All right, let's get started on the Minnesota goodbye. We got a smattering
of some different emails here. Let's dive in and see what we got.
Okay, this one says piggybacking off the email from the woman trying to decide
if she should go back to work. So I thought i'd tell my story.
I worked until my third child was six months old. Then I said
I'm going to stay home. My oldest was in kindergarten and my middle child
was too. I was miserable. I missed out on adult interaction so much.
My two year old was begging to go back to daycare, saying he
missed his friends and teachers. I went back to working part time at first,
and that was great. My kids got to go to daycare and play,
and I got some adult interaction. It's also nice having daycare as a
place you can send your kids if you've got stuff going on. If my
husband and I go out of town, my sister actually takes the kids,
but she works so she can bring him to daycare. Obviously not the main
reason to go back to work, but they're perks too having daycare on hand.
If I'm sick, I can stay home and send my kids to daycare.
I have found I'm a better mom to my kids when I'm not with
them twenty four to seven. I might have felt differently if I started being
a stay at home mom when we first when my first was born. As
much as Dave loves long emails, this is getting long, so I'll end
it here. That's not long at all. I appreciate it. Good luck,
and whatever you decide, we'll work and do what's best for your family.
So okay, Yeah, I can see that. Yeah, there's no
shame in wanting to break from your kids. My daughter Allison has two daughters
that they either need attention or want attention constantly, and they're great. There's
nothing unusual about him. They either need attention or want attention constantly, and
she's been really good because she doesn't give them a lot of screen time.
The three year old could be parked in front of the TV for six hours
a day and she doesn't do that. Okay. In regards to the not
political Minnesota Goodbye episode, I don't think it was fair of the woman that
stereotyped Drake for being young and broke or whatever. Because he smokes. He
isn't broke. Because he's young in his early twenty Oh, isn't he broke
because he's young in early twenties? I'm sorry, but last time I checked,
when I was twenty one, now thirty six, I was also broke,
but not because I smoked weed, not my thing, but because I
was young and just getting out in the real world with a big girl job.
I hate the stereotype and the blanket statements that were implied by that writer.
It's unfair and frankly none of her business and the immaturity of fine,
I'll just leave Minnesota. Then. Mentality is like stating you're unfollowing a page
on social media. Isn't it better to do it quietly? Anyway? I
keep doing you, Drake, because you may be young and broke, but
you're genuine, You're hilarious. Wishing you many years of success and whatever you
want to token smoke? Is that what the kids call it? L from
Jackie, that's funny. You are bro well. I was thinking about that
this morning. I was thinking about like sometimes you think back to like people
you used to date, and I dated somebody. She was twenty four,
I was twenty three, and she had an okay apartment. She had an
okay job. She was a good person, and I don't really know what
happened to her, but I remember thinking, you know, from the standards
of being a forty year old, did not have much, but for the
standards of being a twenty four year old, she was doing just fine.
Exactly exactly, Yeah, I mean at Drake's age, I didn't have a
four oh one k I didn't have and I lived in an area where wrent
was much cheaper, you know what I mean. So I don't know.
This is a long one. I'm going to see how far we get into
it. It says don't say my name. Thanks for putting that up front.
That makes it a lot easier. I've been listening to you since ninety
five, Dave, when I started riding the school bus, and you've been
a strong father figure in my life. My own dad hasn't been present often,
and I really appreciate all the thoughtful advice you give listeners and how you
sincerely seem to care about us. Fallon. I've needed to go through an
adjustment period with every new co host Davis had, but I instantly loved you
and I think you're amazing. Jenny and Drake you do awesome too. Here's
my issue. Two years ago, I left a relationship that was deteriorating Fallon.
I was actually a guest on your heartbroken podcast, Oh Wow, I
believe my alias was Olivia, and spoke about the deterioration of the relationship ship
how I felt my ex was exhibiting narcissistic and emotionally abusive behavior and he was
also a functioning alcoholic. Anyway, I ended up leaving, not on the
best terms. My AX realized he was losing me, started changing, turned
around being the man I always begged him to be. The problem was though
I'd already checked out oh yeah, and was talking to someone else at the
time. I ended up leaving and moving across the country to be with this
new person. Fast forward to now, my AX has remained constant in my
life. We do have kids, so that was expected, and he has
been a rock for me through this transition. Over the last couple of years.
We had moments when we seriously considered getting back together, but I don't
want to move back to Minnesota and he doesn't want to move, so I'm
in limbo. There were a lot of trust issues between us, a lot
of damage caused by me leaving and the way I did. Now, after
two years, my ex is finally seeing someone new, and I feel completely
devastated. I'm wondering if I made the right decision or if I screwed up
and lost out in the love of my life. I know I was a
girl, good, good girlfriend. I know that I put up with a
lot, and a lot of women would have walked away sooner. But I
can't help feeling like I'm the one who's screwed up and lost him, even
though I know with all my heart I tried and tried until I had to
let go of him. So I guess what I need is some support from
my radio friends. Dave, I know you've been through some tough relationship issues
and fallon. I know you've dealt with divorce, which is what this feels
like after a decade together, and you're a step mom. How did you
cope with this pit in your stomach? How do you cope with getting the
kids to know a new stepparent? To clarify our kids never met the man
I originally moved for. When I stop and think about things, I feel
like hindsight's twenty twenty and maybe if I chosen to stay one more time,
things might have turned around differently. Maybe this is what he needed to finally
become the man he was supposed to be. And it's just also heartbreaking.
So she goes on a little bit. But basically, how do you cope?
That's something that is something that will always stay with you. I don't
think you will ever honestly completely get over the first guy. I really don't,
because I think that we always hold on to a little bit of something,
even if we find somebody else, And I don't think there's anything uncommon
about that. I hate when you say you feel devastated that he's seen somebody
else, because that's one of the hard parts is when you imagine them doing
all the things that you loved, and of course having sex. You don't
want to imagine them having sex, so pretend that they don't. But I
would say you gave it a good shot. I would say it's okay to
move on, and I would say it's okay to go back, but he
might not be available to go back to. Yeah, And you also said
the big problem is neither of you wants to move, So would you then
move if he If you were like I changed my mind. I want you
back. Would you actually move? Because first of all, I start with
I don't think you made a mistake like make because you've probably grown and learned
a lot about yourself and changed and become maybe a better partner through time,
and he probably has two So I don't think you made the wrong choice by
leaving initially. But it's kind of like if you guys can't get on the
same page about having kids, if you can't get on the same page about
where you want to live, that's a pretty big deal breaker. And obviously
he's especially desirable now if he's actually moved on, you know, that makes
everyone more desirable. You want what you can have. Yeah, So I
don't know if you if you were willing one hundred percent to move back to
Minnesota, if you absolutely, without a doubt, are then it, then
tell him, but realize you could out your life move here. And it's
a lot easier to get along with someone when you don't live with them and
see them every day. That is true. It is a lot easier to
get along with somebody if you don't see him every day. That is true.
When you've talked about like long distance relationship, I think before Dave,
and you only see each other on the weekend, so it's like a fun
adventure every weekend. So it seems like a great relationship. And then one
of you moves and you live together and you're like, oh, you're part
of the actual day to day mundane stuff and you're like, oh, this
sucks. It's actually not exciting or fun. It's one percent true because if
you're seeing somebody and you only see them to go do something fun, well,
there's never any down times where you're like arguing over like the sinkful of
dirty dishes or who did the laundry, or who forgot to buy this.
I would say, if your kids are back here, keep that in mind.
She does say, Dave, how did you deal with being a long
distance parent? I think that's the hardest part of all this, trying to
maintain some sort of parenting relationship and keeping things on good terms for the kids
even when they're back in Minnesota. Love you, guys, and thank you.
One thing that was suggested to me my ex fiance suggested when Chase was
growing up lived in Arizona, every Tuesday night, Every Tuesday night, at
seven o'clock, we would talk every Tuesday night at seven o'clock. We would
talk that way. He knew it was coming, his mom knew it was
coming, and I knew it was coming. That way, you could you
didn't just call in a random Sunday afternoon and he's at the park, or
he didn't call on a random Friday afternoon and he's at his buddy's house.
Every Tuesday, we would talk every Tuesday, and if he couldn't do it
because he had something going on, he would call me and say, Dad,
I can't talk at seven o'clock. Can we talk tomorrow night? And
then? And then I know, so I would say start with that,
all right, Next one on the Minnesota Goodbye. This is from somebody whom
I'm going to condense this email a little bit. They're talking about euthanizing pets.
They are a veterinary technician, and they're the person who helps people say
goodbye to their pets. I enjoy doing it, but I don't like the
fact that people are saying goodbye to their pets. But I do appreciate being
the person that helps them say goodbye and go through the process hopefully as comfortably
as possible. It's always a horrible day but here are some tips. Once
the injections start, it's very quick. Some people are uncomfortable with holding or
touching their pets after they pass, So please say goodbye and give all your
loved ones to your pet before the and all your loves to your pet before
the injections start. I said that yesterday because I picked up Willie, our
little cat, when he got youth and ice ten years ago, and I
picked him up and he flopped over in my arms, and it was an
ugly, awful last memory. He was not there was no life in him,
and I definitely hugged him before, but I would suggest don't hug them
or pick them up after. You will be sadly disappointed. Give your pet
all the best food you can. And my clinic we have goodbye kisses,
which your Hershey's kisses. Let your dog experienced chocolate, hamburgers, ice cream,
whatever treat they want that you could never give them before. If you're
not comfortable being present for an euthanasia, your vet staff will sit with your
pet while they pass. No judgment. If you want your last memories to
be of your pet alive, or if you cannot bear to see them go,
we understand we will give all the pet, your pet all the love
we can and treat them with care and respect as they go. If you
do decide to stay with your pet, please feel free to stay with your
pet as long as you would like after the procedure is done. It's a
hard day and we understand that. And to lighten the mood, she sent
some pictures of her pets, Nova, Finley and Miko And so I'm just
going to scroll through. There's Nova, Finley and mikop. What's the second
one? I know, the first one of the quargy little pappions. The
last one. I think it looks like a mix of a beagle and a
German shepherd combo. I have no idea, no idea, All right,
Next one, Dave, are you're going to the Sturgist bike rally? My
friend says thousands of people go there drink, screw each other, and do
drugs. I know you're a biker. Sounds like you're a kind of crowd.
Let me know. That was from Alley. I've been to Sturgis before.
We did drink, we did not have sex with other random people,
and we don't do drugs. We were going to go, but life got
in the way. I feel sometimes like life, I'm not living life anymore.
Life is living me. Like there's a lot of things, like I
want to do things, but things get in the way and I can't do
the things that I want to do. So what do you what can you
do? Have you thought about like what? Like, I'm sure you have.
What can you do to change that? Because that's not There's not a
lot of things that it's something will come up that I have to cancel my
plans to do something else. And I don't want to say because some are
things that are involving people that might be listening and I don't want to see
them unappreciative. But there are certain things that I want to do but I
can't do because things come up. So sometimes I feel like life is living
me and I'm not living life. Do you ever feel that way? Maybe
that's a topic on its own, but no, not going to sturges this
year. I was going to go, but something came up. Our kids
went to bed early, so my husband and I are catching up on our
favorite podcast, drinking some beer and watching the sunset. After listening to Today's
Not Political and Yesterday's Insomnia episode, I felt the need to write in because
they connect for me. Before kids, we used to smoke so much.
After a couple of concussions passing out after smoking, we quit. But I
quit sleeping because of this for years. I mean literally laying in bed at
ten and being awake while my husband went to work at five thirty am,
or fallen asleep at two or three am for a five thirty wake up.
My mental health was the worst it's ever been. We switched to gummies before
bed and I freaking sleep again. I've lost thirty pounds of sleeping again,
and I keep my stress control. I absolutely love listening to Drake talk about
his hobby of smoking weed, which normalizes it and helps bring it to and
helps bring it up to people like neighbors. So I think the best reply
to that Karen that emails should be different strokes for different folks. And let's
be real, anybody that wastes their time to tell you they're done with you
has never actually been done with you. Side notice, I keep listening.
I've never been serenaded better than you singing some nights. From the July thirty
first podcast, You're welcome, you know what. We got a lot of
comments on the and I'm not going to call her a Karen. That was
her opinion. We all disagreed with her being judgment with Drake and him smoking
weed, but that is her opinion. And I don't think that, you
know, because she feels strongly that you should not smoke weed. That's her
opinion, and I don't agree. I don't smoke weed, but I don't
care if somebody else does, as long as they're not affecting me. I
don't want to smell it, and I don't want Drake coming in like all
baked and sleeping in the corner. Yeah, but I don't care. The
next one, it is a long one, so I'm pre reading a little
bit here. Actually gonna pass on that one. So let's go to this
one. You brought up politics, and I'm not going to get into that,
but it's politics adjacent. I'm a millennial. I'm drowning. I'm thirty
four, married, have pets, no kids, master's degree, but an
okay paying job. That's the nature of my field. I might have chosen
a poor career path salary wise. My husband makes okay er money. It's
taking a long time to get where we are. Most of our getting ahead
has come from having me make some of our student loan payments for the past
few years. Well, that's ending in too much. We're suddenly going to
owe eight hundred dollars more a month, and somehow our homeowner's insurance has skyrocketed
due to the financial climate we're in. When it comes to politics, everything
is run by the generations ahead of us, and they feel so out of
touch from our needs. It's hard for me to feel like the top one
percent of the wealthiest people on this planet don't run everything okay, and the
rest of us just get to play in their sandbox. We've been fairly smart
with our financial decisions up to this point, but it feels like we'll never
truly be comfortable. We are both first responders and work hard, but it's
cruel that it should be so difficult to make ends meet. We would like
to have kids, but I'm not sure how that's financially possible. I know
a lot of the pressure we feel comes from our student loans, and we
own that those were our own dumb faults. But we come from the light
two generation, where we were told if we went to college we'd get good
jobs, and that just didn't happen for once, it would be nice not
to tread water, But soon we'll be even losing even more ground. Sometimes
life feels like a mine field of right and wrong financial decisions, and it's
just about not getting caught with your pants down when times get tough. I
don't have a point to this. I just know there are a lot of
people my age in the same boat. Yes, and supposed us snowflakes gotta
stick together. I feel so awful that you feel like you're treading water.
I hate that that it sounds like you both do work hard. I have
people, My sister is one and my brother in law, they're student loans
for his school are insane, insane. Now he has a very good job,
but she's like, we would be living so well, like so well
without student loans, and it kills me for them. You know. My
first comment was, I'm sorry you made a bad career choice salary wise.
I think sometimes we go cheese, let's get into whatever X Y Z field
and it doesn't matter what it pays, because I want to be happy.
Well, then real life settles in and you might like your job, but
you're not making enough money and I'm not saying that you should go for the
career that makes you the most money. But it is something to think about.
I've never really thought of that situation. That generation is being lied to
that if you went to college and got good jobs, because that's what happened
to your parents generation. If they went to college and got they would get
good jobs. I don't know why it doesn't happen, but I do hate
to hear people that are living paycheck to paycheck because that's got to be rough,
and there's a lot of people that are. I'm glad you have your
partner to help you out, and I would say kids are expensive. If
you think that there's a lot of expense now, daycare is very expensive.
If you're both working, then I mean, you've got any thoughts on this
one? Let her know. Send an email to Ryan Show at katwb dot
com. Last one, it is my almost co host anniversary today. Got
happy anniversary. Says hello to everyone, but especially Dave he he. I
have to remind you of how how much it impacted to me. It may
seem so small, but the chance to come by to be on your show,
to meet my number one idol, David Ryan, it was absolutely the
shining moment in the highlight reel of my life. Okay, that's funny.
It helped me gain a lot of confidence and fulfilled my wild dream of being
on the radio, and of course meeting Dave. I seriously fangirled so hard.
I wish I had a picture of you, because I would want to.
I definitely would remember you for sure. I've been listening to your sultry
voice for two decades. I still listen now that I live in southern Wisconsin.
I've joked since forever that you'd be the one to marry me when the
day comes and I've already got somebody. Sorry, we are still watching for
looking for a DJ. If you're interested in I don't do don't DJ weddings.
I know you're joking, but I don't DJ weddings. That's a whole
different skill set. Oh yeah, that's something dram kind of But he doesn't
have equipment. If you want to use this email for a podcast, here's
a fun topic. I move to Wisconsin from Minnesota. All these people ask
questions with er no at the end see subject line for example, Minnesota goodbye
or no, Like okay, do you want to go get pizza or no,
I guess is what she's saying. This is only Is this only a
Wisconsin thing? Or did I just never notice it? I know Jenny and
Draker from Wisconsin. Thought to be a fun topic since it's one of my
favorite bar confos to bring up. Jenny just walked in at the perfect time.
Is it a Wisconsin thing to say? Jenny? Do you want to
go get pizza? Or no? Do you want to go get a beer?
Or no? Do you want to go to like camping this weekend or
no? I mean yeah, like just asking someone to hang Sure? No,
no, no er no er noo, the er noo at the end?
Probably, I mean, yeah, we say that a lot, do
you? Is that not a Minnesota thing? Well, somebody is wondering.
You walked in it exactly the right time. Okay, bye, love you
have a good day. That is Katrina twenty sixteen's greatest almost co host.
I loved your email. Thank you, Katrina. If you want to reach
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