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You're listening to k I Am sixty
on demand. Randy, Welcome to the

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Jesus Christ Show. Hey, thank
you Jesus. Good morning to you,

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Good morning to you. How can
I help you? Yes, sir,

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I was very interested in hearing your
talk about God being outside of time and

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actually created time and that's how he
knows what's going to happen. And I'm

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just interested in time. And I
think back to some of these scriptures.

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I thought maybe you could let me
know, you know, some stuff that

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I'm not sure about. I think
about the time that Adam and Eve and

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the serpent. How long were they
in the garden before the fall? I

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wonder about how long perhaps the enemy
was on the earth before Adam and Eve

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were created. I even think about
some scholars talk about the Book of Job

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possibly being the old book in the
Bible where you know, he came in

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front of us God ask him what
he's been up to, and he said,

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I've just been walking here and through
on the earth. And you know,

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they even talk about, you know, Joe talking about seeing the behemoth

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the dinosaurs. Do you have any
enlightened me on some of this timeline that

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might possibly be in the scriptures.
Sure. Wow, that's a lot of

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questions. Let's start with the first
and really look at Genesis and Adam and

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Eve. It doesn't specifically say how
long they were in the garden prior to

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the fall, nor does it say
how long this serpent was in the garden.

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But the reality is it all existed, the serpent and sin. As

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far as the desire to make people
sin has already been understood, because you

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already have the fall of more the
morning Star, you already have Lucifer fallen

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at this point, because there would
be nothing to tempt anyone in the garden

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if the serpent Satan didn't exist.
So that's already existent in Genesis. The

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interesting thing is because what takes place
after the fall that there is. What

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takes place after the fall is that
sin enters into mankind Romans five twelve.

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Therefore, just as sin came into
the world through one man, and death

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through sin, and so death spread
to all men because all sin, so

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that comes through Adam, right,
that comes through Adam and Eve, and

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that will be passed down. The
only thing we have that kind of guides

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this timeline is that the children of
Adam and Eve are not born yet if

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they were born, it is believed
prior to that time, then they would

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not have had this sin nature necessarily
in the same way, in the same

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sense. So that's the only real
guiding of the timeline there is to say

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that, well, the kids weren't
born yet, and that's the only marker.

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It doesn't give us any length of
time, but it is commonly believed

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by scholars it wasn't that long that
they experienced that in the garden, that

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they were in the garden with the
serpent prior to the fall, So there's

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nothing to really give you a specific
timeframe, but it was fairly short.

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That's so interesting. How about this
talk about job seeing to behemoth and they

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say dinosaurs and the fact that where
they're saying that possibly that's the oldest book

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in the Bible. You know,
how long would that be? The wooly

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mammoths went extinct ten thousand years ago? Yes, so the wooly mammoth's not

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dinosaurs, but surely that is a
beast that has not been around. Although

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if you want to go down a
deep, deep dive on science, they

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believe that in some time soon they'll
be able to recreate one. I will

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say this the Behemoth and the Lefiathon
in Job forty that talks about you know,

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who can tame these beasts are an
interesting story because the assumption is in

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the conversation that no man contain them, no woman contain them. And then

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you'd have to say, well if
it was Some say one is a hippopotamus,

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another says, oh, it's an
alligator, another says well, one's

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an elephant or these types of things. Well, the descriptions in there are

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interesting because one, if they couldn't
be tamed, all those animals have been

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in circuses before, so that doesn't
make sense. Plus, the one that

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is referred to as the behemoth talks
about a tail like a cedar. It's

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not really something that reminds you of
that tiny little whip tail that an elephant

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has. So there are some that
say, hey, these might be references

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to dinosaurs. However, Randy,
there is no real direct evidence that humans

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were around during the time of dinosaur, even though there are those that believe

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that some tracks have been seen both
side by side with a humanoid of some

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kind and a dinosaur of some kind. So all those arguments go back and

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forth. It's not necessarily a dinosaur. It wouldn't really jibe with science if

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it was a dinosaur. But something
about these animals were large enough, bold

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enough and distinct enough to stand out
in the story of Job, and that

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is one of those things that is
often contested. But yes, there are

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books obviously like Job that precede what
is referred to as the New Testament and

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certainly are much older and to be
understood as so. But the dinosaur part,

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it is one of those things that
is an interesting conversation. But still

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there's no evidence that humans ever walked
by dinosaurs. As a matter of fact,

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the span the span is pretty long
between the two, seeing as dinosaurs

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died out about sixty five million years
ago, so it's tough to place man

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there. But there are interesting timelines, I get it. But you're really

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looking at a volumes books, many
many books, not just one because they're

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under the cover of one, but
a massive span of sixty six plus books

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written over a span of fifteen hundred
years or so by forty plus authors from

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kings and peasants. There's a lot
that goes into it, and getting every

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single detail about the time in one
place is interesting to us, of course,

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But on the other side, it
is not important to God. Otherwise

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it would have been pointed out Bill, welcome to the Jesus Christ show.

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Yes, I have a couple of
questions about speaking in tongues. In the

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Book of Acts, it talks about
the day of Pentecosts where the apostles came

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out and starts speaking in other tongues. But these were tongues that people understood,

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like Syrian, Greek stuff like that, they understood them in their own

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language. Yes, and so it
had another reference later in Acts about the

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same thing. But then later on
in Acts it talks about the apostles laying

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hands on people then being filled with
the Holy Spirit as evidence of speaking in

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tongues, but it doesn't say these
tongues were interpreted by someone else. And

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then later on in Paul's Letters he
talks about I wish you could all speak

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in tongues as much as I do, But he also talks about these tongues

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are more prophetic tongues where you need
somebody to interpret them to be of any

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worse. So, having said that, and also back in Acts, when

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it talks about people being filled with
the spirit speaking in tongues, that's a

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different type it seems like. So
it seems like there's three different types of

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tongues, the ones that they poserbly
big where everybody understood them in their own

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language, and then prophetic tongues.
But then there's this other tongues that are

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some people laid on hands and we're
speaking, you know, the tongues which

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seems more like a prayer language.
So that's one question, is that the

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proper interpretation. Second question, do
tongues still exists today? And the third

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question is, I know there's some
denominations that say you haven't been fully brought

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into the Christian fellowship until you speak
in tongues with evidence or filled with the

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Holy Spirit with evidence of speaking in
tongues. Does that makes sense? There's

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that too, all of it.
As a matter of fact, I think

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you summarize that quite nicely. As
far as your interpretation, I think that

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that's wonderful and spot on interpretation.
Acts two six through twelve. And at

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the sound, the multitude came together
and they were bewildered because each one was

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hearing them speak in his own language, and they were amazed and astonished,

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saying, are not all these who
are speaking Galileans? And how is it

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that we hear each of us in
his native language, So tongues actually translates

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to language. The three languages or
the three types of tongues would be when

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someone in a situation starts to speak
in a language they have never studied or

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understood and now they can speak in
it. That is one. That's what

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Acts two is talking about. There
is the kind of tongues in which somebody

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is prophetically saying something that doesn't sound
like it makes sense, and then someone

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interprets it. So God puts it
on someone to speak this way, and

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then also someone to interpret what it
means. And then the last one,

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which is like as you said,
a prayer. This is the one that

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is between the individual and God,
and it is a language between that is

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not for everyone else. It is
strictly a prayer between the individual and God.

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And that is the three major beliefs
in the types of tongues, as

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far as if they are still for
today, there is no place in scripture

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that conclusively says tongues have ceased.
As a matter of fact, when you

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go through some of the lists and
Corinthians lists of the different gifts of the

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spirit, tongues only one of them, and if you go through there is

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also teaching in there as well.
So if you start saying that one of

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these is for today, but this
one isn't, you run into a problem

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as well because they aren't separating them
all. They don't say, well,

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teaching is for today, but tongues
is not. So imagine to saying that

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teaching is not for today. So
although there's different beliefs in this, it

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is a completely legitimate conclusion to say
that tongues are today. However, that

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being said, tongues can be abused. People can use them to try and

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make them look closer to God.
I've heard some babbling before that means nothing

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for nothing, just to be a
part. And when it comes to the

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gifts of the spirit, when somebody
says you have to have you have to

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speak in tongues, there's a problem
with that as well, because if you

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go on in the scripture is reading
about these gifts, it starts talking about

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parts of the body and how no
part of the body is more important than

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the other, and that they need
to work in harmony together. It makes

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more sense that not everybody would have
these gifts, so that the body would

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be necessary to come together and work
together, as is the analogy of the

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human form that is being used there. So it makes more sense to say

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different people are going to have different
gifts so that the Body of Christ has

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to come together and work together as
a whole, rather than having somebody raised

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up because they can speak in tongue. So think of it this way.

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The eye would not boast over the
ear, the ear would not boast over

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the mouth or the nose. And
so it looks like it is trying to

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make the body come together to use
these gifts together and not raise someone up

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because of them. And there is
still conversation, and there will be conversation

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for a long time. But that
is the belief of this program. Charlie,

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Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.
Hi there, Hey, thanks for

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taking my call. My pleasure,
Charlie. What's going on. I'm wondering

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how my dog passed away about a
year and a half ago. Oh,

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I'm sorry, and I'm wondering if
I'll ever see her again. Well,

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I'm happy to tell you there's nothing
in scripture that says you won't. Says

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there's no tears in heaven. And
although animals don't go to heaven in the

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same sense as a human. They
don't have souls in the same sense as

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a human. They're instinctual, instinctual. It's why a dog doesn't go to

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jail for murder or anything like that. But there are animals talked about in

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heaven, the concept of the Four
Horsemen, even and so there's no reason

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to believe that these beloved pooches are
not going to be there. So there's

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no reason for me to tell you
that you won't. Well, that's good

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news. I'm sorry. These things
can weigh heavy. The bond between people

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and their animals is a powerful one, and I know that it hurts,

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and sometimes people kind of hide it
away because they think they're being silly.

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But it is very powerful, and
that loss runs deep in the morning that

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goes with it. So are you
thinking about getting another dog if you haven't

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already. Well, I'm getting pretty
close to eighty years old, so I

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doubt that we'll get another dog.
Well, you can adopt dogs that are

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older as well. Sure, Well
I was pretty well attached to this one

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and she was probably my best friend. Well, it's not about replacing the

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animal, it's about continuing to love
one. And if you ever think so,

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there are a lot of dogs out
there that are older that people don't

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want to adopt. And you can
find yourself another pal that is different and

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separate and unique that can bring you
joy and continue to live. Eighty eight

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a death sentence, certainly not nowadays, so good. Yeah, Well,

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there's a lot more love in you
to give. And again it's not to

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replace anyone. But there are a
lot of really lovely dogs out there that

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are long or in the tooth that
people don't want for their children because they

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don't want them to go through that
process too soon. But something to think

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about, Charlie. If if you're
if God lays that on your heart to

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connect that way, so be it. But that's that's up to you,

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my friend. There's just no need
to be extra lonely. You've had a

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year in change to to mourn.
So that's okay. Mary, welcome to

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the Jesus Christ Show. Yes,
thank you so much for taking my call,

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my pleasure. Mary, what's going
on? Because I know God,

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it's very powerful when God can do
anything, absolutely anything in my life,

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and so I'm calling to please ask
for some help. My daughter. My

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daughter's thirty three. She lives on
the East Coast. She's very successful in

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her academic career, has repeated,
she and all that, but she lives

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far away. This is what I'm
asking. I'm asking how I can improve

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communication with her because she has cut
me out. She did this before four

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years ago. She didn't talk to
me for a year and nine months.

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And then I went to visit her
and she was happy to see me.

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And then then and she was going
to She was happy to see me briefly,

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and then she said I'll see you
the next morning. And then she

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canceled it and got really mean.
And then a few days later, after

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she talked to her therapist, she
called me back and we reunited and we

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had a great four years together.
During COVID, she even came and stayed

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for a whole month. Now she
totally cut me out again. It's I

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haven't spoken to her since August.
I went back there. She's at pretty

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Preston. I went back there to
try to see her, you know,

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w December, and she said she
was busy, she wouldn't see me.

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I'm very hurt. I want to
know what to do. Well, Well,

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these are some help. Well,
these are tough questions and I need

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you to be tough and strong and
answer some questions for me. So what

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are the reasons she's given you before? When she needed time to give me?

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No reasons? And the last time
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to ask. I just smiled and
made everything very pleasant, and we had

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a very pleasant time together. For
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every Christmas and then in June and
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and had a wonderful time two years
ago. But this time and I was

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so afraid to ask her because I
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and I didn't want to rock the
boat at all. So I finally asked

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her just recently, and I said, you know, why did you not

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talk to me for a year in
nine months? And she said, well,

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I just needed a break. Okay, So she did tell you that

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there she has. Yes, yes, yes, that's one thing. She

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said. Have you ever been called
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or anything like that? Never?
Okay, Well do you have any other

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kids? No? And where's dad
and all this we're divorced, And we

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both went to her. She graduated
with her PhD from Dartmouth last year,

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and we both went to her graduation
and I was there for a whole week

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with her, and we spent time
together and it was pleasant. And then

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her father came in and we were
together. We he and I got along

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very nicely for the graduation, and
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Does we had our time with her, but we also had our time together

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with her and we got along very
well. Does your former husband does he

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talk to her quite a bit?
Or does she go dark on him sometimes

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too? Well? I know that
she was supposed to go to say I

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believe she goes dark on him sometimes
too. I don't know for sure.

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She was supposed to go there for
Thanksgiving, and I know that she did

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not. Okay, so she was
supposed to come to me for Christmas if

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she did not, and she broke
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Okay. So it can be a
lot of different things. There's so much

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going on there to unpack. But
I would say this, she sounds successful,

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and she's probably incredibly driven, and
she may just know her limits.

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With the information you gave me,
I know it hurts, but you also

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raised her to be independent and that's
what independence does. And it's not that

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parents aren't important, but to gain
success, to get your PhD is very

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time consuming, and she just may
know her boundaries and when she can't do

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anything, her just she just does
not have the capacity or the bandwidth to

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deal with anything else. And she
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She may just be an academic that
feels more comfortable about books, numbers,

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and things. Relationships are difficult.
Relationships in family are difficult. Relationships

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at work are difficult. Relationships are
difficult. As a matter of fact,

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the entirety of Scripture is about relationships. Even if you break down and try

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and slice almost in half the ten
commandments, about half of them are about

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your relationship with God and the other
half is mainly about your relationships with other

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people other humans. Figuring that out
will help you understand Scripture better and also

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will help you understand your relationships better. They are imperative to help you grow,

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to help partner's friends, family spouses
grow. However, communication is going

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to be key, and to hear
concern in a mother's voice and not wanting

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to rock the boat, there's got
to be something else there. Yes,

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is it normal? To want to
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Of course, however, the depending
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the age of the parents. It's
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is of the age of winding down
having more time, and the child is

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in the building their empire days,
that's not always going to connect. When

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somebody's studying and has the weight of
studying and there was talk of a breakup

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in there as well, they might
not be in the right frame of mind

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to connect. Now there could be
some other concerns. I have only a

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couple of minutes to spend with you
when we talk about that, But I

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just want you to think about how
very different it is for a younger person

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who is in the mid in the
middle of the building years to communicate with

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family members that may not be including
parents or older siblings when they may be

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slowing down, so that means one
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other will not. And you can't
take that personal. It is a little

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weird that the lack of communication is
there, and the timidity of wanting to

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talk about it concerns me. I
think it's important to communicate and say,

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you know, I'd love to see
you, or i'd you know, love

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to connect with you, no pressure, but let me know when you have

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time, or the door is always
open. That doesn't mean you're a hotel

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you know, or a restaurant.
It's okay to plan and some your your

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child in this case, rather it's
important to let them know, but you

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can have an open door policy as
well. Keep all those things in mind

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and communicate. Nothing wrong with a
note either. Sometimes it's easier to do

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it a note just quickly say I
know you're working hard and I love you.

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I want to bother you with a
phone call, so I just wrote

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this note so you'd know that I
was thinking of you and that I'm very

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proud. When I get the feeling
that you don't want to be with us,

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I try to remind myself how hard
you're working and just now that I

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love you and I'm here when you
have time. If you'd like to schedule

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something, great. But it sounds
like she's not always good with following up.

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If she's missing major events like Christmas
or Thanksgiving, it's either wrapped in

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work or wrapped in a significant other
of some kind, and maybe she doesn't

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feel comfortable sharing those things. There's
a lot there and something. I agree

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something is going on, but you
have to look at the surroundings and your

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energy is pretty intense. So if
if your daughter is someone that needs to

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focus and you disturb that focus,
she needs to tell you. She needs

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to say, hey, you have
this very kinetic kind of intense energy and

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it makes me nervous when I'm focusing, or I feel I need to perform

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when I see you. Whatever it
is that needs to be worked out between

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the two of you. Kf I
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