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Okay, Minnesota Goodbye. We're gonna
start off with one quick dart Liick reference,

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And dart lick, of course,
is all about eating ass and so

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it's funny and it's shocking, and
it's vulgar, and it's funny and it's

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inside and so dartlick is kind of
the unofficial catchphrase of the Dave Ryan Show.

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The reason I bring it up again
is because we have Dartlick shirts at

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the fair yesterday in my weekend in
five photos. You can still see this

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online on Dave Ryan show dot com. Under the Dave tab is a picture

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of a woman holding up the dart
Lick shirt. And I talked a couple

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of times. I said, she
has an angelic face. She's probably twenty

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five or so, and it's weird
to see somebody who's got such a sweet,

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innocent face holding up such a vulgar
shirt, knowing what it's all about.

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Guests who wrote in, Guess who
wrote in? Who the Dartlick shirt

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holder? Yep, angelic face girl, he said. Having Dave mentioned me

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like twice on the radio and on
the Minnesota Goodbye podcast has been the highlight

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of my life. I've been listening
since sixth grade war the Roses got me

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hooked. I haven't missed a Minnesota
Goodbye podcast since it began, and I

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remember listening to the original dart Lick
episode the day it came out. Ha

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ha. I listened the morning show
every day and if I miss parts,

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I usually catch up on the podcast
as well. Just want to say thank

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you today for taking the time to
talk to me and my husband at the

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fair on Saturday. I agree with
the previous listener about how crazy it is

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to listen to Dave's voice in real
life. I was absolutely starstruck. Like

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the listener mentioned, I have seriously
been replaying the scene of meeting day for

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the first time since it was one
of the most important days of my life.

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That is so sweet, and I
find that difficult to comprehend, and

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I don't think it is. If
you're married, then obviously that's a bigger

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day of your life, but to
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is hard for me to comprehend.
So Brooke, I'm sorry, not Brooke.

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I don't know where I got Brooke
Morgan. Thank you. She goes

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on to say Dave asked if I
was a model before asking me to hold

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up the dart Lick shirt. I
laughed, and I said no, and

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he said, well you should be. And then thankful for all the hard

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work that you, Jenny and Drake
do and Fallon did. Can't wait to

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hear all the great things that will
come with the changes. Your angelic faced,

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loyal P one listener that is Morgan. Morgan, I brought you up

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way too much on the show,
so I'm not going to bring you up

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ever again. Now let's move on
to the next one. Here. I

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want to try to put them in
some sort of semblance of order. We

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talked about anxiety and medication on the
show the last couple of days, and

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people have been very kind to share
their story about whether medication worked and what

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did not and that type of thing. This one says, I was struggled

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with anxiety my whole life. I
did not realize as a child that I

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had anxiety and probably should have been
to therapy or medication as a child because

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it affected my attendance in school and
me branching out to do things like go

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on field trips and join clubs,
etc. Once I was an adult,

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I was diagnosed with a generalized an
anxiety disorder I started on zolof and it

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was amazing my brain didn't go to
the dark place as it used to.

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I was on it for several years. Then they weaned off and I was

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fine. Then my mom died in
twenty seventeen and I went down that hole

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again. This time I had to
have a fast acting anti anxiety medication like

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klonopin, but it was called larrazapam. I've heard of that one too.

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I think they might be the same
thing, but I'm not sure. I

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literally couldn't get myself to drive to
work because I was so afraid of dying.

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My mom passed at age forty nine. I was thirty one at the

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time, married with three kids.
I was like paralyzed in my fear.

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I couldn't drive myself or go anywhere
alone. Once on the medication, it

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helped me to turn off that dark
thinking and get through my days until I

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got to a point with therapy I
could go without medication. I am a

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full advocate for medication and therapy,
as medication can only help the symptoms,

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but therapy helps the deep down causes
and helps you retrain your brain to help

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stop the runaway train of anxious thoughts. Any who, thanks for listening.

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And I won't say her name because
maybe she doesn't want me to. I

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like that a lot. I think
that some people have experiences with medication that

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works that doesn't work. But I
think the thing is with her story,

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she's learned to handle it. And
to lose your mom at the age of

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mom is forty nine years old,
that's horrible and sad and awful, and

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I'm glad it has gotten better for
you. I'm going to bring up something

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that is not really an official advertisement, but this is something that you know.

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I'm not getting paid to do this, but I want to mention there's

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a website that I endorse called betterhelp
dot com and they basically do therapy with

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a therapist there online. So if
you go to betterhelp dot com slash kt

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wb, you can get matched up
with a therapist and it's not free,

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but if you're The reason I bring
it up is because I think it's a

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good idea, especially for people who
don't want to go in person to a

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therapist, because I think a lot
of people are like man, I don't

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want to sit across from a stranger
and I don't want to leave the house

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and go park and sit in a
waiting room. And but this is a

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way to do it without that,
So just a different way, all right.

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Next email, this one says,
I know you're all very against drunk

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driving. I'm going to share a
crazy quick story from this past weekend.

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Here we go. We were staying
at our friend's cabin in Wisconsin playing cards

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outside on Saturday evening when we heard
what sounded like a crash on the road

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in front of our house. It
was a sound like no other, like

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metal hitting a tree. We drove
about a half mile down the road to

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find the power poles snapped off in
a pickup truck in the ditch. We

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pulled over to see if the people
in the vehicle were okay, and a

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man in his mid thirties maybe stumbles
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immediately says, in drunken, slurred
speech, he wasn't driving. He proceeds

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to drunkenly stum pull up to our
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He wasn't calling nine to one one, He was calling for someone to

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come get him. Meanwhile, we
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the incident. We proceed to ask
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he wouldn't tell us. A short
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The druck man gets in the vehicle, and a man gets out of the

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driver's seat and walks over to our
car. The man tells us he appreciates

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us stopping, but he's going to
get out of here. We tell the

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man that he's leaving the scene of
the accident and the power pole is snapped

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in half. He proceeds to tell
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by protecting his kid. He walks
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and sits for a while. The
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leaving and he will call for a
tow truck. We ask again if there's

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another guy in the truck, and
the dad simply responds with we're good.

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So the dad and drunk son then
drove off. As we're waiting for the

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officer to arrive, the horn of
the beat up truck and the hanks a

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couple of times, as if someone
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unlock the vehicle. We also see
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there must have been another person in
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we gave him the information we knew, and we left. The next morning

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the truck was gone. We have
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or if the police contacted the drunk, dead, the dad and the

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sun. I am still in disbelief
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the dad. I understand he's trying
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but fleeing the scene of a crash
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in the vehicle is absolutely disgusting to
me. I hope this is a very

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good lesson for the guy that claims
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his lucky stars he didn't kill himself
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the vehicle. I hope the dad
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scene, and I hope his conscience
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that night. Thanks for reading this
as from Christy. Wow, so many

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thoughts. First of all, I
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have a reason why you didn't go
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if there was somebody else in the
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was a long way away or down
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curious about that. I don't think
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It sounds like the dad has been
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a very long time. If I
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I would be like, what in
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I've told you before a million times, you call me whatever. Apparently Dad

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was not that far away, but
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He decided to drive drunk on his
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it wasn't the first time that he
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say not. By the sound of
all, that sounds like this might be

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something that Dad helps him out with
quite often. This is my punishment for

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drunk drivers who take a life.
Drunk drivers who take a life should have

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their arm cut off. That way, not only will they get punishment that

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lasts a lifetime because they took a
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or mom or dad or sister or
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they will then have to walk around
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of everyone looking at them and knowing
they killed somebody. If they get another

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DUI or DWI after that, cut
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this sounds like some sort of awful
judgment from some developing country, but I

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just hate drunk drivers so much because
they have done this selfish thing of driving

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drunk. We all know you're not
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life. If they take a life, so there should be more of a

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punishment, because what I've heard about
drunk drivers is the first they don't care

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about the person who died of their
family. They worry about getting out of

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jail time or serving as little jail
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think that's such bullshit. So,
Jenny, am I being too harsh with

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the cut the arm off if they
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if they get another DUI? Not
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I think that trunk driving is awful. And I don't understand the concept

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of why you think that paying for
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take the potential of taking someone's life, Like, how can you even remotely

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put those two in the same category? And Honestly, it's even if you

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don't even if you don't hurt anyone, even if you get in an accident

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on your own and you get a
DUI, that's still a lot of fines

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right there, especially if you hire
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It could be one hundred dollars uber, and you're still not paying for as

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much of what you would pay for
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one of the problems that I've learned
with all the dui thing and being a

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little bit educated on it, is
that everybody knows not to drink and dry,

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but after three cocktails you lose your
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can make it, and all of
the don't drink and drive stuff goes out

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the window, and then you try
to do it anyway. But then there

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are the people who do it regularly, like I know cops who have pulled

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over somebody who's got their tenth dui. They just don't care. Another email.

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I found this article interesting. I
thought Dave might like it too,

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headline Dick Van Dyke learns to play
ukulele at age ninety seven. I haven't

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read it yet, but Christie,
I will read it. Thank you.

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Dave. How did you come into
your interest in the ukulele? Do you

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still have the Ukulele Club? I
was in Hawaii and went to a uku

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latele store saw banjo laile, which
is basically a ukulele that is a banjo,

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and I thought that's cool. That's
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still have the ukulele Club. Yeah. We still meet a couple of times

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during the year, maybe four or
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probably do another one before the end
of summer. Jenny, do you have

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any new fun new things that you've
tried out as an adult, like Dave

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and his unicycle? Jenny, any
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don't think so recently, but I
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into probably not the summer anymore because
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the mountain biking, and I really
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like snow boarding, and so I'm
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into getting a mountain bike and joining
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like road bike in general, and
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if I would enjoy mountain biking and
we might actually go this. This coming

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weekend, we might go mountain biking
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you would love it because you're athletic, you like adventure, you like to

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bike. I really think that you
would love mountain biking. I've never done

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it myself, but I've seen people
on trails in Colorado, like serious mountain

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bikers, and it's like they're on
rugged trails and you know, going over

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stumps and I mean not stumps,
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think you would love mountain biking.
I fully encourage you to try it.

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Hey, we're gonna have to wrap
it up. We're run a little bit

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short on time. That is the
Minnesota Goodbye, supported by you and your

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emails. Seriously, they mean the
world to us. So if you've got

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anything that you want to bring up, and you're going, I don't want

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to ride in, they won't read
mine. No, we probably will write

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it in about anything you want to
bring up. It's a question about ukuleles

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or mountain biking, or anxiety medications
or something completely new. You're going,

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God, I really wish they would
bring this up because nobody talks about this.

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