WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.960 Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Licia 2 00:00:02.960 --> 00:00:06.240 Goggin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.280 --> 00:00:09.240 your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:09.240 --> 00:00:13.560 best version of yourself. I feel like I haven't talked on the podcast for 5 00:00:13.599 --> 00:00:16.559 so long and it's only been a week, but I am happy to be 6 00:00:16.640 --> 00:00:20.519 back as always. How is everyone doing? Happy summer. I know it's 7 00:00:20.559 --> 00:00:23.280 not summer, but to me, in my brain and my reality, it 8 00:00:23.359 --> 00:00:29.800 is summer. And it's so funny because I made a changing your Identity for 9 00:00:29.920 --> 00:00:32.960 Summer video on my YouTube channel, which go check that out if you have 10 00:00:33.039 --> 00:00:37.439 not. I'll definitely talk about it though a few or last week, and 11 00:00:38.079 --> 00:00:42.759 I opened up the video by saying, if I'm not mistaken, summer starts 12 00:00:42.840 --> 00:00:48.320 May twentieth, and no it doesn't, it starts June twenty. First, 13 00:00:48.920 --> 00:00:51.679 I don't know why I said that. I actually don't think I realized that 14 00:00:51.719 --> 00:00:55.799 I was saying May instead of June, because realistically, when I recorded that 15 00:00:55.880 --> 00:00:59.520 video, it was like May twelfth or something I don't know or something, 16 00:00:59.600 --> 00:01:02.640 So it's girl, summer is not in a week. But anyways, listen, 17 00:01:02.759 --> 00:01:07.159 my mind is in summer, just as most of ours are because the 18 00:01:07.239 --> 00:01:11.079 sun is out. And listen, I know it's not summer everywhere. A 19 00:01:11.120 --> 00:01:14.040 lot of you guys let me know that in the comments, and honestly, 20 00:01:14.040 --> 00:01:19.040 I really totally forgot that some places technically it's winter, Like in Australia, 21 00:01:19.040 --> 00:01:23.799 you guys are going into winter, although it's not like you guys really experienced 22 00:01:23.920 --> 00:01:26.840 very cold weather. But anyways, and or where if you live in a 23 00:01:26.920 --> 00:01:30.799 very hot climate, like if you're in Florida, if you're freaking in India 24 00:01:30.920 --> 00:01:34.640 or something, it is going to be hot no matter what. And it's 25 00:01:34.640 --> 00:01:38.120 actually just going to get hotter. So you guys were telling me how it's 26 00:01:38.159 --> 00:01:42.000 so interesting to hear all of the things that I'm planning on doing this summer, 27 00:01:42.159 --> 00:01:47.560 and we all are that are maybe like in the Northern Hemisphere in terms 28 00:01:47.599 --> 00:01:49.239 of going outside and like getting more sun, and it's going to be hot, 29 00:01:49.280 --> 00:01:53.599 and we love it and we're welcoming it. Yet some of you guys 30 00:01:53.599 --> 00:01:57.480 are like, I'm about to go inside because it's about to be too hot. 31 00:01:57.680 --> 00:02:01.000 It's giving Texas summer. So I'm here for it regardless. Whatever it 32 00:02:01.040 --> 00:02:04.040 is that you guys are going to be doing or not doing. But I 33 00:02:04.040 --> 00:02:07.480 also just love the fact that there's so many of you all around the world 34 00:02:07.480 --> 00:02:10.879 listening to this podcast and we're all on the same vibe. We all have 35 00:02:10.960 --> 00:02:15.599 different stories, we're all going through different circumstances in our lives, but the 36 00:02:15.759 --> 00:02:20.360 collective is we're here, We're ready to go up in the bestiver to ourselves, 37 00:02:20.560 --> 00:02:23.800 and we need to talk about how we are going to romanticize our summer. 38 00:02:23.960 --> 00:02:28.840 And it's funny because I remember when romanticizing your life started to first become 39 00:02:28.840 --> 00:02:35.039 a trend online on YouTube and on TikTok even Pinterest. When people started using 40 00:02:35.080 --> 00:02:39.919 the word romanticize, I didn't really understand it, and I wasn't really in 41 00:02:40.039 --> 00:02:46.000 that niche in a way like it looked cool, like when girlies were like 42 00:02:46.280 --> 00:02:52.639 going out on hot girl walks and taking cute photos of themselves and buying flowers 43 00:02:52.680 --> 00:02:55.560 at the market. That was deemed romanticizing your life. Like I didn't really 44 00:02:57.039 --> 00:03:01.120 think that it was for me. But fast forward to this point in my 45 00:03:01.159 --> 00:03:07.280 life, even last year, but recently and thinking about the video that I 46 00:03:07.360 --> 00:03:10.919 made the changing your Identity this summer, I'm really in the vibe of truly 47 00:03:12.080 --> 00:03:15.159 not only understanding what it means to romanticize your life, but I'm so absolutely 48 00:03:15.199 --> 00:03:20.039 here for it, and I think it's so freaking important and we need to 49 00:03:20.080 --> 00:03:23.840 start doing it. But I want to talk about what it means to me 50 00:03:23.240 --> 00:03:29.840 to romanticize your life and how you can do it for your own life in 51 00:03:29.879 --> 00:03:35.080 a way that is very unique to you, so that you're not just doing 52 00:03:35.120 --> 00:03:38.479 what everyone else is doing because you see it on Pinterest or you see it 53 00:03:38.479 --> 00:03:40.159 on TikTok, to the point where maybe you do it for a little bit, 54 00:03:40.199 --> 00:03:45.080 but then it doesn't really stick, and you know, not every moment 55 00:03:45.120 --> 00:03:46.680 of our lives are we going to be able to romanticize our lives. But 56 00:03:46.960 --> 00:03:52.080 realistically, to me, romanticizing your life is creating a life that you no 57 00:03:52.080 --> 00:03:54.639 longer want to run away from. It's creating a life of ease, of 58 00:03:54.800 --> 00:04:00.000 peace, of joy, of finding beauty and the things that resonate to you, 59 00:04:00.199 --> 00:04:03.439 that feel good to you. And to really think back about why I 60 00:04:03.439 --> 00:04:09.719 didn't really resonate with this whole trend of romanticizing your life was for one, 61 00:04:10.120 --> 00:04:14.800 I didn't really have the life that I saw everyone else living when they said 62 00:04:14.840 --> 00:04:17.120 that that's what it means to romanticize your life. So I felt like I 63 00:04:17.120 --> 00:04:21.439 couldn't really like relate. But on top of that, I have always been 64 00:04:21.480 --> 00:04:27.399 somebody in my life who is completely stripped all joy out of my life because 65 00:04:27.519 --> 00:04:30.199 I've been in a scarcity mindset. I've been stressed, I've been hyper masculine, 66 00:04:30.279 --> 00:04:33.959 I've been basically in survival mode. I'm no longer in that now, 67 00:04:34.000 --> 00:04:41.240 but that's how my life was. I didn't really have time to romanticize my 68 00:04:41.319 --> 00:04:45.839 life, let alone. Even if I did and I tried, it wouldn't 69 00:04:45.839 --> 00:04:49.079 even really stick because I would just judge myself. I would I would tell 70 00:04:49.120 --> 00:04:51.160 myself, like, no, you can't do this. This is not your 71 00:04:51.199 --> 00:04:56.560 life. You're not allowed to like you know what is a life of romanticizing 72 00:04:56.560 --> 00:05:00.399 and just being happy and enjoying your life aka really just resting in that feminine 73 00:05:00.480 --> 00:05:02.560 energy, right, and feminine energy. It's expressed in a million different ways, 74 00:05:02.600 --> 00:05:05.800 But if we're going to think about romanticizing and loving our lives, there 75 00:05:05.959 --> 00:05:11.120 is a component of that feminine energy within in which I was never able to 76 00:05:11.120 --> 00:05:15.720 tap into all of my life. And so even when I did try to 77 00:05:15.199 --> 00:05:19.800 romanticize my life without even maybe putting the word onto it, it didn't really 78 00:05:19.800 --> 00:05:24.639 stick. And on top of that, I tried to romanticize my life based 79 00:05:24.680 --> 00:05:28.160 off of what other people were doing. So you know, the girlies on 80 00:05:28.199 --> 00:05:31.959 Pinterest who are having paint days or they're going to the farmer's market, or 81 00:05:32.000 --> 00:05:38.680 they're getting flowers or they have like really cute photos or whatever they're doing. 82 00:05:39.279 --> 00:05:43.560 I tried to emulate that life because that's what I thought it was, but 83 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:47.680 it didn't really feel good and it felt like I was like trying too hard, 84 00:05:48.240 --> 00:05:53.360 and I feel like that's not how it's actually supposed to be when you're 85 00:05:53.639 --> 00:05:56.319 romanticizing your life. So on one hand, it was hard for me to 86 00:05:56.319 --> 00:05:59.959 stick to anything because I was trying to pick up habits, routines, lifestyle 87 00:06:00.240 --> 00:06:02.480 from people who are just showing me on social media. Which is also fine. 88 00:06:02.560 --> 00:06:05.040 We can get inspired and motivated by people. I do too, but 89 00:06:05.079 --> 00:06:08.519 I do in such a different way now, So there was that component. 90 00:06:08.560 --> 00:06:12.879 But also I never even really let myself actually be in the present, because 91 00:06:12.879 --> 00:06:16.079 you know what, you can definitely look on the outside like you're romanticizing your 92 00:06:16.120 --> 00:06:18.879 life and you're going on hawk roll walks and you're living your best life and 93 00:06:18.959 --> 00:06:23.319 you're going to the flower market and you're doing all these things, but in 94 00:06:23.319 --> 00:06:27.319 your head, you're not really in the present. You're doing things for show, 95 00:06:27.480 --> 00:06:30.040 you're doing things just for the photo. You're doing things just because everyone 96 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:33.600 else told you this is what it means to romanticize your life. And so 97 00:06:34.279 --> 00:06:39.240 for me, that's what I struggled with too. So it never really stuck 98 00:06:39.279 --> 00:06:44.680 for me because I wasn't actually romantizing my life, and I didn't understand how 99 00:06:44.720 --> 00:06:46.600 it could feel so good because it wasn't feeling good to me. But now 100 00:06:46.680 --> 00:06:50.240 I can really see what it means to romanticize my life and actually be in 101 00:06:50.240 --> 00:06:54.519 that present moment and not be doing it just because I've told myself I have 102 00:06:54.560 --> 00:06:59.720 to romanticize my life and be able to actually feel into the energy of this 103 00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:04.720 happiness, enjoy and the presence that comes from actually being this energy of somebody 104 00:07:04.759 --> 00:07:11.160 who emanticizes their lives. So what I've come to realize is this romanticizing your 105 00:07:11.240 --> 00:07:16.040 life is literally going to be so unique to you. And furthermore, the 106 00:07:16.160 --> 00:07:20.639 way you're going to find what works for you and how to truly cultivate this 107 00:07:20.759 --> 00:07:26.480 happiness and just romantizing your life is to figure out what feels good to you 108 00:07:26.560 --> 00:07:30.079 and your nervous system, and on top of that, what feels good to 109 00:07:30.120 --> 00:07:33.160 your inner child. Now, something else that I've been thinking about in my 110 00:07:33.279 --> 00:07:38.800 past years being on a healing journey glowing up into the best version of myself 111 00:07:39.600 --> 00:07:45.879 is realizing that this game of life that we live, essentially what we are 112 00:07:45.959 --> 00:07:49.920 doing on these journeys is we are trying to essentially meet our inner child's needs 113 00:07:49.959 --> 00:07:55.360 that did not get met in childhood. We're learning how to love ourselves when 114 00:07:55.399 --> 00:07:59.160 maybe there wasn't somebody around us that knew how to love us. We are 115 00:07:59.240 --> 00:08:03.879 learning to show up for ourselves and build healthier relationships because we didn't get that 116 00:08:03.959 --> 00:08:07.000 before. We are learning how to upgrade our lives and be better with our 117 00:08:07.040 --> 00:08:11.560 finances and create a life of our dreams when it comes to financial stability because 118 00:08:11.600 --> 00:08:16.360 we most likely did not get that in childhood. Essentially, all the things 119 00:08:16.360 --> 00:08:20.439 that we seek in our lives are the opposite of what we've gotten handed. 120 00:08:20.519 --> 00:08:24.920 So to me or mendicizing my life really means meeting my inner child's needs, 121 00:08:26.079 --> 00:08:31.000 making sure that I'm feeling safe and secure and loved and happiness in my day 122 00:08:31.000 --> 00:08:33.320 to day life because there was so many experiences in my life where I was 123 00:08:33.399 --> 00:08:37.759 not feeling safe, I was not feeling happy, I was not feeling abundant. 124 00:08:37.840 --> 00:08:43.639 And I think sometimes what we do is we try to meet our needs 125 00:08:43.679 --> 00:08:46.159 in ways that other people have told us that we need to meet our needs. 126 00:08:46.200 --> 00:08:50.840 So let's say we didn't experience a lot of safety in our lives. 127 00:08:52.000 --> 00:08:54.919 If you go on social media, there's going to be a million people telling 128 00:08:54.960 --> 00:08:58.480 you how to feel more safe in your life, whether that be through luxury 129 00:08:58.519 --> 00:09:03.200 items, whether that be through not working, whether that be through finding a 130 00:09:03.320 --> 00:09:07.480 husband, whether that be through simply accepting yourself and loving yourself. Like, 131 00:09:07.519 --> 00:09:11.559 there's a million things, and it's not really to deem any of these right 132 00:09:11.679 --> 00:09:15.279 or wrong, but we need to tap into to find out what really works 133 00:09:15.320 --> 00:09:18.960 for us. Is what feels the best to us? Does learning how to 134 00:09:18.000 --> 00:09:22.759 become the main character and put our attention on ourselves and love ourselves and accept 135 00:09:22.799 --> 00:09:26.120 ourselves. Does that feel good to us? Is that the thing that's going 136 00:09:26.159 --> 00:09:28.960 to help us heal? Is that the thing that's going to really meet our 137 00:09:28.000 --> 00:09:33.279 inner child's needs? Yes, or maybe no. Is finding a healthy, 138 00:09:33.360 --> 00:09:37.759 secure relationship and getting a husband and having children really going to meet some of 139 00:09:37.759 --> 00:09:41.360 our inner child's needs. Because maybe our inner child was very lonely when she 140 00:09:41.440 --> 00:09:45.000 was younger, she didn't have love in her life, she didn't have a 141 00:09:45.039 --> 00:09:48.240 big family, whatever it is. Then yeah, maybe that is what's going 142 00:09:48.320 --> 00:09:52.519 to make her feel safe and happy and loved in her life but also home. 143 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:54.399 Maybe it's not right, but people on the internet will tell you, 144 00:09:54.440 --> 00:09:58.000 okay, like this is how you're gonna get happiness or how you're gonna whatever. 145 00:09:58.080 --> 00:10:00.000 But it's going to be so important. This is something that I've really 146 00:10:00.480 --> 00:10:03.919 is what feels the best to me, and whatever feels good to me, 147 00:10:05.039 --> 00:10:07.799 I need to go in that direction, and I need to add more of 148 00:10:07.799 --> 00:10:11.679 those things into my life so that I can cultivate that feeling of family, 149 00:10:11.759 --> 00:10:16.759 that feeling of love within myself, that feeling of financial security, whatever it 150 00:10:16.840 --> 00:10:20.519 is. So the other morning I was doing some journaling and I was thinking 151 00:10:20.559 --> 00:10:26.519 about this idea of romanticizing your life and how realistically it's all about doing things 152 00:10:26.519 --> 00:10:28.759 that make you feel good. Okay, well, how do you really know 153 00:10:30.159 --> 00:10:31.679 what is going to make you feel good? And for me, I first 154 00:10:31.679 --> 00:10:35.759 started with really exploring the feelings that I wanted to feel in my life, 155 00:10:35.799 --> 00:10:39.720 which was I want to feel safe. I want to feel happy, I 156 00:10:39.759 --> 00:10:43.480 want to feel joy. I want to feel like you know, those mornings 157 00:10:43.600 --> 00:10:48.720 in summer when you're a young child and you wake up and the birds are 158 00:10:48.799 --> 00:10:52.360 chirping and the sun is out and it's just warm and it's breezy, and 159 00:10:52.840 --> 00:10:56.159 you ain't got no responsibilities, but just like maybe I don't know, going 160 00:10:56.159 --> 00:10:58.840 on Tumbler or going on a blog or like going out with your friends. 161 00:11:00.039 --> 00:11:03.039 At that point in my life, it would definitely Tumbler, But you know, 162 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:07.799 like that feeling of just easiness and just there's nothing, there's nothing to 163 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:11.559 worry about. That's the feeling that I love. And when I think about 164 00:11:11.600 --> 00:11:18.200 that feeling or feel into it, there's always usually some sort of memories that 165 00:11:18.240 --> 00:11:20.279 are connected to that. So, like I said, my mind goes instantly 166 00:11:20.320 --> 00:11:26.080 to summer mornings when I was younger, other things that I go to for 167 00:11:26.240 --> 00:11:28.279 me personally, and this is going to be very personal to you, But 168 00:11:28.320 --> 00:11:33.120 every time I feel into this energy of feeling safe and calm and just happy 169 00:11:33.159 --> 00:11:37.360 and like there's no stress, my mind goes to living in the suburbs. 170 00:11:37.080 --> 00:11:43.200 My mind goes to my siblings house back in the day. And I have 171 00:11:43.279 --> 00:11:46.000 half sisters and a brother by the way, if anyone did not know, 172 00:11:46.879 --> 00:11:52.639 so we didn't live in the same house. And my sister and my brother 173 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:56.159 I have a few more sisters, but they have the same mom. And 174 00:11:56.480 --> 00:12:00.639 they had a very big home and it was so beautiful, full and it 175 00:12:00.679 --> 00:12:03.559 was like in the suburbs, and they had an in ground pool and we 176 00:12:03.559 --> 00:12:05.360 would always go over there and swim, and my brother, he was on 177 00:12:05.440 --> 00:12:09.200 soccer team, so they would always have like soccer parties and whatever, and 178 00:12:09.240 --> 00:12:13.120 it was just it always felt like home to me. I always felt safe. 179 00:12:13.120 --> 00:12:18.039 I always felt like time was just the time didn't exist. Me and 180 00:12:18.039 --> 00:12:20.279 my sister would go up on the top of their stairs. It was like 181 00:12:20.320 --> 00:12:24.799 a huge staircase, and every single time I came over, we would get 182 00:12:24.799 --> 00:12:28.120 into a sleeping bag and we would like ride the stairs all the way down 183 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:31.240 and we would do that like literally at ten million times, and I just 184 00:12:31.279 --> 00:12:33.159 look forward to it all the time. And it was just such an escape 185 00:12:33.159 --> 00:12:39.320 for me. I felt so at home, so peaceful and safe. And 186 00:12:39.360 --> 00:12:41.919 when I think about the home that they lived in and the in ground pool 187 00:12:43.200 --> 00:12:46.159 in the beautiful backyard, another thing that it reminds me of is when I 188 00:12:46.279 --> 00:12:50.799 used to work at a private golf club, and although I was working there 189 00:12:50.799 --> 00:12:56.759 and I wasn't actually somebody who golfed, that lifestyle kind of emulated that same 190 00:12:56.799 --> 00:13:01.200 feeling of home, of safety, and it always ends being when the sun 191 00:13:01.399 --> 00:13:07.080 is out and you see the grass and the weather is perfect and there's no 192 00:13:07.200 --> 00:13:09.600 stress. It also reminds me of hawk grow walks. When you have the 193 00:13:09.639 --> 00:13:15.159 most comfy outfit, you're listening to an audiobook or you're listening to a podcast 194 00:13:15.200 --> 00:13:18.600 that really gets you in the right mood. You have some water, you're 195 00:13:18.639 --> 00:13:22.440 eating healthy, you're taking knaps, maybe you're talking to somebody who really makes 196 00:13:22.440 --> 00:13:26.879 you feel at home in terms of a relationship, and there's just like realness 197 00:13:26.879 --> 00:13:30.360 in this relationship. There's no stress, there's no anxiety, Like all of 198 00:13:30.360 --> 00:13:35.320 those things really feel so good to my nervous system, and it really does 199 00:13:35.480 --> 00:13:39.440 meet my inner child's needs of just feeling safe and at home. So when 200 00:13:39.480 --> 00:13:46.399 I reflect on this feeling of safety and peace and where my mind goes into 201 00:13:46.440 --> 00:13:48.759 these memories, it really actually correlates to a lot of the things that I'm 202 00:13:48.799 --> 00:13:54.799 actually interested in in my life and how I see my future. I literally 203 00:13:54.799 --> 00:13:58.559 want to live in a home in the suburbs with my family. I want 204 00:13:58.559 --> 00:14:03.000 an in groundpool. I want this peaceful home for not only me, but 205 00:14:03.159 --> 00:14:05.080 for my children. I want to live in an area where, yeah, 206 00:14:05.200 --> 00:14:07.360 maybe I could go to a golf course, or yeah I could go do 207 00:14:07.440 --> 00:14:11.720 hot grow walks, or I could be eating healthy, I could be taking 208 00:14:11.759 --> 00:14:15.360 care of myself. But I have enough time in my day to spend time 209 00:14:15.559 --> 00:14:18.240 taking care of myself and my family, cooking, do the things that really 210 00:14:18.279 --> 00:14:22.759 make me feel great. And what I used to do when I was younger 211 00:14:22.000 --> 00:14:24.639 was okay. I would see on the internet what it means to roam decide 212 00:14:24.639 --> 00:14:28.080 your life, or like, what does it look like to have your dream 213 00:14:28.120 --> 00:14:30.200 life? And people would be like, oh, no, it means like 214 00:14:30.440 --> 00:14:35.000 going on luxury trips, traveling all over Europe, or living luxury or having 215 00:14:35.000 --> 00:14:37.480 cars or whatever. And it's not to say that those things aren't bad, 216 00:14:37.480 --> 00:14:39.960 and maybe that feels really good to your nervous system. But I was chasing 217 00:14:41.000 --> 00:14:43.879 all of these things based off of what I thought that I needed, based 218 00:14:43.879 --> 00:14:46.759 off of ego, based off of what everyone else was telling me, and 219 00:14:46.799 --> 00:14:52.000 I wasn't even really tapping into the feeling because realistically, I don't feel at 220 00:14:52.039 --> 00:14:56.440 home. I don't actually feel that safe when I think about having all of 221 00:14:56.440 --> 00:15:00.759 these luxury things, which I'm not saying luxury things don't make you feel good 222 00:15:00.960 --> 00:15:05.799 sometimes. What I've noticed is these luxury things really just feed the ego, 223 00:15:05.320 --> 00:15:11.120 and although it does feel good sometimes, it doesn't give me that feeling of 224 00:15:11.159 --> 00:15:13.840 waking up in the morning when I'm like eleven years old and the birds are 225 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:18.480 chirping and it doesn't really matter what my room looks like, but I'm feeling 226 00:15:18.519 --> 00:15:20.639 so safe. Maybe I know that I'm going to my sisters during the day 227 00:15:20.679 --> 00:15:24.360 and we're just gonna have fun and we're gonna like relax and whatever it is. 228 00:15:24.919 --> 00:15:31.519 You know, those things don't really tap into my most deepest inner child 229 00:15:31.600 --> 00:15:35.399 that really is wanting that. And I also don't want to say that people 230 00:15:35.399 --> 00:15:39.559 who do romantize their lives online aren't doing things that feel good to them, 231 00:15:39.559 --> 00:15:45.600 because they absolutely might. But again, does going to the flower market really 232 00:15:45.840 --> 00:15:50.320 hit the same way as going to a beautiful home in the suburbs and relaxing 233 00:15:50.320 --> 00:15:52.759 by the pool. To me, it doesn't really do it for me, 234 00:15:54.039 --> 00:15:58.399 And that's totally fine. But I'm trying to build a life where I can 235 00:15:58.440 --> 00:16:02.519 tap and go closer to that feeling of what it feels like when I'm living 236 00:16:02.639 --> 00:16:06.000 in the suburban house with the pool. So what I like to try to 237 00:16:06.080 --> 00:16:11.039 do is tap more into that energy and get excited for that and focus more 238 00:16:11.080 --> 00:16:15.159 on how it is that I'm going to get closer to living that life versus 239 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:18.679 again just trying to do what everyone else is doing, but on top of 240 00:16:18.679 --> 00:16:22.600 that, not judging whatever it is that I do want, because when we 241 00:16:22.679 --> 00:16:26.440 have that masculine critical part of us, sometimes we're like, Okay, well, 242 00:16:26.600 --> 00:16:30.559 that's not what everyone else is saying that you need to do. When 243 00:16:30.559 --> 00:16:33.279 it comes to romanticizing your life is making a mood board of how you're going 244 00:16:33.320 --> 00:16:36.960 to be living in the suburbs, or the music that you should be listening 245 00:16:36.960 --> 00:16:40.320 to, or the outfits that you should be wearing, or the walks that 246 00:16:40.360 --> 00:16:41.759 you should be going on, or whatever it is, and then you kind 247 00:16:41.759 --> 00:16:45.519 of throw away your desires or what really feels good to you, and then 248 00:16:45.559 --> 00:16:48.720 you try and do what everyone else is doing, and then that doesn't really 249 00:16:48.720 --> 00:16:51.600 work, and then you're not really romanticizing your life. You're not really kind 250 00:16:51.600 --> 00:16:53.080 of in the moment, and like, I've gotten to a point in my 251 00:16:53.120 --> 00:16:56.759 life where I no longer judge myself for what it is that I want and 252 00:16:56.799 --> 00:17:00.799 what it is that makes me feel good. There were so many times, 253 00:17:00.840 --> 00:17:03.039 even when it comes to just like health and fitness, how many times I 254 00:17:03.160 --> 00:17:08.359 tried to force myself to do certain workouts or wake up at certain times, 255 00:17:08.519 --> 00:17:14.599 or do certain meditations at this time or that time, or eat these meals 256 00:17:14.680 --> 00:17:17.839 because this is why other people are telling me, and it just it didn't 257 00:17:17.880 --> 00:17:21.359 work. I wasn't enjoying anything. It didn't feel good to me, and 258 00:17:21.400 --> 00:17:25.480 that was because I wasn't doing things that were actually unique to me. I 259 00:17:25.519 --> 00:17:29.559 wasn't doing things that are actually feeding my inner child. I wasn't doing things 260 00:17:29.640 --> 00:17:33.559 that I really deep down wanted. So I think there needs to be this 261 00:17:33.680 --> 00:17:41.640 huge piece of allowing ourselves to feel how we want to feel and do whatever 262 00:17:41.759 --> 00:17:45.599 it is that we want to do this summer to make ourselves feel the absolute 263 00:17:45.599 --> 00:17:49.519 best. We don't need to judge ourselves because we like to go on hawk 264 00:17:49.599 --> 00:17:53.200 roll walks, or because we want to spend money on a workout outfit and 265 00:17:53.279 --> 00:17:56.799 look cute, and everyone's saying, oh, you don't need to do that, 266 00:17:56.160 --> 00:18:00.519 or when you do want to go to the flower market, even though 267 00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:03.720 let's say Alicia is saying, m she doesn't really do that to romanatize her 268 00:18:03.759 --> 00:18:06.559 life. Like literally, it does not matter what it is that you want 269 00:18:06.559 --> 00:18:11.119 to do, big or small, do what you want, do what feels 270 00:18:11.200 --> 00:18:15.160 good to you. So here's some questions that you could ask yourself if you're 271 00:18:15.200 --> 00:18:18.799 trying to cultivate this life that you don't want to run away from that feels 272 00:18:18.839 --> 00:18:22.519 good to you. And realistically you can say, yeah, I romanticize my 273 00:18:22.559 --> 00:18:26.240 life, and this is how. So you can ask yourself, I could 274 00:18:26.279 --> 00:18:30.400 design my life in any which way. There's literally no limitations. How would 275 00:18:30.400 --> 00:18:33.279 it look, what would I be doing, and how would I be feeling? 276 00:18:33.359 --> 00:18:34.359 And you have to be aware of when your ego is going to want 277 00:18:34.359 --> 00:18:37.720 to pop up and try to tell you, okay, no, this is 278 00:18:37.720 --> 00:18:41.720 how your life is going to look based off of what everyone else is telling 279 00:18:41.720 --> 00:18:45.839 you how it should look. Take that ego aside and truly tap into what 280 00:18:45.880 --> 00:18:49.079 would feel the best to you And for me personally, I've been saying this, 281 00:18:49.519 --> 00:18:52.160 I want to live in the suburbs, I want to have a beautiful 282 00:18:52.160 --> 00:18:55.720 home, I want to have the backyard. I want to have the children. 283 00:18:55.759 --> 00:18:56.920 I want to have all of these things. Like obviously there's more details 284 00:18:56.960 --> 00:19:00.000 within that instead of just having children in a husband and a house, like 285 00:19:00.039 --> 00:19:06.400 most people want that, but there's a certain mental image that I have of 286 00:19:06.480 --> 00:19:08.680 where it's going to be and how it's going to look. And the thing 287 00:19:08.799 --> 00:19:11.960 is, like, there's a million different homes in a million different countries. 288 00:19:12.519 --> 00:19:15.440 You could be living in a high rise. You could be live in a 289 00:19:15.440 --> 00:19:18.039 penthouse. You could be living in a one bedroom, you could be living 290 00:19:18.079 --> 00:19:19.920 in a mansion. You could whatever it is. But like, go to 291 00:19:21.000 --> 00:19:25.799 where it actually feels right for you. Because I remember when I was younger, 292 00:19:25.839 --> 00:19:27.799 I would when I would like think about questions like this, Okay, 293 00:19:27.839 --> 00:19:30.079 if I could have like my dream life, it would be I would tell 294 00:19:30.079 --> 00:19:33.920 myself, like I wanted this huge mansion, like the way that Drake's house 295 00:19:33.960 --> 00:19:37.720 looks. I wanted a bunch of cars. I wanted a luxury bag, 296 00:19:37.799 --> 00:19:41.000 like all of these things. But now I'm like, no, I mean 297 00:19:41.039 --> 00:19:42.799 it'd be cool to have that, right. It's not to say that I 298 00:19:42.799 --> 00:19:48.279 wouldn't depending on how much money I have and whatever, but that's not really 299 00:19:48.359 --> 00:19:51.960 what's what I know is going to make me feel the absolute best. I 300 00:19:52.039 --> 00:19:55.359 just want a beautiful home that I can make my own. I want to 301 00:19:55.359 --> 00:19:57.880 live in an area where I feel connected to people and there's community, but 302 00:19:57.960 --> 00:20:02.680 you know, there's some space. Another thing you can ask yourself is what 303 00:20:02.839 --> 00:20:06.640 did I want in childhood that I didn't get? Now? This is good 304 00:20:06.680 --> 00:20:11.119 to ask yourself because when you start taking action in your life, hopefully these 305 00:20:11.160 --> 00:20:15.720 actions can bring you more to the things that you didn't get in your childhood. 306 00:20:15.880 --> 00:20:18.680 Do you want more freedom to be able to do what you want in 307 00:20:18.680 --> 00:20:22.200 your life because maybe you had parents who just didn't let you do any of 308 00:20:22.240 --> 00:20:26.000 that. Do you want to have more money so that you can go and 309 00:20:26.039 --> 00:20:27.920 see your friends, or you can go travel, or you can go do 310 00:20:29.000 --> 00:20:32.400 a hobby that you've really been wanting to do that you can't do because maybe 311 00:20:32.440 --> 00:20:34.599 you just never had the money to do it. Understanding some of the things 312 00:20:34.640 --> 00:20:40.079 that you didn't get and taking action as an adult to try and get you 313 00:20:40.119 --> 00:20:42.839 closer to those things will be very helpful and will make you feel very happy. 314 00:20:42.960 --> 00:20:48.400 Another question would be what memories do I always go back to when I 315 00:20:48.440 --> 00:20:51.799 think about the times that I was the happiest and you can always just think 316 00:20:51.839 --> 00:20:53.559 about you know, when you think about your childhood, where do you usually 317 00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:56.319 go back to? Now, some of us might go back to the negative, 318 00:20:56.359 --> 00:21:00.480 but like, let's think about the positive. And for me, said, 319 00:21:00.720 --> 00:21:03.680 it was always going back to my sister's house. It was summer in 320 00:21:03.759 --> 00:21:08.519 general, and I always have this memory of when it was summer and I 321 00:21:08.559 --> 00:21:12.720 was with my mom and we'd always go to the library and look through books 322 00:21:12.720 --> 00:21:15.920 and things like that. Like I didn't really even know what we were looking 323 00:21:15.960 --> 00:21:18.440 at, Like obviously knew we were at the library looking for books, but 324 00:21:18.799 --> 00:21:22.400 it just felt so calm and peaceful because obviously I was around my mom, 325 00:21:22.480 --> 00:21:26.960 but just being in the library and it was so big and it was so 326 00:21:26.000 --> 00:21:33.480 spacious. Like that's another thing. Every single time I see libraries in movies 327 00:21:33.519 --> 00:21:37.440 and or I go to an actual library, it just cultivates this energy of 328 00:21:37.480 --> 00:21:40.039 how I used to feel when I was with my mom doing those things, 329 00:21:40.319 --> 00:21:42.880 and so I am never not inclined to go to a library. And honestly, 330 00:21:44.119 --> 00:21:45.680 one of the things that I want in my home is a library because 331 00:21:45.720 --> 00:21:49.279 I want that feeling again. And once you get a little bit clear on 332 00:21:49.319 --> 00:21:53.519 what actually makes you feel, really good being outside, being inside, being 333 00:21:53.559 --> 00:21:57.200 at the library, not being at the library, being around nature, being 334 00:21:57.240 --> 00:22:02.480 around friends, being around body who really loves you, spending time dancing wellsten 335 00:22:02.559 --> 00:22:06.880 to certain music, different genres of music, spending your time cleaning, painting, 336 00:22:07.079 --> 00:22:11.319 organizing, whatever it is that makes you feel really good in the moment. 337 00:22:11.680 --> 00:22:15.839 You need to start doing those things. You need to start implementing little 338 00:22:15.960 --> 00:22:19.200 aspects of those things into your life. We don't have to wait until we 339 00:22:19.319 --> 00:22:25.960 actually have the suburban home to cultivate a space where we feel like, yes, 340 00:22:26.119 --> 00:22:30.480 you know, I'm not only getting towards that dream home, but I 341 00:22:30.519 --> 00:22:33.839 can feel and emulate that same essence of how I felt when I was a 342 00:22:33.920 --> 00:22:37.839 child. Do you know how many times that I have cultivated that feeling as 343 00:22:37.920 --> 00:22:41.599 much as I possibly could in my own room, over and over and over 344 00:22:41.640 --> 00:22:45.559 again. And I continue to do that with every environment that I'm in until 345 00:22:45.599 --> 00:22:49.319 I actually get that home. I have been doing that for years. The 346 00:22:49.440 --> 00:22:53.079 memory that I think about being at my sister's house was when I was like, 347 00:22:53.440 --> 00:22:56.759 I don't even know, let's say I was like eight years old. 348 00:22:57.200 --> 00:23:00.759 I have lived. I think this place that I live in now is my 349 00:23:00.880 --> 00:23:06.920 fifteenth place that I've lived in. Maybe even sixteen, I lived in many, 350 00:23:06.960 --> 00:23:11.000 many different homes because my parents didn't have a lot of money. We 351 00:23:11.000 --> 00:23:14.920 were either getting evicted or we had to move here or there. You know, 352 00:23:14.960 --> 00:23:17.720 when my mom was going through her stuff with her addictions, and oh 353 00:23:17.799 --> 00:23:19.640 my dad passed away. There was so much moving. And of course when 354 00:23:19.680 --> 00:23:23.200 I went to school, college, back and forth, whatever, I had 355 00:23:23.240 --> 00:23:27.440 many different spaces, and I made sure every single space that I lived in 356 00:23:27.799 --> 00:23:32.200 made me feel as much as home as I possibly could. I made sure 357 00:23:32.240 --> 00:23:34.720 that my room was organized the best way that I could. It was spacious, 358 00:23:34.799 --> 00:23:38.759 it felt luxury, It felt like literally the essence of when I went 359 00:23:38.799 --> 00:23:42.039 to my sister's home. Even though I didn't have the pool, even though 360 00:23:42.039 --> 00:23:45.559 I didn't have the huge mansion or even the staircase where I was playing with 361 00:23:45.599 --> 00:23:51.559 my sister, I made sure to cultivate a space that made me feel super 362 00:23:51.640 --> 00:23:53.640 safe the same way that I did in that home. And even when it 363 00:23:53.640 --> 00:23:57.079 comes to the backyard in the pool, I never had that obviously, but 364 00:23:57.519 --> 00:24:00.400 every time that I would go out, I would go to parks, I 365 00:24:00.440 --> 00:24:06.480 would go to even friends houses that maybe had a pool or a nice backyard. 366 00:24:06.559 --> 00:24:10.640 I would really jump on any opportunity to bring me closer to what it 367 00:24:10.680 --> 00:24:15.079 felt like being at my sister's house. And there's so many times, especially 368 00:24:15.079 --> 00:24:18.559 in the summer right where you know, maybe I'm not around an in ground 369 00:24:18.599 --> 00:24:23.079 pool or at a big home, but I feel that same feeling. When 370 00:24:23.079 --> 00:24:26.160 I go onto my balcony and I'm journaling in the morning, I can feel 371 00:24:26.200 --> 00:24:32.079 the essence of the safety and the suburban lifestyle, let's say, or when 372 00:24:32.079 --> 00:24:36.279 I go on hawk Grow walks like it brings me back to this feeling of 373 00:24:36.400 --> 00:24:40.119 what I felt when I was safe in childhood, and I want to continue 374 00:24:40.119 --> 00:24:44.519 to do that. So really trying to have little habits and things in your 375 00:24:44.559 --> 00:24:48.720 life that will bring you back to that feeling. It doesn't need to be 376 00:24:48.759 --> 00:24:51.119 the exact same thing. And that's what we think. And it's interesting. 377 00:24:51.119 --> 00:24:53.440 I'm gonna tell you a quick story. I go to a women's circle every 378 00:24:53.440 --> 00:24:59.079 Monday. One of the girls in the group, she had asked the facilitator, 379 00:24:59.119 --> 00:25:02.160 that's not the right word to say, but facilitator and I'm not saying 380 00:25:02.200 --> 00:25:06.079 mysmatic therapist because there was another girl there that was leading. It was actually 381 00:25:06.440 --> 00:25:10.160 it was our women circle, but we were getting trained and we were talking 382 00:25:10.200 --> 00:25:14.039 about being a woman and feminine energy and womanhood and sisterhood and all that kind 383 00:25:14.039 --> 00:25:15.720 of stuff, so it was kind of more of a training thing. Anyways, 384 00:25:15.839 --> 00:25:21.680 she had asked her a question because she was kind of struggling with something 385 00:25:21.680 --> 00:25:22.559 in her life. And I'm not going to go into details, but she 386 00:25:22.640 --> 00:25:26.759 was just basically saying, how she has this. She works in a certain 387 00:25:26.759 --> 00:25:30.759 industry, and although she loves the industry and she's working and she's grinding and 388 00:25:30.799 --> 00:25:34.839 whatever, she has this desire in this poll to want to live on a 389 00:25:34.880 --> 00:25:40.079 farm, Like she just wants to escape and just go into the abyss and 390 00:25:40.119 --> 00:25:42.640 just live on a farm and have her land and be with her family and 391 00:25:42.720 --> 00:25:47.640 like whatever. And she's struggling with that because she has this desire, but 392 00:25:47.680 --> 00:25:49.839 she's like in the city and she's hustling and she's bustling, and like what 393 00:25:49.960 --> 00:25:53.160 you know, that's a big jump. And honestly, in my head, 394 00:25:53.279 --> 00:25:56.160 I was kind of answering the question for her, not in a place of 395 00:25:56.240 --> 00:25:59.039 being like, oh, I know the answer, but I was thinking, 396 00:25:59.039 --> 00:26:02.960 Okay, if my friend came to me and had the same issue, Like 397 00:26:03.000 --> 00:26:04.359 what would the advice that I would give her, What would it be. 398 00:26:04.640 --> 00:26:08.480 And then obviously I heard the facilitator and what she told her, and it 399 00:26:08.519 --> 00:26:11.799 was actually the same thing that I would have said. So she basically said, 400 00:26:12.200 --> 00:26:15.920 you know, it's so good to tap into the fact that you really 401 00:26:15.960 --> 00:26:19.000 have this desire, right but you want to go in that direction. You 402 00:26:19.000 --> 00:26:22.960 don't need to have the farm right now in order for you to experience your 403 00:26:23.119 --> 00:26:27.880 desire in life, Like you don't have to literally pick up and move across 404 00:26:27.920 --> 00:26:32.839 the world. What are some things in your immediate life right now that you 405 00:26:32.880 --> 00:26:37.240 can start bringing in that will make you feel a little bit closer to that 406 00:26:37.319 --> 00:26:40.279 desire? And she had asked her, are there things that you're doing in 407 00:26:40.319 --> 00:26:44.799 your life that kind of emulate that same vibe of like living on a farm 408 00:26:44.799 --> 00:26:47.160 and just like being in nature and whatever. And she's like, well, 409 00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:49.480 yeah, actually, like you know, I make sure that I do a 410 00:26:49.480 --> 00:26:52.240 lot of planting in my little like space that I have. I have a 411 00:26:52.279 --> 00:26:56.079 little bit of a garden. I make sure to go outside and go to 412 00:26:56.119 --> 00:26:59.960 parks and things like that. And when she was listening those things out, 413 00:27:00.680 --> 00:27:06.440 I think she didn't even realize that she was actually cultivating that life, but 414 00:27:06.599 --> 00:27:10.920 she was so focused on like it has to be me being on the farm 415 00:27:10.960 --> 00:27:14.200 in order for me to actually feel like I'm living out my desire. And 416 00:27:14.240 --> 00:27:17.680 she didn't realize that actually she kind of was, you know, even though 417 00:27:17.680 --> 00:27:21.880 she didn't have the full blown life yet, she did have so many pockets 418 00:27:21.880 --> 00:27:25.359 of her time in her life where she was connecting to nature and she was 419 00:27:25.440 --> 00:27:30.119 gardening, and she was kind of cultivating this life that she eventually wants to 420 00:27:30.160 --> 00:27:33.319 be in. And I think sometimes we don't even see what's in front of 421 00:27:33.319 --> 00:27:36.640 our face, and we can't even be in the present moment enough to see 422 00:27:36.759 --> 00:27:40.640 that the thing that we are desperately wanting is right in front of our faces. 423 00:27:40.920 --> 00:27:42.200 And if you think about it from a terms of like a law of 424 00:27:42.240 --> 00:27:45.240 attraction standpoint, and you don't If you don't believe that, then that's fine. 425 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:48.000 But I think you really need to become that change if you're going to 426 00:27:48.039 --> 00:27:55.240 can create more opportunities and more space in your life to actually get the suburban 427 00:27:55.279 --> 00:27:59.319 life or go live on the farm, or go travel like you're not really 428 00:27:59.359 --> 00:28:02.400 going to manaf us all these opportunities, and you're not even gonna be able 429 00:28:02.400 --> 00:28:04.799 to see ways in which you can create that life when you are not focused 430 00:28:04.799 --> 00:28:07.119 on what's in front of you. You're not grateful for what's in front of 431 00:28:07.119 --> 00:28:11.359 you. You're not being in the present moment and exuding the feeling of being 432 00:28:11.440 --> 00:28:15.799 safe, of being at peace, of feeling like you were when you were 433 00:28:15.839 --> 00:28:19.240 at your sister's house at the pool party. So it's just to remind yourself. 434 00:28:19.279 --> 00:28:22.839 When we're bringing it back to like romanticizing your life, these little things 435 00:28:22.839 --> 00:28:26.640 that you can do, these tweaks in your day that will make you feel 436 00:28:26.720 --> 00:28:30.119 more like you did when you first experience that feeling when you were in childhood, 437 00:28:30.319 --> 00:28:36.680 or even if you've never experienced that feeling before. Again, we desire 438 00:28:36.799 --> 00:28:40.000 to have the home, we desire to have the family, to have the 439 00:28:40.039 --> 00:28:44.160 connection with people. But we can really start to feel that right now if 440 00:28:44.200 --> 00:28:47.559 we decide instead of being like, oh, it's too far, I can't 441 00:28:47.599 --> 00:28:49.920 have it. I don't even know how it's going to happen, like it's 442 00:28:49.920 --> 00:28:53.519 just it's you know, and then we kind of like crush ourselves and we 443 00:28:53.559 --> 00:28:59.039 really go into this all or nothing thinking and bringing it back to thinking about 444 00:28:59.039 --> 00:29:02.079 how I used to look at romanticizing my life and creating my dream life. 445 00:29:02.160 --> 00:29:04.599 It was so hard for me to even do that because I was stripping any 446 00:29:04.599 --> 00:29:07.799 sort of joy out of my life. I would tell myself, I need 447 00:29:07.799 --> 00:29:10.599 to feel a one hundred percent like I one hundred percent have this thing or 448 00:29:10.640 --> 00:29:14.559 nothing at all. And that's really not how you get things in your life. 449 00:29:14.720 --> 00:29:17.400 You need to kind of start small. So essentially, what I'm saying 450 00:29:17.599 --> 00:29:21.160 is in your adult life, start to tap into things that make you feel 451 00:29:21.160 --> 00:29:23.279 good. And thinking about even last summer, some of the things that made 452 00:29:23.279 --> 00:29:27.400 me feel really good was spiritual morning routines, getting on my balcony really early 453 00:29:27.440 --> 00:29:32.640 in the morning and journaling, watching a lot of spiritual videos, watching videos 454 00:29:32.640 --> 00:29:36.039 on feminine energy. I was super into that. I love that and it 455 00:29:36.039 --> 00:29:38.440 just made me feel so good. Like, tap into the things, the 456 00:29:38.559 --> 00:29:42.039 content, the people, the photos, wherever you're spending your time, what 457 00:29:42.279 --> 00:29:45.119 makes you feel good. And again, sometimes we like to strip that and 458 00:29:45.160 --> 00:29:48.799 be like, oh no, we can't have this, Like I shouldn't be 459 00:29:48.799 --> 00:29:52.160 sitting here right now I'm watching these videos even though it literally feels so good 460 00:29:52.160 --> 00:29:55.119 for you just to sit down and watch a video somebody talking about a topic 461 00:29:55.160 --> 00:29:59.440 that you love. But do it and stop telling yourself that you can't or 462 00:29:59.480 --> 00:30:02.759 that you should or that it's wrong or that it's not enough, or even 463 00:30:02.799 --> 00:30:06.160 if it's like scrolling on Pinterest or taking cute photos of yourself when you're on 464 00:30:06.160 --> 00:30:08.359 a hot girl walk, go do that. So I ask you guys on 465 00:30:08.400 --> 00:30:12.119 the Glow Up Secrets podcast Instagram, which makes sure that you're following that, 466 00:30:12.240 --> 00:30:17.200 because that's where I'm going to get all your submissions. Now, I ask 467 00:30:17.279 --> 00:30:19.400 you guys what you do to romanticize your life. So I wanted to read 468 00:30:19.400 --> 00:30:22.839 out some of the things just for you guys to get maybe some inspo, 469 00:30:23.000 --> 00:30:27.039 because you know, there is definitely room for you to get inspiration and motivation 470 00:30:27.079 --> 00:30:30.880 from people because maybe you've never tried. Maybe you don't know like what's going 471 00:30:30.920 --> 00:30:33.319 to make you feel good, right, And that's why it's so good to 472 00:30:33.359 --> 00:30:37.079 just try these things. Bringing it back to the girl wanting to live on 473 00:30:37.079 --> 00:30:41.599 a farm, well maybe you don't actually really need to go live on a 474 00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:45.519 farm or travel across the whole entire world and live this whole entire life. 475 00:30:45.680 --> 00:30:49.200 Really there's little things in your day that you could actually implement which would make 476 00:30:49.240 --> 00:30:52.960 you feel so much more at ease and safe. And you realize, like, 477 00:30:53.000 --> 00:30:56.519 there's no rush, I don't need to live on the farm or Okay, 478 00:30:56.599 --> 00:30:57.200 yeah, maybe I still want to do that, but it doesn't need 479 00:30:57.240 --> 00:31:00.119 to be right now. I'm fine, and that's how I live my life. 480 00:31:00.359 --> 00:31:03.839 You know, the times where I did not like my reality, I 481 00:31:03.920 --> 00:31:07.920 made sure to create a space in my home that felt safe to me so 482 00:31:08.200 --> 00:31:14.279 I didn't feel like I was longing or that the life that I really wanted 483 00:31:14.359 --> 00:31:17.880 was so far away, because realistically I was living it just then in that 484 00:31:18.480 --> 00:31:22.000 moment, even when around me it was not safe. Okay, so someone 485 00:31:22.039 --> 00:31:25.480 said, I go for slow walks only by myself with homemade coffee when it's 486 00:31:25.519 --> 00:31:30.480 sunny. I love the homemade coffee. Something about making your coffee at home 487 00:31:30.599 --> 00:31:33.160 really hits, especially in the summertime. Someone said, yoga candles while studying, 488 00:31:33.319 --> 00:31:37.160 taking music from TV shows and listening to that while I do stuff aka 489 00:31:37.240 --> 00:31:41.079 being the main character. I love that. Getting dressed up and having a 490 00:31:41.119 --> 00:31:47.480 wonderful breakfast at a cute cafe, savoring every bite. Yes see, it's 491 00:31:47.519 --> 00:31:51.759 about really indulging and being in that present moment when it comes to romanticizing your 492 00:31:51.799 --> 00:31:53.759 life. I buy flowers for myself, take myself on solo dates, be 493 00:31:53.880 --> 00:31:59.960 creative, art slash decorating another one is read with some tea in a wood 494 00:32:00.079 --> 00:32:02.559 wick candle in the background, crackling love that. I love how you guys 495 00:32:02.640 --> 00:32:08.279 are pointing out different sounds or tastes or smells, just like the pleasures of 496 00:32:08.279 --> 00:32:10.599 life, because that's really what it is. It's the feminine. It's the 497 00:32:10.799 --> 00:32:15.200 indulging in the present moment. It's being here now. I love that. 498 00:32:15.359 --> 00:32:19.160 Someone said making everything cute, like my robe, my mug, journal outfit, 499 00:32:19.200 --> 00:32:22.960 etc. Yeah, like even those small things. Having a cute mug 500 00:32:22.000 --> 00:32:25.000 and just deciding like this is my cute mug and this is the thing that 501 00:32:25.039 --> 00:32:30.640 it's going to help me feel like I'm safe and i am sound and I'm 502 00:32:30.680 --> 00:32:34.960 living my best life. Then do that. Sometimes I'll listen to podcasters that 503 00:32:35.000 --> 00:32:37.599 I really love on YouTube and just have my coffee and I just feel so 504 00:32:37.720 --> 00:32:40.720 at peace. And it doesn't take much. I don't need to have a 505 00:32:40.759 --> 00:32:45.559 bunch of money in my bank account or to be having this luxury lifestyle or 506 00:32:45.599 --> 00:32:50.519 to be looking cute. I just literally simply need my homemade coffee and a 507 00:32:50.640 --> 00:32:52.559 video on a topic that I'm obsessed with. Someone said, coffee and a 508 00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:59.960 hat girl walk getting myself lunch somewhere new and hot girl drives. I love 509 00:33:00.119 --> 00:33:04.440 that. Someone said journaling with incense and cards every morning. That's something I 510 00:33:04.480 --> 00:33:07.240 do in the morning. And now I don't need to set an alarm because 511 00:33:07.240 --> 00:33:08.720 I know that I'm gonna wake up early. But I also work for myself, 512 00:33:08.759 --> 00:33:12.680 so I don't need to do that. So I have my phone in 513 00:33:12.720 --> 00:33:15.440 the living room and I just leave it there, and in the morning, 514 00:33:15.480 --> 00:33:19.559 I take my time getting up and open up my blinds, and I will 515 00:33:19.640 --> 00:33:22.839 set an incense candle, and I will start journaling, and I will have 516 00:33:22.279 --> 00:33:25.240 If I'm not on the balcony, I'll open my door for a moment and 517 00:33:25.319 --> 00:33:30.079 just smell the fresh air and just have such a peaceful morning routine. And 518 00:33:30.160 --> 00:33:35.440 again, it just it brings me back to the summer mornings. Someone said 519 00:33:35.559 --> 00:33:39.039 making a playlist to set the mood. Someone said acting like housework is fun. 520 00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:45.119 I love that. I actually really like cleaning and organizing. That was 521 00:33:45.200 --> 00:33:46.599 something that I love to do. When I was younger as well. I 522 00:33:46.680 --> 00:33:50.799 used to go to my sister's house and she had the messiest room of all 523 00:33:50.880 --> 00:33:52.880 time, and every time I would go over, I would clean her room. 524 00:33:52.920 --> 00:33:55.400 I just loved it, and she obviously loved me for doing it, 525 00:33:55.440 --> 00:33:59.160 and so did her mom. We had the same dad, different mom, 526 00:33:59.160 --> 00:34:02.839 by the way, And yeah, I just found so much peace and calm 527 00:34:02.880 --> 00:34:07.960 in organizing and cleaning, and so I love to do that as well. 528 00:34:07.960 --> 00:34:10.920 And that's why another reason why I just want to I love homes. I 529 00:34:12.000 --> 00:34:15.400 love homes, I love organizing, I love decor. Someone said, hawk 530 00:34:15.440 --> 00:34:20.519 grow walks, watching the sunrise, drinking green juices, going outside often. 531 00:34:20.800 --> 00:34:24.280 Someone said, remind myself that working hard towards something I love is an act 532 00:34:24.280 --> 00:34:30.159 of self care. Love that writing down traits I wish to embody and rewrite 533 00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:34.559 them as though I'm in an inspiring narrative. I love that I do that 534 00:34:34.599 --> 00:34:37.400 a lot. Like in the morning when I'm writing, I write as if 535 00:34:37.440 --> 00:34:40.679 I already am this person. So I already have the life that I want. 536 00:34:40.760 --> 00:34:45.039 I already have the success. I have the love for myself. I 537 00:34:45.159 --> 00:34:46.960 have my home, I have my whatever. Someone said, read outdoors. 538 00:34:47.000 --> 00:34:51.920 I definitely wanted to start doing so much more reading outdoors. Lately. I've 539 00:34:51.960 --> 00:34:57.159 been listening to my audio books again and just doing hawk Grow walks, because 540 00:34:57.880 --> 00:34:59.960 you know, I go to the gym a lot, so I listen to 541 00:35:00.039 --> 00:35:02.480 lot of music. Then, so I'm kind of over doing the walks with 542 00:35:02.599 --> 00:35:05.599 listening to music. Ah, though sometimes I'll do that if I'm in the 543 00:35:05.639 --> 00:35:08.559 mood, but to slow things down. Oh my gosh, I just I 544 00:35:08.639 --> 00:35:14.000 freaking love hawk row walks. Kelly one of my girlies, she said, 545 00:35:14.440 --> 00:35:16.920 she sits in the sun, eyes closed, face up, trying to breathe 546 00:35:16.920 --> 00:35:22.199 in sunlight, listen to music I love without being concerned if others like it 547 00:35:22.239 --> 00:35:28.239 too. This, this, like this. It comes back to the whole 548 00:35:28.239 --> 00:35:31.239 messages that I've been saying for romanticizing your life. It's going to be so 549 00:35:31.360 --> 00:35:36.639 unique to you. Start doing what feels good to you, stop caring about 550 00:35:36.679 --> 00:35:39.199 what everyone else is saying. And you know, you want to say that 551 00:35:39.199 --> 00:35:42.760 you're going on a hawk o walk. Say it. You like the fact 552 00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:45.559 that you call it a hawk ro walk, call it a freaking hawk ro 553 00:35:45.679 --> 00:35:46.880 walk. If you don't like the term hawk row walk, and you just 554 00:35:47.159 --> 00:35:50.679 you're somebody who's like, oh my god, it's just a walk, then 555 00:35:51.000 --> 00:35:53.079 be that too, you know, like literally, just be yourself. Do 556 00:35:53.159 --> 00:35:58.360 whatever feels good to you. Someone said, paint, play, piano journal, 557 00:35:58.639 --> 00:36:01.639 swim. Oh my gosh, I cannot wait to swim. I love 558 00:36:01.719 --> 00:36:06.679 swimming. Someone said, my housing, wherever I live, may it be 559 00:36:06.719 --> 00:36:09.199 a humble cottage or a city condo, I try to tap into the vibe. 560 00:36:10.000 --> 00:36:14.199 I really like that. Like, you know, it doesn't matter where 561 00:36:14.199 --> 00:36:16.400 you're living or what you're doing, you are really being in that present. 562 00:36:16.440 --> 00:36:21.119 And that's something that I try to do as well. You know, sometimes 563 00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:24.079 we're so fixated on having our space a certain way right, or we're fixated 564 00:36:24.119 --> 00:36:27.400 on what we really want in our lives and we don't have it yet that 565 00:36:27.440 --> 00:36:30.480 we don't really enjoy the present moment. And now, no matter where I 566 00:36:30.519 --> 00:36:35.119 go, I make everything a vibe. Like I was saying in my summer 567 00:36:35.199 --> 00:36:38.960 video, how I'm going to the Stampede, Calgary Stampede in July, and 568 00:36:39.000 --> 00:36:43.440 I'm making it a whole entire thing, like I'm making it my whole identity 569 00:36:43.559 --> 00:36:46.639 seriously to be this like coastal cowgirl, and I'm just gonna enjoy it, 570 00:36:46.679 --> 00:36:51.880 and I'm gonna get outfits me and my friend guys, and you know what, 571 00:36:51.920 --> 00:36:53.559 I know, you guys are gonna judge me, but my friend and 572 00:36:53.599 --> 00:37:00.239 I my best friend enjoy and i'd we're going and we literally may a deck 573 00:37:01.119 --> 00:37:04.920 of all of our outfits that are going to make every single day. I 574 00:37:04.920 --> 00:37:07.960 pulled outfits on Pinterest and we also came up with the theme of the name 575 00:37:08.280 --> 00:37:13.960 of each day. Oh my gosh, and you guys will definitely see it 576 00:37:13.960 --> 00:37:16.800 because I'm gonna make a vlog of some sort. So yeah. Anyways, 577 00:37:16.840 --> 00:37:22.760 it's just making things fun, like just be fun. Someone said, drink 578 00:37:22.840 --> 00:37:25.280 my water out of my wine glass. Currently a pregnant mommy, I love 579 00:37:25.400 --> 00:37:30.480 that, And congratulations on being perregnant. I love that. I'll definitely do 580 00:37:30.519 --> 00:37:36.199 that when I'm pregnant, because what the heck? Someone said, Notice the 581 00:37:36.199 --> 00:37:38.840 pretty things, birds, butterflies, sun rays, good coffee. Yes, 582 00:37:39.000 --> 00:37:43.480 again, bringing it back to the present moment where we're at right now. 583 00:37:43.599 --> 00:37:45.519 Sometimes we get so in our heads and we want to have this picture perfect 584 00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:47.880 life, but really, like, look at what's in front of you. 585 00:37:49.760 --> 00:37:53.480 Somebody else said, I ponder over how everywhere I turn, everything is there 586 00:37:53.519 --> 00:37:57.960 to serve me and make my life easier. To elaborate, she said, 587 00:37:58.280 --> 00:38:00.360 for example, a light bulb was there to give me electricity. A pen 588 00:38:00.519 --> 00:38:04.280 is there to give me the ability to write if I want to. Curtains 589 00:38:04.280 --> 00:38:07.880 are there to give me privacy. Literally everything on this planet is here to 590 00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:12.079 make me sorry, to make my life more smooth and provide me with something. 591 00:38:12.440 --> 00:38:15.760 Even the painful things, they're all lessons and you can't lose this. 592 00:38:15.360 --> 00:38:20.719 We're just gonna We're gonna end it on that, because that is my mindset 593 00:38:20.760 --> 00:38:23.400 with everything, like truly, and I think that it just allows you to 594 00:38:23.480 --> 00:38:29.400 be to live a more peaceful life and to be happy when you realize that 595 00:38:29.719 --> 00:38:32.599 everything here is for you and it's not against you, and even the hard 596 00:38:32.639 --> 00:38:37.119 things in life, you know, it's hard to just pull out all the 597 00:38:37.159 --> 00:38:38.719 wisdom and the lessons from those things, and you don't even need to do 598 00:38:38.760 --> 00:38:43.199 that at that moment if you're going through something hard, but you know, 599 00:38:43.719 --> 00:38:46.639 to empower yourself and make you feel better. In my personal opinion, the 600 00:38:46.679 --> 00:38:51.360 best way to look at things is everything is here for me. Because when 601 00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:53.119 I start thinking about, oh, this is against me, or I can't 602 00:38:53.119 --> 00:38:58.159 get things, or this is there's not a reason why this is happening, 603 00:38:58.400 --> 00:39:00.519 it makes me feel very disempowered, and then I stay in this negative energy 604 00:39:00.559 --> 00:39:06.119 and I stay in this unhappiness and I don't want to be unhappy. I 605 00:39:06.159 --> 00:39:09.760 don't want to not enjoy my life. And there has been so many mindset 606 00:39:09.760 --> 00:39:15.039 shifts that I had to make throughout my years. But there was a time 607 00:39:15.079 --> 00:39:17.719 where I would stress about everything, I worry about everything, and I would 608 00:39:17.719 --> 00:39:23.559 constantly think that everything was against me. And I don't ever want to feel 609 00:39:23.559 --> 00:39:27.559 like that again. And it's going to be up to us, Like it 610 00:39:27.639 --> 00:39:31.440 is our mindset shifts that allow us to be in the present moment. It 611 00:39:31.559 --> 00:39:37.480 is us deciding to do certain things in our lives to romanticize our lives and 612 00:39:37.800 --> 00:39:42.599 enjoy it that is going to allow us to feel good. It starts with 613 00:39:42.679 --> 00:39:45.719 you, ain't nobody going to feel good until you decide to feel good. 614 00:39:45.840 --> 00:39:49.320 Sometimes what we do is, again we wait for something outside of ourselves to 615 00:39:49.400 --> 00:39:52.639 make us feel good. And although that can be definitely a part of life, 616 00:39:52.719 --> 00:39:54.800 especially when it comes to relationships or people in your life, Like yes, 617 00:39:54.920 --> 00:40:00.239 but we need to learn how to feel good even in the moment when 618 00:40:00.280 --> 00:40:02.719 we don't have the suburban lifestyle yet, or you know, we don't have 619 00:40:02.760 --> 00:40:07.400 the ideal environment that we're living in yet, or maybe it's winter and we 620 00:40:07.440 --> 00:40:10.760 can't do all of the hawk girl walks that we want, or maybe the 621 00:40:10.760 --> 00:40:15.159 person that we really want to be with is not with us right now, 622 00:40:15.280 --> 00:40:19.840 or they're acting weird or they're not whatever. It's so important that we learn 623 00:40:19.880 --> 00:40:24.480 how to sustain that feeling of happiness and peace within ourselves, and it starts 624 00:40:24.519 --> 00:40:28.840 with these little things. It starts with bringing ourselves back to those memories where 625 00:40:28.880 --> 00:40:30.719 we feel the best, or being aware of when we go out in the 626 00:40:30.760 --> 00:40:34.519 world and what feels good to us and what doesn't feel good to us, 627 00:40:34.519 --> 00:40:37.199 and to do more of what feels good to us. And on top of 628 00:40:37.239 --> 00:40:40.079 that, stop judging ourselves for when we want to feel good right, because 629 00:40:40.119 --> 00:40:45.679 we still have that maybe critical mindset from whoever or whatever, wherever the hell 630 00:40:45.719 --> 00:40:47.920 we pick that up that might be judging us or telling ourselves, no, 631 00:40:49.039 --> 00:40:52.639 it's wrong, we need to do it this way, or romanticizing your life 632 00:40:52.639 --> 00:40:55.280 looks like this and not like that, or just in general you stripping all 633 00:40:55.360 --> 00:40:59.760 joy and happiness out of your life, like we can no longer do that, 634 00:41:00.239 --> 00:41:02.159 and you know it will take practice, for sure, But the small 635 00:41:02.159 --> 00:41:08.559 little things allow yourself to enjoy and have fun and life gets to be easy. 636 00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:13.800 That's the thing, you know. I think there's a lot of guilt 637 00:41:14.199 --> 00:41:20.239 and a lot of thoughts that we have towards actually allowing ourselves to be happy, 638 00:41:20.800 --> 00:41:27.320 and we've been conditioned sometimes through society that things need to be hard and 639 00:41:27.360 --> 00:41:30.320 they can't be easy, and that's just not the reality I live in. 640 00:41:30.599 --> 00:41:36.599 And I used to and I tried to create abundance in my life and relationships 641 00:41:36.800 --> 00:41:40.639 and money, opportunities, everything that I wanted my life from this place of 642 00:41:40.679 --> 00:41:45.880 burning myself out of place of me telling myself that I had to work extremely 643 00:41:45.880 --> 00:41:49.480 hard and life had to be hard for me to get these things, And 644 00:41:49.519 --> 00:41:52.960 it's just conditioning, it's just limiting beliefs. It seriously is it's just the 645 00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:54.360 story that you're telling yourself. It doesn't need to be hard. And you 646 00:41:54.360 --> 00:41:57.639 know what, maybe I should talk about that next week, but let me 647 00:41:57.679 --> 00:42:00.320 know if you would like me to talk about that. I think that we 648 00:42:00.360 --> 00:42:04.599 need to talk again about the stories that we tell ourselves and how that can 649 00:42:04.639 --> 00:42:08.599 be so limiting and how we perceive things to be what they're not based off 650 00:42:08.639 --> 00:42:15.400 of what we've learned in the past. But that creates more crappy situations in 651 00:42:15.400 --> 00:42:17.679 our lives sometimes. And it's going to be up to you to change your 652 00:42:17.679 --> 00:42:22.239 perspective of how you can receive things in your life, how you can get 653 00:42:22.320 --> 00:42:24.360 things in your life. If you think that everything is going to be hard 654 00:42:24.760 --> 00:42:28.840 and it's gonna be a lot of discipline, and it's gonna be boring, 655 00:42:29.079 --> 00:42:32.559 and it's gonna be this like burnout situation and that's the only way you're going 656 00:42:32.639 --> 00:42:35.559 to get what you want in your life, then that's going to be your 657 00:42:35.599 --> 00:42:38.280 reality. If you think that things come to you easy, that it gets 658 00:42:38.280 --> 00:42:42.280 to be easy, that you're easy to love, that love is easy to 659 00:42:42.320 --> 00:42:45.039 have, that money is easy to have, that there's opportunities everywhere, there's 660 00:42:45.039 --> 00:42:51.960 abundance everywhere, you're gonna start getting things just as easy. And that's the 661 00:42:52.039 --> 00:42:53.519 life that I live. So let me know if you guys want to talk 662 00:42:53.559 --> 00:42:59.559 about that again, just message me on the podcast channel or even on my 663 00:42:59.559 --> 00:43:02.599 Instagram. But yeah, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode and I'll talk 664 00:43:02.599 --> 00:43:05.280 to you guys in the next one. Bye.