WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.640 --> 00:00:07.000 This. It's the two seventeen Recovery podcast with Corey Winfield. You know when 2 00:00:07.040 --> 00:00:10.720 people I reach out and ask for help and it's something as simple as Hay 3 00:00:10.839 --> 00:00:14.880 shipping her a box of tampons. The one thing about this girl is she's 4 00:00:15.000 --> 00:00:22.320 never asked me for anything. She may hit it about the tampons. It 5 00:00:22.519 --> 00:00:27.160 is the sixth of September. My name's Corey Winfield, and this is the 6 00:00:27.239 --> 00:00:32.679 two seventeen Recovery podcast Marty not on tonight. And actually I figured it would 7 00:00:32.679 --> 00:00:36.240 be a great time to answer a podcast I did six months ago, which 8 00:00:36.280 --> 00:00:40.119 I did by myself. So why not, right makes perfect sense. I've 9 00:00:40.159 --> 00:00:43.320 done a podcast in a minute. It seems like I can. As every 10 00:00:43.359 --> 00:00:47.640 day draws to an end, I just think, damn, I do a 11 00:00:47.640 --> 00:00:51.880 podcast today, And before I would just get up and do one. So 12 00:00:52.079 --> 00:00:56.159 right now I was downstairs cleaning out the cat litter and thought, you know, 13 00:00:56.840 --> 00:00:59.640 I really do need to answer that podcast I did six months ago, 14 00:01:00.719 --> 00:01:03.560 and I think it was called six Months from Now. You know, I 15 00:01:03.599 --> 00:01:10.439 was really going through a time where I was worrying about things with two seventeen 16 00:01:10.480 --> 00:01:14.439 Recovery and if we were going to get grants and we were gonna get funding 17 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:21.120 to open a recovery community center, to do transportation for people, you know, 18 00:01:21.200 --> 00:01:25.280 take them to and from treatment, take them to recovery meetings, stuff 19 00:01:25.319 --> 00:01:30.920 like that. And we were told we were gonna get it like in October 20 00:01:30.959 --> 00:01:32.799 of last year. We're like, all right, cool, and then we 21 00:01:32.840 --> 00:01:34.000 didn't it, and then we're like, oh, hold on, maybe Christmas, 22 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:36.959 and it was after Christmas, and then the beginning of the year, 23 00:01:37.760 --> 00:01:41.400 I'm like, okay, cool, and then it was just a bunch of 24 00:01:41.439 --> 00:01:45.840 like okay, that sounds good. We signed the papers, now when, 25 00:01:45.959 --> 00:01:48.799 now what? And then it was just kind of a whirlwind. So I 26 00:01:48.879 --> 00:01:53.439 was kind of freaking out, just not knowing what to do. And then 27 00:01:53.560 --> 00:01:57.560 we were like okay, you're given a funding and then they're like, oh 28 00:01:57.640 --> 00:02:00.519 no, you have to spend the money and then we pay you back. 29 00:02:00.640 --> 00:02:02.040 And I was like, well, we don't have any money to spend. 30 00:02:02.959 --> 00:02:07.879 And then, just grace of God, Justin had been to a meeting. 31 00:02:08.759 --> 00:02:12.840 I think I went to one of his meetings that he was hosting, and 32 00:02:12.879 --> 00:02:15.159 I was just like laying it out there, you know, how stressed I 33 00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:21.360 was and how I needed to learn how to ask for help, and you 34 00:02:21.400 --> 00:02:23.400 know, just kind of talking about the financial situation. And here we thought 35 00:02:23.439 --> 00:02:28.639 we'd have some funding and then and we have funny but it's like you spend 36 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:30.960 it, we'll pay you back kind of funding, but only for things that 37 00:02:31.000 --> 00:02:37.280 they approve, and it's like, wait what. And then Justin had kind 38 00:02:37.280 --> 00:02:43.560 of mentioned something in another meaning that he was in and somehow the right people 39 00:02:43.639 --> 00:02:46.680 hurt it and you know, gave it a nice donation for us to kind 40 00:02:46.680 --> 00:02:52.240 of get going. And about that, you know, I don't know if 41 00:02:52.240 --> 00:02:55.319 we whatever got off the ground. And I'm not talking like huge, huge 42 00:02:55.360 --> 00:02:58.879 donation, nothing like that, not like a million dollars I would love, 43 00:02:58.960 --> 00:03:02.960 but it was enough to it was enough to be what we needed. That 44 00:03:04.039 --> 00:03:07.520 was exactly what we needed to actually, And it's those little times, those 45 00:03:07.520 --> 00:03:09.680 little moments I look back on and I'm like, man, what if I 46 00:03:09.719 --> 00:03:14.000 wouldn't have went to that meeting, What if I wouldn't have been vulnerable and 47 00:03:14.080 --> 00:03:17.319 opened up about asking for help and about you know, what was going on. 48 00:03:20.039 --> 00:03:23.080 You know, because if you don't ask for help, sometimes people don't 49 00:03:23.080 --> 00:03:27.039 know you need it. And that goes to someone who's sober, that goes 50 00:03:27.080 --> 00:03:31.159 to someone who's struggling. Your family might know that you need help, but 51 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:34.960 they don't know how to help you. They don't know what ways to help 52 00:03:35.000 --> 00:03:38.639 you. You know, family members sometimes they don't know the best ways that 53 00:03:38.680 --> 00:03:42.120 they're just trying to do what they think is right. But they for other 54 00:03:42.159 --> 00:03:46.280 people, say, if they've run online, and everybody's different, what works 55 00:03:46.319 --> 00:03:49.680 for some families. Who works for one person might not work for you. 56 00:03:49.680 --> 00:03:53.319 You know, it might not work for your family. So it's about knowing 57 00:03:53.719 --> 00:03:57.919 the person, knowing the situation, and the only way you know that is 58 00:03:57.960 --> 00:04:00.759 by going through it. At the end of it, there's no one there 59 00:04:00.759 --> 00:04:04.800 but you, and you're the one that has to make those decisions. So 60 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:14.280 anyway, Yeah, so I was being vulnerable and opening up and letting people 61 00:04:14.319 --> 00:04:20.079 know that I didn't need help, and today I sit here, this is 62 00:04:20.199 --> 00:04:24.120 all I was kind of cleaning out of cat litter, and I was like, 63 00:04:24.120 --> 00:04:28.360 man, I gotta do a podcast about this. But I started thinking, 64 00:04:28.439 --> 00:04:30.439 like, okay, six months ago, what was I thinking? What 65 00:04:30.480 --> 00:04:33.040 was on my mind? That that was what I was thinking, and that 66 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:38.720 was some of the things that were on my mind. And I always go 67 00:04:38.879 --> 00:04:42.160 through the if you'd have told me this is where I would be six months 68 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:46.519 ago. I don't think I would have believed you. And yet here I 69 00:04:46.560 --> 00:04:48.879 am again. If you just said, oh, you're going to be in 70 00:04:48.879 --> 00:04:55.199 the basement studio at your new home that you and your beautiful wife Marty purchased, 71 00:04:57.240 --> 00:05:00.560 and I would have said, wait, wait, what what are you 72 00:05:00.600 --> 00:05:05.519 talking about? Then wait, whoa whoa whoa. Things happen. Man, 73 00:05:06.160 --> 00:05:11.800 you stay sober and you keep doing good things, good things just start happening, 74 00:05:12.319 --> 00:05:16.120 and then more good things happen. I'm telling you, if if you 75 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:18.959 know someone, a family member, loved one, don't give up on him. 76 00:05:19.680 --> 00:05:23.639 It would have been so easy for you know, my family to give 77 00:05:23.720 --> 00:05:26.439 up on me. And I think most of them did, but not all 78 00:05:26.480 --> 00:05:28.680 of them. You know, my mom, like she was like one of 79 00:05:28.680 --> 00:05:30.519 the last ones that you know. She just wanted to give up. And 80 00:05:30.519 --> 00:05:31.920 I guess that's the mother instincts. It's like, I can't give up, 81 00:05:32.040 --> 00:05:35.160 don't give up. It's frustrating for her. She had to go through all 82 00:05:35.240 --> 00:05:39.160 the oops, but are not do that? Oops, that was a mistake. 83 00:05:39.199 --> 00:05:42.920 Shouldn't have done that. And I mean, like by helping me sometimes 84 00:05:42.920 --> 00:05:46.000 she wasn't really helping me, but by the end of it, she knew 85 00:05:46.120 --> 00:05:48.800 you know what she could offer and what she could give and what she couldn't 86 00:05:48.839 --> 00:05:53.519 do. And that's unfortunate because it always usually happens at the end of it, 87 00:05:53.560 --> 00:05:58.879 you know, and Okay, figure this out now, and then you 88 00:05:58.959 --> 00:06:01.279 might have another child. It's brutal going right through it again. And guess 89 00:06:01.279 --> 00:06:06.279 what, that's a totally different child, totally different situation, totally different circumstances. 90 00:06:06.279 --> 00:06:11.759 Things will work, things won't work, So it's like going through it 91 00:06:11.800 --> 00:06:15.319 all over again, you know, so be careful with that sometimes, you 92 00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:21.160 know, and it's just a addiction is a funny thing, and it's not 93 00:06:21.199 --> 00:06:28.120 funny, but I just mean a weird, odd thing because you would assume, 94 00:06:28.319 --> 00:06:30.480 especially with people that are in addiction or you know, people in recovery, 95 00:06:30.519 --> 00:06:34.160 we can sit there and tell stories and they're so damn similar. I 96 00:06:34.160 --> 00:06:38.560 mean, you would think, well, then there should be one set of 97 00:06:38.639 --> 00:06:43.240 rules, one something that works for people. And I think that the reason 98 00:06:43.240 --> 00:06:46.920 why it doesn't is because we all have different trauma. You know, there's 99 00:06:46.959 --> 00:06:50.160 all there's a traumatic events that happened to me, there's traumatic events that happened 100 00:06:50.199 --> 00:06:54.279 to you, to your mom or your cousins, your brothers and sisters, 101 00:06:55.360 --> 00:06:59.199 different things happen. And I think that's why it's so different, because the 102 00:06:59.240 --> 00:07:03.000 trauma I had to deal with maybe not the same trauma that you're dealing with, 103 00:07:03.120 --> 00:07:05.079 you know, or vice versa. And my trauma, there was a 104 00:07:05.120 --> 00:07:12.199 lot of abandonment issues and it was something I had to deal with, and 105 00:07:12.360 --> 00:07:15.040 to deal with it, I had to write a letter. I had to 106 00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:16.879 get deep in my thoughts, and I had to have a conversation with myself, 107 00:07:16.920 --> 00:07:19.959 you know, about this is what happened, this is what didn't happen, 108 00:07:20.439 --> 00:07:24.120 and this is what matters. This is what doesn't matter. What can 109 00:07:24.160 --> 00:07:26.480 I control? What can I control? What do I want? Now? 110 00:07:27.079 --> 00:07:30.839 I can blame everybody for the past. If I want to, I'll throw 111 00:07:30.879 --> 00:07:34.600 myself then there included, of course, throw alcohol in there. Not as 112 00:07:34.680 --> 00:07:39.480 many people are blaming an alcohol that should be. But I'll throw it in 113 00:07:39.519 --> 00:07:42.360 there too, you know, throw it all in the past. I can 114 00:07:42.439 --> 00:07:48.199 blame everybody I want. That doesn't help, That doesn't change anything. I 115 00:07:48.319 --> 00:07:51.800 used to joke in the early days of the podcast about belaving with time machine. 116 00:07:51.879 --> 00:07:54.879 I would still like to build one, just to go back to check 117 00:07:54.879 --> 00:08:01.199 out dinosaurs or something. See where the aliens really started everything that's the kind 118 00:08:01.199 --> 00:08:05.160 of a joke, but not really. But I would still like the build 119 00:08:05.160 --> 00:08:07.839 one to do that. But I can't go back and change the past. 120 00:08:07.920 --> 00:08:11.160 Back to the future too taught us that, actually, I think back to 121 00:08:11.160 --> 00:08:16.600 the future one did too. You can't change the past. And the more 122 00:08:16.720 --> 00:08:18.759 I dwell on, oh, this and that and this and that. And 123 00:08:18.920 --> 00:08:24.680 I was with Adam and Justin today. They were doing some government work and 124 00:08:24.000 --> 00:08:28.399 we were on the way back and I was telling them a story about you 125 00:08:28.439 --> 00:08:33.279 know something that I kind of you know, just those things that you do 126 00:08:33.279 --> 00:08:35.320 when you're drunk, and the way you act when you're drunk, and the 127 00:08:35.360 --> 00:08:37.960 way you treat people when you're drunk, and there's some there's some things I'm 128 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:46.080 not really proud of, and I treated some people pretty shitty. And you 129 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:48.799 know, I'm not gonna apologize to these people today. I'm not gonna sit 130 00:08:48.799 --> 00:08:50.320 there and write them a letter. I don't think they care. You know, 131 00:08:50.360 --> 00:08:52.600 they're not in in my life now. They're they're out of my life, 132 00:08:54.759 --> 00:08:58.759 and they're probably happy about that. But the only thing I can do, 133 00:08:58.799 --> 00:09:03.679 though is move forward and think about the person I want to be today. 134 00:09:03.679 --> 00:09:07.600 And that's why it's like you know the relationships I do have, you 135 00:09:07.600 --> 00:09:09.000 know, with my co workers, with my family, with my wife. 136 00:09:09.000 --> 00:09:11.600 You know, I want, I want to be I'm gonna be the best 137 00:09:11.639 --> 00:09:15.600 husband I can be. And I was looking the other day for audiobooks on 138 00:09:15.639 --> 00:09:18.519 how to be a better husband, you know, because sometimes I get caught 139 00:09:18.600 --> 00:09:20.360 up in a work, it caught up in the moment, get caught up 140 00:09:20.360 --> 00:09:24.919 in fantasy football, and I get too caught up in what Corey's doing. 141 00:09:24.200 --> 00:09:26.679 And a lot of times I don't I don't realize, you know, like, 142 00:09:26.720 --> 00:09:31.480 am I spending enough time asking? You know, what's my wife doing? 143 00:09:31.559 --> 00:09:33.679 What does my wife want to do? I was telling the guys too, 144 00:09:33.759 --> 00:09:39.039 It's like tomorrow, which is the kickoff of NFL season. I was 145 00:09:39.080 --> 00:09:41.639 like, I want to go. I have a Family's Against Snarcotics meeting I 146 00:09:41.679 --> 00:09:46.200 have to go to. And then after that, you know, I'm gonna 147 00:09:46.240 --> 00:09:50.720 come home and watch football because that's what Corey wants to do. And I'm 148 00:09:50.759 --> 00:09:52.519 gonna order pizza, you know, because that's what Corey wants to do. 149 00:09:52.559 --> 00:09:56.159 And did I ask Marty do you want to order pizza? Did I ask 150 00:09:56.240 --> 00:09:58.600 Marty, hey, do you want to go watch football? You know she's 151 00:09:58.639 --> 00:10:01.159 in our fantasy football league. But does she does she want to be or 152 00:10:01.200 --> 00:10:03.840 does she feel like she has to be otherwise I'm gonna be like upset with 153 00:10:03.879 --> 00:10:07.200 her because we don't have players or is it something she enjoys? I mean, 154 00:10:07.279 --> 00:10:13.000 I think for the most part, she finds an interesting. If football's 155 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:15.679 on, she has a guy playing, she likes to be, Hey, 156 00:10:15.759 --> 00:10:20.480 let's let's watch is my guy playing? But does she really like it? 157 00:10:20.519 --> 00:10:24.399 You know, she's just doing that, you know, to be a part 158 00:10:24.399 --> 00:10:28.639 of my life. And if am I doing anything like that for her? 159 00:10:28.240 --> 00:10:31.399 You know, do I? I don't go to have picnics with her? 160 00:10:33.279 --> 00:10:37.039 You know, I know her mom at least was on some picnic kick and 161 00:10:37.080 --> 00:10:39.879 then we were always going to picnics. I'm like, I hate pick NICs. 162 00:10:39.519 --> 00:10:43.799 But am I doing that for her? You know? Am I doing 163 00:10:43.840 --> 00:10:46.559 those same things? I mean she might just absolutely hate football, She might 164 00:10:46.600 --> 00:10:48.519 absolutely hate pizza, but she eats it because she knows I like it. 165 00:10:50.039 --> 00:10:52.320 You know, what do I do? Am I doing enough? I guess 166 00:10:52.320 --> 00:10:58.799 it's my question there as a husband, you know, coming up in December 167 00:10:58.919 --> 00:11:03.559 we have three years, three year anniversary, so a lot of people say, 168 00:11:03.600 --> 00:11:07.279 oh, you're still in that honeymoon phase probably, But these are these 169 00:11:07.320 --> 00:11:09.399 are things that I'm noticing, and I don't want it to get too far 170 00:11:09.480 --> 00:11:13.039 out of hand, if that makes any sense, you know, because of 171 00:11:13.120 --> 00:11:16.600 the more I keep letting things slide and the more I keep getting into what 172 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:22.600 does Corey want? It's Corey's way. That's that's a dangerous line. You 173 00:11:22.639 --> 00:11:26.399 know that that's something that could lead me right back out to using, and 174 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:31.120 I really don't want to do that. We'll stick with that that I don't 175 00:11:31.120 --> 00:11:33.960 want to The Corey way should be as long as you're saying that you still 176 00:11:35.000 --> 00:11:37.360 don't want to drink. So I don't want to use drugs. That's fine, 177 00:11:37.559 --> 00:11:43.159 but it is. But those other things could lead me to lose relationships 178 00:11:43.159 --> 00:11:46.879 with people, which would get the old brain thinking again, will eff it? 179 00:11:48.320 --> 00:11:52.600 You know I didn't work out, so will eff it? You know, 180 00:11:52.639 --> 00:11:56.440 I'm just gonna go drink. I'd love to see her and tell you 181 00:11:56.480 --> 00:12:01.279 today that that's never gonna cross my mind. I can't. You know. 182 00:12:01.279 --> 00:12:03.360 There's a lot of things that I haven't had to experience. She had a 183 00:12:03.360 --> 00:12:09.159 lot of hardships, a lot of loss, and I just pray that I'm 184 00:12:09.159 --> 00:12:15.000 strong enough. That's all I can do. I know that drinking doesn't make 185 00:12:15.039 --> 00:12:22.639 anything better, so I don't know why I would. And four years was 186 00:12:22.679 --> 00:12:28.039 it the sixth I'm four years and seven eight months something like that. That's 187 00:12:28.080 --> 00:12:31.960 what I have clean and I've learned that, you know, drinking doesn't make 188 00:12:31.960 --> 00:12:39.639 anything better. So hopefully with that time in there, clear thinking should help 189 00:12:39.679 --> 00:12:43.559 me. But when emotions are involved, it's not always clear thinking. And 190 00:12:43.639 --> 00:12:48.559 that's that's the scary part, the part that you can't guarantee. But tonight 191 00:12:48.679 --> 00:12:54.279 I'm not drinking. I can guarantee you that, and hopefully tomorrow it's the 192 00:12:54.320 --> 00:12:58.399 same. I did learn though that the and this is just right now as 193 00:12:58.399 --> 00:13:03.919 I learned this, I'm talking to you. The litter box is way too 194 00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:13.960 close to my desk. Yep, for sure. It's like, what does 195 00:13:13.000 --> 00:13:18.720 that smell? Yep, that's what it is. So it's it's a clean 196 00:13:18.759 --> 00:13:20.039 litter box. But they love using it when it's clean. You know what 197 00:13:20.080 --> 00:13:22.600 I'm saying. They have cats at home. You don't you know exactly what 198 00:13:22.679 --> 00:13:26.320 I'm saying. You're cleaning it, you get done, you just feel good. 199 00:13:26.320 --> 00:13:30.279 You're like, yep, cleaning that. Some bitch out and then the 200 00:13:30.279 --> 00:13:35.679 cat jumps right in it and just blue. And most of the time, 201 00:13:35.879 --> 00:13:39.240 if I see that happen, I would just give it a minute, not 202 00:13:39.279 --> 00:13:43.440 scoop it. But this time they let me start a podcast and get a 203 00:13:43.519 --> 00:13:48.919 little bit into it before they decided to jump in the cat box. I'm 204 00:13:48.919 --> 00:13:54.519 telling you, man, sober people problems, they're real. The biggest problem 205 00:13:54.559 --> 00:13:58.159 I have to say is I realized that my cat box is too close to 206 00:13:58.200 --> 00:14:01.879 the desk. Then pretty good little day. No, But I will tell 207 00:14:01.879 --> 00:14:03.799 you something that's stressing me out though. We'll talk on the reel about this. 208 00:14:07.159 --> 00:14:09.200 And I don't mean it sound like I'm bitching, but this might be 209 00:14:09.200 --> 00:14:13.960 a warning to you. You might learn something from this. If you're buying 210 00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:18.000 furniture, be very careful if you're buying furniture from Ashley Furniture. There was 211 00:14:18.440 --> 00:14:22.320 a sale the other day and my wife's like, we need a kitchen table 212 00:14:22.320 --> 00:14:26.120 and some chairs. Here's here's what I like. She sent me the table. 213 00:14:26.480 --> 00:14:30.519 Okay, there's three of them. And then I looked and I was 214 00:14:30.559 --> 00:14:33.960 like, okay, well, I guess I liked this one, and let's 215 00:14:33.000 --> 00:14:39.080 see what chairs are I'm going for. So I went and I found on 216 00:14:39.080 --> 00:14:41.360 one table and had a set of chairs, and they were all on sale 217 00:14:43.080 --> 00:14:45.559 and the chairs were half off, so I'm like, hell, yeah, 218 00:14:45.639 --> 00:14:48.399 man, then we'll get this one. We can get that table. And 219 00:14:48.440 --> 00:14:50.759 these chairs they're they're on sale, they're half off, you know. And 220 00:14:50.799 --> 00:14:54.080 I remember thinking that the only way we're getting these chairs is because they're half 221 00:14:54.120 --> 00:15:00.200 off. They were expensive, and they were when I bought them. Said 222 00:15:00.240 --> 00:15:03.679 there were a set of chairs. Eighty five bucks, all right, eighty 223 00:15:03.679 --> 00:15:07.240 five bucks for a set of chairs, So I need two of them. 224 00:15:07.279 --> 00:15:11.320 So I added two to the cart one Quantity two, ordered it, we 225 00:15:11.399 --> 00:15:18.200 got delivered. They came, I get one box box of chairs. We 226 00:15:18.279 --> 00:15:20.360 got the table and then one box of chairs. Two boxes technically, but 227 00:15:20.639 --> 00:15:28.279 one box of chairs or the other two. So I call customer service. 228 00:15:28.320 --> 00:15:31.840 And that was the most confusing thing to them because now the sale had gone 229 00:15:31.879 --> 00:15:37.639 off. Well they were half off, so it says, I'm I'm might 230 00:15:37.799 --> 00:15:41.519 order Quantity two. Now keep in mind, these are sets of chairs, 231 00:15:41.759 --> 00:15:46.480 so if you're follow me along, if you order one, you get two 232 00:15:46.559 --> 00:15:52.559 chairs. So what I'm saying, Quantity one equals two chairs, Quantity two 233 00:15:54.200 --> 00:15:58.600 equals four chairs. Well they say, no, no, no, no, 234 00:15:58.639 --> 00:16:03.159 you got what you paid for because you got two chairs and you paid 235 00:16:03.159 --> 00:16:07.919 one seventy because they're eighty five dollars a piece. Again, they were half 236 00:16:07.960 --> 00:16:12.600 off. So I was like, well, no, because I see this 237 00:16:12.639 --> 00:16:19.639 says quantity two. That's the quantity were two sets of chairs, That's why 238 00:16:19.679 --> 00:16:22.039 it says quantity two. No, No, this says that that means two 239 00:16:22.120 --> 00:16:27.480 chairs. Well, so if I just would have ordered one, you just 240 00:16:27.480 --> 00:16:36.360 sent me one chair, the quantity would have been one. No, So 241 00:16:36.440 --> 00:16:40.120 they're they're having a real hard time actually furnished. And I went from even 242 00:16:40.159 --> 00:16:42.000 their store in Virginia, which I don't know how I got them, because 243 00:16:42.000 --> 00:16:45.240 I decided, all right, it's signed for the better business period to get 244 00:16:45.240 --> 00:16:49.120 involved. Because I called them and they're like they couldn't understand and they blew 245 00:16:49.159 --> 00:16:53.200 their mind that they had any kind of sale. And the little ribbon that's 246 00:16:53.200 --> 00:16:56.960 at the top of the website is still on there. It's like fifty percent 247 00:16:56.039 --> 00:17:00.840 off, and I'm like, do you guys not see what the f just 248 00:17:00.919 --> 00:17:02.919 happened? And just send me my damn chairs. I'm like, if you 249 00:17:02.919 --> 00:17:06.160 want more chairs, you have to buy them. And then like I bought 250 00:17:06.200 --> 00:17:08.079 them, and look here's what you do. And I even told them to 251 00:17:08.079 --> 00:17:11.599 go to their website and click it, you know, add two to the 252 00:17:11.599 --> 00:17:12.279 cart and now click it. Now what does it say? It says, 253 00:17:12.279 --> 00:17:15.160 oh, well the price is three forty. Well yeah, so if I 254 00:17:15.160 --> 00:17:21.920 would have done that when it was buy one a half off, you know 255 00:17:22.119 --> 00:17:25.359 they're a half off or whatever, wouldn't that be one seventy And they're like, 256 00:17:25.480 --> 00:17:26.839 yeah, but it's just quantity two. You get two chairs. I'm 257 00:17:26.839 --> 00:17:30.920 like, I'm telling you mother efforts. If I order a chair or just 258 00:17:32.000 --> 00:17:34.480 one set and it'll say quantity one and I get two chairs, you guys 259 00:17:34.559 --> 00:17:37.279 must pay me back for them and then pay me encompassate me for my time 260 00:17:38.119 --> 00:17:41.880 explaining to you how sales work, how your website works, how are you're 261 00:17:42.279 --> 00:17:49.920 Oh my god, it's frustrating anyway. It's little things like that that will 262 00:17:49.920 --> 00:17:56.960 work you up to and gets you so frustrated, and I don't know what 263 00:17:57.000 --> 00:18:00.079 to do. I've tried to meditate over it. They're not over it. 264 00:18:00.160 --> 00:18:06.559 That would be kind of kind of productive if I'm meditating over this Ashley furniture 265 00:18:06.799 --> 00:18:10.319 drama. But there are some times, even at work today, because the 266 00:18:10.359 --> 00:18:11.720 guys keep messing with me about it. They're like, oh, I actually 267 00:18:11.759 --> 00:18:14.880 furniture. I'm like, nope, not even checking that email right now because 268 00:18:14.880 --> 00:18:18.400 I'm fine, like being in a bad mood, but it has to deal 269 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:22.559 with it, you know. And Marty's like, well, let's just buy 270 00:18:22.599 --> 00:18:25.279 two more chairs, and I'm like, no, it's the principle of it 271 00:18:25.319 --> 00:18:27.400 now, Like these stupid people can't figure out their own website of their own 272 00:18:27.440 --> 00:18:32.640 systems, Like it's it's dumb. First of all, they don't even give 273 00:18:32.640 --> 00:18:34.799 you an option to buy one chair, so why would it say quantity two? 274 00:18:36.319 --> 00:18:37.680 What's this quantity two? Because there was two chairs in there? See 275 00:18:37.720 --> 00:18:40.720 that the price and they keep getting so hooked on the price. The price 276 00:18:40.799 --> 00:18:42.519 is one seventies and that's what you paid, and that's the price for two 277 00:18:42.599 --> 00:18:48.720 chairs. You had a sale that was fifty percent off, Like I don't 278 00:18:48.720 --> 00:18:49.160 know how many times I had to tell them that. And then I'm like, 279 00:18:49.200 --> 00:18:52.200 can't you just look up the original order? Well, yeah, it's 280 00:18:52.200 --> 00:18:55.680 this quantity two, but that means two chairs. I'm like, no, 281 00:18:55.680 --> 00:18:57.759 no, I'm buying a set of chairs. You're not selling chairs. You're 282 00:18:57.799 --> 00:19:02.400 not selling just chairs. A chair for eighty five dollars. If they did 283 00:19:02.440 --> 00:19:03.359 that, then I'm all right, cool, I get it, but it's 284 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:07.279 a set of chairs. It doesn't come as one, you idiot. I 285 00:19:07.279 --> 00:19:10.920 don't know. I just really need to pray about it. I have not 286 00:19:10.960 --> 00:19:14.640 done that yet, so I'm gonna pray about it tonight. I made it 287 00:19:14.640 --> 00:19:17.279 as clear as day as I could to the people actually furniture. I really 288 00:19:17.279 --> 00:19:21.480 don't know what else to tell them, but yeah, so I'm telling you 289 00:19:21.519 --> 00:19:23.440 though, if you're buying chairs, don't buy faster furniture. You don't want 290 00:19:23.440 --> 00:19:29.759 to deal with this mess. And actually I was gonna buy well, I 291 00:19:29.839 --> 00:19:37.839 kind of did buy it some other furniture for the townstairs office, and I 292 00:19:37.000 --> 00:19:40.599 came across one and it was through Astuley Furniture, and I made sure I 293 00:19:40.599 --> 00:19:45.039 did not buy that one. So talk to them to listen. Do not. 294 00:19:45.519 --> 00:19:48.559 If I can get one person to listen to this and then tell their 295 00:19:48.559 --> 00:19:49.839 friends not to buy Ashley furniture, and they can tell their friends on the 296 00:19:49.880 --> 00:19:55.720 Ashtley furniture, we could save the world. We can start talking about the 297 00:19:55.799 --> 00:20:00.759 chairs were made in like sweatshops or something. Now, it's not good for 298 00:20:00.839 --> 00:20:04.400 the earth. Sorry, if my cat was on a chair. Yeah, 299 00:20:04.440 --> 00:20:07.880 another thing I noticed too. I'm getting off the asual furniture topic because I 300 00:20:07.880 --> 00:20:11.920 know what you're done. Don't listening to me, bitch. But I got 301 00:20:11.920 --> 00:20:17.960 a lot of spiders in this house and I sprayed. There's a spray if 302 00:20:17.960 --> 00:20:22.599 you ever have like bugs, it's called Bengal Tiger spray. Kill them dead. 303 00:20:22.480 --> 00:20:25.640 And it's cool because when you kill them, they come running out. 304 00:20:25.680 --> 00:20:29.480 We're not running out. That doesn't really seem very cool. It's more squirming. 305 00:20:29.920 --> 00:20:32.119 But for some reason they like to get out in the light or something. 306 00:20:33.039 --> 00:20:36.000 I don't know. I found it in Arkansas. A co worker, 307 00:20:36.160 --> 00:20:38.880 Ralph Cherry, told me about it, so he was killing cockroaches. They 308 00:20:38.880 --> 00:20:42.880 were big as my car. Seriously, you could ride a bike on them. 309 00:20:44.240 --> 00:20:45.440 Not ride a bike on them, but you could put them on your 310 00:20:45.440 --> 00:20:48.559 bike and ride the work with them if you wanted to, or put a 311 00:20:48.559 --> 00:20:52.680 saddle on them. They were huge in Arkansas. They're like nomber water bugs. 312 00:20:53.000 --> 00:20:59.799 No, those are bigass roaches. Look. But back to my story 313 00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:02.799 about the spiders. I don't I don't know if I should spray to kill 314 00:21:02.839 --> 00:21:04.119 the spiders because I sprayed in the bath end other day and the ants come 315 00:21:04.240 --> 00:21:10.160 running out like I'm flopping all over. I'm like you did. But if 316 00:21:10.200 --> 00:21:14.960 I kill the spiders because they eat bugs, so they're kind of doing what 317 00:21:15.000 --> 00:21:17.279 I want him to do. But at the same time, I sat down 318 00:21:17.279 --> 00:21:19.160 at the desk here and it's like a spider web I walked into and it 319 00:21:19.200 --> 00:21:23.119 was not a ghost, it was a spider web. And then the cats 320 00:21:23.119 --> 00:21:26.960 all looking for him. Was just kind of freaking me out because the cat's 321 00:21:26.960 --> 00:21:30.359 like stalk and pray like around my feet, and the little one he doesn't 322 00:21:30.359 --> 00:21:36.279 know any better, so he will put his cloth through your toe. Yep, 323 00:21:36.480 --> 00:21:37.640 through it. I said, yeah, you're like with Core, there's 324 00:21:37.640 --> 00:21:41.240 a toe nail. No, I don't care. He's got a closet steel 325 00:21:41.279 --> 00:21:45.039 and we'll just tear him up. So I'm kind of a little worried about 326 00:21:45.079 --> 00:21:48.039 him. So if kind of sound like I'm stepping away from the mic a 327 00:21:48.119 --> 00:21:55.119 little bit, that's exactly what it is. Watching my back man. Oh 328 00:21:55.160 --> 00:22:00.839 and I'm gonna have Jeremy in mitch on probably maybe tomorrow, I don't know, 329 00:22:00.880 --> 00:22:06.799 but very soon because I was listening to their redacted podcast and I hear 330 00:22:06.920 --> 00:22:08.400 some of the craziest stuff on that podcast, but I love it. I 331 00:22:08.440 --> 00:22:11.519 love those two. They're doing a podcast and they're having fun with it, 332 00:22:12.359 --> 00:22:15.640 and that's what it's about. And they're a kind of out there, you 333 00:22:15.640 --> 00:22:22.160 know a little bit. They talk about government conspiracies and COVID's coming back and 334 00:22:22.279 --> 00:22:30.119 here's why, and lasers started the fire and Hawaii and everything blue didn't burn 335 00:22:30.319 --> 00:22:34.039 because the really lasers can't hit burn. We can't hit blue stuff or I 336 00:22:34.119 --> 00:22:38.319 don't know. And then I heard him say, and this is no, 337 00:22:38.400 --> 00:22:41.400 I'm gonna I'm gonna save it. I'm gonna save it. I'm gonna play 338 00:22:41.440 --> 00:22:45.519 in context in that way you can you can hear exactly what I heard. 339 00:22:45.599 --> 00:22:47.960 I was in the shower and I was like, what the did he just 340 00:22:48.119 --> 00:22:52.240 no, he didn't, Yeah he did just say that. Yeah. It's 341 00:22:52.599 --> 00:22:57.759 mind blowing. But it's funny and it's fun and those two are are great 342 00:22:57.839 --> 00:23:02.440 and they're having fun with our podcast. So you know, that's the bottom 343 00:23:02.440 --> 00:23:07.759 line. That's what it's about. And hopefully they'll have a website and everything 344 00:23:07.799 --> 00:23:10.799 for their Redactive podcasts soon. But if you want to go check it out, 345 00:23:10.920 --> 00:23:14.640 feel free. I think the episode they did just a couple of days 346 00:23:14.680 --> 00:23:18.079 ago. I don't know if they're doing another one today or tonight, but 347 00:23:18.240 --> 00:23:22.599 look at for the one that was right before today's date of September six. 348 00:23:23.000 --> 00:23:26.319 Listen to the episode right then and then just you'll know what I'm talking about 349 00:23:26.319 --> 00:23:30.599 when you hear it, and you'll be like what, no way. You 350 00:23:30.680 --> 00:23:37.160 know you'd be like this, no way, Fuck sake, that's exactly what 351 00:23:37.240 --> 00:23:41.319 you'll say, and you'll shake your head and be like, damn it. 352 00:23:41.720 --> 00:23:45.960 Corey was right. So check them out, give them a listen. And 353 00:23:45.119 --> 00:23:48.799 I think I'm done. And I'm kind of in the same spot though, 354 00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:53.079 Oh I didn't be excess even though I'm doing the podcast along. I can't 355 00:23:53.079 --> 00:23:59.519 just be done when I say I'm done. I'm still worried about things that 356 00:23:59.519 --> 00:24:03.160 are coming up, but I have no control over. I just pray that 357 00:24:03.160 --> 00:24:07.480 they're going to work out well, and that's all I can really do about 358 00:24:07.480 --> 00:24:11.319 the situation. Fingers crossed. You know, things will will work out. 359 00:24:11.400 --> 00:24:15.359 You know, today I have a lot more responsibility on my shoulders, it 360 00:24:15.359 --> 00:24:19.440 feels like, but I think that's a good thing. And what we're doing 361 00:24:19.480 --> 00:24:22.880 at two seventeen Recovery Center, we're doing with the you know, two seventeen 362 00:24:22.880 --> 00:24:30.279 Recovery rides are great and we're helping a ton of people and actually I feel 363 00:24:30.319 --> 00:24:33.480 bad. If you want to do something else, you know, you can 364 00:24:33.519 --> 00:24:37.759 write, write your senator, write some politicians. Man. And I feel 365 00:24:37.799 --> 00:24:42.400 so bad for the people that aren't in northern Michigan, that are in Michigan, 366 00:24:44.359 --> 00:24:47.319 people in southwest Michigan. I feel bad for you guys. Man, 367 00:24:47.920 --> 00:24:55.480 you have a crazy PHP man swim bud there. I had to go to 368 00:24:55.519 --> 00:24:56.680 treatment through them, and you know, they would scold me when I would 369 00:24:56.720 --> 00:25:00.960 call them, you know, like we just sent you to treatment last month, 370 00:25:00.599 --> 00:25:06.440 Why would we pay to send you to treatment again, because clearly I 371 00:25:06.920 --> 00:25:08.960 didn't get it and I want help still. You know, they would treat 372 00:25:08.960 --> 00:25:11.400 me like I was just a bad guy. And I guess mid State Health 373 00:25:11.440 --> 00:25:15.279 Network they do the same shit. And they're out of Lansing. They're they're 374 00:25:15.279 --> 00:25:18.400 a pretty big one too, so Lancing, I think Midland. There's a 375 00:25:18.400 --> 00:25:23.000 bunch of them, a bunch of counties that they're over. You can actually 376 00:25:23.039 --> 00:25:27.519 go to our website to seventeen Recovery dot com. There's a PIHP list on 377 00:25:27.559 --> 00:25:33.359 there. But it's just crazy, man. And I tried to file a 378 00:25:33.440 --> 00:25:38.599 suit because I think it's discrimination. Why somebody in Lancing, Why is somebody 379 00:25:38.599 --> 00:25:42.039 in Benton Harbor. Why is somebody in Saint Joe, Colomba. Why can't 380 00:25:42.039 --> 00:25:47.119 they get the same treatment options you know over you in Detroit. It's the 381 00:25:47.160 --> 00:25:48.240 same way. You know, they'll tell you, no, we're not sending 382 00:25:48.240 --> 00:25:52.079 you up there because we're gonna keep you here in this area because the money 383 00:25:52.079 --> 00:25:55.480 needs to be spent here. That's not that's not true. If you're a 384 00:25:55.519 --> 00:25:57.119 resident of Michigan, you can go to treatment anywhere in Michigan. So if 385 00:25:57.119 --> 00:26:02.359 you're on medicaiding, you can go. As long as you're resident of Michigan, 386 00:26:03.200 --> 00:26:04.960 you can go anywhere in Michigan. It's up to you. You're the 387 00:26:06.000 --> 00:26:08.480 one pick on the spot. And these PHPs will be literally used sometimes when 388 00:26:08.480 --> 00:26:14.799 you call for help and it's just on call for you know, it really 389 00:26:14.880 --> 00:26:18.440 is. But like I said, mid State Swimba, I know Swimba personally, 390 00:26:18.160 --> 00:26:22.240 so I can say it. You know it was. I don't know 391 00:26:22.319 --> 00:26:25.960 them personally, but I'm saying I went through them and personally had that happened 392 00:26:26.000 --> 00:26:30.400 to me, So I damn yeah, I can say it mid State. 393 00:26:30.440 --> 00:26:33.039 The stuff that I've seen happen to people, I can talk about that too, 394 00:26:33.079 --> 00:26:36.400 So don't I don't feel bad about I'm not say anything that didn't happen. 395 00:26:36.599 --> 00:26:38.720 I've even invite him on the podcast and they haven't taken me up on 396 00:26:38.759 --> 00:26:41.480 that. But I'd love to talk to him about it. And they can't 397 00:26:41.480 --> 00:26:45.200 tell me it's because we don't have the money. Maybe fire some people. 398 00:26:45.519 --> 00:26:48.799 I don't know. You know, you're getting millions of dollars anyway. That's 399 00:26:48.960 --> 00:26:52.079 that's enough ranting for me, I guess then, Yeah, said I was 400 00:26:52.119 --> 00:26:56.160 gonna get off the podcast now, so I'm done. As you see, 401 00:26:56.160 --> 00:27:00.680 I'm passionate sometimes and it just frustrates me. It does. It just frustrates 402 00:27:00.720 --> 00:27:07.200 me because we're telling people reach out for help, but don't. We're not. 403 00:27:07.279 --> 00:27:11.000 We're leaving something out like, oh, reach out for help, but 404 00:27:11.200 --> 00:27:15.440 m not if you've just got some help a couple of months ago, just 405 00:27:15.480 --> 00:27:21.400 go die. Is that what we're telling them? It seems like it in 406 00:27:21.440 --> 00:27:25.599 some places. But big props the NM already, they're the PIHP in Region 407 00:27:25.640 --> 00:27:29.440 two, which is Northern Michigan. You know, nobody's perfect, nobody does 408 00:27:29.480 --> 00:27:33.200 everything right every single time, but they have people there that care and that 409 00:27:33.680 --> 00:27:38.519 understand and that they're trying to change things and make a difference they're trying to 410 00:27:38.519 --> 00:27:42.079 be and maybe they're not trying to be, but they are kind of the 411 00:27:42.839 --> 00:27:48.319 trendsetter man, they really are, And I'm very appreciative to them and the 412 00:27:48.319 --> 00:27:56.160 people that I've got to know through them and that worked there, and they've 413 00:27:56.160 --> 00:28:03.240 made me a better boss. They've made me a better let's see leader, 414 00:28:03.359 --> 00:28:07.079 but kind of, you know, so props to them, and you know 415 00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:11.279 they're not all bad, but there's ten different ones in Michigan, so I 416 00:28:11.359 --> 00:28:12.880 know for a while I was like, get rid of them, but if 417 00:28:12.880 --> 00:28:21.559 they just had one really good one, that'd be super. Just saying now, 418 00:28:21.640 --> 00:28:25.920 I'm done, all right, two seventeen Recovery dot com or info Resources 419 00:28:26.799 --> 00:28:29.119 and get the app. If you don't have the app, you have two 420 00:28:29.119 --> 00:28:32.559 seventeen Recovery. It's in your app store. I'll talk to you later. 421 00:28:32.880 --> 00:28:38.759 Thanks for listening to the two seventeen Recovery podcasts. 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