WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.360 --> 00:00:09.759 Hey, hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about 2 00:00:11.480 --> 00:00:21.000 today. I want to revisit something I've talked about before because so many people 3 00:00:22.559 --> 00:00:29.399 since the last time I talked about it have taken their own lives committed suicide, 4 00:00:30.000 --> 00:00:37.039 and I just want to talk about it again. Don't think for one 5 00:00:37.240 --> 00:00:43.039 second, not one single second, that a person woke up and said that 6 00:00:43.079 --> 00:00:48.920 they were going to kill themselves. I mean, what I'm saying is, 7 00:00:49.320 --> 00:00:55.840 don't think for a second that they did it without thought. That's not how 8 00:00:55.840 --> 00:01:03.560 it works. It's not how it works at all. People are tormented, 9 00:01:06.120 --> 00:01:12.959 they are literally tormented. They're living with all types of issues. First of 10 00:01:14.000 --> 00:01:21.280 all, we just gotta be honest about it. People want to tiptoe around 11 00:01:21.640 --> 00:01:29.680 the topic of suicide. Tiptoeing around it, it does not make the situation 12 00:01:29.799 --> 00:01:38.200 better or worse. It's not going to make the situation better or worse. 13 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:44.319 You have to be willing to tell the truth. I'm gonna do it. 14 00:01:47.680 --> 00:01:59.719 People go through life so many most with un resolved issues, unhealed hearts and 15 00:02:00.040 --> 00:02:07.000 minds, and I'm gonna break it down to you again. People go through 16 00:02:07.080 --> 00:02:14.599 life never dealing with what else than they just continue to go through life carrying 17 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:23.240 all of the pains from early in their life. People go through trauma, 18 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:30.000 their rate, molested, beat, I mean, they go through all types 19 00:02:30.000 --> 00:02:40.680 of horrible, horrible abuse mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually, verbally. 20 00:02:44.800 --> 00:02:54.159 They endure abuse in some form or another. That's where most of the issues 21 00:02:54.520 --> 00:03:07.840 revolve. Revolve from some traumatic episodes, some bad experience, and I mean 22 00:03:07.960 --> 00:03:15.319 there could be a million, a million, a million different scenarios. So 23 00:03:15.400 --> 00:03:22.800 many people have children that should never have brought a child into the world. 24 00:03:23.840 --> 00:03:29.400 I mean, I'm just being honest with you. Many many, many have 25 00:03:29.680 --> 00:03:32.919 children that should never have brought children in the world. They get them, 26 00:03:32.919 --> 00:03:37.080 they don't take care of everything else, and everyone else raised them, but 27 00:03:37.120 --> 00:03:46.240 the parents just things kids should not ever go through. So the abuse don't 28 00:03:46.280 --> 00:03:53.080 necessarily have to be physical, but verbal and mental emotionals is just as bad 29 00:03:53.479 --> 00:04:05.840 abuse is abuse. It can be detrimental either way. Children are raised with 30 00:04:06.080 --> 00:04:14.840 no type of nurturing, none, They're raising themselves. That's why they're seeking 31 00:04:14.840 --> 00:04:19.600 out people on the internet. Then they come up missing or killed because they're 32 00:04:19.920 --> 00:04:28.639 longing for love. They're going out, they're joining games, they're turning to 33 00:04:28.800 --> 00:04:42.480 drugs and alcohol. They turn into bad people because they're seeking love, affection, 34 00:04:43.680 --> 00:04:49.600 they have that sense of belonging. So what happens is people have all 35 00:04:49.639 --> 00:04:55.000 of these unresolved issues. They never learn how to cope as a child. 36 00:04:55.439 --> 00:04:59.360 So as they go through their developmental stages, and I've talked about this, 37 00:04:59.720 --> 00:05:05.560 they go through their developmental stages, they get fixated and stuck where the most 38 00:05:05.560 --> 00:05:14.800 trauma occurred. Yet they continue to mature age wise, so they continue to 39 00:05:14.879 --> 00:05:19.720 get older and they move on through different phases, but mentally they're stuck in 40 00:05:20.120 --> 00:05:27.439 whatever that traumatic, most traumatic phase was of their life. So they carry 41 00:05:27.560 --> 00:05:36.439 that if they don't ever receive help or learn how to cope and get past 42 00:05:36.519 --> 00:05:45.519 that, they take it through life into their adulthood. So they become adults 43 00:05:45.519 --> 00:05:55.160 who carry all of that pain and unresolved and it forms into anger, bitterness, 44 00:05:55.639 --> 00:06:04.920 resentfulness, regrets, hate, all types of things. Being that turns 45 00:06:04.959 --> 00:06:17.000 into codependent trust issues and all types of insecurities, lack of self esteem, 46 00:06:17.120 --> 00:06:20.360 all of that, all of it, all of it, all of it, 47 00:06:20.759 --> 00:06:34.720 all of those things forms your mindset. So just imagine this. Imagine 48 00:06:35.399 --> 00:06:44.319 imagine a person who's that way. They have all their unresolved issues that going 49 00:06:44.399 --> 00:06:48.360 through life pretending that everything is okay, or maybe they're not. Maybe they 50 00:06:48.439 --> 00:06:55.680 have issues at every turn because everything is a comfort, everything is a battle. 51 00:06:55.920 --> 00:06:59.560 So they may be that person, or they may be that person who's 52 00:06:59.560 --> 00:07:05.639 pretending that everything is okay. So you're going through life, you're that person 53 00:07:05.680 --> 00:07:11.000 who everything is a comfort, everything is always a problem. That's because of 54 00:07:11.000 --> 00:07:14.839 what's in you. That's because of the mindset you have. Or you're that 55 00:07:14.920 --> 00:07:18.879 person who's pretending. You're smiling, pretending everything is okay, but you're war 56 00:07:19.040 --> 00:07:26.920 down mentally, your war down inside because you have all of this unresolved and 57 00:07:27.040 --> 00:07:31.639 you're faking all your life acterness. If you're able to handle everything, you're 58 00:07:31.720 --> 00:07:36.160 cool. Everything is good when you know it's a lot. So you may 59 00:07:36.160 --> 00:07:40.160 be that person and you may be the other person. But you go through 60 00:07:40.240 --> 00:07:46.120 life, you get older. Some of you are displaying the anger, the 61 00:07:46.120 --> 00:07:50.959 bitterness, the resentfulness, all of those things. Some of you are not. 62 00:07:53.959 --> 00:08:01.560 So you go through life you're seeking things love, recognition, validation, 63 00:08:01.240 --> 00:08:11.000 all types of things, mostly love. So because your mindset is not conducive 64 00:08:11.079 --> 00:08:16.480 to a healthy way of thinking, you open yourself up to all types of 65 00:08:18.480 --> 00:08:26.560 things from people, and you know things you bring in your own life, 66 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:31.240 which you bring all of it. But I'm saying some things other people don't 67 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:39.480 bring you yourself bringing. So you open yourself up to people and you gravitate 68 00:08:39.559 --> 00:08:43.240 towards people who are similar to you. They have their own issue. I 69 00:08:43.360 --> 00:08:56.840 call that where people both have unresolved issues. It's like a relationship where two 70 00:08:56.919 --> 00:09:09.000 individuals are sharing trauma and people come together because they both have that trauma and 71 00:09:09.080 --> 00:09:15.600 they feed off of each other. Sometimes one is worse off than the other. 72 00:09:16.799 --> 00:09:22.759 So you go through life and you meet people that you fall in love 73 00:09:22.840 --> 00:09:28.000 with, are people you want in your life, and you have not yet 74 00:09:30.720 --> 00:09:35.440 face to your own unresolved issues. So you go through life and you bring 75 00:09:35.440 --> 00:09:39.279 this other person in your life who have all of their issues. They're not 76 00:09:39.879 --> 00:09:43.559 loving you the way you want them to love you. Things are not going 77 00:09:43.600 --> 00:09:46.519 the way you thought they would go or you want them to go. Now 78 00:09:46.639 --> 00:09:54.000 you got all of this other stuff powered up on you. It makes situation 79 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:58.360 worse, It makes the burden heavier. Then some of you have children, 80 00:09:58.759 --> 00:10:01.879 you project all of that on your children. Now you have problematic children. 81 00:10:03.399 --> 00:10:07.399 You don't know how to handle it because you yourself, you're unhealed. So 82 00:10:07.519 --> 00:10:15.679 you got that on top of the individual in your life that has his or 83 00:10:15.679 --> 00:10:20.679 her own issues. So the problem as a child, the children's problem, 84 00:10:20.879 --> 00:10:28.960 you compile upon yours too, so that's even more and the burden is heavier. 85 00:10:28.639 --> 00:10:35.679 You go to work or you don't work. Either way, it brings 86 00:10:35.720 --> 00:10:39.960 stress in your life that's more stressed. So people acquire stressed through all types 87 00:10:41.000 --> 00:10:48.919 of things. You develop many stressors work, home, life, relationships, 88 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:56.879 your children, your education, the lack there of I mean a billion things. 89 00:10:58.759 --> 00:11:05.519 So you have all of that and you're trying to maintain, maintain, 90 00:11:05.720 --> 00:11:09.480 maintain. You know it's hard, but you're after that's if you can handle 91 00:11:09.480 --> 00:11:16.600 it. But inside you're dying. You're so burdened down, you're so full, 92 00:11:18.399 --> 00:11:22.120 you're still struggling because you're thinking about the things that happened to you as 93 00:11:22.159 --> 00:11:26.639 a child. Your parents didn't nurture you, you didn't know your parents, 94 00:11:28.720 --> 00:11:33.960 you never received love. All of those things you're affected by because you never 95 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:43.720 dealt with your unresolved issues. You never healed from those things. So all 96 00:11:43.759 --> 00:11:50.279 of that and now you think that killing yourself it's the best thing you could 97 00:11:50.279 --> 00:11:58.320 do because you're no longer worried by all of those issues. That's the wrong 98 00:11:58.440 --> 00:12:05.000 way to think, because any person, any person, any person, any 99 00:12:05.039 --> 00:12:16.840 person can allow those things to become better in their life if you face them. 100 00:12:18.039 --> 00:12:22.840 You have to be willing to face your issues and let them go. 101 00:12:24.360 --> 00:12:28.200 I'm not saying you're gonna forget everything, but some things you are gonna forget. 102 00:12:28.519 --> 00:12:33.559 Some things are gonna lessen, but they will never do so if you 103 00:12:33.679 --> 00:12:37.759 keep holding onto them, you act as if it's the benefit to holding onto 104 00:12:37.840 --> 00:12:43.679 those negative things. That's why your mind is like it is. You have 105 00:12:43.919 --> 00:12:50.120 no peace. You're constantly at a battle in your mind. On top of 106 00:12:50.159 --> 00:12:56.399 that battle, we're all all of us, every last one of us. 107 00:12:56.559 --> 00:13:05.720 We're all in a battle mentally against good and evil, all of us already. 108 00:13:05.879 --> 00:13:09.879 But then you're compelling all of that unresolved. You're dealing with your own 109 00:13:11.000 --> 00:13:16.399 mental warfare. That's natural, it's really a natural part of life. Then 110 00:13:16.480 --> 00:13:22.159 you're dealing with all your unresolved because you carry in the pains of yester yesteryear. 111 00:13:24.399 --> 00:13:31.519 So for a lot of people, they can handle it and they focus 112 00:13:31.639 --> 00:13:41.360 on the things that are present, when it's really the things of yesteryear, 113 00:13:41.840 --> 00:13:46.559 the things of the past that's really have them bound. But they focus on 114 00:13:46.600 --> 00:13:50.240 the current thing, as if that's the real, real problem, when it's 115 00:13:50.279 --> 00:13:58.679 the past that's the problem that they've never healed from. See, if you 116 00:13:58.759 --> 00:14:05.000 don't deal with it, it's not gonna go away. If you keep revisiting, 117 00:14:05.840 --> 00:14:11.759 you just empowered. You give power to those negative thoughts. Because I've 118 00:14:11.759 --> 00:14:16.440 told you many times, your past it's gone, never ever to return again. 119 00:14:16.679 --> 00:14:22.600 You can't go back to it. It's not coming to you. It's 120 00:14:22.720 --> 00:14:26.120 over. It's done with. I don't care how bad it was. I 121 00:14:26.159 --> 00:14:31.200 don't care how good it was. It's over and done with what you are 122 00:14:31.320 --> 00:14:39.519 dealing with. For the memories that you're holding on to that you're giving power 123 00:14:39.559 --> 00:14:43.159 to. My mom didn't love me, my dad raped me. I didn't 124 00:14:43.159 --> 00:14:46.960 know my dad. I didn't know my mom. I was chained, I 125 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:52.759 was starved, I was beat. You're holding on to all of that negativity. 126 00:14:52.600 --> 00:14:56.559 My mother never told me she loved me. My mother left me, 127 00:14:56.639 --> 00:15:01.519 she abandoned me on the doorstep. Whatever it is, holding onto those negative 128 00:15:01.679 --> 00:15:07.320 memories that has no benefit for you. None look at your life, it 129 00:15:07.399 --> 00:15:13.240 has no benefit. You hold on to that negativity that has absolutely no benefit 130 00:15:13.720 --> 00:15:20.000 for your life, and you allow it to continue. That bitterness inside of 131 00:15:20.000 --> 00:15:24.200 you, that anger, that rage. You're ready to go off a drop 132 00:15:24.240 --> 00:15:30.960 off a dime. That's not a good way to be. It certainly is 133 00:15:31.000 --> 00:15:35.519 not a healthy way to be. You're seeking and searching, but everything you 134 00:15:35.639 --> 00:15:41.759 find is negative, like you. That only adds to your life, to 135 00:15:41.799 --> 00:15:50.720 your problems. I told you recently in an episode on Relationship Chronicles, I 136 00:15:50.879 --> 00:15:58.679 told you, if the person in your life does not enhance your life, 137 00:15:58.279 --> 00:16:06.039 you're with the wrong person. But so many people settle for it. So 138 00:16:06.080 --> 00:16:11.679 many people settle for it, and a lot of people they would rather go 139 00:16:11.799 --> 00:16:15.399 to their graves than to stand in the relationships they're in. A lot of 140 00:16:15.440 --> 00:16:22.519 people will rather murder than to let go. Some people want out, but 141 00:16:22.639 --> 00:16:29.120 they would rather kill themselves than to just leave the relationship, or they feel 142 00:16:29.200 --> 00:16:34.320 that's the only way out. Then some people they don't want out, no 143 00:16:34.399 --> 00:16:38.480 matter how much the other person want away from them, they don't want out. 144 00:16:41.440 --> 00:16:45.080 They'll murder you, murder themselves. A whole of it comes from that 145 00:16:45.240 --> 00:16:52.720 negative mindset. And I've told you, when you have a negative thought, 146 00:16:52.919 --> 00:16:56.919 you know you have a negative thought. If you're thinking of harming yourself or 147 00:16:56.960 --> 00:17:03.640 harming someone else, you know that's a negative thought. But the problem is 148 00:17:07.039 --> 00:17:14.200 people keep feeding it. They keep feeding that flame. They keep feeding that 149 00:17:14.240 --> 00:17:21.119 flame, and it keeps on growing and growing. So you keep giving power 150 00:17:21.240 --> 00:17:25.519 to that negative thought. The more you think about harming yourself, the more 151 00:17:25.599 --> 00:17:30.960 you want to harm yourself, the more you start to plan, because that's 152 00:17:32.000 --> 00:17:38.279 all you think about. You start off with fleeting thoughts. Some people start 153 00:17:38.279 --> 00:17:42.519 off with a thought, they don't think about it for a while. Soon 154 00:17:42.599 --> 00:17:48.799 as something else happened that cause them pain, they go back to those thoughts. 155 00:17:51.440 --> 00:17:55.240 Some people have them all of the time because they're holding onto so much 156 00:17:55.920 --> 00:18:02.759 unnecessary trauma that they should have let go. You're just miserable, you're unhappy. 157 00:18:02.880 --> 00:18:06.640 Some of your parents committed suicide, so you think, well, if 158 00:18:06.640 --> 00:18:11.640 it was good enough for them, why shouldn't not do it. That's the 159 00:18:11.799 --> 00:18:18.880 long way to think. When I tell you, I believe any person could 160 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:23.599 change their life, they could change how they think. I believe that with 161 00:18:23.759 --> 00:18:32.440 everything in me. I'm a person that have gone through some things. I 162 00:18:32.599 --> 00:18:37.000 never once thought about killing myself. I never once thought about killing anyone I 163 00:18:37.160 --> 00:18:41.079 may have wanted. And a point in my life when I was younger, 164 00:18:41.279 --> 00:18:48.319 punch out some lights but to murder. Nah, And one thing for certain, 165 00:18:48.720 --> 00:18:52.799 I never wanted anyone who didn't want me, not that I ever had 166 00:18:52.799 --> 00:18:59.119 to experience it. But I don't care about nobody like that. I'm not 167 00:18:59.160 --> 00:19:03.799 gonna bring drama, hurt and pain in my life because someone don't want to 168 00:19:03.839 --> 00:19:07.119 be a part of it. I met a lot of people that I really 169 00:19:07.160 --> 00:19:11.440 really liked and I wanted to be friends with, but they felt my spirit 170 00:19:12.759 --> 00:19:17.440 and they don't do what I do. I don't do what they do. 171 00:19:17.680 --> 00:19:22.720 So even though I really liked them and I thought we could be cool, 172 00:19:22.680 --> 00:19:30.920 they couldn't jail with me. That my spirit won't allow it. They just 173 00:19:32.000 --> 00:19:40.240 can't jail with me. You think I'm gonna chase anybody. No, I 174 00:19:40.359 --> 00:19:48.000 let God do the reading out in my life. So people take on so 175 00:19:48.119 --> 00:19:56.720 much, compelling it on what's already there in their lives. Look how many 176 00:19:56.759 --> 00:20:07.160 celebrities that have committed suicide. Some lady attempted over the weekend, been in 177 00:20:07.200 --> 00:20:18.000 a coma and died. There's nothing that bad, nothing, but because people 178 00:20:18.480 --> 00:20:25.559 don't ever deal with their unresolved issues, or they attempt to deal with them, 179 00:20:25.720 --> 00:20:27.720 but they feel it's too hard. Yeah, it's hard because that's the 180 00:20:27.759 --> 00:20:33.119 mindset you have. That's that it is hard. So if you're going thinking 181 00:20:33.160 --> 00:20:41.279 that it's hard to change, you're gonna You're probably not going to. You 182 00:20:41.400 --> 00:20:48.160 have to be conscious and mindful and aware of who and what you allow into 183 00:20:48.240 --> 00:20:51.599 your life. If it's not good for you, it's not good for you. 184 00:20:52.920 --> 00:20:55.960 Just because you want it, it does not make it good. It 185 00:20:56.039 --> 00:21:02.880 will never make it good. People are taking on way too much, but 186 00:21:03.000 --> 00:21:08.119 they're not dealing with what's already there. This is what drive people to commit 187 00:21:08.160 --> 00:21:19.119 suicide. People go through trauma and no matter how much it hurt them, 188 00:21:19.240 --> 00:21:26.000 they hold onto it because that's what they become familiar with and even comfortable because 189 00:21:26.039 --> 00:21:33.119 that's what they know. When you have to be willing to say, Okay, 190 00:21:33.160 --> 00:21:37.839 I went through this. I don't care what it was. Your mama 191 00:21:37.920 --> 00:21:41.519 left you, your mama beat you, your daddy did this, your daddy 192 00:21:41.559 --> 00:21:45.839 did that. Other people did this, other people did that. It don't 193 00:21:45.839 --> 00:21:49.640 matter what it is. You have to be willing to say I went through 194 00:21:49.680 --> 00:21:57.480 it and it was horrible, but I want better for my life. I 195 00:21:57.680 --> 00:22:02.160 want to love me. I don't care what no one said about me. 196 00:22:02.480 --> 00:22:04.920 I don't care what they thought of me and what they try to make me 197 00:22:04.960 --> 00:22:10.079 think of myself. It don't matter because I don't think that well about myself. 198 00:22:10.359 --> 00:22:12.799 I love me, I want better for me. You have to be 199 00:22:14.039 --> 00:22:18.559 that for yourself. You can't look to someone else to encourage, motivate, 200 00:22:18.720 --> 00:22:23.920 inspire you. You have to want that for yourself. But so many people 201 00:22:23.960 --> 00:22:26.240 don't. They're looking to the left, to the right, to the front, 202 00:22:26.279 --> 00:22:33.839 to the back for those things, those things that they should have inside. 203 00:22:33.240 --> 00:22:37.599 But you can never acquire those things if you don't heal from pass pains, 204 00:22:37.799 --> 00:22:45.440 because you're gonna keep giving your power to that past pain. This is 205 00:22:45.519 --> 00:22:52.920 what leads people to suicide. This is what leads to mental health issues. 206 00:22:56.319 --> 00:23:00.359 All of these people, these millions of people saying they got mental health issues, 207 00:23:00.400 --> 00:23:04.119 they were not born that way. I guarantee you I could talk to 208 00:23:04.160 --> 00:23:10.519 these people I'm talking about millions, and I could get to the bottom line 209 00:23:10.640 --> 00:23:18.240 of where that mental health issue kicked him. I guarantee you it's not difficult 210 00:23:18.319 --> 00:23:27.519 people, it's not so people go through life with all of this stuff in 211 00:23:27.720 --> 00:23:37.519 their heads, this negative stuff that they never let go of, and it 212 00:23:37.559 --> 00:23:48.119 becomes unbearable. People want to die because their loved one died or they no 213 00:23:48.279 --> 00:23:52.720 longer want to be with them. Are you kidding me? You you didn't 214 00:23:52.720 --> 00:23:56.279 come in the world with them. You still have a life to leave. 215 00:24:02.039 --> 00:24:07.319 You have a life to leave. You have a life to live for. 216 00:24:07.519 --> 00:24:15.720 People just give so much power to people and things. It's like alcoholism and 217 00:24:15.920 --> 00:24:21.960 drugs because people can't cope with life. They're easily influencing to these things. 218 00:24:22.279 --> 00:24:26.519 They're copes into these things by different people who are supposed to care about them. 219 00:24:26.799 --> 00:24:30.400 No one who offer you drugs and all of that. No, I 220 00:24:30.440 --> 00:24:33.960 don't care who they are. They don't love you like they should. But 221 00:24:34.119 --> 00:24:38.799 you have to be the smart one to say not only no, but have 222 00:24:40.359 --> 00:24:47.319 no, no, no, and no, and you will not a matter 223 00:24:47.359 --> 00:24:53.400 of fact, get lost. Anyone who's coming to your life bringing drama, 224 00:24:53.799 --> 00:24:59.559 bringing problems, showing you potential problems, you need to say, get lost. 225 00:25:00.759 --> 00:25:06.960 I don't care who it is, but that is not what people do. 226 00:25:07.240 --> 00:25:12.240 People open themselves up to all of the drama from other people and from 227 00:25:12.440 --> 00:25:18.960 things that they pick up, such as drugs and alcohol and all kinds of 228 00:25:18.000 --> 00:25:25.880 stuff. You can never reach your potential of being that person with that healthy 229 00:25:25.960 --> 00:25:30.119 mindset, being the best you can be by carrying around the weight of the 230 00:25:30.160 --> 00:25:41.359 world on your shoulders. It's not possible. It's not possible. It's just 231 00:25:41.480 --> 00:25:51.440 not possible. You have to be willing to heal from your pains and let 232 00:25:51.440 --> 00:25:56.160 it go. Some of you are struggling from issues when you were a child 233 00:25:56.440 --> 00:26:07.200 and you're forty fifty sixty seven years old. That's awful, that is absolutely 234 00:26:07.759 --> 00:26:12.880 awful. But people live this way every day when they don't have to, 235 00:26:15.079 --> 00:26:18.759 and telling you you have to face it. I don't care what it is, 236 00:26:19.359 --> 00:26:25.519 well, what it was. You have to want to love you despite 237 00:26:26.200 --> 00:26:30.839 everyone else, despite everything else. You have to want to love you. 238 00:26:30.839 --> 00:26:41.920 You deserve better, You deserve better. But no, you're still giving power 239 00:26:41.960 --> 00:26:49.079 to the past. You're still giving power to the negativity that's holding you mentally 240 00:26:51.079 --> 00:26:57.440 in bondage, holding you captive to your own mindset. You're you're being tormented 241 00:26:57.480 --> 00:27:07.680 by your own mindset because you won't let go of all trauma. And as 242 00:27:07.720 --> 00:27:11.519 I said, many things you won't forget. But they don't have to keep 243 00:27:11.599 --> 00:27:18.519 hurting you over and over and over. They don't. I'm a living witness, 244 00:27:18.519 --> 00:27:21.880 and I know people do things differently, but no one should want to 245 00:27:21.880 --> 00:27:30.799 hold on to it. No one. Everyone should have a mission to let 246 00:27:32.079 --> 00:27:36.880 it go because there's no benefit to it. All it does is sabotage your 247 00:27:36.920 --> 00:27:47.000 life and keep you in bondage, mental bondage. I've told you before, 248 00:27:47.319 --> 00:27:52.359 some people accomplish great things, but they're still in mental bundage because the inside 249 00:27:52.359 --> 00:27:57.119 haven't changed. If the inside haven't changed, your mindset havn't changed. You 250 00:27:57.200 --> 00:28:03.160 were just able to accomplish those things that you accomplished, but you still have 251 00:28:03.279 --> 00:28:14.279 the struggle inside of you. I can't save no one, I can't fix 252 00:28:14.319 --> 00:28:19.920 no one. I can't change anyone, but I can for certain tell you 253 00:28:19.920 --> 00:28:25.680 you can change yourself if you choose to. You have to want to, 254 00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:30.480 You have to want better. You have to want to get rid of the 255 00:28:30.519 --> 00:28:34.880 demons that's tormenting your mind, because that's all it is. If you give 256 00:28:34.920 --> 00:28:38.400 the devil an inch, he's taken a mouth. If you let a ride, 257 00:28:38.440 --> 00:28:45.880 he gonna take over. He gonna want to drive. If you let 258 00:28:45.960 --> 00:28:52.400 him in, he's gonna take over. And that is exactly what happens. 259 00:28:52.720 --> 00:28:56.279 You let the negativity in your head and he's like, oh yeah, easy 260 00:28:56.319 --> 00:29:03.920 prey, and it just keep you tormented. When you don't have to be 261 00:29:03.400 --> 00:29:10.960 But you have to be willing, mindful, aware of how you're thinking at 262 00:29:11.000 --> 00:29:15.519 all times. When your mind try to take you to the past, it's 263 00:29:15.599 --> 00:29:22.519 over. Even if you have to say it's over, it's not happening. 264 00:29:22.759 --> 00:29:26.960 I'm not thinking about it. It's over if you do that something simple as 265 00:29:26.039 --> 00:29:30.119 that. Every time I promise you it's gonna lessen and lessen and listen. 266 00:29:30.599 --> 00:29:41.160 You have to take charge. You have to want to be better. I 267 00:29:41.160 --> 00:29:48.640 can give you some tips and some suggestions, but I'm not standing in the 268 00:29:48.720 --> 00:29:55.400 role of a therapist. I don't do that anymore. But I will give 269 00:29:55.400 --> 00:30:03.079 tips and suggestions, recommendations. Those are the things that I do in my 270 00:30:03.200 --> 00:30:11.160 own personal business that I do outside of my regular job. I do have 271 00:30:11.200 --> 00:30:14.480 a business. I haven't mentioned it in a long time. I do have 272 00:30:14.559 --> 00:30:22.519 a business that's called the cordin More and I'm a life coach. So one 273 00:30:22.599 --> 00:30:26.240 of the services I provide is just talk. You call me and we just 274 00:30:26.319 --> 00:30:32.319 talk. There are things that I will not discuss, such as we're not 275 00:30:32.440 --> 00:30:38.359 talking about hot, steamy sex stuff. We're not talking like that. If 276 00:30:38.359 --> 00:30:42.720 you have a sex problem, that's a different story. But you know so, 277 00:30:42.799 --> 00:30:48.880 I do have my limitations on things. But and I'm not trying to 278 00:30:48.920 --> 00:30:56.000 sit here to advertise my business. I'm just telling you that I do have 279 00:30:56.039 --> 00:31:02.160 a business that people call and just talk. But if you email me, 280 00:31:02.480 --> 00:31:10.759 I will provide you information for free. Because no one in this world, 281 00:31:10.799 --> 00:31:14.599 and I do mean no one should want to harm themselves, no one. 282 00:31:15.319 --> 00:31:22.559 It's nothing that bad. You just have to want to be better. Your 283 00:31:22.599 --> 00:31:26.480 life is worth living. I don't care where you came from. Your life 284 00:31:26.559 --> 00:31:33.279 is worth living, and it's one you make it. We're gonna get curveballs 285 00:31:33.359 --> 00:31:38.079 thrown at us, We're gonna go through the unexpected. But if your mindset 286 00:31:38.720 --> 00:31:45.640 is healthy, you're gonna make it through. But when it's unhealthy, it's 287 00:31:45.759 --> 00:31:52.079 negative. When trials and tribulation comes, you have such a hard time because 288 00:31:52.119 --> 00:31:59.039 you're dealing with those things plus what's already there. You have to want to 289 00:31:59.079 --> 00:32:07.000 be better. I want that for you. I pray that people want to 290 00:32:07.039 --> 00:32:14.440 be better. I pray that people want their uneilled hearts and minds to become 291 00:32:14.519 --> 00:32:17.880 better. You have to want that for yourself. I don't care who around 292 00:32:17.920 --> 00:32:22.799 you. You have to want it for yourself. Suicide is not the answer. 293 00:32:25.480 --> 00:32:34.440 If anyone who's listening to me is going through and you feel like you're 294 00:32:34.519 --> 00:32:38.920 at that point, please reach out to me. But before you reach out 295 00:32:38.960 --> 00:32:51.799 to me, please contact the suicide hotline. Please, because your life is 296 00:32:51.839 --> 00:33:01.559 worth it is definitely worth living. It's worth living. Don't ever doubt that. 297 00:33:06.279 --> 00:33:15.119 Because your life is worth living, call someone, call a friend. 298 00:33:20.240 --> 00:33:32.000 Because when you are going through, I'm telling you, the more you you 299 00:33:32.200 --> 00:33:43.200 ponder on the negativity, the worst things become. You can doubt in the 300 00:33:43.240 --> 00:33:50.759 State's nine A A on your phone, you can text. There are many 301 00:33:50.799 --> 00:34:01.039 ways that you can get help. You have to want to. You could 302 00:34:01.039 --> 00:34:12.320 take seven four one seven four one. You have to want help. It 303 00:34:12.519 --> 00:34:21.719 is up to you. I pray that every single person, every single person, 304 00:34:23.559 --> 00:34:39.320 whether you know someone or it's you, please please get help. Please, 305 00:34:45.039 --> 00:34:51.039 and you could call eight hundred two seven three eight two five five. 306 00:34:53.400 --> 00:34:58.920 Your life is worth living. Let go of that negativity. It does not 307 00:34:59.079 --> 00:35:02.440 benefit you. It brings you down and makes you feel worse. Some of 308 00:35:02.480 --> 00:35:07.320 you are taking it and carrying it for a lifetime. You have signed up 309 00:35:07.320 --> 00:35:12.039 to a life sentence of self inflicted pain. Because your past is no more, 310 00:35:12.320 --> 00:35:19.719 you're holding onto the memories of it. So please take care of yourselves. 311 00:35:20.480 --> 00:35:23.760 Much love to you. Please share this episode. Thank you for listening. 312 00:35:24.400 --> 00:35:30.079 My heart goes out to all of the people who have lost friends and 313 00:35:30.159 --> 00:35:36.280 relatives to suicide. I know people myself, so my heart goes out to 314 00:35:37.159 --> 00:35:40.480 you, you and you. Thank you for listening again, please share. 315 00:35:42.239 --> 00:35:47.960 Also listen to my other podcast, Relationship Chronicles. I end every episode the 316 00:35:49.000 --> 00:35:52.599 same and I prayed, I pray, I pray that you do it, 317 00:35:57.199 --> 00:35:57.960 think on it.