WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:03.600 All right, let's get started on the Minnesota goodbye. We got a smattering 2 00:00:03.680 --> 00:00:08.759 of some different emails here. Let's dive in and see what we got. 3 00:00:08.759 --> 00:00:13.119 Okay, this one says piggybacking off the email from the woman trying to decide 4 00:00:13.119 --> 00:00:15.160 if she should go back to work. So I thought i'd tell my story. 5 00:00:15.720 --> 00:00:18.559 I worked until my third child was six months old. Then I said 6 00:00:18.600 --> 00:00:21.960 I'm going to stay home. My oldest was in kindergarten and my middle child 7 00:00:22.000 --> 00:00:27.559 was too. I was miserable. I missed out on adult interaction so much. 8 00:00:27.600 --> 00:00:30.079 My two year old was begging to go back to daycare, saying he 9 00:00:30.160 --> 00:00:33.359 missed his friends and teachers. I went back to working part time at first, 10 00:00:33.359 --> 00:00:36.240 and that was great. My kids got to go to daycare and play, 11 00:00:36.320 --> 00:00:39.280 and I got some adult interaction. It's also nice having daycare as a 12 00:00:39.280 --> 00:00:42.880 place you can send your kids if you've got stuff going on. If my 13 00:00:42.960 --> 00:00:45.439 husband and I go out of town, my sister actually takes the kids, 14 00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:49.240 but she works so she can bring him to daycare. Obviously not the main 15 00:00:49.320 --> 00:00:52.359 reason to go back to work, but they're perks too having daycare on hand. 16 00:00:52.359 --> 00:00:55.359 If I'm sick, I can stay home and send my kids to daycare. 17 00:00:56.039 --> 00:01:00.159 I have found I'm a better mom to my kids when I'm not with 18 00:01:00.240 --> 00:01:03.920 them twenty four to seven. I might have felt differently if I started being 19 00:01:03.960 --> 00:01:07.400 a stay at home mom when we first when my first was born. As 20 00:01:07.480 --> 00:01:10.480 much as Dave loves long emails, this is getting long, so I'll end 21 00:01:10.519 --> 00:01:11.959 it here. That's not long at all. I appreciate it. Good luck, 22 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:15.319 and whatever you decide, we'll work and do what's best for your family. 23 00:01:15.680 --> 00:01:19.120 So okay, Yeah, I can see that. Yeah, there's no 24 00:01:19.159 --> 00:01:22.799 shame in wanting to break from your kids. My daughter Allison has two daughters 25 00:01:22.879 --> 00:01:26.599 that they either need attention or want attention constantly, and they're great. There's 26 00:01:26.640 --> 00:01:30.719 nothing unusual about him. They either need attention or want attention constantly, and 27 00:01:30.799 --> 00:01:34.439 she's been really good because she doesn't give them a lot of screen time. 28 00:01:34.480 --> 00:01:38.120 The three year old could be parked in front of the TV for six hours 29 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:42.400 a day and she doesn't do that. Okay. In regards to the not 30 00:01:42.519 --> 00:01:47.840 political Minnesota Goodbye episode, I don't think it was fair of the woman that 31 00:01:47.959 --> 00:01:52.799 stereotyped Drake for being young and broke or whatever. Because he smokes. He 32 00:01:52.879 --> 00:01:56.480 isn't broke. Because he's young in his early twenty Oh, isn't he broke 33 00:01:56.719 --> 00:02:00.719 because he's young in early twenties? I'm sorry, but last time I checked, 34 00:02:00.719 --> 00:02:02.280 when I was twenty one, now thirty six, I was also broke, 35 00:02:02.719 --> 00:02:06.120 but not because I smoked weed, not my thing, but because I 36 00:02:06.159 --> 00:02:08.400 was young and just getting out in the real world with a big girl job. 37 00:02:08.439 --> 00:02:12.840 I hate the stereotype and the blanket statements that were implied by that writer. 38 00:02:13.240 --> 00:02:15.639 It's unfair and frankly none of her business and the immaturity of fine, 39 00:02:16.039 --> 00:02:21.479 I'll just leave Minnesota. Then. Mentality is like stating you're unfollowing a page 40 00:02:21.520 --> 00:02:23.520 on social media. Isn't it better to do it quietly? Anyway? I 41 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:27.439 keep doing you, Drake, because you may be young and broke, but 42 00:02:27.520 --> 00:02:30.199 you're genuine, You're hilarious. Wishing you many years of success and whatever you 43 00:02:30.240 --> 00:02:35.400 want to token smoke? Is that what the kids call it? L from 44 00:02:35.520 --> 00:02:39.000 Jackie, that's funny. You are bro well. I was thinking about that 45 00:02:39.039 --> 00:02:43.159 this morning. I was thinking about like sometimes you think back to like people 46 00:02:43.199 --> 00:02:46.280 you used to date, and I dated somebody. She was twenty four, 47 00:02:46.400 --> 00:02:51.560 I was twenty three, and she had an okay apartment. She had an 48 00:02:51.560 --> 00:02:54.280 okay job. She was a good person, and I don't really know what 49 00:02:54.319 --> 00:02:58.560 happened to her, but I remember thinking, you know, from the standards 50 00:02:58.560 --> 00:03:02.439 of being a forty year old, did not have much, but for the 51 00:03:02.479 --> 00:03:05.919 standards of being a twenty four year old, she was doing just fine. 52 00:03:05.960 --> 00:03:09.520 Exactly exactly, Yeah, I mean at Drake's age, I didn't have a 53 00:03:09.599 --> 00:03:13.840 four oh one k I didn't have and I lived in an area where wrent 54 00:03:14.039 --> 00:03:16.439 was much cheaper, you know what I mean. So I don't know. 55 00:03:17.800 --> 00:03:21.360 This is a long one. I'm going to see how far we get into 56 00:03:21.400 --> 00:03:23.280 it. It says don't say my name. Thanks for putting that up front. 57 00:03:23.319 --> 00:03:27.520 That makes it a lot easier. I've been listening to you since ninety 58 00:03:27.560 --> 00:03:29.759 five, Dave, when I started riding the school bus, and you've been 59 00:03:29.759 --> 00:03:32.080 a strong father figure in my life. My own dad hasn't been present often, 60 00:03:32.479 --> 00:03:36.759 and I really appreciate all the thoughtful advice you give listeners and how you 61 00:03:36.800 --> 00:03:39.680 sincerely seem to care about us. Fallon. I've needed to go through an 62 00:03:39.680 --> 00:03:44.319 adjustment period with every new co host Davis had, but I instantly loved you 63 00:03:44.319 --> 00:03:47.319 and I think you're amazing. Jenny and Drake you do awesome too. Here's 64 00:03:47.360 --> 00:03:52.759 my issue. Two years ago, I left a relationship that was deteriorating Fallon. 65 00:03:52.840 --> 00:03:55.400 I was actually a guest on your heartbroken podcast, Oh Wow, I 66 00:03:55.400 --> 00:04:00.199 believe my alias was Olivia, and spoke about the deterioration of the relationship ship 67 00:04:00.240 --> 00:04:03.919 how I felt my ex was exhibiting narcissistic and emotionally abusive behavior and he was 68 00:04:03.960 --> 00:04:08.599 also a functioning alcoholic. Anyway, I ended up leaving, not on the 69 00:04:08.639 --> 00:04:13.360 best terms. My AX realized he was losing me, started changing, turned 70 00:04:13.400 --> 00:04:15.639 around being the man I always begged him to be. The problem was though 71 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:19.759 I'd already checked out oh yeah, and was talking to someone else at the 72 00:04:19.839 --> 00:04:24.959 time. I ended up leaving and moving across the country to be with this 73 00:04:25.000 --> 00:04:28.959 new person. Fast forward to now, my AX has remained constant in my 74 00:04:29.000 --> 00:04:31.360 life. We do have kids, so that was expected, and he has 75 00:04:31.399 --> 00:04:36.079 been a rock for me through this transition. Over the last couple of years. 76 00:04:36.399 --> 00:04:41.040 We had moments when we seriously considered getting back together, but I don't 77 00:04:41.079 --> 00:04:44.720 want to move back to Minnesota and he doesn't want to move, so I'm 78 00:04:44.759 --> 00:04:46.839 in limbo. There were a lot of trust issues between us, a lot 79 00:04:46.879 --> 00:04:49.360 of damage caused by me leaving and the way I did. Now, after 80 00:04:49.399 --> 00:04:56.319 two years, my ex is finally seeing someone new, and I feel completely 81 00:04:56.439 --> 00:05:01.399 devastated. I'm wondering if I made the right decision or if I screwed up 82 00:05:01.399 --> 00:05:03.560 and lost out in the love of my life. I know I was a 83 00:05:03.600 --> 00:05:06.519 girl, good, good girlfriend. I know that I put up with a 84 00:05:06.519 --> 00:05:10.480 lot, and a lot of women would have walked away sooner. But I 85 00:05:10.519 --> 00:05:13.720 can't help feeling like I'm the one who's screwed up and lost him, even 86 00:05:13.720 --> 00:05:15.959 though I know with all my heart I tried and tried until I had to 87 00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:19.920 let go of him. So I guess what I need is some support from 88 00:05:19.920 --> 00:05:24.399 my radio friends. Dave, I know you've been through some tough relationship issues 89 00:05:24.720 --> 00:05:28.439 and fallon. I know you've dealt with divorce, which is what this feels 90 00:05:28.480 --> 00:05:31.759 like after a decade together, and you're a step mom. How did you 91 00:05:31.839 --> 00:05:34.519 cope with this pit in your stomach? How do you cope with getting the 92 00:05:34.600 --> 00:05:40.680 kids to know a new stepparent? To clarify our kids never met the man 93 00:05:40.839 --> 00:05:44.279 I originally moved for. When I stop and think about things, I feel 94 00:05:44.319 --> 00:05:47.399 like hindsight's twenty twenty and maybe if I chosen to stay one more time, 95 00:05:47.560 --> 00:05:50.959 things might have turned around differently. Maybe this is what he needed to finally 96 00:05:51.079 --> 00:05:56.360 become the man he was supposed to be. And it's just also heartbreaking. 97 00:05:56.480 --> 00:06:00.680 So she goes on a little bit. But basically, how do you cope? 98 00:06:01.920 --> 00:06:06.600 That's something that is something that will always stay with you. I don't 99 00:06:06.600 --> 00:06:15.079 think you will ever honestly completely get over the first guy. I really don't, 100 00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:18.480 because I think that we always hold on to a little bit of something, 101 00:06:19.040 --> 00:06:24.120 even if we find somebody else, And I don't think there's anything uncommon 102 00:06:24.160 --> 00:06:28.279 about that. I hate when you say you feel devastated that he's seen somebody 103 00:06:28.319 --> 00:06:33.120 else, because that's one of the hard parts is when you imagine them doing 104 00:06:33.160 --> 00:06:38.079 all the things that you loved, and of course having sex. You don't 105 00:06:38.079 --> 00:06:42.839 want to imagine them having sex, so pretend that they don't. But I 106 00:06:42.879 --> 00:06:46.519 would say you gave it a good shot. I would say it's okay to 107 00:06:46.600 --> 00:06:51.079 move on, and I would say it's okay to go back, but he 108 00:06:51.160 --> 00:06:56.160 might not be available to go back to. Yeah, And you also said 109 00:06:56.199 --> 00:07:00.480 the big problem is neither of you wants to move, So would you then 110 00:07:00.800 --> 00:07:03.040 move if he If you were like I changed my mind. I want you 111 00:07:03.079 --> 00:07:08.959 back. Would you actually move? Because first of all, I start with 112 00:07:09.000 --> 00:07:13.240 I don't think you made a mistake like make because you've probably grown and learned 113 00:07:13.279 --> 00:07:16.399 a lot about yourself and changed and become maybe a better partner through time, 114 00:07:16.439 --> 00:07:19.160 and he probably has two So I don't think you made the wrong choice by 115 00:07:19.240 --> 00:07:23.759 leaving initially. But it's kind of like if you guys can't get on the 116 00:07:23.759 --> 00:07:26.040 same page about having kids, if you can't get on the same page about 117 00:07:26.079 --> 00:07:29.560 where you want to live, that's a pretty big deal breaker. And obviously 118 00:07:29.639 --> 00:07:33.120 he's especially desirable now if he's actually moved on, you know, that makes 119 00:07:33.199 --> 00:07:38.639 everyone more desirable. You want what you can have. Yeah, So I 120 00:07:38.680 --> 00:07:43.600 don't know if you if you were willing one hundred percent to move back to 121 00:07:43.720 --> 00:07:47.759 Minnesota, if you absolutely, without a doubt, are then it, then 122 00:07:47.879 --> 00:07:53.639 tell him, but realize you could out your life move here. And it's 123 00:07:53.639 --> 00:07:56.360 a lot easier to get along with someone when you don't live with them and 124 00:07:56.360 --> 00:08:00.759 see them every day. That is true. It is a lot easier to 125 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:01.959 get along with somebody if you don't see him every day. That is true. 126 00:08:03.600 --> 00:08:05.360 When you've talked about like long distance relationship, I think before Dave, 127 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:07.839 and you only see each other on the weekend, so it's like a fun 128 00:08:07.879 --> 00:08:11.759 adventure every weekend. So it seems like a great relationship. And then one 129 00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:13.319 of you moves and you live together and you're like, oh, you're part 130 00:08:13.360 --> 00:08:16.959 of the actual day to day mundane stuff and you're like, oh, this 131 00:08:16.040 --> 00:08:20.759 sucks. It's actually not exciting or fun. It's one percent true because if 132 00:08:20.759 --> 00:08:24.759 you're seeing somebody and you only see them to go do something fun, well, 133 00:08:24.800 --> 00:08:28.879 there's never any down times where you're like arguing over like the sinkful of 134 00:08:28.920 --> 00:08:33.120 dirty dishes or who did the laundry, or who forgot to buy this. 135 00:08:33.039 --> 00:08:35.799 I would say, if your kids are back here, keep that in mind. 136 00:08:35.879 --> 00:08:37.960 She does say, Dave, how did you deal with being a long 137 00:08:39.000 --> 00:08:41.039 distance parent? I think that's the hardest part of all this, trying to 138 00:08:41.039 --> 00:08:46.200 maintain some sort of parenting relationship and keeping things on good terms for the kids 139 00:08:46.399 --> 00:08:48.840 even when they're back in Minnesota. Love you, guys, and thank you. 140 00:08:48.559 --> 00:08:54.080 One thing that was suggested to me my ex fiance suggested when Chase was 141 00:08:54.120 --> 00:08:56.759 growing up lived in Arizona, every Tuesday night, Every Tuesday night, at 142 00:08:56.799 --> 00:09:01.320 seven o'clock, we would talk every Tuesday night at seven o'clock. We would 143 00:09:01.360 --> 00:09:05.840 talk that way. He knew it was coming, his mom knew it was 144 00:09:05.879 --> 00:09:09.639 coming, and I knew it was coming. That way, you could you 145 00:09:09.639 --> 00:09:11.559 didn't just call in a random Sunday afternoon and he's at the park, or 146 00:09:11.600 --> 00:09:15.559 he didn't call on a random Friday afternoon and he's at his buddy's house. 147 00:09:15.720 --> 00:09:20.399 Every Tuesday, we would talk every Tuesday, and if he couldn't do it 148 00:09:20.440 --> 00:09:24.399 because he had something going on, he would call me and say, Dad, 149 00:09:24.399 --> 00:09:28.519 I can't talk at seven o'clock. Can we talk tomorrow night? And 150 00:09:26.919 --> 00:09:30.759 then? And then I know, so I would say start with that, 151 00:09:31.320 --> 00:09:37.960 all right, Next one on the Minnesota Goodbye. This is from somebody whom 152 00:09:37.000 --> 00:09:43.360 I'm going to condense this email a little bit. They're talking about euthanizing pets. 153 00:09:43.879 --> 00:09:48.159 They are a veterinary technician, and they're the person who helps people say 154 00:09:48.200 --> 00:09:50.200 goodbye to their pets. I enjoy doing it, but I don't like the 155 00:09:50.200 --> 00:09:54.360 fact that people are saying goodbye to their pets. But I do appreciate being 156 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:58.080 the person that helps them say goodbye and go through the process hopefully as comfortably 157 00:09:58.120 --> 00:10:03.440 as possible. It's always a horrible day but here are some tips. Once 158 00:10:03.480 --> 00:10:09.679 the injections start, it's very quick. Some people are uncomfortable with holding or 159 00:10:09.679 --> 00:10:11.879 touching their pets after they pass, So please say goodbye and give all your 160 00:10:11.879 --> 00:10:16.440 loved ones to your pet before the and all your loves to your pet before 161 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:20.639 the injections start. I said that yesterday because I picked up Willie, our 162 00:10:20.639 --> 00:10:22.480 little cat, when he got youth and ice ten years ago, and I 163 00:10:22.519 --> 00:10:26.120 picked him up and he flopped over in my arms, and it was an 164 00:10:26.240 --> 00:10:30.480 ugly, awful last memory. He was not there was no life in him, 165 00:10:30.799 --> 00:10:33.519 and I definitely hugged him before, but I would suggest don't hug them 166 00:10:33.600 --> 00:10:39.720 or pick them up after. You will be sadly disappointed. Give your pet 167 00:10:39.759 --> 00:10:41.120 all the best food you can. And my clinic we have goodbye kisses, 168 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:45.960 which your Hershey's kisses. Let your dog experienced chocolate, hamburgers, ice cream, 169 00:10:46.000 --> 00:10:48.639 whatever treat they want that you could never give them before. If you're 170 00:10:48.639 --> 00:10:52.679 not comfortable being present for an euthanasia, your vet staff will sit with your 171 00:10:52.679 --> 00:10:56.440 pet while they pass. No judgment. If you want your last memories to 172 00:10:56.480 --> 00:10:58.919 be of your pet alive, or if you cannot bear to see them go, 173 00:11:00.759 --> 00:11:03.320 we understand we will give all the pet, your pet all the love 174 00:11:03.360 --> 00:11:07.320 we can and treat them with care and respect as they go. If you 175 00:11:07.399 --> 00:11:09.159 do decide to stay with your pet, please feel free to stay with your 176 00:11:09.159 --> 00:11:13.399 pet as long as you would like after the procedure is done. It's a 177 00:11:13.399 --> 00:11:16.240 hard day and we understand that. And to lighten the mood, she sent 178 00:11:16.360 --> 00:11:20.559 some pictures of her pets, Nova, Finley and Miko And so I'm just 179 00:11:20.559 --> 00:11:26.639 going to scroll through. There's Nova, Finley and mikop. What's the second 180 00:11:26.639 --> 00:11:28.600 one? I know, the first one of the quargy little pappions. The 181 00:11:28.639 --> 00:11:31.159 last one. I think it looks like a mix of a beagle and a 182 00:11:31.159 --> 00:11:35.080 German shepherd combo. I have no idea, no idea, All right, 183 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:39.039 Next one, Dave, are you're going to the Sturgist bike rally? My 184 00:11:39.080 --> 00:11:41.840 friend says thousands of people go there drink, screw each other, and do 185 00:11:41.960 --> 00:11:45.080 drugs. I know you're a biker. Sounds like you're a kind of crowd. 186 00:11:45.200 --> 00:11:48.879 Let me know. That was from Alley. I've been to Sturgis before. 187 00:11:48.039 --> 00:11:52.399 We did drink, we did not have sex with other random people, 188 00:11:52.639 --> 00:11:54.759 and we don't do drugs. We were going to go, but life got 189 00:11:54.799 --> 00:11:58.320 in the way. I feel sometimes like life, I'm not living life anymore. 190 00:11:58.320 --> 00:12:01.960 Life is living me. Like there's a lot of things, like I 191 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:05.200 want to do things, but things get in the way and I can't do 192 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:07.720 the things that I want to do. So what do you what can you 193 00:12:07.799 --> 00:12:09.519 do? Have you thought about like what? Like, I'm sure you have. 194 00:12:11.000 --> 00:12:13.519 What can you do to change that? Because that's not There's not a 195 00:12:13.600 --> 00:12:18.080 lot of things that it's something will come up that I have to cancel my 196 00:12:18.159 --> 00:12:22.399 plans to do something else. And I don't want to say because some are 197 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:24.039 things that are involving people that might be listening and I don't want to see 198 00:12:24.039 --> 00:12:30.000 them unappreciative. But there are certain things that I want to do but I 199 00:12:30.039 --> 00:12:33.799 can't do because things come up. So sometimes I feel like life is living 200 00:12:33.840 --> 00:12:37.240 me and I'm not living life. Do you ever feel that way? Maybe 201 00:12:37.240 --> 00:12:39.279 that's a topic on its own, but no, not going to sturges this 202 00:12:39.360 --> 00:12:43.960 year. I was going to go, but something came up. Our kids 203 00:12:43.000 --> 00:12:46.480 went to bed early, so my husband and I are catching up on our 204 00:12:46.559 --> 00:12:52.720 favorite podcast, drinking some beer and watching the sunset. After listening to Today's 205 00:12:52.759 --> 00:12:56.759 Not Political and Yesterday's Insomnia episode, I felt the need to write in because 206 00:12:56.799 --> 00:12:58.919 they connect for me. Before kids, we used to smoke so much. 207 00:13:00.759 --> 00:13:03.799 After a couple of concussions passing out after smoking, we quit. But I 208 00:13:03.879 --> 00:13:07.639 quit sleeping because of this for years. I mean literally laying in bed at 209 00:13:07.679 --> 00:13:11.000 ten and being awake while my husband went to work at five thirty am, 210 00:13:11.720 --> 00:13:15.720 or fallen asleep at two or three am for a five thirty wake up. 211 00:13:15.720 --> 00:13:20.360 My mental health was the worst it's ever been. We switched to gummies before 212 00:13:20.440 --> 00:13:22.919 bed and I freaking sleep again. I've lost thirty pounds of sleeping again, 213 00:13:22.919 --> 00:13:26.879 and I keep my stress control. I absolutely love listening to Drake talk about 214 00:13:26.879 --> 00:13:33.360 his hobby of smoking weed, which normalizes it and helps bring it to and 215 00:13:33.519 --> 00:13:37.759 helps bring it up to people like neighbors. So I think the best reply 216 00:13:37.919 --> 00:13:39.919 to that Karen that emails should be different strokes for different folks. And let's 217 00:13:39.919 --> 00:13:43.480 be real, anybody that wastes their time to tell you they're done with you 218 00:13:43.519 --> 00:13:46.480 has never actually been done with you. Side notice, I keep listening. 219 00:13:46.519 --> 00:13:50.919 I've never been serenaded better than you singing some nights. From the July thirty 220 00:13:50.919 --> 00:13:56.240 first podcast, You're welcome, you know what. We got a lot of 221 00:13:56.240 --> 00:13:58.200 comments on the and I'm not going to call her a Karen. That was 222 00:13:58.200 --> 00:14:03.919 her opinion. We all disagreed with her being judgment with Drake and him smoking 223 00:14:03.000 --> 00:14:07.279 weed, but that is her opinion. And I don't think that, you 224 00:14:07.279 --> 00:14:11.399 know, because she feels strongly that you should not smoke weed. That's her 225 00:14:11.399 --> 00:14:16.960 opinion, and I don't agree. I don't smoke weed, but I don't 226 00:14:16.960 --> 00:14:18.960 care if somebody else does, as long as they're not affecting me. I 227 00:14:18.960 --> 00:14:22.120 don't want to smell it, and I don't want Drake coming in like all 228 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:28.080 baked and sleeping in the corner. Yeah, but I don't care. The 229 00:14:28.080 --> 00:14:33.759 next one, it is a long one, so I'm pre reading a little 230 00:14:33.799 --> 00:14:37.200 bit here. Actually gonna pass on that one. So let's go to this 231 00:14:37.200 --> 00:14:39.799 one. You brought up politics, and I'm not going to get into that, 232 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:43.120 but it's politics adjacent. I'm a millennial. I'm drowning. I'm thirty 233 00:14:43.120 --> 00:14:46.000 four, married, have pets, no kids, master's degree, but an 234 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:50.720 okay paying job. That's the nature of my field. I might have chosen 235 00:14:50.720 --> 00:14:54.240 a poor career path salary wise. My husband makes okay er money. It's 236 00:14:54.279 --> 00:14:58.440 taking a long time to get where we are. Most of our getting ahead 237 00:14:58.440 --> 00:15:01.879 has come from having me make some of our student loan payments for the past 238 00:15:01.960 --> 00:15:03.840 few years. Well, that's ending in too much. We're suddenly going to 239 00:15:03.919 --> 00:15:09.639 owe eight hundred dollars more a month, and somehow our homeowner's insurance has skyrocketed 240 00:15:09.720 --> 00:15:13.279 due to the financial climate we're in. When it comes to politics, everything 241 00:15:13.360 --> 00:15:16.000 is run by the generations ahead of us, and they feel so out of 242 00:15:16.039 --> 00:15:20.360 touch from our needs. It's hard for me to feel like the top one 243 00:15:20.399 --> 00:15:24.440 percent of the wealthiest people on this planet don't run everything okay, and the 244 00:15:24.480 --> 00:15:28.559 rest of us just get to play in their sandbox. We've been fairly smart 245 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:31.559 with our financial decisions up to this point, but it feels like we'll never 246 00:15:31.639 --> 00:15:35.879 truly be comfortable. We are both first responders and work hard, but it's 247 00:15:35.919 --> 00:15:41.639 cruel that it should be so difficult to make ends meet. We would like 248 00:15:41.759 --> 00:15:45.000 to have kids, but I'm not sure how that's financially possible. I know 249 00:15:45.039 --> 00:15:46.440 a lot of the pressure we feel comes from our student loans, and we 250 00:15:46.519 --> 00:15:52.720 own that those were our own dumb faults. But we come from the light 251 00:15:52.960 --> 00:15:56.080 two generation, where we were told if we went to college we'd get good 252 00:15:56.159 --> 00:15:58.279 jobs, and that just didn't happen for once, it would be nice not 253 00:15:58.320 --> 00:16:03.320 to tread water, But soon we'll be even losing even more ground. Sometimes 254 00:16:03.360 --> 00:16:07.879 life feels like a mine field of right and wrong financial decisions, and it's 255 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:11.120 just about not getting caught with your pants down when times get tough. I 256 00:16:11.159 --> 00:16:14.000 don't have a point to this. I just know there are a lot of 257 00:16:14.000 --> 00:16:18.360 people my age in the same boat. Yes, and supposed us snowflakes gotta 258 00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:22.840 stick together. I feel so awful that you feel like you're treading water. 259 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:26.399 I hate that that it sounds like you both do work hard. I have 260 00:16:26.519 --> 00:16:30.600 people, My sister is one and my brother in law, they're student loans 261 00:16:32.720 --> 00:16:36.759 for his school are insane, insane. Now he has a very good job, 262 00:16:36.799 --> 00:16:41.399 but she's like, we would be living so well, like so well 263 00:16:41.120 --> 00:16:47.519 without student loans, and it kills me for them. You know. My 264 00:16:47.600 --> 00:16:51.120 first comment was, I'm sorry you made a bad career choice salary wise. 265 00:16:51.159 --> 00:16:56.200 I think sometimes we go cheese, let's get into whatever X Y Z field 266 00:16:56.600 --> 00:16:57.600 and it doesn't matter what it pays, because I want to be happy. 267 00:16:57.639 --> 00:17:02.720 Well, then real life settles in and you might like your job, but 268 00:17:02.840 --> 00:17:04.599 you're not making enough money and I'm not saying that you should go for the 269 00:17:04.640 --> 00:17:07.519 career that makes you the most money. But it is something to think about. 270 00:17:08.279 --> 00:17:11.440 I've never really thought of that situation. That generation is being lied to 271 00:17:11.839 --> 00:17:15.400 that if you went to college and got good jobs, because that's what happened 272 00:17:15.440 --> 00:17:19.079 to your parents generation. If they went to college and got they would get 273 00:17:19.119 --> 00:17:22.920 good jobs. I don't know why it doesn't happen, but I do hate 274 00:17:22.920 --> 00:17:29.359 to hear people that are living paycheck to paycheck because that's got to be rough, 275 00:17:29.720 --> 00:17:33.240 and there's a lot of people that are. I'm glad you have your 276 00:17:33.359 --> 00:17:37.160 partner to help you out, and I would say kids are expensive. If 277 00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:41.160 you think that there's a lot of expense now, daycare is very expensive. 278 00:17:41.160 --> 00:17:44.640 If you're both working, then I mean, you've got any thoughts on this 279 00:17:44.680 --> 00:17:47.799 one? Let her know. Send an email to Ryan Show at katwb dot 280 00:17:47.799 --> 00:17:53.960 com. Last one, it is my almost co host anniversary today. Got 281 00:17:53.960 --> 00:17:57.920 happy anniversary. Says hello to everyone, but especially Dave he he. I 282 00:17:59.000 --> 00:18:02.000 have to remind you of how how much it impacted to me. It may 283 00:18:02.039 --> 00:18:03.680 seem so small, but the chance to come by to be on your show, 284 00:18:03.720 --> 00:18:07.920 to meet my number one idol, David Ryan, it was absolutely the 285 00:18:08.000 --> 00:18:11.319 shining moment in the highlight reel of my life. Okay, that's funny. 286 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:15.359 It helped me gain a lot of confidence and fulfilled my wild dream of being 287 00:18:15.359 --> 00:18:18.079 on the radio, and of course meeting Dave. I seriously fangirled so hard. 288 00:18:18.920 --> 00:18:22.000 I wish I had a picture of you, because I would want to. 289 00:18:22.039 --> 00:18:25.319 I definitely would remember you for sure. I've been listening to your sultry 290 00:18:25.400 --> 00:18:27.640 voice for two decades. I still listen now that I live in southern Wisconsin. 291 00:18:27.720 --> 00:18:32.519 I've joked since forever that you'd be the one to marry me when the 292 00:18:32.599 --> 00:18:36.240 day comes and I've already got somebody. Sorry, we are still watching for 293 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:40.920 looking for a DJ. If you're interested in I don't do don't DJ weddings. 294 00:18:40.960 --> 00:18:42.720 I know you're joking, but I don't DJ weddings. That's a whole 295 00:18:42.720 --> 00:18:48.000 different skill set. Oh yeah, that's something dram kind of But he doesn't 296 00:18:48.000 --> 00:18:51.559 have equipment. If you want to use this email for a podcast, here's 297 00:18:51.559 --> 00:18:56.440 a fun topic. I move to Wisconsin from Minnesota. All these people ask 298 00:18:56.519 --> 00:19:03.079 questions with er no at the end see subject line for example, Minnesota goodbye 299 00:19:03.319 --> 00:19:06.359 or no, Like okay, do you want to go get pizza or no, 300 00:19:06.880 --> 00:19:11.359 I guess is what she's saying. This is only Is this only a 301 00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:14.480 Wisconsin thing? Or did I just never notice it? I know Jenny and 302 00:19:14.559 --> 00:19:17.160 Draker from Wisconsin. Thought to be a fun topic since it's one of my 303 00:19:17.200 --> 00:19:21.599 favorite bar confos to bring up. Jenny just walked in at the perfect time. 304 00:19:21.920 --> 00:19:23.079 Is it a Wisconsin thing to say? Jenny? Do you want to 305 00:19:23.079 --> 00:19:26.839 go get pizza? Or no? Do you want to go get a beer? 306 00:19:26.960 --> 00:19:29.720 Or no? Do you want to go to like camping this weekend or 307 00:19:29.720 --> 00:19:32.559 no? I mean yeah, like just asking someone to hang Sure? No, 308 00:19:32.640 --> 00:19:33.880 no, no er no er noo, the er noo at the end? 309 00:19:34.200 --> 00:19:37.279 Probably, I mean, yeah, we say that a lot, do 310 00:19:37.359 --> 00:19:40.279 you? Is that not a Minnesota thing? Well, somebody is wondering. 311 00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:42.559 You walked in it exactly the right time. Okay, bye, love you 312 00:19:42.599 --> 00:19:47.480 have a good day. That is Katrina twenty sixteen's greatest almost co host. 313 00:19:47.559 --> 00:19:51.079 I loved your email. Thank you, Katrina. If you want to reach 314 00:19:51.119 --> 00:19:53.559 the Minnesota goodbye on a comment on anything, then send us an email to 315 00:19:55.079 --> 00:19:57.480 Ryan Show at katiewb dot com and we'll see you tomorrow.