WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.200 --> 00:00:07.400 Welcome to speed Round Sunday on the Parenting Roundabout podcast, where we share a 2 00:00:07.440 --> 00:00:11.880 mini episode from our past for your weekend listening pleasure. We'll be back tomorrow 3 00:00:11.919 --> 00:00:18.120 with a brand new episode. Maybe we should move to our speed round and 4 00:00:18.800 --> 00:00:24.440 discuss whether your child has ever accused you of giving him or her the wrong 5 00:00:24.559 --> 00:00:30.839 name and wanting to change it. Did your child accuse you of failing at 6 00:00:30.879 --> 00:00:37.840 the competition of naming? How about you, Terry, Well, I don't 7 00:00:37.840 --> 00:00:43.719 know about disliking her name or or you know, think I failed it naming. 8 00:00:43.799 --> 00:00:48.479 But last night at the dinner table, we had this perfectly entertaining and 9 00:00:48.960 --> 00:00:53.840 harmless discussion about middle names. And usually we spend our whole, our whole 10 00:00:54.119 --> 00:00:57.759 dinner table conversation. I read out celebrities names and my husband tries to guess 11 00:00:57.799 --> 00:01:00.200 how old they are, who's people whose birth day? But this time we 12 00:01:00.240 --> 00:01:06.599 actually had one of those family conversations that you want to have. Everybody's contributing, 13 00:01:06.680 --> 00:01:11.400 everybody's laughing. My daughter said she wondered if someday maybe she could go 14 00:01:11.480 --> 00:01:14.040 by her middle name. She said, her middle name is Catherine. She 15 00:01:14.040 --> 00:01:15.439 said she would like to be Kathy, and I said, sure, you 16 00:01:15.439 --> 00:01:18.719 can be Kathy, And I said, well, I'll go by our middle 17 00:01:18.760 --> 00:01:21.439 name. And my son said, can I be Dave because his middle name 18 00:01:21.480 --> 00:01:23.519 is David. Say, it's sure, Kathy and Dave. And then my 19 00:01:23.599 --> 00:01:26.840 husband and I said our middle names, and so we were talking about, 20 00:01:26.879 --> 00:01:30.439 yeah, we'll be Liz and Lee and Kathy and Dave, and we'll want 21 00:01:30.519 --> 00:01:34.799 trips and what can the dogs middle name? There's a wonderful discussion. So 22 00:01:34.040 --> 00:01:38.760 before bedtime, my son asks me, can I go by my middle name 23 00:01:38.760 --> 00:01:41.159 on Facebook? And I said, yeah, you probably don't want to do 24 00:01:41.200 --> 00:01:44.079 that because people won't know who you are. They'll try to friend people, 25 00:01:44.079 --> 00:01:45.920 they won't know who you are. People will look for you, they won't 26 00:01:45.920 --> 00:01:48.719 know who you are. So he said, okay. This morning I found 27 00:01:48.760 --> 00:01:53.040 out my daughter went on and put her middle name on Facebook. So she 28 00:01:53.079 --> 00:01:57.000 now has her first initial, her middle name, and her last name. 29 00:01:57.040 --> 00:02:00.640 And of course the moment she did this, she's getting all these questions, 30 00:02:00.680 --> 00:02:04.519 who is this person? Why didn't you change your name? And people are 31 00:02:04.519 --> 00:02:07.680 worried do you not like your name? Are you having a crisis about your 32 00:02:07.760 --> 00:02:09.240 name? Why do you want to change your name? So we had to 33 00:02:09.240 --> 00:02:13.719 go on and say we had this funny discussion at dinner. I thought it 34 00:02:13.719 --> 00:02:16.240 would be funny to change my name on faceboot. Oh, well, it 35 00:02:16.479 --> 00:02:21.120 still me. But the thing with Facebook is when you change your name, 36 00:02:21.319 --> 00:02:25.080 you can't change it again for sixty days. So she's stuck with this impetuous 37 00:02:25.159 --> 00:02:29.840 decision for two months. So I did not know that, by which time 38 00:02:29.879 --> 00:02:34.319 everybody will have forgotten what her actual name is. But who are you again? 39 00:02:34.479 --> 00:02:39.319 Why he changes it again? So it's like, apparently she's changed her 40 00:02:39.400 --> 00:02:43.400 name for sixty days. I don't know. We were gonna it was gonna 41 00:02:43.400 --> 00:02:45.560 be a fun little thing we were going to joke about as a family, 42 00:02:45.599 --> 00:02:52.080 but it kind of took a turn. But I do intend to call my 43 00:02:52.080 --> 00:02:58.199 son Dave whenever possible. Now, yeah, Dave for dinner. Well, 44 00:02:58.240 --> 00:03:00.680 I've I found out. And I can't even remember how this came up, 45 00:03:00.719 --> 00:03:05.719 But a couple of months ago, my daughter said that when she was at 46 00:03:05.719 --> 00:03:13.039 the height of her love for high school musical she really thought that she would 47 00:03:13.560 --> 00:03:16.919 like to be named Gabriella. And you know, she did not care for 48 00:03:16.960 --> 00:03:23.360 the name she has, and Gabriella would be so much better. But she 49 00:03:23.479 --> 00:03:28.000 never told me that at the time, So I guess she wasn't all that 50 00:03:28.680 --> 00:03:31.960 worked up about it, because I never never to write that name down a 51 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:37.319 bunch of times, just for properly. I wish she never told you, 52 00:03:37.319 --> 00:03:39.759 so she didn't do anything visual. I don't know. She didn't have Facebook 53 00:03:39.960 --> 00:03:44.879 at the time for sure. I think she was eight. Life is so 54 00:03:44.960 --> 00:03:49.599 much easier before there was Facebook. I'm just thinking about if I had Facebook 55 00:03:49.639 --> 00:03:53.240 when I was my daughter's age, and if people talk to me the way 56 00:03:53.240 --> 00:03:55.280 they talked to her, like friends of my mother's had approached me, I 57 00:03:55.280 --> 00:04:00.560 would have been very displeased. I would locked people a lot quicker than she 58 00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:03.479 does. How about you, Nicole, do your kids like their names? 59 00:04:03.879 --> 00:04:08.159 You know that's funny. I've never really asked them, and I meant to 60 00:04:08.319 --> 00:04:11.800 before we were going to talk about it today, but it just slipped my 61 00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:18.600 mind. But no, they've never really I think both of them are quite 62 00:04:19.879 --> 00:04:24.279 content with our names. I have to say I wanted to change my name 63 00:04:24.279 --> 00:04:27.399 when I was growing up. I did too. I mean, I hated 64 00:04:27.480 --> 00:04:30.519 my name. My name was just so weird in the town that I lived 65 00:04:30.560 --> 00:04:38.680 in. But yeah, neither of my kids. Huh. So does that 66 00:04:38.720 --> 00:04:43.199 mean you win this conversation or you lose this conversation. I think I guess 67 00:04:43.199 --> 00:04:46.839 you win it. Naming, Yeah, I don't know. No, maybe 68 00:04:46.879 --> 00:04:49.839 they don't like their names. I'll have to ask them when we finished this, 69 00:04:49.879 --> 00:04:53.600 and I'll come back and let you know. Although I have to say 70 00:04:53.759 --> 00:04:57.199 that the name that my daughter, my daughter took her middle name, which 71 00:04:57.199 --> 00:04:59.639 is when that we gave to her, her first name, kind of came 72 00:04:59.680 --> 00:05:03.079 with her. We americanized it. But so maybe that means she's choosing the 73 00:05:03.160 --> 00:05:10.360 name I gave her. There you go rashly and if tatuously, she will 74 00:05:10.399 --> 00:05:15.399 not hate it from now on because she's stuck with it. Sixty days. 75 00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:18.360 She's stuck with it. Let this be a lesson to you. Everybody tell 76 00:05:18.399 --> 00:05:24.639 your teenager. If you change your name on Facebook prepared. You have to 77 00:05:24.639 --> 00:05:29.439 stick with it for two months, and apparently there is some cut off after 78 00:05:29.480 --> 00:05:30.839 which you can't change it anymore at all. You're just stuck with it. 79 00:05:32.720 --> 00:05:36.399 Facebook does not want people playing fast and loose with their names. Apparently, 80 00:05:38.000 --> 00:05:42.199 what kind of I kind of get. Yeah, well, I know changing 81 00:05:42.199 --> 00:05:45.759 the name of a page is a big deal. Yeah, but but I 82 00:05:45.759 --> 00:05:47.240 would think that you would be able to call yourself whatever you want to call 83 00:05:47.319 --> 00:05:55.199 yourself. But right, but they don't want people impersonating other people or no, 84 00:05:55.319 --> 00:05:58.079 I'm curious. I want to know what my kids think. I text 85 00:05:58.160 --> 00:06:01.759 my daughter right now, I'm like, Mom, how are you talking about? 86 00:06:03.800 --> 00:06:06.199 Actually, I'll go back to in a couple of minutes finding out. 87 00:06:06.199 --> 00:06:06.879 I'm gonna find out.