Let's get started with the Minnesota Goodbye and see what we have. Hello Minnesota
Goodbye. First, to address the subject line, I love your podcast,
their subject line is I hate the Minnesota Goodbye. Not the podcast, but
the real Minnesota Goodbye. They say, I'm starting to get frustrated with the
Minnesota goodbye and the Midwest culture. For context, I attend college, which
is almost ninety nine percent the student body is either from Minnesota or Wisconsin,
which of course leads to a very concentrated Midwest culture. And with the combination
of my friends and I liveing on campus and spending most of our time outside
of class together, we have Minnesota goodbyes multiple times every day. Now you're
familiar with it, but just in case you're not, the Minnesota Goodbye is
where you keep saying goodbye for fifteen minutes. And that's how this show got
started. I think Fallon came up with a name like, Okay, you
guys have already said goodbye on the radio. Now you're doing more. So
when you do a Minnesota goodbye, you say goodbye at the front door,
or then you walk out the front door, you say goodbye again. You're
talking. They follow to your fucking car, and then they say goodbye again
and it goes on forever. So she goes on to sayd might be trying
to leave our student union. But then one of my friends and I will
stay and talk until it closes, then drop a friend off of their dorm,
but continue to talk at the door for another thirty minutes. Then we
drop the next friend off and the same thing happens. I can't take it
anymore. I love hanging out with my friends, but I think I'm gonna
start losing it. I got an eight am class most days and a lot
of homework. I don't have time for a Minnesota goodbye multiple times a day.
But then I feel rude leaving with an abrupt departure, or that I'm
missing out on memories with my friends. So many funny jokes and things have
happened when I cut off my Minnesota goodbye early, and I get fomo from
it. Anyway, I'm wondering if you or other people listening experience this or
have other Minnesota goodbye cultural things that drive Minnesota cultural things that drive you crazy.
Dart Lick staff writer Cassie Jenny your comment on this, I am the
guilty person of the Minnesota can buy a lot of times. I've gotten better
at it over the years, so I feel like, I don't know.
I don't drag it out as long, but I am the person that makes
sure I say goodbye to everyone. I don't irish goodbye ever, So I
don't know. I can go either way. I don't. I'm not mad
at you if you don't like say goodbye to me, but yeah, I
mean my first response was going to be like, well just leave, Just
become that person Cassandra that you know, you got to respect your time.
So sometimes you have to say goodbye. And we all know somebody who they
don't know when to stop talking. They just love to talk, and it's
like, man, I've got to be somewhere. We have people in our
building that they're lovely people, but they just don't have a concept of I
don't have all day to talk, so you really literally have to kind of
be rude and go I got to get back to work. There are a
couple of people at stationed in again, they're wonderful people, and I wish
I was more social like them. But you'll turn to kind of walk away,
and you're kind of backing away from them as they're still talking, as
if to say I got to go, and they will literally follow you as
you're backing away from the conversation. Those people like literally shock me. I'm
like, how do you how do you not know I'm walking ten feet away
from you? Yeah, But at the same time I get her think about,
you know what I'm gonna miss out on, like memories and jokes and
funny stories because I'm gonna cut off the Minnesota goodbye. So what is your
advice on this one? Do you may be selective? Do you be rude
and say I gotta go? Or do you just suck it up and say,
you know what, I will never regret having this conversation. Let us
know. Send an email to Ryan Show at katiewb dot com. Next one,
Becky says, I don't know why I randomly thought about this today,
but I wanted to remind you guys of a fun way you gave away tickets.
I thought it was super entertaining and would love to hear it done again.
A few years ago. You're going to wait tickets for something. You
had people call in and ask you really personal, challenging questions. If you
felt comfortable enough to answer the question. They didn't win the tickets, but
if you refuse to answer, they won. I think the only thing that
was off limits was asking about salaries, since it was an obvious win.
But other than that, there were no rules. I remember loving this bit,
surprised by some of the ones you guys actually answered. Would love for
you to do that again. That's from Becky. We did this the other
day. It was ask us anything, and it wasn't for concert tickets.
It was just a matter of like, what did people ask us? Jenny?
So remember we Okay? I was asked some real estate questions because I
date a real like answers the real estate agent. You. Oh gosh,
my brain's not thinking right now. I can't remember. That's kind of how
I am with the show. People will say do you I remember this?
And a lot of the time I do, but so many times I don't.
They'll be like, do you remember the time that you had so and
so in and they did this? And I'll be like, I really don't,
because I think I've done so many radio shows that I don't hang on
to them. You know, I don't really unless something really amazing happens.
It's kind of like you know, each show is special and fun, but
I let it go. I don't really hang on to it. Yeah,
right, but let's do that. But we can do that again. Maybe
you have for like concert tickets later in the week. Now, let's do
it. Do we have Nicki Minaj's tickets tomorrow? We don't. We have
another pair of tickets for something, but I'll have to figure out what that
is because I'm not sure. Maybe we can do that tomorrow. So here's
I mean a little something that you might not know. We plan the show
when we get off the show at ten o'clock. When we're done with the
show at ten, we go get something to eat, go to the bathroom,
get something to drink, whatever, and then we beat back in the
studio and we plan the show today. Because I'm in Phoenix, I got
a plane to catch, so I won't be able to help plan the show
until a little bit later. But there's something that if you hear it on
the show on Tuesday, you'll be like, oh, they thought of that
bit because of Becky during the Minnesota Goodbye. So what are the tickets we're
giving away tomorrow? Do you remember? Yes, it's AJR tickets and it's
two pairs for each time, so you give four tickets. And another bit
we can do is the three what we call last time we did the three
letter game. Yeah letters, right, yeah, I think letter Look at
us. We can't remember anything we do on the show. Okay, next
one, my husband and I are celebrating our four year anniversary in June,
and we were thinking about a week and away from our two young kiddos.
Where is a weekend spot that you recommend in state. We're not into city
living and we love going up north, but we're not looking at the typical
Duluth or normal Minnesota places. Thanks for your help. Happy Monday from Megan
in Maple Lake, Minnesota. And she asked for a staff writer sticker,
and I will send one out. Okay, I'm gonna throw out something that's
a little bit weird. I like Redwood Falls and the casino out there.
I think I don't know what it's called, but there's a casino about by
Redwood Falls, and Redwood Falls is kind of beautiful and it's scenic and it's
in the River Valley and there's a casino there, So I'll throw that out.
I would also throw out pipestone Minnesota if you're into history and nature,
because there's the Pipestone Monument and the natives still carved pipestone, which is like
a really soft rock that they used to literally make pipes out of and only
natives can carve and quarry and mine the pipestone, and it's just super cool.
And there's a walk around with a bunch of waterfalls, and there's an
old inn that I might still be open anyway, there's give me a spot
Jenny to check out for a week in getaway. I mean, I just
the north Shore is great. Wait did they say where they're where they're from
Lake? Okay, I was gonna say the north Shore is great because that
wouldn't be too far from you. Then I mean it's still a drive.
But Crosby, Minnesota US fun too. Cayuna, I know, just I
think they're opening their trails up this weekend. If you happen to be into
mountain biking, I think those opened up either this past weekend or this coming
weekend. And then, I mean, I don't know those are like the
main spats. I don't really know a ton about southern Minnesota. Okay,
when Nonah's beautiful and has some bluffs that you can hide out. What Jenny,
that's a really good one. I thought, Nona, Minnesota, because
that is beautiful, Kay Dave, Not to beat a dead horse. But
on the topic of death and putting together a will, I just did this
with my dad and all it took was a consultation with an attorney about an
hour to find out what his needs or wants are. He filled out a
brief questionnaire ahead of time. The attorney had the will together and done the
next day. How did this come up on the show? We were talking
about wills on the show, Jenny, No, it was on the Minnesota
Goodbye where someone was talking about or honestly, I can't remember anymore. What
was on the show. Someone had talked about having an expert on about like
death, but then another person had before that I think had email then saying
that they work in the funeral industry and that they really enjoy what they're doing
because it's a really hard time for families to go through and they like to
be able to provide the support that they can during a really hard time.
Okay, yeah, I mean, you got any thoughts on that? Let
us know. Send that to Ryan Show at katiewidebeat dot com. I'll be
honest with you, that is kind of all we've got for emails today.
But I will bring up something that I thought was really awesome. What I
read an article that talks about how so many of us we're not depressed,
we don't have depression, but we feel our life is like just kind of
blah and bland. And every day you get up and you go to work,
and then you come home, and then you go to cub and you
do your laundry, and then you watch TV and you go to bed,
and then you get up and you go to work and you go and it's
the same, and you feel just kind of down because you don't really feel
growth, and so they call it languishing, and that basically means you're not
really looking forward to anything. You don't really feel like you're growing as a
human. You just kind of feel stuck in a rut. And when I
thought about it, I have been feeling, for you know, off and
on here and there, a little bit languishing. And by that I mean
I get up and I love doing the show. Don't get me wrong.
I get up, I play wordle, I stop at Caribou, I come
in and I do the show. We're done by about noon. I go
to the gym. It's just it's the same. And so I was kind
of languishing. And they say this is so common, and a lot of
people think they're depressed. They're not depressed, you're just languishing. And the
reason I bring it up is because I've known myself and also some friends of
mine. I'm not going to name them, but they feel like they just
do the same thing. They're not growing, they don't have anything really to
look forward to. Maybe their job is not rewarding like they wish it was,
and so they're languishing. So what is the cure for languishing? And
I did a screenshot on my phone. Do you want to hear it?
Yeah, okay, So there are five things that can help you feel better
and so you can flourish instead of languish. And I really like this one.
Number one helping other people. And they were very specific. They said,
it's not like buying somebody a cup of coffee or holding the door.
It's like volunteering at like a Senior sitting or center, or at the Maine
Society, or becoming a Girl Scout leader or volunteering, helping other people,
going over your mom's house and helping her pack up so she can move,
or whatever. It is helping other people because we can't really focus on ourselves
if we're helping other people. On another one, learns something new. So
if you if you maybe maybe it's learn an instrument or learn how to crochet
or code or play guitar or something. So learn something new. Another one
is playing, So instead of sitting around moping, go out and play,
or play your video games or play whatever. If you want to get your
paddle board out this summer and go play, or get your bike out and
you know, buy yourself a mountain bike, whatever, go play. Another
one. I really like this one engaging in spiritual or religious practices. Okay,
so maybe not you're like, I'm not really religious. Then find something
spiritual. Okay, I mean there's there's you know, there's Christianity, there's
all kinds of different things. If you're not into Christianity, or maybe you're
burnt out on the religion that you grew up in, find something spiritual,
spiritual. And then another one, a big one is socializing because these will
help you get out of the rut. If you go spend time with other
people, go to a trivia night, go play cribbage with a friend.
I'm probably gonna go out at least once or twice this week and go to
a trivia night, or go play cribbage with a friend, because I'm getting
real tired of sitting around the house at night. And so I'll tell SU's
gonna be like, you know what, You're gonna go work at your store,
I'm gonna go play cribbage, or I'm gonna go to trivia night.
So there are five different things you missed them. They are helping other people
learn something new, playing the engage in spiritual or religious practices, and socializing.
Do you do all those, Jenny, you're not particularly religious, yeah,
I know, besides the religious one. Yeah, for the most part.
I think my main thing a lot like that. I like to do
when i'm feeling kind of in that rut or something is either like journal or
cook or mostly bake because cooking's not that fun for me. Baking though,
is like kind of a creative outlet for me. So I just feel like
anytime I do something creative, it always changes my mental state. You know,
totally see that because I know you love to cook, because I saw
your like of whatever peanut butter muffins or whatever this weekend. Yeah, that
is one of your things you love to do that. I made a croc
pot meal for Chase and Maddie and Susan and I last night, or I
made it yesterday, and it was actually really good. It was like cheeseburger
cast role. Yeah, they call it a cast role here, but we
call it and it was it was so easy and it was so good,
and I just felt really good about let me tell you, I got to
help Chase and Mattie all weekend and it really did just feel good to feel
needed. And I helped with the baby, and I went shopping and I
paid for a couple of things because they're a young couple without a lot of
money, and so we hung shelving and we just, you know, I
felt really good about helping somebody. So that put me in a good mood.
Yeah. It always, I was gonna say, helping people out always
feels good, like, and you don't really realize that because sometimes you're like,
ugh, I don't want to do It's like I don't want to come
help you move this college. But then you go do it, and you're
like, Okay, it wasn't bad. You think some people are just naturally
that way they want to help other people. And then there are people who
expect help all the time, but it never occurs to them to help other
people. Yes, I absolutely could think of people on both sides of the
spectrum on that one. In my life, I'll tell you a quick story,
we'll wrap it up. My dad lived into his eighties. He was
eighty eight years old when he died, and he used to go to this
country music thing every Friday night at the community center, which was like the
VFW or whatever, and they he would get there early and set up the
chairs, and he would stay late afterward and he'd help put away the chairs.
And I would look at him and he'd be like, Dad, you're
eighty seven years old. You're carrying around a couple of folding chairs. Meantime,
there are guys that are thirty years old stand around drinking coffee, chit
chatting with other people that aren't helping at all. And I think, honestly,
to some people, it's such a natural to jump in and help,
and with some people it is nothing that ever occurs to them. They don't.
It doesn't even occur to them. We used to have somebody in our
Scout troop and they were such a nice person, but they would show up
at Scout events. Remember one time I was making pancakes and Susan was making
bacon, and we're like cleaning and cooking in this and they sat there and
eating and chatting to us, but they never volunteered to like help, can
I help you do anything? Do need any help with anything? And they
would do that consistently, and there were such nice people. And I told
Susan, I said, I just don't think it ever occurs to them to
help other people. They just don't. So I feel like I will admit
that it took me probably a little bit longer in life to be that more
helpful person because my older sister always was like that. And then it's like
I was kind of like the lazy one at holidays that never really wanted to
help with the dishes or whatever it was. But now I always offered a
help, but it definitely took me a little bit longer, whereas my older
sister was just always on top of that. So funny, something naturally curs
a little tip you remind me is like, if you really want to suck
up to the in laws, help wash the dishes when you go over there.
So in other words, like hey, can I help you put the
dishes away? Can I help you with anything? Because mom or dad or
whoever's doing the majority of the cooking or cleaning, They're like, yeah,
they might go no, I got this, go sit down, but I
think they'll really be impressed. Susan used to suck up to my mom and
dad all the time with that, Oh I'll make breakfast. They're like,
oh, Susan's so nice. I'm like, yes, she's putting on an
app I mean she is nice. Sorry, that's it for the Minnesota goodbye.
Send your emails to Ryan's show at KADIWB dot com and I'll be back
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have a great day and we'll see you then.