
says, kN and will I know that's right, baby, this is what
I'm saying. Yes, yes, I think that the difference is going back
to the person who said, like nineties irn B niggas, we ain't cheated
on and doing the cheating. I think the difference is they weren't saying like
it was about That's what I want to say, like I still love my
girl though fucked up, but I'm going back to my girl like it wasn't
like I fucked up and I'm gonna keep sucking up. And just so you
understand, I'm never gonna be monogamous. I'm never gonna be faithful to you.
You can either be with me or not knowing that's not the conditions you
got her on, Like, that's the fucked up part about it to me,
Like you didn't meet this swim's like, yo, I'm never going to
be faithful to you. You still want to be in a relationship or no,
y'all like fuck her over once she's already in two kids deep. Another
one on the way, like Dal, Yes, you are lying out there
doing something and it's men and women literally doing something that you know is gonna
hurt them. Like it's not a it's not like a question. I like,
oh my god, I just like, you know, behaving that way,
it's going to definitely m h m hm. And then some of them
have kids by you. Bruxas Sandpe says, I grew up when niggas was
grabbing air and dancing in the rain exactly. Ty Grind says, they play
that on the radio today. I'm hollering, mister WHITEO two says JOHNY need
to cut that shit off. Yeah, man, I do think that's where
some of the disconnect is. Like a lot of us still have these core
values of nineties R and B love that was instilled in us, and it's
just now we're in like a city Boy city Girl era and it's not connected.
Yeah, yeah, I don't care what the y'all say. Nineties R
and B is the only kind of love for me. That's it. Hell
yeah, helly, that's a different vibe altogether. Like yes, yes,
we're talking about like what we're talking about, Like I want that that that
Casey and Jojo all my life type ship? What production like that? What?
What? Come on? Come on? What the he shot shots?
I'm not play with you right now. Shot shot R and B wise you
know, but you know what, there are a lot of artists that are
still making very good R and B music. They're just not as popular,
But there are a lot of good R and B artists Xavier Omar, Oh
my god, yes, because Top ten it was mixed. It was like
they had like this new joint. Yeah, like every three songs it was
an R and B joints you had in your face all the time. It
was like mm hmm, it's it's some it's some dope like smaller artists.
That's the thing. You're right, if you know, you know for sure,
for sure, Please I'm not giving Brent no more play on this fucking
today. Uh case it guess what I did today. You have to make
your own R and B scene today. I agree. Like, if you
got a good R and B list, send it to me. If you
got a bomb ass R and B playlist, send it to me. That's
sitting there all all right, So now we're going to get into the edible
portion of the show. So the edible portion is when I read in questions
that you guys, and and and all the day that we record, I
usually put a prompt up until you guys send us some questions. If you
have something to write in and it's not on the day that we record,
you can always email me at inquirease at stormyp ea dot com. Or if
it's too long to fit in the box, you can always email me at
increase at stormype a dot com. And uh yeah, first question, Uh,
how did you recover from a bad breakup? Uh? And I'm gonna
ask you guys on a live curious to know what you think. How did
you recover from a bad breakup? Shot? Go, how did you recover
from a bad breakup? Self accountability? And I gave myself grease. Okay,
Okay, see I knew the burpose coming now, No, it's not
I lied. I like site guys site I. Pearl Wood says, Jim,
have you in the gym. Let me tell you something. Don't nothing
jump start a good weight loss, kick like a good heartbreak. Okay,
let me tell you all right, thank you very much. Uh. Taurus
Lifestyle said weed and self reflection. I can't do too much self reflecting when
I'm on weed, because you know, I get paranoid. I start thinking
everybody's against me. All right, Ty Grown says I worked on my craft
through it. I love that your boy. Tame McCoy says, define a
bad breakup. Your chest was hurting. Okay, your chest was hurting.
Somebody cried in the car. Niggas wasn't eating like bad breakup? Bad breakup?
Uh? One chance says Pray. I like pray, praise good.
So Jesus said, Nigga, I sent you like five different signs. Don't
be crying now. I don't want to hear that shit like I. So,
how did you recover from a bad breakup? I ain't gonna hold you.
I don't think I'm the best person to answer this because I told myself
my ex died in order to get over him. I did. I did
y'all, when I say bad breakup, your girl was going through it.
Okay, I was going and I just started a new job. Bro,
I was in a stairwell crying. I don't know how they didn't fire me.
Honestly, I'm gonna be real with you. I was down so bad.
I wasn't eating, I wasn't sleeping, and I was so fucked up
because I said I didn't want to be with him, and I didn't understand
why he didn't want to be with me back that same shit we was so
and then to get it out of fucking fun, I said I didn't want
to be with him, but I didn't understand why he didn't want to be
with me back, because it's like you serious, hold on, hold on,
hold on, wait when I said it, like I was playing.
I thought we was just gonna take a break. Nigga, you you you
really don't want to get back together? Insanity okay, absurdity okay, bruh,
bruh. I literally she did that. Ship. I literally got my
shot out the room because I knew she was gonna come home from work and
lock the door. So I got my shot out the room, and then
she came home I can't. I came back. I left, I put
the key on the dresser, kiss from the forehead, dip no, no,
no, no no. Let me tell you what pissed me the fuck
off? Right. I didn't hear from him for like the rest of the
day. The next day I had like, left the crab. We're gonna
stay my grandma house. The next day I text him like, since you
don't give up fuck, since you don't give a fuck, have your ship
out the house by the end of the week. Rent money's doing the such
and such. He said, Okay. I came home like three days later,
all his ship was already out the fucking crid. I said, Oh,
this nigga, he want me to stay him. He wanted me to
put my fuckings on him. Let me tell you, I told y'all this
months ago. When I be telling all these stories and I'll be giving y'all
advice, I went to therapy. Okay, I learned this ship is not
Okay, ladies, Okay, listen, hope went through that, so hopefully
you wouldn't have to go through that. All right, I'm telling y'all what
y'all can't do no fucking more because it doesn't make sense. You should put
speaker from experience on a shirt. Bruh, bruh, bruh. Let me
tell y'all, ladies, bride that Nigga had me with the own over verse
so fast, not for me, not for mean. So so yeah,
how did I handle a bad breakup? I was in a space where the
only way I could get over him was to pretend he passed away, and
it helped, right, Because what a lot of people don't talk about is
when you break up with somebody, you really have to grieve them, like
you have to go through a season of grieving because you are losing something.
You are losing someone, not just someone, but you're losing a specific part
of your life that you're not gonna fucking get back. So you really do
have to grieve and mourn and move past that shit. If you don't get
past that, it's not gonna work. And grieving looks different for everybody,
right, So for me, literally, I had to grieve and more than
this nigga and afterwards and with therapy like it helped, but I also had
to take accountability and be like, bitch, boll, why did you say
you wanted to break up that was dumb. That was dumb. Accountability is
so important. Accountability is so important. It's hard, but you have to
have it. You have to get through it, and you have to make
those important points in your life known, like, yo, what did I
do to get here? Because if you don't, you gonna keep saying,
oh, niggas is waste them my time. Women is wasting my time,
but they're not. Life keeps giving you the same lesson and you're not learning
from it. So you're saying people are wasting your time. But baby,
really you're wasting your own time. That's it. That's really what it is.
So yeah, yes, how to get through a bad breakup accountability,
grace, grieving therapy, and you also have to be kind to yourself,
like do something that feels good to you, read a book, take a
bath, get a massage if you got the funds, go on a trip,
do something that feels good to you so you can get back into the
spirit of being good to yourself. So yeah, those are my tips.
Wise woman trying to tell you the stove is hot, baby, that's so
but hot and shit, Okay, I'm trying to tell you, man,
Ladies don't do that no more. Don't do that. It's dumb. Don't
do it. Don't fucking do it. Don't do it, don't do it,
don't do it. Next question, what is considered too much slash too
little to spend on a date? Does she like you? Do you like
her? Okay? I feel like these are two important questions. A lot
of people leave out when they had these conversations of too lunch, just been
on a date, blah baby, nothing is too much or too little if
you like each other. Okay, Cause if she likes you and you like
her and you want to build her a little picnic in the park on a
nice sunny day, nigga, you're going right in the group chat. Hell,
yeah, I think I found on my husband. He's here, he's
here, I found my man. Okay. Now, if she ain't really
feeling you like that, that shit was corny. Okay, you're probably not
gonna see her anymore. But the niggas she like and do it, and
she gonna think it's popping, right, So we gotta pay attention. Right,
Ladies, don't want you to stop going on dates when niggas you don't
really like cause you're bored, cause you're lonely, cause you're hungry. We're
gonna stop that. We're gonna stop that. That's not gonna help you find
your person. Okay. And I want you to stop going on dates with
men who don't want the same things as you. Okay, fellas, I
want you to stop back and like you don't know that girl don't like you.
You know, you know she text you back when you want to.
Okay, she don't really be giving a fuck when y'all together. All she
doing is getting her pictures and videos for the gram. You know, she
don't like you, you know, you know. And now you outside telling
people that she used you when really you spent more than what you should have
cause you know she didn't like you. You know, you were over extending
yourself because you felt like you had to go to extra mile because you already
felt like you were inadequate because she didn't like you. And that's fine.
I just want us, both men and women, to stop doing all that
shit. Stop it, okay, number one, I'm sit hearing about it
on outgors Internet. Okay, painting one another to be out the bad person
when you're both playing yourselves. Okay, thank you. My next standpoint is
a fellas. If you are going to go above and beyond for the first
few dates, understand that you have now set the tone and she's gonna expect
this level of behavior for the all of eternity. Your whole dating experience ain't
gonna be No. Oh, you take me to stake forty eight and some
five star restaurants for the first few dates, and then now all of a
sudden, you want to pull out a walk in the park, nigga,
No, I want somewhere I go. I don't understand, Like, where
did y'all niggas like learn how to? Like? Where do we not go
to court school? I don't know, because how we're having a conversation.
I don't know, because in the nineties, that's not what they're doing.
Yeah, we all grew up on this type time, So why are I
don't know? I don't I don't know. I don't know. Yeah,
uh hmm. To answer your question, what's too much or too little uh
to spend on a date? I think that if the two of you are
vibing, there's no such thing as too much or too little for sure.
For sure. Styles by G says toxic level is over nine thousand vegeta voice.
Shut up. Last question, Oh, my live is about the time
out. This is the last question, So I'm not gonna start a new
live. I'll just see you guys next week. Last question. Do you
think people get in relationships to fill a specific void in their life? Is
it elephant heavy? Okay? When we talked about dating people that you actually
like, Sometimes we be dating because we be bored. Sometimes we be dating
because it provides an escape for whatever it might be going on in our home
lives. And I'm guilty of at too. Like sometimes I at some points,
especially when I was struggling with taking care of my grandma rot bad,
I know I was entertaining me in that I didn't really like. I just
didn't want to be like wrapped up in my grandma. So yes, they
do. To answer your question, and this school's back to paying at time
to what people are doing or not doing. Right now, I do want
to add a little a little caveat here. There are some women who are
master level manipulators, right, So some women are going to be so thick
and deep into the game that they're gonna have you all wrapped up in thinking
you are their person. When you run into one of these women. You
can't look at surface level behaviors. You gotta pay attention to the small,
little underlying things that she does or does not do. Okay, does she
ever talk about a future with you? Does she ever have future plans like
oh, you know, if this summer you're free blah blah blah blah blah
blah. And now before you say, oh, maybe she's just not one
to live in a moment, this is the same one who has planned two
trips with her girlfriends this summer. To pay attention, my brother, you
gotta pay attention. Okay. There's always signs, always tunds for sure.
And to answer your question, do I think people get in relationships to feel
a specific weight in your life. People fuck to fill a specific void in
their life. People eat to fill a specific void in their life. So
like, yeah, I think they're getting relationships for sure, for sure,
for sure. So what did we learn today? Probably nothing, So listen,
My message is always going to be the same. Follow me on the
gramd ask storm, repeat pea, ad, chocolate, ship, and sip.
And if you don't remember anything else, please remember Hope went through that,
so hopefully you wouldn't have to go through that. I love you guys,
that I see next week. Peace,