Made a decision a face Sonny Sun on idasion n wait's recording. What's up
everybody? Oh my gosh, I'm all disorganized. I'm like the defense attorney.
You're like doctor Bruce and my papers everywhere. I know I missed doctor
Bruce. Am I a perfect podcast host? No? Anybody? Is anybody?
Do? I sometimes just say racist things and call my daughter a psycho?
Yeah? I mean, but who doesn't Who doesn't? Right? Uh?
Wait? Not no? No, wonder she lost? That's crazy.
Guys, In case you didn't know, a peek behind the curtain. You
know, we record these back to back, so we're still hyped up from
Tuesday's episode. From Tuesday Late Afternoons episode, that was fun. Hi,
how's it going good? Yeah, how's your daughter? She's good. We
went to go take her to like her check up yesterday and she did very
well. She wasn't loobbily and everything checked out and she was good. The
doctor's like, yeah, she should be just fine because I told that story
to my sister in law and she was free. She's like, I can't,
I don't want to hear it scared her because we have granddaughter like the
same, she has a granddaughter not me, but yeah, around the same
age, and that's what's freaky scary. Yeah, it's luckily, it's all
good. Now, good, she's back to normal. And yeah, okay,
before we get into it, let me promote a couple of things.
Yeah, yeah, off our YouTube channel, which the Alison Roseen episode is
up on and available now along with all of our social handles at f col
podcast. And I also want to promote Stephanie's appearance on the new podcast I'm
producing, Bonfire Talks with Mark L. Wohlberg. We're trying to build that
one up. You can watch that on YouTube or just download the episode.
We're doing it here out of the studio, so we want to get a
little listenership going from Mark. So if you want to go check out Stephanie
on that podcast and we got deep oh yeah he did. Yeah we went
there really now we did. Wow, that's good. That's great. Yeah,
And we've had a couple of variety of different guests on there. There's
people that work on Temptation Island, like producers, other podcast hosts, Jess
Ambrose from Your Mom and Dad podcast. That's an episode, so yeah,
just go check it out. Nice all right, cool totes let's say hi
to our fabulous special special special listeners. We've got Ashley so chic and do
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guys, coughing again because of COVID. But why did we tell her what's
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Aaron's a dirty Sanchez. Come on now, come on, now, come
on now. So last weekend, okay, a lot of people have pointed
out that even though I say I'm not a go getter, I can be
a go getter. But I just want you to know that it is under
duress. I don't. I'm like an accidental go getter, you know what
I mean, default go getter. And yeah, I don't set out to
go get anything. I set out to like chill and I set out to
just listen to podcasts. But what ends up happening is like I I go,
okay, like I'll do that thing, whatever it is. Well,
you know what this is how I get myself in trouble. I argue about
stuff that's like like this staff breakfast about school. I find myself going,
well, I don't know why i'd be responsible for the whole staff breakfast.
It's too expensive and I don't want to do all that work, and then
they go I say, hey, let's just kind of spread it out on
everybody. And then I get the person who's in charge of everything going well,
I don't have the bandwidth. Why don't you deal with it? And
then I go all right, and then I curse myself and my life and
I complain about it here and I go, why am I in charge of
this whole staff breakfast all the time? See that's what happens when you complain.
Yeah, and then ideal as I've said that, I've talked about this
on Patreon, but then I deal with a bunch of no getters who are
like, oh did I sign up to help bring something to the to the
breakfast? I forgot? And then you're like, uh, I'm sorry,
miss, is no bandwidth? And now I see what you're talking about,
ass And then I yeah, exactly. So so I had a double whammy
last weekend. So well this weekend that just passed, time has slowed to
it's like at a standstill. Yeah. So Friday was the staff breakfast and
this thing, by the way, this thing comes at you faster than like
You're like, I just did the breakfast, how is it already the first
Friday of the month again. Now time sped up, well, it's sped
up, and this month is gonna be worse because February only has twenty eight
fucking days. How dare February do that to me? Next thing, you
know, it's gonna be the first Friday in March. I need a breakfast
once a month, don't. Can't they get their own breakfast? You know
what I'm gonna say. I think the staff does deserve it. Think think
of the jobs that you and I have had where you're like, I barely
work. Think of like temp jobs you've had where like every Friday they bring
in bagels and you come to expect it. You're like, yeah I should,
Yeah I'm And I answered four phone calls today. I deserve I was
gonna say everything bagel with some reduced fat cream cheese. Where's the lock?
I gonna say, the locks? I see the tomatoes, but like the
red onions, But where's the locks? Yeah? I like a little caper
too, same same. If you're gonna bring locks, why would he's an
extra two bucks for a jar? Capers? Yes, bring caper right tight.
So before you know it, I'm a spoiled bitch. It was just
like, wow, I thought we had fried Oh now now you're gonna do
bagels every other week? No. Yeah, So I'm like, I understand
these teachers. They work hard, and also they come to work at an
ungodly hour. I know. I think it's harsh to have to bring my
kids to school at eight thirty. These teachers are there at seven thirty.
I'm like, okay, I can understand once a month you want to have
like a nice breakfast. I did tell you though, that I was having
somebody we were bringing bagels every every month. And then they said like that's
a little too much carbs, which is like, I know, you didn't
tell how I didn't tell you that. Yeah, they I heard they were.
They were saying like, oh, we don't want like all these carbs,
so you know, like let's let's calm down on a Mediterranean was this
below deck? Given them your fucking orders? Like I'm allergic to whitefish,
but I can't like wow, yeah yeah yeah, so they want to beach
barbecue too, right, Yeah, So I'm like, all right, I'll
bring these assholes some like hardboiled eggs, but like it's not get crazy with
the requests exactly. But you know what, all the easier because some of
the things that we bring because even though we're spreading it around, if you
ask somebody to bring coffee the two travelers of coffee from Starbucks is like fifty
bucks. Yeah, so you're already at like, but imagine how much it
cost me when I did it myself. Basically it's like two hundred bucks.
You're spending to get an ice spread for like thirty five people. Anyway,
the point is that Friday, the day came. Now, my kids before
were like, we'll come early. That's kind of fun, like we'll get
there early with you help you set up. But like after a few months
of it, Sadie was like, oh hell yeah. So I had to
ask John. I was like, listen, I have to do the breakfast
Friday morning, but can you take oh because on Fridays my kids don't have
to be at school until nine to twenty. Oh nice, So I'm at
school at eight fifteen. And now even though somebody, so somebody provided the
coffee, but they didn't want to have to go get it, so they
put in the order at Starbucks and I had to stop at Starbucks and get
the coffee. So here's the thing, me being a no getter is suddenly
like coordinating the whole thing, making sure that everybody shows up for their shifts.
And then I'm supposed to also remind the teachers. So I've got a
list of people I have to send out an email and say, hey,
the breakfast is happening tomorrow. But sometimes I space on that part and I
don't send it into like eleven PM. Oh sorry, sorry you're getting this
so late, but like I spaced, but like, sorry, I know
I've changed your breakfast order. Yeah, so anyway, Friday morning. So,
but don't forget And this is maybe this was a Patreon as well,
but don't forget that. I also somehow got volunteered to be the liaison for
our music program, right, I might as well be like the president of
this school at ten. I know you're like the like you should behead a
PTA or whatever. God forbid, No, because like, not enough people
are helping out with these things. Now I've got too much to do,
so I was not enough bandw No, I don't have bandwidth either. This
woman thinks she doesn't have bandwidth, try being me. I don't have the
bandwidth or the willingness or the whatever, the like. I'm not a self
starter, you know. I want to be like more of the follower.
I really should just keep my mouth shut and stop arguing with you about how
they're doing things and just go, well, I'm sure you guys have it
a control, right, But no, I have to go like, well,
what if you started spreading it out? Then I find then okay.
So anyway, I was in charge of the music lab stuff. So when
I was doing the big thing where I had to get all the raffle stuff
together. That happened in December, the teacher from Speech and Debate was like,
hey, could you come judge a speech and debate competition? My god,
and she's so nice. This teacher is like adorable, she's fun she's
funny, she's young. Like so I was like, I mean, and
you look like a prime prime for the picking, like there's somebody that's running
around working hard. Right. She zoned in on you because she made the
mistake of you know how they say if you want something done, ask a
busy person. So she decided that that was like a real thing. And
I'm like, no, but except in the case of me. But I
guess, so I said, I was like on this one, I said,
uh, maybe, but I'm not really sure. And then luckily that
was the last speech and debate tournament. So but then I wasn't feeling that
great and Xander was sick. Xander ended up not going to the speech and
debate competition, and I emailed her a few days before and I was like,
I know, I said, I might be able to do it,
but I'm really not feeling great, and she was like, no problem,
don't worry about it. But the best news cut to this one. The
next speech and debate. A month later, I get this email from this
teacher and she's like, Hey, we really really need judges for this speech
and debate thing. Now I'm feeling guilty because I like blew off the last
one. So I'm like, I'll do it. It is a twelve hour
gig. Oh my god. Yeah. So I set out you have to
get there, You have to get there at eight fifteen in the morning.
You got to watch videos. You have to learn how to judge a speech
and debate. Companies, but you can't do that on your own. They
can't send you the videos. They did, no, they did, but
then they sent they but right, but you have to learn. There's a
whole like it's like trying to work at McDonald's, Like you have to go
to like McDonald's college, like first, yeah, McDonald's university. No,
this is like a whole thing. They send you like all of the different
categories. But here's what they don't tell you. How do you actually judge
them? Like what's the rubric? Like what are you exactly looking for?
It's just like here's what this category is, right, and like yeah,
whatever you think, you know? So what are some what was some of
the categories? Okay? So there's like original oratory, which is you write
a speech and you perform the speech. There's also like I don't know what
it's called, but it's where you read somebody else's speech, you memorize.
There's a lot of memorization. Hnette, you and I would hate it.
Yeah, it's ten minutes. You have ten minutes to do these speeches,
and you have to memorize a ten minute speech and then you have to deliver
it like you're Martin Luther King doing that a dream speech, like you got
to be committed into it. There's also original prose and poetry, right,
so you don't know where you're gonna get though. There's something called storytelling,
which is where they recite a children's story. They kind of like act it
out. Okay. There's a bunch of like cool cowboys to okay. Okay.
So I get there and at first I'm like a little resentful that I
signed up for this because I'm like, oh my god, this is going
to be twelve out Okay. Why can't they break that shit up? They
can't go like we need three people to like if they somebody come from nine
to twelve and somebody come from twelve to two, like why So if they
had gotten enough volunteers, then they could have split it up and cheap people
would do half days. Right. But here's the thing. I was.
I drove Xander there. Xander's in speech and debates, so and it was
far. I had to drive to Valencia for this thing. So by the
time you drive there, I don't know if I'm gonna want to drive home.
I guess I could have done half the day and then come home,
and then somebody else who was could have done the second half and then driven
the kids home. Yeah, but that's John, That's that's true. That's
true. Because John, he would be good. Yeah, he would be
good. But he's like, wow, have a good time. He's not
got no sucker. Right. I'm like, I ended up volunteering to do
this and he's like, wow, okay, twelve, it's gonna be a
long day. And I'm like yeah, So I get there. I get
there at eight fifteen for the judges training. There's a room full of judges.
It's all these different high schools that are part of it. And the
first thing I find out is that we're going to have to have like they're
going to talk to us about the judging now, and it's all this information
like Okay, you might have to help time it. You're going to time
it on your phone. But sometimes the kids want to know, like they
need a warning of it's this much time as left. And I'm like okay,
and then you're going to have to use these hand signals like this is
the hand signal for half or whatever. I'm like, I'm like, you're
already law. Also they're like, okay, hope you brought your laptop.
Well, the instructions that I had just said you need an electronic device,
So I'm taking my phone right, I'm not thinking I'm lugging a lap tap
with me. Also, my laptop is pretty old and the battery doesn't really
work, so I it doesn't work. It doesn't hold a charge right,
like it really holds a charge for like fifteen minutes. So I wouldn't have
even thought to bring my laptop anyway. But now I get there and everyone's
got their laptop. Oh jeez. So a friend of mine happened to be
there, like very coincidentally, one of Sadie's friends from elementary school who was
her good friend for a long time. That mom, those kids go to
different high schools, but that mom was there with her daughter. So I
see her and you're like, oh god, a friendly, friendly person.
And she gives me she's got a kindle with her and she's got her laptop
to do it. But she's like, oh, I brought my kindle to
read. Do you want to use my kindle to And I was like,
yeah, that would be helpful. So then she immediately says, make sure
you put down my daughter as a conflict, like you were not going to
be able to judge my daughter. Okay, I know this family really well,
so I put it down. So then what happens is they call it
pushing you a ballot. So so you were supposed to check your email and
they're like for the first round, they're like, okay, check your email
to see if you got a ballot. So I get a ballot right away
now. Also, I'm also thinking, like I don't need to retain all
this information because there's gonna be a few judges. I'm imagining America's got talent.
You know, there's four judges, and like, I'm not gonna be
the Simon Cowell. I'll be like the nice judge. Yeah right, I've
got this whole thing. Make sure in my mind I'm gonna be her.
Yeah, I'm gonna be like, great, everybody did fantastic. You know,
let somebody else who's been who's done this before, they know how to
give constructive criticism. Well it turns out that you a don't give any criticism
or you don't say anything. You just silently judge them, which I'm pretty
good at rightly judging people. So anyway, uh, and there's only one
judge. So I'm like, holy shit, wait, I'm just going to
show up there to judge, and it's just me like, how am I
going to remember all this shit. I'm not going to know what to do,
Okay, so whatever I get it, I get given a ballot.
But first ballot I get, I open it up and I'm sitting right next
to my friend Julie. Not Julie Caseam, but another Julie. And she
looks at what I got and she's like, oh no, my daughter's on
there. She's like, they gave you my daughter. You can't judge this
round. Meanwhile, her daughter has gotten the same email and sees who her
judge is going to be, texts her mom and it's like, Mom,
Stephanie's my judge. You got she can't be my judge? Okay, so
the fuck is going I know, So then I have to go tell them.
I'm like, Also, these people are all running around like their hair's
on fire. There's the website is down, there's like all kinds of issues
going on. They don't want to hear from me. But I'm like,
hey, there's a car. I can't judge this round, and they're like,
all right, we'll take care of it. So anyway, I don't
be like, it's it's time for me to go home, Like I think
I'm disqualified at this point, I was feeling that way. I was like,
Okay, I don't, I don't maybe they don't need me. Right.
At the same time, at this point, I'm starting to feel like
this is like jury, dude, like in a good way, like in
the way of like, well, now that I'm here, I want to
be put on a case. Yes, like I didn't drive, I didn't
drive all the way here to just like sit around right right, all right,
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f col. Okay, Okay, so I finally, so we're hanging out
and I'm like starting to be me right, I'm like, hey, when
am I going to get a ballot? Because I they take me off of
that that case, you know, right, and uh, I'm disqualified and
then so then the next one. So and there's a lot of waiting in
between, which is why it's a twelve hour day because you're gonna there's rounds.
Each each category has three rounds. So each category, each kid is
basically going to go three times and they're going to be in front of three
different judges. Right, and how many kids are there? Oh, there's
like a hundred over one hundred. Wow, there's probably like I'm going to
I'm going to guess like one hundred and twenty five. Wow, Oh my
god. Okay, like a ton of there's a ton of kids, maybe
one hundred and fifty kids there. She because they're there are the speech and
debate teams from all these different high schools in the area. Okay, So
and everybody's super nice, Like it is really like Jewey duty. You start
meeting the other people and you're talking about your kids and we're talking just you
know, Yeah, everybody's settling in for twelve hours. Yeah, they give
you food, the subway sandwiches, you know, like I'm not complaining,
you know, it's fine anyway. But then so then I get my first
case, you Knowinda, I'm going to be the judge, and I got
like, legit a little bit nervous, Yeah too, Yeah, because it
combines a lot of things that are sort of nerve wracking, Like you have
to figure out you're at this high school that you've never been to. They
give you like a lame map and they're like, Okay, you're going to
go to this room and all the kids are going to be waiting for you
there. Oh, these kids have been in these speech and debate competitions many
times, and they're looking at you like you're going to know what you're doing.
But I'm like, hi, guys, like yeah, okay, what
do we do? We just go inside and they're like where do you want
us to sit? I'm like, I don't know wherever you want. Then
I'm like, you know what, this is my opportunity to be like the
favorite teacher, like you know, you know me, I want to be
the cool mom from me and girls. I want to be like the favorite
I It was ridiculous. I was ridiculous. I was just like, you
guys, I just want you guys to becomefortable. Just sit wherever you want
and I'll figure out where I'm sitting. And they're like, okay, cool.
I'm making a little bit of light conversation with them. We've been warned
do not like talk to any specific kid because like you don't want any any
bias, right, Like you don't want them to sniff out any like you
know, any of them. Like yeah, so I'm having to just be
very general. But like the first room we're in, the kids were trying
to determine what the classroom was because there was like some weird stuff on the
wall. So I was like, i'll find out. So I go over
to a pilot textbooks and I pull it out. I'm like, oh,
we're in health class and they're like, oh, okay, cool, cool,
you know. Yeah. Now I'm like okay, oh, I go,
do you guys want to start early? And they're like, oh,
I don't think we're allowed to do that. I'm like, okay, is
that cool? Yeah I didn't. I don't know what I was thinking,
but like of course I know that anyway. So then these kids go up
to do their speeches. You guys, when I tell you, they blew
me away. They were so good I believe in it. So at one
point I was like, okay, so hold on a minute. This was
the original poetry and prose. And I'm like, okay, but you guys
are but this is like somebody else. You're doing somebody else's original thing.
Because because I was trying to figure out what I'm judging this on, because
if I'm judging this on the writing of the piece, it's like, this
is better than anything I've ever written in my life. And these kids are
high school kids, they're some of them are freshmen, right, And I
was like, hold on, though, this isn't you guys didn't write this
right, And they're like, no, no, no, yeah we did.
We wrote We are writing and performing our own pieces. I'm like,
but by your own you mean something that you found you and they're like,
no, like we wrote it. And I was like, okay, I'm
a little intimidated right now. Anybody who's chat GPT, hey I write Oh
my god, this the first kid, first kid out of the gate,
absolutely blew me away with the story about two brothers in the Holocaust, and
I was just like, what is happening. I was very much in my
own head of like, I just don't understand how a high school kid came
up with this. So then then the next kid comes up amazing, like
just as good as the first kid. I'm like, oh God, now
I'm gonna have to decide between these people. And then also I don't know
because after each kid's piece, they're clapping for each other, and I'm like,
oh, am, I supposed to clap if my clap for one,
I got a clap for all of them, equal volume, yes, like
I don't want to be see seem like they're gonna go oh she clapped louder
for that kid, so he's gonna win, you know. So then and
then I have to give them a score between seventy and one hundred. So
this first these first two what they were they were? There's like six kids
in this round, right, and they're doing the original prose and poetry.
Okay, that's what I had was given to judge. Okay, so I
got all these kids and they all go up, and then I have to
give them a score, and then I have to enter their score and I
have to make comments. Okay, so the score is what to seventy seventy
to one hundred, seventy to one hundred. Yeah, so I gave two
kids one hundred because I was like, well, nobody's telling me like,
hey, like, don't give a hundred. Like, I don't know,
it's if it's the Olympics and it's very hard to get a perfect ten.
But I was like, who am I to be judging these kids? Something
I could never it would be yeah, it would be like if I was
judging the Olympics, right, you know, because you could say, well,
you're a writer, so you can well no, but it's like saying
that I would did gymnastics in the sixties grade. It's like, yeah,
a whole different thing, right. So I'm just like, I don't know,
I gave two kids one hundred. One kid in ninety eight, when
you know, I was like, well, you know, so then you'd
like get they get set at first, you're like one hundred hundred, you
get settled in, You're like, okay, maybe I can dial it back
a little bit. Well, yeah, one kid was like not quite as
good as the other kids. So I was like, but then you're like,
well, these are high school kids. Well I'm not going to say
like, uh, you kind of like you have to be like, well,
I gotta I gotta say something positive about this kid too, because this
kid, I mean, it's hard to just get up there and try there.
I was really blown away. Okay, so now I finished my first
round and now I'm like I would be at jury duty where I'm like,
give me the next one. Where's my next one? And then I didn't
get the next one. Then I was complaining. I complained to the person
trying, like how come I didn't get a ballot. She's like, oh,
like I'm I'm trying. I'm getting you know. Now she's a little
annoyed at me a little bit. She's like, I'm trying, I'm doing
my best. I'm getting trying to get everyone ballots. Anyway, I finally
got another one in the afternoon. Enjoyed the fuck out of that one too.
So, yeah, you had to wait around for the next one,
like I had to wait around. Then you'd see other people getting like the
next round would come and all these people are getting balanced. Then my friend
who's with me is like, now she's rooting for me. She's like,
I hope you get a ballot. I hope they call your name. She's
like, I would give you mine, like you can't really trade because it's
like it's like a whole system they have, right, But anyway, I'm
like, I really I'm available, and she's like I know, and then
I finally get it. Well, the problem was they did give me another
one, but they accidentally gave me like some of the same kids from the
one that I had already judged. So first I got the conflict and then
the second one. The next one I got was like the kids I just
judged in the one before, so I didn't get that one right. And
then I got the next one, which was like seven kids doing an original
speech. Ooh, that's good. Yeah, and in that one that was
also like super fun. Yeah, I bet that's tough too. It was
really really fun. It was really tough. But that one I got even
more into because now I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm I'm I'm settled.
I get it. I know what kind of notes to give, like
right, but I was some of them about like oh okay. So one
of the speeches from the second round was about a girl who was giving like
an informational but also passionate speech about how she has type two diabetes, oh
god, and how it's really misunderstood and diabetes is the only like kind of
condition disease that is that is only known for its symptoms and it's not really
the cost. Like she had a whole thing, and it was personalized because
like she was diagnosed as a little kid, and some of the sort of
insulting things people say like that he said to her mom, like, oh,
she must be eating too many donuts or something, and she's like,
people don't understand. And it was a it was a great speech. Wow.
Yeah, another girl, Oh my gosh, did one about I voted
this girl number one. She was super funny right from the beginning. She
did one about how much pressure there is on success on our kids and how
we think of success as like going to a top ten college and how we
have these things and it's just a lot of pressure for the kids and maybe
we need to rethink, like maybe success should just be doing like what makes
you happy. And it was not as like impassioned as the but the way
her delivery she had like some slide jokes. She was just so natural.
I loved her and she made everybody laugh out loud. And she had little
surprises in there, a little love that like little funny things direct to the
judges. Anyway, I loved her, and it's so funny because you're like,
oh my god, I love her. Okay, she's my number one.
But then somebody else will read and you're like, wait a minute,
maybe they're my number one. And then you're like rearranging your you know,
it was like right up my alley, like you know, I love the
voice. Yes, I love to like pick my favorites. So I was
like, this is a job that was made for me, and now I
want to judge every special debate competition. And then twelve hours flew by,
it flew fo over yet now and then you get to go to the awards
ceremony and see the kids that you judged, because then they because they've been
in rounds with other judges, right, so then like what the first round
that I judged the kid that I gave number one, number one absolutely for
his comments, I gave him a hundred. I was like, you were
amazing. This was like insane. I have no notes for you. That's
why I gave you one hundred. What am I going to give you constructive
critic I have no criticism that kid didn't even place. The other judge is
obviously did not make that kid their number one. So then you get you
get to get all mad, like one of these judges on drugs, like,
what's going on? Yeah, that's ridiculous. The kid was clearly anyway.
So it was really fun. So the ceremony was at the end of
the night, the end of the same right, so they tabulate all the
winners and then they give away trophies. So you're still there, right like,
now it's been well, now you got dons in the race. You
want to you want to know who's winning exactly. I'd be so mad if
we did have to go home and they did the awards the next day,
I'd be like, oh, hell no, I need to see if these
people, if these people agreed with me. So yeah, So then all
the kids go in the auditorium and I'm sitting with all the parents that I've
made friends with, and yeah, by the end of it, I was
like, Okay, when's the next one they get me on that panel?
It was really fun. I had a day that's so cute. I love
that, I know. And then John was like feeling bad for me.
He was sending me texts and just going, oh my gosh, you must
be so tired. I was like, hell, I'm energized, bitch,
I'm doing those every time. Yes, that's awesome. Yeah, when is
the next one? It's in a month. I gut, Yeah, are
you going to do it? I think so. Yeah. I think it's
in the rank. Can I go to it? I know they do need
judges. I'll do it. It's not that far for you. Yeah,
I know I have to be so fine. That's awesome, But mainly because
I was just inspired by these kids. Yes, yeah, yeah. And
if you're wondering how Xander did, so, he was in something called duos,
so he had a partner with his and this was his first time.
This is his first year trying it, and so the first competition he went
to, only two contestants from his category showed up, so there were so
he was only against one other person. So he did great. He won.
And there's a thing called picket fence for all my speech and debate parents
out there, and that means that all the judges ranked you number one.
Oh well, that's called pick fencing, and you get like a standing ovation
for that. So Xander got some false confidence because in his first one,
he was also going against a team that was brand new to it, and
he and his partner did really well and they were number one for all the
judges. So they won and they got a trophy. Yeah, but Xander
was like I ran into Xander during the day and he's like, mom,
this is insane. Like these other duos that were up against He's like,
I had no idea, Like they're amazing. He's like, I'm not going
to do well. I'm not doing well. He's like, I mean,
it's totally fine and it's fun and I'm doing my thing. But I had
no idea, Like what it is that makes this category good? Now I
know? But he told me afterwards, he was like, well, I
don't feel bad. I had a great day and I feel inspired to like
now I know how to make mine better, you know. So and now
he was all jazz and he wants to like, I love that in another
category? Great, so fun, this is exciting. I had no idea
this world exists. Yeah, that's awesome. Did you know about this,
Kaylen? No, I did not. Did you have speech and debate when
you were a kid, if they had it at my school, I definitely
wasn't one that was participating in it. That might have been some kind of
high school class. I think it's pretty nerdy this. There were a lot
of kids that I was like, nerd alert. Yeah, yeah, no,
no, we didn't. There's this little girl, well she's not little
anymore. She's a senior, but I remember her being young and in second
grade with Sonny in Natalia and they just told me. They're like, her
name was Kaylin. They're like, Kaylen got into Harvard and she's on this,
she's on this. I go, what's what's all her? You know,
crek, I know she was on track. Yeah, she was on
track, and she's on speech and debate. And then of course she volunteered
in the community. I mean all this thing, these things. I don't
know if she played an instrument, but she was definitely on speech and debate.
I was like, wow, my god. But also her parents went
to Harvard and her grand legacy, right, but that's not taken away.
I mean, she's a I think she's a They're they're like, she's a
great student. But yeah, she's got into Harvard. Wow. I know.
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answers from colleges that your kids have applied to? Hmm no. I think
Sonny is still waiting on a couple of them. But he did get into
Washington State, which he's excited about, and I think that's going to be
his thing. Oh yes, yeah. And then Natalia she's she's now.
I think she's thinking that she might stay in Santa Barbara because I think it's
it'll be easier for her to get but she still wants to go to Miami.
That's her her thing. So okay, So she wants to go to
Santa Barbara City College, and she wants to live in Santa Barbara to go
there, obviously. Yeah. And then wants to transfer to Miami. Yeah,
yeah, but if not, she might stay the only reason why she
doesn't want to stay in Santa Barbara's the school doesn't have like a big football
team, and she wants to do sports journalism, like she's really yeah,
which I didn't know. And she's like, I'm really getting into sports because
of her boyfriend. They're watching games and Sonny, and she's like, I'm
really like getting interested in like the college teams and stuff like fascinating about you
know how like you were with with John. So she's like, I think
I want to do sport and and and so Santa Barbara doesn't have like,
you know, a lot any sports really, I mean, not the big
sports. That's what she's interested in. Okay, yeah, that's so fun.
But so what did she apply so far? In the other for a
major? Do you know what major she applied? Yeah, she played communications
and journalism. Yeah, oh okay, that's kind of perfect. But she
hasn't heard yes or no yet, so she has from the ones that she
her first. So she got rejected. Yeah, and from Miami I think,
now, yes, Miami, I think TCU, uh like did a
wait list or something? I think or was it and she applied early decisions
she yes, yes, ed mm hmm. Yeah. So but now she's
like, yeah, she doesn't she's not really interested in going there now.
Okay, okay, but she's still waiting on Miami. No, she didn't
get into Miami. She bombed. No, because now she's like got this
whole plan that that's what she wants to do, and she's already talking to
the counselors about what classes she's gonna need to transfer and all that. So
she's getting all that done. She might do some classes. I think she
might do like a winter break class, like some math something during winter break,
not winter break, spring break, but maybe so anyway, she's looking
into getting all those credits that she needs during summer. No, no,
no, what is it? Yeah, maybe it is summer yeah, APEX
or something. She's doing something where she just needs a few more credits.
So I think it might be an APEX class or something like that. I
don't know. Okay, she's like all over it and on top of it.
Great, yeah yeah, but just keep in mind that Elbe seemed to
be on top of herning and then it was like one thing after another that
was like wait a minute. Yeah, I didn't know this right. Just
make sure that she talks that the counselor she talks to at Santa Barbara is
not giving her a bad like I know, well I know, and she's
not talking to the counselor yet at Santa Barbara. She's working with her school
to get a find a good counselor for her because the counselor she's had and
the counselor that Sonny's had was not that great, Like they had to be
on top of him and he even like his writing was kind of like eh,
it wasn't like wasn't really impressed. But but they're pretty much done with
him, so now it's like on to somebody, somebody that's going to help
her with Santa Barbara. Yeah, and the school's helping her with that well
pretty much. If she's gonna go to Santa Barbara for two years, then
she's going it's going to be pretty easy, I think, to make sure
she takes all the classes that she needs. Elbie's issue was that she was
trying to do it in a year and they weren't great with telling her exactly
what she needed to accomplish, you know, like the fact that she thought
she was in the UCLA Past to UCLA program, and it turned out she
wasn't enrolled in the honors classes. Somebody should have flagged that tur and told
her exactly how to sign up for the honors because it's everything's very byzantine and
complicated, and it's very easy to make a mistake and think you didn't make
a mistake because you're like, oh, well, this counselor told me this,
and I followed this, and there's nobody checking over to go let me,
let me make sure you'd you know. Whereas in high school, it's
you're very kind of protected because if you're not in the right class, they're
going to flag that. They're going to be like, well you're not,
you're not going to get the right you can't graduate. They're going to make
sure they fix it for you. The community college they don't give a fun
I don't give a shit. No, it's up to you to make sure
that you're doing what you need to do. So that's why Elbe was gonna
end up. Well, she didn't know that she was going to need a
communications class if she wanted to apply to San Diego State. So the whole
time she didn't have that on her schedule. It was me. I looked
it up because I'm the one that gets nervous, and I was like,
hey, like, I'm looking at the San Diego State If you're thinking that
that's where you want to go, do you have this thing called the Golden
four? And I asked Elbe, do you know what the Golden for is?
And she's like no, And I go, okay, well, you're
not going to get into San Diego State if you don't have these certain requirements.
One of them is like a critical thinking class. One of them's an
oral communications class. And she's like, I haven't heard of that. So
she asked her counselor, a counselor. She made an appointment, went to
the counselor, and the councilor was like, oh, oh yeah, you
don't have the fuck you need a communications class. So she was like,
okay, any specific communication you know. It turned out this counselor that she
asked was that this was a just at Peers. Oh at Pierce, that's
where she's where she's going, right. It was like okay, but like
she never she's had many counselors prior to that, not one of them mentioned,
hey, if you're going to apply to the cal States, you need
to have this qualification. She didn't know. I don't get it. It's
like we you know, you pay these counselors a lot of money and they're
doing it every day all the time, year after year with these kids,
right like they don't know. Well, so Elbe says, well, first
of all, I don't know if PEERCE counselors are paid a lot of money
or no. I mean I'm talking about like this is not a private one
that we all paid a lot of money for that. No, this is
not that that ship is long sailing. That counselor sucked because she didn't tell
us that the psychology was impacted. Like she didn't us no favors. That
was throwing away money. But now we've moved on to the counselors at the
community college who are supposed to help you figure out how are you going to
reapply to these schools in one year? What do you need to do,
What do you need to have, What score do you need to have received
on your AP exam to cover some of the requirements for let's say Santa Barbara,
like you want to apply to to you see, Santa Barbara, you're
going to need to have received this score on this AP test, did you
yes or no? You're going to need to have taken this English class,
you know. So some of it she'd already taken, but there's a few
things that she needed to do in order to graduate, basically get her associate's
degree in one year. It's a very intricate thing, and some of these
counselors don't know what they're talking about, so they're like, oh, yeah,
yeah, you're fine. Elbe told me that the one counselor didn't tell
her that because she was helping her with UC applications, not cal state applications.
I'm like, okay, but you think she would have said, like,
but by the way, if you're applying to any cal states, you
need to have these Golden four Like yeah, it seems like part of their
job. But they didn't. So now LB had to throw herself into a
communications class. So what do you suppoke? Like, so what do I
do? Like? What are you supposed to do? Just make sure that
when before she enrolls in Santa Barbara, when she enrolls, you immediately get
with a counselor. They will assign you one, or you can go into
these like portals and speak to a counselor before you sign up for all your
classes and tell her to make sure that, like do you need if your
goal is Miami and that's a hard school to get into, Let's say she's
going to have to get good grades. She needs to go on rate my
professor and so that the classes she's signing up for are easy and have good
teachers. Yeah, you don't want to run into like listen, they're going
to be really looking at your grades. You don't want to run into some
professor that everybody hates. It's like a mean grader. That's true. Yeah,
So that was one thing. And then just knowing what classes you will
have to have accomplished during the time that you're at Santa Barbara. I have
a feeling that not every kid is super motivated to move on to a university.
So you got a bunch of kids fucking around at community college just trying
to figure out what they want to do. So if she knows and she's
like, this is my goal, this is what I want to get in
journalism or sports broadcasting at this school helped me take the right classes because she
is going to have to take a bunch of generals and then a bunch of
requirements for her major. You don't want her to find out year two like,
oh you didn't Yeah, that's that can't apply. You didn't take the
right classes. That would be horrible. Yeah, but I learned the hard
way with LB that you have to you have to tell the counselor what you
need, right right, Yeah, all right. I feel like you're like,
Okay, I know. I don't want to overwhelm your anxiety on me.
No, I know, that's okay. Yeah, Now it's good.
Lbi's in her in her first day of in person classes for her second semester.
Okay, so we're still waiting. We won't know what what school she
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