Hi everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My name is Alicia
Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand
your mind and become more self awares so that you can glow up into the
past version of yourself. Happy Monday. How are we doing? I had
a full blown death and rebirth. Okay, if you guys, remember I
said last week I kind of mildly had a cold, but I was doing
fine. I was wrong. I ended up getting so much more sick than
I even thought it was a full blown head cold fever. I was dying,
Okay. So I am just now coming out of this dark hole.
And let me tell you one thing I do know is that I am sick
of my shit, Okay, And this is what today's episode is going to
be about. Honestly. I want to talk about toxic habits that we are
going to be dropping before summer, because rist fall, summer's like really around
the corner. How is it already May? Second week of May? I
guess second or third? Second, We'll just keep it with second, and
I just I want to do better. I want to do better for myself.
I want to do better for you. Guys. I want you guys
to do better for your guys's selves. I just feel like we need to
ramp it up. What we are not going to do is waste this beautiful
summer that we have amongst us, to being lazy, to not living up
to our potential, like we need to make ourselves proud, Okay. And
when I was sick, it really did hit me. I came to a
lot of realizations, as Kylie Jenner would say, and I just thought about
the past I don't know, six months of my life. And while on
one hand, I love myself, I show up for myself. I'm not
hard on myself. I do the things that I need to do, But
are there things that I have been slacking on or doing the bare minimum on
one hundred percent? And when I was sick, I was just thinking about
all these things, like, you know what, it's not even that I'm
in this energy of Alicia. You just needed to do more because you've been
so lazy and oh my god like toxic productivity. You got to get more
done things like that. It's not even that energy. I just genuinely know
that I have so much potential that I could just be doing more and being
the best version of myself and really showing up for myself. I want to
respect my time more. I want to respect myself more. I want to,
you know, make myself proud. I want to look at the end
of this summer, Like when the end of the summer comes, I want
to look back and say, Yeah, I made myself proud. YEP,
I showed up for myself. YEP, I didn't waste my summer away.
And I feel like there's probably a lot of you guys that can relate.
I think naturally we go through ebbs and flows of periods of our life where
maybe we're not showing up the best, and there's many reasons why we don't
need to dive into that. We don't need to be mad at ourselves or
ruminate on what we haven't done. Okay, the past is the past.
Let's just focus on the next six months, the next summer. Whenever you
listen to this, I know some of you guys you're technically going into your
winter months, so obviously you can just use this as well, but just
for your winter months. But just use this next period of time, new
season of your life to really show up for yourself and obviously being sick.
Of course, you naturally are always just wishing you were better, because it's
like, oh my God, like what I would wish to just be able
to wake up with more energy. You never really know what you have until
you kind of lose it type of energy, and I just don't want to
spend that beautiful time that I have this summer thinking like that or looking back.
So we're going to talk about some of the things that I'm going to
be dropping, but I think it's really relevant to you guys as well.
I think a lot of you guys will really relate to some of the things
that I'm going to be talking about. I also asked you guys what toxic
habits you guys are going to be dropping, So I'm going to read some
of them out, and I just want this to be kind of like a
kick in the ass, but also just to know that I am with you
guys as well. Understand that the people in this community, our community,
are trying to drop habits as well, so this is a collective thing.
Even yesterday, okay, I was talking to my best friend Dui, and
she's a content creator too, which is a little bit different. If you
aren't a content creator. Obviously we have different lifestyles, but regardless, there's
always things that we kind of are like wasting our time with, or we
have more capacity to show up for ourselves and we kind of don't whatever.
But being a content creator it really requires you to be very disciplined because nobody
is knocking on your door and saying, hey, get this out or do
this video or whatever. Now, I've always been very, very very self
motivated from a young age. My dad instilled a lot of discipline and just
respect and like showing up for myself and life and other people for sure when
I was younger, so I took that on. Of course, I kind
of became a tyrant on myself because he was very very strict. But also
I had to grow up very very quick when he passed away, when my
mom went through addictions, I had to get my ass up in work okay.
And of course, no matter what type of lifestyle you live or know
what was handed to you, we all at some point need to get our
asses up and work okay. We have to get our asses up and discipline
ourselves in a way that's healthy, in a way that's loving, which I
feel like I do a good job at that now, but I've always been
someone for sure that has shown up and done her work. But there's definitely
things, especially being a content creator and the life that I have created for
myself, where yeah, I have a lot of extra time now, I
have an easier time with work. And I was talking to my friend about
this and I was like, dude, I was honestly, sometimes I think
that I was more like self discipline and I got my ass up and worked
more and got so much more done when I was still working my nine to
five serving and building my social media like platform, and mind you, I
see why, because there was there was a fire lit under me, right,
I was motivated. I really wanted this life and I worked so hard
to get it. So it's not to say that I need to live the
same life in terms of working as hard as I did. Maybe in different
ways, of course I do, but it's not even to say that.
But I just look back at the version of me who worked so hard to
get the life that she has now, and what I'm gonna do is waste
my time now, Like that's a disgrace in my opinion, in the most
loving way. Okay, it's kind of a disgrace. And I was telling
my friend this and she was kind of saying the same thing because now she's
a full time creator too, and you know, there's there's no excuse why
I can't do those extra steps of my self care or cook for myself every
single day, or go to the gym all the time when I've created a
lot of time freedom in my life. So I just really wanted to say
that because this is what I thought too, being a content creator. When
you kind of level up your life, you start to live your dream life.
You have more time freedom, you have more money to do the things
that you want. You still need a level of discipline and self respect for
yourself because if not, you will kind of get a little bit lazy.
You know, you will go off on a whim. And it's not to
say that I can't enjoy the luxuries of the life that I have created,
but you kind of will, like just waste your time sometimes, and I
just don't want to do that. And my friend was saying the same thing,
like we are just we're not really we obviously, I really do think
that I've made my younger self proud, but I just think that my younger
self would be looking at me now being like, girl, really, this
is how you're gonna spend your time, like you could be doing more and
not even the sense of even like work, But why aren't you getting up
earlier? Why aren't you doing those extra steps of this, that and the
third? You've created this life. So I say all that to say even
myself and my best friend, like we're both going through it. We're both
like, dude, we need to get on a routine again, Like we
need to act as if we're in a freaking nine to five, Like there's
no reason why we need to be sitting around like wasting time and this that,
and just not being really intentional with our time. And even if you're
not a content creator and you are busting your ass and you're working, that's
amazing. I love that for you. I'm proud of you. I'm proud
of myself still. But maybe there's certain areas of your life where you know
you're kind of slacking. And I honestly think as the spring is here and
we're moving into summer naturally, I just think that we can do more,
like come on, the sun is out now, Okay, we don't have
an excuse. Okay, we have nose. The sun is out more,
the days are longer, the weather is nicer. This is the time to
capitalize on doing what we came here to do and being the best versions of
ourselves because, like I don't know, I just think we cried all the
winter because we just really wanted to be summer, and now it's summer.
What I am not gonna do is waste my summer away in terms of just
not living out to my full potential. Okay, so that is my little
rant. Let's talk about some of the things that we are gonna be dropping
now. Some of you guys might be on your shit and maybe you guys
already do this and I love this, but if you aren't, then maybe
this will just be a little bit of a reminder. And these are definitely
all things and I'm gonna be actively focusing on this spring and summer. Okay.
So the first thing on my list is neglecting the small self care habits
and wellness habits. I feel like this is one of the first things that
always these falls off for me in my life. And when I mean the
small self care slash wellness habits, these are things that if we miss or
if we fall off, it's not going to make the biggest difference, but
it technically does over time, especially if we want to be the most glowed
up, most hot, most healthy version of us, like it actually does.
But on a day to day, like I'll give you example vitamins if
you know, I feel like a lot of us we go through ebbs and
flows of like falling off taking vitamins or doing those extra steps of our self
care or self care mass or things like that, because if we miss it,
it's not the end of the world. We're still going to be healthy
for the most part. We're not going to you know, our hair is
not going to get like the worst it's ever been if we don't do that
deep condition or mass like once a week. These are just extra things,
but I just think that these things are actually still very important. So I'm
going to talk about some of the things that I have kind of been slacking
on that I want to re up. So one of them, for sure
is my deep conditioner mass and hot oil treatments, like those extra hair things
that I should be doing once a week because that's what my hair really deserves.
But that is something although I really was consistent with that, especially when
I went on my natural hair journey years and years ago. I was very
very consistent. But because that fire is not lit under me, because I
don't have a goal necessarily to like get the most natural hair, because my
hair is natural and it's grown and it's beautiful, I still know the benefits
of doing that for my hair, and I want that to still be a
part of my self care. Now, there's obviously things that I no longer
maybe need to do anymore. I don't really know in terms of hair right
now, I can't really think of any but obviously there's things that you just
don't need to always take with you in another season of life. But for
sure I should and still want to be doing these things. So doing those
extra steps of that hair routine that you have. Obviously we have different ones.
But even when it comes to caffeine, Okay, this is something another
thing that I it's not actually even neglecting. It's more well I guess it
is, but it's more doing more of this when I should be actually doing
less. Is I go through periods of time where I will drink coffee,
like first thing in the morning, which that's a habit I'm breaking. But
also I will get a second cup of coffee in the middle of the day
if for some reason I'm feeling like it, because I know that it's not
gonna make that much of a difference to me, because coffee doesn't really wire
me that much. Like some people get a lot of anxiety and stuff with
coffee. I don't really. But it does give me a little bit of
a pick me up. But I also know that it's not necessarily the best
thing for me to do. But I will go through phases of just doing
that, and I don't like do like I don't need to be doing that.
Not only is it just like it's a waste of money, like you're
making coffee at home, but also you're grabbing a second cup, Like we
don't need to be doing that. In terms of nutrition and like nourishment for
your body, you could be having something else that is not caffeine. It
just it's not needed. Another thing. My upper body days. Where are
my upper body days at the gym? Where are my core days at the
gym? Why am I not going to the gym Monday to Friday consistently like
a full workout? Now, listen, I have been going to the gym.
I do at least two days weightlifting and it's usually lower body days,
and then I do hot yoga or I'll do workout classes and I'm always walking.
So like, I feel like, again, I'm doing the base level
things that I need to be doing for my body. But why is my
upper bodies, like upper body days and slash core days always taking a back
seat. I'm always like, Okay, I'll skip itt or like I don't
need to do it. I do need to do it, and I should
be doing it, and I also have the time to do it. So
why am I not doing these things? You know what I mean? I
have not taken my daily vitamins. So those are some of the things that
I'm really thinking about, just those small little self care and wellness habits that
I've been neglecting that should not be neglecting. Now I want to talk about
what helps when it comes to not neglecting these self care habits or wellness and
things that like I'll be doing. And one of them for sure is habit
stacking and also replacing an old habit with something new. So I'll give you
an example, because sometimes it's hard to just cut out something that you've been
so addicted to. Let's say, if you're always used to having two cups
of coffee a day, for you to just go cold turkey and just not
have that second cup, like your body's gonna feel it, maybe like for
me, if I don't have caffeine, like my body like I will literally
feel it. But also just the habit, you kind of feel really restricted,
and so I like to sometimes either replace or wean myself off. So
if let's say I was trying to wean myself off of coffee, just if
I had one cup of coffee in the morning, what I do instead of
just stopping coffee on like Monday morning, when I decide I'm gonna have a
smaller cup of coffee, maybe it's in a smaller glass, or maybe I'm
just pouring less and I'm gonna do less and less and less throughout the week
so that I don't get headaches and that I don't get like a withdraw and
then maybe I'll replace it with something or I'll just be done. That is
like the best way, in my opinion, I've learned how to wean myself
off of habits versus just being like oh, I'm not going to drink coffee
at all, or I'm not going to go out with my friends at all,
or I'm not gonna drink or if you smoke wheed or like if you
do whatever, all these like small little behaviors that may be in your mind
or like not the best wean yourself off, Like don't I don't know.
I just don't necessarily think it's that needed to stress yourself out too much about
it. But what I've been doing is replacing the second cup of coffee when
I do want to go and get something with an ice. I've been so
into my ice machas I said this in last week's recap episode. I've just
been super super loving it to the point where I'm gonna try and replace my
morning cup with ice macha like I'm getting there. So anyways, just replacing
little habits habit stacking as well. So for instance, like the other day,
I was thinking I was on I don't know, I was on my
phone scrolling on something and I'm sitting here, like why do I not have
my deep conditioner in my hair right now? If I'm gonna scroll? Why
don't I have my hot cap on with my hot oil treatment in my hair
as I'm doing this? What am I doing? Why am I? If
I'm gonna sit in scroll or if I'm gonna sit and talk to my best
friend for an hour on FaceTime? Amazing, you can do that. Listen
over here. We like to chill. We like to give ourselves like soft
life. We're about that. Okay, not everything needs to be like this
hustle and bustle, but let's be a little bit more efficient with their time.
If I'm watching a YouTube video, I'm gonna watch that YouTube video now
in my washroom as I'm doing my self care my ten step goddamn self care
routine, or my mask or my led light or my freaking hair mask like
I just said. So, just really thinking about how you can squeeze in
some of these small little steps. And also when it comes to happits sacking,
there's other things that you can do. Like let's say every single morning,
you do something that is routine that you already do, so like make
your bed. So if you want to start adding in a new habit of
taking your vitamins every day, but you don't usually take your vitamins, make
it a habit that every single time you were done making your bed, the
next step you're going to take is those vitamins. You're not gonna do anything
other than that. Or let's say you don't make your bed, but you
always make coffee in the morning. When your coffee is brewing, as it
is brewing, go make your bed, or as it is brewing, go
brush your teeth or whatever. I don't know, I don't really brush my
teeth before coffee, but you know what I mean. Things like that.
Just finding ways that you can kind of add in these habits will be helpful.
But also another thing is sometimes we forget to do these small self care
habits or wellness habits because maybe if it's an item skincare, hair, vitamins,
water or whatever, these things are not predominantly in front of us.
So take out your vitamins and put them on your counter. Take your deep
conditioner mask and put it in front of you, like in the washroom,
Like pull out these things that you can actually see, make a list,
like keep it in front of you because if now you're obviously gonna forget about
these things because these are not the most important things in your life. But
if you want to make them important, you have to kind of see them
more often. Okay, another thing that we need to drop is being lazy,
like genuinely just being lazy. Now, this kind of leads into the
neglecting the self care habits. Now, I think a lot of those things
are just because it's not it's not necessary. Obviously these are not on the
top priority list. We have a million things we have to juggle in our
lives, whether it's school, work, health, relationships, all that kind
of stuff, so does get pushed on the back burner. But you know,
and some of you guys did say this, when you guys submitted being
lazy, it creeps up on you. And listen, I've been looking at
some of my habits and thinking and reflecting and being like, damn girl,
you'd be a little bit too lazy for what you are making too many damn
excuses for yourself. So what I have here is like, there's a few
things, and it obviously depends on your lifestyle, but for me, like
not picking up my stuff after I've done something, the way that I leave
my place a mess and not disgusting mess, but just like everything out of
place for no reason, Why don't I take one minute out of my time
to put things back before I'm going on to the next thing. Like enough
with that again, even when it comes to like scrolling on social media things
like that, which we're going to talk about, why am I not doing
my hair care while I'm doing that? If I'm wanting to do that.
Another big thing for me personally is I've been seeing that I've been a little
lazy when it comes to my work, so specifically when it comes to editing.
This is what I've been doing like lately, and it depends on the
season of my life. It depends on the week of my life, to
be honest, when it comes to recording and stuff. So I'm not super
hard on myself, but you know, obviously things can slip. But lately,
what I've been doing is I'm not editing every single day. I will
edit a video in one continuous chunk, which on one hand is not the
worst thing. A lot of people edit like that, But for me,
especially when it comes to my main channel YouTube videos, because I don't even
edit my podcast anymore, I have an editor, but for my main channel,
I vlog, so usually it's like a day or two or three or
four depending I can every single day touch my video and edit a little bit
every single day, so by the end of the week, I will have
the whole video basically done, and I don't have to sit there for eight
hours or however long and edit it. Like, why don't I carve out
an hour every single day to edit my video? I have enough time,
Like I like, I'm making excuses and being like, oh, like,
it's just excuses, laziness. It's not needed. I think. I think
when we talk about social media, and for me, I've just realized,
dude, I actually have way more time than I think. It's actually a
lot of times to do with my excuses, but also social media addiction is
just ridiculous, and we actually just have so much more time. So that's
what I'm going to be doing specifically, is getting on top of my work
stuff. But also when I leave everything to the last minute, the quality
of my editing or the quality of my work sometimes will lack because I'm overwhelmed
and I have so much to do that I obviously do the bare minimum.
So you can even think about this when it comes to school or even work.
I know you have different projects that you work on, Like I remember
when I was at house and wellness coordinator at a tech company. You know,
I showed up every single day. There was definitely work that I had
to like work on every single day that I could have. Well, I
was pretty good at that, but like, yeah, there's just things that
you can always kind of get ahead of or get on top of to make
it less overwhelming when you do it. And yes, could you study all
in one day or do your essay all in one day? Yeah, you
could do that, but is that quality of the essay going to be that
good? Because for me, you know, when I give myself a little
bit more time to work on a video or a little bit more time to
think about a topic. Now, sometimes especially for the podcast, a gem
is a gem, and when it's potent, I go and talk about it.
I don't need to sit on it and overthink it. But with a
lot of other things, if I give myself a few days to think about
it, sometimes I have more insights. Sometimes I'm like, oh, I
should add this in, Like sometimes it's good to give yourself some time to
work on these projects. So I just think that we miss a lot of
opportunity to have something that's really beautiful and our best work because we leave shit
to the last minute, and I'm not trying to do that anymore. Now.
This leads me into the next thing, which is not being on a
schedule and specifically for me, like sleeping whenever I want, like waking up
whenever I want. And I think that this will really help when it comes
to being lazy or even excuses, because I just think I can have more
time to get more things done in my day if I actually get on a
routine. Now, the reason why I haven't really been that strict on myself
with these things is because naturally, I do wake up pretty early. Naturally,
you know, I go to bed around like tennish type of thing.
I do get my work done, like I get things done. But I'm
starting to realize, like, dude, if I had like a Monday personally,
if i had a Monday to Friday schedule where I'm waking up at the
same time every single morning, especially now that the sun is out earlier,
I just want to capitalize on that time, like I have, I can
get so much more done in my day if I wake up at a certain
time versus just sleeping in to kind of like whenever. Again, I wake
up pretty early, but to have that set time, to show up every
single day at a certain time, to have an on in an off time.
Personally, for me, I really do think that that helps with productivity.
It helps, you know, knowing that, Okay, at this time,
I need to get this assignment done, or I need to get this
video done, or I need to get X, Y and Z. Because
if you don't have these things, if you don't have structure, you're gonna
you know, you're gonna leave things until the last minute, or even I
even think, but it's when it comes to cleaning. You could be like,
oh, I'm gonna do my Sunday reset and I'm just gonna clean today.
Okay, what I will do is I'll spend the whole day like diddle
dallying, and in between cleaning, I'm on my phone or this that when
really, if I told myself, Okay, Sunday's my reset day, I'm
gonna give myself an hour to clean, an hour to do this, and
an hour to do that, I will get that shit done in an hour.
But if I don't have that and I just say, oh, like,
today's gonna be my Sunday reset, and it's gonna be a cleaning day,
I'll spend the entire day doing the same thing that I could have done
in an hour, Like I don't want to do that, Like it's just
not necessary. And I think even for me, like I want to have
a good work life balance, and I feel because I were for myself,
because because I don't have that shut off time, I feel like I've never
gotten enough done. I feel like there's always something to do and I'm not
actually productive at all, and I don't like that. So I'm gonna be
going on a like schedule personally for me when it comes to my sleep and
when it comes to my work, like my work week, So I'm gonna
be doing Monday to Friday. And this is what I was telling my friend
the Joy that's a content creator as well, and she was saying she was
saying the same thing. She's like, oh my god, I'm so glad
that you're saying this, because I feel like I've been going through this as
well, Like why am I not getting up at a certain time, like
I could be doing more and I'm still not sticking to a routine blah blah
blah. So whatever lifestyle that you have, you know, maybe tweaking that
routine a little bit. Maybe you're spending a little bit more time at nighttime
just diddle dialing and scrolling on your phone and not having that shut off time
or waking up at a certain time. And again, we don't need to
be tyrants on ourselves. We don't need to be so strict. Obviously,
you don't want to strip away every every type of joy. You want to
give yourself some time. But for me, I know what schedule I can
live up to and what i can work towards, and that's what I'm gonna
be doing. And then on the weekends, I'm gonna kind of give myself
a little bit of flexibility. And I just think, also just for my
work schedule, I want to spend more time throughout the week recording, especially
for my YouTube channel because of the type of content that I'm gonna be recording
this spring and summer, versus like working on the weekends and editing on the
weekends, Like I just keep leaving shit to the weekend, and i just
feel like everything is crammed in and I'm not getting enough done or I'm overwhelmed
and it's just not needed. Like I've been thinking, oh, my god,
I just I just not enjoying the way that my time is spent.
But I'm looking in the mirror being like, Alicia, you're doing this to
yourself, like you are doing The reason why you're feeling like this is because
you don't have a routine, is because you don't have those healthy boundaries.
Is because you won't put your fucking phone down and start reading your book at
nine instead of ten pm, And then you're getting to sleep late, and
then you're you know what I mean. So getting on a routine and a
structured whatever the hell it looks like for you is very important for this spring
and summer. And I think that with spring and summer, that's where we
kind of lose it, right because it's summer, it's fun and this that.
But for me personally again, I want to look back this summer and
be like, I fucking killed it. I killed it this summer. I
had a great summer. I felt like everything was deserving when I did go
out and have a good time and I took care of myself. Like That's
how I want to feel on a week to week basis. I want to
look at the end of the week and be like Damn, I did so
much this week and I'm going to enjoy it this weekend, or I'm going
to enjoy it this night, or I'm gonna whatever, Like I want to
feel like that. And I think that sometimes again, like when you think
about your dream life and when you think about having time freedom, whether you
have it yet or not, really you know, like whether you're living a
lifestyle like me or not. I think sometimes it's like cool, the idea
is cool to be able to do whatever you want, whenever you want,
but it's not rewarding when you do nothing all day. And I'm not to
say that I don't do anything, because I actually do a lot, but
still like it's funny because my friend and I were being like, do we
just go back to nine to five's at this point? Because why do I
feel kind of better with a nine to five type of structure than I do
with this right now? I don't want to go back to nine to five,
And I think that I've worked really hard to get the lifestyle that I
have. But I'm just saying, being an influencer working for yourself, you
still got to have some structure. And I just think that it is really
rewarding. It's just really rewarding to look like at the end of your week
and be like, oh my god, like I woke up every single day
at this time, I did my workouts, I was on my shit,
I took care of myself, and now I can enjoy the time spent and
I can enjoy this summer. This is going to be a great summer,
and I think it's just going to be better knowing that you've kind of showed
up for yourself. Okay, let's talk about the beast, which is social
media consumption. We all shovel with this, okay on some level, and
I think that this is the biggest thing that we really need to nip in
the bud, in the bud, in the butt whatever. Okay, we
need to enough enough, enough enough. We seriously need to get on top
of this nasty habit because what we are not going to do this spring in
summer is waste our goddamn days scrolling, checking, waiting. What are we
doing enough? Oh my freaking god. Okay, listen, So I'm gonna
explain kind of like what like my type of current relationship with social media is.
And I think I've done a very good job also considering I am a
content creator at this, I am a long form content girly, which I
think we are elites. Hello, which is everyone who's watching this or listening
to this audio or who watches YouTube. I think we're elite. I genuinely
think we're elite because I think we have longer attention spans than the average human
being who only likes to go on TikTok okay and listen. Some of you
guys still might like to go on TikTok that's fine, but I think that
if the majority of the times can put your energy into at least watching long
form, I actually think it's just like a healthier way of consuming content if
you are going to consume it, because I just think that it keeps you
on a topic for longer, It doesn't mess up your attention spans so rapidly.
Usually when you're watching a long form thing, you tend to be doing
something like for me, if I'm listening to a podcast, I'm usually on
a walk, or I'm usually like when I used to drive all the time,
i am cleaning. There's not that many times where I'm sitting down and
watching and just like staring. Sometimes I do if I'm like sitting in my
bed and I'm about to go to sleep or something like that. But regardless,
so I don't completely demonize, Okay, so let me just say that.
So that's what I usually do when it comes to consuming. I'm actually
really good at not consuming short form content, which I think that that makes
me feel the absolute most shit. And I think that that's what a lot
of people are talking about when they say I'm doom scrolling or like, I
have this really bad addiction to social media because I just know the feeling,
like it feels like shit to go on TikTok and scroll and then afterwards you're
like, what did I just consume? I don't remember anything that I consumed,
but I feel worse than I did when I went on there. And
I don't tend to feel that when I'm watching a YouTube video, even if
it's a vlog and I'm sitting there or a podcast, like, I don't
usually feel like shit. I actually usually feel better, and it's just a
part of my routine. So this is what I think about short form content
for the most part. And we're not talking about the days where we just
let ourselves scroll. Sure, you can have your day to do that.
I don't even really honestly let myself do that unless I want to like laugh
at something, and I did that a little bit in the winter time.
I would do that. But whatever, understand that it is. It's genuinely
a waste of time to consume short form content on a daily basis. I
personally think so if you can switch from short form to long form, I
would highly suggest that, because ask yourself, what did you actually learn from
all of that? Maybe there's a few things, but thinking about also like
the videos you like or the things that you save. How many times have
you gone back and actually made that recipe or you've actually like bought that thing
that oh, this is a good product that I need to get or whatever,
or just even used any of the tips that that person was telling you.
And that's why I kind of moved off of short from content a lot
when it came to podcasts and even YouTube, because I was like, dude,
like the way that I learn is long form. Anyways, I know
people learn short form, So I'm not gonna beag on it too much because
I get it. People have short attentionments, and I know that you do
learn some stuff from it. I do still create some short form content.
I get it. It's fun like in small doses, but in small doses
it shouldn't be a daily thing. I don't think if you're gonna consume content,
I don't think it should be a daily thing for short form in my
personal opinion. Okay, so there's that, But so there's that. For
me, that's what I kind of do long form versus short form. And
I think something that's been a struggle for me though, is just the checking
like notifications and just going on as just a habit. So it's just the
habit for me that I actually find waste so much time in my day,
Like I'm not actually even consuming that much content, but it's the mere fact
of me opening Instagram one hundred million times throughout the day or my comments like
one hundred million times throughout the day that is just ridiculous. So there's a
few things that I have been doing that's been helpful, and obviously it just
depends on your kind of of relationship towards social media, but maybe this will
help. So, for one, what I've been doing is putting my phone
on D and D and I know that it's not that easy to do for
everyone, even for me, because like I have my manager that might text
me or emails that I'm checking. But at the end of the day,
we don't really need our notifications on all the time. And I'm saying that
because the moment you keep your notifications on where like anyone can hit you up
at any time, and as soon as your phone goes off, basically if
it's around you, you're gonna see it. You're just naturally getting interrupted throughout
your day. That's not necessary. Like half the things that I respond to
when my phone is not on D and D does not need to be responded
to right away. It really doesn't, but I do it naturally because it's
there, and I'm like, oh, okay, well the notification is there,
so I might as well respond now, or I might as respond to
a DM now if I'm on there, so D and D. But a
second thing, and I've done this forever and I've had to because I've had
obviously a lot of notifications, is I turn all my notifications off for every
single social media app, so TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, everything. There
is not a single notification that actually pops up on my phone unless I go
into the app and then that's when I see my likes or my dm So
that is another thing that's really really helped me. Another thing that I'm going
to be doing more though, because that helps. But also I still have
the act of continuously like checking is using screen time, and you know,
using screen time. I don't know if androids have this or if it's just
iPhones. I'm sure androids have something. I have an iPhone. But you
can go in and you can set a screen time for all of your apps
where it basically locks you out after an hour. Now you're gonna do this
and then you're gonna continue to hit ignore limit. But I want you to
stay consistent with keeping that limit on to show yourself just how much you are
addicted to the apps. Like it's actually wild. When I set my limits
to maybe like one hour, it was very clear just how much I was
addicted to certain apps, and like, wow, I can't even So anyways,
using screen time to limit your social media is really good because now I'm
getting to the point where it's like, Okay, in my head, I
know that I only have let's say one hour total of Instagram to be able
to consume. So I'm gonna leave it till the end of the day,
or I'm gonna leave it to a time where it's actually worth it, Like
you will eventually change this habit, but it's gonna take some time. And
I just feel like sometimes we forget that and then we're like, oh,
it just doesn't work for me. So then I'm just gonna keep going on.
And I think also having a structured day for me personally is helpful because
it's like, okay, well, obviously, to completely get off of your
apps for me personally, it's not gonna happen. But because I know there's
a start and there's an end time of what I'm doing for work, I'm
gonna leave my social media consumption until a certain time now something that I'm actually
gonna be because I'm a content creator and I post a lot, especially on
my stories. I post a lot of my stories. I still want to
keep up with you guys. I still love to post, like I still
love the dms and everything. But I'm gonna have set times where I'm posting.
So I'm gonna take regular photos of my day and then I'm gonna go
into the app and I'm gonna just post all of them so that you guys
can see everything. So that way it allows me to stop the habit of
constantly checking, because what I do is when I open the app to post,
naturally I see a notification, naturally, I see somebody DM me,
and then it keeps me on there all the time and I'm constantly checking.
So that's gonna be something that I'm gonna be doing. Same with like comment
sections and things like that, Like I'm gonna be having set times throughout the
day, not even throughout the day, but like every day, I guess
where I'm gonna be checking these things versus just doing it whenever. Because again,
if you don't have healthy boundaries, if you don't say, okay,
at five pm, i'm gonna be done work, or five pm that's when
I'm gonna be checking or whatever, you're just gonna do it whenever because you
you know, no one's really telling you not to do that thing. Also,
I found something on the iPhone where it is like a screen distance thing,
which I felt was helpful when I actually had a really bad head cold
because actually I was really off my phone and it was so amazing. I
feel like my mental health was so freaking good because I was barely on my
phone because I couldn't even look at a screen, so all I was doing.
I have this like little mini it's not an iPad, but it's like
an Android thing where I play white noise when I go to sleep, and
so it's off my phone so I don't have to use my phone. But
I was watching a bunch of long form like YouTube videos and completely off of
my phone, and it was like bright or sorry, dim light, and
it felt it just oh my god. I just felt so good just not
checking a million times on Instagram and just not watching people's lives. And so
with that, I found this little thing. It's called scream Time. You
can go in your settings and probably find it, and it basically measures the
distance of the like how far you're holding your phone to your and it will
pop up like a thing and say like you're holding your phone too close and
to move it back. And I feel like just the the notification of doing
that allows me to kind of distance myself from my phone and like subconsciously remind
myself that, like get away from your phone. In a way, it's
weird, but it's actually cool. So I don't know, you can try
that, but overall obviously just thinking about the type of relationship that you have.
I also just think the mere fact of reminding yourself that what do you
get from watching people's lives and stories all the time? And I even think
about that myself too, Like sometimes when I'm clicking people's stories, it's just
because it's mindless. But I'm like, dude, I don't need to be
looking at this person's life. It doesn't matter. I'm so sorry, Like
I love you, You're amazing, but I don't need to be knowing what
you're doing in your day. How how is that relevant to me? I
should be the most important thing and the most like non narcissistic thing, way
whatever, I don't even care if it comes across as that, but I
should be the most important thing. I should be caring more about my life
than somebody else's. Why am I stopping through the day to go check up
on somebody else's life? That's like posting random shit. It's really irrelevant.
Now if you are consuming people's content, because I get it, you like
to, you know, consume a few people's content. Just consume a few
people's content, like make it the forefront, like favorite there thing, or
mute everyone else and only consume the people who really are reminding you of what
you should be doing. So that's what I do actually on YouTube. So
the YouTube videos that I watch are YouTube videos that are like healthy girl routines
and like cleaning routines and like all that kind of stuff. Like kind of
content, not really content that I post if it has anything to do with
self development or mindset stuff, but whatever it is, I always make sure
to only consume content that reminds me of what I should be doing in my
daily life. I'm not watching people for the most part, I really am
not watching people who are doing things that have nothing to do with my life,
just random people doing their daily Like I don't. I use if I'm
gonna consume content as motivation, and that's that and that allows me to actually
get up, and there is definitely room for motivational content. Like I totally
totally know the difference of my actions when I'm watching people who Okay, let's
say commentary social commentary videos. I love those. Those are good videos that
I like to watch when I'm like eating or if it's like I'm done my
work for the day and I'll just like chill. But after watching a social
commentary video, I'm not like motivated to go clean or declutter clutter my place,
or take care of myself or go to sleep at a good time.
But if I'm watching a healthy six am routine, I'm like, damn,
I'm fucking motivated now, Like I gotta get my ass to bed. That's
what I'm watching if I'm consuming content. So just be aware of if you're
consuming content, what are you consuming. Make it motivational, make it like
relevant to you, and everything else is so irrelevant, I promise you.
Okay, the last toxic habit that we are dropping before I read your guys's
ones, which I relate to some of them as well. But the last
thing is not respecting our money. Okay. I feel like this is another
thing where we we gotta check ourselves. We gotta check ourselves. It be
the way you fucking act. Story for swearing. I'm not sorry for swearing,
but like I have to say that because I feel like sometimes we're like
I get some comments being like dude, I guess some comments sometimes people just
being like can you not as if it's not my own podcast? You know
what I mean? I don't know. And again, I'm trying to respect
everyone who listens to this podcast because there's so many people. But it's just
like sometimes people need to understand that the content creator is also their own person
and if they swear, they swear. So anyways, sorry, not sorry.
We need to respect our money. Okay, this is something that I've
gotten very good at. For sure. I am so proud of myself and
I say this and this is you know what, I'm gonna have a little
rant about being proud of yourself. But I'm very very proud of myself for
you know, like all of the crappy, toxic habits that I used to
do when it comes to spending, I'm definitely better with my money. I
definitely think about things before I buy them, you know. But we slip
up sometimes, Okay, we go into those little like lazy girl. Like
for me, this is one thing I'll call myself out like Uber eats,
uh, Uber eats stop, like just stop, like there's not a reason.
There's no reason why. If you want to eat out, go and
get your ass up, walk downstairs, go outside, hawk girl, walk,
go get your food. If you really want something from Uber eats,
there is no reason other than if you are a sick or you know,
maybe it's just like something fun to be using Uber eats. Honestly, sorry,
guys, my camera heated up, so I kind of forget where I
left off. But Uber eats, we don't need to be doing it.
I just think that I for sure have been wasting, just not even wasting,
but just not respect I don't know. I just feel like it's not
a good use of my money. And I like to think about things this
way, what is my return on investment? Okay, you don't always have
to be a stickler when it comes to spending money, obviously, and it
depends. It depends on like how much you can have to spend and is
that budgeting is great and like knowing how much money you can spend on certain
things is great. But like I don't know, Like even though I can
spend money on uber eats, I feel like it's not the best return of
my investment. I can go walk and grab food. I don't need to
do these things. Like Also, if I want something that is not necessarily
you know of my normal food routine, I can go to the grocery store
and make food and even make some content out of it, but also just
make it a whole vibe, Like make it a whole thing. So just
thinking about the ways that you spend your money and asking yourself, how can
I respect my money more? I think that we slip up sometimes with that,
and I think even when it comes to I don't do this anymore,
but I do think about when I was in college. I just think that
I didn't respect my money when it came to going out and drinking every weekend,
or going shopping to buy outfits to go drinking every weekend. Like I
spent so much money on that kind of stuff. Where was it really the
best return on my investment? No? And does it always have to be?
No? But I could have respected my money more by saving it,
you know, or again just not spending it on things. So that's gonna
be definitely something that I do more like cutting out the uber eats. Also,
what else do I have? I'm just obviously even asking myself in the
moment, do I really need this thing? Will I live without it?
And I do this when I feel like I really want to impulse buy something,
and I'm like so like I like hyperfixate on this thing that I need
and like Oh my god, Yes, it's going to change my life and
I need this right now. Da da da, And I sit here for
a second and I'm just like okay, But like in a week, will
I be okay if I don't get it or if I do get it,
how much will it really change my life? Like do I really need it?
And do I really even need it right this second? This is another
thing, like you know, have a monthly budget, create a little savings
account where you can buy the things that you want, but give yourself like
a month time before you decide to go off on a whim and buy shit,
which is another thing, just like buying things off on a whim.
Like it's just I think that we can do a better job at respecting our
money. So something I'm definitely also going to be doing is just making sure
that every single month I'm sitting down and I'm doing all of my finances,
my bookkeeping, everything. And I think that there was something when toxic habit
about money, So maybe I'll talk about that, but yeah, just really
being more responsible and just respecting. Just think about the word respect, respect
your time, respect your money, respect your boundaries, respect your body,
respect your mind, respect everything I want this summer to be about respecting ourselves.
It's not about we have to push ourselves to do one hundred million other
things because we have to do and we have to discipline ourselves so hard because
we are just like shit people and this that is not that. Okay,
let's respect ourselves because we deserve it. So let me read out some of
your guys' habits that you guys. I basically just ask, what are some
toxic habits that you guys want to drop before summer. I'm going to read
them out. I'm not going to give advice for everything one because we'd actually
be here for another hour, but I just want to read them out just
so you guys feel a little bit seen. And maybe I will give a
commentary and a few of them, but just so you guys know, and
honestly, I relate to a lot of them. So a lot of you
guys said laziness, negative self talk, being reckless with money, calorie counting,
and over exercising, binge eating, which if you really struggle with binge
eating, I would highly suggest you get my booked The Ultimate Glow Up Guide,
which will be linked down below, because I talk about how I got
out of binge eating cycles and self sabotaging cycles. So that's definitely a book
for that. Someone said, hating on my body and I'm overweight, but
don't allow myself to dress cute. Like girl, this is not the summer
to not dress cute. I do not give a f okay what your body
is looking like this summer. You are going to dress cute. Okay,
Please dress cute this summer. Please let yourself live. We are not just
living until we get that body. And I get it. I understand that
saying that from somebody who right now in her life is very happy with her.
But I have gone through many mini cycles and I talk about this in
my book of this waiting for my perfect Body Energy. You got to accept
it first. You can still work on your body, you can still do
all the things that you need to do, but allow yourself to live.
You can dress so cute, okay. Someone said spending money and going out
just to please my friends. Yeah, that's another example of you not respecting
yourself, your time, but also your money. Right, Like spending money
and going out just to please other people. At the end of the day,
you got to come back to that bank account. Baby, and they
do not. So do not be wasting your time and your money on people
or doing things that you literally don't even want to do. Someone said morning
time laziness. I think something is actually helping me and actually be showing it
in my weekly vlog, which you guys will see next or you guys will
see on Sunday, when if you are watching this on Monday, you'll see
it on Sunday. That what I've been doing is in the mornings. Like
the kind of like rule that I have for myself, especially like for the
Monday to Friday, is when you wake up, get out, get out
of bed, like get up out of bed, like do not touch your
phone, do not scroll, do not anything until you are out of your
bed. I don't even care if you want to go scroll while you're making
your coffee or something. I don't care. But the first thing that you're
going to do is just get out, like start moving. For me personally,
what I find is the best for me is getting out of bed and
instantly going on a walk in the morning. So That's what I'm going to
be doing. But we're done with the morning laziness. Someone said, too
much screen time. We address that I'll just start tomorrow thoughts. We don't
need to. We know that that doesn't work. We know that consistency it
is most important than you being perfect. Not every single day is going to
be the same, obviously, but how many times in a week are you
showing up is the most important thing. So you know, if you've fallen
down, get back up. Have the mindset of you are somebody who gets
up the moment you can. You're not waiting three extra days until you can
get back up. When you can get back up the next day. We
don't need to do it. It's not needed. And I think what helps
with that is not looking at what you did previously as you ruin something or
you messed up in the first place, you didn't You're fine, get back
up. Someone said using alcohol to mask social anxiety instead of addressing it in
a healthy way. Yeah, like I think, I mean, we could
go into a whole episode of that and like confidence and stuff, but I
think when it comes to if you find yourself using substances to be able to
actually go into something and do something, whether it be around a certain person
or be in a relationship or you know, go out to social events,
I would make the rule of you're not going to engage in no social events
or engage with these people until you're able to do these things without using the
substance. So that might look like setting some boundaries and not being around these
people, places, or things until you understand why you need these things in
the first place, and to obviously slowly work your way up to actually doing
these things. But just removing yourself from these people, places, and things
sometimes can be helpful. Like okay, well, you know what, I
can't socialize unless I drink. So right now in my life, I'm not
going to go into these social situations because this isn't serving me anyways. And
the only way that I need that I can do this is if I'm drinking.
Is it doesn't make any sense now taking inventory of like okay, well
is it the people that you're around? Why do you feel like you have
to drink? Is it like there's a whole thing, So we can go
into that. But yeah, definitely work on that and maybe that could be
your goal. Someone said, eating my feelings again, I dress that in
my book. Someone said smoking. Okay, actually I want to talk about
this. So when it comes to consumption, drinking, smoking, even consuming
maybe foods outside of your quote unquote diet or reality TV shows things that are
kind of not necessarily like the most healthy if we can need to do them.
I personally am like a very balanced person, So you know, I'm
not saying that you can. I don't think we need to always cut everything
out of that's not what we want. But I don't know when I talked
about this. Maybe I talked about this in in one of my YouTube videos,
but I talk about this thing called planned consumption. So if you want
to consume something, plan it out. So instead of just oh, I'm
gonna smoke whenever, because I can just let my smoke, sorry, let
myself smoke every single day, or you know, go out with my friends
for happy hour every single day or whatever. Plan it. Friday night's gonna
be my night where I have a wine down, I have a glass of
wine, I have some reality TV show, whatever the case. Or on
the weekends, Saturday nights are gonna be my nights where I go with my
girlfriends, this, that, and the third make it planned versus just whenever
the hell you want. I think has really helped me. And then you
also kind of look forward to it. Okay, someone said, looking at
muted stories, ain't that some self sabotage right there? That is so funny.
And I'm only saying that as it's funny because like, obviously, I
feel like we've all done this at one point. Maybe I don't know.
I remember when I used to do this. I don't do this anymore.
I honestly don't even mute stories because it's like just unfollow like honestly, like
on like, that's what I think. But I get it because there's some
people who, well, I guess it depends on what you're doing. I
think this in the context of guys, though, That's what I'm thinking,
So maybe it's not. But I remember when I used to like mute someone's
stories, but you know, it was usually like a guy. But I
would still go back and look at them. Please just enough. I don't
even know what else to say, other than we can't be wasting our time
watching other people's It comes back to like, it's either you or them.
It's either you or them. You are really gonna tell me that you're gonna
sit throughout your day, You're gonna go out of your way to go type
in somebody's name that you muted to go look at their stuff? Who gives
an F? Who gives an F about what they're doing? I promise you
they're not doing anything that you need to know about, not a single thing.
And quite frankly, if you've muted their stories for a reason, you're
probably trying to avoid them or trying to avoid triggering yourself. So stop doing
it. Okay, you will not be triggered, or they will. They'll
be irrelevant if you make them. Okay. So yeah, that's all I'm
gonna say about that. Someone said going to bed late being stressed about finances.
Side note about being stressed about finances. You really think that stressing about
finances is gonna make your financial situation better? The answer is no. Trust
me. I've been there. So just a reminder anytime that you're stressing,
it's not gonna make it better. It is not gonna make it better.
It is not gonna make it better. I would suggest you go and watch
some of my financial videos on YouTube for the podcast. Sorry, I kind
of like my brain was not connecting there. Just type it in And I've
talked about this before because I've been there, Like I'm saying this like very
quick advice, but I get that, Like I understand that, Like finances
are definitely a stressor, but you'll never it's not gonna help. Someone said,
doom scrolling right when up and right before going to bed. Replace it
with something else. If you want a doom scroll, doom schrol. But
what you're not gonna do is do that first thing in the morning. And
what you're not gonna do is do that like the last thing before you go
to sleep. So get a book, take your phone, like use the
time that you're on your phone outside of your bed, Like coming back to
the getting up out of your bed before you even touch your phone. Things
like that, Like replace the habit. We're not doing that. Someone said,
avoiding checking your bank account. One thing you're not going to do is
avoid checking your bank account anymore. What you're not going to do is that,
you know why, because you're creating more stress for yourself by avoiding the
situation. I know this. Please, you can do it. You can
do it. You can do it. You can do it. You need
to have this mindset in your mind. You can handle whatever you see.
You can handle your finances. You are somebody who can handle their finances.
You are somebody who is responsible. You are somebody who sits down and makes
a budget and can figure it out. I promise you that you avoiding your
bank account anxiety is ten times worse just because you're avoiding it. This is
not to mean that when you look at it, you won't be scared or
you won't be a little bit anxious, but that anxiety will lessen over time
when you start to be consistent with checking your bank account and seeing where you
spend your money. This is not the summer where we're gonna go broke.
We're not doing it. We're not doing it. We're not doing it,
someone said, comparing myself to people on social media. Yeah, you're not
doing that either. That's not happening talking to men. Whenever I feel insecure
about myself, what's on the return on the investment, it's short term,
short term gain, babe, we know this. You're gonna feel good for
three seconds, and then what happens when that guy ends up probably not giving
you the attention that you want, or you realize this is not the guy
that you want attention from, or that it's just fleeting. So you really
sometimes have to think about the consequences of your actions before you do it,
more than actually just doing it on a whim, because that's what helps me
in the times that we actually That's what helped me for sure when I used
to do that kind of stuff is I would remind myself before I did it,
how am I going to feel when I don't get that text back or
when this is no longer making me feel good? Because it's it's gonna feel
good for like a second, but then it's not same thing when it comes
to like binge eating. And I know binge eating is way deeper than just
even thinking like this, and I talk about it in my books, so
like understand that what I'm saying is not as easy said and done. But
you know, just thinking about oh, like I really want to indulge in
this food. Okay, Well, you're gonna feel good for an hour,
and then how are you going to feel for the rest of the entire day.
Think about the rest of the entire day. Think about your stomach,
Think about your mindset, Think about the way you're gonna view yourself. Think
about the habits that are going to follow because you're gonna go into this spiral.
Think about every single thing that you're gonna feel after you do that,
it's not gonna be worth it. So I know it's not as easy as
thinking about those things in the moment, because you tend to do things out
of a trigger, out of a place of just not even thinking. But
there's definitely some times where you can kind of think about those things. And
I think even when it comes to like texting, like think about it,
Like before you text that person, how are you gonna feel afterwards? How
are you gonna feel tonight when you go to sleep? How are you gonna
feel tomorrow when you wake up? Someone said never knowing what I want and
feeling incapable of being successful? Well, if you continue to tell yourself that
you're gonna be incapable of being successful, you won't be successful. So,
like, if you're struggling with being successful in your life, what are you
telling yourself about if you can, you have to tell yourself that you can.
I don't care if you believe it or not. You're gonna be successful.
What are you gonna do? Obviously you're gonna be successful. You're gonna
show up, you're gonna get it done, You're gonna find the job,
you're gonna get the money, you're gonna get the whatever you're gonna get.
We know this, Like, let's remember our truth. We know this.
It's gonna happen. So what is the point and having these thoughts? This
is what you know? What? This is what I was thinking the other
day when you need to become the observer of these thoughts. Okay, what
you guys do so much. And I've been a victim of doing this as
well, and I have to remind myself of this. So when I say
you guys, it's me as well. But I'm speaking to you guys.
What you guys do is you have these thoughts, right, these negative thoughts,
and you forget that they're honestly just little dark clouds sometimes in the sky,
and that you can let them pass. But what you do is you
completely attach your entire identity to this this cloud, and you let this cloud
bring you on a freaking world tour and allow you to spiral. And you
allow this cloud, meaning your negative self talk, your doubts, shit that's
not true about you. You let that determine your worth. You let that
make you decide who you are in your life. And you don't have to
do a single thing. You need to detach from that cloud. When you
have a doubt, when you have something that's not serving you, we know
by now it is not our truth. Enough enough with the stressing, enough
with the second guessing, the comparing, it's all bullshit. We know that.
So when we see or feel, or hear or observe these negative thoughts,
because they come, you know, especially if you're trying to reprogram your
mind, it comes. They get less and less, but they're still sometimes
there. What you need to do is understand it's just the cloud. Detach
yourself from it. Stop making that a part of your identity. It's not
your identity, and let it pass. Let it pass. And it's gonna
take some time, because what you're gonna do is you're gonna realize that you've
spiraled into that cloud. You're not even gonna realize that you're in that cloud
until you're goddamn in it and you have to freaking pull yourself back out.
But understand, you have the control to let the cloud pass, because I'm
the observer. Just observe it. Oh my god, Wow, that's a
rude thought. That's an irrelevant thought. That's a thought that doesn't serve me.
I choose to respect my time. I choose to respect myself and my
truth. And what I'm not gonna do is go in that spiral. I'm
good. I'm good on that. Okay. So when you have those doubts,
that shitty like a negative self concept that keeps coming back up, let
it pass. Stop attaching yourself to everything, Stop attaching yourself to people who
are not serving you. Stop ruminating in what someone said over here that's not
favorable to you. And I even think about this when it comes to like
negative comments on social media. I have a choice. Every single time I
get something that is not favorable. I can sit there and I can dwell
in it, and I can fall into it, and I can spiral about
it and I can just second guess, or I can observe it for what
it is, which is nothing to do with me, nothing to do with
me, and continue on with my life. It's my choice. Anyways,
that was a little bit of a rant. Someone else said, eating too
much processed foods because I'm too lazy to cook something. Listen, you need
to create one hour out of your day to cook something for yourself. And
I'm saying this to myself honestly, because this is ridiculous. It's really ridiculous.
You can find time in your day to make food. And I know
this because like the way that I make everything so much more difficult than need
be, when realistically, what it takes for me to make let's say,
a processed meal is honestly like not as much shorter of time than it would
to just make like a healthier meal. Like sometimes when I'm like even and
I even think with this when it comes to oh my god, okay,
I think was this when it comes to uber eats, uh, or even
if I'm going out to like go eat something, which I do a pretty
good job of eating at home, so I don't really have too much of
this issue, but when it comes to uber eats, like, okay,
you this because this is sometimes what we do. Oh well, I don't
want to cook, like I don't want to clean, I don't want to
cook, I don't want to whatever, and I'm just gonna order food,
okay, because like it just takes too much time or something. But actually
it would take you less time to cook a damn meal at home than it
would to find what it is that you actually want from uber eats for you
to put in the order, for you to wait for the order, for
you to have to go downstairs or get out of your bed to go do
it and then eat it, like you could have made a whole meal in
that time. So enough with that and thinking about some of your toxic habits
probably that you have throughout the week. You have enough time to make food
and that's that. And if you have to wake up ten extra minutes early
so you can make breakfast instead of going to Tim Morton's every single morning to
get a bagel, that's not even good for you. You need to do
it, Like what are we doing? Someone says, always thinking someone else
knows the answer? I definitely need to make an episode about this because this
has definitely been my struggle in my life for sure. But I'm just this
is what I'm gonna say. It was this as the cloud situation, because
you are very obviously aware that you tend to think that everyone else knows the
answer when you clearly know that not everyone knows, like nobody knows what the
fuck's going on, by the way, like even me, I'm speaking out
of experience and this that. But the end of the day, it's like
it's your life. You have to decide what goes. Understand that. Understand
that until the day you pass over. Okay, you will know. You
can get guidance, you can get inspiration, you can get motivation. But
at the end of the day, stop putting people on pedestals. Stop putting
people on this like god, like I don't know a stage, like oh
my god, they they do it the right way, or like they know,
they don't know, they don't decide, Please decide. And then someone
also said skipping self care. So listen, we have a lot of toxic
habits that we need to break. One thing I just want to remind yourselves,
yourselves, remind you guys of, and remind myself of is at the
end of the day, what we are not going to drop is self love.
Okay, loving ourselves through the process of dropping habits, loving ourselves through
the process of evolution and growth and changing, and you know, being grateful
for ourselves, like all of it, every single thing. We need to
love ourselves through this. This is not a time for us to be tyrants,
to hate ourselves, to ruminate on the things that we're not doing,
to continue to ruminate on things if we don't show up one hundred percent,
this is just a kick in the ass that we need. But at the
end of the day, we need to love ourselves through the process, and
we need to be proud of ourselves. Okay, be proud of yourself for
whatever you have done. I don't give an f if you haven't even done
much. Okay. That is something that I have been even forgetting. As
much as yes, I have been disrespecting my time and my energy and my
money and this that in many ways, I've also been not acknowledging how amazing
I am. I've been disrespecting the fact that I have worked so hard to
get where I'm at in my life. And I just when I mean disrespect,
I just mean haven't been acknowledging that. Okay. So I want you
to also acknowledge the things that you do do the things that you do,
continuously show up for for yourself, and that you will continue to do it
because you always will because it's you, duh. Okay. So anyways,
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