WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.400 --> 00:00:04.320 Well, hello there, Dart Liquors. That's what I'm gonna talk open every 2 00:00:04.320 --> 00:00:09.839 PODCALLO. They're Dart liquors that are fan names like there's the Believers, right, 3 00:00:10.039 --> 00:00:16.160 Swifties. Yeah, what is Ariana Grande's Oh I should know this. 4 00:00:16.399 --> 00:00:23.559 I know Rihanna's got the Rihanna Navy. Uh Yourrandnator Ronators. I think so 5 00:00:23.719 --> 00:00:27.440 something's stupid like that. But anyway, you're right, Dart Liquers, good 6 00:00:27.440 --> 00:00:31.760 morning or whenever you're aft listening. I send out a whole bunch of staff 7 00:00:31.800 --> 00:00:35.119 writer stickers last night, probably about fifteen or so, so if you are 8 00:00:35.479 --> 00:00:39.399 waiting for one, you're going to get one along with a Dave Ryan Show 9 00:00:39.439 --> 00:00:44.119 sticker in the mail in another couple of days. So thank you for writing 10 00:00:44.119 --> 00:00:48.159 in. If you send in an email and we read it on the podcast, 11 00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:51.520 we always send you a staff writer sticker if you ask for one and 12 00:00:51.560 --> 00:00:56.280 put your address in there. For example, Kelsey in Scandia, Minnesota says, 13 00:00:56.320 --> 00:00:59.840 good morning, Peep's Kelsey here. I was thinking about strange injuries that 14 00:00:59.880 --> 00:01:02.920 I gotten in my life, and I wanted to see if you guys had 15 00:01:02.920 --> 00:01:06.000 any I'll go first. I was young. I went to my older brother's 16 00:01:06.040 --> 00:01:10.640 basketball practice. I was throwing a ball and running and then sliding on my 17 00:01:10.760 --> 00:01:15.760 knees and my shins to catch it. Accident prone me ran face first into 18 00:01:15.799 --> 00:01:19.920 the wall and knocked out my two front teeth, So I was a toothless 19 00:01:19.959 --> 00:01:25.200 wonder for a couple of years before the adult teeth finally grew in. Oh 20 00:01:25.239 --> 00:01:30.319 she was little, okay, uh, of course super crooked when they grew 21 00:01:30.319 --> 00:01:33.519 in. I also went down to slide once as a small child and bit 22 00:01:33.719 --> 00:01:38.879 through my tongue out at the bottom of the slide where it drops off, 23 00:01:38.920 --> 00:01:42.079 so now I have a scar on my tongue. I have numerous stories as 24 00:01:42.079 --> 00:01:47.359 to my parents siblings being accident prone as genetic right Jenny right, Yes, 25 00:01:47.560 --> 00:01:49.760 Oh, I am a super accident prone person. I would say the silliest 26 00:01:49.760 --> 00:01:53.719 injury I've ever given myself was one I was up in the middle of night 27 00:01:53.799 --> 00:01:57.319 having a little snacky and I was cutting myself a piece of cheese and the 28 00:01:57.400 --> 00:02:00.920 knife fell off the counter and stabbed me in the towel. And it was 29 00:02:00.959 --> 00:02:04.840 it was like not a fall drop or a high drop, so there wasn't 30 00:02:04.879 --> 00:02:07.159 like tons of velocity coming down towards my toe. But I definitely cut my 31 00:02:07.199 --> 00:02:09.800 toe a little bit, like it hit my foot, and yeah, that 32 00:02:09.879 --> 00:02:15.000 was probably the strangest one. That is a strange one. I don't really 33 00:02:15.080 --> 00:02:16.520 have a strange one. I mean I was riding on my bicycle one time 34 00:02:16.520 --> 00:02:19.919 when I was probably twelve, and I had a parachute on the back, 35 00:02:20.039 --> 00:02:23.039 and the parachute got tangled up in the back wheels and I was going really 36 00:02:23.080 --> 00:02:28.439 fast and then I slid tangled up in the parachute and the bike and I 37 00:02:28.560 --> 00:02:30.599 was, you know, sliding down a gravel road and I had scars on 38 00:02:30.599 --> 00:02:34.400 my side. But it wasn't like the It was just a little bike accident, 39 00:02:34.479 --> 00:02:38.639 Yeah, with the parachute. I'll tell you a kind of an unsavory 40 00:02:38.680 --> 00:02:43.319 story. My old girlfriend Cricket, my daughter Beth's mother. Yeah, she 41 00:02:43.560 --> 00:02:46.520 was a little kid, I don't know how old, six eight ten, 42 00:02:46.680 --> 00:02:51.759 and she was up on the cupboard on a Saturday morning sneaking cereal because I 43 00:02:51.759 --> 00:02:53.360 guess she wasn't supposed to get whatever. She was trying to get cereal out 44 00:02:53.400 --> 00:02:55.879 of the cupboard and she wasn't tall enough to reach it, so she had 45 00:02:55.879 --> 00:03:00.560 to get a chair stand on top of the counter and then reached cereal, 46 00:03:00.080 --> 00:03:06.280 and she slipped and fell and did the splits, landed on a fork that 47 00:03:06.439 --> 00:03:08.800 was sitting on its side, so the pork wasn't sitting times up, it 48 00:03:08.879 --> 00:03:15.120 was sitting on its side. Landed on her labia and cut her labia, 49 00:03:15.240 --> 00:03:19.400 so instead of being one laby as she now has two on one side. 50 00:03:19.759 --> 00:03:22.879 Wait, is this a joke? It's And I was like, right, 51 00:03:22.919 --> 00:03:25.960 hold on, And I thought, oh God, how painful and embarrassing for 52 00:03:27.039 --> 00:03:30.639 a little kid. Yeah, and I don't know, it's been so long 53 00:03:30.639 --> 00:03:32.599 ago. Know, she ran to tell her parents or you know, put 54 00:03:32.639 --> 00:03:37.960 a towel. I don't know, But I was like, why you got 55 00:03:38.000 --> 00:03:39.960 two? And she and she told me the story and she laughed about it 56 00:03:40.000 --> 00:03:44.719 then. But god, what a fucking a horrible story. Yeah, all 57 00:03:44.840 --> 00:03:46.800 right, let's move on. I've been trying to think of a new way 58 00:03:46.840 --> 00:03:50.639 to sign off the email, and I remember Dave trying to make nip it 59 00:03:50.719 --> 00:03:53.960 in the bud happen, and my thirty two year old self says nip it 60 00:03:54.039 --> 00:03:58.439 quite often, So that's my sign off. Nip that shit. Anyway. 61 00:03:58.439 --> 00:04:00.120 Thanks for making the drive to work more fun. If you feel like sending 62 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:02.360 a staff's a writer sticker, and yes, I will let me take a 63 00:04:02.400 --> 00:04:09.120 picture of that. Nip it in the bud was a little backstory that's obviously 64 00:04:09.159 --> 00:04:12.840 not mine. That came from I think the Andy Griffith Show, which was 65 00:04:12.840 --> 00:04:16.759 a show back in the sixties, and the sheriff Barney Fife would say nip 66 00:04:16.879 --> 00:04:21.800 it in the bud. And so we said it on the radio once, 67 00:04:21.879 --> 00:04:27.920 maybe five years ago, and a big consultant said, don't let Dave say 68 00:04:28.000 --> 00:04:31.319 nip it in the bud because that is from a sixty year old TV show. 69 00:04:32.120 --> 00:04:35.079 And I'm like, okay, fine, yeah, I mean I wasn't, 70 00:04:35.240 --> 00:04:39.319 like, you know, dedicated to saying nip it in the bud. 71 00:04:40.040 --> 00:04:43.680 But I don't know, Kelsey, I think we're gonna stay with Dart Lick 72 00:04:44.040 --> 00:04:50.319 or all right, thanks for the email and this say that's for on the 73 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:54.560 air. I'll do that on the air. So here we go. David 74 00:04:54.560 --> 00:04:58.800 Flugelbind to Ryan. I am sitting here catching up on the Minnesota Goodbye, 75 00:04:58.879 --> 00:05:01.279 eating my cottage cheese, and I have decided, without your permission, that 76 00:05:01.319 --> 00:05:05.240 we become best friends. You said you had four spoonfuls for a snack a 77 00:05:05.279 --> 00:05:09.759 few weeks ago, and I couldn't relate more. You have no choice but 78 00:05:09.879 --> 00:05:12.560 now to be my friend, lol, because I was the other day. 79 00:05:12.560 --> 00:05:14.279 I was like hungry, but I didn't want to eat a lot, so 80 00:05:14.319 --> 00:05:15.959 I had four spoonfuls of cottage cheese and put it back in the fridge. 81 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:19.759 So any who keep licking anus? Yes, Jenny, I said anus, 82 00:05:19.759 --> 00:05:24.079 you're dart licking pe. One Daily listener Chris from Northfield. I don't need 83 00:05:24.079 --> 00:05:28.959 a stick her. I've already got one on my garbage fridge because he wrote 84 00:05:29.000 --> 00:05:34.319 in it's on my garage fridge and I thought he said garbage fridge. Hashtag 85 00:05:34.399 --> 00:05:41.560 dart lick hashtag diddling the bean. Thank you, Chris, I appreciate that 86 00:05:41.560 --> 00:05:45.480 that one is far on the air and this one is not. Yesterday, 87 00:05:45.560 --> 00:05:50.120 we talked to somebody who they had just quit their big corporate job and now 88 00:05:50.279 --> 00:05:53.480 they're going to be a stay at home mom, and they're like, I 89 00:05:53.639 --> 00:05:57.920 just, is there any advice you can give me on staying home? And 90 00:05:58.000 --> 00:06:00.680 do you remember what all? She asked? In general, she wanted advice 91 00:06:00.720 --> 00:06:05.439 because she's never she has always been a career person herself, but then she 92 00:06:05.720 --> 00:06:09.560 just fell in love with motherhood and like being home with her kids. So 93 00:06:09.600 --> 00:06:13.079 she just has no idea because she's always been a career person what she should 94 00:06:13.120 --> 00:06:15.040 do with herself with being a stay at home mom. Now, okay, 95 00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:18.560 she writes, I'm writing response to the new stay at home mom. I've 96 00:06:18.560 --> 00:06:24.160 been a stay at home mom for thirteen years and it works really well for 97 00:06:24.240 --> 00:06:27.600 my family. My advice is to add a few activities each week for you 98 00:06:27.920 --> 00:06:31.959 and baby. For example, ECFC classes. I don't know what that is. 99 00:06:32.240 --> 00:06:35.920 I don't either, ECFC, but baby story time at the library, 100 00:06:36.079 --> 00:06:41.519 music classes, et cetera. They're a great way to meet other parents. 101 00:06:41.560 --> 00:06:45.439 Also, if it helps to think about it like a job, takes some 102 00:06:45.519 --> 00:06:49.079 time to learn about child development. I'm always reading a parenting book, especially 103 00:06:49.079 --> 00:06:54.959 now that my kids are hitting the teenage years. Parent education is never ending. 104 00:06:56.120 --> 00:06:59.160 When Carson was little, I got one like how to Raise a Boy 105 00:06:59.279 --> 00:07:02.480 or The Little Boy Book or something like that, and I think I had 106 00:07:02.480 --> 00:07:05.480 one for Alison, like you know what. We first we had What to 107 00:07:05.519 --> 00:07:09.800 Expect When Expecting, which is a classic book. You've heard of that one, 108 00:07:09.879 --> 00:07:13.279 yeah, And then what to Expect during the First four years or something, 109 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:15.839 And I got The Boy Book, and I honestly, I never really 110 00:07:15.920 --> 00:07:18.240 read it. And I kept telling myself, I got to read that book. 111 00:07:18.240 --> 00:07:21.120 I don't want to screw this up. But he's doing okay, you 112 00:07:21.160 --> 00:07:28.079 know what he's doing good. He's leaving for Singapore to tour with Love in 113 00:07:28.160 --> 00:07:34.199 like ten days. So here was an interesting thing about Carson. He's a 114 00:07:34.319 --> 00:07:41.519 very mild mannered, non aggressive kind of a person and he does work for 115 00:07:43.000 --> 00:07:46.480 this tour and he'll do things like book airplane, their book flights, and 116 00:07:46.480 --> 00:07:49.680 book hotels and book lunches and make sure that everybody's got their boarding passes and 117 00:07:49.720 --> 00:07:55.720 their passports. And he does all of that from his house. But it's 118 00:07:55.800 --> 00:08:00.439 work, and he didn't get paid for something. And he's like, yeah, 119 00:08:00.519 --> 00:08:03.800 I send an invoice a month ago and I didn't get paid for it. 120 00:08:03.079 --> 00:08:05.120 And I said, well, just you know, send him a little 121 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:09.720 reminder and say hey, friendly reminder. And he's like, no, if 122 00:08:09.720 --> 00:08:11.399 they're not going to pay you, they're not going to have said no. 123 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:15.600 I said, you've got to stand up for yourself number one, because you 124 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:18.759 worked and they owe you the money, number one. Number Two, you've 125 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:22.600 got to show them that you are a professional and they need to take you 126 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:28.160 seriously. Number three, they probably just forgot to pay. But I said, 127 00:08:28.199 --> 00:08:31.920 one of the biggest things is you've got to show yourself that you don't 128 00:08:31.480 --> 00:08:35.799 tolerate people that don't pay you. Yes, so you're twenty three, you're 129 00:08:35.960 --> 00:08:43.240 educated, you did work, you're a professional. You need to show yourself 130 00:08:43.480 --> 00:08:48.320 that you can stand up and advocate for yourself because a lot of you know, 131 00:08:48.360 --> 00:08:50.200 a lot of us are like, well, they didn't pay, and 132 00:08:50.240 --> 00:08:54.840 I don't want to rub them the wrong way. So so he wrote to 133 00:08:54.879 --> 00:08:56.639 them and he said, hey, just a friend of friendly reminder, and 134 00:08:56.759 --> 00:09:01.679 ten minutes later they paid him. Yes, we got like four hundred and 135 00:09:01.720 --> 00:09:03.600 twenty eight dollars. So they owed him four hundred and twenty eight dollars that 136 00:09:05.039 --> 00:09:07.759 he wouldn't have got. That's a lot of money too, especially for a 137 00:09:07.840 --> 00:09:11.559 kid who's twenty three years So I was gonna say I would I needed that 138 00:09:11.639 --> 00:09:13.919 advice, like a handful of years ago, because I had helped host an 139 00:09:13.919 --> 00:09:20.000 event somewhere and it wasn't through the radio station, but they agreed to pay 140 00:09:20.039 --> 00:09:22.200 me for it, and they never paid me. And it was a friend 141 00:09:22.399 --> 00:09:26.080 who like worked for this company that I set it up through, and I 142 00:09:26.120 --> 00:09:31.840 felt uncomfortable confronting my friend. Of course, so I never got paid for 143 00:09:31.879 --> 00:09:33.720 that. And I also like where it was at. I purchased things, 144 00:09:33.720 --> 00:09:37.639 so I basically paid for my own event that I was being told I was 145 00:09:37.679 --> 00:09:41.559 going to be paid for helping host. So that was fun and you and 146 00:09:41.600 --> 00:09:46.679 you got to advocate for yourself and a lot of the time people they just 147 00:09:46.879 --> 00:09:50.960 forgot, Like Natalie, who does the voice on our show. She'll be 148 00:09:52.039 --> 00:09:54.519 like, and now it's time for Dave's Dirt or back with more of the 149 00:09:54.600 --> 00:09:58.879 Dave Ryan Show. I will send her a script every month or so, 150 00:10:00.879 --> 00:10:05.720 and she charges five dollars a line to read them, and that's a really 151 00:10:05.759 --> 00:10:09.679 good deal. And she likes doing it. She likes being on a big 152 00:10:09.720 --> 00:10:15.919 station like KATIWB and we love her voice. And sometimes I'll forget to venmo 153 00:10:16.080 --> 00:10:18.639 her the money, so she'll send us like twenty twenty lines, and so 154 00:10:18.759 --> 00:10:22.600 now I owe her one hundred dollars and I'll forget, yeah, and she'll 155 00:10:22.639 --> 00:10:26.000 remind me, and I'll pay her right away. And I said, Natalie, 156 00:10:26.080 --> 00:10:30.919 don't ever hesitate to remind me that I need to pay you. Don't 157 00:10:30.960 --> 00:10:33.720 ever hesitate because I always want to pay you, and I nine times out 158 00:10:33.759 --> 00:10:37.480 of ten I pay her without being reminded, but once in a while I 159 00:10:37.519 --> 00:10:41.039 forget, so advocate for yourself. You're a pro, that's what you do 160 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:45.639 and you've earned it. Finally, if you haven't already, be sure to 161 00:10:45.639 --> 00:10:48.519 talk to your husband about the household division of labor. Are you responsible only 162 00:10:48.600 --> 00:10:52.480 for child care or do you take on cooking, cleaning, laundry as well. 163 00:10:52.519 --> 00:10:54.960 This might change as your child grows, but it's good to be clear 164 00:10:56.080 --> 00:11:01.720 on those responsibilities. L'st thing put on Katie during the day. It'll help 165 00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:05.120 pass the time. I love that. Play KWB in the background. Love 166 00:11:05.159 --> 00:11:07.879 your show from a regular listener, Susan. Thank you, Susan, I 167 00:11:07.879 --> 00:11:13.240 appreciate that. Do you did you do your own laundry when you were a 168 00:11:13.320 --> 00:11:16.360 kid? No, mom did your laundry. Yeah she did, yep, 169 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:18.000 yep. A lot of kids do their own laundry. I never did. 170 00:11:18.120 --> 00:11:20.679 Yeah. That was probably the only chore I didn't help out with. I 171 00:11:20.679 --> 00:11:24.000 mean, like I did the dishes. We never had a dishwasher. I 172 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:26.799 helped with yard stuff like clean my room, vacuumed all that stuff, but 173 00:11:26.919 --> 00:11:30.279 never had to do laundry. Yeah. I never did either. I mean 174 00:11:30.320 --> 00:11:33.960 we grew up in you know, an older model of a household where mom 175 00:11:33.120 --> 00:11:37.279 was a pretty much pretty much stay at home She was a lunch lady that 176 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:41.080 worked a few hours during the day. But Mom did the cooking and mom 177 00:11:41.120 --> 00:11:45.240 did the cleaning. We kids did the chores. Like I cleaned out the 178 00:11:45.320 --> 00:11:50.559 chicken house, which was five or six wheelbarrows full of straw packed with chicken 179 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:54.000 shit, and you had to use a pitchfork to put it in the wheelbarrow 180 00:11:54.360 --> 00:11:58.000 and push it about two hundred yards to the garden where it was used for 181 00:11:58.080 --> 00:12:03.600 compost and fertile And I had to butcher chickens and pluck chickens. We had 182 00:12:03.639 --> 00:12:09.039 to chop wood, we had to There was just a lot of outdoor gardening 183 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:13.679 chores. But we did not do laundry. I don't know why. I 184 00:12:13.679 --> 00:12:16.720 mean, we could have hello, says Kaylee. Yesterday on the podcast, 185 00:12:16.759 --> 00:12:20.799 somebody wrote in about a TikToker who had a sixteen hundred dollars a month car 186 00:12:20.840 --> 00:12:26.519 payment. I saw that same TikTok and that creator was behind on her payment. 187 00:12:26.200 --> 00:12:30.559 Thus her payment is really eight hundred dollars a month, still a huge 188 00:12:30.559 --> 00:12:33.919 payment, but nowhere near the double that the TikTok creator was trying for. 189 00:12:33.000 --> 00:12:39.799 A state to state for shock value. There is no reason anybody can have 190 00:12:39.000 --> 00:12:43.559 should There's no reason anyone should have an eight hundred dollars car payment that cannot 191 00:12:43.639 --> 00:12:50.120 afford it. Absolutely sorry, but you don't need to have a new car 192 00:12:50.279 --> 00:12:54.480 every year if you can't afford it. I hate tiktoks like that. Meanwhile, 193 00:12:54.519 --> 00:12:58.320 I drove my four Tourus until the transmission blue. It was given to 194 00:12:58.360 --> 00:13:01.639 me by my parents, so I drove it in high school, through college 195 00:13:01.639 --> 00:13:05.120 and into my first year teaching. You know what, she signs off? 196 00:13:05.200 --> 00:13:13.000 All right, thank you, Kaylee. I love that I drove. My 197 00:13:13.080 --> 00:13:16.639 dad got me a Volkswagon. First. I inherited my dad my brother's Volkswagon. 198 00:13:16.679 --> 00:13:20.600 It was a piece of crap, broke down all the time. It 199 00:13:20.720 --> 00:13:22.399 finally broke down so bad my dad had to buy me another one for a 200 00:13:22.399 --> 00:13:28.279 couple of thousand dollars and I drove that for years. Then I finally made 201 00:13:28.360 --> 00:13:31.960 enough money to buy my own first new car. But I could afford it, 202 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:35.159 yeah, you know, and it was very affordable. I mean it 203 00:13:35.240 --> 00:13:37.120 was a couple hundred dollars a month and it was very affordable. So yeah, 204 00:13:37.159 --> 00:13:41.399 I never got a car until I was a senior in college. So 205 00:13:41.639 --> 00:13:43.960 I went all through high school, all through college until my senior year having 206 00:13:43.960 --> 00:13:46.960 a car. I actually when I got this internship, I was only able 207 00:13:48.000 --> 00:13:50.879 to do it because of my awesome roommate who let me borrow her car. 208 00:13:50.159 --> 00:13:52.960 Really, because there was what I took buses everywhere in college, and I 209 00:13:54.000 --> 00:13:56.879 wouldn't have been able to do this internship without a car because buses didn't run 210 00:13:56.919 --> 00:14:00.519 that early. Yeah, so yeah, she let me borrow her car and 211 00:14:00.519 --> 00:14:03.600 I just paid her gas money every week for the internship. That was really 212 00:14:03.679 --> 00:14:05.799 nice that she. I never knew that about you. That was really nice 213 00:14:05.799 --> 00:14:09.679 that she let you borrow her car. That's a good friend right there. 214 00:14:09.399 --> 00:14:11.759 We had somebody apply for this job one time, and it's kind of a 215 00:14:11.799 --> 00:14:18.960 side story, and she came in from a town out of state but within 216 00:14:18.080 --> 00:14:24.360 driving distance, moderately within driving distance, and she was talking to us and 217 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:28.840 she applied for the job back when Fallon was interested in the job. And 218 00:14:30.240 --> 00:14:33.279 she came in one day and she talked about how her brother was waiting for 219 00:14:33.320 --> 00:14:35.000 her in the parking lot. Her brother drove her from this other state. 220 00:14:35.519 --> 00:14:41.799 It turned out that she couldn't drive because she had had so many duy's that 221 00:14:41.919 --> 00:14:46.600 she had her license taken away. And she was nice and she was sober 222 00:14:46.600 --> 00:14:50.799 and recovering supposedly, but I was like, how are you going to get 223 00:14:50.799 --> 00:14:52.480 to work? And she was like, oh, I figure out a way. 224 00:14:54.120 --> 00:14:58.279 And I'm like, I can't hire this person if they can't drive. 225 00:14:58.679 --> 00:15:01.799 Yeah, this is a job that I really think you do have to have 226 00:15:01.840 --> 00:15:05.240 a car for unless you walk, unless you live in within walking distance, 227 00:15:05.360 --> 00:15:07.600 because I know, like Colt so that he is in afternoons now, he 228 00:15:07.679 --> 00:15:11.919 used to live at the apartment around the corner when he used to do nights. 229 00:15:11.919 --> 00:15:13.559 So like, yeah, that could be doable. But outside of that, 230 00:15:13.720 --> 00:15:16.039 like, you got to have a car for this job, Yeah, 231 00:15:16.120 --> 00:15:20.960 you really do. I mean for probably most jobs you do. Speaking of 232 00:15:22.039 --> 00:15:26.440 drive tomorrow, I'm here's a little plug. I'm driving tomorrow to the Maplewood 233 00:15:26.600 --> 00:15:31.399 Barnes and Noble on Saturday for a book signing for my kid's book, Little 234 00:15:31.480 --> 00:15:37.440 Dave's Amazing Day Tomorrow Saturday from ten thirty until eleven thirty. You can buy 235 00:15:37.480 --> 00:15:39.039 the book there at Barnes and Noble and I'll sign it and we'll get a 236 00:15:39.039 --> 00:15:43.799 picture and we'll do a selfie and we'll chat and then after that I'm going 237 00:15:43.879 --> 00:15:48.559 to the t Rex Cookie Bakery in Egan. Just map it, you'll find 238 00:15:48.600 --> 00:15:54.320 it, and we're selling the Dave Ryan Cookie and also the books. So 239 00:15:54.360 --> 00:15:56.759 we'll be there for an hour from one until two, so come by. 240 00:15:58.240 --> 00:16:00.759 Part of the proceeds from both goes to charity. One his Children's Minnesota and 241 00:16:00.799 --> 00:16:04.360 one is pause for pause. All right, good morning, says Nikky. 242 00:16:04.440 --> 00:16:08.399 Something happened today. I immediately thought of Dave. Here's the story. Walking 243 00:16:08.480 --> 00:16:14.720 my two dogs on the beach, which is a huge beach. It's early, 244 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:18.039 very little people and no dogs out. I let my dogs off the 245 00:16:18.120 --> 00:16:22.000 leach so they can run around and get some exercise. Two guys walk by 246 00:16:22.000 --> 00:16:23.759 and I say good morning, and they say, way to put your dog 247 00:16:23.799 --> 00:16:26.919 on a leash. And my first thought was f you, And then I 248 00:16:26.919 --> 00:16:30.200 thought of Dave. I know how it's one of your pet peeves. I'm 249 00:16:30.200 --> 00:16:34.320 really interested to see what she's gonna say. Here's my issue. What is 250 00:16:34.360 --> 00:16:37.639 wrong with letting your dogs run a little bit when no one is around. 251 00:16:38.000 --> 00:16:41.679 If there'd been another dog around, I would have put them back on the 252 00:16:41.759 --> 00:16:45.440 leash right away. I completely understand the need for putting your dog on a 253 00:16:45.519 --> 00:16:48.840 leash, but really, what's the harm if no one else is around? 254 00:16:48.960 --> 00:16:52.159 Was just curious if your lease issue has some wiggle room. Are you one 255 00:16:52.240 --> 00:16:56.879 hundred percent dog on a leash or are you okay with letting them rome if 256 00:16:56.919 --> 00:17:00.120 they are behaved and no other dogs are around in an open space. I 257 00:17:00.120 --> 00:17:03.559 would also like to know Jenny's thoughts as well. I know, since the 258 00:17:03.599 --> 00:17:07.599 dogs you walk are not yours, you may not be comfortable walking them off 259 00:17:07.680 --> 00:17:10.160 leash, But if your dog, if it was your dog, would you 260 00:17:10.279 --> 00:17:15.680 just curious what you think? Nikki? Respectfully, I don't think it's okay 261 00:17:15.920 --> 00:17:18.279 because that's the rule. That's just the rule. You keep your dog on 262 00:17:18.319 --> 00:17:22.000 a leash. If you got your own backyard, or you got your own 263 00:17:22.039 --> 00:17:25.079 private property or it's a dog park, then you do whatever you want to. 264 00:17:25.880 --> 00:17:30.079 But on a public spot you never know what. Like let's say, 265 00:17:30.119 --> 00:17:33.680 like somebody's I don't know, somebody brought their puppy out, or a little 266 00:17:33.759 --> 00:17:37.559 toddler and your dog ran off to look at the toddler, or here comes 267 00:17:37.559 --> 00:17:40.960 two guys. So you weren't alone on the beach, you were within talking 268 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:42.480 distance for them to say, way to put your dog on a leash. 269 00:17:42.920 --> 00:17:48.200 So there are other people that walk by, and to me, it's like, 270 00:17:48.240 --> 00:17:52.160 you know what, the rules are put there for a reason, and 271 00:17:52.240 --> 00:17:56.640 I get the temptation to let your dog because the dog loves it. What 272 00:17:56.680 --> 00:18:00.759 do you think, Jenny, I'm very okay what dogs me off fleishes in 273 00:18:00.839 --> 00:18:03.200 certain situations such as what she's talking about the beach where there was no one 274 00:18:03.240 --> 00:18:07.799 originally and then some people came along. I do agree that maybe I would 275 00:18:07.799 --> 00:18:11.079 have tried to get the dogs to be closer to me slash on the leash 276 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:12.960 if I did start to see people. So I'm okay with that. Like 277 00:18:14.000 --> 00:18:18.079 when I've gone to Oregon in California and I've done a lot of hikes, 278 00:18:18.200 --> 00:18:21.559 dogs are never on leashes in any of those situations, and I'm okay with 279 00:18:21.640 --> 00:18:25.720 it. Like really in California or Oregon and people are walking around without the 280 00:18:26.160 --> 00:18:27.480 lease I mean, And I was at a beach in Oregon and it was 281 00:18:27.680 --> 00:18:30.519 I don't know, ten in the morning. There were quite a few people 282 00:18:30.559 --> 00:18:33.279 there. There were dogs running around everywhere off leash, and I just I 283 00:18:33.400 --> 00:18:37.240 love dogs so much, so like for me, and I know you do 284 00:18:37.119 --> 00:18:41.640 for me, I just don't mind it as long of course, as there 285 00:18:42.480 --> 00:18:48.720 if they're really well behaved dogs, if there's like some kind of potential aggression 286 00:18:48.799 --> 00:18:51.720 with them, then of course I do not think that that dog should ever 287 00:18:51.759 --> 00:18:53.640 be allowed off leash. But for me personally, yes, if I'm watching 288 00:18:53.640 --> 00:18:56.960 a dog, the dog is always on a leash. They are not my 289 00:18:56.079 --> 00:19:00.720 dog. I do not have any idea what kind of like my things could 290 00:19:00.720 --> 00:19:03.240 happen. So I would never ever walk a dog off a leash for me, 291 00:19:03.400 --> 00:19:07.039 But those if I had a really really well behaved dog myself and it 292 00:19:07.119 --> 00:19:11.839 was on like a big hike in Colorado or something, I might have a 293 00:19:11.880 --> 00:19:15.640 dog off off a leash. Yeah, you know, I see it once 294 00:19:15.680 --> 00:19:18.799 in a while, and to me it's like, well, that is part 295 00:19:18.839 --> 00:19:23.079 of the responsibility of owning a dog, as you keep the dog on a 296 00:19:23.319 --> 00:19:29.000 leash. And I've hikeing Colorado and most people, if I see them hiking 297 00:19:29.000 --> 00:19:30.559 with their dog, they've got the dog on a leash. But occasionally, 298 00:19:30.599 --> 00:19:33.720 you know, I'll be hiking over here, even by like Lake Midawashta, 299 00:19:34.279 --> 00:19:37.119 and here comes a dog running up to me, excited to see me, 300 00:19:37.640 --> 00:19:42.599 and there's the owner fifty yards behind them on the trail, and I thought, 301 00:19:42.640 --> 00:19:45.359 you know what if I had a daughter that once got bit by a 302 00:19:45.400 --> 00:19:51.680 German shepherd and she's like eight years old and she's terrified and she screams and 303 00:19:51.759 --> 00:19:55.920 like jumps at me and cries, Well, then you're being a dick because 304 00:19:55.960 --> 00:20:00.000 you don't know what you're going to encounter, right. I do think that 305 00:20:00.400 --> 00:20:03.319 in a situation like that, yes, the owner should have been closer to 306 00:20:03.319 --> 00:20:06.839 the dog and probably kept the dog near them slash put them back on the 307 00:20:06.920 --> 00:20:10.640 leash coming up to you. So I do agree with like once you're going 308 00:20:10.640 --> 00:20:12.759 past people, but like on an open trail where there's not many people around, 309 00:20:14.079 --> 00:20:17.000 I think like they can run a little bit, but make sure they're 310 00:20:17.039 --> 00:20:18.440 not like twenty feet ahead of you where you don't know if they're going to 311 00:20:18.519 --> 00:20:22.160 encounter someone without you being there. Okay. I think one other thing is 312 00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:26.119 that if your dog takes a dump and you're far behind them and you don't 313 00:20:26.160 --> 00:20:30.279 see it, or they run into the woods to take a dump, well 314 00:20:30.359 --> 00:20:32.119 then you're not going to clean it up. Yeah, And that's one of 315 00:20:32.119 --> 00:20:36.519 the reasons why dog parks are so covered with shit is because people sit there 316 00:20:36.519 --> 00:20:40.279 at the picnic table on their phone while their dog runs around and takes a 317 00:20:40.279 --> 00:20:42.160 big shit, and you don't know. I've told the story before. I 318 00:20:42.200 --> 00:20:45.640 was at the Lakeman of wash To Off Leash dog Park and there's a big 319 00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:49.960 lab and he's over here taking a dump. And I'm like, okay, 320 00:20:51.000 --> 00:20:53.480 where's the owner, where's the owner? And this is a vast dog park, 321 00:20:53.519 --> 00:20:56.240 and so coming up the trail, about one hundred yards behind the dog 322 00:20:57.119 --> 00:21:03.400 is your typical what I call this day ereotypical chan Hassen woman who is about 323 00:21:03.400 --> 00:21:06.920 one hundred and twenty pounds, she's got blonde hair, probably arrived in a 324 00:21:07.119 --> 00:21:12.079 giant Yukon, and she's with her friends. And I said, I went 325 00:21:12.079 --> 00:21:15.119 over to her and I handed her a bag. Yeah, And I said, 326 00:21:15.119 --> 00:21:18.640 oh, your dog just pooped right over there, as my polite way 327 00:21:18.640 --> 00:21:22.160 of saying you didn't see it because you weren't paying attention, but clean up 328 00:21:22.160 --> 00:21:26.880 the dog shit. And she she's like, I've got a bag, and 329 00:21:26.920 --> 00:21:30.440 she kind of gave me a snotty attitude, which I don't blame her, 330 00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:33.079 but she would not have seen it and would not have cleaned it up had 331 00:21:33.079 --> 00:21:37.720 I not called her on it. Right, And they actually had to close 332 00:21:37.759 --> 00:21:41.880 down the chan Hassen dog park for a while because people would not clean up 333 00:21:41.920 --> 00:21:45.240 after their dogs. I mean, I think that that's extremely rude. I 334 00:21:45.359 --> 00:21:48.839 watched the dogs that I takes it to the dog park to make sure I'm 335 00:21:48.880 --> 00:21:51.880 always cleaning up their poop. I will admit one time in the last month, 336 00:21:52.440 --> 00:21:55.119 I could not find the poop to save my life. Like I was 337 00:21:55.240 --> 00:21:56.960 maybe twenty feet away, but I saw the dog pooping. So I walked 338 00:21:57.039 --> 00:22:00.440 up as quick as I could, and it was just kind of like the 339 00:22:00.519 --> 00:22:07.160 leftover spring mud leaves situation that I searched for like ten minutes and I finally 340 00:22:07.200 --> 00:22:08.519 just picked up what I thought might have been poop, but I think it 341 00:22:08.599 --> 00:22:12.480 might have just been mud. I have no idea. Yikes, it is. 342 00:22:12.519 --> 00:22:15.839 I mean, that's part of the thing. I'm not here to preach 343 00:22:15.880 --> 00:22:18.519 about going to the dog park because that you know, you let your dog 344 00:22:18.599 --> 00:22:22.079 run off and roam whatever. But it's just clean up after your dog. 345 00:22:22.160 --> 00:22:26.720 You know that. Hey, send me an email. I'm really curious if 346 00:22:26.759 --> 00:22:30.880 you want, and I'm not going to judge you much, but send me 347 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:33.200 an email. If you are a believer in letting your dog off the leash 348 00:22:33.240 --> 00:22:37.759 at your local park or on your local trail, I want to find out 349 00:22:37.799 --> 00:22:42.319 what your reasoning is because I'm really curious the same way I'm curious as to 350 00:22:42.359 --> 00:22:47.200 the reasoning of picking up your dog's poop and a bag and setting it on 351 00:22:47.319 --> 00:22:52.160 the side of the trail. What is the reasoning? What is the logic? 352 00:22:52.279 --> 00:22:53.839 And people go, well, maybe they're going to come back and pick 353 00:22:53.839 --> 00:22:56.240 it up later, But you can tell when one has been sitting there for 354 00:22:56.279 --> 00:23:00.599 a few days, because it's got like rain and mud splat on it, 355 00:23:00.920 --> 00:23:03.200 and it's got some you know, like it's been sitting there, and you 356 00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:07.599 can tell. So give me your justification. I'm curious. Angela says, 357 00:23:07.720 --> 00:23:12.599 I broke up with a friend about four months ago. It was hard, 358 00:23:12.680 --> 00:23:15.559 but it was needed. We talked the other day about breaking up with friends. 359 00:23:15.799 --> 00:23:18.480 Her daughter and my daughter were also best friends. I picked up her 360 00:23:18.559 --> 00:23:22.240 daughter every day after school and brought her to my house. I did a 361 00:23:22.279 --> 00:23:25.880 lot for this friend, but it always seemed one sided, like she was 362 00:23:25.880 --> 00:23:30.319 taking advantage of me. She never reciprocated. Then one day it was discovered 363 00:23:30.359 --> 00:23:36.799 that the daughter was bullying my daughter at school behind her back with other girls. 364 00:23:36.880 --> 00:23:38.440 I brought it up to the friend to see if we could resolve it 365 00:23:38.960 --> 00:23:42.359 with the girls between each other, but she blew it off as girls will 366 00:23:42.400 --> 00:23:47.680 be girls they are thirteen. Yeah, no, not with my daughter. 367 00:23:47.720 --> 00:23:49.480 I gave her some time over winter break to think it over, and I 368 00:23:49.519 --> 00:23:52.279 didn't hear from her. So I told her that she would need to find 369 00:23:52.319 --> 00:23:56.319 an alternative ride or care for her daughter. It was for the best. 370 00:23:56.400 --> 00:24:00.279 She never reached out to try to work it out after that. It's been 371 00:24:00.319 --> 00:24:03.160 hard for my daughter not to have her best friend through some hard times, 372 00:24:03.160 --> 00:24:07.839 but we are moving on. I have come to realize maybe she was only 373 00:24:07.880 --> 00:24:12.119 meant to be around for a season. Yeah. Maybe. So that is 374 00:24:12.160 --> 00:24:18.559 it for the Minnesota Goodbye. Send me emails about dogs or friends or whatever 375 00:24:18.720 --> 00:24:22.559 you want to talk about. Send it into Ryan's show at KDIWB dot com. 376 00:24:22.920 --> 00:24:27.559 I hope I see you at the book signing at Maplewood tomorrow Barnes and 377 00:24:27.599 --> 00:24:33.119 Noble at ten thirty until eleven thirty, or the t Rex Cookie Bakery and 378 00:24:33.200 --> 00:24:37.160 Egan Tomorrow Saturday from one until two. Have a great weekend, and thanks 379 00:24:37.240 --> 00:24:40.759 for listening to the Minnesota Goodbye.