Cancer, high ecstasy cancerge it not sorry, Andy? What's up? Positive
bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing this episode, you
were meant to be here. So keep listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast.
Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, we're gonna cry,
but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self. That
is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast, we unbecome who
we are not so we can fold a step in two exactly who we came
here to ben what Chef's kiss. Today, we're talking about how to throw
away the trash. That's right. I'm talking about the opinions of other people
who are not trying to look out for us, but who are just trying
to take us down because they have their own projections they need to work out.
As a positive bitch, we do not let the projections of others,
their own fears and insecurities that they yap yap yap in our ear. We
do not let their projections become our predictions. Because we are the captains of
our own destiny, and we are the one who is magnetic. We are
the one manifesting our own life. We're not going to become unconscious. We're
not going to go on on a pilot and just let what other people have
to say control how we show up. Do I have to remind us that
we came all the way here. Our soul came all the way here from
another dimension and incarnated in a human body and was squeezed out the birth canal
of our mothers to experience this life. Now, you might not remember that
because it was a whole while ago, but you did all of that to
be here. Now, are you really gonna let the opinions of the birds
bring you down? Are you really going to let what shall be thinks of
your new hair bring you down? No? No, you are not.
And if you don't believe that within yourself just yet, Oh well, hold
on, baby girl, because I'm going to take you on the ride of
your life. And by the end of this podcast, not only will you
not care what other people have to say or think about you, but you
will be so plugged into your purpose that you will be feeling like your most
magnetic self. We came here to be ourselves. If we were meant to
be someone else, we would have incarnated as them. Let's remember that A
couple of announcements before we get into today's topic. I have some sessions open,
some availability for one on one clients. If you don't know, HI,
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I help my clients get connected with themselves and break away from faulty programming.
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links in the show notes. Now, without further ado, let's get into
today's episode. I have to mention it's so funny because I've been getting a
ton of dms since i posted a video of me on my Instagram singing and
people are like, wait, are you the vocalist in your theme song on
that Bitch is Positive? Yes, that song angel Energy. I wrote it,
and I sang it, and I produced it with my amazing music producer
and friend, Robbie Rosen. I wrote that song as I was spiritually awakening
because it was the first time I felt elevated energy in my life when I
finally raised my vibration refocusing on me, and I thought to myself, this
feels like angel energy. We all have angel energy available to us. It
is our most magnetic self and angel energy. The song that I wrote can
help you tune your own energy. So if you do want to listen to
that, it's on all platforms you listen to music on and you can find
that link in the show notes or on my Instagram in my bio. But
let's be honest, we didn't come to this episode to talk about angel Energy
the song. We came here to learn how to adopt this angel energy.
We came here to learn today how to stop caring about what other people think.
I have to say, I've mastered this. Let's get into it.
Other people's opinions about you are none of your business. Every single person is
going to have an opinion, whether you like it or not. It doesn't
mean that it is true. It doesn't mean it is fact. It doesn't
mean that you should listen to them. It means it's a mere, little
shmiddle opinion. Most of what we think is fact in life is actually opinion.
We have to start using our breat that we were gifted with, and
we have to start digging a little bit deeper than just accepting what other people
are telling us. Let's think about this. I invite you to think about
this with me. Let's think on this together. The times in my life
that I cared about what other people were thinking about me. You know when
those times were every single time I gave even a little, a little little,
little, little, little, little little little care about what other people
thought about me, those times I was unhappy with myself. I truly believe
we go through phases and we'll have a billion death and rebirths and it's all
fine. But I truly believe it is when we are unhappy with ourselves that
we care about what other people think of us. We don't know what to
do, we don't know what to think, so we start outsourcing everything,
outsourcing validation, outsourcing their opinion, outsourcing their energy. It's when we do
not like ourselves that we become reliant on what other people have to say about
us. That's when it's at its worst. I want to remind you if
you think, yes, think, if you think you hate yourself, you
don't. You don't actually hate you. You don't hate the energy you incarnated
as. What you may hate is a version of you that you currently are.
Now. There have been versions of me that I've hated. Why because
they were talking negatively about myself to myself. I was trash talking myself constantly
in my own head. I was binging, I was ruining my relationlationships.
I just was, quite frankly, sort of a mess. Everything felt like
it was a mess. I was hurting my body, I was hurting my
thoughts, thinking negatively. I was speaking not life but death over my own
existence. I was fighting with everybody. When I hated that version of me,
it was because I was doing negative things onto myself. I didn't actually
hate Ceci. I don't actually hate my authentic energy. I hated that version
of me because that version was hurting me. If I had a friend talking
to me how I was talking to myself, I wouldn't like them. If
I had a friend treating me as I was treating myself, I wouldn't like
them. So if right now you hate yourself, this is your reminder that,
no, you don't hate yourself. You think you do. You're mistaken.
It's fine you think you hate yourself, but really what's happening is you're
not treating yourself well well, and so you don't like this version of you.
And because you don't know how to give your self validation, you don't
know how to give yourself love. You don't know how to give yourself positive
attention. You're trying to outsource. So, yeah, you really care about
what other people have to say for you about you to you, of course
you do, because you don't know how to give that to yourself. So
you're trying to find it. What we don't feed ourselves, we will starve
for in other people. That's what we do. We're human, Welcome to
the human club. A lot of us, on top of maybe not liking
our current version of ourselves, we've never learned how to think for ourselves.
That's why I invite you to think with me. I don't want you to
just soak up everything I say and take it as truth. I want you
to listen to your own spirit. How is your spirit reacting to my words?
Does it feel in power? Okay, then we know it's in alignment.
Does it feel resistant? Well? Why ask yourself? Am I resisting
this because it's false? Or am I resisting this because I was taught since
I was a child that I'm not allowed to think for myself. I have
to listen to mom, I have to listen to dad. I have to
listen to my teachers. We are indoctrinated. We really are. In school.
We have to raise our hands to go to the bathroom. We have
to ask for everything. We are taught what to think, not how to
think. That's why being a positive bitch is about being in connection with ourselves,
because we've lost that connection. So what are we doing. We're not
asking for our own opinion, We're trying to outsource it from everyone else,
other people's opinions. Not only are they most of the time wrong, Not
only are they layered with their own filters, their own wounds, their own
mish mash, pattywash. Not only that they can't give us what we need.
We're always looking for permission. I don't know if I should break up
with him. He's just verbally abusive. But I don't know. Why do
you need your friend to tell you that you should break up with this person?
Why do you need permission from someone else in order to make a decision.
This is a question you need to ask yourself. Why is it that
I don't know how to make a decision on my own? Why do I
need to hear everyone in their mother's opinion before I can decide unliterally anything?
What that shows me? What I've showed myself throughout my whole entire life,
Because, baby girl, I've been there. When I am recounting these stories,
these are from my own life when I was the most reliant on other
people's opinions and I cared about what they had to say. It's because I
hated myself. I hated that version of me. It's because I was taught
what to think and not how to think. It was because I didn't have
connection with myself. I didn't know what I thought about the world. I
didn't know what I thought about the universe, or politics or religion. I
didn't know what I thought about anything. So how could I sculpt an opinion.
It was like I was a blank board and I was asking myself to
be a beautiful portrait. I didn't have the necessary tools. I didn't have
the paint I didn't have the paint brushes. All I had was a blank
canvas. So I was trying to pick up on what other people were doing,
Well what are you painting? Well, what are you becoming? Instead
of just figuring out, well, what actually feels good to me? Meeting
other people's opinions caring about what they think is just a self message that you
need to attune your own focus to yourself This is the medicine we all need,
because it's what we've been deprived of our whole, entire lives. We
weren't taught how to think for ourselves. We weren't taught how to create an
opinion. We weren't taught to have courage about this opinion. We were taught
to listen to your mother, listen to your father, Listen to that person,
Listen to this person, raise your hands, sit down, be pretty,
don't speak. That's what we were taught. We weren't taught, Oh,
you don't want to hug this stranger, Okay, that's fine. We
heard hug them. You met them when you were an infant. We weren't
given permission to have an opinion. The first way, the first tool I'm
going to give you to not care about what other people think is to give
yourself permission to give a damn about what you think. I allow myself to
hear my own opinion, clearly, say it with me. I allow myself
to hear my own opinion. Clearly. It is safe for me to make
decisions on my own. It is safe for me to make decisions on my
own. What other people think of me is none of my business. What
other people think of me is none of my business. I think a lot
of us are unhappy, and so we're outsourcing that validation. We're trying to
lookal what will make other people validate me, because I don't know how to
validate myself, and so we're starving for these other people's opinion. Another tool
to not care about what other people think of you is to start experimenting with
yourself to figure out what brings you joy. Before I got onto YouTube and
I was making covers of songs that I liked, I was so afraid of
what people were gonna say about me. I was so afraid of what judgments
they were going to make. I was so afraid that they thought I wasn't
talented. I was so afraid of how they were going to react. And
I sat on these covers for years. I didn't do what would bring me
joy for years. The number one regret of the dying is that they were
not authentically themselves. They didn't go after what they truly wanted. Baby girlies,
this lifetime is the blink of an eye to our soul. It is
the blink of an eye. It will go by so fast. The journey
is short, we gotta live for ourselves. I was so scared to post
these covers, and you know what I found out. I thought I needed
the confidence to post them. I thought I needed the motivation to post these
covers. I didn't need any of that. All I needed was myself to
listen to what I already knew would bring me joy. The second I posted
that cover, I felt so liberated. I found what brought me joy,
singing and sharing it with other people and connecting with this online community. That
posting the second video was so much easier than posting the first. But I
would have never known that if I didn't just bite the bullet. There is
going to be a moment where you just have to decide, I'm scared,
but I'm gonna do this anyway. When in doubt, do it anyway,
go for it. If there's a voice inside of your body that is saying,
this is what I really want, this is what's gonna make me happy,
this is what I've been wanting since I was a little girl. When
in doubt, do it anyway. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie to you.
People may talk trash about you, they may talk positively about you.
They're probably gonna talk why because people are bored? People are bored. Are
you really gonna let bored people influence how you're gonna live? Are you really
gonna let people who don't even like their own lives influence how you're gonna live?
Are you really gonna give your power away to people who only give their
power away? Cause that if you carry the one, the math isn't mathing.
The math is not mathing. That doesn't make any sense. Once I
posted those covers, not only did I find a newfound joy. Not only
did I find motivation to post more covers, not only did I cultivate confidence
to post more covers. I didn't care. I didn't care what other people
had to say anymore because I was giving myself validation. No, I think
this cover is good. I do enjoy this cover. I'm proud of the
work I did. When you give yourself that validation, you're not like,
what's Stacy gonna say? What is Harold's gonna think? Fm? Fam,
I'm sorry. Did you come here to live for Stacy? Oh that's weird,
that's weird. Did you come here to live for Harold? Oh you
didn't? Okay, then stop living in accordance with their own projections and their
own fears. They're living inside of a box. Why are you also getting
inside of their box? Why would you do that? It's not gonna bring
you happiness. It's not gonna bring you joy. By the way, I
should probably say, this podcast is like a ted talk and a rant all
in one. So if you feel like I'm screaming at you the whole time,
it's because I am with love and light. Wah, gotta come back
to our own mind here? Does this even make sense? We're not happy,
we're not going after what we really want, and we're listening to the
fear of other people. What's so interesting is today I was talking with one
of my good friends who is starting her own docuseries. She already started it
and her own business, and me and her used to go to New York
City and we would sit on the steps of random people's townhouses and we would
just dream. We would talk about all the things we were gonna do.
And she told me today that she loved that time for us together because we
would push each other to follow our dreams and we always held each other countable.
She would talk about starting a docuseries becoming a filmmaker. And I would
talk about wanting to help people heal and being in front of the camera and
loving all of content creation. And we talked about all of our business ideas
and all the things we wanted to create and all the things we wanted to
do, and we let one another dream. She said something or I said
something. We weren't like, well, that's impossible. Well that's hard to
do. No, we said, oh my god, you have to chase
that. You have to go after that. Who are you surrounding yourself with?
Because you are the average of the five people you spend the most time
with. Not only that, you are the energetic average of the five entities
you spend the most time with. If your friends have a bunch of lower
vibrational entities on them, feeding on them, and that's who you're hanging out
with, you're opening the door to negative entities, to a clock on,
attach on, infiltrate your own orc field. So what are we doing here.
Let's bring awareness to what we're doing. Let's bring awareness to our friendships.
Let's bring awareness to our motivations. My friend Shusy telling me this today,
it just brought such a smile to my face because we're still friends to
this day. And guess what both of us are doing exactly what we said
we were going to do. She was interviewing me for her docuseries following her
Dreams of Filmmaking, and I was talking about my content creation, my podcast,
my following the book that I have coming out. These are the types
of people we need around us. And if you don't have them just yet,
don't worry, be courageous. They will come, I promise you.
I promise you, But you always have to act first and the universe will
then deliver to you. Like vibrational people places opportunities. When other people are
bringing down your dreams with their lower vibrational opinions, You're going to notice that
it doesn't feel good. You're gonna notice that every time he's tell your friend
Stacy about your dream of becoming an astronaut and she just trashes them, You're
gonna notice you get a tight tightening in your body. You're gonna notice you
feel a resistance, a negative feeling. You know why, you feel that
it's your highest self communicating to you that what your friend Stacy is saying is
not in alignment with who you really are. What is in alignment is going
after that dream of being an astronaut. This is why we need to be
connected to ourselves, because our body will create feelings within us and it will
say, I'm gonna cause this negative feeling. So you know, not to
listen to this person. I'm gonna cause this negative feeling within you. So
you know to go after your dreams. Listen to those feelings, not to
other people. Listen to yourself, not to other people. If you feel
lost, you feel confused, goes straight to the source. Hello Angels,
Hello God, Hi, ascended masters, Jesus, Hi you're doing. How
are you doing? If you are lost, if you're confused, go straight
to the source. When I felt lost, purposeless, depressed, anxious,
I was thirty pounds plus when I was going through that, you know where
I went. My mom dragged me to a chapel and she was like,
Seacy, I think you just need to talk to God. And this was
years ago, and I didn't have that relationship with God. The good thing
is God's always there. It doesn't matter how many times you ignore God,
don't pay attention to your intuition, don't talk to God. It doesn't matter.
God will always be there, loving you, looking out for you,
trying to check up on you. He'll always be there. Don't worry.
So are your angels. You are assigned a guardian angel that does not leave
your side your whole entire life. You have a spirit team that's around you.
Twenty four seven, twenty four seven. If you're lost, if you're
confused, if you need answer, talk to God, not all these other
people who are just gonna bring you down. How do you get answers from
God? My mom dragged me to this chapel and I was like, you
know, I'll go anywhere for an answer. I feel lost. I pray
to God to give me my purpose, to show me what I was meant
to do. And when I say pray, I was not doing some traditional
prayer. I was like, God, why me? That was what I
was doing. Okay. So there's no perfect way to speak to God.
Speak, just connect and you don't even have to go to a chapel.
You can do it in your room. Two days later, my whole entire
life change. Two to three days later. I don't remember the exact timeline,
but it was the same week my whole entire life changed. I found
my purpose. I went through a spiritual awakening. It was a lot of
dark knight of the soul, it was a lot of self discovery. It
is an amazing journey I'm so thankful for. I would have never gotten those
answers if I was just complaining to my friend who is actually a frenemi.
And by the way, you don't lose friends, you release frenemies. Let's
remember that. Go straight to the source, talk to God, call on
your spirit guides. I have podcasts episodes where I literally teach you how to
call on your spirit guides. Listen to those episodes. Call on them,
tell them what you need, what you want, what questions you have.
That's why they're there. They are your support system. There have been so
many times I felt like no one was supporting me on planet Earth. Whether
that was real or perceived, it's how I felt, and I would just
tap into my angels and I would feel unconditional love. It was amazing.
Know who to call on when you need an opinion, when you need help.
Also, it is something important to bring up is there are some people
not everyone's evil. Obviously, there are some people in your life that,
while you might not like their opinion, they are trying to help you.
I'm talking about that coach, a really really great teacher, maybe a parent.
Just depends on your connections with these people. When someone gives you an
opinion like hey, Cec, I don't really think this relationship is good for
you. He's like really mean to you. We want to consider the source.
Always consider the source of who's giving you this opinion. What I want
the life they have, well, they have no relationship. Well, they've
always been there for me though she's never actually hurt me in the past.
When someone did hurt me, she was there for me. So yeah,
she doesn't have a relationship, but she's always stood up for me. She's
always been there for me. Maybe what she's saying has some validity. Let
me think on this keyword think, keyword reflect, keyword journal, meditate.
I'm not telling you if everyone never listened to anyone, what I'm telling you
is a fair warning. You can't just be receptive to everyone in anyone's opinion
of you and soak it up like a sponge. At the same time,
it can also be true that there are people in your life who want to
help you. There are times where I do seek out financial advice, for
example, from my father because he knows things about that. But I always
consider the source. If someone on the streets was trying to give me financial
advice, I would consider that source and be like, well, I don't
really know them. I don't think they know anything based on what they're doing.
But my father, who I seen has built up a life for himself,
I would trust that source. So consider the source. Is this someone
who always is trying to take you down? Is this someone who's always trying
to lift you up? Is this someone who's there for you in tough times?
Is this someone who's never there for you? Is this someone who will
be your best friend one day and then stab you in the back of the
next Consider the source of who's giving you the opinion, and then step two
is to reflect on it. Is my partner verbally abusive to me? Are
they harmful to me? If you're having trouble coming to a decision, friends
are saying one thing, family saying another, you're thinking another, seek out
third party council, Get a life coach, hello right here, dm me
on Instagram at vibue and cci. Get a therapist. If you're more comfortable
with that, seek out someone who doesn't have an emotional investment in your experience,
who can tell you straight up what's going on and also help you understand
your own wounds, your own filters. That can really be helpful, whether
we like it or not. Our family and friends, a lot of them
have their emotions tied into ours. So circumstance, we're coming from the same
place, but we ain't all going to the same places. No, we're
all growing in different directions. If you have big dreams and you trust in
yourself, you're going up. If they had big dreams but don't trust in
themselves, they're gonna stay where they are. They might go a little bit
left, a little bit right, they ain't elevating, and as they see
you getting your dreams, it's gonna be difficult for them. And it's not
something we have to hate them for, but it's also something we can't let
them tell us that we're bad for. We don't need to hate them for
experiencing their own wounds, but we also don't want to take their word and
then stop living our own life and our own dream. You know what time
it is, It's time to get comfortable being the villain in other people's stories
because they are an unreliable narrator. Yep, that's right. People are going
to perceive you a million and ways, and wrapped up in their perception is
their filters, their wounds, all of their opinions, all of their inner
criticisms, all of their own things. We're not always gonna be perceived as
the good girl. And my whole thing is who efing cares? Who cares?
I didn't come here to be perceived as perfect. I came here to
be a human. If you have a problem with that, goodbye, Skadadle,
Syonora Tutelou. I have things to get done. I have a purpose
to live through. I have things to do. I can't be bothered with
your opinion. Some of us are just bored. I think we have way
too much time on our hands that we have time to think what does this
person think of me? I don't have time to wonder what you think about
me because I'm building my dream life. If you want to hate on me,
I don't care. Love we're your own vibration. What does that have
to do with me? The best revenge is refocusing on you and building a
life you want to live. Period. Not everyone's going to agree with you.
Building that dream life, You're gonna trigger the hell out of people.
Get comfortable not only being the villain in other people's stories, but being their
trigger too. You're welcome. Every trigger is a teacher. This is my
gift to you. Goodbye. I know I am not this version I am
now in everyone's stories. How could I be. I've grown up. I've
went through a billion and one different variations of CC. I've had identity after
identity, I had births and deaths. This is what I came out to
be as of now. I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea.
But you know what, I'm my own favorite dessert. And that's what matters,
because every day I gotta wake up with me, and every night I
gotta go to sleep with me, and every weekend I have to hang out
with myself. If I'm not your favorite tea, I don't care. I
am my own restaurant. I can serve myself a five quartz of meal if
I so desire. That's my life. Don't know what you're doing over there.
And I also don't care if you're having a tough time because you think
you know C see I was toxic. I was the villain in that story,
in that chapter. I want you to realize that that was one mirror
version of you. It was one mere version. It's not who you are.
It's who you were. It's a part of you. It's not the
whole you. It's a chapter in your story. It's not the whole damn
book. If you were a villain in that chapter of your story, you
were a villain in their chapter of you. Become the hero in this next
chapter, Become the hero of your own life. Become the hero for the
rest of your chapters. And how do you do that? You have to
save yourself. There's no one on this big white horse that's gonna come on
in and save you. Girl. No, that person's you, if you
know. Look, I've had toxic behaviors in the past. I wasn't well.
I wasn't well in the head. We've all been there. We've all
had some part of ourselves that we had to work through. We weren't always
perfect, and so maybe some of us were the toxic one, and we
were the person who kind of was the villain. That was a chapter.
Don't make the rest of your book, you harping on you being that version
of yourself. Let that version go. You did the best with what you
knew how at that time, if you knew how to do better, not
just new better, because sometimes we intellectually know better, but we still can't
do better. Not only if you knew better, if you knew how to
do better, you would have done better. If you had the functional tools
you need it at that time, you would have been different. If you
had the guide, the parent, the friend, the therapists, a life
coach at that time, you would have been different. You went through that.
Honor every phase of yourself, like you honor the phases of the moon.
Because I know you're outside new moon, new intentions. I know you're
outside full moon. Let it go. Same thing with the phases of you.
Every single one is beautiful. When you look up at the moon,
You're not like this half moon is ugly as hell. No, we honor
that the full moon is brighter than a new moon. The full moon is
brighter than a half moon. But we can still see the beauty in every
single phase. Don't let that version of you dictate every single version of you
today and forever acknowledge that version. If I knew how to do better,
I would have if I had the guidance at the time, I would have
if I had this podcast at the time, maybe something could have been different,
But it wasn't. That is how it went. So what meaning am
I ascribing to this moment? The meaning we give to the phases in our
life is everything. The meaning we give to the phases in our life then
creates a picture in our head, which then creates an emotion in our body.
If I look back on the not best version of myself, the version
of me who was a gossipy girl, the version of me who didn't know
what I knew. Now, I could look at that and say, yeah,
that wasn't the best version of me. When I look back on the
version of me that was anxious, attachment, codependent binging, that wasn't the
best version of me. But I honor her. I've learned from her.
I'm not going to tell myself, well because I was, that I can
never have happiness, because that's not true. That would be living from my
past. When I'm living in my present. Your power is in the present.
What new meaning can you give to this past version of yourself that was
a version of me that I needed to get through to get to where I
am right now. She was the bridge that got me to where I want
to be. I always think with binging, Okay, I'm not happy.
I was binging constantly, but I could have been doing another drugs. I
could have been drinking a lot, I could have got addicted to some other
drug and I didn't. So okay, I used binging as a coping mechanism.
But I eventually healed it and I got myself here. And I may
not be at my final destination. I might not be done, I might
not be where I want to be, but I'm also not where I was,
and I got to recognize that. I got to celebrate that. What
meaning are you giving to the past self of you? That you never deserve
happiness, that you were the worst, now you deserve the worst, That
you can never get better because none of those will help you heal you being
a villain, then punishing yourself now won't get you anywhere. Acknowledging you weren't
the best person, and seeking guidance to change yourself now, that is where
the real healing is. Because as a kid, we learn a bunch of
things, we take a bunch of programming, and then we kind of spend
our adults life undoing that our adult life unraveling that programming it was, whatever
it was. What can you do now instead of beating yourself up? What
action can you take now to forgive yourself? Write a letter to your past
self from your current self. Tell her you forgive her. Tell her that
if she knew better, she would have done better. Update her on who
you are now. Look, we've learned a lot. Look at where we
are. I need to forgive you so I can move on. You weren't
the best version of me, but you're inspiring me today to get better,
and you inspire me tomorrow to heal further. I'm not you anymore, but
I'm not going to blame you for the rest of my life. I'm not
going to trash myself for the rest of my life because I wasn't in the
right headspace. Look, life isn't always easy. You're not always going to
be the best version of yourself. You might curse someone out one day,
you might kind of blow your top off another. It's okay. You didn't
come here to be perfect. You came here to learn how to be human.
You came here to learn, develop and grow. You came here to
cultivate happiness, to cultivate to life, to learn yourself. You didn't come
here to be perfect. How do we give ourselves? Write a letter to
her, create new meaning so you don't have to be a villain for the
rest of your life. Because, baby girl, let me tell you.
We're all a villain in someone's story. We're all even a villain in some
of our own chapters. It's okay. I am a villain in some of
my own chapters. When I was hating on myself, hurting myself, I
am a villain there. I'm not anymore because I don't have to stay in
an identity that doesn't serve me. I'm allowed to choose every morning to shift.
You're allowed to choose to change your life. You're allowed to wake up
today and say, I'm not gonna be that person anymore. That person is
hurting me. It's hurting my life, it's hurting my chances. I'm gonna
give her up. I'm not gonna hate her. I'm gonna learn from her.
Some of my most villainous selves are my biggest inspirations, biring me never
to go back to who I was, And that's okay. The people above
you, they'll never try to bring you down. They'll never try to bring
why because misery loves company. Only the people below you will ever try to
bring you down. Take this from someone who's so happy in their own life.
Listen to me when I say I'm living in my purpose. I feel
great, I feel magnetic. Do you know what I don't do. I
don't waste my time gossiping for four thousand hours negatively about other people. I
don't send hate mail or negative comments to other people because I'm happy in my
own life. When people are miserable, that's when they're gonna go after you.
When they're below you in a lower vibration, that's when they're gonna go
after you. Who do you know that's a really happy person who loves their
life and spends time sending hate on Instagram? Do you know? Oh that's
weird. Yeah. I don't know anyone either who does that. Because happy
people who are busy with their own life and self focused, the ones who
are actually creating change in their own life, don't waste time giving their trash
opinions. I think nowadays social media has really given everyone an extra confidence boost
that all of our opinions are correct and valid and they're not. That's the
truth. I don't have valid opinions about certain things in the world because I
don't know everything about everything. I don't have a valid opinion about car racing.
I don't know anything about car racing. I don't have a valid opinion
about sports teams. I don't know anything about sports teams. The thing is,
there's a bunch of people with invalid opinions still giving their opinion. I'm
all for free speech. Do what you want, but if you are spending
your time hating on another individual and putting it in writing on the internet,
seek help immediately. I can help you, sure, but seek it immediately,
because that is a sign you are not happy in your own life.
Don't hate yourself for it, get help for it. Period. That's it.
I, as a happy, fulfilled person, am not spending my time
dragging other people down. And if I ever have an opinion that is resistant
towards something else, I'm not going at that person and being like you should
do this, you should do that, D D D. No, the
opinion might cross my mind. I'm allowed to think that. Doesn't need I
need to spew hatred on someone else. And that's the difference of a happy
individual versus someone who is so so unhappy in their own life. I've had
to become okay with being the villain in other people's story because I realiz that
I probably am. If I think about my whole entire life, I think
about people who were upset when I didn't people please them. I think about
people who I didn't jump when they say jump. I think about people who
wanted me to be one way but I wanted to be another. I am
the villain in their story. That's okay with me, because you know who
built a great life for herself me. Do you know the people who are
so gossiping negatively about me? You know what? They're doing? Nothing?
Nothing. I'd rather be me. I choose me ten out of ten times.
Take it from someone who used to be the people pleaser has now revolted
against that idea and come into our own. I'm happier here. I'm happier
not caring about other people's opinions because I've actually just followed my own instead.
Sometimes we care about other people's opinions simply because we don't have any ourselves.
Maybe you need to read a book, or listen to a ted talk,
or experiment with yourself what is it that you like. If you don't know
if you like this or that, bowling or yoga or archery or pottery or
boxing or the gym, maybe you need to go out and live a little
experimental, live a little experiment with yourself, find out what you like.
When you're busy working on your health and your career, you're not gonna have
time to just sit around and be like, what does Stacy think of me
today? No, you're gonna be so focused on you empowering yourself, feeding
and nurturing your own ideas. You won't have the luxury of caring about other
people's opinions. That's right, it's a luxury if you have enough time in
your day to be like, beep boop bop, what does mom and Dad
think of me today? That's a luxury. Move past that. Refocus on
your own life. Even if someone doesn't respect you now, they don't respect
your idea, they don't like your idea now. If you just fulfill your
own dream, ah, honey, they always come back around. They'll respect
it later when they see you built an empire. They don't need to understand
your dream for you to go after it. The dream was put on your
heart, it was embedded right here. It wasn't embedded in their heart.
It was put in your headspace for you to go after it. I don't
know why we think that we need other people's opinion. Oh you don't like
my idea, maybe I shouldn't do it. You don't see the vision,
Okay, I won't. It's just a plain truth that not everyone is going
to be able to see the same vision you see in your head. But
they will see that vision when you bring it into physical three D manifestation.
They'll see your point when you show them the empire you built. Instead of
wasting your time worrying about how they think about you, now spend your luxurious
time building that vision, putting the energy into it. Do you think anyone
had anything positive of the people I've known in my past to say when I
posted my first TikTok video, No, they were probably trash talking in Oh
my god, what is CC doing? That's so embarrassing. Okay, that's
fine. Might be embarrassing for you. I quantum leap. I have my
own business. Now do you have a job? Oh? Okay, that's
weird. Do you have happiness? Oh? Really? And it's not about
me winning them losing, them winning me losing. It's about a way of
life, not caring about what other people have to say their negative opinion.
It's a lifestyle, baby, Adopt it because it's a good one instead of
me worrying about Nah, how's everyone gonna think of me? I just said,
what do I think of myself? I'm not happy in this area,
this area or that area. Let me start working on it, because if
I can get myself happy, that is the ultimate goal. Why else am
I on planet Earth to learn, develop, grow, but to make me
happy? That Hello, I wasn't born so I could be miserable my whole
life. I was born to take this energetic thoughts, ideas and make them
into physical, three D manifestations. And that's what I'm going to too.
If you are obsessed with what other people think of you, what do you
think of yourself? Really? Ask yourself? Do you like where your career
is? Do you like where your friendships are? Do you like where your
relationships at? Do you like where your health is at? Do you like
where your home is at? Yes? Or no? And if it's a
no, start feeding your attention to building up what you feel is broken in
your life, and you're not gonna care about what Tom and Stacy have to
say because you will be too damn busy. On an intellectual level, we
all know other people are going to have an opinion, and it's easy for
me to say don't care than it is not to care. But as you
build up your own life and you refocus on what do I feel is broken?
How can I build it back up? And you feed energy to growth
rather than to relationships that are dying. When you nurture the ideas you wish
to see come to life in your own existence, that process, that practice
of you repeatedly tapping in and building your own empire, whatever that may mean
to you, that is going to give you the happiness that you're trying to
find in other people. That is going to give you the strength to not
care about what they think. But it's not until you get started that you
stop caring. It's not until you get started that you find more motivation.
It's not until you get started that you find the confidence to keep going this
I want you to use this episode as momentum to get started now as soon
as you turn off this podcast, I want you to sign up for that
class. Start discovering you make a list of your life right out, every
single area health, job, career, relationships, hobby, friendships, body,
everything, Where are you unhappy and start working on it because that is
going to take your mind off of thinking about, well, what do people
think of me? Remember, you are the one living your own life.
You have to be happy. You have to be the one to choose your
experience. What experience are you going to choose? And if these people really
love you, they will come back around. They will see you living your
best life and they will come back around. You don't have to worry.
And if they are phony, then you will attract real friendships, real people
who are going to love you and care for you. I recently found out
that the quote blood is thicker than water is actually not the full quote.
The full quote is blood of the Covenant is thicker than the water of the
womb. So the original quote blood is thicker than water makes you think,
oh, family's everything. If their opinion is negative me, negative of me,
I have to change out to do this. But the actual quote is
blood of the Covenant is thicker than water of the womb, which means that
the people you choose in your life are more important than the people you came
into life with. If you choose them, they're probably also choosing you.
They are the ones who are going to ride with you, who are going
to support you. And if you don't have those people just yet, don't
worry. Trust me, I've been there. There was a point in life
I had no friends, but I was willing to have space and time alone
because I knew my worth I deserved. People who really saw me were really
gonna love me. And now I have beautiful friendships with all different people who
support me, are like minded and going after their dreams too. So moral
of the story is when you can find yourself, you can find what brings
you bliss and happiness through experimenting with yourself, and you just start doing that
thing. You're not going to care about what other people say about you.
It's easier said than done, but it's not impossible. And you have all
the power in the world always at your disposal, so use it wisely.
Don't waste it on worrying about what Kelsey and Nelsy are saying. Put it
towards your dreams. And your desires. Most people, at the end of
the day are scared to live a life that they really want to live.
Don't adopt their fears. If someone gave you a present that you did not
like, you would return it. If someone is constantly giving you their negative
opinion, it's dragging you down, it's making you feel terrible, return it
and simply say in your head back to sender, back to sender, back
to sender, and refocus on you. Spend time with God, Spend time
with your angels. Spend time getting to know yourself. Spend less time or
no time with people who constantly tell you that your dreams suck, that you're
never going to do anything, and who are swimming in fear and doubt.
Over time, your own opinion will become the most important in your life.
But you have to start to trust yourself by creating action that goes towards your
dreams. And if you take action towards your dreams every single day, you're
going to build up a relationship of trust with yourself. And the more you
do that, the more you'll trust your own opinion. And if you don't
yet trust your own opinion, you can trust gods or you can rely on
me, certified Life and Energy coach to help you get there. I love
you so much. I love you so much. Thank you for being here
with me today. I know you can be anywhere in the world and you're
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