WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.200 --> 00:00:06.440 Let's get started with the Minnesota Goodbye and see what we have. Hello Minnesota 2 00:00:06.480 --> 00:00:12.519 Goodbye. First, to address the subject line, I love your podcast, 3 00:00:12.560 --> 00:00:15.519 their subject line is I hate the Minnesota Goodbye. Not the podcast, but 4 00:00:15.560 --> 00:00:18.879 the real Minnesota Goodbye. They say, I'm starting to get frustrated with the 5 00:00:18.920 --> 00:00:23.879 Minnesota goodbye and the Midwest culture. For context, I attend college, which 6 00:00:23.960 --> 00:00:27.760 is almost ninety nine percent the student body is either from Minnesota or Wisconsin, 7 00:00:28.160 --> 00:00:32.960 which of course leads to a very concentrated Midwest culture. And with the combination 8 00:00:33.039 --> 00:00:35.920 of my friends and I liveing on campus and spending most of our time outside 9 00:00:35.960 --> 00:00:41.479 of class together, we have Minnesota goodbyes multiple times every day. Now you're 10 00:00:41.479 --> 00:00:45.200 familiar with it, but just in case you're not, the Minnesota Goodbye is 11 00:00:45.240 --> 00:00:50.200 where you keep saying goodbye for fifteen minutes. And that's how this show got 12 00:00:50.240 --> 00:00:53.200 started. I think Fallon came up with a name like, Okay, you 13 00:00:53.200 --> 00:00:56.719 guys have already said goodbye on the radio. Now you're doing more. So 14 00:00:56.840 --> 00:00:59.920 when you do a Minnesota goodbye, you say goodbye at the front door, 15 00:01:00.079 --> 00:01:03.240 or then you walk out the front door, you say goodbye again. You're 16 00:01:03.280 --> 00:01:07.000 talking. They follow to your fucking car, and then they say goodbye again 17 00:01:07.040 --> 00:01:11.120 and it goes on forever. So she goes on to sayd might be trying 18 00:01:11.120 --> 00:01:14.480 to leave our student union. But then one of my friends and I will 19 00:01:14.480 --> 00:01:18.359 stay and talk until it closes, then drop a friend off of their dorm, 20 00:01:18.359 --> 00:01:21.680 but continue to talk at the door for another thirty minutes. Then we 21 00:01:21.760 --> 00:01:25.480 drop the next friend off and the same thing happens. I can't take it 22 00:01:25.519 --> 00:01:29.040 anymore. I love hanging out with my friends, but I think I'm gonna 23 00:01:29.040 --> 00:01:30.760 start losing it. I got an eight am class most days and a lot 24 00:01:30.760 --> 00:01:34.359 of homework. I don't have time for a Minnesota goodbye multiple times a day. 25 00:01:34.680 --> 00:01:38.560 But then I feel rude leaving with an abrupt departure, or that I'm 26 00:01:38.599 --> 00:01:42.159 missing out on memories with my friends. So many funny jokes and things have 27 00:01:42.239 --> 00:01:47.760 happened when I cut off my Minnesota goodbye early, and I get fomo from 28 00:01:47.760 --> 00:01:53.120 it. Anyway, I'm wondering if you or other people listening experience this or 29 00:01:53.159 --> 00:01:57.079 have other Minnesota goodbye cultural things that drive Minnesota cultural things that drive you crazy. 30 00:01:57.560 --> 00:02:05.920 Dart Lick staff writer Cassie Jenny your comment on this, I am the 31 00:02:05.959 --> 00:02:08.520 guilty person of the Minnesota can buy a lot of times. I've gotten better 32 00:02:08.599 --> 00:02:13.800 at it over the years, so I feel like, I don't know. 33 00:02:13.879 --> 00:02:16.080 I don't drag it out as long, but I am the person that makes 34 00:02:16.080 --> 00:02:21.319 sure I say goodbye to everyone. I don't irish goodbye ever, So I 35 00:02:21.360 --> 00:02:23.159 don't know. I can go either way. I don't. I'm not mad 36 00:02:23.199 --> 00:02:27.120 at you if you don't like say goodbye to me, but yeah, I 37 00:02:27.120 --> 00:02:30.280 mean my first response was going to be like, well just leave, Just 38 00:02:30.280 --> 00:02:32.439 become that person Cassandra that you know, you got to respect your time. 39 00:02:32.879 --> 00:02:39.439 So sometimes you have to say goodbye. And we all know somebody who they 40 00:02:39.479 --> 00:02:44.400 don't know when to stop talking. They just love to talk, and it's 41 00:02:44.439 --> 00:02:46.719 like, man, I've got to be somewhere. We have people in our 42 00:02:46.719 --> 00:02:52.759 building that they're lovely people, but they just don't have a concept of I 43 00:02:53.000 --> 00:02:55.759 don't have all day to talk, so you really literally have to kind of 44 00:02:55.759 --> 00:03:00.439 be rude and go I got to get back to work. There are a 45 00:03:00.439 --> 00:03:04.120 couple of people at stationed in again, they're wonderful people, and I wish 46 00:03:04.199 --> 00:03:07.000 I was more social like them. But you'll turn to kind of walk away, 47 00:03:07.280 --> 00:03:09.520 and you're kind of backing away from them as they're still talking, as 48 00:03:09.520 --> 00:03:15.360 if to say I got to go, and they will literally follow you as 49 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:20.840 you're backing away from the conversation. Those people like literally shock me. I'm 50 00:03:20.879 --> 00:03:23.240 like, how do you how do you not know I'm walking ten feet away 51 00:03:23.240 --> 00:03:27.439 from you? Yeah, But at the same time I get her think about, 52 00:03:27.439 --> 00:03:30.520 you know what I'm gonna miss out on, like memories and jokes and 53 00:03:30.560 --> 00:03:35.319 funny stories because I'm gonna cut off the Minnesota goodbye. So what is your 54 00:03:35.360 --> 00:03:39.800 advice on this one? Do you may be selective? Do you be rude 55 00:03:39.800 --> 00:03:44.319 and say I gotta go? Or do you just suck it up and say, 56 00:03:44.360 --> 00:03:49.360 you know what, I will never regret having this conversation. Let us 57 00:03:49.360 --> 00:03:54.800 know. Send an email to Ryan Show at katiewb dot com. Next one, 58 00:03:55.400 --> 00:04:00.919 Becky says, I don't know why I randomly thought about this today, 59 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:03.759 but I wanted to remind you guys of a fun way you gave away tickets. 60 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:06.680 I thought it was super entertaining and would love to hear it done again. 61 00:04:06.960 --> 00:04:10.000 A few years ago. You're going to wait tickets for something. You 62 00:04:10.000 --> 00:04:13.759 had people call in and ask you really personal, challenging questions. If you 63 00:04:13.840 --> 00:04:16.319 felt comfortable enough to answer the question. They didn't win the tickets, but 64 00:04:16.360 --> 00:04:20.040 if you refuse to answer, they won. I think the only thing that 65 00:04:20.120 --> 00:04:24.680 was off limits was asking about salaries, since it was an obvious win. 66 00:04:24.879 --> 00:04:27.839 But other than that, there were no rules. I remember loving this bit, 67 00:04:27.879 --> 00:04:30.639 surprised by some of the ones you guys actually answered. Would love for 68 00:04:30.680 --> 00:04:31.759 you to do that again. That's from Becky. We did this the other 69 00:04:31.839 --> 00:04:36.480 day. It was ask us anything, and it wasn't for concert tickets. 70 00:04:38.160 --> 00:04:42.360 It was just a matter of like, what did people ask us? Jenny? 71 00:04:42.439 --> 00:04:46.720 So remember we Okay? I was asked some real estate questions because I 72 00:04:46.759 --> 00:04:53.319 date a real like answers the real estate agent. You. Oh gosh, 73 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:57.079 my brain's not thinking right now. I can't remember. That's kind of how 74 00:04:57.120 --> 00:05:00.560 I am with the show. People will say do you I remember this? 75 00:05:00.600 --> 00:05:02.480 And a lot of the time I do, but so many times I don't. 76 00:05:02.480 --> 00:05:04.480 They'll be like, do you remember the time that you had so and 77 00:05:04.519 --> 00:05:08.319 so in and they did this? And I'll be like, I really don't, 78 00:05:08.319 --> 00:05:11.560 because I think I've done so many radio shows that I don't hang on 79 00:05:11.720 --> 00:05:15.079 to them. You know, I don't really unless something really amazing happens. 80 00:05:16.439 --> 00:05:20.879 It's kind of like you know, each show is special and fun, but 81 00:05:21.000 --> 00:05:25.120 I let it go. I don't really hang on to it. Yeah, 82 00:05:25.399 --> 00:05:27.040 right, but let's do that. But we can do that again. Maybe 83 00:05:27.040 --> 00:05:29.560 you have for like concert tickets later in the week. Now, let's do 84 00:05:29.600 --> 00:05:31.720 it. Do we have Nicki Minaj's tickets tomorrow? We don't. We have 85 00:05:31.759 --> 00:05:34.360 another pair of tickets for something, but I'll have to figure out what that 86 00:05:34.399 --> 00:05:38.120 is because I'm not sure. Maybe we can do that tomorrow. So here's 87 00:05:38.360 --> 00:05:42.120 I mean a little something that you might not know. We plan the show 88 00:05:43.560 --> 00:05:46.040 when we get off the show at ten o'clock. When we're done with the 89 00:05:46.079 --> 00:05:47.759 show at ten, we go get something to eat, go to the bathroom, 90 00:05:47.800 --> 00:05:50.480 get something to drink, whatever, and then we beat back in the 91 00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:56.040 studio and we plan the show today. Because I'm in Phoenix, I got 92 00:05:56.040 --> 00:05:58.480 a plane to catch, so I won't be able to help plan the show 93 00:05:58.920 --> 00:06:01.839 until a little bit later. But there's something that if you hear it on 94 00:06:01.879 --> 00:06:04.720 the show on Tuesday, you'll be like, oh, they thought of that 95 00:06:04.800 --> 00:06:09.480 bit because of Becky during the Minnesota Goodbye. So what are the tickets we're 96 00:06:09.480 --> 00:06:12.560 giving away tomorrow? Do you remember? Yes, it's AJR tickets and it's 97 00:06:12.600 --> 00:06:15.639 two pairs for each time, so you give four tickets. And another bit 98 00:06:15.720 --> 00:06:20.480 we can do is the three what we call last time we did the three 99 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:27.040 letter game. Yeah letters, right, yeah, I think letter Look at 100 00:06:27.120 --> 00:06:30.839 us. We can't remember anything we do on the show. Okay, next 101 00:06:30.920 --> 00:06:35.879 one, my husband and I are celebrating our four year anniversary in June, 102 00:06:36.240 --> 00:06:40.519 and we were thinking about a week and away from our two young kiddos. 103 00:06:40.959 --> 00:06:45.240 Where is a weekend spot that you recommend in state. We're not into city 104 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:47.920 living and we love going up north, but we're not looking at the typical 105 00:06:48.000 --> 00:06:54.160 Duluth or normal Minnesota places. Thanks for your help. Happy Monday from Megan 106 00:06:54.319 --> 00:06:57.920 in Maple Lake, Minnesota. And she asked for a staff writer sticker, 107 00:06:58.360 --> 00:07:01.959 and I will send one out. Okay, I'm gonna throw out something that's 108 00:07:02.000 --> 00:07:08.360 a little bit weird. I like Redwood Falls and the casino out there. 109 00:07:08.360 --> 00:07:10.360 I think I don't know what it's called, but there's a casino about by 110 00:07:10.360 --> 00:07:14.720 Redwood Falls, and Redwood Falls is kind of beautiful and it's scenic and it's 111 00:07:14.720 --> 00:07:17.600 in the River Valley and there's a casino there, So I'll throw that out. 112 00:07:17.959 --> 00:07:23.319 I would also throw out pipestone Minnesota if you're into history and nature, 113 00:07:23.319 --> 00:07:27.639 because there's the Pipestone Monument and the natives still carved pipestone, which is like 114 00:07:27.680 --> 00:07:31.439 a really soft rock that they used to literally make pipes out of and only 115 00:07:31.560 --> 00:07:36.600 natives can carve and quarry and mine the pipestone, and it's just super cool. 116 00:07:36.639 --> 00:07:40.720 And there's a walk around with a bunch of waterfalls, and there's an 117 00:07:40.800 --> 00:07:44.319 old inn that I might still be open anyway, there's give me a spot 118 00:07:44.360 --> 00:07:47.360 Jenny to check out for a week in getaway. I mean, I just 119 00:07:47.439 --> 00:07:50.839 the north Shore is great. Wait did they say where they're where they're from 120 00:07:51.600 --> 00:07:55.199 Lake? Okay, I was gonna say the north Shore is great because that 121 00:07:55.240 --> 00:07:57.680 wouldn't be too far from you. Then I mean it's still a drive. 122 00:07:57.759 --> 00:08:01.240 But Crosby, Minnesota US fun too. Cayuna, I know, just I 123 00:08:01.240 --> 00:08:03.959 think they're opening their trails up this weekend. If you happen to be into 124 00:08:03.959 --> 00:08:07.279 mountain biking, I think those opened up either this past weekend or this coming 125 00:08:07.319 --> 00:08:11.879 weekend. And then, I mean, I don't know those are like the 126 00:08:11.879 --> 00:08:16.800 main spats. I don't really know a ton about southern Minnesota. Okay, 127 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:20.120 when Nonah's beautiful and has some bluffs that you can hide out. What Jenny, 128 00:08:20.279 --> 00:08:22.680 that's a really good one. I thought, Nona, Minnesota, because 129 00:08:22.680 --> 00:08:28.920 that is beautiful, Kay Dave, Not to beat a dead horse. But 130 00:08:30.000 --> 00:08:33.279 on the topic of death and putting together a will, I just did this 131 00:08:33.320 --> 00:08:37.240 with my dad and all it took was a consultation with an attorney about an 132 00:08:37.240 --> 00:08:39.120 hour to find out what his needs or wants are. He filled out a 133 00:08:39.440 --> 00:08:43.039 brief questionnaire ahead of time. The attorney had the will together and done the 134 00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:46.200 next day. How did this come up on the show? We were talking 135 00:08:46.200 --> 00:08:48.320 about wills on the show, Jenny, No, it was on the Minnesota 136 00:08:48.320 --> 00:08:52.360 Goodbye where someone was talking about or honestly, I can't remember anymore. What 137 00:08:52.399 --> 00:08:56.120 was on the show. Someone had talked about having an expert on about like 138 00:08:56.240 --> 00:09:01.080 death, but then another person had before that I think had email then saying 139 00:09:01.080 --> 00:09:03.840 that they work in the funeral industry and that they really enjoy what they're doing 140 00:09:03.879 --> 00:09:07.080 because it's a really hard time for families to go through and they like to 141 00:09:07.120 --> 00:09:11.960 be able to provide the support that they can during a really hard time. 142 00:09:13.799 --> 00:09:16.480 Okay, yeah, I mean, you got any thoughts on that? Let 143 00:09:16.519 --> 00:09:20.039 us know. Send that to Ryan Show at katiewidebeat dot com. I'll be 144 00:09:20.080 --> 00:09:24.519 honest with you, that is kind of all we've got for emails today. 145 00:09:24.519 --> 00:09:31.159 But I will bring up something that I thought was really awesome. What I 146 00:09:31.279 --> 00:09:39.600 read an article that talks about how so many of us we're not depressed, 147 00:09:39.080 --> 00:09:45.159 we don't have depression, but we feel our life is like just kind of 148 00:09:45.399 --> 00:09:50.000 blah and bland. And every day you get up and you go to work, 149 00:09:50.360 --> 00:09:54.440 and then you come home, and then you go to cub and you 150 00:09:54.559 --> 00:09:56.960 do your laundry, and then you watch TV and you go to bed, 151 00:09:58.320 --> 00:10:01.279 and then you get up and you go to work and you go and it's 152 00:10:01.320 --> 00:10:05.960 the same, and you feel just kind of down because you don't really feel 153 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:13.759 growth, and so they call it languishing, and that basically means you're not 154 00:10:13.919 --> 00:10:18.639 really looking forward to anything. You don't really feel like you're growing as a 155 00:10:18.759 --> 00:10:22.639 human. You just kind of feel stuck in a rut. And when I 156 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:28.000 thought about it, I have been feeling, for you know, off and 157 00:10:28.039 --> 00:10:31.799 on here and there, a little bit languishing. And by that I mean 158 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:35.279 I get up and I love doing the show. Don't get me wrong. 159 00:10:35.320 --> 00:10:39.240 I get up, I play wordle, I stop at Caribou, I come 160 00:10:39.279 --> 00:10:43.039 in and I do the show. We're done by about noon. I go 161 00:10:43.120 --> 00:10:48.639 to the gym. It's just it's the same. And so I was kind 162 00:10:48.679 --> 00:10:52.080 of languishing. And they say this is so common, and a lot of 163 00:10:52.080 --> 00:10:56.840 people think they're depressed. They're not depressed, you're just languishing. And the 164 00:10:56.879 --> 00:11:01.240 reason I bring it up is because I've known myself and also some friends of 165 00:11:01.279 --> 00:11:03.480 mine. I'm not going to name them, but they feel like they just 166 00:11:03.600 --> 00:11:07.799 do the same thing. They're not growing, they don't have anything really to 167 00:11:07.799 --> 00:11:11.200 look forward to. Maybe their job is not rewarding like they wish it was, 168 00:11:11.639 --> 00:11:16.600 and so they're languishing. So what is the cure for languishing? And 169 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:18.000 I did a screenshot on my phone. Do you want to hear it? 170 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:24.559 Yeah, okay, So there are five things that can help you feel better 171 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:28.639 and so you can flourish instead of languish. And I really like this one. 172 00:11:28.759 --> 00:11:33.799 Number one helping other people. And they were very specific. They said, 173 00:11:33.840 --> 00:11:37.480 it's not like buying somebody a cup of coffee or holding the door. 174 00:11:37.039 --> 00:11:43.240 It's like volunteering at like a Senior sitting or center, or at the Maine 175 00:11:43.240 --> 00:11:48.159 Society, or becoming a Girl Scout leader or volunteering, helping other people, 176 00:11:48.600 --> 00:11:52.720 going over your mom's house and helping her pack up so she can move, 177 00:11:52.840 --> 00:11:56.840 or whatever. It is helping other people because we can't really focus on ourselves 178 00:11:58.240 --> 00:12:01.840 if we're helping other people. On another one, learns something new. So 179 00:12:03.559 --> 00:12:07.919 if you if you maybe maybe it's learn an instrument or learn how to crochet 180 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:13.960 or code or play guitar or something. So learn something new. Another one 181 00:12:15.039 --> 00:12:18.600 is playing, So instead of sitting around moping, go out and play, 182 00:12:18.720 --> 00:12:22.080 or play your video games or play whatever. If you want to get your 183 00:12:22.120 --> 00:12:28.000 paddle board out this summer and go play, or get your bike out and 184 00:12:28.320 --> 00:12:31.759 you know, buy yourself a mountain bike, whatever, go play. Another 185 00:12:31.799 --> 00:12:37.039 one. I really like this one engaging in spiritual or religious practices. Okay, 186 00:12:37.080 --> 00:12:41.000 so maybe not you're like, I'm not really religious. Then find something 187 00:12:41.120 --> 00:12:45.000 spiritual. Okay, I mean there's there's you know, there's Christianity, there's 188 00:12:45.039 --> 00:12:48.480 all kinds of different things. If you're not into Christianity, or maybe you're 189 00:12:48.519 --> 00:12:52.399 burnt out on the religion that you grew up in, find something spiritual, 190 00:12:52.639 --> 00:12:56.440 spiritual. And then another one, a big one is socializing because these will 191 00:12:56.440 --> 00:13:00.639 help you get out of the rut. If you go spend time with other 192 00:13:00.679 --> 00:13:03.720 people, go to a trivia night, go play cribbage with a friend. 193 00:13:03.720 --> 00:13:07.639 I'm probably gonna go out at least once or twice this week and go to 194 00:13:07.679 --> 00:13:09.440 a trivia night, or go play cribbage with a friend, because I'm getting 195 00:13:09.559 --> 00:13:15.759 real tired of sitting around the house at night. And so I'll tell SU's 196 00:13:15.799 --> 00:13:16.600 gonna be like, you know what, You're gonna go work at your store, 197 00:13:18.000 --> 00:13:20.960 I'm gonna go play cribbage, or I'm gonna go to trivia night. 198 00:13:20.120 --> 00:13:24.840 So there are five different things you missed them. They are helping other people 199 00:13:26.320 --> 00:13:33.200 learn something new, playing the engage in spiritual or religious practices, and socializing. 200 00:13:33.279 --> 00:13:37.120 Do you do all those, Jenny, you're not particularly religious, yeah, 201 00:13:37.159 --> 00:13:39.600 I know, besides the religious one. Yeah, for the most part. 202 00:13:39.639 --> 00:13:41.600 I think my main thing a lot like that. I like to do 203 00:13:41.639 --> 00:13:46.240 when i'm feeling kind of in that rut or something is either like journal or 204 00:13:46.440 --> 00:13:50.279 cook or mostly bake because cooking's not that fun for me. Baking though, 205 00:13:50.440 --> 00:13:54.279 is like kind of a creative outlet for me. So I just feel like 206 00:13:54.639 --> 00:13:58.000 anytime I do something creative, it always changes my mental state. You know, 207 00:14:00.120 --> 00:14:01.679 totally see that because I know you love to cook, because I saw 208 00:14:01.720 --> 00:14:07.279 your like of whatever peanut butter muffins or whatever this weekend. Yeah, that 209 00:14:07.399 --> 00:14:09.679 is one of your things you love to do that. I made a croc 210 00:14:09.759 --> 00:14:13.720 pot meal for Chase and Maddie and Susan and I last night, or I 211 00:14:13.720 --> 00:14:16.320 made it yesterday, and it was actually really good. It was like cheeseburger 212 00:14:16.440 --> 00:14:20.639 cast role. Yeah, they call it a cast role here, but we 213 00:14:20.759 --> 00:14:24.480 call it and it was it was so easy and it was so good, 214 00:14:26.120 --> 00:14:28.399 and I just felt really good about let me tell you, I got to 215 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:33.559 help Chase and Mattie all weekend and it really did just feel good to feel 216 00:14:33.799 --> 00:14:37.440 needed. And I helped with the baby, and I went shopping and I 217 00:14:37.519 --> 00:14:41.639 paid for a couple of things because they're a young couple without a lot of 218 00:14:41.639 --> 00:14:45.519 money, and so we hung shelving and we just, you know, I 219 00:14:45.519 --> 00:14:50.600 felt really good about helping somebody. So that put me in a good mood. 220 00:14:50.799 --> 00:14:54.840 Yeah. It always, I was gonna say, helping people out always 221 00:14:54.840 --> 00:14:58.559 feels good, like, and you don't really realize that because sometimes you're like, 222 00:14:58.759 --> 00:15:01.120 ugh, I don't want to do It's like I don't want to come 223 00:15:01.200 --> 00:15:03.240 help you move this college. But then you go do it, and you're 224 00:15:03.279 --> 00:15:05.840 like, Okay, it wasn't bad. You think some people are just naturally 225 00:15:05.879 --> 00:15:09.799 that way they want to help other people. And then there are people who 226 00:15:09.200 --> 00:15:13.320 expect help all the time, but it never occurs to them to help other 227 00:15:13.480 --> 00:15:16.399 people. Yes, I absolutely could think of people on both sides of the 228 00:15:16.440 --> 00:15:20.120 spectrum on that one. In my life, I'll tell you a quick story, 229 00:15:20.120 --> 00:15:24.039 we'll wrap it up. My dad lived into his eighties. He was 230 00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:26.480 eighty eight years old when he died, and he used to go to this 231 00:15:26.559 --> 00:15:31.799 country music thing every Friday night at the community center, which was like the 232 00:15:31.919 --> 00:15:35.600 VFW or whatever, and they he would get there early and set up the 233 00:15:35.679 --> 00:15:39.600 chairs, and he would stay late afterward and he'd help put away the chairs. 234 00:15:39.879 --> 00:15:43.240 And I would look at him and he'd be like, Dad, you're 235 00:15:43.360 --> 00:15:48.960 eighty seven years old. You're carrying around a couple of folding chairs. Meantime, 236 00:15:50.480 --> 00:15:54.039 there are guys that are thirty years old stand around drinking coffee, chit 237 00:15:54.159 --> 00:15:58.639 chatting with other people that aren't helping at all. And I think, honestly, 238 00:15:58.759 --> 00:16:03.679 to some people, it's such a natural to jump in and help, 239 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:07.840 and with some people it is nothing that ever occurs to them. They don't. 240 00:16:07.879 --> 00:16:11.559 It doesn't even occur to them. We used to have somebody in our 241 00:16:11.559 --> 00:16:15.159 Scout troop and they were such a nice person, but they would show up 242 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:19.679 at Scout events. Remember one time I was making pancakes and Susan was making 243 00:16:19.720 --> 00:16:23.799 bacon, and we're like cleaning and cooking in this and they sat there and 244 00:16:23.879 --> 00:16:29.399 eating and chatting to us, but they never volunteered to like help, can 245 00:16:29.440 --> 00:16:32.000 I help you do anything? Do need any help with anything? And they 246 00:16:32.000 --> 00:16:34.440 would do that consistently, and there were such nice people. And I told 247 00:16:34.440 --> 00:16:37.159 Susan, I said, I just don't think it ever occurs to them to 248 00:16:37.279 --> 00:16:41.679 help other people. They just don't. So I feel like I will admit 249 00:16:41.720 --> 00:16:45.960 that it took me probably a little bit longer in life to be that more 250 00:16:45.960 --> 00:16:51.200 helpful person because my older sister always was like that. And then it's like 251 00:16:51.240 --> 00:16:52.840 I was kind of like the lazy one at holidays that never really wanted to 252 00:16:52.840 --> 00:16:56.080 help with the dishes or whatever it was. But now I always offered a 253 00:16:56.120 --> 00:16:59.879 help, but it definitely took me a little bit longer, whereas my older 254 00:17:00.039 --> 00:17:03.119 sister was just always on top of that. So funny, something naturally curs 255 00:17:03.480 --> 00:17:06.759 a little tip you remind me is like, if you really want to suck 256 00:17:06.839 --> 00:17:11.640 up to the in laws, help wash the dishes when you go over there. 257 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:12.279 So in other words, like hey, can I help you put the 258 00:17:12.359 --> 00:17:15.880 dishes away? Can I help you with anything? Because mom or dad or 259 00:17:15.880 --> 00:17:19.839 whoever's doing the majority of the cooking or cleaning, They're like, yeah, 260 00:17:21.119 --> 00:17:22.519 they might go no, I got this, go sit down, but I 261 00:17:22.519 --> 00:17:26.400 think they'll really be impressed. Susan used to suck up to my mom and 262 00:17:26.480 --> 00:17:29.640 dad all the time with that, Oh I'll make breakfast. They're like, 263 00:17:29.680 --> 00:17:33.559 oh, Susan's so nice. I'm like, yes, she's putting on an 264 00:17:33.559 --> 00:17:36.279 app I mean she is nice. Sorry, that's it for the Minnesota goodbye. 265 00:17:36.400 --> 00:17:41.160 Send your emails to Ryan's show at KADIWB dot com and I'll be back 266 00:17:41.200 --> 00:17:45.160 in the studio tomorrow so the audio quality will be better. Yes, and 267 00:17:45.240 --> 00:17:47.559 have a great day and we'll see you then.