WEBVTT 1 00:00:04.040 --> 00:00:20.640 Cancer, high ecstasy cancerge it not sorry, Andy? What's up? Positive 2 00:00:20.760 --> 00:00:25.480 bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing this episode, you 3 00:00:25.519 --> 00:00:29.760 were meant to be here. So keep listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. 4 00:00:29.920 --> 00:00:34.320 Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, we're gonna cry, 5 00:00:34.759 --> 00:00:40.079 but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self. That 6 00:00:40.240 --> 00:00:45.320 is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast, we unbecome who 7 00:00:45.359 --> 00:00:50.520 we are not so we can fold a step in two exactly who we came 8 00:00:50.600 --> 00:00:56.359 here to ben what Chef's kiss. Today, we're talking about how to throw 9 00:00:56.399 --> 00:01:03.520 away the trash. That's right. I'm talking about the opinions of other people 10 00:01:03.759 --> 00:01:07.159 who are not trying to look out for us, but who are just trying 11 00:01:07.200 --> 00:01:14.920 to take us down because they have their own projections they need to work out. 12 00:01:15.079 --> 00:01:19.159 As a positive bitch, we do not let the projections of others, 13 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:25.159 their own fears and insecurities that they yap yap yap in our ear. We 14 00:01:25.319 --> 00:01:30.879 do not let their projections become our predictions. Because we are the captains of 15 00:01:30.920 --> 00:01:36.560 our own destiny, and we are the one who is magnetic. We are 16 00:01:36.560 --> 00:01:41.000 the one manifesting our own life. We're not going to become unconscious. We're 17 00:01:41.000 --> 00:01:45.239 not going to go on on a pilot and just let what other people have 18 00:01:45.319 --> 00:01:49.599 to say control how we show up. Do I have to remind us that 19 00:01:49.159 --> 00:01:53.359 we came all the way here. Our soul came all the way here from 20 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:59.799 another dimension and incarnated in a human body and was squeezed out the birth canal 21 00:02:00.120 --> 00:02:06.840 of our mothers to experience this life. Now, you might not remember that 22 00:02:06.920 --> 00:02:10.879 because it was a whole while ago, but you did all of that to 23 00:02:12.000 --> 00:02:16.479 be here. Now, are you really gonna let the opinions of the birds 24 00:02:16.599 --> 00:02:21.599 bring you down? Are you really going to let what shall be thinks of 25 00:02:21.639 --> 00:02:27.120 your new hair bring you down? No? No, you are not. 26 00:02:27.479 --> 00:02:31.199 And if you don't believe that within yourself just yet, Oh well, hold 27 00:02:31.280 --> 00:02:35.439 on, baby girl, because I'm going to take you on the ride of 28 00:02:35.479 --> 00:02:39.479 your life. And by the end of this podcast, not only will you 29 00:02:40.080 --> 00:02:45.800 not care what other people have to say or think about you, but you 30 00:02:45.840 --> 00:02:51.039 will be so plugged into your purpose that you will be feeling like your most 31 00:02:51.520 --> 00:02:57.919 magnetic self. We came here to be ourselves. If we were meant to 32 00:02:57.919 --> 00:03:02.840 be someone else, we would have incarnated as them. Let's remember that A 33 00:03:02.919 --> 00:03:09.560 couple of announcements before we get into today's topic. I have some sessions open, 34 00:03:09.639 --> 00:03:15.719 some availability for one on one clients. 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I have to mention it's so funny because I've been getting a 70 00:06:04.079 --> 00:06:09.800 ton of dms since i posted a video of me on my Instagram singing and 71 00:06:09.839 --> 00:06:15.120 people are like, wait, are you the vocalist in your theme song on 72 00:06:15.160 --> 00:06:18.399 that Bitch is Positive? Yes, that song angel Energy. I wrote it, 73 00:06:18.720 --> 00:06:23.360 and I sang it, and I produced it with my amazing music producer 74 00:06:23.439 --> 00:06:27.839 and friend, Robbie Rosen. I wrote that song as I was spiritually awakening 75 00:06:27.879 --> 00:06:30.680 because it was the first time I felt elevated energy in my life when I 76 00:06:30.720 --> 00:06:35.480 finally raised my vibration refocusing on me, and I thought to myself, this 77 00:06:35.560 --> 00:06:41.519 feels like angel energy. We all have angel energy available to us. It 78 00:06:41.600 --> 00:06:45.360 is our most magnetic self and angel energy. The song that I wrote can 79 00:06:45.399 --> 00:06:47.600 help you tune your own energy. So if you do want to listen to 80 00:06:47.639 --> 00:06:51.560 that, it's on all platforms you listen to music on and you can find 81 00:06:51.560 --> 00:06:56.600 that link in the show notes or on my Instagram in my bio. But 82 00:06:57.759 --> 00:07:02.160 let's be honest, we didn't come to this episode to talk about angel Energy 83 00:07:02.360 --> 00:07:08.040 the song. We came here to learn how to adopt this angel energy. 84 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:15.920 We came here to learn today how to stop caring about what other people think. 85 00:07:16.360 --> 00:07:20.480 I have to say, I've mastered this. Let's get into it. 86 00:07:21.399 --> 00:07:31.800 Other people's opinions about you are none of your business. Every single person is 87 00:07:31.839 --> 00:07:36.560 going to have an opinion, whether you like it or not. It doesn't 88 00:07:36.600 --> 00:07:42.759 mean that it is true. It doesn't mean it is fact. It doesn't 89 00:07:42.800 --> 00:07:46.800 mean that you should listen to them. It means it's a mere, little 90 00:07:47.000 --> 00:07:56.160 shmiddle opinion. Most of what we think is fact in life is actually opinion. 91 00:07:57.240 --> 00:08:01.439 We have to start using our breat that we were gifted with, and 92 00:08:01.480 --> 00:08:05.319 we have to start digging a little bit deeper than just accepting what other people 93 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:11.759 are telling us. Let's think about this. I invite you to think about 94 00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:18.879 this with me. Let's think on this together. The times in my life 95 00:08:18.399 --> 00:08:24.000 that I cared about what other people were thinking about me. You know when 96 00:08:24.040 --> 00:08:31.919 those times were every single time I gave even a little, a little little, 97 00:08:33.000 --> 00:08:39.279 little, little, little, little little little care about what other people 98 00:08:39.399 --> 00:08:46.000 thought about me, those times I was unhappy with myself. I truly believe 99 00:08:46.320 --> 00:08:50.200 we go through phases and we'll have a billion death and rebirths and it's all 100 00:08:50.240 --> 00:08:56.320 fine. But I truly believe it is when we are unhappy with ourselves that 101 00:08:56.360 --> 00:09:01.200 we care about what other people think of us. We don't know what to 102 00:09:01.240 --> 00:09:05.480 do, we don't know what to think, so we start outsourcing everything, 103 00:09:05.919 --> 00:09:13.600 outsourcing validation, outsourcing their opinion, outsourcing their energy. It's when we do 104 00:09:13.679 --> 00:09:20.200 not like ourselves that we become reliant on what other people have to say about 105 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:26.799 us. That's when it's at its worst. I want to remind you if 106 00:09:26.840 --> 00:09:31.360 you think, yes, think, if you think you hate yourself, you 107 00:09:31.440 --> 00:09:37.399 don't. You don't actually hate you. You don't hate the energy you incarnated 108 00:09:37.600 --> 00:09:41.840 as. What you may hate is a version of you that you currently are. 109 00:09:43.600 --> 00:09:48.879 Now. There have been versions of me that I've hated. Why because 110 00:09:48.919 --> 00:09:54.960 they were talking negatively about myself to myself. I was trash talking myself constantly 111 00:09:56.039 --> 00:10:00.639 in my own head. I was binging, I was ruining my relationlationships. 112 00:10:01.919 --> 00:10:05.759 I just was, quite frankly, sort of a mess. Everything felt like 113 00:10:05.799 --> 00:10:09.279 it was a mess. I was hurting my body, I was hurting my 114 00:10:09.440 --> 00:10:15.080 thoughts, thinking negatively. I was speaking not life but death over my own 115 00:10:15.159 --> 00:10:20.639 existence. I was fighting with everybody. When I hated that version of me, 116 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:28.039 it was because I was doing negative things onto myself. I didn't actually 117 00:10:28.080 --> 00:10:33.159 hate Ceci. I don't actually hate my authentic energy. I hated that version 118 00:10:33.200 --> 00:10:37.039 of me because that version was hurting me. If I had a friend talking 119 00:10:37.080 --> 00:10:39.399 to me how I was talking to myself, I wouldn't like them. If 120 00:10:39.440 --> 00:10:45.279 I had a friend treating me as I was treating myself, I wouldn't like 121 00:10:45.440 --> 00:10:50.039 them. So if right now you hate yourself, this is your reminder that, 122 00:10:50.360 --> 00:10:54.120 no, you don't hate yourself. You think you do. You're mistaken. 123 00:10:54.200 --> 00:10:58.720 It's fine you think you hate yourself, but really what's happening is you're 124 00:10:58.759 --> 00:11:01.159 not treating yourself well well, and so you don't like this version of you. 125 00:11:03.360 --> 00:11:05.879 And because you don't know how to give your self validation, you don't 126 00:11:05.919 --> 00:11:09.240 know how to give yourself love. You don't know how to give yourself positive 127 00:11:09.279 --> 00:11:15.279 attention. You're trying to outsource. So, yeah, you really care about 128 00:11:15.279 --> 00:11:20.120 what other people have to say for you about you to you, of course 129 00:11:20.159 --> 00:11:24.120 you do, because you don't know how to give that to yourself. So 130 00:11:24.159 --> 00:11:28.960 you're trying to find it. What we don't feed ourselves, we will starve 131 00:11:30.039 --> 00:11:35.799 for in other people. That's what we do. We're human, Welcome to 132 00:11:35.440 --> 00:11:41.720 the human club. A lot of us, on top of maybe not liking 133 00:11:41.759 --> 00:11:46.360 our current version of ourselves, we've never learned how to think for ourselves. 134 00:11:46.639 --> 00:11:50.639 That's why I invite you to think with me. I don't want you to 135 00:11:50.720 --> 00:11:54.000 just soak up everything I say and take it as truth. I want you 136 00:11:54.080 --> 00:11:58.159 to listen to your own spirit. How is your spirit reacting to my words? 137 00:11:58.840 --> 00:12:01.399 Does it feel in power? Okay, then we know it's in alignment. 138 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:07.519 Does it feel resistant? Well? Why ask yourself? Am I resisting 139 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:11.759 this because it's false? Or am I resisting this because I was taught since 140 00:12:11.799 --> 00:12:13.960 I was a child that I'm not allowed to think for myself. I have 141 00:12:15.000 --> 00:12:16.720 to listen to mom, I have to listen to dad. I have to 142 00:12:16.759 --> 00:12:22.639 listen to my teachers. We are indoctrinated. We really are. In school. 143 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:24.960 We have to raise our hands to go to the bathroom. We have 144 00:12:26.080 --> 00:12:31.000 to ask for everything. We are taught what to think, not how to 145 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:35.440 think. That's why being a positive bitch is about being in connection with ourselves, 146 00:12:35.799 --> 00:12:39.480 because we've lost that connection. So what are we doing. We're not 147 00:12:39.519 --> 00:12:43.960 asking for our own opinion, We're trying to outsource it from everyone else, 148 00:12:43.639 --> 00:12:50.519 other people's opinions. Not only are they most of the time wrong, Not 149 00:12:50.600 --> 00:12:56.399 only are they layered with their own filters, their own wounds, their own 150 00:12:56.519 --> 00:13:03.879 mish mash, pattywash. Not only that they can't give us what we need. 151 00:13:05.000 --> 00:13:07.519 We're always looking for permission. I don't know if I should break up 152 00:13:07.519 --> 00:13:11.840 with him. He's just verbally abusive. But I don't know. Why do 153 00:13:11.879 --> 00:13:16.600 you need your friend to tell you that you should break up with this person? 154 00:13:16.919 --> 00:13:20.720 Why do you need permission from someone else in order to make a decision. 155 00:13:22.639 --> 00:13:26.360 This is a question you need to ask yourself. Why is it that 156 00:13:26.559 --> 00:13:28.559 I don't know how to make a decision on my own? Why do I 157 00:13:28.600 --> 00:13:35.159 need to hear everyone in their mother's opinion before I can decide unliterally anything? 158 00:13:35.480 --> 00:13:39.480 What that shows me? What I've showed myself throughout my whole entire life, 159 00:13:39.519 --> 00:13:43.000 Because, baby girl, I've been there. When I am recounting these stories, 160 00:13:43.039 --> 00:13:48.960 these are from my own life when I was the most reliant on other 161 00:13:48.000 --> 00:13:52.679 people's opinions and I cared about what they had to say. It's because I 162 00:13:52.720 --> 00:13:56.840 hated myself. I hated that version of me. It's because I was taught 163 00:13:56.840 --> 00:14:01.120 what to think and not how to think. It was because I didn't have 164 00:14:01.240 --> 00:14:05.519 connection with myself. I didn't know what I thought about the world. I 165 00:14:05.519 --> 00:14:09.480 didn't know what I thought about the universe, or politics or religion. I 166 00:14:09.519 --> 00:14:13.759 didn't know what I thought about anything. So how could I sculpt an opinion. 167 00:14:16.159 --> 00:14:18.759 It was like I was a blank board and I was asking myself to 168 00:14:18.799 --> 00:14:24.120 be a beautiful portrait. I didn't have the necessary tools. I didn't have 169 00:14:24.200 --> 00:14:28.360 the paint I didn't have the paint brushes. All I had was a blank 170 00:14:28.679 --> 00:14:33.399 canvas. So I was trying to pick up on what other people were doing, 171 00:14:33.440 --> 00:14:35.559 Well what are you painting? Well, what are you becoming? Instead 172 00:14:35.559 --> 00:14:43.320 of just figuring out, well, what actually feels good to me? Meeting 173 00:14:43.759 --> 00:14:48.879 other people's opinions caring about what they think is just a self message that you 174 00:14:50.000 --> 00:14:56.759 need to attune your own focus to yourself This is the medicine we all need, 175 00:14:56.240 --> 00:15:05.399 because it's what we've been deprived of our whole, entire lives. We 176 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:09.720 weren't taught how to think for ourselves. We weren't taught how to create an 177 00:15:09.759 --> 00:15:13.080 opinion. We weren't taught to have courage about this opinion. We were taught 178 00:15:13.120 --> 00:15:18.120 to listen to your mother, listen to your father, Listen to that person, 179 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:20.679 Listen to this person, raise your hands, sit down, be pretty, 180 00:15:20.720 --> 00:15:24.159 don't speak. That's what we were taught. We weren't taught, Oh, 181 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:28.279 you don't want to hug this stranger, Okay, that's fine. We 182 00:15:28.399 --> 00:15:33.799 heard hug them. You met them when you were an infant. We weren't 183 00:15:33.840 --> 00:15:39.279 given permission to have an opinion. The first way, the first tool I'm 184 00:15:39.320 --> 00:15:43.000 going to give you to not care about what other people think is to give 185 00:15:43.039 --> 00:15:48.399 yourself permission to give a damn about what you think. I allow myself to 186 00:15:48.519 --> 00:15:54.320 hear my own opinion, clearly, say it with me. I allow myself 187 00:15:54.639 --> 00:16:00.600 to hear my own opinion. Clearly. It is safe for me to make 188 00:16:00.639 --> 00:16:07.919 decisions on my own. It is safe for me to make decisions on my 189 00:16:07.360 --> 00:16:15.519 own. What other people think of me is none of my business. What 190 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:22.039 other people think of me is none of my business. I think a lot 191 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:30.639 of us are unhappy, and so we're outsourcing that validation. We're trying to 192 00:16:30.679 --> 00:16:33.039 lookal what will make other people validate me, because I don't know how to 193 00:16:33.120 --> 00:16:40.759 validate myself, and so we're starving for these other people's opinion. Another tool 194 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:45.679 to not care about what other people think of you is to start experimenting with 195 00:16:45.759 --> 00:16:49.360 yourself to figure out what brings you joy. Before I got onto YouTube and 196 00:16:49.679 --> 00:16:56.559 I was making covers of songs that I liked, I was so afraid of 197 00:16:56.559 --> 00:17:02.519 what people were gonna say about me. I was so afraid of what judgments 198 00:17:02.559 --> 00:17:04.640 they were going to make. I was so afraid that they thought I wasn't 199 00:17:04.680 --> 00:17:11.279 talented. I was so afraid of how they were going to react. And 200 00:17:11.440 --> 00:17:15.519 I sat on these covers for years. I didn't do what would bring me 201 00:17:15.640 --> 00:17:22.279 joy for years. The number one regret of the dying is that they were 202 00:17:22.319 --> 00:17:27.640 not authentically themselves. They didn't go after what they truly wanted. Baby girlies, 203 00:17:29.640 --> 00:17:33.880 this lifetime is the blink of an eye to our soul. It is 204 00:17:33.920 --> 00:17:37.160 the blink of an eye. It will go by so fast. The journey 205 00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:42.839 is short, we gotta live for ourselves. I was so scared to post 206 00:17:42.880 --> 00:17:48.160 these covers, and you know what I found out. I thought I needed 207 00:17:48.160 --> 00:17:52.440 the confidence to post them. I thought I needed the motivation to post these 208 00:17:52.480 --> 00:17:57.480 covers. I didn't need any of that. All I needed was myself to 209 00:17:57.680 --> 00:18:03.519 listen to what I already knew would bring me joy. The second I posted 210 00:18:03.559 --> 00:18:07.759 that cover, I felt so liberated. I found what brought me joy, 211 00:18:07.920 --> 00:18:12.519 singing and sharing it with other people and connecting with this online community. That 212 00:18:12.680 --> 00:18:18.359 posting the second video was so much easier than posting the first. But I 213 00:18:18.400 --> 00:18:23.119 would have never known that if I didn't just bite the bullet. There is 214 00:18:23.279 --> 00:18:29.480 going to be a moment where you just have to decide, I'm scared, 215 00:18:29.519 --> 00:18:33.039 but I'm gonna do this anyway. When in doubt, do it anyway, 216 00:18:33.920 --> 00:18:37.359 go for it. If there's a voice inside of your body that is saying, 217 00:18:37.920 --> 00:18:41.240 this is what I really want, this is what's gonna make me happy, 218 00:18:41.640 --> 00:18:45.960 this is what I've been wanting since I was a little girl. When 219 00:18:45.000 --> 00:18:49.839 in doubt, do it anyway. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie to you. 220 00:18:51.240 --> 00:18:56.720 People may talk trash about you, they may talk positively about you. 221 00:18:56.400 --> 00:19:03.799 They're probably gonna talk why because people are bored? People are bored. Are 222 00:19:03.839 --> 00:19:08.839 you really gonna let bored people influence how you're gonna live? Are you really 223 00:19:08.880 --> 00:19:15.240 gonna let people who don't even like their own lives influence how you're gonna live? 224 00:19:15.759 --> 00:19:19.720 Are you really gonna give your power away to people who only give their 225 00:19:19.759 --> 00:19:26.000 power away? Cause that if you carry the one, the math isn't mathing. 226 00:19:27.119 --> 00:19:33.319 The math is not mathing. That doesn't make any sense. Once I 227 00:19:33.400 --> 00:19:38.720 posted those covers, not only did I find a newfound joy. Not only 228 00:19:38.720 --> 00:19:45.079 did I find motivation to post more covers, not only did I cultivate confidence 229 00:19:45.119 --> 00:19:51.039 to post more covers. I didn't care. I didn't care what other people 230 00:19:51.039 --> 00:19:55.880 had to say anymore because I was giving myself validation. No, I think 231 00:19:55.920 --> 00:19:59.279 this cover is good. I do enjoy this cover. I'm proud of the 232 00:19:59.279 --> 00:20:03.000 work I did. When you give yourself that validation, you're not like, 233 00:20:03.559 --> 00:20:11.359 what's Stacy gonna say? What is Harold's gonna think? Fm? Fam, 234 00:20:11.440 --> 00:20:15.839 I'm sorry. Did you come here to live for Stacy? Oh that's weird, 235 00:20:17.799 --> 00:20:19.319 that's weird. Did you come here to live for Harold? Oh you 236 00:20:19.359 --> 00:20:25.039 didn't? Okay, then stop living in accordance with their own projections and their 237 00:20:25.079 --> 00:20:29.000 own fears. They're living inside of a box. Why are you also getting 238 00:20:29.039 --> 00:20:33.039 inside of their box? Why would you do that? It's not gonna bring 239 00:20:33.039 --> 00:20:37.640 you happiness. It's not gonna bring you joy. By the way, I 240 00:20:37.640 --> 00:20:40.960 should probably say, this podcast is like a ted talk and a rant all 241 00:20:41.000 --> 00:20:42.839 in one. So if you feel like I'm screaming at you the whole time, 242 00:20:42.839 --> 00:20:49.640 it's because I am with love and light. Wah, gotta come back 243 00:20:49.680 --> 00:20:55.880 to our own mind here? Does this even make sense? We're not happy, 244 00:20:56.359 --> 00:20:59.680 we're not going after what we really want, and we're listening to the 245 00:20:59.680 --> 00:21:07.079 fear of other people. What's so interesting is today I was talking with one 246 00:21:07.079 --> 00:21:11.759 of my good friends who is starting her own docuseries. She already started it 247 00:21:11.799 --> 00:21:15.200 and her own business, and me and her used to go to New York 248 00:21:15.240 --> 00:21:21.240 City and we would sit on the steps of random people's townhouses and we would 249 00:21:21.279 --> 00:21:25.440 just dream. We would talk about all the things we were gonna do. 250 00:21:26.240 --> 00:21:30.960 And she told me today that she loved that time for us together because we 251 00:21:32.000 --> 00:21:37.200 would push each other to follow our dreams and we always held each other countable. 252 00:21:37.400 --> 00:21:42.240 She would talk about starting a docuseries becoming a filmmaker. And I would 253 00:21:42.240 --> 00:21:47.400 talk about wanting to help people heal and being in front of the camera and 254 00:21:47.480 --> 00:21:52.680 loving all of content creation. And we talked about all of our business ideas 255 00:21:52.720 --> 00:21:55.839 and all the things we wanted to create and all the things we wanted to 256 00:21:55.880 --> 00:22:02.160 do, and we let one another dream. She said something or I said 257 00:22:02.160 --> 00:22:04.559 something. We weren't like, well, that's impossible. Well that's hard to 258 00:22:04.599 --> 00:22:08.480 do. No, we said, oh my god, you have to chase 259 00:22:08.559 --> 00:22:14.680 that. You have to go after that. Who are you surrounding yourself with? 260 00:22:15.759 --> 00:22:18.240 Because you are the average of the five people you spend the most time 261 00:22:18.319 --> 00:22:23.319 with. Not only that, you are the energetic average of the five entities 262 00:22:23.359 --> 00:22:27.079 you spend the most time with. If your friends have a bunch of lower 263 00:22:27.160 --> 00:22:32.279 vibrational entities on them, feeding on them, and that's who you're hanging out 264 00:22:32.279 --> 00:22:34.920 with, you're opening the door to negative entities, to a clock on, 265 00:22:36.480 --> 00:22:44.200 attach on, infiltrate your own orc field. So what are we doing here. 266 00:22:45.279 --> 00:22:51.000 Let's bring awareness to what we're doing. Let's bring awareness to our friendships. 267 00:22:51.799 --> 00:22:59.240 Let's bring awareness to our motivations. My friend Shusy telling me this today, 268 00:23:00.519 --> 00:23:03.359 it just brought such a smile to my face because we're still friends to 269 00:23:03.440 --> 00:23:07.160 this day. And guess what both of us are doing exactly what we said 270 00:23:07.160 --> 00:23:12.319 we were going to do. She was interviewing me for her docuseries following her 271 00:23:12.480 --> 00:23:18.759 Dreams of Filmmaking, and I was talking about my content creation, my podcast, 272 00:23:18.880 --> 00:23:23.440 my following the book that I have coming out. These are the types 273 00:23:23.480 --> 00:23:26.839 of people we need around us. And if you don't have them just yet, 274 00:23:26.920 --> 00:23:32.480 don't worry, be courageous. They will come, I promise you. 275 00:23:33.480 --> 00:23:38.079 I promise you, But you always have to act first and the universe will 276 00:23:38.119 --> 00:23:48.160 then deliver to you. Like vibrational people places opportunities. When other people are 277 00:23:48.200 --> 00:23:52.839 bringing down your dreams with their lower vibrational opinions, You're going to notice that 278 00:23:52.920 --> 00:23:57.559 it doesn't feel good. You're gonna notice that every time he's tell your friend 279 00:23:57.680 --> 00:24:03.440 Stacy about your dream of becoming an astronaut and she just trashes them, You're 280 00:24:03.480 --> 00:24:07.400 gonna notice you get a tight tightening in your body. You're gonna notice you 281 00:24:07.440 --> 00:24:11.960 feel a resistance, a negative feeling. You know why, you feel that 282 00:24:11.759 --> 00:24:18.799 it's your highest self communicating to you that what your friend Stacy is saying is 283 00:24:18.880 --> 00:24:22.279 not in alignment with who you really are. What is in alignment is going 284 00:24:22.319 --> 00:24:26.720 after that dream of being an astronaut. This is why we need to be 285 00:24:26.759 --> 00:24:32.359 connected to ourselves, because our body will create feelings within us and it will 286 00:24:32.400 --> 00:24:34.839 say, I'm gonna cause this negative feeling. So you know, not to 287 00:24:34.920 --> 00:24:38.599 listen to this person. I'm gonna cause this negative feeling within you. So 288 00:24:38.720 --> 00:24:45.359 you know to go after your dreams. Listen to those feelings, not to 289 00:24:45.480 --> 00:24:52.000 other people. Listen to yourself, not to other people. If you feel 290 00:24:52.079 --> 00:24:59.119 lost, you feel confused, goes straight to the source. Hello Angels, 291 00:24:59.640 --> 00:25:04.400 Hello God, Hi, ascended masters, Jesus, Hi you're doing. How 292 00:25:04.440 --> 00:25:08.960 are you doing? If you are lost, if you're confused, go straight 293 00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:14.799 to the source. When I felt lost, purposeless, depressed, anxious, 294 00:25:15.599 --> 00:25:19.079 I was thirty pounds plus when I was going through that, you know where 295 00:25:19.079 --> 00:25:22.720 I went. My mom dragged me to a chapel and she was like, 296 00:25:22.720 --> 00:25:26.079 Seacy, I think you just need to talk to God. And this was 297 00:25:26.160 --> 00:25:30.079 years ago, and I didn't have that relationship with God. The good thing 298 00:25:30.200 --> 00:25:33.599 is God's always there. It doesn't matter how many times you ignore God, 299 00:25:33.640 --> 00:25:37.039 don't pay attention to your intuition, don't talk to God. It doesn't matter. 300 00:25:37.519 --> 00:25:41.519 God will always be there, loving you, looking out for you, 301 00:25:41.680 --> 00:25:44.519 trying to check up on you. He'll always be there. Don't worry. 302 00:25:44.640 --> 00:25:48.759 So are your angels. You are assigned a guardian angel that does not leave 303 00:25:48.799 --> 00:25:52.079 your side your whole entire life. You have a spirit team that's around you. 304 00:25:52.240 --> 00:25:57.960 Twenty four seven, twenty four seven. If you're lost, if you're 305 00:25:59.000 --> 00:26:03.279 confused, if you need answer, talk to God, not all these other 306 00:26:03.279 --> 00:26:07.319 people who are just gonna bring you down. How do you get answers from 307 00:26:07.359 --> 00:26:10.759 God? My mom dragged me to this chapel and I was like, you 308 00:26:10.759 --> 00:26:14.680 know, I'll go anywhere for an answer. I feel lost. I pray 309 00:26:14.759 --> 00:26:18.759 to God to give me my purpose, to show me what I was meant 310 00:26:18.799 --> 00:26:22.880 to do. And when I say pray, I was not doing some traditional 311 00:26:22.960 --> 00:26:30.039 prayer. I was like, God, why me? That was what I 312 00:26:30.079 --> 00:26:33.480 was doing. Okay. So there's no perfect way to speak to God. 313 00:26:33.680 --> 00:26:37.319 Speak, just connect and you don't even have to go to a chapel. 314 00:26:37.480 --> 00:26:42.079 You can do it in your room. Two days later, my whole entire 315 00:26:42.279 --> 00:26:48.759 life change. Two to three days later. I don't remember the exact timeline, 316 00:26:48.759 --> 00:26:52.400 but it was the same week my whole entire life changed. I found 317 00:26:52.400 --> 00:26:56.960 my purpose. I went through a spiritual awakening. It was a lot of 318 00:26:56.039 --> 00:26:59.759 dark knight of the soul, it was a lot of self discovery. It 319 00:27:00.160 --> 00:27:06.319 is an amazing journey I'm so thankful for. I would have never gotten those 320 00:27:06.359 --> 00:27:11.160 answers if I was just complaining to my friend who is actually a frenemi. 321 00:27:11.839 --> 00:27:14.599 And by the way, you don't lose friends, you release frenemies. Let's 322 00:27:14.599 --> 00:27:21.039 remember that. Go straight to the source, talk to God, call on 323 00:27:21.079 --> 00:27:26.200 your spirit guides. I have podcasts episodes where I literally teach you how to 324 00:27:26.240 --> 00:27:30.400 call on your spirit guides. Listen to those episodes. Call on them, 325 00:27:30.240 --> 00:27:33.759 tell them what you need, what you want, what questions you have. 326 00:27:34.240 --> 00:27:40.720 That's why they're there. They are your support system. There have been so 327 00:27:40.799 --> 00:27:44.240 many times I felt like no one was supporting me on planet Earth. Whether 328 00:27:44.279 --> 00:27:47.359 that was real or perceived, it's how I felt, and I would just 329 00:27:47.400 --> 00:27:52.759 tap into my angels and I would feel unconditional love. It was amazing. 330 00:27:53.359 --> 00:27:57.799 Know who to call on when you need an opinion, when you need help. 331 00:28:00.079 --> 00:28:03.279 Also, it is something important to bring up is there are some people 332 00:28:03.319 --> 00:28:10.240 not everyone's evil. Obviously, there are some people in your life that, 333 00:28:10.480 --> 00:28:12.599 while you might not like their opinion, they are trying to help you. 334 00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:19.839 I'm talking about that coach, a really really great teacher, maybe a parent. 335 00:28:21.319 --> 00:28:25.359 Just depends on your connections with these people. When someone gives you an 336 00:28:25.400 --> 00:28:30.720 opinion like hey, Cec, I don't really think this relationship is good for 337 00:28:30.759 --> 00:28:34.240 you. He's like really mean to you. We want to consider the source. 338 00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:41.519 Always consider the source of who's giving you this opinion. What I want 339 00:28:41.519 --> 00:28:48.440 the life they have, well, they have no relationship. Well, they've 340 00:28:48.480 --> 00:28:53.240 always been there for me though she's never actually hurt me in the past. 341 00:28:53.240 --> 00:28:57.160 When someone did hurt me, she was there for me. So yeah, 342 00:28:57.200 --> 00:29:00.960 she doesn't have a relationship, but she's always stood up for me. She's 343 00:29:00.960 --> 00:29:04.960 always been there for me. Maybe what she's saying has some validity. Let 344 00:29:06.079 --> 00:29:14.640 me think on this keyword think, keyword reflect, keyword journal, meditate. 345 00:29:15.359 --> 00:29:21.039 I'm not telling you if everyone never listened to anyone, what I'm telling you 346 00:29:22.440 --> 00:29:27.039 is a fair warning. You can't just be receptive to everyone in anyone's opinion 347 00:29:27.119 --> 00:29:32.519 of you and soak it up like a sponge. At the same time, 348 00:29:32.759 --> 00:29:34.240 it can also be true that there are people in your life who want to 349 00:29:34.279 --> 00:29:38.599 help you. There are times where I do seek out financial advice, for 350 00:29:38.640 --> 00:29:42.599 example, from my father because he knows things about that. But I always 351 00:29:42.720 --> 00:29:48.319 consider the source. If someone on the streets was trying to give me financial 352 00:29:48.319 --> 00:29:49.799 advice, I would consider that source and be like, well, I don't 353 00:29:49.799 --> 00:29:53.319 really know them. I don't think they know anything based on what they're doing. 354 00:29:55.039 --> 00:29:57.000 But my father, who I seen has built up a life for himself, 355 00:29:57.039 --> 00:30:02.359 I would trust that source. So consider the source. Is this someone 356 00:30:02.359 --> 00:30:04.000 who always is trying to take you down? Is this someone who's always trying 357 00:30:04.039 --> 00:30:07.880 to lift you up? Is this someone who's there for you in tough times? 358 00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:11.160 Is this someone who's never there for you? Is this someone who will 359 00:30:11.200 --> 00:30:12.599 be your best friend one day and then stab you in the back of the 360 00:30:12.640 --> 00:30:18.279 next Consider the source of who's giving you the opinion, and then step two 361 00:30:18.400 --> 00:30:23.039 is to reflect on it. Is my partner verbally abusive to me? Are 362 00:30:23.079 --> 00:30:27.440 they harmful to me? If you're having trouble coming to a decision, friends 363 00:30:27.480 --> 00:30:32.160 are saying one thing, family saying another, you're thinking another, seek out 364 00:30:32.240 --> 00:30:34.839 third party council, Get a life coach, hello right here, dm me 365 00:30:34.920 --> 00:30:38.640 on Instagram at vibue and cci. Get a therapist. If you're more comfortable 366 00:30:38.640 --> 00:30:44.519 with that, seek out someone who doesn't have an emotional investment in your experience, 367 00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:48.359 who can tell you straight up what's going on and also help you understand 368 00:30:48.480 --> 00:30:53.680 your own wounds, your own filters. That can really be helpful, whether 369 00:30:53.720 --> 00:30:56.519 we like it or not. Our family and friends, a lot of them 370 00:30:56.599 --> 00:31:02.519 have their emotions tied into ours. So circumstance, we're coming from the same 371 00:31:02.559 --> 00:31:07.119 place, but we ain't all going to the same places. No, we're 372 00:31:07.160 --> 00:31:10.720 all growing in different directions. If you have big dreams and you trust in 373 00:31:10.759 --> 00:31:15.119 yourself, you're going up. If they had big dreams but don't trust in 374 00:31:15.160 --> 00:31:18.720 themselves, they're gonna stay where they are. They might go a little bit 375 00:31:18.839 --> 00:31:22.640 left, a little bit right, they ain't elevating, and as they see 376 00:31:22.759 --> 00:31:26.000 you getting your dreams, it's gonna be difficult for them. And it's not 377 00:31:26.039 --> 00:31:30.720 something we have to hate them for, but it's also something we can't let 378 00:31:30.759 --> 00:31:34.720 them tell us that we're bad for. We don't need to hate them for 379 00:31:34.839 --> 00:31:40.240 experiencing their own wounds, but we also don't want to take their word and 380 00:31:40.279 --> 00:31:44.200 then stop living our own life and our own dream. You know what time 381 00:31:44.240 --> 00:31:48.799 it is, It's time to get comfortable being the villain in other people's stories 382 00:31:48.400 --> 00:31:56.839 because they are an unreliable narrator. Yep, that's right. People are going 383 00:31:56.880 --> 00:32:04.119 to perceive you a million and ways, and wrapped up in their perception is 384 00:32:04.200 --> 00:32:08.240 their filters, their wounds, all of their opinions, all of their inner 385 00:32:08.279 --> 00:32:16.759 criticisms, all of their own things. We're not always gonna be perceived as 386 00:32:16.839 --> 00:32:22.279 the good girl. And my whole thing is who efing cares? Who cares? 387 00:32:22.440 --> 00:32:25.640 I didn't come here to be perceived as perfect. I came here to 388 00:32:25.680 --> 00:32:30.359 be a human. If you have a problem with that, goodbye, Skadadle, 389 00:32:30.039 --> 00:32:35.240 Syonora Tutelou. I have things to get done. I have a purpose 390 00:32:35.319 --> 00:32:39.279 to live through. I have things to do. I can't be bothered with 391 00:32:39.440 --> 00:32:43.960 your opinion. Some of us are just bored. I think we have way 392 00:32:44.000 --> 00:32:46.400 too much time on our hands that we have time to think what does this 393 00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:51.160 person think of me? I don't have time to wonder what you think about 394 00:32:51.200 --> 00:32:53.920 me because I'm building my dream life. If you want to hate on me, 395 00:32:54.039 --> 00:32:57.160 I don't care. Love we're your own vibration. What does that have 396 00:32:57.200 --> 00:33:01.000 to do with me? The best revenge is refocusing on you and building a 397 00:33:01.039 --> 00:33:07.400 life you want to live. Period. Not everyone's going to agree with you. 398 00:33:07.519 --> 00:33:10.880 Building that dream life, You're gonna trigger the hell out of people. 399 00:33:12.839 --> 00:33:16.480 Get comfortable not only being the villain in other people's stories, but being their 400 00:33:16.480 --> 00:33:22.559 trigger too. You're welcome. Every trigger is a teacher. This is my 401 00:33:22.599 --> 00:33:28.480 gift to you. Goodbye. I know I am not this version I am 402 00:33:28.599 --> 00:33:32.440 now in everyone's stories. How could I be. I've grown up. I've 403 00:33:32.440 --> 00:33:37.720 went through a billion and one different variations of CC. I've had identity after 404 00:33:37.799 --> 00:33:42.440 identity, I had births and deaths. This is what I came out to 405 00:33:42.480 --> 00:33:47.720 be as of now. I'm not going to be everyone's cup of tea. 406 00:33:47.839 --> 00:33:52.240 But you know what, I'm my own favorite dessert. And that's what matters, 407 00:33:52.240 --> 00:33:55.440 because every day I gotta wake up with me, and every night I 408 00:33:55.440 --> 00:34:00.000 gotta go to sleep with me, and every weekend I have to hang out 409 00:34:00.079 --> 00:34:07.400 with myself. If I'm not your favorite tea, I don't care. I 410 00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:13.320 am my own restaurant. I can serve myself a five quartz of meal if 411 00:34:13.360 --> 00:34:16.320 I so desire. That's my life. Don't know what you're doing over there. 412 00:34:16.320 --> 00:34:22.159 And I also don't care if you're having a tough time because you think 413 00:34:22.280 --> 00:34:28.559 you know C see I was toxic. I was the villain in that story, 414 00:34:29.119 --> 00:34:36.280 in that chapter. I want you to realize that that was one mirror 415 00:34:36.320 --> 00:34:39.000 version of you. It was one mere version. It's not who you are. 416 00:34:39.039 --> 00:34:42.440 It's who you were. It's a part of you. It's not the 417 00:34:42.480 --> 00:34:44.760 whole you. It's a chapter in your story. It's not the whole damn 418 00:34:44.760 --> 00:34:51.480 book. If you were a villain in that chapter of your story, you 419 00:34:51.559 --> 00:34:58.079 were a villain in their chapter of you. Become the hero in this next 420 00:34:58.159 --> 00:35:02.599 chapter, Become the hero of your own life. Become the hero for the 421 00:35:02.639 --> 00:35:07.440 rest of your chapters. And how do you do that? You have to 422 00:35:07.559 --> 00:35:13.480 save yourself. There's no one on this big white horse that's gonna come on 423 00:35:13.599 --> 00:35:17.920 in and save you. Girl. No, that person's you, if you 424 00:35:19.079 --> 00:35:22.960 know. Look, I've had toxic behaviors in the past. I wasn't well. 425 00:35:22.760 --> 00:35:27.920 I wasn't well in the head. We've all been there. We've all 426 00:35:28.000 --> 00:35:31.199 had some part of ourselves that we had to work through. We weren't always 427 00:35:31.519 --> 00:35:37.599 perfect, and so maybe some of us were the toxic one, and we 428 00:35:37.599 --> 00:35:43.639 were the person who kind of was the villain. That was a chapter. 429 00:35:44.400 --> 00:35:49.079 Don't make the rest of your book, you harping on you being that version 430 00:35:49.119 --> 00:35:54.159 of yourself. Let that version go. You did the best with what you 431 00:35:54.239 --> 00:36:00.559 knew how at that time, if you knew how to do better, not 432 00:36:00.639 --> 00:36:04.480 just new better, because sometimes we intellectually know better, but we still can't 433 00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:07.280 do better. Not only if you knew better, if you knew how to 434 00:36:07.360 --> 00:36:13.239 do better, you would have done better. If you had the functional tools 435 00:36:13.639 --> 00:36:15.920 you need it at that time, you would have been different. If you 436 00:36:16.039 --> 00:36:21.719 had the guide, the parent, the friend, the therapists, a life 437 00:36:21.719 --> 00:36:25.159 coach at that time, you would have been different. You went through that. 438 00:36:27.239 --> 00:36:30.079 Honor every phase of yourself, like you honor the phases of the moon. 439 00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:35.199 Because I know you're outside new moon, new intentions. I know you're 440 00:36:35.239 --> 00:36:38.880 outside full moon. Let it go. Same thing with the phases of you. 441 00:36:39.440 --> 00:36:44.039 Every single one is beautiful. When you look up at the moon, 442 00:36:44.079 --> 00:36:49.639 You're not like this half moon is ugly as hell. No, we honor 443 00:36:49.760 --> 00:36:52.639 that the full moon is brighter than a new moon. The full moon is 444 00:36:52.639 --> 00:36:55.960 brighter than a half moon. But we can still see the beauty in every 445 00:36:57.039 --> 00:37:04.559 single phase. Don't let that version of you dictate every single version of you 446 00:37:04.760 --> 00:37:09.480 today and forever acknowledge that version. If I knew how to do better, 447 00:37:10.159 --> 00:37:14.960 I would have if I had the guidance at the time, I would have 448 00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:16.719 if I had this podcast at the time, maybe something could have been different, 449 00:37:16.960 --> 00:37:22.639 But it wasn't. That is how it went. So what meaning am 450 00:37:22.719 --> 00:37:28.440 I ascribing to this moment? The meaning we give to the phases in our 451 00:37:28.480 --> 00:37:32.480 life is everything. The meaning we give to the phases in our life then 452 00:37:32.599 --> 00:37:36.920 creates a picture in our head, which then creates an emotion in our body. 453 00:37:37.400 --> 00:37:40.440 If I look back on the not best version of myself, the version 454 00:37:40.440 --> 00:37:44.800 of me who was a gossipy girl, the version of me who didn't know 455 00:37:44.840 --> 00:37:46.960 what I knew. Now, I could look at that and say, yeah, 456 00:37:46.960 --> 00:37:50.119 that wasn't the best version of me. When I look back on the 457 00:37:50.199 --> 00:37:52.679 version of me that was anxious, attachment, codependent binging, that wasn't the 458 00:37:52.679 --> 00:37:58.360 best version of me. But I honor her. I've learned from her. 459 00:37:58.760 --> 00:38:00.639 I'm not going to tell myself, well because I was, that I can 460 00:38:00.679 --> 00:38:05.639 never have happiness, because that's not true. That would be living from my 461 00:38:05.800 --> 00:38:08.599 past. When I'm living in my present. Your power is in the present. 462 00:38:09.239 --> 00:38:14.599 What new meaning can you give to this past version of yourself that was 463 00:38:14.639 --> 00:38:16.239 a version of me that I needed to get through to get to where I 464 00:38:16.280 --> 00:38:21.280 am right now. She was the bridge that got me to where I want 465 00:38:21.320 --> 00:38:27.679 to be. I always think with binging, Okay, I'm not happy. 466 00:38:27.840 --> 00:38:32.199 I was binging constantly, but I could have been doing another drugs. I 467 00:38:32.199 --> 00:38:36.760 could have been drinking a lot, I could have got addicted to some other 468 00:38:36.920 --> 00:38:43.760 drug and I didn't. So okay, I used binging as a coping mechanism. 469 00:38:44.199 --> 00:38:49.400 But I eventually healed it and I got myself here. And I may 470 00:38:49.480 --> 00:38:52.119 not be at my final destination. I might not be done, I might 471 00:38:52.159 --> 00:38:55.360 not be where I want to be, but I'm also not where I was, 472 00:38:57.719 --> 00:39:01.119 and I got to recognize that. I got to celebrate that. What 473 00:39:01.320 --> 00:39:06.079 meaning are you giving to the past self of you? That you never deserve 474 00:39:06.119 --> 00:39:08.199 happiness, that you were the worst, now you deserve the worst, That 475 00:39:08.280 --> 00:39:15.440 you can never get better because none of those will help you heal you being 476 00:39:15.480 --> 00:39:21.199 a villain, then punishing yourself now won't get you anywhere. Acknowledging you weren't 477 00:39:21.199 --> 00:39:27.119 the best person, and seeking guidance to change yourself now, that is where 478 00:39:27.119 --> 00:39:30.480 the real healing is. Because as a kid, we learn a bunch of 479 00:39:30.519 --> 00:39:32.199 things, we take a bunch of programming, and then we kind of spend 480 00:39:32.320 --> 00:39:42.360 our adults life undoing that our adult life unraveling that programming it was, whatever 481 00:39:42.440 --> 00:39:47.079 it was. What can you do now instead of beating yourself up? What 482 00:39:47.400 --> 00:39:53.559 action can you take now to forgive yourself? Write a letter to your past 483 00:39:53.599 --> 00:39:59.760 self from your current self. Tell her you forgive her. Tell her that 484 00:39:59.800 --> 00:40:02.239 if she knew better, she would have done better. Update her on who 485 00:40:02.320 --> 00:40:06.320 you are now. Look, we've learned a lot. Look at where we 486 00:40:06.360 --> 00:40:09.000 are. I need to forgive you so I can move on. You weren't 487 00:40:09.039 --> 00:40:13.960 the best version of me, but you're inspiring me today to get better, 488 00:40:14.320 --> 00:40:20.960 and you inspire me tomorrow to heal further. I'm not you anymore, but 489 00:40:21.079 --> 00:40:23.079 I'm not going to blame you for the rest of my life. I'm not 490 00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:27.840 going to trash myself for the rest of my life because I wasn't in the 491 00:40:27.920 --> 00:40:32.119 right headspace. Look, life isn't always easy. You're not always going to 492 00:40:32.199 --> 00:40:36.960 be the best version of yourself. You might curse someone out one day, 493 00:40:37.400 --> 00:40:43.679 you might kind of blow your top off another. It's okay. You didn't 494 00:40:43.719 --> 00:40:46.719 come here to be perfect. You came here to learn how to be human. 495 00:40:47.679 --> 00:40:51.639 You came here to learn, develop and grow. You came here to 496 00:40:51.679 --> 00:40:57.400 cultivate happiness, to cultivate to life, to learn yourself. You didn't come 497 00:40:57.400 --> 00:41:00.679 here to be perfect. How do we give ourselves? Write a letter to 498 00:41:00.719 --> 00:41:06.719 her, create new meaning so you don't have to be a villain for the 499 00:41:06.760 --> 00:41:09.440 rest of your life. Because, baby girl, let me tell you. 500 00:41:09.760 --> 00:41:14.599 We're all a villain in someone's story. We're all even a villain in some 501 00:41:14.719 --> 00:41:20.239 of our own chapters. It's okay. I am a villain in some of 502 00:41:20.239 --> 00:41:23.159 my own chapters. When I was hating on myself, hurting myself, I 503 00:41:23.199 --> 00:41:29.119 am a villain there. I'm not anymore because I don't have to stay in 504 00:41:29.280 --> 00:41:35.440 an identity that doesn't serve me. I'm allowed to choose every morning to shift. 505 00:41:35.800 --> 00:41:38.480 You're allowed to choose to change your life. You're allowed to wake up 506 00:41:38.480 --> 00:41:44.079 today and say, I'm not gonna be that person anymore. That person is 507 00:41:44.159 --> 00:41:47.960 hurting me. It's hurting my life, it's hurting my chances. I'm gonna 508 00:41:47.960 --> 00:41:52.760 give her up. I'm not gonna hate her. I'm gonna learn from her. 509 00:41:52.559 --> 00:42:00.880 Some of my most villainous selves are my biggest inspirations, biring me never 510 00:42:01.360 --> 00:42:07.840 to go back to who I was, And that's okay. The people above 511 00:42:07.880 --> 00:42:10.960 you, they'll never try to bring you down. They'll never try to bring 512 00:42:12.119 --> 00:42:15.599 why because misery loves company. Only the people below you will ever try to 513 00:42:15.599 --> 00:42:21.159 bring you down. Take this from someone who's so happy in their own life. 514 00:42:21.960 --> 00:42:24.960 Listen to me when I say I'm living in my purpose. I feel 515 00:42:25.000 --> 00:42:29.280 great, I feel magnetic. Do you know what I don't do. I 516 00:42:29.320 --> 00:42:35.760 don't waste my time gossiping for four thousand hours negatively about other people. I 517 00:42:35.760 --> 00:42:39.519 don't send hate mail or negative comments to other people because I'm happy in my 518 00:42:39.599 --> 00:42:45.760 own life. When people are miserable, that's when they're gonna go after you. 519 00:42:45.800 --> 00:42:51.239 When they're below you in a lower vibration, that's when they're gonna go 520 00:42:51.280 --> 00:42:54.800 after you. Who do you know that's a really happy person who loves their 521 00:42:54.880 --> 00:43:00.840 life and spends time sending hate on Instagram? Do you know? Oh that's 522 00:43:00.880 --> 00:43:06.400 weird. Yeah. I don't know anyone either who does that. Because happy 523 00:43:06.440 --> 00:43:10.239 people who are busy with their own life and self focused, the ones who 524 00:43:10.280 --> 00:43:15.280 are actually creating change in their own life, don't waste time giving their trash 525 00:43:15.320 --> 00:43:22.599 opinions. I think nowadays social media has really given everyone an extra confidence boost 526 00:43:22.960 --> 00:43:28.840 that all of our opinions are correct and valid and they're not. That's the 527 00:43:28.880 --> 00:43:35.039 truth. I don't have valid opinions about certain things in the world because I 528 00:43:35.079 --> 00:43:38.960 don't know everything about everything. I don't have a valid opinion about car racing. 529 00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:43.360 I don't know anything about car racing. I don't have a valid opinion 530 00:43:43.480 --> 00:43:47.679 about sports teams. I don't know anything about sports teams. The thing is, 531 00:43:47.960 --> 00:43:54.719 there's a bunch of people with invalid opinions still giving their opinion. I'm 532 00:43:54.760 --> 00:43:59.800 all for free speech. Do what you want, but if you are spending 533 00:43:59.800 --> 00:44:02.840 your time hating on another individual and putting it in writing on the internet, 534 00:44:05.000 --> 00:44:08.880 seek help immediately. I can help you, sure, but seek it immediately, 535 00:44:09.719 --> 00:44:15.599 because that is a sign you are not happy in your own life. 536 00:44:15.880 --> 00:44:20.800 Don't hate yourself for it, get help for it. Period. That's it. 537 00:44:22.079 --> 00:44:24.800 I, as a happy, fulfilled person, am not spending my time 538 00:44:24.920 --> 00:44:30.400 dragging other people down. And if I ever have an opinion that is resistant 539 00:44:30.440 --> 00:44:34.159 towards something else, I'm not going at that person and being like you should 540 00:44:34.159 --> 00:44:36.760 do this, you should do that, D D D. No, the 541 00:44:36.840 --> 00:44:40.840 opinion might cross my mind. I'm allowed to think that. Doesn't need I 542 00:44:40.880 --> 00:44:46.320 need to spew hatred on someone else. And that's the difference of a happy 543 00:44:46.360 --> 00:44:54.679 individual versus someone who is so so unhappy in their own life. I've had 544 00:44:54.719 --> 00:45:00.360 to become okay with being the villain in other people's story because I realiz that 545 00:45:00.480 --> 00:45:06.159 I probably am. If I think about my whole entire life, I think 546 00:45:06.199 --> 00:45:09.079 about people who were upset when I didn't people please them. I think about 547 00:45:09.079 --> 00:45:13.800 people who I didn't jump when they say jump. I think about people who 548 00:45:14.119 --> 00:45:16.400 wanted me to be one way but I wanted to be another. I am 549 00:45:16.440 --> 00:45:21.960 the villain in their story. That's okay with me, because you know who 550 00:45:22.000 --> 00:45:24.239 built a great life for herself me. Do you know the people who are 551 00:45:24.280 --> 00:45:30.320 so gossiping negatively about me? You know what? They're doing? Nothing? 552 00:45:30.639 --> 00:45:36.800 Nothing. I'd rather be me. I choose me ten out of ten times. 553 00:45:38.280 --> 00:45:43.679 Take it from someone who used to be the people pleaser has now revolted 554 00:45:43.719 --> 00:45:49.719 against that idea and come into our own. I'm happier here. I'm happier 555 00:45:49.800 --> 00:45:53.800 not caring about other people's opinions because I've actually just followed my own instead. 556 00:45:54.480 --> 00:45:59.960 Sometimes we care about other people's opinions simply because we don't have any ourselves. 557 00:46:00.199 --> 00:46:04.000 Maybe you need to read a book, or listen to a ted talk, 558 00:46:04.519 --> 00:46:07.960 or experiment with yourself what is it that you like. If you don't know 559 00:46:07.960 --> 00:46:13.800 if you like this or that, bowling or yoga or archery or pottery or 560 00:46:13.880 --> 00:46:16.519 boxing or the gym, maybe you need to go out and live a little 561 00:46:16.920 --> 00:46:22.239 experimental, live a little experiment with yourself, find out what you like. 562 00:46:22.920 --> 00:46:27.480 When you're busy working on your health and your career, you're not gonna have 563 00:46:27.519 --> 00:46:30.360 time to just sit around and be like, what does Stacy think of me 564 00:46:30.440 --> 00:46:36.800 today? No, you're gonna be so focused on you empowering yourself, feeding 565 00:46:36.800 --> 00:46:40.480 and nurturing your own ideas. You won't have the luxury of caring about other 566 00:46:40.519 --> 00:46:45.239 people's opinions. That's right, it's a luxury if you have enough time in 567 00:46:45.239 --> 00:46:49.239 your day to be like, beep boop bop, what does mom and Dad 568 00:46:49.280 --> 00:46:53.239 think of me today? That's a luxury. Move past that. Refocus on 569 00:46:53.280 --> 00:46:58.639 your own life. Even if someone doesn't respect you now, they don't respect 570 00:46:58.679 --> 00:47:01.320 your idea, they don't like your idea now. If you just fulfill your 571 00:47:01.360 --> 00:47:07.039 own dream, ah, honey, they always come back around. They'll respect 572 00:47:07.039 --> 00:47:12.639 it later when they see you built an empire. They don't need to understand 573 00:47:12.719 --> 00:47:15.840 your dream for you to go after it. The dream was put on your 574 00:47:15.880 --> 00:47:21.360 heart, it was embedded right here. It wasn't embedded in their heart. 575 00:47:21.960 --> 00:47:25.880 It was put in your headspace for you to go after it. I don't 576 00:47:25.920 --> 00:47:29.760 know why we think that we need other people's opinion. Oh you don't like 577 00:47:29.800 --> 00:47:30.960 my idea, maybe I shouldn't do it. You don't see the vision, 578 00:47:30.960 --> 00:47:37.079 Okay, I won't. It's just a plain truth that not everyone is going 579 00:47:37.119 --> 00:47:39.079 to be able to see the same vision you see in your head. But 580 00:47:39.280 --> 00:47:44.519 they will see that vision when you bring it into physical three D manifestation. 581 00:47:45.400 --> 00:47:50.639 They'll see your point when you show them the empire you built. Instead of 582 00:47:50.679 --> 00:47:55.639 wasting your time worrying about how they think about you, now spend your luxurious 583 00:47:55.760 --> 00:48:02.039 time building that vision, putting the energy into it. Do you think anyone 584 00:48:02.360 --> 00:48:07.599 had anything positive of the people I've known in my past to say when I 585 00:48:07.639 --> 00:48:12.280 posted my first TikTok video, No, they were probably trash talking in Oh 586 00:48:12.320 --> 00:48:16.760 my god, what is CC doing? That's so embarrassing. Okay, that's 587 00:48:16.760 --> 00:48:21.239 fine. Might be embarrassing for you. I quantum leap. I have my 588 00:48:21.280 --> 00:48:24.239 own business. Now do you have a job? Oh? Okay, that's 589 00:48:24.280 --> 00:48:31.039 weird. Do you have happiness? Oh? Really? And it's not about 590 00:48:31.159 --> 00:48:36.960 me winning them losing, them winning me losing. It's about a way of 591 00:48:37.159 --> 00:48:42.239 life, not caring about what other people have to say their negative opinion. 592 00:48:42.679 --> 00:48:46.679 It's a lifestyle, baby, Adopt it because it's a good one instead of 593 00:48:46.679 --> 00:48:51.639 me worrying about Nah, how's everyone gonna think of me? I just said, 594 00:48:51.679 --> 00:48:54.119 what do I think of myself? I'm not happy in this area, 595 00:48:54.280 --> 00:48:59.719 this area or that area. Let me start working on it, because if 596 00:48:59.760 --> 00:49:06.079 I can get myself happy, that is the ultimate goal. Why else am 597 00:49:06.159 --> 00:49:08.880 I on planet Earth to learn, develop, grow, but to make me 598 00:49:09.039 --> 00:49:13.920 happy? That Hello, I wasn't born so I could be miserable my whole 599 00:49:13.920 --> 00:49:21.800 life. I was born to take this energetic thoughts, ideas and make them 600 00:49:21.800 --> 00:49:24.880 into physical, three D manifestations. And that's what I'm going to too. 601 00:49:27.239 --> 00:49:30.840 If you are obsessed with what other people think of you, what do you 602 00:49:30.880 --> 00:49:34.239 think of yourself? Really? Ask yourself? Do you like where your career 603 00:49:34.280 --> 00:49:36.559 is? Do you like where your friendships are? Do you like where your 604 00:49:36.559 --> 00:49:39.119 relationships at? Do you like where your health is at? Do you like 605 00:49:39.199 --> 00:49:44.239 where your home is at? Yes? Or no? And if it's a 606 00:49:44.320 --> 00:49:47.760 no, start feeding your attention to building up what you feel is broken in 607 00:49:47.800 --> 00:49:52.000 your life, and you're not gonna care about what Tom and Stacy have to 608 00:49:52.000 --> 00:49:55.480 say because you will be too damn busy. On an intellectual level, we 609 00:49:55.599 --> 00:50:00.400 all know other people are going to have an opinion, and it's easy for 610 00:50:00.440 --> 00:50:04.320 me to say don't care than it is not to care. But as you 611 00:50:04.400 --> 00:50:07.840 build up your own life and you refocus on what do I feel is broken? 612 00:50:07.920 --> 00:50:13.039 How can I build it back up? And you feed energy to growth 613 00:50:13.400 --> 00:50:17.239 rather than to relationships that are dying. When you nurture the ideas you wish 614 00:50:17.280 --> 00:50:23.880 to see come to life in your own existence, that process, that practice 615 00:50:23.880 --> 00:50:29.440 of you repeatedly tapping in and building your own empire, whatever that may mean 616 00:50:29.519 --> 00:50:34.599 to you, that is going to give you the happiness that you're trying to 617 00:50:34.639 --> 00:50:37.360 find in other people. That is going to give you the strength to not 618 00:50:37.440 --> 00:50:43.360 care about what they think. But it's not until you get started that you 619 00:50:43.440 --> 00:50:46.559 stop caring. It's not until you get started that you find more motivation. 620 00:50:46.639 --> 00:50:52.159 It's not until you get started that you find the confidence to keep going this 621 00:50:52.480 --> 00:50:57.440 I want you to use this episode as momentum to get started now as soon 622 00:50:57.440 --> 00:51:00.199 as you turn off this podcast, I want you to sign up for that 623 00:51:00.280 --> 00:51:04.280 class. Start discovering you make a list of your life right out, every 624 00:51:04.280 --> 00:51:08.360 single area health, job, career, relationships, hobby, friendships, body, 625 00:51:08.880 --> 00:51:14.159 everything, Where are you unhappy and start working on it because that is 626 00:51:14.199 --> 00:51:16.199 going to take your mind off of thinking about, well, what do people 627 00:51:16.239 --> 00:51:21.960 think of me? Remember, you are the one living your own life. 628 00:51:22.079 --> 00:51:25.719 You have to be happy. You have to be the one to choose your 629 00:51:25.760 --> 00:51:30.199 experience. What experience are you going to choose? And if these people really 630 00:51:30.239 --> 00:51:34.480 love you, they will come back around. They will see you living your 631 00:51:34.480 --> 00:51:37.079 best life and they will come back around. You don't have to worry. 632 00:51:37.400 --> 00:51:40.920 And if they are phony, then you will attract real friendships, real people 633 00:51:42.000 --> 00:51:45.800 who are going to love you and care for you. I recently found out 634 00:51:45.480 --> 00:51:52.440 that the quote blood is thicker than water is actually not the full quote. 635 00:51:52.880 --> 00:51:58.679 The full quote is blood of the Covenant is thicker than the water of the 636 00:51:58.760 --> 00:52:05.280 womb. So the original quote blood is thicker than water makes you think, 637 00:52:05.599 --> 00:52:09.400 oh, family's everything. If their opinion is negative me, negative of me, 638 00:52:09.559 --> 00:52:13.960 I have to change out to do this. But the actual quote is 639 00:52:15.480 --> 00:52:19.519 blood of the Covenant is thicker than water of the womb, which means that 640 00:52:19.559 --> 00:52:23.480 the people you choose in your life are more important than the people you came 641 00:52:23.519 --> 00:52:27.880 into life with. If you choose them, they're probably also choosing you. 642 00:52:29.880 --> 00:52:34.679 They are the ones who are going to ride with you, who are going 643 00:52:34.719 --> 00:52:37.440 to support you. And if you don't have those people just yet, don't 644 00:52:37.440 --> 00:52:40.760 worry. Trust me, I've been there. There was a point in life 645 00:52:40.760 --> 00:52:45.039 I had no friends, but I was willing to have space and time alone 646 00:52:45.599 --> 00:52:50.039 because I knew my worth I deserved. People who really saw me were really 647 00:52:50.079 --> 00:52:54.199 gonna love me. And now I have beautiful friendships with all different people who 648 00:52:54.239 --> 00:53:01.239 support me, are like minded and going after their dreams too. So moral 649 00:53:01.280 --> 00:53:07.639 of the story is when you can find yourself, you can find what brings 650 00:53:07.679 --> 00:53:12.400 you bliss and happiness through experimenting with yourself, and you just start doing that 651 00:53:12.480 --> 00:53:15.199 thing. You're not going to care about what other people say about you. 652 00:53:15.760 --> 00:53:21.159 It's easier said than done, but it's not impossible. And you have all 653 00:53:21.199 --> 00:53:24.039 the power in the world always at your disposal, so use it wisely. 654 00:53:24.679 --> 00:53:29.719 Don't waste it on worrying about what Kelsey and Nelsy are saying. Put it 655 00:53:29.760 --> 00:53:34.159 towards your dreams. And your desires. Most people, at the end of 656 00:53:34.159 --> 00:53:37.519 the day are scared to live a life that they really want to live. 657 00:53:37.159 --> 00:53:44.480 Don't adopt their fears. If someone gave you a present that you did not 658 00:53:44.760 --> 00:53:49.000 like, you would return it. If someone is constantly giving you their negative 659 00:53:49.000 --> 00:53:52.559 opinion, it's dragging you down, it's making you feel terrible, return it 660 00:53:53.239 --> 00:53:58.000 and simply say in your head back to sender, back to sender, back 661 00:53:58.039 --> 00:54:04.239 to sender, and refocus on you. Spend time with God, Spend time 662 00:54:04.239 --> 00:54:07.760 with your angels. Spend time getting to know yourself. Spend less time or 663 00:54:07.880 --> 00:54:12.719 no time with people who constantly tell you that your dreams suck, that you're 664 00:54:12.760 --> 00:54:19.840 never going to do anything, and who are swimming in fear and doubt. 665 00:54:20.320 --> 00:54:24.639 Over time, your own opinion will become the most important in your life. 666 00:54:25.440 --> 00:54:30.559 But you have to start to trust yourself by creating action that goes towards your 667 00:54:30.639 --> 00:54:36.440 dreams. And if you take action towards your dreams every single day, you're 668 00:54:36.480 --> 00:54:39.119 going to build up a relationship of trust with yourself. And the more you 669 00:54:39.159 --> 00:54:43.400 do that, the more you'll trust your own opinion. And if you don't 670 00:54:43.480 --> 00:54:46.360 yet trust your own opinion, you can trust gods or you can rely on 671 00:54:46.480 --> 00:54:52.679 me, certified Life and Energy coach to help you get there. I love 672 00:54:52.679 --> 00:54:54.920 you so much. I love you so much. Thank you for being here 673 00:54:54.920 --> 00:54:58.360 with me today. I know you can be anywhere in the world and you're 674 00:54:58.400 --> 00:55:00.880 choosing to be here, So thank you. If this podcast spoke to you, 675 00:55:00.960 --> 00:55:05.599 please share it with a friend or a family member. If you enjoyed 676 00:55:05.639 --> 00:55:07.480 it, it would mean the world to me. If you could leave a 677 00:55:07.519 --> 00:55:12.119 positive review on Apple Podcasts in Spotify, it helps us podcast It helps us 678 00:55:12.199 --> 00:55:15.639 reach more positive bitches. Not for me, do it for you, because 679 00:55:15.760 --> 00:55:19.920 good karma. I loved you as always a sparkle in me, honor as 680 00:55:19.920 --> 00:55:32.960 a sparkle in you, and I will see you in the next one. 681 00:55:34.159 --> 00:55:53.599 Cancelgemy, can cansage cancelage me