WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:06.719 Hey, hey, I'm back. Oh, yes, with something for you 2 00:00:08.640 --> 00:00:20.280 to think about. Listen, real talk for you. If you don't get 3 00:00:21.280 --> 00:00:28.839 to know and love yourself, you will always have that void inside of you 4 00:00:32.079 --> 00:00:38.159 always. Many of you have listened to me, and you know that I 5 00:00:38.240 --> 00:00:42.640 believe in Jesus. I believe in God, so that is the ultimate. 6 00:00:43.719 --> 00:00:47.560 But I know a lot of people don't, and I'm not sitting here trying 7 00:00:47.600 --> 00:00:56.200 to push it on anyone. Outside of that, I don't think anyone's life 8 00:00:56.200 --> 00:01:08.280 will ever be exactly what it could be without Jesus in it period. However, 9 00:01:08.560 --> 00:01:19.079 I do understand that many people don't believe. For those who don't and 10 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:27.200 those who say they do, but they're ways of living shown something else. 11 00:01:30.519 --> 00:01:38.959 If you do not get to a point of loving yourself and knowing yourself, 12 00:01:41.079 --> 00:01:51.079 you will always have that boy, You will always feel that place that is 13 00:01:52.280 --> 00:02:00.959 unfulfilled. You will never have a peace of mind because people are constantly, 14 00:02:00.200 --> 00:02:10.800 constantly, constantly on the chase. They're constantly looking for things and other individuals, 15 00:02:13.680 --> 00:02:21.759 thinking that other individuals will fulfill them, only to find out it's not 16 00:02:21.960 --> 00:02:31.280 the truth. If people would only exert the time and energy investing in self, 17 00:02:31.800 --> 00:02:38.199 getting to know and love self. Oh my goodness, their lives would 18 00:02:38.199 --> 00:02:43.360 be so much better, so much better. Not the best that it could 19 00:02:43.360 --> 00:02:46.039 be, because I don't believe you could get to that point without Jesus, 20 00:02:46.360 --> 00:02:57.520 without God, but it would be better. The problem is, I've said 21 00:02:57.560 --> 00:03:08.400 it many times. People look outwork to those people who they feel can fulfill 22 00:03:08.479 --> 00:03:15.240 them, those people who they believe can feel the void inside them, only 23 00:03:15.400 --> 00:03:21.319 to find out it is not the truth. I guarantee you I could talk 24 00:03:21.360 --> 00:03:29.280 to a million of people today and every last one, if they are honest, 25 00:03:29.520 --> 00:03:34.360 will tell you that they have not been fulfilled, that void has not 26 00:03:34.520 --> 00:03:44.960 been filled. That's why so many people, more than you could ever imagine, 27 00:03:46.240 --> 00:03:55.560 are walking amongst you who are miserably unhappy. They so they are so 28 00:03:55.759 --> 00:04:08.080 unhappy and sad inside. Many are in relationships mirrorsable because they're desperately wanting their 29 00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:14.479 significant other to love them, to support them, to be there, for 30 00:04:14.599 --> 00:04:18.319 them, to feel about them the way they feel about their significant others. 31 00:04:18.480 --> 00:04:24.800 But it just don't work that way. You cannot get in a relationship with 32 00:04:24.920 --> 00:04:30.160 someone who have their own issues and expect for them to love you like you 33 00:04:30.199 --> 00:04:33.240 want to be loved, like you deserve to be loved. You will never 34 00:04:33.319 --> 00:04:40.360 be loved the way you deserve it until you love yourself, and you will 35 00:04:40.439 --> 00:04:45.319 never figure that out. If you don't try, you will never figure it 36 00:04:45.319 --> 00:04:50.879 out. If you keep going through life the same exact way, you'll never 37 00:04:50.920 --> 00:04:56.240 figure it out. You will never receive the love that you deserve, that 38 00:04:56.360 --> 00:05:00.680 you want, that you crave for it, you will never receive even it's 39 00:05:00.800 --> 00:05:10.839 all imitation, all of it. It's all imitation because you have to love 40 00:05:10.920 --> 00:05:16.000 yourself first. You must. When you love yourself, you see the signs 41 00:05:16.680 --> 00:05:23.360 and the red flags that you need to see. When you love yourself, 42 00:05:23.639 --> 00:05:30.920 you're not quick to be bamboozled and fooled and deceived. He's just not. 43 00:05:31.920 --> 00:05:46.199 But until people understand that knowing and loving self is very important, many would 44 00:05:46.199 --> 00:05:56.079 go through life still chasing after love, after material things, possessions, money, 45 00:05:56.680 --> 00:06:00.399 all types of things that they think will bring them happy, only to 46 00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:11.759 receive it and realize they're still miserable. They're still hurting you. It's because 47 00:06:11.839 --> 00:06:15.360 you have not dealt with what ails you. You have not dealt with the 48 00:06:15.519 --> 00:06:23.920 pain inside. You have not let go of those horrible traumatic memories that you 49 00:06:24.560 --> 00:06:30.040 keep giving power to. You think it's more important to try to figure out 50 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:34.800 someone else, get to know someone else, than to figure figure out yourself 51 00:06:34.800 --> 00:06:43.040 and get to know yourself. With that type of mindset, you will never 52 00:06:43.160 --> 00:06:51.879 have peace within With that type of mindset, you will never ever feel as 53 00:06:51.959 --> 00:06:59.800 if you're fulfilled, you're satisfied within your soul. If you will never get 54 00:06:59.839 --> 00:07:05.480 to that point ever feeling good about yourself, truly feeling good about yourself, 55 00:07:06.240 --> 00:07:14.959 loving yourself, you will never get to that point until you stop looking for 56 00:07:15.519 --> 00:07:25.600 things and other people that you should possess within yourself first and without a doubt. 57 00:07:26.040 --> 00:07:30.240 This is why we see what we're seeing in the world today. We're 58 00:07:30.360 --> 00:07:36.160 seeing all of these behaviors and actions from individuals all over the world because they 59 00:07:36.199 --> 00:07:46.040 have not dealt with that unresolved inside of them. People are doing all types 60 00:07:46.079 --> 00:07:51.879 of things, murder, suicide. Nothing is worth that, No one is 61 00:07:51.920 --> 00:07:58.279 worth it. If you're that angry, If you're that angry, go off 62 00:07:59.720 --> 00:08:11.759 by yourself, go off by yourself somewhere. You should not get so into 63 00:08:11.839 --> 00:08:18.199 your own head, being a prisoner of your own mindset, letting demons take 64 00:08:18.360 --> 00:08:26.000 over your mind because you have given them interests, you have allowed them to 65 00:08:26.439 --> 00:08:37.639 enter. When you do that you lose all control. Then you start just 66 00:08:37.840 --> 00:08:45.840 meditating on those bad, negative thoughts. I'll take them out if I can't 67 00:08:45.879 --> 00:08:50.720 have her or him, I'm taking us all out. Or this world is 68 00:08:50.759 --> 00:08:52.600 so horrible, I don't want us to live in this world. You make 69 00:08:52.639 --> 00:09:00.240 the decision to take out everybody. Those are demons speaking to you because that 70 00:09:00.360 --> 00:09:05.919 is what you've given power to. You have not chosen to become better. 71 00:09:07.480 --> 00:09:11.159 So what you do is you give in to the negativity. You give in 72 00:09:11.360 --> 00:09:22.639 to the demonic forces. You give in to all of that chatter because of 73 00:09:22.759 --> 00:09:28.039 that mental warfare that's going on inside of you. You give into it. 74 00:09:28.120 --> 00:09:39.000 You succumb, it overtakes you because you allow because instead of choosing to become 75 00:09:39.039 --> 00:09:46.679 better, you you dove deeper into the darkness. And that is what's wrong 76 00:09:46.759 --> 00:09:52.480 with most people of today. Love is at the window. Hearts have waxed 77 00:09:52.519 --> 00:09:58.200 cold. The Bible tells us is gonna happen. Hearts have waxed cold within 78 00:09:58.360 --> 00:10:07.519 relationship ships, love relationships, within friendships, within family ships, workmanships. 79 00:10:07.919 --> 00:10:16.519 There's no passion. Come passion. I mean, hearts have wax cold, 80 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:26.840 cold, up, really really really cold. It's all about self. Although 81 00:10:28.159 --> 00:10:41.399 self is messed up people still seeking gratification in all types of ways that flesh, 82 00:10:43.080 --> 00:10:48.600 and because of it, they are not fulfilled. They are not at 83 00:10:48.639 --> 00:10:56.480 peace. That's why you see some people. They cannot sit down for nothing. 84 00:10:56.960 --> 00:11:01.039 They are doing everything for everyone all of the time. They have no 85 00:11:01.200 --> 00:11:09.240 peace, no peace, just cannot sit down and enjoy self, cannot sit 86 00:11:09.320 --> 00:11:18.080 down and enjoy life because they're living through others. They're codependent through the life 87 00:11:18.159 --> 00:11:28.480 of others because they are really dissatisfied with self. They have no peace with 88 00:11:28.559 --> 00:11:33.960 them self, so they live vicariously through others, or they're so co dependent 89 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:41.759 on others to feel good about self. They want people to pump them up, 90 00:11:41.200 --> 00:11:46.159 to give them accolades for all the things that they do that makes them 91 00:11:46.200 --> 00:11:56.799 feel good. But they cannot spend time by themselves every day just ripping and 92 00:11:56.879 --> 00:12:01.320 running, ripping and running, ripping and running every day, no peace. 93 00:12:03.080 --> 00:12:09.759 You have individuals who will go along with anything. They will follow people who 94 00:12:09.919 --> 00:12:20.440 they know are doing wrong just because they want to belong. People who try 95 00:12:20.480 --> 00:12:26.480 to course you into rome. They ain't mean you no good. I don't 96 00:12:26.519 --> 00:12:28.080 care if it's your husband, your wife, your boyfriend and your girlfriend, 97 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:33.759 your family member or someone else. They mean you no good. Anyone who 98 00:12:33.879 --> 00:12:43.960 tried to invite you into doing wrong. They are not right for you. 99 00:12:46.879 --> 00:12:50.440 I don't care what you feel about it. They're not right for you. 100 00:12:50.399 --> 00:13:01.519 People going and join some of the most terrible groups because they think, oh, 101 00:13:01.600 --> 00:13:03.759 these people showing me love. We have a brotherhood or we have a 102 00:13:03.799 --> 00:13:13.840 sisterhood, or we're family. No, that makes no sense logically. When 103 00:13:13.919 --> 00:13:20.759 someone is is making you do the wrong things, breaking the law, committing 104 00:13:20.799 --> 00:13:26.480 all types of crimes, they don't love you. They're using you. They're 105 00:13:26.519 --> 00:13:35.399 taking advantage of your vulnerability you have. Some people do all types of things 106 00:13:35.879 --> 00:13:46.720 to gain notoriety, when all you really should care about is loving yourself, 107 00:13:46.039 --> 00:13:50.519 not what other people think about you, but what you think about yourself, 108 00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:58.000 what you feel about you. But people got it all backwards. They're just 109 00:13:58.159 --> 00:14:01.759 searching, searching, searching, search been searching for years and years and years, 110 00:14:03.039 --> 00:14:07.559 but never looking that self, never dealing with why they have the mindset 111 00:14:07.600 --> 00:14:18.360 that they have. Until you know yourself and love yourself, you will never 112 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:22.519 be fulfilled. You will always, always, always stay on the wheel, 113 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:31.159 living that cycle. This is what people do, This is what families do. 114 00:14:31.200 --> 00:14:35.159 Then they say, oh, it's a generational curse. It was in 115 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:43.240 the bloodline. Get out of here with that. It's habitual lifestyles that people 116 00:14:43.360 --> 00:14:48.840 pass down from generation to generation. It's not a generational curse. It's habitual 117 00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:56.639 lifestyles that people pass along and instead of breaking chains, people just continue doing 118 00:14:56.679 --> 00:15:07.960 the same things. You go through life the same way, carrying all of 119 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:13.720 the bitterness to anger, being mad, sad, depressed, suicideal, homicidal. 120 00:15:15.000 --> 00:15:20.360 I've said it a billion times. You go through life day after day, 121 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:24.759 week after week, month after month, year after year. I mean, 122 00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:33.879 the same way, still angry at yourself, still manage yourself, Still 123 00:15:33.960 --> 00:15:41.080 cannot love yourself because you're not giving yourself the opportunity to become better. No 124 00:15:41.159 --> 00:15:48.639 one and I mean no one that includes me and you, everyone. No 125 00:15:48.679 --> 00:15:56.440 one can become better by remaining the same. You must do something about it. 126 00:16:00.159 --> 00:16:03.720 You must be willing to work on you. I can't work on you. 127 00:16:03.720 --> 00:16:07.840 You have to work on you. Your significant other can't work on you. 128 00:16:07.840 --> 00:16:11.720 You have to work on you. Your therapists can't work on you. 129 00:16:11.720 --> 00:16:15.440 You have to work on you. Your pastor can't work on you. You 130 00:16:15.679 --> 00:16:22.200 have to work on you. I mean it takes you to do the inside 131 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:30.200 work. I've told you many times. People can influence you, motivate you, 132 00:16:30.399 --> 00:16:36.039 encourage you, and all of that inspire you positively, but you still 133 00:16:36.480 --> 00:16:41.639 have to do the work. And what I found is many people don't. 134 00:16:42.360 --> 00:16:47.279 They don't choose to do the work, and therefore they remain the same, 135 00:16:47.679 --> 00:16:56.480 taking all of that negativity everywhere they go. I mean, some people are 136 00:16:56.559 --> 00:17:04.640 just flat out angry. It is so very, very sad to see how 137 00:17:04.720 --> 00:17:08.480 some people just I mean, you see them and they just talking noise, 138 00:17:10.319 --> 00:17:17.680 just mad, just have attitude, thinking they're bad and all kind of foolishness 139 00:17:18.480 --> 00:17:25.680 and getting knocked out at the very first chance because they think people are gonna 140 00:17:25.759 --> 00:17:30.440 take it, but instead people knocking them out left and right. Just crazy 141 00:17:30.480 --> 00:17:37.000 because you're messing with the wrong people because you think you can carry your attitude 142 00:17:37.920 --> 00:17:45.079 to everyone, and some people are just not having it. Some of you. 143 00:17:45.279 --> 00:17:48.480 As soon as you lay eyes on someone, you're falling in love. 144 00:17:48.720 --> 00:17:56.680 Don't know the person from anything, but you're falling in love. Oh you 145 00:17:56.720 --> 00:18:02.920 want him, you want her. You don't know them, you don't know 146 00:18:03.039 --> 00:18:07.359 yourself, and you don't know what love is. If that's all it takes 147 00:18:07.799 --> 00:18:11.160 for you to see someone Because ninety nine percent of what you see is not 148 00:18:11.279 --> 00:18:23.000 what it is. Until people deal with self become better, I'm telling you 149 00:18:23.079 --> 00:18:30.720 for a fact, they will forever have that void. They would never have 150 00:18:32.000 --> 00:18:40.359 peace, and they will always feel that they need more. I've told you 151 00:18:41.799 --> 00:18:47.240 on several episodes, how you see rich people filthy rich, but they can't 152 00:18:47.240 --> 00:18:51.799 sit down. They still want more and more and more and more. That 153 00:18:52.519 --> 00:18:59.599 is a problem. Something is wrong, something is terribly wrong inside of them. 154 00:18:59.640 --> 00:19:03.359 When you have all of the money that you could ever spend, but 155 00:19:03.440 --> 00:19:07.319 you want more, it's not enough. You should be giving away money to 156 00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:14.359 help people. I mean, with no problem, I just say give it 157 00:19:14.440 --> 00:19:18.160 all. But you definitely should be helping people because you won't spend all of 158 00:19:18.200 --> 00:19:26.400 that money in a lifetime. But yet you have no peace within that you 159 00:19:29.440 --> 00:19:33.440 feel that you have to keep grinding, grinding, grinding, RND. No, 160 00:19:33.359 --> 00:19:38.200 it's not that, oh, you such a lucrative businessman or businesswoman, 161 00:19:38.519 --> 00:19:44.200 entrepreneur or whatever. It's not all about that you have no peace within. 162 00:19:45.440 --> 00:19:51.160 You can't sit down and enjoy your life because you have no peace within, 163 00:19:52.880 --> 00:20:00.359 just doing everything, don't care who you step on at oh, because you're 164 00:20:00.440 --> 00:20:07.000 still trying to make money. And not only rich people. Some people would 165 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:12.079 do it to get money, and I mean anything. If you're willing to 166 00:20:12.119 --> 00:20:22.960 do anything, you have no peace within you none, And unfortunately this is 167 00:20:23.599 --> 00:20:32.240 the truth about most people. When you know yourself and love yourself, it 168 00:20:32.400 --> 00:20:40.119 changes you. It changes how you see people in the world and yourself. 169 00:20:44.079 --> 00:20:51.720 You realize that the things you thought were so important they're not as important as 170 00:20:51.759 --> 00:20:56.720 you you actually think they are. You won't worship people and things, you 171 00:20:56.799 --> 00:21:04.799 won't chase after the flesh, because you know most people are not who they 172 00:21:04.839 --> 00:21:12.440 pretend to be any ways. You know that people have their own issues. 173 00:21:12.480 --> 00:21:18.839 Therefore, they love for you to worship and praise them because they're getting something 174 00:21:18.880 --> 00:21:23.480 out of it. They're getting monetary benefit, or they're getting their egos stroked. 175 00:21:25.039 --> 00:21:29.240 They're getting something from you worship and praising them. But if you feel 176 00:21:29.279 --> 00:21:33.920 that you need to worship and praise any man or woman, you got an 177 00:21:33.960 --> 00:21:40.319 issue about yourself. That's the problem with a lot of people in the world. 178 00:21:40.599 --> 00:21:45.640 They're chasing after the Beyonces and the Rihannas and the Drakes and all of 179 00:21:45.680 --> 00:21:55.599 these people who have clearly their own issues. Those people shouldn't be more important 180 00:21:55.599 --> 00:22:03.480 to you. Than yourself. You should love and care about yourself far greater, 181 00:22:04.680 --> 00:22:12.559 But unfortunately some people don't. They live and breathe other people who know 182 00:22:12.759 --> 00:22:18.559 nothing about them, care nothing about them. They just tell you they do 183 00:22:18.799 --> 00:22:26.319 because they're getting something from it. When you're willing to get on a social 184 00:22:26.359 --> 00:22:37.319 media platform, life deceive, fake, pretend for subscribers, views, money. 185 00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:44.279 You have an issue inside. If you're a person that all day long 186 00:22:44.440 --> 00:22:48.119 all you doing is scrolling, scrolling, scrolling, you have an issue with 187 00:22:48.240 --> 00:23:00.599 yourself. I see it every day, you see it every day. I've 188 00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:07.000 told you many times. The person that's that is neglect them the most itself 189 00:23:08.519 --> 00:23:18.400 because people make other individuals way more important. But I'm here to tell you 190 00:23:19.119 --> 00:23:30.119 will no doubt. Until you know yourself and love yourself, you will always 191 00:23:30.160 --> 00:23:33.880 have that void. You will always be seeking more and more and more. 192 00:23:34.160 --> 00:23:40.119 You will never be satisfied. You will never be happy. All of your 193 00:23:40.160 --> 00:23:47.039 happiness will always be short lived because you're not truly happy inside. Yes, 194 00:23:47.359 --> 00:23:51.720 people can make you smile, laugh and feel good and happy for a moment, 195 00:23:51.759 --> 00:23:56.640 but it will not last because you're not happy inside. It starts on 196 00:23:56.839 --> 00:24:02.880 the inside of you. You have to change your mindset to change your life. 197 00:24:07.400 --> 00:24:11.960 Some people just don't want to do the work, and without doing the 198 00:24:11.000 --> 00:24:15.079 work, change will not occur. Period. I don't care who you are, 199 00:24:15.440 --> 00:24:19.440 I don't care how powerful you think you are or what you have. 200 00:24:21.519 --> 00:24:26.119 You will remain the same inside. And let me tell you what's inside of 201 00:24:26.200 --> 00:24:38.119 you has formed that mindset. They go hand in hand. Your mindset and 202 00:24:38.240 --> 00:24:48.640 what's inside of you, they go hand in hand. How you think determines 203 00:24:52.519 --> 00:24:59.480 your thoughts, your feelings, your actions. How you think came from all 204 00:24:59.519 --> 00:25:04.559 of your experiences. And most times it's those bad ones or those traumatic ones 205 00:25:07.119 --> 00:25:15.000 that people hold on to. People don't hold on to and gravitate towards the 206 00:25:15.799 --> 00:25:23.119 good ones, because if people did, lives would be so much better. 207 00:25:23.680 --> 00:25:30.359 People wouldn't think if someone left them or wanted out of the relationship it would 208 00:25:30.359 --> 00:25:33.759 be the end of the world. People won't feel if their mom, dad, 209 00:25:34.000 --> 00:25:41.400 sister, brother, child, grandparent, friend die that it's the end 210 00:25:41.440 --> 00:25:45.400 of the world for them. You wouldn't feel like that. You will know 211 00:25:45.599 --> 00:25:56.200 better. If people love self, they wouldn't do any and everything for love 212 00:25:56.279 --> 00:26:06.160 to be a friend to someone. If you loved yourself, you will not 213 00:26:06.279 --> 00:26:12.480 allow people to do any and everything to you. Until you love yourself and 214 00:26:12.680 --> 00:26:19.160 know yourself, you will always have that void. You will always feel something 215 00:26:19.319 --> 00:26:26.200 is lacking, something that's missing. You're never satisfied, and you will continue 216 00:26:26.599 --> 00:26:30.960 to chase Some of you will stay in relationships for years and years and years. 217 00:26:32.359 --> 00:26:38.319 Some people have died in their unhappy relationships because you have not fixed you. 218 00:26:41.000 --> 00:26:47.839 It's clear these types of people haven't fixed themselves because there is no way 219 00:26:47.880 --> 00:26:52.039 on this earth that they will be in unhappy relationships if they fixed self. 220 00:26:52.480 --> 00:26:59.920 No way, no way. So they stay in the relationships, hoping, 221 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:03.880 praying, wishing, doing rituals, all kind of stuff for the person to 222 00:27:03.960 --> 00:27:12.720 love them. It's never gonna work because Bill loving you is not more important 223 00:27:12.720 --> 00:27:19.680 than you loving yourself. And that's all I'm gonna say on this. Let 224 00:27:19.680 --> 00:27:25.559 me say it one more time. Until you know and love yourself, you 225 00:27:25.599 --> 00:27:27.599 will never be fulfilled. You will always have that. Boys, you will 226 00:27:27.680 --> 00:27:34.160 have no peace. You will continue chasing other individuals, money, all types 227 00:27:34.240 --> 00:27:38.200 of things. You will continue chasing that because you have no peace within, 228 00:27:38.640 --> 00:27:44.960 You have no self satisfaction, you have no self love. You still holding 229 00:27:45.039 --> 00:27:52.519 on to negativity. So please share this episode. People need to hear it 230 00:27:52.680 --> 00:27:56.599 around the world. Thank you in advance, much much much much love to 231 00:27:56.680 --> 00:28:00.720 each and every one of you. If you want to talk about it further, 232 00:28:00.119 --> 00:28:03.440 please reach out to me. Go to my podcast page you to tell 233 00:28:03.480 --> 00:28:11.440 you exactly how to reach me. I will return every every single email. 234 00:28:11.920 --> 00:28:17.240 Thank you so much again. Stay safe in this world, Be vigilant. 235 00:28:18.480 --> 00:28:23.319 Know that I love you. God loves you the most. I end every 236 00:28:23.359 --> 00:28:30.039 episode the same. Before I go, please check out relatable life chronicles and 237 00:28:30.079 --> 00:28:37.160 share it. I end every episode the same, and I hope you do 238 00:28:37.240 --> 00:28:42.519 it. You better do it. It's time for a change. Think on it.