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Hey everyone, it's Lorenzo and welcome
to two minute Tips on Hack your Leadership

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podcast. Today's two minute tip is
brought to you by Gina molacone Long.

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Gina is the co founder of the
Greatness Group and creator of Greatness You.

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In this episode, Gina speaks about
the agreement frame. Check the episode notes

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for links to her LinkedIn page.
My name is Gina molicone Long, and

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you're listening to my two minute tip
on Hacking your leadership. This is a

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tip that will really help you deal
with difficult conversations. How many of you

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really struggled to get your point across
when you're in a conflict with someone else.

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I call this technique the agreement frame, and what it does is it

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empowers you to get your point across
while maintaining the relationship. Here's what you

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need to do first and foremost.
You need to eliminate the words I understand

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and but most people, when they're
dealing with a difficult situation, they say,

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yeah, I understand what you're saying. But here's my point. That

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literally is a huge mistake because understanding
require you to have the exact same viewpoint

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as the other person. And obviously, if you're in a conflict, you

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don't, So we just eliminate understand, and we eliminate but because but creates

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a break in the listening, and
it basically is like someone sticking their finger

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in their ears. So we're going
to use the conjunction. And what we're

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going to do is we're going to
use three phrases in place of I understand.

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So what you want to do is
you either want to say I agree,

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I appreciate, or I respect and
here's my point. So you use

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I agree with you if you agree
with them. So if you agree with

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the person, you say, I
agree with your point, and here's my

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point. If you don't agree with
them, but you can respect their perspective

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or their model of the world,
you acknowledge their position by saying I respect

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your position and here's my point of
view. And if you don't even have

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that, but you can appreciate where
they're coming from, then you say,

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I appreciate your position or I appreciate
your perspective and here's my point of view.

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What this does is it acknowledges their
position, so they keep listening.

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It links with the word and which
is a conjunction, and then it keeps

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going into your point. So what
this does is it creates a continuous listening

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in the person that you're having a
conflict with. Even though you don't see

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eye to eye, you acknowledge their
position, link it with the conjunction and

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and then make your point. This
will allow you to stay connected, it

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will preserve the relationship, and it's
extremely powerful in keeping you moving in the

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direction of a successful communication. This
is part of all of the stuff we

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teach at Greatness. You. You
can find us at Greatness the letter U

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dot com, or you can find
me gena molcone long at my link tree,

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because something's always on my link tree. That's link l i n k

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tr dot e slash g molocone g
I n A m O l l i

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c O n E. I look
forward to connecting with you.