I made a decision a face sunnysome on. I had a vision. So
what's up, everybody? Welcome for crying. Now up. We had a
great week this week. We had a great Patreon with Albi. She was
awesome, so insightful and just a very she's so mature where she gets it
from, you know, she is she she's all grows up. Yeah,
And she told a very personal story and it was awesome. And then we
have a Thursday show with ELBS and she was great on that show. We
talked, I mean, she was on our show ten years ago, and
she talked about her anxiety and how it has been throughout the years. She
talked about colleges. She talked a lot about the whole college process from her
perspective. Yeah, yeah, I thought it was great. I thought it
would be really good for other parents because here too, four we've only heard
my perspective as a parent on this college process, and you know, just
kind of how maddening it is to have to pressure your kids and get stuff
done. And I thought she did a great job of really explaining like what
was going on in her head yet that time. Yes, and you know,
I'm looking at this through the lens of I'm going to be going through
all this, and she gave me great advice, really good advice out there,
So yeah, you got to check it out. And I think one
thing that came out of it, especially since people will have heard it probably
by the time they're listening to this, is you know when stuff is happening
to you and it's disappointing, And I felt like her disappointment was happening to
me. I'm super codependent with my kids. Surprise. I don't know if
anybody's through the years, how funny was that after my teeth going, I'm
saying spoiler alert too much, and then Elbe comes and says it like two
or three times hilarious. She didn't know, Stephanie, Yeah, it's funny.
So where do I get it from or where does she get it right?
I don't know, but uh, I think I think that it's hard
not to be codependent with your kids, especially for you and you and I.
Yeah, I'm gonna say you had dysfunctional upbringings. I know that's also
a surprise too, but I do think that when you have a dysfunctional upbringing,
I think you go a couple of different ways. You either become I
think, really disconnected because and more narcissistic maybe and like not as attached somehow,
or you become maybe overattached and over compensating for the compensating that you scared
when your kids get depressed or disappointed, you take it on too much and
want to fix it for them exactly, you know. And I've learned a
lot from Elbe's experiences. They're about my own, like my own limitations as
a parent, and how they have their own journey for lack of a better
word. Right there, they're on their own path and we can't you as
much as I want to make everything soft for them and make their lunches every
day, and you know, but they're their own person and we can't protect
them from these big disappointments in life that are going to happen everybody, right,
And I look at Elby and I go, you know, she did
everything right as far as I'm concerned. Oh yeah, Now I've never and
I think people might look at it from the outside and see like me as
a typical maybe la parent who you know, drives my kids. It's kind
of the opposite, I think, because I didn't go to college and I
feel like, well it worked out for me, it's fine. I came
from it from the opposite point of view. I was always like, I
don't even do we want to take all those ap classes? He says,
it a lot like don't you want to have some fun? Like you know
what I mean? Even given her not wanting to study or whatever, I
was always on the side of like relax a little bit, like, you
know, And I don't know if I would have changed that because her perspective
and she's she explains this in the Thursday Show that like she didn't drive herself,
she didn't make herself crazy and have to get absolute straight a's. She
started off in school as is such a perfectionist kindergarten. Her kindergarten teacher said
to me, she's too much of a perfectionist of trying to teach her it's
okay to fail, it's okay to mess up, like she gets so upset
and cries. You know, as an almost six year old, she couldn't
make any mistakes. And I remember her teacher saying to me, this is
what I try to model making mistakes and going, oh, look I made
a mistake. It's fine, you know, And I think I've try,
and she told me that teacher was like, you need to help her learn
it's okay to fail. And I remember telling her like, if you get
a bad grade on a test, like it's not going to be the end
of the world. But then guess what, freaking life bites in the ass.
And it turns out that these kids that are these crazy go getters are
the ones that all got into freaking UCLA all these schools. And it's like
then I'm stuck going like should I have been more pressuring, But I don't
think so. And my point is just that what you'll hear from Elbe is
something that might comfort other parents, which is when your kids get super upset
and so disappointed and you think, oh my god, like what if this
isn't okay, Like it's gonna be okay, Like they're gonna figure it out.
Yeah, they'll figure it out better for worse, right, And she
did, and she's got her own path, and I feel like she's looking
now, she's got a different perspective on anything, everything, and she's looking
back and she's like, well, this happened for the better. Like I
think she's kind of excited about her new route. Of where she's going or
new plans. Yeah, and as much as Elbie says she doesn't like change
or the I don't like it either, So I get it. Yeah,
I'm like, I know. And when she didn't get into you see Santa
Barbara, And I remember I was making our audience like, please pray for
Elby every day, think a good thought for her getting off that wait list,
and she didn't. And you know what it might have been for the
best, right, I'm not sure, but you know what I see other
things like she's gonna do fine. She's in a great state of mind too,
considering all the what she's been through. You know, she's just very
like positive and she's gonna honestly, she can make a great therapist. And
the thing is, and you and I've talked about this a million times,
but it's like when I was her age, I had like almost no family
support. You know, my mom paid lip service to like being supportive,
but when push came to shove, like my mom liked to see herself.
I don't rag on my mom that much on our show, but here's something
about how how she was. She liked the appearance of seeming like a supportive
mom. But when you actually needed her support, she just could. It
was like, oh god, like you know what I mean, she follow
through, she would she got she would just cut you off. It was
just like, oh, you're feeling morbidly depressed and you need help. Yeah,
I don't know how to tell you. Figure it out, you know,
really cold like just like figure it out. So it was very tricky
because you didn't want to need anything from her because she couldn't give it to
you. But if you didn't need her, then she'd be really like she
could be really nurturing and sweet, but only when you didn't need the nurturing,
you know what I mean. So I was thrown into the fire,
moved to La on my own. Was I mean when I tell you that
I was broke, Like I didn't have any soft place to fall, I
didn't have somebody that could just send me money in case of an emergency.
I had to. I was so broke I couldn't eat sometimes. You know,
I was homeless at one point. I mean I've said this, but
I had to sleep in my car on a couple of different nights because I
didn't have an apartment yet. I mean, listen, a lot of people
have it way worse. But I didn't have sort of the foundation to like
take classes at community college, which I tried. But if you don't have
any foundation and you don't have any money, and you then and you're struggling
every day just trying to stay happy and stay like hopeful, you know,
you you end up in dead end jobs, which I did. I waited
tables just for years. I didn't see how I was going to make a
future for myself right right, and nobody really gave a fuck. Yeah,
I think for me, it's like I had my I didn't have that.
There was no money, there was not my parents weren't giving me any money.
All the money. It was like I had to save and work.
But the one thing I did have, thank god, was my dad's support
just guiding me, if this is what you want to do, do this,
if this is but you gotta do it, You're you're on your own.
Nobody's gonna be taking care of yourself but you and I at least I
at least I had that, you know, right out of the gate.
And also my parents like focused on my older brothers to go to college they're
both civil engineers. And then they focused on me with acting, you know,
like what the fuck what you know? And so it's like and by
then two they were my parents, you know, hated each other. By
the time I was in high school, they were getting divorced and it was
just chaos in the house. You know. When my brothers were growing up,
they were together and cohesive and I was, you know, ten and
seven years younger. So anyway, but like, it's interesting how it shapes
us as moms today. How like you are nothing like your mom, you
know, you're super supportive. I mean you you know what I mean?
Like, how how we could have gone different ways as being moms considering are
the way we were brought up. Yeah, and I hope that I am
an example to her of like, listen, you gotta have a hustle mentality,
like nobody's going to do it all for you. And but also I've
had to learn to step back and just go there's letter. I wouldn't have
learned it except that I had to, because it's like I couldn't. There's
things I couldn't fix. You can't. I couldn't. I couldn't. You
can't call college and go hi. You see Santa Barbara, Listen, you
really missed the boat on this one. Like I know she applied to an
impacted major, but like, my daughter is so special, Like you really
should just give her another Like that's just not a thing. So or I
probably would have done it, maybe, you know, but I had to
learn to like just go, well, this is a humongous disappointment and like,
let's like hopefully it will cause grit and some resiliency. I think it's
already had. I think it's already made a positive. It's beautiful to watch
it, to watch her struggle through things and like and I like all that
you can't tell them, hey, like it's gonna be okay, Like you
can't give them that as they say, toxic positivity and be like this is
gonna make you better. You know you can't. You have to just let
them cry. You have to allow them to be upset. There were a
lot of times where Elbie didn't talk to me about what she was going through,
and I had to say, like, it's okay to cry and be
upset and pissed about this. This is a huge disappointment. Like I'm not
expecting you to just be like it's fine, it's fine, it's fine.
Because you need to feel it. It sucks. And then she's really struggled
with, you know, going to community college and I don't want to and
it's not fair and all that stuff. And it's like there's a lot of
people that might say, well, I mean community college, it's a great
and it is. But like you heard her yesterday show, when all of
your friends are doing one thing and they're all getting into and this is what
you've been surrounded with, right, is all these kids on this if all
of her kids weren't When I was in high school, none of my friends
were going on in college. We were all losers, all of us.
In fact, it was almost weird that I was going to go to college.
My best friend at the time did go to UMSS and we were going
to go together and then we didn't, and she's the one that died.
My friend Michelle got hit by a car like later that year, so she
went to half her freshman year at school. The rest of my friends like
dropped out of like oh yeah, and one of my friends got pregnant at
like nineteen. My other friend was seventeen, dropped out of high school to
move to la with me. Like we were a Motley. Oh, I
know, Suzanne's the only one she went to see son. My other friend
Scott went to see Son, and everybody, well, Pam the no ghett
that my mom didn't like her. And I went to Pearce for like a
year, a couple semesters, and then at some point Pam's like, you
know, we don't have to go to class if we don't want to.
And I was like, yeah, all right, let's go to the beach.
That was it. Parents. My parents were like they didn't they didn't
care. They were like, do your thing. They were fighting. They
left me on my own, and I was just hanging out with my friends.
Right. Yeah, I didn't have friends that went off to colleges.
It wasn't a thing. But I think like for her, it is such
a thing, every single one of the friends. Except the good part is,
as you heard her say, she does have friends at work that are
having to do the same path. And she did find other people that didn't
go to aren't going to community college because it was just where they would normally
be. Is like they're no getters. They went to community college because they
had a similar situation as her, and they had great grades, but they
didn't get in saying because you sees are really tough. As she has a
she does have a number of people in the exact same boat that were high
achievers, took a lot of aps, it applied to an impacted major and
are in the same position. And the fact is she only has to go
for one year. And it's like it was the adjustment of like, oh
god, this is not my life. I hate this, I hate this.
I hate this too. All right, well it is. This is
what it embraced it and she's running with it and it is beautiful to watch.
It's so nice, and you get to have her around for another year.
I know. I'm like all of my friends kids are. They're dropping
them off at college and they're all sad, and I'm like, sucks to
be exactly. I'm like, oh, I'm sorry, you're really sad.
Hold on, hey, Elvin, you want to go to the mall?
I want to go to Pakson. I'm sorry, Okay, I'll be right
with you. Oh no, really, it's so sad. You're lonely.
Whence the next time you're gonna see her? Oh Christmas? Oh elbe wait
u you drive? Yeah. So anyway, that was really fun. It
was really fun. I learned some things too, did you. Yeah.
I like the fact that she's not scared to talk in front of me about
like what's going on with her? Really? I mean I know most of
it, but there were a couple of things, like she opened up about
what it was like to write this stuff where she was talking about how I
was bugging her about the college stuff, you know, because you remember I
would come in here and be like, I don't know what to do,
Like I feel like I have to be the hard guy right, Like I
have to be the heavy right because John's not doing it. Like I was
looking forward to hear she's not going to go to the applications in Yeah,
when she was when you told me she was coming in, I was like,
Oh, I can't wait to hear her side of things. And looking
back in retrospect, is she happy that you you gotta listen to the show?
And on my side of things though, Like what she doesn't understand is
that I'm talking to the other moms. The thing that's maybe a little different
than some people have it is I have this close knit group of mom friends.
All of our kids grew up together. They've all known each other since
they were really really young and we all are currently like I talked to my
friend Laura almost every single day and that her daughter Lily just went left for
Berkeley and so she's really sad. So she's one of the oh hold on
Lara Albet. But behind the scenes, these moms were pressuring their kids.
They just weren't complaining about it as much like they just don't talk about it.
They don't go like, well, the reason I'm getting all my applications
done is because my mom is riding my ass every day. So I'm hearing
that and going like, I don't know what LB thinks is going on.
But these kids that are not talking about their college applications are sure doing them
behind the scene. But anyway, we should say hi to our people,
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So I got a little, a little annoyance. Everybody loves an annoyance,
gosh it. So you know I've been complaining about my kids Orthodons.
Remember when I had so much trouble with getting Xander's braces off. Yes,
people just do not want to take the kids braces off. Okay, poor
Sadie hot On, she's had braces for almost four years. Really yes,
Now, look I know that Sadie because of how she was born really small.
There's there were some like there were some problems with her smile and her
teeth and her teeth were small, and like you know, she got on
the growth hormones. They don't make your teeth grow bigger. Your teeth are,
your teeth are. So you know, I understood that she was probably
going to be embraces for a little bit longer. But I got very disillusioned
with this Orthodonis office. And remember when I told you that they would tell
the kids if the brackets broken. Remember they would try to charge for a
broken bracket. This is like a racket. Yeah, it really is.
And I we've talked about this before, so I won't bore you with all
the details, but suffice it to say that we've been building. I've been
going in for now the last year and a half. I'm like, when
are her braces coming off? They're like, oh, for sure, within
in six months, they're gonna come off. Okay. Then six months goes
by, it's like, okay, it's been six months. If we schedule
the braces coming up, Yeah, we're we're we're in the final in the
final phase, she's just got to wear the rubber bands. Were we're closing
in on the We just got to close a couple of little gaps and to
fix her bite. The dentist talent like when you go and they get the
check up and the dentist do they this is not the dentist, No,
but you know the is it the like who's telling you when you take her?
Do you take her in? Yea? Or the orthodist Yes? So
they go like every six weeks. Is the orthodonist the one because when I
take them he comes out and talks to me and he's like, okay,
they got another week of this and then so yes, basically, but John
was the one take so with Xander. Just to remind you, they were
not taking hit. At a certain point, Xander's gums were like growing too
much and I had taken him to the dentist and I was like, he's
got this weird gum thing where his gums are like growing in between his teeth,
you know, and they're and finally they're like, you know, he's
had the braces on for a long time and sometimes this can it can cause
it, right, and he'd already his teeth had been straight forever. But
it was always like, oh, we just got to fix this warm thing.
And finally I said, I want his braces off, and the dentist
told me he can have his braces off. Remember that, were like,
he's fine, Like it's not going to do that much more. But I
don't know why this orthodonist wants to keep them in braces for so long.
I don't know what they get out of it. Well, this is the
thing, though, you pay a big feet up front, right, they
charge you every month for like a few years. Ours was like the Twins,
we were on a three year plan. They're outside of that plan already.
It doesn't they're not making money. So I think it's I think what
it is is that they start trying to charge you for the brackets. They
charge you for like little things. But I'm like, well, guess what
it's like a car. At a certain point, things are going to start
breaking down right, like you can't continue to have them in these braces and
then get mad at them for breaking a bracket like they're not they're not doing
anything wrong. Speaking of broken brackets though, just reminded me of a story
of when I had braces, when I first got them on, and my
mom drove me from the valley up over the hill to Beverly Hills where my
Orthodonis was, brought me back, and then somehow I got my hands on
a candy apple and the second I've been into it just popped right off,
so she had to drive me all the way back right, get it all
done, drive all the way back again. It sounds like something that haven't
happened to us. Yeah, but my kids don't eat anything that they're not
it's like a na I don't know what it is. But with Xander,
he's really he was really careful all the time. He's kind of a rule
follower like Elbie. And he'd break a bride he'd be like, I don't,
I don't know how it happened. It's just or it would get bent
or something, you know, And they're like, well, because he's not
doing, you know, paying the going by the rules, and I'm like,
you know he is. He is. So eventually, if you recall,
I got mad at the orthodontist and I was like, I'm so tired
of getting the run around. His dentist wants his braces off. I want
you to take them off. And then they tried to charge again while we
were waiting to get his braces off. I'm like, it doesn't fucking matter.
You don't have to fix the bracket where he braces off, just take
them off and then eventually be off. Yeah, and I she called me,
and then I told her listen, we're having a bad experience, like
they're trying to get mad at they're getting mad at him for breaking a bracket
and trying to charge me, and like he anyways, so that got solved,
so his braces came off. He's fine. But meanwhile I kept asking,
Okay, but what about Sadie? But what about Sadie getting the run
around? Getting the runaround? John's the one who ends up taking her though
a lot because I teach on the nights that they it's too close to five
o'clock. So anyway, last couple of visits, I'm like, tell tell
them we want the braces off. It's been almost four years. Yea,
So he did tell them that. So a couple I think I went for
a couple of these visits. They'd be like, no problem, Yeah,
we'll make the appointment to take them off, but we'll just at the next
appointment. We'll make the appointment to take them off. So then John would
take her to the next appointment and they'd be like, yeah, we're just
trying to fix this one little thing. There's this we just want to fix
her bite. She needs to wear the rubber bands. Well, this bitch,
Sadie was not wearing the rubber bands. She'd be like yeah, yeah,
yeah, okay, I'll wear them, and then she wouldn't. And
I'm sorry, but what am I supposed to do like chase her around and
just go are your rubber bands on? Right? I have enough things that
I got to remind these bitches. Did you take this pill? Did you
take that pill? Did you remember this? It's like so much all the
time that I'm not going to fight with her about the rubber bands. Her
bite looks fine, right, and it wasn't even that far off. They're
just like, we're just trying to adjust it. I'm like, oh,
I said, well, then they would ask me, well, she being
compliant with the rubber bands, and I'm like, nope, she's really not.
And they're like, well, she really needs to wear them, and
I said, but she's not going to, right. So we're at a
standstill. Right, So finally the last visit, they're like, I told
John, I go, do not take no for an answer. Went.
I said, the next visit, you schedule, You schedule the braces coming
off, whether they like it or not. So he said. They tried
to argue with him and he was like, no, we want the braces
off. So they're like okay, so they make a they make an appointment.
All this time they had told they we she was supposed to have them
off by Christmas last year, but they keeping them on and keeping them on,
and I was like, she is not starting the tenth grade with braces
on. Well, sure enough, she had to start the tenth grade with
braces on because they just, oh, we don't have any appointments eligible to
have them off when we said but they're like yeah, so as soon as
they could do was Thursday, which was last Thursday. She just got him
off. If they're just taking them off couldn't any orthodonnas do that? No,
No, no, it has it's her. It's no, you've already
paid for this. This is part of what you paid for. So no,
but it's just them being dicks about scheduling it. So they finally schedule
it, but it's then they make her come in before just to I don't
know what. I don't know what, I don't know what. But John
had to take her because I couldn't go to that visit. So John takes
her and he's like yeah, So they made me like sign a form and
they tried to show me that like her bite is still a little bit off,
but they're going to go ahead and take them off. And I was
like okay, good, okay. So I was the one who took her
to the appointment because this was in the morning, so I get her there.
First thing they do, they're just like, hey, mom, can
you come back here? We need you to sign this form, this legal
form basically saying that you understand that, like you you're ending treatment. Early.
I'm like, bitch, early. I was like what. I made
them look at the date and the date was like September of twenty nineteen.
I was like what just been about four years, Like how fucking long do
you want this kid embraces? Like her? What do you what's happening?
Like, what do you mean early? At what point would it have not
been early? It's never gonna get perfect. But I don't say anything.
I was just like, yeah, okay, I'll sign it. Okay.
So then I go sit. I sit in a chair like near where she's
getting her braces off in there, and the Orthodonis comes over. She's like,
mom, can you come over here. I just want to show you
something. I was saying, like they bring you back all we want to
show you that there's just a little thing off and it needs a little longer.
Yeah yeah, so I oh oh, and then they want me to
they're like also all right. First she's like the Orthodonis is like, can
I just show you something on her teeth? Like so her bite is just
a little bit blah blah blah, but like the gaps are all closed,
so it's up to you. And I said, listen, we already had
this visit a week ago, just so that you could say that her bite
isn't all the way right, We already did this. That was we took
the time and I was saying this, I go. We took the time
out of our day. We had in a put. It's inconvenient. I
have three kids. We brought her in just so that you could say to
my husband, hey, her bite's not perfect it do you still want to
go ahead? I go. Then he signed something saying yes, we want
to go ahead. So nothing's changed. We're here for the braces off appointment,
with all the information right, please take them off. And she's like
okay, yeah, yeah, no, it's fine because the gaps are closed.
I'm like, huh, I didn't take them off. So then,
but also the week before, they tried to charge for a broken bracket,
and John texted me. He was like, they're trying to charge me for
a broken bracket. And I said, go tell him to go fuck themselves.
I go go put they take the broken bracket and shove it up your
fucking ass because we're not paying for shit. I said, they're taking the
fucking braces off. We should They should have been taking them off now right
right the fuck they're trying to charge with every last dollar. So then they
called so John was like, yeah, just take it up with my wife.
Then I get a call from them during the week and they're like,
yeah, so we're gonna go ahead and wave the broken bracket fee and I
was like yeah, yeah. I didn't even go like, oh, thank
you so much of it. Yeah you are. And they're like, okay,
yeah, we just wanted to let you know there's no you're not you
have no balance. And I was like, uh great, get the screw
screw driver out, start from Rippons, get the where's the pliers, let's
go. Now I've had John signed a form saying we're taking him off early
for then I get called into the finance office, right They're like, can
we talk mom? Can we talk to you back here on the momfice?
So they bring me back there, so we you've already signed that your take
ending treatment earlier. I'm like yes, I know. They're like okay,
so she's gonna get a retainer and there's a program where if you just pay
this small fee, that's how they pitch it to me. Just pay a
small fee and then if she needs to replace if she loses her retainer,
like we'll replace it for free. Okay, she where's the retainer to bed?
So where's she going? Like, how's she going? To lose the
retainer is she loses it in her room, okay, on the off off
chains Okay, uh yeah, I don't. I don't think we want to
join that. Well, it's just like you know, listen, it's gonna
save you a lot of money because people they lose them. And I was
like, okay, but she again, she wears it at night. They're
like, yeah, she just wears it at night. How much and how
much is the program? Seven to fuck to take them a few years?
And I was like, yeah, no thanks, and they go, well,
okay, but we're gonna need you to sign this middle document that you've
you're declining our program, our assurance program for the retainer. And I was
like, I'm getting so mad, like I'm about to go post a lot,
Like I'm just like, oh you are so like I'm just they each
thing was making me like madder and madder. So I'm like, yeah,
we're good, Yeah, we're good, go ahead and just to call Yeah,
okay, but we're gonna need you to sign that you're not purchasing.
I was like, am I on a car lot? Because like, okay,
so I signed the thing, I go back, I sit down,
Okay, I swear to god, I'm not making this up. The orthodonist
who's they're taker braces off, as like, so, has anybody talked to
you about the program for because we offered this program that it's like for a
small fee. I go, yeah, I just got the spiel in your
back office and I already signed that we're declining that, but thank you right
now, get back to work. And she was like, Okay, I
just want to make sure. And I was like, and I did.
You can't see me because I'm on a podcast, but I did the like
clothes mic kind of wins. I put my hand up like please stop stop,
and I know, poor Sadie was just like, take my fucking braces
off. It's god. And you know, we had to take the morning
off of school. So it's our first one of school, right Thursday,
it's fourth day of school. There was no other time they could do it.
We called a bunch of times for a cancelation. No sorry, no
cancelations, Like it's torture, it is. So I turned down all the
stuff and then they take her braces off and oh my god, her bite
is just fine, like it's fine, and then they but guess what her
teeth got a little bit fucked up from having the braces on for so long,
like it caused some like discoloration spots. Sonny got that too, He
got that too. Yeah. So then they were like, do you want
us to like just leave it or do you want us to file down,
like we can polish the teeth and file down the little like these little dots
of I was like, yeah, go ahead and file them down, Like
do you want us to make it look good or do you just want to
like are you? Are you good? Are you Suddenly in a rush to
get out of here, I was like, no, please go ahead and
file down what you yes? Please? And then so they do, and
of course it looks a lot better, but it's like, oh, you're
all about like oh the broken brack, like we're gonna charge you ninety dollars.
But then you're like, are you sure you want us to go abuff
of beyond time fix the make the teeth look and I was like yeah,
please do Yeah. So then I was just I was so mad by the
time we left that I was like hate that, feeling just all full body
tension. But I was so relieved and then we have to go back I
have to take her back on Thursday to get the retainer. It's like a
whole long process. It's it's unbelievable. I know I've been through it.
It's it's just NonStop and they nickel and dyme you, and it's just like,
come on, yeah, I get. I was just at the dentist
last week. I had to have my whole like this tooth that's been a
temporary thing. This guy's like, it's because I have a bridge, right,
because I don't have a I didn't have a yeah, and I didn't
have like yeah, just me and Katerina. So they had to take the
whole fause you you didn't have a tooth there, right, baby tooth.
I had a baby tooth until it was like twenty three. So I have
a bridge. So he's got to take the whole bridge off and then put
a temporary which is what I got now. And then I got to go
back in like two weeks. And my mouth is like all numb. Which
are you getting a new to a new bridge? Yes, because the bridge
I've had for years. And he's like and he was tugging on it.
He's like, not only was it cracked and broke it's loose, and I
was like, oh, hell, what the and it's my front teeth.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, so he's like, yeah,
you gotta get that fixed. You know. Meanwhile, it's like thousands and
thousands of dollars because the insurances doesn't pay much. Pays a little bit,
but not much, so we don't even have dental insurance. It would be
like an extra two hundred dollars a month. And that nobody's nobody takes it
right. They're always like, oh, that's not covered, right, so
let's take a little break and then all okay. Yeah. So and by
the way, so I was referred to this guy from my dentist because that's
what he does. He does like, you know, the cosmetic dentistry stuff.
And he's like, you know, thirty minutes out of town, far
away, like our Alita and shit. But I get there and I sit
in the lobby and there's Eddie van Halen's guitar hanging on the wall in our
Alida, in our in the dentist office in our Alita, and or like
San Gabriel Valley. And then I look and then there's like van Halen like
album signed by all the members of Van Halen and then there's a Fleetwood Mac
signed album. Like he's a rock and roll dude, you know, but
he's kind of weird. Then sometimes you're kind of weirdos, you know,
a little bit nice guy, nice enough guy, but like talks really like
this is really quiet, like and he's got the mask on so I can't
hear him, Like what what what you want me to open my mouth?
Like what? And then his nurse is super sweet and friendly, but yeah,
he's like, you gotta take the ship off. And then so I
went back last week at the end of the week, my mouth is all
numb, but I'm like scared. I'm like, do you are you really
gonna I'm not gonna walk out here toothless am I. And he's like,
nah, no, we got it, we got it. And here's the
other thing about dentistry. I don't know if you've this is the first time
I've experienced because every time they always got to do an impression. We always
got to do the impression with the with the clay, you know, and
your mouth bite down, and it feels like it's going into like Plato kind
of thing. Right this time they're like, we gotta do it an impression
impression and I oh, she's like open your mouth. So she's got this
like like wand which is like, uh, you know when you go for
like pregnancy, like an ultrasound Wanda. She's like rubbing it around my teeth
and the thing's going beep. This is how she they do an impression now,
oh yeah, And that's why they're so fucking expensive too, Like they
got technology in this office, and that's like, you know, I'm like,
you're like I could just bring my own plato. I could just make
it and save like two thousand dollars, like good luck. Yeah, there
you go. But but but you know, and then it's like I just
don't have the Like I'm fine with going to Dennist, I just don't got
the patience now because I end up sitting in the chair. You're just sitting
in that chair and you want it to go back because my back hurts,
but nobody's around. I don't know how to work it, so I'm just
sitting straight up and it's like, we'll be right with you. He's gonna
be right with you. He's gonna be right with you. You know,
you're in the waiting room for like half an hour. Then they bring you
back and you're thinking, okay, let's get this ship done. It's two
thirty in the afternoon. By the way, the best time to go to
the dentist is two thirty. And I'm bed at Kaitlin. Then I've been
like, yes, that's right, so you know, I'm sitting there and
then he's like taking his suite. Then he comes in and I make the
fatal mistake, is going are you a Van Halen fan? And then he
sits and talks to me about all the bands he's met and how him and
his son have gone to so many concerts. He doesn't talk and work at
the same time. No, He's one of those where he just sits in
and I'm like, huh, I can't hear and both tasks. That's what
I was like, Okay, here we go, here we go. All
right, that sounds great. Let's get a move on. Traffic is gonna
be bad when I get out of good I got shipped to do. I'm
in ourlita. Yes I'm looking. I get the two ten at five o'clock.
Forget about it. You're just stuck in a parking lot and it's all
I keep thinking, and he's going on and on and on about van Halen.
Why did I even? I should have just kept my mouth shut and
just let him do his thing. But it was just, you know,
I got out of there. It was like five thirty. I'm like,
don't you people want to go home? It's five o'clock. Doesn't the dentist
office close? What's going on? They're like wall, we're running behind where
we don't have anybody, no wonder because somebody mentioned van Halen. Yes,
so now we got this doctor who's mister knock Around. And then I get
the dentist's mister rock and Roll trying to relive is like glory days to tell
me all about his you know, rock and roll stories about being a group
be and shit, I'm has this guy always been your dentist? No,
he's new. He's my dentist. Referred me to him to get this for
the cosmetic for the cosmetic stuff. So you know, I come in there
and he's just like, you know, like mumbling, and I'm like,
come on, good, let's go, let's go, you know. But
that was the tempt and also I was kind of nervous. I'm like,
are you really gonna fix me up and put me back together, like you're
taking my tooth out? Am I gonna be toothless? You know? But
are you all fixed? Because it looks great. It's a temporary I gotta
go back. And then she said, I go, how much when I
come back? Like? Is it gonna be a long She goes, maybe
a little longer because we have to blah blah blah. And I was like,
you know, and then I put the earbuds. I go, I'm
gonna listen to the podcast. I'm gonna put my earbuds in and they're like
okay, And then he starts talking to me. He's like, go ahead,
go ahead, turn it up, do your thing. He's like,
listen to music. I'm like, I'm he doesn't need to know what I'm
listening to. I shouldn't need. I was like, I don't want to
open up another can of worm, Okay, I gotta go go go do
your thing. And I was just so impatient that day. And so I
put the earbuds in and I turn it up because they got the road the
thing, and you know, and my head's vibrating and it's like, you
know, it's like a drill saw in my mouth and I could barely hear
I'm listening to Betrayal season two because I haven't I haven't heard it. Yeah,
so I'm listening about pedophilia and he's talking to me about rock and roll
with the saw in my mouth, and so you're like, I'd like to
see this guy's download history exactly so I don't know. And then I'm trying
to hear it. I can't hear it exactly what. And then he starts
talking to me because first he goes listen, he goes, and then she
says to my right, she goes, if you need anything, just raise
your hand, you know. And then I was like okay. And then
at some point he starts talking. So now I gotta lift my phone up
above my eyes so I could see. I get a hit pause? What
was that? And he's like, are you okay? You're doing okay?
Right? I was like, yeah, I'm fine. I want to get
the fuck out of here. Just finished, don't leave me toothless, put
the ship back in, and can I get get on the road. I
don't want to sit in traffic. And now I got to do it all
over again. So wait, so they took out like your front, your
front tooth, yea one front tooth, one front tooth. It's got the
it's got the wings on, you know, like the bridge. Oh,
so they had to take your front tooth and then the next tooth and because
that was the tooth, that was the baby tooth, the tooth where there's
no tooth, yes, And then they have to like take the thing on
the back of it because what holds it together, right, and then put
a temporary in and then which I don't know how they do that, Like
they just blew it in and that's it and then go back out. Why
can't that one be the permanent one? I know, if you really look,
it's not. It's it doesn't it's like he said, because I was
looking at the mirror and he's like, it's pretty close because they tried to
match because I had another appointment last time. They try to match it for
the temporary and then they put it up and they're like, uh, it
doesn't really match. And he's like, but the temporaries are flat, he
said, the real ones are have you know, shin to Yeah, yeah,
more depth to it. So he's like, don't worry. And I
was like, all right, okay, I just I just don't want to
be toothless, that's all. Yeah, put a tic tach in there.
I don't care. It's a little good and let me get on the road.
I've been here for fucking three. Tach in your mouth, then get
a life. It's the clean, fresh exclusion. Yeah, I kind of
I do the tic tach song. He doesn't, he doesn't know a tic
tac. Yeah, that was my afternoon. And then the other thing is
like, you know, they shoot you up with novocaine. You know,
I can't feel your nose, you know what I mean. It's like and
I was starving. That was the other thing why I made the fatal mistake.
I'm really not eating anything. I had like oat meal at like eight
in the morning and then nothing. Oh my god, that's me. I
oat meal every day and I love starving. By eleven, yes, I
was starving, and I was like, you know, I'll just push it
wasn't that hungry. But then when I'm sitting in the chair and he's going
on and on about Van Allen Women and Children first album, how much it's
his favorite one, and I'm just like, I'm starving, you know,
And then I hear a commercial for like pastrami in the thing. I was
like, oh, I want to push strami. So I'm like, can
I get And then so when he was all done, I was numb.
And then he leaves. He's like all right, see you. And then
she, you know, cleans up the mess with me and get you know,
gives me water. And I was like, hey, so what's the
best way to get rid of to get novocaine? Get it out of time?
Yeah, She's like, you can exercise, but I wouldn't suggest,
you know, you don't get on a treadmill right now, but like move
around. But she says drink cold, drink cold, go to get a
smoothie or drink like something cold. So on my way out, I was
like, hey, you have any bottled water and they're like, yep,
right there, got two bottles for the road. I'm like drinking it,
rubbing on my face because I want to enjoy my sandwich. When I get
home, it was straw. Did it work? Though? It did it?
I mean I don't know if it was in my head, but I
got home and I was like, you know, trying to get it going
and now and then it's that weird thing where most of it's gone, but
then there's one spot that's still numb, and it's like, what's going out
with that spot? And it's always on my like in my nose. It
just I hate that feeling. I'll never forget. When Elbe was like I
want to say seven, and she had to have teeth pulled, baby teeth
pulled for whatever reason. Maybe she was eight, I don't know why,
but she had to have two two four eight teeth pulled, and she had
all this novocaine and afterwards, and she'd been so so so nervous about it.
Of course, like her anxiety was in full swing at that time.
Time and afterward, you would think that she was being tortured by the numbness
because she'd never felt that before. So she was not stop crying. She
couldn't focus on anything else. She just kept like trying to talk and going
like I guess I'm gonna feel like this. Yeah. I think that was
the thing like which we can relate to it, like I'm never gonna not
feel like this again, like breakup snow vocating like every guy they're gonna be
happy again. And I was like, honey, it is like I know,
it feels so weird, but it's going You're gonna feel normal, and
she was like no, no, like I never forget. I tried to
take her to Target because I was gonna get her. It was during the
time that she was really into Barbies, so I was gonna buy her like
a Barbie whatever kind of remember when I don't know if Natalia was ever really
into Barbie. She wasn't, but Elbie went through a phase and they they
have like crazy like they'll be like a Barbie. Like it's like Barbie and
Skipper and it's Barbie the dentist. It really is kind of like the movie
where there's like all these different jobs or here's Barbie's horse stable, you know,
and then I think you get a little toy horse and this one that's
the assistant at the stable, right, but each but it's like sixty bucks
for something. They're elaborate, so I didn't want to spend sixty bucks,
but I was like, I'll spend twenty five and get you like a cute
like so there was a Barbie in the dentist's chair, oh heo. But
Elbie was horrified because it reminded I was like, oh, this will be
perfect, Like look it's a barbie. Did She was like no, so
I had to spring for like a more expensive one to make her feel better.
She should play her comfortably numb like pink Floyd. O me to sit
and listen to this. It'll wear off. It was so funny and I
remember trying to take a picture of her of it and she was just like
like a horrified face, like, oh I remember, because she was like,
I look like a monster. It did look kind of creepy, like
if I'm real, it was pretty bloody. Yeah. But anyway, well,
this is super fun, super super fun. You know what, before
we go, uh, we have a just we have to talk about Kelly
from Wilman Frieda. Hope they're doing well. Palm Springs got a lot of
flooding, that's true. Yeah, so hope you're doing okay, Kelly.
Hope that woman Frieda is holding up that Palm Springs and Palm Desert locations really
good food. If you're in that area, please go see her. She's
adorable. That's a doll baby. It's so sweet and she'll be thrilled to
see another. Also, The Family Skeptical is a podcast about raising kids without
religion. If you haven't tried it yet. Like, listen, this is
a fellow listener who's just just trying to do a podcast, you know.
Check it out from her. Yeah, yeah, give her a give her
a listen. The family Skeptical and again Adam a friend, Adams a car
broker. Really, it's such a drag to try to haggle with car people.
Let a broker do it for you. They get paid from the dealership.
They will get you a way better deal than you could get for yourself.
You can shop around, you can bring them your lowest price and then
go here's what I could get right, And then this is what we used
to do before we before Adam was our broker, we'd try to shop the
car deal ourselves and then ask the broker, here's what we here's the lowest
price we got, you know, three fifty a month or whatever, and
then they go find you less. So that's how it works. So now
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