Hey everyone, it's Lorenzo and welcome to two minute Tips on Hack your Leadership
podcast. Today's two minute tip is brought to you by Gina molacone Long.
Gina is the co founder of the Greatness Group and creator of Greatness You.
In this episode, Gina speaks about the agreement frame. Check the episode notes
for links to her LinkedIn page. My name is Gina molicone Long, and
you're listening to my two minute tip on Hacking your leadership. This is a
tip that will really help you deal with difficult conversations. How many of you
really struggled to get your point across when you're in a conflict with someone else.
I call this technique the agreement frame, and what it does is it
empowers you to get your point across while maintaining the relationship. Here's what you
need to do first and foremost. You need to eliminate the words I understand
and but most people, when they're dealing with a difficult situation, they say,
yeah, I understand what you're saying. But here's my point. That
literally is a huge mistake because understanding require you to have the exact same viewpoint
as the other person. And obviously, if you're in a conflict, you
don't, So we just eliminate understand, and we eliminate but because but creates
a break in the listening, and it basically is like someone sticking their finger
in their ears. So we're going to use the conjunction. And what we're
going to do is we're going to use three phrases in place of I understand.
So what you want to do is you either want to say I agree,
I appreciate, or I respect and here's my point. So you use
I agree with you if you agree with them. So if you agree with
the person, you say, I agree with your point, and here's my
point. If you don't agree with them, but you can respect their perspective
or their model of the world, you acknowledge their position by saying I respect
your position and here's my point of view. And if you don't even have
that, but you can appreciate where they're coming from, then you say,
I appreciate your position or I appreciate your perspective and here's my point of view.
What this does is it acknowledges their position, so they keep listening.
It links with the word and which is a conjunction, and then it keeps
going into your point. So what this does is it creates a continuous listening
in the person that you're having a conflict with. Even though you don't see
eye to eye, you acknowledge their position, link it with the conjunction and
and then make your point. This will allow you to stay connected, it
will preserve the relationship, and it's extremely powerful in keeping you moving in the
direction of a successful communication. This is part of all of the stuff we
teach at Greatness. You. You can find us at Greatness the letter U
dot com, or you can find me gena molcone long at my link tree,
because something's always on my link tree. That's link l i n k
tr dot e slash g molocone g I n A m O l l i
c O n E. I look forward to connecting with you.