Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Licia
Goggin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand
your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the
best version of yourself. I feel like I haven't talked on the podcast for
so long and it's only been a week, but I am happy to be
back as always. How is everyone doing? Happy summer. I know it's
not summer, but to me, in my brain and my reality, it
is summer. And it's so funny because I made a changing your Identity for
Summer video on my YouTube channel, which go check that out if you have
not. I'll definitely talk about it though a few or last week, and
I opened up the video by saying, if I'm not mistaken, summer starts
May twentieth, and no it doesn't, it starts June twenty. First,
I don't know why I said that. I actually don't think I realized that
I was saying May instead of June, because realistically, when I recorded that
video, it was like May twelfth or something I don't know or something,
So it's girl, summer is not in a week. But anyways, listen,
my mind is in summer, just as most of ours are because the
sun is out. And listen, I know it's not summer everywhere. A
lot of you guys let me know that in the comments, and honestly,
I really totally forgot that some places technically it's winter, Like in Australia,
you guys are going into winter, although it's not like you guys really experienced
very cold weather. But anyways, and or where if you live in a
very hot climate, like if you're in Florida, if you're freaking in India
or something, it is going to be hot no matter what. And it's
actually just going to get hotter. So you guys were telling me how it's
so interesting to hear all of the things that I'm planning on doing this summer,
and we all are that are maybe like in the Northern Hemisphere in terms
of going outside and like getting more sun, and it's going to be hot,
and we love it and we're welcoming it. Yet some of you guys
are like, I'm about to go inside because it's about to be too hot.
It's giving Texas summer. So I'm here for it regardless. Whatever it
is that you guys are going to be doing or not doing. But I
also just love the fact that there's so many of you all around the world
listening to this podcast and we're all on the same vibe. We all have
different stories, we're all going through different circumstances in our lives, but the
collective is we're here, We're ready to go up in the bestiver to ourselves,
and we need to talk about how we are going to romanticize our summer.
And it's funny because I remember when romanticizing your life started to first become
a trend online on YouTube and on TikTok even Pinterest. When people started using
the word romanticize, I didn't really understand it, and I wasn't really in
that niche in a way like it looked cool, like when girlies were like
going out on hot girl walks and taking cute photos of themselves and buying flowers
at the market. That was deemed romanticizing your life. Like I didn't really
think that it was for me. But fast forward to this point in my
life, even last year, but recently and thinking about the video that I
made the changing your Identity this summer, I'm really in the vibe of truly
not only understanding what it means to romanticize your life, but I'm so absolutely
here for it, and I think it's so freaking important and we need to
start doing it. But I want to talk about what it means to me
to romanticize your life and how you can do it for your own life in
a way that is very unique to you, so that you're not just doing
what everyone else is doing because you see it on Pinterest or you see it
on TikTok, to the point where maybe you do it for a little bit,
but then it doesn't really stick, and you know, not every moment
of our lives are we going to be able to romanticize our lives. But
realistically, to me, romanticizing your life is creating a life that you no
longer want to run away from. It's creating a life of ease, of
peace, of joy, of finding beauty and the things that resonate to you,
that feel good to you. And to really think back about why I
didn't really resonate with this whole trend of romanticizing your life was for one,
I didn't really have the life that I saw everyone else living when they said
that that's what it means to romanticize your life. So I felt like I
couldn't really like relate. But on top of that, I have always been
somebody in my life who is completely stripped all joy out of my life because
I've been in a scarcity mindset. I've been stressed, I've been hyper masculine,
I've been basically in survival mode. I'm no longer in that now,
but that's how my life was. I didn't really have time to romanticize my
life, let alone. Even if I did and I tried, it wouldn't
even really stick because I would just judge myself. I would I would tell
myself, like, no, you can't do this. This is not your
life. You're not allowed to like you know what is a life of romanticizing
and just being happy and enjoying your life aka really just resting in that feminine
energy, right, and feminine energy. It's expressed in a million different ways,
But if we're going to think about romanticizing and loving our lives, there
is a component of that feminine energy within in which I was never able to
tap into all of my life. And so even when I did try to
romanticize my life without even maybe putting the word onto it, it didn't really
stick. And on top of that, I tried to romanticize my life based
off of what other people were doing. So you know, the girlies on
Pinterest who are having paint days or they're going to the farmer's market, or
they're getting flowers or they have like really cute photos or whatever they're doing.
I tried to emulate that life because that's what I thought it was, but
it didn't really feel good and it felt like I was like trying too hard,
and I feel like that's not how it's actually supposed to be when you're
romanticizing your life. So on one hand, it was hard for me to
stick to anything because I was trying to pick up habits, routines, lifestyle
from people who are just showing me on social media. Which is also fine.
We can get inspired and motivated by people. I do too, but
I do in such a different way now, So there was that component.
But also I never even really let myself actually be in the present, because
you know what, you can definitely look on the outside like you're romanticizing your
life and you're going on hawk roll walks and you're living your best life and
you're going to the flower market and you're doing all these things, but in
your head, you're not really in the present. You're doing things for show,
you're doing things just for the photo. You're doing things just because everyone
else told you this is what it means to romanticize your life. And so
for me, that's what I struggled with too. So it never really stuck
for me because I wasn't actually romantizing my life, and I didn't understand how
it could feel so good because it wasn't feeling good to me. But now
I can really see what it means to romanticize my life and actually be in
that present moment and not be doing it just because I've told myself I have
to romanticize my life and be able to actually feel into the energy of this
happiness, enjoy and the presence that comes from actually being this energy of somebody
who emanticizes their lives. So what I've come to realize is this romanticizing your
life is literally going to be so unique to you. And furthermore, the
way you're going to find what works for you and how to truly cultivate this
happiness and just romantizing your life is to figure out what feels good to you
and your nervous system, and on top of that, what feels good to
your inner child. Now, something else that I've been thinking about in my
past years being on a healing journey glowing up into the best version of myself
is realizing that this game of life that we live, essentially what we are
doing on these journeys is we are trying to essentially meet our inner child's needs
that did not get met in childhood. We're learning how to love ourselves when
maybe there wasn't somebody around us that knew how to love us. We are
learning to show up for ourselves and build healthier relationships because we didn't get that
before. We are learning how to upgrade our lives and be better with our
finances and create a life of our dreams when it comes to financial stability because
we most likely did not get that in childhood. Essentially, all the things
that we seek in our lives are the opposite of what we've gotten handed.
So to me or mendicizing my life really means meeting my inner child's needs,
making sure that I'm feeling safe and secure and loved and happiness in my day
to day life because there was so many experiences in my life where I was
not feeling safe, I was not feeling happy, I was not feeling abundant.
And I think sometimes what we do is we try to meet our needs
in ways that other people have told us that we need to meet our needs.
So let's say we didn't experience a lot of safety in our lives.
If you go on social media, there's going to be a million people telling
you how to feel more safe in your life, whether that be through luxury
items, whether that be through not working, whether that be through finding a
husband, whether that be through simply accepting yourself and loving yourself. Like,
there's a million things, and it's not really to deem any of these right
or wrong, but we need to tap into to find out what really works
for us. Is what feels the best to us? Does learning how to
become the main character and put our attention on ourselves and love ourselves and accept
ourselves. Does that feel good to us? Is that the thing that's going
to help us heal? Is that the thing that's going to really meet our
inner child's needs? Yes, or maybe no. Is finding a healthy,
secure relationship and getting a husband and having children really going to meet some of
our inner child's needs. Because maybe our inner child was very lonely when she
was younger, she didn't have love in her life, she didn't have a
big family, whatever it is. Then yeah, maybe that is what's going
to make her feel safe and happy and loved in her life but also home.
Maybe it's not right, but people on the internet will tell you,
okay, like this is how you're gonna get happiness or how you're gonna whatever.
But it's going to be so important. This is something that I've really
is what feels the best to me, and whatever feels good to me,
I need to go in that direction, and I need to add more of
those things into my life so that I can cultivate that feeling of family,
that feeling of love within myself, that feeling of financial security, whatever it
is. So the other morning I was doing some journaling and I was thinking
about this idea of romanticizing your life and how realistically it's all about doing things
that make you feel good. Okay, well, how do you really know
what is going to make you feel good? And for me, I first
started with really exploring the feelings that I wanted to feel in my life,
which was I want to feel safe. I want to feel happy, I
want to feel joy. I want to feel like you know, those mornings
in summer when you're a young child and you wake up and the birds are
chirping and the sun is out and it's just warm and it's breezy, and
you ain't got no responsibilities, but just like maybe I don't know, going
on Tumbler or going on a blog or like going out with your friends.
At that point in my life, it would definitely Tumbler, But you know,
like that feeling of just easiness and just there's nothing, there's nothing to
worry about. That's the feeling that I love. And when I think about
that feeling or feel into it, there's always usually some sort of memories that
are connected to that. So, like I said, my mind goes instantly
to summer mornings when I was younger, other things that I go to for
me personally, and this is going to be very personal to you, But
every time I feel into this energy of feeling safe and calm and just happy
and like there's no stress, my mind goes to living in the suburbs.
My mind goes to my siblings house back in the day. And I have
half sisters and a brother by the way, if anyone did not know,
so we didn't live in the same house. And my sister and my brother
I have a few more sisters, but they have the same mom. And
they had a very big home and it was so beautiful, full and it
was like in the suburbs, and they had an in ground pool and we
would always go over there and swim, and my brother, he was on
soccer team, so they would always have like soccer parties and whatever, and
it was just it always felt like home to me. I always felt safe.
I always felt like time was just the time didn't exist. Me and
my sister would go up on the top of their stairs. It was like
a huge staircase, and every single time I came over, we would get
into a sleeping bag and we would like ride the stairs all the way down
and we would do that like literally at ten million times, and I just
look forward to it all the time. And it was just such an escape
for me. I felt so at home, so peaceful and safe. And
when I think about the home that they lived in and the in ground pool
in the beautiful backyard, another thing that it reminds me of is when I
used to work at a private golf club, and although I was working there
and I wasn't actually somebody who golfed, that lifestyle kind of emulated that same
feeling of home, of safety, and it always ends being when the sun
is out and you see the grass and the weather is perfect and there's no
stress. It also reminds me of hawk grow walks. When you have the
most comfy outfit, you're listening to an audiobook or you're listening to a podcast
that really gets you in the right mood. You have some water, you're
eating healthy, you're taking knaps, maybe you're talking to somebody who really makes
you feel at home in terms of a relationship, and there's just like realness
in this relationship. There's no stress, there's no anxiety, Like all of
those things really feel so good to my nervous system, and it really does
meet my inner child's needs of just feeling safe and at home. So when
I reflect on this feeling of safety and peace and where my mind goes into
these memories, it really actually correlates to a lot of the things that I'm
actually interested in in my life and how I see my future. I literally
want to live in a home in the suburbs with my family. I want
an in groundpool. I want this peaceful home for not only me, but
for my children. I want to live in an area where, yeah,
maybe I could go to a golf course, or yeah I could go do
hot grow walks, or I could be eating healthy, I could be taking
care of myself. But I have enough time in my day to spend time
taking care of myself and my family, cooking, do the things that really
make me feel great. And what I used to do when I was younger
was okay. I would see on the internet what it means to roam decide
your life, or like, what does it look like to have your dream
life? And people would be like, oh, no, it means like
going on luxury trips, traveling all over Europe, or living luxury or having
cars or whatever. And it's not to say that those things aren't bad,
and maybe that feels really good to your nervous system. But I was chasing
all of these things based off of what I thought that I needed, based
off of ego, based off of what everyone else was telling me, and
I wasn't even really tapping into the feeling because realistically, I don't feel at
home. I don't actually feel that safe when I think about having all of
these luxury things, which I'm not saying luxury things don't make you feel good
sometimes. What I've noticed is these luxury things really just feed the ego,
and although it does feel good sometimes, it doesn't give me that feeling of
waking up in the morning when I'm like eleven years old and the birds are
chirping and it doesn't really matter what my room looks like, but I'm feeling
so safe. Maybe I know that I'm going to my sisters during the day
and we're just gonna have fun and we're gonna like relax and whatever it is.
You know, those things don't really tap into my most deepest inner child
that really is wanting that. And I also don't want to say that people
who do romantize their lives online aren't doing things that feel good to them,
because they absolutely might. But again, does going to the flower market really
hit the same way as going to a beautiful home in the suburbs and relaxing
by the pool. To me, it doesn't really do it for me,
And that's totally fine. But I'm trying to build a life where I can
tap and go closer to that feeling of what it feels like when I'm living
in the suburban house with the pool. So what I like to try to
do is tap more into that energy and get excited for that and focus more
on how it is that I'm going to get closer to living that life versus
again just trying to do what everyone else is doing, but on top of
that, not judging whatever it is that I do want, because when we
have that masculine critical part of us, sometimes we're like, Okay, well,
that's not what everyone else is saying that you need to do. When
it comes to romanticizing your life is making a mood board of how you're going
to be living in the suburbs, or the music that you should be listening
to, or the outfits that you should be wearing, or the walks that
you should be going on, or whatever it is, and then you kind
of throw away your desires or what really feels good to you, and then
you try and do what everyone else is doing, and then that doesn't really
work, and then you're not really romanticizing your life. You're not really kind
of in the moment, and like, I've gotten to a point in my
life where I no longer judge myself for what it is that I want and
what it is that makes me feel good. There were so many times,
even when it comes to just like health and fitness, how many times I
tried to force myself to do certain workouts or wake up at certain times,
or do certain meditations at this time or that time, or eat these meals
because this is why other people are telling me, and it just it didn't
work. I wasn't enjoying anything. It didn't feel good to me, and
that was because I wasn't doing things that were actually unique to me. I
wasn't doing things that are actually feeding my inner child. I wasn't doing things
that I really deep down wanted. So I think there needs to be this
huge piece of allowing ourselves to feel how we want to feel and do whatever
it is that we want to do this summer to make ourselves feel the absolute
best. We don't need to judge ourselves because we like to go on hawk
roll walks, or because we want to spend money on a workout outfit and
look cute, and everyone's saying, oh, you don't need to do that,
or when you do want to go to the flower market, even though
let's say Alicia is saying, m she doesn't really do that to romanatize her
life. Like literally, it does not matter what it is that you want
to do, big or small, do what you want, do what feels
good to you. So here's some questions that you could ask yourself if you're
trying to cultivate this life that you don't want to run away from that feels
good to you. And realistically you can say, yeah, I romanticize my
life, and this is how. So you can ask yourself, I could
design my life in any which way. There's literally no limitations. How would
it look, what would I be doing, and how would I be feeling?
And you have to be aware of when your ego is going to want
to pop up and try to tell you, okay, no, this is
how your life is going to look based off of what everyone else is telling
you how it should look. Take that ego aside and truly tap into what
would feel the best to you And for me personally, I've been saying this,
I want to live in the suburbs, I want to have a beautiful
home, I want to have the backyard. I want to have the children.
I want to have all of these things. Like obviously there's more details
within that instead of just having children in a husband and a house, like
most people want that, but there's a certain mental image that I have of
where it's going to be and how it's going to look. And the thing
is, like, there's a million different homes in a million different countries.
You could be living in a high rise. You could be live in a
penthouse. You could be living in a one bedroom, you could be living
in a mansion. You could whatever it is. But like, go to
where it actually feels right for you. Because I remember when I was younger,
I would when I would like think about questions like this, Okay,
if I could have like my dream life, it would be I would tell
myself, like I wanted this huge mansion, like the way that Drake's house
looks. I wanted a bunch of cars. I wanted a luxury bag,
like all of these things. But now I'm like, no, I mean
it'd be cool to have that, right. It's not to say that I
wouldn't depending on how much money I have and whatever, but that's not really
what's what I know is going to make me feel the absolute best. I
just want a beautiful home that I can make my own. I want to
live in an area where I feel connected to people and there's community, but
you know, there's some space. Another thing you can ask yourself is what
did I want in childhood that I didn't get? Now? This is good
to ask yourself because when you start taking action in your life, hopefully these
actions can bring you more to the things that you didn't get in your childhood.
Do you want more freedom to be able to do what you want in
your life because maybe you had parents who just didn't let you do any of
that. Do you want to have more money so that you can go and
see your friends, or you can go travel, or you can go do
a hobby that you've really been wanting to do that you can't do because maybe
you just never had the money to do it. Understanding some of the things
that you didn't get and taking action as an adult to try and get you
closer to those things will be very helpful and will make you feel very happy.
Another question would be what memories do I always go back to when I
think about the times that I was the happiest and you can always just think
about you know, when you think about your childhood, where do you usually
go back to? Now, some of us might go back to the negative,
but like, let's think about the positive. And for me, said,
it was always going back to my sister's house. It was summer in
general, and I always have this memory of when it was summer and I
was with my mom and we'd always go to the library and look through books
and things like that. Like I didn't really even know what we were looking
at, Like obviously knew we were at the library looking for books, but
it just felt so calm and peaceful because obviously I was around my mom,
but just being in the library and it was so big and it was so
spacious. Like that's another thing. Every single time I see libraries in movies
and or I go to an actual library, it just cultivates this energy of
how I used to feel when I was with my mom doing those things,
and so I am never not inclined to go to a library. And honestly,
one of the things that I want in my home is a library because
I want that feeling again. And once you get a little bit clear on
what actually makes you feel, really good being outside, being inside, being
at the library, not being at the library, being around nature, being
around friends, being around body who really loves you, spending time dancing wellsten
to certain music, different genres of music, spending your time cleaning, painting,
organizing, whatever it is that makes you feel really good in the moment.
You need to start doing those things. You need to start implementing little
aspects of those things into your life. We don't have to wait until we
actually have the suburban home to cultivate a space where we feel like, yes,
you know, I'm not only getting towards that dream home, but I
can feel and emulate that same essence of how I felt when I was a
child. Do you know how many times that I have cultivated that feeling as
much as I possibly could in my own room, over and over and over
again. And I continue to do that with every environment that I'm in until
I actually get that home. I have been doing that for years. The
memory that I think about being at my sister's house was when I was like,
I don't even know, let's say I was like eight years old.
I have lived. I think this place that I live in now is my
fifteenth place that I've lived in. Maybe even sixteen, I lived in many,
many different homes because my parents didn't have a lot of money. We
were either getting evicted or we had to move here or there. You know,
when my mom was going through her stuff with her addictions, and oh
my dad passed away. There was so much moving. And of course when
I went to school, college, back and forth, whatever, I had
many different spaces, and I made sure every single space that I lived in
made me feel as much as home as I possibly could. I made sure
that my room was organized the best way that I could. It was spacious,
it felt luxury, It felt like literally the essence of when I went
to my sister's home. Even though I didn't have the pool, even though
I didn't have the huge mansion or even the staircase where I was playing with
my sister, I made sure to cultivate a space that made me feel super
safe the same way that I did in that home. And even when it
comes to the backyard in the pool, I never had that obviously, but
every time that I would go out, I would go to parks, I
would go to even friends houses that maybe had a pool or a nice backyard.
I would really jump on any opportunity to bring me closer to what it
felt like being at my sister's house. And there's so many times, especially
in the summer right where you know, maybe I'm not around an in ground
pool or at a big home, but I feel that same feeling. When
I go onto my balcony and I'm journaling in the morning, I can feel
the essence of the safety and the suburban lifestyle, let's say, or when
I go on hawk Grow walks like it brings me back to this feeling of
what I felt when I was safe in childhood, and I want to continue
to do that. So really trying to have little habits and things in your
life that will bring you back to that feeling. It doesn't need to be
the exact same thing. And that's what we think. And it's interesting.
I'm gonna tell you a quick story. I go to a women's circle every
Monday. One of the girls in the group, she had asked the facilitator,
that's not the right word to say, but facilitator and I'm not saying
mysmatic therapist because there was another girl there that was leading. It was actually
it was our women circle, but we were getting trained and we were talking
about being a woman and feminine energy and womanhood and sisterhood and all that kind
of stuff, so it was kind of more of a training thing. Anyways,
she had asked her a question because she was kind of struggling with something
in her life. And I'm not going to go into details, but she
was just basically saying, how she has this. She works in a certain
industry, and although she loves the industry and she's working and she's grinding and
whatever, she has this desire in this poll to want to live on a
farm, Like she just wants to escape and just go into the abyss and
just live on a farm and have her land and be with her family and
like whatever. And she's struggling with that because she has this desire, but
she's like in the city and she's hustling and she's bustling, and like what
you know, that's a big jump. And honestly, in my head,
I was kind of answering the question for her, not in a place of
being like, oh, I know the answer, but I was thinking,
Okay, if my friend came to me and had the same issue, Like
what would the advice that I would give her, What would it be.
And then obviously I heard the facilitator and what she told her, and it
was actually the same thing that I would have said. So she basically said,
you know, it's so good to tap into the fact that you really
have this desire, right but you want to go in that direction. You
don't need to have the farm right now in order for you to experience your
desire in life, Like you don't have to literally pick up and move across
the world. What are some things in your immediate life right now that you
can start bringing in that will make you feel a little bit closer to that
desire? And she had asked her, are there things that you're doing in
your life that kind of emulate that same vibe of like living on a farm
and just like being in nature and whatever. And she's like, well,
yeah, actually, like you know, I make sure that I do a
lot of planting in my little like space that I have. I have a
little bit of a garden. I make sure to go outside and go to
parks and things like that. And when she was listening those things out,
I think she didn't even realize that she was actually cultivating that life, but
she was so focused on like it has to be me being on the farm
in order for me to actually feel like I'm living out my desire. And
she didn't realize that actually she kind of was, you know, even though
she didn't have the full blown life yet, she did have so many pockets
of her time in her life where she was connecting to nature and she was
gardening, and she was kind of cultivating this life that she eventually wants to
be in. And I think sometimes we don't even see what's in front of
our face, and we can't even be in the present moment enough to see
that the thing that we are desperately wanting is right in front of our faces.
And if you think about it from a terms of like a law of
attraction standpoint, and you don't If you don't believe that, then that's fine.
But I think you really need to become that change if you're going to
can create more opportunities and more space in your life to actually get the suburban
life or go live on the farm, or go travel like you're not really
going to manaf us all these opportunities, and you're not even gonna be able
to see ways in which you can create that life when you are not focused
on what's in front of you. You're not grateful for what's in front of
you. You're not being in the present moment and exuding the feeling of being
safe, of being at peace, of feeling like you were when you were
at your sister's house at the pool party. So it's just to remind yourself.
When we're bringing it back to like romanticizing your life, these little things
that you can do, these tweaks in your day that will make you feel
more like you did when you first experience that feeling when you were in childhood,
or even if you've never experienced that feeling before. Again, we desire
to have the home, we desire to have the family, to have the
connection with people. But we can really start to feel that right now if
we decide instead of being like, oh, it's too far, I can't
have it. I don't even know how it's going to happen, like it's
just it's you know, and then we kind of like crush ourselves and we
really go into this all or nothing thinking and bringing it back to thinking about
how I used to look at romanticizing my life and creating my dream life.
It was so hard for me to even do that because I was stripping any
sort of joy out of my life. I would tell myself, I need
to feel a one hundred percent like I one hundred percent have this thing or
nothing at all. And that's really not how you get things in your life.
You need to kind of start small. So essentially, what I'm saying
is in your adult life, start to tap into things that make you feel
good. And thinking about even last summer, some of the things that made
me feel really good was spiritual morning routines, getting on my balcony really early
in the morning and journaling, watching a lot of spiritual videos, watching videos
on feminine energy. I was super into that. I love that and it
just made me feel so good. Like, tap into the things, the
content, the people, the photos, wherever you're spending your time, what
makes you feel good. And again, sometimes we like to strip that and
be like, oh no, we can't have this, Like I shouldn't be
sitting here right now I'm watching these videos even though it literally feels so good
for you just to sit down and watch a video somebody talking about a topic
that you love. But do it and stop telling yourself that you can't or
that you should or that it's wrong or that it's not enough, or even
if it's like scrolling on Pinterest or taking cute photos of yourself when you're on
a hot girl walk, go do that. So I ask you guys on
the Glow Up Secrets podcast Instagram, which makes sure that you're following that,
because that's where I'm going to get all your submissions. Now, I ask
you guys what you do to romanticize your life. So I wanted to read
out some of the things just for you guys to get maybe some inspo,
because you know, there is definitely room for you to get inspiration and motivation
from people because maybe you've never tried. Maybe you don't know like what's going
to make you feel good, right, And that's why it's so good to
just try these things. Bringing it back to the girl wanting to live on
a farm, well maybe you don't actually really need to go live on a
farm or travel across the whole entire world and live this whole entire life.
Really there's little things in your day that you could actually implement which would make
you feel so much more at ease and safe. And you realize, like,
there's no rush, I don't need to live on the farm or Okay,
yeah, maybe I still want to do that, but it doesn't need
to be right now. I'm fine, and that's how I live my life.
You know, the times where I did not like my reality, I
made sure to create a space in my home that felt safe to me so
I didn't feel like I was longing or that the life that I really wanted
was so far away, because realistically I was living it just then in that
moment, even when around me it was not safe. Okay, so someone
said, I go for slow walks only by myself with homemade coffee when it's
sunny. I love the homemade coffee. Something about making your coffee at home
really hits, especially in the summertime. Someone said, yoga candles while studying,
taking music from TV shows and listening to that while I do stuff aka
being the main character. I love that. Getting dressed up and having a
wonderful breakfast at a cute cafe, savoring every bite. Yes see, it's
about really indulging and being in that present moment when it comes to romanticizing your
life. I buy flowers for myself, take myself on solo dates, be
creative, art slash decorating another one is read with some tea in a wood
wick candle in the background, crackling love that. I love how you guys
are pointing out different sounds or tastes or smells, just like the pleasures of
life, because that's really what it is. It's the feminine. It's the
indulging in the present moment. It's being here now. I love that.
Someone said making everything cute, like my robe, my mug, journal outfit,
etc. Yeah, like even those small things. Having a cute mug
and just deciding like this is my cute mug and this is the thing that
it's going to help me feel like I'm safe and i am sound and I'm
living my best life. Then do that. Sometimes I'll listen to podcasters that
I really love on YouTube and just have my coffee and I just feel so
at peace. And it doesn't take much. I don't need to have a
bunch of money in my bank account or to be having this luxury lifestyle or
to be looking cute. I just literally simply need my homemade coffee and a
video on a topic that I'm obsessed with. Someone said, coffee and a
hat girl walk getting myself lunch somewhere new and hot girl drives. I love
that. Someone said journaling with incense and cards every morning. That's something I
do in the morning. And now I don't need to set an alarm because
I know that I'm gonna wake up early. But I also work for myself,
so I don't need to do that. So I have my phone in
the living room and I just leave it there, and in the morning,
I take my time getting up and open up my blinds, and I will
set an incense candle, and I will start journaling, and I will have
If I'm not on the balcony, I'll open my door for a moment and
just smell the fresh air and just have such a peaceful morning routine. And
again, it just it brings me back to the summer mornings. Someone said
making a playlist to set the mood. Someone said acting like housework is fun.
I love that. I actually really like cleaning and organizing. That was
something that I love to do. When I was younger as well. I
used to go to my sister's house and she had the messiest room of all
time, and every time I would go over, I would clean her room.
I just loved it, and she obviously loved me for doing it,
and so did her mom. We had the same dad, different mom,
by the way, And yeah, I just found so much peace and calm
in organizing and cleaning, and so I love to do that as well.
And that's why another reason why I just want to I love homes. I
love homes, I love organizing, I love decor. Someone said, hawk
grow walks, watching the sunrise, drinking green juices, going outside often.
Someone said, remind myself that working hard towards something I love is an act
of self care. Love that writing down traits I wish to embody and rewrite
them as though I'm in an inspiring narrative. I love that I do that
a lot. Like in the morning when I'm writing, I write as if
I already am this person. So I already have the life that I want.
I already have the success. I have the love for myself. I
have my home, I have my whatever. Someone said, read outdoors.
I definitely wanted to start doing so much more reading outdoors. Lately. I've
been listening to my audio books again and just doing hawk Grow walks, because
you know, I go to the gym a lot, so I listen to
lot of music. Then, so I'm kind of over doing the walks with
listening to music. Ah, though sometimes I'll do that if I'm in the
mood, but to slow things down. Oh my gosh, I just I
freaking love hawk row walks. Kelly one of my girlies, she said,
she sits in the sun, eyes closed, face up, trying to breathe
in sunlight, listen to music I love without being concerned if others like it
too. This, this, like this. It comes back to the whole
messages that I've been saying for romanticizing your life. It's going to be so
unique to you. Start doing what feels good to you, stop caring about
what everyone else is saying. And you know, you want to say that
you're going on a hawk o walk. Say it. You like the fact
that you call it a hawk ro walk, call it a freaking hawk ro
walk. If you don't like the term hawk row walk, and you just
you're somebody who's like, oh my god, it's just a walk, then
be that too, you know, like literally, just be yourself. Do
whatever feels good to you. Someone said, paint, play, piano journal,
swim. Oh my gosh, I cannot wait to swim. I love
swimming. Someone said, my housing, wherever I live, may it be
a humble cottage or a city condo, I try to tap into the vibe.
I really like that. Like, you know, it doesn't matter where
you're living or what you're doing, you are really being in that present.
And that's something that I try to do as well. You know, sometimes
we're so fixated on having our space a certain way right, or we're fixated
on what we really want in our lives and we don't have it yet that
we don't really enjoy the present moment. And now, no matter where I
go, I make everything a vibe. Like I was saying in my summer
video, how I'm going to the Stampede, Calgary Stampede in July, and
I'm making it a whole entire thing, like I'm making it my whole identity
seriously to be this like coastal cowgirl, and I'm just gonna enjoy it,
and I'm gonna get outfits me and my friend guys, and you know what,
I know, you guys are gonna judge me, but my friend and
I my best friend enjoy and i'd we're going and we literally may a deck
of all of our outfits that are going to make every single day. I
pulled outfits on Pinterest and we also came up with the theme of the name
of each day. Oh my gosh, and you guys will definitely see it
because I'm gonna make a vlog of some sort. So yeah. Anyways,
it's just making things fun, like just be fun. Someone said, drink
my water out of my wine glass. Currently a pregnant mommy, I love
that, And congratulations on being perregnant. I love that. I'll definitely do
that when I'm pregnant, because what the heck? Someone said, Notice the
pretty things, birds, butterflies, sun rays, good coffee. Yes,
again, bringing it back to the present moment where we're at right now.
Sometimes we get so in our heads and we want to have this picture perfect
life, but really, like, look at what's in front of you.
Somebody else said, I ponder over how everywhere I turn, everything is there
to serve me and make my life easier. To elaborate, she said,
for example, a light bulb was there to give me electricity. A pen
is there to give me the ability to write if I want to. Curtains
are there to give me privacy. Literally everything on this planet is here to
make me sorry, to make my life more smooth and provide me with something.
Even the painful things, they're all lessons and you can't lose this.
We're just gonna We're gonna end it on that, because that is my mindset
with everything, like truly, and I think that it just allows you to
be to live a more peaceful life and to be happy when you realize that
everything here is for you and it's not against you, and even the hard
things in life, you know, it's hard to just pull out all the
wisdom and the lessons from those things, and you don't even need to do
that at that moment if you're going through something hard, but you know,
to empower yourself and make you feel better. In my personal opinion, the
best way to look at things is everything is here for me. Because when
I start thinking about, oh, this is against me, or I can't
get things, or this is there's not a reason why this is happening,
it makes me feel very disempowered, and then I stay in this negative energy
and I stay in this unhappiness and I don't want to be unhappy. I
don't want to not enjoy my life. And there has been so many mindset
shifts that I had to make throughout my years. But there was a time
where I would stress about everything, I worry about everything, and I would
constantly think that everything was against me. And I don't ever want to feel
like that again. And it's going to be up to us, Like it
is our mindset shifts that allow us to be in the present moment. It
is us deciding to do certain things in our lives to romanticize our lives and
enjoy it that is going to allow us to feel good. It starts with
you, ain't nobody going to feel good until you decide to feel good.
Sometimes what we do is, again we wait for something outside of ourselves to
make us feel good. And although that can be definitely a part of life,
especially when it comes to relationships or people in your life, Like yes,
but we need to learn how to feel good even in the moment when
we don't have the suburban lifestyle yet, or you know, we don't have
the ideal environment that we're living in yet, or maybe it's winter and we
can't do all of the hawk girl walks that we want, or maybe the
person that we really want to be with is not with us right now,
or they're acting weird or they're not whatever. It's so important that we learn
how to sustain that feeling of happiness and peace within ourselves, and it starts
with these little things. It starts with bringing ourselves back to those memories where
we feel the best, or being aware of when we go out in the
world and what feels good to us and what doesn't feel good to us,
and to do more of what feels good to us. And on top of
that, stop judging ourselves for when we want to feel good right, because
we still have that maybe critical mindset from whoever or whatever, wherever the hell
we pick that up that might be judging us or telling ourselves, no,
it's wrong, we need to do it this way, or romanticizing your life
looks like this and not like that, or just in general you stripping all
joy and happiness out of your life, like we can no longer do that,
and you know it will take practice, for sure, But the small
little things allow yourself to enjoy and have fun and life gets to be easy.
That's the thing, you know. I think there's a lot of guilt
and a lot of thoughts that we have towards actually allowing ourselves to be happy,
and we've been conditioned sometimes through society that things need to be hard and
they can't be easy, and that's just not the reality I live in.
And I used to and I tried to create abundance in my life and relationships
and money, opportunities, everything that I wanted my life from this place of
burning myself out of place of me telling myself that I had to work extremely
hard and life had to be hard for me to get these things, And
it's just conditioning, it's just limiting beliefs. It seriously is it's just the
story that you're telling yourself. It doesn't need to be hard. And you
know what, maybe I should talk about that next week, but let me
know if you would like me to talk about that. I think that we
need to talk again about the stories that we tell ourselves and how that can
be so limiting and how we perceive things to be what they're not based off
of what we've learned in the past. But that creates more crappy situations in
our lives sometimes. And it's going to be up to you to change your
perspective of how you can receive things in your life, how you can get
things in your life. If you think that everything is going to be hard
and it's gonna be a lot of discipline, and it's gonna be boring,
and it's gonna be this like burnout situation and that's the only way you're going
to get what you want in your life, then that's going to be your
reality. If you think that things come to you easy, that it gets
to be easy, that you're easy to love, that love is easy to
have, that money is easy to have, that there's opportunities everywhere, there's
abundance everywhere, you're gonna start getting things just as easy. And that's the
life that I live. So let me know if you guys want to talk
about that again, just message me on the podcast channel or even on my
Instagram. But yeah, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode and I'll talk
to you guys in the next one. Bye.