WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.480 --> 00:00:07.839 Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you. Yes, 2 00:00:07.960 --> 00:00:16.160 you to think about what doesn't kill you make you stronger. We all heard 3 00:00:16.280 --> 00:00:30.280 this cliche, right, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger? Not necessarily 4 00:00:30.320 --> 00:00:36.920 true. It's not necessarily true. It depends on the individual. And I 5 00:00:36.960 --> 00:00:46.960 will tell you that most people that statement does not apply. It does not 6 00:00:47.200 --> 00:00:58.840 apply to most people because the majority are of unhealed hearts and minds. So 7 00:01:02.320 --> 00:01:15.840 those of unhealed hearts and minds cannot understand that because instead of allowing things you 8 00:01:15.920 --> 00:01:22.760 go through to make you stronger, they allow them to do just the opposite, 9 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:34.079 break them, I mean break them down. I believe our trials and 10 00:01:34.159 --> 00:01:40.480 tribulations are storms, whatever you classify them as. I believe that they come 11 00:01:40.560 --> 00:01:45.000 to make us, not break us. And I've done an episode on that 12 00:01:45.200 --> 00:01:56.519 before. But again, most people do not understand that because they are individuals 13 00:01:56.519 --> 00:02:05.120 who take in the negativity from every experience and allow that negativity to be what 14 00:02:05.359 --> 00:02:10.680 dictates how they think, feel, an act because of the mindset that they 15 00:02:10.719 --> 00:02:22.759 have. You cannot become stronger if you don't learn from whatever your experience was, 16 00:02:23.159 --> 00:02:28.360 or your storm that you went through. If you don't learn from it, 17 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:38.159 there's no way you can become a stronger person because you're still thinking the 18 00:02:38.240 --> 00:02:46.280 same way. You didn't allow yourself to learn from that lesson. Because all 19 00:02:46.479 --> 00:02:53.599 things, all of the tribes and tribulations, there's a lesson to be learned. 20 00:02:55.479 --> 00:03:04.039 But people are so focused on negativity they can't see the lesson. That's 21 00:03:04.080 --> 00:03:12.080 why they don't learn from it. So what doesn't kill you make you stronger 22 00:03:12.840 --> 00:03:22.919 is not for most the majority, it's not. It is not, And 23 00:03:23.800 --> 00:03:28.719 that is not to put people down or anything like that. I'm just telling 24 00:03:28.719 --> 00:03:35.439 you the way it is. We live in a world full of millions of 25 00:03:36.039 --> 00:03:40.360 unhealed, hurt people. You see them every day on your job. We 26 00:03:40.479 --> 00:03:46.240 see them every day in the news. We see them every day on social 27 00:03:46.280 --> 00:03:52.840 media, whether they are viewers or come tent makers, we see it. 28 00:03:53.439 --> 00:04:02.159 We see it. And people from all walks of life making the highest money 29 00:04:02.199 --> 00:04:12.479 you can make to making no money at all, we see it because the 30 00:04:12.520 --> 00:04:23.439 world is full of unhealed hearts and minds. When you do not deal with 31 00:04:23.759 --> 00:04:28.199 what ails you, when you don't deal with that, you can heal from 32 00:04:28.240 --> 00:04:34.040 it. There's no way. Therefore, every situation you find yourself in, 33 00:04:35.000 --> 00:04:42.120 it drags you down more and more because you don't learn from it. And 34 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:46.000 if it does not drag you down, if it don't break you, you 35 00:04:46.120 --> 00:04:57.680 remain the same because you still full of negativity and you cannot grow when you're 36 00:04:57.720 --> 00:05:01.560 like that. You just can't. You can not prosper mind, body, 37 00:05:01.600 --> 00:05:10.920 and soul when you remain the same. And unfortunately, this is what a 38 00:05:11.000 --> 00:05:18.839 lot of people, this is what a lot of people go through. They're 39 00:05:18.920 --> 00:05:31.720 battling every single day. They're struggling every single day. People are so close 40 00:05:31.800 --> 00:05:44.959 to suicide or homicide every single day because of their mindsets. They're not learning, 41 00:05:45.000 --> 00:05:49.839 they're not growing mentally, They're remaining the same with the same negative feelings, 42 00:05:49.879 --> 00:05:58.759 the same negative thoughts, the same negative behaviors, going through things, 43 00:05:59.199 --> 00:06:06.040 perceiving them wrong, going through things, holding onto the negativity, allowing it 44 00:06:06.079 --> 00:06:17.279 to affect every aspect of their lives. That is why people don't become stronger, 45 00:06:17.519 --> 00:06:25.959 they don't grow, because what they go through it does kill them. 46 00:06:26.240 --> 00:06:33.959 It don't kill them like physically dead, but it kills them mentally. It 47 00:06:34.079 --> 00:06:45.879 kills them physically in their bodies physical not dead physically, but physically dead in 48 00:06:45.959 --> 00:06:50.959 their bodies. Because if your mindset is not conducive to healthy. You're you're 49 00:06:50.959 --> 00:06:59.040 gonna have elements in your body. Your soul isn't at peace. And this 50 00:06:59.120 --> 00:07:08.639 is what a lie out of people are enduring because they hold onto negativity for 51 00:07:08.839 --> 00:07:12.959 dear life as if there's a benefit of it. Look at your life, 52 00:07:15.040 --> 00:07:19.600 I'm talking to you. Look at your life. What are you going through 53 00:07:19.680 --> 00:07:29.240 right now? Have you tried to make your life better? Because anybody can 54 00:07:29.680 --> 00:07:33.000 who wants to. You just have to try, You have to want it. 55 00:07:35.959 --> 00:07:43.959 If you find yourself in the same place mentally, you're not going nowhere. 56 00:07:44.199 --> 00:07:53.959 You're only spinning your wheels. And again, that is why people go 57 00:07:54.120 --> 00:08:00.839 through things and they don't become stronger because it breaks them. It keeps people 58 00:08:01.079 --> 00:08:11.519 stagnant in the same place because, for whatever reason, most people refuse to 59 00:08:11.879 --> 00:08:18.079 deal with self. They neglect self for everything and everyone else. How do 60 00:08:18.199 --> 00:08:24.199 you think you're gonna function in a relationship with anyone, whether it's a loved 61 00:08:24.319 --> 00:08:31.160 relationship with a significant other or with your children, your parents, your siblings, 62 00:08:31.199 --> 00:08:35.360 your friends, your coworkers, your bosses. How do you think you're 63 00:08:35.399 --> 00:08:43.399 gonna function? As I've always said, You're gonna always be the giver or 64 00:08:43.440 --> 00:08:52.320 the taker. Sometimes you're both, because people are great manipulators. Sometimes you're 65 00:08:52.360 --> 00:09:01.960 both. You're that giver and you're that taker. But most times it's either 66 00:09:01.240 --> 00:09:11.240 or. We see it every single day, every single day of our lives. 67 00:09:11.519 --> 00:09:22.639 We see it because people are not becoming stronger. They're not they're not 68 00:09:22.759 --> 00:09:33.600 becoming better. They're remaining the same. And as you go through storms, 69 00:09:33.399 --> 00:09:39.240 as you go through trials and tribulations, it becomes harder and harder and harder 70 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:48.080 and harder because you're just weighing yourself down with everything from the last one and 71 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:54.279 the one before that, in all of the unresolved that was already inside of 72 00:09:54.320 --> 00:10:05.639 you. That's why people don't become stronger. But the really crazy part about 73 00:10:05.679 --> 00:10:13.000 it is people don't realize they are so much stronger than they think they are 74 00:10:13.279 --> 00:10:20.600 because you always you always come out, You always come out of your storm, 75 00:10:20.639 --> 00:10:28.039 you always come out, So you're always stronger than what you think you 76 00:10:28.080 --> 00:10:35.519 are. You just don't believe it. Now. I want to say this, 77 00:10:37.000 --> 00:10:46.000 You may come out, but your mindset is the same. So coming 78 00:10:46.039 --> 00:10:56.240 out is great, but it's not great to remain the same. When you 79 00:10:56.320 --> 00:11:01.679 become stronger, you become better. But a lot of people just remain the 80 00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:11.399 same because they never healed from what ails them. And as I said, 81 00:11:11.480 --> 00:11:18.519 we see the product. We've seen it so many times, we've seen it 82 00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:33.600 every day. We see it every day every day. Because people are choosing 83 00:11:33.639 --> 00:11:39.759 to remain the same. They're not healing from their pains of yesteryear. They're 84 00:11:39.799 --> 00:11:46.480 not healing because they're not dealing with them. And again, that's why it's 85 00:11:46.600 --> 00:11:52.440 so hard when people have storms in their lives. It's so difficult because of 86 00:11:52.600 --> 00:12:03.360 what's already there. Your mindset, how you thinking things. It is so 87 00:12:03.759 --> 00:12:11.960 important. It's so important because when storms and tribulations and trials come in your 88 00:12:13.039 --> 00:12:18.600 life, how you go into the storm, it's going to dictate how you 89 00:12:20.360 --> 00:12:28.240 go through it. Most people go through it terribly. It brings them down, 90 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:35.080 and for many it breaks them. It breaks them completely because of the 91 00:12:35.159 --> 00:12:41.519 mindset they already had going into it. No one can change your life other 92 00:12:41.559 --> 00:12:50.919 than you. Some of you are the same. You've been on medication for 93 00:12:50.120 --> 00:12:56.799 anxiety depression by Polish schizophrenic, I mean all types of things for years and 94 00:12:58.039 --> 00:13:05.720 years and years and years. Because it's habitual. Now it's habitual. You 95 00:13:05.519 --> 00:13:13.679 are doing nothing to get yourselves off of the medication. You're just taking it 96 00:13:13.759 --> 00:13:16.720 every day, every day, every day, every day. How are you 97 00:13:16.080 --> 00:13:24.399 getting better if you're not doing anything different. The medicine definitely is not going 98 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:31.879 to change what's inside of you. It can alter your mind, it can 99 00:13:31.919 --> 00:13:35.840 alter your body, harm your body in a way. It can alter you 100 00:13:37.320 --> 00:13:43.919 for a moment, keeps you from thinking, keeps you from having nightmares, 101 00:13:45.200 --> 00:13:52.759 help you to sleep, or whatever. But when it settles down, you 102 00:13:52.960 --> 00:13:58.519 right in the place you were before you took the medication. And I'm not 103 00:13:58.639 --> 00:14:05.279 knocked in medication at all. I'm not knocking it. But what I'm saying 104 00:14:05.519 --> 00:14:11.799 is, if you're not becoming better, something else needs to be done. 105 00:14:13.200 --> 00:14:18.440 Some people still medication for years and years and you and all it's doing is 106 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:26.200 destroying your body and your mind. But it's not helping you to become a 107 00:14:26.240 --> 00:14:33.679 better you because you have to do the work. The medication is not going 108 00:14:33.720 --> 00:14:45.600 to do that. It's just not. So people go through life and they 109 00:14:45.679 --> 00:14:58.200 go through many different situations, and they struggle so hard because of the mindsets 110 00:14:58.240 --> 00:15:11.600 they have. They can't believe, in no shape form of fashion, that 111 00:15:11.720 --> 00:15:20.320 things are gonna get better. Why would you, why would you even subject 112 00:15:20.399 --> 00:15:28.480 yourself to that frame of mind, that thought process, because that's straight negativity. 113 00:15:28.120 --> 00:15:35.159 If you don't think things are gonna get better, they're not. They're 114 00:15:35.200 --> 00:15:41.279 not. When you do nothing to change your situation, of course it's not 115 00:15:41.320 --> 00:15:46.559 going to get better because you're doing the same things. You have to do 116 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:52.080 something different. If you want something different, you have to do something different, 117 00:15:54.519 --> 00:16:00.440 no ends, ifs or buts about it. You must do something different. 118 00:16:03.840 --> 00:16:10.080 That's why people struggle so desperately. People are teeter tarting, teeter tarttering. 119 00:16:11.240 --> 00:16:17.039 I probably didn't say it right. On the edge is what I mean. 120 00:16:18.879 --> 00:16:27.679 On the edge of suicide every day, fleeting suicidal thoughts every day, 121 00:16:29.120 --> 00:16:36.639 struggling, trying to stay sane because you're remaining in the same place mentally, 122 00:16:37.720 --> 00:16:45.960 you're not doing anything to change that maladaptive behaviors, that thought process. You're 123 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:51.039 not doing anything to change it. So you're remaining the same and you're struggling 124 00:16:51.200 --> 00:16:59.840 every day because you're not making a change in your own life. Most people 125 00:16:59.840 --> 00:17:10.200 are looking for everyone else to change other than self. Some of you are 126 00:17:10.279 --> 00:17:17.160 even looking at other people to change you. They can't do it. A 127 00:17:17.200 --> 00:17:25.759 person can't love you enough to change you. That's why lives are remaining the 128 00:17:25.799 --> 00:17:30.200 same. You have to do it for yourself. You can take medication all 129 00:17:30.319 --> 00:17:36.759 you want. It's not gonna change what's inside of you until you deal with 130 00:17:36.799 --> 00:17:41.319 it. You face it, you deal with it, You accept it is 131 00:17:41.359 --> 00:17:47.720 what it is, It did happen. It's over. Stop giving power to 132 00:17:47.799 --> 00:17:53.119 those memories of it. Let things go, because your past don't have you 133 00:17:53.200 --> 00:18:00.079 in a grip. You have your past in a grip mentally. The memory 134 00:18:00.799 --> 00:18:04.000 you're holding onto it, it don't have you. You're holding onto it. 135 00:18:07.319 --> 00:18:12.240 What you went through don't dictate what you will go through unless you allow it 136 00:18:12.319 --> 00:18:25.720 to. Your past is not your present unless you make it so mentally, 137 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:34.240 because that's where it's all. Let some of you have been angry for as 138 00:18:34.279 --> 00:18:41.400 long as you can remember, mad, angry, full of insecurities. Can't 139 00:18:41.480 --> 00:18:48.559 love anybody because you find every fault in them. But the whole time is 140 00:18:48.599 --> 00:18:59.920 you so many negative things that interfere in people lives, that inhibits their growth, 141 00:19:00.440 --> 00:19:11.359 But people do it to themselves. Every storm you go through, you 142 00:19:11.519 --> 00:19:17.559 go through, but you don't grow. You don't grow, you remain the 143 00:19:17.599 --> 00:19:26.880 same. You come out of it still mad, still suicidal, homicidal, 144 00:19:27.880 --> 00:19:33.839 madder than you were before you went in it mad at the world. When 145 00:19:34.160 --> 00:19:41.079 you have to do inside work in order for the outside to work properly, 146 00:19:42.039 --> 00:19:47.759 you gotta deal with yourself. That's where all of the pain is within you, 147 00:19:48.599 --> 00:19:52.279 not the other person. Most times they're dealing with their own stuff, 148 00:19:52.519 --> 00:19:57.079 or they're not dealing with it. They're living with it. They're feeling the 149 00:19:57.079 --> 00:20:02.079 effects of it because of the function, but they're not dealing with it. 150 00:20:02.440 --> 00:20:15.160 And that is the life of most people. So that's saying what doesn't kill 151 00:20:15.240 --> 00:20:26.599 you makes you stronger. That's only for the very few, only for the 152 00:20:26.759 --> 00:20:33.880 very few, because, like I said, for most people, it breaks 153 00:20:33.920 --> 00:20:40.000 them down. More and more people are smoking more weed than a little bit, 154 00:20:41.920 --> 00:20:48.799 smoking more weed, eating dummies, eating cakes, cookies. I mean, 155 00:20:48.480 --> 00:21:03.079 just possessed, completely possessed with the weed demons. Totally. Don't even 156 00:21:03.119 --> 00:21:11.319 realize anything that you cannot do with doubt has control over you because that's what 157 00:21:11.440 --> 00:21:26.039 you gave your power to. It's a possession. People give in to it 158 00:21:26.480 --> 00:21:34.720 and now their lives are controlled by weed. Some people cannot go a day 159 00:21:34.759 --> 00:21:37.920 without it. Smoke it back to back to back to back to back, 160 00:21:37.960 --> 00:21:47.839 getting high, back to back to back, that you're possessed. So people 161 00:21:48.599 --> 00:21:53.240 do these things to themselves, and a lot of times people do weed, 162 00:21:53.759 --> 00:22:04.440 then they do other things because you open yourself up to these things, then 163 00:22:06.000 --> 00:22:12.640 you go through situations and it's just unbearable to a lot of people because that's 164 00:22:12.640 --> 00:22:19.480 the mindset they had going into it. I just want you to think outside 165 00:22:19.519 --> 00:22:26.279 of the box. I want people to really think about the things that I'm 166 00:22:26.279 --> 00:22:32.480 saying. Think about your life. As you listen, think about your life, 167 00:22:32.599 --> 00:22:37.720 what you're going through, what have you opened yourself up to. I 168 00:22:37.759 --> 00:22:47.480 don't care who you're with. They cannot bring drama into your life unless you 169 00:22:47.559 --> 00:22:52.079 allow it. They can try, but you don't have to take it. 170 00:22:53.359 --> 00:22:57.519 Most people aren't taking it. So you're dealing with their drama. You're dealing 171 00:22:57.559 --> 00:23:07.039 with your own drama. You're going through your trials and tribulations. It's knocking 172 00:23:07.119 --> 00:23:15.480 some of you down and out because of what's already there that you have not 173 00:23:15.599 --> 00:23:21.359 dealt with. That's why you're not getting stronger, That's why you're not living 174 00:23:21.680 --> 00:23:30.680 the best that you can because of your mindset. And only you can make 175 00:23:30.720 --> 00:23:38.880 that change by facing what ails you, that inner man, that inner woman, 176 00:23:38.960 --> 00:23:45.799 that unresolved, facing it so you can heal, so you can learn 177 00:23:45.839 --> 00:23:53.640 to love yourself, let go and move on. Most people are stuck where 178 00:23:53.640 --> 00:23:57.839 they are. And I've told you yes, people can acquire things, they 179 00:23:57.880 --> 00:24:04.599 can accomplish gods and all types of great things, But internally they're the same 180 00:24:06.920 --> 00:24:12.079 because of what's inside. They're full of insecurities self they lack self love, 181 00:24:12.559 --> 00:24:19.559 they lack self confidence, self esteem. They allow people to do them any 182 00:24:19.599 --> 00:24:27.640 kind of way. They go alone to get alone. They worship people for 183 00:24:27.839 --> 00:24:34.680 who because of who they are or who they think they are. Because you 184 00:24:34.759 --> 00:24:41.720 may see one thing, but that's not who the average person is. Most 185 00:24:41.759 --> 00:24:49.799 people are not who they pretend to be. So I want you to think 186 00:24:49.839 --> 00:24:57.559 about your life. Are you in the same place mentally that you were five 187 00:24:57.720 --> 00:25:04.279 ten years ago? Have your situation became better? Have your life became better? 188 00:25:07.359 --> 00:25:11.319 These are the questions you have to ask yourself. If you're still doing 189 00:25:11.400 --> 00:25:17.359 things the same way, something is wrong. If five years ago you didn't 190 00:25:17.400 --> 00:25:22.480 have a savings and you still don't have a savings today, something that's wrong. 191 00:25:27.079 --> 00:25:32.519 If you believe everyone else is better than you, something is wrong. 192 00:25:32.720 --> 00:25:42.240 It's so many things that I could say so many, but the bottom line 193 00:25:42.440 --> 00:25:52.599 is who you are right now. You chose that man, you chose that 194 00:25:52.680 --> 00:25:56.400 woman. It don't matter what you went through, It don't matter who did 195 00:25:56.519 --> 00:26:07.240 it. You as an adult have chosen to be who you are. So 196 00:26:07.400 --> 00:26:15.480 what hues, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. It can definitely be 197 00:26:15.839 --> 00:26:22.079 very true. It's true for those who go through their trials and tribulations, 198 00:26:22.799 --> 00:26:29.640 their storms, their experiences. It's true for those who go through and learn 199 00:26:30.119 --> 00:26:33.880 as they go through, they do become stronger and stronger, and the next 200 00:26:34.079 --> 00:26:41.839 battle they're ready. They go through it, they get stronger, a little 201 00:26:41.880 --> 00:26:45.960 bit stronger. From that, they go through it and it just makes them 202 00:26:45.440 --> 00:26:51.920 better. It prepared them better for the next. But for some people, 203 00:26:52.160 --> 00:27:00.279 they go through come out the same way. Yes they're still standing, but 204 00:27:00.440 --> 00:27:07.039 they still have the same mindset. So when they go through another storm, 205 00:27:07.160 --> 00:27:14.680 wall with me all over again instead of I got this. It don't matter 206 00:27:14.720 --> 00:27:19.279 what I go I go through. I got this. And for those of 207 00:27:19.359 --> 00:27:26.799 you who believe in Jesus, you know you're never alone, but you still 208 00:27:26.839 --> 00:27:38.279 will have the mindset that you can go through anything. It's so sad to 209 00:27:38.359 --> 00:27:45.680 me that most people in the world are not on that level because they failed 210 00:27:47.720 --> 00:27:52.559 to deal with what ails them, but they make everything and everyone else more 211 00:27:52.559 --> 00:27:57.480 important in their lives. And that's sad to me, it really is. 212 00:27:59.359 --> 00:28:04.039 But that's it. I'm leaving it right there. I've said enough. Please 213 00:28:04.200 --> 00:28:15.000 please share this episode, think about it, think about your life. If 214 00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:22.599 you're in the same place mentally, you're feeling yourself, I'm sorry, my 215 00:28:22.680 --> 00:28:30.519 sister, my brother, you are feeling your self and that should never be 216 00:28:30.599 --> 00:28:37.720 an option. So thank you so much for listening. Please share this episode. 217 00:28:37.400 --> 00:28:44.039 Please check out my other podcast, Relationship Chronicles. Thank you so much 218 00:28:44.640 --> 00:28:48.279 again. As always, much love to each and every one of you. 219 00:28:49.200 --> 00:28:56.519 Share, Share, Share. I end every episode the same. If your 220 00:28:56.559 --> 00:29:00.200 first time here, thank you. Come back again and listen to my other 221 00:29:00.599 --> 00:29:08.680 podcast, Relationship Chronicles. Share that. Also. If you guys want me 222 00:29:08.799 --> 00:29:14.680 to start doing videos, please reach out and let me know. I'm contemplating 223 00:29:14.759 --> 00:29:18.920 it, so go to my podcast page to tell you how to reach me. 224 00:29:19.400 --> 00:29:23.480 I will respond. I'm just trying to see is it what I want 225 00:29:23.519 --> 00:29:30.000 to do. I'm praying about it, so we'll see. Thank you again. 226 00:29:33.119 --> 00:29:40.160 As I said, I end every episode the same, and I hope 227 00:29:41.640 --> 00:29:45.599 you do it. I hope you do it. Think on it.