I'm looking at an email to start that says this email is going to blow
your mind. Now that is a strong statement, so let's see what happens.
I have not pre read it. Are you ready? Yeah? Okay,
this story's about to blow your mind. You guys know how much I
love and adore you all one million and one Thanks for being the best radio
station on planet Earth. Well that is very kind. Thank you after you
read the story. My question is am I wrong the way I reacted?
Here we go. I recently reconnected with an old high school friend. I
was homecoming king, she was queen. Aside from this, we were still
great friends prior to being crown our senior year. Our friendship started fifth grade.
We are now almost thirty. She came over a few weeks ago after
we ran into each other at a concert. We talked for over six hours
and that's all that happened. Fast forward two weeks. We planned a very
casual date. We planned to go to the Dead End Hey Ride in Wyoming,
Minnesota. Unfortunately, because of schedule we had, we just rescheduled the
date. However, that night, she was driving home from the city and
texted me long story short. She asked if I had feelings for her,
because of course we're both getting the vibe. I said, one thousand percent.
I have feelings for you, and I have since high school. I
always had a mini crush on her, but I never acted on it.
She came over, we talked about our feelings toward each other, and that
led to a fifty shades of gray evening, you know what I mean.
We happily did the nasty and it was great. About five days after it
happened, she was messaging me about that night. She was saying things like
that was so amazing. You're officially my favorite. But this is when everything
turned. She proceeded to then let me know she had herpies. She explained
that she forgot she had it and that's why she didn't tell me, and
it's also apparently a type that she can't pass on because of her medad.
I was furious, more so because she didn't give me an option to say
no to sex with herpes. She then tried to turn the entire thing on
me and said she wasn't sorry that she didn't tell me before. Am I
wrong for getting infuriated? No, but at least she told you afterward.
From what I know about herpes. I have a friend who has. I
don't want to get in too much into it, but they basically, from
what I know, if you don't have an active outbreak, your chances of
passing it on are almost nothing. So it's kind of like you can't get
a cold from somebody who doesn't have a cold. You can't get chicken pox
from somebody who doesn't have chicken pox, even though the chicken pox virus still
lives in your body somewhere. I think with herpes, she should have told
you, but I think that she was going on the fact that she didn't
have an outbreak at the time. She really wanted to get it on,
and I wouldn't worry about you getting it. Well. He mentioned in there
that it's not the kind that you can pass on, but I don't know
that that's such a thing. I don't know that's such a thing either.
Yeah, right, you can, Like Dave already said, you don't pass
it on if you're not having an outbreak. Yes, it's just like dormant
in your body, but it's still there. Yeah, I didn't know there
was a medication that you can keep you from passing it on, but I
would say, should it ruin your relationship? Should it ruin what seems to
be wonderful? I would say absolutely not. I would say at least she
told you now, So going forward, if you don't have herpes now,
you at least have the information whether you decide to, you know, have
protected sex or don't do it during an outbreak. I know several people with
herpes, and when they first found out, they were devastated, like,
oh my god, I marked for life, nobody will ever want me.
But then you bring it up with somebody and they go, well, is
it really worth giving up a whole relationship for Yeah? I mean, I
know he said he was thirty, so he's a little bit younger, because
I know someone who's a little bit older who has it. And then I
also know someone who's my age and they got it when they were mid twenties,
and it was an unfortunate situation like what happened to him, where she
was not made away ahead of time, and then she got it from this
person. And so I can understand, like, obviously the frustration, and
I think you are in the right, yes, to be upset. I
think that that's a conversation that you have even if for some reason it is
not transferable at all, like whatever kind she has, even though, like
we said, I don't know that that's a thing. I don't know that's
a thing either. That's what really kind of weirds me out a little bit.
Yeah. So, but I mean if you said, you sat and
talked with her for six hours and you had a great time. So I
guess just think hard about what you would have said to her. Had she
told you before you had sex, would you have still maybe put it off
for a little bit, But if you continued the relationship and continued to grow,
would you eventually have forgotten about it and been like it's okay, like
we can do this, or would it have been a hard pass the moment
she told you prior to having sex. That's a really good question, because
you know what, it probably the first time you probably would have said no,
let's not well, we'll use protection or something or I need to think
about this one. I had a girlfriend one time who we broke up.
She then was with somebody else and she got genital warts and she wanted to
hook up, and I'm like, sorry, I just don't want I don't
want genital warts. That's what you should call this episode. I don't want
genital warts. You still name all the episodes right now? I do name
them. You wanted to be that out there, I'll do it. Yeah,
do it? Do it. That'll be intriguing. Yeah, or it's
okay. I don't know. I think that you know they I read something
somewhere that says it was who had herpes? And they said, I only
have herpes like three days out of the year. And there is definitely medications
that reduce the severity of the whole thing and make them less frequent. So
the reason I know so much about it is because I dated a girl back
in when I was in my twenties and I thought she gave me something.
I was certain that she gave me something. And it turned out it was
a male yeast infection, okay, and a male yeast infection apparently can mimic
herpes. And I go to the doctor and I'm like, I think I
have herpes, and he looked at it and he's like, that's not herpes.
That was I don't know if he did a test or what, but
it was a male yeast infection, which is still call this episode Jenny male
yeast infection. No, don't awards or male ye, no, I don't
want genital awards. Okay, I'm gonna skip that one because that's not really
a Minnesota goodbye email, but it is a good one. Here we go,
Dave Jenny Drake. As I sit here at one am feeding the new
baby, I thought i'd writ and then tell you a little tidbit. Also
hoping to my shot for a sticker, So yes, I will take a
picture. I got stickers to send out later today. So there we go
all the way from New Richmond, Wisconsin. While back I'm in the car
listen to the podcast with my husband, Dave mentioned how one of his granddaughters
was named Evelyn. My husband slowly turns and says, are you kidding me?
Is that why we're naming our daughter Evelyn after Dave Ryan's granddaughter. Of
course, I had to get him going for a while and said, well,
duh, how else would Dave Ryan notice me? He was very convinced
that was the true reason we named our kiddo Evelyn. Also just a random
thought that keeps me up at night. I wonder how many times I've entered
into a contest and won. But I rejected the call or email that went
to my junk mail instead of my regular email box. I went looking for
an email and had two thousand emails alone just in my junk email. Anyway,
thanks for reading my random email with love and dart lick, Jenny be
Thank you. Jenny. Evelyn is a beautiful name. And it's funny that
you had him going that you named it after my granddaughter, named your daughter
after my granddaughter. That is a funny bit. And I think that a
lot of time stuff goes into spam. Like all the time people will say
I never got my notification on my concert tickets or my boo bash tickets or
whatever, and we say check your spam, and they go, oh,
there it is, so I get it spam on this computer right now.
Are you curious? Much? Spam? Fifteen thousand, seven hundred and seventy
two. And one of the reasons we have so many is because let me
just read some of the spam garbage that we get. Here is one,
this is sure funding gives you the best opportunity to find funding options in the
nation. Here's another one, how can I survive the holidays? These are
all basically we get a ton of press releases from people who think that we
do interviews. So we'll get a press release from here's a PR team that
says with the holidays right around the corner. Author explores value of no contact
holidays with family. Well, whenever I get junk like that, because we
don't do interviews most of the time unless we seek them out. We rarely
get a proposal for an interview and go, oh god, we want to
do that, So I always mark them as junk, so they go right
into the junk file. But I need to delete the junk folder with fifteen
thousand emails in there, all right, next one. Last week I told
my kids, ages five and nine, Oh, I took my kids on
their first plane ride. I don't typically look forward to flying, waiting in
line, sitting close to other people, people kicking my seat, et cetera.
But flying with them gave me a new appreciation for airplane travel. Listening
to my youngest squeal with delight is the plane sped up on the runway,
screaming to his brother that we were in the clouds looking down and telling everybody
he could see cities. It was really sweet and made me realize that I
take air travel for granted, it is actually super cool that we can be
to the other side of the country in a few short hours. So thanks,
right, brothers, shout out for your great invention. Maybe a good
follow up question, what do you think is the greatest invention of all time?
Have a great day? Staff writer Rebecca of Burnsville. I remember,
I so take flying for granted. Now I get on an airplane and if
I can fall asleep before we even leave the gate, I'll fall asleep before
we even leave the gate. But I remember the first few times, the
thrill of them accelerating down the runway and how freaking exciting it is, how
fast you're going. You're going one hundred and fifty miles an hour, and
you take off and it's miraculous and it's so cool. But after you've done
it a few hundred times, you don't really care anymore. Yeah. I
don't like flying very much, so my anxiety does not give me the same
experience as the emailer and you do. And I definitely can't sleep on planes.
So I am good. I love the fact, yes, that we
have access to airplanes that can get us across the country. That is amazing,
But I don't actually like flying at all. I would much rather if
I could drive and it could go as fast as an airplane, I would
do that. Uh, I get it. Yeah, No, it's totally.
And that's the thing about flying and versus driving is that driving takes.
If you want to go from here to LA on an airplane, you're there
in four hours or under four hours. You're gonna drive, it's gonna take
at least two days, maybe three days, depending on whether you're alone or
whether you take breaks or whatever. Greatest invention of all time I'd say probably
the airplane, the television, the computer, the iPhone, and the cup
holder armrest. He's going to say, you better say cup holder. Cup
holder armrest is one of the greatest inventions of all time because think about that,
and you're trying to drive around with a cup caribou between your knees.
No, you know that Andrew has one of those cars. I think I've
told this before. His console is like a rectangle. There aren't actual cup
molded spots, so he does not have anywhere to put What the fuck,
Jenny, I know, a piece of shit car? Is it? Not
even the piece car? It's like a twenty eighteen CRV it's not older.
I think it might be even newer than that. The fun U s.
I hate it because we'll go get coffee or something and I can't. I
have to hold on to my coffee the whole time. And if it's the
winter and it's cold, because I always get cold coffee, I hate it.
But it can't sit because he has this square ructing you. Maybe that's
what I need to get him for Christmas, some kind of makeshift cup holding
in that area, cup hold her armrest right up there with the airplane and
air conditioning. I was gonna say, you got to add in air conditioning.
Air conditioning also very important. Okay, thank you, and your sticker
is on its way. Next one. In response to the mom looking to
minimize your wardrobe, she should definitely look up a capsule wardrobe. She would
be able to find many checklists and examples of a minimalist minimalist wardrobe where all
your outfits are mixing match and you have basic pieces that look different based on
how you style them together. Also, an easy website is colorwise dot me.
Colorwise dot me, and you can upload a picture of your yourself and
it analyzes what color season you are and what colors look best on you.
It's interesting to see. I feel like Genny is the summer and Dave is
a winter. Any Who, I'm wondering, what is the one thing or
vacation you guys are saving up for right now? You guys are the best.
Thanks for what you do. Staff writer Sarah in South Saint Paul,
Jenny, what vacation? I think I know the answer are you saving up
for right now? It's the one I'm taking in a few weeks. We
are heading to Tahiti and also the island that's like thirty minutes away that's called
Molrea, So we're doing both and I'm saving up because I mean, the
flight is expensive, the actual going to visit isn't as expensive as I was
anticipating because we stay in cheap airbnbs. We're not staying in the nice hotels.
We're doing airbnbs. And I also found one airbnb that'll probably save us
having to spend money on doing a tour to Snorkel because the islands known for
these stingrays and black tip wreathed sharks, and the airbnb we're staying at is
literally like right in front of that lagoon area where the tours go to.
So I think I'm saving us enough couple hundred dollars on not having to book
a tour because we're staying at an airbnb that we can just like kayak out
to. And so, yeah, that's my trip coming up. I don't
have a big trip coming up. I would really love to go to Fiji.
Oh yeah, or is it Fuji? Is Fiji? Piji's Fiji's one.
So Fiji is the mountain, right and the film Fujifilm Mount Fuji.
Fiji is the island nation in the middle of the Pacific. Yep. I
want to stay in one of those ti huts that like, you know,
like hangs out over the water and you walk out and you're on a dock
or whatever. Yeah, the overwater bungalows. Is that what they're called.
Yeah, because they offer those in like Tahiti and all that. But you
want to know how much those costs a night? How much? So for
not as nice ones on the islands that we're staying at, it's about twelve
hundred a night. If you're going to places like Bora Bora that are fancier,
you're looking at least over two grand a night. Oh, it's a
sane wow. Okay, well might change my mind on that one. Thank
you, Sarah, appreciate that. Let's go too. That is a birthday
wish, so we got to remember to do that one. So we're gonna
come back to that one a little bit later. This is Minnesota Goodbye Minimalist
Wardrobe. Hey guys, suggestion to the listener yesterday who wants to overhaul her
wardrobe Pinterest searches of Capsule Wardrobe with each season are a game changer. They
tell you exactly what to buy, down to accessories, shoes, handbags,
whatever. Help that helps from Angie, Thank you Angie, it definitely does.
Next one is a group therapy. So now we're going to scroll down
to some older Minnesota goodbyes that we did not get too heard, you guys
talking about first dates. My husband took me to my favorite restaurant. We
ended up having our rehearsal supper there too, and then third Row Wild playoff
tickets. My friend thought he was super weird because who does that. Those
tickets are expensive, but he bought them just because he wanted to go out
and thought, eh, if she says no, I'll my cousin. I
texted my friend on that date and says he gets my jokes. I'm going
to marry him, and I did. My brother took his first date of
first wife first okay, my brother took his now wife hiking on their first
date. She was so scared she brought mace and gave a friend of hers
that check in places and times to text. He had no idea how creepy
it was until later it worked out though we both met on Tender. You
guys are the best. I wouldn't think a hike for your first date is
creepy, but I would definitely say do you want to go hiking? Yeah?
I mean if they have that common interest ahead of time and it was
like, okay, yeah, let's hike, then I would understand that.
But if there wasn't a common interest developed ahead of time, then I probably
would be pretty creeped out for hike, because I mean, yeah, it's
just as a female, you don't really want to ever put yourself in a
situation where you can't have cell service with a stranger, even though you maybe
were talking on tender for three months ahead of time. You know, it's
a shame that people got to think that way because I totally get it,
and especially as a woman, you got to kind of think that way that
you got to like have sell service and somebody who like, you know,
it's kind of like if you go out kayaking or hiking, you tell somebody
where you're going and when you're going to be back. I do that when
I go motorcycle ride in you're hiking your camping in Colorado, I'll tell Susan
and Sam going out for a motorcycle ride, should be back at about four
hours. And if i'm you know, I always am, but you know,
it always gives her a little something. Emily writes in she said,
I just fished Lenny's finished listening to Today's morning show, and you had the
drug expert on. This was a week or so ago. I sent the
email suggesting that and it was perfect. What was the drug expert? I
am blanking right now. When did this person email a week ago? Yesterday?
Yeah? A drug expert? Okay, well, let's continue and see
what what she gots to say. I love the short, factual bullet point
tips on random ass topics. I work with people all day long. They
always comment how I have have a small knowledge about a lot of things.
Thank you for doing the bit this morning on that and having the expert on
your show. I love how even a topic is a controversial You guys are
so damn chill and just do it anyway. We Oh, I know what
it was. It was the guy talking about THC versus CBD. Well,
okay, I was thinking like more intense drugs, not just like marijuana.
So I was very confused. I was too, Yes, so I don't
consider marijuana first thing a drug. I consider it marijuana, but of course
it is a drug. And that was a guy last week who was telling
us the difference between that and that. All right, next one, Minnesota,
goodbye. On Wednesday's show a week ago, you mentioned briefly whether or
not a parent a partner should change for their significant other. My partner recently
asked me to look at something on his groin and asked if it looked normal.
After pulling over some skin and showing me the underpart, it absolutely did
not. It was a cluster of oblong, fleshy, reddish bumps. I
immediately thought it was genital warts and told him to make an appointment. Can
you believe the term genital warts has now come up twice in one podcast.
Oh yeah. Meanwhile, I made myself an appointment, was seen tested,
got the results before he even made an appointment. When he finally made an
appointment, he finds out they're not genital warts, thank god, but a
thing called angio kuratoma of fortis. Google it. It's harmless and a result
of blood veins bursting close enough to the surface of the skin, easily removed,
like many other skin conditions, including genital warts, though once you start
getting them, you tend to keep getting them. I've got a few of
those two. They look like little red blood blisters the size of a a
sprinkle on the top of a cake or a cupcake, so about that big
or maybe as big as your pupil, depending since there's no harm he's choosing
not to take care of it. So now I got a partner who has
something that looks like genital warts, but isn't. Am I a total brat
for feeling like this should be taken care of for me. I take care
of myself and put a little extra effort for him. I don't think of
it as a bother way in on this for me. Please, he should
have gone in and had yes out of curate curiosity, concern, peace of
mind, and your curiosity concern and peace of mind. He should have gone
in and had him looked at. It was kind of a dick move,
honestly for him to not do that. I think she's asking though, if
he should have him taken care of, like removed. Is that what she's
asking because of like cosmetic reasons and she's in that area as a partner.
Is that what she's asking? Or maybe I misread her question. Yeah,
it could go either way. I'm not sure. Should he get removed for
you? No, yeah, unless you really wanted him to. But I
will say they're small, Yeah they're not. I can show you one.
Yeah, I was gonna say, I'm kind of not really understanding like this
right here? Oh okay, that little red dot, Yeah, that's it's
harmless. It's the size of a cake sprinkle, which says size of a
cake sprinkle, almost smaller, but yeah, pretty much. And I had
it there for years, and there's you know, you get a couple more
of them. I'm not covered with them, but they're very common. And
it's like you said, if you get one, chances are you're going to
get more. So should he get them removed for you. No, but
if you really wanted him to, okay, ask them, Yeah, just
ask them and see, I think we're doing the last one here. No,
I think these are ones we've already done. So we are kind of
tapped out then on Minnesota Goodbye emails, so we always love to get yours.
If you ever send an email to us and we don't read it,
it could be anything from I accidentally deleted it, it might have been too
long, or it might have been something we talked about endlessly so we kind
of skip it, or we might have just determined it was a little bit
I don't know, not right for the Minnesota Goodbye. Yeah, so if
you want to send an email to the Minnesota Goodbye, send those to Ryan's
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