Hello, and welcome to Psychic Teachers. I'm your host, Dev Bowen and
I'm Samantha Fay and we're so happy you can join us here. Today we
are going to be discussing another one of our how to shows. This episode
is about cord cutting, and so we're going to walk you through what are
chords, where and who do you chord to? How do you know if
you have a chord, and some different ways to cut those chords. So,
before we get into all the how to's, let's first start off by
just discussing what is a chord. It's believed that chords are energetic attachments that
form between people and aspects of ourselves. We share energy between these chords.
You can think of an umbilical chord that shares food, nourishment and vital nutrients
between a mother and her baby. Spiritual chords can share both positive and negative
energy. The cord all allows for energy to exchange between two people. The
deeper the connection, the stronger the cord. We are corded with our spouse,
partner, children, parents, siblings, and friends, but we also
have chords with neighbors, coworkers, acquaintances, old loves like have you ever
randomly thought of someone only to have them call you later that day. You
may have intuitively felt them tug on the energetic cord between you two when they
thought about calling you. Or have you ever had a friend pop into your
mind and when you call them it turns out they were having a hard day
and needed to talk to you. You were feeling their energy through the cord.
So, as we just said, chords can be negative and they can
be positive. Do you want to talk about the positive aspects of chords?
Deeb Absolutely, Samantha. When we are connected, as you've just said,
to people, we love to places, we love to memories that we cherish,
those are wonderful positive chords and we don't necessarily want those to go away.
There's not a need to cut every chord from your energetic field. It's
really important to hold on to those links and connections to people that we do
love and cherish in our lives. So, for example, if you take
well the chord that binds you and me, for example, Samantha, we
have been connected for a very long time together and we've certainly had our ups
and downs and trials and tribulations. With all the wonderful technology and the changes
that have happened with this podcast and in our individual lives. And yet there's
a link, a bond, a connection, a chord between us that is
good and strong and solid, and we don't ever want to let that go
exactly. And you can take advantage of these positive chords by visualizing them and
imagining sending positive energy through those chords to the individual. So it's important to
keep in mind you don't want to cut all chords. If you're going to
do some of the visualizations we're going to talk about later on, you don't
ever want to pray I intend to cut every chord and my energetic body because
no, some of them can be really, really positive. But how do
you know if you have a negative chord with someone, Well, if someone
is negatively chording with you, they can use the chord subconsciously to drain your
energy. So I'm not saying like this person is aware that they're doing this.
It's most often, if not always, on a subconscious level. If
they think a negative thought about you or gossip, you can often feel this
through the chord. When the exchange of energy is imbalanced in a relationship,
your cord can become muddy, and your energy can get blocked. If someone
is obsessing over you and not letting you go, this can deplete your energy.
If you have a really controlling boss who's trying to micromanage every aspect of
your day, this can zap your energy. You might think of them and
wonder why you can't stop going over painful times, or why you can't stop
stressing or feeling anxious over a certain situation. You might feel their emotions through
the chord. So here are some signs that you might be negatively corded to
someone. You feel strong emotions toward the person you're corded with and healthy relationships,
these emotions are joyful and loving, but in toxic relationships, these emotions
are anger, fear, anxiety, sadness, shame. The person might pop
into your mind frequently. You might dream of this person or bump into them
in town. They will call you soon after you think of them. You
might get a headache or a stomach ache when you're around this person. You
feel tired after being around this individual. You have a hard time letting go
of your past with this individual and can't seem to move on. If there's
a relationship, for example, that isn't ending properly, or has residues of
regret, anger, and sadness. You could have a negative cord if you're
just not able to let go of someone or they just can't seem to let
go of you. Even though you know this relationship is ended, you may
be negatively corded with this person. So those are just some examples. Can
you think of any I might have missed? Well, I don't know that
I can think of any other, but I think it's important to realize that
a cord has two ends. And so even though you may think that you
are not corded or relation in a relationship still with a person that you thought
you'd let go of, for example, but they still may be attached to
you. So that chord has its sort of insipid fingers in you. And
you have to keep in mind that you have control over the end of the
chord that's attached to you. And we'll be talking about what to do with
that here in a few minutes, but that's something to keep in mind.
That's a good one. Also keep in mind that we can be corded to
aspects of ourselves that are negative in cases like addictive behaviors, energy blocks,
or repeating patterns of behavior that are holding you back. If you've walked away
from a bad habit or a way of thinking, you can still have a
chord to this side of you that might still be craving this bad habit or
continues to think negatively. So it's important to know that you can cut chords
to aspects of yourself. You can cut chords to memories that are painful as
well. So if you had a traumatic experience, you can visualize that experience
and cut the chord to that. Do you want to talk deb about cutting
chords to places? I do? You're right. You can cut chords to
parts of yourselves, to memories. But sometimes we also carry with us residual
angst or fear or anger about a particular place in our lives. A place
you live, for example, as a child where you have some bad memories,
or someplace that you went as an adult and something traumatic happened, and
so you're like, oh, I can't go back there. I don't want
to go back there, And yet there's still this attachment and this pool to
this place. So you can release those chords to places as well into times
in your lives Now. I was doing some research on the internet for this
show to make sure all of my views on cord cutting was in alignment with
what other people are writing about. I came across a couple of websites that
said you have to have a certified cord cutter to do it for you,
and I just want to say, I think that's bs total BS. Thank
you very much. Yeah, you can cut your own chords, and personally,
I think you should cut your own chords. I think it's something you
should do for your own self healing and empowerment. There are many many ways
that you can cut chords. It's a really simple process that just involves guided
imagery, so you can sit down in a quiet place where you won't be
disturbed. I think it's nice to kind of create a ritual around this,
so you can light a candle and get some crystals out. There's some wonderful
crystals that are really good for cord cutting. One of my favorites is black
cayanite because it grows in a natural wand shape with a point at the end,
so it kind of looks like almost like an arrowhead the way it grows,
and so it's an nice cutting shape and black kayannite is for protection and
one of its jobs is to help you cut chords. But there's a lot
of other great crystals you can use, so you can light a candle,
you can get your crystals around you. You definitely want to set some time
for this, at least thirty minutes, and you want to make sure you're
not going to be disturbed. So I think late at night before bedtime is
a really good period to do this. But if you're a morning person,
you can do it first thing, before everyone else is awake. And what
you want to do is you just simply want to start by journaling. Write
down any memories, feelings, emotions, issues connected to the relationship or the
place or the memory or the aspect of yourself that you're going to be doing
a chord cutting with, and just jot down all the positive aspects of this
situation. What were the lessons learned, how did you grow from this,
what did you take away from this, and what did you teach the individual
that you're going to attempt to cut chords with. So start by focusing on
the positive and then you can journal into some of the negative things. How
is this relationship impacting you now, has it made you lose trust in people?
Has it caused you to lose faith in yourself? Has it debilitated your
confidence? So jot all of that down. You also want to journal patterns.
Is this person just one and a line of patterns of people you have
met who have done this type of thing to you? For example, do
you always have controlling bosses? Or are you always the fixer in a relationship?
If you're going to cut a cord, it's really important to look at
your role in this relationship. So you do want to take some time to
think about in journal is there a pattern here that you may be repeating without
even knowing it. Once you have gotten all your emotions and feelings out,
then you just want to lay down or sit down in a comfortable chair and
do a mental scan of your energy as to see chords that are connecting you
to this person, blaze, memory or situation. It's all visualization and just
accept what pops into your head. Chords might appear as ropes, chains,
threads, sewer pipes, hoses, hooks, wires, plugs. You want
to make note of where the cords are hooked into your body. Sometimes they're
hooked into our chakras. So, for example, a lot of our love
relationships will be hooked into our heart chakra, and a lot of our work
relationships with bosses and co workers will create chords in our solar plexus chakra right
at your stomach, where our seat of will, confidence, joy and power
is situated. But you can have chords appear anywhere. If someone's a pain
in your neck, you might have a cord in your neck. If you're
constantly carrying someone throughout life and you're always doing everything in the relationship, your
cord to them might be in your shoulder, So don't necessarily zoom. They're
going to just be in the chakras. If you have a boss who's constantly
dangling out the hope of a promotion or raise and then takes it away from
you, causing you to have money fears, the chord might be in your
root chakra. So it can be anywhere, and you just want to take
some time to trust yourself, trust your third eye, trust your intuition,
and just scan your body and accept what pops into your head right away.
Try not to second guess it. I think we do that so much as
intuitives and meditators don't you, deb I do, Samantha, and I think
you've brought up a really important point in that we should pay attention to where
in our body that chord is located. Our bodies really are our last ditch
effort at getting our attention to something that needs attending to. And even though
we envision this chord going into our bodies and they do sometimes, I mean
manifest physicals that go with some of these emotional pieces, they also go through
the etheric body, through that auric field that we have surrounding our bodies.
And so it's important to realize that when we get to the point where you're
going to talk in a minute about pulling chords out of you, that they
have several layers to go through as you release them. So trust the message
that you get from your body when the cord is, as you say,
in your shoulder or your neck, or your stomach, or your head wherever.
And you want to look at the length of the cord, the color,
shape, size, and texture because it will be different for each cord.
If you're dealing with a cord to a parent, for example, that's
been there for a long time, it might be a really big thick cord.
There might be some stuff around it too. I had a client once
you told me she did a I sent her one of my cord cutting meditations
and she emailed me back and said, oh, that was very helpful.
Thank you so much. She said, when I looked at the cord that
was lodged in my heart, the barbed wire around the cord is what she
saw, which I thought was interesting. So you want to pay attention to
the cord. If it's really thin, and maybe it's not very strong or
heavy. To me, that's kind of a good sign if it's a negative
chord, because it means it's not taking away a ton of your energy.
So just make note of what the chord actually looks like and feels like.
After you've done all of that and you've scanned and you've really looked into what
these chords are, then you want to follow this cord just mentally with your
mind, with your intuition. Follow the chord and see where it is attached
on the person that you're cutting this cord from, and see how the chord
looks on their end. See if it's thick or thin or all funked up
with negative energy, or if it's vibrant and pulsating with light, because that
can be a sign that they really are an energy vampire. Now, let's
say you're someone who just doesn't visualize very well, and you close your eyes
and you do a body scan and nothing happens. That's okay too. Not
everyone is a really good visualizer. So what you can do in that case
is you can just close your eyes and a good way to open your third
eye when you're doing this is to close your eyes and then look up with
your eyes closed, draw your eye your eyeballs up so that like pretend like
your eyes are closed and pretend like you're looking up at your forehead. That's
just a simple exercise to help awaken your intuition. And while you're doing that,
simply a attention to anyone or anything that pops into your mind. So
this will often give you an idea of where and who you're corded to.
Let's say you don't know who you're corded to, You've got a lot of
negative energy and weird stuff going on and some bad luck in your life.
You can just close your eyes and ask who am I negatively corded to?
And just accept the first person who pops into your mind. It might be
your neighbor who is constantly having parties, or borrowing your lawnmower and never returning
it, or just driving you generally insane. There might just be a small
cord there that needs to be cut. So just be open and with your
eyes closed and in that nice meditative, quiet, reflective state, just ask
who do I need to cut chords to. If you still can't visualize or
see this very very well, you can ask to see a symbol for the
cord. So you might see a rope, you might see an anchor,
you might see handcuffs. Something will pop into your head, some type of
memory or image or symbol. If you sit there stilly and long enough,
don't you think, deb Even if you can't visualize, if you ask and
you're really intending, you will see something. I really do. And you
know, I think that an important piece of where you are in this process
to talk about Samantha is that sometimes you may already know, Okay, I'm
going to sit here and I'm going to do what Samantha has suggested, because
I know I need to cut a chord to X person. So you may
be very focused on someone that you feel like you need to cut a chord
to and that's okay, but be prepared for serendipity that there may be other
people that pop in in this visualization that Samantha's recommending to you. That's true.
Now, what we have walked through is how to identify the chord,
how to look at who the cord is attached to, and how to make
note of any patterns or energy connected to that chord. Once you have done
all of that, now here's something I do, and feel free to interject
if you do things differently. Once I have done all of that, I
take the chord and I send positive light down that chord because I think of
chords like plumbing, and it's kind of me sending Durno down the cord,
do you know what I mean? Like, I don't want to cut the
cord and just have all that gunk spill out into the cosmos. So I
try to take the chord and just intend that all sorts of love and light
flows from me down that chord to that person. That's a lovely thing to
do, Samantha, And I have to tell you that I try to remember
to do that, but I confess there have been times when I have not
done that probably was not a good idea. So everybody remember to do what
Samantha has suggests the image of that being a plumbing pipe is too big for
me. But I think it's a good one. No, But that's really
honest, because I think sometimes you can be so angry and hurt you don't
want to send love and life that ers, you know, But I think
that that karmically for our own good, if for nothing else, it's a
really good thing to do. Yeah, and it just kind of primes the
pump and clears the way and all of that good stuff. So then what
I do is I call on my guides and angels to surround me and help
me with this process. I call on archangel Michael because I really think that
him and his team, I think that's one of his jobs is to help
us clear our energy. And so once I've got my team around me,
I hold out my dominant hand so for me, that's my left hand,
and I ask for a cord cutting tool to appear there. Now what's interesting
for me is so I do cord cutting meditations a lot, and different tools
will appear for me. Usually I'll see a pair of like golden scissors,
but sometimes I'll see a sword. One time I saw like a metal what's
that big metal square thing that you used to chop vegetables? Do you know
what I'm talking about? Or maybe it was just like this sheet of square
metal and I used that to cut the cord. So you might be surprised
when you just hold out your dominant hand that a different tool you weren't expecting
might suddenly appear. And then you want to visualize yourself cutting the cord between
you and this individual. Check to see if anything spills out of the cord.
You might see like pus come out. You might see some funky negative
energy spill out. You just want to pay attention to that. Visualize any
residue in your energy from the cut cord dissolving and disappearing entirely. And while
you are cutting this cord, you want to say something affirmative and defini,
like I cut this cord of negativity between us. In all directions of time,
the lessons remain, but the negativity is now severed for always. If
you feel there's a karmic tie here between you two, you can also say
something like I cut any cords of karmic energy between us in all directions of
time. We are both now free. Wait, Samantha, do something for
me, because that went really fast by me. Go back and say again
both of those things, because they were beautifully said, and I think folks
sometimes will need to hear that more than once. Thanks, Okay, okay.
So I usually say I cut this cord of negativity between us and all
directions of time. The lessons remain, but the negativity is now severed for
always. You can also add I cut any karmic ties between us. We
are now free. That's great, and I think that'll help everybody to have
heard it twice. So then what you want to do is you want to
dissolve any residue between the two of you, because think about when you're cutting
anything, right, Like, let's say you've got like I was just doing
some gardening and I had staked up a new tree with some rope, and
then when I cut the rope, there was all dirt on each end of
the rope, and I needed to clean that off. So think about when
you cut anything, there's going to be debris and residue, and you want
to clear that off within yourself wherever the cord has now been detached. I
always picture kind of like a hole there. Sometimes I'll ask archangel Raphael,
the Archangel of healing, to come and help me fill it with green light
because green represents healing. Sometimes I'll just do it myself and I'll pull pink
light out of my heart chakra and I'll put it into that hole. But
I also focus my attention on the person to whom I've just cut the cord
with, and I fill his or her hole with light too, because I
don't want to leave them with this light gaping energy. That makes sense,
It does make sense. But wait, I need to clarify something here as
you're talking about this image, because I was with you on the cord cutting
out of you, but at the same time, you were also cutting the
chord at the other end of the chord to the other person to whom it's
attached. Yes, So, like if you picture a chord, let's just
say you and I have a chord between our belly buttons, and let's say
I cut that cord. It's going to fall out of you, and it's
going to fall out of me because there's nothing linking it anymore. So then
I visualize light, and I fill that spot where the chord fell out in
me, and then I would fill that spot where the chord fell out in
you. Okay, I understand. I understand now because somehow I had this
image that you were releasing you from this chord. But do you also have
the right to release the chord from the other person? Well, I think
if it's a chord between the two of us that we both created, then
I think I have the right to release it because it's it's our cord.
Now they can record and they can keep that cord, and they can resist
the cutting. And I think you and I have both seen that happen,
but we can at least intend that they are free and filled with life.
I know, so, I so I always like to include them in the
process. I mean I do. If I'm doing a serious cord cutting,
I do a very involved visualization where I first picture the two of us in
a neutral area like a stage or an outdoor garden, and I will sit
down and just have a therapeutic conversation with that person and tell them everything they
did that hurt me or apologized for anything I may have done to hurt them.
Then I'll do the cord cutting, and I think that's really helpful too.
But you don't but you don't mean having a real conversation. Okay,
let's make that real clear, because there may be people that it may be
dangerous to have that conversation with. Oh yeah, no, that's why I
said. I imagine or visualize like a theater or an outdoor garden, and
I just picture the two of us sitting there, and I will I will
just say everything that I need to say to that verse because I think that's
that's a real important point. And whatever the person responds is not your responsibility.
Your responsibility is to do what you're doing for you. Yes, So
once you have cut that cord and you have filled the holes with light,
then what I like to do is surround myself in a thick layer of gold
light to seal in my aura. I visualize the other person walking away until
I can no longer see them. I just see them walking away from me
and from my energy, and I feel my energy filling with bright, loving
white light. Sometimes what I do is I'll picture a magnetized golden cube hovering
about a foot over my head, and I will ask that that magical magnetized
golden cube that it pull from the universe in all directions of time, any
energy that that person has taken from me, good or bad, and I
ask that it be pulled back into that golden cube where it is filtered and
cleared and made just piss positive energy. That's mine. It's my energy that
was taken, and then I see it pouring down into my energy field and
that helps to uplift and restore my energy tremendously when I do that visualization.
So after you have done all of that, you want to thank your team,
thank your guides and angels and ur kangel Michael for helping you. You
can hold your black cayanite during this process and you can actually run it down
around your aura, just to re emphasize that any residue is gone from your
aura. So you just want to run it down your body about six inches
away from your body, down the front, the sides, in the back.
You can save yourself after if you want. You can journal anything that
came to mind during the meditation. Sometimes you'll get memories that are significant or
messages, or you'll see symbols that will be helpful when you're done with the
cord cutting meditation. You want to try to distance yourself from this person as
much as possible, So stay off social media, don't return calls or text.
When you cut a chord with someone, they intuitively subconsciously feel it,
and so they tend to reach out to you within a week of that energetic
connection being gone, and you just want to try to distance yourself as much
as possible. Now this can be hard because, for example, if you're
married to someone that you obviously see every single day, you can do a
chord cutting to an aspect of your marriage that you don't want to have to
engage with anymore, but you're still going to see that person all the time.
But what you want to do for at least twelve twenty four hours after
the chord cutting is just emotionally just pull back a little bit so that you
can just make sure that that chord isn't reconnected. I want to go back
to something though a minute, and that is the images that you gave of
the tools for cord cutting are great. They're one wonderful. I have a
different one that I use and I've never done the exercise that you're suggesting where
I allow my subconscious or my guides to hand me a tool. I've always
chosen the tools, and I have pleasers that I use in a cord cutting
visualization. And the reason I use tweezers is because in my mind, the
image I have is that that frayed end of that rope that you're describing has
burrowed down inside of me. So for example, imagining that I have a
cord to my heart chakra, and so my vision is that the ends of
that rope have gone through my or field, through my energetic body, and
down through my physical body and down into my heart. And I want that
cord out. I want to pull it out completely so that that healing part
of the ritual that you've described can take place. So it's not just cut
off at the skin kind of thing I envisioned that I have with a pair
of tweezers, pulled it out so that there's plenty of room there for the
healing light to come in and heal deep within me. But that's a good
reminder because one size does not fit all, so you have to try different
types of cord cutting to see which resonates for you. Now, after you
have cut this cord, if you're cutting a cord to a really negative person,
like a narcissist. They usually do feel this like. Doctor Northrop has
this awesome expression for these types of narcissists in her book Dodging Energy Vampires.
She says that narcissists have malignant intuition where they just know that this stuff happens.
They might try to placate you once a chord has been cut. They
might try to be super nice to you, making you second guess yourself and
think, maybe I shouldn't have cut that cord. Or they may go the
opposite direction and try to anger you. Any reaction to this person that's connected
to negativity will record you to this person. So if they're being super nice
to you after you've cut the cord and you suddenly start to feel shame or
guilt like, oh why did I do that? I think I jumped to
conclusions, that will help record you to this person. Or if they start
to be really mean and honor to you and you get angry and fearful as
a result, that will reattach a chord. This is important to remember.
You can't do a chord cutting visualization once and think that chord is severed forever.
You have to repeat this process. Until the toxic person memory or emotion
are completely gone. And so you might have to do this a lot of
times, and that's okay. There's no three times and it'll never happen again.
You know, there's no certain way to do it, but it is
important to know that one time isn't going to fix it forever. Sometimes we
feel like we should, or we know we need to do a releasing of
an energy in our life that is not for our highest good, and yet
sometimes it has become old and comfortable and familiar, even though we know that
it's not necessarily healthy. And so we say we're going to do this cord
cutting, but we don't really mean it, you know what I mean,
and that we may do it, but really do we really want to let
it go? And so that's when we really have to do some really deep
self examination and perhaps, as you suggest, do this chord cutting more than
once until we're sure we mean it. That's okay, that's not a bad
thing. You just have to know that that. So you might do the
cord cutting meditation. It might work great for two weeks and then something happens
and you're recorded and you think, well, that didn't work I'm not going
to try that again. No, it probably did work and the response from
the other person caused you to record, and so then you just have to
do it again, and you can try different ways to do it if it
doesn't work the first time. Let's say you have a really hard time visualizing.
What you can do is a different technique where you write your name on
one piece of paper, you write the person's name to whom you're corded with
on another piece of paper, and then you roll up each piece of paper,
tie it with a string, tie both pieces of the roll that papers
together, and cut the string while going through the steps we outlined earlier.
That's a nice way to physically do this exercise if you have a hard time
seeing it in your mental imagination, have you done that? I have not.
It's always worked for me to do the pulling it out of my body
with the tweezers thing. But I think that's a really good point. And
another thing that you know for folks who are clear audience is to help with
this is to hear the chord snap, to hear it release. So imagine
what that sounds like if, for example, you envision the chord as a
chain. Then when you pull it out of the body or cut it,
it clanks and makes a noise. So give give yourself the opportunity to use
all of your senses and all of your players in working with a releasing exercise
like this. That's really good advice. Yeah, see it, hear it,
feel it. Now. Keep in mind you can also cut chords to
a deceased person. If you had issues with a relative or a friend who
has passed away and this relationship is still wreaking havoc in your life, either
through guilt, anger, or regret, you can do a cord cutting meditation.
It's the same exact steps, and because time is not linear on the
other side, it will have a positive effect for you. So just keep
in mind that you can cut chords to so many things. It doesn't have
to be just between you and a partner. It can be between you and
a business. Let's say you worked somewhere and you hated that company, and
you have really bad mojo feelings about that company, you can cut chords to
that building and everything that it represents. Or, like dev was saying earlier,
if you have negative connotations to a place, you can cut chords to
that place. If you have negative connotations to a school, Let's say you
were bullied in middle school, you can cut chords to that school. So
be creative with this and really think about where a lot of your energy is
going when you get into anxious or negative states. I think so often dev
we hide from our negative emotions that were not really aware of them. And
do you know what helped me to be aware of my negative emotions was after
I had my hysterectomy, I was plunged into menopause like overnight, right,
So I would get these hut flashes, and I started to notice that my
hut flashes were caused or triggered by stressful thoughts. And it was so eye
opening to me because I would just be like watching TV with my kids,
relaxed, eating pop worn and suddenly I'd get a hut flash and I would
think, Okay, I'm super relaxed, in chill, it's the end of
the day, I've done, my work, house is clean, kids are
getting ready for Like what am I stressed about? And then I would think,
oh, right, that commercial reminded me that I haven't signed up my
daughter for this SAT tutoring thing that she needs and that stressed me out,
but I wasn't even consciously aware of it. It was so quick and unconscious.
But my hut flash actually helped me start to track a lot of those
types of thoughts. Isn't that weird? Yes, it is weird, But
I think it's a very important thing to know. To have that self awareness
is a really important gift when we have these ties to so much in our
lives, and we all do I mean, as you're talking, I'm thinking,
well, golly, you know, do I really want to release every
single memory that I have? Is every single memory exactly? Is every single
memory accord well? It no? And if it is just because I remember
it, does it make it bad? Was there not a wonderful perhaps lesson
to have learned in a given situation. So cord cutting is not just to
say, oh, I'm just going to be like Bubbly an effervescent forever and
take away all the bad stuff. I'm not going to live in that pink,
bubbly cotton candy world. That's not what cord cutting's for. Cord cutting
is really for that which is really detrimental to you emotionally and sometimes physically,
and certainly spiritually and also in many ways, even to the person who is
the perpetrator of that negative energy. I personally have never cut a chord to
a memory or a place. I've only cut chords to people because I feel
like everything that's happened to me has made me who I am today, and
I'm okay with that. I'm good with that. Where I like to focus
my cord cutting are people currently who are draining my energy, or if anyone
has had Like there are certain bosses who have been really difficult and I've done
some cord cutting with them. There are certain relationships where I just felt like
my confidence was chipped a little bit, and I would do some cord cutting
to them. I've definitely done cord cutting with my parents, but I have
kept the good chords with my parents because there's a lot of good to that
relationship as well. So when I say I cut chords to people, it
doesn't mean like I'm done with them, you know, like we're done.
No, it's just cutting the negative chords that are draining my energy or making
me feel not as much self love as I want to feel. I cut
that aspect, but I keep the positive cord. Relationships are complicated. I
love my mother. My mother loves me, but we have some contentious issues.
I try to cut those chords when they pop up throughout our relationship.
Does that make sense, Yes, it does, And I think that's important
to remember. Is that exactly as you say, relationships are complex and you
may not want to throw the baby out with the bath water because there are
positive aspects and there are boundaries that you can set and cord cutting, or
at least sometimes you don't. Even I don't think always need to cut the
cord so much as you do to be able to set the boundaries. I
remember a relationship that I had with a coworker some years ago that was very
much an energy vampire, and I couldn't completely cut a cord with this woman.
She and I worked together, we had a very intertwined professional relationship,
and yet she was horrific in some ways, and one of them was that
she was passive, aggressively late. And I got up and walked out of
a restaurant one time with her, and I said, because she was so
late, I had been waiting on her and there was no time for us
to eat before we were to go to the next event. Well, like
you said, boy, after that, as my grandma would say, butter
would not melt in her mouth. I mean, she was just honey sweet
for a while, and then she wanted to try this behavior again. But
what I had learned was it rather than cutting a cord I couldn't really cut
with a situation, was that I could set very clear boundaries and say nope,
not doing that. Nope, that didn't work, and I just am
not willing to spend my time risking that again. And if it worked,
it did work. But don't forget cutting core to aspects of yourself. I
think that has been the most helpful to me. I remember when I was
talking to one of my closest friends about the fact that all my bosses throughout
my life had been female and really controlling and kind of mean, we're just
not really good bosses. And she was telling me, you know, well,
that looks to be a pattern in your life, and you should think
about what that pattern represents to you. And so I did a cord cutting
meditation to cut the chord to the aspect of myself that was attracting negative,
controlling female bosses. Two months later, my boss took early retirement, and
that dear friend that I was talking to was promoted and was my boss.
And she was the best boss I ever had. And I've never had a
difficult boss since. Wow. And that was probably also not only because you
cut the cord, but you had learned a karmic lesson exactly. I had
a group of ladies years of maybe seven years ago. They hired me to
come to one of their houses and teach a weekend workshop on interfesting, and
so I did, and we all created goldbooks and it was really fun.
And as we were talking, the main thing I've found they all worked together
and they all had this really awful boss who was making their lives hell.
And so I had them do a cord cutting meditation to the negative aspects of
her that was making their lives so difficult, and the same thing happened.
Halfway through the school year. She took early retirement and they got a great
new boss. I mean, it's kind of magical when you look at love
those stories. I really do love those stories. And I think that one
of the things that's important here is that when we put ourselves into the stream
of karmic gifts and say I am willing to work my way through my karmic
responsibility here and we agree to do that, then the universe helps us with
the cord cutting and then the shift in our karmic fields that send all bad
bosses away. And I think what cord cutting can do for you is remind
you that you are in control of your life in some ways. I mean,
we don't have control over everything in our life, and I think there's
a serenity that comes from recognizing that. But there are many many aspects of
our life that we are in control of, and working with cord cutting techniques
remind you of that, and so it brings a sense of responsibility and empowerment
to your path. And it reminds you that even though you might be in
a negative situation right now or a difficult relationship, you don't have to stay
in that situation. You do have the power to either leave it or change
it. And that's really really important for our soul growth. I think we
need to be always on our toes, always vigilant to those lessons that can
come into our lives, and sometimes not in the midst of why they're happening.
I think it's easy to see them, but it is to find that
time for reflection to look back and say, wow, these were some important
lessons and even though they may not have felt like it at the time,
I learned some karma truths and I was able to say, Okay, what's
my karma and what's someone else's karma? What am I supposed to be doing
to take care of me? And when we do that, I think life
shifts for us. I do too. So we hope this has been helpful
to you and giving you some things to think about in your own meditative practice.
If you have a different way of cord cutting, we'd love to hear
about it. When I was going through the internet research for cord cutting,
I was so surprised to read different people say you have to do it this
way or this is the only way. All those definitives don't listen to that.
There's no right or one way to do this type of meditation. You
have to find the one that works for you. So you can try mine.
You can try debs, you can go on YouTube and just google chord
cutting meditations and try lots of other people's. Ultimately, what I think is
best is you create your own meditation ritual of cord cutting that resonates for you.
That's where you're going to really pull your power and your energy source into
facilitating the best cord cutting. So just remember to always learn from others,
but use your discernment to see what resonates as truth for you. Don't take
everything deb and I say as one hundred percent absolute truth. Don't take anything
anyone says as one hundred percent absolute truth until you've done your own research and
used your own intuition to see if that sits right in your own heart.
But we do hope that what we have offered has been helpful and informative.
Sure do, and we would remind you to ask your guides and your angels
to help you with this, to help you with that gift of discernment for
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