Hey, hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about
today. I want to revisit something I've talked about before because so many people
since the last time I talked about it have taken their own lives committed suicide,
and I just want to talk about it again. Don't think for one
second, not one single second, that a person woke up and said that
they were going to kill themselves. I mean, what I'm saying is,
don't think for a second that they did it without thought. That's not how
it works. It's not how it works at all. People are tormented,
they are literally tormented. They're living with all types of issues. First of
all, we just gotta be honest about it. People want to tiptoe around
the topic of suicide. Tiptoeing around it, it does not make the situation
better or worse. It's not going to make the situation better or worse.
You have to be willing to tell the truth. I'm gonna do it.
People go through life so many most with un resolved issues, unhealed hearts and
minds, and I'm gonna break it down to you again. People go through
life never dealing with what else than they just continue to go through life carrying
all of the pains from early in their life. People go through trauma,
their rate, molested, beat, I mean, they go through all types
of horrible, horrible abuse mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually, verbally.
They endure abuse in some form or another. That's where most of the issues
revolve. Revolve from some traumatic episodes, some bad experience, and I mean
there could be a million, a million, a million different scenarios. So
many people have children that should never have brought a child into the world.
I mean, I'm just being honest with you. Many many, many have
children that should never have brought children in the world. They get them,
they don't take care of everything else, and everyone else raised them, but
the parents just things kids should not ever go through. So the abuse don't
necessarily have to be physical, but verbal and mental emotionals is just as bad
abuse is abuse. It can be detrimental either way. Children are raised with
no type of nurturing, none, They're raising themselves. That's why they're seeking
out people on the internet. Then they come up missing or killed because they're
longing for love. They're going out, they're joining games, they're turning to
drugs and alcohol. They turn into bad people because they're seeking love, affection,
they have that sense of belonging. So what happens is people have all
of these unresolved issues. They never learn how to cope as a child.
So as they go through their developmental stages, and I've talked about this,
they go through their developmental stages, they get fixated and stuck where the most
trauma occurred. Yet they continue to mature age wise, so they continue to
get older and they move on through different phases, but mentally they're stuck in
whatever that traumatic, most traumatic phase was of their life. So they carry
that if they don't ever receive help or learn how to cope and get past
that, they take it through life into their adulthood. So they become adults
who carry all of that pain and unresolved and it forms into anger, bitterness,
resentfulness, regrets, hate, all types of things. Being that turns
into codependent trust issues and all types of insecurities, lack of self esteem,
all of that, all of it, all of it, all of it,
all of those things forms your mindset. So just imagine this. Imagine
imagine a person who's that way. They have all their unresolved issues that going
through life pretending that everything is okay, or maybe they're not. Maybe they
have issues at every turn because everything is a comfort, everything is a battle.
So they may be that person, or they may be that person who's
pretending that everything is okay. So you're going through life, you're that person
who everything is a comfort, everything is always a problem. That's because of
what's in you. That's because of the mindset you have. Or you're that
person who's pretending. You're smiling, pretending everything is okay, but you're war
down mentally, your war down inside because you have all of this unresolved and
you're faking all your life acterness. If you're able to handle everything, you're
cool. Everything is good when you know it's a lot. So you may
be that person and you may be the other person. But you go through
life, you get older. Some of you are displaying the anger, the
bitterness, the resentfulness, all of those things. Some of you are not.
So you go through life you're seeking things love, recognition, validation,
all types of things, mostly love. So because your mindset is not conducive
to a healthy way of thinking, you open yourself up to all types of
things from people, and you know things you bring in your own life,
which you bring all of it. But I'm saying some things other people don't
bring you yourself bringing. So you open yourself up to people and you gravitate
towards people who are similar to you. They have their own issue. I
call that where people both have unresolved issues. It's like a relationship where two
individuals are sharing trauma and people come together because they both have that trauma and
they feed off of each other. Sometimes one is worse off than the other.
So you go through life and you meet people that you fall in love
with, are people you want in your life, and you have not yet
face to your own unresolved issues. So you go through life and you bring
this other person in your life who have all of their issues. They're not
loving you the way you want them to love you. Things are not going
the way you thought they would go or you want them to go. Now
you got all of this other stuff powered up on you. It makes situation
worse, It makes the burden heavier. Then some of you have children,
you project all of that on your children. Now you have problematic children.
You don't know how to handle it because you yourself, you're unhealed. So
you got that on top of the individual in your life that has his or
her own issues. So the problem as a child, the children's problem,
you compile upon yours too, so that's even more and the burden is heavier.
You go to work or you don't work. Either way, it brings
stress in your life that's more stressed. So people acquire stressed through all types
of things. You develop many stressors work, home, life, relationships,
your children, your education, the lack there of I mean a billion things.
So you have all of that and you're trying to maintain, maintain,
maintain. You know it's hard, but you're after that's if you can handle
it. But inside you're dying. You're so burdened down, you're so full,
you're still struggling because you're thinking about the things that happened to you as
a child. Your parents didn't nurture you, you didn't know your parents,
you never received love. All of those things you're affected by because you never
dealt with your unresolved issues. You never healed from those things. So all
of that and now you think that killing yourself it's the best thing you could
do because you're no longer worried by all of those issues. That's the wrong
way to think, because any person, any person, any person, any
person can allow those things to become better in their life if you face them.
You have to be willing to face your issues and let them go.
I'm not saying you're gonna forget everything, but some things you are gonna forget.
Some things are gonna lessen, but they will never do so if you
keep holding onto them, you act as if it's the benefit to holding onto
those negative things. That's why your mind is like it is. You have
no peace. You're constantly at a battle in your mind. On top of
that battle, we're all all of us, every last one of us.
We're all in a battle mentally against good and evil, all of us already.
But then you're compelling all of that unresolved. You're dealing with your own
mental warfare. That's natural, it's really a natural part of life. Then
you're dealing with all your unresolved because you carry in the pains of yester yesteryear.
So for a lot of people, they can handle it and they focus
on the things that are present, when it's really the things of yesteryear,
the things of the past that's really have them bound. But they focus on
the current thing, as if that's the real, real problem, when it's
the past that's the problem that they've never healed from. See, if you
don't deal with it, it's not gonna go away. If you keep revisiting,
you just empowered. You give power to those negative thoughts. Because I've
told you many times, your past it's gone, never ever to return again.
You can't go back to it. It's not coming to you. It's
over. It's done with. I don't care how bad it was. I
don't care how good it was. It's over and done with what you are
dealing with. For the memories that you're holding on to that you're giving power
to. My mom didn't love me, my dad raped me. I didn't
know my dad. I didn't know my mom. I was chained, I
was starved, I was beat. You're holding on to all of that negativity.
My mother never told me she loved me. My mother left me,
she abandoned me on the doorstep. Whatever it is, holding onto those negative
memories that has no benefit for you. None look at your life, it
has no benefit. You hold on to that negativity that has absolutely no benefit
for your life, and you allow it to continue. That bitterness inside of
you, that anger, that rage. You're ready to go off a drop
off a dime. That's not a good way to be. It certainly is
not a healthy way to be. You're seeking and searching, but everything you
find is negative, like you. That only adds to your life, to
your problems. I told you recently in an episode on Relationship Chronicles, I
told you, if the person in your life does not enhance your life,
you're with the wrong person. But so many people settle for it. So
many people settle for it, and a lot of people they would rather go
to their graves than to stand in the relationships they're in. A lot of
people will rather murder than to let go. Some people want out, but
they would rather kill themselves than to just leave the relationship, or they feel
that's the only way out. Then some people they don't want out, no
matter how much the other person want away from them, they don't want out.
They'll murder you, murder themselves. A whole of it comes from that
negative mindset. And I've told you, when you have a negative thought,
you know you have a negative thought. If you're thinking of harming yourself or
harming someone else, you know that's a negative thought. But the problem is
people keep feeding it. They keep feeding that flame. They keep feeding that
flame, and it keeps on growing and growing. So you keep giving power
to that negative thought. The more you think about harming yourself, the more
you want to harm yourself, the more you start to plan, because that's
all you think about. You start off with fleeting thoughts. Some people start
off with a thought, they don't think about it for a while. Soon
as something else happened that cause them pain, they go back to those thoughts.
Some people have them all of the time because they're holding onto so much
unnecessary trauma that they should have let go. You're just miserable, you're unhappy.
Some of your parents committed suicide, so you think, well, if
it was good enough for them, why shouldn't not do it. That's the
long way to think. When I tell you, I believe any person could
change their life, they could change how they think. I believe that with
everything in me. I'm a person that have gone through some things. I
never once thought about killing myself. I never once thought about killing anyone I
may have wanted. And a point in my life when I was younger,
punch out some lights but to murder. Nah, And one thing for certain,
I never wanted anyone who didn't want me, not that I ever had
to experience it. But I don't care about nobody like that. I'm not
gonna bring drama, hurt and pain in my life because someone don't want to
be a part of it. I met a lot of people that I really
really liked and I wanted to be friends with, but they felt my spirit
and they don't do what I do. I don't do what they do.
So even though I really liked them and I thought we could be cool,
they couldn't jail with me. That my spirit won't allow it. They just
can't jail with me. You think I'm gonna chase anybody. No, I
let God do the reading out in my life. So people take on so
much, compelling it on what's already there in their lives. Look how many
celebrities that have committed suicide. Some lady attempted over the weekend, been in
a coma and died. There's nothing that bad, nothing, but because people
don't ever deal with their unresolved issues, or they attempt to deal with them,
but they feel it's too hard. Yeah, it's hard because that's the
mindset you have. That's that it is hard. So if you're going thinking
that it's hard to change, you're gonna You're probably not going to. You
have to be conscious and mindful and aware of who and what you allow into
your life. If it's not good for you, it's not good for you.
Just because you want it, it does not make it good. It
will never make it good. People are taking on way too much, but
they're not dealing with what's already there. This is what drive people to commit
suicide. People go through trauma and no matter how much it hurt them,
they hold onto it because that's what they become familiar with and even comfortable because
that's what they know. When you have to be willing to say, Okay,
I went through this. I don't care what it was. Your mama
left you, your mama beat you, your daddy did this, your daddy
did that. Other people did this, other people did that. It don't
matter what it is. You have to be willing to say I went through
it and it was horrible, but I want better for my life. I
want to love me. I don't care what no one said about me.
I don't care what they thought of me and what they try to make me
think of myself. It don't matter because I don't think that well about myself.
I love me, I want better for me. You have to be
that for yourself. You can't look to someone else to encourage, motivate,
inspire you. You have to want that for yourself. But so many people
don't. They're looking to the left, to the right, to the front,
to the back for those things, those things that they should have inside.
But you can never acquire those things if you don't heal from pass pains,
because you're gonna keep giving your power to that past pain. This is
what leads people to suicide. This is what leads to mental health issues.
All of these people, these millions of people saying they got mental health issues,
they were not born that way. I guarantee you I could talk to
these people I'm talking about millions, and I could get to the bottom line
of where that mental health issue kicked him. I guarantee you it's not difficult
people, it's not so people go through life with all of this stuff in
their heads, this negative stuff that they never let go of, and it
becomes unbearable. People want to die because their loved one died or they no
longer want to be with them. Are you kidding me? You you didn't
come in the world with them. You still have a life to leave.
You have a life to leave. You have a life to live for.
People just give so much power to people and things. It's like alcoholism and
drugs because people can't cope with life. They're easily influencing to these things.
They're copes into these things by different people who are supposed to care about them.
No one who offer you drugs and all of that. No, I
don't care who they are. They don't love you like they should. But
you have to be the smart one to say not only no, but have
no, no, no, and no, and you will not a matter
of fact, get lost. Anyone who's coming to your life bringing drama,
bringing problems, showing you potential problems, you need to say, get lost.
I don't care who it is, but that is not what people do.
People open themselves up to all of the drama from other people and from
things that they pick up, such as drugs and alcohol and all kinds of
stuff. You can never reach your potential of being that person with that healthy
mindset, being the best you can be by carrying around the weight of the
world on your shoulders. It's not possible. It's not possible. It's just
not possible. You have to be willing to heal from your pains and let
it go. Some of you are struggling from issues when you were a child
and you're forty fifty sixty seven years old. That's awful, that is absolutely
awful. But people live this way every day when they don't have to,
and telling you you have to face it. I don't care what it is,
well, what it was. You have to want to love you despite
everyone else, despite everything else. You have to want to love you.
You deserve better, You deserve better. But no, you're still giving power
to the past. You're still giving power to the negativity that's holding you mentally
in bondage, holding you captive to your own mindset. You're you're being tormented
by your own mindset because you won't let go of all trauma. And as
I said, many things you won't forget. But they don't have to keep
hurting you over and over and over. They don't. I'm a living witness,
and I know people do things differently, but no one should want to
hold on to it. No one. Everyone should have a mission to let
it go because there's no benefit to it. All it does is sabotage your
life and keep you in bondage, mental bondage. I've told you before,
some people accomplish great things, but they're still in mental bundage because the inside
haven't changed. If the inside haven't changed, your mindset havn't changed. You
were just able to accomplish those things that you accomplished, but you still have
the struggle inside of you. I can't save no one, I can't fix
no one. I can't change anyone, but I can for certain tell you
you can change yourself if you choose to. You have to want to,
You have to want better. You have to want to get rid of the
demons that's tormenting your mind, because that's all it is. If you give
the devil an inch, he's taken a mouth. If you let a ride,
he gonna take over. He gonna want to drive. If you let
him in, he's gonna take over. And that is exactly what happens.
You let the negativity in your head and he's like, oh yeah, easy
prey, and it just keep you tormented. When you don't have to be
But you have to be willing, mindful, aware of how you're thinking at
all times. When your mind try to take you to the past, it's
over. Even if you have to say it's over, it's not happening.
I'm not thinking about it. It's over if you do that something simple as
that. Every time I promise you it's gonna lessen and lessen and listen.
You have to take charge. You have to want to be better. I
can give you some tips and some suggestions, but I'm not standing in the
role of a therapist. I don't do that anymore. But I will give
tips and suggestions, recommendations. Those are the things that I do in my
own personal business that I do outside of my regular job. I do have
a business. I haven't mentioned it in a long time. I do have
a business that's called the cordin More and I'm a life coach. So one
of the services I provide is just talk. You call me and we just
talk. There are things that I will not discuss, such as we're not
talking about hot, steamy sex stuff. We're not talking like that. If
you have a sex problem, that's a different story. But you know so,
I do have my limitations on things. But and I'm not trying to
sit here to advertise my business. I'm just telling you that I do have
a business that people call and just talk. But if you email me,
I will provide you information for free. Because no one in this world,
and I do mean no one should want to harm themselves, no one.
It's nothing that bad. You just have to want to be better. Your
life is worth living. I don't care where you came from. Your life
is worth living, and it's one you make it. We're gonna get curveballs
thrown at us, We're gonna go through the unexpected. But if your mindset
is healthy, you're gonna make it through. But when it's unhealthy, it's
negative. When trials and tribulation comes, you have such a hard time because
you're dealing with those things plus what's already there. You have to want to
be better. I want that for you. I pray that people want to
be better. I pray that people want their uneilled hearts and minds to become
better. You have to want that for yourself. I don't care who around
you. You have to want it for yourself. Suicide is not the answer.
If anyone who's listening to me is going through and you feel like you're
at that point, please reach out to me. But before you reach out
to me, please contact the suicide hotline. Please, because your life is
worth it is definitely worth living. It's worth living. Don't ever doubt that.
Because your life is worth living, call someone, call a friend.
Because when you are going through, I'm telling you, the more you you
ponder on the negativity, the worst things become. You can doubt in the
State's nine A A on your phone, you can text. There are many
ways that you can get help. You have to want to. You could
take seven four one seven four one. You have to want help. It
is up to you. I pray that every single person, every single person,
whether you know someone or it's you, please please get help. Please,
and you could call eight hundred two seven three eight two five five.
Your life is worth living. Let go of that negativity. It does not
benefit you. It brings you down and makes you feel worse. Some of
you are taking it and carrying it for a lifetime. You have signed up
to a life sentence of self inflicted pain. Because your past is no more,
you're holding onto the memories of it. So please take care of yourselves.
Much love to you. Please share this episode. Thank you for listening.
My heart goes out to all of the people who have lost friends and
relatives to suicide. I know people myself, so my heart goes out to
you, you and you. Thank you for listening again, please share.
Also listen to my other podcast, Relationship Chronicles. I end every episode the
same and I prayed, I pray, I pray that you do it,
think on it.