WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.120 --> 00:00:03.120 Hi everyone, and welcome back to their podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.160 --> 00:00:06.519 Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.559 --> 00:00:10.080 your mind and become more self awares so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:10.080 --> 00:00:16.120 past version of yourself. Happy Monday. How are we doing? I had 5 00:00:16.160 --> 00:00:21.679 a full blown death and rebirth. Okay, if you guys, remember I 6 00:00:21.719 --> 00:00:27.280 said last week I kind of mildly had a cold, but I was doing 7 00:00:27.359 --> 00:00:32.079 fine. I was wrong. I ended up getting so much more sick than 8 00:00:32.119 --> 00:00:38.600 I even thought it was a full blown head cold fever. I was dying, 9 00:00:38.960 --> 00:00:44.039 Okay. So I am just now coming out of this dark hole. 10 00:00:44.200 --> 00:00:47.880 And let me tell you one thing I do know is that I am sick 11 00:00:47.960 --> 00:00:51.439 of my shit, Okay, And this is what today's episode is going to 12 00:00:51.439 --> 00:00:55.159 be about. Honestly. I want to talk about toxic habits that we are 13 00:00:55.200 --> 00:00:59.399 going to be dropping before summer, because rist fall, summer's like really around 14 00:00:59.439 --> 00:01:02.759 the corner. How is it already May? Second week of May? I 15 00:01:02.759 --> 00:01:07.120 guess second or third? Second, We'll just keep it with second, and 16 00:01:07.840 --> 00:01:10.920 I just I want to do better. I want to do better for myself. 17 00:01:11.000 --> 00:01:11.959 I want to do better for you. Guys. I want you guys 18 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:17.959 to do better for your guys's selves. I just feel like we need to 19 00:01:18.760 --> 00:01:23.079 ramp it up. What we are not going to do is waste this beautiful 20 00:01:23.159 --> 00:01:29.120 summer that we have amongst us, to being lazy, to not living up 21 00:01:29.159 --> 00:01:33.120 to our potential, like we need to make ourselves proud, Okay. And 22 00:01:33.920 --> 00:01:38.359 when I was sick, it really did hit me. I came to a 23 00:01:38.439 --> 00:01:42.359 lot of realizations, as Kylie Jenner would say, and I just thought about 24 00:01:42.480 --> 00:01:48.159 the past I don't know, six months of my life. And while on 25 00:01:48.159 --> 00:01:51.760 one hand, I love myself, I show up for myself. I'm not 26 00:01:51.840 --> 00:01:55.040 hard on myself. I do the things that I need to do, But 27 00:01:55.640 --> 00:02:00.959 are there things that I have been slacking on or doing the bare minimum on 28 00:02:00.959 --> 00:02:05.200 one hundred percent? And when I was sick, I was just thinking about 29 00:02:05.239 --> 00:02:08.000 all these things, like, you know what, it's not even that I'm 30 00:02:08.039 --> 00:02:12.280 in this energy of Alicia. You just needed to do more because you've been 31 00:02:12.319 --> 00:02:15.919 so lazy and oh my god like toxic productivity. You got to get more 32 00:02:15.960 --> 00:02:20.759 done things like that. It's not even that energy. I just genuinely know 33 00:02:21.039 --> 00:02:24.159 that I have so much potential that I could just be doing more and being 34 00:02:24.159 --> 00:02:29.319 the best version of myself and really showing up for myself. I want to 35 00:02:29.360 --> 00:02:31.400 respect my time more. I want to respect myself more. I want to, 36 00:02:32.240 --> 00:02:36.120 you know, make myself proud. I want to look at the end 37 00:02:36.199 --> 00:02:38.360 of this summer, Like when the end of the summer comes, I want 38 00:02:38.400 --> 00:02:42.280 to look back and say, Yeah, I made myself proud. YEP, 39 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:45.719 I showed up for myself. YEP, I didn't waste my summer away. 40 00:02:46.400 --> 00:02:49.240 And I feel like there's probably a lot of you guys that can relate. 41 00:02:49.479 --> 00:02:53.520 I think naturally we go through ebbs and flows of periods of our life where 42 00:02:53.000 --> 00:02:57.199 maybe we're not showing up the best, and there's many reasons why we don't 43 00:02:57.240 --> 00:03:00.560 need to dive into that. We don't need to be mad at ourselves or 44 00:03:00.400 --> 00:03:04.439 ruminate on what we haven't done. Okay, the past is the past. 45 00:03:05.439 --> 00:03:09.479 Let's just focus on the next six months, the next summer. Whenever you 46 00:03:09.520 --> 00:03:13.400 listen to this, I know some of you guys you're technically going into your 47 00:03:13.400 --> 00:03:16.560 winter months, so obviously you can just use this as well, but just 48 00:03:16.680 --> 00:03:22.599 for your winter months. But just use this next period of time, new 49 00:03:22.639 --> 00:03:28.039 season of your life to really show up for yourself and obviously being sick. 50 00:03:28.120 --> 00:03:31.680 Of course, you naturally are always just wishing you were better, because it's 51 00:03:31.680 --> 00:03:37.120 like, oh my God, like what I would wish to just be able 52 00:03:37.120 --> 00:03:39.120 to wake up with more energy. You never really know what you have until 53 00:03:39.120 --> 00:03:42.479 you kind of lose it type of energy, and I just don't want to 54 00:03:42.800 --> 00:03:47.560 spend that beautiful time that I have this summer thinking like that or looking back. 55 00:03:47.639 --> 00:03:52.680 So we're going to talk about some of the things that I'm going to 56 00:03:52.719 --> 00:03:55.599 be dropping, but I think it's really relevant to you guys as well. 57 00:03:55.639 --> 00:04:00.120 I think a lot of you guys will really relate to some of the things 58 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:02.159 that I'm going to be talking about. I also asked you guys what toxic 59 00:04:02.159 --> 00:04:04.319 habits you guys are going to be dropping, So I'm going to read some 60 00:04:04.360 --> 00:04:09.280 of them out, and I just want this to be kind of like a 61 00:04:09.360 --> 00:04:12.680 kick in the ass, but also just to know that I am with you 62 00:04:12.719 --> 00:04:16.160 guys as well. Understand that the people in this community, our community, 63 00:04:16.439 --> 00:04:21.519 are trying to drop habits as well, so this is a collective thing. 64 00:04:23.000 --> 00:04:26.680 Even yesterday, okay, I was talking to my best friend Dui, and 65 00:04:26.720 --> 00:04:29.279 she's a content creator too, which is a little bit different. If you 66 00:04:29.319 --> 00:04:33.120 aren't a content creator. Obviously we have different lifestyles, but regardless, there's 67 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:38.879 always things that we kind of are like wasting our time with, or we 68 00:04:39.040 --> 00:04:42.720 have more capacity to show up for ourselves and we kind of don't whatever. 69 00:04:42.800 --> 00:04:47.000 But being a content creator it really requires you to be very disciplined because nobody 70 00:04:47.079 --> 00:04:50.040 is knocking on your door and saying, hey, get this out or do 71 00:04:50.160 --> 00:04:55.399 this video or whatever. Now, I've always been very, very very self 72 00:04:55.439 --> 00:05:00.079 motivated from a young age. My dad instilled a lot of discipline and just 73 00:05:00.480 --> 00:05:05.800 respect and like showing up for myself and life and other people for sure when 74 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:11.160 I was younger, so I took that on. Of course, I kind 75 00:05:11.160 --> 00:05:15.079 of became a tyrant on myself because he was very very strict. But also 76 00:05:15.199 --> 00:05:16.720 I had to grow up very very quick when he passed away, when my 77 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:20.560 mom went through addictions, I had to get my ass up in work okay. 78 00:05:21.199 --> 00:05:27.279 And of course, no matter what type of lifestyle you live or know 79 00:05:27.319 --> 00:05:30.040 what was handed to you, we all at some point need to get our 80 00:05:30.079 --> 00:05:32.600 asses up and work okay. We have to get our asses up and discipline 81 00:05:32.600 --> 00:05:35.720 ourselves in a way that's healthy, in a way that's loving, which I 82 00:05:35.759 --> 00:05:40.720 feel like I do a good job at that now, but I've always been 83 00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:46.040 someone for sure that has shown up and done her work. But there's definitely 84 00:05:46.199 --> 00:05:48.680 things, especially being a content creator and the life that I have created for 85 00:05:48.720 --> 00:05:53.399 myself, where yeah, I have a lot of extra time now, I 86 00:05:53.480 --> 00:05:58.519 have an easier time with work. And I was talking to my friend about 87 00:05:58.519 --> 00:06:01.600 this and I was like, dude, I was honestly, sometimes I think 88 00:06:01.600 --> 00:06:08.160 that I was more like self discipline and I got my ass up and worked 89 00:06:08.199 --> 00:06:12.920 more and got so much more done when I was still working my nine to 90 00:06:13.040 --> 00:06:17.759 five serving and building my social media like platform, and mind you, I 91 00:06:17.839 --> 00:06:23.279 see why, because there was there was a fire lit under me, right, 92 00:06:23.319 --> 00:06:26.519 I was motivated. I really wanted this life and I worked so hard 93 00:06:26.519 --> 00:06:28.759 to get it. So it's not to say that I need to live the 94 00:06:28.759 --> 00:06:32.360 same life in terms of working as hard as I did. Maybe in different 95 00:06:32.360 --> 00:06:35.040 ways, of course I do, but it's not even to say that. 96 00:06:35.079 --> 00:06:40.199 But I just look back at the version of me who worked so hard to 97 00:06:40.240 --> 00:06:44.519 get the life that she has now, and what I'm gonna do is waste 98 00:06:44.519 --> 00:06:48.000 my time now, Like that's a disgrace in my opinion, in the most 99 00:06:48.040 --> 00:06:50.519 loving way. Okay, it's kind of a disgrace. And I was telling 100 00:06:50.519 --> 00:06:54.160 my friend this and she was kind of saying the same thing because now she's 101 00:06:54.199 --> 00:07:00.079 a full time creator too, and you know, there's there's no excuse why 102 00:07:00.680 --> 00:07:06.079 I can't do those extra steps of my self care or cook for myself every 103 00:07:06.120 --> 00:07:10.079 single day, or go to the gym all the time when I've created a 104 00:07:10.120 --> 00:07:12.519 lot of time freedom in my life. So I just really wanted to say 105 00:07:12.519 --> 00:07:15.879 that because this is what I thought too, being a content creator. When 106 00:07:15.920 --> 00:07:18.439 you kind of level up your life, you start to live your dream life. 107 00:07:18.480 --> 00:07:21.000 You have more time freedom, you have more money to do the things 108 00:07:21.040 --> 00:07:26.480 that you want. You still need a level of discipline and self respect for 109 00:07:26.600 --> 00:07:30.800 yourself because if not, you will kind of get a little bit lazy. 110 00:07:30.879 --> 00:07:32.199 You know, you will go off on a whim. And it's not to 111 00:07:32.279 --> 00:07:36.120 say that I can't enjoy the luxuries of the life that I have created, 112 00:07:36.240 --> 00:07:43.399 but you kind of will, like just waste your time sometimes, and I 113 00:07:43.439 --> 00:07:45.439 just don't want to do that. And my friend was saying the same thing, 114 00:07:45.480 --> 00:07:51.439 like we are just we're not really we obviously, I really do think 115 00:07:51.480 --> 00:07:56.480 that I've made my younger self proud, but I just think that my younger 116 00:07:56.519 --> 00:07:59.680 self would be looking at me now being like, girl, really, this 117 00:07:59.720 --> 00:08:03.000 is how you're gonna spend your time, like you could be doing more and 118 00:08:03.040 --> 00:08:07.240 not even the sense of even like work, But why aren't you getting up 119 00:08:07.680 --> 00:08:11.439 earlier? Why aren't you doing those extra steps of this, that and the 120 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:16.160 third? You've created this life. So I say all that to say even 121 00:08:16.399 --> 00:08:20.040 myself and my best friend, like we're both going through it. We're both 122 00:08:20.040 --> 00:08:22.519 like, dude, we need to get on a routine again, Like we 123 00:08:22.600 --> 00:08:24.560 need to act as if we're in a freaking nine to five, Like there's 124 00:08:24.600 --> 00:08:28.920 no reason why we need to be sitting around like wasting time and this that, 125 00:08:28.399 --> 00:08:35.039 and just not being really intentional with our time. And even if you're 126 00:08:35.080 --> 00:08:37.799 not a content creator and you are busting your ass and you're working, that's 127 00:08:37.799 --> 00:08:41.440 amazing. I love that for you. I'm proud of you. I'm proud 128 00:08:41.440 --> 00:08:45.360 of myself still. But maybe there's certain areas of your life where you know 129 00:08:45.399 --> 00:08:50.600 you're kind of slacking. And I honestly think as the spring is here and 130 00:08:50.679 --> 00:08:52.840 we're moving into summer naturally, I just think that we can do more, 131 00:08:54.240 --> 00:08:58.679 like come on, the sun is out now, Okay, we don't have 132 00:08:58.720 --> 00:09:01.600 an excuse. Okay, we have nose. The sun is out more, 133 00:09:01.840 --> 00:09:05.240 the days are longer, the weather is nicer. This is the time to 134 00:09:05.320 --> 00:09:09.159 capitalize on doing what we came here to do and being the best versions of 135 00:09:09.200 --> 00:09:15.759 ourselves because, like I don't know, I just think we cried all the 136 00:09:15.799 --> 00:09:18.600 winter because we just really wanted to be summer, and now it's summer. 137 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:22.480 What I am not gonna do is waste my summer away in terms of just 138 00:09:22.519 --> 00:09:28.799 not living out to my full potential. Okay, so that is my little 139 00:09:28.919 --> 00:09:33.000 rant. Let's talk about some of the things that we are gonna be dropping 140 00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:35.440 now. Some of you guys might be on your shit and maybe you guys 141 00:09:35.480 --> 00:09:39.279 already do this and I love this, but if you aren't, then maybe 142 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:43.159 this will just be a little bit of a reminder. And these are definitely 143 00:09:43.200 --> 00:09:48.039 all things and I'm gonna be actively focusing on this spring and summer. Okay. 144 00:09:48.120 --> 00:09:52.799 So the first thing on my list is neglecting the small self care habits 145 00:09:52.840 --> 00:09:58.360 and wellness habits. I feel like this is one of the first things that 146 00:09:58.480 --> 00:10:03.840 always these falls off for me in my life. And when I mean the 147 00:10:03.960 --> 00:10:09.679 small self care slash wellness habits, these are things that if we miss or 148 00:10:09.720 --> 00:10:13.480 if we fall off, it's not going to make the biggest difference, but 149 00:10:13.519 --> 00:10:16.279 it technically does over time, especially if we want to be the most glowed 150 00:10:16.360 --> 00:10:20.639 up, most hot, most healthy version of us, like it actually does. 151 00:10:20.679 --> 00:10:24.799 But on a day to day, like I'll give you example vitamins if 152 00:10:24.919 --> 00:10:26.960 you know, I feel like a lot of us we go through ebbs and 153 00:10:26.039 --> 00:10:31.440 flows of like falling off taking vitamins or doing those extra steps of our self 154 00:10:31.480 --> 00:10:35.000 care or self care mass or things like that, because if we miss it, 155 00:10:35.000 --> 00:10:39.799 it's not the end of the world. We're still going to be healthy 156 00:10:39.919 --> 00:10:43.159 for the most part. We're not going to you know, our hair is 157 00:10:43.200 --> 00:10:46.039 not going to get like the worst it's ever been if we don't do that 158 00:10:46.080 --> 00:10:50.759 deep condition or mass like once a week. These are just extra things, 159 00:10:50.080 --> 00:10:54.000 but I just think that these things are actually still very important. So I'm 160 00:10:54.000 --> 00:10:56.639 going to talk about some of the things that I have kind of been slacking 161 00:10:56.639 --> 00:11:01.559 on that I want to re up. So one of them, for sure 162 00:11:01.919 --> 00:11:09.720 is my deep conditioner mass and hot oil treatments, like those extra hair things 163 00:11:09.039 --> 00:11:13.440 that I should be doing once a week because that's what my hair really deserves. 164 00:11:13.480 --> 00:11:18.960 But that is something although I really was consistent with that, especially when 165 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:20.399 I went on my natural hair journey years and years ago. I was very 166 00:11:20.480 --> 00:11:24.799 very consistent. But because that fire is not lit under me, because I 167 00:11:24.840 --> 00:11:28.440 don't have a goal necessarily to like get the most natural hair, because my 168 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:33.080 hair is natural and it's grown and it's beautiful, I still know the benefits 169 00:11:33.080 --> 00:11:35.559 of doing that for my hair, and I want that to still be a 170 00:11:35.600 --> 00:11:41.399 part of my self care. Now, there's obviously things that I no longer 171 00:11:41.440 --> 00:11:46.120 maybe need to do anymore. I don't really know in terms of hair right 172 00:11:46.120 --> 00:11:48.799 now, I can't really think of any but obviously there's things that you just 173 00:11:48.840 --> 00:11:50.879 don't need to always take with you in another season of life. But for 174 00:11:50.960 --> 00:11:56.519 sure I should and still want to be doing these things. So doing those 175 00:11:56.960 --> 00:12:01.679 extra steps of that hair routine that you have. Obviously we have different ones. 176 00:12:01.720 --> 00:12:07.720 But even when it comes to caffeine, Okay, this is something another 177 00:12:07.799 --> 00:12:11.440 thing that I it's not actually even neglecting. It's more well I guess it 178 00:12:11.519 --> 00:12:15.720 is, but it's more doing more of this when I should be actually doing 179 00:12:15.799 --> 00:12:20.039 less. Is I go through periods of time where I will drink coffee, 180 00:12:20.120 --> 00:12:22.759 like first thing in the morning, which that's a habit I'm breaking. But 181 00:12:22.919 --> 00:12:28.559 also I will get a second cup of coffee in the middle of the day 182 00:12:28.720 --> 00:12:31.879 if for some reason I'm feeling like it, because I know that it's not 183 00:12:31.879 --> 00:12:35.480 gonna make that much of a difference to me, because coffee doesn't really wire 184 00:12:35.600 --> 00:12:37.080 me that much. Like some people get a lot of anxiety and stuff with 185 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:41.080 coffee. I don't really. But it does give me a little bit of 186 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:43.320 a pick me up. But I also know that it's not necessarily the best 187 00:12:43.320 --> 00:12:46.879 thing for me to do. But I will go through phases of just doing 188 00:12:46.919 --> 00:12:50.840 that, and I don't like do like I don't need to be doing that. 189 00:12:50.919 --> 00:12:54.480 Not only is it just like it's a waste of money, like you're 190 00:12:54.799 --> 00:12:58.000 making coffee at home, but also you're grabbing a second cup, Like we 191 00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:01.720 don't need to be doing that. In terms of nutrition and like nourishment for 192 00:13:01.759 --> 00:13:05.200 your body, you could be having something else that is not caffeine. It 193 00:13:05.399 --> 00:13:11.159 just it's not needed. Another thing. My upper body days. Where are 194 00:13:11.159 --> 00:13:13.600 my upper body days at the gym? Where are my core days at the 195 00:13:13.639 --> 00:13:20.879 gym? Why am I not going to the gym Monday to Friday consistently like 196 00:13:20.960 --> 00:13:24.840 a full workout? Now, listen, I have been going to the gym. 197 00:13:24.919 --> 00:13:28.120 I do at least two days weightlifting and it's usually lower body days, 198 00:13:28.840 --> 00:13:33.440 and then I do hot yoga or I'll do workout classes and I'm always walking. 199 00:13:33.480 --> 00:13:37.200 So like, I feel like, again, I'm doing the base level 200 00:13:37.279 --> 00:13:41.399 things that I need to be doing for my body. But why is my 201 00:13:41.519 --> 00:13:46.039 upper bodies, like upper body days and slash core days always taking a back 202 00:13:46.080 --> 00:13:48.799 seat. I'm always like, Okay, I'll skip itt or like I don't 203 00:13:48.799 --> 00:13:52.000 need to do it. I do need to do it, and I should 204 00:13:52.080 --> 00:13:54.440 be doing it, and I also have the time to do it. So 205 00:13:54.480 --> 00:13:58.200 why am I not doing these things? You know what I mean? I 206 00:13:58.240 --> 00:14:01.960 have not taken my daily vitamins. So those are some of the things that 207 00:14:01.039 --> 00:14:07.440 I'm really thinking about, just those small little self care and wellness habits that 208 00:14:07.519 --> 00:14:13.000 I've been neglecting that should not be neglecting. Now I want to talk about 209 00:14:13.039 --> 00:14:20.639 what helps when it comes to not neglecting these self care habits or wellness and 210 00:14:20.679 --> 00:14:24.919 things that like I'll be doing. And one of them for sure is habit 211 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:31.120 stacking and also replacing an old habit with something new. So I'll give you 212 00:14:31.200 --> 00:14:35.159 an example, because sometimes it's hard to just cut out something that you've been 213 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:39.000 so addicted to. Let's say, if you're always used to having two cups 214 00:14:39.039 --> 00:14:43.639 of coffee a day, for you to just go cold turkey and just not 215 00:14:43.720 --> 00:14:46.639 have that second cup, like your body's gonna feel it, maybe like for 216 00:14:46.759 --> 00:14:50.639 me, if I don't have caffeine, like my body like I will literally 217 00:14:50.720 --> 00:14:54.679 feel it. But also just the habit, you kind of feel really restricted, 218 00:14:56.279 --> 00:15:01.240 and so I like to sometimes either replace or wean myself off. So 219 00:15:01.360 --> 00:15:05.879 if let's say I was trying to wean myself off of coffee, just if 220 00:15:05.919 --> 00:15:07.919 I had one cup of coffee in the morning, what I do instead of 221 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:13.000 just stopping coffee on like Monday morning, when I decide I'm gonna have a 222 00:15:13.080 --> 00:15:16.320 smaller cup of coffee, maybe it's in a smaller glass, or maybe I'm 223 00:15:16.360 --> 00:15:20.559 just pouring less and I'm gonna do less and less and less throughout the week 224 00:15:20.639 --> 00:15:22.639 so that I don't get headaches and that I don't get like a withdraw and 225 00:15:22.720 --> 00:15:26.799 then maybe I'll replace it with something or I'll just be done. That is 226 00:15:26.840 --> 00:15:31.039 like the best way, in my opinion, I've learned how to wean myself 227 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:35.159 off of habits versus just being like oh, I'm not going to drink coffee 228 00:15:35.200 --> 00:15:37.240 at all, or I'm not going to go out with my friends at all, 229 00:15:37.320 --> 00:15:39.840 or I'm not gonna drink or if you smoke wheed or like if you 230 00:15:39.879 --> 00:15:43.360 do whatever, all these like small little behaviors that may be in your mind 231 00:15:43.440 --> 00:15:48.080 or like not the best wean yourself off, Like don't I don't know. 232 00:15:48.120 --> 00:15:52.080 I just don't necessarily think it's that needed to stress yourself out too much about 233 00:15:52.120 --> 00:15:56.720 it. But what I've been doing is replacing the second cup of coffee when 234 00:15:56.759 --> 00:16:00.039 I do want to go and get something with an ice. I've been so 235 00:16:00.279 --> 00:16:04.480 into my ice machas I said this in last week's recap episode. I've just 236 00:16:04.519 --> 00:16:10.399 been super super loving it to the point where I'm gonna try and replace my 237 00:16:10.480 --> 00:16:15.360 morning cup with ice macha like I'm getting there. So anyways, just replacing 238 00:16:15.399 --> 00:16:21.360 little habits habit stacking as well. So for instance, like the other day, 239 00:16:21.399 --> 00:16:23.559 I was thinking I was on I don't know, I was on my 240 00:16:23.600 --> 00:16:29.799 phone scrolling on something and I'm sitting here, like why do I not have 241 00:16:30.840 --> 00:16:33.879 my deep conditioner in my hair right now? If I'm gonna scroll? Why 242 00:16:34.799 --> 00:16:40.519 don't I have my hot cap on with my hot oil treatment in my hair 243 00:16:40.639 --> 00:16:42.360 as I'm doing this? What am I doing? Why am I? If 244 00:16:42.440 --> 00:16:45.840 I'm gonna sit in scroll or if I'm gonna sit and talk to my best 245 00:16:45.879 --> 00:16:49.559 friend for an hour on FaceTime? Amazing, you can do that. Listen 246 00:16:49.759 --> 00:16:56.000 over here. We like to chill. We like to give ourselves like soft 247 00:16:56.000 --> 00:16:57.759 life. We're about that. Okay, not everything needs to be like this 248 00:16:57.879 --> 00:17:03.399 hustle and bustle, but let's be a little bit more efficient with their time. 249 00:17:03.839 --> 00:17:08.000 If I'm watching a YouTube video, I'm gonna watch that YouTube video now 250 00:17:08.079 --> 00:17:11.960 in my washroom as I'm doing my self care my ten step goddamn self care 251 00:17:12.039 --> 00:17:17.559 routine, or my mask or my led light or my freaking hair mask like 252 00:17:17.559 --> 00:17:22.400 I just said. So, just really thinking about how you can squeeze in 253 00:17:22.519 --> 00:17:26.039 some of these small little steps. And also when it comes to happits sacking, 254 00:17:26.599 --> 00:17:30.079 there's other things that you can do. Like let's say every single morning, 255 00:17:30.119 --> 00:17:36.039 you do something that is routine that you already do, so like make 256 00:17:36.039 --> 00:17:40.039 your bed. So if you want to start adding in a new habit of 257 00:17:40.240 --> 00:17:44.319 taking your vitamins every day, but you don't usually take your vitamins, make 258 00:17:44.359 --> 00:17:48.039 it a habit that every single time you were done making your bed, the 259 00:17:48.079 --> 00:17:51.480 next step you're going to take is those vitamins. You're not gonna do anything 260 00:17:51.519 --> 00:17:55.599 other than that. Or let's say you don't make your bed, but you 261 00:17:55.599 --> 00:17:59.839 always make coffee in the morning. When your coffee is brewing, as it 262 00:17:59.880 --> 00:18:02.640 is brewing, go make your bed, or as it is brewing, go 263 00:18:02.680 --> 00:18:04.279 brush your teeth or whatever. I don't know, I don't really brush my 264 00:18:04.319 --> 00:18:07.839 teeth before coffee, but you know what I mean. Things like that. 265 00:18:07.000 --> 00:18:11.759 Just finding ways that you can kind of add in these habits will be helpful. 266 00:18:11.240 --> 00:18:17.920 But also another thing is sometimes we forget to do these small self care 267 00:18:17.920 --> 00:18:23.680 habits or wellness habits because maybe if it's an item skincare, hair, vitamins, 268 00:18:25.200 --> 00:18:29.279 water or whatever, these things are not predominantly in front of us. 269 00:18:29.359 --> 00:18:33.559 So take out your vitamins and put them on your counter. Take your deep 270 00:18:33.559 --> 00:18:36.759 conditioner mask and put it in front of you, like in the washroom, 271 00:18:36.799 --> 00:18:40.279 Like pull out these things that you can actually see, make a list, 272 00:18:40.359 --> 00:18:42.119 like keep it in front of you because if now you're obviously gonna forget about 273 00:18:42.160 --> 00:18:45.880 these things because these are not the most important things in your life. But 274 00:18:45.920 --> 00:18:48.680 if you want to make them important, you have to kind of see them 275 00:18:48.680 --> 00:18:53.920 more often. Okay, another thing that we need to drop is being lazy, 276 00:18:55.359 --> 00:18:57.799 like genuinely just being lazy. Now, this kind of leads into the 277 00:18:57.880 --> 00:19:02.359 neglecting the self care habits. Now, I think a lot of those things 278 00:19:02.599 --> 00:19:07.519 are just because it's not it's not necessary. Obviously these are not on the 279 00:19:07.559 --> 00:19:11.240 top priority list. We have a million things we have to juggle in our 280 00:19:11.279 --> 00:19:15.680 lives, whether it's school, work, health, relationships, all that kind 281 00:19:15.680 --> 00:19:18.400 of stuff, so does get pushed on the back burner. But you know, 282 00:19:19.599 --> 00:19:23.839 and some of you guys did say this, when you guys submitted being 283 00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:27.480 lazy, it creeps up on you. And listen, I've been looking at 284 00:19:27.519 --> 00:19:30.240 some of my habits and thinking and reflecting and being like, damn girl, 285 00:19:30.279 --> 00:19:37.319 you'd be a little bit too lazy for what you are making too many damn 286 00:19:37.400 --> 00:19:42.839 excuses for yourself. So what I have here is like, there's a few 287 00:19:42.839 --> 00:19:47.200 things, and it obviously depends on your lifestyle, but for me, like 288 00:19:47.680 --> 00:19:51.680 not picking up my stuff after I've done something, the way that I leave 289 00:19:51.759 --> 00:19:57.640 my place a mess and not disgusting mess, but just like everything out of 290 00:19:57.680 --> 00:20:03.680 place for no reason, Why don't I take one minute out of my time 291 00:20:03.960 --> 00:20:07.400 to put things back before I'm going on to the next thing. Like enough 292 00:20:07.440 --> 00:20:11.640 with that again, even when it comes to like scrolling on social media things 293 00:20:11.680 --> 00:20:17.400 like that, which we're going to talk about, why am I not doing 294 00:20:17.519 --> 00:20:21.920 my hair care while I'm doing that? If I'm wanting to do that. 295 00:20:22.240 --> 00:20:26.759 Another big thing for me personally is I've been seeing that I've been a little 296 00:20:26.839 --> 00:20:33.759 lazy when it comes to my work, so specifically when it comes to editing. 297 00:20:33.799 --> 00:20:36.880 This is what I've been doing like lately, and it depends on the 298 00:20:36.880 --> 00:20:38.960 season of my life. It depends on the week of my life, to 299 00:20:40.039 --> 00:20:41.720 be honest, when it comes to recording and stuff. So I'm not super 300 00:20:41.720 --> 00:20:45.440 hard on myself, but you know, obviously things can slip. But lately, 301 00:20:45.480 --> 00:20:51.599 what I've been doing is I'm not editing every single day. I will 302 00:20:52.039 --> 00:20:56.759 edit a video in one continuous chunk, which on one hand is not the 303 00:20:56.759 --> 00:21:00.759 worst thing. A lot of people edit like that, But for me, 304 00:21:00.839 --> 00:21:03.319 especially when it comes to my main channel YouTube videos, because I don't even 305 00:21:03.359 --> 00:21:07.079 edit my podcast anymore, I have an editor, but for my main channel, 306 00:21:07.039 --> 00:21:11.559 I vlog, so usually it's like a day or two or three or 307 00:21:11.599 --> 00:21:19.200 four depending I can every single day touch my video and edit a little bit 308 00:21:19.240 --> 00:21:22.720 every single day, so by the end of the week, I will have 309 00:21:22.799 --> 00:21:26.319 the whole video basically done, and I don't have to sit there for eight 310 00:21:26.359 --> 00:21:32.440 hours or however long and edit it. Like, why don't I carve out 311 00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:36.400 an hour every single day to edit my video? I have enough time, 312 00:21:37.119 --> 00:21:38.920 Like I like, I'm making excuses and being like, oh, like, 313 00:21:40.200 --> 00:21:45.480 it's just excuses, laziness. It's not needed. I think. I think 314 00:21:45.519 --> 00:21:48.440 when we talk about social media, and for me, I've just realized, 315 00:21:48.680 --> 00:21:52.720 dude, I actually have way more time than I think. It's actually a 316 00:21:52.720 --> 00:21:56.720 lot of times to do with my excuses, but also social media addiction is 317 00:21:56.839 --> 00:22:00.759 just ridiculous, and we actually just have so much more time. So that's 318 00:22:00.759 --> 00:22:04.400 what I'm going to be doing specifically, is getting on top of my work 319 00:22:04.440 --> 00:22:10.640 stuff. But also when I leave everything to the last minute, the quality 320 00:22:10.839 --> 00:22:15.279 of my editing or the quality of my work sometimes will lack because I'm overwhelmed 321 00:22:15.319 --> 00:22:18.720 and I have so much to do that I obviously do the bare minimum. 322 00:22:18.759 --> 00:22:22.599 So you can even think about this when it comes to school or even work. 323 00:22:22.680 --> 00:22:26.680 I know you have different projects that you work on, Like I remember 324 00:22:26.680 --> 00:22:30.240 when I was at house and wellness coordinator at a tech company. You know, 325 00:22:30.279 --> 00:22:33.200 I showed up every single day. There was definitely work that I had 326 00:22:33.200 --> 00:22:36.880 to like work on every single day that I could have. Well, I 327 00:22:36.920 --> 00:22:38.200 was pretty good at that, but like, yeah, there's just things that 328 00:22:38.240 --> 00:22:42.759 you can always kind of get ahead of or get on top of to make 329 00:22:42.839 --> 00:22:48.319 it less overwhelming when you do it. And yes, could you study all 330 00:22:48.359 --> 00:22:52.559 in one day or do your essay all in one day? Yeah, you 331 00:22:52.599 --> 00:22:55.759 could do that, but is that quality of the essay going to be that 332 00:22:55.880 --> 00:23:00.960 good? Because for me, you know, when I give myself a little 333 00:23:00.000 --> 00:23:03.720 bit more time to work on a video or a little bit more time to 334 00:23:03.759 --> 00:23:07.799 think about a topic. Now, sometimes especially for the podcast, a gem 335 00:23:07.880 --> 00:23:10.680 is a gem, and when it's potent, I go and talk about it. 336 00:23:10.680 --> 00:23:12.880 I don't need to sit on it and overthink it. But with a 337 00:23:12.920 --> 00:23:17.880 lot of other things, if I give myself a few days to think about 338 00:23:17.880 --> 00:23:19.960 it, sometimes I have more insights. Sometimes I'm like, oh, I 339 00:23:19.960 --> 00:23:23.559 should add this in, Like sometimes it's good to give yourself some time to 340 00:23:23.640 --> 00:23:29.119 work on these projects. So I just think that we miss a lot of 341 00:23:29.279 --> 00:23:34.920 opportunity to have something that's really beautiful and our best work because we leave shit 342 00:23:34.960 --> 00:23:38.480 to the last minute, and I'm not trying to do that anymore. Now. 343 00:23:38.559 --> 00:23:41.799 This leads me into the next thing, which is not being on a 344 00:23:41.920 --> 00:23:48.640 schedule and specifically for me, like sleeping whenever I want, like waking up 345 00:23:48.680 --> 00:23:52.920 whenever I want. And I think that this will really help when it comes 346 00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:59.000 to being lazy or even excuses, because I just think I can have more 347 00:23:59.039 --> 00:24:02.559 time to get more things done in my day if I actually get on a 348 00:24:02.640 --> 00:24:06.839 routine. Now, the reason why I haven't really been that strict on myself 349 00:24:06.880 --> 00:24:11.359 with these things is because naturally, I do wake up pretty early. Naturally, 350 00:24:11.720 --> 00:24:15.880 you know, I go to bed around like tennish type of thing. 351 00:24:15.839 --> 00:24:19.079 I do get my work done, like I get things done. But I'm 352 00:24:19.119 --> 00:24:23.680 starting to realize, like, dude, if I had like a Monday personally, 353 00:24:25.079 --> 00:24:27.200 if i had a Monday to Friday schedule where I'm waking up at the 354 00:24:27.240 --> 00:24:33.119 same time every single morning, especially now that the sun is out earlier, 355 00:24:33.319 --> 00:24:36.359 I just want to capitalize on that time, like I have, I can 356 00:24:36.400 --> 00:24:38.359 get so much more done in my day if I wake up at a certain 357 00:24:38.359 --> 00:24:41.359 time versus just sleeping in to kind of like whenever. Again, I wake 358 00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:45.559 up pretty early, but to have that set time, to show up every 359 00:24:45.599 --> 00:24:49.160 single day at a certain time, to have an on in an off time. 360 00:24:49.559 --> 00:24:56.000 Personally, for me, I really do think that that helps with productivity. 361 00:24:56.160 --> 00:25:00.119 It helps, you know, knowing that, Okay, at this time, 362 00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:03.559 I need to get this assignment done, or I need to get this 363 00:25:03.680 --> 00:25:04.680 video done, or I need to get X, Y and Z. Because 364 00:25:04.680 --> 00:25:07.920 if you don't have these things, if you don't have structure, you're gonna 365 00:25:08.319 --> 00:25:11.640 you know, you're gonna leave things until the last minute, or even I 366 00:25:11.640 --> 00:25:15.160 even think, but it's when it comes to cleaning. You could be like, 367 00:25:15.200 --> 00:25:18.160 oh, I'm gonna do my Sunday reset and I'm just gonna clean today. 368 00:25:18.799 --> 00:25:23.799 Okay, what I will do is I'll spend the whole day like diddle 369 00:25:23.920 --> 00:25:30.039 dallying, and in between cleaning, I'm on my phone or this that when 370 00:25:30.119 --> 00:25:33.720 really, if I told myself, Okay, Sunday's my reset day, I'm 371 00:25:33.759 --> 00:25:37.240 gonna give myself an hour to clean, an hour to do this, and 372 00:25:37.319 --> 00:25:40.160 an hour to do that, I will get that shit done in an hour. 373 00:25:40.519 --> 00:25:42.359 But if I don't have that and I just say, oh, like, 374 00:25:42.400 --> 00:25:45.079 today's gonna be my Sunday reset, and it's gonna be a cleaning day, 375 00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:48.960 I'll spend the entire day doing the same thing that I could have done 376 00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:51.200 in an hour, Like I don't want to do that, Like it's just 377 00:25:51.240 --> 00:25:55.240 not necessary. And I think even for me, like I want to have 378 00:25:55.279 --> 00:25:59.319 a good work life balance, and I feel because I were for myself, 379 00:25:59.759 --> 00:26:03.920 because because I don't have that shut off time, I feel like I've never 380 00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:08.559 gotten enough done. I feel like there's always something to do and I'm not 381 00:26:08.680 --> 00:26:11.440 actually productive at all, and I don't like that. So I'm gonna be 382 00:26:11.519 --> 00:26:17.880 going on a like schedule personally for me when it comes to my sleep and 383 00:26:17.920 --> 00:26:21.440 when it comes to my work, like my work week, So I'm gonna 384 00:26:21.440 --> 00:26:22.799 be doing Monday to Friday. And this is what I was telling my friend 385 00:26:23.960 --> 00:26:27.319 the Joy that's a content creator as well, and she was saying she was 386 00:26:27.319 --> 00:26:30.400 saying the same thing. She's like, oh my god, I'm so glad 387 00:26:30.400 --> 00:26:32.519 that you're saying this, because I feel like I've been going through this as 388 00:26:32.519 --> 00:26:34.359 well, Like why am I not getting up at a certain time, like 389 00:26:34.559 --> 00:26:37.720 I could be doing more and I'm still not sticking to a routine blah blah 390 00:26:37.799 --> 00:26:41.960 blah. So whatever lifestyle that you have, you know, maybe tweaking that 391 00:26:42.039 --> 00:26:45.240 routine a little bit. Maybe you're spending a little bit more time at nighttime 392 00:26:45.359 --> 00:26:49.279 just diddle dialing and scrolling on your phone and not having that shut off time 393 00:26:49.799 --> 00:26:52.400 or waking up at a certain time. And again, we don't need to 394 00:26:52.440 --> 00:26:56.640 be tyrants on ourselves. We don't need to be so strict. Obviously, 395 00:26:56.720 --> 00:27:00.000 you don't want to strip away every every type of joy. You want to 396 00:27:00.119 --> 00:27:04.880 give yourself some time. But for me, I know what schedule I can 397 00:27:04.920 --> 00:27:07.559 live up to and what i can work towards, and that's what I'm gonna 398 00:27:07.559 --> 00:27:11.000 be doing. And then on the weekends, I'm gonna kind of give myself 399 00:27:11.039 --> 00:27:14.839 a little bit of flexibility. And I just think, also just for my 400 00:27:15.559 --> 00:27:19.359 work schedule, I want to spend more time throughout the week recording, especially 401 00:27:19.400 --> 00:27:23.279 for my YouTube channel because of the type of content that I'm gonna be recording 402 00:27:23.279 --> 00:27:29.640 this spring and summer, versus like working on the weekends and editing on the 403 00:27:29.640 --> 00:27:33.559 weekends, Like I just keep leaving shit to the weekend, and i just 404 00:27:33.599 --> 00:27:37.839 feel like everything is crammed in and I'm not getting enough done or I'm overwhelmed 405 00:27:37.880 --> 00:27:41.359 and it's just not needed. Like I've been thinking, oh, my god, 406 00:27:41.000 --> 00:27:45.880 I just I just not enjoying the way that my time is spent. 407 00:27:45.160 --> 00:27:48.720 But I'm looking in the mirror being like, Alicia, you're doing this to 408 00:27:48.759 --> 00:27:52.200 yourself, like you are doing The reason why you're feeling like this is because 409 00:27:52.240 --> 00:27:55.599 you don't have a routine, is because you don't have those healthy boundaries. 410 00:27:55.680 --> 00:27:59.519 Is because you won't put your fucking phone down and start reading your book at 411 00:27:59.720 --> 00:28:03.480 nine instead of ten pm, And then you're getting to sleep late, and 412 00:28:03.480 --> 00:28:07.480 then you're you know what I mean. So getting on a routine and a 413 00:28:07.559 --> 00:28:12.079 structured whatever the hell it looks like for you is very important for this spring 414 00:28:12.119 --> 00:28:15.119 and summer. And I think that with spring and summer, that's where we 415 00:28:15.200 --> 00:28:18.200 kind of lose it, right because it's summer, it's fun and this that. 416 00:28:18.279 --> 00:28:22.480 But for me personally again, I want to look back this summer and 417 00:28:22.519 --> 00:28:26.079 be like, I fucking killed it. I killed it this summer. I 418 00:28:26.119 --> 00:28:32.079 had a great summer. I felt like everything was deserving when I did go 419 00:28:32.119 --> 00:28:36.200 out and have a good time and I took care of myself. Like That's 420 00:28:36.200 --> 00:28:38.160 how I want to feel on a week to week basis. I want to 421 00:28:38.319 --> 00:28:41.079 look at the end of the week and be like Damn, I did so 422 00:28:41.279 --> 00:28:45.359 much this week and I'm going to enjoy it this weekend, or I'm going 423 00:28:45.440 --> 00:28:48.279 to enjoy it this night, or I'm gonna whatever, Like I want to 424 00:28:48.359 --> 00:28:52.240 feel like that. And I think that sometimes again, like when you think 425 00:28:52.279 --> 00:28:55.079 about your dream life and when you think about having time freedom, whether you 426 00:28:55.160 --> 00:28:57.759 have it yet or not, really you know, like whether you're living a 427 00:28:57.759 --> 00:29:02.759 lifestyle like me or not. I think sometimes it's like cool, the idea 428 00:29:02.880 --> 00:29:04.799 is cool to be able to do whatever you want, whenever you want, 429 00:29:04.839 --> 00:29:10.359 but it's not rewarding when you do nothing all day. And I'm not to 430 00:29:10.400 --> 00:29:11.599 say that I don't do anything, because I actually do a lot, but 431 00:29:11.880 --> 00:29:15.519 still like it's funny because my friend and I were being like, do we 432 00:29:15.599 --> 00:29:18.480 just go back to nine to five's at this point? Because why do I 433 00:29:18.519 --> 00:29:22.200 feel kind of better with a nine to five type of structure than I do 434 00:29:22.279 --> 00:29:25.559 with this right now? I don't want to go back to nine to five, 435 00:29:25.599 --> 00:29:27.640 And I think that I've worked really hard to get the lifestyle that I 436 00:29:27.680 --> 00:29:33.039 have. But I'm just saying, being an influencer working for yourself, you 437 00:29:33.119 --> 00:29:37.279 still got to have some structure. And I just think that it is really 438 00:29:37.319 --> 00:29:41.839 rewarding. It's just really rewarding to look like at the end of your week 439 00:29:41.880 --> 00:29:44.400 and be like, oh my god, like I woke up every single day 440 00:29:44.440 --> 00:29:47.119 at this time, I did my workouts, I was on my shit, 441 00:29:47.160 --> 00:29:52.160 I took care of myself, and now I can enjoy the time spent and 442 00:29:52.440 --> 00:29:55.200 I can enjoy this summer. This is going to be a great summer, 443 00:29:55.440 --> 00:29:57.680 and I think it's just going to be better knowing that you've kind of showed 444 00:29:57.759 --> 00:30:03.119 up for yourself. Okay, let's talk about the beast, which is social 445 00:30:03.480 --> 00:30:11.240 media consumption. We all shovel with this, okay on some level, and 446 00:30:11.519 --> 00:30:14.519 I think that this is the biggest thing that we really need to nip in 447 00:30:14.559 --> 00:30:18.359 the bud, in the bud, in the butt whatever. Okay, we 448 00:30:18.440 --> 00:30:22.279 need to enough enough, enough enough. We seriously need to get on top 449 00:30:22.319 --> 00:30:26.839 of this nasty habit because what we are not going to do this spring in 450 00:30:26.839 --> 00:30:33.119 summer is waste our goddamn days scrolling, checking, waiting. What are we 451 00:30:33.240 --> 00:30:37.720 doing enough? Oh my freaking god. Okay, listen, So I'm gonna 452 00:30:37.720 --> 00:30:44.359 explain kind of like what like my type of current relationship with social media is. 453 00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:48.400 And I think I've done a very good job also considering I am a 454 00:30:48.519 --> 00:30:55.279 content creator at this, I am a long form content girly, which I 455 00:30:55.319 --> 00:31:00.599 think we are elites. Hello, which is everyone who's watching this or listening 456 00:31:00.599 --> 00:31:03.880 to this audio or who watches YouTube. I think we're elite. I genuinely 457 00:31:03.920 --> 00:31:08.799 think we're elite because I think we have longer attention spans than the average human 458 00:31:08.880 --> 00:31:12.640 being who only likes to go on TikTok okay and listen. Some of you 459 00:31:12.640 --> 00:31:17.319 guys still might like to go on TikTok that's fine, but I think that 460 00:31:18.039 --> 00:31:23.359 if the majority of the times can put your energy into at least watching long 461 00:31:23.400 --> 00:31:29.000 form, I actually think it's just like a healthier way of consuming content if 462 00:31:29.039 --> 00:31:32.200 you are going to consume it, because I just think that it keeps you 463 00:31:32.839 --> 00:31:37.240 on a topic for longer, It doesn't mess up your attention spans so rapidly. 464 00:31:37.240 --> 00:31:41.680 Usually when you're watching a long form thing, you tend to be doing 465 00:31:41.759 --> 00:31:45.920 something like for me, if I'm listening to a podcast, I'm usually on 466 00:31:45.960 --> 00:31:48.240 a walk, or I'm usually like when I used to drive all the time, 467 00:31:48.799 --> 00:31:52.279 i am cleaning. There's not that many times where I'm sitting down and 468 00:31:52.359 --> 00:31:56.359 watching and just like staring. Sometimes I do if I'm like sitting in my 469 00:31:56.400 --> 00:32:00.000 bed and I'm about to go to sleep or something like that. But regardless, 470 00:32:00.039 --> 00:32:02.160 so I don't completely demonize, Okay, so let me just say that. 471 00:32:02.200 --> 00:32:06.720 So that's what I usually do when it comes to consuming. I'm actually 472 00:32:07.359 --> 00:32:09.519 really good at not consuming short form content, which I think that that makes 473 00:32:09.519 --> 00:32:14.000 me feel the absolute most shit. And I think that that's what a lot 474 00:32:14.000 --> 00:32:17.519 of people are talking about when they say I'm doom scrolling or like, I 475 00:32:17.559 --> 00:32:22.480 have this really bad addiction to social media because I just know the feeling, 476 00:32:22.559 --> 00:32:25.559 like it feels like shit to go on TikTok and scroll and then afterwards you're 477 00:32:25.599 --> 00:32:29.680 like, what did I just consume? I don't remember anything that I consumed, 478 00:32:29.680 --> 00:32:31.319 but I feel worse than I did when I went on there. And 479 00:32:31.440 --> 00:32:36.359 I don't tend to feel that when I'm watching a YouTube video, even if 480 00:32:36.359 --> 00:32:39.359 it's a vlog and I'm sitting there or a podcast, like, I don't 481 00:32:39.559 --> 00:32:43.400 usually feel like shit. I actually usually feel better, and it's just a 482 00:32:43.440 --> 00:32:47.000 part of my routine. So this is what I think about short form content 483 00:32:47.880 --> 00:32:51.319 for the most part. And we're not talking about the days where we just 484 00:32:51.400 --> 00:32:52.720 let ourselves scroll. Sure, you can have your day to do that. 485 00:32:53.000 --> 00:32:58.039 I don't even really honestly let myself do that unless I want to like laugh 486 00:32:58.079 --> 00:33:00.680 at something, and I did that a little bit in the winter time. 487 00:33:00.960 --> 00:33:07.079 I would do that. But whatever, understand that it is. It's genuinely 488 00:33:07.160 --> 00:33:13.400 a waste of time to consume short form content on a daily basis. I 489 00:33:13.440 --> 00:33:15.680 personally think so if you can switch from short form to long form, I 490 00:33:15.680 --> 00:33:21.079 would highly suggest that, because ask yourself, what did you actually learn from 491 00:33:21.079 --> 00:33:23.519 all of that? Maybe there's a few things, but thinking about also like 492 00:33:23.559 --> 00:33:28.160 the videos you like or the things that you save. How many times have 493 00:33:28.240 --> 00:33:32.119 you gone back and actually made that recipe or you've actually like bought that thing 494 00:33:32.319 --> 00:33:36.160 that oh, this is a good product that I need to get or whatever, 495 00:33:36.960 --> 00:33:40.920 or just even used any of the tips that that person was telling you. 496 00:33:42.279 --> 00:33:45.480 And that's why I kind of moved off of short from content a lot 497 00:33:45.519 --> 00:33:49.920 when it came to podcasts and even YouTube, because I was like, dude, 498 00:33:50.799 --> 00:33:52.119 like the way that I learn is long form. Anyways, I know 499 00:33:52.119 --> 00:33:54.640 people learn short form, So I'm not gonna beag on it too much because 500 00:33:54.759 --> 00:33:58.640 I get it. People have short attentionments, and I know that you do 501 00:33:58.759 --> 00:34:01.559 learn some stuff from it. I do still create some short form content. 502 00:34:01.599 --> 00:34:06.720 I get it. It's fun like in small doses, but in small doses 503 00:34:06.759 --> 00:34:09.159 it shouldn't be a daily thing. I don't think if you're gonna consume content, 504 00:34:09.199 --> 00:34:13.079 I don't think it should be a daily thing for short form in my 505 00:34:13.079 --> 00:34:17.519 personal opinion. Okay, so there's that, But so there's that. For 506 00:34:17.599 --> 00:34:22.400 me, that's what I kind of do long form versus short form. And 507 00:34:22.679 --> 00:34:29.880 I think something that's been a struggle for me though, is just the checking 508 00:34:29.920 --> 00:34:35.840 like notifications and just going on as just a habit. So it's just the 509 00:34:36.119 --> 00:34:42.159 habit for me that I actually find waste so much time in my day, 510 00:34:42.239 --> 00:34:45.440 Like I'm not actually even consuming that much content, but it's the mere fact 511 00:34:45.440 --> 00:34:50.119 of me opening Instagram one hundred million times throughout the day or my comments like 512 00:34:50.159 --> 00:34:52.960 one hundred million times throughout the day that is just ridiculous. So there's a 513 00:34:52.960 --> 00:34:57.239 few things that I have been doing that's been helpful, and obviously it just 514 00:34:57.280 --> 00:35:02.480 depends on your kind of of relationship towards social media, but maybe this will 515 00:35:02.480 --> 00:35:07.400 help. So, for one, what I've been doing is putting my phone 516 00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:10.880 on D and D and I know that it's not that easy to do for 517 00:35:10.920 --> 00:35:15.199 everyone, even for me, because like I have my manager that might text 518 00:35:15.199 --> 00:35:17.760 me or emails that I'm checking. But at the end of the day, 519 00:35:19.440 --> 00:35:24.079 we don't really need our notifications on all the time. And I'm saying that 520 00:35:24.159 --> 00:35:30.360 because the moment you keep your notifications on where like anyone can hit you up 521 00:35:30.360 --> 00:35:31.920 at any time, and as soon as your phone goes off, basically if 522 00:35:31.920 --> 00:35:37.679 it's around you, you're gonna see it. You're just naturally getting interrupted throughout 523 00:35:37.679 --> 00:35:39.880 your day. That's not necessary. Like half the things that I respond to 524 00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:44.679 when my phone is not on D and D does not need to be responded 525 00:35:44.719 --> 00:35:47.159 to right away. It really doesn't, but I do it naturally because it's 526 00:35:47.159 --> 00:35:50.199 there, and I'm like, oh, okay, well the notification is there, 527 00:35:50.199 --> 00:35:52.719 so I might as well respond now, or I might as respond to 528 00:35:52.760 --> 00:35:55.800 a DM now if I'm on there, so D and D. But a 529 00:35:55.840 --> 00:35:59.719 second thing, and I've done this forever and I've had to because I've had 530 00:36:00.119 --> 00:36:05.320 obviously a lot of notifications, is I turn all my notifications off for every 531 00:36:05.360 --> 00:36:08.840 single social media app, so TikTok, Instagram, YouTube, everything. There 532 00:36:08.920 --> 00:36:14.000 is not a single notification that actually pops up on my phone unless I go 533 00:36:14.079 --> 00:36:16.079 into the app and then that's when I see my likes or my dm So 534 00:36:16.559 --> 00:36:21.840 that is another thing that's really really helped me. Another thing that I'm going 535 00:36:21.880 --> 00:36:25.880 to be doing more though, because that helps. But also I still have 536 00:36:25.960 --> 00:36:32.360 the act of continuously like checking is using screen time, and you know, 537 00:36:34.239 --> 00:36:37.639 using screen time. I don't know if androids have this or if it's just 538 00:36:37.719 --> 00:36:40.119 iPhones. I'm sure androids have something. I have an iPhone. But you 539 00:36:40.159 --> 00:36:44.280 can go in and you can set a screen time for all of your apps 540 00:36:44.320 --> 00:36:47.599 where it basically locks you out after an hour. Now you're gonna do this 541 00:36:47.840 --> 00:36:52.800 and then you're gonna continue to hit ignore limit. But I want you to 542 00:36:52.800 --> 00:36:58.199 stay consistent with keeping that limit on to show yourself just how much you are 543 00:36:58.239 --> 00:37:00.960 addicted to the apps. Like it's actually wild. When I set my limits 544 00:37:00.960 --> 00:37:05.280 to maybe like one hour, it was very clear just how much I was 545 00:37:05.280 --> 00:37:08.360 addicted to certain apps, and like, wow, I can't even So anyways, 546 00:37:08.840 --> 00:37:14.159 using screen time to limit your social media is really good because now I'm 547 00:37:14.199 --> 00:37:15.599 getting to the point where it's like, Okay, in my head, I 548 00:37:15.679 --> 00:37:20.360 know that I only have let's say one hour total of Instagram to be able 549 00:37:20.360 --> 00:37:22.159 to consume. So I'm gonna leave it till the end of the day, 550 00:37:22.239 --> 00:37:24.679 or I'm gonna leave it to a time where it's actually worth it, Like 551 00:37:24.760 --> 00:37:29.000 you will eventually change this habit, but it's gonna take some time. And 552 00:37:29.039 --> 00:37:31.159 I just feel like sometimes we forget that and then we're like, oh, 553 00:37:31.239 --> 00:37:34.400 it just doesn't work for me. So then I'm just gonna keep going on. 554 00:37:34.880 --> 00:37:40.880 And I think also having a structured day for me personally is helpful because 555 00:37:42.280 --> 00:37:45.719 it's like, okay, well, obviously, to completely get off of your 556 00:37:45.760 --> 00:37:51.679 apps for me personally, it's not gonna happen. But because I know there's 557 00:37:51.719 --> 00:37:54.079 a start and there's an end time of what I'm doing for work, I'm 558 00:37:54.119 --> 00:37:59.599 gonna leave my social media consumption until a certain time now something that I'm actually 559 00:37:59.599 --> 00:38:02.239 gonna be because I'm a content creator and I post a lot, especially on 560 00:38:02.320 --> 00:38:06.079 my stories. I post a lot of my stories. I still want to 561 00:38:06.119 --> 00:38:07.599 keep up with you guys. I still love to post, like I still 562 00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:12.880 love the dms and everything. But I'm gonna have set times where I'm posting. 563 00:38:13.000 --> 00:38:15.559 So I'm gonna take regular photos of my day and then I'm gonna go 564 00:38:15.679 --> 00:38:19.760 into the app and I'm gonna just post all of them so that you guys 565 00:38:19.800 --> 00:38:23.280 can see everything. So that way it allows me to stop the habit of 566 00:38:23.320 --> 00:38:28.800 constantly checking, because what I do is when I open the app to post, 567 00:38:29.199 --> 00:38:31.880 naturally I see a notification, naturally, I see somebody DM me, 568 00:38:32.039 --> 00:38:36.320 and then it keeps me on there all the time and I'm constantly checking. 569 00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:38.599 So that's gonna be something that I'm gonna be doing. Same with like comment 570 00:38:38.639 --> 00:38:43.079 sections and things like that, Like I'm gonna be having set times throughout the 571 00:38:43.159 --> 00:38:45.639 day, not even throughout the day, but like every day, I guess 572 00:38:45.760 --> 00:38:50.079 where I'm gonna be checking these things versus just doing it whenever. Because again, 573 00:38:50.119 --> 00:38:52.039 if you don't have healthy boundaries, if you don't say, okay, 574 00:38:52.039 --> 00:38:55.159 at five pm, i'm gonna be done work, or five pm that's when 575 00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:59.480 I'm gonna be checking or whatever, you're just gonna do it whenever because you 576 00:38:59.480 --> 00:39:02.000 you know, no one's really telling you not to do that thing. Also, 577 00:39:02.159 --> 00:39:07.840 I found something on the iPhone where it is like a screen distance thing, 578 00:39:07.559 --> 00:39:12.480 which I felt was helpful when I actually had a really bad head cold 579 00:39:12.480 --> 00:39:15.599 because actually I was really off my phone and it was so amazing. I 580 00:39:15.599 --> 00:39:19.039 feel like my mental health was so freaking good because I was barely on my 581 00:39:19.079 --> 00:39:21.719 phone because I couldn't even look at a screen, so all I was doing. 582 00:39:22.039 --> 00:39:23.480 I have this like little mini it's not an iPad, but it's like 583 00:39:23.519 --> 00:39:28.920 an Android thing where I play white noise when I go to sleep, and 584 00:39:28.960 --> 00:39:30.800 so it's off my phone so I don't have to use my phone. But 585 00:39:31.280 --> 00:39:36.800 I was watching a bunch of long form like YouTube videos and completely off of 586 00:39:36.840 --> 00:39:40.199 my phone, and it was like bright or sorry, dim light, and 587 00:39:40.280 --> 00:39:43.920 it felt it just oh my god. I just felt so good just not 588 00:39:44.119 --> 00:39:47.760 checking a million times on Instagram and just not watching people's lives. And so 589 00:39:49.719 --> 00:39:52.079 with that, I found this little thing. It's called scream Time. You 590 00:39:52.119 --> 00:39:55.599 can go in your settings and probably find it, and it basically measures the 591 00:39:55.639 --> 00:40:00.280 distance of the like how far you're holding your phone to your and it will 592 00:40:00.320 --> 00:40:04.840 pop up like a thing and say like you're holding your phone too close and 593 00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:08.880 to move it back. And I feel like just the the notification of doing 594 00:40:08.920 --> 00:40:17.159 that allows me to kind of distance myself from my phone and like subconsciously remind 595 00:40:17.159 --> 00:40:21.519 myself that, like get away from your phone. In a way, it's 596 00:40:21.559 --> 00:40:22.679 weird, but it's actually cool. So I don't know, you can try 597 00:40:22.719 --> 00:40:29.920 that, but overall obviously just thinking about the type of relationship that you have. 598 00:40:30.239 --> 00:40:35.760 I also just think the mere fact of reminding yourself that what do you 599 00:40:35.840 --> 00:40:39.360 get from watching people's lives and stories all the time? And I even think 600 00:40:39.360 --> 00:40:43.119 about that myself too, Like sometimes when I'm clicking people's stories, it's just 601 00:40:43.159 --> 00:40:45.400 because it's mindless. But I'm like, dude, I don't need to be 602 00:40:45.679 --> 00:40:50.039 looking at this person's life. It doesn't matter. I'm so sorry, Like 603 00:40:50.079 --> 00:40:52.679 I love you, You're amazing, but I don't need to be knowing what 604 00:40:52.679 --> 00:40:57.559 you're doing in your day. How how is that relevant to me? I 605 00:40:57.599 --> 00:41:01.440 should be the most important thing and the most like non narcissistic thing, way 606 00:41:01.480 --> 00:41:05.280 whatever, I don't even care if it comes across as that, but I 607 00:41:05.320 --> 00:41:07.519 should be the most important thing. I should be caring more about my life 608 00:41:07.559 --> 00:41:13.599 than somebody else's. Why am I stopping through the day to go check up 609 00:41:13.599 --> 00:41:16.960 on somebody else's life? That's like posting random shit. It's really irrelevant. 610 00:41:17.320 --> 00:41:22.679 Now if you are consuming people's content, because I get it, you like 611 00:41:22.719 --> 00:41:25.639 to, you know, consume a few people's content. Just consume a few 612 00:41:25.639 --> 00:41:30.320 people's content, like make it the forefront, like favorite there thing, or 613 00:41:30.400 --> 00:41:35.400 mute everyone else and only consume the people who really are reminding you of what 614 00:41:35.440 --> 00:41:37.840 you should be doing. So that's what I do actually on YouTube. So 615 00:41:38.320 --> 00:41:43.719 the YouTube videos that I watch are YouTube videos that are like healthy girl routines 616 00:41:43.800 --> 00:41:46.280 and like cleaning routines and like all that kind of stuff. Like kind of 617 00:41:46.360 --> 00:41:50.719 content, not really content that I post if it has anything to do with 618 00:41:50.719 --> 00:41:55.159 self development or mindset stuff, but whatever it is, I always make sure 619 00:41:55.199 --> 00:42:00.119 to only consume content that reminds me of what I should be doing in my 620 00:42:00.199 --> 00:42:02.880 daily life. I'm not watching people for the most part, I really am 621 00:42:02.880 --> 00:42:07.800 not watching people who are doing things that have nothing to do with my life, 622 00:42:08.440 --> 00:42:13.320 just random people doing their daily Like I don't. I use if I'm 623 00:42:13.360 --> 00:42:17.400 gonna consume content as motivation, and that's that and that allows me to actually 624 00:42:17.400 --> 00:42:23.119 get up, and there is definitely room for motivational content. Like I totally 625 00:42:23.599 --> 00:42:29.280 totally know the difference of my actions when I'm watching people who Okay, let's 626 00:42:29.320 --> 00:42:34.039 say commentary social commentary videos. I love those. Those are good videos that 627 00:42:34.079 --> 00:42:37.440 I like to watch when I'm like eating or if it's like I'm done my 628 00:42:37.480 --> 00:42:40.519 work for the day and I'll just like chill. But after watching a social 629 00:42:40.559 --> 00:42:45.800 commentary video, I'm not like motivated to go clean or declutter clutter my place, 630 00:42:45.920 --> 00:42:49.400 or take care of myself or go to sleep at a good time. 631 00:42:49.639 --> 00:42:52.559 But if I'm watching a healthy six am routine, I'm like, damn, 632 00:42:52.599 --> 00:42:55.880 I'm fucking motivated now, Like I gotta get my ass to bed. That's 633 00:42:55.920 --> 00:43:00.880 what I'm watching if I'm consuming content. So just be aware of if you're 634 00:43:00.119 --> 00:43:05.320 consuming content, what are you consuming. Make it motivational, make it like 635 00:43:05.519 --> 00:43:08.280 relevant to you, and everything else is so irrelevant, I promise you. 636 00:43:08.639 --> 00:43:14.079 Okay, the last toxic habit that we are dropping before I read your guys's 637 00:43:14.119 --> 00:43:16.519 ones, which I relate to some of them as well. But the last 638 00:43:16.559 --> 00:43:23.119 thing is not respecting our money. Okay. I feel like this is another 639 00:43:23.159 --> 00:43:30.519 thing where we we gotta check ourselves. We gotta check ourselves. It be 640 00:43:30.800 --> 00:43:35.119 the way you fucking act. Story for swearing. I'm not sorry for swearing, 641 00:43:35.199 --> 00:43:37.239 but like I have to say that because I feel like sometimes we're like 642 00:43:37.679 --> 00:43:40.639 I get some comments being like dude, I guess some comments sometimes people just 643 00:43:40.639 --> 00:43:46.039 being like can you not as if it's not my own podcast? You know 644 00:43:46.079 --> 00:43:49.760 what I mean? I don't know. And again, I'm trying to respect 645 00:43:49.760 --> 00:43:52.599 everyone who listens to this podcast because there's so many people. But it's just 646 00:43:52.599 --> 00:43:57.159 like sometimes people need to understand that the content creator is also their own person 647 00:43:57.320 --> 00:44:00.719 and if they swear, they swear. So anyways, sorry, not sorry. 648 00:44:01.000 --> 00:44:06.199 We need to respect our money. Okay, this is something that I've 649 00:44:06.199 --> 00:44:08.559 gotten very good at. For sure. I am so proud of myself and 650 00:44:08.639 --> 00:44:12.599 I say this and this is you know what, I'm gonna have a little 651 00:44:12.719 --> 00:44:15.360 rant about being proud of yourself. But I'm very very proud of myself for 652 00:44:16.639 --> 00:44:20.960 you know, like all of the crappy, toxic habits that I used to 653 00:44:21.000 --> 00:44:23.119 do when it comes to spending, I'm definitely better with my money. I 654 00:44:23.239 --> 00:44:29.320 definitely think about things before I buy them, you know. But we slip 655 00:44:29.400 --> 00:44:34.920 up sometimes, Okay, we go into those little like lazy girl. Like 656 00:44:35.039 --> 00:44:37.679 for me, this is one thing I'll call myself out like Uber eats, 657 00:44:37.840 --> 00:44:44.360 uh, Uber eats stop, like just stop, like there's not a reason. 658 00:44:44.400 --> 00:44:47.800 There's no reason why. If you want to eat out, go and 659 00:44:49.119 --> 00:44:52.679 get your ass up, walk downstairs, go outside, hawk girl, walk, 660 00:44:52.960 --> 00:44:55.519 go get your food. If you really want something from Uber eats, 661 00:44:55.639 --> 00:45:01.000 there is no reason other than if you are a sick or you know, 662 00:45:01.119 --> 00:45:07.519 maybe it's just like something fun to be using Uber eats. Honestly, sorry, 663 00:45:07.599 --> 00:45:08.960 guys, my camera heated up, so I kind of forget where I 664 00:45:09.000 --> 00:45:13.280 left off. But Uber eats, we don't need to be doing it. 665 00:45:13.360 --> 00:45:17.760 I just think that I for sure have been wasting, just not even wasting, 666 00:45:17.800 --> 00:45:21.320 but just not respect I don't know. I just feel like it's not 667 00:45:21.440 --> 00:45:23.719 a good use of my money. And I like to think about things this 668 00:45:23.760 --> 00:45:30.199 way, what is my return on investment? Okay, you don't always have 669 00:45:30.239 --> 00:45:31.440 to be a stickler when it comes to spending money, obviously, and it 670 00:45:31.440 --> 00:45:35.039 depends. It depends on like how much you can have to spend and is 671 00:45:35.199 --> 00:45:38.119 that budgeting is great and like knowing how much money you can spend on certain 672 00:45:38.119 --> 00:45:42.760 things is great. But like I don't know, Like even though I can 673 00:45:42.840 --> 00:45:45.920 spend money on uber eats, I feel like it's not the best return of 674 00:45:45.920 --> 00:45:49.119 my investment. I can go walk and grab food. I don't need to 675 00:45:49.159 --> 00:45:52.880 do these things. Like Also, if I want something that is not necessarily 676 00:45:52.360 --> 00:45:59.119 you know of my normal food routine, I can go to the grocery store 677 00:45:59.280 --> 00:46:04.320 and make food and even make some content out of it, but also just 678 00:46:04.400 --> 00:46:07.440 make it a whole vibe, Like make it a whole thing. So just 679 00:46:07.480 --> 00:46:10.360 thinking about the ways that you spend your money and asking yourself, how can 680 00:46:10.400 --> 00:46:15.840 I respect my money more? I think that we slip up sometimes with that, 681 00:46:15.079 --> 00:46:23.039 and I think even when it comes to I don't do this anymore, 682 00:46:23.559 --> 00:46:28.280 but I do think about when I was in college. I just think that 683 00:46:28.320 --> 00:46:32.360 I didn't respect my money when it came to going out and drinking every weekend, 684 00:46:32.679 --> 00:46:38.679 or going shopping to buy outfits to go drinking every weekend. Like I 685 00:46:38.719 --> 00:46:43.440 spent so much money on that kind of stuff. Where was it really the 686 00:46:43.480 --> 00:46:46.800 best return on my investment? No? And does it always have to be? 687 00:46:47.119 --> 00:46:52.320 No? But I could have respected my money more by saving it, 688 00:46:52.440 --> 00:46:55.440 you know, or again just not spending it on things. So that's gonna 689 00:46:55.440 --> 00:47:00.599 be definitely something that I do more like cutting out the uber eats. Also, 690 00:47:00.880 --> 00:47:04.400 what else do I have? I'm just obviously even asking myself in the 691 00:47:04.400 --> 00:47:08.239 moment, do I really need this thing? Will I live without it? 692 00:47:08.280 --> 00:47:14.880 And I do this when I feel like I really want to impulse buy something, 693 00:47:14.880 --> 00:47:17.639 and I'm like so like I like hyperfixate on this thing that I need 694 00:47:17.679 --> 00:47:20.320 and like Oh my god, Yes, it's going to change my life and 695 00:47:20.360 --> 00:47:22.800 I need this right now. Da da da, And I sit here for 696 00:47:22.800 --> 00:47:27.800 a second and I'm just like okay, But like in a week, will 697 00:47:27.920 --> 00:47:30.559 I be okay if I don't get it or if I do get it, 698 00:47:30.000 --> 00:47:34.199 how much will it really change my life? Like do I really need it? 699 00:47:34.280 --> 00:47:37.119 And do I really even need it right this second? This is another 700 00:47:37.159 --> 00:47:42.679 thing, like you know, have a monthly budget, create a little savings 701 00:47:42.679 --> 00:47:45.880 account where you can buy the things that you want, but give yourself like 702 00:47:45.000 --> 00:47:49.880 a month time before you decide to go off on a whim and buy shit, 703 00:47:49.960 --> 00:47:52.599 which is another thing, just like buying things off on a whim. 704 00:47:52.679 --> 00:47:55.760 Like it's just I think that we can do a better job at respecting our 705 00:47:57.239 --> 00:48:04.239 money. So something I'm definitely also going to be doing is just making sure 706 00:48:04.320 --> 00:48:07.039 that every single month I'm sitting down and I'm doing all of my finances, 707 00:48:07.039 --> 00:48:12.920 my bookkeeping, everything. And I think that there was something when toxic habit 708 00:48:12.960 --> 00:48:16.239 about money, So maybe I'll talk about that, but yeah, just really 709 00:48:16.280 --> 00:48:21.480 being more responsible and just respecting. Just think about the word respect, respect 710 00:48:21.559 --> 00:48:24.880 your time, respect your money, respect your boundaries, respect your body, 711 00:48:25.000 --> 00:48:31.079 respect your mind, respect everything I want this summer to be about respecting ourselves. 712 00:48:31.360 --> 00:48:36.239 It's not about we have to push ourselves to do one hundred million other 713 00:48:36.239 --> 00:48:38.000 things because we have to do and we have to discipline ourselves so hard because 714 00:48:38.000 --> 00:48:40.840 we are just like shit people and this that is not that. Okay, 715 00:48:42.519 --> 00:48:45.800 let's respect ourselves because we deserve it. So let me read out some of 716 00:48:45.800 --> 00:48:50.559 your guys' habits that you guys. I basically just ask, what are some 717 00:48:50.679 --> 00:48:52.519 toxic habits that you guys want to drop before summer. I'm going to read 718 00:48:52.519 --> 00:48:55.840 them out. I'm not going to give advice for everything one because we'd actually 719 00:48:55.880 --> 00:48:59.119 be here for another hour, but I just want to read them out just 720 00:48:59.119 --> 00:49:01.159 so you guys feel a little bit seen. And maybe I will give a 721 00:49:01.199 --> 00:49:04.800 commentary and a few of them, but just so you guys know, and 722 00:49:04.920 --> 00:49:07.400 honestly, I relate to a lot of them. So a lot of you 723 00:49:07.400 --> 00:49:13.440 guys said laziness, negative self talk, being reckless with money, calorie counting, 724 00:49:13.559 --> 00:49:17.039 and over exercising, binge eating, which if you really struggle with binge 725 00:49:17.079 --> 00:49:21.039 eating, I would highly suggest you get my booked The Ultimate Glow Up Guide, 726 00:49:21.079 --> 00:49:23.719 which will be linked down below, because I talk about how I got 727 00:49:23.719 --> 00:49:30.280 out of binge eating cycles and self sabotaging cycles. So that's definitely a book 728 00:49:30.280 --> 00:49:32.880 for that. Someone said, hating on my body and I'm overweight, but 729 00:49:32.960 --> 00:49:37.880 don't allow myself to dress cute. Like girl, this is not the summer 730 00:49:37.880 --> 00:49:42.920 to not dress cute. I do not give a f okay what your body 731 00:49:43.159 --> 00:49:45.400 is looking like this summer. You are going to dress cute. Okay, 732 00:49:45.760 --> 00:49:51.679 Please dress cute this summer. Please let yourself live. We are not just 733 00:49:51.920 --> 00:49:54.840 living until we get that body. And I get it. I understand that 734 00:49:54.920 --> 00:49:59.840 saying that from somebody who right now in her life is very happy with her. 735 00:50:00.360 --> 00:50:02.440 But I have gone through many mini cycles and I talk about this in 736 00:50:02.440 --> 00:50:08.000 my book of this waiting for my perfect Body Energy. You got to accept 737 00:50:08.000 --> 00:50:10.719 it first. You can still work on your body, you can still do 738 00:50:10.760 --> 00:50:14.679 all the things that you need to do, but allow yourself to live. 739 00:50:15.000 --> 00:50:20.639 You can dress so cute, okay. Someone said spending money and going out 740 00:50:20.679 --> 00:50:23.880 just to please my friends. Yeah, that's another example of you not respecting 741 00:50:24.000 --> 00:50:30.480 yourself, your time, but also your money. Right, Like spending money 742 00:50:30.519 --> 00:50:34.159 and going out just to please other people. At the end of the day, 743 00:50:34.400 --> 00:50:36.800 you got to come back to that bank account. Baby, and they 744 00:50:36.840 --> 00:50:40.800 do not. So do not be wasting your time and your money on people 745 00:50:42.199 --> 00:50:45.159 or doing things that you literally don't even want to do. Someone said morning 746 00:50:45.199 --> 00:50:51.079 time laziness. I think something is actually helping me and actually be showing it 747 00:50:51.119 --> 00:50:54.719 in my weekly vlog, which you guys will see next or you guys will 748 00:50:54.719 --> 00:50:58.360 see on Sunday, when if you are watching this on Monday, you'll see 749 00:50:58.360 --> 00:51:05.800 it on Sunday. That what I've been doing is in the mornings. Like 750 00:51:05.840 --> 00:51:08.239 the kind of like rule that I have for myself, especially like for the 751 00:51:08.280 --> 00:51:12.559 Monday to Friday, is when you wake up, get out, get out 752 00:51:12.599 --> 00:51:15.159 of bed, like get up out of bed, like do not touch your 753 00:51:15.159 --> 00:51:16.880 phone, do not scroll, do not anything until you are out of your 754 00:51:16.880 --> 00:51:21.039 bed. I don't even care if you want to go scroll while you're making 755 00:51:21.039 --> 00:51:22.960 your coffee or something. I don't care. But the first thing that you're 756 00:51:22.960 --> 00:51:27.400 going to do is just get out, like start moving. For me personally, 757 00:51:28.079 --> 00:51:30.679 what I find is the best for me is getting out of bed and 758 00:51:30.719 --> 00:51:34.760 instantly going on a walk in the morning. So That's what I'm going to 759 00:51:34.840 --> 00:51:37.840 be doing. But we're done with the morning laziness. Someone said, too 760 00:51:37.880 --> 00:51:42.440 much screen time. We address that I'll just start tomorrow thoughts. We don't 761 00:51:42.440 --> 00:51:45.960 need to. We know that that doesn't work. We know that consistency it 762 00:51:45.119 --> 00:51:49.639 is most important than you being perfect. Not every single day is going to 763 00:51:49.639 --> 00:51:52.199 be the same, obviously, but how many times in a week are you 764 00:51:52.239 --> 00:51:54.320 showing up is the most important thing. So you know, if you've fallen 765 00:51:54.360 --> 00:51:59.079 down, get back up. Have the mindset of you are somebody who gets 766 00:51:59.199 --> 00:52:02.599 up the moment you can. You're not waiting three extra days until you can 767 00:52:02.639 --> 00:52:05.719 get back up. When you can get back up the next day. We 768 00:52:05.719 --> 00:52:08.119 don't need to do it. It's not needed. And I think what helps 769 00:52:08.360 --> 00:52:13.400 with that is not looking at what you did previously as you ruin something or 770 00:52:13.440 --> 00:52:15.719 you messed up in the first place, you didn't You're fine, get back 771 00:52:15.760 --> 00:52:20.880 up. Someone said using alcohol to mask social anxiety instead of addressing it in 772 00:52:20.880 --> 00:52:25.039 a healthy way. Yeah, like I think, I mean, we could 773 00:52:25.079 --> 00:52:29.519 go into a whole episode of that and like confidence and stuff, but I 774 00:52:29.559 --> 00:52:35.199 think when it comes to if you find yourself using substances to be able to 775 00:52:35.360 --> 00:52:38.719 actually go into something and do something, whether it be around a certain person 776 00:52:38.920 --> 00:52:44.239 or be in a relationship or you know, go out to social events, 777 00:52:44.559 --> 00:52:51.079 I would make the rule of you're not going to engage in no social events 778 00:52:51.199 --> 00:52:55.599 or engage with these people until you're able to do these things without using the 779 00:52:55.639 --> 00:53:00.239 substance. So that might look like setting some boundaries and not being around these 780 00:53:00.280 --> 00:53:04.760 people, places, or things until you understand why you need these things in 781 00:53:04.800 --> 00:53:08.719 the first place, and to obviously slowly work your way up to actually doing 782 00:53:08.719 --> 00:53:12.360 these things. But just removing yourself from these people, places, and things 783 00:53:12.360 --> 00:53:15.360 sometimes can be helpful. Like okay, well, you know what, I 784 00:53:15.400 --> 00:53:19.639 can't socialize unless I drink. So right now in my life, I'm not 785 00:53:19.679 --> 00:53:23.000 going to go into these social situations because this isn't serving me anyways. And 786 00:53:23.039 --> 00:53:25.599 the only way that I need that I can do this is if I'm drinking. 787 00:53:25.639 --> 00:53:30.119 Is it doesn't make any sense now taking inventory of like okay, well 788 00:53:30.199 --> 00:53:31.760 is it the people that you're around? Why do you feel like you have 789 00:53:31.800 --> 00:53:35.480 to drink? Is it like there's a whole thing, So we can go 790 00:53:35.519 --> 00:53:37.760 into that. But yeah, definitely work on that and maybe that could be 791 00:53:37.840 --> 00:53:42.280 your goal. Someone said, eating my feelings again, I dress that in 792 00:53:42.320 --> 00:53:45.880 my book. Someone said smoking. Okay, actually I want to talk about 793 00:53:45.880 --> 00:53:52.000 this. So when it comes to consumption, drinking, smoking, even consuming 794 00:53:52.039 --> 00:53:55.920 maybe foods outside of your quote unquote diet or reality TV shows things that are 795 00:53:57.000 --> 00:54:00.679 kind of not necessarily like the most healthy if we can need to do them. 796 00:54:00.039 --> 00:54:04.840 I personally am like a very balanced person, So you know, I'm 797 00:54:04.840 --> 00:54:07.159 not saying that you can. I don't think we need to always cut everything 798 00:54:07.159 --> 00:54:12.079 out of that's not what we want. But I don't know when I talked 799 00:54:12.079 --> 00:54:14.440 about this. Maybe I talked about this in in one of my YouTube videos, 800 00:54:14.440 --> 00:54:16.800 but I talk about this thing called planned consumption. So if you want 801 00:54:16.840 --> 00:54:22.119 to consume something, plan it out. So instead of just oh, I'm 802 00:54:22.119 --> 00:54:25.159 gonna smoke whenever, because I can just let my smoke, sorry, let 803 00:54:25.159 --> 00:54:30.239 myself smoke every single day, or you know, go out with my friends 804 00:54:30.239 --> 00:54:34.800 for happy hour every single day or whatever. Plan it. Friday night's gonna 805 00:54:34.800 --> 00:54:37.599 be my night where I have a wine down, I have a glass of 806 00:54:37.599 --> 00:54:40.880 wine, I have some reality TV show, whatever the case. Or on 807 00:54:40.960 --> 00:54:44.480 the weekends, Saturday nights are gonna be my nights where I go with my 808 00:54:44.519 --> 00:54:47.239 girlfriends, this, that, and the third make it planned versus just whenever 809 00:54:47.280 --> 00:54:51.159 the hell you want. I think has really helped me. And then you 810 00:54:51.159 --> 00:54:52.960 also kind of look forward to it. Okay, someone said, looking at 811 00:54:53.079 --> 00:54:58.679 muted stories, ain't that some self sabotage right there? That is so funny. 812 00:54:58.760 --> 00:55:00.599 And I'm only saying that as it's funny because like, obviously, I 813 00:55:00.639 --> 00:55:05.000 feel like we've all done this at one point. Maybe I don't know. 814 00:55:05.079 --> 00:55:07.000 I remember when I used to do this. I don't do this anymore. 815 00:55:07.039 --> 00:55:12.480 I honestly don't even mute stories because it's like just unfollow like honestly, like 816 00:55:12.519 --> 00:55:15.119 on like, that's what I think. But I get it because there's some 817 00:55:15.159 --> 00:55:16.280 people who, well, I guess it depends on what you're doing. I 818 00:55:16.320 --> 00:55:20.079 think this in the context of guys, though, That's what I'm thinking, 819 00:55:20.119 --> 00:55:23.039 So maybe it's not. But I remember when I used to like mute someone's 820 00:55:23.079 --> 00:55:25.639 stories, but you know, it was usually like a guy. But I 821 00:55:25.679 --> 00:55:30.360 would still go back and look at them. Please just enough. I don't 822 00:55:30.360 --> 00:55:34.480 even know what else to say, other than we can't be wasting our time 823 00:55:34.559 --> 00:55:37.960 watching other people's It comes back to like, it's either you or them. 824 00:55:37.400 --> 00:55:40.840 It's either you or them. You are really gonna tell me that you're gonna 825 00:55:40.880 --> 00:55:45.760 sit throughout your day, You're gonna go out of your way to go type 826 00:55:45.760 --> 00:55:50.320 in somebody's name that you muted to go look at their stuff? Who gives 827 00:55:50.360 --> 00:55:53.920 an F? Who gives an F about what they're doing? I promise you 828 00:55:55.239 --> 00:55:59.199 they're not doing anything that you need to know about, not a single thing. 829 00:55:59.239 --> 00:56:00.639 And quite frankly, if you've muted their stories for a reason, you're 830 00:56:00.639 --> 00:56:06.400 probably trying to avoid them or trying to avoid triggering yourself. So stop doing 831 00:56:06.480 --> 00:56:10.119 it. Okay, you will not be triggered, or they will. They'll 832 00:56:10.119 --> 00:56:15.519 be irrelevant if you make them. Okay. So yeah, that's all I'm 833 00:56:15.559 --> 00:56:19.960 gonna say about that. Someone said going to bed late being stressed about finances. 834 00:56:20.719 --> 00:56:22.880 Side note about being stressed about finances. You really think that stressing about 835 00:56:22.920 --> 00:56:28.119 finances is gonna make your financial situation better? The answer is no. Trust 836 00:56:28.119 --> 00:56:30.679 me. I've been there. So just a reminder anytime that you're stressing, 837 00:56:30.880 --> 00:56:32.599 it's not gonna make it better. It is not gonna make it better. 838 00:56:34.400 --> 00:56:37.639 It is not gonna make it better. I would suggest you go and watch 839 00:56:37.719 --> 00:56:44.760 some of my financial videos on YouTube for the podcast. Sorry, I kind 840 00:56:44.800 --> 00:56:47.559 of like my brain was not connecting there. Just type it in And I've 841 00:56:47.559 --> 00:56:51.760 talked about this before because I've been there, Like I'm saying this like very 842 00:56:51.840 --> 00:56:53.679 quick advice, but I get that, Like I understand that, Like finances 843 00:56:53.719 --> 00:56:58.440 are definitely a stressor, but you'll never it's not gonna help. Someone said, 844 00:56:58.719 --> 00:57:02.000 doom scrolling right when up and right before going to bed. Replace it 845 00:57:02.000 --> 00:57:06.679 with something else. If you want a doom scroll, doom schrol. But 846 00:57:06.719 --> 00:57:07.800 what you're not gonna do is do that first thing in the morning. And 847 00:57:07.840 --> 00:57:10.480 what you're not gonna do is do that like the last thing before you go 848 00:57:10.519 --> 00:57:16.360 to sleep. So get a book, take your phone, like use the 849 00:57:16.400 --> 00:57:20.599 time that you're on your phone outside of your bed, Like coming back to 850 00:57:20.679 --> 00:57:22.320 the getting up out of your bed before you even touch your phone. Things 851 00:57:22.360 --> 00:57:27.440 like that, Like replace the habit. We're not doing that. Someone said, 852 00:57:27.599 --> 00:57:30.360 avoiding checking your bank account. One thing you're not going to do is 853 00:57:30.400 --> 00:57:32.920 avoid checking your bank account anymore. What you're not going to do is that, 854 00:57:32.960 --> 00:57:37.079 you know why, because you're creating more stress for yourself by avoiding the 855 00:57:37.079 --> 00:57:44.000 situation. I know this. Please, you can do it. You can 856 00:57:44.039 --> 00:57:45.480 do it. You can do it. You can do it. You need 857 00:57:45.519 --> 00:57:49.239 to have this mindset in your mind. You can handle whatever you see. 858 00:57:49.440 --> 00:57:52.599 You can handle your finances. You are somebody who can handle their finances. 859 00:57:52.599 --> 00:57:55.280 You are somebody who is responsible. You are somebody who sits down and makes 860 00:57:55.280 --> 00:58:00.119 a budget and can figure it out. I promise you that you avoiding your 861 00:58:00.159 --> 00:58:07.320 bank account anxiety is ten times worse just because you're avoiding it. This is 862 00:58:07.360 --> 00:58:09.960 not to mean that when you look at it, you won't be scared or 863 00:58:10.000 --> 00:58:14.519 you won't be a little bit anxious, but that anxiety will lessen over time 864 00:58:14.559 --> 00:58:17.440 when you start to be consistent with checking your bank account and seeing where you 865 00:58:17.519 --> 00:58:21.719 spend your money. This is not the summer where we're gonna go broke. 866 00:58:22.199 --> 00:58:24.559 We're not doing it. We're not doing it. We're not doing it, 867 00:58:24.599 --> 00:58:28.000 someone said, comparing myself to people on social media. Yeah, you're not 868 00:58:28.039 --> 00:58:30.320 doing that either. That's not happening talking to men. Whenever I feel insecure 869 00:58:30.320 --> 00:58:35.760 about myself, what's on the return on the investment, it's short term, 870 00:58:35.960 --> 00:58:38.320 short term gain, babe, we know this. You're gonna feel good for 871 00:58:38.360 --> 00:58:43.679 three seconds, and then what happens when that guy ends up probably not giving 872 00:58:43.679 --> 00:58:45.880 you the attention that you want, or you realize this is not the guy 873 00:58:45.920 --> 00:58:51.079 that you want attention from, or that it's just fleeting. So you really 874 00:58:51.159 --> 00:58:53.280 sometimes have to think about the consequences of your actions before you do it, 875 00:58:53.679 --> 00:58:58.480 more than actually just doing it on a whim, because that's what helps me 876 00:58:58.519 --> 00:59:02.679 in the times that we actually That's what helped me for sure when I used 877 00:59:02.719 --> 00:59:07.760 to do that kind of stuff is I would remind myself before I did it, 878 00:59:07.320 --> 00:59:09.920 how am I going to feel when I don't get that text back or 879 00:59:09.960 --> 00:59:15.760 when this is no longer making me feel good? Because it's it's gonna feel 880 00:59:15.800 --> 00:59:19.400 good for like a second, but then it's not same thing when it comes 881 00:59:19.440 --> 00:59:21.960 to like binge eating. And I know binge eating is way deeper than just 882 00:59:22.000 --> 00:59:23.239 even thinking like this, and I talk about it in my books, so 883 00:59:23.320 --> 00:59:28.079 like understand that what I'm saying is not as easy said and done. But 884 00:59:28.719 --> 00:59:30.559 you know, just thinking about oh, like I really want to indulge in 885 00:59:30.599 --> 00:59:35.000 this food. Okay, Well, you're gonna feel good for an hour, 886 00:59:35.440 --> 00:59:37.159 and then how are you going to feel for the rest of the entire day. 887 00:59:37.320 --> 00:59:40.400 Think about the rest of the entire day. Think about your stomach, 888 00:59:40.920 --> 00:59:44.920 Think about your mindset, Think about the way you're gonna view yourself. Think 889 00:59:44.920 --> 00:59:47.320 about the habits that are going to follow because you're gonna go into this spiral. 890 00:59:47.320 --> 00:59:52.079 Think about every single thing that you're gonna feel after you do that, 891 00:59:52.199 --> 00:59:54.920 it's not gonna be worth it. So I know it's not as easy as 892 00:59:55.000 --> 00:59:59.760 thinking about those things in the moment, because you tend to do things out 893 00:59:59.760 --> 01:00:01.960 of a trigger, out of a place of just not even thinking. But 894 01:00:02.639 --> 01:00:06.480 there's definitely some times where you can kind of think about those things. And 895 01:00:06.519 --> 01:00:09.440 I think even when it comes to like texting, like think about it, 896 01:00:09.480 --> 01:00:15.119 Like before you text that person, how are you gonna feel afterwards? How 897 01:00:15.119 --> 01:00:16.480 are you gonna feel tonight when you go to sleep? How are you gonna 898 01:00:16.519 --> 01:00:22.079 feel tomorrow when you wake up? Someone said never knowing what I want and 899 01:00:22.079 --> 01:00:27.599 feeling incapable of being successful? Well, if you continue to tell yourself that 900 01:00:27.639 --> 01:00:30.559 you're gonna be incapable of being successful, you won't be successful. So, 901 01:00:32.239 --> 01:00:36.920 like, if you're struggling with being successful in your life, what are you 902 01:00:36.960 --> 01:00:39.800 telling yourself about if you can, you have to tell yourself that you can. 903 01:00:40.239 --> 01:00:44.320 I don't care if you believe it or not. You're gonna be successful. 904 01:00:44.320 --> 01:00:46.559 What are you gonna do? Obviously you're gonna be successful. You're gonna 905 01:00:46.559 --> 01:00:50.000 show up, you're gonna get it done, You're gonna find the job, 906 01:00:50.039 --> 01:00:52.920 you're gonna get the money, you're gonna get the whatever you're gonna get. 907 01:00:53.119 --> 01:00:57.199 We know this, Like, let's remember our truth. We know this. 908 01:00:57.239 --> 01:01:00.360 It's gonna happen. So what is the point and having these thoughts? This 909 01:01:00.400 --> 01:01:02.039 is what you know? What? This is what I was thinking the other 910 01:01:02.119 --> 01:01:07.559 day when you need to become the observer of these thoughts. Okay, what 911 01:01:07.599 --> 01:01:09.760 you guys do so much. And I've been a victim of doing this as 912 01:01:09.760 --> 01:01:13.400 well, and I have to remind myself of this. So when I say 913 01:01:13.440 --> 01:01:15.800 you guys, it's me as well. But I'm speaking to you guys. 914 01:01:15.039 --> 01:01:22.639 What you guys do is you have these thoughts, right, these negative thoughts, 915 01:01:22.199 --> 01:01:28.960 and you forget that they're honestly just little dark clouds sometimes in the sky, 916 01:01:29.199 --> 01:01:31.480 and that you can let them pass. But what you do is you 917 01:01:31.519 --> 01:01:37.239 completely attach your entire identity to this this cloud, and you let this cloud 918 01:01:37.599 --> 01:01:44.159 bring you on a freaking world tour and allow you to spiral. And you 919 01:01:44.840 --> 01:01:50.280 allow this cloud, meaning your negative self talk, your doubts, shit that's 920 01:01:50.320 --> 01:01:54.000 not true about you. You let that determine your worth. You let that 921 01:01:55.559 --> 01:01:59.679 make you decide who you are in your life. And you don't have to 922 01:01:59.679 --> 01:02:04.320 do a single thing. You need to detach from that cloud. When you 923 01:02:04.480 --> 01:02:07.239 have a doubt, when you have something that's not serving you, we know 924 01:02:07.440 --> 01:02:13.480 by now it is not our truth. Enough enough with the stressing, enough 925 01:02:13.519 --> 01:02:16.199 with the second guessing, the comparing, it's all bullshit. We know that. 926 01:02:16.880 --> 01:02:23.599 So when we see or feel, or hear or observe these negative thoughts, 927 01:02:23.599 --> 01:02:27.880 because they come, you know, especially if you're trying to reprogram your 928 01:02:27.880 --> 01:02:30.360 mind, it comes. They get less and less, but they're still sometimes 929 01:02:30.400 --> 01:02:36.360 there. What you need to do is understand it's just the cloud. Detach 930 01:02:36.559 --> 01:02:39.559 yourself from it. Stop making that a part of your identity. It's not 931 01:02:39.639 --> 01:02:45.280 your identity, and let it pass. Let it pass. And it's gonna 932 01:02:45.320 --> 01:02:46.800 take some time, because what you're gonna do is you're gonna realize that you've 933 01:02:46.840 --> 01:02:50.440 spiraled into that cloud. You're not even gonna realize that you're in that cloud 934 01:02:50.519 --> 01:02:53.079 until you're goddamn in it and you have to freaking pull yourself back out. 935 01:02:53.599 --> 01:03:00.199 But understand, you have the control to let the cloud pass, because I'm 936 01:03:00.239 --> 01:03:05.039 the observer. Just observe it. Oh my god, Wow, that's a 937 01:03:05.119 --> 01:03:08.079 rude thought. That's an irrelevant thought. That's a thought that doesn't serve me. 938 01:03:08.719 --> 01:03:14.440 I choose to respect my time. I choose to respect myself and my 939 01:03:14.599 --> 01:03:19.920 truth. And what I'm not gonna do is go in that spiral. I'm 940 01:03:20.000 --> 01:03:23.280 good. I'm good on that. Okay. So when you have those doubts, 941 01:03:23.800 --> 01:03:29.440 that shitty like a negative self concept that keeps coming back up, let 942 01:03:29.440 --> 01:03:37.079 it pass. Stop attaching yourself to everything, Stop attaching yourself to people who 943 01:03:37.159 --> 01:03:40.599 are not serving you. Stop ruminating in what someone said over here that's not 944 01:03:40.679 --> 01:03:44.880 favorable to you. And I even think about this when it comes to like 945 01:03:44.960 --> 01:03:50.719 negative comments on social media. I have a choice. Every single time I 946 01:03:50.800 --> 01:03:54.519 get something that is not favorable. I can sit there and I can dwell 947 01:03:54.559 --> 01:03:58.440 in it, and I can fall into it, and I can spiral about 948 01:03:58.440 --> 01:04:01.320 it and I can just second guess, or I can observe it for what 949 01:04:01.440 --> 01:04:05.239 it is, which is nothing to do with me, nothing to do with 950 01:04:05.280 --> 01:04:10.719 me, and continue on with my life. It's my choice. Anyways, 951 01:04:10.800 --> 01:04:13.559 that was a little bit of a rant. Someone else said, eating too 952 01:04:13.639 --> 01:04:18.559 much processed foods because I'm too lazy to cook something. Listen, you need 953 01:04:18.599 --> 01:04:23.639 to create one hour out of your day to cook something for yourself. And 954 01:04:23.679 --> 01:04:29.239 I'm saying this to myself honestly, because this is ridiculous. It's really ridiculous. 955 01:04:29.719 --> 01:04:33.159 You can find time in your day to make food. And I know 956 01:04:33.280 --> 01:04:40.760 this because like the way that I make everything so much more difficult than need 957 01:04:40.840 --> 01:04:45.559 be, when realistically, what it takes for me to make let's say, 958 01:04:45.559 --> 01:04:53.960 a processed meal is honestly like not as much shorter of time than it would 959 01:04:53.960 --> 01:04:58.800 to just make like a healthier meal. Like sometimes when I'm like even and 960 01:04:58.800 --> 01:05:00.400 I even think with this when it comes to oh my god, okay, 961 01:05:00.400 --> 01:05:02.440 I think was this when it comes to uber eats, uh, or even 962 01:05:02.440 --> 01:05:06.239 if I'm going out to like go eat something, which I do a pretty 963 01:05:06.280 --> 01:05:09.320 good job of eating at home, so I don't really have too much of 964 01:05:09.360 --> 01:05:13.519 this issue, but when it comes to uber eats, like, okay, 965 01:05:13.679 --> 01:05:15.239 you this because this is sometimes what we do. Oh well, I don't 966 01:05:15.239 --> 01:05:17.119 want to cook, like I don't want to clean, I don't want to 967 01:05:17.119 --> 01:05:19.079 cook, I don't want to whatever, and I'm just gonna order food, 968 01:05:19.800 --> 01:05:24.800 okay, because like it just takes too much time or something. But actually 969 01:05:25.400 --> 01:05:28.440 it would take you less time to cook a damn meal at home than it 970 01:05:28.480 --> 01:05:31.920 would to find what it is that you actually want from uber eats for you 971 01:05:32.000 --> 01:05:35.719 to put in the order, for you to wait for the order, for 972 01:05:35.800 --> 01:05:39.320 you to have to go downstairs or get out of your bed to go do 973 01:05:39.400 --> 01:05:42.320 it and then eat it, like you could have made a whole meal in 974 01:05:42.360 --> 01:05:47.039 that time. So enough with that and thinking about some of your toxic habits 975 01:05:47.039 --> 01:05:50.960 probably that you have throughout the week. You have enough time to make food 976 01:05:51.119 --> 01:05:55.480 and that's that. And if you have to wake up ten extra minutes early 977 01:05:55.559 --> 01:05:59.159 so you can make breakfast instead of going to Tim Morton's every single morning to 978 01:05:59.159 --> 01:06:00.119 get a bagel, that's not even good for you. You need to do 979 01:06:00.199 --> 01:06:05.760 it, Like what are we doing? Someone says, always thinking someone else 980 01:06:05.960 --> 01:06:10.679 knows the answer? I definitely need to make an episode about this because this 981 01:06:10.719 --> 01:06:15.639 has definitely been my struggle in my life for sure. But I'm just this 982 01:06:15.719 --> 01:06:20.960 is what I'm gonna say. It was this as the cloud situation, because 983 01:06:21.000 --> 01:06:26.639 you are very obviously aware that you tend to think that everyone else knows the 984 01:06:26.679 --> 01:06:30.639 answer when you clearly know that not everyone knows, like nobody knows what the 985 01:06:30.679 --> 01:06:35.239 fuck's going on, by the way, like even me, I'm speaking out 986 01:06:35.239 --> 01:06:38.159 of experience and this that. But the end of the day, it's like 987 01:06:38.199 --> 01:06:42.519 it's your life. You have to decide what goes. Understand that. Understand 988 01:06:42.559 --> 01:06:47.760 that until the day you pass over. Okay, you will know. You 989 01:06:47.800 --> 01:06:51.519 can get guidance, you can get inspiration, you can get motivation. But 990 01:06:51.599 --> 01:06:58.159 at the end of the day, stop putting people on pedestals. Stop putting 991 01:06:58.199 --> 01:07:03.800 people on this like god, like I don't know a stage, like oh 992 01:07:03.840 --> 01:07:09.119 my god, they they do it the right way, or like they know, 993 01:07:10.119 --> 01:07:13.599 they don't know, they don't decide, Please decide. And then someone 994 01:07:13.679 --> 01:07:17.639 also said skipping self care. So listen, we have a lot of toxic 995 01:07:17.639 --> 01:07:23.199 habits that we need to break. One thing I just want to remind yourselves, 996 01:07:23.519 --> 01:07:27.440 yourselves, remind you guys of, and remind myself of is at the 997 01:07:27.519 --> 01:07:31.599 end of the day, what we are not going to drop is self love. 998 01:07:32.000 --> 01:07:36.920 Okay, loving ourselves through the process of dropping habits, loving ourselves through 999 01:07:36.920 --> 01:07:43.320 the process of evolution and growth and changing, and you know, being grateful 1000 01:07:43.360 --> 01:07:45.159 for ourselves, like all of it, every single thing. We need to 1001 01:07:45.159 --> 01:07:48.239 love ourselves through this. This is not a time for us to be tyrants, 1002 01:07:48.239 --> 01:07:50.719 to hate ourselves, to ruminate on the things that we're not doing, 1003 01:07:50.920 --> 01:07:55.159 to continue to ruminate on things if we don't show up one hundred percent, 1004 01:07:55.440 --> 01:07:58.000 this is just a kick in the ass that we need. But at the 1005 01:07:58.119 --> 01:08:00.079 end of the day, we need to love ourselves through the process, and 1006 01:08:00.320 --> 01:08:04.079 we need to be proud of ourselves. Okay, be proud of yourself for 1007 01:08:04.199 --> 01:08:09.599 whatever you have done. I don't give an f if you haven't even done 1008 01:08:09.679 --> 01:08:13.800 much. Okay. That is something that I have been even forgetting. As 1009 01:08:13.880 --> 01:08:17.920 much as yes, I have been disrespecting my time and my energy and my 1010 01:08:18.039 --> 01:08:25.039 money and this that in many ways, I've also been not acknowledging how amazing 1011 01:08:25.079 --> 01:08:29.520 I am. I've been disrespecting the fact that I have worked so hard to 1012 01:08:29.520 --> 01:08:31.960 get where I'm at in my life. And I just when I mean disrespect, 1013 01:08:32.000 --> 01:08:35.640 I just mean haven't been acknowledging that. Okay. So I want you 1014 01:08:35.720 --> 01:08:40.039 to also acknowledge the things that you do do the things that you do, 1015 01:08:40.119 --> 01:08:44.399 continuously show up for for yourself, and that you will continue to do it 1016 01:08:44.439 --> 01:08:47.760 because you always will because it's you, duh. Okay. So anyways, 1017 01:08:48.239 --> 01:08:51.000 that's gonna be it for today's episode. I hope you guys enjoyed. If 1018 01:08:51.039 --> 01:08:55.520 you're watching on YouTube, don't forget to subscribe, leave a like, and 1019 01:08:55.560 --> 01:08:58.279 a comment down below, let me know what you want to hear next. 1020 01:08:58.560 --> 01:09:01.359 Let me know what you liked about this episode. If you're listening on Spotify, 1021 01:09:01.439 --> 01:09:06.159 don't forget to follow the podcast because some of you guys are not following, 1022 01:09:06.199 --> 01:09:11.720 and that way you will always have my podcast just showing up. 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