WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.880 --> 00:00:14.960 Adventist Radio London. Inspiration for the song We welcome the talking Point with Ray 2 00:00:15.560 --> 00:00:22.199 Sen Pedro Angeler discussing the hot topics and answering your questions Saturday's five to seven 3 00:00:22.280 --> 00:00:27.839 pm on Adventist Radio London. It's talking Point, it's talking Point, it's 4 00:00:27.879 --> 00:00:40.159 talking point, it's talking point. Conversations you need to have and good afternoon, 5 00:00:40.240 --> 00:00:43.920 Good afternoon to you. It's about seven minutes past the hour of five 6 00:00:43.920 --> 00:00:49.119 o'clock and you are listening to Adventists Radio London. We are back up and 7 00:00:49.200 --> 00:00:54.280 running. We've had some technical issues for the day really and I think we've 8 00:00:54.560 --> 00:01:02.719 just managed to get it sorted sorted in time for talking Point. Thank you 9 00:01:02.759 --> 00:01:07.319 to Paul and the technicians who have been working tirelessly to get us live and 10 00:01:07.519 --> 00:01:11.359 on the ear. So welcome to you. I do hope you've had a 11 00:01:11.640 --> 00:01:15.480 good sabbath. I hope you've had a good week, and I trust you 12 00:01:15.560 --> 00:01:23.680 already for the conversation that we are about to have this afternoon. Hopefully we'll 13 00:01:23.719 --> 00:01:30.840 be able to do Satura night praise after looking forward to spending the evening playing 14 00:01:30.879 --> 00:01:37.640 your favorites and looking forward to having your company there as well. But in 15 00:01:37.719 --> 00:01:44.840 the meantime, joined as always by my trusted partner in crime, sorry, 16 00:01:44.879 --> 00:01:49.480 partner in Christ. Partner in Christ. That never get old for me, 17 00:01:52.319 --> 00:01:55.840 Angela. I know Pedro is actually on the road today, but I'm sure 18 00:01:55.840 --> 00:01:57.879 he is listening. So good appening to you, Pedro, Angela. How 19 00:01:57.959 --> 00:02:07.840 are you say hello to the folks? Accident? It is seeming there wasn't 20 00:02:07.879 --> 00:02:15.400 it. Yes, I'm not too bad. I'm okay. I'm feeling a 21 00:02:15.439 --> 00:02:19.919 little tired, and I alway say I'm tired. The fatigue and exhaustion feels 22 00:02:19.960 --> 00:02:23.639 real these days. But I've had kind of a chill day, I said, 23 00:02:23.680 --> 00:02:28.000 at home today, the sort of kind of getting up and driving anywhere. 24 00:02:28.000 --> 00:02:31.680 It was just so I took Sabbath rest today, you know, went 25 00:02:31.719 --> 00:02:37.240 to church online and listened into a couple of services Balat and Quid, and 26 00:02:37.240 --> 00:02:40.439 I've kind of switched between a couple of them and listening to music as well 27 00:02:40.479 --> 00:02:46.400 today. So yeah, I took it easy. So yeah, I'm okay. 28 00:02:46.439 --> 00:02:50.000 It's been a It's been a busy week, as always, the days 29 00:02:50.000 --> 00:02:53.919 of flowing past workers always busy. I ran a couple of workshops this week, 30 00:02:53.919 --> 00:02:59.639 which is actually quite nice thing to do. Looking at him looking at 31 00:02:59.639 --> 00:03:05.719 the power of sense something in aromatherapy as a music, roma, essential oils, 32 00:03:06.599 --> 00:03:09.800 and sort of like sometimes we look at the way things can impact us, 33 00:03:10.120 --> 00:03:13.840 you know, with our senses, so we listen to music that can 34 00:03:13.879 --> 00:03:15.039 definitely be good for your well being. But I was looking at the sense 35 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:20.520 of smell, which is quite an interesting one. So yeah, it's it's 36 00:03:20.560 --> 00:03:24.319 been an interesting week for various reasons. But here we are, here, 37 00:03:24.360 --> 00:03:29.400 we are. Indeed, we just blown past and we're going back again doing 38 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:31.800 talking points. So yes, so good, So thank you everyone for joining 39 00:03:31.840 --> 00:03:38.719 us. Looking for the conversation today as always. Yeah, I mean it's 40 00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:43.639 been up and down. I mean it's been that kind of year already. 41 00:03:43.680 --> 00:03:49.240 To be fair, my mum hasn't been well. She's struggling with high blood 42 00:03:49.280 --> 00:03:53.840 pressure and it's been spiking as of late, so we've just been keeping an 43 00:03:53.879 --> 00:03:58.080 eye on that, keeping an eye on her, and then there's other bits 44 00:03:58.080 --> 00:04:01.000 and pieces going on, and it's just feels like it's gone up a nutch. 45 00:04:01.039 --> 00:04:05.639 I'm not sure what I did right or what I did wrong, but 46 00:04:05.879 --> 00:04:11.599 it's been a bit chaotic. But I am really really thankful, as you 47 00:04:11.599 --> 00:04:15.319 said, for the Sabbath rest. I got a beautiful message from a friend 48 00:04:15.319 --> 00:04:18.759 today that reminded me that's what the sabbath is for, you know, just 49 00:04:18.839 --> 00:04:26.600 for reconnecting and sort of recharging and refreshing. And so I'm really grateful for 50 00:04:26.639 --> 00:04:30.560 that. And here we are another week. They are flying by, and 51 00:04:30.879 --> 00:04:33.519 you know, I am saying it, and I know I'm going to get 52 00:04:33.560 --> 00:04:36.680 so much flak. But before you know it, it will be Christmas. 53 00:04:38.519 --> 00:04:45.399 Well, January has practically finished in coming up to February. And even though 54 00:04:45.439 --> 00:04:49.360 February I didn't realize this, Actually, do your twenty nine days a leap 55 00:04:49.399 --> 00:04:58.920 year? Yes? Yes, apparently twenty night now twenty twenty four four seems 56 00:04:58.920 --> 00:05:00.759 to be alap here. So even though we're gonna have an extra day in 57 00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:12.000 February, before we know it will be more away the time, we're blessed 58 00:05:12.040 --> 00:05:16.839 with seeing those days. But yeah, I miss it. And it's been 59 00:05:16.920 --> 00:05:21.040 very springl like the weather, hasn't it. Yes, I mean he's been 60 00:05:21.079 --> 00:05:27.720 a complete turnaround from the week before. Couple of weeks it had been a 61 00:05:27.759 --> 00:05:31.600 couple of I think the sun is quite assumes quite I don't know, larger 62 00:05:31.639 --> 00:05:36.079 into this false sense of security, we've seen the sun I'm thinking, actually, 63 00:05:36.639 --> 00:05:40.040 yeah, it's looking quite nice, and I've gone outside and I felt 64 00:05:40.040 --> 00:05:45.560 the breeze and just thought, okay, that's nice. So, you know, 65 00:05:46.160 --> 00:05:47.399 it was one day I was like, I went in and bought myself 66 00:05:47.399 --> 00:05:49.439 back. I went to a shop and bought myself a hat. So I've 67 00:05:49.439 --> 00:05:53.399 come out with that one, which is very unlike me. But I was 68 00:05:53.439 --> 00:05:57.360 just like, oh did It's not that warm, but it's warmer than it 69 00:05:57.360 --> 00:06:00.240 has been. So I'm grateful for her, and I'm grateful for some time 70 00:06:00.279 --> 00:06:02.839 because that makes such a difference. You can see that the people as well, 71 00:06:03.560 --> 00:06:06.399 and the back people seem to be a little bit more upbeat. Female 72 00:06:06.480 --> 00:06:12.000 smiles and the seems bearable. You know. I like the idea when you 73 00:06:12.000 --> 00:06:15.160 know you're wrapped up and you're wrapped up and your snug and what have you, 74 00:06:15.439 --> 00:06:20.040 but the sky is bright. Yeah, also my favorite kind of days. 75 00:06:20.079 --> 00:06:26.319 I'm not particularly keen for scotchy hot weather. I know so many are, 76 00:06:26.360 --> 00:06:29.920 but uh yeah, these past three days have been right up my street. 77 00:06:30.199 --> 00:06:33.399 Really enjoyed just being cozy and as you said, seeing the blue skies 78 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:43.519 up above, lovely reminder that summer is on its way. Perhaps, Yeah, 79 00:06:43.800 --> 00:06:50.680 fast, I think on the forecast it's going to be. I think 80 00:06:50.680 --> 00:06:55.040 it's going to thing is going to be okay, but you can never tell 81 00:06:55.079 --> 00:06:59.480 because we go up and down. Indeed, I think the fact that you 82 00:06:59.519 --> 00:07:01.120 know, we have the meetiologist who are able to track the weather, I 83 00:07:01.120 --> 00:07:04.160 think that's really fascinating. I think it's amazing. Look at that's skill to 84 00:07:04.199 --> 00:07:12.079 do that. They give it their best, but you know they pretty they're 85 00:07:12.399 --> 00:07:16.560 pretty on it, you know, looking at there's obviously things that can tell 86 00:07:16.879 --> 00:07:21.000 can tell people to tell you what's going to happen. You know, God 87 00:07:21.040 --> 00:07:25.639 has given those kind of signs and warning signs or you know, the clues 88 00:07:25.720 --> 00:07:28.439 there. So the fact that they can do that, I think it's pretty 89 00:07:28.439 --> 00:07:33.160 amazing. But true British fashion, English fashion, and we just never know 90 00:07:32.720 --> 00:07:38.759 who has that is strong. Be prepared for every weather, they say in 91 00:07:38.800 --> 00:07:44.720 one day they say as well, isn't it sorry? Yeah, yeah, 92 00:07:44.759 --> 00:07:49.639 well I am conscious that waiting patiently in the wings is Allison, who is 93 00:07:49.680 --> 00:07:55.879 going to lead the conversation today. We are going to it's sort of the 94 00:07:55.959 --> 00:08:01.879 final session for now as we're wrapping up the campaign that we've been running for 95 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:09.759 January bringing down strongholds and it's been an excellent informative discussion. Week after week. 96 00:08:09.199 --> 00:08:15.120 Alison has really sort of shunned the light and several issues provided us with 97 00:08:15.240 --> 00:08:22.680 additional assnry as we look at the weapons that are available to us. And 98 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:28.920 we've had really good feed break as well from our listeners, from persons who 99 00:08:28.000 --> 00:08:33.919 have taken on board and even put into action some of the things that they 100 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:37.200 have already learned. So, Alison, I want to say thank you. 101 00:08:37.240 --> 00:08:39.679 I want to say welcome back. I stayed every week. I will say 102 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:45.519 it again. You are an honorary member of the Talking Point team. It's 103 00:08:45.559 --> 00:08:48.960 always a pleasure to have you on board. Alison is an author, a 104 00:08:48.000 --> 00:08:54.399 psychotherapist, and I know, Alison, you've recently released your latest book, 105 00:08:54.519 --> 00:09:00.639 which is Relationships Unique Boundaries of Effectiveness for Success and Fulfillment. And wanted to 106 00:09:00.720 --> 00:09:03.840 say, please, please, when you're ready to sort of do some full 107 00:09:03.879 --> 00:09:09.639 blown campaigning or promotion on that, do come back with us and let's have 108 00:09:09.879 --> 00:09:15.559 a quick chat or in depth chat even about what is revealed within the pages 109 00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:20.799 of those books of that book. But Allison, good Afternoon doesn't have how 110 00:09:20.960 --> 00:09:26.440 I Good Afternoon, Dania, Hi Angela. It's lovely to be back. 111 00:09:26.559 --> 00:09:31.440 It's lovely to be back with the listeners. Thank you so much for me. 112 00:09:31.639 --> 00:09:35.200 He's been really lovely to be joining you in January, and I'm glad 113 00:09:35.279 --> 00:09:43.679 that we've had a chance to discuss some really important mental emotional wellbeing issues. 114 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:46.759 And yes, it's lovely to be back. I'm good. I, like 115 00:09:46.879 --> 00:09:52.840 Angela, had a RESTful sabbath, worshiped from home today. My daughter has 116 00:09:52.840 --> 00:09:58.799 been down with a cold, and so we decided to just have some rest 117 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:05.679 home and I it's quite nice sometimes to just reseat, yes and spend that 118 00:10:05.840 --> 00:10:09.399 time with God on the sabbath. So yeah, it's been lovely. Thank 119 00:10:09.440 --> 00:10:13.360 you, wonderful to see you, and I hope your your daughters were better 120 00:10:13.440 --> 00:10:18.120 soon. I think a lot of colds and flu et cetera going around. 121 00:10:18.200 --> 00:10:20.559 Is that time of the year, I guess, but yes, yes, 122 00:10:20.559 --> 00:10:24.279 it's not nice. The thing is, I think times when you get cold 123 00:10:24.320 --> 00:10:26.639 at this time of the year as well, you really struggle to shift it. 124 00:10:26.759 --> 00:10:28.759 Uh huh, because I'm not the better from from mine. I've still 125 00:10:28.759 --> 00:10:31.919 got a bit of a still a bit congested, and you know, it 126 00:10:33.039 --> 00:10:37.840 still coughings these occasionally, So it's because it's never ending. But yes, 127 00:10:37.919 --> 00:10:45.360 so I do wish her well. Thank you. All right, let's pray. 128 00:10:45.639 --> 00:10:48.519 We'll take a song break and then we'll come back with a bit of 129 00:10:48.519 --> 00:10:52.360 a recap, I imagine, and then we'll go full blown into the conversation 130 00:10:52.440 --> 00:11:00.320 that we're having today with the topic is knowing your wealth definitely farther. We 131 00:11:00.360 --> 00:11:05.200 thank you for another opportunity to have this discussion, these very important conversations that 132 00:11:05.240 --> 00:11:09.039 we have on talking points. Thank you for the technology and bringing it back 133 00:11:09.120 --> 00:11:11.759 up and running just in time. I pray that all will go well and 134 00:11:11.799 --> 00:11:16.720 that our listeners will truly be blessed, and us too taking part in Jesus' 135 00:11:16.799 --> 00:12:09.159 name, I pray Amen and a man God's fin for God is on outside. 136 00:12:09.759 --> 00:12:15.960 He is overcome, Yes, he is sober come. We will not 137 00:12:16.159 --> 00:12:24.919 be shaken. He will not be moon. She's a supery oh, carrying 138 00:12:24.320 --> 00:12:31.320 the birds covering of shame. He is so the come mast be a sober 139 00:12:31.679 --> 00:12:37.440 come. We will not be shaken. We will not be moon. She's 140 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:46.759 a shoe, I will say, I will, we will not tell the 141 00:12:46.080 --> 00:13:01.919 resration how rist belive in me and n and Priest Jesus said, oh, 142 00:13:13.759 --> 00:13:22.480 killing my bird is codling God shade pis on the chess p s on the 143 00:13:22.840 --> 00:13:35.440 We will not be saying he won me. I mean I will not time 144 00:13:35.960 --> 00:13:52.080 you enstion how ris blating medium and not a free Jesus, I will I 145 00:13:52.320 --> 00:14:26.279 will not time. I will see your side. Ex Jesus. The in 146 00:14:26.440 --> 00:14:35.480 the name exeuses the stow around the name of Jesus God standings to sing back 147 00:14:35.600 --> 00:14:43.799 the tars, pelling out the jam, making the sack feelings. Then person 148 00:14:46.000 --> 00:15:05.960 he shouted out, showing it out God sting the times saying when he shouted 149 00:15:05.200 --> 00:15:24.679 at s said, don start, didn't know shaded fast, shouting and showing 150 00:15:26.360 --> 00:15:48.080 a way not rash, love the sea and that free shot away not shocking, 151 00:15:48.879 --> 00:16:34.200 lilt to sound to stop starts shows at times, says shot shot shot 152 00:16:34.519 --> 00:17:27.119 So I can't be starting to siqua showing the SI. We will shouting out, 153 00:17:27.720 --> 00:17:48.960 shouting it shut shut, just talking offline about that song and just enjoying 154 00:17:49.079 --> 00:17:55.880 the words. It's Israel and new breed and we really enjoyed that one. 155 00:17:56.680 --> 00:18:00.799 Welcome back to Talking Point and as always, you can be part of the 156 00:18:00.960 --> 00:18:07.319 conversation. Absolutely. You can contact us in the usual ways, so studio 157 00:18:07.839 --> 00:18:14.519 at Adventisradio dot London or you can text us eight Texas, text us on 158 00:18:15.079 --> 00:18:18.599 eight triple to eight, write the world hope space and then your message, 159 00:18:19.200 --> 00:18:26.400 or you can WhatsApp zero seven four five nine six four two eight nine eight. 160 00:18:26.079 --> 00:18:29.799 We are also on Zoom and we're inviting you to be part of the 161 00:18:29.880 --> 00:18:33.960 discussion that way, if you'd like. The ID is seven seven to one 162 00:18:33.559 --> 00:18:40.240 nine three eight six to zero nine. So we are inviting you as always 163 00:18:40.279 --> 00:18:42.160 to be part of the discussion. If you've got a question for Allison, 164 00:18:42.640 --> 00:18:47.440 or a question that you'll just want to let the team or to anyone else 165 00:18:47.440 --> 00:18:49.640 who's listening, then please to share it with us, or if you've got 166 00:18:49.680 --> 00:18:56.559 a comment, we're happy to share that as well. So, Angie, 167 00:18:56.680 --> 00:19:00.920 we have been front and center for this conversation that we've been having bringing down 168 00:19:02.359 --> 00:19:04.480 strongholds. And we started this campaign at the top of the year, and 169 00:19:04.519 --> 00:19:08.160 I think we felt that it was a good way to start twenty twenty four 170 00:19:10.279 --> 00:19:14.759 sort of equipping persons and ourselves with the tools that we need to bring down 171 00:19:14.839 --> 00:19:18.799 the strongholds in our lives. And Allison started to talk very well at the 172 00:19:18.880 --> 00:19:22.759 very beginning the first weekend of the month. We're just listing out some of 173 00:19:22.839 --> 00:19:27.960 those strongholds that we would be unpacking, and we've done. We've dealt with 174 00:19:29.160 --> 00:19:33.079 depression, We've dealt with worry and fear and anxiety, We've dealt with some 175 00:19:33.359 --> 00:19:37.640 really heavy hitters, and it's gone deep this month, it really has gone 176 00:19:37.680 --> 00:19:41.240 deeper. And we're hoping this might be the lighter side of the topic. 177 00:19:41.680 --> 00:19:45.079 But we understand that we're dealing with some things and as Alison rightly starts the 178 00:19:45.200 --> 00:19:49.440 discussions, we're not fighting on flesh, you know, it's not of self. 179 00:19:51.359 --> 00:19:56.400 So we understand that these things can be demonic, sorry, and also 180 00:19:56.559 --> 00:20:02.279 they can have such holes in our lives that it's very hard for us to 181 00:20:02.359 --> 00:20:04.319 bring them down, to break the chains, and so we have to be 182 00:20:04.480 --> 00:20:07.680 really, really committed to doing what we need to do, to seeking the 183 00:20:07.759 --> 00:20:15.400 support we need to seek and to saturate ourselves in the word. What were 184 00:20:15.440 --> 00:20:18.599 some of the things that you pulled from the discussions we've had so far. 185 00:20:18.680 --> 00:20:21.160 If you want to start all the way at the top of the introduction, 186 00:20:21.319 --> 00:20:25.240 or if there's something that's fresh mind, I just let me know. I 187 00:20:25.319 --> 00:20:27.559 mean, I think I think definitely it was a really I think it's been 188 00:20:27.599 --> 00:20:32.039 a good start to our year. I mean, you know, we also 189 00:20:32.079 --> 00:20:33.599 talk at the beginning of the year age, you know, setting goals, 190 00:20:33.880 --> 00:20:37.319 you know, new visions, everything else. But lest I mean, I 191 00:20:37.359 --> 00:20:41.000 have to think sometimes we girls setting especial when you preparing for the new year, 192 00:20:41.240 --> 00:20:45.279 that preparation does need to start from let's say September. However we skipch 193 00:20:45.319 --> 00:20:48.400 the new year, and you know, the time is flying past. So 194 00:20:48.799 --> 00:20:52.079 actually, sometimes what tends to happen and we are still holding onto, say 195 00:20:52.119 --> 00:20:56.160 holding onto things, there are still things that are may be holding us we 196 00:20:56.319 --> 00:20:59.920 may be holding onto or things that are holding us back. But actually, 197 00:21:00.559 --> 00:21:03.680 you know, we start a new year or a new period in our lives 198 00:21:03.759 --> 00:21:07.599 or whatever that could be, and actually we're fighting a battle right from the 199 00:21:07.640 --> 00:21:11.160 get go because those things are still there. And sometimes it feels like we 200 00:21:11.240 --> 00:21:15.480 haven't really got time to really reflect on it properly and really start that work, 201 00:21:15.319 --> 00:21:18.119 because you're still carrying on. And as we've already said, you know 202 00:21:18.519 --> 00:21:22.079 we're in twenty twenty four, you know, months almost gone, and you 203 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:26.359 know the battle is real as it were, but it is really important to 204 00:21:26.440 --> 00:21:29.039 be able to take that time. And actually, you know, we've been 205 00:21:29.079 --> 00:21:32.240 focusing on different areas and some of those things that we are just doing them 206 00:21:32.400 --> 00:21:34.559 from day in day out actually to stop and say, you know what, 207 00:21:34.799 --> 00:21:38.200 there are ways to be able to manage this in a different way, in 208 00:21:38.240 --> 00:21:42.519 a more effective way, and you know, recognizing that there are so many 209 00:21:42.559 --> 00:21:48.039 things that can really hold us back, you know. And I really liked 210 00:21:48.119 --> 00:21:51.240 I'm quite a visual person, and I really liked the way Alison has kind 211 00:21:51.279 --> 00:21:55.920 of demonstrated what these things are in terms of you know, when you think 212 00:21:55.920 --> 00:21:57.759 about what a stronghold is used to be, like, you know, like 213 00:21:57.839 --> 00:22:00.799 a tour building as it were, with big walls, and you know, 214 00:22:02.200 --> 00:22:07.359 in some ways they could be really useful, you know, or what have 215 00:22:07.519 --> 00:22:11.400 you in the battle, but actually it's those very same things that potentially we're 216 00:22:11.440 --> 00:22:15.079 perfect protective factors become the ones that are holding us captive. You know, 217 00:22:17.359 --> 00:22:21.000 we did, like way should have broke that down, and I think, 218 00:22:21.079 --> 00:22:25.559 you know, it's very easy for sometimes as Christians to think that actually we 219 00:22:25.559 --> 00:22:27.200 shouldn't necessarily be dealing with some of these things because we've got God on our 220 00:22:27.279 --> 00:22:32.079 side and were happy. But the reality is, you know, sometimes we 221 00:22:32.200 --> 00:22:36.160 are dealing with stuff and things are holding us back, and sometimes we're in 222 00:22:36.240 --> 00:22:38.680 a point of position where we don't really know what we can do. So 223 00:22:38.759 --> 00:22:42.200 the fact that actually we've been given we've been given to me because we've been 224 00:22:42.200 --> 00:22:45.119 talking about it. We've been given some kind of ideas and thoughts and actually 225 00:22:45.160 --> 00:22:48.359 how we can manage those things, or even just to recognize that those things 226 00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:52.319 are actually the strong hooles that are holding us back. Yes, I like 227 00:22:52.400 --> 00:22:55.599 what you said there about about it being a new year, but we bring 228 00:22:55.759 --> 00:23:00.400 our old mindset into the new year. We bring our same problem into the 229 00:23:00.440 --> 00:23:03.519 new year. There is no magic wand at midnight, So it really, 230 00:23:03.880 --> 00:23:07.160 it really does mean that we have to tackle this. We've got to be 231 00:23:07.880 --> 00:23:12.359 strategic. We've got to really put the plans and the processes in place to 232 00:23:12.480 --> 00:23:17.519 bring these strongholds down. And we are not the beauty of what Allison has 233 00:23:17.559 --> 00:23:19.440 been sharing. It is not something that is new. It's not something that 234 00:23:19.519 --> 00:23:23.359 we have to do alone, and it's not something that we cannot find the 235 00:23:23.440 --> 00:23:26.839 victory for with God's help. And I love how she's broken it down and 236 00:23:26.960 --> 00:23:32.720 really sort of add a shiner light on some of these issues. And yeah, 237 00:23:33.079 --> 00:23:36.359 it's a new year, but we still have to take some very old, 238 00:23:36.640 --> 00:23:42.400 perhaps fundamental approaches and sort of help ourselves. Yeah, and I think 239 00:23:42.559 --> 00:23:45.519 you know, I really liked as well. How ultimately, you know, 240 00:23:45.640 --> 00:23:48.440 she said, we can't do this on our own. There are things that 241 00:23:48.519 --> 00:23:52.079 we can do ourselves, there are people that we can go to help support, 242 00:23:52.160 --> 00:23:55.240 but ultimately it's, you know, our connection to God that is really 243 00:23:55.279 --> 00:23:57.480 going to bring us through. And I love the way I was given us 244 00:23:57.559 --> 00:24:02.200 so many texts to kind of you know, to lean on. You know, 245 00:24:02.359 --> 00:24:07.119 ultimately, it's about how we can immerse ourselves in the word. Think 246 00:24:07.160 --> 00:24:10.319 about those promises that God has given us. And the Bible is full of 247 00:24:10.400 --> 00:24:12.960 those means. You know, we've been talking about having been one one a 248 00:24:14.079 --> 00:24:19.000 day, eight thousand promises in the Bible. Yeah, one a minute. 249 00:24:19.079 --> 00:24:26.799 Maybe there's been so many things to link in because there's lots of practical ways 250 00:24:26.839 --> 00:24:30.519 and things that we can do, And has given us quite a few of 251 00:24:30.559 --> 00:24:33.400 those things there as well. You know, we talked last I mean last 252 00:24:33.440 --> 00:24:37.440 week was a heavy one about depression, but worry, anxiety and fear, 253 00:24:37.759 --> 00:24:41.000 you know, the way we you know, the way our thoughts are. 254 00:24:41.519 --> 00:24:45.759 You know, there's a text and I think it's in It's in Proverbs. 255 00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:49.799 So man thinks in his heart is key. You know. Actually, if 256 00:24:49.839 --> 00:24:53.480 we're not careful, we can let our thoughts overtake us and play in itself, 257 00:24:53.599 --> 00:24:57.440 become you know, illogical, irrational, they you know, they take 258 00:24:57.480 --> 00:25:00.119 a hold on us. But again, think about what we can do to 259 00:25:00.240 --> 00:25:04.000 feed our minds. You know, what we're surrounding ourselves with, what's going 260 00:25:04.119 --> 00:25:07.599 to be impacting us, with influencing us. So again, you know, 261 00:25:07.640 --> 00:25:11.160 and one of those things is to kind of do you know, so mercurselves 262 00:25:11.240 --> 00:25:15.000 in the words, So I really loved actually how there's a real spiritual There 263 00:25:15.079 --> 00:25:21.839 is a spirituals and fact inside to all of this alongside all the practical things 264 00:25:21.880 --> 00:25:23.400 that we can do as well. And I think it's really important that we 265 00:25:23.519 --> 00:25:29.720 recognize that both of those can compliment each other and both are equally as important. 266 00:25:30.079 --> 00:25:33.559 You know. As much as we know we can pray out worries away, 267 00:25:33.799 --> 00:25:37.680 sometimes we have to do practical steps and find people. You know, 268 00:25:37.799 --> 00:25:41.480 we've we've looked at counseling, therapy, ale, that kind of thing. 269 00:25:41.519 --> 00:25:45.039 We've looked at those kind of areas. But sometimes we as Christians can be 270 00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:48.359 very reluctant maybe to reach out to those same people who can help us, 271 00:25:48.559 --> 00:25:52.039 who I believe have been blessed and gifted to be able to support other people. 272 00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:55.960 So, you know, if there's been a lot there that we can 273 00:25:56.039 --> 00:25:59.920 kind of look at, and altimately we're looking at this holistically as well. 274 00:26:00.440 --> 00:26:03.400 You know, it's not just looking at one aspect, it's all the other 275 00:26:03.480 --> 00:26:08.319 things that kind of join together that can help us be quite rounded individuals how 276 00:26:08.400 --> 00:26:12.359 we look at stuff. So and I think that's going to feeding very nicely 277 00:26:12.440 --> 00:26:17.920 to what we're gonna be talking about today, because ultimately, when we recognize 278 00:26:18.519 --> 00:26:22.400 whose image we are made in, you know, how important and how special 279 00:26:22.599 --> 00:26:26.759 God values us, it's about I'm going to get the way it's title as 280 00:26:26.799 --> 00:26:32.240 we talked about you knowing our work, that makes perfect sense. But you 281 00:26:32.559 --> 00:26:34.720 know, it's been interesting. Actually we've done always doing this this around. 282 00:26:34.720 --> 00:26:37.079 But I think that's going to be a nice reminder to say, you know 283 00:26:37.200 --> 00:26:41.519 what, despite all of those these things we've looked at those things, we've 284 00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:45.960 got to kind of understand and really reflect on where to me this is coming 285 00:26:45.039 --> 00:26:48.359 from. And it could be a thousands of one reasons why we're worrying, 286 00:26:48.599 --> 00:26:52.440 why we've got fear or anxiety about something, and unfortunately, where that can 287 00:26:52.480 --> 00:26:56.000 then lead to an illness, that depression. But ultimately, if we can 288 00:26:56.079 --> 00:27:02.119 kind of really recognize how important we are if you said and done, I 289 00:27:02.240 --> 00:27:07.039 recognize that because people's situations, experiences, and trauma feeds into all of this. 290 00:27:07.640 --> 00:27:10.440 But ultimately, if we can kind of get ourselves back on tracking that 291 00:27:10.599 --> 00:27:12.759 kind of way, that's a good starting place to try and deal with some 292 00:27:12.799 --> 00:27:18.119 of the things that we be talking about we've talked about. I wanted to 293 00:27:18.160 --> 00:27:22.960 add there for those who have missed the discussion, I know Allison has committed 294 00:27:23.000 --> 00:27:30.160 to providing us with access to the zoom presentation that she's prepared, so those 295 00:27:30.200 --> 00:27:34.799 who were listening but didn't have the visual you can have that. And also 296 00:27:36.200 --> 00:27:40.759 the programs have been podcasted and are available on speaker, So if you just 297 00:27:40.839 --> 00:27:42.160 want to have a re listen, if you just want to save, like 298 00:27:42.279 --> 00:27:45.960 I will save it for that rainy day or that day when you might need 299 00:27:47.000 --> 00:27:51.640 that information. If you don't now, then you must, and you can 300 00:27:51.839 --> 00:27:56.640 access the information once more in that regard. And also I want to pitch 301 00:27:56.720 --> 00:27:59.440 that question out again. We pitch it at the very top, and I 302 00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:03.559 want to say again, is it possible for Christians, real Christians, whatever 303 00:28:03.640 --> 00:28:07.920 that might mean? For you to be facing and dealing with some of these 304 00:28:07.960 --> 00:28:12.720 issues that we've been discussing. Can a Christian can a person of faith struggle 305 00:28:12.759 --> 00:28:18.279 with worry and fear and depression? If so, why and if not why 306 00:28:18.359 --> 00:28:21.440 I want to hear from you. Please do get in touch again. It's 307 00:28:21.480 --> 00:28:23.759 eh triple two eight hope space and then your message, or you can email 308 00:28:23.799 --> 00:28:27.960 if you're further Afield studio at Adventist Radio dot London, and of course you 309 00:28:29.079 --> 00:28:33.400 can come onto the zoom. We are inviting you on there. Details are 310 00:28:33.519 --> 00:28:38.480 seven seven one nine three eight six two zero nine. I really did enjoy 311 00:28:38.799 --> 00:28:44.799 how as you said, Jela also looked at both sides. You know, 312 00:28:44.880 --> 00:28:48.359 it could be physical and I know personally of persons who are struggling with a 313 00:28:48.680 --> 00:28:55.759 real physical illness that leads to or a physical aspect of mental illness. Could 314 00:28:55.839 --> 00:28:59.839 be stuff that's in the genes, could be wiring. It could be an 315 00:28:59.880 --> 00:29:03.720 I know Elson you spoke of dose and all that other stuff that's actual physical 316 00:29:03.839 --> 00:29:08.960 and medical and elements is there as well. But it also could be that 317 00:29:10.119 --> 00:29:11.880 we're dealing with forces that are beyond us. And I like when you said 318 00:29:12.160 --> 00:29:17.000 that thoughts are just thoughts and we have to be able to control them and 319 00:29:17.119 --> 00:29:18.960 not let them control us, because that's the beginning of the end, if 320 00:29:19.000 --> 00:29:23.599 you will, if we let those thoughts and those those fears and those worries 321 00:29:23.759 --> 00:29:27.640 take us over. There's a healthy aspect you mentioned. You know, you're 322 00:29:27.680 --> 00:29:30.400 walking across the street, you really don't want to be concerned whether a car 323 00:29:30.599 --> 00:29:34.359 is coming. You don't just want to be running across Willy nearly as they 324 00:29:34.440 --> 00:29:40.200 see. But when things become too much or overwhelming or overbearing, and it's 325 00:29:40.240 --> 00:29:44.720 starting to impact how you live and how you love and how you enjoy life, 326 00:29:45.319 --> 00:29:48.440 then there is a point where you may need to seek assistance. So 327 00:29:48.880 --> 00:29:52.480 you may need to really look at what you're dealing with and how you can 328 00:29:52.519 --> 00:29:55.519 get the help to deal with it. And I think we've sort of said 329 00:29:55.680 --> 00:30:03.279 enough. Person I don't think here feeling very satisfying hearing everything being playedback. 330 00:30:03.440 --> 00:30:08.839 It's it's really it's really nice were listening, yeah, And I think it's 331 00:30:10.079 --> 00:30:11.480 you know, it's much to you know, we're putting this out there for 332 00:30:11.559 --> 00:30:18.319 people to listen. It's been quite empowering. I speak to myself as well, 333 00:30:18.599 --> 00:30:21.039 just to come and hear this, because you know, despite what we 334 00:30:21.319 --> 00:30:22.799 you know, I know, so I know some of this information, but 335 00:30:22.839 --> 00:30:26.079 it's always good to have a reminder we'll just look at things in a very 336 00:30:26.079 --> 00:30:30.880 different way. So that's been it's been good for me in that respect to 337 00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:33.319 hear all of this, and you know, hopefully I ca'n try and put 338 00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:36.799 some of this into practice and just you know, make sure I'm looking after 339 00:30:36.880 --> 00:30:38.160 myself as well as you know, trying to sort of help others. So 340 00:30:38.920 --> 00:30:45.440 yeah, yeah, I just just just wanted to add to what Samuel was 341 00:30:45.480 --> 00:30:48.839 saying. Yeah, you know, one of the best things that God has 342 00:30:48.880 --> 00:30:52.799 given us is the ability to reason, and he even says, come and 343 00:30:52.920 --> 00:30:56.880 let us reason together. So it's really important that when we have these thoughts, 344 00:30:56.960 --> 00:31:00.880 we have these feelings, you know, we have these ideas that we 345 00:31:02.319 --> 00:31:07.039 reason, we use our minds. The mind is a is a very kind 346 00:31:07.079 --> 00:31:11.279 of high gift that God has given us to be able to use our mind 347 00:31:11.359 --> 00:31:15.680 to reason. It's an amazing thing. So let's let's reason with him. 348 00:31:15.599 --> 00:31:22.359 And yes, let's reason about when to cross the way and cross the undimate. 349 00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:25.880 You were saying as well, you know that we're really important for us 350 00:31:25.920 --> 00:31:27.559 to know the truth, and ultimately that truth will set you free. So 351 00:31:29.240 --> 00:31:33.480 again it's really trying to sort of unpack, delve into things, looking where 352 00:31:33.480 --> 00:31:37.319 things are coming from, you know, looking at you said reason, explore, 353 00:31:37.480 --> 00:31:42.039 discover for yourself, you know, and really sort of understand and recognize 354 00:31:42.039 --> 00:31:49.240 the truth, because that definitely will be your saving graces. Are so right, 355 00:31:49.319 --> 00:31:52.599 Alison, over to you. I know there is quite a bit more 356 00:31:52.680 --> 00:31:56.319 for us to discuss, and why we have the topic this afternoon, knowing 357 00:31:56.440 --> 00:32:00.839 your worsh take it away, Okay, yeah, today we're looking at knowing 358 00:32:00.880 --> 00:32:06.119 your work. But I really do, like normally like to start with just 359 00:32:06.240 --> 00:32:12.400 looking at the key text that we've been using for this series, and it's 360 00:32:12.559 --> 00:32:21.680 coming from Second Corinthians, Chapter ten, Versus three to five, which says, 361 00:32:22.480 --> 00:32:27.400 for the weapons of our warfare are not cannal, but mighty in God, 362 00:32:27.519 --> 00:32:31.920 for pulling down strongholds, casting down arguments, and every high thing that 363 00:32:32.119 --> 00:32:38.200 exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the 364 00:32:38.279 --> 00:32:44.200 obedience of Christ. Before that, it says, though we are made of 365 00:32:44.279 --> 00:32:47.200 the flesh, we do not battle with the flesh. And I think it's 366 00:32:47.279 --> 00:32:53.759 really this scripture text is really powerful. It's a really important one that's kind 367 00:32:53.839 --> 00:33:00.079 of you know, underpinned all of the things that we've been looking at this 368 00:33:00.319 --> 00:33:07.319 series, and today, of course we're focusing on explore orrowing, knowing my 369 00:33:07.519 --> 00:33:12.319 worth, knowing my worth. Let's start by exploring our worth and you know, 370 00:33:12.519 --> 00:33:16.519 some of the things key questions that I really want to start by asking 371 00:33:16.640 --> 00:33:22.799 us to reflect on who am I? I know that this is a quite 372 00:33:23.039 --> 00:33:29.039 a common question. Who am I? You know, if you if you 373 00:33:29.119 --> 00:33:31.920 haven't asked yourself that question, please do. It's a very important question. 374 00:33:32.599 --> 00:33:39.519 What factors in my past or press and or present contribute to how I perceive 375 00:33:39.720 --> 00:33:47.519 myself? And why am I here? What's my purpose? So you know, 376 00:33:47.920 --> 00:33:53.640 those are really really important questions and hopefully maybe by the end of this 377 00:33:54.000 --> 00:34:01.799 of the program today you'll have more clear answers to those questions or your answer 378 00:34:02.319 --> 00:34:10.639 great, glad to hear it. Your answers to those questions might be enhanced. 379 00:34:12.800 --> 00:34:19.159 That was technology. I do apologize. So when we talk about the 380 00:34:19.320 --> 00:34:22.719 self, when we talk about who we are, it's very important that we 381 00:34:22.880 --> 00:34:29.280 know that there are various aspects of self, you know, and you know, 382 00:34:29.400 --> 00:34:32.840 when we think deeply about okay, what am I about? Who am 383 00:34:32.920 --> 00:34:38.000 I? How do I define myself. That various ways in which we can 384 00:34:38.079 --> 00:34:45.239 think about self. So we can think about self self concept, our perception 385 00:34:45.960 --> 00:34:51.599 of who we are. So our self concept is, you know, the 386 00:34:51.760 --> 00:34:55.400 thoughts that we have, the preferences, the habits, the hobbies, the 387 00:34:55.559 --> 00:35:02.079 skills, areas of weakness, areas of strength. That's really the self concept. 388 00:35:02.400 --> 00:35:07.920 That's how when we talk about self concepts, that's what we're talking about. 389 00:35:07.719 --> 00:35:13.880 So when we think about who am I, what are my thoughts, 390 00:35:13.920 --> 00:35:17.480 what are my preferences, we can look at that we can define that as 391 00:35:19.400 --> 00:35:24.639 self concept. And then we have what we call self image, which is 392 00:35:25.039 --> 00:35:30.480 the way in which we see ourselves. And we can see ourselves based on 393 00:35:30.880 --> 00:35:37.519 accurate thoughts or feelings or information, or even based on inaccurate thoughts, feelings, 394 00:35:37.719 --> 00:35:44.480 or information about ourselves. So how we see ourselves is the image, 395 00:35:44.599 --> 00:35:47.800 is the self image. And then we have what we call the self worth, 396 00:35:49.239 --> 00:35:53.599 which is really what we want to kind of focus on in today's discussion. 397 00:35:54.320 --> 00:36:00.920 So self worth is a recognition that we are valuable human beings and worthy 398 00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:07.480 of love, worthy of respect, worthy of you know, being safe in 399 00:36:07.599 --> 00:36:14.760 our environment, whether of the kind of basic safety needs in life like food, 400 00:36:14.920 --> 00:36:20.760 shelter. You know, every human being is deserving of that kind of 401 00:36:21.000 --> 00:36:24.280 love, respects, recognition, and that's the self worth, that's what we 402 00:36:24.440 --> 00:36:30.719 call self worth. And then we've got self confidence. And our self confidence 403 00:36:30.880 --> 00:36:36.840 is the is the trust that we have in ourselves really and our ability to 404 00:36:36.960 --> 00:36:44.239 deal with challenges, solve problems, and engage in things aspects around us, 405 00:36:44.400 --> 00:36:49.800 things in the world, you know, successfully kind of engaging activities that we 406 00:36:49.920 --> 00:36:53.840 need to engage engaging. When we have that trust in ourselves in our ability 407 00:36:53.920 --> 00:36:59.360 to do those things, then we have self confidence. And then we have 408 00:36:59.559 --> 00:37:05.400 what we call or self efficacy, which is our ability to succeed at certain 409 00:37:05.559 --> 00:37:10.559 specific tasks. So you know, if we're efficient in I don't know, 410 00:37:10.679 --> 00:37:16.559 maybe cooking, for example, were very efficient in playing particular spots for example, 411 00:37:17.000 --> 00:37:22.880 that's that's our self efficacy. So it's really important to recognize what we're 412 00:37:22.960 --> 00:37:29.440 good at, what were efficient, where we succeed, what things we succeed 413 00:37:29.639 --> 00:37:34.400 are doing. And then we have what we call self compassion, and that's 414 00:37:34.480 --> 00:37:40.559 how we relate to ourselves. And rather than judging ourselves or rather than criticizing, 415 00:37:42.039 --> 00:37:45.400 being self critical, it's about being kind, It's about being forgiving, 416 00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:52.719 to ourselves. So these aspects of selves, you know, it's really worth 417 00:37:52.960 --> 00:37:57.119 kind of knowing. And then we also have what we call self esteem, 418 00:37:58.400 --> 00:38:05.000 self esteem and self acceptance. So self esteem is about how we evaluate ourselves. 419 00:38:05.039 --> 00:38:12.719 It's about comparing ourselves perhaps to certain people, comparing ourselves in certain situations 420 00:38:13.320 --> 00:38:19.199 on how we do certain things against how other people do them, how other 421 00:38:19.320 --> 00:38:23.719 people perhaps may perceive us or evaluate us. That's that's our self esteem, 422 00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:30.800 and it's contingent on circumstances. Our selvisteem is normally quite fragile because it just 423 00:38:31.079 --> 00:38:37.000 like I said, it depends on circumstances. So selvice team can change. 424 00:38:37.519 --> 00:38:40.719 One minute, we can think, well, we've got very high self esteem. 425 00:38:40.880 --> 00:38:44.840 Next minute we might think, well, you know, I'm not feeling 426 00:38:45.199 --> 00:38:50.159 very good about myself because of the way people are judging me, evaluating me, 427 00:38:50.400 --> 00:38:55.599 of the way I'm judging myself against other people. Selvest team has mixed 428 00:38:55.639 --> 00:39:01.760 effects on well being. And like I said, we have self acceptance and 429 00:39:01.960 --> 00:39:08.559 that really is relating to the self. We don't need to be comparing ourselves 430 00:39:08.760 --> 00:39:15.679 to other people. It's also it can also be contingent on circumstances. But 431 00:39:15.840 --> 00:39:22.760 there's a security with self acceptance because it's really not it's non critical. It's 432 00:39:22.840 --> 00:39:27.320 just accepting yourself for who you are, and so that there's a sense of 433 00:39:27.400 --> 00:39:30.559 security. It's not fragile. It doesn't matter what other people are thinking, 434 00:39:30.679 --> 00:39:36.480 what other people are saying. It's the ability to just accept us for who 435 00:39:36.559 --> 00:39:39.880 we are. And you know, when we can be self accepting, this 436 00:39:40.119 --> 00:39:46.079 generally has a possible positive effect on our well being. So really, generally 437 00:39:46.159 --> 00:39:52.719 speaking, our ability to recognize our true worth depends on whether we focus on 438 00:39:52.880 --> 00:39:59.039 our self esteem or self acceptance. I've got on the screen a kind of 439 00:39:59.360 --> 00:40:06.039 comparison between self esteem and self acceptance. When we share the slides, you'll 440 00:40:06.079 --> 00:40:13.920 be able to see them if you're just listening. So moving on, when 441 00:40:14.039 --> 00:40:19.480 we talk about self esteem, what are some of the factors that kind of 442 00:40:19.719 --> 00:40:23.400 impact on our self esteem. The reason I'm looking at this is because I 443 00:40:23.639 --> 00:40:30.320 know that, you know, self esteem is a hot topic. Many people 444 00:40:30.639 --> 00:40:35.559 want to have high self esteem, you know, good self esteem. But 445 00:40:36.119 --> 00:40:39.159 you know, like you said, self esteem is quite quite fragile and just 446 00:40:39.280 --> 00:40:45.480 depends on really circumstances, what's happening in the environment. So what are some 447 00:40:45.639 --> 00:40:50.480 of the factors that impact on self esteem. It could be family environments. 448 00:40:50.679 --> 00:40:54.320 So you could be from a family that's very validating, that's very supportive, 449 00:40:54.920 --> 00:41:01.679 that's very kind of loving and trust worthy, and in that sense you will 450 00:41:01.800 --> 00:41:07.679 have quite probably quite good self esteem because you're getting the security and validation from 451 00:41:07.760 --> 00:41:15.159 your your family environment. It could be based on achievement or physical appearance, 452 00:41:15.519 --> 00:41:20.559 or you know, especially nowadays where social media is the thing. You know, 453 00:41:21.239 --> 00:41:25.199 most people are posting their best, the best versions of themselves, so 454 00:41:25.360 --> 00:41:30.679 to speak, on social media, and for some people that's kind of building 455 00:41:30.039 --> 00:41:35.400 enhancing their self esteem. On the other hand, you know, physically, 456 00:41:35.400 --> 00:41:37.960 if you don't think, well, I look good enough, that can have 457 00:41:37.079 --> 00:41:43.599 a negative impact on self esteem. Self belief is an important one, so 458 00:41:43.760 --> 00:41:46.800 that's really what you believe about yourself. Do you believe you're you're good enough? 459 00:41:46.960 --> 00:41:52.960 Do you believe you are you are worthy? Do you believe you your 460 00:41:53.800 --> 00:42:00.760 your failure? Do you believe that you know life's worth living because you know 461 00:42:00.880 --> 00:42:06.000 you're a high achiever and you're going to make it in life. Your self 462 00:42:06.119 --> 00:42:13.760 belief can directly impact on your self esteem and then your ability to do things 463 00:42:14.119 --> 00:42:20.800 proficiently, your ability to do various tasks to a good standard or to a 464 00:42:21.320 --> 00:42:25.719 high standard can have a direct impact on your self esteem and also obviously your 465 00:42:27.000 --> 00:42:30.079 kind of the people that you interact with, your friends, your acquaintances, 466 00:42:30.639 --> 00:42:36.599 people at work. You know, those relationships, if they're good, if 467 00:42:36.599 --> 00:42:39.360 they're healthy, can bump off your self esteem. If they're not healthy, 468 00:42:39.840 --> 00:42:45.079 can be quite detrimental to your self esteem. So when we talk about self 469 00:42:45.199 --> 00:42:51.920 esteem, we're talking about, you know, something that's really influenced by different 470 00:42:52.199 --> 00:42:59.960 different factors. Nowadays, a lot of people have issues with low self issis 471 00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:06.199 a lot of the problems that people have with other things that we've looked at. 472 00:43:06.719 --> 00:43:13.239 Worry, anxiety, depression will directly impact on self esteem or self steam 473 00:43:13.559 --> 00:43:20.159 will directly cause some of those issues. So how does it really come about? 474 00:43:20.280 --> 00:43:24.239 What keeps it going? Some of the things that really directly impact on 475 00:43:24.360 --> 00:43:30.039 selvis low self esteem and keep it going things like our core beliefs. Our 476 00:43:30.079 --> 00:43:37.840 core beliefs are fundamentally the beliefs that we hold the lens through which we see 477 00:43:37.960 --> 00:43:43.239 we perceive ourselves. Uh, And a lot of the time that's determined by 478 00:43:44.320 --> 00:43:49.960 messages that's been handed over to us by you know, maybe family, maybe 479 00:43:50.119 --> 00:43:55.480 friends, colleagues, environments, and we start to believe certain things about ourselves. 480 00:43:57.000 --> 00:44:00.440 So if we have if somebody set to us several times, you know, 481 00:44:01.519 --> 00:44:05.199 you're I don't think you're very good. I don't think you're going to 482 00:44:05.280 --> 00:44:08.400 make it. I don't think you're very bright. You know, then we 483 00:44:08.559 --> 00:44:14.639 start to think maybe something along the lines of I'm a failure or I'm not 484 00:44:14.760 --> 00:44:20.559 good enough, and that core believe becomes the thing becomes the main kind of 485 00:44:21.119 --> 00:44:27.119 lens through which you're viewing yourself. And if you're holding a negative core believe 486 00:44:27.199 --> 00:44:30.440 of yourself, that can be quite damaging. It means that, you know, 487 00:44:30.760 --> 00:44:37.000 you start to develop what we call unhelpful rules for living. You start 488 00:44:37.039 --> 00:44:40.000 to make assumptions. So if I'm not good enough, for example, if 489 00:44:40.039 --> 00:44:46.679 I'm a failure for example, I must say yes to anything anybody asks of 490 00:44:46.880 --> 00:44:52.639 me for example. Or I must please people for example, or you know, 491 00:44:52.960 --> 00:44:58.800 I can't say no to anything. Those are some common kind of unhelpful 492 00:44:58.880 --> 00:45:04.199 rules for living people tend to adopt. And then what also happens is that 493 00:45:04.400 --> 00:45:09.239 people have kind of like negative predictions, So you know, start to predict, 494 00:45:09.480 --> 00:45:15.039 start to anticipate or foresee things that might happen. And this these predictions 495 00:45:15.119 --> 00:45:19.480 become negative. And if the predictions, if you think, well, if 496 00:45:19.519 --> 00:45:22.679 I don't say yes every time somebody asks me to do something, then they're 497 00:45:22.719 --> 00:45:25.559 going to hate They're going to hate me, or they're going to dislike me. 498 00:45:27.320 --> 00:45:31.440 That will make us engage in unhelpful behaviors, It will make us kind 499 00:45:31.480 --> 00:45:36.000 of go out of our way. Then maybe to do things that will make 500 00:45:36.079 --> 00:45:40.360 us to perhaps seek reassurance for other people from other people, depend on other 501 00:45:40.480 --> 00:45:45.639 people to tell us how, tell us whether we're good enough, or tell 502 00:45:45.719 --> 00:45:50.599 us that you know, we're not a failure, or you know, provide 503 00:45:50.760 --> 00:45:55.599 positive feedback, and that that type of reassurance seeking can be quite detrimental because 504 00:45:55.639 --> 00:46:01.360 you're looking for somebody else to provide that value to you, rather than perhaps 505 00:46:01.440 --> 00:46:07.039 looking to God or actually kind of searching yourself for what your strengths are. 506 00:46:07.639 --> 00:46:10.400 When you don't think you're good enough, when you have a low self esteem 507 00:46:10.480 --> 00:46:15.079 or you've got negative core believes about yourself, then it's very easy to speak 508 00:46:15.199 --> 00:46:19.559 to yourself in a very critical way. It's very easy. You know, 509 00:46:19.719 --> 00:46:22.719 people say things like, oh, I'm so stupid, or you know, 510 00:46:22.960 --> 00:46:28.400 I'm such a fool, and that sort of thing, that negative labeling or 511 00:46:28.639 --> 00:46:31.599 you know, seeing yourself in a negative life light and being self critical. 512 00:46:32.039 --> 00:46:37.239 So you know, those are some of the things that will keep somebody kind 513 00:46:37.280 --> 00:46:40.039 of experiencing law self esteem. You've got core believes that are negative. You 514 00:46:40.199 --> 00:46:45.320 make assumptions that are negative all the time. Something might be happening, but 515 00:46:45.480 --> 00:46:50.079 you just assume that maybe somebody doesn't like you because you don't think you're good 516 00:46:50.199 --> 00:46:52.840 enough. You make negative predictions. If I don't do X, y Z, 517 00:46:53.360 --> 00:46:58.360 nobody's ever going to accept me into their circle, for example. And 518 00:46:58.519 --> 00:47:02.760 you're very self critical, and those are the things that keep low selver steam 519 00:47:02.920 --> 00:47:08.719 going. And then in practice, what does that actually look like. Well, 520 00:47:08.880 --> 00:47:13.519 people with low self esteem, like I said, will be very critical 521 00:47:13.599 --> 00:47:19.199 of themselves, very very critical, criticizing themselves all the time, blaming themselves, 522 00:47:19.559 --> 00:47:25.280 taking responsibility for negative things that perhaps are not responsible for, focusing on 523 00:47:25.440 --> 00:47:30.239 their weaknesses. You know, we all have areas that we're not so stronger. 524 00:47:30.760 --> 00:47:34.440 But when when we've got low selve steam, all we're doing is focusing. 525 00:47:34.800 --> 00:47:37.280 We forget the things that we're good at and we focus on things that 526 00:47:37.400 --> 00:47:43.159 we think that we're not very good at. We are not able to be 527 00:47:43.280 --> 00:47:47.519 assertive, we're not able to kind of express our own our own desires, 528 00:47:47.639 --> 00:47:53.199 our own needs. Sometimes we might be kind of very apologetic while apologizing a 529 00:47:53.239 --> 00:47:55.960 lot, Oh I'm sorry, Oh I'm sorry, and you know, sometimes 530 00:47:57.000 --> 00:48:00.159 it's quite strange, like what are you sorry for? You know? So, 531 00:48:00.480 --> 00:48:04.000 you know, people who have low SELVISTEAM can tend to apologize a lot 532 00:48:04.239 --> 00:48:08.760 when they really don't need to. They can tend to avoid challenges or try 533 00:48:08.840 --> 00:48:14.320 to be perfect in everything. Not this perfect, you know, but people 534 00:48:14.400 --> 00:48:17.840 with low SELVISTEAM would want to do everything to perfection, be perfect, and 535 00:48:19.000 --> 00:48:22.639 be very self critical if they feel that they haven't met very high standards. 536 00:48:23.079 --> 00:48:29.320 They feel self conscious, they want to please people, and they feel like 537 00:48:29.400 --> 00:48:32.280 they don't deserve treats. So something with low selvisteing, For example, if 538 00:48:32.320 --> 00:48:36.960 you compliment them and say, oh, you know, I like your bag, 539 00:48:37.159 --> 00:48:39.559 or I like your dress or I like your hair, instead of just 540 00:48:39.639 --> 00:48:43.599 saying thank you, they might say, oh, you know, I've had 541 00:48:43.679 --> 00:48:47.599 this for a long time, very kind of dismissive or compliments or you know, 542 00:48:47.920 --> 00:48:54.079 think they don't deserve anything good, so feel very uncomfortable with anything positive, 543 00:48:54.360 --> 00:49:00.519 any treats that they might be getting, and they don't think much about 544 00:49:00.559 --> 00:49:04.840 themselves and uh, you know, these are some of the kind of common 545 00:49:05.760 --> 00:49:15.039 characteristics of people with low self esteem. Now, how does it impact on 546 00:49:15.199 --> 00:49:19.440 well being? I think, you know, we we have to understand that 547 00:49:19.639 --> 00:49:24.159 low selvisteam can run very deep, can be very ingrained, and that's why 548 00:49:24.400 --> 00:49:30.199 it's a stronghold low self worth. Seeing yourself in a negative light is really 549 00:49:31.760 --> 00:49:38.880 quite a big stronghold and does have a direct impact on our wellbeing. So 550 00:49:39.440 --> 00:49:45.039 what does it do? It causes anxiety. We talked about anxiety. We've 551 00:49:45.039 --> 00:49:47.679 got talked about worry here and anxiety. It makes people feel on edge all 552 00:49:47.760 --> 00:49:52.159 the time. If you don't think that you're with your you're worth anything, 553 00:49:52.280 --> 00:49:55.000 or you're good enough, or that your failure or your or that you're if 554 00:49:55.039 --> 00:50:00.440 you think you're undeserving or you think you're defective in any way, of course 555 00:50:00.480 --> 00:50:04.119 you're going to be anxious. You're going to have anxiety, You're going to 556 00:50:04.159 --> 00:50:07.480 be on edge because you're going to be thinking all the time. But well, 557 00:50:07.719 --> 00:50:10.400 you know, people are going to see you in a negative way. 558 00:50:10.559 --> 00:50:15.840 You're going to probably go out of your way to do certain things that perhaps 559 00:50:15.960 --> 00:50:19.800 you shouldn't, you don't need to, you shouldn't have to depression. You 560 00:50:19.920 --> 00:50:25.280 can't obviously be joyful or happy if you're very self critical, if you're seeing 561 00:50:25.320 --> 00:50:30.800 yourself in a negative way all the time. And anxiety and depression are known 562 00:50:30.880 --> 00:50:37.519 to have to cause physical health problems, So chest pains, headaches, unexplained 563 00:50:38.039 --> 00:50:42.800 medical conditions. Sometimes we go to the doctor and we say, oh, 564 00:50:43.119 --> 00:50:46.559 you know, I've got this problem. My tummy hurts or my chest hurts, 565 00:50:46.599 --> 00:50:50.119 and you know, I feel this way. I feel that when they 566 00:50:50.239 --> 00:50:53.880 do all sorts of tests and then they find out, well, there's nothing 567 00:50:54.119 --> 00:50:59.519 medically wrong with you. You know. So when we have low self esteem, 568 00:50:59.599 --> 00:51:02.599 we have anxiety, we have depression, we have anger within us, 569 00:51:04.119 --> 00:51:09.840 we have we carry shame or guilt. This this can lead to physical physical 570 00:51:09.920 --> 00:51:15.639 health problems. Also, people some people that have suffered from eating disorder, 571 00:51:17.519 --> 00:51:24.400 anouretsia, bolimia, binge, eating that sort of thing. And ultimately people 572 00:51:24.800 --> 00:51:31.239 people suffer from their relationship with their relationships that have relationships issues which then have 573 00:51:31.639 --> 00:51:38.199 a direct impact on their mental and physical well being. So we've looked at, 574 00:51:38.760 --> 00:51:44.000 you know, the various aspects of self that we've kind of focused on, 575 00:51:44.840 --> 00:51:50.159 you know, self esteem, self self stem, self acceptance, and 576 00:51:50.280 --> 00:51:53.800 then we've gone on to look at look at low sevesting and the impact that 577 00:51:53.960 --> 00:52:00.519 that can have on our on our mental and physical wellbeing. And just pause 578 00:52:00.599 --> 00:52:06.199 here because I know that that's quite a bit of information, and I'll hand 579 00:52:06.239 --> 00:52:12.199 over to Z now. Thanks Alison. Yes, that again so informative. 580 00:52:12.320 --> 00:52:15.440 I didn't I've never really looked at self and broken it down to that sort 581 00:52:15.480 --> 00:52:21.440 of detail. You're talking about self concept and self image and self work, 582 00:52:22.000 --> 00:52:28.159 self confidence, self efficacy, self compassion, self esteem, self acceptance. 583 00:52:28.239 --> 00:52:31.360 That's a lot of self there, and I don't know that I've ever really 584 00:52:31.440 --> 00:52:37.440 broken it down quite like that. And I'm also sort of seeing the correlation. 585 00:52:37.639 --> 00:52:42.559 And I believe you mentioned it before, So is it come moobidity? 586 00:52:42.800 --> 00:52:46.239 Is that the right term for it? Where there are so many dotted lines 587 00:52:46.320 --> 00:52:50.960 into what affects us, and you know one can affect the other, one 588 00:52:51.039 --> 00:52:53.639 thing can affect the other thing, and how low self esteem can sort of 589 00:52:54.039 --> 00:52:59.639 cause depression. Depression can cause low self esteem. So we really are sort 590 00:52:59.639 --> 00:53:02.559 of, as Angel would say, really whole beans. And that's why we 591 00:53:02.639 --> 00:53:07.280 have to take a holistic approach when we're dealing with with whatever issue we're dealing 592 00:53:07.320 --> 00:53:12.079 with and I don't know what what's sort of jumped out at you from what's 593 00:53:12.119 --> 00:53:15.960 been said already. Interesting as you're saying about, you know again looking at 594 00:53:15.960 --> 00:53:20.360 itself in those various aspects, actually all those work hand in hand. They're 595 00:53:20.440 --> 00:53:23.440 really it seems that they're really key. We're talking about holistically, but you 596 00:53:23.519 --> 00:53:28.840 know, all of those things are really important to parts of yourself, and 597 00:53:28.960 --> 00:53:32.920 if those things aren't sort of aligned or imbalance, then actually that's potentially going 598 00:53:32.960 --> 00:53:37.360 to be leading to some of these issues that people will have. And it's 599 00:53:37.360 --> 00:53:40.199 been quite interesting to sort of see how you know, if you don't if 600 00:53:40.239 --> 00:53:46.480 something the different aspects of that are they are, if they're not being what's 601 00:53:46.519 --> 00:53:52.440 the word, if they're not a having of the word now, if they're 602 00:53:52.480 --> 00:53:57.480 not happening for the read words, how that then how that presents itself? 603 00:53:58.880 --> 00:54:00.960 You know what happens for you? And it's que interesting. You know, 604 00:54:01.039 --> 00:54:06.880 sometimes people find it really difficult to accept compliments from each other and you think 605 00:54:06.960 --> 00:54:08.119 something as simple as that. Now I'm not saying because you can't do that, 606 00:54:08.159 --> 00:54:13.880 you have no self esteem, but you're maybe not recognizing how important that 607 00:54:14.000 --> 00:54:16.400 part of yourself really is. You know, sometimes we just don't Again, 608 00:54:16.480 --> 00:54:19.760 we never think of it in those kinds of ways. But actually one of 609 00:54:19.800 --> 00:54:22.960 those errors are quite important. And I was just curious as well. You 610 00:54:23.000 --> 00:54:28.679 know, some of these things you were talking about environment and how things can 611 00:54:28.760 --> 00:54:34.079 feed into shaping your self esteem and hopefully, you know, if the people 612 00:54:34.119 --> 00:54:36.960 are having a sort of a positive aspect, But can some of those things 613 00:54:37.920 --> 00:54:42.440 turn too much of something or almost have a bit of a negative effect anyway, 614 00:54:42.519 --> 00:54:46.760 even if there's a really positive sort of environment that does that cannot work 615 00:54:47.920 --> 00:54:52.119 have a negative kind of connotation too much of a good thing. Yeah, 616 00:54:52.239 --> 00:54:58.199 that's a that's a good question. So you know, sometimes you've got too 617 00:54:58.320 --> 00:55:02.679 much self confident or you know, you think that you're you're just simply too 618 00:55:02.719 --> 00:55:08.559 good at the expense, at the expense of, you know, considering that 619 00:55:09.000 --> 00:55:15.119 the other people you know have positives about them, you know, they being 620 00:55:15.320 --> 00:55:20.960 so engrossed in your own self, you know, that becomes that becomes a 621 00:55:21.039 --> 00:55:24.360 problem. So it's good. Balance is always good. It's good to recognize 622 00:55:24.440 --> 00:55:30.639 what we're good at, what was stronger, where we need kind of areas 623 00:55:30.679 --> 00:55:34.400 of development. But I think one of the things that I didn't kind of 624 00:55:34.559 --> 00:55:40.480 include this kind of denials, because some people kind of having an attitude of 625 00:55:40.559 --> 00:55:45.719 self denial. They don't accept that there are certain things that they actually are 626 00:55:45.760 --> 00:55:51.320 not very good at and other people might be better than them. And when 627 00:55:51.400 --> 00:55:55.280 you've got this sense of you're so kind of into yourself and you think you're 628 00:55:55.480 --> 00:56:00.800 better than everybody in everything, then you're Indian Nile about the fact that actually 629 00:56:01.280 --> 00:56:06.960 you need to be accepting of the fact that there are potentially other areas that 630 00:56:07.039 --> 00:56:12.679 you may not be excellent. But that's okay. So it can be detrimental 631 00:56:12.800 --> 00:56:20.519 because you can alienate people by being too focused on the positives about yourself, 632 00:56:20.920 --> 00:56:23.360 so to speak. Yeah, I think for me as well, I've taken 633 00:56:23.400 --> 00:56:28.320 away and I know we know it. But it's always good to be reminded 634 00:56:28.639 --> 00:56:31.000 that we have to be careful what we tell ourselves. As parents, we've 635 00:56:31.039 --> 00:56:35.519 got to be careful what we tell our children. Again, it's remind us 636 00:56:35.679 --> 00:56:38.159 many, for many, hopefully, but it's good to have those reminders because 637 00:56:38.199 --> 00:56:42.320 we do it all the time. Probably don't even notice that we're doing it. 638 00:56:42.639 --> 00:56:46.079 I'm speaking ill of ourselves or speaking down on ourselves, and that impacts 639 00:56:46.199 --> 00:56:50.800 our self esteem. And as you've rightly said, at the end, our 640 00:56:50.840 --> 00:56:54.480 self esteem can impact so many other aspects of our life. So that's for 641 00:56:54.639 --> 00:57:00.280 me a good and useful reminder. Yeah, let's take a break. I 642 00:57:00.360 --> 00:57:05.079 love this one. It's a mercy general confidence. When we come back, 643 00:57:05.199 --> 00:57:15.039 we'll continue with the conversation. Knowing you're worst you. He's in you. 644 00:57:15.400 --> 00:57:22.800 I'm bout my trusting you, trust in you, Jesus some not alone, 645 00:57:22.159 --> 00:57:32.559 you're with me. You're with me because one with you is majority my confidence. 646 00:57:37.480 --> 00:57:46.719 I'm on Jesus, not alone, you with me. You're with me. 647 00:57:47.400 --> 00:57:59.760 One with you is majority. Looking at you, Jesus. Although it 648 00:58:00.079 --> 00:58:09.840 finish sort of fighter, I'm I trading be good, sir. I held 649 00:58:09.920 --> 00:58:25.960 you. I have everything'm getting unto Jus spottle and finished sort of fighters am 650 00:58:27.000 --> 00:58:37.679 I try to be gonsired. I heard you. I have everything before I 651 00:58:37.880 --> 00:58:49.239 call you the answering you love them at me for wonder wond with you are 652 00:58:49.360 --> 00:59:00.239 not lord of cold? One with you? Is they before God? You 653 00:59:00.400 --> 00:59:10.440 won't So I'm so you know they one the one with you have not a 654 00:59:10.559 --> 00:59:24.840 lord of cover? What with you? Miss Mavis? You see me? 655 00:59:28.639 --> 00:59:53.280 Just stay I'm not You're getting fun with you? Miss the Dovic best not 656 00:59:54.880 --> 01:00:06.480 you get fun with the you miss me okay, you surround me like a 657 01:00:06.639 --> 01:00:15.039 sheep machine and poplar wearing stuff and tip them to my soul. That's why 658 01:00:15.239 --> 01:00:22.719 I am not boring. You're with me. I'm monelold. He has some 659 01:00:22.079 --> 01:00:37.039 carver look in until jag and I'm telling Fanny Shirt than I. I'm my 660 01:00:37.159 --> 01:01:15.079 friends because I I love mean, I haven't my steal stack thy stand stop 661 01:01:16.440 --> 01:01:35.280 eighty, nor your seal with me. One with you is the os speak 662 01:01:38.639 --> 01:02:08.199 pity you. One is the coop love scause. One was the isity Mercy. 663 01:02:08.360 --> 01:02:15.119 Chin were reminding us that one with you, God is majority, and 664 01:02:15.320 --> 01:02:20.360 we are talking about knowing our worth, knowing our worth. And this is 665 01:02:20.440 --> 01:02:25.079 the final installment, I believe for now of the conversations we've been having led 666 01:02:25.199 --> 01:02:31.920 by Alison a Wuku bringing down strongholds. Allison, we were just talking offline 667 01:02:31.960 --> 01:02:37.679 about how fall and deep and rich these discussions are, and you're saying that 668 01:02:37.960 --> 01:02:43.239 you are You're interested in bringing things back to basic, and I think that's 669 01:02:43.280 --> 01:02:46.880 what you've done. High level sometimes goes over our heads, or we get 670 01:02:46.960 --> 01:02:51.800 so caught up in high level that we don't remember the basic building blocks and 671 01:02:51.920 --> 01:02:55.039 so that's kind of what you've been sharing with us. Why don't I hand 672 01:02:55.039 --> 01:02:59.800 it back over to you. Okay, thank you so much, Sania. 673 01:03:00.920 --> 01:03:07.760 Okay, So we're going to look at ways in which, as humans we 674 01:03:08.559 --> 01:03:14.960 normally define who we are. I started off by saying, think about who 675 01:03:15.119 --> 01:03:21.239 are you? How has your past or present experiences, how do they impact 676 01:03:21.320 --> 01:03:24.360 on who you are? And what do you think a critical is. So 677 01:03:24.559 --> 01:03:30.000 let's just look at how generally, you know, as humans, we commonly 678 01:03:30.440 --> 01:03:36.800 kind of define who we are. And this is kind of you know, 679 01:03:37.679 --> 01:03:45.599 in the nineteenth centuary nineteenth twentieth century, there were three great philosophers who I 680 01:03:45.719 --> 01:03:51.239 think most of us have heard of, and you know, they kind of 681 01:03:52.000 --> 01:04:01.559 were really crucial or critical instrumental in defining human human identity. We have cal 682 01:04:01.719 --> 01:04:08.480 Max. Cal Max, who a lot of people would have heard of. 683 01:04:08.599 --> 01:04:13.679 Cal Max he said, money is the principal things, that principal thing that 684 01:04:13.800 --> 01:04:19.079 defines a human So money, money is the defining drive in human nature, 685 01:04:19.880 --> 01:04:25.760 where each one of us is a creature of create, create, creature of 686 01:04:25.960 --> 01:04:31.519 money. And so we need money to kind of engage in the exchange of 687 01:04:31.599 --> 01:04:40.039 goods and services and in order to kind of really define our wealth and who 688 01:04:40.159 --> 01:04:46.119 we are, we need to think about purchasing ability. So that was his 689 01:04:46.440 --> 01:04:54.760 main kind of thinking in terms of like defining us us as humans, which 690 01:04:54.840 --> 01:05:00.519 is quite quite interesting. I know that money is is the focus for a 691 01:05:00.599 --> 01:05:05.599 lot of people, even for us as Christians. And you know a lot 692 01:05:05.679 --> 01:05:13.000 of people kind of determine their level of importance by how much money they have, 693 01:05:14.119 --> 01:05:17.280 how much they can actually purchase, the size of their houses, the 694 01:05:19.000 --> 01:05:24.079 make and models of their cars. Well, I'll leave you to think about 695 01:05:24.119 --> 01:05:28.599 that. What do you think do you think that you know your ability to 696 01:05:28.760 --> 01:05:39.480 purchase is what defines you as a person. We have Nietzsche, Frederick Nietzsche, 697 01:05:39.880 --> 01:05:45.679 and his philosophy or his thinking was that the key thing that defines the 698 01:05:45.880 --> 01:05:50.079 human is the will to power. Okay, so at the core of what 699 01:05:50.280 --> 01:05:58.599 we are as humans is our desire to have power and to control things. 700 01:05:59.840 --> 01:06:03.039 I know that power is another thing we have. You know, we have 701 01:06:03.280 --> 01:06:09.079 power in the world, we have power in the church. We have you 702 01:06:09.159 --> 01:06:14.960 know, people wanting to be powerful in our in our social social groups, 703 01:06:15.440 --> 01:06:23.320 within our various communities. You know, title power how other people see you 704 01:06:24.119 --> 01:06:29.559 is very important to some people. And that was Niches kind of focus. 705 01:06:29.679 --> 01:06:33.119 He's thinking was, well, that's what drives the human being, our ability 706 01:06:33.719 --> 01:06:39.920 ability to power. And we can go and negotiate with other people, with 707 01:06:40.079 --> 01:06:45.760 other nations on how we kind of distribute this power. And you know, 708 01:06:45.000 --> 01:06:50.519 then power becomes such such an important thing. And I know that for many 709 01:06:50.639 --> 01:06:55.480 people out there, you know, if they ask you, you know, 710 01:06:55.639 --> 01:06:59.719 tell me a bit about yourself, they'll start by saying, well, you 711 01:06:59.800 --> 01:07:04.880 know, i'm a manager here or I'm a director there, and that immediately 712 01:07:05.000 --> 01:07:11.760 starts to form an impression on the other person's mind as to how important you 713 01:07:11.960 --> 01:07:16.039 are. So is it money that defines you as a person? Is it 714 01:07:16.239 --> 01:07:25.480 power that defines you as a person. We have yet another great kind of 715 01:07:25.760 --> 01:07:33.000 name out there, and that's Sigmund Freud. And Freud's kind of philosophy was 716 01:07:33.119 --> 01:07:42.119 that sexuality is the key problem of when people don't act or behave correctly, 717 01:07:42.159 --> 01:07:46.840 it's because something is wrong with them sexually. So the behavior of the human 718 01:07:46.960 --> 01:07:53.679 being in sexual matters is often a prototype of how there will behave in all 719 01:07:53.840 --> 01:07:58.679 other issues of life. Now, you know, I know that, you 720 01:07:58.760 --> 01:08:02.320 know, the world of psychology has moved on since the days of Freud. 721 01:08:02.719 --> 01:08:08.280 Freud is known as the father of psycho analysis, and you know, he's 722 01:08:08.360 --> 01:08:14.760 got his place in history as a very great as a great thinker. Sexuality. 723 01:08:14.960 --> 01:08:18.920 There's a lot out there about, you know, sexuality. You know 724 01:08:19.079 --> 01:08:26.560 people that really define some people. People have communities that that belong to depending 725 01:08:26.640 --> 01:08:33.960 on their sexual preferences or sexual orientation. And I guess the question is, 726 01:08:35.079 --> 01:08:41.560 how does that determine who you are? Is that the thing that determines who 727 01:08:41.640 --> 01:08:45.119 you are as a human being? Or if something's not going right in your 728 01:08:45.239 --> 01:08:49.840 life, is it because there's a the problem, there's a problem somewhere in 729 01:08:49.960 --> 01:08:58.800 your sexual developments, because that was Freud's philosophy. So all of these three 730 01:08:59.039 --> 01:09:06.239 things, money, sex power can be quite limiting in terms of the criteria 731 01:09:06.359 --> 01:09:13.199 for defining ourselves. And when that's how we see ourselves. If it's money 732 01:09:13.279 --> 01:09:16.399 is what defines me, power is what defines me, sex is what defines 733 01:09:16.479 --> 01:09:26.039 me, then we potentially can that potentially can become a stronghold. We can 734 01:09:26.760 --> 01:09:33.479 very very quickly start to experience low self low self esteem, because somewhere along 735 01:09:33.560 --> 01:09:39.000 the lines, there will always be somebody with more power, there will always 736 01:09:39.079 --> 01:09:43.920 be somebody with more money, and there will always be somebody for whose sexual 737 01:09:44.960 --> 01:09:50.000 issues is a problem. So you know, if that's the kind of benchmark 738 01:09:50.159 --> 01:09:57.479 that we're using to determine or define ourselves as humans, then we are not 739 01:09:57.640 --> 01:10:02.079 really appreciating who we are fully and we cannot be fully accepting of who we 740 01:10:02.199 --> 01:10:09.680 are and embrace who we are as humans. So then that it starts to 741 01:10:09.720 --> 01:10:15.399 become a stronghold, a stronghold of low self worth. Then we don't really 742 01:10:15.600 --> 01:10:17.880 know our word. And like we said at the start of the program, 743 01:10:19.159 --> 01:10:23.680 Christ said in John eight thirty two, then you will know the truth, 744 01:10:24.119 --> 01:10:28.640 and the truth will set you free. So what's the truth about who we 745 01:10:28.840 --> 01:10:33.119 are? How do we get to know the truth in terms of knowing our 746 01:10:33.239 --> 01:10:39.840 worth, in terms of understanding our wealth. When we are in the stronghold 747 01:10:40.119 --> 01:10:44.960 held in the stronghold of low self worth, low self esteem, we need 748 01:10:45.119 --> 01:10:51.039 to understand what the cause is that's keeping that stronghold alive. Is it money? 749 01:10:53.199 --> 01:10:56.640 Is it? Sex? Is it? Power? Is it because while 750 01:10:56.760 --> 01:11:02.720 viewing our self important and self work through the lens of money, only how 751 01:11:02.840 --> 01:11:08.199 much money we have, how much purchasing power we have? Is it because 752 01:11:08.439 --> 01:11:13.600 we're viewing our self importance through the lens of power, how much power and 753 01:11:13.760 --> 01:11:17.920 authority we have or is it because we're you know, just we reduced ourselves 754 01:11:17.960 --> 01:11:24.800 to just being sexual beings. There is a strong man behind the stronghold, 755 01:11:25.560 --> 01:11:31.159 a dominant negative force that keeps a person captive. What is it in the 756 01:11:31.239 --> 01:11:39.560 case of low self worth? It's really important that we understand that, you 757 01:11:39.640 --> 01:11:42.520 know, money is a good thing. So I'm not sitting here saying, 758 01:11:42.640 --> 01:11:45.159 oh, you know, we should all before we shouldn't have money. God 759 01:11:45.319 --> 01:11:54.000 absolutely wants us to kind of experience his abundant blessings and favor. Abraham was 760 01:11:54.039 --> 01:11:58.319 a rich man, Job was a rich man that many examples of people in 761 01:11:58.439 --> 01:12:03.880 the Bible, Solomon, they had wealth. Okay, So whire not here 762 01:12:04.000 --> 01:12:10.399 saying don't have money. But what we're saying is and we're not saying don't 763 01:12:10.479 --> 01:12:13.840 have power, And we're not saying sex is not a good thing. You 764 01:12:13.920 --> 01:12:18.640 know, God wants us your crisis, all authority and power is given onto 765 01:12:18.760 --> 01:12:23.199 me, and he says, go, Therefore, the kind of power that 766 01:12:23.319 --> 01:12:28.000 we need is the power of God's law. Okay, So that sort of 767 01:12:28.119 --> 01:12:31.159 power should be what drives us, and that's the power God has. He 768 01:12:31.239 --> 01:12:36.359 says, you know, he's able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all we 769 01:12:36.520 --> 01:12:42.119 can imagine according to the power of His love. So power is not a 770 01:12:42.199 --> 01:12:45.319 bad thing necessarily, it's what type of power do we have and where is 771 01:12:45.399 --> 01:12:50.159 it coming from, and what's the motive behind exercising the power that we have. 772 01:12:50.800 --> 01:12:55.560 Sex is not a bad thing God, God is the one who designs, 773 01:12:55.600 --> 01:12:59.479 who created sex. You know, fundamentally, it's one of the most 774 01:12:59.520 --> 01:13:03.239 beautiful things done in the right way, under the right circumstances. So I'm 775 01:13:03.279 --> 01:13:09.439 not saying that you know, don't have sex, so don't identify yourself as 776 01:13:09.520 --> 01:13:15.119 a sexual being. Of course that's coming from God. But what's really really 777 01:13:15.199 --> 01:13:19.359 important to understand is that I am more than my money. I am more 778 01:13:19.399 --> 01:13:25.199 than my power, and I am more than my sexuality. I am a 779 01:13:25.359 --> 01:13:31.119 product of and operate from God's love. As long as God's love is the 780 01:13:31.399 --> 01:13:35.800 center of your money, of how you know, how you kind of manage 781 01:13:35.880 --> 01:13:41.000 your money, as long as God's love is the center of the power that 782 01:13:41.199 --> 01:13:45.880 you have, as long as God's love is the focus of your sexual activity 783 01:13:46.199 --> 01:13:54.239 and how he wants you to conduct yourself in within your sexuality, then you 784 01:13:54.479 --> 01:13:58.920 know that you are more than the money, the power and the sexuality. 785 01:13:59.039 --> 01:14:03.680 You're of God himself, and God is above all of those things. So 786 01:14:03.800 --> 01:14:08.520 all of those things are good as long as that are coming from the place 787 01:14:08.720 --> 01:14:14.720 of God's love and God's will. So what does it mean to know our 788 01:14:14.840 --> 01:14:19.279 true word? Knowing our true work is knowing who we are in Christ. 789 01:14:20.239 --> 01:14:26.800 Because when we are thinking about ourselves just in terms of who we are, 790 01:14:27.159 --> 01:14:31.159 how we perceive ourselves, or how other perceive other people perceive us we are, 791 01:14:31.960 --> 01:14:38.239 we will from time to time be burdened with thoughts and beliefs such as, 792 01:14:38.680 --> 01:14:41.680 well, I can't do this, or I'm not worthy, or I 793 01:14:41.840 --> 01:14:45.760 must be perfect, or nobody loves me, I'm not good enough, I 794 01:14:45.920 --> 01:14:51.520 must not make a mistake. And then we come down heavy on ourselves and 795 01:14:51.680 --> 01:14:57.880 criticize ourselves when we make a mistake or we think we're not good enough, 796 01:14:57.960 --> 01:15:03.359 and we're having all of these thoughts in Christ. When we understand our weorth 797 01:15:03.520 --> 01:15:09.159 in Christ, we understand that we are worth more than all of our self 798 01:15:09.279 --> 01:15:15.479 doubts and that our self esteem is secure when it's based on the opinion of 799 01:15:15.920 --> 01:15:24.520 Christ, of our creator. So knowing our true worth is knowing who we 800 01:15:24.720 --> 01:15:29.359 are in Christ, knowing what the Bible, the word of God says about 801 01:15:29.520 --> 01:15:34.399 us. That's how we bring down the stronghold of low self worth when we 802 01:15:34.560 --> 01:15:41.399 commit ourselves to the truth of what God says about us. I have made 803 01:15:41.439 --> 01:15:45.119 you fearfully and wonderfully. Before I found you in the womb, I knew 804 01:15:45.199 --> 01:15:48.720 you, and I set you apart. I know the plans I have for 805 01:15:48.800 --> 01:15:54.279 your, plans of good to give you hope and the future. And when 806 01:15:54.319 --> 01:16:00.239 we know these truths, then we can kind of conform to them, and 807 01:16:00.760 --> 01:16:06.720 we can rely on them to reflect our true potential. And then if anybody 808 01:16:06.800 --> 01:16:10.800 is telling us things like I don't think you're ever going to make it, 809 01:16:10.920 --> 01:16:14.399 I don't think you're good enough, I don't think we don't have to believe 810 01:16:14.479 --> 01:16:20.399 those lies. We need to fight back those lies or any destructive information with 811 01:16:20.560 --> 01:16:26.600 the truth from God's words. What does God say about me? And using 812 01:16:26.720 --> 01:16:31.399 the right weapons. It means using God's promises. It means using God's words 813 01:16:31.800 --> 01:16:38.000 to fight back the lies that come from the enemy. Really, and Christ, 814 01:16:38.199 --> 01:16:42.000 remember said you will know the truth, and the truth will set you 815 01:16:42.159 --> 01:16:47.840 free. So let's remember that you know we are new in Christ. Second 816 01:16:47.920 --> 01:16:55.800 Corinthians five seventeen says Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, they are a 817 01:16:55.920 --> 01:17:00.279 new creation. The new has come and the old has gone. Our wealth 818 01:17:00.520 --> 01:17:05.399 is not really of the self at all. Rather, it's our web is 819 01:17:05.479 --> 01:17:13.279 given to us by God. We are inestimable. We are of inestimable value 820 01:17:13.359 --> 01:17:18.000 to God, and God has said in efficients to tend that we are his 821 01:17:18.199 --> 01:17:23.920 master piece. He has created us a new in Christ Jesus, so we 822 01:17:24.039 --> 01:17:29.279 can do good works and do the things that He plans for us to do. 823 01:17:30.479 --> 01:17:33.199 So, if the sun sets you free, you will be free. 824 01:17:33.439 --> 01:17:40.720 Indeed, And the will of God is that you see yourself the way that 825 01:17:40.920 --> 01:17:45.720 He sees you, and you see other people in the way that He sees 826 01:17:45.840 --> 01:17:50.600 them. And that way we will understand that our wealth is not just in 827 01:17:50.760 --> 01:17:56.039 the things that people say, in the circumstances around us, or in the 828 01:17:56.159 --> 01:18:01.920 things that we have. Our wealth is in our value as God created us 829 01:18:02.159 --> 01:18:05.920 in his image and in his likeness. And that's the only way we can 830 01:18:06.119 --> 01:18:13.560 really really start to experience abundant life. So the conclusion of the matter is 831 01:18:13.640 --> 01:18:18.439 that all is well in my world. I am grateful, I am enough. 832 01:18:20.159 --> 01:18:25.960 So when we see ourselves as not good enough, when we have low 833 01:18:26.079 --> 01:18:30.319 self worth. Let's remember that that can be a stronghold that holds us down. 834 01:18:31.079 --> 01:18:38.000 And you know we are with more than the most precious stone, more 835 01:18:38.079 --> 01:18:42.520 than diamonds, more than rubies. We are worth more than that. And 836 01:18:42.680 --> 01:18:46.920 let's fight the lies of the enemy, because though we walk in the flesh, 837 01:18:47.359 --> 01:18:51.560 we do not war according to the flesh. For the weapons of our 838 01:18:51.640 --> 01:18:57.720 warfare, and not Canal but Mighty through God, to the pulling down of 839 01:18:57.880 --> 01:19:05.279 strongholds, casting down imaginations and every high thought that exalts itself against the knowledge 840 01:19:05.319 --> 01:19:10.600 of God. And those thoughts that tell you you're not good enough, those 841 01:19:10.680 --> 01:19:14.079 thoughts that tell you you're never going to make it, those thoughts that tell 842 01:19:14.159 --> 01:19:18.039 you your eperial, those are not from God. We need to bring every 843 01:19:18.239 --> 01:19:28.199 thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. And that concludes this discussion. 844 01:19:28.479 --> 01:19:33.479 Thank you for this presentation, Allison, Alison Angela. I'm going to take 845 01:19:33.760 --> 01:19:38.880 a song break, let that resonate a little bit, and then we'll come 846 01:19:38.920 --> 01:19:43.560 back and unpack what you've just said. All things. Franklin Angela, that 847 01:19:43.800 --> 01:19:47.920 was your selection. What's what's good about this song? What do you like 848 01:19:47.960 --> 01:19:56.720 about it? I took I took it as well as your as one of 849 01:19:56.800 --> 01:20:00.840 your favorites, but it could just be one that suits the okay. And 850 01:20:00.920 --> 01:20:04.279 I think it just kind of he's kind of he starts up and is talking, 851 01:20:04.319 --> 01:20:05.920 and I think it's just kind of, you know, saying, you 852 01:20:05.960 --> 01:20:10.720 know, at the end of the day, what's basically you're talking about reflecting 853 01:20:10.760 --> 01:20:13.119 on the things that you might be going through. So it kind of just 854 01:20:13.239 --> 01:20:16.159 made me think, you know, in terms of some of the areas that 855 01:20:16.199 --> 01:20:20.159 I've been talking about, and it's a bit of a sometimes I have to 856 01:20:20.199 --> 01:20:25.920 sit down and reflect about what's been happening and really then reminding you that actually 857 01:20:26.479 --> 01:20:29.760 some days may not be easy, but there are ways to make it through 858 01:20:30.600 --> 01:20:33.600 and through all things. Through God and Christ, who enables us to strengthen 859 01:20:33.760 --> 01:20:36.119 us, we can make it through. So I think it was you know, 860 01:20:36.199 --> 01:20:41.079 sometimes you're hearing music and some things the words to strike you all the 861 01:20:41.199 --> 01:20:43.960 thoughts, and I think it linked him quite nicely if I remember right least. 862 01:20:44.000 --> 01:20:49.479 So well, let's hear from correctracting all things. Can I talk to 863 01:20:49.600 --> 01:20:56.760 you? I know you've got some questions, what's the hardest thing you're going 864 01:20:56.840 --> 01:21:03.399 through? To stalking by pain? Talking about my life when with a change, 865 01:21:03.840 --> 01:21:11.279 talking about all things. I can do all things, talking about night 866 01:21:11.439 --> 01:21:15.920 something knows a way and my dreams telling me an erase, talking about all 867 01:21:16.079 --> 01:21:21.720 things I said, I can do all things. I understand it, talking 868 01:21:21.920 --> 01:21:32.359 as it always be so good and no one ever let you down, talking 869 01:21:32.359 --> 01:21:38.880 about all things, all the biggin of small things. I'm so sure I 870 01:21:38.920 --> 01:21:47.279 can do all things, talking about dousand my mind. I'm out of funds, 871 01:21:47.720 --> 01:21:53.319 lout of time. I need a blessing. I need you to do 872 01:21:53.479 --> 01:22:03.279 all things. See understand that at all, just in case I'm as never 873 01:22:05.640 --> 01:22:11.039 Yes, talking about all things, all things, they get the sault things. 874 01:22:12.720 --> 01:22:21.359 I can do all things. Now about all things, the small things. 875 01:22:21.800 --> 01:22:28.359 Let's go I can do things. Just because he's silent time doesn't mean 876 01:22:28.399 --> 01:22:32.319 that he's still. He's not only preparing it for you, he's preparing you 877 01:22:32.439 --> 01:22:44.880 for it. Let's go at things things to you. Never blessings on things 878 01:22:44.920 --> 01:22:55.560 for you things, get the things he sees you. Yes, lessings on 879 01:22:56.399 --> 01:23:02.279 you see the black since coming, we had to get your wedding for it. 880 01:23:08.680 --> 01:23:16.760 What are we talking about? What are we talking about? Come on, 881 01:23:16.920 --> 01:23:33.600 say a can't people saying can't you shot? I think it's a possible 882 01:23:35.760 --> 01:23:55.000 kick you can't you my how you talking about gott you shot rap by? 883 01:23:55.239 --> 01:23:59.079 He's a good god. He's a good Come on, he's a good god. 884 01:23:59.159 --> 01:24:06.199 He's a good god. Come oh, And I'm gonna be honest with. 885 01:24:06.439 --> 01:24:14.800 What are you struggling to cope with? Life? Conflict, bereavement, 886 01:24:15.159 --> 01:24:21.960 fear, relationship, anger, depression, negative thoughts, trauma and uncertainty can 887 01:24:23.079 --> 01:24:30.479 all cause emotional imbalance. Don't struggle alone. CCS, your trusted confidential counseling 888 01:24:30.560 --> 01:24:35.560 service is here for you. Call our listening line on zero double three zero 889 01:24:35.760 --> 01:24:42.680 one double three two nine four five, our office line for appointments on zero 890 01:24:42.840 --> 01:24:47.920 two zero double seven two three eight zero five zero, or visit our website 891 01:24:48.439 --> 01:24:57.359 www dot CCS Counseling dot org dot UK. Our counselors speak various languages. 892 01:24:58.119 --> 01:25:30.359 CCS A shoulder e Lenon. We are here to listen. King of our 893 01:25:30.640 --> 01:25:43.600 kids born in a mad the quick story talk he walked on the earth. 894 01:25:45.239 --> 01:25:57.880 A carpenter came to fix my bro and salt Chian sl cake. You paid 895 01:25:58.680 --> 01:26:27.720 little of the cross with blood paint jomlanstere southlass love hay on the tree farming 896 01:26:30.880 --> 01:26:47.399 jup down stretched arms for track fall round to see southless love, hang on 897 01:26:48.159 --> 01:27:17.159 a tree farming the patients dot of creation. Master call to every ja. 898 01:27:17.720 --> 01:27:30.880 He had your whistling Kate to fill. I am so chance walk kid, 899 01:27:30.800 --> 01:27:51.079 you have a dot cost Smith. You're a shabby reason last and we service 900 01:27:51.439 --> 01:28:32.800 loves had shot mo yours so listen was hand shames got here. I that 901 01:28:35.920 --> 01:28:50.319 tack my God. But you, I said, many call my cat, 902 01:28:53.520 --> 01:29:38.039 I say your birthday cancer gets when you made sim it's your escape and your 903 01:29:38.159 --> 01:29:59.720 love. It's you com back cross with blood cup, it's your mast Sai 904 01:30:12.439 --> 01:30:19.560 fun beautifully done there by Ashman Hill, your masterpiece, and just a reminder 905 01:30:19.680 --> 01:30:27.600 that we are confident we are victorious only by God love for us and through 906 01:30:27.800 --> 01:30:32.520 Christ Jesus who died on the cross for us to have victory and life eternal. 907 01:30:33.479 --> 01:30:39.399 We had a very good discussion there, Allison. As always, you 908 01:30:39.560 --> 01:30:47.079 filled us up with information and details sent us out. So Angela, tell 909 01:30:47.079 --> 01:30:51.560 me a little bit about what you've got from that last portion of what Allison 910 01:30:51.600 --> 01:30:57.960 shared with us. I think just to go back just before, where as 911 01:30:58.000 --> 01:31:00.760 I'm talking about the fact that you know, some times the aspects of our 912 01:31:00.800 --> 01:31:04.279 self esteem and the way we think about that can use us a vicious cycle 913 01:31:04.920 --> 01:31:09.720 and everything sort of links around, whether that's the way of our call beliefs, 914 01:31:10.680 --> 01:31:14.239 the behaviors that then stem from that, and then how that kind of 915 01:31:14.319 --> 01:31:15.680 you know, impacts everything that we do. So it is a real vicious 916 01:31:15.680 --> 01:31:19.319 cycle that we really have to try and break. And it's been quite interesting, 917 01:31:19.399 --> 01:31:25.119 so interesting to see those three sort of theorists around things that define yourself, 918 01:31:26.560 --> 01:31:29.199 money, power, and sex, and actually you see that that played 919 01:31:29.199 --> 01:31:34.520 out in sony aspects of life. While those things are important, again, 920 01:31:34.560 --> 01:31:38.720 if you're not getting the balance right, how those things can you know, 921 01:31:39.079 --> 01:31:44.640 potentially be those strongholds could be our downfall as well. But again it is 922 01:31:44.720 --> 01:31:47.079 going back to the idea of knowing what the truth is and that truth will 923 01:31:47.079 --> 01:31:51.600 set you three in in terms of how you're going to be able to turn 924 01:31:51.680 --> 01:31:59.000 around those negative impacts that play into your self esteem and knowing our true worth 925 01:31:59.039 --> 01:32:00.479 and I love I love that sort of there was a sentence there on the 926 01:32:00.560 --> 01:32:02.760 side that you're say, you know, you're more than the money, You're 927 01:32:02.800 --> 01:32:06.279 more than the power, and your sexuality. You know, I'm on a 928 01:32:06.319 --> 01:32:11.840 product that and may operate from God's love and that's ultimately what it is. 929 01:32:12.000 --> 01:32:15.880 You know, without him, all of those things could pay into into comparison. 930 01:32:15.000 --> 01:32:18.600 Really those things very important. But you know, we've got to know 931 01:32:19.079 --> 01:32:24.720 we're talking about knowing the truth and where all of that comes from. And 932 01:32:24.960 --> 01:32:28.199 actually, you know, we're more than and ultimately we're more than all of 933 01:32:28.279 --> 01:32:32.680 these things that become us have become our strongholds and negative thoughts. You know, 934 01:32:33.000 --> 01:32:36.119 if we if our self esteem is secure, it's going to be based 935 01:32:36.159 --> 01:32:40.880 on, you know, the opinion of God rather than man. And you 936 01:32:40.960 --> 01:32:43.800 know, because a text that sage I didn't be conformed to the things of 937 01:32:43.840 --> 01:32:47.840 the world. Sometimes it's very easy to hear all those messages and that gets 938 01:32:47.880 --> 01:32:51.319 clouded by what we know God really thinks about us. You know, I'm 939 01:32:51.359 --> 01:32:56.199 sure if we were to try and counter we'd be able to counteract those negative 940 01:32:56.239 --> 01:33:00.760 thoughts three four, five times over with all the promise and things that God 941 01:33:00.800 --> 01:33:02.760 tells us about ourselves. But it's so easy to be listening to that, 942 01:33:02.800 --> 01:33:09.760 and I kind of sometimes wonder why Sometimes it's so easy to really hear those 943 01:33:09.840 --> 01:33:14.760 negative things, and we can be quite uncomfortable with the positive things that sometimes 944 01:33:15.039 --> 01:33:17.760 are said to us, the things that can kind of boost our self esteem 945 01:33:18.840 --> 01:33:21.720 there's compliments, there's people who are telling you about you know, that you've 946 01:33:21.720 --> 01:33:26.439 done a good job and your achievements. We're really uncomfortable with that, and 947 01:33:26.520 --> 01:33:28.760 I have to wonder why. I mean, maybe it could be from you 948 01:33:28.840 --> 01:33:31.359 know, where it's swimming from somewhere. Maybe you've not grown up in an 949 01:33:31.439 --> 01:33:35.880 environment or you're not being surrounded by that. But we find it really difficult 950 01:33:35.960 --> 01:33:40.680 to tell ourselves those things, you know, much less anybody else hearing it. 951 01:33:40.880 --> 01:33:45.039 But yeah, so that you know, it's very easy to think very 952 01:33:45.119 --> 01:33:48.520 negative of ourself. And I think you know, I always say to it 953 01:33:48.600 --> 01:33:51.479 when I'm talking to my own students. You know, practice some positive self 954 01:33:51.600 --> 01:33:56.359 talk, you know, big yourself up, you know, praise yourself, 955 01:33:56.399 --> 01:33:58.960 give yourself a pat on the shoulder, because if nobody else is doing it, 956 01:33:59.039 --> 01:34:04.680 for you to blind that, but you've got to be able to do 957 01:34:04.800 --> 01:34:09.159 that is up or cheerleader. And again it's about keeping the balance. And 958 01:34:09.239 --> 01:34:12.439 as Allison said before, sometimes if we're not careful, it can go the 959 01:34:12.520 --> 01:34:15.760 other way. You know, this is not about being conceited and you know, 960 01:34:15.880 --> 01:34:18.680 feeling self grandiose and all that kind of stuff, but you know, 961 01:34:18.720 --> 01:34:23.760 it's about keeping it balanced. All around, but again knowing our self worth 962 01:34:23.840 --> 01:34:27.680 then where that's coming from. We're made in God's image. There's something great 963 01:34:27.720 --> 01:34:30.159 about that which is to be able to recognize and accept that, but again 964 01:34:30.319 --> 01:34:33.119 keeping it really balance. And I'm just thinking loads of textbook comingto minds. 965 01:34:33.399 --> 01:34:36.880 Actually that can kind of remind us of all of those things which all sort 966 01:34:36.880 --> 01:34:40.720 of scrolled down. But I guess you know, and I like to also 967 01:34:40.760 --> 01:34:43.760 where you were saying, you know, committing to the truth, conforming to 968 01:34:43.880 --> 01:34:47.920 the truth, confront those negative thoughts and fight back and then you know, 969 01:34:47.920 --> 01:34:53.079 obviously using those the correct tools and the weapon end to really fight against those 970 01:34:54.640 --> 01:34:58.079 you know, relying on God's word and these promises and interesting, I just 971 01:34:58.159 --> 01:35:00.439 have a text as well where there's a couple of text that do you say 972 01:35:00.520 --> 01:35:03.520 that God is our stronghold, going back to that kind of idea that a 973 01:35:03.600 --> 01:35:08.760 stronghold can be there for protection. If we've got the right stronghold, i 974 01:35:08.880 --> 01:35:11.720 e. God, who is for us, he's fighting for us, he's 975 01:35:11.760 --> 01:35:15.239 protecting us, then that's what that's going to be our firm foundation. And 976 01:35:15.319 --> 01:35:19.720 actually that's the real purpose of the stronghold. Then you know, has the 977 01:35:20.239 --> 01:35:26.319 positive effects hopefully on that as well. Yeah, and I can't think of 978 01:35:26.359 --> 01:35:28.800 the text now, I just had it in front of me. But there's 979 01:35:28.800 --> 01:35:30.840 a couple that meant to the word stronghold, but in a really positive light, 980 01:35:31.279 --> 01:35:33.800 which ultimately that's you know, we want to do to counteract with the 981 01:35:33.880 --> 01:35:38.960 negative strongholds are holding us back. And ultimately, you know, when we 982 01:35:39.039 --> 01:35:42.640 think about talking about the promises as well, there are so many that kind 983 01:35:42.720 --> 01:35:45.079 of remind us that, you know, we can overcome. We're more than 984 01:35:45.159 --> 01:35:50.680 conquerors. And in fact, there's one in actually Psalm's eighteen twenty nine interesting 985 01:35:50.680 --> 01:35:54.359 he says, again, this is back to the visual of the war high 986 01:35:54.439 --> 01:35:57.800 walls and the strongholds. You know, with your help, I can at 987 01:35:57.800 --> 01:36:00.199 advance against a troop. With my God, I can scale a wall. 988 01:36:00.760 --> 01:36:04.680 So again, you know, those things don't have to be obstacles that we 989 01:36:04.840 --> 01:36:10.319 can't overcome if we've got God, who's you know, fighting the battle alongside 990 01:36:10.399 --> 01:36:13.920 us or in front of us and behind us and all around us. So 991 01:36:14.600 --> 01:36:16.640 yeah, there's, yeah, there's a lot to be said about how we 992 01:36:16.720 --> 01:36:23.119 can kind of use these words to be to use those weapons, as we 993 01:36:23.199 --> 01:36:27.399 said in the Right what they Yeah, Joshua one nine you know, be 994 01:36:27.520 --> 01:36:30.199 strong and courageous, don't be afraid, you know, do not being discouraged. 995 01:36:30.239 --> 01:36:33.039 For the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. And 996 01:36:33.159 --> 01:36:35.880 as much as I'm saying this, I recognize that it's not always that easy, 997 01:36:35.960 --> 01:36:40.600 because it's so easy to forget. You know, the battle out there 998 01:36:40.720 --> 01:36:44.319 is real, you know, Satin as a powerful being. You know we're 999 01:36:44.399 --> 01:36:47.880 up against his evil forces twenty four to seven, you know, but you've 1000 01:36:47.880 --> 01:36:51.640 got to kind of just hobble on and work at those things, and you 1001 01:36:51.720 --> 01:36:57.520 know, have those daily reminders, you know, reset every day, try 1002 01:36:57.560 --> 01:37:01.760 and try again, and reach out to people to help you with this as 1003 01:37:01.840 --> 01:37:05.119 well. You know, it's not about misleading all by yourself. So yeah, 1004 01:37:05.239 --> 01:37:09.119 and Jem's there again for Maris. Then we like that. And again, 1005 01:37:09.279 --> 01:37:12.279 you know, I think also I think about things visual. I like 1006 01:37:12.359 --> 01:37:15.279 to write things down, will draw things, so you know, the idea 1007 01:37:15.359 --> 01:37:18.479 that I can scale the wall, or I can kind of break something down, 1008 01:37:18.640 --> 01:37:21.680 or actually I've got that kind of you know, God's righteous right hand 1009 01:37:21.760 --> 01:37:25.439 holding me up or holding my hand out, that kind of thing. The 1010 01:37:25.520 --> 01:37:28.800 kind of things that you know will help me to kind of reflect on those 1011 01:37:28.840 --> 01:37:31.960 things. Those Strongholms. Yeah, and and for me, it's it's that 1012 01:37:32.119 --> 01:37:38.520 last part that Allison shared about making sure that all that we are is in 1013 01:37:38.640 --> 01:37:42.479 alignment with God and his love for us, you know, putting power under 1014 01:37:42.520 --> 01:37:45.479 alignment, putting sex under alignment, putting money under the alignment. It's all 1015 01:37:45.640 --> 01:37:48.760 from him, you know, to be used wisely, to be used in 1016 01:37:48.800 --> 01:37:54.439 the right context. But we shouldn't make we shouldn't let them take charge, 1017 01:37:55.000 --> 01:37:57.880 you know, God putting God first, and all other things will be added 1018 01:37:57.920 --> 01:38:00.760 on to us. And we've got to make sure that that's the most important 1019 01:38:00.840 --> 01:38:05.319 thing in our lives, our relationship with God and he loves us. And 1020 01:38:05.399 --> 01:38:11.000 I like Allison that you you always sort of put that at the end, 1021 01:38:11.119 --> 01:38:14.000 that's the final word on it. You know, whatever else we may be 1022 01:38:14.079 --> 01:38:17.279 able to do, and we'll talk later about how we can leverage the resources 1023 01:38:17.720 --> 01:38:20.560 we know. We've got mind, we've got Samaritans, we've got our own 1024 01:38:20.640 --> 01:38:26.119 cornerstone. I mean, you're available, and the experts are available. But 1025 01:38:27.279 --> 01:38:30.000 at the end, in the end, the final word comes from God. 1026 01:38:30.199 --> 01:38:34.640 We are who He says we are. You know, our confidence must come 1027 01:38:34.760 --> 01:38:40.079 from him. He came and died so that we may have life, life 1028 01:38:40.159 --> 01:38:44.399 in its fullness, you know, and we must make sure that we keep 1029 01:38:44.520 --> 01:38:48.960 that center in our lives. Really really loved that, Allison. Let me 1030 01:38:49.039 --> 01:38:54.840 ask you go on, sorry him, WeLive we move than we have our 1031 01:38:54.960 --> 01:39:00.279 beings. Alison. Just we spoke of and I want you to bring the 1032 01:39:00.359 --> 01:39:05.079 conversation to the forefront. We're talking about what we can do within the churches. 1033 01:39:06.000 --> 01:39:10.439 A lot of the talk and a lot of the conversations we have don't 1034 01:39:10.520 --> 01:39:18.039 necessarily pinpoint these issues or address these issues. What's your word for maybe the 1035 01:39:18.159 --> 01:39:23.880 leaders who are listening. What what's your advice for people who can make these 1036 01:39:24.239 --> 01:39:29.159 conversations happen? Where do you? What's what's their place in our church community? 1037 01:39:30.319 --> 01:39:32.319 Because I bring back the question that we had, I'm sorry, I 1038 01:39:32.359 --> 01:39:35.920 bring back the question that we have at the top. Do we as people 1039 01:39:36.000 --> 01:39:40.520 of faith? Do we as Christians struggle? And the answer is yes. 1040 01:39:40.960 --> 01:39:44.199 I still haven't heard from any other day And I'm going to say it again. 1041 01:39:44.319 --> 01:39:48.039 Studio at adventis Radiat London, h eight hope space and then your message. 1042 01:39:48.600 --> 01:39:53.600 But we know that as people of faith, and I put my hand 1043 01:39:53.680 --> 01:39:57.119 up, I've struggled with one or all of these at some point in my 1044 01:39:57.239 --> 01:40:01.840 life. It's for lack of faith, it's not for loving God. I 1045 01:40:01.960 --> 01:40:08.000 mean, we are humans. What place do we have do these conversations have 1046 01:40:08.680 --> 01:40:15.840 in the church? Long question? Well, these conversations are crucial, are 1047 01:40:15.920 --> 01:40:20.319 crucial. These are things that our everyday life. These are things that are 1048 01:40:20.399 --> 01:40:27.159 impacting off somehow. You know, we sometimes have a dual reality where we 1049 01:40:27.319 --> 01:40:31.560 have Christian life as one aspect of life and the other life. And you 1050 01:40:31.640 --> 01:40:38.119 know, when we turn up in church, it's a different kind of aspect 1051 01:40:38.199 --> 01:40:42.119 to our life that we're experiencing. And then outside of church, and I 1052 01:40:42.279 --> 01:40:50.279 think that we behold some theological issues as quite abstract and something to be studied. 1053 01:40:51.039 --> 01:40:54.439 And I'm not saying that, you know, that's the case is for 1054 01:40:54.520 --> 01:40:59.079 everybody. I'm saying sometimes, like we have Bible studies, and after the 1055 01:40:59.159 --> 01:41:03.199 Bible studies sometimes you can see straight after the Bible stunces people are arguing with 1056 01:41:03.359 --> 01:41:09.079 each other, and you know, there's there's kind of issues. And I 1057 01:41:09.199 --> 01:41:13.079 want to say that, you know, these things are all about relationships. 1058 01:41:13.520 --> 01:41:17.439 God is about relationships. The Bible is one big book of about relationships, 1059 01:41:17.880 --> 01:41:23.199 relating with God and relating with each other, and all of these things that 1060 01:41:23.319 --> 01:41:28.600 we've talked about is in the context of relationships. The kind of if we 1061 01:41:28.760 --> 01:41:33.920 start at trauma symptoms, anxiety issues, depression issues, they've you know, 1062 01:41:34.079 --> 01:41:42.640 relationships played it have played a big role either in causing these issues or we 1063 01:41:42.880 --> 01:41:47.399 can play big role in resolving these issues. Everything that we do is really 1064 01:41:47.439 --> 01:41:51.359 in the context of relationships. So I think that we need to go back 1065 01:41:51.399 --> 01:41:57.079 to basics in our churches and we need to look at what people are experiences 1066 01:41:57.399 --> 01:42:01.920 experiencing in life and create the space for some of these conversations to happen. 1067 01:42:02.359 --> 01:42:10.800 I know that we've got kind of fixed programs sometimes in church, but I 1068 01:42:10.960 --> 01:42:16.680 think that in order to have to kind of leave out the example that Christ 1069 01:42:16.880 --> 01:42:21.479 left showed us, I think we do need to create the spaces to have 1070 01:42:21.640 --> 01:42:27.239 some of these conversations and to kind of understand each other. We're never going 1071 01:42:27.279 --> 01:42:30.479 to have uniformity in the church, but we're going to have understanding. We're 1072 01:42:30.560 --> 01:42:36.199 going to have healthy relationship and crisis. By being united, the world will 1073 01:42:36.319 --> 01:42:42.199 see and know that we are God's children. So when we come together, 1074 01:42:42.359 --> 01:42:46.479 when we can have an understanding, support each other, build each other's wealth, 1075 01:42:46.680 --> 01:42:50.800 build because sometimes quite frankly, life knocks us down and we need each 1076 01:42:50.840 --> 01:42:57.479 other. And rather than judging, rather than criticizing, we can understand and 1077 01:42:57.600 --> 01:43:01.279 build up each other within the church. And you know, when we do 1078 01:43:01.479 --> 01:43:06.079 that, it's very easy for other people outside of the child just come in. 1079 01:43:08.680 --> 01:43:13.119 So in that way, we're really opening the door for anybody else and 1080 01:43:13.239 --> 01:43:16.600 everybody else. And you know, the one thing that we have in common 1081 01:43:16.760 --> 01:43:21.479 as human beings is that we all desire a sense of belonging. We each 1082 01:43:21.600 --> 01:43:29.239 one of us want to belong And if we open ourselves our doors to everybody 1083 01:43:29.399 --> 01:43:33.199 to come in and feel a sense of belonging, doesn't matter what fundamentally their 1084 01:43:33.319 --> 01:43:39.560 religious believes are. Just as people, Let's let's have a relationship. Let's 1085 01:43:39.640 --> 01:43:44.640 come together, and let's let's try and understand each other and be be patient 1086 01:43:44.760 --> 01:43:48.600 with each other. And you know, really look at the example that Christ 1087 01:43:49.000 --> 01:43:53.640 showed us in terms of you know, how he lived his life, how 1088 01:43:53.720 --> 01:43:59.880 he accommodated people, how he was compassionate to people, how he was listening 1089 01:44:00.279 --> 01:44:02.920 to people. It didn't matter who it was, yes, you would always 1090 01:44:03.039 --> 01:44:12.199 listen. And I think those basic fundamentals are really really crucial. So relating 1091 01:44:12.439 --> 01:44:17.199 effectively within our churches is really important. Yeah, it brings me back and 1092 01:44:17.239 --> 01:44:20.680 well, said Alison, it's a thing that I always use. Sometimes we 1093 01:44:20.760 --> 01:44:25.880 can be so heavenly minded that we are not earthly good. And you know 1094 01:44:26.399 --> 01:44:29.479 Pastorway used to say time and time again on the program, we need to 1095 01:44:29.520 --> 01:44:31.359 open our doors twenty four to seven, you know, and if there is 1096 01:44:31.399 --> 01:44:38.239 no opportunity within the you know, the structure of the current sort of programming 1097 01:44:38.319 --> 01:44:41.720 that we do on a Sabbath morning and a Sabbath afternoon, then there's nothing 1098 01:44:41.720 --> 01:44:45.000 wrong with opening the door on a Monday afternoon and having a workshop where we 1099 01:44:45.079 --> 01:44:47.680 can discuss these things, or a Tuesday afternoon, you know, whenever it 1100 01:44:47.800 --> 01:44:51.079 may be, and just let people know. And as you said, anybody 1101 01:44:51.159 --> 01:44:55.600 and everybody can utilize these tools. You know, you don't have to be 1102 01:44:55.680 --> 01:45:00.239 a Christian to understand these principles. And obviously we will end with word and 1103 01:45:00.359 --> 01:45:04.840 that's a good witnessing tool. But everybody is struggling with one thing or the 1104 01:45:04.920 --> 01:45:09.640 other, and we need to be able to make it practical and to make 1105 01:45:09.680 --> 01:45:15.520 it applicable to the ordinary person, the everyday person, and using our I 1106 01:45:15.600 --> 01:45:18.479 mean, I remember this guy saying to me listen if it was it farn 1107 01:45:18.640 --> 01:45:21.960 for the knife crime saying listen, if you've got a space, let me 1108 01:45:23.039 --> 01:45:26.199 know. I'm looking for a space. I'm looking for a space to run 1109 01:45:26.319 --> 01:45:29.520 programs. I'm looking for a space to do stuff with the young people. 1110 01:45:29.840 --> 01:45:32.199 And we've got so many closed up spaces, you know, that we're not 1111 01:45:32.399 --> 01:45:36.119 utilizing, and so many programs that we could be putting on just like this 1112 01:45:36.279 --> 01:45:43.600 one sort of help and equip our members. So yes, if anyone's listening 1113 01:45:44.000 --> 01:45:46.560 that can make those decisions, we really need to act on it. And 1114 01:45:46.680 --> 01:45:50.479 Jela, what do you think do you think that people of faith can struggle 1115 01:45:50.520 --> 01:46:00.920 with depression or strongholds of any kind the question as you're rolling eyes, obviously, 1116 01:46:00.640 --> 01:46:05.119 yeah, we do. I kind of It's interesting that we're talking about 1117 01:46:05.159 --> 01:46:12.000 knowing yourself and your self esteem. I think sometimes within Fraid communities, sometimes 1118 01:46:12.079 --> 01:46:15.760 the expectations of what are expectations or the perception of what a Christian should be 1119 01:46:16.359 --> 01:46:19.880 that and itself can have a real negative impact on your self esteem and worth 1120 01:46:20.159 --> 01:46:24.439 because you know, if I'm not spiritually enough or I'm not doing the right 1121 01:46:24.520 --> 01:46:27.600 things, you know, I'm not able to pray in the way that somebody 1122 01:46:27.680 --> 01:46:30.399 else prays or you know, I'm not able to stand up and share my 1123 01:46:30.560 --> 01:46:33.239 faith in the way that I think I should be doing all those kind of 1124 01:46:33.319 --> 01:46:38.359 things that in itself and have a negative impact. And if we're not kind 1125 01:46:38.399 --> 01:46:42.159 of encouraging people, do you know we talk about company you are, God 1126 01:46:42.279 --> 01:46:45.439 is expecting of who we are, and it's a daily war and very development. 1127 01:46:45.760 --> 01:46:50.000 But I'm not sure sometimes our communities that as well, they could do. 1128 01:46:50.760 --> 01:46:55.399 You know, we're talking about self esteem and self worth, but actually 1129 01:46:55.640 --> 01:47:01.159 we have we have these kinds of what's the word, expectations and standards that 1130 01:47:01.239 --> 01:47:04.199 we should all be meeting. And whilst we kind of know those you know, 1131 01:47:04.399 --> 01:47:10.560 we're human, we're sinners, were shot right, and often sometimes we 1132 01:47:10.600 --> 01:47:13.680 can be ostracized, you can be criticized all of those things. You know, 1133 01:47:13.800 --> 01:47:15.159 we can be really critical. And I speak for myself. You know 1134 01:47:15.279 --> 01:47:18.319 sometimes I know I see things and I hear things, and I find myself 1135 01:47:18.399 --> 01:47:21.560 going to those places and I'm thinking, what am I doing? That can't 1136 01:47:21.600 --> 01:47:24.920 be the way to do that? Because my question was really going to be, 1137 01:47:25.039 --> 01:47:29.640 you know, how can we support other people to develop their self esteem? 1138 01:47:30.079 --> 01:47:31.279 You know? And again, you know, people are coming from different 1139 01:47:31.319 --> 01:47:34.720 backgrounds, environments, you know, how they've grown up. And obviously, 1140 01:47:34.800 --> 01:47:39.359 you know, when we think about how we can share children's minds, you 1141 01:47:39.439 --> 01:47:43.119 know, we hopefully they have families that are going to be loving, kind 1142 01:47:43.399 --> 01:47:45.920 being able to do that. But as we get older, we're struggling with 1143 01:47:45.000 --> 01:47:47.640 stuff. So what practical things I guess I wanted to find, you know, 1144 01:47:47.720 --> 01:47:51.720 what can we do to support our friends or our family in practical ways 1145 01:47:51.760 --> 01:47:57.279 that can help us build that self esteem, build it further, or build 1146 01:47:57.319 --> 01:48:00.319 it back up, because sometimes we've had things that are and that can be 1147 01:48:00.399 --> 01:48:03.960 with any community, but you know, sometimes in the fair communities we sometimes 1148 01:48:04.000 --> 01:48:09.560 say that a lot. So that'd been my question on there. I think 1149 01:48:09.720 --> 01:48:14.159 a lot of the time, a lot of people do not feel seen unheard, 1150 01:48:15.000 --> 01:48:18.479 And you know, it's really things as simple as you know, I 1151 01:48:18.680 --> 01:48:21.920 know that these days, a lot of us have phones, and a lot 1152 01:48:23.000 --> 01:48:26.119 of us spend a lot of time on our phones. And you know, 1153 01:48:26.399 --> 01:48:30.640 sometimes if people somebody's talking to you you're on your phone, that person's not 1154 01:48:31.079 --> 01:48:39.000 feeling seen or hurt. So you know, really kind of begin demonstrating that 1155 01:48:39.119 --> 01:48:46.359 you're actually present with somebody speaks volumes, there's a there's a lot about nonvable 1156 01:48:46.479 --> 01:48:51.640 communication that we don't actually take into account our body language when they speak, 1157 01:48:53.119 --> 01:48:57.439 uh, you know, the way that we're kind of facial expressions when they're 1158 01:48:57.479 --> 01:49:03.159 speaking to us. The attention for those people who are okay with eye contact, 1159 01:49:03.720 --> 01:49:08.640 you know, really being the bebbel not the non bbbel knots as well. 1160 01:49:09.119 --> 01:49:13.319 So just you know, and if you're not available, just say, 1161 01:49:13.439 --> 01:49:16.560 you know, excuse me, can we make some time later on when I've 1162 01:49:16.600 --> 01:49:20.600 got this time, because right now I'm a bit distracted that, you know, 1163 01:49:20.880 --> 01:49:27.239 Valuing acknowledging that person is really important because I think a lot of the 1164 01:49:27.359 --> 01:49:31.199 time were very distracted with some other thing going on. But then also really 1165 01:49:31.279 --> 01:49:39.600 listening listening is major, and listening to listening to understand, not listening to 1166 01:49:39.760 --> 01:49:44.520 respond, because a lot of time we listen to formulating a response in our 1167 01:49:44.600 --> 01:49:46.920 minds as why listening, and the other person can pick that up very quickly. 1168 01:49:47.520 --> 01:49:53.600 So really just listening to the other person kind of paraphrasing and reflecting you 1169 01:49:53.720 --> 01:49:58.520 know, what they're telling you, making sure that you're kind of actively listening 1170 01:49:58.880 --> 01:50:01.479 to the other person, tell that they're important, tells them that what they 1171 01:50:01.640 --> 01:50:08.760 feel or what they're thinking or it's it's you're acknowledging what processes they are going 1172 01:50:08.840 --> 01:50:13.319 through us valid you're acknowledging them as human. And if if that's something that 1173 01:50:13.399 --> 01:50:17.560 they're not used to and it's something that they start to kind of think about, 1174 01:50:17.600 --> 01:50:20.319 they start to think, well, okay, I really felt good talking. 1175 01:50:21.079 --> 01:50:25.840 I mean, we must all have had the experience where somebody kind of 1176 01:50:25.920 --> 01:50:28.880 spoke to us and then said, thank you so much for being there. 1177 01:50:28.960 --> 01:50:32.880 Thank you, I really felt better after we spoke. So just really being 1178 01:50:32.960 --> 01:50:39.720 they're really being present, really listening, and just also kind of validating, 1179 01:50:40.000 --> 01:50:45.760 acknowledging and validating what the other person thinks. We don't have to agree with 1180 01:50:45.039 --> 01:50:50.920 what people believe that, you know, we can acknowledge and validate their own 1181 01:50:51.199 --> 01:50:56.399 processes, what they're thinking, what they're believing, and you know, then 1182 01:50:56.840 --> 01:51:02.000 have a conversation. I think sometimes we're very dismiss if it's subquentcial the subconscious, 1183 01:51:02.039 --> 01:51:06.039 we are very kind of like dismissive or judgmental, and we don't really 1184 01:51:06.399 --> 01:51:11.159 kind of focus on listening or we sayd oh, what's that person talking about? 1185 01:51:11.239 --> 01:51:15.239 But this this person has come from somewhere to arrive at where they are, 1186 01:51:15.720 --> 01:51:18.560 so it's the it's the softer things. It's not you know, it's 1187 01:51:18.680 --> 01:51:23.960 not you don't have to go out and buy things for people. And what 1188 01:51:24.119 --> 01:51:28.560 did Christ do? How many times did Christ go to shopping centers to buy 1189 01:51:28.920 --> 01:51:31.760 stuff for people? He was just present, he was paying attention, he 1190 01:51:31.960 --> 01:51:35.479 was listening to people. And sometimes we think we have to do things, 1191 01:51:35.800 --> 01:51:39.960 we have to show that we're doing this and doing that. I see a 1192 01:51:40.039 --> 01:51:44.520 lot of that on social media, and sometimes it's good better ask the question, 1193 01:51:44.840 --> 01:51:46.920 who are you doing that for? You doing that for yourself or are 1194 01:51:46.960 --> 01:51:50.199 you doing that for the other person. And when people start to feel like 1195 01:51:50.640 --> 01:51:56.600 you're not genuine in your your offer of help or support for them, they 1196 01:51:57.439 --> 01:52:00.760 don't feel good about themselves. So, you know, make sure that if 1197 01:52:00.840 --> 01:52:04.800 you're doing something, or if you're complimenting somebody, make sure that you're very 1198 01:52:04.880 --> 01:52:10.600 you're genuine about it. So it's just the simple things again, it's back 1199 01:52:10.640 --> 01:52:15.199 to basics. It's being there for people's validating people, respecting other human beings 1200 01:52:15.239 --> 01:52:19.479 as God's creation, regardless of who they are, where they come from, 1201 01:52:19.600 --> 01:52:25.039 what they do. It's not our business to kind of be judgmental, but 1202 01:52:25.159 --> 01:52:29.720 it's what God requires of us. Is to be there and to be supportive 1203 01:52:29.840 --> 01:52:35.520 because he knew that that would kind of make people feel worthy and that will 1204 01:52:35.680 --> 01:52:42.239 open their minds and allow the Holy Spirit to kind of communicate with them. 1205 01:52:42.520 --> 01:52:46.079 So we can pave the way for you know, people to be drawn closer 1206 01:52:46.159 --> 01:52:51.760 to God by just respecting, validating, listening, being authentic, being present, 1207 01:52:54.079 --> 01:53:00.760 present with them, and being there for them. Love that peacefully, 1208 01:53:00.960 --> 01:53:05.520 beautifully. So yeah, you know, our self worth can also helping other 1209 01:53:05.600 --> 01:53:08.840 self worth as well, because I think that as well. When we can 1210 01:53:08.880 --> 01:53:11.560 be supporting and help, that's good for us as well, you know. 1211 01:53:11.800 --> 01:53:15.880 So yeah, definitely. Oh it's been a it's been a really positive end 1212 01:53:16.119 --> 01:53:19.800 to our series. I think before we do go, though, I want 1213 01:53:19.880 --> 01:53:25.479 to offer Allison the opportunity to share a little bit about what she is doing, 1214 01:53:25.960 --> 01:53:29.600 what she will be doing in the upcoming months, and how people can 1215 01:53:29.720 --> 01:53:32.279 get in touch Allison. We've been bombarded. Is that a strong word? 1216 01:53:32.319 --> 01:53:40.359 I don't know. We've been asked. We've been asked how people can get 1217 01:53:40.399 --> 01:53:43.119 in touch, how they can get in touch with you, how can they 1218 01:53:43.239 --> 01:53:45.439 leverage your services? So share a little bit about that before we go. 1219 01:53:47.560 --> 01:53:51.159 Okay, So the best way to get in touch with me is by email. 1220 01:53:53.399 --> 01:53:57.800 Ali I will call at gmail dot com dot com, A L I 1221 01:53:58.159 --> 01:54:03.640 A w U ku at jmail dot com. That's the best one. I'm 1222 01:54:03.680 --> 01:54:08.840 always checking my email, so if you drop me an email or get back 1223 01:54:09.079 --> 01:54:15.159 in touch with you, I'm I'm a psychotherapist. I'm an author. I 1224 01:54:15.680 --> 01:54:21.560 write, I work with with various organizations. I do therapy for individuals as 1225 01:54:21.640 --> 01:54:27.159 well. I have I have liked, like you said, Jenny, I've 1226 01:54:27.279 --> 01:54:33.520 published a couple of books. The first one is Relationships Unique Boundaries of Effectiveness 1227 01:54:33.640 --> 01:54:40.560 for Success and Fulfillment, and that's about really our individual relationships, becoming self 1228 01:54:40.640 --> 01:54:45.880 aware some of the kind of key components that we need to build ourselves up 1229 01:54:46.000 --> 01:54:53.520 to relate better with ourselves and then to relate with other people in social context. 1230 01:54:53.920 --> 01:54:57.199 So that's what that book is about. It's got some shots, narratives, 1231 01:54:57.319 --> 01:55:01.880 illustrations, reflective points. It's quite a simple, easy read and you 1232 01:55:02.000 --> 01:55:05.960 can probably read read all of it in a couple of days or one day, 1233 01:55:06.079 --> 01:55:11.920 so it's quite an easy read. And then the most recent book is 1234 01:55:12.439 --> 01:55:19.960 Relating for Success, and it's about achieving optimum organizational effectiveness through positive relationships. 1235 01:55:20.800 --> 01:55:27.560 And this is really about how we relate within the workplace. And it's got 1236 01:55:27.720 --> 01:55:34.119 various models for relationships within the workplace at various levels, within teams and between 1237 01:55:34.319 --> 01:55:42.520 organizations, and some of the kind of behaviors in terms of relating behaviors that 1238 01:55:42.640 --> 01:55:46.199 people display in the workplace and how you can best work with those behaviors. 1239 01:55:46.359 --> 01:55:53.319 Again, it's got some illustrative stories. It's got points for reflections as well, 1240 01:55:53.640 --> 01:56:00.159 pertinent questions you can ask yourself. It's got some input from organizediational leaders 1241 01:56:00.199 --> 01:56:04.520 as well, who I interviewed as part of the as part of the process. 1242 01:56:04.520 --> 01:56:09.960 So it's I think it's quite an interesting read, both books on Amazon. 1243 01:56:10.479 --> 01:56:14.840 I am passionate about relationships. All of the things that we talked we've 1244 01:56:14.880 --> 01:56:19.640 talked about are connected to relationships. So we are relational beings. My work 1245 01:56:19.760 --> 01:56:26.960 is about helping people build their relationship with themselves and reach with each other with 1246 01:56:27.119 --> 01:56:30.319 other people around them. So that's that's who I am. That's what I'm 1247 01:56:30.359 --> 01:56:34.640 about. But you know, I and most of all, I'm a child 1248 01:56:34.720 --> 01:56:40.680 of God. I firmly believe that there is a God who in whom we 1249 01:56:40.840 --> 01:56:43.399 leave, we move, and we have our being, and that he's in 1250 01:56:43.600 --> 01:56:49.760 control of affairs but that He's given us free will and the power to reason, 1251 01:56:50.000 --> 01:56:56.159 and you know, with these gifts we need to we need to reach 1252 01:56:56.279 --> 01:57:00.399 our full potential by his grace. And that I am a child of God 1253 01:57:00.479 --> 01:57:03.920 and I believe in his power, the power of his love in my life, 1254 01:57:04.000 --> 01:57:10.479 and I hope and pray that you know, we all listening experience this, 1255 01:57:11.119 --> 01:57:15.079 the power of God's love, because it's the most beautiful thing in the 1256 01:57:15.199 --> 01:57:18.079 world. Ay Man, I think that's a very good note in which to 1257 01:57:18.279 --> 01:57:21.840 end. Angela, do you want to just close us out with a quick 1258 01:57:21.920 --> 01:57:26.920 prayer? And yeah, I think our time is just about spent. Thank 1259 01:57:26.960 --> 01:57:30.039 you, Allison, Well, thank you let us pray, Oh my God 1260 01:57:30.039 --> 01:57:33.960 on, thank you for this opportunity that we've had to come today to talk 1261 01:57:34.039 --> 01:57:39.560 about a really important topic and I really positive one to end our series on 1262 01:57:39.880 --> 01:57:43.800 bringing down strongholds. We thank you, Dear Lord, for being an amazing 1263 01:57:43.840 --> 01:57:45.800 clod. That some of us may come to you with heavy hearts, burned 1264 01:57:45.840 --> 01:57:49.800 by feelings of inadequacy and our own self doubt. We know that You've created 1265 01:57:49.840 --> 01:57:55.239 us in your own image, yet we sometimes fail to see that and struct 1266 01:57:55.239 --> 01:57:58.039 to see ourselves as such. So we want to ask you now to help 1267 01:57:58.119 --> 01:58:01.199 us overcome those negative thoughts and feelings that hold us back and find the confidence 1268 01:58:01.359 --> 01:58:05.840 and self worth that we so desperately need need. Remind us of your unending 1269 01:58:05.920 --> 01:58:10.479 love and grace, and help us see ourselves as you see us, beautiful, 1270 01:58:10.880 --> 01:58:14.520 valuable, and wordliving above thement. Met Help us to let go of 1271 01:58:14.600 --> 01:58:16.920 those lies and a negative self talk that hold us back, and to embrace 1272 01:58:17.000 --> 01:58:20.840 the truth of your word, which tells us that we are fearfully and wonderfully 1273 01:58:20.920 --> 01:58:26.399 made. We ask for your strength to face those challenges that lie ahead and 1274 01:58:26.479 --> 01:58:30.000 feel guidance in making decisions that honor you and reflects our true worth. Help 1275 01:58:30.079 --> 01:58:34.079 us to surround ourselves with positive influences and to let go of any relationships or 1276 01:58:34.119 --> 01:58:40.119 situations that undermine that and bring down our self esteem. Mist of all, 1277 01:58:40.199 --> 01:58:42.880 we want to ask for your peace and comfort as we journey through life. 1278 01:58:43.520 --> 01:58:45.159 It's not easy to hear God, but remind us that we are never alone, 1279 01:58:45.279 --> 01:58:48.399 that you are always with us. You are our biggest cheerleader and can 1280 01:58:48.479 --> 01:58:53.279 help us overcome our struggles. I thank you for hearing and answering and nonything 1281 01:58:53.319 --> 01:58:55.760 that you're going to do for us. This is my prayer. Amen. 1282 01:58:56.319 --> 01:58:59.920 Amen, Amen, Allison, thank you again, and if anyone needs those 1283 01:59:00.039 --> 01:59:02.119 details, please to get in touch with us here at the studio and I'll 1284 01:59:02.159 --> 01:59:06.239 be happy to pass them on. Allison all the very best with all that 1285 01:59:06.359 --> 01:59:12.159 you're doing. May God just enlarge your territory and we look forward to having 1286 01:59:12.239 --> 01:59:20.000 you back already sort of booking you, yes, so to join you this 1287 01:59:20.199 --> 01:59:24.319 month. Thank you so much, thank you, thank you. Well, 1288 01:59:24.520 --> 01:59:29.720 it's good night then from myself Senya, yes, and good night from Angela. 1289 01:59:29.840 --> 01:59:34.960 Thank you for joining us today and night. From there we go and 1290 01:59:35.039 --> 01:59:39.319 good night, God bless you and see you for a Saturday night praise. 1291 01:59:39.520 --> 01:59:44.560 Just after this Adventist Radio London inspiration for the song