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Welcome to the Parenting Roundabout podcast for
the week of May twenty twenty three.

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I'm a choleric, so I'm here
with Catherine hell Echo Hello and Terry Morrow.

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Hello. Every week we chat about
what parents were talking and complaining and

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obsessing about right now. This week
we're complaining about mean girls and obsessing about

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mementos of our kids' lives. We
also take a couple of breaks for an

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entertainment discussion and a recommendation round up. Today we are talking about memorable college

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moments. So there was an article
on Grown and Flown that listed ten moments

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from college that I want to relive, according to the author, And so

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it got me thinking, what college
moments would you want to relive? And

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Terry, I don't know if you've
noticed, but this the author went to

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you see Santa Barbara, Oh my
goodness. So she talked about having picnics

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and watching the sunset over the ocean. You know what I removed about the

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ocean ucsp As if you went anywhere
near it, you got tar on your

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feet and then you had to go
someplace and like take it off with gasoline.

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So what I was not so much
about going to the beach. There

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was tar on the day tar there
was there was like oil in the water,

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and so if you went in the
water, or if you walked on

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the sand where the water had been, just big pieces of like tar would

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stick to you. Really kind of
that kind of blew the mood, you

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know. Yeah. One of the
items on this list says first day of

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classes freshman year. Um, no, I would never want to relive that,

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you think up from college? Just
things I never want to relive,

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right, you know, the worst
time, throwing up at a college drinking

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party. Really ill advised trip to
Europe. No, I don't think I

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don't want to do that again.
You would that advised about that trip.

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It was just you know, it's
like a couple of weeks would have been

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great, but we like did two
months and we had the urail passes and

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we stayed at the hostels and it
just like part way through it was just

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like too much. But you still
had to keep going right, right,

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right, So you just we were
we bent off way more than we could

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chew. And I also I had
this backpack. I started out with like

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a like a day pack sized pack
because we were in travel light and then

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I kept buying things and wanting to
keep them, and so one of the

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things I had to buy was a
huge backpack, and then I kept falling.

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So I had these stupid Familari shoes
that were just being good for your

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feet, and I would just roll
forward and smack down on the ground because

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I had this huge thing on it
back. So it's just like, I

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guess if I went back and did
it again, I would do it smarter,

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maybe like wait another five years,
it might be good. So you

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had money to travel style to things
that I cannot quite handle, So that's

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fun. I don't know. I
enjoyed college. I had good years of

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college, but there's not that much
I would like to go back and revisit.

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I don't know. You guys have
have warm college memories. So warm

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college memories, yeah, I mean
the you know, just some of there

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were some memorable like outings and not
even necessarily parties, but like just stuff

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we did together as a big group. You know that I still remember and

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that we're really fun. So I
would go back and do that. And

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one of the things on this list
is like the first sports game of the

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season, you know, that's always
fun. I don't think I went to

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any sports things. Yeah, I
mean it depends on the school. I

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guess. I think our frisbee team
probably was working out someplace and I just

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missed it. I mean, our
school wasn't necessarily that great at sports,

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but there were some there were some
funny, you know, traditions. Yeah,

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but it's fun to be a part
of. Right, I didn't even

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know my school had sports. Now
my CUCSB doing well in sports, so

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I maybe just was not hooked up
to it. Right. But the place

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where the school that my son is
going to go to, they have,

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um, like this big rock on
campus, you know, and I feel

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like a lot of places do and
people paint it for yeah, with their

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club or their fraternity or whatever.
But when you're a freshman, you sign

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your name on it and they have
all the freshman like, go to the

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rock my name, and then when
you're senior you do it again. I

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guess. So that's kind of fun
stuff like that, you know. Yeah,

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that's kind of a neat experience.
I enjoyed my first year in the

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dorms. I don't know if that's
like, um, yeah, that was

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kind of that was fun. I
mean at first, it was kind of

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hard. To get established. But
once I did, it was we had

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a lot of fun in the dorms. Um what else. I just loved

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being in the city because it was
in the university, was in the city,

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like right in not downtown but near
downtown, and in the country,

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yes, and so it was really
fun to be in the city and explore

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and to have the freedom because I
also had my car with me, so

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then we would drive around and explore
the city and go out and yeah,

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a lot of fun. And then
the second year, now husband who was

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then my boyfriend, he was also
at a school going to school nearby,

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so he had a lot of good
times, you know, moving out together

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and going places. Yeah, it's
a lot of fun. I don't know

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that I wouldn't necessarily want to go
back to my years year in the dorms.

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I was only in for one year
and then I was in apartments after

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that with roommates, are by myself. But I do remember the donuts at

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the dining hall that i've breakfast every
morning. I can't find that kind of

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donut. It was just like a
simple cake donut with chocolate frosting. It

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should be very basic, and I
don't see them anymore, and they were

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so good and they were so bad
for me. But you know what,

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nobody could tell me when to eat
for breakfast's right, right. And I

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also had a couple of professors I
could think of in particular who made me

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feel smart and talented, and I'd
go back and have that feeling again.

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That was pretty nice. Oh yeah, So I don't remember any of my

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professors except for my French teacher well, who came to class with something green

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in a mason jar and he drank
it and that was it. We had

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a French I had a French teacher
who would like trick people into saying bad

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words in French and then make fun
of them. You know something where if

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you pronounce it one way, it's
fine, if you pronounce it an other

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way, it's a curse word.
And you know, he would make fun

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of them. So that was not
nice. That's real mature catch. But

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there's these two. I can think
of the one I remember the delight of

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the one professor when I actually memorized
the rhyme of the ancient mariner, tried

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to write it all in a blue
book. That was fun. And then

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this College of Creative Studies, I
was in. Marvin Mudrick was the founder

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of it, and I had classes
with him in writing and he really made

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me feel like I could write,
so that was special. And I also

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was a campus ministry intern for a
church in the little student slum outside of

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the campus that was me slum.
I think that's the accepted description for what

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I love ISTA is. I think
that pretty much sums it up. I

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don't think that's controversial. I've never
heard of. Maybe that's what Kinko's got

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its start, like the original first
Kinks. Yeah, yep, really yeah,

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yeah, my time. By the
time I was there, there was

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two copy machine copy companies in town. Item but it's like two two rivals,

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two rivals. Yes, and your
professor would like, say, go

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to this one and go get a
copy of all my notes. Oh but

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yeah, wow started there. H
Wow, there's a business that has coming

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and gone. Oh my gosh,
Kinko's. I forgot about that. Yeah,

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I was even in Bank Hoover.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, we

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went to Kinkos. Wow, they've
been absorbed by FedEx. But yes,

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well, anybody else have any any
high points of college they would like to

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revisit that time you dreamed that maybe
one day you would be a podcaster.

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A special moment that vision. You
went to a fortune teller and they said,

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I see you sitting in front of
a mic late at night. Oh.

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I got engaged in my fifth year. Wow, you go, hmmm,

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that's your college. I got engaged. I had a boyfriend for like,

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you know, the basically the whole
four years of college, and um,

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we you know, I decided to
break up with him towards the towards

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the very end, and um,
he said, you know, how about

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if we just stay together until we
graduate and then so we can just like

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do all the end of year you
know stuff, and then we'll break up.

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It's like, yeah, that sounds
good, you can do that,

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and so we did. It was
a passionate sort of relationship there at the

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end, I have this business contract
we will agree to stay together until he

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was under contractual obligation. I wasn't
obligated. It was just like, you

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know, we could just do this, yeah really, And you weren't like,

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no, I'm gonna go and have
fun with my friends and on my

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own. Well we had all the
same friends because we've been together since freshman

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year. Oh okay, So that
was that was kind of part of it,

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Like, right, let's not like
make everyone have to choose between us.

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Well just then after that, yeah, you just like buy and parted

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ways. Yeah, pretty much.
So a pleasant college memory. Catherine would

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let nothing not like to go back
and live. I mean it's fine.

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It was very sensible, very sensible. Well, now he like is a

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high level person that helps run medicare, so wow, he's could you put

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a good word for him? And
I'm coming up on it so you can

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see that he is a very practical
person. Wow, it's so sad because

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practical is a good thing to be, and yet when you say it about

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somebody who's like in college, it
just seems like, oh, how sad.

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Sad. Well, it's practical for
us to say that. That's it

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for today's Round one. Tune in
tomorrow for our entertainment themed Round two and

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later in the week to find out
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