1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:15,480 I made a decision a face sunnysome on. I had a vision. So 2 00:00:15,519 --> 00:00:19,000 what's up, everybody? Welcome for crying. Now up. We had a 3 00:00:19,039 --> 00:00:23,839 great week this week. We had a great Patreon with Albi. She was 4 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:32,479 awesome, so insightful and just a very she's so mature where she gets it 5 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:36,159 from, you know, she is she she's all grows up. Yeah, 6 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:39,719 And she told a very personal story and it was awesome. And then we 7 00:00:39,759 --> 00:00:44,240 have a Thursday show with ELBS and she was great on that show. We 8 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:47,240 talked, I mean, she was on our show ten years ago, and 9 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:50,799 she talked about her anxiety and how it has been throughout the years. She 10 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:55,200 talked about colleges. She talked a lot about the whole college process from her 11 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,560 perspective. Yeah, yeah, I thought it was great. I thought it 12 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:03,960 would be really good for other parents because here too, four we've only heard 13 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:08,760 my perspective as a parent on this college process, and you know, just 14 00:01:08,879 --> 00:01:15,040 kind of how maddening it is to have to pressure your kids and get stuff 15 00:01:15,079 --> 00:01:18,640 done. And I thought she did a great job of really explaining like what 16 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:22,079 was going on in her head yet that time. Yes, and you know, 17 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:25,079 I'm looking at this through the lens of I'm going to be going through 18 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:29,480 all this, and she gave me great advice, really good advice out there, 19 00:01:29,480 --> 00:01:32,439 So yeah, you got to check it out. And I think one 20 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:37,359 thing that came out of it, especially since people will have heard it probably 21 00:01:37,439 --> 00:01:42,680 by the time they're listening to this, is you know when stuff is happening 22 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:49,120 to you and it's disappointing, And I felt like her disappointment was happening to 23 00:01:49,159 --> 00:01:53,560 me. I'm super codependent with my kids. Surprise. I don't know if 24 00:01:53,560 --> 00:02:00,760 anybody's through the years, how funny was that after my teeth going, I'm 25 00:02:00,760 --> 00:02:02,840 saying spoiler alert too much, and then Elbe comes and says it like two 26 00:02:02,879 --> 00:02:09,120 or three times hilarious. She didn't know, Stephanie, Yeah, it's funny. 27 00:02:09,879 --> 00:02:13,840 So where do I get it from or where does she get it right? 28 00:02:14,159 --> 00:02:19,840 I don't know, but uh, I think I think that it's hard 29 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,840 not to be codependent with your kids, especially for you and you and I. 30 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:28,599 Yeah, I'm gonna say you had dysfunctional upbringings. I know that's also 31 00:02:28,599 --> 00:02:32,039 a surprise too, but I do think that when you have a dysfunctional upbringing, 32 00:02:32,159 --> 00:02:37,000 I think you go a couple of different ways. You either become I 33 00:02:37,039 --> 00:02:44,759 think, really disconnected because and more narcissistic maybe and like not as attached somehow, 34 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:50,719 or you become maybe overattached and over compensating for the compensating that you scared 35 00:02:51,159 --> 00:02:54,599 when your kids get depressed or disappointed, you take it on too much and 36 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:59,120 want to fix it for them exactly, you know. And I've learned a 37 00:02:59,159 --> 00:03:07,840 lot from Elbe's experiences. They're about my own, like my own limitations as 38 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:13,000 a parent, and how they have their own journey for lack of a better 39 00:03:13,039 --> 00:03:16,120 word. Right there, they're on their own path and we can't you as 40 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:21,159 much as I want to make everything soft for them and make their lunches every 41 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,759 day, and you know, but they're their own person and we can't protect 42 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:30,280 them from these big disappointments in life that are going to happen everybody, right, 43 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:31,960 And I look at Elby and I go, you know, she did 44 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:37,840 everything right as far as I'm concerned. Oh yeah, Now I've never and 45 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:43,759 I think people might look at it from the outside and see like me as 46 00:03:43,759 --> 00:03:49,800 a typical maybe la parent who you know, drives my kids. It's kind 47 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:52,840 of the opposite, I think, because I didn't go to college and I 48 00:03:52,879 --> 00:03:54,840 feel like, well it worked out for me, it's fine. I came 49 00:03:54,919 --> 00:03:59,479 from it from the opposite point of view. I was always like, I 50 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,520 don't even do we want to take all those ap classes? He says, 51 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:05,000 it a lot like don't you want to have some fun? Like you know 52 00:04:05,039 --> 00:04:10,719 what I mean? Even given her not wanting to study or whatever, I 53 00:04:10,759 --> 00:04:15,520 was always on the side of like relax a little bit, like, you 54 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:20,279 know, And I don't know if I would have changed that because her perspective 55 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:26,720 and she's she explains this in the Thursday Show that like she didn't drive herself, 56 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:30,279 she didn't make herself crazy and have to get absolute straight a's. She 57 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:36,360 started off in school as is such a perfectionist kindergarten. Her kindergarten teacher said 58 00:04:36,399 --> 00:04:40,839 to me, she's too much of a perfectionist of trying to teach her it's 59 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,560 okay to fail, it's okay to mess up, like she gets so upset 60 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:48,360 and cries. You know, as an almost six year old, she couldn't 61 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,560 make any mistakes. And I remember her teacher saying to me, this is 62 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:56,839 what I try to model making mistakes and going, oh, look I made 63 00:04:56,839 --> 00:05:00,360 a mistake. It's fine, you know, And I think I've try, 64 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:04,240 and she told me that teacher was like, you need to help her learn 65 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:08,720 it's okay to fail. And I remember telling her like, if you get 66 00:05:08,759 --> 00:05:11,399 a bad grade on a test, like it's not going to be the end 67 00:05:11,439 --> 00:05:15,920 of the world. But then guess what, freaking life bites in the ass. 68 00:05:15,079 --> 00:05:19,079 And it turns out that these kids that are these crazy go getters are 69 00:05:19,079 --> 00:05:23,480 the ones that all got into freaking UCLA all these schools. And it's like 70 00:05:23,519 --> 00:05:28,040 then I'm stuck going like should I have been more pressuring, But I don't 71 00:05:28,079 --> 00:05:31,639 think so. And my point is just that what you'll hear from Elbe is 72 00:05:32,319 --> 00:05:39,439 something that might comfort other parents, which is when your kids get super upset 73 00:05:39,639 --> 00:05:43,879 and so disappointed and you think, oh my god, like what if this 74 00:05:43,920 --> 00:05:47,199 isn't okay, Like it's gonna be okay, Like they're gonna figure it out. 75 00:05:47,439 --> 00:05:50,839 Yeah, they'll figure it out better for worse, right, And she 76 00:05:50,959 --> 00:05:55,959 did, and she's got her own path, and I feel like she's looking 77 00:05:56,639 --> 00:06:00,639 now, she's got a different perspective on anything, everything, and she's looking 78 00:06:00,639 --> 00:06:03,040 back and she's like, well, this happened for the better. Like I 79 00:06:03,079 --> 00:06:09,879 think she's kind of excited about her new route. Of where she's going or 80 00:06:09,959 --> 00:06:13,680 new plans. Yeah, and as much as Elbie says she doesn't like change 81 00:06:13,759 --> 00:06:15,519 or the I don't like it either, So I get it. Yeah, 82 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:19,680 I'm like, I know. And when she didn't get into you see Santa 83 00:06:19,759 --> 00:06:25,240 Barbara, And I remember I was making our audience like, please pray for 84 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:28,720 Elby every day, think a good thought for her getting off that wait list, 85 00:06:28,759 --> 00:06:30,879 and she didn't. And you know what it might have been for the 86 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:36,199 best, right, I'm not sure, but you know what I see other 87 00:06:36,319 --> 00:06:41,759 things like she's gonna do fine. She's in a great state of mind too, 88 00:06:41,879 --> 00:06:46,319 considering all the what she's been through. You know, she's just very 89 00:06:46,319 --> 00:06:51,519 like positive and she's gonna honestly, she can make a great therapist. And 90 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:56,720 the thing is, and you and I've talked about this a million times, 91 00:06:56,759 --> 00:07:00,399 but it's like when I was her age, I had like almost no family 92 00:07:00,439 --> 00:07:05,279 support. You know, my mom paid lip service to like being supportive, 93 00:07:05,639 --> 00:07:10,279 but when push came to shove, like my mom liked to see herself. 94 00:07:10,319 --> 00:07:14,959 I don't rag on my mom that much on our show, but here's something 95 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:20,199 about how how she was. She liked the appearance of seeming like a supportive 96 00:07:20,199 --> 00:07:25,000 mom. But when you actually needed her support, she just could. It 97 00:07:25,079 --> 00:07:27,800 was like, oh god, like you know what I mean, she follow 98 00:07:27,879 --> 00:07:30,399 through, she would she got she would just cut you off. It was 99 00:07:30,480 --> 00:07:35,279 just like, oh, you're feeling morbidly depressed and you need help. Yeah, 100 00:07:35,439 --> 00:07:38,639 I don't know how to tell you. Figure it out, you know, 101 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:43,160 really cold like just like figure it out. So it was very tricky 102 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:46,360 because you didn't want to need anything from her because she couldn't give it to 103 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:49,600 you. But if you didn't need her, then she'd be really like she 104 00:07:49,639 --> 00:07:54,040 could be really nurturing and sweet, but only when you didn't need the nurturing, 105 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:57,000 you know what I mean. So I was thrown into the fire, 106 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:01,519 moved to La on my own. Was I mean when I tell you that 107 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:07,519 I was broke, Like I didn't have any soft place to fall, I 108 00:08:07,519 --> 00:08:09,800 didn't have somebody that could just send me money in case of an emergency. 109 00:08:11,079 --> 00:08:13,680 I had to. I was so broke I couldn't eat sometimes. You know, 110 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:16,959 I was homeless at one point. I mean I've said this, but 111 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:20,279 I had to sleep in my car on a couple of different nights because I 112 00:08:20,279 --> 00:08:24,399 didn't have an apartment yet. I mean, listen, a lot of people 113 00:08:24,439 --> 00:08:30,399 have it way worse. But I didn't have sort of the foundation to like 114 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:33,399 take classes at community college, which I tried. But if you don't have 115 00:08:33,480 --> 00:08:39,440 any foundation and you don't have any money, and you then and you're struggling 116 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:43,759 every day just trying to stay happy and stay like hopeful, you know, 117 00:08:43,879 --> 00:08:46,039 you you end up in dead end jobs, which I did. I waited 118 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:50,600 tables just for years. I didn't see how I was going to make a 119 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:56,679 future for myself right right, and nobody really gave a fuck. Yeah, 120 00:08:56,759 --> 00:09:00,799 I think for me, it's like I had my I didn't have that. 121 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:03,080 There was no money, there was not my parents weren't giving me any money. 122 00:09:03,159 --> 00:09:05,519 All the money. It was like I had to save and work. 123 00:09:05,799 --> 00:09:09,519 But the one thing I did have, thank god, was my dad's support 124 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:13,919 just guiding me, if this is what you want to do, do this, 125 00:09:13,039 --> 00:09:16,200 if this is but you gotta do it, You're you're on your own. 126 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:20,360 Nobody's gonna be taking care of yourself but you and I at least I 127 00:09:20,399 --> 00:09:24,840 at least I had that, you know, right out of the gate. 128 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:28,120 And also my parents like focused on my older brothers to go to college they're 129 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:33,279 both civil engineers. And then they focused on me with acting, you know, 130 00:09:33,879 --> 00:09:37,639 like what the fuck what you know? And so it's like and by 131 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:41,240 then two they were my parents, you know, hated each other. By 132 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:43,320 the time I was in high school, they were getting divorced and it was 133 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:46,360 just chaos in the house. You know. When my brothers were growing up, 134 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:50,879 they were together and cohesive and I was, you know, ten and 135 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:56,559 seven years younger. So anyway, but like, it's interesting how it shapes 136 00:09:56,639 --> 00:10:01,039 us as moms today. How like you are nothing like your mom, you 137 00:10:01,039 --> 00:10:05,080 know, you're super supportive. I mean you you know what I mean? 138 00:10:05,159 --> 00:10:09,879 Like, how how we could have gone different ways as being moms considering are 139 00:10:11,399 --> 00:10:13,879 the way we were brought up. Yeah, and I hope that I am 140 00:10:13,919 --> 00:10:18,879 an example to her of like, listen, you gotta have a hustle mentality, 141 00:10:20,320 --> 00:10:24,039 like nobody's going to do it all for you. And but also I've 142 00:10:24,080 --> 00:10:28,120 had to learn to step back and just go there's letter. I wouldn't have 143 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:31,519 learned it except that I had to, because it's like I couldn't. There's 144 00:10:31,519 --> 00:10:35,120 things I couldn't fix. You can't. I couldn't. I couldn't. You 145 00:10:35,159 --> 00:10:37,879 can't call college and go hi. You see Santa Barbara, Listen, you 146 00:10:37,919 --> 00:10:41,799 really missed the boat on this one. Like I know she applied to an 147 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:46,399 impacted major, but like, my daughter is so special, Like you really 148 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:48,600 should just give her another Like that's just not a thing. So or I 149 00:10:48,679 --> 00:10:52,600 probably would have done it, maybe, you know, but I had to 150 00:10:52,679 --> 00:10:58,039 learn to like just go, well, this is a humongous disappointment and like, 151 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:03,679 let's like hopefully it will cause grit and some resiliency. I think it's 152 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:07,120 already had. I think it's already made a positive. It's beautiful to watch 153 00:11:07,159 --> 00:11:16,240 it, to watch her struggle through things and like and I like all that 154 00:11:16,279 --> 00:11:20,399 you can't tell them, hey, like it's gonna be okay, Like you 155 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:22,919 can't give them that as they say, toxic positivity and be like this is 156 00:11:22,919 --> 00:11:26,759 gonna make you better. You know you can't. You have to just let 157 00:11:26,759 --> 00:11:30,360 them cry. You have to allow them to be upset. There were a 158 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:33,759 lot of times where Elbie didn't talk to me about what she was going through, 159 00:11:33,879 --> 00:11:37,919 and I had to say, like, it's okay to cry and be 160 00:11:37,480 --> 00:11:41,039 upset and pissed about this. This is a huge disappointment. Like I'm not 161 00:11:41,120 --> 00:11:43,559 expecting you to just be like it's fine, it's fine, it's fine. 162 00:11:45,039 --> 00:11:48,840 Because you need to feel it. It sucks. And then she's really struggled 163 00:11:48,879 --> 00:11:52,519 with, you know, going to community college and I don't want to and 164 00:11:52,519 --> 00:11:54,919 it's not fair and all that stuff. And it's like there's a lot of 165 00:11:56,279 --> 00:11:58,759 people that might say, well, I mean community college, it's a great 166 00:12:00,399 --> 00:12:03,679 and it is. But like you heard her yesterday show, when all of 167 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:07,200 your friends are doing one thing and they're all getting into and this is what 168 00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:11,039 you've been surrounded with, right, is all these kids on this if all 169 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:15,399 of her kids weren't When I was in high school, none of my friends 170 00:12:15,519 --> 00:12:18,600 were going on in college. We were all losers, all of us. 171 00:12:18,799 --> 00:12:20,559 In fact, it was almost weird that I was going to go to college. 172 00:12:22,039 --> 00:12:24,720 My best friend at the time did go to UMSS and we were going 173 00:12:24,799 --> 00:12:28,639 to go together and then we didn't, and she's the one that died. 174 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:31,919 My friend Michelle got hit by a car like later that year, so she 175 00:12:33,200 --> 00:12:37,320 went to half her freshman year at school. The rest of my friends like 176 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:39,639 dropped out of like oh yeah, and one of my friends got pregnant at 177 00:12:39,639 --> 00:12:43,519 like nineteen. My other friend was seventeen, dropped out of high school to 178 00:12:43,519 --> 00:12:46,600 move to la with me. Like we were a Motley. Oh, I 179 00:12:46,639 --> 00:12:50,279 know, Suzanne's the only one she went to see son. My other friend 180 00:12:50,320 --> 00:12:54,360 Scott went to see Son, and everybody, well, Pam the no ghett 181 00:12:54,480 --> 00:13:00,120 that my mom didn't like her. And I went to Pearce for like a 182 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:03,600 year, a couple semesters, and then at some point Pam's like, you 183 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:05,279 know, we don't have to go to class if we don't want to. 184 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:07,360 And I was like, yeah, all right, let's go to the beach. 185 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:13,080 That was it. Parents. My parents were like they didn't they didn't 186 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:15,720 care. They were like, do your thing. They were fighting. They 187 00:13:15,799 --> 00:13:18,639 left me on my own, and I was just hanging out with my friends. 188 00:13:18,879 --> 00:13:20,799 Right. Yeah, I didn't have friends that went off to colleges. 189 00:13:22,759 --> 00:13:26,000 It wasn't a thing. But I think like for her, it is such 190 00:13:26,039 --> 00:13:33,039 a thing, every single one of the friends. Except the good part is, 191 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:35,399 as you heard her say, she does have friends at work that are 192 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:41,639 having to do the same path. And she did find other people that didn't 193 00:13:41,639 --> 00:13:48,039 go to aren't going to community college because it was just where they would normally 194 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,480 be. Is like they're no getters. They went to community college because they 195 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:54,960 had a similar situation as her, and they had great grades, but they 196 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:58,840 didn't get in saying because you sees are really tough. As she has a 197 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:05,120 she does have a number of people in the exact same boat that were high 198 00:14:05,159 --> 00:14:09,720 achievers, took a lot of aps, it applied to an impacted major and 199 00:14:09,759 --> 00:14:11,759 are in the same position. And the fact is she only has to go 200 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:16,440 for one year. And it's like it was the adjustment of like, oh 201 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:18,200 god, this is not my life. I hate this, I hate this. 202 00:14:18,279 --> 00:14:22,759 I hate this too. All right, well it is. This is 203 00:14:22,759 --> 00:14:26,799 what it embraced it and she's running with it and it is beautiful to watch. 204 00:14:26,799 --> 00:14:28,960 It's so nice, and you get to have her around for another year. 205 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:33,279 I know. I'm like all of my friends kids are. They're dropping 206 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:35,960 them off at college and they're all sad, and I'm like, sucks to 207 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:41,120 be exactly. I'm like, oh, I'm sorry, you're really sad. 208 00:14:41,159 --> 00:14:43,840 Hold on, hey, Elvin, you want to go to the mall? 209 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:48,639 I want to go to Pakson. I'm sorry, Okay, I'll be right 210 00:14:48,679 --> 00:14:52,200 with you. Oh no, really, it's so sad. You're lonely. 211 00:14:52,360 --> 00:14:56,720 Whence the next time you're gonna see her? Oh Christmas? Oh elbe wait 212 00:14:56,799 --> 00:15:05,120 u you drive? Yeah. So anyway, that was really fun. It 213 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:09,000 was really fun. I learned some things too, did you. Yeah. 214 00:15:09,000 --> 00:15:13,039 I like the fact that she's not scared to talk in front of me about 215 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:16,639 like what's going on with her? Really? I mean I know most of 216 00:15:16,679 --> 00:15:18,399 it, but there were a couple of things, like she opened up about 217 00:15:18,440 --> 00:15:22,879 what it was like to write this stuff where she was talking about how I 218 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:26,360 was bugging her about the college stuff, you know, because you remember I 219 00:15:26,399 --> 00:15:30,159 would come in here and be like, I don't know what to do, 220 00:15:30,279 --> 00:15:33,240 Like I feel like I have to be the hard guy right, Like I 221 00:15:33,279 --> 00:15:37,039 have to be the heavy right because John's not doing it. Like I was 222 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:39,919 looking forward to hear she's not going to go to the applications in Yeah, 223 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:43,039 when she was when you told me she was coming in, I was like, 224 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:46,720 Oh, I can't wait to hear her side of things. And looking 225 00:15:46,759 --> 00:15:50,759 back in retrospect, is she happy that you you gotta listen to the show? 226 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:56,679 And on my side of things though, Like what she doesn't understand is 227 00:15:56,679 --> 00:16:00,960 that I'm talking to the other moms. The thing that's maybe a little different 228 00:16:00,000 --> 00:16:03,759 than some people have it is I have this close knit group of mom friends. 229 00:16:04,320 --> 00:16:07,360 All of our kids grew up together. They've all known each other since 230 00:16:07,360 --> 00:16:12,279 they were really really young and we all are currently like I talked to my 231 00:16:12,279 --> 00:16:17,639 friend Laura almost every single day and that her daughter Lily just went left for 232 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:21,519 Berkeley and so she's really sad. So she's one of the oh hold on 233 00:16:21,600 --> 00:16:29,320 Lara Albet. But behind the scenes, these moms were pressuring their kids. 234 00:16:29,480 --> 00:16:33,159 They just weren't complaining about it as much like they just don't talk about it. 235 00:16:33,200 --> 00:16:36,720 They don't go like, well, the reason I'm getting all my applications 236 00:16:36,759 --> 00:16:40,120 done is because my mom is riding my ass every day. So I'm hearing 237 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:44,039 that and going like, I don't know what LB thinks is going on. 238 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:48,679 But these kids that are not talking about their college applications are sure doing them 239 00:16:48,679 --> 00:16:52,200 behind the scene. But anyway, we should say hi to our people, 240 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:56,639 yes, or should we take a break first, Let's take a break and 241 00:16:56,679 --> 00:17:02,240 talk about fab fit fun. Yeah. He I am so excited about fab 242 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:07,559 Fit five too. No, Lie, we got we each got our box 243 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:10,680 and we got a curated box, so we got to go on the website 244 00:17:10,799 --> 00:17:14,160 and when we signed up for our box, and we got to choose which 245 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:17,640 products we want. Right, So they give you all these different categories and 246 00:17:17,680 --> 00:17:19,640 they show you the products and it's like going shopping. 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Leslie still still with the cough I know, and also our 275 00:19:30,759 --> 00:19:34,680 other Leslie who's still a costing people up and down Van Eys Boulevard. Now 276 00:19:37,599 --> 00:19:41,559 Leslie get off the street along with the Missy and Gabby yup. Absolutely, 277 00:19:41,640 --> 00:19:47,440 And then you got Katerina with her bad Muller. She needs to make a 278 00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:51,359 decision. Yep, I've got some hot Mueller talk coming up today's show. 279 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:56,200 Yeah. We got Elizabeth Williamson with so many kids, all adorable. Hero 280 00:19:56,559 --> 00:19:59,200 has so many kids and they all love him, Yes, a lot. 281 00:19:59,599 --> 00:20:07,519 Ye. And then we got Jacob Jacob Jacob Jacob Crowley along with Rebecca Luber, 282 00:20:12,559 --> 00:20:15,680 Kelly Brand's not your an, but she's got a mentos for you, 283 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:26,720 Alicia Escalante from the City, Sarah Stefano, Valerie, Bubba Fenwick, Polly, 284 00:20:26,799 --> 00:20:32,000 we love your pancakes, Athena, we love your makeup, and you're 285 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:36,559 dancing. Sandra's not easy being green, Jennifer stand up, alrighty, come 286 00:20:36,599 --> 00:20:41,599 on, Christa, get we make you Wanta Street Buddy, Stephanie Stinker Wrinker. 287 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:45,640 I think we got everybody. We love you guys. We got some 288 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:49,799 good patriots, say read a bosonet, Yeah, read a bossonet. We 289 00:20:49,839 --> 00:20:56,599 have a lot of We've had some good patrols patrons. Yeah, all right. 290 00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:00,680 So I got a little, a little annoyance. Everybody loves an annoyance, 291 00:21:02,119 --> 00:21:07,359 gosh it. So you know I've been complaining about my kids Orthodons. 292 00:21:07,799 --> 00:21:11,920 Remember when I had so much trouble with getting Xander's braces off. Yes, 293 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:15,960 people just do not want to take the kids braces off. Okay, poor 294 00:21:17,039 --> 00:21:22,119 Sadie hot On, she's had braces for almost four years. Really yes, 295 00:21:22,599 --> 00:21:30,039 Now, look I know that Sadie because of how she was born really small. 296 00:21:30,039 --> 00:21:33,799 There's there were some like there were some problems with her smile and her 297 00:21:33,839 --> 00:21:37,559 teeth and her teeth were small, and like you know, she got on 298 00:21:37,599 --> 00:21:41,319 the growth hormones. They don't make your teeth grow bigger. Your teeth are, 299 00:21:41,759 --> 00:21:45,440 your teeth are. So you know, I understood that she was probably 300 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:52,480 going to be embraces for a little bit longer. But I got very disillusioned 301 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:57,680 with this Orthodonis office. And remember when I told you that they would tell 302 00:21:57,720 --> 00:22:02,480 the kids if the brackets broken. Remember they would try to charge for a 303 00:22:02,519 --> 00:22:06,920 broken bracket. This is like a racket. Yeah, it really is. 304 00:22:07,079 --> 00:22:08,880 And I we've talked about this before, so I won't bore you with all 305 00:22:08,880 --> 00:22:12,880 the details, but suffice it to say that we've been building. I've been 306 00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:18,599 going in for now the last year and a half. I'm like, when 307 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:22,680 are her braces coming off? They're like, oh, for sure, within 308 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:26,240 in six months, they're gonna come off. Okay. Then six months goes 309 00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:27,720 by, it's like, okay, it's been six months. If we schedule 310 00:22:27,759 --> 00:22:33,119 the braces coming up, Yeah, we're we're we're in the final in the 311 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:37,039 final phase, she's just got to wear the rubber bands. Were we're closing 312 00:22:37,119 --> 00:22:40,680 in on the We just got to close a couple of little gaps and to 313 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:42,920 fix her bite. The dentist talent like when you go and they get the 314 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:48,079 check up and the dentist do they this is not the dentist, No, 315 00:22:48,279 --> 00:22:52,519 but you know the is it the like who's telling you when you take her? 316 00:22:52,599 --> 00:22:55,920 Do you take her in? Yea? Or the orthodist Yes? So 317 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:59,799 they go like every six weeks. Is the orthodonist the one because when I 318 00:22:59,839 --> 00:23:02,240 take them he comes out and talks to me and he's like, okay, 319 00:23:02,279 --> 00:23:06,960 they got another week of this and then so yes, basically, but John 320 00:23:07,079 --> 00:23:11,799 was the one take so with Xander. Just to remind you, they were 321 00:23:11,839 --> 00:23:17,720 not taking hit. At a certain point, Xander's gums were like growing too 322 00:23:17,799 --> 00:23:21,000 much and I had taken him to the dentist and I was like, he's 323 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:25,359 got this weird gum thing where his gums are like growing in between his teeth, 324 00:23:25,599 --> 00:23:27,880 you know, and they're and finally they're like, you know, he's 325 00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:33,440 had the braces on for a long time and sometimes this can it can cause 326 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:37,000 it, right, and he'd already his teeth had been straight forever. But 327 00:23:37,039 --> 00:23:40,559 it was always like, oh, we just got to fix this warm thing. 328 00:23:40,559 --> 00:23:44,160 And finally I said, I want his braces off, and the dentist 329 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:48,440 told me he can have his braces off. Remember that, were like, 330 00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,559 he's fine, Like it's not going to do that much more. But I 331 00:23:52,599 --> 00:23:56,839 don't know why this orthodonist wants to keep them in braces for so long. 332 00:23:56,920 --> 00:24:00,160 I don't know what they get out of it. Well, this is the 333 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,000 thing, though, you pay a big feet up front, right, they 334 00:24:03,079 --> 00:24:07,240 charge you every month for like a few years. Ours was like the Twins, 335 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:11,599 we were on a three year plan. They're outside of that plan already. 336 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,759 It doesn't they're not making money. So I think it's I think what 337 00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:17,480 it is is that they start trying to charge you for the brackets. They 338 00:24:17,559 --> 00:24:19,839 charge you for like little things. But I'm like, well, guess what 339 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:22,920 it's like a car. At a certain point, things are going to start 340 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:27,519 breaking down right, like you can't continue to have them in these braces and 341 00:24:27,559 --> 00:24:32,519 then get mad at them for breaking a bracket like they're not they're not doing 342 00:24:32,519 --> 00:24:36,480 anything wrong. Speaking of broken brackets though, just reminded me of a story 343 00:24:36,519 --> 00:24:38,440 of when I had braces, when I first got them on, and my 344 00:24:38,519 --> 00:24:42,400 mom drove me from the valley up over the hill to Beverly Hills where my 345 00:24:42,519 --> 00:24:47,799 Orthodonis was, brought me back, and then somehow I got my hands on 346 00:24:47,839 --> 00:24:51,839 a candy apple and the second I've been into it just popped right off, 347 00:24:52,079 --> 00:24:55,480 so she had to drive me all the way back right, get it all 348 00:24:55,599 --> 00:24:57,480 done, drive all the way back again. It sounds like something that haven't 349 00:24:57,480 --> 00:25:02,680 happened to us. Yeah, but my kids don't eat anything that they're not 350 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:06,279 it's like a na I don't know what it is. But with Xander, 351 00:25:06,599 --> 00:25:10,240 he's really he was really careful all the time. He's kind of a rule 352 00:25:10,279 --> 00:25:14,119 follower like Elbie. And he'd break a bride he'd be like, I don't, 353 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:15,799 I don't know how it happened. It's just or it would get bent 354 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,200 or something, you know, And they're like, well, because he's not 355 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:22,720 doing, you know, paying the going by the rules, and I'm like, 356 00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:29,119 you know he is. He is. So eventually, if you recall, 357 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:32,880 I got mad at the orthodontist and I was like, I'm so tired 358 00:25:32,920 --> 00:25:36,880 of getting the run around. His dentist wants his braces off. I want 359 00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:40,079 you to take them off. And then they tried to charge again while we 360 00:25:40,079 --> 00:25:42,319 were waiting to get his braces off. I'm like, it doesn't fucking matter. 361 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,119 You don't have to fix the bracket where he braces off, just take 362 00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:51,400 them off and then eventually be off. Yeah, and I she called me, 363 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:52,839 and then I told her listen, we're having a bad experience, like 364 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:56,599 they're trying to get mad at they're getting mad at him for breaking a bracket 365 00:25:56,599 --> 00:26:00,400 and trying to charge me, and like he anyways, so that got solved, 366 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:06,640 so his braces came off. He's fine. But meanwhile I kept asking, 367 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,359 Okay, but what about Sadie? But what about Sadie getting the run 368 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:11,799 around? Getting the runaround? John's the one who ends up taking her though 369 00:26:11,839 --> 00:26:17,799 a lot because I teach on the nights that they it's too close to five 370 00:26:17,839 --> 00:26:22,440 o'clock. So anyway, last couple of visits, I'm like, tell tell 371 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,000 them we want the braces off. It's been almost four years. Yea, 372 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,799 So he did tell them that. So a couple I think I went for 373 00:26:27,839 --> 00:26:33,839 a couple of these visits. They'd be like, no problem, Yeah, 374 00:26:33,920 --> 00:26:37,079 we'll make the appointment to take them off, but we'll just at the next 375 00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:40,680 appointment. We'll make the appointment to take them off. So then John would 376 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:44,240 take her to the next appointment and they'd be like, yeah, we're just 377 00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:48,680 trying to fix this one little thing. There's this we just want to fix 378 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,559 her bite. She needs to wear the rubber bands. Well, this bitch, 379 00:26:51,759 --> 00:26:53,319 Sadie was not wearing the rubber bands. She'd be like yeah, yeah, 380 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,640 yeah, okay, I'll wear them, and then she wouldn't. And 381 00:26:56,680 --> 00:27:00,319 I'm sorry, but what am I supposed to do like chase her around and 382 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,599 just go are your rubber bands on? Right? I have enough things that 383 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,920 I got to remind these bitches. Did you take this pill? Did you 384 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:10,000 take that pill? Did you remember this? It's like so much all the 385 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,480 time that I'm not going to fight with her about the rubber bands. Her 386 00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:15,359 bite looks fine, right, and it wasn't even that far off. They're 387 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:17,839 just like, we're just trying to adjust it. I'm like, oh, 388 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,200 I said, well, then they would ask me, well, she being 389 00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:25,119 compliant with the rubber bands, and I'm like, nope, she's really not. 390 00:27:25,279 --> 00:27:26,039 And they're like, well, she really needs to wear them, and 391 00:27:26,079 --> 00:27:30,599 I said, but she's not going to, right. So we're at a 392 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:37,160 standstill. Right, So finally the last visit, they're like, I told 393 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:41,559 John, I go, do not take no for an answer. Went. 394 00:27:41,759 --> 00:27:45,519 I said, the next visit, you schedule, You schedule the braces coming 395 00:27:45,559 --> 00:27:47,799 off, whether they like it or not. So he said. They tried 396 00:27:47,799 --> 00:27:49,480 to argue with him and he was like, no, we want the braces 397 00:27:49,519 --> 00:27:52,759 off. So they're like okay, so they make a they make an appointment. 398 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,519 All this time they had told they we she was supposed to have them 399 00:27:56,559 --> 00:28:00,440 off by Christmas last year, but they keeping them on and keeping them on, 400 00:28:00,519 --> 00:28:04,079 and I was like, she is not starting the tenth grade with braces 401 00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:07,519 on. Well, sure enough, she had to start the tenth grade with 402 00:28:07,559 --> 00:28:11,720 braces on because they just, oh, we don't have any appointments eligible to 403 00:28:11,759 --> 00:28:15,359 have them off when we said but they're like yeah, so as soon as 404 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:19,400 they could do was Thursday, which was last Thursday. She just got him 405 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:23,599 off. If they're just taking them off couldn't any orthodonnas do that? No, 406 00:28:25,079 --> 00:28:26,960 No, no, it has it's her. It's no, you've already 407 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,319 paid for this. This is part of what you paid for. So no, 408 00:28:30,559 --> 00:28:34,160 but it's just them being dicks about scheduling it. So they finally schedule 409 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:41,720 it, but it's then they make her come in before just to I don't 410 00:28:41,759 --> 00:28:45,359 know what. I don't know what, I don't know what. But John 411 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,240 had to take her because I couldn't go to that visit. So John takes 412 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:51,599 her and he's like yeah, So they made me like sign a form and 413 00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:55,519 they tried to show me that like her bite is still a little bit off, 414 00:28:55,599 --> 00:28:56,880 but they're going to go ahead and take them off. And I was 415 00:28:56,960 --> 00:29:00,599 like okay, good, okay. So I was the one who took her 416 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:04,240 to the appointment because this was in the morning, so I get her there. 417 00:29:04,799 --> 00:29:08,039 First thing they do, they're just like, hey, mom, can 418 00:29:08,079 --> 00:29:12,440 you come back here? We need you to sign this form, this legal 419 00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:17,680 form basically saying that you understand that, like you you're ending treatment. Early. 420 00:29:18,079 --> 00:29:21,359 I'm like, bitch, early. I was like what. I made 421 00:29:21,359 --> 00:29:26,839 them look at the date and the date was like September of twenty nineteen. 422 00:29:26,319 --> 00:29:33,000 I was like what just been about four years, Like how fucking long do 423 00:29:33,039 --> 00:29:37,160 you want this kid embraces? Like her? What do you what's happening? 424 00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:38,839 Like, what do you mean early? At what point would it have not 425 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:42,119 been early? It's never gonna get perfect. But I don't say anything. 426 00:29:42,119 --> 00:29:47,279 I was just like, yeah, okay, I'll sign it. Okay. 427 00:29:47,319 --> 00:29:51,880 So then I go sit. I sit in a chair like near where she's 428 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,839 getting her braces off in there, and the Orthodonis comes over. She's like, 429 00:29:56,079 --> 00:29:57,799 mom, can you come over here. I just want to show you 430 00:29:57,839 --> 00:30:00,559 something. I was saying, like they bring you back all we want to 431 00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:04,400 show you that there's just a little thing off and it needs a little longer. 432 00:30:04,519 --> 00:30:08,920 Yeah yeah, so I oh oh, and then they want me to 433 00:30:10,319 --> 00:30:15,759 they're like also all right. First she's like the Orthodonis is like, can 434 00:30:15,799 --> 00:30:21,039 I just show you something on her teeth? Like so her bite is just 435 00:30:21,119 --> 00:30:25,119 a little bit blah blah blah, but like the gaps are all closed, 436 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:30,400 so it's up to you. And I said, listen, we already had 437 00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:34,200 this visit a week ago, just so that you could say that her bite 438 00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:37,799 isn't all the way right, We already did this. That was we took 439 00:30:37,839 --> 00:30:41,720 the time and I was saying this, I go. We took the time 440 00:30:41,079 --> 00:30:45,240 out of our day. We had in a put. It's inconvenient. I 441 00:30:45,279 --> 00:30:48,759 have three kids. We brought her in just so that you could say to 442 00:30:48,839 --> 00:30:52,079 my husband, hey, her bite's not perfect it do you still want to 443 00:30:52,079 --> 00:30:55,319 go ahead? I go. Then he signed something saying yes, we want 444 00:30:55,319 --> 00:31:00,599 to go ahead. So nothing's changed. We're here for the braces off appointment, 445 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:03,559 with all the information right, please take them off. And she's like 446 00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:07,680 okay, yeah, yeah, no, it's fine because the gaps are closed. 447 00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,920 I'm like, huh, I didn't take them off. So then, 448 00:31:11,599 --> 00:31:17,920 but also the week before, they tried to charge for a broken bracket, 449 00:31:18,519 --> 00:31:21,200 and John texted me. He was like, they're trying to charge me for 450 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:22,680 a broken bracket. And I said, go tell him to go fuck themselves. 451 00:31:22,920 --> 00:31:26,680 I go go put they take the broken bracket and shove it up your 452 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:30,799 fucking ass because we're not paying for shit. I said, they're taking the 453 00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:34,839 fucking braces off. We should They should have been taking them off now right 454 00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:40,839 right the fuck they're trying to charge with every last dollar. So then they 455 00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:42,839 called so John was like, yeah, just take it up with my wife. 456 00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:45,160 Then I get a call from them during the week and they're like, 457 00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:51,640 yeah, so we're gonna go ahead and wave the broken bracket fee and I 458 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,279 was like yeah, yeah. I didn't even go like, oh, thank 459 00:31:55,319 --> 00:31:57,440 you so much of it. Yeah you are. And they're like, okay, 460 00:31:57,519 --> 00:32:00,000 yeah, we just wanted to let you know there's no you're not you 461 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:04,720 have no balance. And I was like, uh great, get the screw 462 00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:07,920 screw driver out, start from Rippons, get the where's the pliers, let's 463 00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:13,559 go. Now I've had John signed a form saying we're taking him off early 464 00:32:13,920 --> 00:32:19,920 for then I get called into the finance office, right They're like, can 465 00:32:19,960 --> 00:32:22,839 we talk mom? Can we talk to you back here on the momfice? 466 00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:27,960 So they bring me back there, so we you've already signed that your take 467 00:32:28,079 --> 00:32:30,759 ending treatment earlier. I'm like yes, I know. They're like okay, 468 00:32:30,759 --> 00:32:37,720 so she's gonna get a retainer and there's a program where if you just pay 469 00:32:37,799 --> 00:32:39,720 this small fee, that's how they pitch it to me. Just pay a 470 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:44,359 small fee and then if she needs to replace if she loses her retainer, 471 00:32:44,799 --> 00:32:50,599 like we'll replace it for free. Okay, she where's the retainer to bed? 472 00:32:51,279 --> 00:32:54,160 So where's she going? Like, how's she going? To lose the 473 00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:59,680 retainer is she loses it in her room, okay, on the off off 474 00:32:59,759 --> 00:33:02,359 chains Okay, uh yeah, I don't. I don't think we want to 475 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:05,759 join that. Well, it's just like you know, listen, it's gonna 476 00:33:05,799 --> 00:33:07,559 save you a lot of money because people they lose them. And I was 477 00:33:07,599 --> 00:33:10,480 like, okay, but she again, she wears it at night. They're 478 00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:14,000 like, yeah, she just wears it at night. How much and how 479 00:33:14,079 --> 00:33:21,960 much is the program? Seven to fuck to take them a few years? 480 00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:24,799 And I was like, yeah, no thanks, and they go, well, 481 00:33:25,079 --> 00:33:29,799 okay, but we're gonna need you to sign this middle document that you've 482 00:33:29,839 --> 00:33:35,480 you're declining our program, our assurance program for the retainer. And I was 483 00:33:35,559 --> 00:33:39,559 like, I'm getting so mad, like I'm about to go post a lot, 484 00:33:40,119 --> 00:33:45,200 Like I'm just like, oh you are so like I'm just they each 485 00:33:45,319 --> 00:33:50,839 thing was making me like madder and madder. So I'm like, yeah, 486 00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,119 we're good, Yeah, we're good, go ahead and just to call Yeah, 487 00:33:53,160 --> 00:33:58,160 okay, but we're gonna need you to sign that you're not purchasing. 488 00:33:58,599 --> 00:34:02,079 I was like, am I on a car lot? Because like, okay, 489 00:34:02,799 --> 00:34:07,039 so I signed the thing, I go back, I sit down, 490 00:34:07,559 --> 00:34:10,400 Okay, I swear to god, I'm not making this up. The orthodonist 491 00:34:10,599 --> 00:34:15,719 who's they're taker braces off, as like, so, has anybody talked to 492 00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:21,159 you about the program for because we offered this program that it's like for a 493 00:34:21,199 --> 00:34:25,880 small fee. I go, yeah, I just got the spiel in your 494 00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:31,400 back office and I already signed that we're declining that, but thank you right 495 00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:35,480 now, get back to work. And she was like, Okay, I 496 00:34:35,599 --> 00:34:37,599 just want to make sure. And I was like, and I did. 497 00:34:38,199 --> 00:34:40,519 You can't see me because I'm on a podcast, but I did the like 498 00:34:40,599 --> 00:34:45,760 clothes mic kind of wins. I put my hand up like please stop stop, 499 00:34:46,559 --> 00:34:50,960 and I know, poor Sadie was just like, take my fucking braces 500 00:34:51,159 --> 00:34:53,559 off. It's god. And you know, we had to take the morning 501 00:34:53,559 --> 00:34:58,239 off of school. So it's our first one of school, right Thursday, 502 00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:01,000 it's fourth day of school. There was no other time they could do it. 503 00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:07,119 We called a bunch of times for a cancelation. No sorry, no 504 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,519 cancelations, Like it's torture, it is. So I turned down all the 505 00:35:10,559 --> 00:35:15,880 stuff and then they take her braces off and oh my god, her bite 506 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:20,400 is just fine, like it's fine, and then they but guess what her 507 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:23,480 teeth got a little bit fucked up from having the braces on for so long, 508 00:35:23,599 --> 00:35:29,679 like it caused some like discoloration spots. Sonny got that too, He 509 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:32,159 got that too. Yeah. So then they were like, do you want 510 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:36,760 us to like just leave it or do you want us to file down, 511 00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:40,440 like we can polish the teeth and file down the little like these little dots 512 00:35:40,519 --> 00:35:45,239 of I was like, yeah, go ahead and file them down, Like 513 00:35:45,119 --> 00:35:47,920 do you want us to make it look good or do you just want to 514 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:51,239 like are you? Are you good? Are you Suddenly in a rush to 515 00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:52,960 get out of here, I was like, no, please go ahead and 516 00:35:53,079 --> 00:35:58,800 file down what you yes? Please? And then so they do, and 517 00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:00,719 of course it looks a lot better, but it's like, oh, you're 518 00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:05,519 all about like oh the broken brack, like we're gonna charge you ninety dollars. 519 00:36:05,599 --> 00:36:07,360 But then you're like, are you sure you want us to go abuff 520 00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:10,960 of beyond time fix the make the teeth look and I was like yeah, 521 00:36:12,039 --> 00:36:17,239 please do Yeah. So then I was just I was so mad by the 522 00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:21,840 time we left that I was like hate that, feeling just all full body 523 00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,840 tension. But I was so relieved and then we have to go back I 524 00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:29,480 have to take her back on Thursday to get the retainer. It's like a 525 00:36:29,480 --> 00:36:34,840 whole long process. It's it's unbelievable. I know I've been through it. 526 00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:38,199 It's it's just NonStop and they nickel and dyme you, and it's just like, 527 00:36:38,400 --> 00:36:42,320 come on, yeah, I get. I was just at the dentist 528 00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:46,280 last week. I had to have my whole like this tooth that's been a 529 00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:51,880 temporary thing. This guy's like, it's because I have a bridge, right, 530 00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,119 because I don't have a I didn't have a yeah, and I didn't 531 00:36:54,159 --> 00:36:59,239 have like yeah, just me and Katerina. So they had to take the 532 00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:00,960 whole fause you you didn't have a tooth there, right, baby tooth. 533 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:04,679 I had a baby tooth until it was like twenty three. So I have 534 00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:08,760 a bridge. So he's got to take the whole bridge off and then put 535 00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:12,840 a temporary which is what I got now. And then I got to go 536 00:37:12,920 --> 00:37:15,800 back in like two weeks. And my mouth is like all numb. Which 537 00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:20,480 are you getting a new to a new bridge? Yes, because the bridge 538 00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:22,239 I've had for years. And he's like and he was tugging on it. 539 00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:25,599 He's like, not only was it cracked and broke it's loose, and I 540 00:37:25,679 --> 00:37:29,519 was like, oh, hell, what the and it's my front teeth. 541 00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:31,360 Yeah, yeah, yeah, you know, so he's like, yeah, 542 00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:36,199 you gotta get that fixed. You know. Meanwhile, it's like thousands and 543 00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:40,360 thousands of dollars because the insurances doesn't pay much. Pays a little bit, 544 00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:44,320 but not much, so we don't even have dental insurance. It would be 545 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:46,599 like an extra two hundred dollars a month. And that nobody's nobody takes it 546 00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:51,360 right. They're always like, oh, that's not covered, right, so 547 00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:55,880 let's take a little break and then all okay. Yeah. So and by 548 00:37:55,920 --> 00:38:00,559 the way, so I was referred to this guy from my dentist because that's 549 00:38:00,559 --> 00:38:04,320 what he does. He does like, you know, the cosmetic dentistry stuff. 550 00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:07,199 And he's like, you know, thirty minutes out of town, far 551 00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:12,760 away, like our Alita and shit. But I get there and I sit 552 00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:17,719 in the lobby and there's Eddie van Halen's guitar hanging on the wall in our 553 00:38:17,719 --> 00:38:22,199 Alida, in our in the dentist office in our Alita, and or like 554 00:38:22,280 --> 00:38:28,440 San Gabriel Valley. And then I look and then there's like van Halen like 555 00:38:28,559 --> 00:38:31,920 album signed by all the members of Van Halen and then there's a Fleetwood Mac 556 00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:37,559 signed album. Like he's a rock and roll dude, you know, but 557 00:38:37,639 --> 00:38:39,760 he's kind of weird. Then sometimes you're kind of weirdos, you know, 558 00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:44,039 a little bit nice guy, nice enough guy, but like talks really like 559 00:38:44,079 --> 00:38:45,480 this is really quiet, like and he's got the mask on so I can't 560 00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:49,800 hear him, Like what what what you want me to open my mouth? 561 00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:54,039 Like what? And then his nurse is super sweet and friendly, but yeah, 562 00:38:54,079 --> 00:38:57,199 he's like, you gotta take the ship off. And then so I 563 00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:00,119 went back last week at the end of the week, my mouth is all 564 00:39:00,199 --> 00:39:02,519 numb, but I'm like scared. I'm like, do you are you really 565 00:39:02,559 --> 00:39:06,480 gonna I'm not gonna walk out here toothless am I. And he's like, 566 00:39:06,599 --> 00:39:07,599 nah, no, we got it, we got it. And here's the 567 00:39:07,639 --> 00:39:12,199 other thing about dentistry. I don't know if you've this is the first time 568 00:39:12,199 --> 00:39:15,920 I've experienced because every time they always got to do an impression. We always 569 00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:19,039 got to do the impression with the with the clay, you know, and 570 00:39:19,079 --> 00:39:22,880 your mouth bite down, and it feels like it's going into like Plato kind 571 00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,559 of thing. Right this time they're like, we gotta do it an impression 572 00:39:27,119 --> 00:39:30,119 impression and I oh, she's like open your mouth. So she's got this 573 00:39:30,199 --> 00:39:36,559 like like wand which is like, uh, you know when you go for 574 00:39:36,639 --> 00:39:40,639 like pregnancy, like an ultrasound Wanda. She's like rubbing it around my teeth 575 00:39:40,679 --> 00:39:45,960 and the thing's going beep. This is how she they do an impression now, 576 00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:50,440 oh yeah, And that's why they're so fucking expensive too, Like they 577 00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:52,559 got technology in this office, and that's like, you know, I'm like, 578 00:39:54,119 --> 00:39:57,639 you're like I could just bring my own plato. I could just make 579 00:39:57,679 --> 00:40:01,119 it and save like two thousand dollars, like good luck. Yeah, there 580 00:40:01,199 --> 00:40:08,039 you go. But but but you know, and then it's like I just 581 00:40:08,039 --> 00:40:12,119 don't have the Like I'm fine with going to Dennist, I just don't got 582 00:40:12,119 --> 00:40:15,639 the patience now because I end up sitting in the chair. You're just sitting 583 00:40:15,679 --> 00:40:17,880 in that chair and you want it to go back because my back hurts, 584 00:40:17,920 --> 00:40:21,199 but nobody's around. I don't know how to work it, so I'm just 585 00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:23,280 sitting straight up and it's like, we'll be right with you. He's gonna 586 00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:24,840 be right with you. He's gonna be right with you. You know, 587 00:40:25,159 --> 00:40:29,239 you're in the waiting room for like half an hour. Then they bring you 588 00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:31,199 back and you're thinking, okay, let's get this ship done. It's two 589 00:40:31,239 --> 00:40:34,599 thirty in the afternoon. By the way, the best time to go to 590 00:40:34,599 --> 00:40:40,440 the dentist is two thirty. And I'm bed at Kaitlin. Then I've been 591 00:40:40,480 --> 00:40:45,519 like, yes, that's right, so you know, I'm sitting there and 592 00:40:45,519 --> 00:40:50,079 then he's like taking his suite. Then he comes in and I make the 593 00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:52,760 fatal mistake, is going are you a Van Halen fan? And then he 594 00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:58,760 sits and talks to me about all the bands he's met and how him and 595 00:40:58,800 --> 00:41:00,639 his son have gone to so many concerts. He doesn't talk and work at 596 00:41:00,679 --> 00:41:04,559 the same time. No, He's one of those where he just sits in 597 00:41:04,639 --> 00:41:07,920 and I'm like, huh, I can't hear and both tasks. That's what 598 00:41:07,079 --> 00:41:08,880 I was like, Okay, here we go, here we go. All 599 00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:12,960 right, that sounds great. Let's get a move on. Traffic is gonna 600 00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:15,719 be bad when I get out of good I got shipped to do. I'm 601 00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:20,559 in ourlita. Yes I'm looking. I get the two ten at five o'clock. 602 00:41:20,679 --> 00:41:22,679 Forget about it. You're just stuck in a parking lot and it's all 603 00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,920 I keep thinking, and he's going on and on and on about van Halen. 604 00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:30,199 Why did I even? I should have just kept my mouth shut and 605 00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:34,800 just let him do his thing. But it was just, you know, 606 00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:36,840 I got out of there. It was like five thirty. I'm like, 607 00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:38,360 don't you people want to go home? It's five o'clock. Doesn't the dentist 608 00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:42,480 office close? What's going on? They're like wall, we're running behind where 609 00:41:42,519 --> 00:41:46,360 we don't have anybody, no wonder because somebody mentioned van Halen. Yes, 610 00:41:46,639 --> 00:41:51,119 so now we got this doctor who's mister knock Around. And then I get 611 00:41:51,119 --> 00:41:54,559 the dentist's mister rock and Roll trying to relive is like glory days to tell 612 00:41:54,599 --> 00:41:59,960 me all about his you know, rock and roll stories about being a group 613 00:42:00,079 --> 00:42:01,559 be and shit, I'm has this guy always been your dentist? No, 614 00:42:01,719 --> 00:42:07,360 he's new. He's my dentist. Referred me to him to get this for 615 00:42:07,360 --> 00:42:10,599 the cosmetic for the cosmetic stuff. So you know, I come in there 616 00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:15,920 and he's just like, you know, like mumbling, and I'm like, 617 00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:19,559 come on, good, let's go, let's go, you know. But 618 00:42:19,679 --> 00:42:22,880 that was the tempt and also I was kind of nervous. I'm like, 619 00:42:22,079 --> 00:42:25,280 are you really gonna fix me up and put me back together, like you're 620 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:29,199 taking my tooth out? Am I gonna be toothless? You know? But 621 00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:31,639 are you all fixed? Because it looks great. It's a temporary I gotta 622 00:42:31,679 --> 00:42:35,960 go back. And then she said, I go, how much when I 623 00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:37,480 come back? Like? Is it gonna be a long She goes, maybe 624 00:42:37,519 --> 00:42:40,239 a little longer because we have to blah blah blah. And I was like, 625 00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:45,519 you know, and then I put the earbuds. I go, I'm 626 00:42:45,519 --> 00:42:49,679 gonna listen to the podcast. I'm gonna put my earbuds in and they're like 627 00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:52,960 okay, And then he starts talking to me. He's like, go ahead, 628 00:42:52,039 --> 00:42:53,719 go ahead, turn it up, do your thing. He's like, 629 00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:57,719 listen to music. I'm like, I'm he doesn't need to know what I'm 630 00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:01,360 listening to. I shouldn't need. I was like, I don't want to 631 00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:05,360 open up another can of worm, Okay, I gotta go go go do 632 00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,679 your thing. And I was just so impatient that day. And so I 633 00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:13,000 put the earbuds in and I turn it up because they got the road the 634 00:43:13,079 --> 00:43:15,039 thing, and you know, and my head's vibrating and it's like, you 635 00:43:15,039 --> 00:43:19,920 know, it's like a drill saw in my mouth and I could barely hear 636 00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:27,400 I'm listening to Betrayal season two because I haven't I haven't heard it. Yeah, 637 00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:31,320 so I'm listening about pedophilia and he's talking to me about rock and roll 638 00:43:31,800 --> 00:43:35,679 with the saw in my mouth, and so you're like, I'd like to 639 00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:40,480 see this guy's download history exactly so I don't know. And then I'm trying 640 00:43:40,519 --> 00:43:45,039 to hear it. I can't hear it exactly what. And then he starts 641 00:43:45,079 --> 00:43:49,039 talking to me because first he goes listen, he goes, and then she 642 00:43:49,199 --> 00:43:52,079 says to my right, she goes, if you need anything, just raise 643 00:43:52,159 --> 00:43:53,800 your hand, you know. And then I was like okay. And then 644 00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:58,360 at some point he starts talking. So now I gotta lift my phone up 645 00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:01,239 above my eyes so I could see. I get a hit pause? What 646 00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:04,480 was that? And he's like, are you okay? You're doing okay? 647 00:44:04,559 --> 00:44:07,079 Right? I was like, yeah, I'm fine. I want to get 648 00:44:07,119 --> 00:44:10,800 the fuck out of here. Just finished, don't leave me toothless, put 649 00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:15,039 the ship back in, and can I get get on the road. I 650 00:44:15,039 --> 00:44:17,119 don't want to sit in traffic. And now I got to do it all 651 00:44:17,159 --> 00:44:21,039 over again. So wait, so they took out like your front, your 652 00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:24,039 front tooth, yea one front tooth, one front tooth. It's got the 653 00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:27,840 it's got the wings on, you know, like the bridge. Oh, 654 00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:30,920 so they had to take your front tooth and then the next tooth and because 655 00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:32,360 that was the tooth, that was the baby tooth, the tooth where there's 656 00:44:32,400 --> 00:44:36,760 no tooth, yes, And then they have to like take the thing on 657 00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:39,320 the back of it because what holds it together, right, and then put 658 00:44:39,320 --> 00:44:43,480 a temporary in and then which I don't know how they do that, Like 659 00:44:43,519 --> 00:44:46,639 they just blew it in and that's it and then go back out. Why 660 00:44:46,639 --> 00:44:50,559 can't that one be the permanent one? I know, if you really look, 661 00:44:50,559 --> 00:44:52,880 it's not. It's it doesn't it's like he said, because I was 662 00:44:52,880 --> 00:44:55,760 looking at the mirror and he's like, it's pretty close because they tried to 663 00:44:55,800 --> 00:45:00,199 match because I had another appointment last time. They try to match it for 664 00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:02,840 the temporary and then they put it up and they're like, uh, it 665 00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:07,519 doesn't really match. And he's like, but the temporaries are flat, he 666 00:45:07,639 --> 00:45:10,880 said, the real ones are have you know, shin to Yeah, yeah, 667 00:45:12,239 --> 00:45:15,039 more depth to it. So he's like, don't worry. And I 668 00:45:15,119 --> 00:45:17,119 was like, all right, okay, I just I just don't want to 669 00:45:17,119 --> 00:45:20,559 be toothless, that's all. Yeah, put a tic tach in there. 670 00:45:20,559 --> 00:45:23,480 I don't care. It's a little good and let me get on the road. 671 00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:28,679 I've been here for fucking three. Tach in your mouth, then get 672 00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:35,199 a life. It's the clean, fresh exclusion. Yeah, I kind of 673 00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:38,079 I do the tic tach song. He doesn't, he doesn't know a tic 674 00:45:38,159 --> 00:45:45,079 tac. Yeah, that was my afternoon. And then the other thing is 675 00:45:45,119 --> 00:45:47,320 like, you know, they shoot you up with novocaine. You know, 676 00:45:47,559 --> 00:45:51,719 I can't feel your nose, you know what I mean. It's like and 677 00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:55,199 I was starving. That was the other thing why I made the fatal mistake. 678 00:45:55,239 --> 00:46:00,199 I'm really not eating anything. I had like oat meal at like eight 679 00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:02,000 in the morning and then nothing. Oh my god, that's me. I 680 00:46:02,159 --> 00:46:06,000 oat meal every day and I love starving. By eleven, yes, I 681 00:46:06,119 --> 00:46:08,559 was starving, and I was like, you know, I'll just push it 682 00:46:08,679 --> 00:46:12,800 wasn't that hungry. But then when I'm sitting in the chair and he's going 683 00:46:12,840 --> 00:46:15,480 on and on about Van Allen Women and Children first album, how much it's 684 00:46:15,519 --> 00:46:21,039 his favorite one, and I'm just like, I'm starving, you know, 685 00:46:21,159 --> 00:46:23,599 And then I hear a commercial for like pastrami in the thing. I was 686 00:46:23,639 --> 00:46:25,800 like, oh, I want to push strami. So I'm like, can 687 00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:29,880 I get And then so when he was all done, I was numb. 688 00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:31,360 And then he leaves. He's like all right, see you. And then 689 00:46:31,639 --> 00:46:36,519 she, you know, cleans up the mess with me and get you know, 690 00:46:36,559 --> 00:46:38,920 gives me water. And I was like, hey, so what's the 691 00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:43,920 best way to get rid of to get novocaine? Get it out of time? 692 00:46:44,199 --> 00:46:46,280 Yeah, She's like, you can exercise, but I wouldn't suggest, 693 00:46:46,320 --> 00:46:50,199 you know, you don't get on a treadmill right now, but like move 694 00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:53,320 around. But she says drink cold, drink cold, go to get a 695 00:46:53,400 --> 00:46:59,159 smoothie or drink like something cold. So on my way out, I was 696 00:46:59,199 --> 00:47:00,679 like, hey, you have any bottled water and they're like, yep, 697 00:47:00,880 --> 00:47:05,119 right there, got two bottles for the road. I'm like drinking it, 698 00:47:05,199 --> 00:47:07,960 rubbing on my face because I want to enjoy my sandwich. When I get 699 00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:13,519 home, it was straw. Did it work? Though? It did it? 700 00:47:13,639 --> 00:47:15,199 I mean I don't know if it was in my head, but I 701 00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:19,360 got home and I was like, you know, trying to get it going 702 00:47:19,519 --> 00:47:22,079 and now and then it's that weird thing where most of it's gone, but 703 00:47:22,119 --> 00:47:27,079 then there's one spot that's still numb, and it's like, what's going out 704 00:47:27,079 --> 00:47:30,360 with that spot? And it's always on my like in my nose. It 705 00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:35,920 just I hate that feeling. I'll never forget. When Elbe was like I 706 00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:39,840 want to say seven, and she had to have teeth pulled, baby teeth 707 00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:44,480 pulled for whatever reason. Maybe she was eight, I don't know why, 708 00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:50,679 but she had to have two two four eight teeth pulled, and she had 709 00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:55,440 all this novocaine and afterwards, and she'd been so so so nervous about it. 710 00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:59,960 Of course, like her anxiety was in full swing at that time. 711 00:48:00,039 --> 00:48:07,519 Time and afterward, you would think that she was being tortured by the numbness 712 00:48:07,599 --> 00:48:10,960 because she'd never felt that before. So she was not stop crying. She 713 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:15,599 couldn't focus on anything else. She just kept like trying to talk and going 714 00:48:15,679 --> 00:48:20,039 like I guess I'm gonna feel like this. Yeah. I think that was 715 00:48:20,079 --> 00:48:22,079 the thing like which we can relate to it, like I'm never gonna not 716 00:48:22,119 --> 00:48:27,519 feel like this again, like breakup snow vocating like every guy they're gonna be 717 00:48:27,599 --> 00:48:30,239 happy again. And I was like, honey, it is like I know, 718 00:48:30,320 --> 00:48:34,679 it feels so weird, but it's going You're gonna feel normal, and 719 00:48:34,679 --> 00:48:37,840 she was like no, no, like I never forget. I tried to 720 00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:42,519 take her to Target because I was gonna get her. It was during the 721 00:48:42,519 --> 00:48:45,039 time that she was really into Barbies, so I was gonna buy her like 722 00:48:45,079 --> 00:48:51,039 a Barbie whatever kind of remember when I don't know if Natalia was ever really 723 00:48:51,039 --> 00:48:54,639 into Barbie. She wasn't, but Elbie went through a phase and they they 724 00:48:54,639 --> 00:49:00,440 have like crazy like they'll be like a Barbie. Like it's like Barbie and 725 00:49:00,519 --> 00:49:02,880 Skipper and it's Barbie the dentist. It really is kind of like the movie 726 00:49:04,000 --> 00:49:07,559 where there's like all these different jobs or here's Barbie's horse stable, you know, 727 00:49:07,679 --> 00:49:10,199 and then I think you get a little toy horse and this one that's 728 00:49:10,199 --> 00:49:15,159 the assistant at the stable, right, but each but it's like sixty bucks 729 00:49:15,519 --> 00:49:19,199 for something. They're elaborate, so I didn't want to spend sixty bucks, 730 00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:22,280 but I was like, I'll spend twenty five and get you like a cute 731 00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:25,639 like so there was a Barbie in the dentist's chair, oh heo. But 732 00:49:25,679 --> 00:49:30,119 Elbie was horrified because it reminded I was like, oh, this will be 733 00:49:30,159 --> 00:49:35,079 perfect, Like look it's a barbie. Did She was like no, so 734 00:49:35,119 --> 00:49:37,039 I had to spring for like a more expensive one to make her feel better. 735 00:49:38,119 --> 00:49:44,519 She should play her comfortably numb like pink Floyd. O me to sit 736 00:49:44,559 --> 00:49:46,800 and listen to this. It'll wear off. It was so funny and I 737 00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:51,280 remember trying to take a picture of her of it and she was just like 738 00:49:51,280 --> 00:49:53,920 like a horrified face, like, oh I remember, because she was like, 739 00:49:54,000 --> 00:49:59,559 I look like a monster. It did look kind of creepy, like 740 00:49:59,599 --> 00:50:02,280 if I'm real, it was pretty bloody. Yeah. But anyway, well, 741 00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:07,000 this is super fun, super super fun. You know what, before 742 00:50:07,000 --> 00:50:13,079 we go, uh, we have a just we have to talk about Kelly 743 00:50:13,559 --> 00:50:17,280 from Wilman Frieda. Hope they're doing well. Palm Springs got a lot of 744 00:50:17,320 --> 00:50:22,639 flooding, that's true. Yeah, so hope you're doing okay, Kelly. 745 00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:28,480 Hope that woman Frieda is holding up that Palm Springs and Palm Desert locations really 746 00:50:28,519 --> 00:50:31,679 good food. If you're in that area, please go see her. She's 747 00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:37,800 adorable. That's a doll baby. It's so sweet and she'll be thrilled to 748 00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:44,239 see another. Also, The Family Skeptical is a podcast about raising kids without 749 00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:46,199 religion. If you haven't tried it yet. Like, listen, this is 750 00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:50,280 a fellow listener who's just just trying to do a podcast, you know. 751 00:50:50,519 --> 00:50:52,599 Check it out from her. Yeah, yeah, give her a give her 752 00:50:52,639 --> 00:51:00,599 a listen. The family Skeptical and again Adam a friend, Adams a car 753 00:51:00,679 --> 00:51:07,320 broker. Really, it's such a drag to try to haggle with car people. 754 00:51:07,079 --> 00:51:10,000 Let a broker do it for you. They get paid from the dealership. 755 00:51:10,079 --> 00:51:14,079 They will get you a way better deal than you could get for yourself. 756 00:51:14,119 --> 00:51:16,639 You can shop around, you can bring them your lowest price and then 757 00:51:16,679 --> 00:51:21,360 go here's what I could get right, And then this is what we used 758 00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:24,199 to do before we before Adam was our broker, we'd try to shop the 759 00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:29,320 car deal ourselves and then ask the broker, here's what we here's the lowest 760 00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:30,760 price we got, you know, three fifty a month or whatever, and 761 00:51:30,800 --> 00:51:34,800 then they go find you less. So that's how it works. So now 762 00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:37,800 they save you money. His number is three one zero nine nine eight seven 763 00:51:37,920 --> 00:51:45,679 zero for eight and I believe that's it. Yeah. Wow. Also, 764 00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:52,679 please go follow us on our social media Cool Podcast on Facebook, Instagram, 765 00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:57,880 and TikTok. We got Kaalen working so hard putting scial media clips. You 766 00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:00,800 can see us, you can see what we look like telling yeah, you 767 00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:04,639 can see LB. We didn't take a picture with her. Oh yeah, 768 00:52:04,679 --> 00:52:07,360 well we did it. Well, we'll put up a clip of LB. 769 00:52:07,559 --> 00:52:09,880 Right, yeah, definitely check us out. Yeah, all right, all 770 00:52:09,960 --> 00:52:19,119 right, everybody, you're a parent now, don't fuck it up. Letting go.