This is Doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to KFI AM six forty the Doctor
Wendy Walsh Show on demand on the iHeartRadio app. Welcome to the Doctor Wendy
Walsh Show on KFI AM six forty. We live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app.
It has always been my pleasure to be here for the last Oh my
gosh, are we almost at nine years? If you're new to my show,
I have a PhD in clinical psychology. I'm a psychology professor and not
a therapist. I teach at cal State Channel Islands. I've written three books
on relationships, though, and wrote a dissertation on attachment theory, because well,
I am totally obsessed with the science of love. I really think it's
the whole reason why we're alive, to find mates, to keep mates,
to expel, you know, low performing mates, if you will. And
I'm also here to pull anybody off the guilt train who has had so called
failed relationships. I do not believe there is any such thing as a failed
relationship. Now. I know, if you've been to the wedding and you
spend a bunch of money on the present, you want to call it a
failed relationship. I say, you know what, it was just a risky
investment. That's all. It was. Listen until death do us part was
invented, death was pretty imminent, and so even the most monogamous of human
beings may have a few monogamous relationships in their lifespan. And also, anthropologists
would say that we have the widest range of sexual behavior of any primate species.
So there you go. I'm just starting the show by saying you're normal,
and in today's show you're going to hear about the different ways that people
can have healthy relationships. Like it may not all be bad news if you're
sleeping in separate beds. It may not be bad news if you're arguing.
And also, ladies, seriously, later in the show, I want us
to talk just you know, man, you can just turn off the show
when we get there. But ladies, listen. We are going to talk
about male sexual psychology because men fall in love very differently than women do.
If you follow me on my social media, and I suggest you do,
the handle is at doctor Wendy Walsh. I think the video that's got the
most views on TikTok is like five million views and it's called men don't fall
in love through sex? So how do they fall in love through trust?
How do you showcase that. We're going to talk about that. But first,
if you've been listening to my show for a while, you're going to
have this fabulous boyfriend Hu Leo, who I love dearly. Well, this
week we had a little tiff. It was small, wasn't a big fight.
It lasted maybe ten minutes, but it got my head all spinny,
and I went into what I usually do, the research files. I went
to the stacks. Now I went to the Internet. I went to Google.
I know. I started thinking about all the ways the people can get
back to love, get back to caring about each other after they've had a
little fight. And before I give you some strategies that I read about that
I'm happy to report on, I want to tell you the research on conflict
in relationships. First of all, the healthiest relationships have the most frequent conflict.
Yeah, that's what I said. The people who have the healthiest relationships
actually argue the most often. Now hold that thought, because you know,
I'm going to clarify what they don't have are knocked down, drag them out
irreparable painful fights that never get resolved, and the anger lingers forever what they
have our little border skirmishes all day long, just like re executing their breas.
In fact, I noticed Julio and I like to argue a lot in
public in a very playful way. It's almost a performance. You know.
We'll be at the cash register at Trader Joe's and he's like, oh,
you're buying that healthy stuff. You think I'm gonna eat that, And I
go, oh, no, you have to. It's good for your health.
You needed it. And we start into this funny, cute little argument
as entertainment for the cashier, and they laugh every time because he's very funny.
And so that's one of our strategies to kind of negotiate things. We
do it with humor. But anyway, this little tiff, it doesn't matter
what it was about. It was a little tiff. It made me think,
like, how do I get back to love? I noticed in the
middle of the tiff that I got up off the sofa. We were sitting
together on the sofa, and I went over to the dining room table and
I started packing my purse with things we lived together. Okay, like,
where am I going what am I putting in my bag? It was like
this weird automatic. I gotta get out of here. I have this running
feeling. And the good news is that during that moment, he stood up
and came over to me and put his hand on my shoulders. So I
want to say this touch. That's the first thing I want to say.
You want to get back to love after And I don't mean it has to
be makeup sex, but just touch, get connected. Your body emits dopamine
and oxytocin the bonding hormone touch immediately after a little disagreement. But I do
want to say this. We all deal with conflict differently. We learned it
from our family of origin. If your partner needs some space, let them
have a little space. Now, the partner that needs the space has to
learn to say, I want to talk about this. I'm feeling overwhelmed right
now. Can we talk about it in an hour or can we talk about
it tomorrow. I promise I'm going to revisit this. This is all too
much for me. You avoiding people who run away during conflict need to learn
how to say those words, because that calms down the anxious person. Otherwise,
dudes, you go into your cave, is going to be throwing grenades
in that cave. Okay, so she will feel more abandoned and more triggered
and chase after you. Now, the anxious one, just relax, take
a deep breath, focus on containing yourself. The other bit of advice I
have after a little tiff is don't have an all or nothing mentality. Don't
be like, Okay, well we had a fight, it must be over
because if your brain starts to go down that rabbit's hole, you know,
life is a self fulfilling prophecy. Trust me. So don't have that idea
that because you're fighting, therefore this is the beginning of the end. You
know. I've heard people say it's a sign, this must be a sign.
No, it's a conflict. And it's really important during conflict that you
don't lose sight of who you're with, and that's the person you love.
And my final bit of advice while I talk about I just talked about giving
someone space, give someone the cold shoulder, never give someone the silent treatment,
never shut them out. This is a prescription for a breakup. As
I've always said, and I'll say it again, the partner who is dismissed
will eventually find somebody who listens, and that person will be a lover or
a lawyer. Trust me. So it's really important that you schedule time to
work with it. In fact, if you're afraid of intimacy, if you're
afraid to talk about these tender things. A little later in the show,
I want to talk specifically to you, there are some strategies that you can
use to start to learn to be a little more intimate. Oh one other
thing, stop providing excuses and rational rationally and well you made me do it
well because I had to stop it. Just say you're sorry. Okay,
I think I'm sorry are two of the most powerful words that ever come up
in any relationship. All Right, we have to go to break when we
come back. Are you too sleeping in separate beds? Do you feel bad
about this? I've got some news for you. You might be okay,
you might be onto something. You are listening to the Doctor Wendy Walls Show
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I'm about to admit something to you, something I'm a little embarrassed about.
Okay, I came by it completely, honestly. I snore. I got
it from my parents. Look, when I was a kid, I used
to get scared at night. I didn't know I had childhood anxiety. We
have a name for these things. Now we get it treated. But you
know me, I was just scared of the dark, scared of everything,
scared and I whatever, and I would go and crawl in my parents' bed.
Well, I was more terrified of the thundering sound coming out of my
mother. In fact, my boyfriend Julio says, how can such a sweet,
feminine woman have that rumbling come out of her. I've never heard myself
snore. I will tell you this, I don't know it exists. Julio
keeps saying, I'm gonna tape it sometime and let you hear it. But
I would be mortified. Well, recently, I had a routine and a
scopy, and when I came up out of an esthetic. Love that propival.
The doctor says, wow, I bet you snore a lot. How
would she know? By looking down my throat, She said, there's a
bunch of scar tissue on my esophagus. Apparently I have at acid reflux with
no symptoms, no symptoms at all except snoring bothers everybody else, but not
me. So she said, I'm gonna give you this little medication and see
if it'll calm down the inflammation. So I've been doing it, taking it
for a few weeks now, Julio says, I'm snoring less. Oh amazing.
Could change our lives. This thing. Who knew, right, It
wasn't It's not my nose, it's not my sinuses, it's my esophagus.
That's why it sounds like it's coming down from my chest, this rumble,
this thunder. Anyway, I digress. This is a long personal story to
tell you that I would totally understand if Julio said to me, luck,
I can't sleep, I need to sleep in another room. I would be
a little hurt. Of course, I'd be embarrassed, ashamed because it's the
thing going on with me. But I didn't invent this. I inherited it.
Okay. So a new study came out that shows that nearly a third
of married Americans sleep in separate beds. Some people call it the Great American
sleep divorce. Actually, forty three percent of millennials. Huh. You see
as you get older, thirty three percent of Gen X and Gen Z twenty
two Gen Z are you even getting married yet? What the heck aren't you
babies X Y Z. I don't know. I think you're my college students.
I get it. So I do want to say this that let's think
about if you're judging these people who are sleeping separately, I want you to
ask yourself what are you judging them for. Are you saying, oh,
this is a slippery slope, this is on the way to divorce, this
is a kind of separation. Or are you thinking, oh, their sex
life must be over. Or are you thinking, oh, this is just
a way to stay in the house but be completely undivorced and live separately.
All those things you know could be completely wrong. In fact, there's a
chance that none of them are right at all. The truth is that there
are plenty of ways to have a healthy and happy relationship, but the most
important thing is you find other way to connect. So let me go through
some of my ideas of how people can connect if for all kinds of reasons,
health, reason, asleep. Look, I lived for a bunch of
years with a guy who was a total night person, and he got the
most work done in the middle of the night. I spent years angry with
him. I felt abandoned, I felt lonely. I didn't understand what was
going on. I thought he was throwing himself into his work at two in
the morning or three in the morning because he just didn't want to be near
me. Right, Imagine if we had stopped and talked about it, and
talked about what was really going on. I'm a morning person, he's a
night person. I go to bed nine ten o'clock on the outside. He's
up early, and so as a result, we had different sleep schedules.
But imagine if we could have talked about it instead of just this old silent
treatment. So here a few tips. If you are undergoing a sleep divorce,
I hate that name. We shouldn't call it a sleep divorce. If
you are sleeping in separate beds, here's my advice in order to sort of
keep the connection just because you don't sleep together doesn't mean you can't start out
in the same bed. There's all kinds of things you could do, whether
you're reading together, watching TV together, cuddling, having sex, whatever.
There's no reason that the two of you shouldn't start out together. That's the
first thing I want to say. Also, do visit each other's beds.
And also, when I go back to that research study that I talked about
it and it was done by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine sleep Medicine,
here's what we know that a couple where one or both partners are deprived of
sleep are going to naturally have more conflict anyway. This is the thing that
breaks people up so much because everybody's just overtired. And when you're overtired,
you don't have the patience to deal with your partner. So that makes a
good case for sleeping separately. If a partner snores or they're up all night.
There's some people I won't say who, but they tend to be okay,
all my friends, menopuzzle women, They drink a little wine, they
go to bed. Alcohol, as you know, puts you down. But
what does it do after that? It brings you up, so then they're
up all night. They're up and down and up and down, and don't
even talk to me about the hot flashes. So if you're like that and
it really disturbs your husband because you're up and down all night, then it
might make sense to sleep in separate rooms at least some of the time.
Okay, here's another technique that I know that some couples do. During the
week when they've got to get up, they got to go to work,
there's kids to take care of their stuff happening, they may sleep in separate
beds, but on the weekend it's a couple time, so they force it
through because they can catch up on the sleep they can sleep in in the
morning. That's another great technique, all right. Also, make sure you
get the touch. The touch I always talk about it. Don't night the
dopamine, oxytocin, the serotonin, all those wonderful neural hormones, the stuff
that keeps you close and bonded. You get that through touch. So if
you're not sleeping together, you're going to have to touch more during the day,
hold hands, hug, do whatever you need to. Above all,
don't think that this is the beginning of the end. Have discussions about it
and what it means. As I said, I lived with a guy for
years and we never talked about it, and I was busy feeling abandoned.
He was just a night owl. He got his best work done at two
in the morning, right, so we could have had the conversation. So,
no matter what, talk about it. Know that you're not crazy.
If you're a millennial or older. Apparently forty three percent of you are sleeping
in separate beds, so it's normal. But you have to make up for
the lost time. You have to make up for the lost touch, the
lost connection. You have to find ways to stay connected. I know now,
you know, you know I snore? Well, it's you know,
what can I do? My mother rattled? I rattle? What can I
What can I say? When we come back? I want to talk a
little bit about man. I love to talk about men. Women love to
talk about men. Half of our life is spent talking about man. But
I want to talk about the very different male sexual psychology that men have compared
to women, and also how men fall in love because ladies, they fall
in love very differently than we do. I'll explain when we come back.
You are listening to the Doctor Wendy Walls Show on kf I AM six forty.
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on demand from kf I AM six forty. Welcome back to the Doctor Wendy
Walls Show on kf I AM six forty. We're live everywhere on the iHeartRadio
app. You know, for a very long time, men have wondered what
it is that women want, how women think, why women are the way
they are. We are certainly more emotionally astute than you guys, not to
say that there are not very sensitive, very emotionally mature, insightful, emotionally
intelligent men out there. But as an overall gender, oh, I should
stop right here and talk a little bit about gender, shall we. Gender
is a spectrum, but biological sex is one two or three things, which
is male x Y, female x X and intersex where you might have some
combination. How your gender expresses is partly biological and of course partly social.
However, for the purpose of this conversation, let's talk about heterosexual male and
female relationships and biological males and biological females. So there's a lot of work
on done by the evolutionary psychologist doctor David Buss at the University of Texas.
I think he wrote a book, a really great book with doctor Cindy Meston
call Why Women Have Sex Right, And there were like three hundred different reasons
why women have sex. Men, as it turns out, are much more
simpler. It's more like whatever their regular thing is, whether it's once a
day, once a month, or once a year, it's a pipe cleaning
basically. So no, I know, guys, you're much more complicated than
that. But when it comes to love, romantic love, I want to
say that men and women are distinctly different, both in the way and the
pace and the things that trigger them to fall into romantic love. Let me
first refer back to the work of doctor David Buss. Now, one of
his most famous studies was done on ten thousand people in thirty three countries.
When you hear that, you should hear oh. That's called cross cultural research,
which means that you can't say culture implanted this in people. It's a
human thing if it's happening in thirty three countries. He asked a psychologist and
others to collect data and basically ask men what are you most attracted to in
women? And also ask women what are you most attracted to in men?
Well, the female answers probably aren't surprising to you. They're very stereotypical,
and stereotypes exist for a reason because they're common. So, first, as
men look or women look for resources. Again, back in our anthropological past
and even today, the burden of bearing children, the burden of breastfeeding children,
the burden of raising children often falls largely on females, and during that
time, they need to figure out if there's going to be somebody who's going
to invest in this relationship and help them with this job. Right, So
they look for resource potential. But right behind that they look for intelligence.
Now, our hunter, gather ancestor women would think, well, what if
there was a harsh winter, What if we ran through all the fruit in
this orchard and we had to move on? Do I have a guy that's
smart enough to figure out how to extract act resources from the environment, how
to get us food and shelter and fire and clothing and all the things that
we need. In today's times, we might say, well, if my
dude lost his job. Is he also qualified to do something else? Or
if there's a great recession or a pandemic, is he going to be smart
enough to pivot? You see, they look for intelligence. By the way,
guys, you know how you showcase intelligence to women. Humor is a
good one. People who are funny tend to be very smart because all the
layers to read the room and figure out the references and be quick and all
that. So number one resources, that's what women look for. Number two
intelligence, Number three kindness because at the end of the day, if you
marry a guy who's rich and really smart, but he's a domestic violence of
endor or an evil person, you know, you look for a kindness.
So when those same researchers asked me, ask men what they look for in
women, and the story was very different. First of all, you're not
surprised ladies to hear this. Men need to be attracted. They need to
be physically attracted to a woman. Now, I want to remind you there's
somebody for everybody, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But
youth and beauty are the number one things that men look for. Why did
I throw in youth there? Because their brains are wired to reproduce, and
they want somebody with young eggs. Now you're saying, but wait to say.
They've already had their kids, they're divorce, they're in the forty they're
not looking to reproduce, okay, but they have an ancient brain that's still
triggered by old fashioned thoughts. So they're good. Let's say they want a
day to peer, and peers are attracted to peers across the lifespan. So
they're forty or fifty or sixty, and they want to marry somebody who's forty
or fifty or sixty, they're still going to look for the youngest, prettiest
version of that. That's how it just goes right. So men look for
looks, and then behind that, and this is where I want you to
listen closely, ladies, they look for loyalty because back in our anthropological past,
if a man was able to date a supermodel. I don't know if
they had supermodels when we were hunters and gathers, but anyway, a good
looking woman, if he was able to date that woman, he risked her
sharing her eggs with the rest of the tribe. Other dudes who would move
in mate poachers, and then he would be cut colded. He would actually
be left raising another man's genes and his own genes fell out of evolution's chain.
If you think the sexual double standard that exists today was invented by patriarchy,
you are so wrong. It's hardwired in men's genes. Is that the
man who evolved to go who's she with, where's she going, what's happening?
You know, will shoot his genes into the future and not end up
raising another I know now we have paternity tests whatever they didn't have that then.
Anyway. The third thing men look for is kindness I hope again,
it doesn't matter if he ends up with a supermodel who's stuck to him like
glue. If she's awful to live with, not a good thing. So
I want, ladies. If you're thinking about why men fall in love or
how they fall in love, to stop it with the Instagram filters, stop
it with all about the youth and beauty. Focus on the other things,
loyalty and kindness. Because research shows that and this research is by Helen Fisher
at the Kinsey Institute, that men actually fall in love faster than women do,
and men will say I love you faster. Okay, I said it
first with Julio and I, but generally if women can just keep their mouths
zipped, because sometimes women say it to try to draw him in to see
if he's going to say it right. But men will fall in love quicker.
But they fall in love yes, first for a little bit of tractionists,
but then they want to have a best friend who's loyal to them,
who has their back, somebody that they feel good around. And I know
there are women out there saying, I don't want to have to laugh at
your jokes if they're not funny. I don't want to have to make you
feel like the king and the man. Okay, then don't in a relationship,
because you know what a relationship is. It's an exchange of care,
and we're both supposed to have each other's back, we're both supposed to make
each other feel good. And so ladies, I want to say this,
don't be competitive with men on dates. I know you're saying, oh,
your sounds terrible like the nineteen fifties. Look, if you're in your reproductive
window and you have made a choice not to be a single mother, and
you'd like somebody who invests in your family. Then be his biggest fan,
be his loyal supporter. It is possible also to showcase loyalty by just talking
about your commitment to your job, your family, your pets, your charity
work, whatever. He'll see that. I remember one guy, and he
was a total playboy. You never stopped long enough for me, But at
one point he did say to me, I want to keep you around because
you seem solid, like you have purpose, and I think he was saying
like the loyalty thing. Anyway, he couldn't keep me around because he was
busy dating too many other women. So I had to move on. Oh
my goodness, but how time goes by. We have to go to break
Now when we come back, I want to talk a little bit about emotional
intimacy. It's something I talk about a lot, and I know a lot
of people are afraid of it, partly because they just weren't schooled. Their
family of origin never gave them language for feelings. They don't know how to
bring up those prickly topics. Maybe they're not even aware of some of their
own feelings. Let's talk about how to be more intimate. When we come
back. You are listening to the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on kf I Am
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sign Dr Wendy Walsh at doctor Wendy Walsh. You know, I want to
talk about intimacy. I want to talk about emotional intimacy. It's so funny
that people use the term intimacy to refer to sexual intimacy, when actually it
means psychological, it means emotional, it means social. In some ways,
I learned how to be intimate. I had parents who were loving with boundaries,
meaning that when I was growing up, if there were emotions that were
not welcome, we were told, go to your room, come back when
you've changed your attitude, instead of helping us process what we were experiencing.
So we were as children denied. And this may sound like you and your
upbringing denied language. We weren't given language for all the feelings out there.
The good news about my mom is that she was actually very good when we
were sick, So there was a lot of loving and nurturing and care in
that sense. And I also remembers crying and having her say, you know,
sometimes, honey, you just need to have a good cry. Or
come here, let me give you a hug while you have a good cry.
So there was certain feelings that were allowed, but plenty of other times
it was like, you know, cheer up, change your attitude, right,
so, or the worst that parents will say, I've heard this all
the time. Oh, they just want attention. Yeah, that's what kids
want and deserve attention. So anyway, if you come up in life,
and also if your parents fought behind closed doors and you never saw a healthy
conflict or healthy repair afterwards, you might be terrified of intimacy because it is
the unknown. Now. I also had a kind of an anxious attachment style,
so I was like always fearing abandonment and craving intimacy. But here's the
catch. When it was actually presented to me, then I didn't know what
to do, and I ran away from it so I would be attracted to
people who couldn't love me back. I was attracted people who couldn't give me
emotional intimacy because my state of love was a state of longing. It was
a state of wanting to feel loved and always being attracted to the wrong people.
One of the reasons why in my if you could call it a media
brand and whatever it is, the books that I write and the podcasts I
make in the radio show I do. One of the reasons why I focus
so much on red flags and choosing well at the very beginning, because sometimes
we could unconsciously be choosing somebody who would actually trigger some of our early childhood
stuff. And so if we just go about it blindly without a flashlight,
will stay in our state of whatever it is longing or fear of intimacy.
But if we can make different choices at the beginning, sometimes intimacy can be
modeled for us. If we happen to choose somebody who as a secure attachment
style, who's open and honest, and we can stick with it, then
that gets modeled for us, and then we can learn how to become intimate.
In my case, I learned intimacy through therapy. Right, there's no
more intimate relationship than in the therapist's office. I got to practice putting words
on my feelings and expressing them in certain ways. But anyway, I also
meet a lot of people who are just somehow terrified of getting close. But
they want to, and they don't know how, and they're terrified of all
kinds of Like, come on, we're human beings, terrified of rejection,
terrified that if they do express their true, authentic selves that that person will
leave them or mock them, or you get defensive. So I want to
go through some of the ways we can all learn to become a little more
intimate. And the first way is to simply become more aware of your own
feelings. Literally, start to journal, start to write down words for feelings.
Look them up on the internet if you have to. Most people have
a very limited vocabulary for feelings. It's like I feel happy, sad,
angry, pissed off. I mean, that's it, right, when there
are a plethora of emotions that you might want to practice saying like I feel
a little ashamed about this, but I want to share this, or I
feel grateful or I feel joyful or I feel apprehensive. There are many,
many, dozens and dozens and dozens of words for feelings. If you google
it, you can find them. But practice using them, right, that's
the thing, And practice just becoming aware of them inside yourself, because the
first step to intimacy is knowing yourself and knowing your feelings. Remember, feelings
aren't dangerous, and we all have a rainbow of feelings inside of us at
any given time. What there are is messengers. They're a messenger that basically
tells us that something's not right or something's very right, and so we just
pay attention to those messengers. You know, we have to learn to get
close to people, and in order to do that, we have to take
emotional risks. My best advice is to do it carefully and gently and choose
your targets well. Choose somebody who has empathy, who seems to be an
understanding person, and then test the water with small disclosures. Right. It's
not like you have to be emotionally intimate with every single person in your life.
But in order to learn how to be emotionally intimate with a romantic partner,
you've got to practice it with a few other people as well. You
know, it's really important that while we're learning how to be close, that
we also understand the reason for it, and that is the feeling of security
when you do have trust and indeed a commitment from somebody else, it's like
somebody else has your back and you don't live in fear anymore. So hard
for me to explain this until I experienced the transformation myself, and again it
took years and years and years. I personally think that not only therapy,
but having such a secure attachment with my children helped me learn how to be
intimate. As they were expressing their feelings, I was giving them language for
that and learning about myself at the same time. But eventually I got to
a place where I could communicate my feelings and not fear that I would be
abandoned because I found a partner who had a secure attachment style who could also
talk about their feelings. Now, nobody's perfect, and we do have times
where we're trying to be a feeling detective with each other, like what's really
going on here? What are you feeling? And it does take time,
but if you've been afraid to be real and authentic, I want you to
take a chance, because taking small chances are the stepping stones to moving forward.
I would say somebody who is learning how to be more intimate, the
area that they need to learn to express the most actually isn't the love you
happy part. It's when conflict comes up right. So many people are so
afraid of handling conflict correctly that they run away or they just give someone the
cold shoulder or the silent treatment. And that is the real lesson to learn.
To learn how to say, hey, I feel this when you did
that it hurt me in this way, or when somebody's criticizing a behavior you
did, being able to say I'm sorry, I didn't know that that was
going to hurt you. Tell me more about what you're experiencing. I think
that I this is my personal opinion that people who are afraid of intimacy,
what goes hand in hand with that is low self esteem, a feeling I
won't be loved, I won't be liked if I continue, if I tell
them the real me in some way anyway I want you to know. But
if you take the risk, it's well worth it. I love the place
that I'm in right now. Look I can be intimate with thousands of people
on the radio and it's all okay, all right. When we come back,
I am going to go to social media and I am going to be
answering some of your questions with my drive by Makeshift Relationship Advice. You are
listening to the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on KFI AM six forty. We're live
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