WEBVTT 1 00:00:27.760 --> 00:00:33.759 For the record with me Angelina, who's been so so behind on editing episodes. 2 00:00:33.840 --> 00:00:37.119 You guys, when I tell you, I think we recorded this one 3 00:00:37.200 --> 00:00:41.240 like two weeks ago, dead ass. We're gonna be back next week on 4 00:00:41.399 --> 00:00:44.280 point. But yeah, you might get an extra episode next week too, 5 00:00:44.280 --> 00:00:47.560 because there was another really good episode that we recorded that I forgot to edit, 6 00:00:47.600 --> 00:00:51.200 that was even way before this one. I might just like do the 7 00:00:51.200 --> 00:00:54.200 Bitch segment because I feel like our topic was really good, but obviously everything 8 00:00:54.240 --> 00:00:58.759 else is a little outdated. Sem I the case for this episode, I 9 00:00:58.799 --> 00:01:00.920 mean not really, just for the culture, and for the culture, I 10 00:01:02.000 --> 00:01:03.799 do want to I did want to talk about Steven A. Smith and Monica 11 00:01:03.879 --> 00:01:10.000 McNutt and then getting into it and the whole narrative around the WNBA right now, 12 00:01:10.239 --> 00:01:12.680 and let's talk TV. I'm actually late to the party, even though 13 00:01:12.719 --> 00:01:19.519 this is a late episode. I've been late to this. I just finally 14 00:01:19.560 --> 00:01:23.480 watched the movie Bottoms on Amazon Prime and I have to talk about it. 15 00:01:23.959 --> 00:01:30.439 And in Bitch, we talk about when being the oversharer bites you in the 16 00:01:30.480 --> 00:01:34.159 ass. Okay, when is sharing too much information with your friends about your 17 00:01:34.159 --> 00:01:40.040 situationships and relationships too much? So by all means, let's get to it. 18 00:01:42.359 --> 00:01:47.640 This is for the culture, for the culture. For the culture. 19 00:01:47.719 --> 00:01:49.840 This is where we pick a headline and ask if they, she or he 20 00:01:49.959 --> 00:01:53.159 did it for the culture. I'm gonna just flat, I'll say steven A. 21 00:01:53.239 --> 00:01:56.560 Smith right now not doing it for the culture. I know you guys, 22 00:01:56.640 --> 00:01:59.400 I don't know if you guys watch First Take at all, But if 23 00:01:59.400 --> 00:02:01.120 you don't know, and for the listeners that don't listen to because this is 24 00:02:01.159 --> 00:02:07.200 obviously not a sports podcast, First Take is a popular sports show with steven 25 00:02:07.239 --> 00:02:09.879 A. Smith and Shannon Sharp, and basically what they do is they just 26 00:02:10.000 --> 00:02:15.639 discuss the hottest topics that are going on that week in sports. Usually like 27 00:02:15.240 --> 00:02:20.759 yeah, they're just having a discussion and they'll bring on guests and Mollie Kierum 28 00:02:20.840 --> 00:02:22.680 love her. She's like the girl on the show. She's kind of the 29 00:02:22.680 --> 00:02:24.840 moderator to make sure they stay on track when we need to come a commercial 30 00:02:24.840 --> 00:02:29.680 break. And yeah, they have guests on to like basically debate with steven 31 00:02:29.719 --> 00:02:32.000 A Shanna Sharp like kind of battle it out on like the hottest topic. 32 00:02:32.759 --> 00:02:37.960 So a couple of weeks ago, the whole honestly, the video world lost 33 00:02:38.000 --> 00:02:44.000 our minds about the w WNBA because Kennedy Carter they're playing a game against Kaylyn 34 00:02:44.080 --> 00:02:47.120 Clark, and basically Kaitlyn Clark was getting ready to get in about it and 35 00:02:47.120 --> 00:02:50.039 mind you, like, I'm sure you guys know Kaylyn Clark. People are 36 00:02:50.000 --> 00:02:53.039 saying like she is like the reason that the WNBA is getting all this attention, 37 00:02:53.599 --> 00:02:58.159 which honestly is the whole other conversation because yes and no, you know, 38 00:02:59.879 --> 00:03:01.439 I I think she deserves her flowers too, but do you think people 39 00:03:01.479 --> 00:03:06.360 have been a little od with it? Anyways, She's waiting to get the 40 00:03:06.360 --> 00:03:08.719 ball inbounded and Kennedy cars sees her and you see her mouth. She says, 41 00:03:08.759 --> 00:03:13.080 you little bitch and runs up to her and gives her a little hip 42 00:03:13.159 --> 00:03:19.879 check before the ball's even inbounded, and yeah, okay. People were mad 43 00:03:19.879 --> 00:03:23.280 about that. And then after review, the refs just said it was a 44 00:03:23.280 --> 00:03:25.639 common foul and like, clearly it's a flaground foul, Like that wasn't okay, 45 00:03:28.159 --> 00:03:31.360 And guys, the world went crazy like everyone's just like bathing Kaylen Clark 46 00:03:31.400 --> 00:03:37.919 and they're just like like news outlets like Good Morning America covered it, You 47 00:03:38.080 --> 00:03:44.479 covered it. News outlets were like this is assault is crazy. It's the 48 00:03:44.560 --> 00:03:50.719 basketball y'all. Like honestly that what she did was wrong and like one hundred 49 00:03:50.719 --> 00:03:52.800 percent was a flagron foul, like I would have been mad about the common 50 00:03:52.800 --> 00:03:54.199 foul too, And honestly, like just watching the game, like the game 51 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:58.599 was really close, like girl, I'm all here for like, you know, 52 00:03:58.639 --> 00:04:00.680 bicking up someone, you know, gotta punk a chest out a little 53 00:04:00.680 --> 00:04:03.039 bit. Yeah, but like when the game is that closed, like that 54 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:09.000 was honestly like just a dumb decision in general, But it's not something that's 55 00:04:09.039 --> 00:04:12.240 like uncommon in the game of basketball. Men do it all the time, 56 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:15.759 yes, not just basketball, like football players do it all the time, 57 00:04:15.759 --> 00:04:17.399 people like stepping on people's heads and shit, so like, and no one's 58 00:04:17.399 --> 00:04:21.279 calling it assault, right And basically there's like this narrative in the media that 59 00:04:21.399 --> 00:04:25.079 like, oh, the women are messing up the coverage that the WNBA is 60 00:04:25.079 --> 00:04:29.720 getting. So Steve n Ae Smith and he brings up Monica McNutt, who 61 00:04:30.360 --> 00:04:33.959 is an ESPN analyst honestly covered NBA and WNBA, and she's also played basketball 62 00:04:34.040 --> 00:04:38.160 herself, like she's what's a player in the game exactly she knows what she's 63 00:04:38.199 --> 00:04:42.240 doing. So they're on to talk about this and basically like, I'm paraphrasing 64 00:04:42.240 --> 00:04:44.160 the whole thing, but Steve Nie Smith basically is like, you know, 65 00:04:45.240 --> 00:04:47.920 I hate having to choose my words because he does want to criticize the women 66 00:04:47.959 --> 00:04:51.800 for like I guess not acting right because of the coverage or whatever. I 67 00:04:51.839 --> 00:04:56.079 don't know, and it like hates that she's saying, I hate that this 68 00:04:56.120 --> 00:04:58.360 is in a diegment of the whole WNBA, Like it shouldn't be. She 69 00:04:58.439 --> 00:05:00.040 like did say, like Kenny Karva is wrong for doing that. It was 70 00:05:00.079 --> 00:05:02.839 like all around stupid decision, but this isn't like a whole indictment of the 71 00:05:02.959 --> 00:05:06.199 WNBA, Like now you know they're ruining it for themselves and you know, 72 00:05:06.319 --> 00:05:11.040 like we can't choose violence, like oh, that's pretty stupid. And Steven 73 00:05:11.120 --> 00:05:13.720 Smith is like, I hate that I'm trying to criticize her, but I 74 00:05:13.720 --> 00:05:16.600 have to pick and choose my words, and Monica says, well, welcome 75 00:05:16.639 --> 00:05:19.759 to like being a woman, right, like okay, all the time, 76 00:05:19.920 --> 00:05:26.120 right, which so things are gonna heat it mid They're having this conversation for 77 00:05:26.120 --> 00:05:29.680 forty five minutes, which like on first like like it doesn't that doesn't happen 78 00:05:29.680 --> 00:05:33.720 a lot and especially talking about women's sports, which it's like silver lining because 79 00:05:33.720 --> 00:05:38.199 that is cool. Like in general, we haven't seen this much coverage on 80 00:05:38.600 --> 00:05:44.279 the WNB and ju just so exactly, but like it's it's getting really heated, 81 00:05:44.319 --> 00:05:46.279 like Molly has to be like, guys, let me do my job, 82 00:05:46.319 --> 00:05:47.759 like we have to go to commercial break here, Like she's getting like, 83 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:51.600 yeah, it's getting heated. So they're saying that she says, welcome 84 00:05:51.639 --> 00:05:58.000 to being a woman. So where steven A responds what he says, he 85 00:05:58.040 --> 00:06:01.439 says, what about being a black man? And for contact, Monica is 86 00:06:01.439 --> 00:06:06.360 a black woman, So it just seemed I don't know, I guess looking 87 00:06:06.399 --> 00:06:09.759 back now, like in the heat of the moment, like that's this is 88 00:06:09.759 --> 00:06:13.680 stephen a show. I'm sure there. I feel like there is a narrative 89 00:06:14.240 --> 00:06:16.240 also, like obviously we know women's basketball is getting more coverage, but there 90 00:06:16.279 --> 00:06:18.839 is a lot of people who like talk shit still who say people don't care 91 00:06:18.839 --> 00:06:25.680 about women's basketball and you know, like are so anti the WBA. Yeah 92 00:06:25.920 --> 00:06:30.079 exactly, So I get not wanting to be like roped into that, you 93 00:06:30.120 --> 00:06:33.319 know, like yeah and becoming defensive and none of us are black, soot 94 00:06:33.319 --> 00:06:36.199 don't even want to speak, like too much to what they're saying to each 95 00:06:36.199 --> 00:06:39.519 other, but also like I was raised by a lot of black women and 96 00:06:39.560 --> 00:06:43.519 like just doing your regular research on America and how black women have been treated, 97 00:06:43.519 --> 00:06:46.680 Like you don't want to play the struggle who struggled most? Yeah a 98 00:06:46.680 --> 00:06:49.560 black woman? Yeah, especially as a black man. You would think he 99 00:06:49.560 --> 00:06:53.720 would like understand it more so that PARTUT thought was kind of whack. And 100 00:06:53.759 --> 00:06:57.240 then he goes on to say who has done more for the WBA than first 101 00:06:57.240 --> 00:07:04.959 take? Okase, relax, and again I'm like okay before it gets even 102 00:07:05.000 --> 00:07:10.519 like what she responded, which kind of like got things pop in. I 103 00:07:10.600 --> 00:07:14.240 get it, like when something is finally becoming popular or coming up like not 104 00:07:14.319 --> 00:07:16.279 only exactly do you not want to be roped into? Oh I'm definitely not 105 00:07:16.319 --> 00:07:19.639 that, Like I'm an applive, I don't want to be roped into the 106 00:07:19.639 --> 00:07:23.879 others Like that's not me. And I get wanting when things are blowing up, 107 00:07:24.000 --> 00:07:26.600 like you want your credit right, like I can talk about this shit 108 00:07:26.839 --> 00:07:30.759 or like who talks about it more than my show? Either? I do? 109 00:07:30.920 --> 00:07:34.720 I do think that is like I understand where it comes from, like 110 00:07:34.759 --> 00:07:40.199 the pride and like wanting to defend yourself and like, exactly, you do 111 00:07:40.279 --> 00:07:42.800 want your credit. I totally get it, but like to your point, 112 00:07:42.800 --> 00:07:46.279 it is weird. Don't people want Brownie probe else give it to you because 113 00:07:46.279 --> 00:07:47.519 somebody's gonna be like, nah, they've been on that. You know, 114 00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:50.480 people that are listening to people are watching, they're right now, they've been 115 00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:54.240 about that. You're like, you know what I mean, right? I 116 00:07:54.240 --> 00:07:56.600 guess for me, I'm just like WNBA is having their moment. I think 117 00:07:56.600 --> 00:08:01.879 people need to let them have their moments, like it's not about the it's 118 00:08:01.879 --> 00:08:05.160 not about who did what first, like and if I'm talking about it on 119 00:08:05.160 --> 00:08:09.360 my show, I'm assuming it's because I'm hoping that one day it becomes something 120 00:08:09.439 --> 00:08:11.639 like that where it's like, oh, for sure, they're fine right when 121 00:08:11.639 --> 00:08:15.439 you're right away like, well, I'm the one doing this, like else 122 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:18.120 who's done more for whatever? And I'm stly gonna get more into that because 123 00:08:18.560 --> 00:08:22.839 so basically he's saying that into what she says, respectfully, stephen A, 124 00:08:24.480 --> 00:08:28.560 you weren't talking about the w BA three years ago. Molly Kierum makes the 125 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:33.519 greatest face like she's like, oh, is it true? Steven Ae has 126 00:08:33.559 --> 00:08:37.799 a speechless I mean, I guess he's gotta. He did say like, 127 00:08:37.799 --> 00:08:41.159 oh, I guess you missed some first take episode. Yeah, like I 128 00:08:41.159 --> 00:08:43.200 would like to see the receipts. I mean, three years ago, no 129 00:08:43.240 --> 00:08:46.519 one was me neither, like you know, I mean my mom, she's 130 00:08:46.639 --> 00:08:50.120 not her w BA fan, but when she was watching, I wasn't watching 131 00:08:50.159 --> 00:08:52.240 it as much like I don't know as many players as I did three years 132 00:08:52.279 --> 00:08:54.440 ago than I do now, you know, Like I'm guilty of it too. 133 00:08:54.799 --> 00:09:00.360 I think a lot of us are. And it's just like she it 134 00:09:00.440 --> 00:09:03.799 was just a true fact. Stephen A speechless, Like the guys, there's 135 00:09:03.799 --> 00:09:07.919 a whole pregnant pause like it was awkward. Molly Karen's face is hilarious. 136 00:09:07.240 --> 00:09:11.919 Steven A just goes wow wow. And when you say wow, I know, 137 00:09:13.840 --> 00:09:20.440 yeah, you're guilty. You're guilty, guilty face. That's what that 138 00:09:20.480 --> 00:09:22.519 means. And that's what Molly was like, guys, please let me do 139 00:09:22.559 --> 00:09:24.240 my job, like we need to go to commercial work right now, like 140 00:09:24.279 --> 00:09:30.120 we need to wrap this up. So that was that Twitter goes crazy all 141 00:09:30.159 --> 00:09:31.840 the headlines. Stephen A left speechless, Steve and I got put in her 142 00:09:31.879 --> 00:09:35.840 place. Want to go checked him? Steven I goes on his own podcast 143 00:09:35.840 --> 00:09:39.200 because he has his own platform, and like, I just thought his response 144 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:41.879 was so whack. I don't I don't even have the whole thing, but 145 00:09:41.919 --> 00:09:45.639 like some of the things he said was like one like no one who monicam 146 00:09:45.720 --> 00:09:52.519 neck was but now you do if you watch first whatever. Actually it's like 147 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:54.200 she covers both the w n B A and w n B A and like 148 00:09:54.279 --> 00:09:58.559 was a player in herself, Like she like you know, tears to like 149 00:09:58.679 --> 00:10:05.399 have that platform, and like I don't know, listen, there's like claiming, 150 00:10:05.960 --> 00:10:09.960 no one I was talking about the w NBA without my podcast. Nobody 151 00:10:09.000 --> 00:10:13.720 knew her without my podcast, Like no, he completely misses the whole point 152 00:10:13.720 --> 00:10:15.960 of what she's said. Obviously, his feelings are hurt, and like I 153 00:10:15.960 --> 00:10:18.720 said, I get in the moment, like exactly not I wanted to be 154 00:10:18.759 --> 00:10:22.360 roped into, like he's really defending himself and his feelings are hurt. But 155 00:10:22.440 --> 00:10:24.919 I just feel like he missed her whole point. Like yeah, because he 156 00:10:24.000 --> 00:10:26.960 also goes on to say, like all the women he's hired, like including 157 00:10:28.000 --> 00:10:30.840 Molly on first take, and all the women that work at his jobs, 158 00:10:30.919 --> 00:10:35.840 and all these things he's done for women and women's bathroom ball, right exactly. 159 00:10:35.159 --> 00:10:39.159 He should have just let her have that, like six with your legend, 160 00:10:39.440 --> 00:10:41.679 you have this show, this literally is your platform. Let her win 161 00:10:41.759 --> 00:10:45.080 this debate. Yeah, like why do you have to take it there to 162 00:10:45.240 --> 00:10:46.080 like, oh well, let me tell you I did X, Y and 163 00:10:46.159 --> 00:10:48.879 Z for women, including you. You need to be on this thing. 164 00:10:48.919 --> 00:10:52.120 This is my show, you know. Like I just saw his follow up 165 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:56.320 response with so whack it did not have to go there. Let someone check 166 00:10:56.360 --> 00:11:01.600 you or let or be like or show some receipts and be like actually I 167 00:11:01.759 --> 00:11:03.440 was, or even if he was honest, like you know what, yeah, 168 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:07.240 like I was also busy trying to have the number one show, you 169 00:11:07.279 --> 00:11:11.279 know, like you gotta respect it, like yeah, you know, everyone 170 00:11:11.320 --> 00:11:13.440 has excuses of why they didn't put on a platform where they didn't. Her 171 00:11:13.559 --> 00:11:16.879 point is like it needs to be done now. And just like this whole 172 00:11:18.000 --> 00:11:20.279 narrative of I mean, going back to that original argument. I was listening 173 00:11:20.320 --> 00:11:28.159 to this podcast that Marcus Thompson was on. Legendary a sports writer like did 174 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:31.679 so much work with the Warriors back in our early days, works for the 175 00:11:31.679 --> 00:11:35.080 Athletic. He was on this podcast and he was saying, you know, 176 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:37.720 with the WNBA. When you have a big up and cooming league like this, 177 00:11:39.320 --> 00:11:45.080 you need those stories of like, you know, juiciness and like personalities, 178 00:11:45.360 --> 00:11:48.799 you know, and about these players and whatnot. But what's missing is 179 00:11:48.440 --> 00:11:52.919 the regular WNBA coverage and he and he was saying like he's don't you know, 180 00:11:52.000 --> 00:11:54.919 like please don't get mad because like she's a hooper too, but like 181 00:11:54.039 --> 00:11:56.840 there's still a lot of people who are not seeing this as real basketball and 182 00:11:56.879 --> 00:12:01.559 it's shown in the media, Like how come I can't go see exactly like 183 00:12:01.639 --> 00:12:05.279 how many you know, like specific stats and like other things that like sports 184 00:12:05.360 --> 00:12:09.320 junkies can't look at too in the NBA, in the NFL, but like 185 00:12:09.440 --> 00:12:15.000 the WABA, it's only these stories drama. Yeah, it's more like reales 186 00:12:15.000 --> 00:12:18.120 instead of Yeah. But the argument was like in general, like we just 187 00:12:18.120 --> 00:12:20.360 need more depth in wa coverage, which is like period. I thought they 188 00:12:20.440 --> 00:12:22.679 like honestly goes into the podcast. It was so good. Let me see 189 00:12:22.679 --> 00:12:26.360 what it's called, because I know they work for the Athletic Athletic Women's Basketball 190 00:12:26.360 --> 00:12:30.080 show. It is like the emergency pod because they had to talk about this 191 00:12:30.159 --> 00:12:33.759 situation. But the way Stevehni Smith went about it, I just thought was 192 00:12:33.840 --> 00:12:43.840 so whack. It's giving defensive in a what's the word, I'm looking for 193 00:12:43.879 --> 00:12:50.879 a defensive in a desperate desperation in like a desperation type of way. Like 194 00:12:52.200 --> 00:12:58.519 he is trying to defend himself, but in like he doesn't have the right 195 00:12:58.559 --> 00:13:01.200 words to say, so he's just trying to make you look even more instant. 196 00:13:01.279 --> 00:13:05.159 Yeah yeah, and then you can you can prove yourself later. Yeah 197 00:13:05.240 --> 00:13:07.080 right, you know what I mean? And like I said, like I 198 00:13:07.120 --> 00:13:09.360 see, I get, I totally get wanted to defend yourself and all this 199 00:13:09.399 --> 00:13:11.799 stuff, and like I respect Steven A. Smith, but it's like the 200 00:13:11.799 --> 00:13:13.840 way you're going about it, it's like looking the opposite. It's making you 201 00:13:13.879 --> 00:13:18.080 look even worse. Like just let these women have their moment. Yeah exactly, 202 00:13:18.240 --> 00:13:22.039 I agree, and like and just the whole like, oh, did 203 00:13:22.080 --> 00:13:26.840 you even know who she was before she was on first stick? Like yul 204 00:13:28.039 --> 00:13:31.320 right, because I said, you were talking about the WNBA three years ago. 205 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:33.840 It's honestly, I would like to see the receipts, you know what 206 00:13:33.919 --> 00:13:39.279 I mean? So Charlot to Monica, though she tweeted yesterday, she says, 207 00:13:39.320 --> 00:13:41.919 so, what's been going on here with like a ween face because like 208 00:13:41.960 --> 00:13:43.759 mind you like Twitter was going crazy, Yeah, Steven A. Smith like 209 00:13:43.799 --> 00:13:48.639 two responses like on Twitter on his YouTube page and it's like, you know 210 00:13:48.720 --> 00:13:52.279 your platform, like you're lowkey like putting all these people to go bully her 211 00:13:52.320 --> 00:13:56.039 too. Luckily, I mean people are like you're being whack and fuck but 212 00:13:56.120 --> 00:13:58.679 like especially the people that you don't want to be, like the people that 213 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:03.879 are so anti w n b A, like they're gonna jump all over yeah 214 00:14:05.440 --> 00:14:07.919 them, or that you're giving them chance to be like this is why you 215 00:14:07.960 --> 00:14:11.320 know what I mean exactly exactly, So yeah, Steve may Smith, but 216 00:14:11.399 --> 00:14:18.000 not doing it for the culture. Let's talk TV honestly, Chris and I 217 00:14:18.000 --> 00:14:20.559 here today, so we're not gonna talk about hacks. So y'all got one 218 00:14:20.559 --> 00:14:26.759 more weeks to catch up because I silers I said in the last episode, 219 00:14:26.799 --> 00:14:30.960 We're not gonna be aout it right, but I'm away for Chris because he 220 00:14:30.960 --> 00:14:31.840 did see them. Finally, I have to start with, no, you 221 00:14:31.840 --> 00:14:35.720 want me to watch all three seasons? Huh? Yeah, I said, 222 00:14:35.799 --> 00:14:37.320 you can't. Yeah, you can't, You really can't. You really started? 223 00:14:37.799 --> 00:14:43.080 No, Okay, no, respectfully, I watched Bottoms for the first 224 00:14:43.120 --> 00:14:45.639 time last night. Did you guys watch that movie. No, Oh my 225 00:14:45.679 --> 00:14:48.879 god, it's like I feel like it's like low Ki, like supposed to 226 00:14:48.879 --> 00:14:52.320 be like a cult classic. It's with Rachel I think her name Senate. 227 00:14:52.399 --> 00:14:56.480 She's she was on the idol. She was like the friend that's like the 228 00:14:56.519 --> 00:15:01.639 assistant. Again. It's a movie. It's called Bottoms. Marshall Lynch was 229 00:15:01.639 --> 00:15:05.080 like a supporting character. He's all funny. Oh and I haven't seen it 230 00:15:05.480 --> 00:15:11.600 that dog I know he's actually and then I, oh, how do you 231 00:15:11.600 --> 00:15:16.360 say her last name? From the bear Piery? Yeah, from the bear 232 00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:20.519 who's like amazing, she's in it, you guys. I was not expecting 233 00:15:20.960 --> 00:15:22.559 because Okay, what I've read on Twitter and stuff, like, it's supposed 234 00:15:22.559 --> 00:15:28.320 to be like a super Bad for girls basically. But it's basically about these 235 00:15:28.360 --> 00:15:31.679 two lesbians in high school and they create a fight club just so they could 236 00:15:31.679 --> 00:15:35.879 hook up with cheerleaders, and they like it's they kind of lie about why 237 00:15:35.879 --> 00:15:39.639 they're creating the club, or like their resources or like their background, their 238 00:15:39.679 --> 00:15:43.559 credentials. I guess of like what makes them start a fight club just so 239 00:15:43.600 --> 00:15:46.039 they hook up the chillers, But they end up creating like this really cool 240 00:15:46.080 --> 00:15:48.360 space for women. Okay, so that's like kind of the premise of so 241 00:15:48.399 --> 00:15:52.440 you can see where that goes wrong and where it doesn't. But it's just 242 00:15:52.639 --> 00:15:56.639 it's like so chaotic, Like there's scenes like, honestly, I don't want 243 00:15:56.639 --> 00:16:00.600 to say it because it's like go into a vinely But I guess a lot 244 00:16:00.600 --> 00:16:03.120 of it is satire. But there's some ship that I did not plan on 245 00:16:03.240 --> 00:16:07.080 seeing, like it looking as a little gory, Like the scenes are crazy 246 00:16:07.120 --> 00:16:15.600 glory bruh, because it is a comedy. It's it's hell of funny. 247 00:16:15.840 --> 00:16:18.360 Yeah, shout out to Marshall Lynch. Actually, I think I read this 248 00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:19.879 a long time ago because I meant to watch this movie a long time ago. 249 00:16:21.120 --> 00:16:23.960 It's certainly not a new movie came out last year. But I guess 250 00:16:25.000 --> 00:16:26.519 like Marshall Lynch putou because I guess like his sister or something was lesbian. 251 00:16:26.559 --> 00:16:30.240 I think when she came out he didn't like when he handled it. I 252 00:16:30.279 --> 00:16:34.039 don't know, because it is definitely a lesbian like, so I think it 253 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:37.559 meant a lot for him to be in it and play that role. He's 254 00:16:37.639 --> 00:16:40.240 like the freaking teacher and I don't know, he like tries to understand these 255 00:16:40.279 --> 00:16:44.440 girls but be small, be small. Yeah, I know, he's pretty 256 00:16:44.440 --> 00:16:48.159 funny in it. It's good. Just go watch it. It's chaotic. 257 00:16:48.200 --> 00:16:53.639 It definitely is like very super bad, very book smart, like it's hilarious, 258 00:16:53.720 --> 00:16:57.159 but some twists that makes it like maybe like in more it's like, 259 00:16:57.159 --> 00:17:00.279 wow, this is a cult classic because it's so stupid bad I have I 260 00:17:00.279 --> 00:17:04.279 didn't even I have never heard of it. I I've not seen the movie 261 00:17:04.279 --> 00:17:08.519 poster. I've not seen anything. I guess I A lot of writers on 262 00:17:08.519 --> 00:17:15.119 Twitter also don't have Amazon the movie one the Oh that is probably what I 263 00:17:15.119 --> 00:17:17.359 watched. I don't have it, and that's where its streaming on, So 264 00:17:17.559 --> 00:17:19.039 I have that, but I don't. I didn't even see it on it 265 00:17:19.160 --> 00:17:22.440 don't all. I guess all the writers, I like, everyone does tweet 266 00:17:22.480 --> 00:17:29.240 about it on my timeline, but in a very you have not known already. 267 00:17:29.559 --> 00:17:32.000 People are making like the fan edits for it, you know, like 268 00:17:32.039 --> 00:17:34.200 that kind of deal. Okay, But I also I think I know more 269 00:17:34.200 --> 00:17:38.119 about it because I had interv Charlie XCX, and I think she basically like 270 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:41.680 helped with the score. Oh yeah, she did a lot of the sound 271 00:17:42.720 --> 00:17:47.200 and her and I Rachel gar are like besties. Yeah, I was reading 272 00:17:47.200 --> 00:17:49.119 some of the reviews on letter box because I'm just like, what are people 273 00:17:49.119 --> 00:17:52.400 thinking about this movie? Like there's just a lot of stuff I did not 274 00:17:52.480 --> 00:17:56.079 expect. Like I literally like kind of I was like laying down and it 275 00:17:56.200 --> 00:17:59.720 made me like sit up. I was like, what the fuck like that? 276 00:17:59.799 --> 00:18:03.880 But it's hilarious. But yeah, I'm just reading someone said Rachel said 277 00:18:03.880 --> 00:18:06.759 in AO I do you know, learn how to say her last name? 278 00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:08.880 But it says could do fight Club with Brad Pitt and Edwin Orton. Couldn't 279 00:18:08.880 --> 00:18:15.839 do bottoms because the guy is like a fight club but like a super Okay, 280 00:18:15.880 --> 00:18:18.160 it sounds good. Oh and one thing I just want to say. 281 00:18:18.200 --> 00:18:25.480 At the end, they have a bluebird thing bring like bluebirds Anyone's like you? 282 00:18:25.799 --> 00:18:32.680 Which I finally watched too. Yes, it was bad. It was 283 00:18:32.720 --> 00:18:36.640 pretty bad. I'm definitely not saying it's my top three, but I love 284 00:18:36.640 --> 00:18:38.440 a rom cop. So bad it's a bad movie. I would watch again, 285 00:18:38.960 --> 00:18:41.880 Okay, Okay, and I guess I do agree with I was like 286 00:18:41.880 --> 00:18:45.720 looking on Twitter, a lot of people are saying that Sidney Sweeney was miscast. 287 00:18:45.079 --> 00:18:48.880 I do kind of see that a little bit. The guy was perfect 288 00:18:49.079 --> 00:18:53.079 the main guys. I think she's just meant for more either serious roles or 289 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:59.279 like scary movies. A yeah. And also I'm sorry Gata cannot act. 290 00:19:00.039 --> 00:19:03.599 I know, I gave him praise older episodes and Little Dickie for his like 291 00:19:03.680 --> 00:19:06.799 monolog but I think it was more just what they were highlighting, because the 292 00:19:06.839 --> 00:19:08.000 more I see him, I'm like, how was he getting these roles? 293 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:12.160 And like he just seemed so like not even just talken a black guy, 294 00:19:12.200 --> 00:19:15.839 but like it was just so unnatural, like so like I would not believe 295 00:19:15.880 --> 00:19:19.319 that there are friends Okay, Okay, well, technically he was the sister, 296 00:19:19.480 --> 00:19:23.920 the brother sorry to the to the friend guy. He's also the guy's 297 00:19:23.960 --> 00:19:30.039 best friend, the one that Sidney Sweeney except with. I like, you 298 00:19:30.079 --> 00:19:36.079 know, I believe that the the guy who Sidney Sweeney hooks up with is 299 00:19:36.160 --> 00:19:41.640 friends with the girl one of the one of the the girls from the couple 300 00:19:41.240 --> 00:19:47.039 that's getting married, because I don't know, I just like there, yeah, 301 00:19:47.160 --> 00:19:48.200 like they're definitely close, because he was like, I know, you, 302 00:19:48.240 --> 00:19:51.119 bro, you need to choose her, and like you know everything about 303 00:19:51.119 --> 00:19:55.440 the eggs. Okay, I guess, uh telling me And I've watched the 304 00:19:55.480 --> 00:20:00.240 movie so many times. But and they read they were friends. Wise, 305 00:20:00.880 --> 00:20:06.559 I mean they're all friends because they grew up together. Okay, yes, 306 00:20:07.680 --> 00:20:10.279 yeah, they all hang out. Like let's see where they're like meeting up 307 00:20:10.400 --> 00:20:12.279 to the friends. Like, I don't know, it's just like this is 308 00:20:12.359 --> 00:20:15.720 so it doesn't seem like he really hangs out with them, like obviously he 309 00:20:15.720 --> 00:20:18.319 does this movie. But but you didn't buy it. You didn't buy the 310 00:20:18.319 --> 00:20:22.119 acting. Yeah, he's just a bad actor. But I would I would 311 00:20:22.160 --> 00:20:26.920 still watch it again though, like there were some parts that I that made 312 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:30.880 me feel things. Okay, well, it is one of my favorite rom 313 00:20:30.920 --> 00:20:33.039 coms. I don't know. I don't remember if I said top three, 314 00:20:33.119 --> 00:20:37.160 but I did say, yeah, I did not. I did not. 315 00:20:37.480 --> 00:20:41.039 Yeah, I don't know. I don't remember, but top three. It's 316 00:20:41.079 --> 00:20:42.240 not in my top three. If I did say that, it's not in 317 00:20:42.240 --> 00:20:48.759 my top three, but is one of my favorite rom comms currently and will 318 00:20:48.759 --> 00:20:52.799 be in my rotation of feel good comfort movies that I will put on when 319 00:20:52.839 --> 00:20:57.000 I want to watch a movie, and I will stand by that, respectfully. 320 00:20:57.119 --> 00:21:00.599 What everyone else thinks good for you, what I think good for me, 321 00:21:02.759 --> 00:21:06.920 you're not. I'm it does not hurt my feelings that people are hating 322 00:21:06.920 --> 00:21:08.160 on it. Yeah, we're not trying to hurt your feelings a course, 323 00:21:08.359 --> 00:21:12.160 just giving a review of the movie, I know. But I just feel 324 00:21:12.160 --> 00:21:15.759 like the way that I was going hard for it, yeah, and like 325 00:21:15.759 --> 00:21:18.200 people aren't are telling me that they don't like it. It's fine, Yeah, 326 00:21:26.440 --> 00:21:29.440 yeah you should it just for you. It's for you. There's a 327 00:21:29.440 --> 00:21:30.759 really bad wrong time I watched it was like I think it's called When We 328 00:21:30.839 --> 00:21:33.000 Last Met or something. It's like such a big movie. It's not the 329 00:21:33.039 --> 00:21:37.559 guy from Alcoholics, a small one with a scrunch, and like he goes 330 00:21:37.599 --> 00:21:41.599 into like I don't know, this fucking like photo booth and he's like allowed 331 00:21:41.599 --> 00:21:44.720 to like rewind time every time he goes into it, and he like is 332 00:21:44.759 --> 00:21:45.960 in love with this girl, so he goes in there three wine so we 333 00:21:45.960 --> 00:21:48.960 could get her to like fall in love with him every time he meets her, 334 00:21:48.440 --> 00:21:52.720 but like it never works out. Yeah, like because they're just not 335 00:21:52.759 --> 00:21:53.880 meant to be. But it's like kind of a bad movie, but I 336 00:21:53.920 --> 00:21:56.839 liked it, And that's how I feel about anyone but you. It's like 337 00:21:56.880 --> 00:22:00.759 this is clearly a bad movie, but I will watch it again. That's 338 00:22:00.759 --> 00:22:03.079 how I felt about have you always seen How to Stay? Or How to 339 00:22:03.079 --> 00:22:06.240 Be Single? Oh? I love the movie, that's not it. I 340 00:22:06.359 --> 00:22:08.880 liked it, but I think I don't know, just something about it was 341 00:22:08.880 --> 00:22:15.680 like not my favorite. I see it again. It's just different way. 342 00:22:15.720 --> 00:22:18.000 I don't know. But it's a good movie. It is a good movie. 343 00:22:18.079 --> 00:22:19.240 I like the time. I will say, but yeah, anyone but 344 00:22:19.359 --> 00:22:22.880 you, you guys watched it, let us know, let us know. 345 00:22:22.640 --> 00:22:26.119 I still really think it's good. I will still recommend it to everyone I 346 00:22:26.240 --> 00:22:30.119 talk to. Go watch Bottom though, because that's another one that's like, 347 00:22:30.599 --> 00:22:33.640 is this a bad movie or is it the greatest film I've ever seen? 348 00:22:34.279 --> 00:22:41.559 You know, just a super fun high school comedy, top notch political satire, 349 00:22:42.440 --> 00:22:56.160 amazing score, absolutely deranged, irrelevant, silly film. Cinema bottoms on 350 00:22:56.200 --> 00:23:00.640 Amazon Prime, go watch it. Bit, there is something I want to 351 00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:06.000 talk about a little bit because I have noticed a little backfire on my part. 352 00:23:06.599 --> 00:23:07.599 For context, You guys, I'm some and I'm not going to stop 353 00:23:07.640 --> 00:23:11.759 this either, but I think I am just going to adjust a little bit. 354 00:23:11.960 --> 00:23:15.519 But I am someone who like talks things to the motherfucking ground like anything. 355 00:23:15.599 --> 00:23:18.960 It could be a work thing. It's like any conflict comes in my 356 00:23:18.000 --> 00:23:21.759 life, I need everyone in the MoMA's opinions. I need all my friends 357 00:23:21.839 --> 00:23:25.200 opinions, maybe even some colleagues. You know, I need a group chat, 358 00:23:25.480 --> 00:23:26.720 right, I need to obsess over it for a little bit. I 359 00:23:26.720 --> 00:23:30.160 need to torture myself and then I come to my senses and then I have 360 00:23:30.200 --> 00:23:34.240 a clearer vision and it really doesn't matter, like I am taking everyone's opinions 361 00:23:34.279 --> 00:23:37.839 into consideration. But I think after all of it, I do come to 362 00:23:37.960 --> 00:23:41.079 just like truly what I'm feeling and what I think is right. You just 363 00:23:41.119 --> 00:23:47.559 need to talk. You just need exactly and to different people. I do 364 00:23:47.759 --> 00:23:49.160 like herring the different things. Whether I agree with it or not, like 365 00:23:49.440 --> 00:23:52.200 it just it just helps me. It's just what I like to do. 366 00:23:52.319 --> 00:23:57.440 Yes, But you know, I gave my update to you guys about Carpenter 367 00:23:57.440 --> 00:24:02.559 Bay and like you know where things are going. But I had recently went 368 00:24:02.599 --> 00:24:04.799 to my Neil appointment, and I forgot that I didn't update my nail tech 369 00:24:04.839 --> 00:24:07.039 of like us talking again or like anything that had happen, because I haven't 370 00:24:07.039 --> 00:24:11.240 talked her since my birthday, and like why don't She was like why, 371 00:24:11.440 --> 00:24:14.920 Like why are you talking to him again, and like I think I talked 372 00:24:14.920 --> 00:24:17.640 it too much into the ground that I wasn't even able to like explain it 373 00:24:17.640 --> 00:24:18.799 the way I explain it to you guys, cause I'm just like it's like 374 00:24:18.839 --> 00:24:22.039 so long ago now, and like now we're in a good place. Like 375 00:24:22.359 --> 00:24:25.519 I didn't, like my emotions aren't even there they're as strong. So I 376 00:24:25.559 --> 00:24:27.000 was just like, oh, well, this happened, and he apologized I 377 00:24:27.039 --> 00:24:29.920 forgave him. Then he showed up at this thing and I thought I was 378 00:24:29.960 --> 00:24:32.519 really sweet and now we're good. Yeah, And I don't know. She 379 00:24:32.640 --> 00:24:36.160 just like was like super shitting on him and like almost the point like I 380 00:24:36.200 --> 00:24:38.599 was actually getting irritated because it made me feel like she's like we feel like 381 00:24:38.640 --> 00:24:42.000 this dumb bitch who like keeps taking their X back kind of ordeal, you 382 00:24:42.000 --> 00:24:45.759 know what I mean. And and I'm like the last one to like be 383 00:24:45.920 --> 00:24:49.440 defending a man, Like even my mom and them always get on me like 384 00:24:49.559 --> 00:24:53.079 I'm like too harsh on people and what do whooped? And it's like I 385 00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:56.440 don't. It made me like I felt like I needed to do that, 386 00:24:56.839 --> 00:24:59.960 and it was like and then I was getting annoyed myself because it's like ill 387 00:25:00.039 --> 00:25:00.960 I don't need to. It was like, I don't need to explain anything 388 00:25:00.960 --> 00:25:06.359 to you right one two I'm sounding like this girl is like trying to fend 389 00:25:06.400 --> 00:25:07.279 him. It's like, oh no, I don't want to sound like that 390 00:25:07.319 --> 00:25:11.680 either. Like we were like talking in circles, basically just getting me annoyed. 391 00:25:11.880 --> 00:25:14.319 I actually had to go back the next day because we didn't finish my 392 00:25:14.400 --> 00:25:15.480 nails in time and I had to go to WORG. I was running late, 393 00:25:17.000 --> 00:25:18.960 so I was like in a better moviod and I did kind of like 394 00:25:18.319 --> 00:25:22.480 say it's her in a nicer way that I was kind of annoyed and until 395 00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:22.799 she kind of hurt me up. But she was kind of like, well, 396 00:25:22.839 --> 00:25:26.039 you know what the day like, this isn't your boyfriend. And I'm 397 00:25:26.039 --> 00:25:29.160 like yeah, clearly, like exactly, but also I feel like you're still 398 00:25:29.160 --> 00:25:33.839 just now You're just like anyways all this to say, and and I kind 399 00:25:33.839 --> 00:25:36.519 of edited it to her with like you know what, yes he did a 400 00:25:36.519 --> 00:25:38.720 whack thing, and I toose to forgive that whack thing. It is what 401 00:25:38.759 --> 00:25:41.599 it is, like, yeah he does on the whack and I forgave it. 402 00:25:41.920 --> 00:25:44.039 Do I think it's like level of like wow, he's to beat me 403 00:25:44.119 --> 00:25:45.920 or I cheated on me, Like I think there's layers of like putting up 404 00:25:45.920 --> 00:25:48.200 with shit, So I don't think I'm not gonna say like this dumb bitch 405 00:25:48.240 --> 00:25:52.240 I like keeps going back to her eggs. And also on top of like 406 00:25:52.279 --> 00:25:55.440 this isn't my boyfriend, Like I'm not really putting up with anything like the 407 00:25:55.440 --> 00:25:57.640 other the day we're dating and having fun, so I'm not necessarily like crying 408 00:25:57.680 --> 00:26:00.599 in a corner putting up with anything, laying you know, a bed, 409 00:26:00.599 --> 00:26:04.440 waiting for a fall call either, Like I'm not doing that either, So 410 00:26:04.799 --> 00:26:07.400 we kind of just ended it that way. But all this to say, 411 00:26:07.480 --> 00:26:11.039 I have this older friend who used to write here at my Heart, and 412 00:26:11.079 --> 00:26:15.000 I remember I didn't know so long that she even had a boyfriend until like 413 00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:18.680 we got like extra close because she wanted to vent about him finally. And 414 00:26:18.759 --> 00:26:21.559 even then, I remember, like she's now in a really good relationship, 415 00:26:22.640 --> 00:26:23.359 Like I don't know, they might get married too, and I don't know, 416 00:26:23.359 --> 00:26:26.759 like they're doing really good, but I remember like when they were having 417 00:26:26.759 --> 00:26:33.079 their early troubles, like I didn't hear any of it until maybe recently because 418 00:26:33.079 --> 00:26:36.359 it was like a past situation and I always admired her of being very private 419 00:26:36.400 --> 00:26:38.400 and like not that I'm gonna stop being this overshare, but I am saying, 420 00:26:38.440 --> 00:26:42.400 like you really cannot tell your friends everything, And that's what I want 421 00:26:42.440 --> 00:26:48.880 to talk about, oversharing your relationships. I kind of just yeah, I 422 00:26:48.920 --> 00:26:51.119 want to talk about that, Like how do you guys feel about that? 423 00:26:51.319 --> 00:26:55.119 I think I'm in the same boat as you, where like if something happens 424 00:26:55.160 --> 00:26:59.000 to me, I need to like talk about it with like my friend, 425 00:26:59.680 --> 00:27:04.200 like like whoever, Like I just need to like expel it from my body 426 00:27:04.319 --> 00:27:10.960 for me to like help me, like you know. Yeah, however, 427 00:27:11.319 --> 00:27:15.920 I do feel like speaking on like my relationship and love life vibe. No 428 00:27:15.920 --> 00:27:21.240 one knows anything about it. I'm not telling anyone. If I'm dating someone 429 00:27:21.319 --> 00:27:26.799 new, they'll hear about it if anything after the fact, no one, 430 00:27:26.839 --> 00:27:29.920 no one, no one, like not even like your best friend, no, 431 00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:33.279 not even anything, because I definitely knew about you talking to people. 432 00:27:33.640 --> 00:27:38.640 Yeah, but like I don't share like all the all the details, like 433 00:27:38.920 --> 00:27:41.480 oh, like oh I'm on the dating apps. Oh I'm going on to 434 00:27:41.559 --> 00:27:45.440 day on Saturday. Oh, the day was cool. I'm going on another 435 00:27:45.519 --> 00:27:49.359 day like the next week. When you do company problems. It's very like, 436 00:27:49.480 --> 00:27:52.200 let me start from the beginning of when it was going good and I 437 00:27:52.200 --> 00:27:59.920 was going exactly yeah. Yeah, so it's like more towards like the tail 438 00:28:00.119 --> 00:28:03.720 and if anything, and like I feel like even with you, I feel 439 00:28:03.720 --> 00:28:07.279 like I've only talked to you about like one, maybe two people. Yeah, 440 00:28:07.480 --> 00:28:11.359 I've dated multiple more than that, sure, but yeah, I don't 441 00:28:11.400 --> 00:28:15.480 know. That's just the boundary of mind that I've always had. I don't 442 00:28:15.559 --> 00:28:18.799 know why. I just feel like it's something sacred to my heart. And 443 00:28:18.880 --> 00:28:23.680 I also feel like I don't want people to know about that part of my 444 00:28:23.759 --> 00:28:29.839 life if it's not something that will be long term, Like I don't want 445 00:28:29.880 --> 00:28:33.799 to It's not that it's bad. I don't want to be the person who's 446 00:28:33.039 --> 00:28:38.519 like has ten people dating ten people and then like their friends get confused about 447 00:28:38.519 --> 00:28:48.279 who you're talking about because it's like you just and then like once it's over, 448 00:28:48.079 --> 00:28:51.359 I don't want them to like ask me about it for sure, it's 449 00:28:51.440 --> 00:28:55.200 done right whatever. I do feel like you can correct me if I'm wrong. 450 00:28:55.200 --> 00:28:57.680 I also feel like you do it also as a protective mechanism a little 451 00:28:57.720 --> 00:29:00.319 bit like I feel like you don't like to your helps up about certain things 452 00:29:00.319 --> 00:29:03.480 and like talking about it. You're like, I don't want to talk about 453 00:29:03.480 --> 00:29:07.799 it two sand or you know. Also I also feel like that's part of 454 00:29:07.839 --> 00:29:11.440 it as well, but yeah, I don't know, it's just well, 455 00:29:11.480 --> 00:29:15.920 you don't have to yeah, you know. Yeah, I don't talk to 456 00:29:15.960 --> 00:29:22.160 anybody about anything I have. I have like two people maybe three that really 457 00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:25.759 know or that I feel like I could say a lot too, like almost 458 00:29:25.799 --> 00:29:29.559 like ninety nine point ninety nine, but there's always something I like to keep 459 00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:34.279 to myself, especially with dating and relationships, but me with mostly everything. 460 00:29:34.640 --> 00:29:37.599 I think for me though, and I don't know if it's the same for 461 00:29:37.640 --> 00:29:41.319 you, but only child you do that a lot growing up sometimes where you 462 00:29:41.319 --> 00:29:45.359 can just yeah, I feel overthink yourself into it. You decided for yourself. 463 00:29:45.559 --> 00:29:48.599 You didn't whether you needed the advice or not, you didn't have it, 464 00:29:48.640 --> 00:29:53.119 so you just kept yeah. And I think that that kind of internalizes 465 00:29:53.200 --> 00:29:57.039 later in life, where like now it's you kind of get used to like, 466 00:29:57.119 --> 00:30:00.680 well I talk to as motherfucker, I know it's myself and then you 467 00:30:00.720 --> 00:30:07.240 know, And I also will say to everyone, even to you, like 468 00:30:08.440 --> 00:30:12.519 not everyone needs to know everything. Yeah, And I think that's that's in 469 00:30:12.599 --> 00:30:17.039 every aspect of your life. No matter how much is everything to you, 470 00:30:15.920 --> 00:30:18.799 you can share it a lot, but there's always little things that it's like 471 00:30:19.200 --> 00:30:22.720 keep that sacred, keep that for yourself. And I'm sure you do that. 472 00:30:22.759 --> 00:30:25.200 You probably just don't realize it because you're choosing to share what you want 473 00:30:25.240 --> 00:30:26.200 to. Well, I'm not saying I'm just saying I don't realize it. 474 00:30:26.240 --> 00:30:30.519 There's definitely I don't say every detail, like there's things that are sacred, 475 00:30:30.240 --> 00:30:33.279 but I'm just saying I'm an open book like process in general, Like yeah, 476 00:30:33.279 --> 00:30:36.599 the things you guys were free to share, Like I'm open book about 477 00:30:36.599 --> 00:30:38.519 a lot of things, Like I don't mind sharing, you know, not 478 00:30:38.559 --> 00:30:42.039 necessarily deep dark secrets, but like stuff that like is really private to other 479 00:30:42.079 --> 00:30:45.039 people, like it's not private to me, And I don't mind that. 480 00:30:45.079 --> 00:30:47.920 And I don't think it's something that like, oh this is like it doesn't 481 00:30:47.920 --> 00:30:49.640 mean it's not sacred to me because I'm sharing it. I'm just more comfortable. 482 00:30:49.640 --> 00:30:52.880 I'm just like an open book and I don't mind that. Yeah, 483 00:30:52.920 --> 00:30:55.480 And I love hearing about other people too, and I feel like and I 484 00:30:55.519 --> 00:30:56.519 feel like I get that energy in return because I do feel like a lot 485 00:30:56.519 --> 00:31:00.960 of people do confide in me a lot about things that they don't confind to 486 00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:04.960 everyone about. Also, yeah, so I don't think I'm necessarily like not 487 00:31:06.519 --> 00:31:08.799 making it sacred. It just it's just my personality. Like I don't know, 488 00:31:08.799 --> 00:31:11.440 I'm an aries. I don't know what your guys signs are. Like 489 00:31:11.640 --> 00:31:17.880 I'm a pistash and I'm not an only child. I'm the oldest. I'm 490 00:31:17.920 --> 00:31:19.440 like the manager of my family. And I have a really big family. 491 00:31:19.480 --> 00:31:23.079 And my cousins are like my sisters and my brothers, and like we all 492 00:31:23.119 --> 00:31:26.920 just talk like my mom talk about everything too. So I don't know, 493 00:31:26.960 --> 00:31:30.079 maybe that's just like also how a little bit how I grew up and just 494 00:31:30.119 --> 00:31:37.480 like what I'm comfortable doing. Yeah, And also and I guess this is 495 00:31:37.519 --> 00:31:41.559 what I'm learning now, Like I'm speaking more so about relationships because I know 496 00:31:41.680 --> 00:31:45.960 my friends are. I guess I'm only saying this to myself because I know 497 00:31:45.000 --> 00:31:48.079 they love me and they care about me a lot. So I also need 498 00:31:48.119 --> 00:31:52.119 to remember that they're just coming from a protective place. But I and I 499 00:31:52.160 --> 00:31:56.039 also know like that I tend to sometimes I take things personally when they're when 500 00:31:56.039 --> 00:32:00.599 it's not that serious. I say that this is specifically not like i'd the 501 00:32:00.680 --> 00:32:04.000 right reason to be a little upset, but it was Also I can't blame 502 00:32:04.039 --> 00:32:07.039 him because I chose to share that information, and I guess I just need 503 00:32:07.079 --> 00:32:08.359 to be more for me. I need to be more mindful of that, 504 00:32:08.519 --> 00:32:13.079 like if you do, in the long run, choose to forgive this person, 505 00:32:13.359 --> 00:32:15.680 Like what is is there gonna be any backlash? Or do I need 506 00:32:15.680 --> 00:32:19.240 to explain this to people? Or or yeah, I could send bounari say 507 00:32:19.200 --> 00:32:21.440 I don't need explain shit to anyone, but like, at the same time, 508 00:32:21.440 --> 00:32:22.960 if you're gonna share something with someone, you kind of do a little 509 00:32:23.000 --> 00:32:24.960 bit. I mean, I don't I don't need to do anything. No 510 00:32:25.000 --> 00:32:30.119 one needs to do anything, but like if I want to, I guess 511 00:32:30.160 --> 00:32:32.200 I am someone that does care about what people think. And I definitely care 512 00:32:32.240 --> 00:32:36.319 about what my friends think. So it does bother me if they're thinking some 513 00:32:36.359 --> 00:32:37.359 way, and it's not very easy for me to be like, fuck your 514 00:32:37.400 --> 00:32:39.319 opinion, this is what I'm doing. As long as you do have to 515 00:32:39.319 --> 00:32:43.240 set that boundary, maybe it's not as brutal. I'm not saying fuck you, 516 00:32:43.279 --> 00:32:45.880 but like I do guys say like you know what I do care about 517 00:32:45.960 --> 00:32:49.119 the day. It doesn't really matter what what she makes because this is what 518 00:32:49.119 --> 00:32:52.440 I'm doing now, and I'm like set in this. Yeah, but yeah, 519 00:32:52.640 --> 00:32:53.920 I feel for like this last thing, and I'm like, ooh, 520 00:32:53.960 --> 00:32:59.799 like maybe I need to yeah not maybe I don't need to tell the world 521 00:33:00.240 --> 00:33:05.119 that's like, is this like your nel tech person? Yeah? This is 522 00:33:06.160 --> 00:33:08.160 also Yeah, Like I think a lot of people they want you to they 523 00:33:08.240 --> 00:33:10.400 when they care about you, they want what's best for you. And a 524 00:33:10.440 --> 00:33:15.640 lot of times when you share everything, every relationship has ups and downs, 525 00:33:15.640 --> 00:33:17.599 and I don't know about this. I don't know about that. So when 526 00:33:17.640 --> 00:33:21.839 you're looking at it from the outside and I don't like this person, you 527 00:33:21.960 --> 00:33:23.920 like them, you know, so I rely be like that, ain't it? 528 00:33:24.359 --> 00:33:29.079 Or like oh fuck that, like don't tolerate that, And then I'm 529 00:33:29.119 --> 00:33:30.680 over here doing the exact same thing with the girl I like, you know 530 00:33:30.720 --> 00:33:36.240 what I mean. It's yeah, your friends are always obviously easier to give 531 00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:38.599 advice than to like, but it's hard. It's like big stuff. I 532 00:33:38.640 --> 00:33:45.839 think, like I have a cousin who she's with this guy that in the 533 00:33:45.880 --> 00:33:49.519 beginning, like she would share a lot of things about him, you know, 534 00:33:49.559 --> 00:33:52.720 because she was excited, really close to us everything, and a lot 535 00:33:52.720 --> 00:33:54.359 of the things that she would say would be like, oh no about that 536 00:33:54.440 --> 00:33:58.240 because of this, or be careful because of that, like little things that 537 00:33:58.279 --> 00:34:00.079 you want to tell them because you care, because you like your cousin, 538 00:34:00.160 --> 00:34:02.599 because you want them to be happy, you know what, they deserve whatever, 539 00:34:04.000 --> 00:34:07.599 right, and then something happens and then they you know, like you 540 00:34:07.640 --> 00:34:09.360 said, you decided to forgive them, and that was your decision. That's 541 00:34:09.400 --> 00:34:14.280 great. But then me over here, I don't like the person the way 542 00:34:14.320 --> 00:34:15.920 you do, so I'm gonna be like, m he still did that though, 543 00:34:16.000 --> 00:34:20.079 you know what I mean, And it kind of ruins, not ruins 544 00:34:20.079 --> 00:34:22.239 that relationship that you can have with this person. But like say, my 545 00:34:22.280 --> 00:34:23.880 cousin marries him, I might always been in the back of my head like 546 00:34:24.440 --> 00:34:28.760 you still almost like did this though, you know? And that's on me 547 00:34:28.840 --> 00:34:30.360 though, right because it's like, I mean, that's something one holding on 548 00:34:30.400 --> 00:34:32.599 to it because I love you, because I care about you and a little 549 00:34:32.639 --> 00:34:35.679 bit too. I mean, I guess that's exactly That's what I'm saying. 550 00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:37.360 Like when you do share, I guess it depends, like you know, 551 00:34:37.400 --> 00:34:39.039 the severity of it. But those are things you do need to take into 552 00:34:39.079 --> 00:34:45.320 consideration, especially with family, like exactly, Like and also sometimes we want 553 00:34:45.360 --> 00:34:47.360 to vent only when it's a bad thing, Yeah, and we don't take 554 00:34:47.360 --> 00:34:52.039 into consideration that we're only like veting, like exactly, like maybe I am 555 00:34:52.039 --> 00:34:54.400 more sacred about the nicer things or the cute things because I'm protective of myself, 556 00:34:54.400 --> 00:34:57.039 so I'll even want to get too deep into it, you know what 557 00:34:57.079 --> 00:34:59.519 I mean. So like maybe I don't brag about that to my friends or 558 00:34:59.519 --> 00:35:01.280 even want to s share it because I feel like those things are more intimate, 559 00:35:01.400 --> 00:35:04.639 whereas like I'm just annoyed about some shit you said, Like I'm gonna 560 00:35:04.639 --> 00:35:07.039 talk to my friend about that all day, like bitch, guess what the 561 00:35:07.079 --> 00:35:08.800 motherfucker said, Like am my trip in? Like you know, I know 562 00:35:08.840 --> 00:35:12.440 how I could get So they don't want that. But when it's like constant 563 00:35:12.440 --> 00:35:15.239 and it's like, well, this person fucking sucks because this is your fifth 564 00:35:15.239 --> 00:35:17.559 thing of saying, yeah he did kind of annoying and I don't think it's 565 00:35:17.599 --> 00:35:21.880 a shitty person and now I hate him for you, So that that's something 566 00:35:21.880 --> 00:35:27.719 you gotta think about. True, That's true. And yeah, even family 567 00:35:27.719 --> 00:35:29.519 like Yeah, they'll choose to be like, well, we' actually don't fuck 568 00:35:29.519 --> 00:35:32.320 with this person anymore. Yeah, and that's fair like that, you know, 569 00:35:32.360 --> 00:35:36.320 like you don't have to, but the person that's with them doesn't have 570 00:35:36.360 --> 00:35:37.559 to leave them either, you know what I mean. Yeah, And it 571 00:35:37.599 --> 00:35:42.320 can get to a point sometimes where like you're not as close to that, 572 00:35:42.440 --> 00:35:44.400 like that's I don't know if that's happened to any of you, but like 573 00:35:44.440 --> 00:35:47.840 it's happened in my family, where like the cheater was forgiven and now because 574 00:35:47.840 --> 00:35:51.920 everybody knows, it's kind of like like we don't really fuck with them no 575 00:35:51.960 --> 00:35:54.599 more, like they're still around. They come over because whatever they're together, 576 00:35:54.639 --> 00:35:57.719 they have kids or whatever it is, and then you're kind of like, 577 00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:01.079 hey, what's up, But like you don't you're always upset for them, 578 00:36:01.119 --> 00:36:04.840 you know, right, even if you've decided, even if they decided that 579 00:36:05.039 --> 00:36:07.880 they're forgiven or that you still want to be with them, because that's you're 580 00:36:07.920 --> 00:36:10.920 definitely your choice. You know. The people that love you are always gonna 581 00:36:10.960 --> 00:36:15.000 think that you deserve better than what you have, you know what I mean, 582 00:36:15.000 --> 00:36:17.119 even if it's the most amazing person, even if it's you know, 583 00:36:19.280 --> 00:36:21.559 yeah, to share the great things that I was going to be like, 584 00:36:21.880 --> 00:36:24.159 well, they could do this different because no one's perfect. So it's definitely 585 00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:27.679 people's politics. I mean, I definitely see myself, Like one thing I 586 00:36:27.719 --> 00:36:30.679 pride myself a lot on is being understanding. I don't pride myself a lot 587 00:36:30.719 --> 00:36:35.400 of things, And like I think my mom taught us very early to like 588 00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:37.400 to be very forgiving, and that does being put up with shit, because 589 00:36:37.400 --> 00:36:40.039 trust me, like she wishes I would put up a more shit. And 590 00:36:40.159 --> 00:36:45.039 maybe I need to do better at like doing it myself. But I will 591 00:36:45.079 --> 00:36:47.079 say I do give my friends and my family a lot of grace when it 592 00:36:47.119 --> 00:36:50.719 comes to stuff like that, even like something as bad as cheating. One 593 00:36:50.719 --> 00:36:53.679 thing I don't fuck with is abuse, like kidding that you'll be in my 594 00:36:53.679 --> 00:36:57.760 bad graces and I don't want you to get back to that person, and 595 00:36:57.800 --> 00:37:00.519 that it takes me a while to get over, even like offer someone like 596 00:37:00.599 --> 00:37:04.119 probably would it. Yeah, But like even things as like I fidelity and 597 00:37:04.159 --> 00:37:06.920 stuff like that, Like honestly, I remember one time I was talking to 598 00:37:06.920 --> 00:37:09.360 this old coworker friend I worked at so fucking find joy department in Macy's. 599 00:37:09.519 --> 00:37:12.920 I'll never forget she had like this boyfriend, that he was shitty, like 600 00:37:13.400 --> 00:37:15.840 you know, you didn't be or anything like not hellly shitty, but like 601 00:37:15.840 --> 00:37:16.679 he just he kind of suck. He wasn't a good boyfriend. Yeah, 602 00:37:16.679 --> 00:37:20.119 and I'll never forget. Like we're expenting about it, and like, you 603 00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:22.880 know, I was just giving her advice and then her reason for getting back 604 00:37:22.880 --> 00:37:24.559 to him. She literally said, she's like, you know, Angula, 605 00:37:24.599 --> 00:37:28.000 I'm just not done with him. Like I know, I'm not a dumb 606 00:37:28.039 --> 00:37:30.719 bitch. I don't need to be told that. She wasn't saying this to 607 00:37:30.800 --> 00:37:31.440 me, just like in general, she was saying, like it's not that 608 00:37:31.519 --> 00:37:36.239 I'm don't know that he's doing bad things or that I deserve better. It's 609 00:37:36.239 --> 00:37:37.039 not that I don't know that I'm not like this dumb bitch. I like 610 00:37:37.119 --> 00:37:39.679 love his blind kind of thing. I know that I just am not done 611 00:37:39.719 --> 00:37:44.400 with him. And I thought that was so powerful to be like, yeah, 612 00:37:44.559 --> 00:37:45.639 I know none of the shit, Like I'm just not done with this 613 00:37:45.639 --> 00:37:47.880 person. I'm not taking her seriously. This is not that my husband. 614 00:37:49.320 --> 00:37:52.239 Like when i decide I'm over being treated this way or like don't want to 615 00:37:52.280 --> 00:37:54.239 deal with it, then I will make that decision. But right now I'm 616 00:37:54.280 --> 00:37:58.280 not done with him, and I'm gonna go back to him and love that. 617 00:37:58.400 --> 00:38:00.719 Actually I did love that. And honestly, when my friends, I 618 00:38:00.760 --> 00:38:04.800 mean, it does get to a point I think when it's it becomes very 619 00:38:04.800 --> 00:38:07.199 repetitive and like you know, cause I've actually friends who are like I see 620 00:38:07.199 --> 00:38:12.039 their like mental health like goes severely down and does get to a point where 621 00:38:12.039 --> 00:38:15.360 I'm like, please stop. Like I will understand everything. I don't mind. 622 00:38:15.360 --> 00:38:19.239 I would never judge you for going back to an X someone that's shitty, 623 00:38:19.360 --> 00:38:22.719 or like forgiving something that's even unforgivable. Like I'm very understanding and I'm 624 00:38:22.800 --> 00:38:25.239 not judgmental, So I'm not gonna be the ones like, well, I'm 625 00:38:25.239 --> 00:38:30.000 not fucking with that person until it does until I see you like get to 626 00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:34.079 that point. So I guess like for that too, it's like hard for 627 00:38:34.119 --> 00:38:36.400 me to like talk to other people about too, because I'm just like, 628 00:38:36.440 --> 00:38:38.119 I give you this grace, like y'all need to give me this grace because 629 00:38:38.199 --> 00:38:43.440 and I also just feel like my thing wasn't that serious. That's a point 630 00:38:43.480 --> 00:38:45.960 where like obviously it annoyed me enough to talk to you guys and like talk 631 00:38:45.960 --> 00:38:49.360 about my podcast, but at the same time. That's how also not serious. 632 00:38:49.400 --> 00:38:51.000 It was that I could talk about it on the podcast, not saying 633 00:38:51.000 --> 00:38:52.239 I don't talk to you guys listeners about serious shit, because I do, 634 00:38:52.800 --> 00:38:55.440 but like I don't know if it was like really big to the point where 635 00:38:55.440 --> 00:38:58.800 I'm like crying, I don't know, I would I kind of think twice 636 00:38:58.800 --> 00:39:00.719 about it, sorry, guys, Like I even have this problem on the 637 00:39:00.719 --> 00:39:02.719 morning show, Like there was stuff where I'm like, I don't want to 638 00:39:02.719 --> 00:39:06.400 talk about this because I'm dealing with it now, like it actually does hurt 639 00:39:06.400 --> 00:39:09.039 my feelings and like I wouldn't be okay if like you know, JV or 640 00:39:09.039 --> 00:39:10.840 someone just wanted to call him right now, Like I'm like, oh, 641 00:39:10.920 --> 00:39:19.440 that's kind of like because that like we're like in this play, yeah, 642 00:39:14.880 --> 00:39:22.199 you know like this yeah, Like so like that stuff. And in this 643 00:39:22.280 --> 00:39:24.760 industry that is hard to balance because you do need to share, like and 644 00:39:24.800 --> 00:39:29.480 there's people who do share a lot of personal stuff with grace and shout out 645 00:39:29.480 --> 00:39:30.239 to them for doing it that way. I just haven't found the way to 646 00:39:30.280 --> 00:39:32.960 do that, especially me, like I'm single, and like, you know, 647 00:39:34.519 --> 00:39:37.199 it's weird exactly. There's peopleho don't take seriously where it's like I don't 648 00:39:37.199 --> 00:39:39.079 even care to talk about this person because they're not that serious, you know, 649 00:39:39.119 --> 00:39:42.280 and like I'm almost like, you know, that would give them their 650 00:39:42.280 --> 00:39:44.400 head big just to know I'm talking about them. Yeah, it's not that 651 00:39:44.440 --> 00:39:46.599 serious, but it is just content. Now we're going out to another situation. 652 00:39:46.679 --> 00:39:51.000 But I don't know back to the whole like oversharing. I guess I'm 653 00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:54.039 just like I feel like and so I know my friends just care about me 654 00:39:54.079 --> 00:39:57.440 in my specific situation, but I'm just like, oh my god, it's 655 00:39:57.440 --> 00:40:00.280 really not that serious, like but you like they're treating me like I'm like 656 00:40:00.360 --> 00:40:05.480 taking this like terrible X back. I feel like, Also, maybe it's 657 00:40:05.519 --> 00:40:08.639 because this is the only person you've been talking about, right, So it's 658 00:40:08.679 --> 00:40:15.599 they're like maybe they're making it seem like like it's like a like a serious 659 00:40:15.599 --> 00:40:17.920 theme because this is the one and only person right potentially and he's like the 660 00:40:17.960 --> 00:40:22.360 only person I'm dating right now. Yeah, so maybe that's why it's more 661 00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:25.559 of like a like like he's kind of grown leave him, like, you 662 00:40:25.599 --> 00:40:29.920 know, because he's the only one. Like, so maybe they think that 663 00:40:29.960 --> 00:40:34.159 it's more serious than it is. Also because in this situation about your nail 664 00:40:34.159 --> 00:40:37.920 tech, like you didn't update her like how we were updated, right, 665 00:40:37.039 --> 00:40:42.280 I'm sure like if you left out a whole bunch of those details and told 666 00:40:42.280 --> 00:40:46.800 me about it, and I'm still gonna be like he is not like please 667 00:40:46.880 --> 00:40:50.719 drop him. There are other fish in the seagull friend. Yeah. But 668 00:40:50.800 --> 00:40:52.599 then on your end, it's like, yeah, like you're just having fun. 669 00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:55.960 But I don't really necessarily that it's in the middle, Like I'm not 670 00:40:57.000 --> 00:41:01.320 saying he's nobody. I'm just like I like this person and yeah, maybe 671 00:41:01.320 --> 00:41:04.639 down the road if that was, but like it's not a conversation right now, 672 00:41:04.679 --> 00:41:06.719 and how do I can't even picture like having a boyfriend right now? 673 00:41:06.719 --> 00:41:08.199 Still, But I get what you're saying, Like it's like, well, 674 00:41:08.239 --> 00:41:12.000 this this person potentially could be your boyfriend in the future, like obviously if 675 00:41:12.000 --> 00:41:14.400 you're gonna getind your day hend Like that's what at least to if you're either 676 00:41:14.400 --> 00:41:15.920 gonna break up or you guys are gonna be in a relationship, so that 677 00:41:16.400 --> 00:41:20.599 it is fair. Yeah, And also, like what you said earlier, 678 00:41:20.920 --> 00:41:24.000 you're telling the notes that you're kind of updating them after you've already processed that, 679 00:41:24.119 --> 00:41:27.280 you know what I mean, Like you you when you told us, 680 00:41:27.639 --> 00:41:30.320 it was kind of almost in real time, and that's what made an Exactly 681 00:41:30.800 --> 00:41:35.519 you're showing you and your feelings and how you're thinking about it in that moment. 682 00:41:36.559 --> 00:41:38.519 A month later you're kind of like, oh, yeah, that happened, 683 00:41:38.559 --> 00:41:43.559 but I'm not there anymore. Right, You're gonna tell the story, 684 00:41:43.840 --> 00:41:46.760 same story, just different different emotions, different passion, different the way you 685 00:41:46.760 --> 00:41:50.000 tell it. And that's what I even work because honestly, when you're in 686 00:41:50.039 --> 00:41:51.960 it, like I do want the energy for my friends. I want to 687 00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:53.719 hear if it's really bad or if I'm tripping, because like my feelings are 688 00:41:53.800 --> 00:41:57.199 hurt right now and I'm dealing with it right now, and I need to 689 00:41:57.239 --> 00:42:00.320 know, like I need advice for my friends, and I need the same 690 00:42:00.440 --> 00:42:02.920 energy reciprocated. But I guess when yeah, exactly, it's something that like 691 00:42:02.960 --> 00:42:07.719 I've already dealt with and like now we're past it, like kind of bringing 692 00:42:07.760 --> 00:42:10.239 me back now, like that energy of like hmmm, well you forget, 693 00:42:10.239 --> 00:42:13.360 but I didn't, Like this is what's something happened. I'm like, oh 694 00:42:13.400 --> 00:42:15.719 fuck, well now it's bring me back to that place of how I felt. 695 00:42:15.760 --> 00:42:16.960 It's like, well I chose to be over it, so like we 696 00:42:17.000 --> 00:42:21.000 got to move forward because I'm living for it right right, you know, 697 00:42:21.199 --> 00:42:25.760 but I could see where they no text coming from, but not in her 698 00:42:25.840 --> 00:42:30.239 defense, but yeah yeah, but also like let's be real, we live 699 00:42:30.239 --> 00:42:35.800 in a time where like every little thing could almost be a red flag or 700 00:42:35.840 --> 00:42:38.760 a reason not to go for something. And then again, people with your 701 00:42:38.760 --> 00:42:43.280 friends, people that love you, they're gonna they're gonna think you deserve everything, 702 00:42:43.280 --> 00:42:45.320 which you probably do, and but every little thing is gonna be like, 703 00:42:45.320 --> 00:42:46.559 well, I don't know about this. I don't know about that, 704 00:42:46.559 --> 00:42:51.000 to the point where like you forget that we're human and people people fuck up 705 00:42:51.039 --> 00:42:54.320 people. There's you're learning just as much. You know, my friend's known 706 00:42:54.360 --> 00:42:58.199 me for ten years. This girl I'm dating is a month. Like there's 707 00:42:58.239 --> 00:43:00.440 a lot to cover, you know. So I think another part that like 708 00:43:00.480 --> 00:43:04.320 I guess her my feelings are maybe annoyed about it. And again it's like 709 00:43:04.960 --> 00:43:07.559 not everyone is like you, and not everyone has the same politics or like 710 00:43:07.559 --> 00:43:10.960 same understanding or same judgment morals whatever the hell. But like, for example, 711 00:43:10.960 --> 00:43:15.920 I have another friend and like now is done with her relationship. But 712 00:43:15.960 --> 00:43:17.519 I remember when she was taking him back for something I thought that was whack, 713 00:43:17.599 --> 00:43:21.280 or even though I felt she could do better once I knew she forgave 714 00:43:21.360 --> 00:43:23.440 him, I never was like after that, Okay, well girl, he's 715 00:43:23.480 --> 00:43:27.440 trash, like I forgave him with her, or at least moved on. 716 00:43:27.519 --> 00:43:29.559 Like even if I'm in the back of my head like that, God does 717 00:43:29.599 --> 00:43:31.119 not deserve my friend. I'm not telling her that because I don't want her 718 00:43:31.119 --> 00:43:34.400 to feel like I don't hate him, because I don't hate him. I 719 00:43:34.400 --> 00:43:36.559 don't understand. I was not coming from a place I hate. I just 720 00:43:36.639 --> 00:43:38.440 think you could do better. And I'm like I'm hoping, like because I 721 00:43:38.480 --> 00:43:42.239 know you're still in it, I'm almost hoping, like Okay, I'm just 722 00:43:42.280 --> 00:43:44.920 like praying he gets it together because like, obviously you're still in this, 723 00:43:45.119 --> 00:43:47.119 so like I hope you work out. I don't necessarily hate him, and 724 00:43:47.199 --> 00:43:50.880 like, I don't want my friend to feel like she can't talk to me 725 00:43:50.880 --> 00:43:53.320 about her boyfriend anymore, or like feel like I hate him, or it 726 00:43:53.480 --> 00:43:55.880 just be awkward when we talk about it, or even like when we all 727 00:43:55.920 --> 00:43:58.840 go out. I don't want her to think I'm like to hate her friend, 728 00:43:59.000 --> 00:44:02.079 you know, and or or even make her feel bad about her chusing 729 00:44:02.159 --> 00:44:07.039 to forget him and like staying in this relationship. And again this is there's 730 00:44:07.119 --> 00:44:10.360 layers like yeah, obviously, like there's more stuff where like maybe someone doesn't 731 00:44:10.360 --> 00:44:13.920 need to feel bad about the relationship or or maybe you need to set a 732 00:44:13.920 --> 00:44:15.719 boundary of like actually I'm not okay with this as your friend, but like 733 00:44:15.760 --> 00:44:20.079 for little relationshipship that we all deal with, like no one is perfect, 734 00:44:20.119 --> 00:44:22.639 like you said, like people do action. Unfortunately, there's not a perfect 735 00:44:22.719 --> 00:44:27.800 person. So I guess that kind of annoyed me too, Like it's like 736 00:44:28.559 --> 00:44:30.639 I do that for my friends, Like I just didn't like the energy. 737 00:44:30.679 --> 00:44:35.519 I guess it was very much like he sucks. It kind of was like 738 00:44:35.519 --> 00:44:37.280 I'm not accepting of him. Almost a little man but already off the bat, 739 00:44:37.400 --> 00:44:43.079 you know. Yeah. But then I guess so the other extent, 740 00:44:43.119 --> 00:44:45.079 maybe she's like, well does isn't even your boyfriends like to say that, 741 00:44:45.519 --> 00:44:58.440 Like I'm doing this? Girls, Just listen, why are you talking back? 742 00:45:00.320 --> 00:45:04.280 Are you talking about? You're right? You're right. I mean, 743 00:45:05.199 --> 00:45:08.440 it's it's hard. You have to. You have to if you are someone 744 00:45:08.480 --> 00:45:10.719 that's an open book, like I think I am in a lot of things. 745 00:45:12.079 --> 00:45:13.880 It's just there's certain parts of my life that I'm like, well, 746 00:45:13.880 --> 00:45:15.239 I kind of already dealt with this, so I don't really Yeah, I 747 00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:20.440 try to tell or felt the need to bring it up anymore because it already 748 00:45:20.480 --> 00:45:22.960 happened. You know, I forgot I was gonna say with that, but 749 00:45:25.639 --> 00:45:29.519 it was good. It'll come back to you what I will say. I 750 00:45:29.519 --> 00:45:31.519 think going away, like obviously I'm not gonna be like when I's gonna become 751 00:45:31.519 --> 00:45:35.239 this crazy private person doesn't share anything because like that that's just it's just not 752 00:45:35.360 --> 00:45:37.960 me and I I'm solo, So I like talk. I like updating my 753 00:45:37.960 --> 00:45:42.639 friends about my relationships and my family about my relationships, and like even if 754 00:45:42.639 --> 00:45:45.119 it's like something left casual, like I still like talking about it because this 755 00:45:45.159 --> 00:45:46.840 is someone I'm talking to every day or hanging out with every weekend, Like 756 00:45:46.920 --> 00:45:51.599 it's part of my life. I want my friends know about it. But 757 00:45:51.639 --> 00:45:53.199 I will say, maybe I'm like going to pick and choose like the stuff 758 00:45:53.239 --> 00:45:55.800 I share to you, Like maybe not every single friend needs to know about 759 00:45:55.840 --> 00:45:59.840 this one issue I'm going through, depending how they act, like like my 760 00:46:00.480 --> 00:46:04.199 like my guy cousins that were kind of talking about like like they're not gonna 761 00:46:04.239 --> 00:46:06.400 judge me, for that and not inn and they do want the best for 762 00:46:06.480 --> 00:46:07.159 me, and like, honestly, trust me, I feel something serious. 763 00:46:07.159 --> 00:46:09.599 They would be like fuck that guy, but like something like this though, 764 00:46:09.840 --> 00:46:13.119 tink a lot about it because they already thought I was kind of overreacting in 765 00:46:13.119 --> 00:46:15.199 the beginning, not overreacting, but they were very much like why don't you 766 00:46:15.239 --> 00:46:19.519 just text them? You know, like we're over here talking about it, 767 00:46:19.559 --> 00:46:21.519 you know, like it's okay to just send a text be like what the 768 00:46:21.519 --> 00:46:23.880 fuck what's up? Like did you die? You know, like let's just 769 00:46:23.880 --> 00:46:25.800 get to the point of it, and you know, and then they and 770 00:46:25.840 --> 00:46:29.920 then they like make jokes like like they were sending me ghost emojis all day, 771 00:46:30.079 --> 00:46:31.280 but like if I'm sure they know what I'm talking to them, and 772 00:46:31.320 --> 00:46:35.480 like they're not gonna be like this guy, you know, like they're not 773 00:46:35.480 --> 00:46:37.039 gonna give me a hard time about it either, And like I think I 774 00:46:37.079 --> 00:46:40.519 just need to pick and choose, like who is who can hear me on 775 00:46:40.599 --> 00:46:45.599 and who knows how I'm thinking? And then people that know you enough to 776 00:46:45.639 --> 00:46:47.639 know where you're coming from too, you know, yeah, like exactly like 777 00:46:47.639 --> 00:46:51.760 that maybe not hold it against me, and like all I'm not I'm not 778 00:46:51.800 --> 00:46:52.760 just picking on a nail tech like no, no, no, yeah, 779 00:46:52.920 --> 00:46:59.000 several situations and I'm probably still gonna keep talking to about shit kind of because 780 00:46:59.119 --> 00:47:02.039 what you already said, like you're gonna take in all that advice off what 781 00:47:02.079 --> 00:47:06.719 everyone has, right, but you kind of we all already kind of know 782 00:47:06.760 --> 00:47:07.559 what we want to do anywhere at the end of the day. Is just 783 00:47:07.599 --> 00:47:09.920 a way to be like, Okay, well let me just see what's out 784 00:47:09.920 --> 00:47:14.000 there. But at the end of the day, what I usually what you 785 00:47:14.039 --> 00:47:16.639 already think is right for you. Yeah, and like what you're gonna deal 786 00:47:16.679 --> 00:47:20.320 with And I honestly like it was a little blessing too. There's stuff I 787 00:47:20.320 --> 00:47:21.840 was just thinking about in the back of my head that she said, and 788 00:47:21.840 --> 00:47:23.840 I'm like, you know what later on like literally this morning, it's like 789 00:47:23.880 --> 00:47:28.920 I needed to hear that, Like, Okay, it's a little true, 790 00:47:29.119 --> 00:47:30.440 but like how I'm gonna deal with it is different, and how I feel 791 00:47:30.440 --> 00:47:34.519 about it is different. And like back to what Emma back in the day, 792 00:47:34.599 --> 00:47:36.559 not Emma, oh my god, her just because it was my other 793 00:47:36.599 --> 00:47:45.119 white friend, Emily, Okay, very similar, okay, similar days MMA's 794 00:47:45.320 --> 00:47:47.360 one, but the st Emily back to her short of like I'm just not 795 00:47:47.360 --> 00:47:50.599 done with this person. I think that's like, that's what it is. 796 00:47:51.239 --> 00:47:54.199 I still want a day to have fun. So yeah, I came to 797 00:47:54.199 --> 00:47:58.800 an epiphany. Actually just now, I think it has to do with the 798 00:47:58.840 --> 00:48:05.000 only child thing that's I don't really share because I just feel like I just, 799 00:48:05.599 --> 00:48:07.360 Yeah, growing up, I just dealt with everything on my own. 800 00:48:07.360 --> 00:48:13.360 I had no siblings to like talk to, like, didn't really talk to 801 00:48:13.360 --> 00:48:15.880 my friends about things, didn't really talk to my family about things, so 802 00:48:16.039 --> 00:48:20.079 like I don't really know to talk to talk to my friends. So I 803 00:48:20.199 --> 00:48:24.400 just handled everything on my own. So I feel like that's really that's how 804 00:48:24.400 --> 00:48:28.480 you grew up. Yeah, And I feel like, and like you said, 805 00:48:28.519 --> 00:48:30.639 Angelina, when I do tell you stuff or when I did, like 806 00:48:30.679 --> 00:48:36.159 in the past, it was like when I had like my final like straws, 807 00:48:36.360 --> 00:48:39.320 I was trying to like talk talk it out. It's like when I 808 00:48:39.440 --> 00:48:43.039 need to, I guess, so like when I feel like I don't like 809 00:48:43.079 --> 00:48:45.239 we're about to meet that person, You're like, hey, I'm talking those 810 00:48:45.239 --> 00:48:50.599 guys like whatever. Yeah, when like I didn't feel like I needed to 811 00:48:50.639 --> 00:48:52.760 because I could handle it it like internally on my own, right, right, 812 00:48:52.880 --> 00:48:55.400 so yeah, I feel like that's how I feel about it. So 813 00:48:57.320 --> 00:49:00.840 no one is knowing, No one is going to meet my future boot until 814 00:49:01.320 --> 00:49:08.880 like our engagement but when yellow meet him period, Okay yeah probably, I 815 00:49:08.880 --> 00:49:14.639 don't know, maybe not. Yeah, I disagree engaging because you are really 816 00:49:14.679 --> 00:49:17.320 close with your friends. I am like when you're dating someone eventually, like 817 00:49:17.360 --> 00:49:21.000 when you get to a certain point. Yeah, early stages, totally get 818 00:49:21.000 --> 00:49:22.559 it. But like if you're dating, you want to bring them around. 819 00:49:22.559 --> 00:49:28.039 You're going to hide this person. But my friends joke around and be like, 820 00:49:28.119 --> 00:49:30.960 yeah, Angelique, I guess we're not going to know him until your 821 00:49:30.000 --> 00:49:36.039 engagement party till do you want that? You want your friends to meet your 822 00:49:36.079 --> 00:49:42.000 future husband? No, my daughter. Yeah, but it's seeming like healthy 823 00:49:42.360 --> 00:49:45.320 on both ends, like of not saying anything and saying too much, Like 824 00:49:45.360 --> 00:49:47.360 there is a middle that I feel like is healthy. Both both can be 825 00:49:47.440 --> 00:49:53.119 extremes for sure, right, and it can be yeah. Yeah, I 826 00:49:53.119 --> 00:49:58.119 remember I had a best friend in high school and like her family was so 827 00:49:58.119 --> 00:50:00.760 so private, like to the point where like they get mad if you like 828 00:50:00.800 --> 00:50:04.159 said anything about anything, Like I don't know it was, I remember noticing 829 00:50:04.199 --> 00:50:07.800 it kind of and then I'll never forget my other friend like dated to because 830 00:50:07.840 --> 00:50:08.440 she was like, oh my god, their family's so private, right, 831 00:50:08.440 --> 00:50:12.000 And I was like, oh so it's like a known thing. That's how 832 00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:15.280 private they were yea. And yeah, it was just like we don't talk 833 00:50:15.320 --> 00:50:17.079 about every day, we don't talk about family issues. And I think it 834 00:50:17.119 --> 00:50:20.079 really is just how you grown up. I don't maybe, I mean, 835 00:50:20.119 --> 00:50:22.599 I know, you guy said your only child, but like in me and 836 00:50:22.639 --> 00:50:24.880 this girl's you know, comparisons, like she has a big Mexican family. 837 00:50:24.920 --> 00:50:28.079 I have a big Mexican family. She has older brothers. I'm the oldest 838 00:50:28.079 --> 00:50:30.320 sister, but we all have siblings. Yeah, And like I think it's 839 00:50:30.320 --> 00:50:32.719 just how we were raised. Like my mom is very like me and mom 840 00:50:32.760 --> 00:50:36.559 tell each other everything, and we're very much like talking family. We're gonna 841 00:50:36.559 --> 00:50:37.880 talk about our problems. If we're gonna fight, we're gonna have a meeting 842 00:50:37.880 --> 00:50:40.199 afterwards, and we're talking about who was wrong, and like you know, 843 00:50:40.239 --> 00:50:45.000 we're all gonna apologize to each other, like wons to like discipline us. 844 00:50:45.119 --> 00:50:47.199 She would like spake us and then like talk make you talk to her after 845 00:50:47.519 --> 00:50:52.480 yeah, like about why like what why and where what hurt your feelings? 846 00:50:52.599 --> 00:50:55.519 Yeah, and and like maybe my friend in high school, like maybe that's 847 00:50:55.519 --> 00:50:59.320 not her family was because they're very like we don't we have family. Probably 848 00:50:59.320 --> 00:51:00.360 we don't talk about it. No one knows about the issues that are going 849 00:51:00.400 --> 00:51:06.039 on in this house, which is respectable to but it just is completely different 850 00:51:06.079 --> 00:51:08.360 from my household. Yeah, because I will say this, I have a 851 00:51:08.480 --> 00:51:13.639 huge family, and I think one of the reasons why I'm also very private 852 00:51:13.760 --> 00:51:16.559 is because of how close we are, like to the point where like sometimes 853 00:51:16.599 --> 00:51:20.920 I don't want everyone to know everything, or like like like we always have 854 00:51:20.960 --> 00:51:23.280 a joke me and my cousins, how like if we tell our mom something, 855 00:51:23.679 --> 00:51:28.199 all my theas are going to find out something about it, nothing crazy, 856 00:51:28.280 --> 00:51:30.559 nothing big. We just make it as a joke because it's true. 857 00:51:30.719 --> 00:51:34.960 We'll say something and like my thea is gonna know some my my cousin's gonna 858 00:51:34.960 --> 00:51:37.159 know. They already knew because I already told them. It becomes that, 859 00:51:37.199 --> 00:51:40.519 you know. So I think that's one way that like me and and the 860 00:51:40.599 --> 00:51:44.840 specific set of cousins that I have, that we're kind of like we need 861 00:51:44.880 --> 00:51:49.559 to, you know, but we don't love how close how much people find 862 00:51:49.559 --> 00:51:53.760 out about things. Everyone's going I trust my family and everything, but I 863 00:51:53.800 --> 00:52:00.800 don't care to hear what all of them have to say. So like a 864 00:52:00.880 --> 00:52:04.440 media family and like the whole family, and like going back to the only 865 00:52:04.519 --> 00:52:07.920 child thing. I have cousins that I'm really close to, but I didn't 866 00:52:07.920 --> 00:52:09.760 live in the same city they did, so like you go through yourself, 867 00:52:09.760 --> 00:52:13.880 you process it, and then when I see my cousin, there's things I 868 00:52:13.920 --> 00:52:17.000 talk about to them, but already happened. I'm not there anymore. I'm 869 00:52:17.000 --> 00:52:20.519 just telling you about it because I'm close to and I'm updating you about my 870 00:52:20.519 --> 00:52:22.960 life, right I mean, And it's all fun until it's your problem, 871 00:52:22.039 --> 00:52:28.840 Like of course I want to you know, whatever's problems and blah blah did 872 00:52:28.920 --> 00:52:35.559 last night? Yeah, family know about this. I don't know if you 873 00:52:35.800 --> 00:52:37.400 if you do too, But I have like the the some people in our 874 00:52:37.400 --> 00:52:42.280 family that's like they know they're in everybody's business, but to them, they 875 00:52:42.280 --> 00:52:44.599 don't want everybody to know anything. And it's like, no, if you're 876 00:52:44.599 --> 00:52:45.519 gonna be an open family, you got it. We all got to do 877 00:52:45.559 --> 00:52:50.320 it, you know, right, the pros and cos are having a big 878 00:52:50.320 --> 00:52:52.920 family. Oh yeah, you could be mad about it, but to an 879 00:52:52.960 --> 00:52:54.239 extent, you gotta be like, well, this is just family exactly. 880 00:52:57.239 --> 00:53:01.000 My family is pretty like private. I don't know if it's to the point 881 00:53:01.000 --> 00:53:07.599 where your friends like how your friends was, but we don't, like I 882 00:53:07.599 --> 00:53:10.039 don't personally. Yeah, I guess it's how I was raised, but I 883 00:53:10.039 --> 00:53:15.000 don't personally tell other people like our family issues. No one really knows, 884 00:53:15.039 --> 00:53:19.719 like what goes on, like like our internal like fights and stuff, and 885 00:53:19.880 --> 00:53:22.199 I don't know. I guess, yeah, just how I grew up and 886 00:53:22.239 --> 00:53:27.960 how my family was, like no one knows, like it's interesting or like 887 00:53:28.239 --> 00:53:30.360 my whole family could be broken, like no one talks to anybody, and 888 00:53:30.440 --> 00:53:34.920 y'all wouldn't even know, right, see, my family's opposite, like we 889 00:53:35.000 --> 00:53:37.880 know, we know too. I think it's a cultural thing though, because 890 00:53:37.920 --> 00:53:42.920 at least for us, like all my family, it's only a few generations 891 00:53:42.920 --> 00:53:45.639 back that they were also the same little village that everybody knew everything, even 892 00:53:45.639 --> 00:53:49.800 when you don't want even if you didn't tell them, you know, yeah, 893 00:53:49.840 --> 00:53:52.039 and it kind of just passes on. And then now that we're here 894 00:53:52.079 --> 00:53:55.960 and all scattered, we still yeah, you know, yeah, I don't 895 00:53:55.960 --> 00:53:59.679 know how you think from us, I think, you know, maybe it 896 00:53:59.760 --> 00:54:02.800 is and maybe my friend. Her family was like very private because exactly because 897 00:54:02.800 --> 00:54:06.119 of that reason, like, well, we know we have a nosy family, 898 00:54:06.159 --> 00:54:07.599 so we need to be as private as possible because just like her immediate 899 00:54:07.639 --> 00:54:09.480 family that was that way. But like for media, family is a big 900 00:54:09.519 --> 00:54:13.400 household. She had like two brothers, like she was like the only girl 901 00:54:13.559 --> 00:54:16.000 or hurt. She had another older sister, but like hella siblings, you 902 00:54:16.039 --> 00:54:19.079 know, like and say with me, like I got my brother and my 903 00:54:19.119 --> 00:54:21.880 sister, like my mom, my stepdad. We got an uncle living in 904 00:54:21.920 --> 00:54:25.440 the garage, you know, like like brother's house. So like it's like 905 00:54:25.639 --> 00:54:28.920 even though I have a little family, like it's a big little family in 906 00:54:28.960 --> 00:54:31.760 this one household. So yeah, I mean it is just interesting. I 907 00:54:31.760 --> 00:54:35.480 don't think that I necessarily like have a solution to this conversation we brought up. 908 00:54:35.519 --> 00:54:37.960 Like it's literally just a conversation. Yeah, and it's interesting, Like 909 00:54:37.159 --> 00:54:42.039 yeah, it all goes back to like how you're raised and like how you 910 00:54:42.079 --> 00:54:45.159 acted when you were younger and like amongst your friends. And I've always been 911 00:54:45.199 --> 00:54:52.400 like an oversharer. I'm an open book and I don't think and vice versa, 912 00:54:52.440 --> 00:54:54.039 like you know with someone that's private, I don't think it's like bad 913 00:54:54.199 --> 00:54:58.239 or good on either end. Like, I think there's a lot of pros 914 00:54:58.280 --> 00:55:00.719 to like being a private person obviously, like seeing the other side, like 915 00:55:01.239 --> 00:55:04.960 my cons, but I also like love that I'm an open person too, 916 00:55:05.000 --> 00:55:07.960 and I've seen the reward of it going back to so yeah, it's just 917 00:55:07.960 --> 00:55:13.159 interesting. Yeah, any interesting. That's a topic for today. If you 918 00:55:13.199 --> 00:55:15.239 guys want to weigh in, leave a talk back to I love. Sometimes 919 00:55:15.239 --> 00:55:21.239 listeners will leave a talk back about like a podcast episode, So you can 920 00:55:21.280 --> 00:55:23.239 always just put Wild ninety for nine on the free iHeart radio app. I'm 921 00:55:23.239 --> 00:55:25.599 on seven to midnight, so if you leave the talk back during any of 922 00:55:25.599 --> 00:55:29.800 those hours, it will say to Angelina. But honestly, I've been checking 923 00:55:29.800 --> 00:55:31.559 all the while, so you can do it on someone else's hour, Jamie 924 00:55:31.559 --> 00:55:34.480 Show's, Rina's, Gabby's. Just be like, hey, Angelina, I 925 00:55:34.519 --> 00:55:37.760 want to talk about this. You can always leave us comment on Instagram or 926 00:55:37.800 --> 00:55:42.199 at underscore, FTR pod or at least some reviews, especially if listening on 927 00:55:42.199 --> 00:55:45.159 Spotify, because they have like oh no, on Apple podcasts, they have 928 00:55:45.199 --> 00:55:46.639 a whole review section and that just helps us a lot. Okay, so 929 00:55:46.800 --> 00:55:52.440 please do that. This is a good conversation. Guys are sharing so much 930 00:55:52.440 --> 00:56:00.360 closer to you, guys, now we just really opened up. Okay, 931 00:55:59.519 --> 00:56:05.719 so surprised. I've been this guy for like a year or so. I 932 00:56:05.800 --> 00:56:09.360 was kidding. If you came to us with something like that, I would 933 00:56:09.360 --> 00:56:14.679 have never guessed. That's how much of right now I think of you and 934 00:56:14.760 --> 00:56:16.320 be like, oh, she's single either, I don't know. I really 935 00:56:16.360 --> 00:56:21.599 don't know about I remember when she came out that she had a boyfriend. 936 00:56:21.599 --> 00:56:23.079 We were all like we found out at her birthday because he was there, 937 00:56:23.079 --> 00:56:25.920 and everyone was like, she has a boyfriend, and I'm like, yeah, 938 00:56:27.079 --> 00:56:30.519 like five years like this, No, I did like hiding from your 939 00:56:30.519 --> 00:56:32.440 coworkers because the workplace different, but like I'm like her power of being that 940 00:56:32.480 --> 00:56:37.039 private, like workers don't watch it, you know. No, but that's 941 00:56:37.039 --> 00:56:39.039 what I feel like. Okay, I won't wait until marriage or proposal, 942 00:56:39.079 --> 00:56:44.760 but I'm gonna pop out like your coworker of dating for five years and then 943 00:56:44.760 --> 00:56:47.400 everyone was gonna be shook, like, yeah, I got a man. 944 00:56:47.719 --> 00:56:51.320 Yeah. And also he was like kind, so she probably didn't want to 945 00:56:51.400 --> 00:56:53.199 like wrap him like that. Like I'm wanting place to brag about you. 946 00:56:54.280 --> 00:56:59.000 But you guys have dated. We're just bad people and I didn't want to 947 00:57:00.239 --> 00:57:02.440 know. I'm just kidding. I definitely, I don't know. I don't 948 00:57:02.480 --> 00:57:06.719 know, but I feel that too, Like I think there are some people 949 00:57:06.719 --> 00:57:09.440 who I know I definitely don't take seriously and like exactly like we make these 950 00:57:09.519 --> 00:57:12.800 days like obviously for the podcast to protect them. But even when I'm talking 951 00:57:12.800 --> 00:57:15.239 to my friends, I'll be like, oh, slow bay, like because 952 00:57:15.480 --> 00:57:17.239 I don't care about like this is this person I'm not dating I don't take 953 00:57:17.239 --> 00:57:20.639 seriously, is like a hook of one and done kind of not one and 954 00:57:20.679 --> 00:57:24.599 done, but like exactly like my boyfriend and Dan, we don't even want 955 00:57:24.599 --> 00:57:27.719 to go on dates with you. You know, there's there's some people you 956 00:57:27.760 --> 00:57:31.719 just don't take seriously, and yeah, you choose at least I guess. 957 00:57:31.760 --> 00:57:34.679 I don't choose to not talk about them, but I choose how I talk 958 00:57:34.719 --> 00:57:37.599 about them, Yes, yes, and in the context I talk about them, 959 00:57:37.599 --> 00:57:39.400 and how much I talk about them. So there's layers. There's layers 960 00:57:39.440 --> 00:57:45.480 to the ship. Layers. 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